Conquer Laziness: Daily Habits For Unstoppable Motivation & Productivity | Todd Herman
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- Опубликовано: 11 дек 2019
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Even Beyonce needed her alter ego, Sasha Fierce, in order to conquer the entertainment industry. And peak performance coach Todd Herman, after working with hundreds of Olympians and champion athletes, has learned that alter egos are an absolute requirement for extraordinary achievement. On this episode of Conversations with Tom, Todd Herman details exactly how powerful the alter ego can be. Along the way he and Tom Bilyeu discuss the need for rituals, share the real stories of how they got where they are, and even explain exactly how to have abundant energy in every area of your life.
SHOW NOTES:
Todd talks about what he likes about New York City [1:50]
Todd explains why people struggle with change [5:01]
The common words and phrases we use are actually what trap us [6:51]
The brain tries to protect you from looking like an idiot to yourself [9:10]
Todd explains how environment changes people [11:39]
Todd describes the basic reason people need to create an alter ego [12:47]
We all have multiple identities and uniforms, and they are all flexible and malleable [15:50]
Todd doesn’t need to know who you are, because he can see your results [21:57]
Todd asks “what are you”, not “who are you” [23:10]
Todd doesn’t spend any time talking to people about motivation [24:39]
Todd and Tom discuss how labels trap people and limit them [27:47]
Todd loves archetypes but he doesn’t always use them [32:51]
The most common alter egos people adopt are, surprisingly, Grandmas [34:57]
Todd describes the need for triggers and rituals [39:00]
Todd and Tom discuss the power of birthing emotional states with physical triggers [40:11]
Todd and Tom discuss Sasha Fierce and why even Beyonce needs an alter ego [42:58]
Any time you try to trick, deceive or impress others, it’s not healthy [46:35]
We react to people based on the clothes they wear [48:57]
The study that showed that kids did better when dressed up as Batman [51:03]
Tom strongly advocates self-signaling and using totems to stay obsessed [55:00]
Todd explains why he uses his glasses as a totem and ritual to get into his alter ego [58:17]
Tom strongly advocates decisiveness [1:03:13]
One of the great powers people have is playfulness [1:06:40]
Tom talks about the need for scarring rituals to mark big life changes [1:09:52]
Todd discusses how people’s family narratives can hold them back [1:13:15]
The moment you decide that you want the ball in the final seconds, all bets are off [1:17:13]
Why are horses so empathetic? [1:18:47]
Todd explains how people find the alter ego they need for exceptional performance [1:19:45]
Everything you need to be successful is already inside you [1:23:00]
Pressure does not exist in Todd’s universe [1:24:03]
Todd explains how to rebuild after a crushing loss [1:27:37]
Tom talks about how important it is to love the struggle, not just the results [1:33:20]
You have many identities and many roles that you play in life [1:39:13]
It may be more important to be in a stable hierarchy than to be at the top [1:40:35]
Todd and Tom strongly advocate mentorship and really learning something [1:43:37]
Todd and Tom discuss authenticity and whether there is an authentic self [1:50:00]
Todd explains how he is a completely different person for his family [1:53:54]
Energy is not a tank that gets depleted in a day [1:57:09]
Whatever it takes to get you to take action, do it, even if it’s “fake” [2:01:01]
Tom and Todd discuss the real story on the mindset necessary for greatness [2:03:11]
Todd shares the story of being sexually abused as a 12 year-old [2:08:12]
Tom and Todd discuss the healing effects of MDMA [2:11:33]
Be playful and be Batman [2:15:14]
BOOKS MENTIONED:
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“The Alter Ego Effect”, Todd Herman amzn.to/2Rrkyns
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Here are the lessons that I learned from this:
1: We have multiple personalities / different aspects of ourselves. A different version of us comes out with different people and different situations.
2: Alter Ego is the bridge between who I am and Who I want to be. Choose an Alter Ego to help me become who I am supposed to be. This Alter Ego does not give a s***t about anyone's opinion.
3: To activate the alter-ego: It is easier to wear a totem or something that helps me remind me of getting into that state.
3A: Make sure to not always run the same Alter Ego. Create another one that I am with family. This way I will not feel depleted or tired. Tiredness and lack of energy come from being one way in all situations.
It is not about pretending or being a fake. It is about knowing that we have different aspects of our personality. We are multidimensional creatures and we can activate any aspect of ourselves if we want.
Thank you🙏🏼
That's my favourite one - a summarizing comment.
Extremely helpful thank you for this valuable summary!
after reading your comment I started to hear this part of the conversation (I'm not a native speaker) . how funny our brain is.
You've explained this so well. I've always said this too!! We behave differently around certain people, scenarios and atmosphere. It's still us, just a different side.
I fucking LOVE what he says about how sometimes you need to pull yourself from one environment and put yourself into a completely different one to be successful ...I can relate!
how to change environment if you know no one and have no money
@@raphaq9192 So how can you live without doing somethings for living? So, for surviving, you have to DO mate.
Its called travelling.
@@raphaq9192 hi, just an idea, before you go to bed imagine your future(home/furniture/swimming pool/car what type of relationship spouse /children, visit the wealthy part of town where you live,there's usually outside places to grab a healthy juice 🍹 drink or salad bike 🚲 in the area it's great exercise while you enjoy a different environment, if you don't have that option a local park is wonderful it's nature and you can write make notes on how you see yourself and your future, remember one
of his suggestions was What are you? decide for yourself and become unstoppable, I know you will ,you're doing the work because you are on this page. You'll be great sending this with much respect, cheers 🥂 to your future.
I completely agree, I wasn’t able to thrive until my military term was up because the atmosphere was horrible. It only mattered a little bit what I changed about myself & my perspective because the environment needed to change.
"I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be, and I finally became that person, or he became me, but at some point in time, we met.
No
And then what...?
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That describes him exactly.
That’s me right now. I met my CEO self and unlocked the secrets of channeling greatness in all areas of my life. - a CEO entrepreneur and world traveler
Interesting conversation...thanks Todd and Tom. I use super heroes and spirit animals with my 3 and 6 year old granddaughters. My daughter does not let them watch videos very often. When I am with them they watch age appropriate super hero ones. We went for a hike once and it was hot and we still had a long way to go. My 3 year old granddaughter was tired and wanted me to carry her. ( I am 68 and no way was that going to happen). I told her, Remember..we are explorers, and there is nobody to carry us. She took about 2 minutes to rest and kept walking. I started a conversation about their super heroes..PJ Masks. They were instantly energized, told me all kinds of things about them, and before we knew it we were almost home. I learned alot that afternoon. It was a powerful experience for them. They were proud of themselves and I was proud of them too. I could tell that their confidence in themselves had increased. I will definitely pass on some of the info to them and my daughter.
Thats so awesome 😍
Very interesting example that Indians knew it.
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Wow! Thank you for that. I am raising my two young granddaughters and I was thinking that I want them to start watching Wonder Woman, to get a more strong woman kind of outlook. I need to incorporate a lot more superhero inspirations to inspire them. They are 7 and almost 9 so have they have outgrown the little kids superheroes. Would love any suggestions from anyone on good female superheros for girls that age, or any other kind of strong, female movies or books.
I literally have Elle Woods on my phone, in my car and on my door. When I'm tired or distracted I just think of Reese Whitherspoon's disapproving face and ask myself, "What would Elle do?" The answer is Study Hard, Stay Pretty. It totally helps to picture the scenes from Legally Blonde where she's on the treadmill studying, in the library late at night, etc. I know she's considered a ditz, but she was kind, caring, smart, beautiful, determined and everyone underestimated her, inspires me all the time!
what the actual fuck lol seriously? smh
😂😂 this can only come from a woman
Hey Chelsea, there is a RUclips channel called “The Take” who has done a few great videos discussing the themes of Legally Blonde that I think you’ll really enjoy. Look them up!
Awesome! Love that. People aren't nice nowadays. They want to do this passive aggressive BS until the get to know you, then they will be nice. Everybody is so scared. Love it keep being nice!
Chelsea Smile Amen Sister!!!! So not enuf movies empoeredfeminine women like that!!🤐 so few! 😣😣
Can I just take a second to really appreciate the thorough notes?! So many people eventually stop providing detailed notes when they get more successful and I'm left wanting. Thank you so much for the hard work!! I'm so impressed with your integrity and efforts!!
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Its crazy how easily he talked about his past trauma. This man overcame some serious issues and now is an expert at helping others. Well done
Self help grifters.
@@jaimemurphy2208 yup
@5:00 in Germany where there is no word for 'spent' they are known for saving more.
@7:00 skitoma: blindspot
11:15 you are going to become like the people you want to impress.
@23:00 Change happens from pain.
@29:00 effects of 'priming'
@44:00 I pretended to be somebody and I finally became that person or he became me....but at some point we met.
@50:00 dressing the part
@1:00:00 intentionally flipping switch
1:25:00 don't let bad moments define you
1:28:00 who
I didn’t have 2 hours so this was very helpful 🙏
Except that comment about the German language having no word for spend is complete BS ! As is the ridiculous sweeping statement that followed
I totally get the guests point. However there is a word for spending in German, it’s ausgaben
Lol @ Germans saving because "they don't have a word" for spending
More like becuz of the higher taxes in general
The end of this conversation had me ready to break down in tears, it hits you like a freight train with no warning... I wish they had taken more time to normalize the energy in the room after that bombshell.
I was a nurse for 40 years. Whenever I put on my nurses uniform, I felt calm, in control and well able to do anything that was expected of me. What this man is saying is definitely correct.
Hi! So is it right for me to think that the times you don't wear the uniform you don't feel the same calmness you justdescribed?
@@sakshathmetallica Yes, it was like having a dual personality.
Could you not have fooled your brain by imagining you had the uniform on ?
@Harry Rau All The Way with knobs on, Baby !
This was insane... For the first time, I understood the concept of "mindset". Believe me, I read and studied so many things and heard about creating a different character but today I got it. It all made sense the way Todd explained it. You guys are legends for making this available for free. Sat on my kitchen floor next to my charger for 2 hours, still in my PJ's, haha. Best time ever spent. Thank you!
One of my favorite conversations ever. I can feel the underlying layer of tension between the two(Tom and Todd) as they go back and forth with their ideologies(human beings speak in hidden layers and puns and I can feel the competitive energy) Todd has earned himself a new fan and Tom has solidified my belief that Tom is probably the strongest Entrepreneur on the internet.
My identity shift character is me aged as a senior. I had a photo of me aged 30 + years. It is a trigger to remind me, that life is short and that I do not want to have any regrets at the end of my life. I also have a malleable metal bracelet that I have to touch to tighten several times a day. This was done by design, so it reminds me to read the inscription ‘Never Give Up’ and the letters are raised. I run my fingers over the letters for a deeper trigger impact. #mindset
I have a tattoo on my arm above the elbow that says "Never Quit"
Just spoke with Todd Herman on our channel you might enjoy. Would love your feedback. Please check it out 😁
I wanna make you a bracket that says “do something that scares you today”Because never give Up could get kind of boring although I agree with it that should be a no brainer do you want no regrets! get going!
Thank you for sharing. Valuable tip.
@@LizRainey56 , what kind of contortion are you doing to be able to read that??? lol!
I love the story about the buck. When I was working through addiction and an eating disorder I worked with a shaman. He had me journey to find my power animal and it was a deer. Anytime I felt weak I would think of my deer and I would want to face my challenge. I felt like I could take on the world knowing I have the wisdom of the deer with me.
Sharing what he went through at the end really made his whole message hit even harder. I have so much respect for people who turn their pain into strength. Definitely gonna read his book.
This is the most powerful conversation I've heard Tom have with someone
This whole video and all I I needed was "Batman wouldn't quit, I'm not gonna quit."
damn... thanks for hammering that home. That's actually really awesome.
This guy has said some shit that not many people have addressed in the self help world. His perspective is so spot on...totally gets how to help people.
I've always called it the Chameleon effect which I have used since I was a young child. I absorbed how people around me acted and assimilated to fit in. It helped tremendously as a foreign exchange student, living with completely foreign to me cultures. And then moving to the US as a young military wife.
along the words of Neville Goddard's 'The Power of Awareness'. Best teacher is one who lives what he preaches. One has to be meta and practicing the separation of consciousness and identity is key to living a truly unimpeded life. Simply inspiring, thank you for sharing.
“ The moneys not guaranteed but the struggle is “
Tom uses this a lot. Does it have to be struggle. In terms of self narrative self talk. Why use the word struggle. What self talk are you building with using the word struggle. Would 'process' / 'work' some other kind of word serve better in this context.
Prue Loone true
@@toyknitter I suppose the exact word doesn't matter, but the concept does. Goggins uses the word suffering. I agree that this kind of language would be enough to scare off some listeners to the main message.
I believe that Tom wants to hammer in the notion that progress does take some level of discomfort and effort no matter how you phrase it in your mind. If words like suffering, and struggle sound like hyperbole, then use words that work for you. In the end, the only thing that really matters is learning how you yourself ticks.
@@TheDocbach from what i have heard lots of people say about self talk including Tom is that the words do matter. Its not about being scared away from message its curiousness about an inconsistency and wanting to understand how this all works.
That mindset is not helpful unless you are chasing struggle and don't care about the money. The tried and true method for success is - passion, determination, visualization and belief. In other words to want something bad enough that you decide to make it happen and do whatever it takes. To visualize your goal in as much detail as possible. Not visualize the steps to achieving your goal but the achievement. For example if your goal is to buy a home, you would visualize living in that home as though you already do. The belief isn't necessarily that you already do live in that home, it's the belief that it is possible and therefore will happen because you are going to do whatever it takes and belief that you will succeed. Then you need to take action to move towards the achievement of your goal. And take whatever steps you can towards that achievement every day.
An example that comes to mind is when someone says you can't do something so you do it just to prove them wrong.
A better title for this video: Using Imagination to Enter Desired Emotional States
Yah...I just started watching bc the title attracted me. However, I did wonder, still am, if this interview would live up too Its title. Unfortunately, very seldom do Tom's interviews actually even come close to the title. Sometumes, it feels like 'click bait' - title says one thing;interview does not come close to the 'promise' of the title. Tom has some of the most intriguing and interesting interviews - I don't want to dis him or his interview, I do wish he could be more responsible about the way they are titled! So, am already into 1st 10 mins of this interview, or so, ...no mention of how to increase personal energy :/
Thanks for saving my time. I'm 30 minutes and thinking I've heard a lot of this before.
So they talk about visualizing yourself as a person who has lots of energy?
@@Wealthy_Mystic, essentially, yes.
Thnx
I really admire Todd discussing his abuse and how he used the pain as motivation. I believe what he says; change comes from pain
I wanted to be somebody that I wasn’t and I became that person and I felt happy of what I got
Tom Bilyeu! I work so much I don’t often take the time to post. I have to stop and just thank you! I have committed to listening to one of your casts a day at least 5 days a week. I’m always taking notes and working daily to become a next level person. I can hardly express how meaningful and life changing these are sessions are to us. Thank you, thank you, thank you for taking the time to feed into others. With all the respect in the world. We love, love, love you!!!!
Agreed! I just interviewed Todd Herman if you want to see.
You've summed it up for me perfectly, Aaron. Bravo!
Thank you, Todd 👍🏼
" Oak tree has to be oak tree forever " - we don't
" Not who you are, rather what are you ?
" Change happen from pain "
" Performance is all about moving forward "
" We don't wanna be kick out of tribe "
" Some people don't care "
" Sometimes the prey wins "
" Who do you admire ?
" Humans are grounded by the rituals "
" I pretend to be someone else and we meet "
" Screw other people opinions "
" Humans attach meaning to other people clothing "
" Young kids talking out loud "
" You won't this thing, you gonna f. Like it "
" Playing way bigger than my size "
" Hiring certainty, confidence and clarity "
" Gaudy needed 150 years to be build "
" Take responsibility of you will become "
" Playfulness is the key to unlock peak performance "
" Humans have unlimited imagination "
" I won't expectations to be high "
" The moment you decide, all beats are off "
" Which person of you, you admire ?
" Sound is phenomenal trigger to the human brain "
" Nothing about humans make sense "
" Don't let pressure live in this world "
" Trust open the door for the personal best "
" There are Winners, Losers and Learners "
" Quailty of relationship is everything "
" Be Authentic "
" There is no one you "
" Starting, have taste of something better "
" Things that people do, coming from the dark places "
" Protecting sleep is so important "
" You can only keep some beach balls under the water "
" Alter ego can unlock all possibilities "
Todd now it's all make sense, Thank you again.
Thanks
This is how I take notes too but when I come back to it 6 months later, it's just little titles that don't make any sense.
Ankit You get to choose the titles. The GREATEST Book of all time is called The Bible. It is essentially: The Word. The reader attaches the cover on the book. Do you ever see people buying the movie covers of famous books? Same concept. You may be into the more archaic primal feel of a tome of Sun Tzu’s Art of War. Instead of some picture of a man on the cover and flappy paperback feel. You decide how you get to work with the content.
Dejan Triv, you are much appreciated for this, thank you so much!! No good deed goes punished! Thank you Todd! Thank you Tom and Team!!
@@emiliocedeno369 I think you did not get my point. What I meant was that the way I take notes is to write little sentences that look like titles for e.g. "Changes happen from pain", "Some people don't care"... which makes sense when we're taking the notes because we remember the content associated with it. But as time passes, it slowly fades away from our memory and when we come back to it, the notes just seem like a bunch of titles.
So I was talking about possibly a better way of taking notes.
People don't realize how powerful this is, and the comments are just fixated on the guys talking rather than listening to what they have to say, especially Todd. This is one of my last pieces of my mental puzzle. I'd always hit a mental roadblock, not letting me persevere, and just fall short all the time, like there's always something pulling me back, and so I realized that the only time I get amped-up is when I act like I'm XYZ person while doing XYZ activity. And so I looked up alter ego videos, found Tim Grover, Joe Dispenza, and others, but none of them simplify it like Todd does. He's specialty is IN alter ego development. Multiple personas doesn't mean multiple personality disorder, or being pretentious. It's only a problem when you don't have control of your ego and emotions.
Ego and emotions are a TOOL, a SERVANT, not a master. Emotions are actually your default setting... And when you understand this and learn everything you need to know about emotions and ego, you realize that emotions and ego are tools, and also they help each other out. Ecstatic emotions make you empathetic, you unlock empathy when you unlock multiple perspectives, and seek find root of problems to help others, and realize that everyone has a story. Great. Now you can have some form of emotional control, or how some folks like to call it, emotional intelligence. Then, there's ego.
When you understand that ego is a servant and not a master, and humble yourself through empathy, you have a sense of ego loss. Almost like defeat. But its not. You graduated. Why? Now, you begin stopping acting in ego towards others, and begin being humble towards others, while using the ego on yourself, turning the tables around... Use ego on and for yourself, not on others. Empathy is the reason why you can have full control of ego. Ego can then have multiple personas to serve you. Not just 1, not just 2, but one in every aspect of life, or as many as you need per aspect. It all begin with curiosity, wanting to understand why something happened to you.
Your first real traumatic event, which unlocks a perspective. Then work your way up the ladder, all stages of ego development, and find out that god is just a set of principles and values, and the devil is the ego without control. Every human being has those 2. Religion chose to make Ego evil, calling it the devil, which is hilarious because then you learn religion is actually one of the biggest frauds in human history. But im not gonna go there now 😂😂
Thank you for sharing your personal story Mr. Herman - this let me understand how you are able to be strict with your clients to bring them to success. You experienced yourself that this works. Not everybody loves me in the beginning, but emotions are temporary, success in live with overcoming yourself as the biggest hindrance ist where I want to lead people - those who stay send me flowers. Love your attitude.
I loved this interview because it helped me see how i defined myself when I got a divorce. As Tom said, it was a loss and i judged myself and did not know how to reidentify myself. Thank you Todd and Tom, this truly was the best interview I have watched and I watch them all. It gave me insight on how I could really transform. xox
Very true about military men needing a dad suit. I love hearing this! My dad was a drill instructor and he brought it home with him and it was very difficult for us as kids growing up. I have many examples I can rattle off but this was a powerful Powerful observation. I love the idea that we can shape-shift AND play different roles like a performance. Love it.
Sounds like your dad was a Marine? Semper Fi, a DI, a lifer, just working on getting beyond the story.
Sam P.A. he was, and yes it definitely has its pros and cons.
@@guitarsz what we're the pros and cons?
@@renitasmith3889 hi Renita. The pros: there was a meticulousness and focused discipline that he instilled in us from a young age. It really came in the form of our chores as well as sportsmanship. For example, me and my brother used to race BMX- bicycle motorcross (not motorbikes but pedal bikes) and we raced every weekend, fri, sat and sunday. One of the things my dad would make us do, is detail our bikes each weekend, this meant wiping down every spoke, the sprocket, you name it, it was cleaned. The bike looked brand new every weekend. This took about 15 minutes or so, which felt like forever for a kid...but things like that are really good examples. Even more so, my dad befriended the track owners and ended up getting a key to the track so he would take me out there on a Thursday night, flip the track lights on (think of a stadium lights) and then race me by myself to beat my own time. I don't know one other dad that did that. needless to say, I eventually because the number 1 rider in my district, even as a girl, beating all the boys. I was close to going pro before my dad was transferred to a place where there was no track in the city. So it was a sad end to an awesome trajectory I was heading down.
The cons were, that my dad had a bad temper naturally and I think the military sort of exacerbated that. As a Marine, there are probably things a man is privy to, aka being trained for warfare, that make a man sort of have to comparmentalize their emotions. My dad had PTSD from a short stint in a combat area (don't know where) but he would drink a few beers each night to soften the edges of things. I don't know for sure if the military is responsible for my dad's temper, or his drinking, I think that was his choice, but as a disciplinarian, he was pretty tough. He taught me how to swim by getting in the pool with me and just going under water with me, not talking me through it but just counting to 3 and then dunking me. Which was terrifying. And even though i was terrified, he just repeated it a couple more times until he thought I had enough. Little things like that, were sort of traumatizing. I think it depends on the specialization, but my dad was a drill sergeant for a portion of his service and he definitely used some of those tactics on us growing up. We could never answer a call with "yeah!" no matter where we were in the house we would have to come to where he was calling from and say "yes dad"...it felt demoralizing at time, especially as we moved into our teens. There is way more I could say. In the end, I love my dad for all his amazing qualities. And I accept all his not so amazing qualities. But it def took some time for me to reconcile all those emotional wins and losses, injuries and triumphs...for better or for worse.
Tbh, if you truly understand the personality types. Then it doesn't trap you at all, If you are an "introvert" it doesn't mean what most people think it means. It's just too deep for the average person to grasp, I had to go straight to jung to fully understand myres briggs. There's no limiting belief involved, because you can develop your personality to get almost any result you want. This is something almost no one understands, who uses personality types to label themselves. You're supposed to use it to identify cognitive patterns. Then with that awareness, you transmute.
Would you recommend any material to read? I recognise that the things that hold me back are limiting beliefs, although it is seen by the world around me and even myself as a label
When you said "Grandmas?!" I laughed so hard I chocked on my coffee... this interview is taking SO MANY twists and turns, haha
Tom, I've been following your content for over 3 years. When I listen to you now, and your studio, I can see the great difference in the quality, you people have made. And I'm so happy for you and your team. You guys just started from like nothing, and now is one of the best in your fields. Love you, Tom, keep doing the great stuff.
Agreed! I just interviewed Todd Herman if you want to see.
Love Tom’s point of view and Tom has definitely grown from strength to strength. Completely inspired by both of these gentlemen. Thanks for being so generous in your sharing...
Absolutely- couldn’t agree more
Tom, this is my favorite episode of any of your shows. And there are quite a few of them I really enjoy.
Mine too
I really like sleep interviews.
Mafia's Finest TV D. Goggins
funny how we are all affected differently, but this is the worse guest I have watched, but at the same time, I feel this has changed my life, because of something Tom spoke about. I am So glad we have so many great interviews to learn and grow, with a wide variety of guest and perspectives. I almost ended a couple of times, so glad I did not. My favorite so far was a few days ago, Andrew Huberman. : )
This is the third time I watched this talk and every time I find something new that clicks. I admire someone like Todd who is able to package and make a career of some idea that I was just intuitively toying around I was younger and kind of stopped using when I got older.
German language DOES have a word for Spend: Spending money is: Geld ausgeben. ausgeben = spending. But you don't "spend time" or you don't feel spent (exhausted). Those combinations don't exist. - Just thought I'd set the record straight. :)
You can absolutely feel 'verausgabt' (spent)
This is one of the most interesting conversations I've ever heard.
Exactly
Dude I’m 8 minutes in like 😳😳😳🤯
this video is one of the most impactful videos/Conversations I ever saw
Marcus Cohen I agree!! I listened to it 3 times!!!!
David Goggins- Instagram Videos Sure made an impact on me!!!
I love this Conversation!
However, as a native German speaker I have to say, we do have a word for "spend" - it is "ausgeben" :)
He just lost his credibility. He sounded so certain of what he was saying.
I was waiting for my friend to wake up so I could ask him...… thanks
😂😂😂👆🏻👆🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Maybe he is saying that because there is no "specific" word for spending. Because "ausgeben" means also give out, output, issue, deal out, print out, serve out...
Judging too fast people... especially Germans 🤔
@@86barbra agreed. of course we can say "to spend money" in German. the word we use just doesn't have the same "weight" and specific meaning. it literally means "to give out". and you cannot use it for any other use of "spend/spent" like "spend time", "energy spent" etc.
I've watched this video 3 times now. I bought Todd's book today and read it all in one sitting. This is seriously life changing stuff.
This conversation is phenomenal! Great episode. I did the Landmark Forum 5 years ago, and it is SO MUCH about these same ideas! There is even a section in that seminar called "the myth of 'is' and 'i" - which includes the idea of self or others as "fixed." When you uncover identity, and reveal blindspots about language and perception, that new awareness gives you space. Then you can literally INVENT yourself inside whatever possibilities you want to create. I love these ideas so much, and they can be very powerful especially in coaching work - thank you for spreading them! We can create ourselves over and over again.
This really help me decide to create my own identity rather than being a leaf in the wind. I am now the wind that blows the leaf. Let’s all take control of our identities and as HDT says go confidently in the direction of our dreams.
This is straight up phenomenal. Like I am saying wow every 5 minutes of this convo
I truly admire the way Tom digs into all the tiny areas and gets all the crucial details out. It's fascinating. Thanks Tom! All my questions in mind plus the ones I never thought were asked and discussed. And Todd is a great practitioner and love his concept of Alter identities and fully on board !!!
It really hits me. We cannot change people, but love them, use the right language, feed them with the supporting environment., The supporting environment and what they see around them will make someone to change their behavior. Wow! This is powerful!! Thank You Tom. GBU!
Hey Tom I would just like to to say thank you.
Between you and Rogan, you guys have the most amazing platforms to deliver the tools to empower positive change and I am forever in your debt. I dont know where I would be without you guys. Thanks brother!
My Grandmother was a newyorker, was in the Marines, even worked at the UN for a time, she could make a Drill Sargent blush if she was really on a roll 😂 she had a wide vocabulary and was quite brilliant, and could not be pushed around by anyone.
Absolutely loved every minute of this conversation on so many levels and I’m keen to learn more from you Todd🙏👌🏻
Thank you Tom for this... I would listen to this again and again and make notes on it. I just love every second of it. Thank you for introducing Todd to me. Salamat
This long format let this entire story come out and gives so much impact to Todd's words and practice. Truly good.
Only about halfway through right now but had a thought…
Breaking Bad totally mirrored this concept in their work. Walter’s totem is the
pork pie hat, and he uses it to become his alter ego Heisenberg. He uses the alter-ego
to do the things that Walter White could never conceive of doing… It also protects
Walter to remain the innocent loveable dad that he was. It’s a lens I never
looked through before… Fascinating…
This was my favorite episode! Soooo many fantastic nuances. This helped me shift. Thank you!🙏🏻
I was so glad when I looked at the remaining time and saw 1 hour. Enough time for a bath. Fantastic!
As a former competitive equestrian, the story of the Wonder Woman equestrian really resonated. It made me cry, actually. It also inspired a new cartoon character who looks normal in society but puts on a vigilante costume when she gets home to eat cereal or play video games. Now I just need to design my mental real self costume. 😁
Also, I found myself talking to my speakers as if I was in the room w you guys. So I was happy to hear Tom interject his opposing opinion. Very grown up dialogue. Smarter, deeper, and, IMO, FAR more engaging! Thanks for letting us get to know you, Guys!😘
One of the best conversations I have ever heard! I needed this! As a trauma surviver, and getting to thriver, I have started tapping into my playful, creative side through watercolor painting and discovered I am pretty good at it. Want to spend time there and develop a healthy relationship to it and myself. Wanting to start my own art business soon. Thanks for such knowledgeable, inspiring, and encouraging conversations Tom and guests! Much appreciated!😊💚🌿🌟🎨
Thank you for not making me feel crazy like my family has chosen to do.
This resonated with me so much. I've been going through a lot of mind changes and I needed to hear all of this. I will find my alter ego.
i truly learned something new and super useful watching this video. this totem-thing "glasses on - business mode", "bracelet on - loving dad mode".. love it. i will absolutely use this in my life. thank you!
Honestly, this is probably the best conversation I’ve ever heard. Thank you!
Language is a gift but it also distorts the truth that can’t be expressed with words that connects us all. 4 agreement idea
Mike Tyson is s good example of someone who used an alter ego. He has spoken about the fact that in his boxing days he saw himself as a ferocious warlord conqueror type character. He also famously referred to himself as Alexander the Great.
Tom your changing people’s lives everyday for the better, including mine ! Keep doing what your doing I truly believe in what your doing !
This is probably the best conversation/interview I’ve listened to... not only on Impact Theory but ever. Legendary...Tom, Todd thanks a lot...
Pay attention to where you focus because your mind will believe what you're focusing on!
Incredible episode! Definitely one of the most impactful I've seen for me personally.
I LOVE LOVE how TOM asks questions !! thank you:)
I have done a few of these tips without knowing the impact. Thank you for explaining it! I use crystals during meditation and set my intentions for the day and picture the intention transferring onto my crystals. Then I carry them with me all day. When I grab them, I am instantly reminded.
This is awesome
Now this is two people that I can listen to all day. Loved this.
HOLIE SHIT WHAT AN INTERVIEW!!!! This is truly legendary, guys. Wow. Thanks for the transparency Todd and Tom.
Thank you, Todd! You laid everything out perfectly. Last year I had to use this technique, not knowing it was a technique. It was almost impossible for me to go to my high school reunion, I was at an all-time low. I had just seen My Fair Lady and I needed to go, so I got inspired by Audry Hepburn and dressed and acted like a queen, but polite to all. I still get calls from the guys at the reunion (unfortunately the married ones, who want to stay in touch, in case they should lose their wife somehow). I also have had to divorce and start over, now knowing your insights I will succeed.
The most impactful one by far thanks to you Tom and your guest for not only showing up consistently but offering genuine honest evidence based methodology and possible strategies on how to rise above our created false narratives that no longer serve us positively.
You are appreciated, celebrated and my gratitude will be shown thru my commitment to take action and follow thru on achieving my next desired goals. (BEING EXCELLENT IN MY HONOR OF MOTHERHOOD, Earning & Receiving CPA license, starting my firm, engaging in community by being a volunteer track, cheer or volleyball coach. Also I declare by spring 2023 I will have passed the LSAT and decided on what LAW SCHOOL to attend.
Xoxo 🥰 keep showing up for us we love you 🥰
Dude you seem SO much more comfortable in this format!
Its the seats bro haha
Agreed! I just interviewed Todd Herman if you want to see.
"The as if principle" a great book that I recommend that presents a lot of evidence about how we become who we embody.
You are such a good interviewer. Getting him to really explain and letting him do it
Loved the part about Michael Phelps. The difference between to and through. The interpretation of this concept can make or break a goal. I'll always strive to move forward in life no matter what the outcome is on each endeavor. Powerful stuff between Tom and Todd. Excellent interaction.
Hey Tom,
I rarely comment, but I got to say; Thank you! I must say that I'm a fan of this show and your mission for this company. Out of all the incredibly inspiring guests and interviews I have watched (about 35+), this was something special. The level of insights I got from how deeply personal and authentic both of you are in explaining the mechanics of how you/extraordinary achievers think is outmatched. Grateful for it!
If there is anyone who can build the next Disney of personal improvement, I believe it is you. Though a demonstration of how hard work ethic you have, be aware of how you show up. The interview with John Maxwell was without your enthusiastic shine that radiates through the screen. No doubt the value of the content in that interview was still superb, but it was evident that you didn't have your shine. It is not to criticize your decision, but just to leave you with this notice.
- May I recommend that the 6 words you tell someone you have a short time helping is the following "Go watch my talk with Todd" ;-)
Keep pushing,
Rasmus Larsen
Your whole RUclips channel is so epic. I love the dynamics of the whole thing and how positively driven it’s setup. I envision myself getting on it in years to come 💪🏻
I love learning , from Tom's show and His guests, Tom has an inner sense of what questions to ask.. One thing that makes me want to turn him off completely, tune him out and only listen to his quests is the fact of his disrespect to his listeners by using his disrespectful. Filthy mouth. As he wants respectful comhat you have to share with me?ments from his listeners. He has to use the big F word all the time. T OM WHAT IS YOUR DIFFEINATION OF THE WORD FUCK, is it your authentic self. Thats what you want to give me in every sentence. It is distractful! Your guests don't talk in such a subculture way . A lesson from Grandma. BE Better!
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I like how he comes off. A no BS mindset but really no BS. And teaching how to really tap in your mind. I came to that conclusion the other day. You have to change your STATE OF MIND
On the issue of environment change and its impact, when I was a counselor at a troubled adjudicated youth wilderness program, environment change was the core success element. Send them home for a day and immexiately undesirable thinking and action returned. Change ypur environment, change the platform for growth.
I love the Way Tom interacts with guests and makes the conversation super interesting ❤️
Thank you for your efforts 🙏🏼
Greetings from Morocco
you somehow seem to always have the right interview at the right time
Karma, the universe... it's draws you to what you asked for... 😉
I asked for mental clarity and here I am. 😊
Hey Tom - message from a random Indian guy. I wanted to tell you that this is the best thing I have watched in the entirety of my life. I will forever be indebted to you for doing what you do. Watching this marks a milestone in my life. I just got "triggered". Change will happen.
This is one of the most interesting interviews I’ve ever witnessed.
Wholeheartedly agree. What was your biggest takeaway?
Hi Tom
Im an avid fan of ur youtube videos and i thought recently they cant get any better however, this vid is so awesome!! I HAD to write a review. (my first) The whole two way conversation is so inspiring, you guys complement each other so well. Im a young 67yrs running my own business people say all the time retire but I want to start another business. My new business idea is a bit mad...however, I have been inspired by this interview to just go for it and see what happens. Love to you both for giving so much. Thank you. Mags
F***ing love every bit of this so much. 🔥🙏🙌
As always, you and your guests deliver a higher direction. Love your obsessions Tom😊
Man, oh man! My step dad was a Marine and was also in the Air Force! My Mother said he was like a Drill Sgt. left me scarred for life!
Another fascinating interview. Love the idea of the identities we can tap into, especially the example when he walks through the door at home. Thank you again for another great interview Tom.
Pressure is something that you are applying to yourself, everyone acts as if it’s real
HG51 a lot of things are like that. Confidence, status, worth, ideals, most identities and preferences. There’s a layer of reality of truth and not everyone can access if they’re to weighted with their own self proclamations of false layers.
Yes. Most pressure is self imposed. Type A personalities create the most self applied stress.
Beach Town Reseller I don’t believe there are categories for personalities. At most similarities or innate average qualities but no categories.
This is one of the most enjoyable interviews of the channel, it keeps your brain gripped entire time! Thank you
I am a German guy and by the way there are plenty words for spending: „Ausgeben“, „verprassen“, „Auf den Kopf hauen“ - just to name a few - and yes they mean exactly „spending“ 🤷♂️
Maybe he meant spent like "used up". Like, the money was all spent. All gone. I'm not German but maybe that was the angle? 🤷🏼♀️ Btw, I just started learning German. When I hear the language it always makes me smile.☺️ tschüss!
After watching this interview I went and purchased Todd's book, The Alter Ego Effect. It's brilliant. Highly recommend! Thanks again Tom & Co for another great ep 🙏 😀
Going to get the book…just found out about him two days ago. 🙏🏾 thanks
My whole life (I'm almost 40 now)... MY WHOLE LIFE... I thought that it was something wrong with me and the multiple "masks" (as I call it) that I wear in different situations and with different people. I thought I wasn't being true to myself, bordering a possible mental illness. Now I see its usefulness, and how natural this is, and how I'm not alone (15:50). Maybe this was my "super power" and I didn't know! Thank you Tom and Todd!
Damian SUPER happy you got this clarity my friend. You're fine my man. What you've actually been doing is being playful with your personality and showing up like you most want. Now run with it!
Todd Herman thank you for you words of encouragement! This opens up a brand new world for me now!
This is like therapy. So many great take-aways for me; I'm listening multiple times.
I absolutely love you're videos...I download all of them then listen to it while I'm walking and working out. You ask the most interesting questions during your interviews and you're so knowledgeable...thank you
Love the new, unedited format! I feel like more and more people value long-form, authentic conversations that aren't scripted at all and include all the flaws. Looking forward to seeing more of it :)
Awesome interview! Had to listen 2x because it was so impactful. Thanks for sharing guys! 😃
Tom & Tod, this was one of the best conversations, because the topics are relevant, practical & adaptable. I am dazed by tons of information. Thanks Tod! And, Tom your work is greatly appreciated!
I freaking you Tom Bilyeu for what you do and the people you bring on to have meaningful historic conversations. I love you man!!
This is one of the best interviews.. Makes SO much sense
The best of best ever - this is the lesson that has completely reconfirm all my beliefs and then some. May Almighty God bless you gentlemen 🙏🏽 for this teaching.
This is one of my favorites! I’m currently going through tough times. My husband broke his femur in Mexico and we got life flighted back to the USA. The stress of dealing with an injured person is indescribable. What really stuck with me is [don’t quit on it if it’s someone/something you care about].
And also imagine the alternative of what life would be like had he died, you would give anything to do the things that seem hard now.
Tom, I love that, I think, you believe in one authenticity and multiple authenticities. Have been with him until you had your thing… You’ve changed my life and inspired me multiple times. Thank you 🙏🏽
Very interesting...thank you for the astonishing insights in this conversation...love your channel Tom!