The whole idea of aspirational spending is the underpinning of consumer capitalism. This is not something we do to ourselves, but rather, a long-term strategy employed by the corporations as a means of corralling us into maximal spending habits. So, please don't feel alone or silly if this happened to you. You're the "target" and you were just following orders. It's as American as apple pie.
No kidding, I remember the 90's frenzy here in Portugal with exotic destination travelling, reading travel agencies cataloque/magazines made you feel like you were missing out and would have nothing to talk about, if you didn't travel to those places on an all included pack! A lot of families would ask for credits to go on these trips.
This is very nuanced! I totally agree at baseline, this is a very pertinent self examination which I will be carrying forward. However, there are some purchases which may not be congruent with your current self, but are in alignment with your better self. Gym memberships, therapy, sustainable/well made goods (clothing, bedding, etc) that will really last. I’ve struggled with two sides of the coin, the other being the inability to invest in myself. For example, in my early 20’s I’d never spend $30 dollars on a well made shirt, but I would certainly spend $300 on a cheap clothing haul. It takes understanding and honesty with yourself to differentiate between what will serve your future self.
The person I wish I were/think I should be right now. Vs The person I am working on becoming. The first is denying reality. The second is acknowledging where they are and where they are growing.
Absolutely. There is no age restriction on this one. Ask my insecure 70 year old mother, or my pre-counseling codependent going through a divorce in my early 30s self. Counseling, self work, self discipline and self respect are not easy, but they are worth the work in so so many ways, including financially.
I did actually spend my way out of myself, but that was on heroin, so a wee bit different. That new person I spent my way into was an absolute monster. Amazingly my finances got much better after leaving IV opiates behind. Who could have guessed? Apparently not me for an entire decade. Ultimately it was still an attempt to fill horrific holes in myself and obfuscate the severe trauma I had experienced. Shopping and overspending certainly activates the same regions in the brain as many illicit substances. Seek the help of a professional, as sometimes untangling trauma and using spending as an emotional crutch, like opiates, is simply something that many cannot get over by themselves.
I was working to keep above water financially when I was in my 20s... rent bills and getting food boxes so I could eat healthy. Anyone in their 20s now has my sympathy.
This is great, since it also helps when you've restrained from purchasing anything for so long due to depression or insecurity. Maybe it's time to get yourself something.
Say that again. It’s very easy to get caught up in this because it’s effectively the messaging of ALL marketing. Even easier when you’re surrounded by peers who can’t see the forest for the trees, or have endless funds making them “yes men” when it comes to frivolous spending.
Can you make a video on business coaches who coach coaches? It’s like a gen z MLM, the recruitment was more important than the products so this is like an MLM without the products.
Me and my dad were at the store one day (it was 5 below). We went in there to get paints, so I walked up to him and was like “I found the paints I needed” and he said “ok cool, did you look around at the rest of the store? There’s some cool tech stuff in that corner” and I said “no I don’t need anything else out of here” and he said “well it’s not about NEEDING things” YES IT IS?? IT IS TO ME! Why would I go look through a store at stuff I don’t need or desire just so something pretty can catch my eye and I spend money on it for no reason?? I just don’t like buying stuff that I’m not going to use or doesn’t have a purpose (not shaming people who do like buying things in that way, I’m just confused on why I’m expected to do the same?) like I got the paints I WANTED why would I go look at their cheap headphones that I know will break in 2 weeks?
That‘s good advice, but sometimes it takes some errors to find out who you are or what you really care for. Who hasn’t at least once spent a fortune on some fancy piece of clothing because it’s all the fashion only to find that you’re looking ghastly in it? Who hasn’t travelled to some fancy destination EVERYBODY has been to just to find it pretty boring? That’s normal when you’re young. Put it down to experience and whatever you do, don’t break the bank.
My sister in law and fam travel all the time and we literally skipped a trip to Hawaii with family. I honestly don’t really like traveling all that much bc I can’t sleep, at all, so it’s not too fun. I do take small trips and affordable beach vacations. I am 42 and I still question myself: but I should travel, right? Isn’t that what’s cool? It absolutely takes time to figure out who you are and I do think occasionally it’ll eat up some money.
Sometimes im not sure if im honest. I know I cant spend myself out of myself. But every so often there comes a time when denying myself everything to keep things going wrecks me and i spend on something. It doesn't have to be big. last night i went out and got a burger and coke at a fast food place, it wasn't anything expensive really but i was so frustrated and over the "watered down" food cheap food ive been eating for the past month to save money i felt like garbage. And the fast food was the cheapest craving i had. was it the best decision financially? Nope. Did it save me from possibly having a breakdown? Yep.
I've started to ask myself what kind of life I'm trying to buy and if that's worked buying similar things in the past. Luxurious cosmetics, formal clothes I never wear... They never really change anything
what kind of purchases are we talking about that would make you become a different person? tattoos? wardrobe? jewelry? cars? house? holiday? surgery? education?
I wish you could build on this topic. It still sounds like me because I still deal with these insecurities and low self-esteem, but Im not sure if it’s that or revenge-spending.
If I had more money, I would ;like to think that hiring a house keeper would in fact be good for my mental health and get me a bit closer to who I would like to be. But for the time being, I have accepted the fact I'm poor and messy and it's not a moral failing.
I mean, if I want to be a pirate and I am craving medieval skirt, shirt and a corset right now, do I just want to become a pirate or am I secretly a pirate inside? 🤔
Yep that’s actually the conclusion from the original video from Overcoming Overconsumption. The journey to finding ground under yourself and learning to love yourself as is will be the most important part of financial success.
well I'm 30 and still hate myself and my familly and my country and I am also still unemployed despite applying to over 1000 jobs, yes, that s not a a typo. I hate capitalism
I don’t know… I am a firm believer in the “dress for the job you want not the one you have”… and the idea that if you want to be “happier” you can try smiling more and in a weird way you trick your brain into thinking it is happier. Obviously, you know, within reason: you aren’t going to start doing surgery on someone (without the education/certification) because you “want” to become a surgeon, nor should you spend like millionaire because you want to become a millionaire. But you can work like a millionaire, have the habits of a millionaire, if you want to become one. But I do think that certain things we do help attract the things we want into our life. But it is important to weed out the things that actually help us vs hinder us.
@@AG-up7kx well, I wouldn’t expect a person who wants to be a millionaire to take advice on how to inherit a million dollars from their parents or how to pick the right numbers to win the lottery… but hopefully learn about how to network, make business deals, or invest well from people who worked their way there.
@@AG-up7kx My husband worked for a company that vested its employees in stock. When the company sold he lucked out. He kept his position and his salary continues to climb. But when he got hired 17 years ago none of that was true. He’s skilled in IT and he works hard but what granted us such present financial security was a mix of extraordinary good luck AND hard work and financial discipline. I never let this fact leave my mind and it keeps me compassionate to others.
I'm not sure where you're going with this tbh. Most millionaires work less than an average minimum wage worker, working less isn't gonna get you more money. Trying to include rich people habits won't help your finances.
@@mordecaiissad8529 I think some people equate rich to being a heir. But I equate it more to people who have earned their money. I can’t work my way to have been born the daughter of billionaire, but I can work my way to, at the very least, be well of. I’m sure there are people who have also gotten rich through embezzlement and nepotism, and sure, you could learn from that if those “values” align with yours, other learn about investments, networking, being business savvy, taking risks, negotiating, etc. You are free to choose your path. You could also be happy living a modest life. To each their own.
You're being creepy AF dude. If you came here for brownie points, I'm sorry to tell you this isn't incel Reddit. 🤮 It's irrelevant, enough said. Don't be surprised it this if your last visible comment on this channel.
"When I feel less than I am, I spend more than I have."
Not to mention, there’s ad teams being paid millions to convince you that purchase WILL make you that person
If the ads aren't already successful at getting you to hate certain qualities in yourself that are completely "normal".
Absolutely! Ads sell ideals and lifestyles more than the products themselves
The whole idea of aspirational spending is the underpinning of consumer capitalism.
This is not something we do to ourselves, but rather, a long-term strategy employed by the corporations as a means of corralling us into maximal spending habits.
So, please don't feel alone or silly if this happened to you. You're the "target" and you were just following orders.
It's as American as apple pie.
🎯
No kidding, I remember the 90's frenzy here in Portugal with exotic destination travelling, reading travel agencies cataloque/magazines made you feel like you were missing out and would have nothing to talk about, if you didn't travel to those places on an all included pack! A lot of families would ask for credits to go on these trips.
Apple pie is english tho..
This is very nuanced! I totally agree at baseline, this is a very pertinent self examination which I will be carrying forward. However, there are some purchases which may not be congruent with your current self, but are in alignment with your better self. Gym memberships, therapy, sustainable/well made goods (clothing, bedding, etc) that will really last. I’ve struggled with two sides of the coin, the other being the inability to invest in myself. For example, in my early 20’s I’d never spend $30 dollars on a well made shirt, but I would certainly spend $300 on a cheap clothing haul. It takes understanding and honesty with yourself to differentiate between what will serve your future self.
Well said
The person I wish I were/think I should be right now.
Vs
The person I am working on becoming.
The first is denying reality. The second is acknowledging where they are and where they are growing.
That's a good question to ask whether you are a young adult or older.
Absolutely. There is no age restriction on this one. Ask my insecure 70 year old mother, or my pre-counseling codependent going through a divorce in my early 30s self. Counseling, self work, self discipline and self respect are not easy, but they are worth the work in so so many ways, including financially.
Ooof, that just about sums up my financial decisions from my 20's. Definitely wisdom I plan to pass on to my kids down the road.
Same
I did actually spend my way out of myself, but that was on heroin, so a wee bit different. That new person I spent my way into was an absolute monster. Amazingly my finances got much better after leaving IV opiates behind. Who could have guessed? Apparently not me for an entire decade. Ultimately it was still an attempt to fill horrific holes in myself and obfuscate the severe trauma I had experienced. Shopping and overspending certainly activates the same regions in the brain as many illicit substances. Seek the help of a professional, as sometimes untangling trauma and using spending as an emotional crutch, like opiates, is simply something that many cannot get over by themselves.
I was working to keep above water financially when I was in my 20s... rent bills and getting food boxes so I could eat healthy. Anyone in their 20s now has my sympathy.
This is great, since it also helps when you've restrained from purchasing anything for so long due to depression or insecurity. Maybe it's time to get yourself something.
Loving the advice and loving the whole outfit & accessories Chelsea!
Thank you fpr that prompt! Simple and effective
Yeah, getting control of your spending WILL make you feel good about yourself.
Best insight of the year for me ❤
Pleasing your fantasy self will only hold yourself back.
Say that again. It’s very easy to get caught up in this because it’s effectively the messaging of ALL marketing. Even easier when you’re surrounded by peers who can’t see the forest for the trees, or have endless funds making them “yes men” when it comes to frivolous spending.
This hit home.
Please share the details of that other video so we can watch it. Thanks
prob gonna have to go to tiktok
Can you make a video on business coaches who coach coaches? It’s like a gen z MLM, the recruitment was more important than the products so this is like an MLM without the products.
I usually don't buy for me unless I have a real need. I hate spending money. However gifts for others are a joy.
Wow that’s a good question for any age.
Great question!
can someone tell me who the creator is? Chelsea has not mentioned her name
I love your hamsa necklace
Whooooo I felt this 😮
Please Please please share your hair routine. It's perfect
Damn you called me out, this is too real. I really needed this video 😅
"go back and watch it" - wheres the link, yo?
This
Stilllll looking for the link. Can’t find it on TikTok either
The channel is called overcoming overconsumption. If you’re on mobile a link won’t work.
Me and my dad were at the store one day (it was 5 below). We went in there to get paints, so I walked up to him and was like “I found the paints I needed” and he said “ok cool, did you look around at the rest of the store? There’s some cool tech stuff in that corner” and I said “no I don’t need anything else out of here” and he said “well it’s not about NEEDING things”
YES IT IS?? IT IS TO ME! Why would I go look through a store at stuff I don’t need or desire just so something pretty can catch my eye and I spend money on it for no reason?? I just don’t like buying stuff that I’m not going to use or doesn’t have a purpose (not shaming people who do like buying things in that way, I’m just confused on why I’m expected to do the same?) like I got the paints I WANTED why would I go look at their cheap headphones that I know will break in 2 weeks?
This hit too hard 😪
That‘s good advice, but sometimes it takes some errors to find out who you are or what you really care for.
Who hasn’t at least once spent a fortune on some fancy piece of clothing because it’s all the fashion only to find that you’re looking ghastly in it?
Who hasn’t travelled to some fancy destination EVERYBODY has been to just to find it pretty boring?
That’s normal when you’re young. Put it down to experience and whatever you do, don’t break the bank.
My sister in law and fam travel all the time and we literally skipped a trip to Hawaii with family. I honestly don’t really like traveling all that much bc I can’t sleep, at all, so it’s not too fun. I do take small trips and affordable beach vacations. I am 42 and I still question myself: but I should travel, right? Isn’t that what’s cool? It absolutely takes time to figure out who you are and I do think occasionally it’ll eat up some money.
Some variation of that question will be asked in all parts of my life from this day forward.
Sometimes im not sure if im honest. I know I cant spend myself out of myself. But every so often there comes a time when denying myself everything to keep things going wrecks me and i spend on something. It doesn't have to be big. last night i went out and got a burger and coke at a fast food place, it wasn't anything expensive really but i was so frustrated and over the "watered down" food cheap food ive been eating for the past month to save money i felt like garbage. And the fast food was the cheapest craving i had. was it the best decision financially? Nope. Did it save me from possibly having a breakdown? Yep.
Great question to ask
I feel extremely called out
I've started to ask myself what kind of life I'm trying to buy and if that's worked buying similar things in the past. Luxurious cosmetics, formal clothes I never wear... They never really change anything
what kind of purchases are we talking about that would make you become a different person? tattoos? wardrobe? jewelry? cars? house? holiday? surgery? education?
love this! Also, where did you get your top from?
I wish you could build on this topic. It still sounds like me because I still deal with these insecurities and low self-esteem, but Im not sure if it’s that or revenge-spending.
Your hair is my next purchase!!
I didn't sort out having a career because I was trying to survive and get to a point where I could thrive 😭😭😭
It would help if you linked the original video
Where can I find her video?
probably TikTok (and only TikTok). unfortunately a lot of TikTokers don't have ig or YT pages and I have no interest in getting on TikTok...
Look for overcoming overconsumption
Hannah Louise Poston has a fantastic video about this, shopping for who you are rather than who you aspire to be.
If I had more money, I would ;like to think that hiring a house keeper would in fact be good for my mental health and get me a bit closer to who I would like to be. But for the time being, I have accepted the fact I'm poor and messy and it's not a moral failing.
Love your necklace, where is it from?
Soooo true
Where can we see the original video ??
How do u go back and watch it? Link?
FACTS
The only exception to this rule is divorce.
Wait wheres the whole thing?
That was uncomfortable information i did not come here for but probably needed to hear. Now back to my true crime
I wish you provided examples
What if I spend to escape reality? 😅
Fine I won't get that gym membership 😅
Every purchase I make is for that so..
Where is this original video from?
The channel overcoming overconsumption.
I mean, if I want to be a pirate and I am craving medieval skirt, shirt and a corset right now, do I just want to become a pirate or am I secretly a pirate inside? 🤔
Does purchasing self-help books count? Definitely a purchase out of self-loathing😂😂😂😂
Sorry i was too busy trying to keep housing 🤷♀️
Yep that’s actually the conclusion from the original video from Overcoming Overconsumption. The journey to finding ground under yourself and learning to love yourself as is will be the most important part of financial success.
Omgod this. 😶
How do you know the difference
well I'm 30 and still hate myself and my familly and my country and I am also still unemployed despite applying to over 1000 jobs, yes, that
s not a a typo. I hate capitalism
Ooooff
Why not share her handle then?
Omg take this truth bomb away!
I don’t know… I am a firm believer in the “dress for the job you want not the one you have”… and the idea that if you want to be “happier” you can try smiling more and in a weird way you trick your brain into thinking it is happier. Obviously, you know, within reason: you aren’t going to start doing surgery on someone (without the education/certification) because you “want” to become a surgeon, nor should you spend like millionaire because you want to become a millionaire. But you can work like a millionaire, have the habits of a millionaire, if you want to become one.
But I do think that certain things we do help attract the things we want into our life. But it is important to weed out the things that actually help us vs hinder us.
@@AG-up7kx well, I wouldn’t expect a person who wants to be a millionaire to take advice on how to inherit a million dollars from their parents or how to pick the right numbers to win the lottery… but hopefully learn about how to network, make business deals, or invest well from people who worked their way there.
@@AG-up7kx My husband worked for a company that vested its employees in stock. When the company sold he lucked out. He kept his position and his salary continues to climb. But when he got hired 17 years ago none of that was true. He’s skilled in IT and he works hard but what granted us such present financial security was a mix of extraordinary good luck AND hard work and financial discipline. I never let this fact leave my mind and it keeps me compassionate to others.
I'm not sure where you're going with this tbh. Most millionaires work less than an average minimum wage worker, working less isn't gonna get you more money. Trying to include rich people habits won't help your finances.
@@mordecaiissad8529 I think some people equate rich to being a heir. But I equate it more to people who have earned their money. I can’t work my way to have been born the daughter of billionaire, but I can work my way to, at the very least, be well of. I’m sure there are people who have also gotten rich through embezzlement and nepotism, and sure, you could learn from that if those “values” align with yours, other learn about investments, networking, being business savvy, taking risks, negotiating, etc. You are free to choose your path. You could also be happy living a modest life. To each their own.
What???!!!
How sad to hate yourself in your twenties.
Understandable now tell me if you are married or nah
You're being creepy AF dude. If you came here for brownie points, I'm sorry to tell you this isn't incel Reddit. 🤮
It's irrelevant, enough said. Don't be surprised it this if your last visible comment on this channel.
She is
"You can't spend your way out of yourself" 🫠