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The problem is that for most women today "having power" means your using said "power" at the expense of other or directly use it to harm or degrade others. To most women there's no such thing as a good man, a man with power who doesn't use it against others for his benefit, there's only the bad boy who has power and weilds it over others like a tyrant or the meak nice guy that is only nice because he hopes that others would treat them the same. Basically for them there's no Captain America, there's only little scrawny Steve Rogers or the red skull. I think thes is because most of them have no real understanding of Morality and see everything through a darwinists worldview were Morality is non existent.
But as another comment in this videos said:
"If your first instinct is to exploit some one's weakness, especially if that "weakness" is being kind, you're just evil.
Lets just call it what it is". -Dshlit
I'm old fashioned so don't do prenups. If you think prenups _are_ old fashioned, think *older* fashioned, in the days long before they existed. As soon as love becomes a contract, it's not love.
@@aaronmicalowe "Old fashion" law doesn't have that 50-50 assets divorce split. Modern problems require modern solutions. We don't live in caves anymore.
"I would never take anything from you"
is womanspeak for 'what's yours is mine anyway, so it's not stealing.'
When a woman decides she’s not happy everything she said in the past is forgotten. She’ll grab for all she can. I’ve seen it so many times with friends and guys I work with.
I _know_ that's right...
This is the main reason why Islam grows so much in the west -
It’s a night a day difference for men and the women usually appreciate being put in their place.
Exactly
100%
I decided not to date again after my divorce at age 40, eleven years ago. Best decision I've ever made.
As I also divorced even 20 years ago I am with you- best decision. Happy and interesting life since. . Problem is is that some unique woman I like to see and talk to . Still remind myself that it is very risky to lose the distance. I lke videos like that because they are reminders. Keeping woman in freendly zone is tough also.
I'm in my 50's and divorced. Same situation. I just don't see the point. Women 40+ are just looking for a man to be their retirement plan. Most are divorced because they indicated it. If they've never been married, there's a reason for that.
@Speed-dw6qp the only woman even worth looking at would be a woman that was long term married and now a widow.
You can't be sure if it was the best decision. You would have to live both situations. But i'm glad you are happy.
Same here .... I'll have fun with women ... but i will never ever expose myself again , aka, marriage
My ex exploited all the knowledge she had about me in such a disgusting way. She wrote the most twisted horror-stories about me to the authorities. I had to pay a fortune to lawyers to prevent her to take my children away from me. She still treats me as an evil demon and pretends to be caring about the children. I am sure that one of the main reasons why she wants the children is money. She also has the knowledge that I am a very good and loving father so taking the children has been a very effective way to hurt me deeply. It was not a forgone conclusion that I would survive this. But I did and are fighting for my children’s right to see their father. I am a normal person maybe a little bit boring and calm and this extreme treatment has made me find whatever strength I had to save myself. I have tried to keep calm during the entire process and have not fueled conflict as she is benefitting from conflict and she is trying to induce it all the time.
My exact experience too brother
Man must be ruthless in "Kobra Kai: Strike First, Strike Hard, No Mercy" mode to survive.
Down where I live (New Zealand) the government just changed our marriage laws to have the prenuptial contract built in to regular marriage law.
It's auto include for us now, so we have that going for us, which is nice.
Really? Googled this and found nothing. Given how woke nz is I'm doubtful
Funny, my entire life I refused to bend the knee with women who I had broken up with for cheating. At the time I felt like I was being a jerk.
Anyone who'd ask, I'd tell them. Even when they didn't 😂. I thought I was being petty. At 16 an ex lied about a pregnancy. Within a day the entire school,(including teachers) ridiculed me, shunned me. Friends turned their back on me. Later to find out she had been with not 2 but 3 other dudes. OK. I vowed never to be silent about "the deal" with a bad breakup.
At 30 I protected my, now ex-wife's image/reputation, despite her being extremely verbally abusive, racist towards me, etc... , I fell right into "protection mode.". Even my own lifelong friends, family (especially my father), extended family, literally everyone who knew us....had turned their back on me. Ok.
Meanwhile, she's being so "nice" to me and playing up a false victim role behind my back.
This was roughly 20 years ago and despite who she really was/is coming to light, most still haven't or "can't" face me with the smallest apology. So many people wrote me off and I can say that everything regarding this topic is soooooo real/factual. People who say, "I didn't know." or "But I thought that...." simply just didn't listen.
Young and old men alike: please let this video sink in.
You get what you tolerate. You had a wife racist towards you?
@@rayrwyr That's not really the point.
The point was that, (in my generation) men were raised to have a sense of "responsibility" over a woman's image/reputation no matter what she's done. Meanwhile, your image/reputation is being torn down....even by allowing the people around her to nurture her perceived "victimhood".
Best entertainment I have had in long time reading all the comments . This society is one big train wreck . And it looks like it will get worse .Smart phones, please help Man Kind .
Actually, as long as the "She gave up her career" was made as a family decision and not forced on her husband. Many women do this strategy, I myself experienced it. Lucky in Australia once the children over 18, she is on her own if husband divorces her (sure, she get 55~60% of assets). Still better that and out than with a person who leaches off their spouse.
Been married twice and lost everything twice. Not doing that again. Better off being by myself I'm enjoying life
A prenup often times is not worth the paper its written on. A judge can set it aside. I lost $2.6 million.
A coworker got married. Then divorced. Then they remarried. Then in divorce #2 another coworker (woman) reminded him that marrying a pole dancer was probably not a good strategy, never mind TWICE! $234k later he was a free man, having lost half of his 401k and a lot more.
Using her logic. “why get married, Im never going to leave you”
Exactly!
Beautiful. Exactly show them the full extent of their flawed logic.
That's actually what I use when women I'm dating are pushing for it. "Why complicate things" works great too b/c it's straight from women.
Touché. 👌
Just be wary of states that have common law marriages.
If your first instinct is to exploit some one's weakness, especially if that "weakness" is being kind, you're just evil.
Lets just call it what it is.
Women have a great capability for evil (I fixed it for you).
This comment should be at the top.
Women call it "Emotional Intelligence."
That is specialy upsetting if they do it to their children. Because they sometime do. They manipulate them deliberately against ex husband.
I asked my doughter (19) why she lied me about where "mama" went . "because she asked me to tell you that". Why you lied in court that you did not see me and we diid not speak ? ? "Beacuse it would confirm your version and would be against mama version".
I've been saying this for years. Most modern women are horrible human beings.
Do not trust women. She can keep a secret max 48 hours. 48 hours is the time needed to change her mind. ON ANYTHING. Creature, who's mind is operated on emotions, cannot be trusted.
_"She can keep a secret max 48 hours."_
Oh, there's a particular secret she can keep around 18 years...
@@TheBestPill-no2xp You got your numbers wrong. Average time between marriage and divorce sits at 7 - 8 years currently...
@@Sergio_Loureiro that's not what he meant, here's a hint
there was no test involved after so much time the truth is finally shown
you are not
"Creatures whose mind is operated on emotions, cannot be trusted" - including men who make decisions based on blind rage, or lust 😉
@@Sergio_Loureiro By 2014, MORE than half of both men and women who married between 1970 and 1984 had reached at least their 25th anniversary together
It's crazy to me that men still choose to get married
In 2024 this seems crazy and/or delusional.
I had a knocked down, drag out debate with my older brother about RP concepts just yesterday (we've talked about it for years).
Most days he sounds like he agrees, but (as a religious man that has gone to church all his life), he can't get let go of the whole "men are responsible for everything, even women's failures" thing (what he gets taught). He has been put through the ringer by two i-n-s-a-n-e wives, almost losing his life over the first one.
And I guess this is more of a religion/ religious thinking thing (which is why I'm ultimately against it), *because he knows that if he accepts Briffault's Law, (at least in his mind), his version of his religion doesn't work.* He thinks "God putting man as head of the household" means that Briffault's Law can't be true. He can't reconcile women's agency vs. his religion...and that failure cost him his whole life, because he lives in some run down hovel in the bad part of "Big American City" USA in massive debt, working and Ubering. He even used to Lyft, but got fired because a female passenger said he was creepy for something he said about her outfit.
All that to say, you can't fix stubborn.
most people in this world are dumb ..
Just from taxation alone, it makes more sense to co-habitate and not marry. The kid's last name is whatever you want it to be on the birth certificate. Live together long enough and people just assume you are married anyway.
And on a side note, she has some kid's and no job, she can get social services. Even if they put the father on child support, that money is going right back into the household anyway. He can be making bank and she can get state and federal assistance. You literally can't make this stuff up.
It worked out for me, I got married to a woman 16 years younger, I spent 20 years ploughing through every type of woman known to man before I met her. She signed a pre-nup and gave me 3 beautiful children. She is an exceptional woman, and I'm not stupid. Even though we are married she also knows if she f*cks things up, I'll replace her. Her life would turn to sh*t without me. She couldn't replace me however and she knows it. She loves it that I take no sh*t. It makes her "feel" safe. I'm the architect of our life and she comes along for the ride.
No woman want a 50/50 relation...until the divorce arrives.
Spot on 😅
No women wants to be strong and independent infront in a divorce court. If they were true F emisnt they shouldn't be asking for money.
Its not 50/50 if its only his stuff that gets shared😂 its more like 75/25
60/40
A wooooooooooomahn's 20% effort in filing for divorce leads to an 80% reward in the 50% of a man's hard-earned assets. That sounds like a good deal to me!!!
Always remember, the righteous sees mercy as a virtue, but the unrighteous sees generosity as weakness.
Justice should never be seen as wrong. Those who treat evil and good as equal are not moral.
Californication. The above two comments spell out the way it is in southern California. A news channel independent guy called in a drunk driver. All he got was hate for ' snitching'. Some areas are like this 24/7.
In all honesty, seeing generosity as weakness is nauseating.
Damn I like this
Most men don’t talk prenup because they don’t want to offend their girlfriend. However, she will have no problem offending you during the divorce.
This.
Far from it! She will take GREAT pleasure in doing far more than offending you. She will vindictively do everything she can to completely destroy you, and laugh about it over lunch with her girlfriends!!!
Because, of course, all men are evil, oppressive, toxic masculine etc. So women see their evil deeds as merely getting even..
You'll see the real her in front of the judge handling your divorce. It was always there, the chameleon always hides it until the last moment as a married couple. It's a really ugly version of her, so she keeps it hidden, very well hidden. But it's always there, that vindictive side of her.
Law of nature: Weak gets punished.
@@ssing7113😂 ok prozzie
Women fail to understand every man signs a pre-nup before they get married....it's with the government. We're only asking to level the playing field.
When asked about prenups by women, what you should say: "Would you sign a pre-nup that states that if you get divorced for any reason, you have to pay spousal support, you lose half of your stuff, and if you have kids, he gets custody and child support that he can spend on what ever he wants, so you have to work all week and take care of the kids on the weekend, while he "takes care" of them during the week while they are in school, while living in a house you have to pay for? If you think that's a bad idea, what your really saying is "I don't want to be treated like a man".
💯 Ask any family lawyer. The state already has prenup guidelines, your own agreement just over rides it.
They gaslight men who ask for a pre-nup. If the roles were reversed, they would be yelling it's the patriarchy, but since it's not, they don't fight for equal rights in the divorce for men
My ex-wife cheated with two of her coworkers and a customer who is a local tattoo artist. I told my kids and my family, and I made sure she told her family or I was going to do it.
I had not one but two different female therapists tell me I should not have told my kids, that I was being petty and damaging my kids by telling them the truth.
I told them because it's damaging to lie to kids. Kids aren't as stupid as most adult's think they are. If you lie to them, they'll start to see things, shadows of the truth, there'll be cognitive dissonance and they'll start to resent you and question everything you say. They'll be hurt and wondering why dad lied.
And yes, your ex-wife will start to lie to them and try to turn them against you. My ex is doing that now, even though she knows the kids already know the truth. My kids have voluntarily told me, without me even asking, that their mother badmouths me whenever she has them, and she tries to convince them to say that I hit them so she can take them, because I have primary custody.
She doesn't come get them about half the time she is supposed to, and she tells them she's sick. They have made several comments about how no one is sick that much and she lies all the time. I have explained to them that you can love someone while still knowing what they're doing is wrong, so it's not their fault and their mother has problems. Because they have had the truth from me, and they've seen clear examples of her lying all the time, they trust me and not her.
I know this was long, but I hope it helped someone see why doing what AG said in his video is so important.
I work in a mental health facility. I say this with a straight face. The psychiatric and psychology departments are running with staff who are just as mentally ill as the patients they treat. They went into those professions looking for validation and acceptance of their mental health issues and not to reach some level of treatment. They are all facing some level of trauma and use the patients as a sounding board for their ideas on how to cope with it. So for example, instead of treating someone with gender dysphoria, they accepted it as normal behavior because they themselves suffer from gender dysphoria.
And on a side note, I knew you were in trouble as soon as you said your therapists were female. They work in a field run on emotion and not logic. And they will tend to side with the emotional partner (which is almost always the woman) because they themselves are dealing with the same issues the woman who left the marriage is dealing with if not more.
Jesus, that’s a story. Good you did the right thing, not just for you but for your kids. Really shows you the level of depravity women can go to.
I told people too she had cheated but don’t think anyone believed me and everyone stuck to her after the divorce anyway
Cheater wife's logic -
Never tell the kids THE TRUTH. But manipulate and poison their minds with LIES. A real manipulation technique to save their reputation and damage the innocent husband's.
How old are the kids, if you don't mind me asking?
"What if she made more money?"
Then she would not want to marry him in the first place.
True af
I bring FREE lifetime family healthcare,
Medicare will bankrupt you.
The best pre-nup is no marriage.
On point!
And moving out of commonlaw marriage states
Luckily most dont have this anymore lol@@ThirtytwoJ
@@ThirtytwoJ never move in with the girl. And always keep an extra secret accommodation without anyone's knowledge.
Having offspring outside of wedlock causes generational curses, greatly damaging children and future generations. So, no marriage, then don't have offspring.
Her : "I would never take anything from you."
Her (later) : "I've changed my mind."
Yep. Her response is moronic at best because no one plans on getting divorced when they get married. People change, and women change their minds quit a lot and frequently. She can "plan" on not taking anything from him, the same way she can plan on growing old together.... but unless you live under a rock, or you are a pure self serving woman apparently, you know damn well a divorce is possible.
Just don't help women in general.
Seems radical but I see what you mean.
They are independent and tough?
Well, have it this way then. You need no help, right?
@@arminxvs3372nothing radical about it, afterall its them constantly telling men how independent they are how they dont need a man or can do anything and everything men can do... give them their chance to dig their own holes and watch them crash and burn as they realise their delusional independence is just as fragile as their ego is, they'll soon come running back and I'd ignore them
Today I was waken in morning by phone from my many years ago close lady which since then was with I think about 5 other man. Usualy I was kind to answer but I did not pick and feel good. .
@@Mikexception -- If you keep on ignoring her enough, she will become very attracted to you. Be careful.
@@rayrwyrThanks for good advice. I already 've been there . When I cared she treated me like rag and used like servant. . She discounted my inteligence. Then she considered me as friend and unweiled to me how she treats next fellows who who lived with her did all they could for her. Treated them as slaves. Guy before me younger 20 years than me had too good feelings for her, had got cancer and gone, All "at side" and with husband knowledge. Her husband who is escellent pianist who played aboard lives actualy in garden house. Why? Who knows? Hmmm.... but all "partners"and husband apparently having alcohol problem You may suspect she is very primitive but she holds managers position in own bussiness .
Imagine working the better part of your life to build an empire only to lose the house, cars, retirement funds, half equity because she no longer wants to be married or wants to find herself or leaves for another guy. I'm not looking forward to be homeless and broke at 50 or 60, and looking for handout.
The only way to mitigate this risk is to position yourself against it. Prenup.
Make sure she works and has an equal career. Make sure you are debt free, and she invests equally for her own retirement.
Force her to co tribute 50% from the start and if she leaves, it doesn't matter.
Sell the house, split the proceeds, and go your own way.
If my wife and I ever got divorced, I'd just buy a large track of land, build myself a shop with an apartment in it and retire.
That is why I am not convinced regarding woman who has (not explanable for her personal abilities) significant wealth. Watch out!
I don’t have to imagine
Happened to me
@patrickday4206 , happened to my dad. My mom hit menopause. Went a little nuts. Cheated on him and then divorced him.
He kept the house, which was a mistake because it was a big debt anchor. My mom started over.
Neither one had anything so they split up the debt.
My wife and I have been together for 14 years. We both make the same. This year, I'm pushing to wipe out our debt except the house.
Then we can go from there. I'm not dumb enough to think the same thing can't happen to me. I'm just setting things up so if SHTF I'm not underwater.
My grandmother passed away. I left to attend to her matters, only to be notified that my spouse changed the locks and had falsified a court document to keep me away from my son indefinitely. Never saw it coming. Let this be a warning to EVERYBODY who’s married. You never can know what is going on in the other’s mind.
Sorry bro ... 😢 I feel very fking sorry for ya🥺
I've got a client who built up a couple million dollars worth of cash and assets over 30 years from nothing. His first asset was a 4 plex that he lived in for years while he built equity and continued to add to his portfolio.
Fast forward to divorce once the kids were grown, he had to give her $500k in cash and two rental properties that hold 20 units.
She drug him through divorce proceedings for almost 2 years. 3 years later she was telling his girls she wanted him back. 😑😑🤦🤦🤦. Effin women.
She got dumped by her affair partner and then she tried hard but found no other willing victims.
I remember talking to my ex's mom on the night I found out she was cheating on me, and her mom took her side. All her friends took her side, most of my friends refused to take MY side. She broke me down, and unfortunately she got her way in almost every part of that breakup. Women always claim that life as a man is easy, but they have no idea (and refuse to learn) just how lonely and difficult it often is.
Saw my exes mom for the first time in 4 years this week, (since divorce). Went with my daughter to collect something from her house. Got out of the car and knocked the door but when she answered she only addressed my daughter and didn't even say hello to me. At least I know where I stand with her now.
It's a brutal experience. Without my brother idk what would have happened. By FAR the worst experience of my life. 1 day at a time.
@@wingnut71I would have turned around and immediately left
@@wingnut71 The woman philosophy is that when anything happened that should not happen it is mans guilt. When they become single then they blame institutions which help them. In my opinion that is why so many woman studiy law and so few of woman work as lawyer. .
I had the same experience, everyone simps for the women .
Her answer alone is extremely suspicious. I was never married, but I have witnessed plenty of exploitation of men I know personally at the hands women that I can never trust a woman ever again. Thank You for all the content on female nature, Alex. I know I'm better off knowing the truth, and remaining single.
Government gives women the upper hand in divorce so it is on her to extend generosity,
Not the other way around
Always remember men - you get more of what you tolerate.
Always!
We teach people how to treat us.
@@brotherowl Do we?
Women: "I don't want a prenup because if you really love me, you don't need a guarantee or safety. You don't trust me enough?"
OK... then I need no marriage. If you really love me babe, then you need no ring/guarantee/security, right? You don't trust me to stay with you?
Same game.
2024... dudes - NEVER without a prenup. Even a prenup can easily be dismantled but at least it's something.
Famous last words. “My wife would never do that to me.” Yes they would and they can.
And they will!
And they do, every time.
My wife said to me:
"I know it is only anecdotal, but
they all cry when you drop dirt on them"
Never trust people who are guided by emotions and feelings. If your women won’t sign the prenup : dump her immediately
Show them no mercy, they know what they are doing. They act like children so treat them as such, protect yourselves fella's 👍 they will blame you for everything because they take no accountability. My ex admitted she was a terrible girlfriend and then continued to be a terrible girlfriend 😂 don't let them off the hook
Any man getting married without a prenup is a fool.
Some people need to be left behind.
even with the prenups nothing is guaranteed...because in court it won't have much value...
Any man getting married is a fool.
@@sindbadbouba1649 True!
But at least it is something. But having none? That's just insanity.
In my state, just having kids invalidates the prenup. Including contingencies for children in prenups here is illegal.
A woman can never love a man for who he is, they only love a man for what he can provide. It is just that simple.
Fax
My ex wife hated being at home and went back to work early from maternity leave, so I gave up my career to stay home with the kids. BIG mistake.
Sex dried up and she treated me worse and worse until finally kicking me to the curb. I left with nothing, met someone new which enraged her, so she decided I couldn't have custody and only see the kids every second weekend.
I fought her and won 50/50 care. She became so toxic my new partner had to break up because the fallout was affecting her kids.
It came time for financial settlement and I was entitled to half of her super. She'd met someone new and was getting married, so I saved it until her honeymoon and called her to tell her she could have her super as a wedding present hoping the gesture might end her animosity.
My mum had died 2 weeks before and I was still grieving but she informed me in that phone call that she'd spoken to lawyers and because I hadn't settled yet she was going to take me for half my mum's family farm. You're so right! Generosity is only seen as weakness!
OMG! Your ex acted exactly as any toxic modern woman is expected to act. Your generosity is only seen as weakness because she held the power over you. Seeing that you are weak, vulnerable, powerless, she twisted her knife in your belly.
@@rayrwyr Sad but true. My youngest graduates high school this year after which time I'll finally be done with her. Until then I know to never let my guard down again.
Inheritance isn’t community property unless it is commingled in most states. Since you were already separated at the time of your inheritance in no state is she entitled to any party of inheritance you get after the date of separation.
I really have to ask, did you see signs of this before marraige? Idk how people hide these traits for so long
In divorce, you find out who you really married.
You only win that game by not playing it.
This society is so broken that we'd need to start from scratch.
Most people don't realize just how right you are. There is no saving this mess. Society is broken.
Want to join me in my underground?
After a bit of deep thinking, I realized that the only solution is re-establishing Patriarchy.
@@rayrwyr Sometimes I think the Patriarchy was invented in prehistoric time for exactly the reasons we see today.
@@siquod Chesterton's Fence.
Something dad told me too. Always have a stash off cash only you have access to and that she doesnt know about. Women will leave you completely broke if they can. That advice kept me from being homeless but it was close
Seriously, you have to be simple in the head to break up with a girl, and then leave her at your place while she looks for new accommodation while you move out for a few weeks.
How about this. Never move in with the girl unless you're married (which I don't recommend) or having a child.
You're totally right!
Lot of men break up (due to her cheating etc) and still stay madly in love with her. Hence they act very generous out of their love.
I got the house, the car, primary custody, all the debt and all the legal bills. She got cash and half the equity. I ended up with a negative net worth of about $130k. No alimony or child support though. Then every other year or so for the next 16 years she'd drag me into court to get custody and money even though she flaked on 85% of her weekend visitations (I kept a log). I won every case but it cost me several hundred thousand dollars in legal fee's. Even though we caught her in perjury multiple times I had to cover the bulk of her legal fees each time because I had assets and she didn't. On the upside, within the first year my house quadrupled in value and my business took off. The look on peoples face when they heard that a straight white male got custody of the child in a divorce in California said it all about how rare it was for the man to prevail in family court.
Do you wish you had a prenup?
@@rayrwyr Yes, it would have saved a lot of time and money. But this was back in the late 90's only the wealthy really used them back then. These days every guy should use one.
* fees........... not fee's.
There were so many fees that his fees had fees. @@tarico4436
@@tarico4436 It's called a typo, read another sentence and it's spelled correctly.
No marriage. No kids. No cohabitation. Zero tolerance for disrespect. Protect yourself at all times.
No kids? That's going too far.
Surrogate mother in a men-friendly country.
There's absolutely zero need to not have kids.
Don't let these wome n prevent you from fatherhood.
That entails extinction. Things have to change.
@@73elephants no. That's the only leverage to achieve change
I wonder why my response was deleted?
All I said is have kids with a woman in a men-friendly country...
(more to come)
Prenups are ok; Nonups work 100% of the time.
GYOW
My ex filed for separation 3 times three years in a row, in September every year. During the second separation I pulled out 1/2 of our checking and had 1/2 of pay dropped to my new account, left 1/2 to hers. This seemed fair and reasonable to me.
Just before I received the third separation, I realized it was coming because she emptied our checking account. I got the sep two days later and couldn’t even hire a lawyer till I got my next paycheck.
That’s how women reward kindness and fairness.
She must fear you to be able to respect you. She must respect you to love you. She must love you to be a good wife. Create fear in her by making sure that you have the capacity to be dangerous (financially, legally, socially) to her if she does not behave.
@@rayrwyr divorced now.. I counterfiled when she filed the third legal separation and started dating immediately and never looked back.
Never let your women to move in into your apartment or a house.
Wouldnt this only matter in state with common marriage law
Man: I make nice $ in my job, finally i can provide a better life for my wife and kids.
Woman: Now that i have money, i dont have to "tolerate" the beta i settled with.Time to get the kids and house while hubby sleeps on a futton...
Forgive only yourself for being fooled. And learn.
Forgiveness is personal. It is letting go and not carrying hatred in your heart towards them. They may not even know if you have forgiven them.
Telling others the truth is not revenge, it is just telling people what happened so they can make informed decisions in how they want to deal with them. Actions have consequences. Revenge would be going above and beyond to hurt them,
Forgiveness mean taking her back after she has done an act of extreme disrespect (such as cheating). That kind of forgiveness ends in disaster.
That one woman who says: 'it's not you're too nice, you have to be more masculine and set your boundaries'.
If you have to talk to her and treat her like a child, she is a child.. and you may as well call yourself in a relationship with someone who's underage. If she isn't grown up enough to respect your boundaries before hand without being told, it's not a relationship.. it's simply a business transaction. How many of you love your co-workers? How does it usually go when you mix business with pleasure? Run. Just run away as fast as you can. Before you commit to anything, you have to learn how to understand this before you're committed in a relationship.
I respond by saying I won't make her sign a prenuptial if she waited to get married at 75.
Even a 75 year old woman would cheat if opportunity knocks.
She says that when shes happy and in good mood, which is now, shell never take anything from him. Now, imagine her being super emotional, angry, resentful and spiteful..ya, shell take EVERYTHING. Women always take everything
Lesson: NEVER trust a woman to be a good human being !
Didn't bother watching after 00:08:
Their feelings are their reality. The reason she sounds like she believes what she says is because she does... _now._ And she _feels_ justified in feeling that way.
Later (as we all know), she will _feel_ differently. And she is not bound by the rules of consistency, or the rules of honor ("her word"), or any other rules that closes off options for her.
*Women will never consciously take an action that will close off options to them.* Even when they get married, they don't see that as "closing the door to their single self". Instead, they see it as _opening_ the door to what they (perceived they) couldn't have before. And as we all know, if they desire their single options again, they will take them...with no guilt.
Feminine Chaos = "No. Closed. Doors." It is natural, and nature always wins.
I hit the mute button, and started reading comments.
Humanity, humility, and honesty are predominantly male traits.
If you can find a woman with 2 of these three traits, she is a unicorn.
Women are biologically designed to be incapable of being loyal. So I do not expect women to be loyal. They stay loyal only there is no other option.
hubby asked me to sign a prenup. i said sure. he never gave it to me. 24 years later we’re going strong
You passed his gold-digger test
Avoid marriage at all costs.
There are no costs
@@honkytonk4465 it will cost you your life if you don't.
Every time I watch your video my world becomes a little more darker. I don't know how you cope the more you learn dynamics between men and women, the stories, and just not despair.
Well, the truth is uncomfortable, right? It's about time we men snap out of the Disney delusion that women are these perfect little angels. Knowing what Alexander's videos make us aware of things to be aware of when it comes to meeting a woman, getting married, and having a family. It helps men play the game smarter. It makes us wiser. Our standards of self-respect and self-preservation need to come back. No use staying a blunt sword when the world only respects sharpness.
What hurts more? The fact you were mislead and not taught how to see the world objectively? Or that objective reality?
Clue; can things you don't understand hurt you?
Wouldn't the solution then be to see objective reality and understand how to navigate it correctly in order to live a good life?
Snakes hide their true colors, it's what they do, don't be surprised when there are more than you previously though, just learn how to navigate the environment better.
Because you haven’t accepted it. You’re still hanging on to the idea that it could work. It won’t. It is better to know the truth and operate within reality than to be crushed by that reality at every turn. That is the true despair, my friend.
Likewise brother. I think I might have to stop watching this stuff as it is starting to make me really dislike the female sex.😢 I would use a stronger word but RUclips will delete my comment if I do.
@@wingnut71 I do the contrary. 20+ years of marriages with 3 kids. I Need this kind of stuff for teaching my twin son how to become a man in the modern world.
No pre-nupt, no relationship. Walk away if your boundaries are not respected.
*"Only the powerful can be generous."*
Na, most people are just deliberately misattributing any form of kindness as weakness.
It helps them cope and not break their fallacious "Just-world" view of the world.
Any woman single after 25 is a massive red flag
Not all - that'sa bit too harsh but yeah - it gets trickier to find a decent one.
"Generosity only flows down." Great quote! In the opposite direction you're just a victim of manipulation.
I am a woman , and I know full well of this behaviour . Men , speak out and tell the truth . I assure you , she wont .
It should be called a Pre Nope contract.
Does she get half or more of everything I have on a whim or greed?
Nope... 🥴
Those eyebrows are a red flag.
Hahaah true! 😂
My ex did exactly what you described.
After 7 years together, including 3 years helping support her while she studied for a university degree, she told me it was over, and she was moving out.
I continually asked for an explanation and a chance to work out whatever the problem was.
Eventually I wore her down and she came clean- she had been cheating on me for some time, and she was leaving me to be with him.
I gave up and let her go, but did the “nice” thing and just told people we weren’t happy together any more.
About a month later I heard from a mutual friend that she had been telling everyone that she left me because I was abusive and neglectful.
Great video. Men must realize that :
Men's innate instinct to protect women, being generous/kind/gracious to women backfires big time in this current modern gynocentric non-patriarchal society. The male brain got hardwired for protecting women at a time when the society was strictly Patriarchal. But it has no place in the modern gynocentric society. So, show no mercy. Be ruthless. Be powerful and have capacity to be dangerous. That's the only way to protect yourself and avoid self-ruin. Funny, this is also the only way woman will respect you and be attracted to you. Fear commands respect. For females, respect begets s3xual attraction. She must fear you.
Be in the power, stay protected, and make sure she fears you and she knows you can be dangerous and you are not be messed with. Don't give her the power. If she gets the power, she misuses it and burns everything down.
I was married once to a woman whom i didn’t really want to marry. I was an idiot. Good news was no kids and a very easy divorce. No assets really. Never got married again…..thank God.
Lol, My first marriage was her pressurising me to marry her. Fk what a mistake that was.
If you get to the point of divorce, anything said before that is no longer valid... that includes "I would never take his money"
Alex, this is excellent advice. This video is going to help give many men a backbone.
Yeah, this is a reality. At least the mercy part. I concede that some women see weakness and try to exploit it.
When I got divorced, I allowed my ex-wife to stay in the guest room while she was house shopping. I ended up finding a new place, and she helped me by buying the house so I didn't have to list it. But I did tell everyone what happened and what we were doing. I told friends and family what happened and that I wasn't staying with her but was forgiving her, and if I could forgive her, they could. So, I maintained the high ground and control. I just did what my lawyer recommended, and he's brilliant. So you can be kind and forgiving and merciful, but you maintain control and control the narrative with truth. The truth will set you free. But I still believe in being kind. My ex-wife has actually been really helpful since our divorce, and she even found me a new sweet dog after I lost my previous dog. So an amicable divorce is possible, but you must stay in control. If you lose control, you lose.
You acted generous from a position of power. So it was appreciated by her.
@rayrwyr yes I did. I maintained power the whole time. I am not disputing the presenter, mind you, just saying that being generous and kind is doable but on your terms. You need to maintain control of any situation you enter into. Only then can you make things work.
There is a reason the old ones said, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned." Beware, young man, beware.
That is hilarious to state oficialy thatt "I will not take anything form him" and at the same time "I will not sign on any paper (that my honest) statement which I just said. "
A friend moved to NZ with his girlfriend, after 4 years she wanted to return to UK, he didn't: she took half his stuff
I have learned soooo much about the Evil of women in the last three years . I thought my situation was rare and unique but have found that its Normal operating procedure for women in Divorce.
Jesus Alexander, you completely nailed women's nature to a T in divorce vs how men deal with it!! Wish I didn't have to learn all this stuff the hard way about 10 years ago.. MEN, LISTEN TO THIS MAN'S ADVICE!!
Women think nice = weak. I made this mistake many times.
In most realities nice IS weak.
Nice and strong is a super attractive combination. Usually nice = weak.
Gents most laws in the states do not allow you to just kick her out, if she has established residency in your home and she does not leave, you will have to go through the eviction process, 6 months minimum at least the state I am in.
Yes - you're probably right for most regions.
Best to not let her move in.
Keep your own space.
And she doesn't stay the night unless there's intimacy.
How does marriage benefit a man?
Divorced man here. I can tell you the short answer.....nothing
Nowadays?
Good question. Couldn't say any argument.
Yes, civility be damned. Control the narrative.
Take your assets away from your name.Put them in a trust before you get married ...you dont legally own anything.
You sir are genious. Most guys say "i put it all in my moms name" as if thats not just asking for the same trouble.
Or just don’t do it. If you think for a second that the judge won’t issue a document that gives her rights to something that you do not legally own, then you are sorely mistaken. If there is just the tiniest evidence that you contributed to it in any way, she can get it.
Or just don't get married...
Do it well before you start dating. A good lawyer can still agrue that you are willingly trying to hide the assets.
@@GodWorksOut Wouldn't she then have to fight the legal owner who can tell her to go kick rocks? (and the judge would be denied their order because that entity legally has nothing to do with you)
I'm no legal expert so I don't know.
When I was 4 my parents broke up, but my father never had something bad to say about my mum. However, my mum was constantly talking bad about my father and manipulated me into not liking my father. She failed on me, gave me into professional hands (foster home), but she manipulated me so much, that I still refused to go to my father when I had the opportunity. The things that happened to me made me angry and emotional for a very long time, but it grew on me, so much so that I swear myself I will maintain power in my relationship to ensure my children will be raised properly when I eventually become a father. I don't know how it is to raise a human, but I can't things let happen on my children what were done on me.
my father had a divorce a few years back, he sighned everything that they didnt co-sighn over to me, so when he divorced her there was only so much she could legally take, she still took a lot but it was at least worth it to get her out of our lives, she was alwase my fathers wife, never my mother
Can you clarify? Was this your bio-mom, or did he remarry at some point?
@@SomeGuy-xf9bc she was my step mother, my birth mother never married my father
No marriage ever seriously guys
Men who get cheated on don't want to admit it because it's an admission of their own weakness and faults.
True. She cheated because you could not satisfy her and you failed to make her happy. Also you could not control her from fooling around.
"I've grown accustomed to a standard of living" so then she's going to keep coming over to his to cook and clean...right?
Sadia Kahn needs to understand that ANYONE who sees kindness as weakness, doesn’t deserve kindness.
I happen to agree that women dont deserve kindness.
That's it. At begining of our marriage my wife noticed my mercyfullness. My biggest mistake but were anotherr times. I observed her within years saw that I need to be phragmatic. . She was good teacher- wife !!!
. She set divorce in premeditated way and I kept her in a "posivite mood" - no any warnings. She hired experienced in divorces lady lawyer because she had my money to pay her, they wrote a nice "bad story" about me only without evidence. No problem if "he is of course a husband", Because two ladies and lady judge were convinced it will be a "piece of cake". . When I brought to court collected by me evidence and documentation ( and reception of court was documented with dates and stamps) the only ex response was "how dare you" All that ended in judge begging me to agree for divorce withut any settlement of guilt and zero alimony. Did she change later and understand? I do not expect - her only reflection 15 years after divorce was " I do not know where I made a mistake". 🤨
Great point : never show a woman mercy unless you have power
Mercy is like tolerance; it's a tool, not a virtue.
Choose Either one:
1. You SHALL NOT trust a woman's words, TRUST her actions.
2. TRUST, but VERIFY it.
When asked about prenups by women, what you should say: "Would you sign a pre-nup that states that if you get divorced for any reason, you have to pay spousal support, you lose half of your stuff, and if you have kids, he gets custody and child support that he can spend on what ever he wants, so you have to work all week and take care of the kids on the weekend, while he "takes care" of them during the week while they are in school, while living in a house you have to pay for? If you think that's a bad idea, what your really saying is "I don't want to be treated like a man".
My ex "would never take anything from me if we got divorced" until she did.
My ex immediately before filing for divorce: just give me $400K and I'll leave.
After filing: I want $1.5M, $6K/month spousal support, $2K/month child support, plus all her legal fees. Note that she was a high income professional. Two years of legal wrangling later, she got a large part of what she demanded. I am now poor but happy to be pain-free from her.
I gave up my career to be a stay at home mom and work from home dad, with our adopted daughter, for 12 years. Despite the family court accepting our divorce agreement, they were quite happy to give her (many years later) half of my $1000 monthly pension, including retroactive for 4 years, to supplement her over $100K yearly income. She literally did get everything, including the home I was supposed to be able to keep), my physical and mental health, and my kids (she was only the step mother of my two natural daughters). Except, of course, I got to keep all the mutual debt!
With traditional values, a prenup is not required. Unfortunately, those values are not enforceable, even if the law says it is. These days, you not only require a prenup, but also yearly postnups, since a prenup's value decreases with time, and also because the system is so so so much against men.
They are getting worried that their retirement plans are getting harder to secure
Most disturbingly though, a Pre-nup does not offer as much protection as many believe. They are often thrown out by judges in the extremely gynocentric court system.
In a nutshell, love yourself. Protect yourself. Respect yourself. People will do the same when you do that.
Pre-Nup only if you have something to lose, else it's bring unnecessary friction
Shock....horror, Alexander is spitting facts big time with this video! Well done!
And always include a DNA test,no matter what.better safe than sorry.
Paternity tests should be mandatory. Before even given the chance to sign the birth certificate. TESTS, plural, to reduce the chance of them being wrong or somehow tampered with.
@@zdspider6778 100%,but for now,prenup must do.