Hey Shallon! I've invested almost a decade of my life on something and it didn't pay off. The guilt, shame, pain and regret is too overwhelming to bear. Pray I survive this 🥺 Love you 🌊🤍🌹
Reframe this. Like we say: I never lose, I win or I learn. You DID learn, right? Ok so then this is graduation day. Everything you went through added up to this knowledge and emotional ascension right? Because look, it happened. You can't change what happened but you CAN change what it meant. ❤️
Life is an experience...love that quote 'its the journey not just the destination ' you did your heart's desire and that is a great thing. Now onto your next adventure 🌹🙏
The fact that you were strong enough to hold out for almost a decade tells me you’re strong enough for whatever comes next - whether it’s fighting on, or putting that energy into another goal. As Shallon says, you either win or learn.
I live in the middle east, and I have lots of logistics constraints, mainly my parents and culture, I didn’t feel comfortable with my Hijab and decided taking it off and to tell my family, they abused me a lot, but I stood my ground and ultimately took it off and I wear hats to family gatherings which is considered a huge step for me, recently I got to wear what I want and go out no questions asked and I feel so proud of myself, I applied to a Job and told my parents I’m working without asking them for consent. I feel empowered even though it may look like nothing to the outside world. Thank you for this video Shallon ! Love you
I don't know if this will help, but know that there is a little someone all the way here in Argentina who is very proud of you. Go live your best life!
I failed so many exams in college and university. Meltdowns, the worst feeling of imposter syndrome, exam anxiety.. It truly was awful. But i made it through, i have my degree and am doing my last bit of professional education. You can fail a million times, and you can give up on things, but neverrr give up on yourself. You can do whatever you put your mind to if you truly believe. Get out there and keep going ❤
Needed you to know this: randomly came across some misogynist’s channel. The message he’s spreading made me feel terrible. Then saw that you posted a new video and I thought: “thank God we have Shallon. Thank god we have your perspective and voice- a voice of a strong, confident, intelligent, witty woman.” Always look forward to your videos. Watched SO many of them. You speak truth. 💕
My dear. You place way to much stock in externalities when your power should come from within. There are few videos that could make me feel that way and all of them are human crisis. That makes me feel helpless, however to be emotionally impacted by someone I disagree with to that level? No.
@@agathachris9722 I suppose the emotional impact came from the knowing that he’s setting an example for other men which will then be continually perpetuated into the culture. That’s why I’m grateful for strong women’s perspectives which have been historically underrepresented and undervalued. Yes, I agree our power should come from within - 100%. And I will take the fact that it made me feel terrible for a moment as an indicator that his views do not align with my inner truth. 🤍
Shallon is one of my hero’s. She has helped me to become secure in my masculinity and sexuality and that I can live my life in a quiet and authentic manner.
It’s so refreshing to have a woman as real as her. I feel like all we get on RUclips is either misogynistic pick-me women or hyper feminist pandering women. We rarely see nuance and wisdom. It’s very telling that people try to attack her a lot
Working out and getting fit is truly the reason why I think I’m living. Before I used to be lazy and relied on my genetics but working out has showed me that I need to work hard for the things I want. Increasing the intensity, seeing my progress and having discipline makes me feel so good about myself. Love you Shallon!
Someone said to me the other day that they like people who are disciplined and that's the commonality with friends and lovers alike, and I think that's so wise and so true! I don't care if you're a bricklayer, if you're a focused and disciplined one, you're my kind of people!
"It's finally starting... that's the moment I'm living for right now. My mother's house burned down late last year and my life has been tragic ever since, but dreaming about that moment is what keeps me going. 😘
As a hardcore boxing fan I can tell you Logan won, the boxing media won’t tell you the truth as they need to save face, as it’s a bad look for Floyd and boxing, but Logan won the fight.
My “new” thing I’m trying at currently is going back to school as an adult. I already have my BS in business from 2009. in Jan I started back to school for dentistry, it’s what I started out going to college for & now I’m not giving up on my dreams. It’s been scary but so far it’s ok! (yep I bombed my first test out the gate) buttt in the end got all A’s my first semester back!!
wow keep on going that's awesome! i'm so scared to do kinda the same thing..I just graduated college with a computer engineering degree just to realize that's not what i wanna do for the rest of my life. i'm so scared to branch out, to try something new.. lately, i've been into digital marketing and i think i would be good in it if i actually pursued it. but i feel like that would disappoint my surroundings' expectations. it would mean the 5 years i've spent studying engineering would go to waste.. idk i'm still stuck 🥲
You go girl! I graduated high school in 2009 and just started college this year. I'm starting out as a pre surgical technologist major then ultimately a Surgical Anestiologist
Way to go! I went back to school and I bombed my first exam. I walked out of that room and just cried and cried. But like you, i make it through and got my masters. You will be a good dentist.
I did a BA and MA, and got a prestigious job (career to be exact), and I hated it, every day, every month and year. And I stayed, because I thought there is nothing else I can do, got to a point of diagnosed depression, felt like a failure and hopeless cause. 7 years in I threw my diplomas and career into a trash shoot, and started over. Now I know what I don't like, what I don't want to spend a millisecond doing. I went to a private intense learning school, learned a craft, and I love it. I'm still a beginner, I still need to work and learn a lot to be able to earn what I earned before, but my my how much more alive and happy I am. At one point I thought my life was ending, and it actually was the beginning.
I finally had the courage to quit a corp job that wasn't doing it for me anymore! I'm not entirely sure what's coming next but one of the things I know i need to work on is my mentality, confidence, etc. I needed to hear this... THANK YOU
Shallon, I got diagnosed with MS a few months ago and I’ve been so low.I know its not exactly the same as trying and failing at something new, more like my day is now full of little ‘failures’ like Oh I dropped that glass, Oh shit my foot isnt working too well this morning etc etc and its been really difficult to bounce back and not wallow in self pity. But Im on new meds and recovering as much as I can. This really changed my perspective to focus on how well Im doing despite it , thank you 🙏
I used to be afraid to try because I thought I would fail and be mocked and disliked by everyone. Now as I’m growing up, I’m not afraid of that rejection. I get excited now to try things and learn from them and don’t care about other peoples views and value of me. 😊
I remember when I signed up for my first half-marathon a few years ago. I was scared but I made it a goal to train hard everyday until race day. You would think I would get support from a loved one. Instead I got this - "You? A half-marathon? Isn't that a little too ambitious for you?" I was shocked. Yes, I never ran a half-marathon before but I wanted to try. Needless to say, I crossed the finish line with no injuries. I wasn't the fastest. I didn't place. I simply finished. That was my goal. You are right, Shallon. People above you are not coming for you. People who don't try hate you for trying. I realized that this person is not part of my pack and never will be and that's OK. Being with like minded people is way better.
I'm currently looking for another job and have had a few interviews in the past month. So far they haven't resulted in a job offer. Because of you, I have been viewing them as learning opportunities instead of failures. That Nelson Mandela quote has been replaying in my mind over and over. It is so freeing to feel like a champion and not feel like a victim.
The timing of this video is peeeerfect: A few weeks ago out of nowhere I decided to start taking acting classes... I ended up in a class full of people who had somewhat of an experience in acting. It was intimidating, but I had this little voice in me that kept telling me that what if I gave it my 100%? And so I practiced fervently every scene, every word, every move and after a few weeks people who at first laughed at my performance started clapping at me and now they want to do their scenes with me. And what started as just a hobby is turning into something that’s life changing for me, that’s transformative and personality shaping. And during all of those weeks I kept thinking about a phrase that Vincent Cassel told Natalie Portman in black swan :”the only person standing in your way is you”. And I couldn’t agree more with it.
I have taken acting classes too and trust me anyone that laughed at you should have been shown the door by the teacher that is completely over the line
@@ThingsILikke I know right ?! That’s what I thought but I think that the teacher had his favorites which explains why he never said anything about the mocking but it’s all fine it just made me work harder lol
Hey Shallon, You must have read my heart when you came out with this video. I am 22 and currently pursuing a paralegal degree. I am somewhat happy with it but my parents also influenced me. Trying new things and going after what I really want terrifies me. And as a 22 year old, I have never been so confused about who I am and what I want in my life. However, this video gives me hope and inspiration to become brave, sure of myself and live authentically. I love your videos, I watch them all and you are one of my biggest mentors. I hope you have a lovely day.
Wow Shallon. This video trumps any dating advice/celeb drama video you’ve ever done. By far. Simply stellar. What did we do to deserve you? Honestly. You’re out of this world, woman.
I just failed a driving test for the second time and revisiting this video for a boost. I feel so awful especially logistically because i need to spend more resources...money and time... Im upset with myself but i dont want to quit because it will be a wonderful champion story like shallon always says... But at the moment of typing.. Whew... I feel stupid for not being able to do it...
Hey Shallon, I just re-watched this video before my interview today in order to calm my nerves. I think it went really well! I'm taking a more "Why not me?" approach to life and trying to channel my inner badass, thanks in large part to you. Screw the haters, we're over here hitting our goals, checking boxes left and right in the Shallontourage...on and up!
I haven't been on RUclips for a few days and I'm out walking my dog, decided to see what new video Shallon had and this is honestly perfect and just what I needed right now. I haven't started the video yet but I know Shallon will have some amazing advice for me, as always! Thanks for what you do Shallon! I'm sure you've touched way more people than you even know! 💙💜💛
"No one above you is coming for you". For whatever reason, I'v never thought of it like that. This was actually revolutionary in such a positive way for my future and hurtful past perspectives. Thank you Shallon. Much love 💖
I spent all of high school trying to excel but never did. I tried again my freshman year of college, failed my first semester (I got 2 Fs) but I kept at it. I never gave up. I got all A’s B’s my second semester and best of all, I applied and got a summer internship at the Los Angeles District Attorney’s Office! It’s unpaid but like you said, my life is finally starting 🥺❤️ Fortune truly does favor the bold. Thank you Shallon for helping girls become the best versions of themselves.
Girl YES! Love this...just started a new gig with a highly regarded outfit in my industry....was kinda shaking in my boots before I started. Was surprised at how calm I was able to be even in the hectic moments... The first day on the project was kinda rough, and the team was not happy overall with how things went with the project on that day, BUT, it was good to see how we all handled it with class and dignity, and I know we are all ready to come back and do better. That's the mentality of people who are able to push outside of the comfort zone, I'm glad to be in the company of folks that are not afraid of climbing....meanwhile, on a funny side note, the night before my RUclips feed kept picking out all these Mt. Everest videos about people dying on the ascent...after watching a few I was like "girl you need to stop trippin' and get ready to DO this thing" 😅😅😅
thank you.. this came at a great time as I just found out I did not get the job I wanted. I just graduated college and put all my eggs in that basket... I now need to figure out what to do with my life.. but this video gave me reassurance and hope for my future :)
This is literally perfect for me. I recently had a career change, and the people I work with have made me feel so insecure. I always thought of myself as smart, but I’ve been making so many mistakes and it’s taken a toll on my self esteem and my work ethic. I definitely needed this! Thank you!
You have saved and uplifted so many women. You changed my life and im only 19. God bless you shallon lester. There is a special place for you in heaven if that even exists lol. 💕
Why do I really live life to the fullest? Well, 11 short years ago I was in the grip of horrific post-pardem depression. Then I got the double-whammy of finding out that my cop husband was banging hookers while on the job, this after I gave up my career to be a stay-at-home mom to our baby daughter. Shortly after this revelation I found myself strapped to a bed in the psych ward, willing to do anything possible to kill myself just to end the pain. The vast majority of the nursing staff treated me like garbage (trying to bite one of them as they tried to force a feeding tube down my throat kinda had that effect, understandably). All, but one nurse. That one nurse sat on the side of my bed and just talked. She told me how my baby needed a mom. She told me that the pain would get better. Not overnight, but that it eventually would go away. She told me that my career and dreams were in no way gone, and that if I was going to die anyways (whether by my own hand or eventually as it comes to all of us) that trying wasn't that scary. Maybe a whole new life was the answer. 11 years later, I've gotten a divorce, moved to a different part of the country, went back to school, failed about 40-50 times, made 100 mistakes, got laid off when covid struck, then just last month finally landed my lifelong dream job learning directly one-on-one from a master winemaker. My life is so far removed from that destroyed girl strapped to that hospital bed, it is hard to even accept that it happened. And any time I start feeling like a failure I just remember that I am lucky to be alive to fail. As long as I am alive I can keep trying, and if ever necessary I can just start over. It is never too late to re-invent yourself, try new things, learn, grow, and LIVE
Its amazing how the Universe aligns. I just talked to my life coach about this very subject. Fear holding me back and how to move on in the face of it. Thank you for your talks Shallon. They hit at the right moments of life.
I love you girl! I am serious - I am 48 and I am learning from you. I am convinced we are best friends in some other dimension. Never cease to rock it, Shallon!
Wonderful video Shallon. Thank you for sharing your experiences , learnings and advice with us . I may not ever agree 100% with you but, I sure as hell love hearing your opinion and point of view, always . Greetings from Dominican Republic .
Hey, Shal!💗💋 This may be my earliest comment. I agree. Experience is the key to success. I want to learn everything I can once I go through something💪🏾
What I love about you Shallon (and I think all your other followers too) is that you are truly authentic and not talking like you are looking down on somebody. You show that you have those fears too. That is what makes me feel connected to you and understood.
Shallon, you truly are a truly sensitive, empathetic, gentle, wise person, your lessons are truly essential and important, you are a flower, even when you gotta/gonna be a predator (versus prey) to survive/thrive - yet another lesson. You are (sorry, a distasteful term) a blessing. Thank you.
This is great! So glad I stumbled upon your RUclips channel. Love the variety of content, humor and kindheartedness all in one. Rare and wonderful combination 👌 Oh and are you still going to do a movie review of Death Becomes Her?! I was so excited when I saw you post something about that. It’s one of my favorite movies! ☺️👌
For me, Shallon Lester is proof positive that God works in mysterious ways. She’s channeling some energy from up on high, no doubt. (That energy doesn’t need to be “perfect” to be right for whoever needs to hear it at the time.)
Sometimes I like restraint or making a challenge for myself because then I get choice fatigue if there's too many nice things to choose from especially if I'm shopping so I totally relate to that TJ Maxx example you provide lmao
When I was younger I loved swimming because it was the only thing I tried that I was actually good at. I tried a lot of sports that I really wanted to play that I ended up being terrible at, ballet and soccer to name a few. I swam competitivly for 15 years because It was the only thing I felt I could say I didn't fail at so I held on to it for as long as I could. In college I was 6 credits away from graduating with a bachelor's in English, but I dropped out because I hated it and I was being disingenuous. I only did it because I liked to read a lot so it was a safe bet. What I really wanted to do was medicine but I told myself I was too stupid because I wasn't a top performing student ( nobody was saying these things about me other than myself). I gave up this mind set 2 years ago and became an EMT in February and I'm on track to be a firefighter. My true childhood dreams are coming true. I picked up bass and saxophone too which I previously never bothered to try because I was a true chicken shit despite wanting to play both since age 8. I'm by no means a female Flea or the next Kenny G but I'm happy. I mentioned to my family I'm going to start flying lessons so I can get a private pilots license and my dad said to me "I never knew you wanted to do that" and I realized I never told anyone my real dreams and aspirations because I thought if I didn't do a good job at something it would confirm my internalized insecurities and others would therefore agree with that nonsense.Over the past two years I've stopped fearing humility and failure and it was transformative. Authenticity is freedom. I'm no longer intimidated by successful people or people who are beter at XYZ than me, because I am a success in my own right for simply deciding to not hold myself back. I now know the value of starting from scratch and I love when others realize that all it takes is just a decision to try.
@@anneharness4475 that came up to mind. But i wish not to believe it from my own mom. I rather think shes critical. I mean she critical of things i do or wear and even what i do.
@@newjerseycoast88 well just know that you are already enough. Don't let even your own mom make you believe that what you are and do is always the wrong choice. I hope that it gets better
Logan's quote is so beautiful! I win or I learn. Awesome I'm in a situation at work where people personalize mistakes and errors. I think that all of us make mistakes so it's better not to make a big thing out of it but work on lessons learned. Unfortunately most of the team and the lead make huge deals of mistakes and there's a general demotivation. I try to center myself and tell me that it's totally human to make them and that as long as I learn and improve my stuff, I'm growing and it's ok but sometimes it's difficult not to think things like being useless. So this video is so on point right now!! Thank you!!
Thanks for reminding me that I too am a winner!! Like u, I have taken chances and mostly won. I have been down for the last couple of years but this is like a shot in my arm to get out there again. I did itb4 and I can do it again.
LOVE THIS!!!! Also came at such a good time, felt like such a failure lately as I’m graduating in a month and don’t have a job lined up and got rejected from my dream masters course. But no this is the beginning, I’m so proud of myself for trying in the first place, for a course at one of the best universities in the world and coming quite close to getting in. I will not give up, I will take a gap year and reapply and even if I don’t make it the second time, I know I’ll be absolutely fine and something better is on its way.
Just because you don't like Logan Paul doesn't mean he didn't work his ass off for this. A lot of people don't know, but he was an A+ student & got a 4 year fully paid scholarship to university to become an engineer. He wanted to work for NASA but his internet career took off and began raking in money. No one want to watch a smart person, and his foolish antics got him more likes and followers. He been turning things around in the last 2+ years. I did a deep dive into him a while ago.
Has nothing to do w the video but I love that you post consistently Shal! Like I know it’s your job but you could choose to do something else, yet I get to watch you almost everyday! It’s so fun!
I climbed my very first mountain this weekend. I have an absolute fear of declines and freak out.....I took walking sticks with me and was slower than my friend who did not have the sticks. I kept telling myself.....I will get myself out of this place.....I refuse to have mountain rescue come get me!! The severity of this is only sinking in retrospectively!
You speak the truth Shallon. Taking my hat off to all the things you have achieved and how you go about them. Let's all calm down and believe in ourselves more. We succeed in so many things not realising we do. Appreciate those steps and moments and take them all in. As cheesy as it sounds 'The journey truly is the destination"... and we are all on it right now. Much love from Germany!
I play the piano for fun and just to challenge myself. The other day, I played a tune for my brother and I was so proud of it and he started giving me feedback on how to improve. It bothered me a little and my mom got mad at me for not taking criticism well, and it made me wonder why it bothered me. Now it makes sense, it's cuz I'm never going to be a pianist, just learning a new tune makes me feel like a winner. And it upset me that people were judging my piano skills and not the fact that I can even play any tune at all!
Love your videos Shallon! Whenever I watch a new video of yours I am reminded of my goals and energized to do better in life. Thank you! Your content is amazing. Keep it up beautiful! 😘😘❤❤
I like everyone else has at one point hated this guy but after listening to his podcasts he seems different and overall less obnoxious and more humble. He’s really had a redemption arc since 2018 Also I have to thank him for sharing his mirror technique, where you repeat an affirmation like “ I am the most successful person that I know” 10x in a mirror in order to manifest more success, it works.
Reminds me of a quote Brene Brown uses often "It's not the critic who counts." Basically it's all about that person in the arena trying, failing, getting back up, and trying again, and not about those who are in the safety of their comfort zone criticizing that person.
People above you are not coming for you. I think I will take that one with me. Too many young people in this world are wasting their lives. WASTING THEIR LIVES! They are making excuses, passing blame and becoming a victim. They want to start at the top and not the bottom. We have lost that spirit somehow and we need it back. You, Shallon are the little worker bee on here buzzing in our ears saying, "you can do it.' Quit whining and get out there!" Kick our asses, girl! You are never too old to do new things. A lot of women who have worked their whole lives retire and then they do what they have always wanted to do and they live their dreams. That's where I am. Trying to live my dreams. Doing my best.
Hello Queen Shallon. Thank you for this video, it really helped! I’m currently developing an app and as a broke student it is kind of challenging to keep it going so I often get frustrated. This video reminded me of the reason why im creating a fucking app in the first place, and I will be sure to mention it in my toast once the app is out and will be killing it😂. Much love from The Netherlands
This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning Shallon, thank you so much 😊 P.S: Would love a video on how to reattack a goal or go for something that maybe you failed at the first time!
I really needed this today! I recently accepted a promotion that took me from a comfy job where I teleworking three times times a week, to now going every day. It’s a raise of 7K per year, which doesn’t seem like a lot, but by taking it I skipped a few promotional levels that I would’ve had to take if I didn’t have a degree. It’s a bit harder to have to come every day when I could be home, but I can do this!! And this video encouraged me.
I will be a first year teacher this upcoming fall.. and not going to lie I am so nervous. You know what, if I suck... OH WELL. I have a feeling I won't, but even if I do.. I will have tried and given it all I could. :)
It’s nice to see that we’re all at a place where we can start admitting that Logan Paul is attractive. I don’t know when it happened but there’s no denying it now
wow.. I feel like this video was made for me. I studied computer engineering for so long and just graduated just to realize it's not what i want to do for the rest of my life.. I'm so scared to branch out, to try something new.. lately, i've been into digital marketing and i think i would be good in it if i actually pursued it. but i feel like that would disappoint my surroundings' expectations. it would mean the 5 years i've spent studying engineering would go to waste.. idk i'm still stuck 🥲
Hey Shallon!
I've invested almost a decade of my life on something and it didn't pay off. The guilt, shame, pain and regret is too overwhelming to bear. Pray I survive this 🥺
Love you 🌊🤍🌹
If you still believe you are meant for it, keep going. If not, you learned
Reframe this. Like we say: I never lose, I win or I learn. You DID learn, right? Ok so then this is graduation day. Everything you went through added up to this knowledge and emotional ascension right? Because look, it happened. You can't change what happened but you CAN change what it meant. ❤️
Life is an experience...love that quote 'its the journey not just the destination ' you did your heart's desire and that is a great thing. Now onto your next adventure 🌹🙏
The fact that you were strong enough to hold out for almost a decade tells me you’re strong enough for whatever comes next - whether it’s fighting on, or putting that energy into another goal. As Shallon says, you either win or learn.
@@Senglishify beautifully said ❤️
I live in the middle east, and I have lots of logistics constraints, mainly my parents and culture, I didn’t feel comfortable with my Hijab and decided taking it off and to tell my family, they abused me a lot, but I stood my ground and ultimately took it off and I wear hats to family gatherings which is considered a huge step for me, recently I got to wear what I want and go out no questions asked and I feel so proud of myself, I applied to a Job and told my parents I’m working without asking them for consent. I feel empowered even though it may look like nothing to the outside world. Thank you for this video Shallon ! Love you
God bless people like you 💕
@@michellete8545 Thank you so much ❤️ god bless you too 🙏❤️
I don't know if this will help, but know that there is a little someone all the way here in Argentina who is very proud of you. Go live your best life!
This is amazing! Props to you!
Amazing , as a fellow human and woman , I’m very proud of you 👏🏼
Shallon this is probably one of your best videos. Good shit girl👌🏻
Yaaaaas!
True!
"A single defeat is not a permanent defeat, unless you decide it is" I got chills.
All the chills 💀
I failed so many exams in college and university. Meltdowns, the worst feeling of imposter syndrome, exam anxiety.. It truly was awful. But i made it through, i have my degree and am doing my last bit of professional education. You can fail a million times, and you can give up on things, but neverrr give up on yourself. You can do whatever you put your mind to if you truly believe. Get out there and keep going ❤
I needed exactly this. Thank you so much 💗💗💗
I needed this. Hope you're doing great.
Needed you to know this: randomly came across some misogynist’s channel. The message he’s spreading made me feel terrible. Then saw that you posted a new video and I thought: “thank God we have Shallon. Thank god we have your perspective and voice- a voice of a strong, confident, intelligent, witty woman.” Always look forward to your videos. Watched SO many of them. You speak truth. 💕
My dear. You place way to much stock in externalities when your power should come from within. There are few videos that could make me feel that way and all of them are human crisis. That makes me feel helpless, however to be emotionally impacted by someone I disagree with to that level? No.
@@agathachris9722 I suppose the emotional impact came from the knowing that he’s setting an example for other men which will then be continually perpetuated into the culture. That’s why I’m grateful for strong women’s perspectives which have been historically underrepresented and undervalued. Yes, I agree our power should come from within - 100%. And I will take the fact that it made me feel terrible for a moment as an indicator that his views do not align with my inner truth. 🤍
Shallon is one of my hero’s. She has helped me to become secure in my masculinity and sexuality and that I can live my life in a quiet and authentic manner.
Who is this misogynistic person or channel?
It’s so refreshing to have a woman as real as her. I feel like all we get on RUclips is either misogynistic pick-me women or hyper feminist pandering women. We rarely see nuance and wisdom. It’s very telling that people try to attack her a lot
Working out and getting fit is truly the reason why I think I’m living. Before I used to be lazy and relied on my genetics but working out has showed me that I need to work hard for the things I want. Increasing the intensity, seeing my progress and having discipline makes me feel so good about myself. Love you Shallon!
Someone said to me the other day that they like people who are disciplined and that's the commonality with friends and lovers alike, and I think that's so wise and so true! I don't care if you're a bricklayer, if you're a focused and disciplined one, you're my kind of people!
It's just ShallonTube at this point for me.
Just talk about waffles, towels, whatever, I love you.
waffles, towels, ballpoint pens, kitties...
"It's finally starting... that's the moment I'm living for right now. My mother's house burned down late last year and my life has been tragic ever since, but dreaming about that moment is what keeps me going. 😘
IT'S FINALLY STARTING! Getting on the aligned path is the most incredible feeling.
I’m not a fan of either of the Paul brothers but how he dealt with the whole thing is definitely how we all should leave all experiences. ❤️
As a hardcore boxing fan I can tell you Logan won, the boxing media won’t tell you the truth as they need to save face, as it’s a bad look for Floyd and boxing, but Logan won the fight.
My “new” thing I’m trying at currently is going back to school as an adult. I already have my BS in business from 2009. in Jan I started back to school for dentistry, it’s what I started out going to college for & now I’m not giving up on my dreams. It’s been scary but so far it’s ok! (yep I bombed my first test out the gate) buttt in the end got all A’s my first semester back!!
♥️♥️♥️!!!
Go girl
wow keep on going that's awesome!
i'm so scared to do kinda the same thing..I just graduated college with a computer engineering degree just to realize that's not what i wanna do for the rest of my life. i'm so scared to branch out, to try something new.. lately, i've been into digital marketing and i think i would be good in it if i actually pursued it. but i feel like that would disappoint my surroundings' expectations. it would mean the 5 years i've spent studying engineering would go to waste.. idk i'm still stuck 🥲
You go girl! I graduated high school in 2009 and just started college this year. I'm starting out as a pre surgical technologist major then ultimately a Surgical Anestiologist
Way to go! I went back to school and I bombed my first exam. I walked out of that room and just cried and cried. But like you, i make it through and got my masters. You will be a good dentist.
I did a BA and MA, and got a prestigious job (career to be exact), and I hated it, every day, every month and year. And I stayed, because I thought there is nothing else I can do, got to a point of diagnosed depression, felt like a failure and hopeless cause. 7 years in I threw my diplomas and career into a trash shoot, and started over. Now I know what I don't like, what I don't want to spend a millisecond doing. I went to a private intense learning school, learned a craft, and I love it. I'm still a beginner, I still need to work and learn a lot to be able to earn what I earned before, but my my how much more alive and happy I am. At one point I thought my life was ending, and it actually was the beginning.
That's very courageous, good luck to you.
What would I have done the past year and a half without you Shallon
Oh Shallon u are full of such wisdom and Ive literally spoken to my therapist about you. She agrees with alot of your points.
This means so much to me thank you!
I finally had the courage to quit a corp job that wasn't doing it for me anymore! I'm not entirely sure what's coming next but one of the things I know i need to work on is my mentality, confidence, etc. I needed to hear this... THANK YOU
I’m feeling this too hun.
Good luck, you’ll kill it
Shallon, I got diagnosed with MS a few months ago and I’ve been so low.I know its not exactly the same as trying and failing at something new, more like my day is now full of little ‘failures’ like Oh I dropped that glass, Oh shit my foot isnt working too well this morning etc etc and its been really difficult to bounce back and not wallow in self pity. But Im on new meds and recovering as much as I can. This really changed my perspective to focus on how well Im doing despite it , thank you 🙏
Im going through my MS diagnosis right now, you are brave and i see you x
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@@Shayizz ooh i’ll check it out, thank you 🤍
Thank you xxx
Would your mom be interested in doing a video with you? She seems so wise, I’d love to see you guys together 💞
I hope they do a video together, too !
I used to be afraid to try because I thought I would fail and be mocked and disliked by everyone. Now as I’m growing up, I’m not afraid of that rejection. I get excited now to try things and learn from them and don’t care about other peoples views and value of me. 😊
Same here !
I remember when I signed up for my first half-marathon a few years ago. I was scared but I made it a goal to train hard everyday until race day. You would think I would get support from a loved one. Instead I got this - "You? A half-marathon? Isn't that a little too ambitious for you?" I was shocked. Yes, I never ran a half-marathon before but I wanted to try. Needless to say, I crossed the finish line with no injuries. I wasn't the fastest. I didn't place. I simply finished. That was my goal. You are right, Shallon. People above you are not coming for you. People who don't try hate you for trying. I realized that this person is not part of my pack and never will be and that's OK. Being with like minded people is way better.
I'm currently looking for another job and have had a few interviews in the past month. So far they haven't resulted in a job offer. Because of you, I have been viewing them as learning opportunities instead of failures. That Nelson Mandela quote has been replaying in my mind over and over. It is so freeing to feel like a champion and not feel like a victim.
The timing of this video is peeeerfect:
A few weeks ago out of nowhere I decided to start taking acting classes... I ended up in a class full of people who had somewhat of an experience in acting.
It was intimidating, but I had this little voice in me that kept telling me that what if I gave it my 100%? And so I practiced fervently every scene, every word, every move and after a few weeks people who at first laughed at my performance started clapping at me and now they want to do their scenes with me. And what started as just a hobby is turning into something that’s life changing for me, that’s transformative and personality shaping.
And during all of those weeks I kept thinking about a phrase that Vincent Cassel told Natalie Portman in black swan :”the only person standing in your way is you”. And I couldn’t agree more with it.
I have taken acting classes too and trust me anyone that laughed at you should have been shown the door by the teacher that is completely over the line
@@ThingsILikke I know right ?! That’s what I thought but I think that the teacher had his favorites which explains why he never said anything about the mocking but it’s all fine it just made me work harder lol
Hey Shallon,
You must have read my heart when you came out with this video. I am 22 and currently pursuing a paralegal degree. I am somewhat happy with it but my parents also influenced me. Trying new things and going after what I really want terrifies me. And as a 22 year old, I have never been so confused about who I am and what I want in my life. However, this video gives me hope and inspiration to become brave, sure of myself and live authentically.
I love your videos, I watch them all and you are one of my biggest mentors. I hope you have a lovely day.
Wow Shallon. This video trumps any dating advice/celeb drama video you’ve ever done. By far. Simply stellar. What did we do to deserve you? Honestly. You’re out of this world, woman.
I just failed a driving test for the second time and revisiting this video for a boost. I feel so awful especially logistically because i need to spend more resources...money and time... Im upset with myself but i dont want to quit because it will be a wonderful champion story like shallon always says... But at the moment of typing.. Whew... I feel stupid for not being able to do it...
I love that you turn everything into a lesson ❤
Everyone knew Floyd was going to win. This fight was beneath him!
Okay...is that the point? He's a great athlete
I would fight 10 stories beneath me if they paid me 20 million, it was a spectacle, and all round fun.
Facts!!
Hey Shallon, I just re-watched this video before my interview today in order to calm my nerves. I think it went really well! I'm taking a more "Why not me?" approach to life and trying to channel my inner badass, thanks in large part to you. Screw the haters, we're over here hitting our goals, checking boxes left and right in the Shallontourage...on and up!
I haven't been on RUclips for a few days and I'm out walking my dog, decided to see what new video Shallon had and this is honestly perfect and just what I needed right now. I haven't started the video yet but I know Shallon will have some amazing advice for me, as always!
Thanks for what you do Shallon! I'm sure you've touched way more people than you even know! 💙💜💛
"No one above you is coming for you". For whatever reason, I'v never thought of it like that. This was actually revolutionary in such a positive way for my future and hurtful past perspectives. Thank you Shallon. Much love 💖
I spent all of high school trying to excel but never did. I tried again my freshman year of college, failed my first semester (I got 2 Fs) but I kept at it. I never gave up. I got all A’s B’s my second semester and best of all, I applied and got a summer internship at the Los Angeles District Attorney’s Office! It’s unpaid but like you said, my life is finally starting 🥺❤️ Fortune truly does favor the bold. Thank you Shallon for helping girls become the best versions of themselves.
Girl YES! Love this...just started a new gig with a highly regarded outfit in my industry....was kinda shaking in my boots before I started. Was surprised at how calm I was able to be even in the hectic moments... The first day on the project was kinda rough, and the team was not happy overall with how things went with the project on that day, BUT, it was good to see how we all handled it with class and dignity, and I know we are all ready to come back and do better. That's the mentality of people who are able to push outside of the comfort zone, I'm glad to be in the company of folks that are not afraid of climbing....meanwhile, on a funny side note, the night before my RUclips feed kept picking out all these Mt. Everest videos about people dying on the ascent...after watching a few I was like "girl you need to stop trippin' and get ready to DO this thing" 😅😅😅
thank you.. this came at a great time as I just found out I did not get the job I wanted. I just graduated college and put all my eggs in that basket... I now need to figure out what to do with my life.. but this video gave me reassurance and hope for my future :)
This is literally perfect for me. I recently had a career change, and the people I work with have made me feel so insecure. I always thought of myself as smart, but I’ve been making so many mistakes and it’s taken a toll on my self esteem and my work ethic. I definitely needed this! Thank you!
The ultimate shallenge. I’m all about it. 😎
You have saved and uplifted so many women. You changed my life and im only 19. God bless you shallon lester. There is a special place for you in heaven if that even exists lol. 💕
Why do I really live life to the fullest? Well, 11 short years ago I was in the grip of horrific post-pardem depression. Then I got the double-whammy of finding out that my cop husband was banging hookers while on the job, this after I gave up my career to be a stay-at-home mom to our baby daughter. Shortly after this revelation I found myself strapped to a bed in the psych ward, willing to do anything possible to kill myself just to end the pain. The vast majority of the nursing staff treated me like garbage (trying to bite one of them as they tried to force a feeding tube down my throat kinda had that effect, understandably). All, but one nurse.
That one nurse sat on the side of my bed and just talked. She told me how my baby needed a mom. She told me that the pain would get better. Not overnight, but that it eventually would go away. She told me that my career and dreams were in no way gone, and that if I was going to die anyways (whether by my own hand or eventually as it comes to all of us) that trying wasn't that scary. Maybe a whole new life was the answer.
11 years later, I've gotten a divorce, moved to a different part of the country, went back to school, failed about 40-50 times, made 100 mistakes, got laid off when covid struck, then just last month finally landed my lifelong dream job learning directly one-on-one from a master winemaker.
My life is so far removed from that destroyed girl strapped to that hospital bed, it is hard to even accept that it happened. And any time I start feeling like a failure I just remember that I am lucky to be alive to fail. As long as I am alive I can keep trying, and if ever necessary I can just start over. It is never too late to re-invent yourself, try new things, learn, grow, and LIVE
This brought tears to my eyes. I'm happy for you.
I respect how Logan handled the loss.
..But that man is just NOT attractive to me.
exactly my feelings...😂😂😂 I respect how he reacted... mature.. bt I will not let any of them touch me..
Shallon: “Noone above you is coming for you”
Me: 😱😱😱🤯🙏💕
Its amazing how the Universe aligns. I just talked to my life coach about this very subject. Fear holding me back and how to move on in the face of it. Thank you for your talks Shallon. They hit at the right moments of life.
"Senecaaaaa.... why did you come for me like that"... just HILARIOUS!
I love you girl! I am serious - I am 48 and I am learning from you. I am convinced we are best friends in some other dimension. Never cease to rock it, Shallon!
Wonderful video Shallon. Thank you for sharing your experiences , learnings and advice with us . I may not ever agree 100% with you but, I sure as hell love hearing your opinion and point of view, always . Greetings from Dominican Republic .
Hey, Shal!💗💋 This may be my earliest comment. I agree. Experience is the key to success. I want to learn everything I can once I go through something💪🏾
What I love about you Shallon (and I think all your other followers too) is that you are truly authentic and not talking like you are looking down on somebody. You show that you have those fears too. That is what makes me feel connected to you and understood.
Never thought Id hear Logan Paul, Shallon, inspiration, growth in the same video but my gosh this was one of your best videos
Shallon, you truly are a truly sensitive, empathetic, gentle, wise person, your lessons are truly essential and important, you are a flower, even when you gotta/gonna be a predator (versus prey) to survive/thrive - yet another lesson. You are (sorry, a distasteful term) a blessing. Thank you.
This is great! So glad I stumbled upon your RUclips channel. Love the variety of content, humor and kindheartedness all in one. Rare and wonderful combination 👌 Oh and are you still going to do a movie review of Death Becomes Her?! I was so excited when I saw you post something about that. It’s one of my favorite movies! ☺️👌
This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen
2nd year nursing student, I needed this. Proud of myself for T R Y I N G
Lord knows I needed to hear this, thanks Shallon 🙏🏼
For me, Shallon Lester is proof positive that God works in mysterious ways. She’s channeling some energy from up on high, no doubt. (That energy doesn’t need to be “perfect” to be right for whoever needs to hear it at the time.)
Sometimes I like restraint or making a challenge for myself because then I get choice fatigue if there's too many nice things to choose from especially if I'm shopping so I totally relate to that TJ Maxx example you provide lmao
When I was younger I loved swimming because it was the only thing I tried that I was actually good at. I tried a lot of sports that I really wanted to play that I ended up being terrible at, ballet and soccer to name a few. I swam competitivly for 15 years because It was the only thing I felt I could say I didn't fail at so I held on to it for as long as I could. In college I was 6 credits away from graduating with a bachelor's in English, but I dropped out because I hated it and I was being disingenuous. I only did it because I liked to read a lot so it was a safe bet. What I really wanted to do was medicine but I told myself I was too stupid because I wasn't a top performing student ( nobody was saying these things about me other than myself). I gave up this mind set 2 years ago and became an EMT in February and I'm on track to be a firefighter. My true childhood dreams are coming true. I picked up bass and saxophone too which I previously never bothered to try because I was a true chicken shit despite wanting to play both since age 8. I'm by no means a female Flea or the next Kenny G but I'm happy. I mentioned to my family I'm going to start flying lessons so I can get a private pilots license and my dad said to me "I never knew you wanted to do that" and I realized I never told anyone my real dreams and aspirations because I thought if I didn't do a good job at something it would confirm my internalized insecurities and others would therefore agree with that nonsense.Over the past two years I've stopped fearing humility and failure and it was transformative. Authenticity is freedom. I'm no longer intimidated by successful people or people who are beter at XYZ than me, because I am a success in my own right for simply deciding to not hold myself back. I now know the value of starting from scratch and I love when others realize that all it takes is just a decision to try.
This is so beautiful❤ I'm proud of you.
Aira Thank you 😊🙏💓
Beautifully said and really inspiring. Thank you
@@iseult7159 Thank you 😊🙏
I always came up with ideas and my mother as always came up with a BUT..... which always discouraged me. Until this day i never understood why.
Maybe jealousy?
@@anneharness4475 that came up to mind. But i wish not to believe it from my own mom. I rather think shes critical. I mean she critical of things i do or wear and even what i do.
@@newjerseycoast88 well just know that you are already enough. Don't let even your own mom make you believe that what you are and do is always the wrong choice. I hope that it gets better
@@anneharness4475 omg 😘❤ thank you so much!!!!
This video is GOLD and i hate everyone who tried to cancel you now.
Logan's quote is so beautiful!
I win or I learn. Awesome
I'm in a situation at work where people personalize mistakes and errors. I think that all of us make mistakes so it's better not to make a big thing out of it but work on lessons learned. Unfortunately most of the team and the lead make huge deals of mistakes and there's a general demotivation. I try to center myself and tell me that it's totally human to make them and that as long as I learn and improve my stuff, I'm growing and it's ok but sometimes it's difficult not to think things like being useless. So this video is so on point right now!! Thank you!!
Thanks for reminding me that I too am a winner!! Like u, I have taken chances and mostly won. I have been down for the last couple of years but this is like a shot in my arm to get out there again. I did itb4 and I can do it again.
Hell yess 🙌🙌
LOVE THIS!!!! Also came at such a good time, felt like such a failure lately as I’m graduating in a month and don’t have a job lined up and got rejected from my dream masters course. But no this is the beginning, I’m so proud of myself for trying in the first place, for a course at one of the best universities in the world and coming quite close to getting in. I will not give up, I will take a gap year and reapply and even if I don’t make it the second time, I know I’ll be absolutely fine and something better is on its way.
i LOVE your hair colour atm it looks very natural and compliments your skin tone ! blonde and dark were cool too but this is so natural
Thank you, Shallon! This is the exact topic I needed to turn my setbacks into set-ups! I love your content.
This is exactly what I need right now! Thank you!
Just because you don't like Logan Paul doesn't mean he didn't work his ass off for this.
A lot of people don't know, but he was an A+ student & got a 4 year fully paid scholarship to university to become an engineer. He wanted to work for NASA but his internet career took off and began raking in money. No one want to watch a smart person, and his foolish antics got him more likes and followers. He been turning things around in the last 2+ years. I did a deep dive into him a while ago.
Exactly, you are correct! Nobody wants to watch smart person unless it’s taking advice.
Filming a dead body doesn’t scream smart to me, but ok
@@heyysophie9928 maybe socially and ethically not smart but that doesn’t take away from his book smarts.
That’s like the bare minimum that an adult does? Lmao do you think he’s the only person who got good grades and a degree?
Your book pick is everything!!! I love that you like the stoics. I can already guess your book pick :)
Have heard you talk about "the obstacle is the way" before!! Turns out I was right!
Shallon needs a TV show one day I can see it I’m manifesting it for you girl
Shallon really knows how to make an impactful video about anything... speaking of trying new things small creator here 🖐
Has nothing to do w the video but I love that you post consistently Shal! Like I know it’s your job but you could choose to do something else, yet I get to watch you almost everyday! It’s so fun!
I climbed my very first mountain this weekend. I have an absolute fear of declines and freak out.....I took walking sticks with me and was slower than my friend who did not have the sticks. I kept telling myself.....I will get myself out of this place.....I refuse to have mountain rescue come get me!! The severity of this is only sinking in retrospectively!
You speak the truth Shallon. Taking my hat off to all the things you have achieved and how you go about them. Let's all calm down and believe in ourselves more. We succeed in so many things not realising we do. Appreciate those steps and moments and take them all in. As cheesy as it sounds 'The journey truly is the destination"... and we are all on it right now. Much love from Germany!
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Wow!! This hit hard thank you. Your like the BFF everyone needs the real one that will tell you what are you doing.
*alexa, play this video every morning for a daily confidence boost*
Long time and forever fan Shallon. This is your best video yet. Number one. Done.
One of your most inspirational videos to date
bad video to do my makeup while listening to, im halfway through and holding back tears so my makeup doesnt run 😭 i love u shallon 💜
I play the piano for fun and just to challenge myself. The other day, I played a tune for my brother and I was so proud of it and he started giving me feedback on how to improve. It bothered me a little and my mom got mad at me for not taking criticism well, and it made me wonder why it bothered me. Now it makes sense, it's cuz I'm never going to be a pianist, just learning a new tune makes me feel like a winner. And it upset me that people were judging my piano skills and not the fact that I can even play any tune at all!
Shallon gives the best advice I wish she made these videos when I was in high school
I think this has been one of your best videos ever! 🙌❤ feeling very inspired
I always love this daily dose of "who the fuck are you?" 🤣
Thanks for the Reminder Shallon🏊🏼♂️💓
I genuinely and wholeheartedly believe that you can literally do anything Shallon!! I really do ☺️
Love your videos Shallon! Whenever I watch a new video of yours I am reminded of my goals and energized to do better in life. Thank you! Your content is amazing. Keep it up beautiful! 😘😘❤❤
The Stoic philosophy of Aurelius is exactly what I needed while on the break from studying for my medicine finals, cheers
I like everyone else has at one point hated this guy but after listening to his podcasts he seems different and overall less obnoxious and more humble. He’s really had a redemption arc since 2018
Also I have to thank him for sharing his mirror technique, where you repeat an affirmation like “ I am the most successful person that I know” 10x in a mirror in order to manifest more success, it works.
Reminds me of a quote Brene Brown uses often "It's not the critic who counts." Basically it's all about that person in the arena trying, failing, getting back up, and trying again, and not about those who are in the safety of their comfort zone criticizing that person.
Omg Shallon! Such an inspiring speech 🎤 👌👌🙌🙌🤩🤩🥰🥰
People above you are not coming for you. I think I will take that one with me. Too many young people in this world are wasting their lives. WASTING THEIR LIVES! They are making excuses, passing blame and becoming a victim. They want to start at the top and not the bottom. We have lost that spirit somehow and we need it back. You, Shallon are the little worker bee on here buzzing in our ears saying, "you can do it.' Quit whining and get out there!" Kick our asses, girl! You are never too old to do new things. A lot of women who have worked their whole lives retire and then they do what they have always wanted to do and they live their dreams. That's where I am. Trying to live my dreams. Doing my best.
Hello Queen Shallon. Thank you for this video, it really helped! I’m currently developing an app and as a broke student it is kind of challenging to keep it going so I often get frustrated. This video reminded me of the reason why im creating a fucking app in the first place, and I will be sure to mention it in my toast once the app is out and will be killing it😂.
Much love from The Netherlands
I love you Shallon! You never fail to make me believe in myself.
This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning Shallon, thank you so much 😊
P.S: Would love a video on how to reattack a goal or go for something that maybe you failed at the first time!
You’re an incredible woman! Thank you for this super inspirational video ❤️
👏 Such a great video! I'm so pumped and ready to go achieve ALL the things!
Thanks Shallon!
This is one of her best videos 👏👏👏
I really needed this today! I recently accepted a promotion that took me from a comfy job where I teleworking three times times a week, to now going every day. It’s a raise of 7K per year, which doesn’t seem like a lot, but by taking it I skipped a few promotional levels that I would’ve had to take if I didn’t have a degree. It’s a bit harder to have to come every day when I could be home, but I can do this!! And this video encouraged me.
I will be a first year teacher this upcoming fall.. and not going to lie I am so nervous. You know what, if I suck... OH WELL. I have a feeling I won't, but even if I do.. I will have tried and given it all I could. :)
Loved this video! I will be a great esthetician ❤️✨
It’s nice to see that we’re all at a place where we can start admitting that Logan Paul is attractive. I don’t know when it happened but there’s no denying it now
bahahahaha! society has finally advanced to the place of "Ok, yes, I'd fuck Logan Paul" 😂 We gotta take the societal wins where we can
I like the variety of topics. Great job!! Keep it up. Love your channel. Listen to you while making dinner! Like having a girlfriend talk chit chat.
This video made me cry. Coming from an actor, thank you thank you thank you
wow.. I feel like this video was made for me. I studied computer engineering for so long and just graduated just to realize it's not what i want to do for the rest of my life..
I'm so scared to branch out, to try something new.. lately, i've been into digital marketing and i think i would be good in it if i actually pursued it. but i feel like that would disappoint my surroundings' expectations. it would mean the 5 years i've spent studying engineering would go to waste.. idk i'm still stuck 🥲
It was a smart decision to put that painting on top of your head @shallonlester 🙂
One of my favorite videos! Thank you Shallon!
I am so excited for evil week!!!