Forgiveness is essential to get out of a bad reputation. Forgiving yourself or forgiving others. Not because others deserve forgiveness, but for your own mental health.
I love Miley when she gets into her country mode. Her backyard session cover of Jolene is priceless. Country is where her voice shines. You can tell Dolly is her Godmother.
When I quit drinking, I didn't say anything until 30 days in. But it was important to tell my friends that this was a permanent decision after that, because I did not want ANYONE in my life that I could comfortably drink with if I wanted to relapse. Once you announce you're sober, your good friends will support you and hold you accountable.
Shallon you will NEVER be cancelled- you really have changed so many lives. Don't ever let the people trying to bring you down distract from everyone you've helped get up!'
After a little bit I watched the videos of channels bashing her. And it really opened my eyes to just how close minded people really are. I could just think of statements to combat everything they were saying bc they really changed things to manipulate people into thinking she’s some awful person
I did find constructive criticism from 1 or 2 of those reaction video, such as insensitivity towards mental disorders. However as a long time viewer I can clearly tell Shallon was hurting from the breakup in some of her videos, which made her sound a bit bitter in some moment.
Can you talk about Mia Khalfia, and how she is trying to disassociate from the past!! (Good ideas on tik tok) also can you talk about Madison beer? ❤️❤️❤️
I slowly changed peoples perception of who I am. I was known as a party girl. After a while I didn’t want that title. I realized that I was getting older and if I was going to be the person I wanted to be then I needed to make a drastic change. I started taking classes for a degree that was considered to be for intellectuals. I had many people doubting me; and, next thing I knew my friends were following me in my footsteps. It was scary to branch away from the party lifestyle. I’m so thankful that my true friends accepted me for that and decided to better their life’s as well.
Chuck and what are you doing here? Wasting your day insulting women makes you think you are better than them? Does it add value to you as a person? What value does it have for you to insult someone who is trying to get a higher education and make a life for themselves? You must be really hurt or really lonely to spend your day insulting people you don’t even know for your own benefit of your own ego. There is no need to be mean to this person and if you think you are doing them a favor by spreading your hate on to them, I suggest you analyze yourself and think of what purpose you have, because you are wasting your time fighting with RUclips accounts because of your own inner struggles. Hope you get through whatever you are going through and I hope you learn to respect other people as well as respect yourself. 🙏🏻 Hope you get better
Amanda Holland if no one has told you yet..you are amazing for noticing a change needs to happen and actually giving your 100% to change and become a better you 👏🏻🔥I might not know you but I admire you so so much ! Keep being the best you every day 👏🏻🙏🏻
I just cut off judgemental friends with low self-esteem and found peace and a good phase started in my life full of self-confidence, good habits and happy days. I had no idea I was so stressed because of my environment unless I cut it off
Omg I'm sorry this is so long but it's a deep topic. Read it you want, or not. My work friend & I were both in long term relationships, that we both were "expected" to marry - at the tender age of 19 (?! I'm so glad times have changed). And we were both "good girls" Then we were at a work party, went out after because we were the 2 youngest ppl in the company. We had the BEST time. So we instantly bonded after that. We tried to do the double date thing but our bfs didn't like each other. So we just hung out together. Quickly became besties. Went from once a week, to 2x, to 3, 4, 5 & 6 nights a week. The only night we didn't go out was when there was no bar night. We called ourselves Barflys - making fun of ourselves because of the movie of the same name. We were young & clearly didn't look like the booze hags from the movie, so it was funny to us. But we also traveled all over the Country & America & the Caribbean & Mexico - we didn't just go to bars, our relationship evolved. We also had a 3rd friend that was in tight with us. Sometimes it was all 3 of us, or just the two of them or the two of us (3rd friend & I). Around this time I met my future husband & we were like peas & carrots. But my friend was having none of it. My new bf was her ex-bf's cousin to boot. We had a ton of friends in our friends group that she could call anytime to go out with, so it wasn't like she was forced to stay in. So my 2 friends were hanging out more & more without me. She'd call and be snarky with me if I said no. But I didn't care. I was in Suzy Homemaker mode & thought she should've been happy for me. We still went out just not 6 nights a week. Then our 3rd friend was in a car accident & she ended up dying. That took a huge toll on our already shaky ground. My bf & I moved in together about a month after the funeral, but she never wanted to come to visit. When I got engaged she was miserable to me. That hurt me a lot. I just didn't want to go out to a bar 6 nights a week anymore. I didn't know that she was pregnant at the time (with her future husband's child) & was hormonal. I don't know why she wouldn't have told me that - she told me literally everything but not that? We didn't talk for 10 years. She didn't come to my wedding, I didn't go to hers. We were so stupid, thinking we'd live forever obviously. After I had my daughter, when she was about 3, I realized how much I missed her & how much both us must've been hurting from our friend's death, just in different ways. I became a recluse & she put these giant walls up. I sent some flowers to her for her birthday that year and we made up. She lives in Pittsburgh now and I'm still in our home town. But it took 10 years of maturing, 2 weddings, 2 babies and her to move out of the country for this to happen. I'm sad that it took 10 years but maybe we needed that space away from each other and from that friend group to be able to move on? The good news is that we're friends again although we haven't really been able to visit in awhile with the pandemic happening. Sometimes you need to walk away from a life you were living in order to make a new one. And we both did that. But now I'm the soon to be divorcee & she's happily married, with 3 kids & living the life she always wanted. I'm so happy for her! My advice to any 20-30 yrs old who spend 24/7 together. If you or your friends meet a guy or girl, just let them be. You don't know what is going on inside someone all of the time. You may think you do, but ya don't. If you want to change something, just do it, don't look for permission from your friends. Because if they're good friends they'll still be there and if they're not, then good riddance
I agree 100%. I had a similar situation, we didn't drink as much but we hung out non-stop. I met my ex and decided he was more important (not sure why, lol) and disregarded my best friends. I look back now and I wonder why I did it. I've thought about reaching out to them but it's been soo long. It taught me how to be with my best friend now. You can have both the friendships and the guy. It doesn't have to be one or the other. Who knew, not me (at least not then)!
Read all your post. Intrigued because it hit close to home. I'm a divorcee and can totally relate. It's best to let them be. Gotta focus and your goals and dreams.✨💕✨
I was a stripper have two sons I’ve had my wild days and now I’m 30 in a new relationship and I’m relaxing no one intimidates me anymore I’ve seen it all all edit : lesson is you give less of a fuck the older you get - you live and you learn
I think Liam has an undeservedly good image... remember those Jennifer Lawrence rumors on the set of the Hunger Games? I always thought he gaslit Miley which caused her to go berserk and then everyone thought she was just crazy. He’s been photographed at clubs late night drinking talking to women but we all love to say “he just wanted a wife” and “Miley is wild”.... but she’s too nice to spill the real tea on him 🍵
love the positive badass tone the last few videos have. you are listening to us and it shows through your work (craft!). for a future video: what to do if you haven't been accepted to your dream college/programme/ job. how to bounce back emotionally and in terms of experience and what to do with your "empty" period of time that you are waiting. when to give up and when to try again but better. a lot of us can relate
And that's so amazing,right? Remember when that one time apparently because S was a witch and "cursed" someone for calling her a dog??? And that person APPARENTLY got cancer or something. So so so cool, no???
@@shallonlester Yeah... I'd love it if we all were able to stop living that lie. Lobster mac tastes as if it's been previously digested. Looks like it too.
I absolutely agree with you. Your friends should inspire the shit out of you. I never had this kind of friend until I was in my late 20s. What a life changing experience to make friends who are good, successful people.
I was extremely goth for YEARS. I grew put hair dye due to allergies. And I started focusing on all aspects of myself(and I've never only liked "goth things" and people get mad when they cant pigeonhole you!) and all my "goth or die friends" dropped off the face of the earth. Those people suck.
I literally had to move and seek a new environment and friendships because staying where I was at wasn’t going to help me or improve myself. It’s all for the better now, I still worry about the lies and accusations every now and then and end up in a slump but I know those things aren’t true about me and I need to be much kinder to myself and realize the friendships I thought I had weren’t ones I was suppose to have but they taught me some amazing lessons that I am taking into this new chapter with me. Whoever wants to believe those rumors I am no longer worried nor do I care but I’m not going to keep dwelling on the what if’s. I know the people who are suppose to be in my future like you said “won’t care or won’t even believe it”
Hey, I have few things to say as I have been following your videos for an year at this point. And I think you have influenced me in a very positive way with my confidence and I feel empowered and hella motivated . I always check out your videos when I am feeling little down and irrespective of the hate you get( which are just people trying to intimidate you because gosh ...you have an opinion!!!!). I would say please keep doing what you are doing coz you might not know but this does help alot for people like me . Much love girl ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Give yourself some time to reflect on what you really enjoy - it can feel impossible to figure yourself out, and it’s okay if it seems like it’s always changing. Change is growth and it’s good if it never stops, so be kind to yourself.
I personally think you shouldn't announce your reinvention, because that opens the field for people to doubt you and try to change your mind. PLUS when you announce your plans a part of you already feels like you've already started the process and you might end up not doing it at all. Just do it. Don't say it.
Damn Shallon! You made me so sad when you said we are one google search away from finding made up things about you. We love you! That’s it. End of story. You’re stuck with all of us. Deal with it! Luv ya!
I love you Shallon, whenever I watch your videos they make me happy (: You motivate me to become a better person, I swear its like you know all the right things to say. I just wanted to let you know I appreciate your content and that I admire you alot!
Miley can't seem to decide how to be, continuing going back and forth. And honestly, the healthy thing for Liam would be to let her go, for good this time. He's chasing a ghost, the person Miley was when they met, she was still a teenager. Think Liam was too.
I was the opposite, I didn't really have a bad reputation in school. I was a good Christian girl who did not drink, smoke or screw around. But people laughed and ostracized me anyway. I was an introvert who had close friends and hung with them. But that's ancient history. You do have to change and view yourself in a new way and not feed into negativity about yourself. It's not so much what others say about you, It's what you say about yourself. It is all a part of growing up. You just have to be like Popeye and say "I yam what I yam".
The real reason she got sober is she had vocal surgery and could barely eat for a month lol. Any alcohol or weed would’ve been like acid on her healing cords. My guess is that she was forced to be sober that way and also didn’t want to risk permanently damaging her voice so she continued to roll with it.
I believe the reason she was mentioning drugs in her break up song was because perhaps she felt that liam reinforced her drug addiction with his reactions wreck her of a short, instead of calling him out on a suppposed drug addiction of his. She doesnt pass to me as the lying type or the shifting the blame type, so i do believe that she genuinly felt as though this on and off relationship was the reason of her downfall.
Oh my god I am happy someone confirmed this. I have been telling my friends that I cut alcohol and I drink my water the exact same way I would drink a G&T and wine and it tricks my mind into thinking it’s alcohol and that’s how I have kept off alcohol.
Her: "I want to live 10 different lives at once!!!!" Me, eating popcorn lying on the sofa: "That sounds exhausting. I can't even properly live this one life I have now. Plus, I'll have to put on pants to live the other lives, so, I don't think so."
I love Miley to bits. Her voice raises goosebumps on my arm, esply when she sings without music cutting her. Wrecking ball, butterfly fly away are my sad anthems. 😊😊
I appreciate this!! I had a bad year and strained some relationships and made mistakes with my peers in the theatre community. I’ve done a ton of work on myself but when everything opens up again I want to be the new me full force!!
I had a bad break up which was a big wake up call for me, It also led to friendship losses which made me think about the choices I made and the self destructing path I was on. I lost control of my emotions and let them get the better of me...I started saying no to things, I started putting myself first, I stopped getting caught up with people and drama and concentrated on what I wanted and my interests. There’s more to the story but I decided to commit myself to my goals, I moved abroad to London. I got a good job at the BBC and I have done some much soul searching. It has been an amazing experience, It’s really difficult when your on a different path to your friends, I’m a bit scared to go home as I have grown so much....I don’t want to go backwards. I’ve always felt like an outsider to people and my family. We are so different. I thrive when I am travelling and I have an open mind/heart....some of my friends don’t understand that. This video has some really good advice, if you want to change you have to make changes. I also have father abandonment issues which hits home for me in your previous videos. I just want to say you really help me. I have learnt so much from your videos. X
Would the same apply to people escaping "good" reputations? I grew up quite sheltered so I give off this vibe that I'm a straight edge that doesn't party. In reality, I love trying new things experimentation and want to live out the rest of my hoe years, but people don't invite me to things and I can't seem to shake the "goody-two shoes" vibe.
I had the intro song stuck in my head and couldn't remember where I'd heard it. Until I remembered 'welcome shalloners' and then I knew. I came here to confirm thanks for your attention.
Loved the part with being around successful people.... I never taught about that. Great video. I have to say lately I am getting a bad reputation for actually being good. It really does not bother me, because I know whoever really knows me, would not believe that nonsense.
Love your makeup Shallon!! Random question, do people recognize you? Like what would you do if someone like one of your new friends/dates found out about your channel? I truly hope it doesn't become the talk of the town among small-minded people and gossipers.
This video is everything my dear, very accountable and great to see you taking charge of your life and leading others. So grateful for your channel, entertaining, informative and fabulous.
hey love. i love your videos so so much - its def my go to channel. can u please do a video about what we should do when we bump into our enemy in the public? theres a person whos was really selfishly evil to me and we had our serious issues, and i get anxiety that i might bump into her one day. thank you xx
Also, because you asked yesterday and I don't love my answer anymore now that I've seen this video. I'm loving the colours of the pillows behind you - perfect for your complexion! I think your wall would look amazing in a perfect pale blush. It would still be light & bright but it would give some colour and one that would emphasize your beautiful skin while warming up the cool undertones.
Hahaha ok yes duly noted! I think I'm painting another room a blush color so that one will be warm toned and this one may be cool toned (greens/blues)! (Then maybe I'll paint like some random closet a dark Art Deco vibe and crawl in there once in awhile to film saucy topics)
@@shallonlester I don't know how I missed this notification..... You've been looking terrific with the yellows, blues & greens - I love that picture behind you and the pillows match it 👌 Looking forward to the saucy closet talks 😉 (I joined infstream but only glanced at your channel/page the day I joined, I'll have to check it out this weekend)
I grew up in a town of 900 people for the population we lived about 45 minutes away from the bigger city where my mom was a stripper and everybody knew that where we lived and she also was a drug addict.. I look identicle to my mother..it was great.
After 16 years of not speaking to my mother I slowly have started to let her back in my life and being very cautious about it I moved away from my small town at 15.. I'm 32 now and have been married for the last 12 years and we just welcomed our baby boy into this world and life is good! I've heard it all from my friends being able to see my mom naked and buy lap dances from her ..then my mom telling me about how all my friends one to hook up with her .lots did. I knew from a very young age that I was going to have to look out for myself and regardless of the cards I was dealt I didn't want that life and I just had to work extra hard to make sure that didn't happen.
@@mirandam5746 thank you! I'm very proud of where I am now..dont get me wrong it took a long time and a shit load of therapy : ) .. it's crazy how much my thinking has changed now that I am a mother.. my dad is trying to get back in my life as well and that's been 17 years..its hard and I know that I'll be in therapy my whole life..but I love my therapist so I'm totally fine with that! xoxo
can you talk about moving on from old circle of friends that didn't serve you anymore. serve here means, they turn from being our source of support/encouragement to just being toxic or just emotionally tiring overall.
Bro did she say Miley can’t call her music her craft? She’s a musician, your a girl who sits on a couch and pretends to be a therapist, you don’t have the right to say this is your craft. Also don’t talk about being a singer and having this talent if you aren’t a singer. It takes a really long time to gain Taylor and Miley’s amount of skill, and it’s not quite fair that you try to give advice when you don’t really know what your talking about.
Hey Shallon, I’m a huge fan! A little intro, I was the first young catholic channel in 2011. I’ve had a few channels but this is my smaller, personal one. I had a liberal arts background that really emphasized reason and making decisions with inherent human nature and behavior in mind. Your channel is gold to me! Thank you for your content. If anyone tries to cancel you, they’ll have to cancel me praying for you first, because that’s what I’ve been doing in the background. Much love! -Renée Catherine
I'm so excited for the house tour 💕 You should take us shooting and horse riding with you. I haven't really done any of these things, but I want to see you in beast mode 🏅
Shallon Lester, I love when you go off on tangents, lol. You're keeping it so real, it's almost like you're in my living room and just having a conversation xx
shallon I'm a teenager and I'm obsessed with self improvement and being the best that I can be and you say to surround yourself with motivated and successful people but people my age don't have the self improvement mindset they're just teenagers which i obviously don't blame them for but what do I do if I don't have anyone around me in my like whole life that have this mindset?
Forgiveness is essential to get out of a bad reputation. Forgiving yourself or forgiving others.
Not because others deserve forgiveness, but for your own mental health.
Anytime you worry that someone is going to judge you, that is really you judging yourself
Wow this is soooooo true!
just had an aha moment! ✨
i need this right now. thank you so much!
Wow this hit hard..
Hit me like a fucking truck
One of my favorite artists always says “you can only grow as big as the box you put yourself into.”
I love this! 👏🏻🙌🏻❤
Great quote! I’ll save this 💕💕💕
I love Miley when she gets into her country mode. Her backyard session cover of Jolene is priceless. Country is where her voice shines. You can tell Dolly is her Godmother.
Yes! I got chills when she performed Jolene with Dolly at the Grammys !
Me too!!!
Absolutely agree. That cover is everything.
I was just about to say this! Her voice is incredible in those vids! 🤯
YES. I send people to that video when people try to claim she doesn't have any talent.
When I quit drinking, I didn't say anything until 30 days in. But it was important to tell my friends that this was a permanent decision after that, because I did not want ANYONE in my life that I could comfortably drink with if I wanted to relapse. Once you announce you're sober, your good friends will support you and hold you accountable.
Shallon you will NEVER be cancelled- you really have changed so many lives. Don't ever let the people trying to bring you down distract from everyone you've helped get up!'
I second this statement.
After a little bit I watched the videos of channels bashing her. And it really opened my eyes to just how close minded people really are. I could just think of statements to combat everything they were saying bc they really changed things to manipulate people into thinking she’s some awful person
I did find constructive criticism from 1 or 2 of those reaction video, such as insensitivity towards mental disorders. However as a long time viewer I can clearly tell Shallon was hurting from the breakup in some of her videos, which made her sound a bit bitter in some moment.
@@sixuanwu1621 same here
shallon is so talented, i think many of them are so envious oh her.
Can you talk about Mia Khalfia, and how she is trying to disassociate from the past!! (Good ideas on tik tok) also can you talk about Madison beer? ❤️❤️❤️
My life mantra regarding changing myself has always been: “Don’t talk about it. Be about it.”
Shallon you are glowing since you moved to Montana !! Your hair, lashes and makeup are the best they’ve been. The move is suiting you ❤️
100%
I was gonna say the same thing!
Yes! I concur! Absolutely Gorgeous!! Is there a guy behind this glow? Maybe a cowboy!!??😜😍😘
I slowly changed peoples perception of who I am. I was known as a party girl. After a while I didn’t want that title. I realized that I was getting older and if I was going to be the person I wanted to be then I needed to make a drastic change. I started taking classes for a degree that was considered to be for intellectuals. I had many people doubting me; and, next thing I knew my friends were following me in my footsteps. It was scary to branch away from the party lifestyle. I’m so thankful that my true friends accepted me for that and decided to better their life’s as well.
Bravo👏
@Chuck Hello incel, calm down...
Chuck and what are you doing here? Wasting your day insulting women makes you think you are better than them? Does it add value to you as a person? What value does it have for you to insult someone who is trying to get a higher education and make a life for themselves? You must be really hurt or really lonely to spend your day insulting people you don’t even know for your own benefit of your own ego. There is no need to be mean to this person and if you think you are doing them a favor by spreading your hate on to them, I suggest you analyze yourself and think of what purpose you have, because you are wasting your time fighting with RUclips accounts because of your own inner struggles. Hope you get through whatever you are going through and I hope you learn to respect other people as well as respect yourself. 🙏🏻 Hope you get better
Natalia Arvelo well said 👏🏼 👏🏼
Amanda Holland if no one has told you yet..you are amazing for noticing a change needs to happen and actually giving your 100% to change and become a better you 👏🏻🔥I might not know you but I admire you so so much ! Keep being the best you every day 👏🏻🙏🏻
“Successful people don’t care about gossip”
So so true! Everyone I know who craves gossip and seeing people fail are very unhappy people in general.
Miley is one of the few realest celebrities in the industry, not to mention super talented, I'll always admire and respect her
we need a vid on how to not care ab ppls opinions like a part 2 of the authenticity video
I just cut off judgemental friends with low self-esteem and found peace and a good phase started in my life full of self-confidence, good habits and happy days.
I had no idea I was so stressed because of my environment unless I cut it off
Miley should do a country pop album it would go way over the charts
No..please stop the country pop
Check out the Hippie Backdoor Sessions. Totally Flabbergasted when I heard her go country.
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@@oogaboogashooga880 Not CPop. Don't knock it till you hear it. She goes soul and old school. Underground status.
I only liked her voice singing country. I didn't like her pop stuff. I definitely didn't like that fake hip hop stuff she was doing.
Yessss!
Shes born for country!
You read my mind!
Omg I'm sorry this is so long but it's a deep topic. Read it you want, or not.
My work friend & I were both in long term relationships, that we both were "expected" to marry - at the tender age of 19 (?! I'm so glad times have changed). And we were both "good girls"
Then we were at a work party, went out after because we were the 2 youngest ppl in the company. We had the BEST time. So we instantly bonded after that. We tried to do the double date thing but our bfs didn't like each other. So we just hung out together. Quickly became besties.
Went from once a week, to 2x, to 3, 4, 5 & 6 nights a week. The only night we didn't go out was when there was no bar night. We called ourselves Barflys - making fun of ourselves because of the movie of the same name. We were young & clearly didn't look like the booze hags from the movie, so it was funny to us.
But we also traveled all over the Country & America & the Caribbean & Mexico - we didn't just go to bars, our relationship evolved.
We also had a 3rd friend that was in tight with us. Sometimes it was all 3 of us, or just the two of them or the two of us (3rd friend & I).
Around this time I met my future husband & we were like peas & carrots. But my friend was having none of it. My new bf was her ex-bf's cousin to boot. We had a ton of friends in our friends group that she could call anytime to go out with, so it wasn't like she was forced to stay in. So my 2 friends were hanging out more & more without me. She'd call and be snarky with me if I said no. But I didn't care. I was in Suzy Homemaker mode & thought she should've been happy for me. We still went out just not 6 nights a week.
Then our 3rd friend was in a car accident & she ended up dying. That took a huge toll on our already shaky ground.
My bf & I moved in together about a month after the funeral, but she never wanted to come to visit. When I got engaged she was miserable to me. That hurt me a lot. I just didn't want to go out to a bar 6 nights a week anymore.
I didn't know that she was pregnant at the time (with her future husband's child) & was hormonal. I don't know why she wouldn't have told me that - she told me literally everything but not that?
We didn't talk for 10 years. She didn't come to my wedding, I didn't go to hers. We were so stupid, thinking we'd live forever obviously.
After I had my daughter, when she was about 3, I realized how much I missed her & how much both us must've been hurting from our friend's death, just in different ways. I became a recluse & she put these giant walls up.
I sent some flowers to her for her birthday that year and we made up.
She lives in Pittsburgh now and I'm still in our home town. But it took 10 years of maturing, 2 weddings, 2 babies and her to move out of the country for this to happen. I'm sad that it took 10 years but maybe we needed that space away from each other and from that friend group to be able to move on?
The good news is that we're friends again although we haven't really been able to visit in awhile with the pandemic happening. Sometimes you need to walk away from a life you were living in order to make a new one. And we both did that.
But now I'm the soon to be divorcee & she's happily married, with 3 kids & living the life she always wanted. I'm so happy for her!
My advice to any 20-30 yrs old who spend 24/7 together. If you or your friends meet a guy or girl, just let them be. You don't know what is going on inside someone all of the time. You may think you do, but ya don't.
If you want to change something, just do it, don't look for permission from your friends. Because if they're good friends they'll still be there and if they're not, then good riddance
Thank you for this! 🙏
enjoyed reading and can relate.
I agree 100%. I had a similar situation, we didn't drink as much but we hung out non-stop. I met my ex and decided he was more important (not sure why, lol) and disregarded my best friends. I look back now and I wonder why I did it. I've thought about reaching out to them but it's been soo long. It taught me how to be with my best friend now. You can have both the friendships and the guy. It doesn't have to be one or the other. Who knew, not me (at least not then)!
Read all your post. Intrigued because it hit close to home. I'm a divorcee and can totally relate.
It's best to let them be. Gotta focus and your goals and dreams.✨💕✨
@@michellem4190 You're so welcome, I'm glad you weren't bored to death haha
I was a stripper have two sons I’ve had my wild days and now I’m 30 in a new relationship and I’m relaxing no one intimidates me anymore I’ve seen it all all edit : lesson is you give less of a fuck the older you get - you live and you learn
Quarentined Love yass. There is a time for everything.
I think Liam has an undeservedly good image... remember those Jennifer Lawrence rumors on the set of the Hunger Games? I always thought he gaslit Miley which caused her to go berserk and then everyone thought she was just crazy. He’s been photographed at clubs late night drinking talking to women but we all love to say “he just wanted a wife” and “Miley is wild”.... but she’s too nice to spill the real tea on him 🍵
Yes I know he's not as good as he seems. Miley was a wreck no pun intended when they first broke up, that couldn't have been a healthy relationship
love the positive badass tone the last few videos have. you are listening to us and it shows through your work (craft!).
for a future video: what to do if you haven't been accepted to your dream college/programme/ job. how to bounce back emotionally and in terms of experience and what to do with your "empty" period of time that you are waiting. when to give up and when to try again but better. a lot of us can relate
It’s so difficult to go through private battles on such a world wide stage. I hope she’s getting it together! She’s so talented and beautiful.
Everytime you say "i am working on my craft" it makes me think of witch craft 😅😅😅
And that's so amazing,right? Remember when that one time apparently because S was a witch and "cursed" someone for calling her a dog??? And that person APPARENTLY got cancer or something. So so so cool, no???
@@debbiebaishya4535 I've never heard her say that in any video I've seen, when did this happen??
lol I really love the phrase "vagina phase" like it's a stage of development
I can't go out tonight, I have to polish (off) my kraft (mac and cheese)
Kraft over everything. Why can't restaurants serve kraft?! Dont make me pretend I enjoy that lobster mac because I DONT.
@@shallonlester Yeah... I'd love it if we all were able to stop living that lie. Lobster mac tastes as if it's been previously digested. Looks like it too.
omg how to move on from embarrassment video would be fun
Yes!!
Good on Miley on being Sober. Health is wealth
I absolutely agree with you. Your friends should inspire the shit out of you. I never had this kind of friend until I was in my late 20s. What a life changing experience to make friends who are good, successful people.
I was extremely goth for YEARS. I grew put hair dye due to allergies. And I started focusing on all aspects of myself(and I've never only liked "goth things" and people get mad when they cant pigeonhole you!) and all my "goth or die friends" dropped off the face of the earth. Those people suck.
The background is adapting. Btw. you look a lot fresher and more glowy now. Not at all like you put on. Probably a lot more O2 where you are now.
I literally had to move and seek a new environment and friendships because staying where I was at wasn’t going to help me or improve myself. It’s all for the better now, I still worry about the lies and accusations every now and then and end up in a slump but I know those things aren’t true about me and I need to be much kinder to myself and realize the friendships I thought I had weren’t ones I was suppose to have but they taught me some amazing lessons that I am taking into this new chapter with me. Whoever wants to believe those rumors I am no longer worried nor do I care but I’m not going to keep dwelling on the what if’s. I know the people who are suppose to be in my future like you said “won’t care or won’t even believe it”
Hey, I have few things to say as I have been following your videos for an year at this point. And I think you have influenced me in a very positive way with my confidence and I feel empowered and hella motivated . I always check out your videos when I am feeling little down and irrespective of the hate you get( which are just people trying to intimidate you because gosh ...you have an opinion!!!!). I would say please keep doing what you are doing coz you might not know but this does help alot for people like me . Much love girl ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Right when I needed this. I would like to change my career and reinvent myself career-wise; however, I'm very clueless.
Vida Pashaei hope everything works out you will find something for you 💜
@@sideting1087 thank you ❤
Give yourself some time to reflect on what you really enjoy - it can feel impossible to figure yourself out, and it’s okay if it seems like it’s always changing. Change is growth and it’s good if it never stops, so be kind to yourself.
@@Bluepr1nt23 absolutely. Jest need to gather my thoughts and organize my life.
Whatever it is you wanna do you got this ! 💪😊
Ritual, exactly. That is exactly how I explained it to people. I like the ritual of drinking, setting up the shots, or mixing the drinks.
Miley’s backyard session songs are some of my fav, you can really see her talent in them.
Thank you for this. I love Miley. I love you. I’m still struggling with my addiction, but you made me smile. I think you’re awesome.
You touched some very sensitive subjects to me. Again much enlightenment and support, thank you
I personally think you shouldn't announce your reinvention, because that opens the field for people to doubt you and try to change your mind. PLUS when you announce your plans a part of you already feels like you've already started the process and you might end up not doing it at all.
Just do it. Don't say it.
Damn Shallon! You made me so sad when you said we are one google search away from finding made up things about you. We love you! That’s it. End of story. You’re stuck with all of us. Deal with it! Luv ya!
I love you Shallon, whenever I watch your videos they make me happy (: You motivate me to become a better person, I swear its like you know all the right things to say. I just wanted to let you know I appreciate your content and that I admire you alot!
:singing: I CAME IN LIKE A SHALLONER!
I never been so confident
I feel like a bad bitttttchhhhhh
Shalllllooonnnnnn bettttterddddd meeeeee
She came for me I’m a musician and I call it my craft LMAO
lol me2 but its shallon and you know people can have their own opinions that is why I was like meh :P
Miley can't seem to decide how to be, continuing going back and forth. And honestly, the healthy thing for Liam would be to let her go, for good this time. He's chasing a ghost, the person Miley was when they met, she was still a teenager. Think Liam was too.
honestly i think it was good for her. its so boring when everything is cookie cutter. its more important to be authentic than to avoid problems
you literally voice all the thoughts I don’t hear, the amount of wisdom you have👌
I was the opposite, I didn't really have a bad reputation in school. I was a good Christian girl who did not drink, smoke or screw around. But people laughed and ostracized me anyway. I was an introvert who had close friends and hung with them. But that's ancient history. You do have to change and view yourself in a new way and not feed into negativity about yourself. It's not so much what others say about you, It's what you say about yourself. It is all a part of growing up. You just have to be like Popeye and say "I yam what I yam".
I put pomegranate juice in a wine glass lol
The real reason she got sober is she had vocal surgery and could barely eat for a month lol. Any alcohol or weed would’ve been like acid on her healing cords. My guess is that she was forced to be sober that way and also didn’t want to risk permanently damaging her voice so she continued to roll with it.
I believe the reason she was mentioning drugs in her break up song was because perhaps she felt that liam reinforced her drug addiction with his reactions wreck her of a short, instead of calling him out on a suppposed drug addiction of his. She doesnt pass to me as the lying type or the shifting the blame type, so i do believe that she genuinly felt as though this on and off relationship was the reason of her downfall.
Oh my god I am happy someone confirmed this. I have been telling my friends that I cut alcohol and I drink my water the exact same way I would drink a G&T and wine and it tricks my mind into thinking it’s alcohol and that’s how I have kept off alcohol.
This came at the perfect time 🙏🏻 no one can cancel Shallon!
*this new background is everythingggg*
Can you please talk about how to overcome a lot of job/life failures and the anxiety of searching for another one again/believe in yourself...
Her: "I want to live 10 different lives at once!!!!"
Me, eating popcorn lying on the sofa: "That sounds exhausting. I can't even properly live this one life I have now. Plus, I'll have to put on pants to live the other lives, so, I don't think so."
Anything is possible when you have the financial means to do so, also having the right support system.
Totally relate with your story. It feels so good to see that connection of emotional awakening that is happening in the world. Enjoy Montana💓
I love Miley to bits. Her voice raises goosebumps on my arm, esply when she sings without music cutting her. Wrecking ball, butterfly fly away are my sad anthems. 😊😊
I appreciate this!! I had a bad year and strained some relationships and made mistakes with my peers in the theatre community. I’ve done a ton of work on myself but when everything opens up again I want to be the new me full force!!
I'm planning on moving out of the city so I can go back to my home town that loves to talk and I needed this! 🥰
Can u talk about the latest Megan fox drama
Oh, what happened?
Tea
@@karo8819 a interview resurfaced of megan talking about Micheal Bay sexualzing her at age 16
Lighting and video quality is on point! 👌
I love Miley Cyrus! Wrecking Ball is the shit!Good for her and I wish her nothing but the best.
Wait WHAT, Britney is a vocalist and she was on singing shows when she was little. Now she's performing bc catchy songs and shows make the 💰.
I had a bad break up which was a big wake up call for me, It also led to friendship losses which made me think about the choices I made and the self destructing path I was on. I lost control of my emotions and let them get the better of me...I started saying no to things, I started putting myself first, I stopped getting caught up with people and drama and concentrated on what I wanted and my interests. There’s more to the story but I decided to commit myself to my goals, I moved abroad to London. I got a good job at the BBC and I have done some much soul searching. It has been an amazing experience, It’s really difficult when your on a different path to your friends, I’m a bit scared to go home as I have grown so much....I don’t want to go backwards. I’ve always felt like an outsider to people and my family. We are so different. I thrive when I am travelling and I have an open mind/heart....some of my friends don’t understand that. This video has some really good advice, if you want to change you have to make changes. I also have father abandonment issues which hits home for me in your previous videos. I just want to say you really help me. I have learnt so much from your videos. X
Would the same apply to people escaping "good" reputations? I grew up quite sheltered so I give off this vibe that I'm a straight edge that doesn't party. In reality, I love trying new things experimentation and want to live out the rest of my hoe years, but people don't invite me to things and I can't seem to shake the "goody-two shoes" vibe.
Your impersonations are gold. You would excel in acting - especially comedy.
"i just need this shirt in a size medium" took me out lmao
I had the intro song stuck in my head and couldn't remember where I'd heard it. Until I remembered 'welcome shalloners' and then I knew. I came here to confirm thanks for your attention.
I really needed this video. Can relate a lot.
Loved the part with being around successful people.... I never taught about that. Great video. I have to say lately I am getting a bad reputation for actually being good. It really does not bother me, because I know whoever really knows me, would not believe that nonsense.
Successful people don't care about gossip. Yes, and thank you, Shallon!
Love your makeup Shallon!! Random question, do people recognize you? Like what would you do if someone like one of your new friends/dates found out about your channel? I truly hope it doesn't become the talk of the town among small-minded people and gossipers.
Stop caring what people think of you AND LOVE YOURSELF UNCONDITIONALLY.
This video is everything my dear, very accountable and great to see you taking charge of your life and leading others. So grateful for your channel, entertaining, informative and fabulous.
hey love. i love your videos so so much - its def my go to channel. can u please do a video about what we should do when we bump into our enemy in the public? theres a person whos was really selfishly evil to me and we had our serious issues, and i get anxiety that i might bump into her one day. thank you xx
I am soo addicted to your videos.I have learned soo many things from you, things that saved my mental health.Thank you.
Also, because you asked yesterday and I don't love my answer anymore now that I've seen this video.
I'm loving the colours of the pillows behind you - perfect for your complexion! I think your wall would look amazing in a perfect pale blush. It would still be light & bright but it would give some colour and one that would emphasize your beautiful skin while warming up the cool undertones.
Hahaha ok yes duly noted! I think I'm painting another room a blush color so that one will be warm toned and this one may be cool toned (greens/blues)! (Then maybe I'll paint like some random closet a dark Art Deco vibe and crawl in there once in awhile to film saucy topics)
@@shallonlester I don't know how I missed this notification.....
You've been looking terrific with the yellows, blues & greens - I love that picture behind you and the pillows match it 👌
Looking forward to the saucy closet talks 😉 (I joined infstream but only glanced at your channel/page the day I joined, I'll have to check it out this weekend)
Not related at all to this video but I’m loving your new space, it’s so bright and fresh and you look even prettier against this lovely backdrop 💕
Shallon you have been so good with uploading videos for us! 🥰 I imagine it’s a lot of hard work. We are grateful queen!!!
this is actually great advice, thank you Shal
I loved this one! Hits home heavy right now! Needed this.
For a good 2 minutes of watching the video I was just admiring Shallon's eyebrows... how is your eyebrows soooo on FLEEK and PERFECT!
They're microbladed on.
I grew up in a town of 900 people for the population we lived about 45 minutes away from the bigger city where my mom was a stripper and everybody knew that where we lived and she also was a drug addict.. I look identicle to my mother..it was great.
@Danielle. That has to be very hard. I can understand!!! How is your life now?
After 16 years of not speaking to my mother I slowly have started to let her back in my life and being very cautious about it I moved away from my small town at 15.. I'm 32 now and have been married for the last 12 years and we just welcomed our baby boy into this world and life is good! I've heard it all from my friends being able to see my mom naked and buy lap dances from her ..then my mom telling me about how all my friends one to hook up with her .lots did. I knew from a very young age that I was going to have to look out for myself and regardless of the cards I was dealt I didn't want that life and I just had to work extra hard to make sure that didn't happen.
Danielle Miller wow that’s crazy. You definitely are strong that u didn’t end up being a drug addict or in jail. I would’ve been so angry.
@@mirandam5746 thank you! I'm very proud of where I am now..dont get me wrong it took a long time and a shit load of therapy : ) .. it's crazy how much my thinking has changed now that I am a mother.. my dad is trying to get back in my life as well and that's been 17 years..its hard and I know that I'll be in therapy my whole life..but I love my therapist so I'm totally fine with that! xoxo
can you talk about moving on from old circle of friends that didn't serve you anymore. serve here means, they turn from being our source of support/encouragement to just being toxic or just emotionally tiring overall.
I appreciate you not sugar coating things!
Love you!! Love this, as always 👏🙏💕
This was so needed. Thank you as always, Shallon.
Bro did she say Miley can’t call her music her craft? She’s a musician, your a girl who sits on a couch and pretends to be a therapist, you don’t have the right to say this is your craft. Also don’t talk about being a singer and having this talent if you aren’t a singer. It takes a really long time to gain Taylor and Miley’s amount of skill, and it’s not quite fair that you try to give advice when you don’t really know what your talking about.
Chill she just meant it’s a little cringe 😂
Say what you want about Shallon, but her content is comprehensive and entertaining.
Hey Shallon, I’m a huge fan! A little intro, I was the first young catholic channel in 2011. I’ve had a few channels but this is my smaller, personal one. I had a liberal arts background that really emphasized reason and making decisions with inherent human nature and behavior in mind. Your channel is gold to me! Thank you for your content. If anyone tries to cancel you, they’ll have to cancel me praying for you first, because that’s what I’ve been doing in the background. Much love! -Renée Catherine
Her white dress with pink flowers is probably her best outfit
Atomic Habits by James Clear. Read it. Love it.
I'm so excited for the house tour 💕 You should take us shooting and horse riding with you. I haven't really done any of these things, but I want to see you in beast mode 🏅
Shallon Lester, I love when you go off on tangents, lol. You're keeping it so real, it's almost like you're in my living room and just having a conversation xx
This background is perfect- you look so glow-y and healthy!
Thanks for these videos Shallon. You keep me sane on my runs.
She's really claiming to be sober while sporting that hairstyle..?
Holy shit lmao they need the crying laughing face react on RUclips
😂😂😂😂😭right wtf is that
It's fucking tragic
Looking like tiger king
You look GOREGOUS! Montana suits you girl x
I'm so grateful for you and your videos Shallon. I signed up for your other service yesterday. Xoxo. Always wishing you the best 😘
Thank you for this video and great advice love you shallon
shallon I'm a teenager and I'm obsessed with self improvement and being the best that I can be and you say to surround yourself with motivated and successful people but people my age don't have the self improvement mindset they're just teenagers which i obviously don't blame them for but what do I do if I don't have anyone around me in my like whole life that have this mindset?
Yes Miley vocals are bomb, unbelievable I mean have you guys heard the song slide
away? Crazy locals right there.