@@sam-md2soeven christ can’t help always, and not everyone’s religious, but i do agree, he can help you through tough times ❤ I didn’t mean to start a war 💀
I'm not trying to disrespect or insult you but I don't think you're culturally informed I think in about 90% of cultures What would be called abuse or neglect in the west is completely normal Yes we feel like shit, yes it sucks but we can't change cultural Having a diagnosis is like a death sentence. You're called crazy never trusted looked down on made fun of locked in hospitals or locked out I have never even seen a psychiatrist or therapist in real life
@@satanicluyeah, a "cultural" issue. That's what my neighbors told the CPS agents that showed up two weeks before their son died due to medical neglect. Thankfully the other little boy was taken from that home in the blink of an eye. Both parents charged and sitting in state prison. BS excuse for child abuse and neglect. Never a good reason to throw your health to the curb, especially the health of your children.
@@voodoovixen666 okay, with respect, that is honestly what I meant, the parent does know what she is putting her daughter through so seeing a doctor that can help her is honestly what she needs
That's what people think, the reality, I learned first hand and the hard way, psychiatrist are there to prescribe and manage drugs. This was 30+ years ago, I sincerely hope that has changed. Therapists help patients through issues by talking.
@@WarriorNana4Chgfrom my experience, a psychiatrist evaluates the patient, gives them a diagnosis and prescribes medicine. a therapist is later assigned to help slowly deal with whatever they're diagnosed with
@@WarriorNana4Chg You never HAVE to take anything prescribed to you, and yoh can always go get a second opinion. One bad psychiatrist doesn't mean psychiatry is bad. Also this line of thinking only works for the US, everywhere else in the world they don't get bonuses for prescribing specific drugs. That's what we like to call monoplized control of a market
The mom did not care about her daughter’s mental health. She was just worried her abuse of her daughter would be exposed when she talked with a psychiatrist.
I was actually parentified, at 12, until I was 20. i was abused and manipulated. I am now 26, but still treat my mom and her pos husband with a cordial respect for the sake of my siblings who were the children I took care of at birth until they were 6 and 7 years old. Believe me when I say, treating your child like a parental figure for other children IS abuse, and y'all should be ashamed of yourselves.
My sister's mom has done the same to her ever since she was about 14 years old and she is 16 now. Recently she had a breakdown because she can never catch a break her mom barely wants her to go over our dad's house.
YES PLEASE SAY IT AGAIN. They gaslight and force you to feel responsible. Make you think that if you say no then you must not love your siblings or something smh🙁
Grew up with similar a experience me and my older sister were parentified. Other than her having a job and supporting us financially she didn't really support us in any other way. My older sister managed to go back to being a kid and has somehow forgiven my mom while I still can't seem to do that. I also have no familial bond to my family which i thought was because there was something wrong with me but learned fairly recently that it was probably due to the neglect, abuse (verbal,mental, emotional) and the trauma from my childhood/teenage years. I'm now an adult who isn't quite functional and struggle really hard to get out of bed(i have severe depression)
Making your child take care of 3 kids so you can collect a check from the state is just selfish, abusive behavior!! Kids should not be responsible for taking care of other children their parents choose to have or bring into their home. If you don’t have the time to take care of them, don’t have them, or pay for childcare, because robbing another child of their childhood for your selfish choices should be a crime.
That how my childhood was. Raising some of my siblings. Being the “second mom.” Putting em to bed, caring for em through the night. All until I was 23 years old. Now my family has ripped those lil ones away for me out of control. A lot of pain and narcissistic people to deal with.
Unfortunately it’s really a shame how people actually do adopt kids for just extra income and it’s so sad how the responsibility be put on the oldest child also when the parents have babies and don’t get to enjoy their own life 😡
@@mlapointej CPS is more about the other kids than about her - lightening her physical load and ensuring the mother is seen as unfit even if they might not do much for the real daughter Psychiatrist might be more helpful for the daughter, but as long as the strain is there it'll always hang over her head
@@jbreezy101CPS is not going to help the daughter with her situation they will only make things worse. They need to be a step 2 behind a professional for the daughter herself first. The mother needs help as well or a real good reality check.
She said “we don’t do psychiatrists” to the black girl because black people are much less likely to go seek mental health care. That’s something that’s only STARTED to be embraced. Many black people just go to their pastor lol
My mom likes to say that. She's a psychologist. I have no damn clue what I do so wrong to make her think I need to be told that, but alas. I guess she is worried
A 14-year-old, finding out her mother was expecting a fifth child, said, oh, no... you didn't ask me about this. The 14-year old was 'babysitting' the other three younger sisters 24/7 while the military officer father and entertainment-oriented mother were involved with their own lives. The eldest girl left the house by getting married when she was 17, and didn't have children of her own for over 10 years.
Yep. At 19, I married the first guy that asked, and didn't want kids til I was 33 yrs. old. By then I'd had a tubal ligation - I was that serious about not having kids. Same situation: It was just SO handy to have a built-in babysitter for 4 siblings 5 and under. BTW, I changed my mind, had 2 kids, and now have grands too.
@@rickraber1249 Nice story but you don’t get a tubal ligation just because you want one You have to be over the age of 24 and have at least two kids y’all be saying anything for the like on the Internet
@@Utriedit215 This is, of course, Mrs. Rick, and since it was my tubal ligation, I'm pretty sure I'm right. You are correct to be sceptical however, as it took calls to 4 or 5 OB's before I found one willing to do the procedure on a child-free 25 yr. old. Also this was back in the 70's. And the other OB's who refused were indeed correct: I did live to regret it, and I did change my mind. As a side note, before you full on accuse someone of lying, perhaps you could voice your doubts as a question? It would be a little more respectful.
Her turning to the black nurse and saying “We don’t do psychiatrists, you know that” is a harrowing but real reality for black people and minorities in general. Mental health and therapy are still seen as very much “white person” things even though mental health disorders and struggles can affect anyone. If more black and POC people started talking to psychiatrists and de-stigmatizing mental health, I’m willing to bet a lot of communities and generational traumas would start to be healed as well as seeing a lowering of s*icide rates.
What's your source that backs up your claim. It seems out of place to bring up race concerning a mental health issue. It most likely can be an issue with culture and the people you're surrounded with. In this case, the mother doesn't want to take accountability for forcing her daughter to take care of the other children. It could explain why she would want her daughter to seek counseling. Otherwise, she would face some repercussions. That's just my take. Peace ✌🏻
@@JayDuron-in1hj It is well documented and researched that the Black community has a mistrust for the health/mental health community for decades if not centuries. I won't go into too many specific examples because it's is on the internet but here's a few data points. "One barrier to treatment for African Americans may be an understandable mistrust in the medical and mental health systems. One such example is the tuskgee syphilis experiment." Basically government infected a black community with syphilis as an experiment by lying and saying it was a vaccination. 25% of Black people seek mental health treatment when needed, compared to 40% of white people. Assuming we have the insurance to cover it. And if we do have it then some may end up in the next predicament that is: "In one study, physicians working with Black patients were 33% less likely to engage in patient-centered communications than they were with white patients." So race place a role on whether we as a minority group goes to get help, recieve or will be given the same help or treatment as our white counterparts. You're half way correct that the mother probably doesn't want to be held accountable for her actions but also, that she probably doesn't trust the health community to provide basic mental care for her child.
This is very relatable. Some parents don't ask or even check to see how a child feels about adding other kids within the home. She literally is being mom to other children and let alone have fun. Within the Black,Latino ,and Carribean house hold their no talking. You go to church and rely on God. Thank God more and more parents nowadays are having their kids to see pyschiatrist if not they are being more open-minded and see things from a child point of view.
Even though I had to agree with your statement. There are also regular parents doing the same. Mothers who have multiple kids and have the oldest watch their own kids. Instead of being a child being a child, they tend to help raise their siblings as their own. It can mess up any child. Then, if the child ends up pregnant. Parent are flabbergasted, and they disown the child . Call them fast or irresponsible. Yet they help raise their own siblings as their own. Some kids don't even have a life. It sad way rounded.
@@KMaybe-tw8wchell most foster families usually make money off the kids usually by filming them and letting pedophilea request pictures and videos of them hell even sell those pedophiles clothes or let the pedophile have their address to send them clothes for the child to wear and that's just the ones who want to act like they aren't selling pictures to pedophiles ...sex trafficking is also common in foster families or families getting foster children to be slaves
that mom doesn't see it, but Parentifaction is a form of abuse. You're stealing away your elder kid's childhood because you can't handle the other younger kids you decided to take in. While your older child is forced to make up for your mistake. This form of abuse does go under the rader a lot because not many people see the harm it does to the parent kid which can rang from depression, high stress levels, lack of identity, stunted socialization outside of family, and even PTSD
No one sees parentifaction as abuse even if "they only help out with the kids" is abuse they didn't pop out the kids or have any thing to do with making the kids they shouldn't watch them for even an hour of their whole life
Occasionally babysitting or helping with chores is one thing, but it is not your child’s job to raise the other kids. A lot of these people making kids raise kids would be ticked if their oldest got pregnant, yet have no problem forcing them to be teen moms to children that aren’t theirs.
This kid’s life was too much for herself. Not because life was unilaterally unacceptable for anyone. She needed a psychiatrist. This kid would be in the home 5 years. They will need parenting the others once she leaves the home. Honestly she was probably self harming cause she wanted attention and parenting for a change. Her caregiving bank empty someone needed to give her some care so she would have some for herself and surplus to give.
I was parentified since I was 6 years old. I took care of my siblings. My mum did laundry and dinner, but lunch, playtime, homework, snacktime, diaper changes, nightmare comfort.... I did all that. And I did it for my siblings, so they felt better. When my parents had their weekly yelling fit, I hid my younger siblings in my room. Now I'm in my mid 20 and still suffer the consequences. Please don't put that much responsability on your kids!
As a black women in our community they say we don’t do therapist like they said we need to change that. Therapy is amazing it does not mean you are crazy it means you are looking for an outlet to not act out or to get your life under control. It’s okay to not be okay.
Yep it means you're responsible enough to take care of your mental health just like we all should with our physical health. It's absolutely a positive thing
I think there’s an internalized racism aspect to it. Society and even the medical industry shows a certain amount bias to minorities. Even when evaluated black children are less likely to be diagnosed. It perpetuates this attitude of you just gotta “tough it out” which just isn’t how any kind of illness works mental or physical.
She thought she could stop it, until the line "did you think shed hurt herself?" 🤣 Also when that "board" hears she violated her daughters right to mental health assistance she'll get laughed at an CPS called
@msladymack1960 Kyla Davis. She's best known for her role in _Nicky, Ricky, Dicky, & Dawn_ as Dawn's best friend. She's was in a few other shows like _American Horror Stories_
The mother is a huge narcissist the reason why she doesn't want her daughter to see any mental health professional is because she would then lose control of her child being a free babysitter
That may be the case. However, I don't think that's what this episode was trying to convey. There's a lot of stigma in minority communities about getting mental health services
I grew up in a rather large family but my parents never forced my older sisters into watching us younger ones or they actually paid them on date nights. But my sisters often asked to watch us for extra money. Now there is a certain amount of can you give me a quick hand with kids. As in grab me a diaper quick, we've had a blow out but I never made my older daughter watch my younger son. There's a fine line between helping family with family and parentifacation. Just like there's a thin line between helping and having a chore list and being made into a slave running all the chores with your kids.
Yeah my abusive uncles and aunts tried to force me to babysit their brats continuously. At one point I said no strongly and they accused me of being selfish. Message to those who force and abuse "If u can't take care of your kids, don't have them". Eff u.
When I was 13, I felt like ending it all! My dad had married his 1st cousin(no babies) 2marraige😂, sent my bro away due to step mom hating him, my dad threading us constantly to send us to an orphanage if we didn’t behave ( he raised 4 of us by himself ) and I was miserable due to hormones and a hateful stepmom who talk lies about us in front of us🤬 so when this evil woman found out I was contemplating this? She told everyone and laughed at me, belittled me, put me on restriction and took away my favorite things😂 thank god my adopted GMA called me over to “ help” and I stayed one week to just breathe, talk, cry and get love❤ she saved my life, helped me thrive and showed me ways to go around the hatred I lived with the next 7 years😊 god bless her! After deal with SA and DV, she was my ray of sunshine… now I try to be that ray in my grandkids and ofc, kids life as well❤
This is for every parent out there it was not your oldest child's choice to have more kids nor are the oldest child's responsibilities. If you can't take care of them, don't bring them to this world. When you do that, you're stealing their childhood from them.
I think doctors should be the one who should report this woman to cps for endangering her child life. Also they should help to remove those adopted kids under her care.
They can and do. I've witnessed many times cps come into the hospital, called by the attending pediatrician, and remove a baby from a mother's care before she's discharged. The sound of a teen mom crying for her baby still gives me goosebumps. Unfortunately, the girl needed classes on how to take care of a baby. She was more preoccupied with the baby daddy and where he was than getting her daughter to latch. Or bonding with her. The doctor, I went to school with her, wasn't a bad person. But she like the majority of us that worked pediatrics, couldn't live with knowing we could have saved a baby and didn't.
My parents had baby after baby - 10 children. I was no.3, so my life was taking care of babies, children, and working in their grocery store. I left at 18 and had very limited contact after that.
Why can I seriously relate to this? As the eldest sister, I was always the third parent so I had to look after my younger siblings. Every time I try to talk to her abt it she always calls my lazy and selfish. My youngest brother is the most spoilt and brattiest but somehow he’s still the golden child. I always feel like I’m not enough and if I ask my parents to go for therapy they’ll complain about how ‘spoilt’ and ‘expensive’. I don’t understand why they make me struggle so much, but I rlly hope that they’ll somehow understand me one day
I feel you😢 I'm 24 now and still have to take care of my 14yo 'baby' sister. I remember I had to bring her with me everytime I went out with my friends bcs my parents were working and there's noone to take care of her at home. Even now when she ask for a younger sibling, I got triggered and angry bcs I know the weight of having more siblings would fall on me. I'm so tired of being called selfish and 'bad' elder sister. Haven't I done enough?😔 they don't have the same expectations for my 19yo brother
Same! If I wanted to do anything for myself growing up, I had to work ten times harder just to get basic or adverage things. My little gold child sibling got everything they needed easily, less expectations, and had less responsibilities so they were allowed to thrive and have less issues. Could never get my family to attend therapy with me, so I ended up doing on my own in college just to figure out what was wrong with me. I jad been convinced that because I wasn't as perfect as the younger sibling then i was always the problem, I'm in my thirties now and still struggle with it! Therapy does help, and the spouse is helping too, but the parents and sibling still blame me for things I don't have any involvement in because they are so used to needed me as the scape goat. 😢
So I SH-ed myself since I was 13 or 14, it wasn’t because of anything outside but nevertheless I was cutting. I told my parents but they made being sent to a mental hospital seem like a 1930s sanatorium with chains and drugs. So I didn’t tell them much after that. I was 18 when I accidentally sliced my arm wide open. It wasn’t a self-delete attempt but I was wanting to cut my arm. They got me help after that and I’m on medication that definitely helps out. Sometimes the cry for help needs to be extremely loud for people to finally listen.
This reminds me of how blessed I was/am to have a mother who got me help when I needed it as a kid. I was so defiant about it too, and she still tried her best to help me ❤️
I’ve been diagnosed with mania bpd(along wit many other shit) my dad refused to allow dem to let me take meds, I hate him sm for it bc it’s gotten sm worse. Da breakdowns the rage and outbursts the thoughts the depression the constant feeling of wanting to die constantly wantin to cry 24/7, n jus so much more. I wish he would jus let me get da help I need.
I'm so sorry. I know it's not the same thing as you but I had undiagnosed depression and PTSD for all of my childhood and most of my teens. Keep going even though you're going through hell. I know it hurts. Just keep doing the best you can until you're able to get the help you need. If you're able to talk to someone in authority - school counselor, or an adult friend -perhaps they can help. It will be worth it. I promise you. Just hold on.
And that is why in South Africa,a child who is 14yrs old does not require consent from parents to consult with a Pyschologist and/or Social Worker and 12 yrs old to consult with a medical doctor,the parents must sign consent forms if a medical procedure is required though
Some extra responsibility for a younger sibling is one thing, it helps install taking care of each other. There is a point where it's too much. Kid needs time to be a kid. They need reward and balance.
PLOT EXPLAINED! (Here's the whole story. If you know how to shorten this then please tell me!) Having been given her first lead surgery, Claire practices what she'll tell her patient as she goes about her morning routine. She and Shaun have a patient complaining of nausea and severe abdominal pain after eating. Shaun sees that it could be their first lead surgery and it seems they're right after viewing their patient, Michelle, who has gallbladder issues. When Neil points out it's not a straightforward case, Shaun proposes an open procedure would give them a clear view of the anatomy. Shaun talks about his latest date with Carly, the two having walked together to a deli while Shaun asked her questions which she answered, though Claire makes comments about them being intense. Claire and Shaun watch Andrews perform the same surgery, where Shaun states that he was questioning his and Carly's compatibility. Claire agrees with his intents, but tells him to slow down a bit. Andrews also comments on Claire's surgery and gives advice on resecting, while Shaun thinks Carly was alright. However, Claire accidently stresses him out over what he didn't do while Andrews quizzes Claire as she views the surgery. Claire offers to talk to Carly while going to see Michelle, only to hear groaning from a man and Morgan stating that "it" needs to be decapitated; Morgan and Park are working on Shamus O'Malley, who has a marlin stuck on his leg while he was fishing. The fish needs to be cut in half, but Shamus has been hunting it for soon long that he refuses despite being warned about bleeding. Since they can't get it out, he demands it come with him to an MRI he needs when it's revealed to still be alive. While able to kill it, Claire meets Michelle's mother Patricia who is unnerved about Michelle being hospitalized when Michelle has chest issues. The doctors find a pulmonary embolism, part of a larger clot in her leg caused by her birth control pill. The surgery is put off a day while Claire notices scars on Michelle's leg, which Michelle claims were from climbing a fence. However, Claire knows they were self-inflicted. Michelle opens up and admits that it falls onto her to take care of the three foster kids her mother took in. But when Claire and Neil try to talk to Patricia, she insists their home life is fine. Claire is practicing before her lead surgery when Shaun comes in, still nervous about him and Carly. Claire states that she is as well for the surgery which is how she's coping, but Shaun questioning about what she should consider for it convinces her to talk to Carly. However, she sees Shamus still refusing to have his fish removed and demand that both he and it fit into the MRI. Morgan also quizzes Claire about the surgery, Claire having been picked for it and so is now the one considered for Chief Resident, when the marlin explodes due to having metal in it. It then comes loose from Shamus, causing bleeding that Park, Morgan and Claire have to deal with. Shamus is taken to an OR where he is OK, while Claire goes to get cleaned up. She then admits to Lim that she's nervous about the surgery, which Lim advises her never to say again as they aren't allowed to speak like that since they get so mistreated while motivating her. Claire works while Breeze talks to her about her surgery, the two even comparing Michelle taking care of her siblings as the same with Claire and Breeze and when Claire lost her own virginity. Patricia refuses to listen to Michelle about her self-harming behavior, so Claire suggests that Michelle talk to a therapist like she did - it helped her realize that it wasn't her fault her mother was sick. Claire then gets her lunch disrupted by Morgan and Park talking about how Shamus isn't getting better, which they debate over it being due to an infection from the marlin or an underlying autoimmune disorder. Park considers putting him on steroids, but Claire points out that it will kill him if he isn't infected. While the two still try to figure it out, Claire admits to Shaun about having not talked to Carly. Patricia is upset and threatens to report her to the medical board, but Lim defends Claire as Michelle may be a danger to herself. Unfortunately, Lim still kicks Claire off the surgery for not informing Patricia. While Claire and Breeze are talking to Breeze's therapist, Dr. Donovan, Claire admits that she's mad at Patricia for not taking care of her daughter when Michelle is brought up. At the same time, being off the surgery makes her admit to feeling relieved to have the weight off of her. Breeze understands because "things that matter are scary." It's how she feels about coming to therapy and talking about her life and their relationship. She worries she can't make up for all the times she let Claire down, but she thinks, "just be like Claire." She even calls Claire her inspiration. Claire soon sees Carly, who is free later on when Claire realizes that the problems Morgan and Park have run into with Shamus are because he has cancer in his leg. Michelle is also vehemently refusing to have the surgery unless Claire does it and even says she doesn't want to get better if they won't grant her request. Neil then goes to bat for Claire with Patricia, and Claire's first surgery is back on because of her commitment to Michelle. Claire talks to Carly, who says that she liked Shaun questioning her due to her distaste for small talk. She also politely tells Claire to not get involved, considering that they don't really know each other. While operating on Michelle, Claire sees more scarring than the imaging suggested on the gallbladder. Neil has her talk through her approach. He also has her do the same thing when Michelle begins hemorrhaging later in the surgery. Both times, it works, and the surgery is a success. Patricia subsequently asks for the psychiatrist's card after. Shamus' leg had to be amputated due to the cancer, but he is happy when he is brought in his fish, mounted, because it saved his life. Claire also sees Carly answering more of Shaun's questions. However, not too long after, she gets a call from her mother's phone. She ends up at the scene of an accident, where Breeze crashed into a telephone pole. She also left Claire a voicemail telling her she had made dinner for them to celebrate and was going to borrow the car to get dessert. All while in the present, Claire stares at Breeze's dead body and eventually sees the champagne bottle Claire was saving; now open, on the floor of the car.
Clearly the mom was afraid of what the daughter would reveal! That's why when folks "don't do therapy" you always have to ask if there's something that scares them even more than their child's possible death! Have courage and act accordingly!
The thing is this happens to almost every female child in every family even if they are an only child they are expected to look after the younger cousins or babysit actual infants for hours and hours sometimes when they are literally just 7 years old hell some families and whole ass cultures will make the younger daughter look after their older brother who is old enough he shouldn't even be in the family house anymore
Take her out of that home it is not her job to take care of her mother’s children period. These women spit out all these children not being married and then dump their responsibility on the oldest child.
I was a victim of emotional incest from the age of 4 to 16. A parent not wanting their child to talk to a psychiatrist is a massive red flag of emotional and psychological abuse such as parentification in the case of this scene and emotional incest in the case of me.
You cannot use your child as a parental figure, they can assist you with love if they want, without abusing it and make it very interesting by appreciating them physically and with gifts to show you really appreciate them and do it with love. And allow them express themselves and always encourage for good. Prophesy positive things to them that will make them be high flyers in life, no matter what. It will surely come to pass
I was a parent to my younger sister when i was just 8yrs old. Now i suffer from severe depression and found it quite hard to even hear a baby cry until I turned 25
This upsets me so much, from now on I'm calling cps on people like this I was traumatized into thinking cps was bad bad bad , by a mother who was bad bad bad
I was parentified at 8 on the weekends when I saw my father, I had to be the loving parent for my brother. I’m thankful I didn’t need to look after him physically and I’m grateful it was only on weekends but looking after a 4 year old child at 8 emotionally was awful. My mental state has never been ok since and it’s the reason I’m not having kids. It’s true that it can change but it will still hurt
I understand what this girl is going through because I’ve had to help take care my special-needs siblings subs I was 10 years old. My mom passed away last year and I was only 17 at the time and I had to put my life on hold because my dad didn’t wanna be a parent and take care of his kids so take care of them. And when my mom was really really sick last year. After she passed away last year, it was super hard. I moved out and I left all of that behind to back to school and get my education because I have not had my education since 5th Grade
My (black) husband is a therapist. He tried for years to get black people involved. Tried group sessions so they'd see how helpful it was. The health insurance in the country we live in, covers therapy so it's not a matter of money. After several group sessions about a year in one neighbourhood, he eventually got one phone call. That person showed up for one appointment and then said he didn't think it would work because 'this shit isn't for people like us' Broke my husbands heart and he eventually gave up and just sticks to people who don't need to be dragged in
Damn, the mother that isn't looking after any of her 4 kids told one of her kids to be more responsible? What mental gymnastics did she pull off for that?
Okay so after the clip ended Dr.brown was taken off of the surgery but then the kid started to not like that Dr.brown was taken off the surgery kid said that only Dr.brown could do it no one else. Then the mom finally agreed and she was put back then before the surgery she took a picture in front of the OR where her name was shown and sent that to her mom. Surgery went well the mom asked for the info of the therapist and then when she was leaving she saw that her mom sent a voice mail and then her mom called but it wasn’t her mom it was someone else she showed up on a road and she saw her mom dead with an empty bottle of champagne next to her. Sorry if it’s long this is also the episode where a guy had a swordfish stuck in his leg. The Good Doctor season 3 episode 3 named Claire
I had friends who had this situations going on. I can't stand a parent who makes their oldest raise the younger kids. Just don't have more kids if you can't be present and raise your kids. That is severe neglect. Not only for the oldest to not be further raised but not raise the rest with a real adult who wasn't forced into the situation. I don't want to say my personal situation but I know a 13 year old child right now who is forced to be responsible for the 3 younger siblings. 5, 6, and 10 and now summer has started and is expected to make them all meals, do chores she has to do things like all laundry/dishes /dust/ clean up toys/ and get them to bed. Amongst all other things that practically means they run the household and gets $10 allowance for this. Parents just work and hardly are involved with anything even on their days off they just sleep and chill in bed not wanting to be bothered. The parents even work on different shifts so there is no reason they can't be involved more. It makes me sick because that eldest 13 year old child is so stressed. I tried to help but was told my help wasn't wanted being very offensive. Seriously thinking about calling dcfs.
Parentified at the age of 12. My little brother was born and as the oldest sibling, it was my responsibility. My mon worked at night and so did her boyfriend. I haf to help my little sister with her homework, make dinner, clean make sure my brother had what he needed, and all this before i could even touch my homework. This was going on for years until i graduated high school and moved in with my dad when i was 17. Im 18 now and because of what my mother did to me mentally and emotionally, it feels weird not to be responsible for someone. Im working on bettering myself and finally having the fun that i shouldve had while i was in high school. I dont speak to my mother willingly because i have no reason to
Lmfao my sister went through being parentified and her therapist had noted it in her(sister's) file and my mom says that my sister lied, that she was never made to look after us or care for us and that she was exaggerating and blaming our mother Thing is, even though we have an older brother(4 yrs older than my sister, 6yrs older than me, 8yrs older than our younger brother) he was never the one to take responsibility for us or watch over us. It was my sister. She walked us to and from the bus stop, helped us with a lot of our homework, made our dinner, sat with us when we cried(usually bc of our mom and dad fighting) and usually did almost all of the cleaning too When my mom got pissed enough at my dad while making dinner she would storm out of the house for hours and say 'fine, you can starve, then' and dad would be like 'fine then' and storm off to their room leaving my sister to finish dinner bc me and our younger brother were too young too and our older brother would hide in his room all the time And my mom got all surprised and angry when my sister moved out into dorms :/
Parents also need to respect that kids deserve to be kids not unpaid labor! I was the only daughter and eldest child - no after school clubs etc it was babysit bros from 10 yrs on clean, cook. Love my family but i chose no kids because i endured all the stress w no benefit. No kids unless You can care for all of them& allow to savor childhood freedoms.
My adoptive parents decided to adopt when their nanny quit. I was 13, the legal age to be left alone and babysit in our state. I even ended up in the nanny's room (it was like a mother in law suite, detached from the house with no bathroom or kitchen, basically a garage with no opening wall)
Needing therapy does not make you crazy. I super hate when people say "im not crazy" or "shes not crazy she doesnt need a therapist!" depression, anxiety, and ptsd are NOT signs of being insane/crazy! As some with all three i am so thankful i was able to get therapy
Also, “crazy” is kind of meaningless? Like I don’t think the thing people are imagining when they use the word crazy exists. They think of it as this all encompassing cloud that blocks out all rhyme or reason to everything and prevents any kind of logic from existing at all. The brain is way more complicated than that. Usually a lot of logic is involved even in mania or psychosis, there’s just a glitch that has skewed perception so it’s hard for other people to understand. A lot of people who are called “crazy” are actually very reasonable and intelligent if you look at things objectively. The only modern official definition of insanity is just criminally insane, which means someone is incapable of properly comprehending the consequences/implications of a crime they’ve committed. It’s a lot more similar to having physical illness than people realize. I mean- we used to consider someone having a seizure as “crazy”.
@annataymond9529 criminally insane is kinda the only real one yeah lol People still demonize schizophrenia too. It's just a glitch in the brain. As long as they have their meds they don't go around doing criminally insane shit. I mean you imagine having a hard time telling what's real. I'd snap one day from it all. I hallucinate audiotorially as it is feom mild psychosis. Imagine seeing scary shit or people that aren't there. But they aren't crazy. They're smart intelligent people going through something very difficult for the rest of their lives
It’s not a teenagers responsibility to take care of someone else’s kids. It’s the parents responsibility or whoever brought the kids to the house. I’m surprised that hasn’t been called.
My mother was the same exact way. My aunt would “watch me” when my mom went to work but a lot of the time she was depressed in bed so I would be on my own the majority of the time. Sometimes when I was at my mom’s house I’d wake up in the middle of the night and she’d be gone for hours and I would be home by myself and I was only 3ish. My sister was born when I was 4 and that still didn’t stop her from leaving all night. I’d be home alone with a newborn and I was terrified. Once when I was 8 and my sister was 4, she got lost in a store and my mom told me that if anything bad happens to her it’s my fault because I’m responsible for her. We ended up finding her and I got punished for not keeping track of her. My brother was born when I was 12 and my mom made me completely responsible for him. I would even have to miss school when he was sick because she’s afraid of throw up. I was also responsible for all the housework(grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning, everything) all my mom did was collect a check and pay the rent. She didn’t even work until my brother was in kindergarten. I kept getting threats from my school to send me to a juvenile detention and having my mom fined for me missing school. But my mom lied told my grandparents that I was getting letters from the school because I was skipping. I ran away at 15 but some family members found me and made me come home and would not listen to what I was telling them was going on. By 18 I had emotionally checked out. I’ve never been able to feel like a kid. Nobody should be burdened with their parent’s problems that young.
Funny enough when I was in highschool I tried to unalive myself. I was sent to the hospital and talked to a psychiatrist there. They contacted my mom and told her everything. When I went home my mom and dad sat me down and said “ I don’t care if you unalive yourself but do it in a place where the school and people won’t catch you. I don’t want to be called to there anymore understand?” I nodded and they ignored me for the whole year. Didn’t talk to me. Didn’t say anything to me. Eventually I think it was around Christmas and everyone got over it and like it never happened.
That's horrifying. I'm so sorry they did that and said that to you. And being ignored is such a horrible, horrible feeling. I hope you're doing okay now.
“We don’t do psychiatrists! *looks at the black doctor* you know that!” “We also don’t do child abuse YET HERE YOU ARE! Parentifying and abusing your biological daughter for 3 state checks!”
I am (21 years old) the oldest of 18 grandchildren and my family thought it was my job to take care of ALL the children... My weekdays and weekends consisted of babysitting, laundry, cokking, cleaning, etc ..... Got to the point my grades starting slipping. Well fast forward to now, everyone around me wonder why I dont want kids and why I do not have a boyfriend.... If only people truly understood how much "The Oldest" has to endure. I have now made a promise to myself to never have kids because of what I went thru... I am finally living MY life for ME!!! Thanks for listening ❤
My mom didn’t want me speaking with a psychiatrist either. She wanted someone to diagnose me as bipolar so she had a reason to feel I was “tainted”. It was her that tainted me. Her narcissistic parenting. She still to this day thinks I’m crazy when I go against her wishes. She thinks she owns me. Some parents are horrible in that manner. You don’t own your children, you assist them in becoming productive citizens and individuals ❤
My mother used to beat the shit out of me when she had a bad day. There was a time when I was 9 or 10 and I had this dandruff that was so bad it was in my eyebrows and eyelashes. She took me to the doctor and I was fine physically and he said as we were leaving. Maybe she's stressed about something and my mother said thats stupid children don't have stress. To my mother I was a thing tied to her neck and not nearly as useful as a refridgerator.
Congratulations you were abused. Forcing your child to raise your other children means you're a lazy parent and don't deserve kids. You're thr parent not the oldest kid.
I remember having a psychotic break in high school because I was in the same boat and my guidance counselor recommending I go to the hospital. My mom went there against me and the school wishes to talk me out of being sent to a psych ward. Even though I was extremely suicidal & the doctors diagnosed me with PTSD. she was so insistent that she would change her ways and hear me out but the moment she took me home she proceeded to blame everything on me and it completely broke down, which is why I don’t have a relationship with her anymore.
The girl was the mums biological kid then the mum adopted 2-3 other kids and bio kid became their mum taking care of them and all that because actual mum was to busy the girl them started to self harm and the doctor got the therapist to talk to her then later on doctor got kicked off the case until bio kid said she wouldn’t do the surgery without the doctor then after the surgery mum asked the doctor for the therapists card and the girl got the help she needed this is from the good doctor and I believe it’s in season 2 or 3
I love Tracie and the different roles she plays. This moment she's a mother against physiatrists while the character I commonly see her as is very loving and wanting yo protect her children. Glad to see the adoptive children aspect is still there for her lol.
I was 16 when I went to live with my older sister to complete my junior year. She had three kids, my nephew & nieces. I was expected to not only babysit them, but cook, clean & assist them with homework. I was also expected to fulfill my academic studies + university classes. It was very challenging. But this prepared me for life. I was VERY responsible for my age. I embraced it & had a very good attitude towards contributing with assisting my sister.
This is how my big sister was forced to take care of all of the younger siblings growing up 😢 she had to figure out what we needed at the grocery store on a tiny budget so she could make meals for the week. Walking so far to the supermarket and cooking for everyone mom, dad, herself and 3 kids (one of which was an older brother). She cooked and cleaned like a slave and my stay at home mom would beat her down to the ground if a hair was out of place. She was only in highschool. She went on to become a psychiatrist because of the mental issues our abusive mother had
I’m watching this new show on Netflix and the girl in the show looks like her twin. LIKE EXACTLY LIKE HER. The show is a ten year old reality thingy thing.
The daughter is the patient and agreed to having the therapist come by before the surgery. Even though she’s a minor, there wouldn’t be much mom could do, unless the patient had also said no, mom is SOL!
Blessed are kids who are not used by parents to take care of younger ones I'm grateful no war where I could be forced to take care of my kid sibling It requires parenting which is a skill and choice Some say it's hateful what I say but I did not come into this world by choice...they had children by choice
I grew up in a house like this but thankfully was the only child. Mental health neglect is a way of abusing your children to keep control over them. Refusing to let a child speak to counselors or psychiatrists is a way of controlling your childs thoughts and views so they dont become aware of the neglect or environment theyre in. It is abuse, and UT should always be a CPS case if a parent avidly refuses mental services or counseling for their child.
The show is called the good doctor and it's season 3 episode 3, I know it says a fisherman is injured, but it's really in the middle of it, you find the video trust me, it's there sorry for the person I called a liar
I was late diagnosed for many things bc my birthgiver REFUSED to let me get therapy because "they would only tell her she was a bad mom and doing things wrong". Even after a court case where my r word-ist was convicted of his crimes, in a room full of professionals... they asked me when i would like to start therapy-- her response was "she wont need it" and i looked up to see EVERY single professional with their jaws dropped to the floor. I was a minor, they couldnt do anything. At 32, i struggle every day to heal from this and MUCH more... if only i got the help sooner...
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If mom is saying "you know we don't talk to psychiatrists " when her kid is in the hospital, there is something seriously wrong there.
Christ loves you beyond comprehension, turn to him
@@sam-md2soeven christ can’t help always, and not everyone’s religious, but i do agree, he can help you through tough times ❤
I didn’t mean to start a war 💀
I'm not trying to disrespect or insult you but I don't think you're culturally informed
I think in about 90% of cultures
What would be called abuse or neglect in the west is completely normal
Yes we feel like shit, yes it sucks but we can't change cultural
Having a diagnosis is like a death sentence. You're called crazy never trusted looked down on made fun of
locked in hospitals or locked out
I have never even seen a psychiatrist or therapist in real life
@@Snailmashchrist helps always, you just have to trust and pray
@@lucidfangirl1030 uh huh
Of course mom doesn't want daughter talking to someone; she doesn't want to be held accountable for her selfishness and neglect.
No it is a cultural issue that is a problem.
@sataniclu it's a bs culture issue because of the issues mention above
It is a society issue because once someone finds out then you label as crazy.
My mom got over it she will too @@sataniclu
@@satanicluyeah, a "cultural" issue. That's what my neighbors told the CPS agents that showed up two weeks before their son died due to medical neglect. Thankfully the other little boy was taken from that home in the blink of an eye. Both parents charged and sitting in state prison. BS excuse for child abuse and neglect. Never a good reason to throw your health to the curb, especially the health of your children.
If i was the mom, i would be thankful that my child is getting the thing that she honestly needs.
Yeah but some people only know their idea of their children instead of knowing them
@@voodoovixen666 okay, with respect, that is honestly what I meant, the parent does know what she is putting her daughter through so seeing a doctor that can help her is honestly what she needs
But that would admit to there being a serious mental issue to begin with.
But then that mean she has to spend a couple hours *gasp* watching her own foster kids! /s
if you were the mom that would require you to be out your mind crazy
Seeing a psychiatrist doesn’t mean you are getting crazy. Their role is to help you cope with the situation you are in.
That’s true
That's what people think, the reality, I learned first hand and the hard way, psychiatrist are there to prescribe and manage drugs. This was 30+ years ago, I sincerely hope that has changed. Therapists help patients through issues by talking.
@@WarriorNana4Chgfrom my experience, a psychiatrist evaluates the patient, gives them a diagnosis and prescribes medicine. a therapist is later assigned to help slowly deal with whatever they're diagnosed with
@@WarriorNana4Chg You never HAVE to take anything prescribed to you, and yoh can always go get a second opinion.
One bad psychiatrist doesn't mean psychiatry is bad.
Also this line of thinking only works for the US, everywhere else in the world they don't get bonuses for prescribing specific drugs.
That's what we like to call monoplized control of a market
The mom did not care about her daughter’s mental health. She was just worried her abuse of her daughter would be exposed when she talked with a psychiatrist.
I was actually parentified, at 12, until I was 20. i was abused and manipulated. I am now 26, but still treat my mom and her pos husband with a cordial respect for the sake of my siblings who were the children I took care of at birth until they were 6 and 7 years old. Believe me when I say, treating your child like a parental figure for other children IS abuse, and y'all should be ashamed of yourselves.
My sister's mom has done the same to her ever since she was about 14 years old and she is 16 now. Recently she had a breakdown because she can never catch a break her mom barely wants her to go over our dad's house.
YES PLEASE SAY IT AGAIN. They gaslight and force you to feel responsible. Make you think that if you say no then you must not love your siblings or something smh🙁
Grew up with similar a experience me and my older sister were parentified. Other than her having a job and supporting us financially she didn't really support us in any other way. My older sister managed to go back to being a kid and has somehow forgiven my mom while I still can't seem to do that. I also have no familial bond to my family which i thought was because there was something wrong with me but learned fairly recently that it was probably due to the neglect, abuse (verbal,mental, emotional) and the trauma from my childhood/teenage years. I'm now an adult who isn't quite functional and struggle really hard to get out of bed(i have severe depression)
Literally every single person in the world was; not long ago.
Our aunts raised our moms. What do you think happened when women had 6-16 babies?
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Making your child take care of 3 kids so you can collect a check from the state is just selfish, abusive behavior!! Kids should not be responsible for taking care of other children their parents choose to have or bring into their home. If you don’t have the time to take care of them, don’t have them, or pay for childcare, because robbing another child of their childhood for your selfish choices should be a crime.
Exactly !!!💯
That how my childhood was. Raising some of my siblings. Being the “second mom.” Putting em to bed, caring for em through the night. All until I was 23 years old. Now my family has ripped those lil ones away for me out of control. A lot of pain and narcissistic people to deal with.
Unfortunately it’s really a shame how people actually do adopt kids for just extra income and it’s so sad how the responsibility be put on the oldest child also when the parents have babies and don’t get to enjoy their own life 😡
I agree 😢. Ridiculous. Girl can't enjoy her childhood 😢
Y’all,if your wondering where the show is it’s actually in Disney you can find it by saying “the good doctor”
Forget the darn psychiatrist for now. Call CPS!
Frankly, the psychiatrist is likely to be more helpful than CPS most of the time.
@@mlapointej 👌but the girl shouldn’t be doing that much.
@@mlapointej CPS is more about the other kids than about her - lightening her physical load and ensuring the mother is seen as unfit even if they might not do much for the real daughter
Psychiatrist might be more helpful for the daughter, but as long as the strain is there it'll always hang over her head
@@jbreezy101In this case a psychiatrist should be the first one to talk to you
@@jbreezy101CPS is not going to help the daughter with her situation they will only make things worse. They need to be a step 2 behind a professional for the daughter herself first. The mother needs help as well or a real good reality check.
Of course her daughter isn’t crazy. Her daughter is being emotionally abused. THATS why they “don’t speak to psychiatrists”
Yup
Exactly‼️
It's actually about how black parents don't believe in mental health too. That's what was meant by the "we"
She said “we don’t do psychiatrists” to the black girl because black people are much less likely to go seek mental health care. That’s something that’s only STARTED to be embraced. Many black people just go to their pastor lol
Yup 💯👏🏼 Smh
"Things arent always going to go your way" is a favorite gambit of people used to getting their way.
Yup
For real. My parents used that all the damn time when I called out things that were unfair.
What is the name of the movie/series?
My mom likes to say that. She's a psychologist. I have no damn clue what I do so wrong to make her think I need to be told that, but alas. I guess she is worried
@@maryam2501 The Good Doctor is the series
A 14-year-old, finding out her mother was expecting a fifth child, said, oh, no... you didn't ask me about this. The 14-year old was 'babysitting' the other three younger sisters 24/7 while the military officer father and entertainment-oriented mother were involved with their own lives. The eldest girl left the house by getting married when she was 17, and didn't have children of her own for over 10 years.
Yep. At 19, I married the first guy that asked, and didn't want kids til I was 33 yrs. old. By then I'd had a tubal ligation - I was that serious about not having kids. Same situation: It was just SO handy to have a built-in babysitter for 4 siblings 5 and under. BTW, I changed my mind, had 2 kids, and now have grands too.
@@rickraber1249 Nice story but you don’t get a tubal ligation just because you want one You have to be over the age of 24 and have at least two kids y’all be saying anything for the like on the Internet
@@Utriedit215 Maybe where you live. Different countries and even different states within the same country have different rules and requirements.
@@Utriedit215 Some doctors actually respect women's choices.
@@Utriedit215 This is, of course, Mrs. Rick, and since it was my tubal ligation, I'm pretty sure I'm right. You are correct to be sceptical however, as it took calls to 4 or 5 OB's before I found one willing to do the procedure on a child-free 25 yr. old. Also this was back in the 70's. And the other OB's who refused were indeed correct: I did live to regret it, and I did change my mind. As a side note, before you full on accuse someone of lying, perhaps you could voice your doubts as a question? It would be a little more respectful.
Her turning to the black nurse and saying “We don’t do psychiatrists, you know that” is a harrowing but real reality for black people and minorities in general. Mental health and therapy are still seen as very much “white person” things even though mental health disorders and struggles can affect anyone. If more black and POC people started talking to psychiatrists and de-stigmatizing mental health, I’m willing to bet a lot of communities and generational traumas would start to be healed as well as seeing a lowering of s*icide rates.
Not a nurse. Her name is Doctor Brown.
That wasn't the point of the comment 😂 @@LoaniReaWilliams
What's your source that backs up your claim.
It seems out of place to bring up race concerning a mental health issue.
It most likely can be an issue with culture and the people you're surrounded with. In this case, the mother doesn't want to take accountability for forcing her daughter to take care of the other children. It could explain why she would want her daughter to seek counseling. Otherwise, she would face some repercussions.
That's just my take. Peace ✌🏻
She’s a Doctor, not a nurse
@@JayDuron-in1hj It is well documented and researched that the Black community has a mistrust for the health/mental health community for decades if not centuries. I won't go into too many specific examples because it's is on the internet but here's a few data points.
"One barrier to treatment for African Americans may be an understandable mistrust in the medical and mental health systems. One such example is the tuskgee syphilis experiment."
Basically government infected a black community with syphilis as an experiment by lying and saying it was a vaccination.
25% of Black people seek mental health treatment when needed, compared to 40% of white people. Assuming we have the insurance to cover it. And if we do have it then some may end up in the next predicament that is:
"In one study, physicians working with Black patients were 33% less likely to engage in patient-centered communications than they were with white patients."
So race place a role on whether we as a minority group goes to get help, recieve or will be given the same help or treatment as our white counterparts. You're half way correct that the mother probably doesn't want to be held accountable for her actions but also, that she probably doesn't trust the health community to provide basic mental care for her child.
Good Doctor
S3 E3 “claire”
I saw the mum and thought it’s 911… 😅
Thank you
@@juliegillam56 of course!
Thanks 😊
Thank you❤
This is very relatable. Some parents don't ask or even check to see how a child feels about adding other kids within the home. She literally is being mom to other children and let alone have fun. Within the Black,Latino ,and Carribean house hold their no talking. You go to church and rely on God. Thank God more and more parents nowadays are having their kids to see pyschiatrist if not they are being more open-minded and see things from a child point of view.
They get money for more kids, they want money ... they just want money. Most of these "families" are abusive and bogus.
Even though I had to agree with your statement. There are also regular parents doing the same. Mothers who have multiple kids and have the oldest watch their own kids. Instead of being a child being a child, they tend to help raise their siblings as their own. It can mess up any child. Then, if the child ends up pregnant. Parent are flabbergasted, and they disown the child . Call them fast or irresponsible. Yet they help raise their own siblings as their own. Some kids don't even have a life. It sad way rounded.
My folks sat my sister and I down and had a talk with us seeking our approval before adopting two hard to place kids.
This is so true
@@KMaybe-tw8wchell most foster families usually make money off the kids usually by filming them and letting pedophilea request pictures and videos of them hell even sell those pedophiles clothes or let the pedophile have their address to send them clothes for the child to wear and that's just the ones who want to act like they aren't selling pictures to pedophiles ...sex trafficking is also common in foster families or families getting foster children to be slaves
that mom doesn't see it, but Parentifaction is a form of abuse. You're stealing away your elder kid's childhood because you can't handle the other younger kids you decided to take in. While your older child is forced to make up for your mistake. This form of abuse does go under the rader a lot because not many people see the harm it does to the parent kid which can rang from depression, high stress levels, lack of identity, stunted socialization outside of family, and even PTSD
No one sees parentifaction as abuse even if "they only help out with the kids" is abuse they didn't pop out the kids or have any thing to do with making the kids they shouldn't watch them for even an hour of their whole life
That’s true
@@goreandhoodies3626 It is, in fact, abuse.
Occasionally babysitting or helping with chores is one thing, but it is not your child’s job to raise the other kids. A lot of these people making kids raise kids would be ticked if their oldest got pregnant, yet have no problem forcing them to be teen moms to children that aren’t theirs.
This kid’s life was too much for herself. Not because life was unilaterally unacceptable for anyone. She needed a psychiatrist. This kid would be in the home 5 years. They will need parenting the others once she leaves the home. Honestly she was probably self harming cause she wanted attention and parenting for a change. Her caregiving bank empty someone needed to give her some care so she would have some for herself and surplus to give.
I was parentified since I was 6 years old. I took care of my siblings. My mum did laundry and dinner, but lunch, playtime, homework, snacktime, diaper changes, nightmare comfort.... I did all that. And I did it for my siblings, so they felt better. When my parents had their weekly yelling fit, I hid my younger siblings in my room. Now I'm in my mid 20 and still suffer the consequences.
Please don't put that much responsability on your kids!
Right! It is unfair
Bro if a doctor gave my kid “free” therapy I’d hug them and thank them.
As a black women in our community they say we don’t do therapist like they said we need to change that. Therapy is amazing it does not mean you are crazy it means you are looking for an outlet to not act out or to get your life under control. It’s okay to not be okay.
Yep it means you're responsible enough to take care of your mental health just like we all should with our physical health.
It's absolutely a positive thing
I think there’s an internalized racism aspect to it. Society and even the medical industry shows a certain amount bias to minorities. Even when evaluated black children are less likely to be diagnosed. It perpetuates this attitude of you just gotta “tough it out” which just isn’t how any kind of illness works mental or physical.
She thought she could stop it, until the line "did you think shed hurt herself?" 🤣 Also when that "board" hears she violated her daughters right to mental health assistance she'll get laughed at an CPS called
Off topic but that child actress is absolutely incredible. I’ve seen her in multiple things and she kills it every time
Who is the actress?
I don't remember her name but she was in the Nickelodeon show Nicky Ricky dicky and dawn@@msladymack1960
@@msladymack1960 Kyla Simmons
@msladymack1960 Kyla Davis. She's best known for her role in _Nicky, Ricky, Dicky, & Dawn_ as Dawn's best friend. She's was in a few other shows like _American Horror Stories_
The mother is a huge narcissist the reason why she doesn't want her daughter to see any mental health professional is because she would then lose control of her child being a free babysitter
That may be the case. However, I don't think that's what this episode was trying to convey. There's a lot of stigma in minority communities about getting mental health services
@@jezs8199 PSA. Written into every American tv show.
The mother doesn't care if the mother cant take care of all the kids and make her daughter take care of them she shouldn't have this many kids
I grew up in a rather large family but my parents never forced my older sisters into watching us younger ones or they actually paid them on date nights.
But my sisters often asked to watch us for extra money.
Now there is a certain amount of can you give me a quick hand with kids. As in grab me a diaper quick, we've had a blow out but I never made my older daughter watch my younger son.
There's a fine line between helping family with family and parentifacation.
Just like there's a thin line between helping and having a chore list and being made into a slave running all the chores with your kids.
@@Emeraldwitch30 yea
@@Emeraldwitch30making them babysit is still horrible, hire a baby sitter no child should act like a parent at any point
@@goreandhoodies3626 baby sitting and parenting is two whole different thing
@@goreandhoodies3626 I don’t see how paying your 16 year old to babysit for a couple hours is the same as making them be the parent.
Yeah my abusive uncles and aunts tried to force me to babysit their brats continuously. At one point I said no strongly and they accused me of being selfish. Message to those who force and abuse "If u can't take care of your kids, don't have them". Eff u.
When I was 13, I felt like ending it all! My dad had married his 1st cousin(no babies) 2marraige😂, sent my bro away due to step mom hating him, my dad threading us constantly to send us to an orphanage if we didn’t behave ( he raised 4 of us by himself ) and I was miserable due to hormones and a hateful stepmom who talk lies about us in front of us🤬 so when this evil woman found out I was contemplating this? She told everyone and laughed at me, belittled me, put me on restriction and took away my favorite things😂 thank god my adopted GMA called me over to “ help” and I stayed one week to just breathe, talk, cry and get love❤ she saved my life, helped me thrive and showed me ways to go around the hatred I lived with the next 7 years😊 god bless her! After deal with SA and DV, she was my ray of sunshine… now I try to be that ray in my grandkids and ofc, kids life as well❤
Married his cousin?🤢🤢🤮
And also so glad your gma saved you
This is for every parent out there it was not your oldest child's choice to have more kids nor are the oldest child's responsibilities. If you can't take care of them, don't bring them to this world. When you do that, you're stealing their childhood from them.
I think doctors should be the one who should report this woman to cps for endangering her child life. Also they should help to remove those adopted kids under her care.
I think in real life they have to buy they also have to get a professional if they think the child will attempt again
They can and do. I've witnessed many times cps come into the hospital, called by the attending pediatrician, and remove a baby from a mother's care before she's discharged. The sound of a teen mom crying for her baby still gives me goosebumps. Unfortunately, the girl needed classes on how to take care of a baby. She was more preoccupied with the baby daddy and where he was than getting her daughter to latch. Or bonding with her. The doctor, I went to school with her, wasn't a bad person. But she like the majority of us that worked pediatrics, couldn't live with knowing we could have saved a baby and didn't.
My parents had baby after baby - 10 children. I was no.3, so my life was taking care of babies, children, and working in their grocery store. I left at 18 and had very limited contact after that.
I know only one other person with your last name. 🙂
That mother is gonna wonder why shes in a nursing home amd none of her kids talk to her anymore
Nuh uh she can eat the streets 💀
Why can I seriously relate to this? As the eldest sister, I was always the third parent so I had to look after my younger siblings. Every time I try to talk to her abt it she always calls my lazy and selfish. My youngest brother is the most spoilt and brattiest but somehow he’s still the golden child. I always feel like I’m not enough and if I ask my parents to go for therapy they’ll complain about how ‘spoilt’ and ‘expensive’. I don’t understand why they make me struggle so much, but I rlly hope that they’ll somehow understand me one day
Call CPS, make someone listen.
I feel you😢 I'm 24 now and still have to take care of my 14yo 'baby' sister. I remember I had to bring her with me everytime I went out with my friends bcs my parents were working and there's noone to take care of her at home. Even now when she ask for a younger sibling, I got triggered and angry bcs I know the weight of having more siblings would fall on me. I'm so tired of being called selfish and 'bad' elder sister. Haven't I done enough?😔 they don't have the same expectations for my 19yo brother
Same! If I wanted to do anything for myself growing up, I had to work ten times harder just to get basic or adverage things. My little gold child sibling got everything they needed easily, less expectations, and had less responsibilities so they were allowed to thrive and have less issues.
Could never get my family to attend therapy with me, so I ended up doing on my own in college just to figure out what was wrong with me. I jad been convinced that because I wasn't as perfect as the younger sibling then i was always the problem, I'm in my thirties now and still struggle with it! Therapy does help, and the spouse is helping too, but the parents and sibling still blame me for things I don't have any involvement in because they are so used to needed me as the scape goat. 😢
They will understand continue to pray about it 💕. God will provide !
So I SH-ed myself since I was 13 or 14, it wasn’t because of anything outside but nevertheless I was cutting. I told my parents but they made being sent to a mental hospital seem like a 1930s sanatorium with chains and drugs. So I didn’t tell them much after that. I was 18 when I accidentally sliced my arm wide open. It wasn’t a self-delete attempt but I was wanting to cut my arm. They got me help after that and I’m on medication that definitely helps out. Sometimes the cry for help needs to be extremely loud for people to finally listen.
The mom is Karen from 9-1-1! The iconic Tracie Thoms. I love Hen and Karen’s relationship on that show. ❤
This reminds me of how blessed I was/am to have a mother who got me help when I needed it as a kid. I was so defiant about it too, and she still tried her best to help me ❤️
I’ve been diagnosed with mania bpd(along wit many other shit) my dad refused to allow dem to let me take meds, I hate him sm for it bc it’s gotten sm worse. Da breakdowns the rage and outbursts the thoughts the depression the constant feeling of wanting to die constantly wantin to cry 24/7, n jus so much more. I wish he would jus let me get da help I need.
Thats tragic.
How old are you ?
I'm so sorry. I know it's not the same thing as you but I had undiagnosed depression and PTSD for all of my childhood and most of my teens. Keep going even though you're going through hell. I know it hurts. Just keep doing the best you can until you're able to get the help you need. If you're able to talk to someone in authority - school counselor, or an adult friend -perhaps they can help. It will be worth it. I promise you. Just hold on.
I'm sorry about that. Sorry, there's hope.
And that is why in South Africa,a child who is 14yrs old does not require consent from parents to consult with a Pyschologist and/or Social Worker and 12 yrs old to consult with a medical doctor,the parents must sign consent forms if a medical procedure is required though
The girl didn’t really ask to speak to. But it is self harm. Kinda necessary and no choice really.
Some extra responsibility for a younger sibling is one thing, it helps install taking care of each other. There is a point where it's too much. Kid needs time to be a kid. They need reward and balance.
It’s not their responsibility. You want kids you raise them.
@@stopreplyingtomeWell, it means that a good sibling would help their other siblings, but doing full rearing of them is obviously bad.
@@juanmanuelmoramontes3883they shouldn't help either they aren't the parent
True
"I'm gonna report you to the medical board."
"I'm gonna report you to CPS."
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(Here's the whole story. If you know how to shorten this then please tell me!)
Having been given her first lead surgery, Claire practices what she'll tell her patient as she goes about her morning routine. She and Shaun have a patient complaining of nausea and severe abdominal pain after eating. Shaun sees that it could be their first lead surgery and it seems they're right after viewing their patient, Michelle, who has gallbladder issues. When Neil points out it's not a straightforward case, Shaun proposes an open procedure would give them a clear view of the anatomy.
Shaun talks about his latest date with Carly, the two having walked together to a deli while Shaun asked her questions which she answered, though Claire makes comments about them being intense. Claire and Shaun watch Andrews perform the same surgery, where Shaun states that he was questioning his and Carly's compatibility. Claire agrees with his intents, but tells him to slow down a bit. Andrews also comments on Claire's surgery and gives advice on resecting, while Shaun thinks Carly was alright. However, Claire accidently stresses him out over what he didn't do while Andrews quizzes Claire as she views the surgery.
Claire offers to talk to Carly while going to see Michelle, only to hear groaning from a man and Morgan stating that "it" needs to be decapitated; Morgan and Park are working on Shamus O'Malley, who has a marlin stuck on his leg while he was fishing. The fish needs to be cut in half, but Shamus has been hunting it for soon long that he refuses despite being warned about bleeding. Since they can't get it out, he demands it come with him to an MRI he needs when it's revealed to still be alive. While able to kill it, Claire meets Michelle's mother Patricia who is unnerved about Michelle being hospitalized when Michelle has chest issues.
The doctors find a pulmonary embolism, part of a larger clot in her leg caused by her birth control pill. The surgery is put off a day while Claire notices scars on Michelle's leg, which Michelle claims were from climbing a fence. However, Claire knows they were self-inflicted. Michelle opens up and admits that it falls onto her to take care of the three foster kids her mother took in. But when Claire and Neil try to talk to Patricia, she insists their home life is fine.
Claire is practicing before her lead surgery when Shaun comes in, still nervous about him and Carly. Claire states that she is as well for the surgery which is how she's coping, but Shaun questioning about what she should consider for it convinces her to talk to Carly. However, she sees Shamus still refusing to have his fish removed and demand that both he and it fit into the MRI. Morgan also quizzes Claire about the surgery, Claire having been picked for it and so is now the one considered for Chief Resident, when the marlin explodes due to having metal in it. It then comes loose from Shamus, causing bleeding that Park, Morgan and Claire have to deal with.
Shamus is taken to an OR where he is OK, while Claire goes to get cleaned up. She then admits to Lim that she's nervous about the surgery, which Lim advises her never to say again as they aren't allowed to speak like that since they get so mistreated while motivating her. Claire works while Breeze talks to her about her surgery, the two even comparing Michelle taking care of her siblings as the same with Claire and Breeze and when Claire lost her own virginity.
Patricia refuses to listen to Michelle about her self-harming behavior, so Claire suggests that Michelle talk to a therapist like she did - it helped her realize that it wasn't her fault her mother was sick. Claire then gets her lunch disrupted by Morgan and Park talking about how Shamus isn't getting better, which they debate over it being due to an infection from the marlin or an underlying autoimmune disorder. Park considers putting him on steroids, but Claire points out that it will kill him if he isn't infected. While the two still try to figure it out, Claire admits to Shaun about having not talked to Carly.
Patricia is upset and threatens to report her to the medical board, but Lim defends Claire as Michelle may be a danger to herself. Unfortunately, Lim still kicks Claire off the surgery for not informing Patricia. While Claire and Breeze are talking to Breeze's therapist, Dr. Donovan, Claire admits that she's mad at Patricia for not taking care of her daughter when Michelle is brought up. At the same time, being off the surgery makes her admit to feeling relieved to have the weight off of her. Breeze understands because "things that matter are scary." It's how she feels about coming to therapy and talking about her life and their relationship. She worries she can't make up for all the times she let Claire down, but she thinks, "just be like Claire." She even calls Claire her inspiration.
Claire soon sees Carly, who is free later on when Claire realizes that the problems Morgan and Park have run into with Shamus are because he has cancer in his leg. Michelle is also vehemently refusing to have the surgery unless Claire does it and even says she doesn't want to get better if they won't grant her request. Neil then goes to bat for Claire with Patricia, and Claire's first surgery is back on because of her commitment to Michelle.
Claire talks to Carly, who says that she liked Shaun questioning her due to her distaste for small talk. She also politely tells Claire to not get involved, considering that they don't really know each other. While operating on Michelle, Claire sees more scarring than the imaging suggested on the gallbladder. Neil has her talk through her approach. He also has her do the same thing when Michelle begins hemorrhaging later in the surgery. Both times, it works, and the surgery is a success. Patricia subsequently asks for the psychiatrist's card after.
Shamus' leg had to be amputated due to the cancer, but he is happy when he is brought in his fish, mounted, because it saved his life. Claire also sees Carly answering more of Shaun's questions. However, not too long after, she gets a call from her mother's phone. She ends up at the scene of an accident, where Breeze crashed into a telephone pole. She also left Claire a voicemail telling her she had made dinner for them to celebrate and was going to borrow the car to get dessert. All while in the present, Claire stares at Breeze's dead body and eventually sees the champagne bottle Claire was saving; now open, on the floor of the car.
Wow thanks
@@disregard425 no problem dude!
Clearly the mom was afraid of what the daughter would reveal! That's why when folks "don't do therapy" you always have to ask if there's something that scares them even more than their child's possible death! Have courage and act accordingly!
We don't talk to psychiatrists. the words of my mom. finslly got the help I needed when i had a psychotic break at 50 years old.
Pardon my lack of spell check and missed letters. at my age my hands shake, and I don't check what I write all the time.
I’m a counselor and this is not unusual at all. The parentified child is carrying all the responsibility.
The thing is this happens to almost every female child in every family even if they are an only child they are expected to look after the younger cousins or babysit actual infants for hours and hours sometimes when they are literally just 7 years old hell some families and whole ass cultures will make the younger daughter look after their older brother who is old enough he shouldn't even be in the family house anymore
Take her out of that home it is not her job to take care of her mother’s children period. These women spit out all these children not being married and then dump their responsibility on the oldest child.
I was a victim of emotional incest from the age of 4 to 16. A parent not wanting their child to talk to a psychiatrist is a massive red flag of emotional and psychological abuse such as parentification in the case of this scene and emotional incest in the case of me.
You cannot use your child as a parental figure, they can assist you with love if they want, without abusing it and make it very interesting by appreciating them physically and with gifts to show you really appreciate them and do it with love. And allow them express themselves and always encourage for good. Prophesy positive things to them that will make them be high flyers in life, no matter what. It will surely come to pass
Real life scenarios smh it’s sad if you got better parents I hope you all appreciate them 💚
I was a parent to my younger sister when i was just 8yrs old. Now i suffer from severe depression and found it quite hard to even hear a baby cry until I turned 25
This upsets me so much, from now on I'm calling cps on people like this
I was traumatized into thinking cps was bad bad bad , by a mother who was bad bad bad
I was parentified at 8 on the weekends when I saw my father, I had to be the loving parent for my brother. I’m thankful I didn’t need to look after him physically and I’m grateful it was only on weekends but looking after a 4 year old child at 8 emotionally was awful. My mental state has never been ok since and it’s the reason I’m not having kids. It’s true that it can change but it will still hurt
I understand what this girl is going through because I’ve had to help take care my special-needs siblings subs I was 10 years old. My mom passed away last year and I was only 17 at the time and I had to put my life on hold because my dad didn’t wanna be a parent and take care of his kids so take care of them. And when my mom was really really sick last year. After she passed away last year, it was super hard. I moved out and I left all of that behind to back to school and get my education because I have not had my education since 5th Grade
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you're doing okay now.
My (black) husband is a therapist. He tried for years to get black people involved. Tried group sessions so they'd see how helpful it was.
The health insurance in the country we live in, covers therapy so it's not a matter of money.
After several group sessions about a year in one neighbourhood, he eventually got one phone call.
That person showed up for one appointment and then said he didn't think it would work because 'this shit isn't for people like us'
Broke my husbands heart and he eventually gave up and just sticks to people who don't need to be dragged in
Damn, the mother that isn't looking after any of her 4 kids told one of her kids to be more responsible? What mental gymnastics did she pull off for that?
She would do whatever it takes to have a permanent babysitter even if it meant that her child suffers.
Not her bio child which is why she does it so freely and without care or thought.
Damn where’s my paragraph guy
That’s what I’m thinking lmao
Okay so after the clip ended
Dr.brown was taken off of the surgery but then the kid started to not like that Dr.brown was taken off the surgery kid said that only Dr.brown could do it no one else.
Then the mom finally agreed and she was put back then before the surgery she took a picture in front of the OR where her name was shown and sent that to her mom.
Surgery went well the mom asked for the info of the therapist and then when she was leaving she saw that her mom sent a voice mail and then her mom called but it wasn’t her mom it was someone else she showed up on a road and she saw her mom dead with an empty bottle of champagne next to her.
Sorry if it’s long this is also the episode where a guy had a swordfish stuck in his leg. The Good Doctor season 3 episode 3 named Claire
@SofSof25 now I have more questions. How'd she die? Why was she just on the side of the road?
@@Momokay96 no she was drinking and drove into a pole sorry I wanted to make it short without any unnecessarily info
Would be helpful to have the name and episode of the show…
The Good Doctor, no idea the episode
S 3 E 3
One would be blessed to have such caring doctors
I had friends who had this situations going on. I can't stand a parent who makes their oldest raise the younger kids. Just don't have more kids if you can't be present and raise your kids. That is severe neglect. Not only for the oldest to not be further raised but not raise the rest with a real adult who wasn't forced into the situation. I don't want to say my personal situation but I know a 13 year old child right now who is forced to be responsible for the 3 younger siblings. 5, 6, and 10 and now summer has started and is expected to make them all meals, do chores she has to do things like all laundry/dishes /dust/ clean up toys/ and get them to bed. Amongst all other things that practically means they run the household and gets $10 allowance for this. Parents just work and hardly are involved with anything even on their days off they just sleep and chill in bed not wanting to be bothered. The parents even work on different shifts so there is no reason they can't be involved more. It makes me sick because that eldest 13 year old child is so stressed. I tried to help but was told my help wasn't wanted being very offensive. Seriously thinking about calling dcfs.
Do it..... .call the cops first for a welfare check just so someone outside the immediate circle can put eyes on the situation.
Parentified at the age of 12. My little brother was born and as the oldest sibling, it was my responsibility. My mon worked at night and so did her boyfriend. I haf to help my little sister with her homework, make dinner, clean make sure my brother had what he needed, and all this before i could even touch my homework.
This was going on for years until i graduated high school and moved in with my dad when i was 17. Im 18 now and because of what my mother did to me mentally and emotionally, it feels weird not to be responsible for someone.
Im working on bettering myself and finally having the fun that i shouldve had while i was in high school. I dont speak to my mother willingly because i have no reason to
Lmfao my sister went through being parentified and her therapist had noted it in her(sister's) file and my mom says that my sister lied, that she was never made to look after us or care for us and that she was exaggerating and blaming our mother
Thing is, even though we have an older brother(4 yrs older than my sister, 6yrs older than me, 8yrs older than our younger brother) he was never the one to take responsibility for us or watch over us. It was my sister. She walked us to and from the bus stop, helped us with a lot of our homework, made our dinner, sat with us when we cried(usually bc of our mom and dad fighting) and usually did almost all of the cleaning too
When my mom got pissed enough at my dad while making dinner she would storm out of the house for hours and say 'fine, you can starve, then' and dad would be like 'fine then' and storm off to their room leaving my sister to finish dinner bc me and our younger brother were too young too and our older brother would hide in his room all the time
And my mom got all surprised and angry when my sister moved out into dorms :/
I can’t believe that Karen from 911 is in this
And diane Lewis in Station 19 too
It means she is a versatile actress that can play many different roles because you love her in one and hate her in another!!!
" dont go telling them people my business " going on
I’m still mad she’s no longer in The Good Doctor. She was my favorite character.
Parents also need to respect that kids deserve to be kids not unpaid labor! I was the only daughter and eldest child - no after school clubs etc it was babysit bros from 10 yrs on clean, cook. Love my family but i chose no kids because i endured all the stress w no benefit. No kids unless You can care for all of them& allow to savor childhood freedoms.
I don’t think a consult should be needed if the daughter wanted to talk to a therapist
My adoptive parents decided to adopt when their nanny quit.
I was 13, the legal age to be left alone and babysit in our state. I even ended up in the nanny's room (it was like a mother in law suite, detached from the house with no bathroom or kitchen, basically a garage with no opening wall)
Mom is a user, MAYBE not drugs but certainly ppl. She collecting a check and making her daughter do all the work
I cant remember the mothers name but she is a phenom of an actor. Dang it she used to be on a really popular show too. It just escapes me.
LAW AND ORDER SUV! That's where I remember her from.
Needing therapy does not make you crazy. I super hate when people say "im not crazy" or "shes not crazy she doesnt need a therapist!"
depression, anxiety, and ptsd are NOT signs of being insane/crazy!
As some with all three i am so thankful i was able to get therapy
Also, “crazy” is kind of meaningless? Like I don’t think the thing people are imagining when they use the word crazy exists. They think of it as this all encompassing cloud that blocks out all rhyme or reason to everything and prevents any kind of logic from existing at all.
The brain is way more complicated than that. Usually a lot of logic is involved even in mania or psychosis, there’s just a glitch that has skewed perception so it’s hard for other people to understand. A lot of people who are called “crazy” are actually very reasonable and intelligent if you look at things objectively.
The only modern official definition of insanity is just criminally insane, which means someone is incapable of properly comprehending the consequences/implications of a crime they’ve committed.
It’s a lot more similar to having physical illness than people realize. I mean- we used to consider someone having a seizure as “crazy”.
@annataymond9529 criminally insane is kinda the only real one yeah lol
People still demonize schizophrenia too. It's just a glitch in the brain. As long as they have their meds they don't go around doing criminally insane shit. I mean you imagine having a hard time telling what's real.
I'd snap one day from it all. I hallucinate audiotorially as it is feom mild psychosis. Imagine seeing scary shit or people that aren't there.
But they aren't crazy. They're smart intelligent people going through something very difficult for the rest of their lives
@@annataymond9529 I'm right there with you - totally agree!
Totally agree!
Turn 18 and bail like crazy.
It’s not a teenagers responsibility to take care of someone else’s kids. It’s the parents responsibility or whoever brought the kids to the house. I’m surprised that hasn’t been called.
My mother was the same exact way. My aunt would “watch me” when my mom went to work but a lot of the time she was depressed in bed so I would be on my own the majority of the time. Sometimes when I was at my mom’s house I’d wake up in the middle of the night and she’d be gone for hours and I would be home by myself and I was only 3ish. My sister was born when I was 4 and that still didn’t stop her from leaving all night. I’d be home alone with a newborn and I was terrified. Once when I was 8 and my sister was 4, she got lost in a store and my mom told me that if anything bad happens to her it’s my fault because I’m responsible for her. We ended up finding her and I got punished for not keeping track of her. My brother was born when I was 12 and my mom made me completely responsible for him. I would even have to miss school when he was sick because she’s afraid of throw up. I was also responsible for all the housework(grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning, everything) all my mom did was collect a check and pay the rent. She didn’t even work until my brother was in kindergarten. I kept getting threats from my school to send me to a juvenile detention and having my mom fined for me missing school. But my mom lied told my grandparents that I was getting letters from the school because I was skipping. I ran away at 15 but some family members found me and made me come home and would not listen to what I was telling them was going on. By 18 I had emotionally checked out. I’ve never been able to feel like a kid. Nobody should be burdened with their parent’s problems that young.
Funny that the actress playing the mother is a psychologist in "station 19".
I tho she was in 911
@@Breeanna73She is on 911 as well
Isn’t that Mae from Nicky, Ricky,Dicky,and Dawn?
Funny enough when I was in highschool I tried to unalive myself. I was sent to the hospital and talked to a psychiatrist there. They contacted my mom and told her everything. When I went home my mom and dad sat me down and said “ I don’t care if you unalive yourself but do it in a place where the school and people won’t catch you. I don’t want to be called to there anymore understand?”
I nodded and they ignored me for the whole year. Didn’t talk to me. Didn’t say anything to me.
Eventually I think it was around Christmas and everyone got over it and like it never happened.
That's horrifying. I'm so sorry they did that and said that to you. And being ignored is such a horrible, horrible feeling. I hope you're doing okay now.
😢 I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I'm so sorry. I hope you still saw a therapist later. Sorry Dear
Glad to see the boss supporting this awesome doctor. Big sigh of relief
Which episode?
Edit: I fount it it's 3x03
What show
@@jackofaces107 the good doctor
The good doctor
25:00 is about when this scene ends. Will put you right on the spot in good doctor. 3x03 ty Ipek
LAIR
“We don’t do psychiatrists! *looks at the black doctor* you know that!”
“We also don’t do child abuse YET HERE YOU ARE! Parentifying and abusing your biological daughter for 3 state checks!”
I am (21 years old) the oldest of 18 grandchildren and my family thought it was my job to take care of ALL the children... My weekdays and weekends consisted of babysitting, laundry, cokking, cleaning, etc ..... Got to the point my grades starting slipping. Well fast forward to now, everyone around me wonder why I dont want kids and why I do not have a boyfriend.... If only people truly understood how much "The Oldest" has to endure. I have now made a promise to myself to never have kids because of what I went thru... I am finally living MY life for ME!!!
Thanks for listening ❤
My mom didn’t want me speaking with a psychiatrist either. She wanted someone to diagnose me as bipolar so she had a reason to feel I was “tainted”. It was her that tainted me. Her narcissistic parenting. She still to this day thinks I’m crazy when I go against her wishes. She thinks she owns me. Some parents are horrible in that manner. You don’t own your children, you assist them in becoming productive citizens and individuals ❤
My mother used to beat the shit out of me when she had a bad day. There was a time when I was 9 or 10 and I had this dandruff that was so bad it was in my eyebrows and eyelashes. She took me to the doctor and I was fine physically and he said as we were leaving. Maybe she's stressed about something and my mother said thats stupid children don't have stress. To my mother I was a thing tied to her neck and not nearly as useful as a refridgerator.
I'm so sorry. I hope you're doing okay now.
@@SuperEnichols I'm 65 and doing well thank you! I'm content with my situation and my two kitties. God Bless you.
@@NordeggSonya I'm so glad! Kitties are great companions. God bless you, too.
I raised 5 of my siblings.
And I was glad that I could.
Congratulations you were abused. Forcing your child to raise your other children means you're a lazy parent and don't deserve kids. You're thr parent not the oldest kid.
Not everyone's story, it's parents duty.
Oh Good for you that you became the abuser ...siding with abusers makes you just as worse as them
Lovely. Not everyone thinks like you :)
I'm sorry you had to raise them -that's your parents' job. However, I'm glad you could be there for your siblings.
the little girl played in nicky,ricky,dicky,and dawn who remembers
I remember having a psychotic break in high school because I was in the same boat and my guidance counselor recommending I go to the hospital. My mom went there against me and the school wishes to talk me out of being sent to a psych ward. Even though I was extremely suicidal & the doctors diagnosed me with PTSD. she was so insistent that she would change her ways and hear me out but the moment she took me home she proceeded to blame everything on me and it completely broke down, which is why I don’t have a relationship with her anymore.
The girl was the mums biological kid then the mum adopted 2-3 other kids and bio kid became their mum taking care of them and all that because actual mum was to busy the girl them started to self harm and the doctor got the therapist to talk to her then later on doctor got kicked off the case until bio kid said she wouldn’t do the surgery without the doctor then after the surgery mum asked the doctor for the therapists card and the girl got the help she needed this is from the good doctor and I believe it’s in season 2 or 3
I love Tracie and the different roles she plays. This moment she's a mother against physiatrists while the character I commonly see her as is very loving and wanting yo protect her children. Glad to see the adoptive children aspect is still there for her lol.
I was 16 when I went to live with my older sister to complete my junior year. She had three kids, my nephew & nieces. I was expected to not only babysit them, but cook, clean & assist them with homework. I was also expected to fulfill my academic studies + university classes. It was very challenging. But this prepared me for life. I was VERY responsible for my age. I embraced it & had a very good attitude towards contributing with assisting my sister.
This is how my big sister was forced to take care of all of the younger siblings growing up 😢 she had to figure out what we needed at the grocery store on a tiny budget so she could make meals for the week. Walking so far to the supermarket and cooking for everyone mom, dad, herself and 3 kids (one of which was an older brother). She cooked and cleaned like a slave and my stay at home mom would beat her down to the ground if a hair was out of place. She was only in highschool. She went on to become a psychiatrist because of the mental issues our abusive mother had
It's that May from Ricky Nicky Dicky And Dawn. 🤣🤣
THANK YOU THIS IS THE COMMENT I WAS LOOKING FOR IT WAS DRIVING ME CRAZY I COULDNT REMEMBER
Wow I used to watch the show 24/7
Bro i watched that sh all the time as a kid😂
Hi I love your videos could I maybe have a pin ? Xx
the mom plays annies “mom” in annie & the paitient/daughter plays may in nicky, ricky, dicky & dawn.
Having the same actor play selfish mentally ill mom in one show and then also play the most loving, safe space, caring mom in another show. Love it.
Is that Mae from Nicky, Ricky, dicky, and dawn?!!!!❤
YESS
It’s may
This show is called the good doctor for anyone who is wondering ❤
I’m watching this new show on Netflix and the girl in the show looks like her twin. LIKE EXACTLY LIKE HER. The show is a ten year old reality thingy thing.
The daughter is the patient and agreed to having the therapist come by before the surgery. Even though she’s a minor, there wouldn’t be much mom could do, unless the patient had also said no, mom is SOL!
Blessed are kids who are not used by parents to take care of younger ones
I'm grateful no war where I could be forced to take care of my kid sibling
It requires parenting which is a skill and choice
Some say it's hateful what I say but I did not come into this world by choice...they had children by choice
I grew up in a house like this but thankfully was the only child. Mental health neglect is a way of abusing your children to keep control over them. Refusing to let a child speak to counselors or psychiatrists is a way of controlling your childs thoughts and views so they dont become aware of the neglect or environment theyre in. It is abuse, and UT should always be a CPS case if a parent avidly refuses mental services or counseling for their child.
Parentification is getting too normal it’s horrifying 😢
The show is called the good doctor and it's season 3 episode 3, I know it says a fisherman is injured, but it's really in the middle of it, you find the video trust me, it's there sorry for the person I called a liar
I was late diagnosed for many things bc my birthgiver REFUSED to let me get therapy because "they would only tell her she was a bad mom and doing things wrong". Even after a court case where my r word-ist was convicted of his crimes, in a room full of professionals... they asked me when i would like to start therapy-- her response was "she wont need it" and i looked up to see EVERY single professional with their jaws dropped to the floor. I was a minor, they couldnt do anything.
At 32, i struggle every day to heal from this and MUCH more... if only i got the help sooner...
In case you’re wondering, the mom did eventually allow the daughter to go to therapy in the end of the episode.
Better she speak to a therapist the cps. Kids shouldn't be raising kids.