@The Thinker I've heard/read many great remarks said to rude individuals after they've shown an ugly side of themselves, but this, my friend, has got to be my favorite.
@Caffeineoholic Soul just a quick psa that binge eating is a legitimate eating disorder. For some people it is not as simple as “just stop eating lol”. It’s like telling a depressed person to just stop being sad.
@Caffeineoholic Soul but they didn't say she looks good with her weight or that she she should do nothing about it. They only said that she has to accept how she looks in the dresses, because she can't change it in a short time that is left till the wedding. And she said herself that she's working on herself and trying to lose weight.
Yes! Also love how they don't sugar coat it. Like when they said that they could put lace on her arms but they'll still be fat arms. It's about accepting who you are and finding the dress to go with your body
This is what fat shaming does to people, they are paralyzed with fear. These two ladies are so sweet and encouraging, it just goes to show you how even one little act of kindness can impact someone. Her second trip there she was like a different person.
I am from India. I am 50kgs and am 5’6... i am thin but not sickly thin .... but here evy single day someone body shames me for being thin and asks me to eat more and gain the curves. Its soo painful. Body shaming on obese or thin person are extremely painful and even at times i hate seeing myself in the mirror. The bullying words i heard comes back and haunts me
I am in my 70th year, I have been big all my life, and society still shames people based on their size, it is the last of the jokes comedians can make about people. It is no longer funny to make jokes about the disabled, mothers in law, people of different colour or ethnicity, but people's appearances, especially big people are fair game for being laughed at...and hated. I pray in my lifetime this changes, but I am not holding my breath. Western society, the cult of celebrity, influencers and the medical model have a lot to answer for.
Damn, she wasn’t kidding when she was in abusive relationship, her confidence of her body is the lowest I’ve EVER SEEN. I really hope she gets back her confidence one day
She looks so disappointed every time she looks at herself in the mirror. It just breaks my heart into million pieces. Probably because I can relate to her.
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A dress wont make her look slim-thats the basic fact.
@ she was trying to share her story and show everyone that u can be fat and be beautiful and that u shld not be terrified of Ur mirror image. You don't know her reasons don't judge her choice. Ukw u r not worth typing this for but I am typing this for ppl like u to stop commenting loads of crap without realising the effect on others.
@ my gosh you don't have anything nice to say? 😭 You really asked how is she beautiful? Bro everyone is beautiful in their own way, she looks beautiful and is struggling with accepting herself like anyone would if they gotta hear shit about "how is she beautiful?? Maybe she shouldn't have let it be public." shit she looked beautiful in those dresses and I'm proud of her for feeling happy in her dress
I, as a bigger woman, appreciate so much how they didnt deny it or contradict her when she said “my arms look fat”. It often makes me feel even worse about myself when people object to me commenting on how big i am, because it makes me feel like nobody understands how i feel or that they just want to shove my worries under the rug.. i dont know how it made her feel, but it definitely wouldve comforted me! Shes absolutely gorgeous, and i hope she always feels it! 🥺💕
SO MUCH THIS. Look. There is no denying that I am FAT. What I'm NOT is stupid or blind. The line "You're not fat, you're pretty/beautiful" drives me nuts... because even though they think they're helping, what they're REALLY saying is that being fat and being pretty are mutually exclusive... that it's impossible to be both at the same time. And since I KNOW I'm fat, as an objective fat, the only explanation that makes sense is that they're lying about me being pretty or beautiful to make me feel better. The way these two consultants handled the situation was absolutely perfect... They were real and honest and GENUINE with her. There's a reason why she regained some of her confidence after she had time to process that first appointment. They didn't just help her find a pretty dress. They helped her start healing.
@@layneparker3087 YES!!! I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought this 🥺🥺 Its like society has drilled it into everyone that being bigger is a bad and ugly thing... it’s NOT! you can be *beautiful AND big!!!*
@@layneparker3087 so you’d be happier if ur friends call your gut and arms fat and beautiful??? I’m just curious and trying to understand how to deal with such people. Would it be better if they said “so what you still look beautiful”
@@rordongamsey3057 That's... definitely a bit of an over simplification. But yes - "So what, you still look beautiful" is ABSOLUTELY an awesome response! You're not challenging their thought or what they see as truth - You're simply stating YOUR opinion (you're beautiful) while also making it clear that their weight doesn't equal worth or beauty. Again, lying is just NOT helpful and I sincerely doubt many people (myself included) would find my gut and arms beautiful, lmao. But here's the thing... being HONEST doesn't have to mean being rude and mean. Tactfulness IS AN ART... and it's one that people seem to be letting die. You can be both critical and civil at the same time. A few sample responses... "I'm fat." --> acceptable responses --> You're beautiful. Now tell me something you like about yourself. "I hate my (insert body part here)" --> Acceptable responses --> So let's show off what you DO like. If it's making you feel insecure, let's figure out how to downplay it. (insert months or years of complaining/negative self-talk here) --> acceptable responses --> (Continuing letting it go). Okay, so you've been saying this for awhile... I'm struggling too! Do you want to do something about it together? How can I help. , You say these things a lot and it's really hurtful to both of us... we need to change this habit of self-deprecating behavior because It's not helpful and it's toxic. In exactly ZERO of those responses are you VALIDATING their self-deprecating statements. You're not saying "Yeah, ya are fat. Ya are ugly. Ya are (whatever the issue is)." But you're not lying to them either... Nor are you directly CHALLENGING something they believe is a fact. You're redirecting the self-hate into a more constructive area of thought while also being supportive. You're not denying they feel that way or that what they're saying isn't true. Fat people KNOW we're fat. We're not blind or stupid. But every person on this planet has some redeeming qualities, no matter who they are. Having your friend or family member counter negative self-talk with positive self-talk without focusing on arguing the validity of their feelings is a great way to tactfully redirect the conversation AND be supportive AND not engage in toxic positivity AND not get sucked into a conversation that is completely non-constructive. And it needs to be said, too, that engaging in conversation with someone who's CONSTANTLY engaging in negative self-talk IS EXHAUSTING and draining and can even be damaging to YOUR OWN mental well being and self esteem. So countering with a "Tell me something you like now" is a nifty way to put a little armor on YOURSELF so you don't get sucked in to the same toxic thinking. The responses of "Show off what you do like." and "If it's making you feel insecure, let's figure out how to downplay it," imply that even if that's how your friend feels, it's fixable. That there's an ACTION they can take to address it. Getting them engaged in problem solving things they don't like about themselves is empowering and offering to help them through it by using "we" and "us" type wording is HUGELY supportive. It implies you're there to help, you're paying attention, and you care. Same with the final example. By offering to go through it WITH them, you're not only encouraging them to do something about how they feel, but you're also making it pretty darn clear that whatever it is they don't like, it isn't permanent. And obviously, even if they're not down with it, you've still made it clear that you're there for them and willing to stick by them.
Sure is, just got out of a abusive relationship got serve depression and lost a lot of weight so I’m currently going through this but I’m trying to make a change.
@@francy9585 the fact that the woman in the video is trying her hardest to lose weight and be healthier and all you're doing is bringing her down ! Kudos to her for having more confidence and caring for herself more .
Nayelli Hernandez the shaking, avoiding eye contact with strangers, the excessive fear over something that shouldn’t induce fear, the downplaying of just how bad the relationship was (when her loved one spoke so openly), the looking immediately to Mum when in distress, the “need to get out” comment and the slowly taking steps back (that’s a low level panic attack tbh), the looking down when paid compliments.
Nayelli Hernandez also the shoulders, all arched up like a threatened animal. Idk to me I was like “she has been through some shit”. It could also be projection on my behalf but I dunno I just got a feeling.
Absolutely, thank you for seeing that. It's so hurtful when people make judgments and nasty comments about you for your size without ever considering the psychological factors that affect weight, without accepting that there ARE psychological factors that affect weight. People always want to talk about how it's unhealthy to be fat but a person doesn't get fat unless they're already unhealthy, either physically OR mentally. To act like someone gets to that weight because they're "just lazy" is so incredibly ignorant & mean-spirited. I wish more people would try to see the pain underneath that we're self-medicating with food.
@@ncisept5900 I've had both. Anxiety is a horrible empty feeling and the only time it got a bit better was when I ate something filling. The problem was that I was permanently hungry and because I was so anxious I couldn't stand and cook for 30 minutes when even two minutes out of bed was bad enough. But of course I became depressed because of my anxiety as well. I went up to 11st something and a size 16 before two ladies on the bus offered me a seat on a hot day because I looked pregnant in a dress and then a member of my family made a comment about my fitness. Today I am 9st 8.5 and a 12-14 after going on a diet. I still don't like what I see in the mirror, but I never will as I never have.
Empower my ass. It's ridiculous that some people could get so dumb that they encourage others to eath themselves to death. But it's of course much easier to be two-faced, virtue-signaling hypocrite and lie to others that everything is ok while being fit... than push them to face the inconvinient truth. Which could make their lives better.
This is me frock - that is awesome. However, I hope she's able to lose some weight for her health. When you get this big it's not about looks, it's about living a full life and being able to have kids if you like.
She had a complete 180 from her appointment to her fitting. Whatever happened to her or whatever she did in that lapse of time was truly life saving. Her standing in front of that mirror with all that power saying "This is me frock"... goosebumps!
I was over weight on my wedding day and 2 prople at my wedding said, we thought you would have tried to loose the weight before your wedding day. People are cruel
Man I don't remember which episode it was but I remember an episode of say yes to the dress (I think) where the dude kicked out the girls mom for fat shaming her.
*No.* I strongly dislike people like you. Caring about your significant other's health and well being DOES NOT have anything to do with loving them less or some sort of abuse. Her husband just wants her to feel comfortable and her best self and KNOWS her and KNOWS what would make her happy. Someone like you who doesn't know a fucking thing about their relationship ought to talk, making such an ignorant comment. Tell me something, you're probably against smoking. You probably hate the act. I do too. If your spouse is an addict and you tell them they need to stop because that addiction is going to be the cause of their death. Is that sickening to you? Does that make you an abuser? Does that make you love them any less? No, it does not. It's called love. And sometimes caring about someone, sometimes loving someone with all you have is telling your spouse, gf/bf, that what they are doing isn't okay because your looking out for them, because you want to, because you love them.
Chichi Oko A.) Calm down a tad mate B.) I think they meant more of helping them get better like you mentioned instead of putting them down like the woman in the videos ex had done. Caring about your significant other is important but dont make them feel worse if you do really love them (on purpose anyhow)
@@jswaggamingcool Yup, that's what I said about the spouse helping the other live a healthier lifestyle leading to a happier lifestyle. And the part about not making your partner feel bad is literally what I said is mostly the case in my initial comment. You probably didn't read my whole comment, so you should do that and then we can talk if you want
THIS is why we need body positivity! It's not about "promoting obesity": It's about accepting the body you are currently in - whether you want to change it or not, it's about seeing your inner beauty nontheless and it's about knowing that the number on the scale does not define you as a person. You are a wonderful human being and you are worthy of love. No matter your height, or weight, or any other physical characteristics!
Heather Lee apart from the fact that most of it does glorify being overweight - no person is naturally that big , no person is that big without overeating or eating the wrong things unless they have a medical condition. Being this big causes such a large amount of strain and damage to internal organs especially the heart and what you e got to think of is , with the amount of fat on the outside how much fat is inside covering her organs and squeezing her arteries giving her a much higher chance of heart disease and heart attacks. Body positivity is supposed be about accepting different body shapes , heights etc - this right here isn’t a body shape it’s a massive blob of fat and she will regret getting this big , if she get old enough to regret it that is .
@@stopcomparingeverythingtob6378 She already regrets getting this big. She said she in a bad situation and was eating to comfort her. Shes not just a blob of fat. Shes a human being who has feelings. Its sad she wakes up everyday hating herself. People like you just makes it worse.
But end of the day, every bride wants to look their best for the special day. Those wedding dresses don’t usually fit obese women. Being healthy and loosing a few pounds is a way better option. It was obvious the bride here was not happy with her weight.
Yes yes yes. You’re right. If someone can’t change something in 5 minutes, what good will you do pointing it out especially in a mean way?? Obviously obese men and women know they’re obese... but when it comes to fashion and style everyone needs to feel confident and comfortable during their journey on weight loss or just to boost their confidence to hold their head up and begin to get healthy. Whatever they decide to do, body positivity is a necessity. You never know what someone is going through or how they got to that state.
Oh yes the whole of Europe starts to talk in English when buying a wedding dress, it’s quite magical (sorry for the sarcasm, this generalization is just a pet peeve of mine 🙈) On another note: I wonder if ‘Say Yes to the Dress’ is copyrighted? Perhaps they have to phrase it differently because of that?
@Caffeineoholic Soul Actually it does not quite work this way. If you took weight (as she said) due to bad environment, you need to be and feel safe again before anything. Losing weight/stay healthy is not an easy thing to do in that case. You need strength, determination and support. And if you just feel miserable and not loving yourself, where are you going to find that mental health you need? Body positivty should be not hating yourself and others on physical specifities. So yes it should include people of any weight. Which does not mean, as (apparently) most of the "body positivity" influencers say, that you can be overweight and healthy. Same as for underweight, you need the right amount of fat and muscles to function at your best as a human being. But you shouldn't hate yourself because one way or another you hurt yourself. You should be able to seek for help to heal with no judgement as to how you look, just looking forward to see how you will feel.
@Caffeineoholic Soul I never said being overweight was not an issue. Regarding "the excuse" you think is wrong, I'll say: Food is a drug. Eating disorders are real illnesses linked to addiction mechanisms. You don't tell an addict to just quit right? You know that a lot of addicts need to go through a specific therapy to quit I guess. It's exctly the same with food. Would be great if it was indeed as simple as you imply. What I said was that to seek this medical help, you often need to love yourself enough, you need to not be depressed, to not hate yourself. Because a lot of persons are not super strong mentally due to their childhood/close family/work environment... Some situation can drain your energy and it's unfair to say people are just weak. They are just human. So *my* definition for body positivity (which is in fact the one said by several others) is that you should love yourself enough and thus the others should not judge/disrespect you whatever you look like. This is *not* encouraging obesity. Or of course it can be if you just lool at the fact I say you can't just tell someone JUST STOP EATING. But that would be taking my whole point out of context. And I hate that just for that sake you hurt people who just need a little mental uplift to actually go back on the health road. Sorry for the long comment but I hate when people put things in my mouth I did not say. If it was simple misreading/misunderstanding, I hope this helps to clarify my view.
@Caffeineoholic Soul I can agree to the point where you said that supporting obsecity is bad BUT man somerimes ppl gain weight due to various reasons like depression and bad environment now how are you helping them by making them more depressed and sad....It would make.them even more miserable
@Caffeineoholic Soul I get ur point but some people have health issues like thyroid problems that can result in weight gain over which they have no control...or eating disorders...It's not that easy for them to lose weight... Also u r pointing out the harmful effects of being obese on one's health so that's understandable but sometimes people might not make their intentions clear enough..so people who are told to lose weight might be under the impression that it's because of how they look and not because that person is concerned about their health...
Well i mean,it really depends on your past,if you had toxic people in your childhood,you’d probably feel hated.But i do agree with your second statement,it’s really ironic how adults know so many things about the world,so many things about other people and other celebrities,yet,they barely know anything about themselves. It feels like beauty takes such a big part in our self esteem.😖
@@ahisha_plays_lifethe_game3429 I agree with everything else but the past thing, no. Well, maybe for me. Our class did a survery on how many girl were insecure when i say every girl put her hand u. They explained one by ome their insecurities. As well as the pyschological side is the brain develops more anixety as a teen and that may have an effect as adults. SORRY FOR THE LONG WRITING
@@octopus8978 I guess you have a point. At some point in life, your brain forces you to mature (I think it's mostly because of Puberty), it either depends on how you react to that severe change, so while some people really care about how their body looks (Face,Hips etc..) Some of my reasoning is because either you haven't been taught Emotional Control Properly (Too much reaction can cause stress,anxiety,Depression etc...) or maybe because of your surroundings and the current situation that you're living in ( like Having Family Problems in your teenage years) and others don't. This is why teaching kids on how to handle their emotions properly really matters. Our brain is a really complicated thing, even scientists don't know much about it, so forgive me if i'm wrong about this, i'm not really smart lol.Also sorry for the long writing too XD
I was crying from the first minute of this one because I know what it's like to look in the mirror and hate what you see. Louise is so honest and relateable, and her mum, Jo and Al are so supportive and loving. This video had such a wonderful ending, and I wish the absolute best for Louise and her lucky future spouse!
Me too! The fear of looking in the mirror and seeing all that you think is wrong with you is all too real. I can have all my friends or an entire room full of people tell me that I look fine but I still won't see it for myself in the mirror 💔
That is awful, that woman must have been so badly abused in her last marriage to feel so terribly about her body. I'm glad she's obviously healing and I'm hoping her spouse to be supports and encourages her as much and more as these consultants do.
I agree. It was a beautiful dress on her and shes very pretty.I'm just so glad there is this wonderful shop with amazing owners. Every woman should feel beautiful.
I just feel so much for her. The image you have of yourself and how you see yourself in a mirror just makes it so difficult to see through your body and focus on clothes you’ve always wanted. And It sucks.
That’s horribly true. I struggle to even walk in front of a mirror because I feel ugly when looking at myself. I really don’t want anyone to be feeling like this. EVER. Not accepting yourself, is the worst feeling in the world.
Louise! I’m 33, skinny, and single!! You have had two men who want to marry you and I have had zero!! You have a husband and love and your mom with you!! That’s so much more than me!! You go girl! You are beautiful and have the things in life that are most important!!! You’re beautiful and lovely!! Congratulations on getting married love!! Xx
My thoughts indeed. If I found the right man, I wouldn't stress about the gown for a minute, someone obviously thinks she's very beautiful and wants to marry her
@Leonie Taylor Not sure what a 'hockney' accent is? Did you mean 'cockney'? Either way, she is deffo from the North East, Newcastle way, not the south.
I love this shop so much. I love how they weren't shaming her or trying to cover in a bad way. I love how empowering they are, the dress was beautiful on her. She is also an amazing person.
She looks beautiful in every dress. I can’t imagine how she feels. I was not confident for so long, I started wearing makeup and doing different things with my hair, but I didn’t want to do that. So very slowly I stopped spending hours on hair and makeup and started slowly loving myself. She is a beautiful person.
I love her because she isn't one of the people who is overweight and has that arrogant mindset of not caring. She actually wants to lose weight She is strong and deserves more Edit I admire people that try even if it doesn't work. I never intended to bodyshame anyone and I never even did. I know my comment is vague I'm not english so my vocabulary isn't the best and I didn't want to over explain. What I'm trying to tell is what Abhishikta Chakraborty said in the comments. I'm talking about arrogance not confidence. Everyone needs confidence.
You love her because she lacks confidence and high self-esteem? These two qualities equate arrogance to you? I cannot find the words to express how vile your thinking is.
@@siotorres209 Confidence can't hurt I'm talking about the arrogance about overweight people that are fat because they just like food. *Then* call it body shame when someone calls them unhealthy. The girl here could use some confidence, I respect her because she wants to lose weight if she can because it's unhealthy in some cases and I respect her for chasing her goals
Duckingotaku I understand lol you just hate people who are fat and not doing anything to change it. Like they say they love their body but they’re not healthy. Sure they need confidence but Being happy for being fat isn’t good. It’s good to try to lose weight and actually trying. I think that’s what you’re trying to say? Or close to it? But when I read that that’s what I thought what you meant.
"You can't hate yourself into a version of yourself that you can love" - everyone deserves to feel beautiful no matter what they look like, what stage they're in, and ESPECIALLY as part of recovery
Kate BL Thankyou for your wise comment...I am looking for help for my daughter on here. She seems to be eating herself to death. She also scratches the heck out of her arms. She is very generous, courageous thoughtful and hardworking. She has suffered so much, physical wounds and other trauma, in life already, I wish I could help her to take better care of her self. I would appreciate any advice you could offer, on top of your already helpful comment. Thankyou.
@@granmabern5283 I am so sorry to hear that your daughter is going through this. I highly recommend finding a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. It sounds like she is trying to numb and heal her pain through food. Food often does have a calming and energizing effect because hunger is stressful and tiring. The most important thing is not to shame her, but to say I see your pain and I want to help you (in ways that don't harm her health). Finding a therapist is a journey in and of itself, so please keep encouraging her even if the first one is not a good fit. Psychologytoday dot com has a "therapist finder" reference that is a good place to start. Lots of prayers for your family!
Kate BL Thankyou. She’s been going to therapy for years, just doesn’t seem to get better enough for my hopes! She’s an adult and I have to respect her privacy, but sometimes I wish I could intervene...fix... I keep loving her and praying for her, and try to be a good example. I wrote on here because it seemed like the big brides were all on the road to love... my daughter’s true love died... I am grateful that she survived that loss and still does good and interesting things.
@@granmabern5283 your a good parent, I'm younger and I'm very very depressed and I know that having a mother that never gives up and keeps supporting us is an amazing feeling, good on you !!!
I know , I can barely get a text back. I mean I'm happy for her but I wonder sometimes is it just sheer luck why some people find the one and others not. Looks have little to do with it i think sometimes...
Joel 93 because some people have higher standards when they choose partners and some married because it’s only choice they have .... no warranty it would be happy marriage or not.... but take you chance and see
Louise has a great personality. So glad she found a nice dress to wear. That neckline is so 1950's French Brigitte Bardot look. Very pretty! Hope Louise had a wonderful wedding!
@Lauren Wolfe most of the time , it is true , being that fat is the consequence of overeating , low self esteem and laziness. It's bot rocket science unless you're too naive to recognize that.
@@classylassie85well she wasn't in a good place and used eating to cope and I did the same. Best you can do is encourage them, not make them feel bad about themselves. It really leaves people with a bad mindset and can leave some people to eating disorders. I'm not saying it's healthy but I'm saying tearing her down and calling her things isn't going to really help her lose that weight.
I feel her. The way she feels about her body, is how I feel about mine. It’s hard to love my body especially when trying on beautiful clothes and seeing that it doesn’t look good on me, is so disappointing and hurtful. It frustrates everyone in the end. Especially me.
sadkatt6 If anyone ever told you you don’t look good , tell them to stfu. If it’s that little annoying voice in your head, tell it to stfu. We only feel like this because we were taught to. You’re beautiful hun
If your as big as this women then u shouldn’t love your body.. u shouldn’t hate it either but instead not focus on your body but your health. U cannot be healthy and as big as this women at the same time, at least not if she doesn’t have a medical condition. I don’t judge either way cuz she may be trying to lose weight or have a medical condition but I’d be very scared for her if she didn’t want to change her body..
Is that you on your profile pic? If so, you are stunning! If you are having confidence problems you need to look deeper at yourself and realise you’re gorgeous.
@@mrcleeves7106 words can not express how angry your comment made me. The fact that you straight up told this beautiful woman that she *shouldnt* her body??? nobody. asked. so. fuck. off.
@@mrcleeves7106 She literally said in the video she knew she needed to lose the weight and that she planned to. The weird preoccupation people like you have with being "concerned about their health" is really just excuses to trash someone else's appearance. You're allowed to & SHOULD love the body you are currently in even if you want to change for the better. It's not healthy to promote this self hatred & it's why so many people develop eating disorders and body dysphoria
I love the fact that everyone around her genuinely understood how difficult it was and how much she struggled. They genuinely supported her and saw the beauty she is. It made me smile so big to see her just happily twerling in the end of the video.
No. The concept that people can't or shouldn't change is dishonest and harmful. Being that size is not healthy and isn't doing her any favors. She should change, she should lose weight, and she should seek professional mental help. No one is at a point where they should accept who they are with no interest in improving. That's lazy & conceited thinking that only leads to delusion down the road.
SpecTRe X wow! I never said nor inferred anything you typed! I clearly said I am who I am and women should embrace that I never once said that you cannot change or should not change I meant you should be proud of who you are no matter what is going on in your life. You are the one who is being very conceited and judge mental not knowing anything about the person you have decided is extremely unhealthy. That attitude is extremely unhealthy people have a right to be happy with their selves at any size at any time in their life whether you agree or not it’s their happiness not yours that matters It seems to be that you may have a problem with plus size people and that confuses me as to why you were watching a show where plus size people get to be excited and happy for a day
@Crystal Justice The premise expressed in the statement "I am who I am" is exactly that. It's a grand and sweeping conveyance that you're perfectly fine with who you are presently in every context. The inherent implication being that not only is a change not required but it isn't even considered by the person expressing it. The overall premise is fundamentally foolish anyway, since even the most content people aren't satisfied with themselves in their entirety. Pride in oneself should always be reserved for attaining an accomplishment, being the approximate size and weight of a Fiat 500 is not an accomplishment unless you were previously the size of something like a Mini Cooper. Beyond this, no one has the right to happiness. People have only the right to pursue it and even then only in America where such a right is enshrined in the constitution. I'll happily grant that my attitude is impolite or uncouth but to label it unhealthy is nothing short of hilarious. The entirety of my statement is provoked by the woman's clearly unhealthy size/weight. The human body was simply not built to endure such an arduous load for any protracted period of time and this is borne out in the medical statistics for morbidly obese people. Further still, does anyone think this woman is truly happy? At best this made her momentarily pleased but what happens when she begins nervous eating out of fear she'll not still fit in that dress on her wedding day and manifests that very fear as a result? It's enabling at it's finest. As far as why I watched, since I'm clearly opposed to obesity; morbid curiosity. It's like watching mangled corpses being pulled from a crushed car, you don't want to look but you also can't seem to look away.
That change in attitude and posture, the sparkles in her eyes. Even in the car you could tell she had worked realy hard on her confidence, standing tall and proud, and daring to try on a compleaty new dress with a diffrent look, and showing off what she before wanted to hide. This is strength and courage. Bravo!
She looked like a totally different person. She learned to love herself, something everyone needs to learn. She looked stunning in that last dress. I would've chosen it too.
Just now watching this episode, and it’s so beautiful to see her have much more confidence in herself going back a second time to try on dresses. She chose such a gorgeous dress! The lovely ladies that helped her are truly wonderful women, my favorite episode so far ❤️
OMG, love Louise!!! That dress looks stunning on you! The last shot of you swaying was just wow. I hope you had a wonderful day and enjoyed every moment wearing your stunning dress!
My gosh was this an Emotional episode clip ! I could feel that brides pain through the screen . I’m so happy to see she gained some emotional footing . Those sales ladies are so kind .
Oh wow… I just want to give her a hug. No one should ever feel the way she feels about herself. There’s not a single worthless aspect of this woman. I can just tell she’s a sweet soul. I personally think that she’s absolutely beautiful with or without the weight.
I can't get over how strong this woman is. I've been in her shoes following an abusive relationship and it can be a battle going out in public, let alone trying on dresses in front of newly-met people. She was terrified, but kept going and accepting support; that's absolute strength right there! Her positivity during the next appointment warmed my entire heart - mental health can be such a burden, but I'm thrilled she's found a frock that shows off her beauty!
Wow Louise looks so much younger and fresher her second time coming into the store. I think that goes to show that self acceptance and a little confidence is all you need. It makes the inner glow shine bright. Love her second pick!
Me too I wish I could have. I wonder if they have modest dresses. Finding one plus size and modest was impossible. The only way I could was to order one online. Hopefully it's not a disaster.
Everyone is beautiful In their own way. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The fact you don’t think she’s pretty, is a reflection of you. Ugly comes from the inside and ‘I see your true colours shinning through’ Get well soon Biatch 😘
@Daisy FunderburkI'm not ill bitch, I'm just speaking the truth. I don't THINK she's not pretty, I know she's not. Could not give stuff about my 'true colours'whatever they are !!! AT LEAST I SPEAK THE TRUTH!! I know others will agree with me, but are too afraid to speak up .. Byyyeeee, I've had my say and won't be back answering all your boring comments.
You ladies are amazing! As a size 24 on my wedding day, I was so anxious about finding a dress that made me feel beautiful. Luckily I found a shop with a woman just as lovely and kind as both of you. You are a blessing from God.
Heart breaking how she spoke about herself. She is on a journey and that's amazing! Yes she is a big woman, but she looked beautiful in every dress and there is always an opportunity to improve. It was nice to see her confidence go up towards the end. Self hatred will never help you. Treat yourself kinder
I feel so sorry for the bride, the ladies were awesome. I'm happy that you left that douche and found love. Wishing you all the happiness in the world.
Exactly! That, and our bodies are the meant to be temples of the Most High. I mean, Jesus does not love you any less for excess weight, but if we have the ability, as difficult as it may be, and as much sacrifice it comes with, then to do it for the fact our bodies are not ours but the Lord's.
I think the women that dressed her were empowering, understanding, encouraging, they were so nice and perfect for the client.
Agreed! I loved the dresses on her!
Still fat tho which is a bad thing
Stalin’s Dog stfu seriously. no one wants your opinion rude ass.
@The Thinker I've heard/read many great remarks said to rude individuals after they've shown an ugly side of themselves, but this, my friend, has got to be my favorite.
These consultants are better than psychiatrists.
These ladies do not just sell dresses. They sell confidence, dreams, and self-acceptance. What a wonderful mark they are leaving on the world!
@Spookay T'is Me with care and love
I love them.
@ l
@Caffeineoholic Soul just a quick psa that binge eating is a legitimate eating disorder. For some people it is not as simple as “just stop eating lol”. It’s like telling a depressed person to just stop being sad.
@Caffeineoholic Soul but they didn't say she looks good with her weight or that she she should do nothing about it. They only said that she has to accept how she looks in the dresses, because she can't change it in a short time that is left till the wedding. And she said herself that she's working on herself and trying to lose weight.
I love how supportive the two women are!
Kk dragon this show inspires me to do more
Ikrrr we all need friends like them
Yes❤
Yes! Also love how they don't sugar coat it. Like when they said that they could put lace on her arms but they'll still be fat arms. It's about accepting who you are and finding the dress to go with your body
I honestly felt like the woman with the red hair was harsh. Maybe it’s just cultural difference in my case.
This is what fat shaming does to people, they are paralyzed with fear.
These two ladies are so sweet and encouraging, it just goes to show you how even one little act of kindness can impact someone. Her second trip there she was like a different person.
I am from India. I am 50kgs and am 5’6... i am thin but not sickly thin .... but here evy single day someone body shames me for being thin and asks me to eat more and gain the curves. Its soo painful. Body shaming on obese or thin person are extremely painful and even at times i hate seeing myself in the mirror. The bullying words i heard comes back and haunts me
@@nikidcruz9228 dear don't listen to those freaks
I agree with you so much... It's so sad that people think fat shaming is gonna help someone lose weight
I am in my 70th year, I have been big all my life, and society still shames people based on their size, it is the last of the jokes comedians can make about people. It is no longer funny to make jokes about the disabled, mothers in law, people of different colour or ethnicity, but people's appearances, especially big people are fair game for being laughed at...and hated. I pray in my lifetime this changes, but I am not holding my breath. Western society, the cult of celebrity, influencers and the medical model have a lot to answer for.
@@nikidcruz9228 ikr they're gonna call you 'moti' or 'lakdi' and it's honestly very painful
Damn, she wasn’t kidding when she was in abusive relationship, her confidence of her body is the lowest I’ve EVER SEEN. I really hope she gets back her confidence one day
Agreed. She had such a turn around. I would love to know what had helped her have the mindset change in that four months
I feel her. Been there. Hope she's happy and healthy ❤
Same
Been there and its not atall easy to have confidence in tht figure how much u try
but in the end she did
She looks so disappointed every time she looks at herself in the mirror. It just breaks my heart into million pieces. Probably because I can relate to her.
A dress wont make her look slim-thats the basic fact.
@ if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it.
@ lol ok boomer
@ she was trying to share her story and show everyone that u can be fat and be beautiful and that u shld not be terrified of Ur mirror image. You don't know her reasons don't judge her choice. Ukw u r not worth typing this for but I am typing this for ppl like u to stop commenting loads of crap without realising the effect on others.
@ my gosh you don't have anything nice to say? 😭 You really asked how is she beautiful? Bro everyone is beautiful in their own way, she looks beautiful and is struggling with accepting herself like anyone would if they gotta hear shit about "how is she beautiful?? Maybe she shouldn't have let it be public."
shit she looked beautiful in those dresses and I'm proud of her for feeling happy in her dress
hating yourself everytime you look in the mirror is a horrible feeling to have
Lex 7 but a great motivation to do better for yourself! You cant hide from the skin you live in
jess d that’s such a horrible mindset dude like,,,,
it really is.....
That’s a horrible mindset Jess d. I hate what I see in the mirror. I look horrible. It’s not a motivator, it’s a heart crushing feeling.
Ariel c: no it’s really not it’s the mindset that made me work hard to love my body. Sorry I don’t wallow in self pity and Debbie cakes
I, as a bigger woman, appreciate so much how they didnt deny it or contradict her when she said “my arms look fat”. It often makes me feel even worse about myself when people object to me commenting on how big i am, because it makes me feel like nobody understands how i feel or that they just want to shove my worries under the rug.. i dont know how it made her feel, but it definitely wouldve comforted me! Shes absolutely gorgeous, and i hope she always feels it! 🥺💕
SO MUCH THIS.
Look. There is no denying that I am FAT. What I'm NOT is stupid or blind. The line "You're not fat, you're pretty/beautiful" drives me nuts... because even though they think they're helping, what they're REALLY saying is that being fat and being pretty are mutually exclusive... that it's impossible to be both at the same time. And since I KNOW I'm fat, as an objective fat, the only explanation that makes sense is that they're lying about me being pretty or beautiful to make me feel better.
The way these two consultants handled the situation was absolutely perfect... They were real and honest and GENUINE with her. There's a reason why she regained some of her confidence after she had time to process that first appointment. They didn't just help her find a pretty dress. They helped her start healing.
@@layneparker3087 YES!!! I’m glad I’m not the only one who thought this 🥺🥺
Its like society has drilled it into everyone that being bigger is a bad and ugly thing... it’s NOT! you can be *beautiful AND big!!!*
@@layneparker3087 so you’d be happier if ur friends call your gut and arms fat and beautiful??? I’m just curious and trying to understand how to deal with such people. Would it be better if they said “so what you still look beautiful”
@@rordongamsey3057 That's... definitely a bit of an over simplification. But yes - "So what, you still look beautiful" is ABSOLUTELY an awesome response! You're not challenging their thought or what they see as truth - You're simply stating YOUR opinion (you're beautiful) while also making it clear that their weight doesn't equal worth or beauty. Again, lying is just NOT helpful and I sincerely doubt many people (myself included) would find my gut and arms beautiful, lmao. But here's the thing... being HONEST doesn't have to mean being rude and mean. Tactfulness IS AN ART... and it's one that people seem to be letting die. You can be both critical and civil at the same time.
A few sample responses...
"I'm fat." --> acceptable responses --> You're beautiful. Now tell me something you like about yourself.
"I hate my (insert body part here)" --> Acceptable responses --> So let's show off what you DO like. If it's making you feel insecure, let's figure out how to downplay it.
(insert months or years of complaining/negative self-talk here) --> acceptable responses --> (Continuing letting it go). Okay, so you've been saying this for awhile... I'm struggling too! Do you want to do something about it together? How can I help. , You say these things a lot and it's really hurtful to both of us... we need to change this habit of self-deprecating behavior because It's not helpful and it's toxic.
In exactly ZERO of those responses are you VALIDATING their self-deprecating statements. You're not saying "Yeah, ya are fat. Ya are ugly. Ya are (whatever the issue is)." But you're not lying to them either... Nor are you directly CHALLENGING something they believe is a fact. You're redirecting the self-hate into a more constructive area of thought while also being supportive. You're not denying they feel that way or that what they're saying isn't true. Fat people KNOW we're fat. We're not blind or stupid. But every person on this planet has some redeeming qualities, no matter who they are. Having your friend or family member counter negative self-talk with positive self-talk without focusing on arguing the validity of their feelings is a great way to tactfully redirect the conversation AND be supportive AND not engage in toxic positivity AND not get sucked into a conversation that is completely non-constructive.
And it needs to be said, too, that engaging in conversation with someone who's CONSTANTLY engaging in negative self-talk IS EXHAUSTING and draining and can even be damaging to YOUR OWN mental well being and self esteem. So countering with a "Tell me something you like now" is a nifty way to put a little armor on YOURSELF so you don't get sucked in to the same toxic thinking.
The responses of "Show off what you do like." and "If it's making you feel insecure, let's figure out how to downplay it," imply that even if that's how your friend feels, it's fixable. That there's an ACTION they can take to address it. Getting them engaged in problem solving things they don't like about themselves is empowering and offering to help them through it by using "we" and "us" type wording is HUGELY supportive. It implies you're there to help, you're paying attention, and you care.
Same with the final example. By offering to go through it WITH them, you're not only encouraging them to do something about how they feel, but you're also making it pretty darn clear that whatever it is they don't like, it isn't permanent. And obviously, even if they're not down with it, you've still made it clear that you're there for them and willing to stick by them.
Don't listen to other people ...you are who you are.....those people who says things like that have a very low mentality I pity them
losing confidence is the worse feeling ever.....
FR!
Scarlet Boquet so true!!
Sure is, just got out of a abusive relationship got serve depression and lost a lot of weight so I’m currently going through this but I’m trying to make a change.
Breaking your thigh bone hurts worse.
Never having any is the worse
I'm glad she has found some confidence, no matter what size a woman is we can have low self esteem.
Especially when it is belted into us that we are worthless.
@@Romcom356 some sport is not bad 😑
@@francy9585 who said anything about sports?
She literally wants to lose weight , no matter what her size is she gotta still be confident in herself.
@@leighadestan4241 what interests you?
@@francy9585 the fact that the woman in the video is trying her hardest to lose weight and be healthier and all you're doing is bringing her down !
Kudos to her for having more confidence and caring for herself more .
She shows every sign of an abused woman, I was about to question if the “bad relationship” was abusive. :(
NerualYam what signs?? Can you please point them out?
Nayelli Hernandez the shaking, avoiding eye contact with strangers, the excessive fear over something that shouldn’t induce fear, the downplaying of just how bad the relationship was (when her loved one spoke so openly), the looking immediately to Mum when in distress, the “need to get out” comment and the slowly taking steps back (that’s a low level panic attack tbh), the looking down when paid compliments.
Nayelli Hernandez also the shoulders, all arched up like a threatened animal. Idk to me I was like “she has been through some shit”. It could also be projection on my behalf but I dunno I just got a feeling.
Doesn't mean shit
Alyssa Foley if you havent experienced it don’t talk about it
"This is me frock, mother. This is me frock." I cannot explain the joy in hearing her say those words so confidently!
People don’t get this large because they were lazy or ignorant or even hungry. A trauma gets you here. Bless her and her journey.
Absolutely, thank you for seeing that. It's so hurtful when people make judgments and nasty comments about you for your size without ever considering the psychological factors that affect weight, without accepting that there ARE psychological factors that affect weight. People always want to talk about how it's unhealthy to be fat but a person doesn't get fat unless they're already unhealthy, either physically OR mentally. To act like someone gets to that weight because they're "just lazy" is so incredibly ignorant & mean-spirited. I wish more people would try to see the pain underneath that we're self-medicating with food.
dietotaku ♥️
Exactly!! Thank you so much
Depression / anxiety etc can cause weight gain
@@ncisept5900 I've had both. Anxiety is a horrible empty feeling and the only time it got a bit better was when I ate something filling. The problem was that I was permanently hungry and because I was so anxious I couldn't stand and cook for 30 minutes when even two minutes out of bed was bad enough. But of course I became depressed because of my anxiety as well.
I went up to 11st something and a size 16 before two ladies on the bus offered me a seat on a hot day because I looked pregnant in a dress and then a member of my family made a comment about my fitness.
Today I am 9st 8.5 and a 12-14 after going on a diet. I still don't like what I see in the mirror, but I never will as I never have.
She seemed like a completely different person in the second appointment, confident and empowered. It made me so happy!
Aishvarya Pathange me too!! Gave me chills 💕💜
Empower my ass. It's ridiculous that some people could get so dumb that they encourage others to eath themselves to death.
But it's of course much easier to be two-faced, virtue-signaling hypocrite and lie to others that everything is ok while being fit... than push them to face the inconvinient truth. Which could make their lives better.
greg t Mate she said she’s had surgery even to lose weight, she’s trying her best. Calm down
No bride should feel bad about her own Body ! Love this show! Who is not getting married right now, but watching? ; )
No, everyone should!
I am actually almost crying. It’s so sad.
Been married 28 years so I'm not getting married lol!
🙋♀️🙋♀️🙋♀️🤣🤣
i’m literally a teenager and watch this stuff lol
The bridal consultants are absolute angels!! I admire how they gave the bride confidence!!
👍👍👍👍👍
"This is me dress and this is me veil" lol I love how she speaks.
This is me frock - that is awesome. However, I hope she's able to lose some weight for her health. When you get this big it's not about looks, it's about living a full life and being able to have kids if you like.
@@LadyIarConnacht well said
Why did i read that in the accent 😂😂
Love me a Geordie, big up Newcastle!
North East Geordie lass 👌
This is the most wholesome say yes to the dress Ep I've ever seen
This is not Say Yes to the Dress. The show is called Curvy Brides Boutique.
@@jaxcoss5790 what's the channel name
Lirp Lorp curvy brides boutique clips are under this channel because it’s ran by the same people!!
@@somayab3380 it's basically the same show. Ladies trying on wedding dresses.
Also you don't have to scream.
I can't deny that
I’m crying because she’s honestly sooo beautiful
MariaSenpai MSP stop laying she really will look good if she does lose some weight.
Luciana De oliveira fuck you she’s beautiful
Luciana De oliveira wow, how fucking rude, maybe your saying that because your jealous!
She's beautiful just the way she is
Luciana De oliveira aprende escrever direito
She had a complete 180 from her appointment to her fitting. Whatever happened to her or whatever she did in that lapse of time was truly life saving. Her standing in front of that mirror with all that power saying "This is me frock"... goosebumps!
I was over weight on my wedding day and 2 prople at my wedding said, we thought you would have tried to loose the weight before your wedding day. People are cruel
Im sad you had to endure that
They are probably just hating because they will never be happy
Happy people don't put others down
Thank You for your kind comment xo
No problem ❤
Oh my heavens! What a rude thing to say. Some people have no manners at all.
Oof I would have gone bridezilla and would have kicked them the FUCK outtt
Someone mistreated this woman and badly. I WANT NAMES
Michiko Manalang *I WANT NAMES AND IM READY TO THROW FISTS*
Let some fcker catch these hands... FO SHO
Same. I just want to talk to them... Know what I mean?
Man I don't remember which episode it was but I remember an episode of say yes to the dress (I think) where the dude kicked out the girls mom for fat shaming her.
You can feel this way about yourself even if everyone tells you your beautiful.
I felt so bad for her, if her husband really loves her he will accept any shape or form shes in :) so she shouldn't worry ^^
*No.* I strongly dislike people like you. Caring about your significant other's health and well being DOES NOT have anything to do with loving them less or some sort of abuse. Her husband just wants her to feel comfortable and her best self and KNOWS her and KNOWS what would make her happy. Someone like you who doesn't know a fucking thing about their relationship ought to talk, making such an ignorant comment. Tell me something, you're probably against smoking. You probably hate the act. I do too. If your spouse is an addict and you tell them they need to stop because that addiction is going to be the cause of their death. Is that sickening to you? Does that make you an abuser? Does that make you love them any less? No, it does not. It's called love. And sometimes caring about someone, sometimes loving someone with all you have is telling your spouse, gf/bf, that what they are doing isn't okay because your looking out for them, because you want to, because you love them.
Chichi Oko A.) Calm down a tad mate B.) I think they meant more of helping them get better like you mentioned instead of putting them down like the woman in the videos ex had done. Caring about your significant other is important but dont make them feel worse if you do really love them (on purpose anyhow)
@@jswaggamingcool Yup, that's what I said about the spouse helping the other live a healthier lifestyle leading to a happier lifestyle. And the part about not making your partner feel bad is literally what I said is mostly the case in my initial comment. You probably didn't read my whole comment, so you should do that and then we can talk if you want
Chichi Oko the way you implied it was rude though. There was no need to be harsh.
@@britt5348 Implied what? Which comment are you talking about be more specific
The mum in this was so supportive of her daughter no matter how she was feeling and I liked that.
“I really don’t want to look in that mirror” ugh a feeling I know all too well :( Shes so beautiful I wish she could see it
MiniMimi can you see it for yourself..?
And so are you!
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THIS is why we need body positivity!
It's not about "promoting obesity":
It's about accepting the body you are currently in - whether you want to change it or not, it's about seeing your inner beauty nontheless and it's about knowing that the number on the scale does not define you as a person.
You are a wonderful human being and you are worthy of love. No matter your height, or weight, or any other physical characteristics!
Heather Lee apart from the fact that most of it does glorify being overweight - no person is naturally that big , no person is that big without overeating or eating the wrong things unless they have a medical condition.
Being this big causes such a large amount of strain and damage to internal organs especially the heart and what you e got to think of is , with the amount of fat on the outside how much fat is inside covering her organs and squeezing her arteries giving her a much higher chance of heart disease and heart attacks.
Body positivity is supposed be about accepting different body shapes , heights etc - this right here isn’t a body shape it’s a massive blob of fat and she will regret getting this big , if she get old enough to regret it that is .
@@stopcomparingeverythingtob6378 She already regrets getting this big. She said she in a bad situation and was eating to comfort her. Shes not just a blob of fat. Shes a human being who has feelings. Its sad she wakes up everyday hating herself. People like you just makes it worse.
But end of the day, every bride wants to look their best for the special day. Those wedding dresses don’t usually fit obese women. Being healthy and loosing a few pounds is a way better option. It was obvious the bride here was not happy with her weight.
Yes yes yes. You’re right. If someone can’t change something in 5 minutes, what good will you do pointing it out especially in a mean way?? Obviously obese men and women know they’re obese... but when it comes to fashion and style everyone needs to feel confident and comfortable during their journey on weight loss or just to boost their confidence to hold their head up and begin to get healthy. Whatever they decide to do, body positivity is a necessity. You never know what someone is going through or how they got to that state.
Shut the hell up
I wish they showed these brides on their wedding day so we can see them all glammed up with hair and make up done for the total package!!!
on the show, they do show some of them :-)
I’m crying just with them trying the dress on. I’ll be bawling in the floor if I see the wedding😂😭😭
They're so beautiful already that it would be fabulous to see end product.
Oh yessss! That would be the best!!! I would be sobbing tears of joy for them! 💕
They have on a few I would love to see everyone of them too
America:
“What do you say to this dress?”
“I say yes to this dress.”
UK:
“Is this the dress?”
“Yes, this is me dress.”
tHIS IS ME FROCK
Hahah not funny
“and me veil”
And my axe!
(Sorry, wrong movie.)
Oh yes the whole of Europe starts to talk in English when buying a wedding dress, it’s quite magical
(sorry for the sarcasm, this generalization is just a pet peeve of mine 🙈)
On another note: I wonder if ‘Say Yes to the Dress’ is copyrighted? Perhaps they have to phrase it differently because of that?
I want to hug her so bad 😔. Nobody should feel like that, I don’t care who it is.
Amen
@@willfckfornuggies8765 I’ll hug them too, just to kill them while they are with the ward down
@@willfckfornuggies8765 bruh.. ._.
@@willfckfornuggies8765 hey you have a point!!!!!🤗🇬🇧
Someone loves her enough to marry her as she is. I'd be dressing for him.
Lucy Gray absolutely! Hopefully he will help her to feel happy in her skin!
@Caffeineoholic Soul Actually it does not quite work this way. If you took weight (as she said) due to bad environment, you need to be and feel safe again before anything. Losing weight/stay healthy is not an easy thing to do in that case. You need strength, determination and support. And if you just feel miserable and not loving yourself, where are you going to find that mental health you need?
Body positivty should be not hating yourself and others on physical specifities. So yes it should include people of any weight. Which does not mean, as (apparently) most of the "body positivity" influencers say, that you can be overweight and healthy. Same as for underweight, you need the right amount of fat and muscles to function at your best as a human being. But you shouldn't hate yourself because one way or another you hurt yourself. You should be able to seek for help to heal with no judgement as to how you look, just looking forward to see how you will feel.
@Caffeineoholic Soul I never said being overweight was not an issue.
Regarding "the excuse" you think is wrong, I'll say: Food is a drug. Eating disorders are real illnesses linked to addiction mechanisms. You don't tell an addict to just quit right? You know that a lot of addicts need to go through a specific therapy to quit I guess. It's exctly the same with food. Would be great if it was indeed as simple as you imply.
What I said was that to seek this medical help, you often need to love yourself enough, you need to not be depressed, to not hate yourself. Because a lot of persons are not super strong mentally due to their childhood/close family/work environment... Some situation can drain your energy and it's unfair to say people are just weak. They are just human.
So *my* definition for body positivity (which is in fact the one said by several others) is that you should love yourself enough and thus the others should not judge/disrespect you whatever you look like. This is *not* encouraging obesity. Or of course it can be if you just lool at the fact I say you can't just tell someone JUST STOP EATING. But that would be taking my whole point out of context. And I hate that just for that sake you hurt people who just need a little mental uplift to actually go back on the health road.
Sorry for the long comment but I hate when people put things in my mouth I did not say. If it was simple misreading/misunderstanding, I hope this helps to clarify my view.
@Caffeineoholic Soul I can agree to the point where you said that supporting obsecity is bad BUT man somerimes ppl gain weight due to various reasons like depression and bad environment now how are you helping them by making them more depressed and sad....It would make.them even more miserable
@Caffeineoholic Soul I get ur point but some people have health issues like thyroid problems that can result in weight gain over which they have no control...or eating disorders...It's not that easy for them to lose weight...
Also u r pointing out the harmful effects of being obese on one's health so that's understandable but sometimes people might not make their intentions clear enough..so people who are told to lose weight might be under the impression that it's because of how they look and not because that person is concerned about their health...
It’s crazy how as kids we love ourselves, and as adults we try to learn how to love ourselves.
Underrated comment. Really dude, the way you said that struck deep.
Well i mean,it really depends on your past,if you had toxic people in your childhood,you’d probably feel hated.But i do agree with your second statement,it’s really ironic how adults know so many things about the world,so many things about other people and other celebrities,yet,they barely know anything about themselves. It feels like beauty takes such a big part in our self esteem.😖
It was the other way around for me though.
@@ahisha_plays_lifethe_game3429 I agree with everything else but the past thing, no. Well, maybe for me. Our class did a survery on how many girl were insecure when i say every girl put her hand u. They explained one by ome their insecurities. As well as the pyschological side is the brain develops more anixety as a teen and that may have an effect as adults. SORRY FOR THE LONG WRITING
@@octopus8978 I guess you have a point. At some point in life, your brain forces you to mature (I think it's mostly because of Puberty), it either depends on how you react to that severe change, so while some people really care about how their body looks (Face,Hips etc..) Some of my reasoning is because either you haven't been taught Emotional Control Properly (Too much reaction can cause stress,anxiety,Depression etc...) or maybe because of your surroundings and the current situation that you're living in ( like Having Family Problems in your teenage years) and others don't. This is why teaching kids on how to handle their emotions properly really matters. Our brain is a really complicated thing, even scientists don't know much about it, so forgive me if i'm wrong about this, i'm not really smart lol.Also sorry for the long writing too XD
The second dress with the little sleeves was gorgeous on her
I thought so, too. That's one I would personally pick.
chang chang ew
chang chang w h a t ?
Yeah it was really really pretty on her.
Right?? I wish she couldve seen that
I was crying from the first minute of this one because I know what it's like to look in the mirror and hate what you see. Louise is so honest and relateable, and her mum, Jo and Al are so supportive and loving. This video had such a wonderful ending, and I wish the absolute best for Louise and her lucky future spouse!
Me too! The fear of looking in the mirror and seeing all that you think is wrong with you is all too real. I can have all my friends or an entire room full of people tell me that I look fine but I still won't see it for myself in the mirror 💔
That is awful, that woman must have been so badly abused in her last marriage to feel so terribly about her body. I'm glad she's obviously healing and I'm hoping her spouse to be supports and encourages her as much and more as these consultants do.
People ruined this gorgeous girls mindset. *I WANT NAMES AND ADDRESSES*
*you'll need a gun too :)*
Flóralone Ammo,lots and lots of ammo....and freedom from prosecution....;)
@@Frovael A machine gun :)
Your the one that can get those
Pick me up on the way 👍🏻
These consultant ladies were brilliant. And yes, she looked great in the dress.
Those flutter sleeves (2nd dress, I don't know if that's the technical term for them) looked lovely on her.
Those 2 ladies are lovely
I agree. It was a beautiful dress on her and shes very pretty.I'm just so glad there is this wonderful shop with amazing owners. Every woman should feel beautiful.
I liked the neckline on the dress she chose, and would have liked to have the flutter sleeves added to that. At least to see if it works.
Agreed, those sleeves were so pretty. But I like that final dress too, very elegant and it looks as light as a cloud!
@@firelunamoon definitely! I'd commented before the video was over. I loved the final dress.
I agree the second dress with the sleeves was very flattering to her, I dont care for the low necklines, especially on the bigger ladies.
"This is a safe place for big gels" I love these two women.
@Nenethegreat W If you're big, you're big. It's a better adjective than fat.
@Nenethegreat W who hurt you? 😀
@Nenethegreat W you ok? :)
@@enhydaze ikr
@Nenethegreat W and besides it what they said not this user
I just feel so much for her. The image you have of yourself and how you see yourself in a mirror just makes it so difficult to see through your body and focus on clothes you’ve always wanted. And It sucks.
That’s horribly true. I struggle to even walk in front of a mirror because I feel ugly when looking at myself. I really don’t want anyone to be feeling like this. EVER. Not accepting yourself, is the worst feeling in the world.
Louise! I’m 33, skinny, and single!! You have had two men who want to marry you and I have had zero!! You have a husband and love and your mom with you!! That’s so much more than me!! You go girl! You are beautiful and have the things in life that are most important!!! You’re beautiful and lovely!! Congratulations on getting married love!! Xx
you are a sweetheart, and you'll see the best is yet to come for you too.
My thoughts indeed. If I found the right man, I wouldn't stress about the gown for a minute, someone obviously thinks she's very beautiful and wants to marry her
Arcadia, you sound like an amazing person! ❤️
Sandra Albuquerque Thank you so much love!! Xx
Natasha oxymoron Yes!!! Xx
This looks less like buying a dress and more like therapy. I love how patient and comforting they were.
„This is me frock, mother, this is me frock.“ god I love her so sweet
I love when she said that
@Leonie Taylor Not sure what a 'hockney' accent is? Did you mean 'cockney'? Either way, she is deffo from the North East, Newcastle way, not the south.
I love this shop so much. I love how they weren't shaming her or trying to cover in a bad way. I love how empowering they are, the dress was beautiful on her. She is also an amazing person.
the second time she came in, she had a brightness in her eyes! completely different person, luv it
She looks beautiful in every dress. I can’t imagine how she feels. I was not confident for so long, I started wearing makeup and doing different things with my hair, but I didn’t want to do that. So very slowly I stopped spending hours on hair and makeup and started slowly loving myself. She is a beautiful person.
I love her because she isn't one of the people who is overweight and has that arrogant mindset of not caring.
She actually wants to lose weight
She is strong and deserves more
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I admire people that try even if it doesn't work.
I never intended to bodyshame anyone and I never even did.
I know my comment is vague
I'm not english so my vocabulary isn't the best and I didn't want to over explain. What I'm trying to tell is what Abhishikta Chakraborty said in the comments.
I'm talking about arrogance not confidence. Everyone needs confidence.
You love her because she lacks confidence and high self-esteem? These two qualities equate arrogance to you? I cannot find the words to express how vile your thinking is.
How is CONFIDENCE arrogant? How is self love and appreciate arrogant? You're the type of person to stay away from. Toxic is what you are.
@@siotorres209
Confidence can't hurt
I'm talking about the arrogance about overweight people that are fat because they just like food.
*Then* call it body shame when someone calls them unhealthy.
The girl here could use some confidence, I respect her because she wants to lose weight if she can because it's unhealthy in some cases and I respect her for chasing her goals
Yess i like that too
Duckingotaku I understand lol you just hate people who are fat and not doing anything to change it. Like they say they love their body but they’re not healthy. Sure they need confidence but Being happy for being fat isn’t good. It’s good to try to lose weight and actually trying. I think that’s what you’re trying to say? Or close to it? But when I read that that’s what I thought what you meant.
"You can't hate yourself into a version of yourself that you can love" - everyone deserves to feel beautiful no matter what they look like, what stage they're in, and ESPECIALLY as part of recovery
Kate BL Thankyou for your wise comment...I am looking for help for my daughter on here. She seems to be eating herself to death. She also scratches the heck out of her arms. She is very generous, courageous thoughtful and hardworking. She has suffered so much, physical wounds and other trauma, in life already, I wish I could help her to take better care of her self. I would appreciate any advice you could offer, on top of your already helpful comment. Thankyou.
@@granmabern5283 I am so sorry to hear that your daughter is going through this. I highly recommend finding a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. It sounds like she is trying to numb and heal her pain through food. Food often does have a calming and energizing effect because hunger is stressful and tiring. The most important thing is not to shame her, but to say I see your pain and I want to help you (in ways that don't harm her health). Finding a therapist is a journey in and of itself, so please keep encouraging her even if the first one is not a good fit. Psychologytoday dot com has a "therapist finder" reference that is a good place to start. Lots of prayers for your family!
@@granmabern5283 www.psychologytoday.com/intl/counsellors?domain=www&cc=us&cl=en
Kate BL Thankyou. She’s been going to therapy for years, just doesn’t seem to get better enough for my hopes! She’s an adult and I have to respect her privacy, but sometimes I wish I could intervene...fix... I keep loving her and praying for her, and try to be a good example. I wrote on here because it seemed like the big brides were all on the road to love... my daughter’s true love died... I am grateful that she survived that loss and still does good and interesting things.
@@granmabern5283 your a good parent, I'm younger and I'm very very depressed and I know that having a mother that never gives up and keeps supporting us is an amazing feeling, good on you !!!
Its beautiful how they are so supportive without just lying to her like so many in society do these days. They want her to be healthy and happy.
Atleast she's getting married while so many are still looking for love.
Very right. Even thin gals.
So true.
There's no competition on who has the worst life. Misfortune comes in every form.
I know , I can barely get a text back. I mean I'm happy for her but I wonder sometimes is it just sheer luck why some people find the one and others not. Looks have little to do with it i think sometimes...
Joel 93 because some people have higher standards when they choose partners and some married because it’s only choice they have .... no warranty it would be happy marriage or not.... but take you chance and see
She looked so beautiful in her final dress!! And it wasn't just the dress, it was her confidence!
Not only beautiful, but confident, YES
Louise has a great personality. So glad she found a nice dress to wear. That neckline is so 1950's French Brigitte Bardot look. Very pretty! Hope Louise had a wonderful wedding!
Did she lose weight when she came back or did her confidence change her appearance? It was beautiful either way.
I feel like she lost weight as well
I think growing out her bangs helped too. They were hiding too much of her face and made her look older.
@Lauren Wolfe most of the time , it is true , being that fat is the consequence of overeating , low self esteem and laziness. It's bot rocket science unless you're too naive to recognize that.
@@classylassie85well she wasn't in a good place and used eating to cope and I did the same. Best you can do is encourage them, not make them feel bad about themselves. It really leaves people with a bad mindset and can leave some people to eating disorders. I'm not saying it's healthy but I'm saying tearing her down and calling her things isn't going to really help her lose that weight.
Native NYGirl if you are going to insult the people that are the subjects of this show why are you watching it?
Oh wow, what a difference between the two appointments! Like seeing two completely different people! You go girl!
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I feel her. The way she feels about her body, is how I feel about mine. It’s hard to love my body especially when trying on beautiful clothes and seeing that it doesn’t look good on me, is so disappointing and hurtful. It frustrates everyone in the end. Especially me.
sadkatt6 If anyone ever told you you don’t look good , tell them to stfu. If it’s that little annoying voice in your head, tell it to stfu. We only feel like this because we were taught to. You’re beautiful hun
If your as big as this women then u shouldn’t love your body.. u shouldn’t hate it either but instead not focus on your body but your health. U cannot be healthy and as big as this women at the same time, at least not if she doesn’t have a medical condition. I don’t judge either way cuz she may be trying to lose weight or have a medical condition but I’d be very scared for her if she didn’t want to change her body..
Is that you on your profile pic? If so, you are stunning! If you are having confidence problems you need to look deeper at yourself and realise you’re gorgeous.
@@mrcleeves7106 words can not express how angry your comment made me. The fact that you straight up told this beautiful woman that she *shouldnt* her body??? nobody. asked. so. fuck. off.
@@mrcleeves7106 She literally said in the video she knew she needed to lose the weight and that she planned to. The weird preoccupation people like you have with being "concerned about their health" is really just excuses to trash someone else's appearance. You're allowed to & SHOULD love the body you are currently in even if you want to change for the better. It's not healthy to promote this self hatred & it's why so many people develop eating disorders and body dysphoria
I love the fact that everyone around her genuinely understood how difficult it was and how much she struggled. They genuinely supported her and saw the beauty she is. It made me smile so big to see her just happily twerling in the end of the video.
There needs to be more women like this in our society!!
Jennifer reid why? She is dying
Kind people? Yes we do. Massive people? No we dont. The lady hates how she looks right now, but im glad the ladies are trying to boost her confidence.
Jennifer reid and men who actually love women for who they are.
Why? Louise is obese, what did you mean?
Louise seemed to be a nice person and I wish her the best. The store workers were excellent in Customer Services though
It you read this louise: you are stunning and have such a gentle and elegant aura!
Lena C awww 💕 She really does seem so sweet! ♥️
Louise you are cute but please loose some weight, it might help you.
Elegant aura, but not figure. .. ahahaa
CrystalCritter I don’t think they meant it as a rude thing, it will actually save her from a lot of health hazards
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“I am who I am!” Very very powerful statement that all women need to hear and learn to love themselves!
Crystal Justice YES EXACTLY!! 💕🙌🏼
No. The concept that people can't or shouldn't change is dishonest and harmful. Being that size is not healthy and isn't doing her any favors. She should change, she should lose weight, and she should seek professional mental help. No one is at a point where they should accept who they are with no interest in improving. That's lazy & conceited thinking that only leads to delusion down the road.
SpecTRe X wow! I never said nor inferred anything you typed! I clearly said I am who I am and women should embrace that I never once said that you cannot change or should not change I meant you should be proud of who you are no matter what is going on in your life. You are the one who is being very conceited and judge mental not knowing anything about the person you have decided is extremely unhealthy. That attitude is extremely unhealthy people have a right to be happy with their selves at any size at any time in their life whether you agree or not it’s their happiness not yours that matters It seems to be that you may have a problem with plus size people and that confuses me as to why you were watching a show where plus size people get to be excited and happy for a day
@Crystal Justice The premise expressed in the statement "I am who I am" is exactly that. It's a grand and sweeping conveyance that you're perfectly fine with who you are presently in every context. The inherent implication being that not only is a change not required but it isn't even considered by the person expressing it.
The overall premise is fundamentally foolish anyway, since even the most content people aren't satisfied with themselves in their entirety. Pride in oneself should always be reserved for attaining an accomplishment, being the approximate size and weight of a Fiat 500 is not an accomplishment unless you were previously the size of something like a Mini Cooper.
Beyond this, no one has the right to happiness. People have only the right to pursue it and even then only in America where such a right is enshrined in the constitution. I'll happily grant that my attitude is impolite or uncouth but to label it unhealthy is nothing short of hilarious. The entirety of my statement is provoked by the woman's clearly unhealthy size/weight. The human body was simply not built to endure such an arduous load for any protracted period of time and this is borne out in the medical statistics for morbidly obese people.
Further still, does anyone think this woman is truly happy? At best this made her momentarily pleased but what happens when she begins nervous eating out of fear she'll not still fit in that dress on her wedding day and manifests that very fear as a result? It's enabling at it's finest.
As far as why I watched, since I'm clearly opposed to obesity; morbid curiosity. It's like watching mangled corpses being pulled from a crushed car, you don't want to look but you also can't seem to look away.
So, she's saying that she doesnt want to lose weight, to get healthy. Bad excuses lead to dire health consequences, in the end.
i just really love how her mother talks about her beauty. they are both sweet and no doubt stunning women. their voices are so calming too :(
i love that she clipped her bangs back, i felt like she was trying to hide behind them before
That change in attitude and posture, the sparkles in her eyes. Even in the car you could tell she had worked realy hard on her confidence, standing tall and proud, and daring to try on a compleaty new dress with a diffrent look, and showing off what she before wanted to hide. This is strength and courage. Bravo!
I love these ladies. They're changing lives each time they help a bride find the right dress.
brangwy yes!! They are so kind & sensitive. We need more wonderful ladies like this in our world!! 💕💕💕
The sad smile she gave out when her mother said'she beautiful inside out' it was heart breaking 🥺🥺
I want her to realize if she's reading my comment that she looked gorgeous in the three dresses that she tried on ✌❤😊👑
Yes but not the hair style to her,tbh
The second dress was not for her...the third is the one....
@Kat Jasper I agree with you....but I am going to say that she looked beautiful in the end....
The dress she chose was perfect for her.
@Kat Jasper sooo you can not find someone beautiful without needing to exchange your body with the other? Fuck
She looked like a totally different person. She learned to love herself, something everyone needs to learn. She looked stunning in that last dress. I would've chosen it too.
Louise attitude the 2nd time is a huge win n she looked so much happier she’s such a beautiful woman 👩🏻
Just now watching this episode, and it’s so beautiful to see her have much more confidence in herself going back a second time to try on dresses. She chose such a gorgeous dress! The lovely ladies that helped her are truly wonderful women, my favorite episode so far ❤️
The final dress she chose was absolutely gorgeous!! It was perfect for her! Wow! Great job ladies!
"New Louise" doesn't have bangs and styled & dressed beautifully for the appointment. Wonderful, you can see how her confidence changed.
"I think it's a bit too much cleavage"
Bride "I louv it"
Ah! Absolutely the fav part 💓
Priya Agarwal yesssss
I think the mom said "I think it's a bit high on the cleavage"??
@@Brey__ yeah, that's what I heard too
Priya Agarwal that's not what the moment said
OMG, love Louise!!! That dress looks stunning on you! The last shot of you swaying was just wow. I hope you had a wonderful day and enjoyed every moment wearing your stunning dress!
When she came into the shop the second time, I thought, "Gosh, she's gorgeous!" Her increased self esteem just allowed her to shine!
My gosh was this an
Emotional episode clip ! I could feel that brides pain through the screen . I’m so happy to see she gained some emotional footing . Those sales ladies are so kind .
Oh wow… I just want to give her a hug. No one should ever feel the way she feels about herself. There’s not a single worthless aspect of this woman. I can just tell she’s a sweet soul. I personally think that she’s absolutely beautiful with or without the weight.
She already has a man that loves her for who she is and wants to marry her she should enjoy her day in her dress! 💛💛💛
Easy for u to say
Louise: "This is me dress and me veil!"
Me: YES! THIS IS ME GIRL!
"Made to feel like she was worthless". I felt that and I cried :(
I can't get over how strong this woman is. I've been in her shoes following an abusive relationship and it can be a battle going out in public, let alone trying on dresses in front of newly-met people. She was terrified, but kept going and accepting support; that's absolute strength right there! Her positivity during the next appointment warmed my entire heart - mental health can be such a burden, but I'm thrilled she's found a frock that shows off her beauty!
Louise turned out to be sure of herself and chose a lovely gown for her special day. Jo and Al were such angels in helping client.
Wow Louise looks so much younger and fresher her second time coming into the store. I think that goes to show that self acceptance and a little confidence is all you need. It makes the inner glow shine bright. Love her second pick!
I would just about fly to England to shop at this store. I love these women!
Me too I wish I could have. I wonder if they have modest dresses. Finding one plus size and modest was impossible. The only way I could was to order one online. Hopefully it's not a disaster.
She is so pretty and nobody deserves to be treated the way she was
x_stay_happy_ stay_trippy_x ikr her eyes are such a pretty colour
She's NOT pretty ..
@Cerys Morgan because it's true, why else ???
Everyone is beautiful In their own way. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The fact you don’t think she’s pretty, is a reflection of you. Ugly comes from the inside and ‘I see your true colours shinning through’ Get well soon Biatch 😘
@Daisy FunderburkI'm not ill bitch, I'm just speaking the truth. I don't THINK she's not pretty, I know she's not. Could not give stuff about my 'true colours'whatever they are !!! AT LEAST I SPEAK THE TRUTH!! I know others will agree with me, but are too afraid to speak up .. Byyyeeee, I've had my say and won't be back answering all your boring comments.
You ladies are amazing! As a size 24 on my wedding day, I was so anxious about finding a dress that made me feel beautiful. Luckily I found a shop with a woman just as lovely and kind as both of you. You are a blessing from God.
She looks beautiful in her dress and I’m so glad all of the women supported her and I hope she has a wonderful wedding
She is beautiful. I love the change in her heart for herself between the start and the end of this. She's gorgeous.
I really how these people are so encouraging and nonjudgemental.Very sweet
Heart breaking how she spoke about herself. She is on a journey and that's amazing! Yes she is a big woman, but she looked beautiful in every dress and there is always an opportunity to improve. It was nice to see her confidence go up towards the end. Self hatred will never help you. Treat yourself kinder
I got a little misty-eyed there, her personality transformation is beautiful! I'm so happy for her, all the love in the world!
Sarah P. Me too! Goosebumps. Absolutely love it. 💕💕💕
I love these two ladies. They are so supportive.
She beautiful!!! And I'm glad she not with her ex . No one should have to put up with that
The comment section gives a hope that humanity exists.Women power. I just hope that she reads all these comments.
I feel so sorry for the bride, the ladies were awesome. I'm happy that you left that douche and found love. Wishing you all the happiness in the world.
Kay McGarden Awww yes! Lovely comment. I so agree with you 💓💕
I almost started crying when she came back the second time. The confidence was beautiful on her 💗💗💗
I love Jo and Al.... And her mom.... God bless the bride and let her have a beautiful life😍😍😍.... Btw that dress is gorgeous 😘😘
"This is me frock mum, this is me frock." I love her. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My favourite bridal specialists are here again! Jo and Al, you are so supportive, I adore you. I'm glad for Louise that she found the dress!
Paula O right?? Amazing women - supporting amazing women! Love it so much! 💜💜💜
The only reason you should lose weight is for your health, not for others or for beauty standards
Exactly! That, and our bodies are the meant to be temples of the Most High.
I mean, Jesus does not love you any less for excess weight, but if we have the ability, as difficult as it may be, and as much sacrifice it comes with, then to do it for the fact our bodies are not ours but the Lord's.
Thank you ❤️
I think I would feel more comfortable with my body if I could lose some weight, I am 74 and weigh 73 kgs, but I find it not easy.
Very true
i literally love this show. and i got so emotional. im so happy she found a dress and has got abit more confidence xx
I swear someone broke her trust and always fat shamed her she has such little confidence she is beautiful
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She's hideous and unhealthy, and if she wants to live a high quality normal length lifetime, she needs to lose that disgusting flab.