I like how everyone in the show picks up for her all the time, they see her hard work and I can see even if they might be joking they think the husband is lacking and needs to help her more
"The only thing he can give her is a lousy song." Lol the host has just been roasting him the whole time. I think Deborah should maybe work in a public school as an English Teacher it would give her a lot more free time she wouldn't be working long hours and she could even have time to maybe take a class that would cater to Korean style animation to grow her portfolio and practice her Korean interview skills. I digress on what she should do about her husband's work situation, most viewers and the hosts have already said it.
Super good advice, I wonder if there is more flexibility on a marriage visa teaching in public schools? They have been pretty picky with locations in the past few years. The hosts and viewers are pretty on it right now.
she once worked as a english teacher but left the job because she would enter her home at 11 pm, it caused her alot of stress which made her not sleep alot too, i just hope her husband helps with the bills so they both can achieve their dreams
I agree with this comment so much!! Honestly, he needs to get his act together and support her. His mom enables him. I was waiting to see what Deborah's father in law would say. Her husband is like that because maybe he didn't see how real men support their wives. Not live off of them. I'm in my early 40s, I did have an Asian husband who wanted to stay home with our son, while I worked a lot. It was cute at first but over the years, he only cared about himself. The few money he made went to all his bills then. I got sick a lot and went to the emergency often. We broke up. I took myself and our child with me back to my family home in America. I look and feel so much better. My son will have a mother who is healthy strong and fully present. His dad is still connected to us and they stay in touch. I will never mule for a man again. I hope Deborah all the best in her career. She needs to look after her health.
@@melodicnuggets8045 She was working at a popular hagwon (English Academy) that is known for having it's teachers work long hour days and weekends and burn out eventually. I have a few friends that worked at this hagwon and others like it. Working at a public school, she would most likely get off around 4pm and have evenings and weekends free. And even some free time during the work day possibly. Its less money but less stress and more time to work on other goals.
I love that they call him out "It's the least you can do for her' "Ah all he can give her is a lousy song" I think he pursues music because he can't take pressure While putting a lot of pressure on her
The fact that he graduated from university with an engineering degree and still refuses to get a job is very telling. Deborah fixing up your Korean skills will take time but you can do it!!
He needs to get a job! He has been coddled by his mommy and expects the same treatment from his wife. Most entertainers (musicians and actors) work as part timers before their big break happens. They work as office workers, bicycle delivery people, wait staff, etc. He needs to get serious about supporting his beautiful wife or at least being able to donate to their income.
@@debstrout1844 exactly lmao. Even suga from bts worked as a delivery guy, yet this nobody older dude expect everything to be served on a silver plate.
@@babycherry8103 exactly like bruh, suga was so young when he worked as a delivery guy because he is a hard worker, but this old guy doesn't want to work, he is lazy.
Then one of the judges at 1:16 told the husband what qualifies him to give her an interview, I laughed. The judges are legit serious but they say it in a joking way
Hey everyone this is Deborah! :) First off, thanks for taking an interest in this series and watching a snippet of our personal lives~ I'm in fact shocked and humbled to see that my husband and I have garnered so much attention haha I never would have expected this! I've read and felt every word of both concern and support; I appreciate them all and will reflect on them~ One very important detail I'd love for everyone to keep in mind as they watch this is that although this might be considered a reality show, it is still a crafted and heavily edited story! We were asked to portray certain emotions, actions, and lines to fit said story. It doesn't fully represent the both of us and our personalities. We hope to shed more light and clarity on the filming process, who we are and what we do in due time! I know some of you have asked for some of our handles and links: I don't tend to upload or post very much (I'm working on it lol), but if you'd like to see and support us more, you can follow us on youtube at @Yongtothesun www.youtube.com/@yongtothesun instagram.com/yongsunhyun and my personal portfolio website is: deborahbello.carbonmade.com Thank you!!! Have a healthy and safe holiday season.
You're so young and you took a big step to move abroad and marry someone from a different culture. That doesn't mean that the onus is on you to do all the hard work but it seems that's what is happening. He's disrespectful and should be trying hard to make things comfortable for you while providing for you and being a positive support. He, and his mother, need to read all the comments and reflect on them and improve their attitude and behaviour. He needs to man up and they both need to stop putting you down. Don't be a soft pushover. I don't know how else to say it really but that's what your actions and words show. YOU are trying so hard to make it good. I don't think you cried in the mock interview just because of the language issue, rather it seemed much deeper than that. All the best to you. Know your worth.
The host in purple was so encouraging when he told Deb its not that she’s not good enough, it’s just not what the company was looking for :) go get it deb!
Husband- please get a job!!! Why do you need to be home full-time??? You can work and do music. Your wife has been working full-time and working at home to reach for her dreams. And I can hardly believe the mother-in-law actually thinks Deborah is better off in Korea because she married her son?! This is but much.
You see the hypocrisy women do this all the time stay at home , do home chores , nag at the husband etc . But now becaus it’s happening to a women , y’all are angry and upset and tell him to get a job .
She'd have so much more opportunity for her work in the US. With motion graphics, storyboarding, animation, etc. Literally no reason to stay in Korea which is much smaller and much more specific. I understand she wants to work in her husband's country, but what Korean animated series can most people globally name? It's a small market that is very insular. It's not like US animation or Japanese animation which people know about world wide. She's really limiting herself even in her dream for his sake. Of course she didn't pass the interview, Korea is not a diverse country. They are not looking to animate a show full of black characters. You need a diverse country for that.
Yeah I'm not gonna lie, when he said she needed to diversify her characters I felt like that was code for "They can't be black". Because it's not a problem when literally all of the animated characters on shows are Asian with no spec of color/shade variation, but the other way around is not generally accepted. 😕
@@eventplanner461 I don’t think it has to do with the colour of her characters… it’s the type of animation she was doing. They wanted more 2D animation which she doesn’t have experience shown in her portfolio.
Deborah the reason you gave to the programme's interviewer for applying to an animation company, was filled with admiration, so try to portray your admiration of Korean Animators in the forthcoming interviews I'm sure it won't be long until you're snapped up Fighting 🙏🏻🤞🏻🤝🏻 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👑
He verbally disrespects her when they are being filmed. Imagine how the husband and her mother-in-law are treating Deborah when the cameras aren’t on! Scary thought. Deborah, know your self-worth and leave this toxic relationship. You deserve to be respected and treated with loving kindness.
who are you telling her to leave her husband? you are just judging from what you see on your screen, you don't know anything about their family and what's really going on behind the camera. they seem to love each other and you don't have a right to interfere other's family
Praying for Deborah and her finding the career of her dreams. Most people in America couldn’t to HALF of what she is capable of. Blessings are coming back to you 10 fold!!! Keep going Queen 🙏🏽
I think she would be free from a lot of stress if she drops her husband. He literally adds nothing to her table. I also don't feel sorry that she's with him because that's who she chose. Nobody is forcing her. I wish her the best and hope she becomes really successful. The amount of hard work and effort she puts will pay off.
Honestly,I feel like she’s really sad and tense - not only through the whole show but at this point in her life.She’s not happy ,she’s struggling to just get through her life.She looks as if life has been sucked out of her.I hope and pray she finds peace,security,and happiness and the vibrancy of life is restored to her. The host was absolutely right to stick it to the husband-this is no way to treat a wife…what’s more this is a woman who left her country and family- what joy does she have now living like this?
Ugh I wanted her to get that job so bad, I started tearing up. My first dream was to be an animator I know the industry can be difficult! Deborah if you see this tryin applying to animation competitions! your style is wonderful and beautiful.
Money is not worth the stress of being in a job that's bad for your health, I'm so glad Deborah left her job those hours were crazy. Praying she finds something in the animation industry, she has so much talent she just needs a chance 🙏🏾
Aaaww we all love Deborah and wish her success to fulfill her dreams❣️ yes, her husband needs to get a job‼️ I appreciate the host roasting him the whole time 😂
I've been both Deborah and her husband, mostly Deborah in the relationship so I can relate to both. It should be a stage in life, not forever. As long as you both move forward things will be okay, both people will change during a relationship and that's normal. We have to accept those changes and be supportive.
Yess! Precisely. Me too. At the beginning of my marriage i was Deborah. I worked and picked up our son and fed him and took him to nursery since he was a toddler as I had to work. My husband decided to study masters so i had to pay the bills and also i paid for the deposit of his course on top of that. After the 2nd year i was fuming and we were constantly fighting. But years later you realise that he was seen in the wrong light by me. He then returned the favour a few years later when we moved to UK. I didnt work for 5 years and he never once complained about me. Now that we are married 16 years i have learnt that what it seems like in the beginning doesnt mean that is how it will always be. What is important is kindness and supporting each other and not being calculative
That was me 3 years of our relationship ,my family talked alot said all sorts of things he was studying by then ,a foreigner and I was pregnant working and studying at the same time ,when the baby came I dropped out of university to just work and take care of him ,now things have changed he works and I stay home and study and my family doesn't talk bad about him anymore.
Guy is almost 40 there is a slim chance he will catch his big break... He needs to get a real job and support his wife in her dreams. She looks like the only one who can make that happen, She deserves waaaaaaaay better.
Poor Deb 😔 banana man said bitter truth: her art is great but Koreans love cute and silly animals. Im worried about her because shes strong woman but not in the right place with her skills and not in the right relationship ☹️
I will be brutally honest here. She should be in the US and use her skills where it would be much more appreciated and where culturally speaking she’d feel more comfortable exploring her true voice…I see here she’s essentially feeling trapped not only in her relationship but also in the lack of prospects for a person of her caliber. Ladies and gentlemen, never settle for less no matter what! I’ve been in her shoes and sometimes making a lot of sacrifices (not even compromises) will not get you to fulfill those big dreams and goals you’ve always wanted. If your so-called “hubby” isn’t pulling his/her weight and is constantly gaslighting you, take your fine azz and leave for your own mental health! Not even the sweet sweet idea of an international relationship (marriage) will stop me from achieving what I always wanted. If someone doesn’t help you fulfill your dreams, is a constant nag, and isn’t doing enough to help(monetarily and spiritually), RUN!!!!!
there are a lot of people working jobs that are not in their field because the job market is so oversaturated. and most of the time you have to have impeccable skills to make it.
he is temporarily unemployed why are you so angry i dont even worry their financial status cuz both of them are so diligent and capable he can get a job anytime cuz hes smart
This husband should be ashamed of his behavior. As a man he has a duty to make sure his wife is well taken care of and happy. And he is failing in this regard completely.
I wish the best for Deborah. I hope a good company will find your skills ,talent and experience useful. Just be patient and your time will come. As for the husband, you are the man of the house and should be the breadwinner of the family. Follow your dreams but also make sure that Deborah is well taken care of.
You can see sincerity in a person. I'm sure you will succeed in whatever you do. I know first hand how much of a struggle it is living in another country and starting life all over again. I wish you the best in all your future endeavors.
Awwww. She is lovely. It broke my heart when she started crying at the interview prep. I totally feel you. You are working hard. Follow your heart and do what’s best for you. I wish you the best.
Deborah if you are reading this, You are a smart, strong and hardworking woman. As much as you love your husband so much, it is not worth the heartache to be with a man that doesn't want to work to support you. As much as you are in love with him, please open your eyes and see the reality of the world. This man is lazy, selfish and self-centred as much as he supports you. The nagging is just the tip of the iceberg, however, the day he will show you his inner demons, as Whoopi Goldberg famously said " Molly, You in Danger, Girl"
I wish you the best Deborah 🎉 And for the husband: Go to work, at least part-time. Stop living your dream on your wife‘s back. Many musicians work part-time and do other projects on the side to at least support themselves.
I feel like because she is a English teacher, she speaks very slowely than what is natural for her. Its probably because she works so many hours, so its hard to ajust to her natural way of speaking.
I personally think when you choose to live in South Korea over any other countries you must prepare yourself mentally, because we already saw so many people with mentally stressful life. I just want to go there as a tourist but I will not stay there more than a week.
To excel as singer/performer start-up in korea: 1.talented (capable to sing/compose song brilliantly 2.Amazing visual + young + single 3. None of the above but an awesome entertainer. Her husband needs to get a new job or working as a song writer if he's a great composer.. coz his prospect looks gloomy. I'm sad for this couple's future. She's done maximal already and exhausted 😞
God bless you Deborah! I know what's it's like not to have a job but not have a job in a different country and struggling to express yourself, that's hard! Sure she decided to go to South Korea but it seems like her husband is not as supportive in some ways. I pray that he becomes more understanding in those areas that he lacks. I really want things to work out for her!
Someone in the comments on one of the other videos about this couple suggested they make an animation together- She could draw/ write and he could do the music. They could even start a RUclips channel. I think this is a great idea but I'm sure would be difficult to find the time especially if she is looking for work (he should too btw)
Woow I'm glad there is update. I was crying with her when she started crying. I love this couple , I was a bit mad that the husband is not working but then I realized that if they support each other on doing what they love then I'm happy for them, that was a brave move for Deborah to quit teaching, I applaud her. I hope the husband's music career takes off sooner and same thing applies with Deborah I wish her success, may they stay happy together. Fighting ❤️❤️❤️💪
It is interesting yet wonderful to see these cross cultural relationships. The language and cultural barriers she had to overcome is a testament to the bond she has for him. If he wants to keep this gem, he needs to meet her halfway as well.
Sorry, but there is nothing supportive about this man. He's doing the bare minimum. A supportive husband would actually go and look for a job, so that his wife doesn't have to work that hard. There's nothing supportive about a man who lets his wife pay the bills. This man is lazy and prefers being taken of financially by a woman. I feel sorry for Deborah. I hope she can dump him soon and find a better man. No woman should have to be in a marriage this stressful. She's still young and this marriage is sucking the life out of her. This is what happens when you marry the wrong person.
@@happyjolly77able for real like NOT EVEN THE MINIMUM what does he do ?? 😭 helps with her hair but doesn't even take off half the time she takes by herself, cooks but she could do that herself i bet so what is left???
Oh no! When she started crying, I started crying! She must be so stressed and must really want that job. Poor thing. Interviews, in and of themselves, are stressful. Let alone for a big company you really really want to work for. But she speaks very well, I think that with a little practice and some calm, and she will nail it! She did a great job on her interview! So proud of her! She will land that next one, for sure! GOOD LUCK DEBORAH!!!!!!!
Deb will one day be a great diverse contributor to the Korean Animation market. I hope they’ll realize that! She understands different cultures, therefore adding more characters that will help Koreans understand the world at large.
Animation is huge in the US, she should try to find a US-based animation job that allows remote working. If the husband can work, she can take the time to build her animation portfolio on RUclips or social media at least. Husband could easily teach music/guitar as a gig at least.
I want so much for her and to be her friend, but I'd be the friend to tell her she deserves better. I'm also in Korea looking for a non-teaching job. It's not easy even though I speak korean. It's important to have supportive, helpful people around you... not nagging, helpless tiring ppl like this husband
It's not easy to move to another country, there they speak more their mother tongue and not English. Korea is such a country, that you have it hard to apply for a job there and you need to speak Korean fluently. I understand, why she cries. I wish her all the best for it
One thing though that’s what unfortunately happens when you move to another country you have to learn the language. One thing I hate is when people go to Portugal and don’t even try to speak Portuguese and just go by in english. I am in England and if I tried to speak Portuguese when I came here no one would ever try to understand me.
@@lilarodrigues2698 Oh yeah. I feel that. Sure, you need to learn it for the coutnry you want to live. But here in Germany, we are okay with people who speak broken German and help them out, if they want our help. Otherwise is English a helper and Korea is still not that open for foreigners. I never went there yet, but I heard from Koreans and foreigners themselves, that they have clubswith a non foreigner sign. So they want just Koreans there. That's what I wanted to say with my first comment
In Philippines, You can't get a better and decent job if you're not good in english... it's kinda sad that we don't use our first language. I understand why SoKor is kinda strict about it even Japan, their language is so important for them because that's part of their culture.
@@LJE1821 Sure, for every country is their mother tongue important, but like you perhaps the other comments here, before you comment. Then you understand what I meant. Koreans are still not that open to the world. Foreigners get judge all the time, they have clubss with a sign (I already wrote about it here, read it), parents have in the beginning something about the international relationship,.... We others are more open about foreigners in our countries. I mean we Europeans took some people from the ukraine to us, because of the war
@@lilarodrigues2698 the situation is different here in korea. We import foreigners to teach English specifically because they can't speak korean to children. So they are not expected to learn korean. Because it is very different from English language it takes years to learn it. And even then you cannot find a job. So I see why foreigners who are busy do not learn it.
God, i feel sorry for her. This isn't what marriage should be like. It's already hard to live in a foreign country with no family, but coming back home to a nagging jobless husband is very stressful. I don't envy her. I actually feel sad for her. Marriage shouldn't be that hard and stressful. She is in a foreign country, working so hard and financially taking care of a man. This is role reversal. I don't want a marriage like that if I have to be taking care of the man and paying the bills. You can clearly see that he doesn't treat her good. I don't know why some black women have this korean boo fantasy. I would never leave my home country and move to a foreign country for love, learn a whole new language, only to end up financially struggling in a marriage with a jobless husband..no way. From what i've seen from these videos, this man doesn't really care for her and he's just using her. I don't think that she would marry a jobless black man, so why give that korean guy a pass. A man is supposed to be financially stable to support his wife and family. Watching videos like these, seeing black women in such poor relationships makes me sad. A woman isn't meant to suffer in a marriage. Was she that desperate to get married, that she ended up with a guy like him? She's young, pretty, hardworking and ambitious. She deserves better and she can do better. She can find a far better husband than this one.
its not uncommon these days to see the woman striking out while the husband stays home to take care of the house. However, you are right in saying that the husband could be a bit more of a partner, and offer greater support instead of selfishly chasing a dream. If he was single and living alone, I'm sure we won't even see this attitude from him as he would be struggling to make ends meet. But to live in comfort while the wife is providing is bad enough. Not being understanding of her plight and coming at her for trivial things after a long day at work is also just ain't it?? He could maintain the house, cook, do small things for her after work to make her more comfortable etc.???? It's a partnership, it's NOT AN OBLIGATION for her to provide for you??? She could very well up and leave for the US one day if she's tired and I'm all for it. So wake up dude???
writing all this to speak on another criticize a relationship only and ignoring all the positive things she has to say about her husband, she's not suffering by looking for a job, which as you can see isn't hard to find,she's not being forced to work by the husband. i havent seen a couple in korea whether a foreign wife or husband who doesn't want to work regardless of whether they are provided for, let them be!!! She knows her husband more that you
@@beepbloopbeepbloop how have you concluded that he's living comfortably, im sure he has alot of worries too regarding his work and him provoding good enough money, its just they didn't focus on him here, plus i'm sure he'll have to do sth to prevent them from going poor or bankrupt..
For the ladies here suggesting that females 18-20 are “grown” simply bc they have lost their virginity, drank alcohol, got pregnant, moved out, etc before the age of 18, and signed legal docs before 20, does not negate the fact that the brain is not fully developed on average until the age of 25 as big sis says in the video. I will be 23 next month and even now think back on how different I thought even just at the age of 18. I remember signing up for the military (wrongfully as if I would have thought it through or knew what I know now about myself) I would not have done it. I have matured a lot in the last 4-5 yrs and would tell my 18-20 y/o self a lot. I’m still in college and growing up. I’m now married and my husband and I (both 22) are still growing up together and want to be more mature and financially stable before having children so that we are able to raise children while we’re actually grown, now while still figuring out how to be adults.
The host is everything! If I were this husband, I'd have left this interview feeling really ashamed and aware of how inferior a job I am doing and be inspired to do more. He's not even a good singer. It's time to get a real job, dude. Let her work on her passion for a change and go be a salary man before you get too old and no Korean company will employ you.
Everytime someone will be romanticizing Korean man, show how Deborah is living, how husband and mother-in-law are treating her. These clips can serve as an eye opener for many foreign girls.
Why are the judges roasting the husband? The little things her husband does for her is old fashion, AUTENTHIC AND GENUINE love. He is doing things that make her happy with heartfelt gestures and experiences rather than materials. She def doesn't seem like a material girl so ya
Deborah is a gorgeous and talented young lady 😍🙌🙌 she can work as model too as she seems to have a unique beauty i do personally feel her husband should work and support her instead stressing her more 🤔 i been in her place before i know what is to be in a foreign country and restart again your life and the language and the culture with people pushing you and stressing you all the time 🥲the first year specially always going to be hard as a part of the process but Deborah if one day you read this i want to tell you that you gonna make it 🙌🙌 learn other language is a precess so 👍 Fighting ✌️✌️
They are very cute. I think the few of us that had dreams and aspirations it's what makes adulthood very bare able. At the same time, it's irresponsible how Deborah's husband isn't contributing more. She's aging really fast inside and there's people who die young from being overworked.
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“Ugh, the only thing he can give her is a lousy song” that host has been on the husband’s NECK the whole segment lmaooo 😭
Ikr I feel bad for him. That host is so insensitive sometimes. 😑
@@SerendipityTrouvaille i think the husband needs to hear that tho, she’s carrying…
Thank god he was on her side as sometimes on this show they side with the Korean person more
@@SerendipityTrouvaille how is that being insensitive? Would you act like the husbands to your loved ones ?
@@SerendipityTrouvaille would you act like the husbands to your wife ? Is that how you love someone ?
I like how everyone in the show picks up for her all the time, they see her hard work and I can see even if they might be joking they think the husband is lacking and needs to help her more
"The only thing he can give her is a lousy song." Lol the host has just been roasting him the whole time. I think Deborah should maybe work in a public school as an English Teacher it would give her a lot more free time she wouldn't be working long hours and she could even have time to maybe take a class that would cater to Korean style animation to grow her portfolio and practice her Korean interview skills. I digress on what she should do about her husband's work situation, most viewers and the hosts have already said it.
Super good advice, I wonder if there is more flexibility on a marriage visa teaching in public schools? They have been pretty picky with locations in the past few years. The hosts and viewers are pretty on it right now.
100% agree with this comment completely.
she once worked as a english teacher but left the job because she would enter her home at 11 pm, it caused her alot of stress which made her not sleep alot too, i just hope her husband helps with the bills so they both can achieve their dreams
I agree with this comment so much!! Honestly, he needs to get his act together and support her. His mom enables him. I was waiting to see what Deborah's father in law would say. Her husband is like that because maybe he didn't see how real men support their wives. Not live off of them.
I'm in my early 40s, I did have an Asian husband who wanted to stay home with our son, while I worked a lot. It was cute at first but over the years, he only cared about himself. The few money he made went to all his bills then. I got sick a lot and went to the emergency often. We broke up. I took myself and our child with me back to my family home in America.
I look and feel so much better. My son will have a mother who is healthy strong and fully present. His dad is still connected to us and they stay in touch.
I will never mule for a man again.
I hope Deborah all the best in her career. She needs to look after her health.
@@melodicnuggets8045 She was working at a popular hagwon (English Academy) that is known for having it's teachers work long hour days and weekends and burn out eventually. I have a few friends that worked at this hagwon and others like it. Working at a public school, she would most likely get off around 4pm and have evenings and weekends free. And even some free time during the work day possibly. Its less money but less stress and more time to work on other goals.
I love that they call him out
"It's the least you can do for her'
"Ah all he can give her is a lousy song"
I think he pursues music because he can't take pressure
While putting a lot of pressure on her
I am LIVING for the judge's sass lol. He's so funny! He adds a lot to the show.
The fact that he graduated from university with an engineering degree and still refuses to get a job is very telling. Deborah fixing up your Korean skills will take time but you can do it!!
He needs to get a job! He has been coddled by his mommy and expects the same treatment from his wife. Most entertainers (musicians and actors) work as part timers before their big break happens. They work as office workers, bicycle delivery people, wait staff, etc. He needs to get serious about supporting his beautiful wife or at least being able to donate to their income.
@@debstrout1844 exactly lmao. Even suga from bts worked as a delivery guy, yet this nobody older dude expect everything to be served on a silver plate.
engineering dudes are also usually misogynists
@@babycherry8103 exactly like bruh, suga was so young when he worked as a delivery guy because he is a hard worker, but this old guy doesn't want to work, he is lazy.
He's using her. Look at her she's drained. She's exhausted and looks older than her actual age.
Then one of the judges at 1:16 told the husband what qualifies him to give her an interview, I laughed. The judges are legit serious but they say it in a joking way
Hey everyone this is Deborah! :)
First off, thanks for taking an interest in this series and watching a snippet of our personal lives~ I'm in fact shocked and humbled to see that my husband and I have garnered so much attention haha I never would have expected this! I've read and felt every word of both concern and support; I appreciate them all and will reflect on them~
One very important detail I'd love for everyone to keep in mind as they watch this is that although this might be considered a reality show, it is still a crafted and heavily edited story! We were asked to portray certain emotions, actions, and lines to fit said story. It doesn't fully represent the both of us and our personalities. We hope to shed more light and clarity on the filming process, who we are and what we do in due time!
I know some of you have asked for some of our handles and links: I don't tend to upload or post very much (I'm working on it lol), but if you'd like to see and support us more, you can follow us on youtube at @Yongtothesun
www.youtube.com/@yongtothesun
instagram.com/yongsunhyun
and my personal portfolio website is:
deborahbello.carbonmade.com
Thank you!!! Have a healthy and safe holiday season.
@@queensgambit5496 will do! I’ll definitely check that out and consider how best to showcase my work going forward. Thanks for your support!
HI ! Just wanted to let you know that you are super gorgeous ❤❤ wish you the best
Wishing you and your husband Goodluck to your future. You're talented and beautiful by the way.
You're so young and you took a big step to move abroad and marry someone from a different culture. That doesn't mean that the onus is on you to do all the hard work but it seems that's what is happening.
He's disrespectful and should be trying hard to make things comfortable for you while providing for you and being a positive support. He, and his mother, need to read all the comments and reflect on them and improve their attitude and behaviour. He needs to man up and they both need to stop putting you down.
Don't be a soft pushover. I don't know how else to say it really but that's what your actions and words show. YOU are trying so hard to make it good. I don't think you cried in the mock interview just because of the language issue, rather it seemed much deeper than that.
All the best to you. Know your worth.
Deborah we would like to follow your RUclips channel and videos not of your husbands.
The host in purple was so encouraging when he told Deb its not that she’s not good enough, it’s just not what the company was looking for :) go get it deb!
Seriously he can still work and still try and make his dream come true yet he is home alllllll day doing absolutely nothing
Exactly she was doing it so can he
i hope the best for deborah, she's such a sweetheart and deserves better in life😭❤️
She’s absolutely gorgeous and so hard working. Her husband should be so lucky to have her and should put more effort into helping her with her work.
"the only thing he can give her is a lousy song" that host didn't have to roast the husband that HARD 😭 but I love him for it!
😅Yes he did
He was right to do so as well. Debbie deserves way better
He needed it
Oh, he did.
He didnt? He has to hear it. That man have thick skin
Husband- please get a job!!! Why do you need to be home full-time??? You can work and do music. Your wife has been working full-time and working at home to reach for her dreams. And I can hardly believe the mother-in-law actually thinks Deborah is better off in Korea because she married her son?! This is but much.
I agree. His mother cannot be serious.
Her friend is sympathetic. I’m glad she has her. They need to get together more often.
Sorry but does the husband have any shame?
@@mnicolls835 ikr 🤣
You see the hypocrisy women do this all the time stay at home , do home chores , nag at the husband etc . But now becaus it’s happening to a women , y’all are angry and upset and tell him to get a job .
the guy just made her exhausted that she secretly is in pain deep down which is why she is feeling sadness
i really like the bold guy in yellow 💛 he is so funny ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 🤣
She'd have so much more opportunity for her work in the US. With motion graphics, storyboarding, animation, etc. Literally no reason to stay in Korea which is much smaller and much more specific. I understand she wants to work in her husband's country, but what Korean animated series can most people globally name? It's a small market that is very insular. It's not like US animation or Japanese animation which people know about world wide. She's really limiting herself even in her dream for his sake. Of course she didn't pass the interview, Korea is not a diverse country. They are not looking to animate a show full of black characters. You need a diverse country for that.
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Yeah I'm not gonna lie, when he said she needed to diversify her characters I felt like that was code for "They can't be black". Because it's not a problem when literally all of the animated characters on shows are Asian with no spec of color/shade variation, but the other way around is not generally accepted. 😕
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@@eventplanner461 I don’t think it has to do with the colour of her characters… it’s the type of animation she was doing. They wanted more 2D animation which she doesn’t have experience shown in her portfolio.
@Rock_ Lee this man is no oppa, he's ugly, old, isn't insanely rich, lol what does she see in him. you can't be koreaboo to this degree.
This guy needs to get a job and give his wife a break. Disappointing.
I think he needs to work too. His wife looks so exhausted and tired.
yeah she looks drained
Deborah the reason you gave to the programme's interviewer for applying to an animation company, was filled with admiration, so try to portray your admiration of Korean Animators in the forthcoming interviews
I'm sure it won't be long until you're snapped up
Fighting 🙏🏻🤞🏻🤝🏻 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👑
The husband sees her cry every time because of frustration. She’s tired you can see it from her face he could at least get a job and let her rest
He verbally disrespects her when they are being filmed. Imagine how the husband and her mother-in-law are treating Deborah when the cameras aren’t on! Scary thought. Deborah, know your self-worth and leave this toxic relationship. You deserve to be respected and treated with loving kindness.
where do you see the toxic disrespect?
@@lunaunuagbon Watch the other vlogs of this couple.
I didn't see that on here but I did catch how he grew tensed at the newlywed comment
@@nicoleraheem1195 Watch the other episodes of this couple. The presenters continually call him out on his poor behavior towards his wife.
who are you telling her to leave her husband? you are just judging from what you see on your screen, you don't know anything about their family and what's really going on behind the camera. they seem to love each other and you don't have a right to interfere other's family
Praying for Deborah and her finding the career of her dreams. Most people in America couldn’t to HALF of what she is capable of. Blessings are coming back to you 10 fold!!! Keep going Queen 🙏🏽
I think she would be free from a lot of stress if she drops her husband. He literally adds nothing to her table. I also don't feel sorry that she's with him because that's who she chose. Nobody is forcing her. I wish her the best and hope she becomes really successful. The amount of hard work and effort she puts will pay off.
Honestly,I feel like she’s really sad and tense - not only through the whole show but at this point in her life.She’s not happy ,she’s struggling to just get through her life.She looks as if life has been sucked out of her.I hope and pray she finds peace,security,and happiness and the vibrancy of life is restored to her. The host was absolutely right to stick it to the husband-this is no way to treat a wife…what’s more this is a woman who left her country and family- what joy does she have now living like this?
Deborah so kind and lovely. She deserved better. All that she emmits is love.
I like how the guy in yellow is cutting the husband NO slack whatsoever 😂😂👍
I hope the channel keeps up with Deborah and how she is doing with her animation passion.
Love this show and how everyone tries to encourage Deborah ❤
The guy in yellow is awesome! I love his honestly. Lol even at others expense. It is what it is!
I love how they’re so brutally honest… 😂
Ugh I wanted her to get that job so bad, I started tearing up. My first dream was to be an animator I know the industry can be difficult! Deborah if you see this tryin applying to animation competitions! your style is wonderful and beautiful.
I feel I hate interviews in English in the US, to do it in another language is difficult. I feel her 😢
Money is not worth the stress of being in a job that's bad for your health, I'm so glad Deborah left her job those hours were crazy. Praying she finds something in the animation industry, she has so much talent she just needs a chance 🙏🏾
Aaaww we all love Deborah and wish her success to fulfill her dreams❣️ yes, her husband needs to get a job‼️ I appreciate the host roasting him the whole time 😂
I've been both Deborah and her husband, mostly Deborah in the relationship so I can relate to both. It should be a stage in life, not forever. As long as you both move forward things will be okay, both people will change during a relationship and that's normal. We have to accept those changes and be supportive.
Yess! Precisely. Me too. At the beginning of my marriage i was Deborah. I worked and picked up our son and fed him and took him to nursery since he was a toddler as I had to work. My husband decided to study masters so i had to pay the bills and also i paid for the deposit of his course on top of that. After the 2nd year i was fuming and we were constantly fighting. But years later you realise that he was seen in the wrong light by me. He then returned the favour a few years later when we moved to UK. I didnt work for 5 years and he never once complained about me. Now that we are married 16 years i have learnt that what it seems like in the beginning doesnt mean that is how it will always be. What is important is kindness and supporting each other and not being calculative
That was me 3 years of our relationship ,my family talked alot said all sorts of things he was studying by then ,a foreigner and I was pregnant working and studying at the same time ,when the baby came I dropped out of university to just work and take care of him ,now things have changed he works and I stay home and study and my family doesn't talk bad about him anymore.
Guy is almost 40 there is a slim chance he will catch his big break... He needs to get a real job and support his wife in her dreams. She looks like the only one who can make that happen, She deserves waaaaaaaay better.
When she cried, so sad. She's so smart/talented and she's doing job interviews in another country and a different language
She’s way too nice and deserves better.
nobody deserves anything, if you want something better work for it, thinking deserve it is entitlement
Poor Deb 😔 banana man said bitter truth: her art is great but Koreans love cute and silly animals. Im worried about her because shes strong woman but not in the right place with her skills and not in the right relationship ☹️
I will be brutally honest here. She should be in the US and use her skills where it would be much more appreciated and where culturally speaking she’d feel more comfortable exploring her true voice…I see here she’s essentially feeling trapped not only in her relationship but also in the lack of prospects for a person of her caliber. Ladies and gentlemen, never settle for less no matter what! I’ve been in her shoes and sometimes making a lot of sacrifices (not even compromises) will not get you to fulfill those big dreams and goals you’ve always wanted. If your so-called “hubby” isn’t pulling his/her weight and is constantly gaslighting you, take your fine azz and leave for your own mental health! Not even the sweet sweet idea of an international relationship (marriage) will stop me from achieving what I always wanted. If someone doesn’t help you fulfill your dreams, is a constant nag, and isn’t doing enough to help(monetarily and spiritually), RUN!!!!!
I agree. Going back to the US would be better for her.
You damn right about that!
the us job market is hard as well, i don’t think it would be as easy as you think.
there are a lot of people working jobs that are not in their field because the job market is so oversaturated. and most of the time you have to have impeccable skills to make it.
he is temporarily unemployed why are you so angry i dont even worry their financial status cuz both of them are so diligent and capable he can get a job anytime cuz hes smart
This husband should be ashamed of his behavior. As a man he has a duty to make sure his wife is well taken care of and happy. And he is failing in this regard completely.
Deborah is such a wonderful person, she captured my heart. Wishing you Good Luck Deborah,
She is so naturally beautiful. They’re truly a sweet couple.
I wish the best for Deborah. I hope a good company will find your skills ,talent and experience useful. Just be patient and your time will come. As for the husband, you are the man of the house and should be the breadwinner of the family. Follow your dreams but also make sure that Deborah is well taken care of.
You can see sincerity in a person. I'm sure you will succeed in whatever you do. I know first hand how much of a struggle it is living in another country and starting life all over again. I wish you the best in all your future endeavors.
Awwww. She is lovely. It broke my heart when she started crying at the interview prep. I totally feel you. You are working hard. Follow your heart and do what’s best for you. I wish you the best.
😂😂😂 Seok-Cheon doesn't beat around the bush. "All he can do is give her a lousy song"
참 사람이 이쁘고 착하다 화이팅 입니다. Don't give up... But in all honesty your husband should give up his dream and give you more support.
Deborah if you are reading this, You are a smart, strong and hardworking woman. As much as you love your husband so much, it is not worth the heartache to be with a man that doesn't want to work to support you. As much as you are in love with him, please open your eyes and see the reality of the world. This man is lazy, selfish and self-centred as much as he supports you. The nagging is just the tip of the iceberg, however, the day he will show you his inner demons, as Whoopi Goldberg famously said " Molly, You in Danger, Girl"
I wish you the best Deborah 🎉
And for the husband: Go to work, at least part-time. Stop living your dream on your wife‘s back. Many musicians work part-time and do other projects on the side to at least support themselves.
My brother is a writer and he works as a kitchen porter to get by. He doesn't try to live off others.
I feel like because she is a English teacher, she speaks very slowely than what is natural for her. Its probably because she works so many hours, so its hard to ajust to her natural way of speaking.
I personally think when you choose to live in South Korea over any other countries you must prepare yourself mentally, because we already saw so many people with mentally stressful life.
I just want to go there as a tourist but I will not stay there more than a week.
To excel as singer/performer start-up in korea:
1.talented (capable to sing/compose song brilliantly
2.Amazing visual + young + single
3. None of the above but an awesome entertainer.
Her husband needs to get a new job or working as a song writer if he's a great composer.. coz his prospect looks gloomy. I'm sad for this couple's future. She's done maximal already and exhausted 😞
She is wonderful 💕💕
God bless you Deborah! I know what's it's like not to have a job but not have a job in a different country and struggling to express yourself, that's hard! Sure she decided to go to South Korea but it seems like her husband is not as supportive in some ways. I pray that he becomes more understanding in those areas that he lacks. I really want things to work out for her!
I like the host with bald head.I like his straightforwardness everytime
Someone in the comments on one of the other videos about this couple suggested they make an animation together- She could draw/ write and he could do the music. They could even start a RUclips channel. I think this is a great idea but I'm sure would be difficult to find the time especially if she is looking for work (he should too btw)
Woow I'm glad there is update. I was crying with her when she started crying. I love this couple , I was a bit mad that the husband is not working but then I realized that if they support each other on doing what they love then I'm happy for them, that was a brave move for Deborah to quit teaching, I applaud her. I hope the husband's music career takes off sooner and same thing applies with Deborah I wish her success, may they stay happy together.
Fighting ❤️❤️❤️💪
@The Unknown exactly what I was thinking.
It is interesting yet wonderful to see these cross cultural relationships. The language and cultural barriers she had to overcome is a testament to the bond she has for him. If he wants to keep this gem, he needs to meet her halfway as well.
I pray for her! I hope she gets the job!! Fighting!! 🎉❤❤
Sorry, but there is nothing supportive about this man. He's doing the bare minimum. A supportive husband would actually go and look for a job, so that his wife doesn't have to work that hard. There's nothing supportive about a man who lets his wife pay the bills. This man is lazy and prefers being taken of financially by a woman. I feel sorry for Deborah. I hope she can dump him soon and find a better man. No woman should have to be in a marriage this stressful. She's still young and this marriage is sucking the life out of her. This is what happens when you marry the wrong person.
I don't think he is even doing the bare minimum
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@@happyjolly77able for real like NOT EVEN THE MINIMUM what does he do ?? 😭 helps with her hair but doesn't even take off half the time she takes by herself, cooks but she could do that herself i bet so what is left???
Oh no! When she started crying, I started crying! She must be so stressed and must really want that job. Poor thing. Interviews, in and of themselves, are stressful. Let alone for a big company you really really want to work for. But she speaks very well, I think that with a little practice and some calm, and she will nail it! She did a great job on her interview! So proud of her! She will land that next one, for sure! GOOD LUCK DEBORAH!!!!!!!
Deb will one day be a great diverse contributor to the Korean Animation market. I hope they’ll realize that! She understands different cultures, therefore adding more characters that will help Koreans understand the world at large.
Animation is huge in the US, she should try to find a US-based animation job that allows remote working. If the husband can work, she can take the time to build her animation portfolio on RUclips or social media at least. Husband could easily teach music/guitar as a gig at least.
Guys the way that you look each other reflects pure and deep love.
I want so much for her and to be her friend, but I'd be the friend to tell her she deserves better. I'm also in Korea looking for a non-teaching job. It's not easy even though I speak korean. It's important to have supportive, helpful people around you... not nagging, helpless tiring ppl like this husband
She Gorgeous. i like her Hair❤️
I like host in the “YELLOW” he’s speaking facts and telling it like it is the husband he’s keeping his foot on his neck! 😩😩😩😩😩😩
She deserves better. His ex girlfriend who dumped him, was very smart.
It's not easy to move to another country, there they speak more their mother tongue and not English. Korea is such a country, that you have it hard to apply for a job there and you need to speak Korean fluently. I understand, why she cries. I wish her all the best for it
One thing though that’s what unfortunately happens when you move to another country you have to learn the language. One thing I hate is when people go to Portugal and don’t even try to speak Portuguese and just go by in english. I am in England and if I tried to speak Portuguese when I came here no one would ever try to understand me.
@@lilarodrigues2698 Oh yeah. I feel that. Sure, you need to learn it for the coutnry you want to live. But here in Germany, we are okay with people who speak broken German and help them out, if they want our help. Otherwise is English a helper and Korea is still not that open for foreigners. I never went there yet, but I heard from Koreans and foreigners themselves, that they have clubswith a non foreigner sign. So they want just Koreans there. That's what I wanted to say with my first comment
In Philippines, You can't get a better and decent job if you're not good in english... it's kinda sad that we don't use our first language. I understand why SoKor is kinda strict about it even Japan, their language is so important for them because that's part of their culture.
@@LJE1821 Sure, for every country is their mother tongue important, but like you perhaps the other comments here, before you comment. Then you understand what I meant. Koreans are still not that open to the world. Foreigners get judge all the time, they have clubss with a sign (I already wrote about it here, read it), parents have in the beginning something about the international relationship,.... We others are more open about foreigners in our countries. I mean we Europeans took some people from the ukraine to us, because of the war
@@lilarodrigues2698 the situation is different here in korea. We import foreigners to teach English specifically because they can't speak korean to children. So they are not expected to learn korean. Because it is very different from English language it takes years to learn it. And even then you cannot find a job. So I see why foreigners who are busy do not learn it.
the way she came to korea bc she was interested with the culture but she couldnt even learn the language because she had to work hard all this time
God, i feel sorry for her. This isn't what marriage should be like. It's already hard to live in a foreign country with no family, but coming back home to a nagging jobless husband is very stressful. I don't envy her. I actually feel sad for her. Marriage shouldn't be that hard and stressful. She is in a foreign country, working so hard and financially taking care of a man. This is role reversal. I don't want a marriage like that if I have to be taking care of the man and paying the bills. You can clearly see that he doesn't treat her good. I don't know why some black women have this korean boo fantasy. I would never leave my home country and move to a foreign country for love, learn a whole new language, only to end up financially struggling in a marriage with a jobless husband..no way. From what i've seen from these videos, this man doesn't really care for her and he's just using her. I don't think that she would marry a jobless black man, so why give that korean guy a pass. A man is supposed to be financially stable to support his wife and family. Watching videos like these, seeing black women in such poor relationships makes me sad. A woman isn't meant to suffer in a marriage. Was she that desperate to get married, that she ended up with a guy like him? She's young, pretty, hardworking and ambitious. She deserves better and she can do better. She can find a far better husband than this one.
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This comment is everything
its not uncommon these days to see the woman striking out while the husband stays home to take care of the house. However, you are right in saying that the husband could be a bit more of a partner, and offer greater support instead of selfishly chasing a dream. If he was single and living alone, I'm sure we won't even see this attitude from him as he would be struggling to make ends meet. But to live in comfort while the wife is providing is bad enough. Not being understanding of her plight and coming at her for trivial things after a long day at work is also just ain't it?? He could maintain the house, cook, do small things for her after work to make her more comfortable etc.???? It's a partnership, it's NOT AN OBLIGATION for her to provide for you??? She could very well up and leave for the US one day if she's tired and I'm all for it. So wake up dude???
writing all this to speak on another criticize a relationship only and ignoring all the positive things she has to say about her husband, she's not suffering by looking for a job, which as you can see isn't hard to find,she's not being forced to work by the husband. i havent seen a couple in korea whether a foreign wife or husband who doesn't want to work regardless of whether they are provided for, let them be!!! She knows her husband more that you
@@beepbloopbeepbloop how have you concluded that he's living comfortably, im sure he has alot of worries too regarding his work and him provoding good enough money, its just they didn't focus on him here, plus i'm sure he'll have to do sth to prevent them from going poor or bankrupt..
Does Deborah have a social media of some sort? I love art and animation and would love to support her journey !
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So beautiful..her accent is great
Sadly this is the reality of many artists and musicians. I hope this show will yield good recognition for them in the future.
For the ladies here suggesting that females 18-20 are “grown” simply bc they have lost their virginity, drank alcohol, got pregnant, moved out, etc before the age of 18, and signed legal docs before 20, does not negate the fact that the brain is not fully developed on average until the age of 25 as big sis says in the video. I will be 23 next month and even now think back on how different I thought even just at the age of 18. I remember signing up for the military (wrongfully as if I would have thought it through or knew what I know now about myself) I would not have done it. I have matured a lot in the last 4-5 yrs and would tell my 18-20 y/o self a lot. I’m still in college and growing up. I’m now married and my husband and I (both 22) are still growing up together and want to be more mature and financially stable before having children so that we are able to raise children while we’re actually grown, now while still figuring out how to be adults.
Love this show
I swear this woman she's m'y twin i was so chocked when i've see her the first time, it's so cool because now i didn't felt alone 💛
We want more of Deborah’s life in Korea.
She looks really tired whatever the agreement was initially. Needs to looked at again
The husband need a job asap
I’m so invested in this couple 😅❤❤❤❤
please happily and I'm sure both of you will success .God bless!
leave this guy. being single and able to pursue your career without a burden will make you go far👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
The host is everything! If I were this husband, I'd have left this interview feeling really ashamed and aware of how inferior a job I am doing and be inspired to do more. He's not even a good singer. It's time to get a real job, dude. Let her work on her passion for a change and go be a salary man before you get too old and no Korean company will employ you.
She is so beautiful
Everytime someone will be romanticizing Korean man, show how Deborah is living, how husband and mother-in-law are treating her. These clips can serve as an eye opener for many foreign girls.
They are so beautiful..beautiful couple
NGL, she could model on the side since she's so naturally beautiful.
Everytime i see deborah it just breaks my heart. She deserves so much better 😢
Why are the judges roasting the husband? The little things her husband does for her is old fashion, AUTENTHIC AND GENUINE love. He is doing things that make her happy with heartfelt gestures and experiences rather than materials. She def doesn't seem like a material girl so ya
Deborah is a gorgeous and talented young lady 😍🙌🙌 she can work as model too as she seems to have a unique beauty i do personally feel her husband should work and support her instead stressing her more 🤔 i been in her place before i know what is to be in a foreign country and restart again your life and the language and the culture with people pushing you and stressing you all the time 🥲the first year specially always going to be hard as a part of the process but Deborah if one day you read this i want to tell you that you gonna make it 🙌🙌 learn other language is a precess so 👍 Fighting ✌️✌️
They are very cute. I think the few of us that had dreams and aspirations it's what makes adulthood very bare able. At the same time, it's irresponsible how Deborah's husband isn't contributing more. She's aging really fast inside and there's people who die young from being overworked.
I love how his sass is maximised with that rubber hair on 🤣
Watch out for your health...she is under a lot of stress plus not enough sleep...be careful this will lead to depression
He needs to get a job and I do understand that he's working on his album. She's a hard worker beautiful lady.
Man she’s so pretty 개예쁘다 진짜
This woman is capable of doing so MUCH with her life! Why is she wasting it on her husband.. Open your eyes woman!
I love the guy with the yellow hair😭😭😭
Beautiful couple ❤️❤️
Good Luck for both of them