actually i had fear of everything since my 9th grade and i have passed my 12th grade.but this comes out for no reason till now.for no reason exactly.i will try this process
I love this!! This reminds me of mapping across single belief but its the feeling/ kinesthetic version instead! Excited to try this in an upcoming session .
How can I use this technique with my problem. I fear of driving on freeways, few years back I had a panic attack when I was driving on the Freeway it was on a construction area where shoulder was closed so I felt trap for like a mile a couldn't pull over since then I'm really scare. I do drive on freeways now but always in fear please help me thank you
Sounds like you're probably overly associated into this memory, which is common with trauma and phobias. You will want to work this out in a safe place, not while you're driving. This video might help. If not, let me know. ruclips.net/video/44LQLXt476o/видео.html
Thank You so much for responding to my question I will watch this video and yes I'll let you know if this help me Wich I think it's going bro help me thank You again
@@DamonCart I did and it's very effective! I'm half way through my nlp training and I look forward to helping my clients with this down the line. Thank you.
Imprecise to use word fear a lot..Its an intellectual invitation to feel same again when you perform the technique be precise to use word like "Notice whats the feeling now" instead of saying what happens to fear..(NLP technique needs much precise statement when performed)
That's a really imprecise statement. Apparently you haven't learned the NLP language patterns of the Milton Model yet. NLP techniques do not necessarily need precise statements. In fact, sometimes the exact opposite is true. But feel free to try to teach me something here.
@@DamonCart True,I would be not as learned as you but what i quoted is from the experience of yours master and I too prefer him on all experts in NLP "Steve andreas".. he suggests not to repeat the word fear,anxiety or so after the process carried out as its an intellectual invitation for conscious mind to feel the feeling associated with that word (fear, anxiety etc).. Yes it does not need precise statement but I see NLP as an effective therapy and so while doing therapy sessions Responsive statements do need precisely communicated.. No hard feelings :) Plz correct me if am wrong..
@@MrAftab2009 it's different when you're working with someone one-on-one rather than delivering information on a video. If you can show me where you read or what video you saw of Steve's where he said what you're referring to, perhaps I can comment on it further. Even though Steve taught me a lot and I do believe he was the best authority on NLP, we still disagreed on some things. He welcomed my disagreements.
@@DamonCart That's what makes him stand apart from others despite being master in the process he welcomes others approaches as well..Here is the transcript of of session from client sent to steve for verification.. realpeoplepress.com/blog/transcript-of-a-telephone-session-with-an-anxious-client-with-steves-feedback If you dont mind share your whatspp or any chat number..I would be glad to learn from you and as you had been with steve for long increases my interest more.
I do sometimes "see" vague images of what I fear, but it's definitely NOT as defined as I think others tend to have? Most of the time, my fears are just "feelings" and less about the imagery. I think that's why I have such a hard time doing the Rewind Phobia Technique from NLP because I have a hard time visualizing. Doesn't mean I can't imagine, but it's just usually not as "crystal clear" as I have been lead by NLP practitioners to believe everyone should be able to do.
Also, to add, most of the times I have automatic negative thoughts of insecurity and worry that lead to anxiety. But it doesn't come with anything visual in my mind at all.
You can't have a feeling (as in an internal evaluative feeling like fear or anxiety) without it being triggered by something you see, hear, feel (externally), smell, or taste. It's usually a sight or a sound and it can happen internally or externally. The image may be vague because it might be something auditory that's triggering the fear and anxiety like an internal voice. Or the image or images may be unconscious. You can make the images conscious if you trace the feeling to the image that triggers it. What happens right before you experience the feeling? If it's a sound or a voice, ask yourself what would it be like if the sound or voice was an image? If you want to use the Swish Pattern you can swish in the auditory representation but it's easier and more effective usually to swish using a visual because you can see more all at once. It's difficult to hear more than one sound or more than one voice. More than two or three is nearly impossible.
I agree that I have visual imagery, but they're never that defined I guess. They're always quite vague and "unclear" if that makes any sense. Almost like if you covered your head with a black cloth and were barely able to see outside the black cloth because of the small spacing between the threading, if that makes any sense? It's not usually some super clear vivid image with color and detail.
in that case i dont know what my triggers are in terms of pictures and sounds. My only anxiety comes when i have to (or think i have to) speak in front of a group of people, even to say my name. As soon as i see an email at work or someone tell me something is coming up i get whacked with the adrenaline and total fear of everyone seeing my anxiety as i get a shaky voice and hands, if my anxiety wasnt so external i wouldnt have it because i wouldnt care about it. But as far as images and colours, i have no idea? Help NLP Gym
Haha you said you don't know what pictures and sounds trigger your anxiety and then you go on to say when you think you will have to speak in front of a group you get anxious. You answered your own question. How are you thinking it? It has to come in the form of a visual or a sound or another sensory input. "As soon as I SEE (visual) and email at work or someone TELLS (audio) something is coming up I get WHACKED (kinesthetic) with adrenaline and total fear of everyone SEEING (visual) my anxiety as I get a shaky (kinesthetic) voice (audio) hands..." I doubt you were externally experiencing all that you described as you were typing it. It was happening internally. That's how you were able to access it and then describe it. Does this make sense?
Lol yeah i did answer my question :p So my triggers are being or thinking ill be put in a position where my anxiety will be seen by all. Then to top it off the adrenaline that causes palpitations makes me think ill definitely mess up . I wasnt feeling it at all when i was typing this message, outside of the situation where i feel my anxiety will show to onlookers im totally fine. It sux because a long time ago i used to be able to read in front of my entire school but i made a mistake once and everyone laughed, it didnt bother me at the time but that was the last time i did such a thing and ive not been able to do it since. I really really need to sort this out because its getting in the way of my career.
It would take recoding your experience, which could be quick and easy if the source of what's creating the problem is easy to identify and recode. Sometimes it can take a while though because finding the source can sometime be like trying to get your hands around a slippery fish. I suggest you throw every technique I demonstrate in my videos at it to see what works. The other thing you could do is find someone who is proficient at NLP and have them work on this with you. I do coaching. If you're interested send me an email damon@nlp-gym.com
A technique I created to deal with my own fears, so I shared it in a video. Most of my videos are teachings that come from me overcoming my own problems and finding solutions. If it works for me, it's likely to work for others.
My apology in advance because I don't know a proper place to ask my questions and I am anxious. My son suffers from mania, when he is in high mood he acts very excitedly, speaks a lot and laugh to the extend that make people feel weird. Could you please tell me NLP's view of the inner stucture of this illness and possible approaches to deal with the illness?
I understand your concern. I'm not a therapist but I can tell you what I think happens when people are manic. The primary NLP model I use to coach and teach is the Self-Concept Model created by Steve Andreas who mentored me. You can find an online copy of his book at selfconcept.com titled Transforming Your Self. In the Self-concept Model we break down the self-concept (or identity) into qualities. What we find in the databases of our experiences, which we create to categorize our experiences into qualities, is that the more our databases of experience are integrated with our imperfections and shortcomings the more grounded we become and the stronger our sense of self becomes. When people separate their databases of experiences into "good" and "bad" experiences, they tend to bounce from one end of a polarity to the next. They experience euphoric highs and then fall into crushing lows. If a person who is manic can learn to integrate their databases, it might stabilize them. I know that this sounds complicated. It's actually not that difficult but there are a lot of parts and details to it. I hope that helps.
Yes and it's also about understanding how the feelings are occurring in your body. When you bring your awareness to it, you can change it. If you can experiment with changing a warm feeling into a cool feeling or changing the direction of the movement of the feeling in your body, you have control over the feeling.
@@DamonCart it's like vertigo spinning off balance feeling but your not . Mine started after being hit from behind from another driver crystal Inside ears out or orbit but came back to where they should be but still have feeling of off balance while walking
This makes no sense, how can this help somebody? I find it impossible to believe, I watched the video 3 times in a effort to find help for my fears, my anxiety, my depression the fear that I have when my boss asks me something, but this BS made ZERO sense. I can't believe that this exists.
Not everything that works will make sense to you. Not everything that works requires that you believe it. You don't have to know how a vaccine works in order for it to prevent disease. You don't have to know how the engine of a car works in order to drive it. Did you actually try the process I describe in this video?
If a fear is heavy let's turn it light. What? If it is cool, let's turn it warm? How can you do that? This is absolutely funny, I laughed very hard, but didn't believe one single word. It is like I have a lot of fear when I am in front of my boss, and then I say myself: "ok my fear is warm, let's turn it cool", ok everything is fixed now, no more fear. Lol, absolutely ridiculous
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I loved this video! Thank u so much for describing this NLP technique in such clear, understandable terms!
You're so welcome.
actually i had fear of everything since my 9th grade and i have passed my 12th grade.but this comes out for no reason till now.for no reason exactly.i will try this process
Afraid of everything? Is there nothing that doesn't scare you?
yes there are!! but most time i have stomach tightness and butterflies in stomach.is there any solution to this problem?
Thank you Damon, clearly explained and great information.
Glad it was helpful.
You’re great, very helpful and in depth explanations
Thank you for the comment.
Great video, thank you. I am still stuck in a situation because of fear! :((
I really liked how you went on with sub modalities and explained the characteristic of feelings! Thank you
You're welcome.
I love this!! This reminds me of mapping across single belief but its the feeling/ kinesthetic version instead! Excited to try this in an upcoming session .
Glad you like it!
I’m grateful 🙏🏻
Very helpful
Thank you! Glad you liked it.
transitioning the fear into a physical muscularity...body buulding image
Excellent way to channel that energy.
Useful technique. Thanks.
You are welcome.
awesome!
Thanks!
I hope you agood and more happyness
Thank you. You too.
How can I use this technique with my problem. I fear of driving on freeways, few years back I had a panic attack when I was driving on the Freeway it was on a construction area where shoulder was closed so I felt trap for like a mile a couldn't pull over since then I'm really scare. I do drive on freeways now but always in fear please help me thank you
Sounds like you're probably overly associated into this memory, which is common with trauma and phobias. You will want to work this out in a safe place, not while you're driving. This video might help. If not, let me know. ruclips.net/video/44LQLXt476o/видео.html
Thank You so much for responding to my question I will watch this video and yes I'll let you know if this help me Wich I think it's going bro help me thank You again
You're welcome
Excellent demonstration!
Thank you. Did you try it?
@@DamonCart I did and it's very effective! I'm half way through my nlp training and I look forward to helping my clients with this down the line. Thank you.
You're welcome and good luck to you.
Imprecise to use word fear a lot..Its an intellectual invitation to feel same again when you perform the technique be precise to use word like "Notice whats the feeling now" instead of saying what happens to fear..(NLP technique needs much precise statement when performed)
That's a really imprecise statement. Apparently you haven't learned the NLP language patterns of the Milton Model yet. NLP techniques do not necessarily need precise statements. In fact, sometimes the exact opposite is true. But feel free to try to teach me something here.
@@DamonCart True,I would be not as learned as you but what i quoted is from the experience of yours master and I too prefer him on all experts in NLP "Steve andreas".. he suggests not to repeat the word fear,anxiety or so after the process carried out as its an intellectual invitation for conscious mind to feel the feeling associated with that word (fear, anxiety etc)..
Yes it does not need precise statement but I see NLP as an effective therapy and so while doing therapy sessions Responsive statements do need precisely communicated..
No hard feelings :) Plz correct me if am wrong..
@@DamonCart And Plz dont consider me as a teacher or enemy of yours..Plz correct me If am wrong but do explain same.
@@MrAftab2009 it's different when you're working with someone one-on-one rather than delivering information on a video. If you can show me where you read or what video you saw of Steve's where he said what you're referring to, perhaps I can comment on it further. Even though Steve taught me a lot and I do believe he was the best authority on NLP, we still disagreed on some things. He welcomed my disagreements.
@@DamonCart That's what makes him stand apart from others despite being master in the process he welcomes others approaches as well..Here is the transcript of of session from client sent to steve for verification..
realpeoplepress.com/blog/transcript-of-a-telephone-session-with-an-anxious-client-with-steves-feedback
If you dont mind share your whatspp or any chat number..I would be glad to learn from you and as you had been with steve for long increases my interest more.
" what triggers the fear"?
What senses?
WoW!!
Most time its a heart race & or in my stomach.. 🤢😵💫
Those are responses to fear. What comes before that that triggers the fear?
I don't usually experience fear or anxiety thru visual images in my mind. what would NLP do for those kinds of fear?
How do you experience fear? If you were to train me to experience fear the way you do, what would you tell me to see, hear, or feel?
I do sometimes "see" vague images of what I fear, but it's definitely NOT as defined as I think others tend to have? Most of the time, my fears are just "feelings" and less about the imagery. I think that's why I have such a hard time doing the Rewind Phobia Technique from NLP because I have a hard time visualizing. Doesn't mean I can't imagine, but it's just usually not as "crystal clear" as I have been lead by NLP practitioners to believe everyone should be able to do.
Also, to add, most of the times I have automatic negative thoughts of insecurity and worry that lead to anxiety. But it doesn't come with anything visual in my mind at all.
You can't have a feeling (as in an internal evaluative feeling like fear or anxiety) without it being triggered by something you see, hear, feel (externally), smell, or taste. It's usually a sight or a sound and it can happen internally or externally. The image may be vague because it might be something auditory that's triggering the fear and anxiety like an internal voice. Or the image or images may be unconscious. You can make the images conscious if you trace the feeling to the image that triggers it.
What happens right before you experience the feeling? If it's a sound or a voice, ask yourself what would it be like if the sound or voice was an image? If you want to use the Swish Pattern you can swish in the auditory representation but it's easier and more effective usually to swish using a visual because you can see more all at once. It's difficult to hear more than one sound or more than one voice. More than two or three is nearly impossible.
I agree that I have visual imagery, but they're never that defined I guess. They're always quite vague and "unclear" if that makes any sense. Almost like if you covered your head with a black cloth and were barely able to see outside the black cloth because of the small spacing between the threading, if that makes any sense? It's not usually some super clear vivid image with color and detail.
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in that case i dont know what my triggers are in terms of pictures and sounds.
My only anxiety comes when i have to (or think i have to) speak in front of a group of people, even to say my name. As soon as i see an email at work or someone tell me something is coming up i get whacked with the adrenaline and total fear of everyone seeing my anxiety as i get a shaky voice and hands, if my anxiety wasnt so external i wouldnt have it because i wouldnt care about it.
But as far as images and colours, i have no idea? Help NLP Gym
Haha you said you don't know what pictures and sounds trigger your anxiety and then you go on to say when you think you will have to speak in front of a group you get anxious. You answered your own question. How are you thinking it? It has to come in the form of a visual or a sound or another sensory input. "As soon as I SEE (visual) and email at work or someone TELLS (audio) something is coming up I get WHACKED (kinesthetic) with adrenaline and total fear of everyone SEEING (visual) my anxiety as I get a shaky (kinesthetic) voice (audio) hands..."
I doubt you were externally experiencing all that you described as you were typing it. It was happening internally. That's how you were able to access it and then describe it. Does this make sense?
Lol yeah i did answer my question :p
So my triggers are being or thinking ill be put in a position where my anxiety will be seen by all. Then to top it off the adrenaline that causes palpitations makes me think ill definitely mess up .
I wasnt feeling it at all when i was typing this message, outside of the situation where i feel my anxiety will show to onlookers im totally fine. It sux because a long time ago i used to be able to read in front of my entire school but i made a mistake once and everyone laughed, it didnt bother me at the time but that was the last time i did such a thing and ive not been able to do it since.
I really really need to sort this out because its getting in the way of my career.
It would take recoding your experience, which could be quick and easy if the source of what's creating the problem is easy to identify and recode. Sometimes it can take a while though because finding the source can sometime be like trying to get your hands around a slippery fish.
I suggest you throw every technique I demonstrate in my videos at it to see what works. The other thing you could do is find someone who is proficient at NLP and have them work on this with you. I do coaching. If you're interested send me an email damon@nlp-gym.com
NLP Gym Thank you, I'll do as suggested. Not sure how coaching would work, I'm from the UK!
Most of the coaching I do is over Skype.
Sir. I'm suffering from fear of dying ( death)like my relatives or myself... I shiver if I have to attend funeral etc.pls help
Did you try the process I give in this video?
@@DamonCart no sir. Couldn't understand
@@jermisham2698 maybe watch it again or check out my other videos on dealing with fear.
I feel as though you shouldn't be giving this kind of thing away. it's like step by step ninjitsu videos.
Good point.
What technique is this?
A technique I created to deal with my own fears, so I shared it in a video. Most of my videos are teachings that come from me overcoming my own problems and finding solutions. If it works for me, it's likely to work for others.
@@DamonCart That is awesome! Thanks!
My apology in advance because I don't know a proper place to ask my questions and I am anxious. My son suffers from mania, when he is in high mood he acts very excitedly, speaks a lot and laugh to the extend that make people feel weird. Could you please tell me NLP's view of the inner stucture of this illness and possible approaches to deal with the illness?
I understand your concern. I'm not a therapist but I can tell you what I think happens when people are manic. The primary NLP model I use to coach and teach is the Self-Concept Model created by Steve Andreas who mentored me. You can find an online copy of his book at selfconcept.com titled Transforming Your Self. In the Self-concept Model we break down the self-concept (or identity) into qualities. What we find in the databases of our experiences, which we create to categorize our experiences into qualities, is that the more our databases of experience are integrated with our imperfections and shortcomings the more grounded we become and the stronger our sense of self becomes. When people separate their databases of experiences into "good" and "bad" experiences, they tend to bounce from one end of a polarity to the next. They experience euphoric highs and then fall into crushing lows. If a person who is manic can learn to integrate their databases, it might stabilize them. I know that this sounds complicated. It's actually not that difficult but there are a lot of parts and details to it. I hope that helps.
So this is just a basic visualisation ?
Yes and it's also about understanding how the feelings are occurring in your body. When you bring your awareness to it, you can change it. If you can experiment with changing a warm feeling into a cool feeling or changing the direction of the movement of the feeling in your body, you have control over the feeling.
How can you overcome donophobia ?
What is donophobia?
@@DamonCart it's like vertigo spinning off balance feeling but your not . Mine started after being hit from behind from another driver crystal Inside ears out or orbit but came back to where they should be but still have feeling of off balance while walking
@@bromate1 this area is not my expertise.
This got too complicated for me 🙈
Process over content. It's not difficult to understand, just different and more effective than how most people approach the problem.
have agoraphobia
This makes no sense, how can this help somebody? I find it impossible to believe, I watched the video 3 times in a effort to find help for my fears, my anxiety, my depression the fear that I have when my boss asks me something, but this BS made ZERO sense. I can't believe that this exists.
Not everything that works will make sense to you. Not everything that works requires that you believe it. You don't have to know how a vaccine works in order for it to prevent disease. You don't have to know how the engine of a car works in order to drive it. Did you actually try the process I describe in this video?
If a fear is heavy let's turn it light. What? If it is cool, let's turn it warm? How can you do that? This is absolutely funny, I laughed very hard, but didn't believe one single word. It is like I have a lot of fear when I am in front of my boss, and then I say myself: "ok my fear is warm, let's turn it cool", ok everything is fixed now, no more fear. Lol, absolutely ridiculous
Seeing is believing, or believing is seeing...what you do or do not believe becomes a projection playing out in your life. If you want to know what your subconscious beliefs are, look at your life...