I never hear an actual reason. All they say is to do it anyways. Prenups aren’t a guarantee. Treating her a certain way isn’t a guarantee. Women’s hormones change over time. Vetting is not a guarantee. Statistically it isn’t worth it. So why do it?
Is it worth your children being better off seeing a happy successful marriage from their parents? Think about it, you’d likely prefer to meet women now who grew up seeing their mom and dad in a successful marriage. They’d be easier to date
@@ItsMoreThanMuscle being together doesn’t equal legal marriage. If we love and respect each other, why does the government need to be involved. Marriage is the commitment, not the contract.
@@chasehlee7197 Yeah the family laws suck. I think the main reason the state is involved is to make sure people stay together to raise families, confirm who has the power of life/death decisions, determine who receives inheritances after death etc. The argument would be the divorce rate, as high as it is, would probably be significantly higher if the state wasn’t involved
@@chasehlee7197 that’s true. I mean I don’t believe you NEED the government involved in your marriage but if you’re asking why they want to be involved that’s why they feel they need to
Bro who ever is considering marriage rn, I just got out of a relationship and that crap is scary bro, one day you are saying and planing, how much you love each other, the next day you are arguing about stupid stuff, and some females won’t back down they will tell you what they think of you when they are angry at you, I learned this the hard way, I ended un heartbroken
Equating business with marriage is downright foolish and reeks of being an agent. Men can not afford to fail in marriage, in the US. If you insist on marriage, find a wife overseas and do NOT bring her back!
90% of this conversation is negated by no fault divorce. Today, there is absolutely nothing keeping a marriage together but the two people inside it. But if it ends, people outside of it determine what happens to you, your kids, and your assets. Of the two people, one of them is legally entitled to most of it, regardless of ownership. It’s not shocking, but that same party tends to initiate divorce overwhelmingly. Those are the facts. All this stuff about “well you have to choose the right one…” Who you marry, is not who you divorce. It doesn’t matter if you choose the “right” one today.
Marriage isn’t a contract but a covenant. The reason why man have to deal with the cause or effect of divorce is because they are not marrying from a covenant perspective. Hints why God said “find a wife”. A wife is a god fearing woman that understands her position to a man and honors that. Not a woman who says I do in a ceremony. So when men are selecting a spouse, they aren’t vetting her from a covenant perspective but from personality, aesthetics, and external values. Let’s keep all the way real fellas.
There is no “equally yolked”, if a woman has equal say she will never want to be lead. If a woman is leading then the relationship will not be successful.
As an older head my answer would be yes but with one provision being mandatory, "PROTECTION/INSURANCE/PRENUP!" No matter how you slice it, marriage is "BUSINESS!" Contracts, courts, marriage license, lawyers, City/State, Government... Expensive wedding, expensive divorce smfh! Men & women should have car insurance, men & women should have home insurance, men & women should have life insurance & yes, "MARRIAGE INSURANCE" should be a thing & not just for men but for whom ever is the bread winner... Traditionally males were the bread winners of the family but in modern times many females have become the bread winner of the family. Either way "PROTECTION" is mandatory in my book. Marriage is a great foundation of stability for building a family, but overall "FREEDOM OF WILL" takes president.
Marriage is a commitment and a promise to consider someone else as you live your life, ideally someone you love. When I look at the married couples I know most of them are happy and thriving, and not all of them have children. They thrive because both the man and the woman live intentionally for their spouse even when it's hard. The result is a union between two like minded people that build a legacy, and that requires DISCIPLINE. If a man can be disciplined with his hobbies and career but can't be disciplined when it comes to relationships, he can't ask why he seeks out or attracts undisciplined women or women who view dating as a transaction.
Facts. Everything, everyday is a choice. You got to have discipline as a man to do what’s best for you and your spouse. When you find the right woman, and the right woman is out for you, what more can you ask for?! Keep your dick in your pants and learn to communicate your needs and feelings with your partner.
The best thing to do is to tell men what the reality of marriage is. Divorce rates, who files, who usually receives the benefits after divorce, how the courts treat men in divorce. If we were all honest with men and didn't just say "do it", most men would say "nah, i'm all the way good on that"
If they told the truth, they wouldn't have a show, as women lose more than men do in the event of a divorce. Statistics are clear, men are more likely to remarry and remarry quicker then women, why would that be if its such a "bad deal" for them?
Nothing changes when your gf becomes your wife except the government being a part of your relationship. Thats it!! No one can give me a significant change
I think for the men who want to get married which is a good thing, we should be extremely careful more strict on who we choose now especially with the risk that we have, I think there’s somewhat of a benefit of women being more outwardly honest about their “hoedom” now compared to back then it gives us room to filter out and really pay attention to the women who don’t subscribe to that. We just need to worry about some of the women who are good at acting and playing a game.
Please, guys, always protect yourself at all cost and plan ahead, do not involve the government in your relationship. Get married in front of God as it was intended initially. If she doesn't want that option there goes your answer. Always have a plan B,C,D... in place. No matter your love or how long you have been together. Women today are just too unpredictable. Please act accordingly with wisdom and discernment. Ty🙏
Marriage has never been traditional as we believe. There were societal expectations, heavily European influenced, which fell off over these 200 years (Mind you Roman crusades happened so men could find monogamous wives as only rich would marry in their culture). In America native women chose their partners and not every relationship was monogamous, Nero Jackson. In Africa, King Solomon enough said there. However in the time of American marriage (now legal companionship) many youths have Concubine mindsets which has always existed, simply more prevelant which makes finding a wife more rare and WORTH it! You do not have to get married in Only America, even with Americans, and many young concubine minded individuals ultimately want to marry the same sex for some reason in this age. So American legal marriage has to change, personally it changed for men after same sex marriage was fully championed leaving us to question the stability of our own in comparing stats. Even Lesbian marriages are much worse than traditional but extremely stable for the opposite numbers. Again I personally say use the system as it is, incorporate other systems, or be at the whim of building or finding your personal Jewel. Remember though to build that takes time and skill, where a find is of the Devine
Love the conversation,I have a question. If a man over thinks of the risks of him being married what is more important to him ? The family he created or his finances. Only asking because men control marriage.most men sit on the Internet and deter men from marriage then these same men make fun or throw statistics in women's faces.women have been made the face of selfishness and I'm not sure why
Women advocated for independence of Men and family and their reasons for divorce are mostly their own feelings and personal happiness. Their the face because they made themselves the face
The idea I think some men have is that you don’t have to be married to further your legacy (create children). You would have to believe that marriage has a bigger benefit that maybe your children are better off growing up seeing their parents in a happy successful marriage. I think that’s where the black community is messed up because adults go out and date without ever seeing real examples of healthy black marriages so they don’t know how to create one
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I never hear an actual reason. All they say is to do it anyways. Prenups aren’t a guarantee. Treating her a certain way isn’t a guarantee. Women’s hormones change over time. Vetting is not a guarantee. Statistically it isn’t worth it. So why do it?
Is it worth your children being better off seeing a happy successful marriage from their parents? Think about it, you’d likely prefer to meet women now who grew up seeing their mom and dad in a successful marriage. They’d be easier to date
@@ItsMoreThanMuscle being together doesn’t equal legal marriage. If we love and respect each other, why does the government need to be involved. Marriage is the commitment, not the contract.
@@chasehlee7197 Yeah the family laws suck. I think the main reason the state is involved is to make sure people stay together to raise families, confirm who has the power of life/death decisions, determine who receives inheritances after death etc. The argument would be the divorce rate, as high as it is, would probably be significantly higher if the state wasn’t involved
@@ItsMoreThanMuscle you can do all those things including name changes without a marriage certificate.
@@chasehlee7197 that’s true. I mean I don’t believe you NEED the government involved in your marriage but if you’re asking why they want to be involved that’s why they feel they need to
It’s a lot of underlying factors unmentioned here
Hell no, my life span will be longer without marriage, more money, more freedom, more peace!
Bro who ever is considering marriage rn, I just got out of a relationship and that crap is scary bro, one day you are saying and planing, how much you love each other, the next day you are arguing about stupid stuff, and some females won’t back down they will tell you what they think of you when they are angry at you, I learned this the hard way, I ended un heartbroken
Equating business with marriage is downright foolish and reeks of being an agent. Men can not afford to fail in marriage, in the US. If you insist on marriage, find a wife overseas and do NOT bring her back!
90% of this conversation is negated by no fault divorce. Today, there is absolutely nothing keeping a marriage together but the two people inside it. But if it ends, people outside of it determine what happens to you, your kids, and your assets. Of the two people, one of them is legally entitled to most of it, regardless of ownership. It’s not shocking, but that same party tends to initiate divorce overwhelmingly.
Those are the facts. All this stuff about “well you have to choose the right one…” Who you marry, is not who you divorce. It doesn’t matter if you choose the “right” one today.
Marriage isn’t a contract but a covenant. The reason why man have to deal with the cause or effect of divorce is because they are not marrying from a covenant perspective. Hints why God said “find a wife”. A wife is a god fearing woman that understands her position to a man and honors that. Not a woman who says I do in a ceremony. So when men are selecting a spouse, they aren’t vetting her from a covenant perspective but from personality, aesthetics, and external values. Let’s keep all the way real fellas.
This is true and should be the standard of the mindset going into marriage but it is still a contract with the government nevertheless.
Monogamy is enforced to ensure the breakdown of a relationship. A man can have more than 1 woman
There is no “equally yolked”, if a woman has equal say she will never want to be lead. If a woman is leading then the relationship will not be successful.
As an older head my answer would be yes but with one provision being mandatory, "PROTECTION/INSURANCE/PRENUP!"
No matter how you slice it, marriage is "BUSINESS!" Contracts, courts, marriage license, lawyers, City/State, Government... Expensive wedding, expensive divorce smfh!
Men & women should have car insurance, men & women should have home insurance, men & women should have life insurance & yes, "MARRIAGE INSURANCE" should be a thing & not just for men but for whom ever is the bread winner... Traditionally males were the bread winners of the family but in modern times many females have become the bread winner of the family. Either way "PROTECTION" is mandatory in my book.
Marriage is a great foundation of stability for building a family, but overall "FREEDOM OF WILL" takes president.
Honestly if you want to get married you need to do it young because usually the best woman for you is one of the beginner relationships
Statistics say otherwise. Higher divorce rates when you marry younger
Marriage is a commitment and a promise to consider someone else as you live your life, ideally someone you love. When I look at the married couples I know
most of them are happy and thriving, and not all of them have children. They thrive because both the man and the woman live intentionally for their spouse
even when it's hard. The result is a union between two like minded people that build a legacy, and that requires DISCIPLINE.
If a man can be disciplined with his hobbies and career but can't be disciplined when it comes to relationships, he can't ask why he seeks out or attracts undisciplined women or women who view dating as a transaction.
Facts. Everything, everyday is a choice. You got to have discipline as a man to do what’s best for you and your spouse. When you find the right woman, and the right woman is out for you, what more can you ask for?! Keep your dick in your pants and learn to communicate your needs and feelings with your partner.
The best thing to do is to tell men what the reality of marriage is. Divorce rates, who files, who usually receives the benefits after divorce, how the courts treat men in divorce. If we were all honest with men and didn't just say "do it", most men would say "nah, i'm all the way good on that"
If they told the truth, they wouldn't have a show, as women lose more than men do in the event of a divorce. Statistics are clear, men are more likely to remarry and remarry quicker then women, why would that be if its such a "bad deal" for them?
Nothing changes when your gf becomes your wife except the government being a part of your relationship. Thats it!! No one can give me a significant change
Average one ends within 8 years. Only marry if you can afford the divorce.
I think for the men who want to get married which is a good thing, we should be extremely careful more strict on who we choose now especially with the risk that we have, I think there’s somewhat of a benefit of women being more outwardly honest about their “hoedom” now compared to back then it gives us room to filter out and really pay attention to the women who don’t subscribe to that. We just need to worry about some of the women who are good at acting and playing a game.
Long term happiness 😂😂😂😂
Hell Nah not in the states
You can get married just not in America
A man not getting married in America should only be for rich men.. you dont make enough so im sure youll be fine
@@RodneyBryant39 lol okay if you say so I just went to Europe last month and I’ll be in Tokyo in August but I digress
@@azraelfirstofhisname8695 lol well book me a flight
@@RodneyBryant39 UPS is hiring
Please, guys, always protect yourself at all cost and plan ahead, do not involve the government in your relationship. Get married in front of God as it was intended initially. If she doesn't want that option there goes your answer.
Always have a plan B,C,D... in place. No matter your love or how long you have been together. Women today are just too unpredictable. Please act accordingly with wisdom and discernment.
Ty🙏
The guy on the couch in black…ain’t say anything of value. He just talking to talk. Just running his mouth and can’t answer simple questions directly
Marriage has never been traditional as we believe. There were societal expectations, heavily European influenced, which fell off over these 200 years (Mind you Roman crusades happened so men could find monogamous wives as only rich would marry in their culture). In America native women chose their partners and not every relationship was monogamous, Nero Jackson. In Africa, King Solomon enough said there. However in the time of American marriage (now legal companionship) many youths have Concubine mindsets which has always existed, simply more prevelant which makes finding a wife more rare and WORTH it! You do not have to get married in Only America, even with Americans, and many young concubine minded individuals ultimately want to marry the same sex for some reason in this age. So American legal marriage has to change, personally it changed for men after same sex marriage was fully championed leaving us to question the stability of our own in comparing stats. Even Lesbian marriages are much worse than traditional but extremely stable for the opposite numbers. Again I personally say use the system as it is, incorporate other systems, or be at the whim of building or finding your personal Jewel. Remember though to build that takes time and skill, where a find is of the Devine
Love the conversation,I have a question. If a man over thinks of the risks of him being married what is more important to him ? The family he created or his finances. Only asking because men control marriage.most men sit on the Internet and deter men from marriage then these same men make fun or throw statistics in women's faces.women have been made the face of selfishness and I'm not sure why
Women advocated for independence of Men and family and their reasons for divorce are mostly their own feelings and personal happiness. Their the face because they made themselves the face
The idea I think some men have is that you don’t have to be married to further your legacy (create children). You would have to believe that marriage has a bigger benefit that maybe your children are better off growing up seeing their parents in a happy successful marriage. I think that’s where the black community is messed up because adults go out and date without ever seeing real examples of healthy black marriages so they don’t know how to create one
If u Believe in Divorce don’t get Married
Also, if you don’t believe in divorce don’t get married. (Considering the divorce rate)
Dude on the far right smh the failure is starting over at 50 or 60 yrs old …starting over men off themselves don’t be beta bro