i agree, but i don't think the teacher meant to hurt him. don't get me wrong, i think it's wrong to ask a kid if they've gained weight, but i don't think she meant to be rude, yk?
He’s literally just a kid. He shouldn’t be worrying about his body. Even if they don’t mean any harm, I feel like some adults still need to think twice before they say anything like that to a child :(((
I agree that the kid shouldn't be worrying about that, but why does the blame immediately go to the adult? It's not like they ment harm in saying that.
it's common in east asia but sad also asian moms often care more about their image in front of others rather than their own childs mental health so she focused on proving to others that he is not fat and unhealthy instead of making the boy feel better
there's just this clip of 2 minutes, in which his mom talk for 30 seconds, but this is enough for you to say she isn't concerned enough???? perhaps do you know her personally????
The fact that he burst into tears like that probably means it’s something he thinks about a lot. He is 5 years old for God’s sake! Him crying as he walked off broke my heart. He is no where near being overweight, there is no reason for him to be so worried and concerned for his weight at 5 years old!
The teacher wasn’t saying he was overweight, I believe she was saying he looks healthier ;-; In Asia it’s common to comment about stuff like this when you meet someone. If you know the other person is trying to lose weight, when you meet them you’ll probably say “hey! Oh, did you lose some weight? You look nice!” Or whatever. And usually, when you say “have you gained weight?” You’re commenting on how they look healthier
Although I turned 11 just some days ago I feel like I'm really fat nobody really told me if I'm too young to think like this or I'm old now and it's normal
Iconic Dionna | We know that children can be insecure. Our point is that the teacher shouldn’t comment on a child’s weight in the first place because children are supposed to gain weight.
This just shows how simple phrases can affect everyone, including little children... A few years back, adults would say stuff like this to me and tease me about my “chubby thighs” all the time. Now I’m almost 14 and am underweight because I took their words to heart 😢 I hope he learns that he should love his body no matter what, and that he shouldn’t let people’s criticism get to him.
i know how you feel, my mom always points my stomach out. it makes me feel fat, im eating less everyday and i don't know how to stop. i can't fkn eat anything, i just don't feel like it. get better soon
@@unnaturallynormal I’m concerned for you. Don’t eat less! An average person should eat at least 2000 calories a day. You can always try to exercise, go on morning walks or running.
@@unnaturallynormal I was stuck there before. I know how it is and the only thing I willingly ate was fruits because they tasted appetizing. I recommend eating fruits and making fruit + water combos so your body can start to find foods appetizing again. it won’t happen quickly but at least it’s something and eventually looking at meats and etc. will make you hungry again.
@@lilnigka No but alot of adults are insensitive dumb@sses when it comes to how they treat kids. As if the kid wouldn't be affected long term by how they act towards them.
Ikr he won’t be able to grow properly if he keeps losing weight. The thing is “have you gained weight?” Is kind of a joke in China to tease close friends or family. But sometimes they don’t understand that you can’t say this to a child cuz they might take it seriously. Saying it too much to them may even take a negative impact on their mental or physical health, even after they grow up.
Random Gacha, I want to know if telling someone that they are adopted is a joke in China. My parents do that to me and it is confusing to say the least.
@@qiqi9305 Don't worry about it. If they continue to joke, you can teasingly say: "I know. I have such wonderful genes that even you guys wonder don't you? I did." XD But I dunno if this kind of answer is rude even in a joke. I'm from the other side of the world so... Hugs.
@@o-o1251 please try not to worry about things like that! Yes, when I was 9, I always thought I was fat. But now as I look back, I realize that I never was fat at all, so if you're worried about your weight, please try to keep this in mind ❤️
The issue isn't him being healthy and working out, thats great. The issue is that he immediately logged out of school, worked out, and cried. He was obsessed with the idea.
@@KaneMeadowsGaming Exercising simply to change the aesthetic of your body is not mentally healthy. Its a sign of body disorder, eating disorder, and there's exercise disorder. So the physical exercise might be healthy, but if you're doing it for the wrong reasons, its mentally unhealthy.
@@LookupintheAER The entire point of exercising is to change the appearance of your body...Maybe your tired of being fat so you make the change to feel proud of yourself and be more comfortable in your body, or if you want to gain muscle you start working out
@@KaneMeadowsGaming No, that's the unhealthy way of thinking about exercise. You should exercise for the sake of your physical health, not for appearance. If your physical appearance is the only thing that's motivating you, then that's an issue of body image.
The teacher didnt really mean to shame that kid. In Asian culture (idk), people usually talk like that when they havent seen each other in a long time like "oh your cheeks are more chubby now". Well some people are really sensitive and take it as an insult but I'm sure the teacher meant no harm 🙂 Sorry for my long comment hehe
Ivey Teoh True! sometimes i even get happy since i used to be skinny im poroud of myself now that iv gained weight ill make sure not to gain to much though.
I rmb when i was a kid, my siblings made me insecure but they also made me mature and life advices, couldn't have been more thankful. Also im no longer insecure so which is nice
That’s not cute at all... that’s actually disturbing that a child so young is concerned with their weight when they are clearly at a very healthy weight.
When he cried it broke my heart. If you don’t have nothing nice to say don’t say it. You’ll never know how badly words can affect someone. Poor baby worrying about this at such a young age.
He shouldn't even be thinking about his weight cause he is a child, he isn't even chubby he looks like any other 5 year old. It makes me sad that he even burst out crying and walked away, I feel so bad for him
And the worst part is that the adults probably thought it's normal because they themselves care about weight and so should the kids even if it's not true. So sad. :(
I agree! He is a growing child, and he is supposed to be gaining weight. I get that it’s considered normal in many Asian cultures to make comments like that to someone you know, like a family member, but just because it’s “normal” doesn’t mean it’s OK.
@@Basedhistoryenjoyer no. I don’t think their caring about his weight or insulting him. I think the teacher meant it as “oh you’ve grown” ( that’s how we say it in Chinese.) I think it’s more of the mom teaching his kid to be self conscious because she is too, weight shouldn’t be painted as a bad thing. Y’all are the people doing that.
@@supersecretsyls it's a normal thing to say in Asia. I'm korean and was told similar things except the opposite since I was really skinny as a kid and still get told to this day when I meet my relatives "you lost some weight, you should eat more" something like this. Its a normal way to say "hey you've changed". I don't think it's a joke but it's meant to mean no harm to anyone.
@@ayo.......2430 no I agree. I know that the teacher most probably meant it in a normal way. But I'm just saying that him being upset abt it isn't a joke.
@@Cindy-yq8km no its definitely not cute, it upset him and it had a right to upset him because someone commented on his body, the teacher may not have meant it in that way but it can definitely be perceived as body shaming
Yes, she’s not insulting him. Why do you guys assume just cause someone says somebody else has grown weight, it’s a insult and that their mad at the other person for growing weight?
@@cocraine those words affect his mentality and his behaviour as well. Saying some words that have double meanings to kids who aren't smart enough can actually be bad. The boy didn't know anything and the teacher just said it. Just like when i was a young child, my parents and relatives fed me a lot and when i gained weights, they kept calling me fat (or basically a pig) which made me sad. Yeah i think that if you have kids, you will be the worst parent. Just saying.
@@elmaxswalkman yeah true that. But sometimes these kinda things just slip out. Like maybe the teacher didn't think he would go to such a length and do all these 🙁 or she was like "Ooh you gained weight! You're chubby cutie" and he took it in a bad sense 🙁🙁
I agree. Unfortunately, it's worse for kids who are actually chubby. I'm on the plump side and my family members always tell me to mind my eating habits and to exercise more (in a -mocking- joking tone) whenever they see me. My friends have the same stories.
Asian standard’s are Toxic!!! Like the teacher shouldn’t be saying those type of stuff to a young child - And the kid wasn’t even “chubby” and even if he was like it isn’t you’re BUSINESS!!!
Actually I believe that if the child was overweight that would indeed be the teacher's business, seing that the subject is related to health. Poor child, I hope that doesn't affect him so much.
When I read the title I was like “lol, such a mood” thinking he was in PE class over ZOOM. Then I start watching and I get so sad and mad. This poor angel shouldn’t be thinking about his weight at all, he is clearly a happy, healthy, kid
In asian culture its common to point out physical appearences, the boy just took it differently. Gaining wieight tends to mean youre growing or getting strong. I dont mran its the boys fault, im just giving insight.
Wokja66 in my house (I’m Asian) we go full on korean food mostly everyday and do a lot of exercising. I feel like Asians have more pressure on there health than Americans
@@yesnoblemetalsoxidizetoo3079 does that kid look anywhere near obese?...what kinda kids dyou see around you man?...even if he were obese , there's a way to break it to children, it has to be slow and gentle and in no way should make them feel Inferior or depressed...
guys, this is how anorexia starts. it’s not just with women, men probably have just have many cases. it’s just not as documented because of toxic masculinity. no one deserves to be treated like this, especially so young. yes, childhood obesity is a problem, but no child should worry about it so young.
I dont think anorexia has to be reported, it does happen in males but if your someone who regularly visits a physician they would tell you in you have weight problems..
Well anorexia doesn't need to be documented, like I myself suffer with it and I had it at a very young age, if he saw how his mother was working out and was being commented as "chubby" it can take a toll on a person, and at his age what happens around him can easily rub off on to him. But what worries me the most is that he can calculate weight at such a young age, I understand being picky and such, especially at his age. A child shouldn't worry about it so much yes, but it's more so the parent's fault or people around him. If he sees himself as chubby or fat/overweight he could easily taken that from his mother saying when she was little she was chubby, anorexia or any eating disorder in general is very complicated, and can effect people in different ways.
The fact that people still think obesity, the actual fat, is the issue is still beyond me. 81% of girls as young as a single digit number worry more about getting fat than they do getting breast cancer or being caught in a nuclear war... but i guess fatphobia isnt real bc we somehow need to shame people to “get healthy” when it’s already been proven weight is not what makes the person unhealthy. Fatphobia is how anorexia and ANY OTHER eating disorders start. But yall wont believe that fatphobia even exists.
This is not actually how a normal child reacts, the teacher meant no harm and it's actually normal to greet children this way... There was probably someone who gave this child the impression that gaining weight at his age was a bad thing. Not really the teacher's fault.
This is shattered my heart, he is too young, adults seriously don’t know the affect of their words on children. Him breaking down and crying over that is absolutely terrifying.
It's really messed up how many people body shame others in Asia, even if they're healthy. I'm Vietnamese and I'm sad to say that this is a normal occurrence, even to children. This boy's skinny for a child! It breaks my heart every time I hear something like this directed to someone.
Thank you and I love bts too. Those teachers learned that from their parents or sumthing I tried to be open minded as possible cause I can be wrong and some time so might not see the other persons perspective
I agree. I think most kids subconsciously know that society wants slimmer and fit people even if it hasn’t come to the forefront of their mind yet. It was distasteful and inappropriate for the teacher to open their mouth about a student’s weight even if they don’t have any bad intentions. Adults really have no idea what a comment like this can mean to a little kid bc adults just asume that kids don’t understand anything. I remember being 5 and I was getting ready to trick or treat on Halloween so I had my mom tie my butterfly wings at my front side and she made the comment “oh, you’re getting a little chunky’ and I was self conscious the whole rest of the night and thinking abt my weight instead of having fun like a 5 year old should on Halloween. The comment meant nothing to her and she probably doesn’t remember it but it wrecked me even in kindergarten.When I was in elementary school (even since preschool) I never wanted to wear sweatshirts bc I thought they made me look fat. Despite my parents being supportive and body positive those comments still stuck with me. The point im trying to make is that despite what adults think, little kids are actually a lot smarter and understand more than you think they do. Kids minds are complex and intuitive. If you wouldn’t tell your co worker that they look like they’ve gained weight then why are you saying it to a 5 year old?
ɴᴏᴛ sʜʏ ɴᴏᴛ ᴍᴇ they should but not to the point where their self conscious about their weight and appearance. There is a right way and a wrong way when educating kids on health.
That baby needs some responsible adults in his life to role model and help him process his thoughts and feelings. He's a child, hes not supposed to make sense of the world on his own.
He was mad because he was exercising and when teacher pointed out he was fat, he felt his efforts were discredited. Cause he looked like he had been exercising for quite a while , he knew those exercises well
I felt so bad to see him so sad, but what you said makes sense. All of us, when we put a lot of effort into something and expected to be praised for the result, when the result is opposite, it really hurts inside.
I don’t even think the teacher thinks he’s “fat”, in China we say that the moment we meet someone we know. Instead of “oh hey, how are you?” We could say like “hey! Oh, have you gained/lost weight?” And yeah it’s not the best mindset but I think the teacher was complimenting him. I feel like his parents are the ones affecting him at home and are making him feel like he has to constantly exercise. It’s sad that he’s so young yet he already has this kind of mindset ;-;
@Baako Jernigan Yh same, I don't think I thought twice about my body until I was about 13, and even then, I don't think I started feeling body-consious till i was 14 going on 15.
Even though there’s a video bringing awareness to this kids problem he’s probably going to end up insecure about his weight and that can be very dangerous (eating disorders)
Adults don’t realize how much mean words like that affect kids so much. When I was younger my mom would always say I’m fat (as a joke even though I’m skinny). But it would go too far to the point I’d take seriously and become so self conscious that I developed a eating disorder when I was in the 6th grade
@@anushka_xoxo it’s very very veryyy hard but rlly it is such a amazing feeling when it’s all over. I’ve overcome my eating disorder and I promise u it rlly is so much better living without it. Even tho I’m not doing the best mentally my eating disorder is such a weight lifted off. Please always rethink ur actions and why even ur even rlly doing what ur doing
@@anushka_xoxo Don't listen to other people's judgements. Eat healthy and play. You're too young to be body conscious. But don't mistake this to eating junk food and not exercising. Exercising is very important at your age for healthy development.
This is concerning. I hope his parents look into this. He's this worried at this age, it's gonna be really hard for him when he grows up. Him crying was really disheartening. :/
@@Zzz2x this is small talk in Asia. In the west it is like asking someone whom you haven’t talked to in a while if they’ve maybe lost weight or done something else. I don’t think the teacher meant it in a bad way.
Dude he's actually kinda skinny. Also directly translating, the teacher asked "did you get fatter?" or "are you fat now" a bit rude if you ask me, particularly towards a child.
What? It means if they’re growing, you’re rude for assuming that a culture, particularly MY culture, that we do this to bodyshame. When you’re a parent you want to make your kid gains weight, because, maybe, I don’t know, IT MEANS A FORM OF GROWING UP? Don’t assume if you don’t know the culture. - -Coming from a Chinese person
@@rob_nnz I looked really hard but I still can't see how your reply connects to anything from the original comment but if you really think something being a cultural thing means it can't be rude then ... yeah that's telling already to me.
@@CenerothXaris What I'm saying, is that I disagree with op about the rude part. You can read my original comment as to why I disagree with op's opinion
Yeah that’s why it’s not advised to use triggering words like fat or thin because it can make the person self conscious and can trigger EDs. Imo, the conversation about weight should be very neutral and if not done well, it’s best if you don’t mention it at all, no matter to whom ur talking to.
Oh man. This is how body dysmorphia and eating disorders start. Poor baby. I hope the parents told the TEACHER (who is a WOMAN), not the boy (for everyone that keeps writing "*HE or HIM" in the comments.) where she could go.
noooo little kids shouldn’t be worrying about their weight like this. This is how eating disorders happen. Adults need to watch what they say to kids. :(
@@yoatemybeans4164 Literally none of this has to do with being a snowflake. A kid his age shouldn’t have to worry about if he gained a bit of weight, given how skinny he is. Sure, if he was morbidly obese, then he’d have to worry about it, but it is just really unnecessary for him.
@@Nebluosis 1. if he dosent worry aboout his weight then he will become morbibly obese like most chinese boys 2. i called simply blossom a snowflake cause he was heart broken for no reason
@@yoatemybeans4164 He shouldn’t worry though. He should be conscious and be like, maybe I shouldn’t eat a whole pizza, but worrying is a different level. Also, I believe China has around the same amount of obese kids as America and many other major countries, around 1/5 (definitely a lot, don’t get me wrong).
@@Nebluosis Kids in china are overfed so he needs to worry cause his mother is going to make him obese. He has no rights. Also china has more fat people
This is how anorexia starts. He gets the mindset that he is too fat and starts exercising off all of the body fat he needs. I hope he doesn't get an unhealthy eating mindset too.
This isn't cute. It's very sad and concerning. But... I'm more worried about his mom. Mom, you're beautiful, exercise for yourself, not to comply with someone else's expectations.
Dude, it was most likely a joke, since parents or older people in Asia frequently joke about weight, love life and height when they meet someone. Even if it wasn't actually true, people really perceive it as a joke, and I'm sure that the teacher wasn't being intentionally negative.
@@Carlos-qb5jj neither was it necessarily intentional. The teacher made one simple mistake that they probably didn't think much of, I won't think anyone would have known that a boy that was visibly fit wouldn't be aware of it. That could be part of the joke as well, the teacher thought that the kid wouldn't think much of it since he does actually seem fit.
@@Dimension5Productions obviously, but in this example it's really sad and he shouldn't be worrying about his weight. The Asian beauty standard is also extremely toxic, if you have a tiny bit of fat on you they think you need to loose it. It's really sad tbh, probably why this perfectly healthy kid is already insecure. At his age I didn't even think about how I looked.
@@ft.jackjimmy7282 why not both? I think schools should focus on both more. In the past 3 decades, the prevalence of childhood obesity has more than doubled in children and tripled in adolescents. You can’t tell me that PE is not important.. or should count less than intellectual health
Maybe the teacher didn't really mean it like that. I'm not sure about China, but I've heard that in Japan at least it's considered pretty normal to just comment that someone has gained weight, like not as an insult but kind of like "Oh you got a haircut." ~:~
@@harshmnr I agree. A lot of people really took that to another level and blamed the teacher for that. I bet the teacher didn't even mean to sound rude or anything.
@@Hellothere-kp5gm I know this "you shouldn't feel offended and take a joke too far" mentality since I lived in Asian country as well but hey, have you ever heard how to act polite and not to comment on ones' appearance if weren't being asked? I too, believe that the teacher meant no harms with what's they were saying, but that comment could considered as body shaming. maybe next time just try to being more considerate because what you consider 'joke' doesn't always feel the same with another people.
I don't understand why people are targeting the teacher, it was just a fun question. Where i live that question is not an insult... Just a misunderstanding.
@@esmeortega2081 Asking a child if they gained weight is quite an asian thing. It's more of a lighthearted joke in this context. It's just that the child took it as a literal question.
Nah when I was a kid, these "lighthearted jokes" were kinda mean :( From my experience as an Asian, relatives and random strangers like to point out your physical appearance :(
I’m Asian myself and I gained a bit of weight over quarantine, now people in my family are calling me too fat. But before, when I was really skinny, they were telling me to eat more and gain some weight 🤨 make it make sense. And the thing is, they’re literally all overweight themselves...
when he started to cry it really hurt my feelings that teachers should be really ashamed of herself that is not something that you do to a young child it's horrible...
Same here.. my heart just breaks when i saw him cry... Teachers, please be careful of what you say to your students, this also applies to any adult. Please be mindful of what you say to anyone!
Man, you dont know much bout asian do you? Look in Asian culture or at least the chinese, its normal to say that especially when you havent seen someone for a long time, just like the kid and the teacher since quarentine, and im 1000% sure the teacher didnt mean any bad things by saying he gained weight. Its normal in china at its not considered as bullying. Yes, a child at that age shouldnt be worrying to much bout his weight, but the teacher didnt mean any harm
@@sangasa6721 yeah but for some people it is an insult. They feel humiliated if someone asks them if they gain weight especially if they're more emotional or sensitive than others. Like I'm Asian and my family tell me to eat more bc my face is skinny but it isn't really an insecurity for me and I don't really care so I don't take it to heart. Some people care about these little things more than others.
@@laibajubbein8745 thats what im saying, for the teacher its okay since its a usual thing in the culture but for the boy he is humiliated by his weight, so the teacher did not do it to humiliate him see what i mean
Lots of adults just assume "oh because they're a kid it doesn't matter what i say. They don't know anything." But children retain loooots of information that directly effects their mental state as they grow
The child will grow insecure. And we all know where that goes. It's either anorex, bolemic, obsessed with weight loss, will shame others or himself etc...
“Have you gained weight?” he’s like 5?!! Of course, he’s definitely going to gain weight, gaining weight isn’t always a bad thing, it can be, but In this case, it isn’t. It’s so depressing as a 17 year old teenager with body issues to watch this little boy cry because he’s gained weight, because he shouldn’t be worrying about this at such a young age.
In Asia, "have you gained weight?" is usually a conversation starter. Asians tend to have a more slender body feature, so asking whether he gained weight is somewhat a playful manner.
I'm Asian, and believe me when I say that being asked or told that you gained weight as a child is considered as a compliment. My brother was hella skinny naturally, and my grandma always joked about my mom not having enough money to feed him, and that he's malnourished, whilst I was praised for being chubby.
todoroki and his soba That may have been the case for you and your family. But that’s obviously not the case here. The child was clearly upset about the question which means he was already insecure about it, so people have already been commenting on it negatively. If the intention was to comment on him gaining weight in a positive way, he wouldn’t have reacted like that. Maybe gaining weight is a compliment in some regions of Asia but for a large majority, being slender is normal so Asians think being heavier is unattractive or lazy. The kind of pressure Asian adults and parents put on kids to be perfect traumatizes us and affects our characters and confidence as adults. It needs to stop
this was how my eating disorder started. the fear of being judged. poor kid. edit : after 1 year and 153 replies i think I need to make it clear that i did not sign up for the mess in the replies section so proceed with caution 🗿 joke. im ok, thanks for asking and to those who checked up on me : i developed anorexia at 13, kept it a secret from my family (personal reasons 🌚) and been battling with it ever since. im 18 now, 44 kg, im slowly getting there 💃🏻to whoever finds this edit, I want you to know that you're not alone (. ❛ ᴗ ❛.)
@@maeudaou7347 are you white? you sound white. who told you eating disorder only affects fat people? ever seen a 38 kg girl with bullimia? you have never seen me. and you only see this boy based on this one video. educate yourself. pity your parents raised a rat that comments idiotic things
@Kevin Luna throughout my life the only people who ive seen have ridiculed my eating disorder are white people. it was only natural for me to think the same for them too. my bad.
The teacher should’ve said something like “have u gotten taller?” Or smth like “you’ve grown bigger” like u don’t just say “have u gained weight” like smh
I can't stop crying over this. He's a sensitive young man. Just like me. I wish I could be there to help his obviously overworked parents. Sending tons and tons of love litte buddy. ❤❤❤❤❤
he's a child he shoudn't be worrying about his body shape he should just enjoy his childhood that teacher didn't think before she said that the boy was hurt
did you not wonder how he was raised by his parents for him to react that drastically over a simple statement? Parents are a child’s greatest influence.
@@BeeboBee The teacher never said he was fat. The teacher said he gained weight. The fact that he took that negatively to such an extent indicates someone or something has influenced him to think that way.
@@BeeboBee this types of sentences are really common in Asia, and people don't take it seriously. My korean friend, I met , he says the same thing. Here in india too.
i hate how alot of people my culture, (chinese) like to comment on peoples' weight. i never understood why, and it causes alot of issues for people. for example, whenever i see a relative, they say things like "look at you! you've gained so much weight! make sure to eat healthy!" and it makes me feel rly insecure. people need to stop
It disturbs me that people in general feel so comfortable attacking someone about their weight and lifestyle but then seem to lack that passion when it comes to smoking especially smoking around others. Second hand smoking causes several issues including cancer in non smokers but someone who is fat isn’t going to affect your health like that. Someone who is fat or overweight already knows it they don’t need someone who isn’t their doctor or someone who takes pleasure in bringing their self esteem down to say it to them as it likely will make things worse especially if it’s emotional eating.
@@poopypeepee3372 No, it is not. He has parents who should provide healthy, balanced meals. This way they teach both what a healthy diet is and make sure he grows properly and he does not need to think about weight while learning in an organic way. American kids would be less obese if their parents did their job called parenting. Making a child this old obsess about weight to this degree only leads to EDs.
He’s a kid! He shouldn’t be worrying about his weight at his age. He also shouldn’t view exercise as a punishment; it should be an enjoyable hobby for him. He’s also supposed to be gaining weight, because he is a growing child! I get that it’s considered normal in many Asian countries to make comments to someone you know like a family member about their weight, but just because it’s “normal” doesn’t mean it’s OK. 😔
See generally when relatives come and meet after long time or children and teachers meet again after summer vacation it's usually the very common asked stuff. It indirectly means, hey you grew tall/ your body developed. Since he was little kid he misunderstood it
When English speakers greet children they haven't seen in awhile, they say "look how much you've grown!" That's really all this teacher was doing here. It is normal, and it is OK too. There are a lot of other parts of Asian culture that are very problematic when it comes to body image and beauty ideals, but this phrase really isn't one of them. It's a term of affection/endearment, not an insult or a comment on someone's actual weight.
as an Asian kid, whenever you’re relatives come over they’re like: “have you gotten chubbier?” but I was raised internationally so I don’t care much about my weight and I know they just have nothing else to say to me. But as I got older, unlike they boy who clearly is conscious about his weight at a young age, I really start to feel that I am fat even though I’m underweight when they call me chubby especially when ur siblings r slim and tall. We shouldn’t call kids short or fat, especially when they clearly have a healthy body, it doesn’t help. The only exception is if the kids actually have health problems just ask them to excerise and take care of themselves, no need to bring them down.
Sometimes the older generation even think of it as being a compliment. Like putting on weight means I'm healthy and have been eating well. If they say I lost weight, it would usually be out of concern...
I think his mom and aunt are obsessed about their weights and hence the child might think he would lose their affection if he gained weight. I've been through a similar but different situation,over here people are considered beautiful when they are chubby, as a kid I was all skin and bones and I had my mom always put me down for that she was skinny too and she constantly complained how she can't get fat. So I remember being upset since I couldn't eat more than a handful and hence I couldn't get chubby. By the age of 10 I forced myself to eat more until I felt sick and became overweight, which my mother appreciated very much. But sadly some other people clearly disliked the new me and started calling me fat which made me completely breakdown and i exercised just like this kid crying in between, starved myself and somehow managed to reach an optimal weight but not my original skinny self. I want to go back to the old skinny me but unlike then I'm completely depressed and demotivated to do anything now. I spend most of my time in bed or stress eating and then starving myself for a while. I hope this kid gets therapy, it's better to nip it in the bud.
neethu valsan Hey, sorry to ask, but what kind of culture is that where you are appreciated for being overweight? And I’m really sorry for what happened to you.
@@akirakobayashi5917 the theory I believe is, here in India after colonization most natives were left poor where they couldn't even afford basic necessities. But some Hindus sided with the invaders and remained rich and powerful, and most of them tormented the poor. The rich was feared and respected while the poor was harassed and enslaved. The rich man was fat with big belly, the poor were boney with hollowed cheeks. Diabetes and cholesterol was the rich man's disease that the poor envied. Hence I believe once after India gained independence, the poor worked hard to become the rich in every aspects. I think subconsciously people are still scared they'd be ill treated if they looked like their ancestors in poverty
neethu valsan Please try to stay healthy, don’t work to get the skinny body you had before cause it doesn’t seem healthy. It makes sense they asked you to gain some weight, but not overweight! That’s unhealthy as well. And they shouldn’t have pressured you so much to gain weight to the point it’s unhealthy for your mind and body. I hope your doing better now ♡
I live in West Bengal and when I was 5 or 6 I suffered from something I don't remember but it made my body look like a stick... I was all bones and nothing, I couldn't even sit up sometimes.... My whole family made fun of me, you know that casual mocking tht Indian families love to do? And that made me feel ashamed of myself... 3 yrs later I started gaining weight and now I'm quiet well to do... I just feel that a bit of appreciation and love would have spared me a scared childhood... *sigh
@Drowning in an Indescribable Emptiness you don't know this person's life, dont judge a comment when they're saying they would know and answered it: "no you don't". its their personal life, something you've never experience nor know of.
Exactly, people started wailing on the teacher about "body shaming, and completely disregard the fact the his parents could be the sole cause. No one suddenly ups and exercises after a comment like that. And the video clearly said his mother and aunt taught him those moves.
I have no doubt that even if the child is badly treated by his own parents, there is still some love that took part in the actions they've done to the kid.
Have you considered there are other cultures in the world? In this case the teacher meant zero harm to the kid and it was the kid’s low self esteem that did it
@@lexdraws1729 yes that is the case considering in the kid thought otherwise of a common greeting, so yes the kid 100% had low self esteem or otherwise been thought by his parents to do so
This honestly makes me so sad. A kid as young as him should never have to worry if they are fat or not. The fact that the kid also cried just broke my heart.
I can’t get over the fact that he cries and exercise. Just imagine how hurt and miserable he felt.
Exactly. This hurts my heart so much.
Very sad, he so young he should not be so worried about weight.
i agree, but i don't think the teacher meant to hurt him. don't get me wrong, i think it's wrong to ask a kid if they've gained weight, but i don't think she meant to be rude, yk?
@@reyyyss agreed I don't think the teacher ment it in a bad way, its the way the boy reacted to her comment, very sad.
@@kimberley6308 yeah, it's really sad
hearing him cry broke my heart. he’s so young, he shouldn’t have to worry about what his body looks like and how much he should exercise :(
I'm apparently too young to be insecure at my age
@@anonymousfan.4451 You misunderstood 🤔
@@HiHowAreYa uh no, I'm saying that my parents think im too young to be insecure but we can feel like that at any age
@@anonymousfan.4451 oh srry you didn't mention your parents
@@Cindy-yq8km It's not really cute that the misunderstanding affected him in such a way
He’s literally just a kid. He shouldn’t be worrying about his body. Even if they don’t mean any harm, I feel like some adults still need to think twice before they say anything like that to a child :(((
It was a perfectly normal question tho?
I agree that the kid shouldn't be worrying about that, but why does the blame immediately go to the adult?
It's not like they ment harm in saying that.
@@fi1e3rr0r7 the direct translation is like "did you get fatter??" or "are you fat now?"
I agree with you
I think she ment like "you've grown".
Mom: “Yes, he’s gained some weight”
HUH ALMOST LIKE THATS WHAT GROWING CHILDREN DO.
I know it’s like “you guys know that he is going to gain weight… because he’s a growing 5 year old, right?”
@@plant2188 fr he’s literally not even slightly overweight at all 😭 he’s a completely normal and healthy looking 5 y/o
exactly, its as if the teacher expects him to weigh the same in 10 years
In Chinese it said: though he’s gained some weight, it’s normal weight and not fat. The translation is slightly off.
0:54 The kid is planning to lose 0.5kg, what??!! He shouldn't need to lose weight it will just stunt his growth and become malnourished
I feel like his mother should show more concern. He literally is a child worrying about gaining and losing weight. That speaks volumes
This is common in China. The mother wasn’t concerned because she didn’t think of it as a insult, more like “Have you grown?”
Exactly! This is really heartbreaking, his mom should feel sad that her son feel that way about himself
it's common in east asia but sad
also asian moms often care more about their image in front of others rather than their own childs mental health so she focused on proving to others that he is not fat and unhealthy instead of making the boy feel better
@@itslala3076 im pretty suree the teacher meant it like have u grown since we seen?
there's just this clip of 2 minutes, in which his mom talk for 30 seconds, but this is enough for you to say she isn't concerned enough???? perhaps do you know her personally????
The fact that he burst into tears like that probably means it’s something he thinks about a lot. He is 5 years old for God’s sake! Him crying as he walked off broke my heart. He is no where near being overweight, there is no reason for him to be so worried and concerned for his weight at 5 years old!
Tbh he's probably underweight.
Kids like him shouldn't be excerising much.
I only started to get gym class when I was 11.
it just shows how this generation has made kids insecure too
The teacher wasn’t saying he was overweight, I believe she was saying he looks healthier ;-;
In Asia it’s common to comment about stuff like this when you meet someone. If you know the other person is trying to lose weight, when you meet them you’ll probably say “hey! Oh, did you lose some weight? You look nice!” Or whatever. And usually, when you say “have you gained weight?” You’re commenting on how they look healthier
Although I turned 11 just some days ago I feel like I'm really fat nobody really told me if I'm too young to think like this or I'm old now and it's normal
I think it's his ill concieved notion that takes the better of him
He shouldn't be worrying about his weight. He's still a child. He's supposed to gain weight. Not lose weight
JDF ok but children can fell insecure too he’s teacher said that like he was fat and he told her he was working out .
Iconic Dionna | We know that children can be insecure. Our point is that the teacher shouldn’t comment on a child’s weight in the first place because children are supposed to gain weight.
@American Born Mostly adults.
Thank you i can now no longer be insecure about my weight because of you
Asians, what do you expect
This just shows how simple phrases can affect everyone, including little children...
A few years back, adults would say stuff like this to me and tease me about my “chubby thighs” all the time. Now I’m almost 14 and am underweight because I took their words to heart 😢
I hope he learns that he should love his body no matter what, and that he shouldn’t let people’s criticism get to him.
i know how you feel, my mom always points my stomach out. it makes me feel fat, im eating less everyday and i don't know how to stop. i can't fkn eat anything, i just don't feel like it. get better soon
@@unnaturallynormal I’m concerned for you. Don’t eat less! An average person should eat at least 2000 calories a day. You can always try to exercise, go on morning walks or running.
@@unnaturallynormal I was stuck there before. I know how it is and the only thing I willingly ate was fruits because they tasted appetizing. I recommend eating fruits and making fruit + water combos so your body can start to find foods appetizing again. it won’t happen quickly but at least it’s something and eventually looking at meats and etc. will make you hungry again.
@@3thalluing339 very much correct!
@@3thalluing339 agreed.
Adults would never know how much their words affect a child.
Right, because adults were born as adults 😂
@@lilnigka exactly was i was thinking. lol
@@lilnigka no but they grew up in different times and all people never know how their words affect someone
@@lilnigka No but alot of adults are insensitive dumb@sses when it comes to how they treat kids. As if the kid wouldn't be affected long term by how they act towards them.
@@xXChibiTaokakaXx my parents. it’s fun listening to them insult me and scream at me non stop
This made me very sad. This child doesn't need to be worried about something like that.
The effort tho is wholesome but yeah very sad that a kid is already cautious about his body
This is the problem with the judgmental society that we created
@Joe Mama theres a difference between teaching and teasing. What if the child develops builimia or anorexia?
Joe Mama he was clearly upset about it. A child who shouldn’t have to worry about things like weight, cried and was very upset about it.
@Anonymous I agree tbh, like everyone is beautiful, but being obese isn't healthy which I'm against
He’s a growing child! Of course he’s going to gain some weight AND get taller! Sad he’s made to cry and worry about this!
Ikr he won’t be able to grow properly if he keeps losing weight. The thing is “have you gained weight?” Is kind of a joke in China to tease close friends or family. But sometimes they don’t understand that you can’t say this to a child cuz they might take it seriously. Saying it too much to them may even take a negative impact on their mental or physical health, even after they grow up.
Random Gacha, I want to know if telling someone that they are adopted is a joke in China. My parents do that to me and it is confusing to say the least.
QiQi it actually is cuz I live in Singapore and even here it’s a joke between parents and children or siblings
Random Gacha, ah. Thanks for explaining.
@@qiqi9305 Don't worry about it. If they continue to joke, you can teasingly say: "I know. I have such wonderful genes that even you guys wonder don't you? I did." XD
But I dunno if this kind of answer is rude even in a joke. I'm from the other side of the world so... Hugs.
poor baby. He’s not even fat. He’s perfectly healthy. Those adults are just projecting their insecurities onto him. I hope he’s okay 🥺❤️
This boy needs a lot of love and hugs. The fact that he cry while exercising speaks a lot.
Exactly. If he just exercised ... sure. He's hurting.
Poor baby. He definitely shouldn't be worrying about weight, especially at his age.
i cried think about it
I worry about my weight and Im only 9..
@@o-o1251 please try not to worry about things like that! Yes, when I was 9, I always thought I was fat. But now as I look back, I realize that I never was fat at all, so if you're worried about your weight, please try to keep this in mind ❤️
Awh thank u guys!
howl exactly!
The issue isn't him being healthy and working out, thats great. The issue is that he immediately logged out of school, worked out, and cried. He was obsessed with the idea.
It isn't healthy to work out just to change your body shape anyway. So I wouldn't categorize his working out as healthy, either.
@@LookupintheAER LOL what? You know that makes no sense right? So exercising to lose weight or make gains isn't healthy?
@@KaneMeadowsGaming Exercising simply to change the aesthetic of your body is not mentally healthy. Its a sign of body disorder, eating disorder, and there's exercise disorder.
So the physical exercise might be healthy, but if you're doing it for the wrong reasons, its mentally unhealthy.
@@LookupintheAER The entire point of exercising is to change the appearance of your body...Maybe your tired of being fat so you make the change to feel proud of yourself and be more comfortable in your body, or if you want to gain muscle you start working out
@@KaneMeadowsGaming No, that's the unhealthy way of thinking about exercise. You should exercise for the sake of your physical health, not for appearance.
If your physical appearance is the only thing that's motivating you, then that's an issue of body image.
Boy: has a full blown mental break down
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I was thinking the same
HAHAHAHA
hahahahahahahahahahaha
because kids are silly
"oh you've gained weight"
*He's growing as any child should*
well his bones are growing so he gained weight
well no the teacher said 你胖了 which means “you’ve gotten fatter”
Being a chubby child is better than being a skinny one
The teacher didnt really mean to shame that kid. In Asian culture (idk), people usually talk like that when they havent seen each other in a long time like "oh your cheeks are more chubby now". Well some people are really sensitive and take it as an insult but I'm sure the teacher meant no harm 🙂
Sorry for my long comment hehe
Ivey Teoh True! sometimes i even get happy since i used to be skinny im poroud of myself now that iv gained weight ill make sure not to gain to much though.
Poor baby 😩 why is he even worrying about this? Who put that insecurity in his head?
The media most likely
His teacher..
Lol the teacher but he probably has heard someone around him talk about their own weight in a negative way.
The teacher.
I rmb when i was a kid, my siblings made me insecure but they also made me mature and life advices, couldn't have been more thankful. Also im no longer insecure so which is nice
That’s not cute at all... that’s actually disturbing that a child so young is concerned with their weight when they are clearly at a very healthy weight.
Little bit under weight may I say, But every child till either 10 and/or 14 have baby fat, it's natural.
its all in the head. u could be perfectly healthy but still think ir overweight. poor boy:(
@@anoxmousyt4778 this isn't abt ethnicity its abt the mental stability of this child
@@anoxmousyt4778 That's absolutely absurd, no one is perfect what are you,a child?
It's a joke
Why is he under the impression that he's not supposed to gain weight? He can't stop it... He's a child. He can only grow.
dude a 5 year old shouldn't be worrying about their weight this is just horrible and sad
Ye
and then seeing a 40 year old completely ignoring the scale and being morbidly obese in the US...
@@_phong.huynh_ yeah, it should be the parents worrying about their kids weight
Ok it wasn’t even a insult or telling him off y’all need to study how china works I live in Canada yet I know this
@@civilizedgangster8024 the child should also have notice
Children that young shouldn’t “work out.” They should be outside running and playing. That’s their version of “working out.”
exactly!
And i think that's how adults have to work out too...
Too bad the whole world decided no one was allowed to go outside and have fun anymore.
@@Turin-Fett maybe because thwre is a f pandemic?
Also his form is awful
there’s literally no need to comment on his weight if he’s clearly healthy...
I think the teacher might have just meant it as like, you've grown a lot, I dont think there was any malice in what they were saying.
@@abigailhagos501 well directly translated she said "did you get fatter" or "are you fat now"
@@Chloe-jt4yb in china we say it as just a way of growing, the literal translation doesnt tell the whole story
@@jakewngg that's fair
Thing is, comments on weight loss and gain are just small talks in Asia. People blurt it out to someone all the time.
When he cried it broke my heart. If you don’t have nothing nice to say don’t say it. You’ll never know how badly words can affect someone. Poor baby worrying about this at such a young age.
He shouldn't even be thinking about his weight cause he is a child, he isn't even chubby he looks like any other 5 year old. It makes me sad that he even burst out crying and walked away, I feel so bad for him
He’s a little chubby but not that bad
And the worst part is that the adults probably thought it's normal because they themselves care about weight and so should the kids even if it's not true. So sad. :(
Yeah his weight looks healthy
I agree! He is a growing child, and he is supposed to be gaining weight. I get that it’s considered normal in many Asian cultures to make comments like that to someone you know, like a family member, but just because it’s “normal” doesn’t mean it’s OK.
@@Basedhistoryenjoyer no. I don’t think their caring about his weight or insulting him. I think the teacher meant it as “oh you’ve grown” ( that’s how we say it in Chinese.) I think it’s more of the mom teaching his kid to be self conscious because she is too, weight shouldn’t be painted as a bad thing. Y’all are the people doing that.
The fact that he's not even fat or chubby...
It’s a joke
He's tiny! I felt so bad :(
@@shanghainese7198 he felt as if it was an insult ofc maybe the teacher didn't mean it that way, but it's not a jOkE.
@@supersecretsyls it's a normal thing to say in Asia. I'm korean and was told similar things except the opposite since I was really skinny as a kid and still get told to this day when I meet my relatives "you lost some weight, you should eat more" something like this. Its a normal way to say "hey you've changed". I don't think it's a joke but it's meant to mean no harm to anyone.
@@ayo.......2430 no I agree. I know that the teacher most probably meant it in a normal way. But I'm just saying that him being upset abt it isn't a joke.
the fact that at his age he is already anxious about gaining weight is making me worry about his mental health😕
What is the context of your comment?
@@Cindy-yq8km no its definitely not cute, it upset him and it had a right to upset him because someone commented on his body, the teacher may not have meant it in that way but it can definitely be perceived as body shaming
@@Cindy-yq8km but you do understand how it can be perceived as body shaming right?
nah, this is how it should be
too many people are obese becuase they are not anxious about gaining weight.
@@Cindy-yq8km ikr he only said he 'gained weight'
Mom: “he’s gained some weight”
Him: *a growing child*
Yes, she’s not insulting him. Why do you guys assume just cause someone says somebody else has grown weight, it’s a insult and that their mad at the other person for growing weight?
This is the problem with you guys. Why do you all paint weight as a bad thing or a insult?? I’m so confused
@@cocraine bcz it’s insulting for someone to point out your weight, whether it is meant as an insult or not
@@ezraflix yes. But she’s saying he’s growing.
@@cocraine those words affect his mentality and his behaviour as well. Saying some words that have double meanings to kids who aren't smart enough can actually be bad. The boy didn't know anything and the teacher just said it. Just like when i was a young child, my parents and relatives fed me a lot and when i gained weights, they kept calling me fat (or basically a pig) which made me sad. Yeah i think that if you have kids, you will be the worst parent. Just saying.
His is toooo young to be worried about things like that, and that teacher has no shame whatsoever seriously 😔😔😔
and i am too young to be worrying about college/my future/death, but here i am
No I think it was a normal comment, like, "Oo did you gain weight" everyone says that not necessarily criticizing him
Sruti Deka but he’s young and he doesn’t understand that, the teacher should know better
@@elmaxswalkman yeah true that. But sometimes these kinda things just slip out. Like maybe the teacher didn't think he would go to such a length and do all these 🙁 or she was like "Ooh you gained weight! You're chubby cutie" and he took it in a bad sense 🙁🙁
It's also a cultural thing. Chinese people are generally more direct, sometimes to a fault.
this is horrifying. this is what I look like while having a bad episode and deciding to work out. I have anorexia. this kid is FIVE.
i hope you get better soon, you are so strong! i wish you the best 💓
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@@-topic9506 💙🤗
Get better please ♥️
You’ll be alright people care for you :)
And yes I agree it is horrifying
A teacher should never do something so disgusting
@@-topic9506 Nobody asked you drama queen
This poor kid. He looks like a healthy little boy and definitely shouldn't be so worried about his body
I agree. Unfortunately, it's worse for kids who are actually chubby. I'm on the plump side and my family members always tell me to mind my eating habits and to exercise more (in a -mocking- joking tone) whenever they see me. My friends have the same stories.
Asian standard’s are Toxic!!!
Like the teacher shouldn’t be saying those type of stuff to a young child -
And the kid wasn’t even “chubby” and even if he was like it isn’t you’re BUSINESS!!!
Actually I believe that if the child was overweight that would indeed be the teacher's business, seing that the subject is related to health. Poor child, I hope that doesn't affect him so much.
@@heitorsantos9824 it's not the teachers business
@@busterkeatonsbriefs But shouldn't a PE teacher worry about the health of their students?
@@heitorsantos9824 well in PE they teach sports, nutrition and fitness but don't single students out because of their weight.
I agree that just because this is considered “normal” in many Asian countries doesn’t mean it is OK.
He's just five years old and already he's insecure about his weight. Yikes.
Him: 😪
That’s a serious problem that I hope doesn’t progress with him further into his life.
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@@alwayshardbeinganarsenalfan earth lives matter
He’s not insecure he’s just scared
The fact that a five year old is worried with his body shape and that he actually knows how to work out is really worrying
He doesn’t, he’s doing some exercises like press ups and sit ups wrong, very wrong.
My daughter knows how to workout since she was 3 and now she is 5 And she works out 2 times a day , she is always talking about body size
@@beasworld5155 That is concerning
@@beasworld5155 Why does she focus so much on body image?!? You are doing something wrong, that’s disgusting
No when kids usually turn five schools teach them these work outs. Well im from the south and in kindergarten we did stuff like this
When I read the title I was like “lol, such a mood” thinking he was in PE class over ZOOM. Then I start watching and I get so sad and mad. This poor angel shouldn’t be thinking about his weight at all, he is clearly a happy, healthy, kid
In asian culture its common to point out physical appearences, the boy just took it differently. Gaining wieight tends to mean youre growing or getting strong. I dont mran its the boys fault, im just giving insight.
It broke my heart when he bursted into tears I just wanted to hug him and tell him its OK nothing is wrong with you ...😢❤😭🙌🏽
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Wokja66 in my house (I’m Asian) we go full on korean food mostly everyday and do a lot of exercising. I feel like Asians have more pressure on there health than Americans
@@mushuvfx2093 Yeah definitely.
He's just 5! 5!! This world is becoming gloomier and more cruel than ever.
this is why more people have depression and commit suicide.
Yes, not letting your kid become obese is cruel lol 🤣
@@yesnoblemetalsoxidizetoo3079 but letting them get an eating disorder is very cruel
@@citrusangel9488 that's not what I was saying
@@yesnoblemetalsoxidizetoo3079 does that kid look anywhere near obese?...what kinda kids dyou see around you man?...even if he were obese , there's a way to break it to children, it has to be slow and gentle and in no way should make them feel Inferior or depressed...
guys, this is how anorexia starts. it’s not just with women, men probably have just have many cases. it’s just not as documented because of toxic masculinity. no one deserves to be treated like this, especially so young. yes, childhood obesity is a problem, but no child should worry about it so young.
I dont think anorexia has to be reported, it does happen in males but if your someone who regularly visits a physician they would tell you in you have weight problems..
Well anorexia doesn't need to be documented, like I myself suffer with it and I had it at a very young age, if he saw how his mother was working out and was being commented as "chubby" it can take a toll on a person, and at his age what happens around him can easily rub off on to him. But what worries me the most is that he can calculate weight at such a young age, I understand being picky and such, especially at his age. A child shouldn't worry about it so much yes, but it's more so the parent's fault or people around him. If he sees himself as chubby or fat/overweight he could easily taken that from his mother saying when she was little she was chubby, anorexia or any eating disorder in general is very complicated, and can effect people in different ways.
Even me...? Im ten tho
Lol my parents don’t give a dime
The fact that people still think obesity, the actual fat, is the issue is still beyond me. 81% of girls as young as a single digit number worry more about getting fat than they do getting breast cancer or being caught in a nuclear war... but i guess fatphobia isnt real bc we somehow need to shame people to “get healthy” when it’s already been proven weight is not what makes the person unhealthy. Fatphobia is how anorexia and ANY OTHER eating disorders start. But yall wont believe that fatphobia even exists.
He's too precious! He really shouldn't be worrying about weights at that age. He does more exercise than I do.
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Yoongi Fluff Bun haha! So true
@@yujinism6870 I don't I just replied to few comments
True, it's so sad that people put these ideas into children's heads at such a young age.
That is so wrong he’s an impressionable little boy, telling a child he looks like he gained weight could lead to him getting bulimia or anorexia
what are bulimia and anorexia?Im just curious
Rylie Adriano look them up
it’s actually considered a compliment in asia. in asian culture saying “have u gained weight” is basically a translation to your growing healthy.
And trust issues
This is not actually how a normal child reacts, the teacher meant no harm and it's actually normal to greet children this way...
There was probably someone who gave this child the impression that gaining weight at his age was a bad thing. Not really the teacher's fault.
This is shattered my heart, he is too young, adults seriously don’t know the affect of their words on children. Him breaking down and crying over that is absolutely terrifying.
This is obviously a learned behavior. He mentioned about his mom, she's probably still obsessed about her weight and being slim. Poor boy.
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It's really messed up how many people body shame others in Asia, even if they're healthy. I'm Vietnamese and I'm sad to say that this is a normal occurrence, even to children. This boy's skinny for a child! It breaks my heart every time I hear something like this directed to someone.
Thank you and I love bts too. Those teachers learned that from their parents or sumthing I tried to be open minded as possible cause I can be wrong and some time so might not see the other persons perspective
Joey Fish I agree saying did u gain weight doesn’t mean ur fat u can be skinny and gain weight
Orange what do you mean?
Grows 1 feet and gain pounds due to that and gets called fat for gaining pounds
Yeah I mean that could develop an eating disorder especially if it's constantly put into your head starting from a young age
He does not deserve to be questioned like that. He should enjoy being a child instead of being worried about his weight...
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Nobody judged him though
Joe Mama when your a kid fat goes into growth, if your malnourished for your entire childhood you will go way under your growth expectation
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why is he worrying about his weight?! he’s still a child :(
Awh...poor kid he shouldn't be worried about anything rn..
I agree. I think most kids subconsciously know that society wants slimmer and fit people even if it hasn’t come to the forefront of their mind yet. It was distasteful and inappropriate for the teacher to open their mouth about a student’s weight even if they don’t have any bad intentions. Adults really have no idea what a comment like this can mean to a little kid bc adults just asume that kids don’t understand anything. I remember being 5 and I was getting ready to trick or treat on Halloween so I had my mom tie my butterfly wings at my front side and she made the comment “oh, you’re getting a little chunky’ and I was self conscious the whole rest of the night and thinking abt my weight instead of having fun like a 5 year old should on Halloween. The comment meant nothing to her and she probably doesn’t remember it but it wrecked me even in kindergarten.When I was in elementary school (even since preschool) I never wanted to wear sweatshirts bc I thought they made me look fat. Despite my parents being supportive and body positive those comments still stuck with me. The point im trying to make is that despite what adults think, little kids are actually a lot smarter and understand more than you think they do. Kids minds are complex and intuitive. If you wouldn’t tell your co worker that they look like they’ve gained weight then why are you saying it to a 5 year old?
I agree, he should be living his childhood and be happy!
I think kids should be worried about their health
@Amisha Koottungal Joy huh what?If your talking about my profile pic it rlly shouldn't concern you.
ɴᴏᴛ sʜʏ ɴᴏᴛ ᴍᴇ they should but not to the point where their self conscious about their weight and appearance. There is a right way and a wrong way when educating kids on health.
Unbelievable. This is not funny at all, poor kid
This poor kid takes things too literal, no joke but If someone asked him to jump he'd either jump or ask How high
@@ajayusspiritus6955 That's called being a kid
Hilarious.
That baby needs some responsible adults in his life to role model and help him process his thoughts and feelings. He's a child, hes not supposed to make sense of the world on his own.
Ajayus Spiritus
Bruh he’s frickin’ five years old-aka a *child.* What the actual heck do you expect?
HE’S ONLY A BABYYY
ITS TOO EARLY FOR HIM TO BE CONCERNED ABOUT THIS
Thank you!
He is not to early!!I it is actually better to start young and be fit! Cuzz when you get older its gonna be harder!
Cuby Orange he’s to early to be concerned about his body image not to young to be fit there different.
@@cozygamer6369 no he isnt! He should care about his body and not eat too much!
Cuby Orange dude the kid is literally five he should be worried about remembering the alphabet
this actually breaks my heart he's such an adorable kid he shouldn't have to worry about his body so early
He was mad because he was exercising and when teacher pointed out he was fat, he felt his efforts were discredited. Cause he looked like he had been exercising for quite a while , he knew those exercises well
yea man and for a 5 year old its just crazy
I felt so bad to see him so sad, but what you said makes sense. All of us, when we put a lot of effort into something and expected to be praised for the result, when the result is opposite, it really hurts inside.
The teacher didn't said that he was fat like all living creatures we all gain weight
He needs a male role model to explain that that's what gains are bro.
I don’t even think the teacher thinks he’s “fat”, in China we say that the moment we meet someone we know. Instead of “oh hey, how are you?” We could say like “hey! Oh, have you gained/lost weight?” And yeah it’s not the best mindset but I think the teacher was complimenting him. I feel like his parents are the ones affecting him at home and are making him feel like he has to constantly exercise. It’s sad that he’s so young yet he already has this kind of mindset ;-;
When I was 5, I had no concept of "fat" or "skinny" yet... this is so depressing
Lucky you. When i was 5 my father and my brother always said im so skinny like a stick
@I'm a human I feel bad for u
@Baako Jernigan Yh same, I don't think I thought twice about my body until I was about 13, and even then, I don't think I started feeling body-consious till i was 14 going on 15.
And this people is how an eating disorder begins
Absolutely agree
For sure, I really hope the kid realizes that he doesn't need to change.
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@@natechenheng1380 an*
There’s more than one eating disorder
Even though there’s a video bringing awareness to this kids problem he’s probably going to end up insecure about his weight and that can be very dangerous (eating disorders)
Adults don’t realize how much mean words like that affect kids so much. When I was younger my mom would always say I’m fat (as a joke even though I’m skinny). But it would go too far to the point I’d take seriously and become so self conscious that I developed a eating disorder when I was in the 6th grade
This is the situation with me and i AM in 6th grade
@@anushka_xoxo it’s very very veryyy hard but rlly it is such a amazing feeling when it’s all over. I’ve overcome my eating disorder and I promise u it rlly is so much better living without it. Even tho I’m not doing the best mentally my eating disorder is such a weight lifted off. Please always rethink ur actions and why even ur even rlly doing what ur doing
@@anushka_xoxo Don't listen to other people's judgements. Eat healthy and play. You're too young to be body conscious. But don't mistake this to eating junk food and not exercising. Exercising is very important at your age for healthy development.
@@babyamyxo-o6c i do excercise but still idk why people say that
This is concerning. I hope his parents look into this. He's this worried at this age, it's gonna be really hard for him when he grows up. Him crying was really disheartening. :/
Probably the parents the cause of it
@@MardiMuda yea we never know honestly
Did you not hear the mom? She don’t care
@@Zzz2x this is small talk in Asia. In the west it is like asking someone whom you haven’t talked to in a while if they’ve maybe lost weight or done something else. I don’t think the teacher meant it in a bad way.
If anything when he grows he might realize his foolish ways, since he's a kid and doesn't understand
Dude he's actually kinda skinny. Also directly translating, the teacher asked "did you get fatter?" or "are you fat now" a bit rude if you ask me, particularly towards a child.
It happens a lot in Asia; and not even in a demeaning way. It’s their culture and it was not the teachers fault that the kid had a low self esteem.
What? It means if they’re growing, you’re rude for assuming that a culture, particularly MY culture, that we do this to bodyshame. When you’re a parent you want to make your kid gains weight, because, maybe, I don’t know, IT MEANS A FORM OF GROWING UP? Don’t assume if you don’t know the culture. - -Coming from a Chinese person
@@rob_nnz I looked really hard but I still can't see how your reply connects to anything from the original comment but if you really think something being a cultural thing means it can't be rude then ... yeah that's telling already to me.
@@CenerothXaris What I'm saying, is that I disagree with op about the rude part. You can read my original comment as to why I disagree with op's opinion
Yeah that’s why it’s not advised to use triggering words like fat or thin because it can make the person self conscious and can trigger EDs. Imo, the conversation about weight should be very neutral and if not done well, it’s best if you don’t mention it at all, no matter to whom ur talking to.
Oh man. This is how body dysmorphia and eating disorders start. Poor baby. I hope the parents told the TEACHER (who is a WOMAN), not the boy (for everyone that keeps writing "*HE or HIM" in the comments.) where she could go.
He’s a boy*
@@lin.yiming I hope the parents told the TEACHER (who is a woman) where to go. Watch the video again and read my comment AGAIN. SMH.
G S Oh Okay,I apologise
@@GS__ it looks like you're refering to the sentence before tho
I mean that's kinda how it works
If you tell a kid that s/he gained weight, it should be regarded as a compliment (I'm Asian, that's a culture)
noooo little kids shouldn’t be worrying about their weight like this. This is how eating disorders happen. Adults need to watch what they say to kids. :(
He’s not chubby he’s skinny the point he went to cry in The corner broke my heart🥺
•siimply blossom• sensitive snowflake
@@yoatemybeans4164 Literally none of this has to do with being a snowflake. A kid his age shouldn’t have to worry about if he gained a bit of weight, given how skinny he is. Sure, if he was morbidly obese, then he’d have to worry about it, but it is just really unnecessary for him.
@@Nebluosis 1. if he dosent worry aboout his weight then he will become morbibly obese like most chinese boys
2. i called simply blossom a snowflake cause he was heart broken for no reason
@@yoatemybeans4164 He shouldn’t worry though. He should be conscious and be like, maybe I shouldn’t eat a whole pizza, but worrying is a different level. Also, I believe China has around the same amount of obese kids as America and many other major countries, around 1/5 (definitely a lot, don’t get me wrong).
@@Nebluosis Kids in china are overfed so he needs to worry cause his mother is going to make him obese. He has no rights. Also china has more fat people
This is how anorexia starts. He gets the mindset that he is too fat and starts exercising off all of the body fat he needs. I hope he doesn't get an unhealthy eating mindset too.
Yes , he needs to understand that he is perfectly finr :(
@@noodleislife4572 oh thats y its edited
@@noodleislife4572 bulimia and anorexia go hand in hand though. Anorexics sometimes purge what little they eat.
@@benkenobi1422 you’re right my bad 🤦🏻♀️ in this case, this kid exhibited non-purging bulimia.
Amen
This kid has exercised more than I have in my entire life.
fr 😭
Same
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I just noticed to bts army's ❤️
same
Thinking that kids like his generation all over the world are actually worrying about superficial things at such a young age. It saddens me.
This isn't cute. It's very sad and concerning. But... I'm more worried about his mom. Mom, you're beautiful, exercise for yourself, not to comply with someone else's expectations.
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Bro he's not even chubby. The dudes like normal size. This is terrible influence to kids
The "dude" is a 5 year old boy. Can't you refrain from the frat-boy speak even with him, "bro"?! Talking about terrible influence.
@@Belikel umm chile.. why are u so pressed💀
Dude, it was most likely a joke, since parents or older people in Asia frequently joke about weight, love life and height when they meet someone. Even if it wasn't actually true, people really perceive it as a joke, and I'm sure that the teacher wasn't being intentionally negative.
Jemima , still not ethical for grown adults to be commenting on little kid’s bodies.
@@Carlos-qb5jj neither was it necessarily intentional. The teacher made one simple mistake that they probably didn't think much of, I won't think anyone would have known that a boy that was visibly fit wouldn't be aware of it. That could be part of the joke as well, the teacher thought that the kid wouldn't think much of it since he does actually seem fit.
He looks healthy and a kid his age should never worry about being "fat"
But obesity is unhealthy. I'm not saying the kids fat, hes actually pretty average, but if a 5 year old is morbidly obese, that's bad
@@Dimension5Productions obviously, but in this example it's really sad and he shouldn't be worrying about his weight. The Asian beauty standard is also extremely toxic, if you have a tiny bit of fat on you they think you need to loose it. It's really sad tbh, probably why this perfectly healthy kid is already insecure. At his age I didn't even think about how I looked.
@@Dimension5Productions ur example is sad..fr
a child certainly doesn't need to be worry about that and when he went in the corner to cry I felt a sense of similarity.
If he is considered “fat”, I’m considered *obese*
*Same*
SAme
If he’s considered fat, what would they consider Discord Mods, Redditor, and Rule34 Artists
I’m considered dead.
Cookie Relish I am considered 'nauru'
Poor darling. And he's so tiny. The fact that a little kid has to worry about exercising irks my soul.
What she said was literally a compliment for them-
@@VinVin_31 yes it is but maybe the way the teacher said it sounded rude or maybe it's just him who misunderstood them
"Mental health is just as important as physical health"
Schools: no
I think schools should focus more on intellectual health than physical health
Mental health is far more important. I exercise for my brain and the body just comes along.
@@nourghazal296 True
My parents: no
@@ft.jackjimmy7282 why not both? I think schools should focus on both more. In the past 3 decades, the prevalence of childhood obesity has more than doubled in children and tripled in adolescents. You can’t tell me that PE is not important.. or should count less than intellectual health
That's honestly so sad like he shouldn't be worrying about those things a that age
Body shaming a 5 year old who isn’t even considered over weight. Oh we are such wonderful adults.
The teacher was 100% overweight as a kid and was bullied for it and this is how she carries it on.
Maybe the teacher didn't really mean it like that. I'm not sure about China, but I've heard that in Japan at least it's considered pretty normal to just comment that someone has gained weight, like not as an insult but kind of like "Oh you got a haircut."
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@@harshmnr I agree. A lot of people really took that to another level and blamed the teacher for that. I bet the teacher didn't even mean to sound rude or anything.
@@Hellothere-kp5gm I know this "you shouldn't feel offended and take a joke too far" mentality since I lived in Asian country as well but hey, have you ever heard how to act polite and not to comment on ones' appearance if weren't being asked? I too, believe that the teacher meant no harms with what's they were saying, but that comment could considered as body shaming. maybe next time just try to being more considerate because what you consider 'joke' doesn't always feel the same with another people.
@@dindaseptiara5393 I don't disagree with you, however, check what I wrote again. I never said anything about this being a joke.
Bruh let him grow up, now is not the time to worry about his weight.
Yess
For real this is supposed to be grown up and teenagers thing 😭
Exactly. He’s a child, he can make fun decisions.
Nobody should be insecure about themselves and should learn how to love themselves
IKR he’s supposed to have fun at 5 😭😭
He shouldn’t be worrying about weight at his age. He’s still growing. I feel so sad that he’s crying
someone please give this little boy a hug and tell him that at his age it’s perfectly normal to gain weight.
He isn't chubby at all! He's on the thin side! The fact that at five he is having to defend his body is deeply disturbing! He should be playing 😭😭😭😭
Teacher shoulda said “did you get taller” than “did you get bigger.”
I don't understand why people are targeting the teacher, it was just a fun question. Where i live that question is not an insult... Just a misunderstanding.
@@b1._.x457 He started crying.
Like who tf asks A CHILD if they gained weight?
That's rude dude.
@@esmeortega2081 not rude to me.
@@esmeortega2081 Asking a child if they gained weight is quite an asian thing. It's more of a lighthearted joke in this context. It's just that the child took it as a literal question.
Nah when I was a kid, these "lighthearted jokes" were kinda mean :(
From my experience as an Asian, relatives and random strangers like to point out your physical appearance :(
I’m Asian myself and I gained a bit of weight over quarantine, now people in my family are calling me too fat. But before, when I was really skinny, they were telling me to eat more and gain some weight 🤨 make it make sense.
And the thing is, they’re literally all overweight themselves...
*literally every Indian family
@@captainrex5948 literally every arabic family*
@@remasuuu2087 literally every American mom*
@@captainrex5948 bangladesh too
Lolllllll that’s soooo trueeeeeee-the last part
This kid is so adorable, parents need to be emotionally available for him, atleast know about his worries🤧
when he started to cry it really hurt my feelings that teachers should be really ashamed of herself that is not something that you do to a young child it's horrible...
Same here.. my heart just breaks when i saw him cry... Teachers, please be careful of what you say to your students, this also applies to any adult. Please be mindful of what you say to anyone!
Man, you dont know much bout asian do you? Look in Asian culture or at least the chinese, its normal to say that especially when you havent seen someone for a long time, just like the kid and the teacher since quarentine, and im 1000% sure the teacher didnt mean any bad things by saying he gained weight. Its normal in china at its not considered as bullying. Yes, a child at that age shouldnt be worrying to much bout his weight, but the teacher didnt mean any harm
@@sangasa6721 yeah but for some people it is an insult. They feel humiliated if someone asks them if they gain weight especially if they're more emotional or sensitive than others. Like I'm Asian and my family tell me to eat more bc my face is skinny but it isn't really an insecurity for me and I don't really care so I don't take it to heart. Some people care about these little things more than others.
@@laibajubbein8745 thats what im saying, for the teacher its okay since its a usual thing in the culture but for the boy he is humiliated by his weight, so the teacher did not do it to humiliate him see what i mean
There are no ill intentions of what the teacher said, the phrase is usually used here in asia
poor kid, he shouldn't feel this way..
People really need to think before speaking, especially to children.
Lots of adults just assume "oh because they're a kid it doesn't matter what i say. They don't know anything." But children retain loooots of information that directly effects their mental state as they grow
Its Kel exactly. Kids are extremely impressionable and very easily influenced.
@@kels8872 ikrr
:(
In my country, teachers are the best at body shaming their students
But she asked a general question, she wasn’t body shaming
My heart broke, please let children live happily, you only have a childhood once in your life
The child will grow insecure. And we all know where that goes. It's either anorex, bolemic, obsessed with weight loss, will shame others or himself etc...
ah yes the two eating disorders, anorex and bolemic
All cause of some idiot Teacher.
I'm so sorry but it's "Bulimic" and "Anorexic" :
Yeah, and he’s still growing so he’s going to gain weight no matter what.
@@lpsbrandon9534 I think the problem existed before the teacher asked that question.
“Have you gained weight?” he’s like 5?!! Of course, he’s definitely going to gain weight, gaining weight isn’t always a bad thing, it can be, but In this case, it isn’t. It’s so depressing as a 17 year old teenager with body issues to watch this little boy cry because he’s gained weight, because he shouldn’t be worrying about this at such a young age.
Broke my heart into a million pieces
In Asia, "have you gained weight?" is usually a conversation starter. Asians tend to have a more slender body feature, so asking whether he gained weight is somewhat a playful manner.
I'm Asian, and believe me when I say that being asked or told that you gained weight as a child is considered as a compliment. My brother was hella skinny naturally, and my grandma always joked about my mom not having enough money to feed him, and that he's malnourished, whilst I was praised for being chubby.
todoroki and his soba That may have been the case for you and your family. But that’s obviously not the case here. The child was clearly upset about the question which means he was already insecure about it, so people have already been commenting on it negatively. If the intention was to comment on him gaining weight in a positive way, he wouldn’t have reacted like that. Maybe gaining weight is a compliment in some regions of Asia but for a large majority, being slender is normal so Asians think being heavier is unattractive or lazy. The kind of pressure Asian adults and parents put on kids to be perfect traumatizes us and affects our characters and confidence as adults. It needs to stop
The teacher probably meant was he eating well I’m Chinese and my grandparents always say that
this was how my eating disorder started. the fear of being judged. poor kid.
edit : after 1 year and 153 replies i think I need to make it clear that i did not sign up for the mess in the replies section so proceed with caution 🗿 joke. im ok, thanks for asking and to those who checked up on me : i developed anorexia at 13, kept it a secret from my family (personal reasons 🌚) and been battling with it ever since. im 18 now, 44 kg, im slowly getting there 💃🏻to whoever finds this edit, I want you to know that you're not alone (. ❛ ᴗ ❛.)
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Maeu Daou This is a child...
@@maeudaou7347 are you white? you sound white.
who told you eating disorder only affects fat people? ever seen a 38 kg girl with bullimia? you have never seen me. and you only see this boy based on this one video.
educate yourself. pity your parents raised a rat that comments idiotic things
@@maeudaou7347 dumb kid get out of here😀
@Kevin Luna
throughout my life the only people who ive seen have ridiculed my eating disorder are white people. it was only natural for me to think the same for them too. my bad.
he will probably remember these words forever. some adults should be more careful about what they say and how much it can affect children’s life
The teacher should’ve said something like “have u gotten taller?” Or smth like “you’ve grown bigger” like u don’t just say “have u gained weight” like smh
what does smh mean?
マナTea “shake my head”
@Mia Strawberry milk ._. ty! 🥺✨💖
@@noraiyu smh means shake my head
@@spingingleblorp3996 oh okay
him after the teacher told him he gained weight: cries and IMMEDIATELY WORKS OUT
me: cries about it and goes downstairs to eat something
Im no cry. Just continue eat
This is ao true on so many levels. Stress eating and comfort eating are serious stuff
I would actually cry and hide while the zoom meeting is still on.
I see you comment EVERYWHERE
@@starstruck128 really? lol i dont really comment at all
He’s a growing boy of course he’s going to gain weight
u missed the point
@@sian186 The point of the video was not the teacher commenting on his weight but how the child reacted to the comment.
@@sian186 agreed. Also, in asian culture its common for relatives or people that are close to point out physical appearences. Talking from experience.
@@sian186 Me too! I used to think that she was buggy and nagging me too much, but ive come to notice she is just showing her love.
@@brandonwilliams8151 Should I feel bad that me, my cousins' and friends' common greeting is related to calling them fat?
I can't stop crying over this. He's a sensitive young man. Just like me. I wish I could be there to help his obviously overworked parents. Sending tons and tons of love litte buddy. ❤❤❤❤❤
he's a child he shoudn't be worrying about his body shape he should just enjoy his childhood that teacher didn't think before she said that the boy was hurt
Have you read even some of the other comments explaining why she said that
did you not wonder how he was raised by his parents for him to react that drastically over a simple statement?
Parents are a child’s greatest influence.
@@BeeboBee The teacher never said he was fat. The teacher said he gained weight. The fact that he took that negatively to such an extent indicates someone or something has influenced him to think that way.
@@BeeboBee this types of sentences are really common in Asia, and people don't take it seriously. My korean friend, I met , he says the same thing. Here in india too.
I think that Asian says those kind of thing ,about the body of other people but not negative just like being honest about that :/ ?
i hate how alot of people my culture, (chinese) like to comment on peoples' weight. i never understood why, and it causes alot of issues for people. for example, whenever i see a relative, they say things like "look at you! you've gained so much weight! make sure to eat healthy!" and it makes me feel rly insecure. people need to stop
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Please don't listen to those losers.If you'll start believing them you'll start developing a sense of hatred towards yourself .
same in india..those relatives..i will smack their faces😂
Its Asians in general
It disturbs me that people in general feel so comfortable attacking someone about their weight and lifestyle but then seem to lack that passion when it comes to smoking especially smoking around others. Second hand smoking causes several issues including cancer in non smokers but someone who is fat isn’t going to affect your health like that. Someone who is fat or overweight already knows it they don’t need someone who isn’t their doctor or someone who takes pleasure in bringing their self esteem down to say it to them as it likely will make things worse especially if it’s emotional eating.
He should NOT be worrying about weight at his age. ☹️
This kind of thinking is why Americans are fat and die from heart disease at 50.
@@poopypeepee3372 No, it is not. He has parents who should provide healthy, balanced meals. This way they teach both what a healthy diet is and make sure he grows properly and he does not need to think about weight while learning in an organic way. American kids would be less obese if their parents did their job called parenting.
Making a child this old obsess about weight to this degree only leads to EDs.
SubiDubi DuDa amerifat
@@poopypeepee3372 Yeah pretty true when you think about it, child obesity is really bad here too.
Kyle Mcdowell and this is why Asians grow up hating their parents •_•
He’s a kid! He shouldn’t be worrying about his weight at his age. He also shouldn’t view exercise as a punishment; it should be an enjoyable hobby for him. He’s also supposed to be gaining weight, because he is a growing child! I get that it’s considered normal in many Asian countries to make comments to someone you know like a family member about their weight, but just because it’s “normal” doesn’t mean it’s OK. 😔
It's suppose to mean you're growing, the kid is 5 he'll know how stuff goes around soon enough.
See generally when relatives come and meet after long time or children and teachers meet again after summer vacation it's usually the very common asked stuff.
It indirectly means, hey you grew tall/ your body developed.
Since he was little kid he misunderstood it
When English speakers greet children they haven't seen in awhile, they say "look how much you've grown!" That's really all this teacher was doing here. It is normal, and it is OK too. There are a lot of other parts of Asian culture that are very problematic when it comes to body image and beauty ideals, but this phrase really isn't one of them. It's a term of affection/endearment, not an insult or a comment on someone's actual weight.
as an Asian kid, whenever you’re relatives come over they’re like:
“have you gotten chubbier?” but I was raised internationally so I don’t care much about my weight and I know they just have nothing else to say to me. But as I got older, unlike they boy who clearly is conscious about his weight at a young age, I really start to feel that I am fat even though I’m underweight when they call me chubby especially when ur siblings r slim and tall. We shouldn’t call kids short or fat, especially when they clearly have a healthy body, it doesn’t help. The only exception is if the kids actually have health problems just ask them to excerise and take care of themselves, no need to bring them down.
Everyone is different, and some people simply don’t respond to positive input, and require significant trauma to actually change.
as an asian too,i can agree
and please stop saying "But they held you when you were a baby!"
I think that those kind of problems exist mostly in East Asian countries. There most of them are crazy and obsessed about the appearance.
Sometimes the older generation even think of it as being a compliment. Like putting on weight means I'm healthy and have been eating well. If they say I lost weight, it would usually be out of concern...
@@hannacastro3608 I'm south Asian and we have the same problems
I think his mom and aunt are obsessed about their weights and hence the child might think he would lose their affection if he gained weight. I've been through a similar but different situation,over here people are considered beautiful when they are chubby, as a kid I was all skin and bones and I had my mom always put me down for that she was skinny too and she constantly complained how she can't get fat. So I remember being upset since I couldn't eat more than a handful and hence I couldn't get chubby. By the age of 10 I forced myself to eat more until I felt sick and became overweight, which my mother appreciated very much. But sadly some other people clearly disliked the new me and started calling me fat which made me completely breakdown and i exercised just like this kid crying in between, starved myself and somehow managed to reach an optimal weight but not my original skinny self. I want to go back to the old skinny me but unlike then I'm completely depressed and demotivated to do anything now. I spend most of my time in bed or stress eating and then starving myself for a while. I hope this kid gets therapy, it's better to nip it in the bud.
neethu valsan Hey, sorry to ask, but what kind of culture is that where you are appreciated for being overweight? And I’m really sorry for what happened to you.
@@akirakobayashi5917 the theory I believe is, here in India after colonization most natives were left poor where they couldn't even afford basic necessities. But some Hindus sided with the invaders and remained rich and powerful, and most of them tormented the poor. The rich was feared and respected while the poor was harassed and enslaved. The rich man was fat with big belly, the poor were boney with hollowed cheeks. Diabetes and cholesterol was the rich man's disease that the poor envied. Hence I believe once after India gained independence, the poor worked hard to become the rich in every aspects.
I think subconsciously people are still scared they'd be ill treated if they looked like their ancestors in poverty
neethu valsan
Please try to stay healthy, don’t work to get the skinny body you had before cause it doesn’t seem healthy. It makes sense they asked you to gain some weight, but not overweight! That’s unhealthy as well. And they shouldn’t have pressured you so much to gain weight to the point it’s unhealthy for your mind and body. I hope your doing better now ♡
@@MonkiMirai ❤️
I live in West Bengal and when I was 5 or 6 I suffered from something I don't remember but it made my body look like a stick... I was all bones and nothing, I couldn't even sit up sometimes.... My whole family made fun of me, you know that casual mocking tht Indian families love to do? And that made me feel ashamed of myself... 3 yrs later I started gaining weight and now I'm quiet well to do... I just feel that a bit of appreciation and love would have spared me a scared childhood... *sigh
I am certain his family messed him up to be so triggered with the teacher's comment. Trust me I would know. Not all parents are nice unfortunately.
@Random Person so? people are different and your parents might not be as bad as you think
@Drowning in an Indescribable Emptiness you don't know this person's life, dont judge a comment when they're saying they would know and answered it: "no you don't". its their personal life, something you've never experience nor know of.
Exactly, people started wailing on the teacher about "body shaming, and completely disregard the fact the his parents could be the sole cause.
No one suddenly ups and exercises after a comment like that. And the video clearly said his mother and aunt taught him those moves.
I have no doubt that even if the child is badly treated by his own parents, there is still some love that took part in the actions they've done to the kid.
@@jas.b5828 ik im so confused too
When he started crying, I did too...I just wish I could give this cute little kid a hug and tell him how cute he is!!
Have they considered the fact that maybe he's gaining weight because he's still a young child who is growing??
Have you considered there are other cultures in the world? In this case the teacher meant zero harm to the kid and it was the kid’s low self esteem that did it
@@johnathanjonathan7408 The fact you say the child has low self esteem is concerning.
@@lexdraws1729 cause his mom is insecured
@@johnathanjonathan7408 And certain cultures can be harmful.
@@lexdraws1729 yes that is the case considering in the kid thought otherwise of a common greeting, so yes the kid 100% had low self esteem or otherwise been thought by his parents to do so
This honestly makes me so sad. A kid as young as him should never have to worry if they are fat or not. The fact that the kid also cried just broke my heart.
I felt HORRIBLE watching at this. I really hope he have loving and smart people around to take care of him and guide him.
Bro they never said it was a bad thing the child just misunderstood
@@acupofcoffee7545 Yes but adults should be cautious about what they say around children since it can be easily misinterpreted
@@haileytoress3507 then he'll grow up not being able to take a joke?
@@kingkai2800 what does that have to do with anything
@@haileytoress3507 I dont know
i want to give him a hug!!!!! and tell him i love him