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Hello, the truth is that I was in the same situation as you, but since I read this book my life changed completely, if you want I mailed it to you write to me at this address and I'll send you the book davidpulidobch@gmail.com
“My self esteem would go UP when I met a guy, and would go DOWN when he left.” Wow! That is me to the T. I even find myself in “better moods” when I hear from him, and “not in the mood” when I don’t.
I felt this at so many levels it’s like I needed an approval about my emotions mood and kind of day I had by him Nd it would always depend on our morning was
My mother destroyed my self esteem as a child thru physical and verbal abuse. I'm 52 and still remember things my mother said to me. I've learned my worth over the years but I'm still a work in progress. And as a parent I struggle to speak life into my children. When I fail I cringe. I do a lot of apologizing but really once the words are said they can't be taken back. It takes mindfulness to speak affirmations to your children but we must do it so they know how valuable they are just as they are.
You can not give what you don't have but with God's help, you can give yourself what you need in order to pass it down to your children. Break generational curses
I’m sorry u went through this and I pray for ur healing. Unfortunately i can relate to your story with having an abusive mother and I always thought as I grow up the effects it had on me would disappear, I’m 20 years now and I’m completely hopeless.
I decided to go back to college at 40. I was surprised that I made A’s and B’s for every class since high school and my early college classes were such a struggle for me. I realized I had a lot of insecurities and low self issues going on then that made me hard to focus. Now I know who I am and what I’m after and I’m spending my own damn money so I don’t have any pressure that my parents used to lay on me.
I don’t remember being confident in my life. I hated myself since the age of 12. I don’t remember being told words of life. I’m trying to rebuild myself. It’s hard. It hurts. But I have to.
“You cannot place your identity in something that is temporary. You can’t place your hope in something that is always moving, always changing, unstable and shakable” 🔥🔥🔥
Depression is regarded by spiritual teachers as masked rage. The enraged, resentful person is not sufficiently in touch with the depth of their feelings, and so they stuff them down. The result? Depression. Once willing to acknowledge that you have survived some disappointment, trauma, and tragic life events, that acknowledgement lays bare the truths of the matter and then healing can begin. Own the truth of your feelings.
I hate how true this is. I'm only friends with this girl because I want to be validated by her because everyone loves her. It's going to be hard but I'm going to stop being friends with her to build myself.
@@user-zx1ii7vf2z I appreciate your advice but I've been friends with her for almost 4 years and I've realized that shes popular because honestly, she pretty, rich, and extroverted. I'm not saying I'm not pretty, I love how I look, I think I'm gorgeous, but I'm not rich which kind of affects how I dress and look and I'm also extremely introverted. I thought I was jealous, but I wasnt because I always wish the best for her, but she knows I'm kind of poor yet she boasts in front of me in front of everyone, lowkey shaming me for the way I dress and how introverted I am. I have other friends and they make me feel content for who I am. I dont like how she makes me feel and in tired of it.
Damage what some parents can do to kids can take whole life journey to undo when they grow up...❤ Never show your weekness to anyone...🌹 By how u treat yourself u show others how to treat u too... 🌺
For me I was bullied a lot and many times for reasons I’ll never know and I just had to come to terms with that. For the longest time I just faked confidence till I made it (listening to empowering music helped too) I’d walk into high school with a positive and confident mindset and now it’s just stuck. It’s weird but it’s why I really believe in manifestation and positive affirmations.✨💗🧚🏾♀️
Wow. Fake it til you make it saying really works.. it’s such a gross feeling to me with fake confidence it just makes me feel weird but I’m trying thanks
If you’re not even confident in yourself, I feel it’s difficult to even establish what a “good man” looks like. Many think it’s a man of higher status than us instead of a man who has qualities that we value and possess ourselves. Everybody is capable of having somebody who makes them happy and brings the best out of them. When you accept that you’re not somehow an exception to that fact, you will be free to be the best person you can be and will attract what’s best for you AND be grounded enough to accept it and not settle for something that isn’t because you either think you need more or you think you only deserve so much.
I would love a video on that. My problem is I know I deserve a good man but I have yet to have one. I'm not looking for one because when you're looking you find what you dont need. But I see many women who have a man and I wonder "what am I doing wrong that they're doing right to have a man?"
This has to be from God. I was literally just thinking about how low my self-esteem is and how I want to be able to stand up for myself. Thank you for this! ❤️
miss breeny’s videos came into my suggestions when i was at my lowest. I truly believe the power of God put her there. She has changed my life and she will change yours too 💖
I was struggling with low self esteem for really long time. I believe RUclips and people like you has bright world of difference in me. Lots of love Breeny
LADIES PLEASE HELP ME PUSH THIS TO B🌹 Breeny, I’ve been following you now for more than a year. I just want to say that you are such an inspiration to all of us and I really admire all your hard work that you put in the existence of this beautiful channel. 🌹 Whenever I start second-guessing my choices regarding guys/relationships (or I get the urge to start hoeing around), your notifications pop up. It is like you are keeping an eye on me (and on all of us, really)! In your previous video you said you want to be here for us, and I just want to say to you, as the oldest sister of 5 kids, I appreciate that so much that for once somebody wishes to take care of ME. Thank you for that, Breeny... You have taught me so much and you look absolutely gorgeous (as always). You raised my standards (and you just keep reminding me of them whenever I forget). I hope you get the chance to read this to know your dedication to this channel is appreciated and valued. We love you. Take care! ❤️
I’ve never found someone speak about the impact of emotional neglect from both parents AND siblings in a way that I relate to. I always love listening what you have to say. Thank you.
I will find my identity in God. I broke up with my boyfriend after 2 years because I realized we were clashing and I am too young to be wasting this energy on someone. Now, I am loading up on knowledge, reading books, spending time with myself, spending time with God, focusing on self care, and my education at school. I feel I have grown so much already.
"Lack of affirmation leads to a lack of identity!" This is sooo true! I can remember being this person. Looking for affirmation and never really finding it. The problem I had was looking for it to come from the wrong people. Good info
Haven’t felt like myself lately and school is coming up, so I decided now is the time to change my thoughts and actions and become a better version of myself before I’m back in the public eye
"You are responsible for your emotional intelligence. It's not about who hurt you or made you this way. It's about what YOU can do to fix YOUR problem. Playing the blame game will leave you stagnant."
Breeny is literally the older sister I never had 😭💕💕💕and I never really had any female role models to talk to so I lack confidence so much but after watching this video I feel good💜💜💜💜
Thank you soo much, I have struggled with low self esteem for the longest time to the point of even considering suicide but I thank God each day is getting better now, I am now 24years it is not easy but when the mind is saying all the right things then the body believes it. Much love from S.A❤🥰
My low self confidence I've come to realize is one of the reasons why I cant follow through with any of my plans and ideas to get myself out of a bad mental state, because I believe I can't, my parents constantly tell me I'm lazy and that the reason why I'm in a depressed state is because I want to be, and well you start to believe it, however I have changed my perspective and I'm so grateful to find videos like these to help me out I really like listening to you Thankyou
I am late to the party, but these pep talks are giving me life. you have no idea, what this is doing for my sense of self. thank you for making this available!
Literally you're speaking and promoting the Lord's word. I'm sure God chose you to spread his message and help create more well-rounded, Godly, good, confident individuals. Blessing from God🙌🏼
Yes,self positive affirmations are really helpful.I just pray that young parents of these times will embrace it and do it everyday for their children. By the way,you look great Breeny Lee!
I struggle with selfesteem my whole life, some days are easy and some days are very hard where to the point I just want a shutdown, I have been bullied when I was young, been judged by other people, criticize and has created me to be this introvert because I’m very careful who I let in my life now and I’m in a process where God is healing the things that have hurt me, I use to be criticize by my looks know it’s my personality, my intelligence and ect
I feel so identified with your background story. I had a father who left too, a mother who neglected me as well. You have come such a long way and are using that knowledge and growth to help everyone else. You are truly a role model and helping me believe I can over come this too. Thank you breeny, I have been watching u for years and your none stop growth is stunning and inspiring.
This helps me so much and I’ve just come across this !! I’m 16 years old and have low self esteem but , watching these videos and working on my self , I know I’m beautiful ! And I know my worth I am extremely tired of being walked all over because I think I deserve it ! And to everyone whos going through what I went through know that you’re enough! And things will get better it’s takes time ! And never compare yourself to anybody you are you’re own beautiful person !
After this guy broke my heart really badly my self esteem self worth self confidence and self love have really suffered. Thank you Breeny your videos always help me! 🥺❤️
I used to have real bad friends that could sometimes be mean, and I was aware of how bad of an influence they were, but I didn't want to distans myself from them in fear of being alone. I thought at the time that they were doing me a favor by giving me their attention and wanting to hang out with me, but I have come to realize that my self esteem were very low and because of that I settled for less. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself, you need to realize you are worth more and deserve more
I dont usually comment on videos but oh wow, Lord knows I needed this. I'm in a pretty bad place right now, but I want to take the steps to become the best version of myself. To stop being a naive little girl and taking the steps to becoming the woman I awlays wanted to be❤❤ thank you very much, you're such an inspirartion never forget that 😊😘
Found these affirmations from social media say these to my son everyday… you are loved, you are kind, you are smart, you will do good in the world! Helped healed myself and stopped generational curse being passed down!
I strongly believe my upbringing play a major part on why I never felt good enough and inadequate all the time. My parents never affirmed me. My dad often put me down while my mother just never said anything. I promise myself to be a better parent should I ever have children.
I had a very similar experience growing up. I'm working on shedding my negative thoughts of my self worth. So thank you for your beautiful advice. Words that are sorely needed in my life right now.
I agree 100 percent! Be careful in uttering words to small children. MY sister once said that when I grew up, I will be played by guys. NOw Im in a narcissistic relationship
I am so happy you're speaking on this my daughter loves watching your videos and this makes me so happy that I know that you're speaking on topics that me and her are always talking about 🥰😘😘
Thank you for this! These past few months I have actually loved myself like not just said it but meant it, I got out of friendships that were unhealthy and I was told horrible things about myself but for the first time I didn’t question who I was or how beautiful of a person I am and a lot of what has helped me r these videos along with prayer so thank you!
So spot on! Especially when you said “sticks and stones may hurt my bone but words will never hurt me” I recognized in my young age that words did hurt me, I just didn’t know it was hurting my self esteem. Thank you for this.
Thank you for this video. Ive been battling with low self esteem for years! And i always live in fear. I get depressed by even thinking i have low self esteen by thinking i can never do things right.
Thank you breeny. I am 18 years old, I've been watching your videos since I was 16, thank you for bringing to my life so much wise and advice, and knowledge. I am so grateful.
Thank you so much for all your wise words. I have been listening to you for about two months now, and I have been so positive and confident lately. I was raised by a narcissist, and finally, at 27 I am finding myself and healing. God Bless you Queen. One love !
@breeny lee I’m the exact same I have dyslexia and dyspraxia and dyscalculia and have always doubted questioned myself whenever I did a exam or went to achieve a goal but I did manage to push through finally passed my driving test achieved my dream job I want to do but I do still think negatively about myself keep making your videos as it helps people to think there not the only ones that feel that your proof you can change that way of thinking xx
Breeny thank you so much for this video! I’m crying because I currently find my identity in my body. I am not confident and I am afraid to step into my power. Hearing you speak motivates me to be better, I’m very grateful for you ❤️
I love how you openly talk about your passed sexual life. You are a new creation in God❤ One time God told me to open up to help someone, it wasn't easy but for some reason i felt better and healed better after doing it.
I feel you about the dyslexia! I had so so much trouble in school learning; I had always felt like everybody was moving so much faster than me in everything. I grew up tying a lot of my self worth with my studies and how well I performed. Back then, I did get a lot of criticism for not being smart enough or not trying hard enough. It was only up until 2 months ago, in my second year of university studying maths, that I found out I had an SpLD with dyslexia. It sucks I found out so late but it had explained a lot of things in my past. I now know, moving forward, that it's not that I am incapable- I am just different in the way that I was wired. Thank you Breeny, I really felt this one! xx
I used to do the same thing.. I always down played myself because my mom and sister were so verbally/physically abusive. I’m slowly learning to love myself
So true. My Mom told me I could do anything...and I Did. I was lucky. But you can Love yourself. First thing get rid of EVERYTHING and everyone Toxic. Great advice Breeny!
P.S. I also think you should mention people with low self-esteem also sabotage productive and positive relationships because it challenges the internal dialogue that individual have with themselves.
Tips for boosting self esteem - self talk: why am I believing the things I believe? Who told me this is who I am ? Who told me these negative words? Who this is who I was? You have to identify this and recognize they are lies and replace them with trues -our voices is the strongest voice in our lives you have to have a good self talk. Stop talking to yourself negatively. Hype yourself up talk to yourself positively “IF THERE IS NO ENEMI WITHIN, THE ENEMY WITHOUT CAN DO NO HARM” -stop repeating negative things to yourself, become aware of the voice inside your head what is the voice trying to communicate to you? All the negative things that voice tells you indicates all the ares that you need to work on and over come EX: if in your head you keep on telling yourself “these people don’t like me” you have to work on not caring if someone likes you or not The voice in your head indicates to you the areas that need work “LACK OF AFFIRMATION LEADS TO LACK OF IDENTITY “
This was very insightful and relatable. I am also dyslexic and dyspraxic; so, I would always second guess myself when I was young and even now, I need to let go of the past. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾
I have cash back also. Self esteem is needed to succeed you are right! It does starts from childhood parents need to really use postive words when speaking to children
You have helped me so much. I’ve honestly been watching your videos from this time last year and I am addicted to your videos they’re so helpful. You’ve also made me grow as an individual and I appreciate it so much
ugh you really spoke a word...for years ive wondered why i hated myself so much...i've never been bullied in school and i didnt have crazy abusive/alcoholic/horrible bad parents(they werent perfect but they did their best) ...i really started to believe i didnt even deserve to be here bc i had nothing to offer to the world. you're so righttt about lack of affirmations causing a lack of identity. ive never even heard my family call me beautiful as a child..i never even heard them say i love you up until like a year ago LOL. its really crazy how much your childhood can shape and influence you smh
I am soo excited for your masterclass ! I’m great full to The Most High for the experiences you’ve had so that you can help us. You’re obedience and overcoming is allowing fruit to bear in other people. That’s a true blessing from the Almighty 🙌🏾🙌🏾 I pray he continue to grow and mold you into the daughter of Zion he has called you to be, truly virtuous. Amen 🙌🏾🙌🏾
I was friends with this popular girl in high school. I was inspired by her confidence and style. I hope to reconnect with her. Covid has made my self worth go down.
I have a raspy voice since I was born and when I got to highschool I got bullied because of my voice. I spent the whole first year in high school rejected and be alone.No one wanted to be my friend and I fell like now I'm a adult sometimes it difficult to have people approach and I stiil have the feeling to be afraid to be friend with someone or be in a relationship.Sometimes I feel like I want to dissapear when there are groups of people because of what I underwent in high school.Hearing you I want to make in change in my 30'S. I know it's not too late to be a better version of myself.Thank you for this video !
Being self aware is such a major key. You have to be able to identify your flaws and strengths to make the necessary changes and right decisions in your life.
I have played small my entire life. I was the shy girl who loved her books and diaries. Never caused trouble and loved being rewarded for being "good". I was loved and sometimes ridiculed for small things like being clumsy or whining. My father's step kids would compare me to the half black half Asian neighbor in beauty. Her hair was "silky and long" while I had long but a more coarse texture. Was never really bullied by anyone (outside of his step kids). Was protected mostly. But my skewed view on relationships altered my adult vision of men and relationships. I was a daddy's girl growing up and I eventually stopped talking to him but I guess never stopped seeking the "daddy" validation. So I did it with men. She mentioned in the video about knowing what men really wanted and playing on that to get their attention. This is me to the t. I messed around and did this to a man whose attention I desired after a year of a "break" and made the situation music worse. So, now I'm here on the internet trying to fix myself. I'm confident but I have low self esteem and it's hard for me to say that. The choices I've made and the reasons behind them have really opened my eyes. I have to fix this before it gets out of control.
This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you! What you said about getting your self esteem by giving part of your body to men is exactly what I went through as well and I’m currently working on building myself up from that.
Wow! I really felt this video. Especially the part about parents speaking negatively to kids. I’ve been battling with self esteem due to words my mum use on me when she’s angry
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“Lack of affirmation leads to a lack of identity” 👌🏾I felt that
For real!
Seriously though!!!!
So true ..
Gosh, childhood stuff
Hello, the truth is that I was in the same situation as you, but since I read this book my life changed completely, if you want I mailed it to you
write to me at this address and I'll send you the book
davidpulidobch@gmail.com
"The way that we talk to our children becomes their inner voice." - Peggy O'Mara
❤
And the way we fail to talk to them
Imagine the parents who only talk negative stuff and hurt them
TRUE!!!
“My self esteem would go UP when I met a guy, and would go DOWN when he left.” Wow! That is me to the T.
I even find myself in “better moods” when I hear from him, and “not in the mood” when I don’t.
This was do me in 2017-2018.
I was always on an emotional rollercoaster!
AyeshéIsAlwaysLovely oh, girl YES! 2015-2018 was especially rough for me, but GOD! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Is this a sign of low self esteem?
@@darleenkidavasi8753 yes
I felt this at so many levels it’s like I needed an approval about my emotions mood and kind of day I had by him Nd it would always depend on our morning was
My mother destroyed my self esteem as a child thru physical and verbal abuse. I'm 52 and still remember things my mother said to me. I've learned my worth over the years but I'm still a work in progress. And as a parent I struggle to speak life into my children. When I fail I cringe. I do a lot of apologizing but really once the words are said they can't be taken back. It takes mindfulness to speak affirmations to your children but we must do it so they know how valuable they are just as they are.
You can not give what you don't have but with God's help, you can give yourself what you need in order to pass it down to your children. Break generational curses
Have you had counseling???? I did and it saved and changed my life
We love you 💕
I’m sorry u went through this and I pray for ur healing. Unfortunately i can relate to your story with having an abusive mother and I always thought as I grow up the effects it had on me would disappear, I’m 20 years now and I’m completely hopeless.
Hey Karla, I don’t know you and i sense you’re holding resentment and hurt from your mom. I believe you need to forgive her to start to feel free.
I decided to go back to college at 40. I was surprised that I made A’s and B’s for every class since high school and my early college classes were such a struggle for me. I realized I had a lot of insecurities and low self issues going on then that made me hard to focus. Now I know who I am and what I’m after and I’m spending my own damn money so I don’t have any pressure that my parents used to lay on me.
Its Me Thank you 💕
Yes teenage years are hard in itself and studying need lot of focus.
Very Encouraging!! Thanks for sharing.
This. God sent this right my way. May He continue to bless you and your journey.
I'm so proud of you keep going on with the good work
I don’t remember being confident in my life. I hated myself since the age of 12. I don’t remember being told words of life. I’m trying to rebuild myself. It’s hard. It hurts. But I have to.
💕💕💕love from me to you !!
Girl, you are so strong! Don‘t lose hope. Much love to you💜
During this lockdown I’ve been trying to gain more confidence and work on my self, your videos have really helped, you’re so inspirational❤️
Same girl I’ve actually been able to have time for myself during this Qurantine
Right? Lockdowns taken a toll on everyones mental health. Breeny's coming throughhh as expected though🙌🏼
QUEEN AMARIA frr it’s so refreshing
Rabab Rizvi honestly she’s actually helped so much
Me too, we all in it together ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
"How you see yourself affects every area of your life" point taken
“You cannot place your identity in something that is temporary. You can’t place your hope in something that is always moving, always changing, unstable and shakable” 🔥🔥🔥
I would love to hear you discuss depression, and how to get out a depressive rut. Your words are so healing.
Nehway look up earthing/grounding. It changed my life. I feel well every day.
Yes!!! Me too! 🙌🏼
Depression is regarded by spiritual teachers as masked rage. The enraged, resentful person is not sufficiently in touch with the depth of their feelings, and so they stuff them down. The result? Depression.
Once willing to acknowledge that you have survived some disappointment, trauma, and tragic life events, that acknowledgement lays bare the truths of the matter and then healing can begin.
Own the truth of your feelings.
@@rodericwalter2862 well said.
@Keeping it Real yeah.. I agree. No shame in seeking professional help and to view it seriously. Not just blaming oneself.
I hate how true this is. I'm only friends with this girl because I want to be validated by her because everyone loves her. It's going to be hard but I'm going to stop being friends with her to build myself.
You are special if you aren’t happy being her friend then it’s ok to cut ties!
If she constantly put you down then she doesn't deserve your friendship.
I love how honest you are with yourself❤
I felt this omg.
@@user-zx1ii7vf2z I appreciate your advice but I've been friends with her for almost 4 years and I've realized that shes popular because honestly, she pretty, rich, and extroverted. I'm not saying I'm not pretty, I love how I look, I think I'm gorgeous, but I'm not rich which kind of affects how I dress and look and I'm also extremely introverted. I thought I was jealous, but I wasnt because I always wish the best for her, but she knows I'm kind of poor yet she boasts in front of me in front of everyone, lowkey shaming me for the way I dress and how introverted I am. I have other friends and they make me feel content for who I am. I dont like how she makes me feel and in tired of it.
Damage what some parents can do to kids can take whole life journey to undo when they grow up...❤ Never show your weekness to anyone...🌹 By how u treat yourself u show others how to treat u too... 🌺
I m living this
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"If there is no enemy within, the enemy without can do us no harm" gosh this quote is good
For me I was bullied a lot and many times for reasons I’ll never know and I just had to come to terms with that. For the longest time I just faked confidence till I made it (listening to empowering music helped too) I’d walk into high school with a positive and confident mindset and now it’s just stuck. It’s weird but it’s why I really believe in manifestation and positive affirmations.✨💗🧚🏾♀️
Shanelle Ameilia what’s any of your contact(s)? I want to ask you something important
I see myself a lot in your story 💓
Honestly I tried that and it only made my mental health WORSE. Just deflection... at some point I have to face what’s bothering u
Wow. Fake it til you make it saying really works.. it’s such a gross feeling to me with fake confidence it just makes me feel weird but I’m trying thanks
I can relate to you! That’s why I hate faking
This is me!😔 I've had self esteem issues my whole life and finally working on them at 29.
Hope you feel better about yourself ! Remember: you’re worth more ❤️❤️❤️
I love when you said “some of you don’t even think you deserve a good man”. Could you make a video on that? 🥺💕💕
Yes, pleasee
If you’re not even confident in yourself, I feel it’s difficult to even establish what a “good man” looks like. Many think it’s a man of higher status than us instead of a man who has qualities that we value and possess ourselves. Everybody is capable of having somebody who makes them happy and brings the best out of them. When you accept that you’re not somehow an exception to that fact, you will be free to be the best person you can be and will attract what’s best for you AND be grounded enough to accept it and not settle for something that isn’t because you either think you need more or you think you only deserve so much.
I would love a video on that.
My problem is I know I deserve a good man but I have yet to have one.
I'm not looking for one because when you're looking you find what you dont need.
But I see many women who have a man and I wonder "what am I doing wrong that they're doing right to have a man?"
curli-lettey feel ya
@@cameliaburuiana6076
Things that make you go hmmm 🤔
This has to be from God. I was literally just thinking about how low my self-esteem is and how I want to be able to stand up for myself. Thank you for this! ❤️
miss breeny’s videos came into my suggestions when i was at my lowest. I truly believe the power of God put her there. She has changed my life and she will change yours too 💖
@@rawrsophiexno guys this is just our phones listening to us☠️
@@rawrsophiexAmen I think God made have led me to this video.🤎
I was struggling with low self esteem for really long time. I believe RUclips and people like you has bright world of difference in me. Lots of love Breeny
absolutely
ironically its the people with low self-esteem who love to put others down. stay away from them and surround yourself with secure, confident people.
Very true! 👏🏾
That is not true people with low self esteem can either be too nice people pleaser or a negative covert narcissist.
@Victoria Williams there's always exceptions to the rule. But she made a logical point.
@@lesleysalinas2725 💯
Hurt people tend to hurt people🤷♀️ I've been there and am working on myself but I'm not a bad person.
LADIES PLEASE HELP ME PUSH THIS TO B🌹
Breeny, I’ve been following you now for more than a year. I just want to say that you are such an inspiration to all of us and I really admire all your hard work that you put in the existence of this beautiful channel. 🌹
Whenever I start second-guessing my choices regarding guys/relationships (or I get the urge to start hoeing around), your notifications pop up. It is like you are keeping an eye on me (and on all of us, really)!
In your previous video you said you want to be here for us, and I just want to say to you, as the oldest sister of 5 kids, I appreciate that so much that for once somebody wishes to take care of ME. Thank you for that, Breeny...
You have taught me so much and you look absolutely gorgeous (as always). You raised my standards (and you just keep reminding me of them whenever I forget).
I hope you get the chance to read this to know your dedication to this channel is appreciated and valued. We love you. Take care! ❤️
Be aware of the voices in your head, that's where the healing/change begins.don't drown out the voice. face it and address it.
WE NEED A PT2 OF THIS PLS
i have really cried watching this......i have constantly broken myself time and again....but i found your page and i wanna start this journey
How are you doing, Crystal?
I’ve never found someone speak about the impact of emotional neglect from both parents AND siblings in a way that I relate to. I always love listening what you have to say. Thank you.
I will find my identity in God.
I broke up with my boyfriend after 2 years because I realized we were clashing and I am too young to be wasting this energy on someone. Now, I am loading up on knowledge, reading books, spending time with myself, spending time with God, focusing on self care, and my education at school. I feel I have grown so much already.
Go off sis keep seeking God
I’m so proud of you 🥺❤️, I hope your doing on your journey, nothing but luck for you 🙏🏾
"Lack of affirmation leads to a lack of identity!" This is sooo true! I can remember being this person. Looking for affirmation and never really finding it. The problem I had was looking for it to come from the wrong people. Good info
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Haven’t felt like myself lately and school is coming up, so I decided now is the time to change my thoughts and actions and become a better version of myself before I’m back in the public eye
"You are responsible for your emotional intelligence. It's not about who hurt you or made you this way. It's about what YOU can do to fix YOUR problem. Playing the blame game will leave you stagnant."
The strength of this woman to empower others to love themselves while healing from her past- admirable. Truly a Queen👸🏾
Breeny is literally the older sister I never had 😭💕💕💕and I never really had any female role models to talk to so I lack confidence so much but after watching this video I feel good💜💜💜💜
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I don't know how you have low views, I swear that you're videos helped me so much!!
A lion was once a cub and the cub never dies
Thank you soo much, I have struggled with low self esteem for the longest time to the point of even considering suicide but I thank God each day is getting better now, I am now 24years it is not easy but when the mind is saying all the right things then the body believes it. Much love from S.A❤🥰
My low self confidence I've come to realize is one of the reasons why I cant follow through with any of my plans and ideas to get myself out of a bad mental state, because I believe I can't, my parents constantly tell me I'm lazy and that the reason why I'm in a depressed state is because I want to be, and well you start to believe it, however I have changed my perspective and I'm so grateful to find videos like these to help me out I really like listening to you Thankyou
I am late to the party, but these pep talks are giving me life. you have no idea, what this is doing for my sense of self. thank you for making this available!
When you said "I can't do anything right" too much.... That's me bawling that everyday..
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Literally you're speaking and promoting the Lord's word. I'm sure God chose you to spread his message and help create more well-rounded, Godly, good, confident individuals. Blessing from God🙌🏼
Yes,self positive affirmations are really helpful.I just pray that young parents of these times will embrace it and do it everyday for their children.
By the way,you look great Breeny Lee!
I struggle with selfesteem my whole life, some days are easy and some days are very hard where to the point I just want a shutdown, I have been bullied when I was young, been judged by other people, criticize and has created me to be this introvert because I’m very careful who I let in my life now and I’m in a process where God is healing the things that have hurt me, I use to be criticize by my looks know it’s my personality, my intelligence and ect
I feel so identified with your background story. I had a father who left too, a mother who neglected me as well. You have come such a long way and are using that knowledge and growth to help everyone else. You are truly a role model and helping me believe I can over come this too. Thank you breeny, I have been watching u for years and your none stop growth is stunning and inspiring.
This helps me so much and I’ve just come across this !! I’m 16 years old and have low self esteem but , watching these videos and working on my self , I know I’m beautiful ! And I know my worth I am extremely tired of being walked all over because I think I deserve it ! And to everyone whos going through what I went through know that you’re enough! And things will get better it’s takes time ! And never compare yourself to anybody you are you’re own beautiful person !
After this guy broke my heart really badly my self esteem self worth self confidence and self love have really suffered. Thank you Breeny your videos always help me! 🥺❤️
I used to have real bad friends that could sometimes be mean, and I was aware of how bad of an influence they were, but I didn't want to distans myself from them in fear of being alone. I thought at the time that they were doing me a favor by giving me their attention and wanting to hang out with me, but I have come to realize that my self esteem were very low and because of that I settled for less. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself, you need to realize you are worth more and deserve more
I dont usually comment on videos but oh wow, Lord knows I needed this. I'm in a pretty bad place right now, but I want to take the steps to become the best version of myself. To stop being a naive little girl and taking the steps to becoming the woman I awlays wanted to be❤❤ thank you very much, you're such an inspirartion never forget that 😊😘
I’m ecstatic that I found your channel during this quarantine. It has been/is helping me get through a storm.
Found these affirmations from social media say these to my son everyday… you are loved, you are kind, you are smart, you will do good in the world!
Helped healed myself and stopped generational curse being passed down!
I feel like I need to watch this once a day.
I strongly believe my upbringing play a major part on why I never felt good enough and inadequate all the time. My parents never affirmed me. My dad often put me down while my mother just never said anything. I promise myself to be a better parent should I ever have children.
I had a very similar experience growing up. I'm working on shedding my negative thoughts of my self worth. So thank you for your beautiful advice. Words that are sorely needed in my life right now.
I agree 100 percent! Be careful in uttering words to small children. MY sister once said that when I grew up, I will be played by guys. NOw Im in a narcissistic relationship
I am so happy you're speaking on this my daughter loves watching your videos and this makes me so happy that I know that you're speaking on topics that me and her are always talking about 🥰😘😘
Thank you for this! These past few months I have actually loved myself like not just said it but meant it, I got out of friendships that were unhealthy and I was told horrible things about myself but for the first time I didn’t question who I was or how beautiful of a person I am and a lot of what has helped me r these videos along with prayer so thank you!
So spot on! Especially when you said “sticks and stones may hurt my bone but words will never hurt me”
I recognized in my young age that words did hurt me, I just didn’t know it was hurting my self esteem. Thank you for this.
Thank you for this video. Ive been battling with low self esteem for years! And i always live in fear. I get depressed by even thinking i have low self esteen by thinking i can never do things right.
Thank you breeny. I am 18 years old, I've been watching your videos since I was 16, thank you for bringing to my life so much wise and advice, and knowledge. I am so grateful.
Thank you so much for all your wise words. I have been listening to you for about two months now, and I have been so positive and confident lately. I was raised by a narcissist, and finally, at 27 I am finding myself and healing. God Bless you Queen. One love !
Your true identity is in Christ 🙏🏾 get close to Him and you will know who you are.
Idk if anyone has told you this but I feel as you’d make a really great mother
And you are super beautiful, thank you for all that you do
You're indeed a big sister, I feel every bit of your words🧡🧡 thank you.
@breeny lee I’m the exact same I have dyslexia and dyspraxia and dyscalculia and have always doubted questioned myself whenever I did a exam or went to achieve a goal but I did manage to push through finally passed my driving test achieved my dream job I want to do but I do still think negatively about myself keep making your videos as it helps people to think there not the only ones that feel that your proof you can change that way of thinking xx
You're so beautiful and intelligent. I really believe every word that you say. God bless!
True, once I started listening to the demon in my head about hating someone so much. I am slowly forgiving and healing myself
Breeny thank you so much for this video! I’m crying because I currently find my identity in my body. I am not confident and I am afraid to step into my power. Hearing you speak motivates me to be better, I’m very grateful for you ❤️
I love how you openly talk about your passed sexual life. You are a new creation in God❤ One time God told me to open up to help someone, it wasn't easy but for some reason i felt better and healed better after doing it.
I feel you about the dyslexia! I had so so much trouble in school learning; I had always felt like everybody was moving so much faster than me in everything. I grew up tying a lot of my self worth with my studies and how well I performed. Back then, I did get a lot of criticism for not being smart enough or not trying hard enough. It was only up until 2 months ago, in my second year of university studying maths, that I found out I had an SpLD with dyslexia. It sucks I found out so late but it had explained a lot of things in my past. I now know, moving forward, that it's not that I am incapable- I am just different in the way that I was wired. Thank you Breeny, I really felt this one! xx
I used to do the same thing.. I always down played myself because my mom and sister were so verbally/physically abusive. I’m slowly learning to love myself
breeny is such an idol!! whenever i am down, she always makes me happy. i love her energy
So true. My Mom told me I could do anything...and I Did. I was lucky. But you can Love yourself. First thing get rid of EVERYTHING and everyone Toxic. Great advice Breeny!
i LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE how you get straight to the topic everytime
P.S. I also think you should mention people with low self-esteem also sabotage productive and positive relationships because it challenges the internal dialogue that individual have with themselves.
She's such a good motivational speaker. 🌹
Tips for boosting self esteem
- self talk: why am I believing the things I believe? Who told me this is who I am ? Who told me these negative words? Who this is who I was? You have to identify this and recognize they are lies and replace them with trues
-our voices is the strongest voice in our lives you have to have a good self talk. Stop talking to yourself negatively. Hype yourself up talk to yourself positively “IF THERE IS NO ENEMI WITHIN, THE ENEMY WITHOUT CAN DO NO HARM”
-stop repeating negative things to yourself, become aware of the voice inside your head what is the voice trying to communicate to you? All the negative things that voice tells you indicates all the ares that you need to work on and over come EX: if in your head you keep on telling yourself “these people don’t like me” you have to work on not caring if someone likes you or not
The voice in your head indicates to you the areas that need work
“LACK OF AFFIRMATION LEADS TO LACK OF IDENTITY “
This was very insightful and relatable. I am
also dyslexic and dyspraxic; so, I would always second guess myself when I was young and even now, I need to let go of the past. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾
I have cash back also. Self esteem is needed to succeed you are right! It does starts from childhood parents need to really use postive words when speaking to children
You have helped me so much. I’ve honestly been watching your videos from this time last year and I am addicted to your videos they’re so helpful. You’ve also made me grow as an individual and I appreciate it so much
ugh you really spoke a word...for years ive wondered why i hated myself so much...i've never been bullied in school and i didnt have crazy abusive/alcoholic/horrible bad parents(they werent perfect but they did their best) ...i really started to believe i didnt even deserve to be here bc i had nothing to offer to the world. you're so righttt about lack of affirmations causing a lack of identity. ive never even heard my family call me beautiful as a child..i never even heard them say i love you up until like a year ago LOL. its really crazy how much your childhood can shape and influence you smh
God knows I get so giddy when I get a notification of a new video from Breeny 😍😍 because I know I won't finish watching and leave empty handed 💯.
I feel like you're speaking directly to me. Especially looking for identity and affirmation from men looking for your body.
I am soo excited for your masterclass ! I’m great full to The Most High for the experiences you’ve had so that you can help us. You’re obedience and overcoming is allowing fruit to bear in other people. That’s a true blessing from the Almighty 🙌🏾🙌🏾 I pray he continue to grow and mold you into the daughter of Zion he has called you to be, truly virtuous. Amen 🙌🏾🙌🏾
I was friends with this popular girl in high school. I was inspired by her confidence and style. I hope to reconnect with her. Covid has made my self worth go down.
You always post on the right time when i need it... lately my self esteem is destroying myself...
“I said it first, so no one else could have the power to say it. Like, negative self defense.”
YES. i have done this.
You're so right! Self esteem comes from SELF!
I have a raspy voice since I was born and when I got to highschool I got bullied because of my voice. I spent the whole first year in high school rejected and be alone.No one wanted to be my friend and I fell like now I'm a adult sometimes it difficult to have people approach and I stiil have the feeling to be afraid to be friend with someone or be in a relationship.Sometimes I feel like I want to dissapear when there are groups of people because of what I underwent in high school.Hearing you I want to make in change in my 30'S. I know it's not too late to be a better version of myself.Thank you for this video !
I cried and related to this content on a deep level! I appreciate your wisdom and eagerness to share Breeny Lee❤❤❤❤❤❤
It really all comes down to your perspective. You need to learn to accept and let go. Childhood traumas are not the victim’s fault
yessss wow, I've been thinking about how damaging sibling relationships can be
Being self aware is such a major key. You have to be able to identify your flaws and strengths to make the necessary changes and right decisions in your life.
You are a total inspiration Bree..Following your footsteps!! All the way from Kenya. Xoxo
Sameeeee sis♥️🇰🇪
I have played small my entire life. I was the shy girl who loved her books and diaries. Never caused trouble and loved being rewarded for being "good". I was loved and sometimes ridiculed for small things like being clumsy or whining. My father's step kids would compare me to the half black half Asian neighbor in beauty. Her hair was "silky and long" while I had long but a more coarse texture. Was never really bullied by anyone (outside of his step kids). Was protected mostly. But my skewed view on relationships altered my adult vision of men and relationships. I was a daddy's girl growing up and I eventually stopped talking to him but I guess never stopped seeking the "daddy" validation. So I did it with men. She mentioned in the video about knowing what men really wanted and playing on that to get their attention. This is me to the t. I messed around and did this to a man whose attention I desired after a year of a "break" and made the situation music worse. So, now I'm here on the internet trying to fix myself.
I'm confident but I have low self esteem and it's hard for me to say that. The choices I've made and the reasons behind them have really opened my eyes. I have to fix this before it gets out of control.
The whole cosmetic industry plays off of women's insecurities.
Exactly
Breeny, you're a blessing to this world with an angels face. I'm sorry that you were ever told differently ... xoxo
This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you! What you said about getting your self esteem by giving part of your body to men is exactly what I went through as well and I’m currently working on building myself up from that.
Thankyou so much for this video!🙏❣️ This is the best video on self- esteem, i have seen so far... Thankyou...
Wow! I really felt this video. Especially the part about parents speaking negatively to kids. I’ve been battling with self esteem due to words my mum use on me when she’s angry
Keep on giving us good, truthful and inspirational content. Keep on doing the work God has called you to do.
Love, South Africa
It’s honestly nothing like a confident black woman giving a pep talk 😍🥰 needed this today.
breeny brings me sm peace. 😩
first off you’re so gorgeous, second you had me crying tears in the first 6 minutes! your words make so much sense.