Don't Be Disappointed | Ajahn Brahm | 29-01-2010

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  • How many times have you been disappointed? Why is it that sometimes we look at life and feel disappointed? Ajahn Brahm takes a look at what is the cause of our disappointments and says the first reason is because we expect so much of each other, of life and of ourselves. Ajahn offers some practical advice for dealing with disappointments and unreasonable expectations from within and without.

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  • @raymondfernando9514
    @raymondfernando9514 11 лет назад +26

    I am a born Catholic, but I always liked the teachings of Buddhism. I started listening to Rev: Ajahn Brahm,s talks and they are simple and inspiring. I like his style of preaching too. I wish him good health and long life to spread Buddhism in the materialistic world.

    • @user-gj4hn1hl2q
      @user-gj4hn1hl2q 10 месяцев назад +3

      You aren't born Catholic you're raised Catholic. I was raised Catholic as well. From your name, Catholicism is very common among Hispanics and Europeans. There are many good moral qualities that can be taken from Christianity, but what attracted me to Buddhism is that it does not expect you to have faith or believe in anything. Buddhism suggests you find the truth for yourself. I e. Don't accept blind devotion, come to your own conclusions based on experience.

  • @Melatheory
    @Melatheory 10 лет назад +91

    Don't Be Disappointed, "Every problem has a solution and when there is no solution then it's no longer a problem" " let it go" "be mindful"
    Thank you for this teaching Ajahn Brahm

    • @sachinthaherath4902
      @sachinthaherath4902 2 года назад +2

      @Mela Theoryna I don't recall that being in this talk🤣🤷‍♂️...but a great teaching nonetheless!!!🙏

  • @clearskymind
    @clearskymind 12 лет назад +5

    May all beings at ease. Well said, disappointment is stupidity- all we can do is to care for this moment and let go of the past.

  • @hbros1
    @hbros1 11 лет назад +20

    every single day I listen to his talk and every day I feel better and better about myself and my life. Thank you!

    • @sachinthaherath4902
      @sachinthaherath4902 2 года назад

      @P K As Ajahn says, you've been successfully 'brainwashed'🤣😂.

  • @RavikumarTulugu
    @RavikumarTulugu 11 лет назад +30

    with due respect he surely is a great comedian. appreciate his sense of humor. huge respects !!!!

    • @southernlights3682
      @southernlights3682 10 лет назад +3

      Anand Shinde It seems you're expectations were set too high then ;-)

  • @KevinLHart
    @KevinLHart 8 лет назад +22

    This is perhaps the talk that most needs to be heard by so many in our materialistic world. Thank you Ajahn Brahm. Thank you.!!!

  • @jlodoeshotyoga
    @jlodoeshotyoga 4 года назад +15

    I just found your talks. I cannot stop listening to them! Such wisdom and peace. Thank you for this gift 🤗

    • @michelewills6755
      @michelewills6755 2 года назад +2

      I agree with you 💯 👍 I have been listening to several of these special videos on all topics I discover parts of myself from every practice educational voices

  • @mayasherpa9702
    @mayasherpa9702 6 лет назад +6

    M Buddhist and I have learn Buddhism from this great person. You have changed my perception from how I look into the world. Thank you for your greatest teach.

  • @sachinthaherath4902
    @sachinthaherath4902 2 года назад +4

    "Don't define anybody by their past." 😌👌
    Simple but profound. Thank you Ajahn Brahm and BSWA!!!❤🙏🙏🙏

  • @Ok-kh5qq
    @Ok-kh5qq 4 года назад +4

    I just want to curl up in his arms and feel his warm love.

  • @molokoo2
    @molokoo2 14 дней назад

    This is one of my favourite talks of Adjan Brahm. I watch this once a while to refresh the wisdom.

  • @qambi1
    @qambi1 8 лет назад +12

    I always play Ajahn's videos in the background while crunching numbers at the office..makes my day, everytime

  • @bi0lizard1
    @bi0lizard1 7 лет назад +11

    Just started exploring Buddism. I can't figure out why this stuff is so powerful? But it's power to heal the mind is undeniable.

    • @danw918
      @danw918 3 года назад

      The Buddhist way of perceiving the world seems to cut through societies stresses, injustices and woes like a hot knife through butter.

  • @komaungmaungofficial
    @komaungmaungofficial 13 лет назад +3

    Ajahn Brahm you are my new master,... I give my respect to you...!

  • @AngelaAllen40216
    @AngelaAllen40216 9 лет назад +17

    Ajahn Brahm's little giggle when he says something naughty just tickles me!! Much love to you Ajahn!!

    • @robertw2930
      @robertw2930 8 лет назад +2

      and doesn't think shit is a bad word either !!!
      NAMASTE`

  • @martaeyore8234
    @martaeyore8234 8 лет назад +16

    I'm not disappointed by this talk!!! Each talk is a treasure to me.

  • @helinturk754
    @helinturk754 4 года назад +7

    This is very powerful and inspiring. I was crying before I started watching this, however I feel optimistic and joyful now, thank you!

  • @ittheepatt
    @ittheepatt 2 года назад +2

    Still listen in 2022. Never gets old

  • @annguyenle2099
    @annguyenle2099 4 года назад +2

    Ajahn Brahm's teaching makes me laugh even in a moment of deepest despair and depression...and I had to agree with everything he says. It's amazing how his jokes bring so much joy and healing power...and make me understand a bit more about how ignorant and illusional I am, just as any other human...

  • @jonathanlee2099
    @jonathanlee2099 9 лет назад +12

    This was exactly what I needed to hear to be able to get through my current life problems, thank you so much :D

  • @harvardsmartass
    @harvardsmartass 12 лет назад +2

    I love listening to him... you can't let anybody down cause u were never holding them up. woooow. I am so favored and happy to be a buddhist! :D

  • @robertmitchell8630
    @robertmitchell8630 9 лет назад +7

    when i listen to Ajan Brahm, i feel like this is how Jesus taught

    • @sardha410
      @sardha410 7 лет назад +4

      Sorry to break to you Buddhist and Christ different religion

    • @hacksandreacts3894
      @hacksandreacts3894 2 месяца назад

      Buddhism is not under the definition of religon.

  • @tonyluan1391
    @tonyluan1391 4 года назад +2

    The talk comes head of time. So Brilliant my Great Teacher! Now Corona Virus teaches us how to swim to put our head over the water!

  • @lucya8916
    @lucya8916 5 лет назад +4

    I really would like to visit Perth, meet Ajahn Brahm as well as the monastic and Buddhist community there. What a wonderful message to hear at the end of 2019 and to go forward into 2020 with. 💖🙏

  • @nichole7965
    @nichole7965 7 лет назад +4

    Love Ajahn Brahmn. Love his stories correlations and explanations.

  • @sirdystic8439
    @sirdystic8439 8 лет назад +9

    Amazing, he makes so much sense. His thoughts on death in this talk are ground breaking

  • @indunilratnasinghe7446
    @indunilratnasinghe7446 6 лет назад +3

    Dear Ajahn Brahm you are my anti depression pill!! Sadu sadu sadu!!!

    • @newfilmtrailer7733
      @newfilmtrailer7733 4 года назад

      Are you a sinhalese man? Oh my god.. you dont know what is your motherland.

  • @KiloOneK1
    @KiloOneK1 8 лет назад +9

    i come here to thank you with my hearth and soul ,this video changed how i see life i can now clearly understend it's meaning i really wished i could spend a day with this guy so he can pass me some of his wisdom and that i can thank him for literally saving me because i had too many expectations and no hope a life that i hated and now love, before seeing this video i wouldn't care if i would die the next day or in the same hour but now i do care but i know it can happen and if it does i'll die happy because i acept my past and i enjoied my life even though i'm still so young.

  • @mindelae
    @mindelae 12 лет назад +3

    Thank you Ajahn Brahm -- this is exactly what I needed to hear today.

  • @MrJoeyhamster
    @MrJoeyhamster 8 лет назад +5

    I read the title "Don't Be Disappointed by Ajahn Brahm" and I thought; who could be disappointed by such a venerable Dharma Master?

  • @gerry2345
    @gerry2345 6 лет назад +6

    I like this reply. This guy has such a great attitude to life.

  • @Maria-tr3kf
    @Maria-tr3kf 3 года назад +2

    Very powerful and exactly what i needed now. 🙏🙏🙏

  • @marillavanbeuren7806
    @marillavanbeuren7806 4 года назад +16

    As the COVID debacle gets worse and worse for many, your talks which are now the most important part of each day manage to give me some reason to keep going. You are so very wonderful.

  • @nannygoatj
    @nannygoatj 14 лет назад +1

    Honesty and humility and acceptance--not just for life, but for our own weaknesses. Thank you for talking about disappointment and how life may not turn out the way we hope, and about how to throw out plans and interact with life instead of trying to control it. Good lessons to listen to again and again.

  • @user-tq3zd7vi6h
    @user-tq3zd7vi6h 2 года назад

    No plans, thanks Ajahn Brahm for the reinforcement. I was just thinking today, before I watched this, not to have plans anymore because none of them worked.

  • @jeffreyarcher9815
    @jeffreyarcher9815 Год назад

    May all beings be at ease 🙏🙏🙏 Another great talk

  • @CalvinLin19
    @CalvinLin19 12 лет назад +3

    I laughed when he said about "Swimming" and just realized how foolish i was to be angry to the storm or the calm water. Instead i should learn how to swim.. Thankyou bhante.. may all being in peace.

  • @RayOnRae95
    @RayOnRae95 4 года назад +3

    47:26 "whatever your plan is, it won't work, it won't turn out as you wanted" I'm gonna try to remember this every time I'm defeated by the crippling regret of what I should've done and what would've been if I had.

  • @thudo5587
    @thudo5587 6 лет назад +1

    Millions thanks again Ajahn Brahm for your dharma teaching

  • @vin919
    @vin919 4 года назад +1

    As beautiful as always, mind changing talk, just in time when I needed to hear this the most. Thankyou Thankyou Ajahn!

  • @rissacecot
    @rissacecot 11 лет назад +1

    I love you Ajahn Brahm!!!!

  • @malithiwijayathilaka1451
    @malithiwijayathilaka1451 10 лет назад +9

    The point of life is not to cure (change) but to care :)

  • @joycemansfield2819
    @joycemansfield2819 5 лет назад +3

    I love you! Im a person whos lucky enough to have a real second chance in life,you have taught me so much about how to be happier.i watched a talk you gave that said make your own fun.

  • @leomichelson4464
    @leomichelson4464 9 лет назад +4

    I am hooked on your talks...thank you so much.

  • @wingsly
    @wingsly 11 лет назад +3

    thank you for this talk! i was glued to every moment of it. i also really need to reflect on disapointment and being compassionate in the moment. this you stated very uniquely and well, i would not have walked out on your talk either! also the concept NO SELF is for the moment clear to me :)

  • @champikeme
    @champikeme 13 лет назад +1

    thank you Ajahn Brahm for the words of wisdom...... Jimmy hendriks:)

  • @Miss_Annlaug
    @Miss_Annlaug 5 лет назад +2

    I needed this talk. This puts the focus on the right thing. I have a tendency to go into fear and victim mode over my expectations ND it has been a negative force in my life its just like you said: it ruins happiness and saps energy. Well no more. The past few months I've had a bit of a attitude adjustment and this talk is useful to my mindset. Thank you for sharing this wonderful wisdom

  • @monushsenalthalpawila4832
    @monushsenalthalpawila4832 6 лет назад +1

    I kept my first step for medditation because of ven Ajan Brahm

  • @mykelhour450
    @mykelhour450 12 лет назад +1

    I needed watch this sooner, Ajehn Brahm has gotten me thru some crapy times in my life.

  • @mamabear7071
    @mamabear7071 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you, Ajahn Brahm! ❤

  • @ferrest4
    @ferrest4 4 года назад +1

    So grateful to find this Dharma talk .It really opens up my mind and my heart .What a beautiful talk.Much gratitude ❤️🙏🙏

  • @butenroshi1311
    @butenroshi1311 12 лет назад +1

    the most beautiful story that i have ever heard in my life is story about sailor ...

  • @MsCooperse
    @MsCooperse 13 лет назад +2

    thank you for helping us see our way through.

  • @katwebsteryoga
    @katwebsteryoga 11 лет назад +1

    You are so funny Ajahn Brahm, you are making positive changes in my mind

  • @drkmlakshmipathy
    @drkmlakshmipathy 3 года назад

    Right class on expectation..none other than Buddhist monk can clarify about disappointment ...Budha is right monk to be followed to know the reality of life and dessires...lots of respect from Chennai 🙏

  • @soilofk
    @soilofk 14 лет назад +2

    This is just beautiful and deep!!!!

  • @elenaapostolaki
    @elenaapostolaki 3 года назад +1

    Thanks, your talk ,always helps me out...

  • @meidakurniadewi3923
    @meidakurniadewi3923 8 лет назад +3

    It's was amazing. Thanks Aja Ajahn Brahm😍😍😍😍

  • @anaclarissanegrini
    @anaclarissanegrini 13 лет назад +1

    Great talk. I really can learn things in this channel! Thanks!

  • @mrreddragon0000
    @mrreddragon0000 9 лет назад +7

    I am so glad I found your videos. I am new to Zen Buddhism and Meditation. I truly love your words and teachings. If I could move from America to Australia I would surely love to join your Monestary

    • @virangyasenevirathne3165
      @virangyasenevirathne3165 7 лет назад

      this is not Zen Buddhism :)

    • @nichole7965
      @nichole7965 7 лет назад +2

      mrreddragon0000 I know right. I would move there just to study and live for the teachings from Ajahn Brahm.

    • @nichole7965
      @nichole7965 7 лет назад

      Virangya Senevirathne right Ajahn Brahm teaches Theravada Buddhism.

  • @mandystuart4909
    @mandystuart4909 8 месяцев назад

    I lived much of my adult life without a plan (also without a spiritual life which might make a difference), my life improved a lot once I had some kind of plan, I was able to progress at work and get a better salary, and this gave me a bit of mental/emotional space to explore spirituality... I think some kind of plan can be really helpful in navigating this life, so long as it's not a concrete or adaptable plan.

  • @loretheinexplicable6492
    @loretheinexplicable6492 6 лет назад +2

    Of course he's contributed to the wealth of the country. He brings contentment and a means to help deal with life's difficulties, making people healthier.
    Healthy people are better able to take care of themselves and are more productive at work.
    He can always argue that he's improving workplace productivity in the country. ;)

  • @chirathmaddumage1141
    @chirathmaddumage1141 4 года назад

    Thank you for your kindnes amd wisdom Ajahn Brahm. I hope I get to attend your sermons in person. Budusaranai to all

  • @123chandimal
    @123chandimal 13 лет назад

    I forget my all pains after listen this dhamma talk . plz upload more videos.thank you

  • @nutritionistliz6057
    @nutritionistliz6057 5 лет назад +4

    I love how you make a silly joke and then laugh at yourself. I do the same thing.

  • @jackgoldman1
    @jackgoldman1 13 лет назад

    The new view. Beat expectations. Exceed expectations. Lower than expectations. Disappointment means doing less then expected. No expectations, no disappointment. Buddhists don't lower the bar, they bury the bar. Love it all just the way it is.

  • @gheorghefalcaru
    @gheorghefalcaru 4 года назад

    Just superb!!!!!! I feel joy listening to your talks!!!!!

  • @2535Boonman
    @2535Boonman 8 лет назад +1

    Thank you so much Ajahn Brahm

  • @11solus11
    @11solus11 5 лет назад +1

    Insane beauty of wisdom 🙏❤

  • @Rednuts142
    @Rednuts142 8 лет назад +2

    THANK YOU AJAHN BRAHM!!

  • @Sumazndoode
    @Sumazndoode 13 лет назад +1

    Great opening to the talk!

  • @Kira-zi6ei
    @Kira-zi6ei 10 лет назад +3

    Thank you so much for another great teaching :-)

  • @lamrimeater
    @lamrimeater 13 лет назад

    thankyou Ajahn Brahm!!! very insightful. this talk speaks to me especially right now!

  • @alexdombrandt583
    @alexdombrandt583 5 лет назад

    so much love Ajahn Brahm

  • @amethyst205
    @amethyst205 11 лет назад +2

    Thankyou for a wonderful talk

  • @issac7787
    @issac7787 Год назад

    15:30 "don't have goal, don't have the goal to be best speaker , that's not the point, wrong mindset"

  • @mariac5942
    @mariac5942 6 месяцев назад

    3:55 joke
    17:31 on success
    28:51 giving everything you've got

  • @adamscott
    @adamscott 10 лет назад +3

    Really beautiful way of looking at things.

  • @tiamacademia
    @tiamacademia 4 года назад

    Thank you very much, Ajahn Brahm

  • @AmandaTroutman
    @AmandaTroutman 12 лет назад

    The closest proof I could offer would be to suggest looking to Dialectical Behavior Therapy and the research around that. A great deal of Buddhist philosophy has been incorporated into DBT and "Real" people not in a "Bubble" have been able to use the skills to improve their lives both personally and interpersonally, myself included.
    What he's saying here and has been echoed by psychologist Nick Salsman, is that expectations and judgments impede reality and can cause suffering.

  • @Chargehasbeenset
    @Chargehasbeenset 11 лет назад

    Thank you Ajahn Brahm

  • @multifake
    @multifake 11 лет назад +2

    this is sooooo good! thank you very very much!

  • @Cheballer87
    @Cheballer87 13 лет назад +3

    this should be thought in school! (public)

  • @Leibinz
    @Leibinz 13 лет назад +2

    I worry that I have become attached to these talks.

  • @sirin2431
    @sirin2431 5 лет назад

    Don't be disappointed right now!!! One like no disappointment

  • @MoonBurgle2
    @MoonBurgle2 12 лет назад +1

    Thank you, we love you too.

  • @TravisCBarker
    @TravisCBarker 2 года назад +1

    Focus on the present until encountering someone's death, than only concern yourself with their past.

  • @gregpantelides1355
    @gregpantelides1355 3 года назад

    Thank you so much!

  • @0119alt
    @0119alt 14 лет назад +1

    i love his voice so peaceful....lol

  • @skepsys
    @skepsys 11 лет назад +2

    instead, you laugh at me, you great buddhist master..... unbelievable...

  • @sandysingh3948
    @sandysingh3948 12 лет назад

    Superb!!..you are a great story-teller tooo..AB...God bless you...!!!!!

  • @yoon4063
    @yoon4063 3 года назад

    3:22 savage moment about Soulmate 😂 i needed this.

  • @lisatomiuk7439
    @lisatomiuk7439 3 года назад

    💕🙏 Lovely lessons. Thank you!

  • @BipolarBowler
    @BipolarBowler 14 лет назад +1

    Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy - the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation. Happiest is he who expects no happiness from others.
    It's a little tough to get over when people have treated you with loving-kindness. It's sort of natural and logical to want a good thing.

  • @lordbyron3603
    @lordbyron3603 5 лет назад

    I’m not grounded in reality. That’s why I listen to AB and other monks. Why am I here at a meditation retreat ? To practice. Practice what ? One pointedness ... to practice awareness of the breath.

  • @stephaineeriksen381
    @stephaineeriksen381 11 лет назад +3

    boy was that awesome!

  • @yongsuanlin6255
    @yongsuanlin6255 10 лет назад +4

    Love his talk.seen him in Singapore. Yeo building and evergreen temple.

    • @yongsuanlin6255
      @yongsuanlin6255 10 лет назад

      Thanks you reminded me. People expected too much that's why they are disappointed.
      But the worst is they are disappointed, but they transferred their negativity to someone who really love them.
      Well, thanks for transferring ; as it makes me a stronger "train" in life - be a visitor. 😃. God has brings kind person to me who show me beautiful and funny jokes in life.
      

  • @AprilMelodyVlogs
    @AprilMelodyVlogs 13 лет назад +5

    I'm an Ajahn Brahm addict XD

  • @iamyourpopenow
    @iamyourpopenow 15 лет назад

    This was a great (teaching? lecture? sermon?) Anyway I loved it and it was really what I needed to hear right now - extremely relevant. Thanks! :)

  • @chat.b4289
    @chat.b4289 5 лет назад +1

    sadhu sadhu sadhu🙏🙏🙏