Yo guys, honestly. Me and my ex broke up 5 months ago. I was in a really horrible place, couldn’t stop crying or thinking about her. I came to brads videos for help and it seriously does help. Best advice I can give is spend time to yourself, focus on rebuilding you. There was obviously an issue with the relationship for it to end. I learned the hard way, you just need to be brutally honest with yourself. After that then you can decide whether you want to pursue things with him or her from that point! 5 months on and me and my ex are talking again. I followed everything this guy said and it worked wonders! This stuff works, you just need to decide if it’s what you want! Thanks Brad!
@@BradBrowning Dr. Bruce Lipton says "People fall in love because they stopped thinking. They stopped falling in love because they started thinking again." Well, we have to use the analytical mind in a healthy way to not interrupt the love affair of the heart.
Wish I could be that strong. I was in a two year relationship with the most amazing girl I've ever met and then poof one morning I messed up and then the afternoon we had a fight and we broke up in the evening
I've taken almost a year off social media and its definitely helped me mentally. I was too depressed looking at everyone's post and his page it became and addiction. Im glad I did it.
We had a break up since last week. I feel sad and tried not to think about him. But after watching this video it enlightens me and make me smile. Thank you so much. Keep safe.
You're welcome! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it!
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
Awareness is key. Now that you're aware of what you're doing, it's time to change that and only YOU can do it. This may help: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
My fiancée of 5 years left me 5 days before Christmas and all I want her is to take me back. I know what I did wrong but it not something I can fix overnight. I miss her so much
What did you do? I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my most recent vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html Be patient and let things play out first. Let time do its job since it's your biggest ally at this point. Good luck!
Hi Brad.. I'm Dan(my wife always called me that instead of Danny).. 26yrs together,she was 17,I was 18.. we're about 8 months now separated,I've been sleeping on the couch, the videos by you and Coach Lee have helped me get through this extremely hard thing,trying period happening.. I feel like I'm only half the man I really am,she's been 1/2 of who I am all these years and I don't understand all of this I just wanted to say thank you for these videos.. its helpful for me.. I know she still loves me,just not the same way she always had before
You're welcome, man. Stay strong! And make sure you check out my videos in blue thumbnails, those are the ones specifically for marriage. Start with this one: ruclips.net/video/PI4yzGHUoK8/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/c7_0PxvHDmU/видео.html
My ex broke up with me after 8 years of relationship with her we had a good times and memories. She said she doesnt love me anymore and now she's chatting/seeing with someone else. Is there a possibilities that my ex will get back to me and realize her feelings with me when i apply no contact? After we broke up i beg and plead and now i am applying no contact and radio silence
Yes, that's the only way she will realize. Well, keep in mind that the new guy isn’t you and if your relationship had been particularly good for the most part, then you can use that knowledge to your advantage (otherwise you really can't do anything about that now because you can't undo the past; best to take the experience as a lesson learned and try to show it to your ex and hope she is STILL open or receptive to it after giving space). Keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though it seems like the opposite. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html So make sure you don't taint your ex's memory of you by making those awful mistakes I talk about on my other vids. Your ex is likely rebounding, especially if yours had been a long-term or serious relationship. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/CykpZV0OIsE/видео.html But don’t rely on that fact alone. Learn to play your cards right as well and go by these principles: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html Good luck!
she texts me pretty often for no real reason other than catching up, or just trying to have a conversation, even though shes in an obvious rebound rn which is confusing me a lot
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ruclips.net/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/видео.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses his/her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/bgOG9s1fac8/видео.html
Really appreciate the channel Brad. I've found comfort with the videos. I really miss my ex, but the relationship wasn't good for us. The emotional stuff was great but we couldn't offer each other the security we needed to grow together . I'm just rebuilding myself and my life. The hard part Is giving up on THAT shared future... knowing the right thing to do doesn't stop me thinking about them. I want them back but I'm not in the right place to pursue her.
This is why it's important to focus on yourself and rebuild your own life first. Nobody's perfect and no relationship is perfect, but you can be the best version of yourself. The best time to do that is when you're single since there aren't any distractions! :-)
I did no contact for one month and while doing no contact I followed his guide to make my self busy and do some exercise. But after no contact I didn't realize that I moved on a bit it's like I just don't care about her anymore even tho we've been 2 years and 4 months. When I think about giving her a chance if ever she wants one I don't feel like giving it, and I love this way I have to move on fully because being in a relationship is hard. Thanks brad about the no contact u made me stop spending nights of crying to someone who doesn't even give a value to the tears I shed and the pain I felt, I feel a lotlre better now
Hey, I'm happy for you! Yes, this should be the stage everyone should reach, regardless of whether or not their exes come back. You have to be happy within yourself first and not need anyone before you can be truly ready for a relationship.
Your all principles do work brad!can you please make a video of how to comfort your loved ones when they are in stressful situation,like loss of their parent
That isn't my forte, but I suggest you offer your sympathies and try to offer your help, but never impose or force yourself into someone's life. Just let them know you're ready to lend an ear if they need someone to talk to. But don't go waiting for that to happen, make sure you go about your own life too. Good luck!
It will still hurt but yes, if you have all the facts you need, then it should be easy or won't take as long than if you didn't have all the facts. This can only be possible if you help yourself as well.
Our breakup was the nasty one...things were not working for both of us for about 2 months...he brokeup with me 2 weeks ago...i was begging and pleading for another chance but he said he has already given me so many chances. Since then he somtimes become polite with me and sometimes become so rude...today i have started a no contact rule after watching your videos..i dont know wether i will get my ex boyfriend back or not...🥺
Begging won't help. You need to give him time and space first, so redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi Brad, it’s been 2 months since the breakup and I’m obsessed with the situation still. He broke up with me because of my toxic behavior. I didn’t process anything at all because I drank like crazy for the first month apart, and have only been improving myself for the past month. We sort of reconciled in the last 3 weeks where I wrote him a letter of apology for my behavior while drinking. He forgave me but doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. I kept trying to reach out and he’s nice and always answers but I can’t hang out with him as a friend it’s too painful. It doesn’t seem to bother him as much. So I’ve been doing full no contact now for 1 week and plan on going for 30 days. We are coworkers but we don’t work directly together so we only just cross paths from time to time. My question is : in my situation do you think it’s too late for the no contact to be effective ? Is there still a chance ?
Work on yourself first and stop making this reconciliation a priority, because that desperation will show. I know it's painful, but try to be more constructive with your coping mechanism so you'll actually feel good as a result instead of putting you in a downward spiral. As to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Hey Brad! My ex does a thing where she follows people she recently broke up with and I feel like she is doing the same with me. Should I unfollow her? I want to get her back and we only been together for 4 months. I also read this quote "Some people don’t love you, they don’t even care about you. They just want to stay connected to you. They love the benefits. So they do the minimal. A little phone call here and there, just checking. What they are really doing is maintaining the connection, so when they need, they still have a way in."
Don't follow her if it's only going to distract you from healing. Maybe stop trying to look at your ex's profile/messages/snaps, posts, etc.? An essential part of the "no contact" rule is to turn your focus inwards for a good 30 days, and looking at what your ex is doing and whatnot largely deviates from that point, don't you think?
It has been a month that I have not contacted my ex-girlfriend and she is still blocked me on the social media and I do not know how to solve this problem
Unless you've done something really epic to mess up things, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
I’ve been watching a lot of your videos recently and as each day goes on I’ve been trying to follow your rules and tips to get her back but each day I’m starting not to even want her back I go to the gym I got a new car maybe moving forward instead is best
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!
Hey Brad, today is my 15th Day of NC. I really have no idea what's going on in his mind. The biggest heart break is yesterday i lost my uncle due to cancer ..im going thorugh a very tough phase. Unfortunately I don't have his shoulder to lean on. It hurts so much. A week ago I didn't even wished him on his birthday intentionally ... To make him realise my worth an value. I just want to recover from this phase of my life asap. Cause this heart break is beyond my capacity to control my tears.. He haven't blocked me in what's app and FB, and I really don't know how to initiate conversation after 30 days of NC.. Before 15 days I cried million tears and was begging and pleading him to be with me. But he didn't responded to my plights properly and gave me mixed signals. I'm so confused, baffled and bewildered.
Sorry for your loss. Don't rush it, though. Healing takes time. You can see it as an opportunity to grow, learn what you can from the relationship and/or how to correct the issues and whether or not it can still be fixed. But first off, take time to heal first and this is exactly what the "no contact" rule for 30 days is about. Anyway once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
My wife and I split about 40 days ago and she said she wanted out. I would have problems at working thinking about her and I get sad and cry. So sometimes I would call her to just say hello. We texted like a couple times a week. I was gonna do no contact but I just felt the need to talk to her. Sunday I texted and asked if I could call her during lunch break she said sure. We talked about 20 minutes and then I said it was nice talking to you thanks for picking up. She then texted me before I got off and told me she was getting tested for Covid-19 and we texted the rest of the day. We exchanged pictures and videos of what we took in the past and I told her that this was the happiest I’ve felt in a month. She then said well I wanted to talk to you too. The next day she didn’t text me at all. I gave her the whole day to text or call me and I finally tried calling her to see how her day was. She texted me it was a mistake texting you yesterday I didn’t wanna give you the wrong idea. After she just said that she wanted to talk to. What should I do?
Sorry to hear that. How long has it been since the divorce was finalized? When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
following your advice is the reason why i never got back together with my ex. he had admitted he was still in love with me and would consider a second chance maybe until i followed your advice incredibly foolishly. i had commented several times under videos to no avail, and actually had to cut out my ex. while i am glad he and i aren’t back together, for anyone reading this, take his advice with a grain of salt or you’ll end up like me.
Sorry, while I try to be as attentive as possible, there are simply too many comments on here that I can't get to everyone at once. Anyway re your situation, the connection couldn't be that strong judging from both your reactions. If he supposedly is still in love with you yet can bare not talking to you for a very long time (I assume you followed the "no contact" rule) and is okay with you "striving" from the breakup and building your own life without your ex. That is if you have applied the tips here: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
4 months ago i got rejected . She was love of my live. But i thought i past it , I saw her 3 days ago in club. I don't know what to do, I'm only thinking about her. Sholud i try again or leave it.
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!
That's no news. The "no contact" rule usually comes naturally to the dumpers. Learn the 3 basic phases I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. It helps to learn the basics of my 3R system here first, so you'll have an idea on how to go about it on your end: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html
My ex and I have a child together but she got to talking to this guy over snap chat (was long distance)and left me for him she left our child and animals and just left. I can't pay for personal help. She has been gone for 4 weeks now and I'm so confused because she just bailed. He is now moving down to be with her and I'm terrified They have never met so I'm hopeful that this will fizzle out so any advice would be appreciated.
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!
Hey brad, Hope your doing fine and healthy. 1st I want to thank you for your support.. After my break up i fully stopped contacting with my ex after 15 days he reached me.. It been more than 6 months since than, he is in contact with me he acts hot and cold, he helps me, supports me, also show his concern about me but he doesn't want to meet me. He's still determined not getting back.. he Also keeps telling me not to waste my time dreaming getting him back. I can't make it progress..don't know what to do now..
I'm good, thanks. And you're welcome! Always happy to help whenever I can and as much as I can. Maybe stop trying to meet up with him? Just put that thought aside for a good while. Meet up with your friends instead and/or new people and try to enjoy life as much as you can without your ex in it. That is really key. As much as possible, let him initiate the meetup which is why I suggest you stop bringing it up altogether. Anyway you're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
This is really all within your control. Change your playlist maybe? Add songs that will help YOU process the breakup, not one that will remind you of your ex.
Damn Brad. I have watch ur videos for about 2 weeks now. I have dealing here with break up. My girlfriend left me about 6 weeks ago and i have move on my own place now. I love her, she's the sun of my life, best woman what i have ever encounter ( i know there's plenty fish in the sea) I wish i could somehow email u and start to progress heal myself and making progress get my love of my life back. Please see this message Brad, and help me to get started privatly. Im ready to get your all quides personally :)
Coming to your own personal power is great! I look forward to see what you have to say. To book a one-on-one/ private email session with me, sign up at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching when there's availability. Talk soon!
My ex decided to try to make it work with her husband for their kids sake despite how terrible he is to her. I sent her the clean slate text and she responded that she was sorry she hurt me and I will find pure happiness. So...now what ?
Move on from her. Don't deal with her if she's still married. Wait for her to divorce him and even then, you still ought to give her space. This is why married women are complicated, man. You know you deserve better.
Ex dumped me 6 months ago.. and apply NC and text her but she's very angry at me and I didn't wish her birthday. She says she hurts a lot and don't want to see me. SIR PLZZ HELP ME.. U r the my last hope.
What happened? Watch this first to help set your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: ruclips.net/video/TnZzeEIPEik/видео.html If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together after giving each other some time and space apart. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Someone asked me the same question as you and here's what I told them, refer to the second question: ruclips.net/video/9Fgc5F9Ck5Q/видео.html Take care!
It is, but it may not be healthy. There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together after giving each other some time and space apart. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Someone asked me the same question as you and here's what I told them, refer to the second question: ruclips.net/video/9Fgc5F9Ck5Q/видео.html Take care!
Me and my ex broke up a week ago and I’ve been doing no contact for 6 days now. I hear that all she does is post pics of her going out or post a lot a quotes that seem to target the break up. Some seem sad. She even still watches my story. What could this mean??
What happened in my relationship none of these videos match it we started and stopped this from a week he had some problems at home and was really upset that's the why we had to stop but I know he really loved me the night before we break up he talked to me well and said I love you also after the break up he said but I have to do this but few days ago he told me I can't bear this pressure so I changed my all plans and started over again with the current situation if I send a msg he reply if I don't leave a msg he doesn't chat with me all of these happened because of his dad my ex also a bit stubborn I know he really loves me but I afraid with this pressure he has he will changed will he forget me what can I do to get him back
If he's going through some tough stuff and he's pushing you away, then definitely respect his need for space and don't bother him. Work on yourself instead and your own healing. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
It shouldn't be any different! If you're trying to move on, this video is for you: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html
Your so right, only if you dont think to him and focus on your own life maybe we get results. He dont deserve so mutch atention if he dissipear without any explanation. Was hard but with this no contact times i realise that i was so naive woman waiting for an man who even dont say anything,just dissipear. Then let him go. Bye bye.
Watch this first to help set your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: ruclips.net/video/TnZzeEIPEik/видео.html If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
It does take work, man. Try not to think about it too much. It will happen naturally and you'll find yourself happy as a clam before you even know it! :-)
My score was 67 we broke up for 5 months then he removed me from fb and I sent him message telling him he always step back and never know how to do a next step ! Please tell me how to fix that
What if he pulls away because he has personal issues (which have nothing to do with me. I would say he almost got depressed because of his problems) that he needs to resolve ‘cause he just can’t keep on going like this? I don’t think that we really broke up (6 months relationship), I would rather say that he needs time alone to concentrate and work on these issues so I am giving him space but I’m still afraid to lose him. I’m into week 3 of no contact. Should I reach out and ask how is he doing or should I wait for him to contact me first? I really don’t know what to do and I miss him so much.
Did he specifically say it was just a break? Be careful not to twist the information as you could be stuck in denial and you really need to heal from that. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/QPJprJuf-iU/видео.html
Hey Brad , a couple months ago I screwed up my last relationship by making a terrible decision and smoking in front of her when she didn’t want me to I tried talking to her today but she said bcuz of it she’s still not looking forward to a relationship and it would be better off if we were friends maybe bht still it wouldn’t be the same so I need help ASAP thank you !
Yeah that behaviour must've turned her off big time. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
Unless you've done something really epic to mess up things, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
She dumped me before 2 months.. I done a no contact and now I started to spoke to her.. and she talk nice but she says we are friends... And she is talking like a stranger , and she ask me to tell only what is the purpose of doing phone call.. ?? How to convince her. But now she isn't angry...
Yeah, that's awkward. Why'd you call, though? I always suggest texting. This way, you will get a chance to reply or think of a witty reason to contact. The silence or pause in a phone conversation is just terrible, faced with that question. Watch and learn from this vid first: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html
That’s how it’s starts , it was weird for me acting like we’ve never been in a relationship and everything was like , you’ll be fine , you’ll work it out , you’ll be happy there , ect it’s all single no plural , unless you’ve got kids ect together, it’s hard to just jump out of the blue and ignite the flame , you got to let the dumper start a conversation, otherwise your in for a shock when you ring
The best thing to do right now is to admit to your ex that you've effed up and try to be patient and sympathetic with what your ex is going through and just disappear from your ex's life for a while, because right now, you are a constant reminder of the pain and your ex needs to heal from that first. And saying sorry is not gonna fix that right away, it takes time. By cheating, you're automatically putting the ball in your ex's court and have lost privilege to take your power back in all this. It's up to your ex now and how soon they can forgive you and move on from the incident, not necessarily from the relationship although some people do that. With that in mind, these may help: ruclips.net/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html Whatever you do, make sure you avoid doing the stuff here that will only push your ex further away: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo
I still want to thank you for your videos during my time being apart from my bf. We are back together and all thanks for your tricks in the book. Would u be able to guide me to the videos on how to keep it healthy the 2nd time around?
Yeah, you have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ruclips.net/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/видео.html or from a more recent advice here as well: ruclips.net/video/-OqYy_DqNJc/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/8gc53SzHrac/видео.html All the best! :-)
I’ve broken up recently and I’ve started the 30 day no contact, the reason she broke up is still a question mark for me, she claims she wanted a time to be alone and didn’t want to date anyone at the moment but i love her so deeply i can’t let her go this easily. My quiz score was 74 and she hasn’t showed any signs of wanting to come back......yet. We were together for 7 months but everything, the connection and everything was more than that period is there any hope for me?
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/видео.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
I broke up with my ex months ago because she was toxic with me and it devastated me because i have feelings for her. Now im talking to her again but she has a boyfriend and im still in love with her. I feel she is using him as a rebound but maybe im mistaken. When i told her have feelings for her she said that i texted that in a bad time because she is convincing herself to break up with him but she wants to keep trying to fix things with him. And now that she is living extremely close to me is driving me nuts.
Don't deal with her if she's still trying to figure stuff out with the other guy. Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ruclips.net/video/hlikXIfMYN8/видео.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Find someone who's also looking for the same thing as you. But the concept here is to NOT get a tunnel vision of your ex being the end-all be-all which in turn will not cause you to act desperate, okay?
I've been with him for 2 years i just found out that he was cheating on me for 10 months n he's still with her, he said he still have feelings or for me n don't wanna loose me as a person in his life stating that there is nothing serious between them and that is not lasting.. I love him n i really want him back but I'm so confused right now
Actions speak louder than words though, especially in this case. Anyway really sorry to hear that. There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together after giving each other some time and space apart. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Someone asked me the same question as you and here's what I told them, refer to the second question: ruclips.net/video/9Fgc5F9Ck5Q/видео.html Take care!
Just broke up after almost 9 years....she just said she is fed up and won't say anything more...can't sleep or do anything because we always put on call and sleep and the first thing in the morning is call up and talk.....it hurts so bad....I feel like I'm dying.
Sorry to hear that. Yes, a breakup from a long-term commitment is extra painful. Right now though, you both need that time apart. Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
If you still live with your ex, then do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk AND y2u.be/GTjEAGJWTuA I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
It won't work by itself. Make sure you follow the tips religiously. Some people deviate from it or modify it. Just do YOU first is what matters. Stay safe!
You know, coaches say not to unfriend your ex on social media as that makes a person look petty, but yet we are to appear as if we are moving on. I don’t keep exes in my life as friend in person, so why would I keep them as a friend on social media? If my ex doesn’t want me a part of their life In person why would I keep them on social media? This does not make sense to me.
It makes sense if you want your ex back, assuming that's what you're aiming for since you're on my channel. The reasons are here: ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html
If you still live with your ex, then do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk AND y2u.be/GTjEAGJWTuA I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Brad I'm not sure if you remember my past comments on how my break up happened (gf left because I did not contact her for a month). But anyway today after 2 months of separation, she text me that she miss me, tbh I did not want to reply back I miss you too but I had to because of the unique situation and reason of break up. And she also sent me her pics and was emotional, ended our conversation there. What should I do now ? I want her back in my life so bad but I'm not showing her that I'm desperate and needy. We are in LDR and she usually comes to our town once or twice a year. After break up we both text each other sometimes but I do it rarely just to ask how she's doing and ask about her parents. I see signs that she still loves me and miss me but idk if she wants me back.
That's right. Don't be desperate and needy. Nothing much to do here but to do stuff for yourself and become a better version of yourself. From my previous advice as well as my other videos, I supposed you're already aware how distance plays a major role though, right? Anyway follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
Hi Brad! I did no contact two months ago and it worked! He contacted me and wanted to give the relationship another chance. Unfortunately we both didn’t learn enough from our mistakes the first time.... we had a fight and he blocked me on instagram and my number. A week later he blocked me on snapchat too... he also did this the first break up, i feel like this is his way of having control? He didn’t block facebook yet, i think he’s testing me to see if i’ll reach out on there. Will no contact work a second time?
Aw that was close! Yeah, any type of drama will only set you back, so if you can, be the bigger person and just ease up, all right? After all, it takes two to fight or argue. And yes, your best bet is still to follow the "no contact" rule and this time, make sure you take your time to really be in a better state to deal with each other before even sending out the first text so you'll have a better shot at success on the next try, yeah? In your case, given what happened, he may not be receptive to your contact after the 30-day period, so do your best to extend it and give him more time. Best of luck!
Don't get sucked into the drama. Just end the conversation politely. In the meantime, watch this vid coz it may help you out: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html
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I thought that's what my videos have already been doing. :-) Anyway as what so many people here are already doing, you may also leave a comment detailing your situation (keep it concise, please) and I'll get back to you the soonest I can. So state your situation in a separate comment because I can't backtrack even if I wanted to, got to move on to hundreds of new comments added daily. However, if you need my full attention where I focus in on and prioritize your situation or need a response as soon as possible, feel free to sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Did you mean to say you were the rebound? The steps for healing are the same. If you're trying to move on, this video is for you: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html
Hey brad, pls answer me. Me and my ex broke up our 6 months and 2 weeks relationship because I was not healthy mental state and immature, she has feeling for someone else and dumped me, and now they're in relationship. Right after no contact, I was get angry to her unconsciously because as I said before I was at my lowestmental health. Before no contact, I had texted, apologized, begged and pleaded for 2 weeks. And then before I going no contact, I send message to her that I wanna give her space, heal and develope myself and also wanna distancing from her (subtly I kinda say I'm going to no contact). I unfortunately didnt send clean slate message before I went no contact and watch your videos. Now I'm in 26 days of no contact. I'm developing myself better right now days and days passes by, but I think she's still with his new bf right now. I can't check she's single or not because she told me after our breakup that she want to keep next relationship is secret when she's with someone else, including me if we're back together she want to kepp the relationship is secret as she says. What should I do next Brad for my situation? Is there any chance for me in this situation? Pls need help. Note : We're in long distance relationshop.
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ruclips.net/video/hlikXIfMYN8/видео.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Heyy, Brad, I'm in day 21 of no contact and I dont think it has been effective on me personally, can I extend it beyond 30 days??? I'm definitely not ready, made no positive change and haven't changed my mindset, basically I have just been faking it, can I restart no contact though I havent contacted him at all despite him saying he still cares. After watching this video I just feel motivated to make a significant positive changes in my life, instead of obsessing about getting him back
Yes, you can extend the "no contact" phase if you're truly not ready yet. Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. The "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
What if my ex contact me sometimes (we breakup almost year ago and we have had no contact for a while) and now we are having quite good relations so "no contact" could be getting him confused? In addition, he is the person who almost always initiate our contact
Don't you recognize an opportunity when you see one? :-) Your ex is opening the lines of communication which is a perfect opportunity for you to transition into phase two. Since you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule, and assuming you've done the "no contact" rule properly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
Depends on which phase you're on. Never skip the "no contact" part! Watch this to get an overview on what steps you ought to take in each phase: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Best of luck!
I blocked my ex because I was obsessing and trying to communicate with her through stories and posts… now I’m feeling better. Do I readd her? 9 weeks and 8 of nc except practical stuff.
Sorry to hear that. The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Great! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
I understand. Acceptance is key though. Just make a conscious effort to be mindful of things you do and make it less about your ex and more about you. It takes practice though and a lot of strength. You can do it! :-)
My ex broke up with me 2 months ago and we’re a few hours away but were involved for 8 months and since the breakup for a while spoke almost daily but in the past few weeks we’ve had few interactions and this past week had a bad encounter but tonight I apologised she replied twice twenty minutes apart saying ‘thanks’ and ‘you don’t need to apologise’. I didn’t reply as I’m trying to engage with the no contact for the next 30 or so days, am I doing this right?
Well... Do you really think that dating with someone new is the right way to get ex back? I really don't think so. It's nice advice for loose your love for ever, be sure... No contact plus dating new one never brings your ex back... Experiences from my life and people's around me.... Thank you for your time and effort to help, but I see that's way to make people feel better not get back someone they love.
You've already lost your ex the minute your ex ended things with you. In some, although not all cases, the dumper planned the breakup days, if not weeks or months before dropping the bomb. In other words, your ex has the upper hand from the get-go. Dating or getting to know someone new will keep you from heading towards a downward spiral where everything is hopeless. The lower your energy is, the lesser your chances of ever getting an ex back. A lot of people, although again, not all cases, have gotten their exes back using this method, assuming it's done correctly of course.
Hey Brad please answer. My ex filled a restraining order to get me to move out our place ASAP when we broke up. However, we still have a child together and text daily about the kid. She has trust issues and that caused her to want to break up. I think about her daily because daily she sends pictures of the kid. We are court ordered to only talk about the child but those text make me miss her very much. Any advice as to how I can stop dwelling on her and get her thinking about me. I can't do no contact.
Before you focus on how to get her thinking about you, try to see why she had to file a restraining order, that's a little worrisome, along with the trust issue. What really happened? I suggest you address the trust issue part, that's how you get her to start thinking positively about you. Give her a good experience... but first off, give her space first. Do limited contact. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
hey brad what if we made plans for christmas with her family before the break up? i’m in my second day of no contact. is it okay if i ask or if she asks if we still going to hang out?
If you can manage to do that without breaking down, yeah. Otherwise, it may be best to take some time to heal to process what happened. If she asks to still go together, however, then assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/видео.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: ruclips.net/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/видео.html Best of luck!
It’s been 3 months of the breakup in a 16 year relationship,I’ve done no contact since day 3 of the breakup ( only time we message is to arrange and drop of our 4 year old daughter) my ex got with a new guy 2weeks after the breakup and moved in together after a month and got engaged after 2 months lol but on a serious note my daughter told me he punched her in the stomach,I know he’s got 6 domestic abuse charges against his ex and is a violent evil Person I’ve done my homework on him,so I tell my ex partner this and she laughed it off thinking I’m jealous but I promise to god I’m not,I know this is wrong and I’ll get told not to do it but I’m a ex boxer I’m waiting to bump into him and he’s going to get the worst beating of his life for hitting my daughter,I’ve never hit my daughter so what does he think he’s doing hitting her!! No one can change my mind he’s going to suffer for doing that to my 4 year old daughter.
Get custody of your daughter, man. It needs immediate action if that's really the case. Let your ex deal with the new guy, but remove your daughter from that environment asap.
I'm in the no contact thing rn and I just realized that when he cheated by texting girl 3 times through our relationship, I forgave him and he was changing,but I kept that anger about it cause I didnt have time to cope with it but now we on a break or break up he doesn't know what this is yet, that I have time to release thos anger and thought about what went wrong, should I text him about it now or after the 30 days?
Don't text him especially now that you're no longer in a relationship with him. Just observe if he fesses up and makes amends. It should rarely be the other way around if you're the one cheated on, especially multiple times.
Hey Brad I love your all the advice. But my ex boyfriend is totally heartless, even I tried a suicide attempt but he doesn’t come back. I have done this no contact rule. But my ex block me from everywhere. I have followed your every advice from every video What should I do now?
Sorry to hear it. You absolutely need to take care of yourself first before anything else. The change all starts from you. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Anyway things must really be awful for you to be feeling that way. Treatment and/or working with a counsellor will help you feel better. Get a referral from your doctor or call 1-800-273-8255 to talk to someone 24/7 who can connect you with help from a licensed counsellor for free. In all honesty, I do think you can probably get your ex back, but you need to make sure you're in a good place yourself first before you'll have a chance to do that, so talk to a counselor or call the number above if you need help getting there. All the best!
Watch this first to help set your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: ruclips.net/video/TnZzeEIPEik/видео.html If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
Hi Coach Brad, My ex is the one who dumped me thru text message. He is the one who decided to end up things on us. I did not give him any confirmation or any of my agreement on his decision. Now he keeps on insisting for a formal closure. What will i do? i want to win him back. Im doing the no contact rule.
Just keep ignoring him until he basically comes to his senses and get to think about what he wants...because a closure really only tends to confuse you even more and will tend to leave more questions than answers. Stay strong!
Hey brad....i have been in a relationship for last one year....we had a lot of misunderstandings and fights....but he never stopped contacting me...suddenly he stopped contacting me...he even didn’t call me for last 1 month....but yes,he receives every time i call him...but always says he is busy...i contacted one of our mutual friends yesterday and he told me that he ( my boyfriend) is really busy but not that kind of busy where he cannot contact me Once a day...he is happy in his life...enjoying a new life....so....should i expect anything from him or just no hope????
Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ruclips.net/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/видео.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ruclips.net/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/видео.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
Before breakup we truly love each other but her friends and family opposed to me. I watched all ur videos since the breakup and follow as u say. 3 months ago she checked my insta But after 6 months of NC I texted her but she is very angry at me. And said "stay away from me, u hurt me a lot". I did mistake that I wish her friends birthday on social media bur her birthday forgot to wish. After contacting her I apply NC & today is 19th day. Ur my hope. Plzz help me SIR. What to do.
Try to reach out to her and get back to her good graces but don't force it. The friends and family's influence on her will dwindle over time, as you continue or try to rebuild the connection with her. The aim is to get her to an emotional neutral which you should watch my other videos for on how to do. Anyway until that happens, you really ought to work on yourself. Apply the tips here as best as you could: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
Brad i keep on pleading and begging her to come back for two to three months now and she told me to stop calling her because she is in love with someone else now and she doesn't love me or want me anymore, please can no contact work for me again i seriously love her and want her back,brad i seriously need your help I mess up from the beginning please help me. what should I do answer please
The 30-day "no contact" rule can work for you in the following ways: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Your ex is diverting his/her attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his/her way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA
It's only normal especially if the breakup was very fresh. Just try to be mindful about how you spend your time and really help yourself heal and choose your own mental and emotional well-being first, then you'll see you're feeling so much better! best of luck!
I was dating this girl who wouldn't put as much efforts into our relationship as I would. And even though it was just for a few weeks, and that I could see so many red flags, she broke up with me today over some garbage reasons and I really miss her and feel like calling her. Is it normal and how long will this phase last?
I thought that's what my videos have already been doing. :-) Anyway as what so many people here are already doing, you may also leave a comment detailing your situation (keep it concise, please) and I'll get back to you the soonest I can. So state your situation in a separate comment because I can't backtrack even if I wanted to, got to move on to hundreds of new comments added daily. However, if you need my full attention where I focus in on and prioritize your situation or need a response as soon as possible, feel free to sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
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Yo guys, honestly. Me and my ex broke up 5 months ago. I was in a really horrible place, couldn’t stop crying or thinking about her. I came to brads videos for help and it seriously does help. Best advice I can give is spend time to yourself, focus on rebuilding you. There was obviously an issue with the relationship for it to end. I learned the hard way, you just need to be brutally honest with yourself. After that then you can decide whether you want to pursue things with him or her from that point!
5 months on and me and my ex are talking again. I followed everything this guy said and it worked wonders! This stuff works, you just need to decide if it’s what you want!
Thanks Brad!
You got all the main/crucial points covered, awesome! Keep it up! :-)
How are you two doing now?
What if she has you blocked and is showing that she moved on?
@@BradBrowning Dr. Bruce Lipton says "People fall in love because they stopped thinking.
They stopped falling in love because they started thinking again."
Well, we have to use the analytical mind in a healthy way to not interrupt the love affair of the heart.
Brad is there any other advice to take on from this?
No need to think about my ex. I'm now in a amazing relationship with a great man💕 Something I now realize I've been missing out on for years.
Good to know. Happy for you!
Wish I could be that strong. I was in a two year relationship with the most amazing girl I've ever met and then poof one morning I messed up and then the afternoon we had a fight and we broke up in the evening
@@srinjoyroychoudhury7034 it sucks, that's how my relationship went, one day we just had a big fight and that was all it took
I've taken almost a year off social media and its definitely helped me mentally. I was too depressed looking at everyone's post and his page it became and addiction. Im glad I did it.
Good!
We had a break up since last week. I feel sad and tried not to think about him. But after watching this video it enlightens me and make me smile. Thank you so much. Keep safe.
You're welcome! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it!
it’s real hard having “no contact” when she’s a co worker :(
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
Omg i needed, i can't stop myself from overthinking, literally going crazyyyyy.
Awareness is key. Now that you're aware of what you're doing, it's time to change that and only YOU can do it. This may help: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
I immersed myself into walking, while listening to something good, weight training, my business and whatever else to distract my mind. It works. 👍💯
Thanks for sharing!
That was good Timothy, I hope it worked
Hey
My fiancée of 5 years left me 5 days before Christmas and all I want her is to take me back. I know what I did wrong but it not something I can fix overnight. I miss her so much
What did you do? I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: ruclips.net/video/jikW4YYC9yo/видео.html and from my most recent vid here: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html
Be patient and let things play out first. Let time do its job since it's your biggest ally at this point. Good luck!
Thank you, I really needed that. I want to strengthen myself and forget about her but I just couldn’t. I’ve always hurt my chances.
Time to focus on yourself.
Hi Brad.. I'm Dan(my wife always called me that instead of Danny).. 26yrs together,she was 17,I was 18.. we're about 8 months now separated,I've been sleeping on the couch, the videos by you and Coach Lee have helped me get through this extremely hard thing,trying period happening.. I feel like I'm only half the man I really am,she's been 1/2 of who I am all these years and I don't understand all of this
I just wanted to say thank you for these videos.. its helpful for me.. I know she still loves me,just not the same way she always had before
You're welcome, man. Stay strong! And make sure you check out my videos in blue thumbnails, those are the ones specifically for marriage. Start with this one: ruclips.net/video/PI4yzGHUoK8/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/c7_0PxvHDmU/видео.html
Stay strong bro.
My ex broke up with me after 8 years of relationship with her we had a good times and memories. She said she doesnt love me anymore and now she's chatting/seeing with someone else. Is there a possibilities that my ex will get back to me and realize her feelings with me when i apply no contact?
After we broke up i beg and plead and now i am applying no contact and radio silence
Yes, that's the only way she will realize. Well, keep in mind that the new guy isn’t you and if your relationship had been particularly good for the most part, then you can use that knowledge to your advantage (otherwise you really can't do anything about that now because you can't undo the past; best to take the experience as a lesson learned and try to show it to your ex and hope she is STILL open or receptive to it after giving space). Keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though it seems like the opposite. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html So make sure you don't taint your ex's memory of you by making those awful mistakes I talk about on my other vids. Your ex is likely rebounding, especially if yours had been a long-term or serious relationship. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/CykpZV0OIsE/видео.html But don’t rely on that fact alone. Learn to play your cards right as well and go by these principles: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html Good luck!
she texts me pretty often for no real reason other than catching up, or just trying to have a conversation, even though shes in an obvious rebound rn which is confusing me a lot
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ruclips.net/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/видео.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses his/her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/bgOG9s1fac8/видео.html
Really appreciate the channel Brad. I've found comfort with the videos. I really miss my ex, but the relationship wasn't good for us. The emotional stuff was great but we couldn't offer each other the security we needed to grow together . I'm just rebuilding myself and my life. The hard part Is giving up on THAT shared future... knowing the right thing to do doesn't stop me thinking about them. I want them back but I'm not in the right place to pursue her.
This is why it's important to focus on yourself and rebuild your own life first. Nobody's perfect and no relationship is perfect, but you can be the best version of yourself. The best time to do that is when you're single since there aren't any distractions! :-)
I did no contact for one month and while doing no contact I followed his guide to make my self busy and do some exercise. But after no contact I didn't realize that I moved on a bit it's like I just don't care about her anymore even tho we've been 2 years and 4 months. When I think about giving her a chance if ever she wants one I don't feel like giving it, and I love this way I have to move on fully because being in a relationship is hard. Thanks brad about the no contact u made me stop spending nights of crying to someone who doesn't even give a value to the tears I shed and the pain I felt, I feel a lotlre better now
Hey, I'm happy for you! Yes, this should be the stage everyone should reach, regardless of whether or not their exes come back. You have to be happy within yourself first and not need anyone before you can be truly ready for a relationship.
Your all principles do work brad!can you please make a video of how to comfort your loved ones when they are in stressful situation,like loss of their parent
That isn't my forte, but I suggest you offer your sympathies and try to offer your help, but never impose or force yourself into someone's life. Just let them know you're ready to lend an ear if they need someone to talk to. But don't go waiting for that to happen, make sure you go about your own life too. Good luck!
Hopefully i can move forward easily after of how many times he lied and make me fool🙏🙏🙏
It will still hurt but yes, if you have all the facts you need, then it should be easy or won't take as long than if you didn't have all the facts. This can only be possible if you help yourself as well.
Our breakup was the nasty one...things were not working for both of us for about 2 months...he brokeup with me 2 weeks ago...i was begging and pleading for another chance but he said he has already given me so many chances. Since then he somtimes become polite with me and sometimes become so rude...today i have started a no contact rule after watching your videos..i dont know wether i will get my ex boyfriend back or not...🥺
Begging won't help. You need to give him time and space first, so redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ruclips.net/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/видео.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/6K3xufEwEFg/видео.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi I want my ex back 😊 we are not talking since last 17 days. But I really want him back in life
Wait til you reach the 30-day mark. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
Hi Brad, it’s been 2 months since the breakup and I’m obsessed with the situation still. He broke up with me because of my toxic behavior. I didn’t process anything at all because I drank like crazy for the first month apart, and have only been improving myself for the past month. We sort of reconciled in the last 3 weeks where I wrote him a letter of apology for my behavior while drinking. He forgave me but doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. I kept trying to reach out and he’s nice and always answers but I can’t hang out with him as a friend it’s too painful. It doesn’t seem to bother him as much.
So I’ve been doing full no contact now for 1 week and plan on going for 30 days. We are coworkers but we don’t work directly together so we only just cross paths from time to time. My question is : in my situation do you think it’s too late for the no contact to be effective ? Is there still a chance ?
Work on yourself first and stop making this reconciliation a priority, because that desperation will show. I know it's painful, but try to be more constructive with your coping mechanism so you'll actually feel good as a result instead of putting you in a downward spiral. As to your chances, I really wish I could give you a direct yes or no. However, as it is, each situation is unique, so I suggest you take the free quiz as it hits on the critical elements that will determine your chances depending on your answers. In other words, my quiz can give you a more accurate answer than I can since as you may have noticed, there are various factors at play here which needs to be looked at as well as your own actions after the breakup. Here's the link: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Best of luck!
Hey Brad! My ex does a thing where she follows people she recently broke up with and I feel like she is doing the same with me. Should I unfollow her? I want to get her back and we only been together for 4 months.
I also read this quote "Some people don’t love you, they don’t even care about you. They just want to stay connected to you. They love the benefits. So they do the minimal. A little phone call here and there, just checking. What they are really doing is maintaining the connection, so when they need, they still have a way in."
Don't follow her if it's only going to distract you from healing. Maybe stop trying to look at your ex's profile/messages/snaps, posts, etc.? An essential part of the "no contact" rule is to turn your focus inwards for a good 30 days, and looking at what your ex is doing and whatnot largely deviates from that point, don't you think?
It has been a month that I have not contacted my ex-girlfriend and she is still blocked me on the social media and I do not know how to solve this problem
Unless you've done something really epic to mess up things, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
I’ve been watching a lot of your videos recently and as each day goes on I’ve been trying to follow your rules and tips to get her back but each day I’m starting not to even want her back I go to the gym I got a new car maybe moving forward instead is best
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!
Hey Brad, today is my 15th Day of NC. I really have no idea what's going on in his mind. The biggest heart break is yesterday i lost my uncle due to cancer ..im going thorugh a very tough phase. Unfortunately I don't have his shoulder to lean on. It hurts so much. A week ago I didn't even wished him on his birthday intentionally ... To make him realise my worth an value. I just want to recover from this phase of my life asap. Cause this heart break is beyond my capacity to control my tears.. He haven't blocked me in what's app and FB, and I really don't know how to initiate conversation after 30 days of NC.. Before 15 days I cried million tears and was begging and pleading him to be with me. But he didn't responded to my plights properly and gave me mixed signals. I'm so confused, baffled and bewildered.
Sorry for your loss. Don't rush it, though. Healing takes time. You can see it as an opportunity to grow, learn what you can from the relationship and/or how to correct the issues and whether or not it can still be fixed. But first off, take time to heal first and this is exactly what the "no contact" rule for 30 days is about. Anyway once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
Guys believe me,online games is very helpful to move on with your ex.
Make sure there's balance. Take time to grieve, play, eat, and take care of yourself.
My wife and I split about 40 days ago and she said she wanted out. I would have problems at working thinking about her and I get sad and cry. So sometimes I would call her to just say hello. We texted like a couple times a week. I was gonna do no contact but I just felt the need to talk to her. Sunday I texted and asked if I could call her during lunch break she said sure. We talked about 20 minutes and then I said it was nice talking to you thanks for picking up. She then texted me before I got off and told me she was getting tested for Covid-19 and we texted the rest of the day. We exchanged pictures and videos of what we took in the past and I told her that this was the happiest I’ve felt in a month. She then said well I wanted to talk to you too. The next day she didn’t text me at all. I gave her the whole day to text or call me and I finally tried calling her to see how her day was. She texted me it was a mistake texting you yesterday I didn’t wanna give you the wrong idea. After she just said that she wanted to talk to. What should I do?
Sorry to hear that. How long has it been since the divorce was finalized? When did all the trouble started and what has caused it? These are my top two marriage videos which may help: y2u.be/WU0yhd3ADXU and y2u.be/W_vzHFqnasM but it's really challenging for me to know where to give you a headstart, knowing only so little of the situation... Sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
following your advice is the reason why i never got back together with my ex. he had admitted he was still in love with me and would consider a second chance maybe until i followed your advice incredibly foolishly. i had commented several times under videos to no avail, and actually had to cut out my ex. while i am glad he and i aren’t back together, for anyone reading this, take his advice with a grain of salt or you’ll end up like me.
Sorry, while I try to be as attentive as possible, there are simply too many comments on here that I can't get to everyone at once. Anyway re your situation, the connection couldn't be that strong judging from both your reactions. If he supposedly is still in love with you yet can bare not talking to you for a very long time (I assume you followed the "no contact" rule) and is okay with you "striving" from the breakup and building your own life without your ex. That is if you have applied the tips here: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
4 months ago i got rejected . She was love of my live. But i thought i past it , I saw her 3 days ago in club. I don't know what to do, I'm only thinking about her. Sholud i try again or leave it.
Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you since you know your relationship and your ex better than anyone else on here. And alas, not every ex is worth all the trouble. It's up to you to decide who is worth fighting for at one of the toughest of battles you face in your relationship. Best of luck!
Me n my ex.. Both knew the no contact rule.. We both followed it n got separated for evermore... 😥😥
That's no news. The "no contact" rule usually comes naturally to the dumpers. Learn the 3 basic phases I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. It helps to learn the basics of my 3R system here first, so you'll have an idea on how to go about it on your end: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html
My ex and I have a child together but she got to talking to this guy over snap chat (was long distance)and left me for him she left our child and animals and just left. I can't pay for personal help. She has been gone for 4 weeks now and I'm so confused because she just bailed.
He is now moving down to be with her and I'm terrified
They have never met so I'm hopeful that this will fizzle out so any advice would be appreciated.
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Take care!
lol we’ve been in no contact for over 6 months and he still hates me
This video is more appropriate for you: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html
Hey brad,
Hope your doing fine and healthy. 1st I want to thank you for your support..
After my break up i fully stopped contacting with my ex after 15 days he reached me..
It been more than 6 months since than, he is in contact with me he acts hot and cold, he helps me, supports me, also show his concern about me but he doesn't want to meet me. He's still determined not getting back..
he Also keeps telling me not to waste my time dreaming getting him back.
I can't make it progress..don't know what to do now..
I'm good, thanks. And you're welcome! Always happy to help whenever I can and as much as I can. Maybe stop trying to meet up with him? Just put that thought aside for a good while. Meet up with your friends instead and/or new people and try to enjoy life as much as you can without your ex in it. That is really key. As much as possible, let him initiate the meetup which is why I suggest you stop bringing it up altogether. Anyway you're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Did you two end up getting back together?
I know this sounds dumb but what about our favorite songs that we listen to and they remind me of them thats the hard part because I love my playlist
This is really all within your control. Change your playlist maybe? Add songs that will help YOU process the breakup, not one that will remind you of your ex.
Damn Brad. I have watch ur videos for about 2 weeks now. I have dealing here with break up. My girlfriend left me about 6 weeks ago and i have move on my own place now. I love her, she's the sun of my life, best woman what i have ever encounter ( i know there's plenty fish in the sea)
I wish i could somehow email u and start to progress heal myself and making progress get my love of my life back. Please see this message Brad, and help me to get started privatly. Im ready to get your all quides personally :)
Coming to your own personal power is great! I look forward to see what you have to say. To book a one-on-one/ private email session with me, sign up at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching when there's availability. Talk soon!
My ex decided to try to make it work with her husband for their kids sake despite how terrible he is to her. I sent her the clean slate text and she responded that she was sorry she hurt me and I will find pure happiness. So...now what ?
Move on from her. Don't deal with her if she's still married. Wait for her to divorce him and even then, you still ought to give her space. This is why married women are complicated, man. You know you deserve better.
Ex dumped me 6 months ago.. and apply NC and text her but she's very angry at me and I didn't wish her birthday. She says she hurts a lot and don't want to see me. SIR PLZZ HELP ME.. U r the my last hope.
What happened? Watch this first to help set your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: ruclips.net/video/TnZzeEIPEik/видео.html If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
I love my ex way to much and I have hope that we can work things out.
Wht about 3rd party situation...plz help me out of this situation...
There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together after giving each other some time and space apart. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Someone asked me the same question as you and here's what I told them, refer to the second question: ruclips.net/video/9Fgc5F9Ck5Q/видео.html Take care!
Is it normal to want your ex back even when they cheated on you
It is, but it may not be healthy. There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together after giving each other some time and space apart. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Someone asked me the same question as you and here's what I told them, refer to the second question: ruclips.net/video/9Fgc5F9Ck5Q/видео.html Take care!
What do I do if I already unfriended him all over social media ? I know I wasn’t suppose to but I messed up
It doesn't matter really. Just move forward and work on yourself.
Nice 60fps video format , sliperry smooth💖
Me and my ex broke up a week ago and I’ve been doing no contact for 6 days now. I hear that all she does is post pics of her going out or post a lot a quotes that seem to target the break up. Some seem sad. She even still watches my story. What could this mean??
Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/pu0bGkDAMZ0/видео.html
Yall i dont believe unblocking or unadding ur ex or girl that rejected you is petty, do what you need to, to get them off ur mind
What happened in my relationship none of these videos match it we started and stopped this from a week he had some problems at home and was really upset that's the why we had to stop but I know he really loved me the night before we break up he talked to me well and said I love you also after the break up he said but I have to do this but few days ago he told me I can't bear this pressure so I changed my all plans and started over again with the current situation if I send a msg he reply if I don't leave a msg he doesn't chat with me all of these happened because of his dad my ex also a bit stubborn I know he really loves me but I afraid with this pressure he has he will changed will he forget me what can I do to get him back
If he's going through some tough stuff and he's pushing you away, then definitely respect his need for space and don't bother him. Work on yourself instead and your own healing. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
Can you make a video on how to get over your ex during quarantine!
It shouldn't be any different! If you're trying to move on, this video is for you: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html
Your so right, only if you dont think to him and focus on your own life maybe we get results. He dont deserve so mutch atention if he dissipear without any explanation. Was hard but with this no contact times i realise that i was so naive woman waiting for an man who even dont say anything,just dissipear. Then let him go. Bye bye.
What to do if the breakup happened 5 years ago???
Watch this first to help set your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: ruclips.net/video/TnZzeEIPEik/видео.html If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
I want to stop thinking about my Ex I don't want her anymore but I still think of her it's almost been 2 years
It does take work, man. Try not to think about it too much. It will happen naturally and you'll find yourself happy as a clam before you even know it! :-)
My score was 67 we broke up for 5 months then he removed me from fb and I sent him message telling him he always step back and never know how to do a next step ! Please tell me how to fix that
Yeah, drama is really the last thing you need right now. Give it some time before you contact again. When you do, use the texting tips on my videos!
What if he pulls away because he has personal issues (which have nothing to do with me. I would say he almost got depressed because of his problems) that he needs to resolve ‘cause he just can’t keep on going like this? I don’t think that we really broke up (6 months relationship), I would rather say that he needs time alone to concentrate and work on these issues so I am giving him space but I’m still afraid to lose him.
I’m into week 3 of no contact. Should I reach out and ask how is he doing or should I wait for him to contact me first? I really don’t know what to do and I miss him so much.
Did he specifically say it was just a break? Be careful not to twist the information as you could be stuck in denial and you really need to heal from that. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/QPJprJuf-iU/видео.html
Hey Brad , a couple months ago I screwed up my last relationship by making a terrible decision and smoking in front of her when she didn’t want me to I tried talking to her today but she said bcuz of it she’s still not looking forward to a relationship and it would be better off if we were friends maybe bht still it wouldn’t be the same so I need help ASAP thank you !
Yeah that behaviour must've turned her off big time. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ruclips.net/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/видео.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
I am continuing my no contact period from last 3 weeks. I am still blocked. Will this no contact strategy work?
Unless you've done something really epic to mess up things, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ruclips.net/video/5UT92IB5ugs/видео.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html Good luck!
quality content Brad.
Thanks!
She dumped me before 2 months.. I done a no contact and now I started to spoke to her.. and she talk nice but she says we are friends... And she is talking like a stranger , and she ask me to tell only what is the purpose of doing phone call.. ?? How to convince her. But now she isn't angry...
Yeah, that's awkward. Why'd you call, though? I always suggest texting. This way, you will get a chance to reply or think of a witty reason to contact. The silence or pause in a phone conversation is just terrible, faced with that question. Watch and learn from this vid first: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html
That’s how it’s starts , it was weird for me acting like we’ve never been in a relationship and everything was like , you’ll be fine , you’ll work it out , you’ll be happy there , ect it’s all single no plural , unless you’ve got kids ect together, it’s hard to just jump out of the blue and ignite the flame , you got to let the dumper start a conversation, otherwise your in for a shock when you ring
How do you apologize when you cheated her, how do u apologize her after 2 years brad please reply
The best thing to do right now is to admit to your ex that you've effed up and try to be patient and sympathetic with what your ex is going through and just disappear from your ex's life for a while, because right now, you are a constant reminder of the pain and your ex needs to heal from that first. And saying sorry is not gonna fix that right away, it takes time. By cheating, you're automatically putting the ball in your ex's court and have lost privilege to take your power back in all this. It's up to your ex now and how soon they can forgive you and move on from the incident, not necessarily from the relationship although some people do that. With that in mind, these may help: ruclips.net/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/qnE192fUKxI/видео.html Whatever you do, make sure you avoid doing the stuff here that will only push your ex further away: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo
What do I do when my family brings him up
Discuss briefly and then change the topic.
I still want to thank you for your videos during my time being apart from my bf. We are back together and all thanks for your tricks in the book. Would u be able to guide me to the videos on how to keep it healthy the 2nd time around?
Yeah, you have to do more work to ensure your relationship stays healthy. Review my guide and/or watch these videos to help you further: ruclips.net/video/jjrOpxa-wfI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/v9mVzh2NVAc/видео.html or from a more recent advice here as well: ruclips.net/video/-OqYy_DqNJc/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/8gc53SzHrac/видео.html All the best! :-)
I’ve broken up recently and I’ve started the 30 day no contact, the reason she broke up is still a question mark for me, she claims she wanted a time to be alone and didn’t want to date anyone at the moment but i love her so deeply i can’t let her go this easily. My quiz score was 74 and she hasn’t showed any signs of wanting to come back......yet. We were together for 7 months but everything, the connection and everything was more than that period
is there any hope for me?
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/видео.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
I broke up with my ex months ago because she was toxic with me and it devastated me because i have feelings for her. Now im talking to her again but she has a boyfriend and im still in love with her. I feel she is using him as a rebound but maybe im mistaken. When i told her have feelings for her she said that i texted that in a bad time because she is convincing herself to break up with him but she wants to keep trying to fix things with him. And now that she is living extremely close to me is driving me nuts.
Don't deal with her if she's still trying to figure stuff out with the other guy. Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ruclips.net/video/hlikXIfMYN8/видео.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
I would never date someone just to make myself happy. It could cause the new partner a heartbreak
Find someone who's also looking for the same thing as you. But the concept here is to NOT get a tunnel vision of your ex being the end-all be-all which in turn will not cause you to act desperate, okay?
I've been with him for 2 years i just found out that he was cheating on me for 10 months n he's still with her, he said he still have feelings or for me n don't wanna loose me as a person in his life stating that there is nothing serious between them and that is not lasting..
I love him n i really want him back but I'm so confused right now
Actions speak louder than words though, especially in this case. Anyway really sorry to hear that. There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together after giving each other some time and space apart. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ruclips.net/video/m27TLeyUmwg/видео.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place. Someone asked me the same question as you and here's what I told them, refer to the second question: ruclips.net/video/9Fgc5F9Ck5Q/видео.html Take care!
Just broke up after almost 9 years....she just said she is fed up and won't say anything more...can't sleep or do anything because we always put on call and sleep and the first thing in the morning is call up and talk.....it hurts so bad....I feel like I'm dying.
Sorry to hear that. Yes, a breakup from a long-term commitment is extra painful. Right now though, you both need that time apart. Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ruclips.net/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/видео.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ruclips.net/video/xgR03RcU8mw/видео.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ruclips.net/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/видео.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
What if we still lived together?😭😭
If you still live with your ex, then do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk AND y2u.be/GTjEAGJWTuA I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
I just want these videos to work 😩
It won't work by itself. Make sure you follow the tips religiously. Some people deviate from it or modify it. Just do YOU first is what matters. Stay safe!
You know, coaches say not to unfriend your ex on social media as that makes a person look petty, but yet we are to appear as if we are moving on. I don’t keep exes in my life as friend in person, so why would I keep them as a friend on social media? If my ex doesn’t want me a part of their life In person why would I keep them on social media? This does not make sense to me.
It makes sense if you want your ex back, assuming that's what you're aiming for since you're on my channel. The reasons are here: ruclips.net/video/D1GpR5MApQk/видео.html
How do you stop thinking about them when you live together?
If you still live with your ex, then do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk AND y2u.be/GTjEAGJWTuA I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Brad I'm not sure if you remember my past comments on how my break up happened (gf left because I did not contact her for a month). But anyway today after 2 months of separation, she text me that she miss me, tbh I did not want to reply back I miss you too but I had to because of the unique situation and reason of break up. And she also sent me her pics and was emotional, ended our conversation there.
What should I do now ? I want her back in my life so bad but I'm not showing her that I'm desperate and needy. We are in LDR and she usually comes to our town once or twice a year. After break up we both text each other sometimes but I do it rarely just to ask how she's doing and ask about her parents. I see signs that she still loves me and miss me but idk if she wants me back.
That's right. Don't be desperate and needy. Nothing much to do here but to do stuff for yourself and become a better version of yourself. From my previous advice as well as my other videos, I supposed you're already aware how distance plays a major role though, right? Anyway follow the tips here: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
Hi Brad! I did no contact two months ago and it worked! He contacted me and wanted to give the relationship another chance. Unfortunately we both didn’t learn enough from our mistakes the first time.... we had a fight and he blocked me on instagram and my number. A week later he blocked me on snapchat too... he also did this the first break up, i feel like this is his way of having control? He didn’t block facebook yet, i think he’s testing me to see if i’ll reach out on there. Will no contact work a second time?
Aw that was close! Yeah, any type of drama will only set you back, so if you can, be the bigger person and just ease up, all right? After all, it takes two to fight or argue. And yes, your best bet is still to follow the "no contact" rule and this time, make sure you take your time to really be in a better state to deal with each other before even sending out the first text so you'll have a better shot at success on the next try, yeah? In your case, given what happened, he may not be receptive to your contact after the 30-day period, so do your best to extend it and give him more time. Best of luck!
Hello idol. Watching from Philippines
Hey thanks for watching! :-)
Brad, i am giving my ex no contact. She calls and says she hates me. What do i do
Don't get sucked into the drama. Just end the conversation politely. In the meantime, watch this vid coz it may help you out: ruclips.net/video/PN-07kAtIjw/видео.html
Great tips.
I appreciate the support. If it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t done so yet, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it, too! :-)
Brad I need help....losing her is taking away my happiness...please in box me
I thought that's what my videos have already been doing. :-) Anyway as what so many people here are already doing, you may also leave a comment detailing your situation (keep it concise, please) and I'll get back to you the soonest I can. So state your situation in a separate comment because I can't backtrack even if I wanted to, got to move on to hundreds of new comments added daily. However, if you need my full attention where I focus in on and prioritize your situation or need a response as soon as possible, feel free to sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Do video a video on how to get over a rebound relationship… it hurts a lot … I don’t know what to do !
Did you mean to say you were the rebound? The steps for healing are the same. If you're trying to move on, this video is for you: ruclips.net/video/01wvLSaS9_I/видео.html And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: ruclips.net/video/2CakOOSwIiY/видео.html
Hey brad, pls answer me. Me and my ex broke up our 6 months and 2 weeks relationship because I was not healthy mental state and immature, she has feeling for someone else and dumped me, and now they're in relationship. Right after no contact, I was get angry to her unconsciously because as I said before I was at my lowestmental health.
Before no contact, I had texted, apologized, begged and pleaded for 2 weeks. And then before I going no contact, I send message to her that I wanna give her space, heal and develope myself and also wanna distancing from her (subtly I kinda say I'm going to no contact). I unfortunately didnt send clean slate message before I went no contact and watch your videos.
Now I'm in 26 days of no contact. I'm developing myself better right now days and days passes by, but I think she's still with his new bf right now. I can't check she's single or not because she told me after our breakup that she want to keep next relationship is secret when she's with someone else, including me if we're back together she want to kepp the relationship is secret as she says. What should I do next Brad for my situation? Is there any chance for me in this situation? Pls need help. Note : We're in long distance relationshop.
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: ruclips.net/video/ZyJRphwDca4/видео.html This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ruclips.net/video/hlikXIfMYN8/видео.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in RUclips to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Heyy, Brad, I'm in day 21 of no contact and I dont think it has been effective on me personally, can I extend it beyond 30 days??? I'm definitely not ready, made no positive change and haven't changed my mindset, basically I have just been faking it, can I restart no contact though I havent contacted him at all despite him saying he still cares. After watching this video I just feel motivated to make a significant positive changes in my life, instead of obsessing about getting him back
Yes, you can extend the "no contact" phase if you're truly not ready yet. Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. The "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html
What if my ex contact me sometimes (we breakup almost year ago and we have had no contact for a while) and now we are having quite good relations so "no contact" could be getting him confused? In addition, he is the person who almost always initiate our contact
Don't you recognize an opportunity when you see one? :-) Your ex is opening the lines of communication which is a perfect opportunity for you to transition into phase two. Since you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule, and assuming you've done the "no contact" rule properly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ruclips.net/video/XonMtLFo000/видео.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html Good luck!
She just said she's "checking up on me" a few days ago ... i responded "thanks." then no response.. I just feel like there's no hope..
Depends on which phase you're on. Never skip the "no contact" part! Watch this to get an overview on what steps you ought to take in each phase: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Best of luck!
I never thanked you for all the advice. So thanks
You're welcome! Thanks for the support… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: ruclips.net/user/bradbrowning”
I blocked my ex because I was obsessing and trying to communicate with her through stories and posts… now I’m feeling better. Do I readd her? 9 weeks and 8 of nc except practical stuff.
Yaaaay first comment , great tips , but does it work in LDR ? Cuz he can date another girl , so is it okay to send one message every other day ?
Sorry to hear that. The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ruclips.net/video/GQY4N04uvtA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/видео.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I needed this 🙏❤️
Great! Hey, you never know who else can benefit, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
i know what you are saying is maybe true in my mind.......but i feel powerless to behave in any other way
I understand. Acceptance is key though. Just make a conscious effort to be mindful of things you do and make it less about your ex and more about you. It takes practice though and a lot of strength. You can do it! :-)
My ex broke up with me 2 months ago and we’re a few hours away but were involved for 8 months and since the breakup for a while spoke almost daily but in the past few weeks we’ve had few interactions and this past week had a bad encounter but tonight I apologised she replied twice twenty minutes apart saying ‘thanks’ and ‘you don’t need to apologise’. I didn’t reply as I’m trying to engage with the no contact for the next 30 or so days, am I doing this right?
Yes. Here's a quick overview: ruclips.net/video/7JtmVbDkblw/видео.html Best of luck!
Well... Do you really think that dating with someone new is the right way to get ex back? I really don't think so. It's nice advice for loose your love for ever, be sure... No contact plus dating new one never brings your ex back... Experiences from my life and people's around me.... Thank you for your time and effort to help, but I see that's way to make people feel better not get back someone they love.
You've already lost your ex the minute your ex ended things with you. In some, although not all cases, the dumper planned the breakup days, if not weeks or months before dropping the bomb. In other words, your ex has the upper hand from the get-go. Dating or getting to know someone new will keep you from heading towards a downward spiral where everything is hopeless. The lower your energy is, the lesser your chances of ever getting an ex back. A lot of people, although again, not all cases, have gotten their exes back using this method, assuming it's done correctly of course.
Hey Brad please answer. My ex filled a restraining order to get me to move out our place ASAP when we broke up. However, we still have a child together and text daily about the kid. She has trust issues and that caused her to want to break up. I think about her daily because daily she sends pictures of the kid. We are court ordered to only talk about the child but those text make me miss her very much. Any advice as to how I can stop dwelling on her and get her thinking about me. I can't do no contact.
Before you focus on how to get her thinking about you, try to see why she had to file a restraining order, that's a little worrisome, along with the trust issue. What really happened? I suggest you address the trust issue part, that's how you get her to start thinking positively about you. Give her a good experience... but first off, give her space first. Do limited contact. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ruclips.net/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/видео.html AND ruclips.net/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/видео.html
hey brad what if we made plans for christmas with her family before the break up? i’m in my second day of no contact. is it okay if i ask or if she asks if we still going to hang out?
If you can manage to do that without breaking down, yeah. Otherwise, it may be best to take some time to heal to process what happened. If she asks to still go together, however, then assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: ruclips.net/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/видео.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: ruclips.net/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/видео.html Best of luck!
It’s been 3 months of the breakup in a 16 year relationship,I’ve done no contact since day 3 of the breakup ( only time we message is to arrange and drop of our 4 year old daughter) my ex got with a new guy 2weeks after the breakup and moved in together after a month and got engaged after 2 months lol but on a serious note my daughter told me he punched her in the stomach,I know he’s got 6 domestic abuse charges against his ex and is a violent evil Person I’ve done my homework on him,so I tell my ex partner this and she laughed it off thinking I’m jealous but I promise to god I’m not,I know this is wrong and I’ll get told not to do it but I’m a ex boxer I’m waiting to bump into him and he’s going to get the worst beating of his life for hitting my daughter,I’ve never hit my daughter so what does he think he’s doing hitting her!! No one can change my mind he’s going to suffer for doing that to my 4 year old daughter.
Get custody of your daughter, man. It needs immediate action if that's really the case. Let your ex deal with the new guy, but remove your daughter from that environment asap.
I'm in the no contact thing rn and I just realized that when he cheated by texting girl 3 times through our relationship, I forgave him and he was changing,but I kept that anger about it cause I didnt have time to cope with it but now we on a break or break up he doesn't know what this is yet, that I have time to release thos anger and thought about what went wrong, should I text him about it now or after the 30 days?
Don't text him especially now that you're no longer in a relationship with him. Just observe if he fesses up and makes amends. It should rarely be the other way around if you're the one cheated on, especially multiple times.
Hey Brad I love your all the advice.
But my ex boyfriend is totally heartless, even I tried a suicide attempt but he doesn’t come back.
I have done this no contact rule. But my ex block me from everywhere.
I have followed your every advice from every video
What should I do now?
Sorry to hear it. You absolutely need to take care of yourself first before anything else. The change all starts from you. Silence is key and here's why: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Anyway things must really be awful for you to be feeling that way. Treatment and/or working with a counsellor will help you feel better. Get a referral from your doctor or call 1-800-273-8255 to talk to someone 24/7 who can connect you with help from a licensed counsellor for free. In all honesty, I do think you can probably get your ex back, but you need to make sure you're in a good place yourself first before you'll have a chance to do that, so talk to a counselor or call the number above if you need help getting there. All the best!
Brad😍Waitng fr ur video..
Haha thanks! Don't forget to hit that notification bell icon.
Mine is already 3 month, can we still get back?
Watch this first to help set your expectations: ruclips.net/video/OzVymYnQFTk/видео.html and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: ruclips.net/video/TnZzeEIPEik/видео.html If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ruclips.net/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/видео.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ruclips.net/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/видео.html and the golden rules here: ruclips.net/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/видео.html
I don’t understand how you start dating again. I don’t want to give girls false hope when my intentions are elsewhere.
Brad goodmorning
Hey thanks for dropping by! :-)
Hi Coach Brad,
My ex is the one who dumped me thru text message. He is the one who decided to end up things on us. I did not give him any confirmation or any of my agreement on his decision. Now he keeps on insisting for a formal closure. What will i do? i want to win him back. Im doing the no contact rule.
Just keep ignoring him until he basically comes to his senses and get to think about what he wants...because a closure really only tends to confuse you even more and will tend to leave more questions than answers. Stay strong!
Hey brad....i have been in a relationship for last one year....we had a lot of misunderstandings and fights....but he never stopped contacting me...suddenly he stopped contacting me...he even didn’t call me for last 1 month....but yes,he receives every time i call him...but always says he is busy...i contacted one of our mutual friends yesterday and he told me that he ( my boyfriend) is really busy but not that kind of busy where he cannot contact me Once a day...he is happy in his life...enjoying a new life....so....should i expect anything from him or just no hope????
Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ruclips.net/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/видео.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ruclips.net/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/видео.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
I love you Brad
Sending love back your way! Take care!
Before breakup we truly love each other but her friends and family opposed to me. I watched all ur videos since the breakup and follow as u say. 3 months ago she checked my insta But after 6 months of NC I texted her but she is very angry at me. And said "stay away from me, u hurt me a lot". I did mistake that I wish her friends birthday on social media bur her birthday forgot to wish. After contacting her I apply NC & today is 19th day. Ur my hope. Plzz help me SIR. What to do.
Try to reach out to her and get back to her good graces but don't force it. The friends and family's influence on her will dwindle over time, as you continue or try to rebuild the connection with her. The aim is to get her to an emotional neutral which you should watch my other videos for on how to do. Anyway until that happens, you really ought to work on yourself. Apply the tips here as best as you could: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html
Brad i keep on pleading and begging her to come back for two to three months now and she told me to stop calling her because she is in love with someone else now and she doesn't love me or want me anymore, please can no contact work for me again i seriously love her and want her back,brad i seriously need your help I mess up from the beginning please help me. what should I do answer please
The 30-day "no contact" rule can work for you in the following ways: ruclips.net/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/видео.html Your ex is diverting his/her attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his/her way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ruclips.net/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/видео.html So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: ruclips.net/video/gUBNd6pDINM/видео.html so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/TBtb34gy6zw/видео.html Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA
I have failed to control myself about thinking about him.
It's only normal especially if the breakup was very fresh. Just try to be mindful about how you spend your time and really help yourself heal and choose your own mental and emotional well-being first, then you'll see you're feeling so much better! best of luck!
I was dating this girl who wouldn't put as much efforts into our relationship as I would. And even though it was just for a few weeks, and that I could see so many red flags, she broke up with me today over some garbage reasons and I really miss her and feel like calling her. Is it normal and how long will this phase last?
That's just how she is, man. Don't try to change her if she's not the "commitment" type. Time to face the truth and never ignore those red flags.
Help me Brad.
I thought that's what my videos have already been doing. :-) Anyway as what so many people here are already doing, you may also leave a comment detailing your situation (keep it concise, please) and I'll get back to you the soonest I can. So state your situation in a separate comment because I can't backtrack even if I wanted to, got to move on to hundreds of new comments added daily. However, if you need my full attention where I focus in on and prioritize your situation or need a response as soon as possible, feel free to sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching