the worst thing about erythrophobia is being socially inclined and having to stop yourself from speaking because you know it will just draw attention to you. my erythrophobia is stronger right now than it’s ever been. i can’t make it through a single day without blushing even just once
Lindsay Madge im with you on that sis, its horrible😭 Its so strong atm, I literally cant even talk in front of my family while having dinner without makeup on...
cathryn - I’ve been there. It’s such a strange feeling, like you’re not even safe from yourself in front of your own family. i have my ups and downs with erythrophobia, and i’m in somewhat of a neutral period now. I actually tried hypnotherapy and had some success with it. you might consider trying it, but of course it’s best done in-person rather than from youtube 🤗 also, i’m here if u need someone to talk to ☺️
Elizabeth Soshina It honestly helps knowing we’re not alone... And yeah I really think we should get help, but I live in such a Small town, that I feel everyone would know my big secret😩 Im here if you wanna talk, youre NOT alone!!❤️
Same. Our nervous system can do some incredible things ... even if they're annoying AF. You are not alone, friend. The blood vessels are close to the skin and dilate causing the flushed look. For me, it's a reaction to cortisol (stress hormone). It's a histamine intolerance. Cortisol releasing in my body at the most random times and flushing appears.
What helped me was to exercise my social skills & my self esteem. Whenever I thought about blushing I said “who cares if I blush? It’s not like it’s illegal.” And it helped me chill 💓 you’re not alone guys
Thank you so much, as someone who has struggled with extreme facial flushing and the fear of it for just over 2 years I always feel so judged. Everything you said about school is the same as me, I don’t think other people réalise how much it affects me. My Spanish classroom is always so warm and I always go the most extreme red I can i hate it so much I miss school just to miss it, my friends don’t get why it affects me so much. But I feel ugly, weird and so disconnected sometimes. I hate it because I was always such a social person and I still am but when I’m inside in s small room I feel trapped. I feel like there’s no escape and everyone will think how gross I look when I blush. I’m going to try and follow your points and stay strong. Recently I’ve been so mortified by it I’ve left my friends parties and sat outside and cried, wanting the cool air to help me and my cheeks. I feel the heat in them and it makes me so uncomfortable I hate it. From now on I will make a promise to myself to never leave a social situation ever again due to it and I’ll try and keep talking not think about it and move on. Your videos about this condition moved me to tears and I’m so thankful to hear someone who thinks and acts exactly like me. 🙏 you are so incredibly brave to overcome your fear and I want to channel that bravery for myself. Thank you so much x
there is light at the end of the tunnel! at university, the library gets so hot sometimes, so I bought a fan! you can buy a fan and it'll keep you cool and keep a cold water bottle with you so you can drink the cold water to cool yourself, it really makes a difference!
@@alicewatts In my high school English class we occasionally had to do "socratic seminars" where we would all sit in a circle for 3 class days in a row and by the end of it you had to have contributed a minimum amount of things to the discussion in order to get a grade. V fun
Lisa Garcia I HATE that shit. It’s so hard to work up the courage to say something and when you finally do, no one fucking hears you or you feel like you’re interrupting people and being judged. AAAH.
@@tinygoblingrl I also had one in 6th grade! I couldn't work up the courage to say anything, and when other students called on me because I wasn't saying anything, and even the teacher, I panicked and said the dumbest shit that left everyone staring.
What you said about posture is very important too.! there are studies that show how some postures (superman pose, making yourself as big as you can...) affect your hormones, raising your testosterone and lowering your cortisol (stress hormone). It's actually a good hack for before a job interview: isolate yourself (in the bathroom for example) and adopt those postures for a few minutes and you will be perceived as more confident ! It's crazy !
no one knows my fear of blushing is the reason i wear foundation everyday...tomorrow i have a final at 7am and i am not about to put on makeup for that..im so nervous to go to school without covering my face but i need to push myself.....wish me luck :CC
omg me too i have one for 3 hours starting at 8 am tomorrow 😭 i try to tell myself that when i wear makeup i dont blush so what’s the difference without it but somehow my mind still doesn’t care
omg i’m just seeing this but i literally thought this was only me. i’m so glad i’m not the only one and that you have this too. i wear makeup everyday, my family gets mad bc i always do but i hate blushing.
Yes sadly you really have to put yourself in those situations so that they become easier. I say sadly because at the time it was the last thing I wanted to hear. I mentionned this in your previous vid but teaching is what improved my public speaking, which I used to be terrified of. In recent years I have been complimented on my public speaking and have been told specifically how lucky I am because I don't look nervous at all. This is mind blowing to me, because I think that I have struggled with this more than most people. My younger self wouldn't believe it. So to anyone reading this, if you feel like you're the shiest, least confident person in the world, just know that you can overcome it just like Alice, and just like me ❤❤
Alice Olivia, sweet beautiful young woman, I am 42 and also struggled my entire young life with erythrophobia. I cried with you throughout both of your videos. I wish I could have found you years ago and hugged you and told you all about my experience and assure you it will be ok. Today I rarely think about it, and I actually embrace my severe blushing as a unique trait I’m completely comfortable talking about. It makes me “me” and I wouldn’t trade it. I know it sounds crazy but it’s true. Your stories are so familiar and near to my heart. I also had nice teachers who allowed presentation alternatives. I almost did not graduate facing my French final, a public presentation in French that I refused to do in front of my peers (I was 22 at the time). My professor ended up changing his mind to make an exception at the last minute and told me I’d fail the class if I didn’t present to the class. My entire family was in town for my graduation so, in a state of terror, I did it. I was beet red in the face and a lovely blotchy red on my neck, chest, ears and arms. I ended my speech with the mandatory, “are there any questions?” A classmate raised his hand and asked, “Why are you so red and crazy blotchy?” I ran out of the class, but I did graduate. I’m so glad you are facing it head on (no pun intended). You are extremely courageous for working with this and not against it. I’m in awe of your public presence after what you’ve been through. You are on the best path to becoming the best you can be in many ways! I would love to chat or message you about my experience as an older woman who’s been there. I’d love to help you in any way I can. I can tell you this, I’m a better person for it! Let me know if you want to chat, send me your email or chat name. Thank you for sharing my friend. Robyn
Hi Robyn, You’re so sweet. Thank you so much for your kind words and thank you for sharing your experience with this. I’m so sorry that you’ve struggled with this too. I think in the end it has made us more compassionate people. I’ve sent you a friend request to stay in touch! :)
Robyn Layne I am 40 and struggling with this since 15. Lately i started having thoughts of just telling everyone around me that I have this condition, hoping that it will make it easier. Are you open about it with everyone?
Hello Robyn! Thanks for your sweet comment- just wandering if you can shared your experience also with me lol! I have been struggling with the same since 7th grade and hoping it can get improved one day-
I passed college at USF despite refusing public presentations. Grace from God. I'm 37 this March and it still exists but in a tiny spot. You simply become less self conscience. I was also anorexic and a long distance runner in high school, OCD. You want control and strength and no vulnerability. You simply relax, because you are true enough and smart enough and blessed by God enough to let go and get better.
I struggled all of my teenage yeara with erythrophobia. What helped me eventually is foundation, but most of all - instead of trying not to blush, I did the exact opposite! I TRIED to blush and when it sometimes happened I stopped fighting it, and eventually it stopped. You do not have to go through this alone ❤️
I suffer from social anxiety as well! I am the shyest person you will meet. Girl I was homeschooled in high school too! I love how confidante you are now and your so inspiring to so many people 😘😘😘 Loved this video girlie.
I almost killed myself because of erythrophobia. I couldn't see a way out. I actually had what I feel to be a spiritual experience (some sort of transcendent awakening caused by constant meditation) that cured by problem. Before this, jobs were impossible. I even blushed and had anxiety around my family. The biggest help for me was both the spiritual experience which destroyed the remaining anxiety immediately, and also actually *trying* to blush. Resisting a blush is what causes it. Conversely, it's impossible to blush if you're actively trying to blush. You cannot blush by trying to blush, only by trying not to. The other thing is, that nobody actually cares (and will hardly ever notice) when you, or anyone else, blushes. If you're nervous or anxious, then sure, you might make them a little nervous too, but the actual physiological response of blushing will never make anyone uncomfortable (if they even notice). More generally with anxiety, I took the approach of trying to be as anxious as possible. I ended up giving up trying to calm myself down all the time. Instea, I tried to panic as much as possible! Counterintuitively, this will calm you down. It's really impossible to be anxious when you're actively trying to be anxious.
Alice, thank you for the videos about erythrophobia!! Your are brave and courageous to talk about that! I was crying watching them and nodding at every word that you use to describe how you felt, I had the same experience. The fact that I grew up in the different part of the world and had the same experience showed how wired we (humans) are. I am 39 now and I had been struggling with this since I was a teenager. And only yesterday I discovered that there is a legal term to describe the fear of blushing! Back when I was a teenager and whenever I tried to talk about this with my parents, they answered the same: "Just don't pay attention and it will stop!" But we all know that's it's easy said than done. I felt a relief knowing that it's a phobia and I am not alone with that! It's feels challenging even to talk about that, especially now when I am a grown-up and I am supposed to be perfect (at least that's the message we get a lot from - "perfect!") And having you face and neck red is not "perfect" so, it's a big break through for me to finally find out what is "that" and I feel that now I am ready to admit it and try to smooth its effect on my self esteem. You are a beautiful person and thank you for talking about this!! 🌸🌻🌼
Great advice! I’m 37 years old and have always blushed easily. Blushing made me feel shy and prevented me from doing and saying things that I wanted to. I have been focusing on being in the present moment which has really helped me overcome my fear of blushing. Your advice on when you blush to push through it with confidence and eventually your blushing will go away, is true. Furthermore, if you don’t think of blushing as a negative attribute, people are more likely to perceive your blushing as attractive, healthy and honest 😊
I am so happy that i finally found a video that covers this! I've been struggling with fear of blushing for about 7 years now (18 years old). I believe it started in 6th grade when I accidentally burped in the classroom and everyone stared at me and I remember feeling so humiliated and i was completely panicking. From that day on I experienced it more often but i hadn't developed a fear for it yet. So fast forward to 7th grade when I had to do a presentation and i turned bright red and someone pointed it out and said: 'You are all red'. No shit sherlock, it's not like it feels like my face is on fire. And so on I developed a fear of it and a fear of presenting in front of people. But it wasn't until about two years ago that I realized that I had this problem. For all those years (and still) I had been avoiding a lot of social interactions. I'm even afraid of talking to my own family. I fear everything and i am very insecure. But I really want to do something about it. I really need and want a job, but I have been putting it off for about a year now because I am too afraid to apply and all the stuff that comes after that. I will have to talk to peers and other people and I am afraid that I am not capable of this. But the thing is, I really really really want it. And I really want to live a happier life where I can do all the things I want to do and be happy with myself. So, this summer, I want to work on myself and push myself to become a better and happier me. Forgive me for my rambling.
Simone Rietveld girl i understand you. ive been putting off a job FOR THIS EXACT REASON. it literally sucks ass and i hate myself for it !! im pretty sure mine started when i was young too, im 100% sure it started during middle school bc i moved halfway through and didn’t know anybody at my new school so it was difficult to make friends. every time i would try talking to people they would just ignore me and it was so embarrassing that i had no friends lmao. im a junior in high school rn and blushing fr limits me from doing so many things!! i don’t have a fear of talking in front of people i just have a fear of going tomato-face from it. it’s sucks but i feel you :/
Thank you for your bravery, I have too lived with this blushing fear for almost a decade. For me it was unreleased trauma and inability to feel comfortable in my vulnerability that made it so painful, at one point I didn't want to be here anymore, I had no hope for healing. I also shared my story here on youtube!
I turn red when I’m telling a story to my family, asking or answering a question in a meeting or whenever I feel that the attention is on me. It’s the most uncomfortable experience because not only my face is red but my chest too. I’m pushing myself everyday to not let these situations keep me from say my opinions or asking a simple question and after I’ll do it I feel so proud of myself for not letting the red situation stopping me for be or say I want. I start to see this as I gift, the gift that my face shows how honest and truthful I’m being with the things I’m saying. I didn’t wear blouses that expose my chest from the fear that people could see it. It’s their problem not mine . This is who I am and I’m not gonna change to not bother others. It’s more important for me the feeling that I’m trying things despite I turned red. You’re not alone in this and you’re doing the best you can. ❤️
I'm 13 and I do suffer from this it's very mentally exhausting, it definitely has taken a toll on my life, i sometimes can be socially awkward but at times I blush really badly for no reason. I do think instead of trying to hide or cover your face you should embrace yourself and throw yourself out there, i promise you this will encourage you to talk to people more and overcome this fear IT IS POSSIBLE! I would recommend when going to a store asking someone where to find something or voluntarily answering a question in class I promise people don't care as much as you think they do,we are all human everyone has their insecurities. You just have to take that leap!
this video gives me so much hope, i feel like my erythrophoia hasn't improved at all but listening to what you've been through and how similar it is to my situation it shows me how far i've come and how much further i can go
You are not alone. The cool thing about finding videos like Alice's - is that we see we are not alone. Whether the flushing is your face, chest, neck, or ears... there are so many of us out in the world. I'm relieved to know we are in this together.
I hope you are doing okay Alice. I'll try and make this short...32 year old male and I've really been struggling with this for like 4-5 years now. I have rosacea also, found that much out in 2018 but my face is slightly red ALL the dang time anyway! I wear shorts in the winter and my face always feels hot, even if I am just sitting by myself. In 2020, I was so embarrassed that I actually tried wearing makeup myself, simply just to go to my little sister's wedding. Still trying to get over this junk as of today...I've gotten a little better but not much. Honestly you are so right! I think anyone else who has this problem just needs to slowly just put yourself out there. Or maybe start each day having a conversation with a random stranger in the store, or gas station, at school, ect whatever. Think by doing this will boost my confidence and exercising mite as well I think. I feel for you so very much, because no one who has never even had the fear of blushing, can even begin to understand what it's like. The depression and anxiety is very real. I have friends and family who thought I abandoned them for a year...simply due to the fear of my red face turning even redder. Keep making cool videos and I'll try even harder to overcome and beat this shizz! Take care 👉😎👈
It’s been 2 years that I’ve been afraid of blushing. The first time I reslly was afraid of blushing was when I was in 8th grade. Of course, a presentation and someone calling out the fact I was red as a tomato. I grew so hot and thinking about it truly made me worse. All throughout 9th grade i couldn’t make any new friends. Thankfully we didn’t have to present so much and whenever we did it was a power point. Over the summer break I realized how sad and desperate I was for new friends, because the current ones I have are mean. Hopefully throughout the year I could make a couple new friends, and maybe even talk to my crush! Thank you for making this video, it really opened my head and realized I’m not alone and that blushing is completely normal and that just like almost every other fear is you just have to overcome it and the more times you do it, the more comfortable you get!
@@dritkul9329 ive just stuck around with the "mean friends" i have. most of my teachers rarely make us present in class (before covid). my freshmen year i had one teacher who made us present for every project we did. i asked if she could turn the lights off since it was a powerpoint presentation 99.9% of the time and she allowed it. i usually only stuck with raising my hand if i knew 100% if a question was right to avoid embarrassment. i hope this helped someway.
I'm dealing with the same thing right now as well (i'm 18) but it has definitely become better since it has started (i was 14). I'm literally experiencing the same things and feelings as you did and I 'm so glad that some people started to deal with this problem.when my body temperature rises before blushing or when im stressed Im sweating too which makes my life really hard,especially that I'm a girl(eg. I have tried loads of deodorants and searched for cure,i cant wear certain kinds of clothes).As I mentioned I'm struggling with it it nowadays too but I'm working on it really hard to get rid of it in the future. It is really helpful that I try to put myself in social interactions but I still hate to speak in front of class. Basically I'm not a really shy person and I often enjoy social gatherings but you can see that a person like me can have this problem too. I'm still feeling depressed and need to cry about it sometimes but it's ok because I think I'm now used to these situations and accept that its part of me. I just hate the feeling that it sometimes makes me a "different"person. I'm from Hungary btw and I want to thank you for your videos because these help so much during my "recovery".❤ For others I just want to say that you should know you are not alone, fight but don't take things so seriously, enjoy your everydays and don't waste your life with worrying! ❤
Thank you so much for making this video. When i looked up erythrophobia on RUclips, it mostly shows all these clinical treatments to take. I’m happy i found your video because its so nice to actually hear someone understand what you’re going through as opposed to someone just telling you different kinds of medical treatment. Im dealing with erythrophobia right now and i can relate to so much of the stuff you’re talking about. It all started in grade 4 when I had to present but it went away for a long time. Then it came back in grade 10 and has worsened now that I’m in grade 11. I really want to fix my social anxiety because i constantly think about it even when it makes absolutely no sense why I’m doing it. I literally get a red face over almost everything even in places where i would normally feel comfortable. I can feel it start to take over my life and i want to fix it. Im truly happy for you that you’ve improved so much and i really hope that happens to me some day. And ik this video was posted like a year ago but i just wanted to say something and speak out.
Agreed! It's refreshing to hear people talking about acceptance and how they actually live WITH this. I haven't found a 'cure' .... and actually am not sure I'm supposed to be after a cure. I'm after acceptance and see this as part of my self-love and self-care journey.
Amazing how wise you are at such a young age. Beautiful girl! Thank you for sharing this. I’m 29 and still struggle with this. I can relate to everything you said. Not near as bad as when I was in school. But I’ll do as u say, and force myself to face people even in the moment of my face turning red.
Omg, i've been looking for a video like this one for years. Just wanna say thank you for sharing your story, I felt so relieved when I heard you overcame this terrible situation. I also found a book which is called "heal your wounds and find your true self" it basically says the reason why we struggle with blusing is because we have to heal a wound called "humiliation wound", at a certain period of our lives, mostly in childhood we faced a situation where we felt exposed and ashamed that's why it triggers anxiety and fear, it says many things related to self-shame but the most remarkable for me so far it's that we have to heal our inner child and that experience from the past, allow yourself to feel anger and sadness and work on those situations ❤
Wow both of these videos really made me tear up, I have my first presentation tomorrow and I was nervous and found your videos. I had no idea what we have is actually a REAL phobia. Hearing what you had to say about all your experiences was very relatable. And it's really hard on someone mentally. I would love more videos or stories about this topic.❤
Thank you for sharing your experiences. Good on you for getting yourself out there. At the age when you were home schooling yourself and getting a job and going to classes and putting yourself out there I literally chose to run and hide and it's just sad that I didn't have your detirmination. I wrote a very long story below. Feel free to skip it you want. I feel like I related to many things you said and I know its different but I've literally isolated myself from everything for many years. I used to feel socially anxious but at the time I didn't realise that's what it was and over years I slowly isolated myself more and more bit by bit. Eventually at like 17 I got excluded from college because I'd never attend and after that I'd leave my house less and less and lost my friends. I needed to have major surgeries on my legs with a long recovery and I'd use that as an excuse to to not get a job or go back to studies but really it was my social anxiety. I'm 23 now. I don't have any friends, I don't have education and I havent taken care of myself and I feel depressed and like I'm no use to anyone. Isolating myself and choosing to run and hide from the situation rather than facing it was the worst thing I could have done because it took me further down that hole and now I'm legit feel terrified when I leave my house and my symptoms are 20x bad and even inside the house I struggle and obsess and panic over everything and cry a lot and i feel like I've wasted so much time. At the time I used to think that me isolating myself was a good personal choice and that it was protecting me and that I just wasn't interested in college and that I could stop my isolation any time I wanted and I didn't think anything was wrong with me but now I know there was and at the time I didn't realise the severity of what I was doing and how I'd impact my future. At the time all I knew was that it was easier being at home rather than facing what makes me anxious but I didn't realise the severity of how it'd impact my future and how vital that stuff was and how much harder it'd make my future. If I knew what I know now I'd have made myself stick it out or push myself to home school like you. The reason I'm saying this sad story is because Ive started therapy and I legit don't know how I'll build my social skills again or my confidence and self esteem and what I'll do with my life but your video gave me hope and made me think maybe there's a way. Its made me realise that yes social interactions are very hard rn for me but maybe if i push myself they won't always be that way. You're right that hiding myself won't help and i won't grow that way and that advice about pushing yourself to stay and let it pass and keeping good posture is good advice. I hope my long comment didn't bug you. I always get scared oversharing
I really feel for you. You’re so worthy and good for you getting the help you need and pushing through despite everything that life has thrown at you. I believe in you ❤️❤️❤️
Something that’s really helped me is rubbing mint essential oil on my temples and wrists and forehead. This cools down my face and let’s me focus on the coldness instead of blushing!
My experience has always been that I get red WHILE talking and then cool down again while the other person talks. For me it’s a feeling of deep shame about whatever I’m talking about. I feel like a fraud and then the anxiety hits bad and I lose my train of thought and it’s a horrible downward spiral! I was prescribed beta blockers from a doctor at age 20 which revolutionised my life! I only take them when I’m going to be out and socialising or for work. Highly recommend for anyone struggling with adrenaline-based anxiety. I still sometimes get red but they stop the fight or flight response and stop your heart from racing so that you can get your thoughts under control quickly. They were like my makeup. Unfortunately whenever I go off them the blushing comes back pretty much immediately.
@@josephinemontanez2086 Hi Josephine. I am only on a low dose of 10mg which works great for me. It has no real side-effects for me but I think it would be different for different people. Best to chat to a GP about it, but in general a small dose is enough for anxiety and it is not bad for you at all. Maybe just don't do any intense exercise (like running) for a few hours after taking as the drug will stop your heart rate from speeding up a lot so you might feel a little light-headed. Sometimes I sweat a bit under the arms because my body needs to release the anxious energy somewhere, but it's much better than being red and shaking!
I feel like I am literally talking to myself. In grade 6 is when I first started noticing my blushing. People made fun of me and bullied me so I would blush even harder. I remember feeling naked and scared of school because of the bright lights, presentations, and social situations. I remember the feeling of safety when the lights were turned off and nobody could see my face. It got so bad that I cried every night wanting to isolate myself from the world. Suicidal thoughts became constant and I got to a point where I was begging for any type of medication or solution to stop the blushing. By 11th grade, I was diagnosed with depression, SEVERE social anxiety, OCD, and panic disorder. All of these mental disorders started with erythrophobia. I was so sick of the judgment I got from blushing that I decided to homeschool junior year. I have lived my life in complete fear. Today i was feeling hopeless and full of anxiety. I went on youtube and found you in my recommend. I'm so glad I did. For once I don't feel hopeless. Thank you for talking about something that many people don't know about!
It's all about getting over the fear of blushing, the fear of it is what keeps blushing alive. Clonodine was my revolutionising medication but I started having really horrible side effects after about 6yrs of taking it. So came off it but then it wasn't as bad anymore because being on the medication for so long had trained my mind into realising it wasn't a problem anymore. I still blush but I'm not as bothered by it anymore. A woman at my sons nursery blushed a lot but I could tell it didn't bother her in the slightest, she would maintain eye contact and her demeanor would be completely relaxed as if she didn't even know it had happened. She literally didn't allow it to cause her ANY anxiety or uncomfortableness, she was totally fine with it. I think that's key
I am 24 and can't remember a time when I haven't blushed. I've always hated it because it allows people to make assumptions about my emotions, when in fact they're not true! Often times I blush without even knowing it, but people perceive it as embarrassment. It made me avoid many social interactions and public speaking, opportunities, but I got so tired of letting it control my life like that. When I was a senior in college I took my teaching practicum to teach English language and I almost dropped the class because I was too afraid. I decided I had to embrace the blushing, like you said you learned to do. You just have to keep talking and look people in the eyes and don't let your mind wander to the heat on your face. Now I teach ESL, and sometimes my students point out my "mejillas rojitas" but it's always in a sweet way. I think it makes me more approachable as a teacher as well. If you can learn to make it into something more positive, it really helps you move on. It also helps me to think of it as something kind of interesting, because not many people blush as prominently as us. How unique!
So glad someone made a video like this. It’s very helpful when you know you’re not going through it alone 💓 I found when I started college / a part time job and found more outgoing friends, that really helped with me. Obviously it still happens time to time but nothing goes away overnight and as long as you’re making small progress that’s a step towards happiness 💓
Agreed! The more people I find who talk openly about this, the more my confidence is boosted. My flushing is not my face. It's my neck and chest. It's so rare to find people who can relate.
You’ve just saved my life! I have suffered this for YEARS and I’m 20 years old and feel like I’m so behind! Now I’m going to put this in work and I’ll let you know what happens (even if you don’t care hahaha). THANK YOU so much!
We have very similar stories! It’s crazy to me... in grade 11 I was homeschooled and it got better then went back to school and it came back again. I also got a job and i was a hostess and was constantly talking to every costumer who walked in. Over the years I have learned to deal with it with honestly the same ways you did too! I wish I had a friend like you because I felt so alone and became very depressed. And to be honest I didn’t even know anyone else had this problem (severe blushing) and I’m so happy I came across this video because I feel less alone and can understand a bit more why I blush.
I see someone I know in public BLUSH! I see someone I like or I think is cute BLUUUUUUSH! My friends or family ask me a question BLUSH! Anyone messes around with me BLUSH! I mess up in front of someone BLUSH! A customer at my job is mean BLUSH! I get scared or nervous BLUSH! It’s so tiring to have to plan around possible bouts of blushing. I don’t want to spend an hour everyday on my makeup, but THINKING about someone seeing me red makes me blush. I’m mentally exhausted and wish I could do and say whatever I want.
Same for me as a guy, which I feel is a little worse becuase you are expected to be confident as a guy, whereas if a girl is blushing or shy it's kinda more acceptable. Might be wrong though
Ohh! I think I found my soulmate friend! Girl!! I feel you! I wish I was your friend!! I have that problem too! Friends family! At work! Just pass by someone from a past and boom I’m blushing! I really hate that we have such a odd problem that it’s actually a thing, and makes one feel weird and very uncomfortable. Hope we all can overcome this!!
Awesome that you shared something so personal, and yet you're a confident woman now :) Great talk, and I know there are tons of kids who go through this (I did/do sometimes still)
This condition makes me so self conscious , it makes me want to hide from the world , all the girls in my class always speak about my red face but they don’t understand the impact I’m facing due to this condition , which sucks because they keep bringing it up when I know what’s happening - thank you for this !
I'm 36 and I just started experiencing this the last year. Anxiety had tried to manifest itself in me in so many ways, once I conquered one thing it began another. So now this is how it is trying to alert me
WOWOW! I can relate so much! I get red for absolutly everything and I feel this year got much worse because Im homeschooled. So, I cant really practice having social interaction:( ALthough I have been trying to get out of my confort zone. The only weird thing is that make up doesnt really work on me, i still blush like if I didnt have it, which is really weird. Im gonna make a goal this year to get out of my confort zoen everydy and I'll tell you how it goes. It feels really nice to be with people that understand what you are going through :)
I am confident I have lots of friends and I am well at presentations but I don’t know why I blush for no reason and my friends laugh at me and say my face is like a red tomatoes 🍅
This has been recently happening to me too ...like it could the most random thing it wouldn’t even b embarrassing but I would get red for no reason and it’s really irritating me 😣 plus I’m not scared to talk to people o watever but this been happening to me for no reason then everyone thinks I’m embarrassed but I’m not ..it’s jus my face gets red for no reason and it’s making me feel like crap..
Oh wow... heading over to part 1 rn! I am a person who has quite an `interesting` past as far as emotional health goes, but a few years back I had been diagnosed with risk of Cushing's. I had heart palpitations on a daily basis and simply could not handle any type of pressure. I had to live alone to avoid severe anxiety and it was probably one of my toughest moments. But I especially could not take being around people or out in the world. I struggle with social interaction to this day and I avoid it a lot... but I am in a much better place now. So I understand you perfectly... And thank you, truly, for this wonderful video. We grow and improve and better ourselves with each day we are alive, I feel like we hardly give ourselves credit for it. You are an inspiration. Stay strong, my dear!
This is so me, I do struggle with this even today.(And I am 22) It disappeared for a while but then came back when I started my new job. I always need to talk 2 people and have meetings where we all need to say something and I never have anything to say becouse I do blush every time. I took away my makeup and did the same thing as you, but after your video I think I will start using it again! It was absolutly terrifying when my boss today said, "You need to challange yourself, you cant hide away your whole life" This becouse I am shy... Thank You 4 your video it helpt me know that I can overcome this without laser treetment. I will update my progress :)
I hope this can help anyone. I had this too, it messed me up so much that I became suicidal and avoided going to school and it all just created more and more problems. I had created my own hell basically and I lived in it for five years. Now I’m out of it and I’m more confident than ever. You can come over this. And if anyone makes fun of you for being red, take a good look at them and call them out for being rude. Take back your power.
I can’t believe I found this just now I’ve had this and social anxiety for YEARS!! I can’t even order at a restaurant without blushing!! 😭 thanks to this video I finally feel like there’s hope!!
So awesome that you are sharing all of your story. I have never heard of erythrophobia before. That's for spreading awareness to this. i don't think most people know about this. That's cool that makeup helped you feel so free!
So glad I found your videos and really love your tips, knowing Im not the only one going through this is very comforting as well. When I feel my anxiety coming up and feel my face getting a bit warmer I also like to point out objects in the room to distract myself from the negative thoughts in my mind (Ill be saying things like "I see a white chair, a wooden table, Im holding a mug with hot coffee..." that sort of things) and it really helps me to be more in the moment and less in my mind 🥰
This is like listening to my autobiography lol. I've always blushed since grade 7, and last year I developed cystic acne as well as Rosacea. Combine those three and you've got one of the worst looking faces ever. Completely red, just unbelievable. I've suffered from severe depression from this, I've wanted to kill myself or run away. I seriously dont know what to do, but listening to you at least helps me know that there are others like me. Thank you
and btw the thing where you talk to people and concntrate on your words doesnt really work for me, as i can think and talk clearly but still have that fear on the back of my mind
Wow, yeah exactly the same! I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this ❤️❤️❤️ there’s an amazing Facebook group that someone introduced me to after posting this video and it’s a great supportive online community of fellow blushers facebook.com/groups/489202208247799/?ref=share
God I can’t believe there’s a lot more people going through this just like me… I wish we all can make like a group chat or something where we can just share our feeling and help each other to make us feel better! One simple thing that can probably gel you guys out, stay out of your mind like stop caring or thinking you’re going to blush and you will be good. I get anxiety going to the store or something but I just try to relax and not caring about it
i have this too!!!! i’m home schooled now, but actually i feel like way more comfortable talking to strangers in public rather than people at school, i feel less judged i think
I relate to you so much. Even having a year off school and doing distant learning in year 10? Unfortunately I've has a flair up, hence me watching this video. Your techniques, and your experience with this are EXACTLY how I feel.
I feel like I’m way too dependant on makeup now though and I now have a huge fear of people seeing me without makeup. So just being around people without makeup on makes me permanently red even if no one is talking to me
I know exactly how you feel. I am in this situation and have been for over 2 years. I wear a full face of makeup everyday because people seeing me without makeup is such a big fear of mine. I would love to not have to wear as much makeup but I mentally can’t and I’m stuck in this cycle and I can’t see a way out. So glad I’m not the only one.
It's honestly horrifying just imagining being in a very bright room with people looking at you or interacting with you. It's like my worst fear. What others don't understand is that it's not that simple to overcome. It's a phobia not a silly little overreaction.
Im so glad i found this comment, i struggle with the same issue.... but for the past 2 weeks i have been forcing myself to wear 0 makeup around people. I still get flushes, but slooowly it's becoming more normal for me
I've worn makeup before and it did cover up my blushing for me but when i've tried interacting with other people without makeup on, I start blushing. I want to learn how not to blush when talking to someone without makeup. I also don't want makeup to change my normal skin and how it feels and looks. You know?
You go girl! Never be embarassed of who you are! I suffer with it as well and i know how it feels! But never give up and be confident in everything you do!
I used to deal with crippling anxiety but was able to overcome it without meds by learning to accept it. Eventually it disappeared once I stopped resisting
I tried everything myself, except going to the psychologist and I’m 38 years old I don’t know what to do, some days like you said I just want to disappear.
Nina Sanz Seroxat did wonders for me. But you have to really think things through before you start taking it. Only do it if you are really bad and have in mind the day you stop taking it, blushing will come back. Prescription only of course. I can give you more info if you want 😉
I don’t have a problem with talking to people, I have a problem with talking to a lot of people at once like a class.... I blush just thinking about the teacher asking me something and than a panic my heart goes super fast my face is heating up it’s so terrible and all because of the thought.
Just FYI - I am a “pathological blusher” who suffered with erythrophobia for decades. There is a surgery apparently (?), and a completely safe medication you can take whenever that literally blocks you from blushing. That medication served as my “training wheels” and got me through it. It does get better, in fact, it’s a trait I embrace at 42 :). My best to all of you. Robyn
Robyn Layne I've heard of that surgery they basically clip a nerve? under your armpit and its gone but one of the risk is that it can cause you to sweat excessively wich would suck even worse lol but what is the medication you would take?
Hi Sandra. I think you’re right about the surgical procedure. I know it involves clipping a nerve(s) to prevent or reduce blushing/flushing. Any procedure on or near a nerve or nerves is risky and, for me, it wouldn’t be worth that risk. Particularly when at least two drugs with safe / low risk profiles and no risk of addiction are effective. I honestly did not believe a simple prescription could ease or slow the occurrence and progression of my nightmare scenario, much less stop it. The medication called propranolol, did this for me. It’s a low dose beta blocker often prescribed daily for high blood pressure or other related cardiac conditions. I never have any side effects other than a very slight drowsiness, less than anything I’ve experience from Benadryl. Other than that, they’re pure wizardry. I know others have had success with another drug called clonidine, which I’ve also heard good things about (safe, low risk profile, etc.). Honestly, a pill freed me, finally allowing me to succeed in ways I couldn’t before taking the medication. I don’t even need it anymore; just knowing I have one on me at all times keeps my excessive blushing in check! This all happened because my coworker in the next office is a family practitioner and he happened to overhear other coworkers asking about my “big meeting” that summer day. I would wear a turtleneck shirt / sweater to hide the splotchy redness that always came with public speaking. The doctor literally came to me, asked about the conversation, educated me on what he called the “CEO pill,” and wrote me a script. I didn’t have to do a thing besides filling the script. I still can’t believe it was that simple, and it just kinda fell into my lap! That’s why I’m so big on spreading the word to fellow sufferers because every one of us should know about the medication options. They were life changing, even life saving in some cases 😊. I hope this helps at least one person as it has me. Knowing I helped another overcome this has been so rewarding. Sorry for the “war and peace”-length reply but this topic is very close to my heart. I’m happy to answer any other questions! Take care of you! Robyn
Sandra Romero its cutting T2 nerve. No no, don’t do it! The side effects can be horrible for some people and you never know what it would be like for you. I read a story of one guy who had it done and after surgery sweating was so bad, that he was suicidal. He said he would have a shower and before he would even get dressed he would be drenched in sweat! He regretted having it, but you can’t reverse it. I don’t know how it all ended up for him.
It’s nice to know I am not alone on this. I have gotten so used to wearing foundation every day because it helps calm my anxiety knowing others can’t see me get red. Makes me feel vulnerable and distracts people from actually listening to me. I wish I didn’t have to continue having this phobia, because it takes me 10mins every morning to apply my makeup before work. After several hours I notice it starts to look Cakey, and I know my natural skin would look better. But unfortunately I keep my makeup on even though I wish I could wash my face.
Thank you so much!💖💖🙏I suffer with erythrophobia and I didn't even know it until I watched this video. It got so bad that I actually passed out from anxiety in the middle of science class. I will try to work on what you said helps. You are an angel💖💖
This has been happening to me for over two years now I’m still dealing with it on a daily basis and it really controls my life I’ve always been into makeup but now especially I wear it every day to cover up my blushing but now I feel like I can’t talk to people or be in a group settings without having make up on so I don’t know if it really helped me or just made hiding away from my fears easier. It really scares me that’ll live with this forever and it makes me want to give up on life but hearing other people stories and that other people go through this gives me a little bit of hope
It can literally make you feel like you're suffocating. Mine is not my face. It's my chest and neck. I'm a corporate executive and I think it make me look 'weak'. I've been on a remedy journey for a few months now, myself. It's given me so much hope seeing that others are moving through this journey as well.
Watching your videos, it is astounding how much you remind me of myself. I first started watching your videos a little while ago, starting with your very first about binge eating. Like you, I suffered with restrictive eating for a long time and then eventually transitioned to binge eating. I decided recently to go vegan but the binge eating hasn’t ebbed. I’ve been attempting to eat around 2000 calories everyday for about a year and almost every single day I binge and end up eating over 3000 calories. In one of your videos you stated that you thought 3000 calories was a binge but is just what your body needed and I had never thought about it like that before. I’m tired of trying and failing to hit that 2000 calorie mark and from now on, thanks to you, I’m going to eat as much HCLF vegan foods as I want to and try to overcome the fear of gaining weight because with the way my binges are going I’m going to gain weight anyway. At least this way, my weight will eventually stabilise and if gaining a bit of weight means that I won’t have to be stuck in this endless cycle of hating myself and my life, then it will surely be worth it. I too suffered with bad social anxiety and blushing during school and I think was a contributor to my eating disorder and dieting as it gave me a sense of control over my life and food helped to ease the anxiety in a way that nothing else ever did. My blushing has almost completely gone now, so I know how hard it is to overcome and i admire you so much for everything you have accomplished. Keep doing what you’re doing and being the badass that you are! x
Love your video!!! Personally what really worked for me is: 1. talking: little to no blushing getting spoken to: blush attack! 2. MAKEUP!!! I'm still at the concealer as foundation phase lmao, omg we discovered makeup at the same age!! (I'm 20 now lmao) lol I'm wondering if you or anyone has any advice for how much to put on bc whenever I blush I don't wanna ask people if they can see it or not bc I don't wanna draw attention to it, so idk if I put enough on or not lmao. what I do is I put a sharpie dot on my face and I think "if my makeup can cover a sharpie then it can cover a blushing" and that's the only way I feel confident. Also, are there any makeup tips to not look like a complete foundation monster, that also don't take a lot of time and are easy (I'm so bad at makeup, and I have a full time job plus college so I really don't have time)
Something that helps me is just trusting they can’t see it. Even if your foundation isn’t 100% guaranteed to cover all your redness it will still make a difference by making it look like your blushing a little (like an average person) People don’t care about how red you are and they don’t go home thinking about it at the end of the day. So when it starts to happen, let it. Just keep speaking about what you want to say, because what you are saying is important (whether your blushing or not) and it will make the person forget or not realize your blushing in the first place. It’s all mental and I’m still working on my mental strength as well.
I would do anything to overcome this :(. Ive legitimately thought about taking up makeup as a male to fix it. It seems SO helpful but its not my thing and I dont want to people to know im wearing it :(
Whoaa I’ve got a similar story...😮 I was always a shy kid in school and yeah my face would turn red talking to people “LIKE A LOT” and people would think I felt uncomfortable around them so they wouldn’t talk to me...of course it got to a point where everyone thought I was socially off and didn’t bother trying to be my friend back... so they would ignore me and pick on me (bullying/threatening me)...also I didn’t do well in school since I was so depressed and would cry every night to sleep so I decided to stay home and forget about school although my parrents decided I get a job and I did that...I worked as a teachers assistant for little kids under 1st grade while I was 16 and supposed to be in 11th...I would’ve done it but I felt too young and it didn’t feel right so I told my parrents after the first day of work that I want to go back to school and I went to a different 🤣why am I writing my life🤪I feel like I do that to much
Hi! Thank you for your marvellous story, its very moving listening to your struggle. I have been there myself long periods of my life. Starting at a very Young age. I Am 51 now. Im happy that you overcome your angsiety. I also were makeup buy Im not sure How much it helps. It must be very covering? What products do you use, do loreal and such brands have full coverage products? Lots of good luck and hugs to you.
Too bad I can't wear make up.. haha.. The video diary is a great idea! And yes, you just have to accept it.. unfortunate, but that's the only way to really beat this thing.
Ive struggled for about 5 years now, i cant really remember cus i feel like it should be even more.. im 20 years now, and ive worn makeup every single day since i first noticed my face turning red. I LOVE that makeup is a thing, but its so frustrating to me because i really dont feel like i can leave the house without it now... ive tried literally everything, ive tried putting me in the most triggering situations, meditating, reading all i can find about this and trying to build up my confidence.. But the thing is with me- I can act like the most confident and happy person, i go to work everyday and i have NO problems with sosial situations, not even talking in front of a whole crowd- as long as my makeup is on, but as soon as i have to even pay my groceries my face blush so much even if its just me and the cashier, i just feel so hopeless and i really cant see a bright makeup free future for myself 😩😩 the worst thing is, i love my self without makeup, i think i look so much more cute and innocent without a full face of makeup and lashes and everything u know, but i just cant go without 😭 And did i mention that it has gotten so far that i barely can talk to my family/boyfriend? Its just really bad and i dont know what to do... my boyfriend is the only person that knows about my struggles, and me and my family has the best relationship, but im too afraid to «admit» it.. ive barely mentioned it to my mom once, but she was like «naah of course not, ive never seen it, everyone turns red sometimes» as if shes supporting me, but she doesnt understand how deeply this affects me and how upset i am.... what to do???
Marie A i use studio fix by mac, makeup revolutions concealer and just regular powder to set everything, also bronzer and u know the whole thing! ❤️ Ive used sooooo many different foundations, all i care about is that its full coverage, if not just layer it! But im oily, so you may wanna find a good match for you skin😊 I can help you if you want me to💖
cathryn Thank you so much! I also have oily skin. I recently bought urban decay naked skin green color corrector to use under estée lauder double wear foundation. Do you think it will cover enough?
Marie A i havent tried the urban decay one, but I used the estee lauder double wear for years!! Such a good and full coverage foundation😍 and I absolutely think it will cover up all the redness!! The only thing i would recommend while using it, is really cleaning your skin after taking your makeup off, cus its really heavy!❤️
I blush everytime because I have a fear that if I talk to someone or in the front of people's I became red . Now I get rid of it because I stop thinking about it and when I am start blushing I alow it to blush as more as I can and then it's stop . the main thing is that if try to stop it ,it become more awful 😞 but if you let it happen then you can stop these blushing
From wanting to feel cold all the time because it keep your body temp cooler , to hating bright lights because of all the attention there could be. This has been me since around the age of 10 and I am now 24.. I have suffered from depression, anxiety and stress for so many years now. And it feels like I am going no where with my life. There are so many things I wish I could have done. I couldn’t even go through with college because of this, I tried twice. But it was just too much. Makeup hasn’t ever worked for me. Either I don’t put it on right or i don’t wear enough! Ha (Im gunna try harder with this makeup tip) But thank you so much for sharing this 🤍
Yes!!! If my body gets hot, I flush really bad. I've been on my own healing journey over the past few months and it's been quite interesting. You are not alone, girl!
the worst part about my erythrophobia is that i’m a very extroverted person, yet i constantly find myself holding back. growing up, i was a confident kid and LOOOVED performing (dancing, singing, acting, etc.) but i always knew in the back of my mind that i could blush at any moment. i still feel this way today, but i’m learning about my triggers and understanding how to cope with them. i have a long way to go, but i’m staying positive. also, i COMPLETELY relate to what you said about makeup. i started really getting into makeup in 11th grade just because i thought it was fun, but it also helps with erythrophobia 100%. i just have to make sure i blend down my neck and wear shirts that cover my chest lol
I have been dealing with this since the tender age of 12/13 years old. I never noticed that I went red until a high school teacher pointed it out and made it a point to cause it every day. Anyway, I am now 41, and am thinking about going back to school to become a Physician Assistant. I have 2 young children, married for 15 years and graduated as a R.T. in 2019 after going back to school in 2016. My blushing is the ONLY thing holding me back from going back again. Because I know how hard X-ray school was, I know how much more difficult PA school will be, IF I get in.
I i literally cannot stop everyday i will have this problem now i have this thing where i honestly know feel like honestly i just dont want to go to school because everyone would tell me oh ur turning so red why are u turning so red and just feel like i hate myself and just dont belong in the world
Thanks for the info, it really was informative didn't realize what I had was that bad am 16 and wow. thanks for letting this out I just now wanted to search this up but I always thought it will just go away thanks for letting me know.❤❤❤❤👋thankyou
everyone at work always comments on how red i am and asks if i’m okay, even customers comment on it which makes it even worse. i feel myself getting hot and idk why bc i’ve had this job forever and it doesn’t make me nervous
that is so frustrating that they comment on it all the time - as if we need more attention on it :/ it shouldn't be seen at as such a weird thing, people also don't go around commenting why someone is smiling, like just mind your own business, I think to myself!!
the worst thing about erythrophobia is being socially inclined and having to stop yourself from speaking because you know it will just draw attention to you.
my erythrophobia is stronger right now than it’s ever been. i can’t make it through a single day without blushing even just once
Lindsay Madge im with you on that sis, its horrible😭 Its so strong atm, I literally cant even talk in front of my family while having dinner without makeup on...
cathryn - I’ve been there. It’s such a strange feeling, like you’re not even safe from yourself in front of your own family.
i have my ups and downs with erythrophobia, and i’m in somewhat of a neutral period now.
I actually tried hypnotherapy and had some success with it. you might consider trying it, but of course it’s best done in-person rather than from youtube 🤗
also, i’m here if u need someone to talk to ☺️
Elizabeth Soshina It honestly helps knowing we’re not alone... And yeah I really think we should get help, but I live in such a Small town, that I feel everyone would know my big secret😩 Im here if you wanna talk, youre NOT alone!!❤️
Lindsay Madge Are you on Instagram?
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The universe likes to challenge us young. Once we get through these challenges we come out better than those who never had them.
Thanks that's a great way to look at it
SexyBoy I've literally never been more inspired wtf 😭
You are right dude. I'm 37. It's still there but 2% as opposed to 100% in college.
I keep realizing that I wouldn’t be scared of public speaking, confrontation, or conversations if i didnt blush ,
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Same
YES PLEASE
Same😩😩
same, it's really dumb if you think about it
Even doing nothing, when I think about it I turn red
A.) It gets better as you age.
B.) You are not alone.
C.) God loves you and never judges blushing, and who matters more than God? So do not fear.
Same. Our nervous system can do some incredible things ... even if they're annoying AF. You are not alone, friend. The blood vessels are close to the skin and dilate causing the flushed look. For me, it's a reaction to cortisol (stress hormone). It's a histamine intolerance. Cortisol releasing in my body at the most random times and flushing appears.
Michael Richards this really helps :D
Ikr 😕
Same here :(
I reaaaally want you to make more videos about this, you are reaaally helping us
What helped me was to exercise my social skills & my self esteem. Whenever I thought about blushing I said “who cares if I blush? It’s not like it’s illegal.” And it helped me chill 💓 you’re not alone guys
It is crazy how similar our stories our. Thank you for sharing
Thank you so much, as someone who has struggled with extreme facial flushing and the fear of it for just over 2 years I always feel so judged. Everything you said about school is the same as me, I don’t think other people réalise how much it affects me. My Spanish classroom is always so warm and I always go the most extreme red I can i hate it so much I miss school just to miss it, my friends don’t get why it affects me so much. But I feel ugly, weird and so disconnected sometimes. I hate it because I was always such a social person and I still am but when I’m inside in s small room I feel trapped. I feel like there’s no escape and everyone will think how gross I look when I blush. I’m going to try and follow your points and stay strong. Recently I’ve been so mortified by it I’ve left my friends parties and sat outside and cried, wanting the cool air to help me and my cheeks. I feel the heat in them and it makes me so uncomfortable I hate it. From now on I will make a promise to myself to never leave a social situation ever again due to it and I’ll try and keep talking not think about it and move on. Your videos about this condition moved me to tears and I’m so thankful to hear someone who thinks and acts exactly like me. 🙏 you are so incredibly brave to overcome your fear and I want to channel that bravery for myself. Thank you so much x
Ahh thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry you’re struggling with this and I promise it can get so much better! So happy the videos helped ❤️
Hey - you're so brave
I hope things have got better xox
there is light at the end of the tunnel! at university, the library gets so hot sometimes, so I bought a fan! you can buy a fan and it'll keep you cool and keep a cold water bottle with you so you can drink the cold water to cool yourself, it really makes a difference!
circle formation sitting was invented by the devil himself
Lmaoo right?!?! 😩
@@alicewatts In my high school English class we occasionally had to do "socratic seminars" where we would all sit in a circle for 3 class days in a row and by the end of it you had to have contributed a minimum amount of things to the discussion in order to get a grade. V fun
Lisa Garcia I HATE that shit. It’s so hard to work up the courage to say something and when you finally do, no one fucking hears you or you feel like you’re interrupting people and being judged. AAAH.
@@tinygoblingrl SEMINARS ARE THE WORST!
@@tinygoblingrl I also had one in 6th grade! I couldn't work up the courage to say anything, and when other students called on me because I wasn't saying anything, and even the teacher, I panicked and said the dumbest shit that left everyone staring.
What you said about posture is very important too.! there are studies that show how some postures (superman pose, making yourself as big as you can...) affect your hormones, raising your testosterone and lowering your cortisol (stress hormone). It's actually a good hack for before a job interview: isolate yourself (in the bathroom for example) and adopt those postures for a few minutes and you will be perceived as more confident ! It's crazy !
no one knows my fear of blushing is the reason i wear foundation everyday...tomorrow i have a final at 7am and i am not about to put on makeup for that..im so nervous to go to school without covering my face but i need to push myself.....wish me luck :CC
How did it go?
omg me too i have one for 3 hours starting at 8 am tomorrow 😭 i try to tell myself that when i wear makeup i dont blush so what’s the difference without it but somehow my mind still doesn’t care
@@ellee8658 I know. I do the same I tell my self all the time to stop doing Fondation but I'm not ready to stop I don't know why
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omg i’m just seeing this but i literally thought this was only me. i’m so glad i’m not the only one and that you have this too. i wear makeup everyday, my family gets mad bc i always do but i hate blushing.
Hey guys . Imagine if we live in our own society ? Just who blush
I had the same tought
@@InsendEdits what about now ?
@@MAGHMAGH02 what do you mean?
@@InsendEdits u said that u "had" the same thought . What about now? U still have the same thought ? Thats what i meant
@@MAGHMAGH02 Yeah, I wish there was a society for us.
Yes sadly you really have to put yourself in those situations so that they become easier. I say sadly because at the time it was the last thing I wanted to hear.
I mentionned this in your previous vid but teaching is what improved my public speaking, which I used to be terrified of. In recent years I have been complimented on my public speaking and have been told specifically how lucky I am because I don't look nervous at all. This is mind blowing to me, because I think that I have struggled with this more than most people. My younger self wouldn't believe it.
So to anyone reading this, if you feel like you're the shiest, least confident person in the world, just know that you can overcome it just like Alice, and just like me ❤❤
Amazing!! Congratulations on all of your progress 🙌🏻❤️❤️❤️
Did you suffer from extreme blushing? Im thinking of taking a two-day public speaking workshop.
Alice Olivia, sweet beautiful young woman, I am 42 and also struggled my entire young life with erythrophobia. I cried with you throughout both of your videos. I wish I could have found you years ago and hugged you and told you all about my experience and assure you it will be ok. Today I rarely think about it, and I actually embrace my severe blushing as a unique trait I’m completely comfortable talking about. It makes me “me” and I wouldn’t trade it. I know it sounds crazy but it’s true.
Your stories are so familiar and near to my heart. I also had nice teachers who allowed presentation alternatives. I almost did not graduate facing my French final, a public presentation in French that I refused to do in front of my peers (I was 22 at the time). My professor ended up changing his mind to make an exception at the last minute and told me I’d fail the class if I didn’t present to the class. My entire family was in town for my graduation so, in a state of terror, I did it. I was beet red in the face and a lovely blotchy red on my neck, chest, ears and arms. I ended my speech with the mandatory, “are there any questions?” A classmate raised his hand and asked, “Why are you so red and crazy blotchy?” I ran out of the class, but I did graduate.
I’m so glad you are facing it head on (no pun intended). You are extremely courageous for working with this and not against it. I’m in awe of your public presence after what you’ve been through. You are on the best path to becoming the best you can be in many ways!
I would love to chat or message you about my experience as an older woman who’s been there. I’d love to help you in any way I can. I can tell you this, I’m a better person for it!
Let me know if you want to chat, send me your email or chat name.
Thank you for sharing my friend.
Robyn
Hi Robyn,
You’re so sweet. Thank you so much for your kind words and thank you for sharing your experience with this. I’m so sorry that you’ve struggled with this too. I think in the end it has made us more compassionate people. I’ve sent you a friend request to stay in touch! :)
Robyn Layne I am 40 and struggling with this since 15. Lately i started having thoughts of just telling everyone around me that I have this condition, hoping that it will make it easier. Are you open about it with everyone?
Hello Robyn! Thanks for your sweet comment- just wandering if you can shared your experience also with me lol! I have been struggling with the same since 7th grade and hoping it can get improved one day-
I passed college at USF despite refusing public presentations. Grace from God. I'm 37 this March and it still exists but in a tiny spot. You simply become less self conscience. I was also anorexic and a long distance runner in high school, OCD. You want control and strength and no vulnerability. You simply relax, because you are true enough and smart enough and blessed by God enough to let go and get better.
@@runkeliyte hi how is it now? Im 27 and really struggle about this. This past few years has been a darkest moment in my life. Can we have a chat?
I struggled all of my teenage yeara with erythrophobia. What helped me eventually is foundation, but most of all - instead of trying not to blush, I did the exact opposite! I TRIED to blush and when it sometimes happened I stopped fighting it, and eventually it stopped. You do not have to go through this alone ❤️
What foundation did you use? Glad you’re better!
I suffer from social anxiety as well! I am the shyest person you will meet. Girl I was homeschooled in high school too! I love how confidante you are now and your so inspiring to so many people 😘😘😘 Loved this video girlie.
I almost killed myself because of erythrophobia. I couldn't see a way out. I actually had what I feel to be a spiritual experience (some sort of transcendent awakening caused by constant meditation) that cured by problem. Before this, jobs were impossible. I even blushed and had anxiety around my family. The biggest help for me was both the spiritual experience which destroyed the remaining anxiety immediately, and also actually *trying* to blush. Resisting a blush is what causes it. Conversely, it's impossible to blush if you're actively trying to blush. You cannot blush by trying to blush, only by trying not to. The other thing is, that nobody actually cares (and will hardly ever notice) when you, or anyone else, blushes. If you're nervous or anxious, then sure, you might make them a little nervous too, but the actual physiological response of blushing will never make anyone uncomfortable (if they even notice). More generally with anxiety, I took the approach of trying to be as anxious as possible. I ended up giving up trying to calm myself down all the time. Instea, I tried to panic as much as possible! Counterintuitively, this will calm you down. It's really impossible to be anxious when you're actively trying to be anxious.
wait i love this. thank you
@@AlissaViolet nice to see that influencers still are human.
Wow! This
Was what I needed to read.
Alice, thank you for the videos about erythrophobia!! Your are brave and courageous to talk about that! I was crying watching them and nodding at every word that you use to describe how you felt, I had the same experience. The fact that I grew up in the different part of the world and had the same experience showed how wired we (humans) are. I am 39 now and I had been struggling with this since I was a teenager. And only yesterday I discovered that there is a legal term to describe the fear of blushing! Back when I was a teenager and whenever I tried to talk about this with my parents, they answered the same: "Just don't pay attention and it will stop!" But we all know that's it's easy said than done. I felt a relief knowing that it's a phobia and I am not alone with that! It's feels challenging even to talk about that, especially now when I am a grown-up and I am supposed to be perfect (at least that's the message we get a lot from - "perfect!") And having you face and neck red is not "perfect" so, it's a big break through for me to finally find out what is "that" and I feel that now I am ready to admit it and try to smooth its effect on my self esteem.
You are a beautiful person and thank you for talking about this!! 🌸🌻🌼
Great advice! I’m 37 years old and have always blushed easily. Blushing made me feel shy and prevented me from doing and saying things that I wanted to.
I have been focusing on being in the present moment which has really helped me overcome my fear of blushing.
Your advice on when you blush to push through it with confidence and eventually your blushing will go away, is true. Furthermore, if you don’t think of blushing as a negative attribute, people are more likely to perceive your blushing as attractive, healthy and honest 😊
I am so happy that i finally found a video that covers this! I've been struggling with fear of blushing for about 7 years now (18 years old). I believe it started in 6th grade when I accidentally burped in the classroom and everyone stared at me and I remember feeling so humiliated and i was completely panicking. From that day on I experienced it more often but i hadn't developed a fear for it yet. So fast forward to 7th grade when I had to do a presentation and i turned bright red and someone pointed it out and said: 'You are all red'. No shit sherlock, it's not like it feels like my face is on fire. And so on I developed a fear of it and a fear of presenting in front of people. But it wasn't until about two years ago that I realized that I had this problem. For all those years (and still) I had been avoiding a lot of social interactions. I'm even afraid of talking to my own family. I fear everything and i am very insecure. But I really want to do something about it. I really need and want a job, but I have been putting it off for about a year now because I am too afraid to apply and all the stuff that comes after that. I will have to talk to peers and other people and I am afraid that I am not capable of this. But the thing is, I really really really want it. And I really want to live a happier life where I can do all the things I want to do and be happy with myself. So, this summer, I want to work on myself and push myself to become a better and happier me. Forgive me for my rambling.
Simone Rietveld girl i understand you. ive been putting off a job FOR THIS EXACT REASON. it literally sucks ass and i hate myself for it !! im pretty sure mine started when i was young too, im 100% sure it started during middle school bc i moved halfway through and didn’t know anybody at my new school so it was difficult to make friends. every time i would try talking to people they would just ignore me and it was so embarrassing that i had no friends lmao. im a junior in high school rn and blushing fr limits me from doing so many things!! i don’t have a fear of talking in front of people i just have a fear of going tomato-face from it. it’s sucks but i feel you :/
Thank you for your bravery, I have too lived with this blushing fear for almost a decade. For me it was unreleased trauma and inability to feel comfortable in my vulnerability that made it so painful, at one point I didn't want to be here anymore, I had no hope for healing. I also shared my story here on youtube!
I turn red when I’m telling a story to my family, asking or answering a question in a meeting or whenever I feel that the attention is on me. It’s the most uncomfortable experience because not only my face is red but my chest too. I’m pushing myself everyday to not let these situations keep me from say my opinions or asking a simple question and after I’ll do it I feel so proud of myself for not letting the red situation stopping me for be or say I want. I start to see this as I gift, the gift that my face shows how honest and truthful I’m being with the things I’m saying. I didn’t wear blouses that expose my chest from the fear that people could see it. It’s their problem not mine . This is who I am and I’m not gonna change to not bother others. It’s more important for me the feeling that I’m trying things despite I turned red.
You’re not alone in this and you’re doing the best you can. ❤️
Same, and wonderful words :)
I relate so much to this!!! telling a story I just want to get it over with so I don't have to be the center of attention.
I'm 13 and I do suffer from this it's very mentally exhausting, it definitely has taken a toll on my life, i sometimes can be socially awkward but at times I blush really badly for no reason. I do think instead of trying to hide or cover your face you should embrace yourself and throw yourself out there, i promise you this will encourage you to talk to people more and overcome this fear IT IS POSSIBLE! I would recommend when going to a store asking someone where to find something or voluntarily answering a question in class I promise people don't care as much as you think they do,we are all human everyone has their insecurities. You just have to take that leap!
Thank. You. For. Thissss. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
this video gives me so much hope, i feel like my erythrophoia hasn't improved at all but listening to what you've been through and how similar it is to my situation it shows me how far i've come and how much further i can go
You are not alone. The cool thing about finding videos like Alice's - is that we see we are not alone. Whether the flushing is your face, chest, neck, or ears... there are so many of us out in the world. I'm relieved to know we are in this together.
I so admire your strength and determination, Alicia. You certainly are a big inspiration to me. Ax
Ah thank you so much 😭❤️🙏🏻
I hope you are doing okay Alice. I'll try and make this short...32 year old male and I've really been struggling with this for like 4-5 years now. I have rosacea also, found that much out in 2018 but my face is slightly red ALL the dang time anyway! I wear shorts in the winter and my face always feels hot, even if I am just sitting by myself. In 2020, I was so embarrassed that I actually tried wearing makeup myself, simply just to go to my little sister's wedding. Still trying to get over this junk as of today...I've gotten a little better but not much. Honestly you are so right! I think anyone else who has this problem just needs to slowly just put yourself out there. Or maybe start each day having a conversation with a random stranger in the store, or gas station, at school, ect whatever. Think by doing this will boost my confidence and exercising mite as well I think. I feel for you so very much, because no one who has never even had the fear of blushing, can even begin to understand what it's like. The depression and anxiety is very real. I have friends and family who thought I abandoned them for a year...simply due to the fear of my red face turning even redder. Keep making cool videos and I'll try even harder to overcome and beat this shizz! Take care 👉😎👈
It’s been 2 years that I’ve been afraid of blushing. The first time I reslly was afraid of blushing was when I was in 8th grade. Of course, a presentation and someone calling out the fact I was red as a tomato. I grew so hot and thinking about it truly made me worse. All throughout 9th grade i couldn’t make any new friends. Thankfully we didn’t have to present so much and whenever we did it was a power point. Over the summer break I realized how sad and desperate I was for new friends, because the current ones I have are mean. Hopefully throughout the year I could make a couple new friends, and maybe even talk to my crush! Thank you for making this video, it really opened my head and realized I’m not alone and that blushing is completely normal and that just like almost every other fear is you just have to overcome it and the more times you do it, the more comfortable you get!
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@@dritkul9329 ive just stuck around with the "mean friends" i have. most of my teachers rarely make us present in class (before covid). my freshmen year i had one teacher who made us present for every project we did. i asked if she could turn the lights off since it was a powerpoint presentation 99.9% of the time and she allowed it. i usually only stuck with raising my hand if i knew 100% if a question was right to avoid embarrassment. i hope this helped someway.
@@gwwah5381 i also have one of those teachers🙄rip, omg i hate blushing soooo much
I'm dealing with the same thing right now as well (i'm 18) but it has definitely become better since it has started (i was 14). I'm literally experiencing the same things and feelings as you did and I 'm so glad that some people started to deal with this problem.when my body temperature rises before blushing or when im stressed Im sweating too which makes my life really hard,especially that I'm a girl(eg. I have tried loads of deodorants and searched for cure,i cant wear certain kinds of clothes).As I mentioned I'm struggling with it it nowadays too but I'm working on it really hard to get rid of it in the future. It is really helpful that I try to put myself in social interactions but I still hate to speak in front of class. Basically I'm not a really shy person and I often enjoy social gatherings but you can see that a person like me can have this problem too. I'm still feeling depressed and need to cry about it sometimes but it's ok because I think I'm now used to these situations and accept that its part of me. I just hate the feeling that it sometimes makes me a "different"person. I'm from Hungary btw and I want to thank you for your videos because these help so much during my "recovery".❤ For others I just want to say that you should know you are not alone, fight but don't take things so seriously, enjoy your everydays and don't waste your life with worrying! ❤
This is so me... thank god for makeup.. definitely helped me 😊 plus working with the public broke me out of all blushing and anxiety attacks
Thank you so much for making this video. When i looked up erythrophobia on RUclips, it mostly shows all these clinical treatments to take. I’m happy i found your video because its so nice to actually hear someone understand what you’re going through as opposed to someone just telling you different kinds of medical treatment. Im dealing with erythrophobia right now and i can relate to so much of the stuff you’re talking about. It all started in grade 4 when I had to present but it went away for a long time. Then it came back in grade 10 and has worsened now that I’m in grade 11. I really want to fix my social anxiety because i constantly think about it even when it makes absolutely no sense why I’m doing it. I literally get a red face over almost everything even in places where i would normally feel comfortable. I can feel it start to take over my life and i want to fix it. Im truly happy for you that you’ve improved so much and i really hope that happens to me some day. And ik this video was posted like a year ago but i just wanted to say something and speak out.
Agreed! It's refreshing to hear people talking about acceptance and how they actually live WITH this. I haven't found a 'cure' .... and actually am not sure I'm supposed to be after a cure. I'm after acceptance and see this as part of my self-love and self-care journey.
Amazing how wise you are at such a young age. Beautiful girl! Thank you for sharing this. I’m 29 and still struggle with this. I can relate to everything you said. Not near as bad as when I was in school. But I’ll do as u say, and force myself to face people even in the moment of my face turning red.
Omg, i've been looking for a video like this one for years.
Just wanna say thank you for sharing your story, I felt so relieved when I heard you overcame this terrible situation.
I also found a book which is called "heal your wounds and find your true self" it basically says the reason why we struggle with blusing is because we have to heal a wound called "humiliation wound", at a certain period of our lives, mostly in childhood we faced a situation where we felt exposed and ashamed that's why it triggers anxiety and fear, it says many things related to self-shame but the most remarkable for me so far it's that we have to heal our inner child and that experience from the past, allow yourself to feel anger and sadness and work on those situations ❤
Wow both of these videos really made me tear up, I have my first presentation tomorrow and I was nervous and found your videos. I had no idea what we have is actually a REAL phobia. Hearing what you had to say about all your experiences was very relatable. And it's really hard on someone mentally. I would love more videos or stories about this topic.❤
Thank you for sharing your experiences. Good on you for getting yourself out there. At the age when you were home schooling yourself and getting a job and going to classes and putting yourself out there I literally chose to run and hide and it's just sad that I didn't have your detirmination. I wrote a very long story below. Feel free to skip it you want.
I feel like I related to many things you said and I know its different but I've literally isolated myself from everything for many years. I used to feel socially anxious but at the time I didn't realise that's what it was and over years I slowly isolated myself more and more bit by bit. Eventually at like 17 I got excluded from college because I'd never attend and after that I'd leave my house less and less and lost my friends. I needed to have major surgeries on my legs with a long recovery and I'd use that as an excuse to to not get a job or go back to studies but really it was my social anxiety.
I'm 23 now. I don't have any friends, I don't have education and I havent taken care of myself and I feel depressed and like I'm no use to anyone. Isolating myself and choosing to run and hide from the situation rather than facing it was the worst thing I could have done because it took me further down that hole and now I'm legit feel terrified when I leave my house and my symptoms are 20x bad and even inside the house I struggle and obsess and panic over everything and cry a lot and i feel like I've wasted so much time.
At the time I used to think that me isolating myself was a good personal choice and that it was protecting me and that I just wasn't interested in college and that I could stop my isolation any time I wanted and I didn't think anything was wrong with me but now I know there was and at the time I didn't realise the severity of what I was doing and how I'd impact my future. At the time all I knew was that it was easier being at home rather than facing what makes me anxious but I didn't realise the severity of how it'd impact my future and how vital that stuff was and how much harder it'd make my future. If I knew what I know now I'd have made myself stick it out or push myself to home school like you.
The reason I'm saying this sad story is because Ive started therapy and I legit don't know how I'll build my social skills again or my confidence and self esteem and what I'll do with my life but your video gave me hope and made me think maybe there's a way. Its made me realise that yes social interactions are very hard rn for me but maybe if i push myself they won't always be that way. You're right that hiding myself won't help and i won't grow that way and that advice about pushing yourself to stay and let it pass and keeping good posture is good advice. I hope my long comment didn't bug you. I always get scared oversharing
I really feel for you. You’re so worthy and good for you getting the help you need and pushing through despite everything that life has thrown at you. I believe in you ❤️❤️❤️
I am going through 100% the same thing you went through I just wish there was some way we could message
Something that’s really helped me is rubbing mint essential oil on my temples and wrists and forehead. This cools down my face and let’s me focus on the coldness instead of blushing!
My experience has always been that I get red WHILE talking and then cool down again while the other person talks. For me it’s a feeling of deep shame about whatever I’m talking about. I feel like a fraud and then the anxiety hits bad and I lose my train of thought and it’s a horrible downward spiral! I was prescribed beta blockers from a doctor at age 20 which revolutionised my life! I only take them when I’m going to be out and socialising or for work. Highly recommend for anyone struggling with adrenaline-based anxiety. I still sometimes get red but they stop the fight or flight response and stop your heart from racing so that you can get your thoughts under control quickly. They were like my makeup. Unfortunately whenever I go off them the blushing comes back pretty much immediately.
Hi sonja meyer is beta blockers bad to take . I have been wanting this so bad . I am building a business and i feel very uneasy all the time.
@@josephinemontanez2086 Hi Josephine. I am only on a low dose of 10mg which works great for me. It has no real side-effects for me but I think it would be different for different people. Best to chat to a GP about it, but in general a small dose is enough for anxiety and it is not bad for you at all. Maybe just don't do any intense exercise (like running) for a few hours after taking as the drug will stop your heart rate from speeding up a lot so you might feel a little light-headed. Sometimes I sweat a bit under the arms because my body needs to release the anxious energy somewhere, but it's much better than being red and shaking!
I feel like I am literally talking to myself. In grade 6 is when I first started noticing my blushing. People made fun of me and bullied me so I would blush even harder. I remember feeling naked and scared of school because of the bright lights, presentations, and social situations. I remember the feeling of safety when the lights were turned off and nobody could see my face. It got so bad that I cried every night wanting to isolate myself from the world. Suicidal thoughts became constant and I got to a point where I was begging for any type of medication or solution to stop the blushing. By 11th grade, I was diagnosed with depression, SEVERE social anxiety, OCD, and panic disorder. All of these mental disorders started with erythrophobia. I was so sick of the judgment I got from blushing that I decided to homeschool junior year. I have lived my life in complete fear. Today i was feeling hopeless and full of anxiety. I went on youtube and found you in my recommend. I'm so glad I did. For once I don't feel hopeless. Thank you for talking about something that many people don't know about!
Alice, I love that you are constantly growing, improving, and working to be your best self
Ahh thank you so much for your kind words 💛💛💛
It's all about getting over the fear of blushing, the fear of it is what keeps blushing alive. Clonodine was my revolutionising medication but I started having really horrible side effects after about 6yrs of taking it. So came off it but then it wasn't as bad anymore because being on the medication for so long had trained my mind into realising it wasn't a problem anymore. I still blush but I'm not as bothered by it anymore. A woman at my sons nursery blushed a lot but I could tell it didn't bother her in the slightest, she would maintain eye contact and her demeanor would be completely relaxed as if she didn't even know it had happened. She literally didn't allow it to cause her ANY anxiety or uncomfortableness, she was totally fine with it. I think that's key
I am 24 and can't remember a time when I haven't blushed. I've always hated it because it allows people to make assumptions about my emotions, when in fact they're not true! Often times I blush without even knowing it, but people perceive it as embarrassment. It made me avoid many social interactions and public speaking, opportunities, but I got so tired of letting it control my life like that. When I was a senior in college I took my teaching practicum to teach English language and I almost dropped the class because I was too afraid. I decided I had to embrace the blushing, like you said you learned to do. You just have to keep talking and look people in the eyes and don't let your mind wander to the heat on your face. Now I teach ESL, and sometimes my students point out my "mejillas rojitas" but it's always in a sweet way. I think it makes me more approachable as a teacher as well. If you can learn to make it into something more positive, it really helps you move on. It also helps me to think of it as something kind of interesting, because not many people blush as prominently as us. How unique!
IM SO UNBELIEVABLY THANKFUL THAT I FOUND THIS VIDEO💗
So glad someone made a video like this. It’s very helpful when you know you’re not going through it alone 💓 I found when I started college / a part time job and found more outgoing friends, that really helped with me. Obviously it still happens time to time but nothing goes away overnight and as long as you’re making small progress that’s a step towards happiness 💓
Agreed! The more people I find who talk openly about this, the more my confidence is boosted. My flushing is not my face. It's my neck and chest. It's so rare to find people who can relate.
You’ve just saved my life! I have suffered this for YEARS and I’m 20 years old and feel like I’m so behind! Now I’m going to put this in work and I’ll let you know what happens (even if you don’t care hahaha). THANK YOU so much!
We have very similar stories! It’s crazy to me... in grade 11 I was homeschooled and it got better then went back to school and it came back again. I also got a job and i was a hostess and was constantly talking to every costumer who walked in. Over the years I have learned to deal with it with honestly the same ways you did too! I wish I had a friend like you because I felt so alone and became very depressed. And to be honest I didn’t even know anyone else had this problem (severe blushing) and I’m so happy I came across this video because I feel less alone and can understand a bit more why I blush.
Wow so similar!! I could’ve really used a friend like you at the time too! ❤️
I see someone I know in public BLUSH!
I see someone I like or I think is cute BLUUUUUUSH!
My friends or family ask me a question BLUSH!
Anyone messes around with me BLUSH!
I mess up in front of someone BLUSH!
A customer at my job is mean BLUSH!
I get scared or nervous BLUSH!
It’s so tiring to have to plan around possible bouts of blushing. I don’t want to spend an hour everyday on my makeup, but THINKING about someone seeing me red makes me blush. I’m mentally exhausted and wish I could do and say whatever I want.
Same for me as a guy, which I feel is a little worse becuase you are expected to be confident as a guy, whereas if a girl is blushing or shy it's kinda more acceptable. Might be wrong though
Ohh! I think I found my soulmate friend! Girl!! I feel you! I wish I was your friend!! I have that problem too! Friends family! At work! Just pass by someone from a past and boom I’m blushing! I really hate that we have such a odd problem that it’s actually a thing, and makes one feel weird and very uncomfortable. Hope we all can overcome this!!
So proud of you and it’s so true regards listening to others instead of just speaking x
I love the point about listening to others! So true 🙌🏼
Awesome that you shared something so personal, and yet you're a confident woman now :) Great talk, and I know there are tons of kids who go through this (I did/do sometimes still)
Aw thanks so much! ❤️
This condition makes me so self conscious , it makes me want to hide from the world , all the girls in my class always speak about my red face but they don’t understand the impact I’m facing due to this condition , which sucks because they keep bringing it up when I know what’s happening - thank you for this !
I'm 36 and I just started experiencing this the last year. Anxiety had tried to manifest itself in me in so many ways, once I conquered one thing it began another. So now this is how it is trying to alert me
Accepting is the key word.. 👌
Spot on! This is what I found to be true on my own flushing journey.
WOWOW! I can relate so much! I get red for absolutly everything and I feel this year got much worse because Im homeschooled. So, I cant really practice having social interaction:( ALthough I have been trying to get out of my confort zone. The only weird thing is that make up doesnt really work on me, i still blush like if I didnt have it, which is really weird. Im gonna make a goal this year to get out of my confort zoen everydy and I'll tell you how it goes. It feels really nice to be with people that understand what you are going through :)
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your video made me feel that im not alone...and i hope i will soon overcome too .
I am confident I have lots of friends and I am well at presentations but I don’t know why I blush for no reason and my friends laugh at me and say my face is like a red tomatoes 🍅
me too. iam at tthe ssame siituatioons:))
Same please help
This has been recently happening to me too ...like it could the most random thing it wouldn’t even b embarrassing but I would get red for no reason and it’s really irritating me 😣 plus I’m not scared to talk to people o watever but this been happening to me for no reason then everyone thinks I’m embarrassed but I’m not ..it’s jus my face gets red for no reason and it’s making me feel like crap..
Don’t read my name Why are you still reading sameee!
True when i get random blush the people think I like them and they don't wanna talk to me
Oh wow... heading over to part 1 rn! I am a person who has quite an `interesting` past as far as emotional health goes, but a few years back I had been diagnosed with risk of Cushing's. I had heart palpitations on a daily basis and simply could not handle any type of pressure. I had to live alone to avoid severe anxiety and it was probably one of my toughest moments. But I especially could not take being around people or out in the world. I struggle with social interaction to this day and I avoid it a lot... but I am in a much better place now.
So I understand you perfectly... And thank you, truly, for this wonderful video. We grow and improve and better ourselves with each day we are alive, I feel like we hardly give ourselves credit for it. You are an inspiration. Stay strong, my dear!
This is so me, I do struggle with this even today.(And I am 22) It disappeared for a while but then came back when I started my new job. I always need to talk 2 people and have meetings where we all need to say something and I never have anything to say becouse I do blush every time. I took away my makeup and did the same thing as you, but after your video I think I will start using it again! It was absolutly terrifying when my boss today said, "You need to challange yourself, you cant hide away your whole life" This becouse I am shy... Thank You 4 your video it helpt me know that I can overcome this without laser treetment.
I will update my progress :)
vasse451 my mom is 55 and she still has it ! It is not related with age .
I hope this can help anyone. I had this too, it messed me up so much that I became suicidal and avoided going to school and it all just created more and more problems. I had created my own hell basically and I lived in it for five years. Now I’m out of it and I’m more confident than ever. You can come over this. And if anyone makes fun of you for being red, take a good look at them and call them out for being rude. Take back your power.
How did you get over it?
I can’t believe I found this just now I’ve had this and social anxiety for YEARS!! I can’t even order at a restaurant without blushing!! 😭 thanks to this video I finally feel like there’s hope!!
Are you stil blushing?
So awesome that you are sharing all of your story. I have never heard of erythrophobia before. That's for spreading awareness to this. i don't think most people know about this. That's cool that makeup helped you feel so free!
Thank you!! 🙏🏻❤️
So glad I found your videos and really love your tips, knowing Im not the only one going through this is very comforting as well. When I feel my anxiety coming up and feel my face getting a bit warmer I also like to point out objects in the room to distract myself from the negative thoughts in my mind (Ill be saying things like "I see a white chair, a wooden table, Im holding a mug with hot coffee..." that sort of things) and it really helps me to be more in the moment and less in my mind 🥰
Thanks for sharing Alice! I can relate a lot to your story!
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This is like listening to my autobiography lol. I've always blushed since grade 7, and last year I developed cystic acne as well as Rosacea. Combine those three and you've got one of the worst looking faces ever. Completely red, just unbelievable. I've suffered from severe depression from this, I've wanted to kill myself or run away. I seriously dont know what to do, but listening to you at least helps me know that there are others like me. Thank you
and btw the thing where you talk to people and concntrate on your words doesnt really work for me, as i can think and talk clearly but still have that fear on the back of my mind
Wow, yeah exactly the same! I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this ❤️❤️❤️ there’s an amazing Facebook group that someone introduced me to after posting this video and it’s a great supportive online community of fellow blushers facebook.com/groups/489202208247799/?ref=share
ALICE OLIVIA can your fb friends see if I join this group? Nobody knows about me having this issue ...
cathryn no it’s a private group ☺️
Try Propranolol, it really helped the frequency and severity of my blushing!
God I can’t believe there’s a lot more people going through this just like me… I wish we all can make like a group chat or something where we can just share our feeling and help each other to make us feel better! One simple thing that can probably gel you guys out, stay out of your mind like stop caring or thinking you’re going to blush and you will be good. I get anxiety going to the store or something but I just try to relax and not caring about it
i have this too!!!! i’m home schooled now, but actually i feel like way more comfortable talking to strangers in public rather than people at school, i feel less judged i think
I relate to you so much. Even having a year off school and doing distant learning in year 10?
Unfortunately I've has a flair up, hence me watching this video. Your techniques, and your experience with this are EXACTLY how I feel.
I feel like I’m way too dependant on makeup now though and I now have a huge fear of people seeing me without makeup. So just being around people without makeup on makes me permanently red even if no one is talking to me
I know exactly how you feel. I am in this situation and have been for over 2 years. I wear a full face of makeup everyday because people seeing me without makeup is such a big fear of mine. I would love to not have to wear as much makeup but I mentally can’t and I’m stuck in this cycle and I can’t see a way out. So glad I’m not the only one.
It's honestly horrifying just imagining being in a very bright room with people looking at you or interacting with you. It's like my worst fear. What others don't understand is that it's not that simple to overcome. It's a phobia not a silly little overreaction.
Im so glad i found this comment, i struggle with the same issue.... but for the past 2 weeks i have been forcing myself to wear 0 makeup around people. I still get flushes, but slooowly it's becoming more normal for me
you would be a good therapist ❤️
You give me so much hope, definitely my idol.
I've worn makeup before and it did cover up my blushing for me but when i've tried interacting with other people without makeup on, I start blushing. I want to learn how not to blush when talking to someone without makeup. I also don't want makeup to change my normal skin and how it feels and looks. You know?
Can you please write down your foundation routine that covered up the blushing?
Marie A you just put foundation on lol
iiisammei. I cant because i would look like a orange
@@marie.98 use a green primer with makeup
YES, sitting in a circle!! I hate it!! Why do people do this??🤯
You go girl! Never be embarassed of who you are! I suffer with it as well and i know how it feels! But never give up and be confident in everything you do!
😀 have you got over yours yet? Mine just started😑😂
Bdhdh D I still haven’t but I have noticed changes and it only happens sometimes and I am very happy about that!
I used to deal with crippling anxiety but was able to overcome it without meds by learning to accept it. Eventually it disappeared once I stopped resisting
Amazing! So glad to hear!! 🙏🏻☺️
I tried everything myself, except going to the psychologist and I’m 38 years old I don’t know what to do, some days like you said I just want to disappear.
Nina Sanz Seroxat did wonders for me. But you have to really think things through before you start taking it. Only do it if you are really bad and have in mind the day you stop taking it, blushing will come back. Prescription only of course. I can give you more info if you want 😉
Yes pls
Some more info pls.
I feel the same!
Reach out to God
I don’t have a problem with talking to people, I have a problem with talking to a lot of people at once like a class.... I blush just thinking about the teacher asking me something and than a panic my heart goes super fast my face is heating up it’s so terrible and all because of the thought.
GlorGS same
Really interesting about the speaking vs listening to others. Wouldn't have thought about that. Xo
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Just FYI - I am a “pathological blusher” who suffered with erythrophobia for decades. There is a surgery apparently (?), and a completely safe medication you can take whenever that literally blocks you from blushing. That medication served as my “training wheels” and got me through it.
It does get better, in fact, it’s a trait I embrace at 42 :). My best to all of you.
Robyn
Robyn Layne I've heard of that surgery they basically clip a nerve? under your armpit and its gone but one of the risk is that it can cause you to sweat excessively wich would suck even worse lol but what is the medication you would take?
Hi Sandra. I think you’re right about the surgical procedure. I know it involves clipping a nerve(s) to prevent or reduce blushing/flushing. Any procedure on or near a nerve or nerves is risky and, for me, it wouldn’t be worth that risk. Particularly when at least two drugs with safe / low risk profiles and no risk of addiction are effective.
I honestly did not believe a simple prescription could ease or slow the occurrence and progression of my nightmare scenario, much less stop it. The medication called propranolol, did this for me. It’s a low dose beta blocker often prescribed daily for high blood pressure or other related cardiac conditions. I never have any side effects other than a very slight drowsiness, less than anything I’ve experience from Benadryl. Other than that, they’re pure wizardry. I know others have had success with another drug called clonidine, which I’ve also heard good things about (safe, low risk profile, etc.). Honestly, a pill freed me, finally allowing me to succeed in ways I couldn’t before taking the medication. I don’t even need it anymore; just knowing I have one on me at all times keeps my excessive blushing in check! This all happened because my coworker in the next office is a family practitioner and he happened to overhear other coworkers asking about my “big meeting” that summer day. I would wear a turtleneck shirt / sweater to hide the splotchy redness that always came with public speaking. The doctor literally came to me, asked about the conversation, educated me on what he called the “CEO pill,” and wrote me a script. I didn’t have to do a thing besides filling the script. I still can’t believe it was that simple, and it just kinda fell into my lap! That’s why I’m so big on spreading the word to fellow sufferers because every one of us should know about the medication options. They were life changing, even life saving in some cases 😊.
I hope this helps at least one person as it has me. Knowing I helped another overcome this has been so rewarding.
Sorry for the “war and peace”-length reply but this topic is very close to my heart. I’m happy to answer any other questions! Take care of you!
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Sandra Romero its cutting T2 nerve. No no, don’t do it! The side effects can be horrible for some people and you never know what it would be like for you. I read a story of one guy who had it done and after surgery sweating was so bad, that he was suicidal. He said he would have a shower and before he would even get dressed he would be drenched in sweat! He regretted having it, but you can’t reverse it. I don’t know how it all ended up for him.
Robyn Layne can you please tell me what’s the medication called?
@@robynlayne1 just read this. Thank you for giving me a lead on medications!! I never knew meds could help.
It’s nice to know I am not alone on this. I have gotten so used to wearing foundation every day because it helps calm my anxiety knowing others can’t see me get red. Makes me feel vulnerable and distracts people from actually listening to me.
I wish I didn’t have to continue having this phobia, because it takes me 10mins every morning to apply my makeup before work. After several hours I notice it starts to look Cakey, and I know my natural skin would look better. But unfortunately I keep my makeup on even though I wish I could wash my face.
Thank you so much!💖💖🙏I suffer with erythrophobia and I didn't even know it until I watched this video. It got so bad that I actually passed out from anxiety in the middle of science class. I will try to work on what you said helps. You are an angel💖💖
Love how much happier you are now!!
Aw thank you! 🙏🏻💓
This has been happening to me for over two years now I’m still dealing with it on a daily basis and it really controls my life I’ve always been into makeup but now especially I wear it every day to cover up my blushing but now I feel like I can’t talk to people or be in a group settings without having make up on so I don’t know if it really helped me or just made hiding away from my fears easier. It really scares me that’ll live with this forever and it makes me want to give up on life but hearing other people stories and that other people go through this gives me a little bit of hope
It can literally make you feel like you're suffocating. Mine is not my face. It's my chest and neck. I'm a corporate executive and I think it make me look 'weak'. I've been on a remedy journey for a few months now, myself. It's given me so much hope seeing that others are moving through this journey as well.
Watching your videos, it is astounding how much you remind me of myself. I first started watching your videos a little while ago, starting with your very first about binge eating. Like you, I suffered with restrictive eating for a long time and then eventually transitioned to binge eating. I decided recently to go vegan but the binge eating hasn’t ebbed. I’ve been attempting to eat around 2000 calories everyday for about a year and almost every single day I binge and end up eating over 3000 calories. In one of your videos you stated that you thought 3000 calories was a binge but is just what your body needed and I had never thought about it like that before. I’m tired of trying and failing to hit that 2000 calorie mark and from now on, thanks to you, I’m going to eat as much HCLF vegan foods as I want to and try to overcome the fear of gaining weight because with the way my binges are going I’m going to gain weight anyway. At least this way, my weight will eventually stabilise and if gaining a bit of weight means that I won’t have to be stuck in this endless cycle of hating myself and my life, then it will surely be worth it. I too suffered with bad social anxiety and blushing during school and I think was a contributor to my eating disorder and dieting as it gave me a sense of control over my life and food helped to ease the anxiety in a way that nothing else ever did. My blushing has almost completely gone now, so I know how hard it is to overcome and i admire you so much for everything you have accomplished. Keep doing what you’re doing and being the badass that you are! x
Love your video!!! Personally what really worked for me is:
1. talking: little to no blushing
getting spoken to: blush attack!
2. MAKEUP!!! I'm still at the concealer as foundation phase lmao, omg we discovered makeup at the same age!! (I'm 20 now lmao) lol I'm wondering if you or anyone has any advice for how much to put on bc whenever I blush I don't wanna ask people if they can see it or not bc I don't wanna draw attention to it, so idk if I put enough on or not lmao. what I do is I put a sharpie dot on my face and I think "if my makeup can cover a sharpie then it can cover a blushing" and that's the only way I feel confident. Also, are there any makeup tips to not look like a complete foundation monster, that also don't take a lot of time and are easy (I'm so bad at makeup, and I have a full time job plus college so I really don't have time)
oh mega did u ever find a good foundation and tips you can recommend?
Something that helps me is just trusting they can’t see it. Even if your foundation isn’t 100% guaranteed to cover all your redness it will still make a difference by making it look like your blushing a little (like an average person)
People don’t care about how red you are and they don’t go home thinking about it at the end of the day. So when it starts to happen, let it. Just keep speaking about what you want to say, because what you are saying is important (whether your blushing or not) and it will make the person forget or not realize your blushing in the first place.
It’s all mental and I’m still working on my mental strength as well.
Try a green primer with makeup
I would do anything to overcome this :(. Ive legitimately thought about taking up makeup as a male to fix it. It seems SO helpful but its not my thing and I dont want to people to know im wearing it :(
I'm a male who blushes - try facial tanning tan-luxe and beta blockers together
MillionsDan - I’ll look into it, thank you
Whoaa I’ve got a similar story...😮
I was always a shy kid in school and yeah my face would turn red talking to people “LIKE A LOT” and people would think I felt uncomfortable around them so they wouldn’t talk to me...of course it got to a point where everyone thought I was socially off and didn’t bother trying to be my friend back... so they would ignore me and pick on me (bullying/threatening me)...also I didn’t do well in school since I was so depressed and would cry every night to sleep so I decided to stay home and forget about school although my parrents decided I get a job and I did that...I worked as a teachers assistant for little kids under 1st grade while I was 16 and supposed to be in 11th...I would’ve done it but I felt too young and it didn’t feel right so I told my parrents after the first day of work that I want to go back to school and I went to a different 🤣why am I writing my life🤪I feel like I do that to much
Hi! Thank you for your marvellous story, its very moving listening to your struggle. I have been there myself long periods of my life. Starting at a very Young age. I Am 51 now. Im happy that you overcome your angsiety. I also were makeup buy Im not sure How much it helps. It must be very covering? What products do you use, do loreal and such brands have full coverage products? Lots of good luck and hugs to you.
Too bad I can't wear make up.. haha.. The video diary is a great idea! And yes, you just have to accept it.. unfortunate, but that's the only way to really beat this thing.
Ive struggled for about 5 years now, i cant really remember cus i feel like it should be even more.. im 20 years now, and ive worn makeup every single day since i first noticed my face turning red. I LOVE that makeup is a thing, but its so frustrating to me because i really dont feel like i can leave the house without it now... ive tried literally everything, ive tried putting me in the most triggering situations, meditating, reading all i can find about this and trying to build up my confidence.. But the thing is with me- I can act like the most confident and happy person, i go to work everyday and i have NO problems with sosial situations, not even talking in front of a whole crowd- as long as my makeup is on, but as soon as i have to even pay my groceries my face blush so much even if its just me and the cashier, i just feel so hopeless and i really cant see a bright makeup free future for myself 😩😩 the worst thing is, i love my self without makeup, i think i look so much more cute and innocent without a full face of makeup and lashes and everything u know, but i just cant go without 😭 And did i mention that it has gotten so far that i barely can talk to my family/boyfriend? Its just really bad and i dont know what to do... my boyfriend is the only person that knows about my struggles, and me and my family has the best relationship, but im too afraid to «admit» it.. ive barely mentioned it to my mom once, but she was like «naah of course not, ive never seen it, everyone turns red sometimes»
as if shes supporting me, but she doesnt understand how deeply this affects me and how upset i am.... what to do???
cathryn Please tell me which makeup that works and covers up the redness!
Marie A i use studio fix by mac, makeup revolutions concealer and just regular powder to set everything, also bronzer and u know the whole thing! ❤️ Ive used sooooo many different foundations, all i care about is that its full coverage, if not just layer it! But im oily, so you may wanna find a good match for you skin😊 I can help you if you want me to💖
cathryn Thank you so much! I also have oily skin. I recently bought urban decay naked skin green color corrector to use under estée lauder double wear foundation. Do you think it will cover enough?
Marie A i havent tried the urban decay one, but I used the estee lauder double wear for years!! Such a good and full coverage foundation😍 and I absolutely think it will cover up all the redness!! The only thing i would recommend while using it, is really cleaning your skin after taking your makeup off, cus its really heavy!❤️
I blush everytime because I have a fear that if I talk to someone or in the front of people's I became red . Now I get rid of it because I stop thinking about it and when I am start blushing I alow it to blush as more as I can and then it's stop . the main thing is that if try to stop it ,it become more awful 😞 but if you let it happen then you can stop these blushing
From wanting to feel cold all the time
because it keep your body temp cooler , to hating bright lights because of all the attention there could be. This has been me since around the age of 10 and I am now 24..
I have suffered from depression, anxiety and stress for so many years now. And it feels like I am going no where with my life.
There are so many things I wish I could have done. I couldn’t even go through with college because of this, I tried twice. But it was just too much.
Makeup hasn’t ever worked for me. Either I don’t put it on right or i don’t wear enough! Ha
(Im gunna try harder with this makeup tip)
But thank you so much for sharing this 🤍
Yes!!! If my body gets hot, I flush really bad. I've been on my own healing journey over the past few months and it's been quite interesting. You are not alone, girl!
Yess being in a circle of people
Is soooo real!! That was my biggest fear too 😭
I blush mainly when I talk to very confident people or a group of people
And it's always the same people
What can I do.
When this was happening to me, I learned it was due to my belief that I was inferior. Exposure therapy has worked wonders for me.
Brave girl big respect to you
the worst part about my erythrophobia is that i’m a very extroverted person, yet i constantly find myself holding back. growing up, i was a confident kid and LOOOVED performing (dancing, singing, acting, etc.) but i always knew in the back of my mind that i could blush at any moment. i still feel this way today, but i’m learning about my triggers and understanding how to cope with them. i have a long way to go, but i’m staying positive.
also, i COMPLETELY relate to what you said about makeup. i started really getting into makeup in 11th grade just because i thought it was fun, but it also helps with erythrophobia 100%. i just have to make sure i blend down my neck and wear shirts that cover my chest lol
Long story short, go out and do things that humiliate yourself and get used to it
Omg... thank you so much. You have described my problem better than I can.
I have been dealing with this since the tender age of 12/13 years old. I never noticed that I went red until a high school teacher pointed it out and made it a point to cause it every day. Anyway, I am now 41, and am thinking about going back to school to become a Physician Assistant. I have 2 young children, married for 15 years and graduated as a R.T. in 2019 after going back to school in 2016. My blushing is the ONLY thing holding me back from going back again. Because I know how hard X-ray school was, I know how much more difficult PA school will be, IF I get in.
I i literally cannot stop everyday i will have this problem now i have this thing where i honestly know feel like honestly i just dont want to go to school because everyone would tell me oh ur turning so red why are u turning so red and just feel like i hate myself and just dont belong in the world
I hear you. It can feel like the walls are closing in. You are not alone. I hope you know that.
Thanks for the info, it really was informative didn't realize what I had was that bad am 16 and wow. thanks for letting this out I just now wanted to search this up but I always thought it will just go away thanks for letting me know.❤❤❤❤👋thankyou
❤️❤️😍 I'm so glad you can live your life now and be happy!!!
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everyone at work always comments on how red i am and asks if i’m okay, even customers comment on it which makes it even worse. i feel myself getting hot and idk why bc i’ve had this job forever and it doesn’t make me nervous
that is so frustrating that they comment on it all the time - as if we need more attention on it :/ it shouldn't be seen at as such a weird thing, people also don't go around commenting why someone is smiling, like just mind your own business, I think to myself!!