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Hey ya'll! Today on my channel we are reacting to some facebook wedding group drama! Facebook groups can be toxic af, and the posts in this video definitely prove that.
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My sister had a destination wedding, but she is a travel agent, got us good prices, gave us 1½ year to get the money/clothes/passports together, and our presence was considered the gift.
That's exactly how you do that. Sounds like your sister is a considerate and caring person.
Now *that's* a civilised destination wedding! Your sister sounds like an amazing and wonderful person to do that ❤
@@sunny2themoon Yes and she would have understood if we could not go, because we have 4 kids so the price rose fast, but she managed to get us 6 in the same room, even with the resort stating a maximum of 5 per room, so it reduced the price a lot. Our kids were 3 to 10 yo at the time and 2 have autism.
@@mysticseraph2213 Yes, my sister is far from being entitled.
@@isabelleblanchet3694 That's impressive anyway, traveling with small kids and 2 of them Autistic. New places are a whole thing anyway. But it sounds like common sense was involved here. If I tried such a thing, I'd also want to consider the challenges involved and would keep the guest list short.
I think Charlotte needs her own line of grabbers, I need a Charklotte!!!
Definitely! I can visualize that now.
Now that you've said that, I need one in my life!
Sharklotte! BUT YES WHY ISN'T THIS NAME A THING
@@LadyRP agreed I see a merch line in the making
Me too!!!
I had a friend that 2 weeks before her wedding her fiance was killed in a car accident. She called and canceled all the vendors and didn't ask for any of the non refundable deposits back because she understood what non refundable meant. However, They all refunded her for her deposits because of her situation and told her to use the money for funeral services or to get by in his absence. It really helped because she ended up with an extra $20,000 for his funeral and then was able to take a little longer off work. She said she would have never dreamed of asking the vendors for the deposits back but out of the goodness of their heart they gave it back.
2 months later, a lady booked the same photographer and based it on seeing her work online and reviews from other people and had never met her when she paid her deposit. This woman then found out that the photographer was a heavy set lady and said that everyone at her wedding would be a size 5 or smaller and she no longer thought the photographer was a good "fit". I know it was because of her weight because she stated that she did not want two of her bridesmaids to be able to hide behind the photographer. This photographer was by no means morbidly obese but she was what I would call a little heavy set and the most awesome photographer I have ever met. She was known to crawl, lay down, or squat in chairs if that's what it took to get the right angle. Her pictures were always amazing. She was well worth what she charged and required 50% up front. Of course, this lady wanted her to deposit back and the photographer informed her that it was a non refundable deposit. She somehow found out that the deposit had been returned to my friend and brought that up and said that it must not be non refundable to everyone. The photographer told her that was a completely different situation and that her contract reads that "the deposit is non refundable except in situations with extenuating circumstances and those situations would be handled on a case by case basis." This lady took the photographer to court and sued her for her deposit. The judge read over the contract and heard the situation that my friend was in where she got her deposit back and heard the situation where this lady wanted her deposit back including messages that had been saved where she was commenting on the photographer's weight. Of course, in court she had come up with this whole pity story of why she needed the deposit back. Due to some unforeseen medical bills that came up they could no longer afford a big wedding so they were gonna have to have a small wedding and needed the deposit back to help with this small wedding. The judge read her the messages that she had sent commenting on the photographer's weight and that 2 of her brides maids could hide behind her. The judge told her that in the situation concerning my friend it was extenuating circumstances and she could not help the death of her fiance. However, that he read the contract through completely and did not find any clause for shallowness. The judge not only did not reward her deposit back but he hit her with a $1000 fine to be paid to the photographer for the online bullying she put her through while making jokes on social media concerning her weight. She yelled out in court that it wasn't fair and that she would just use that $1000 to buy more food to eat so the judge held her in contempt of court and she spent the next 30 days in jail and had to pay the $1000 and still didn't get her deposit back. I hated the bullying that went on against this photographer that is such a wonderful lady but to see how it ended was so satisfying. Oh, and did I mention that her wedding date fell during that 30 day period that she was in county jail so she lost the money that she paid for all the deposits to all the vendors and ended up getting married at the courthouse.
It is completely true! We enjoyed the sh*t show and celebrated the outcome!
This was such a satisfying read
Good god… karma went to town on that bridezilla!!!😂😂😂😂
Poetic justice!
Oh my god did she get married at the same courthouse where the judge sent her to jail? 😂
A cousin of mine married a man from Spain. Although they would've loved to get married in Spain, they understood it wasn't going to be feasible in this economy.
So they got married in their back yard and went to Spain for the honeymoon.
Some people amaze me with their entitlement.
They probably could have also had their big wedding in their home country with their family, and then had a mini ceremony with just the two of them again in Spain on their honeymoon. Then they could wear their wedding clothes again and could get a photographer for like an hour or two. Then they could still have a destination wedding and some pictures of them getting married in another country
I love this. 👏🏾💕 I hope they had a wonderful honeymoon and got to celebrate with his family 🎉
She wants a NONREFUNDABLE deposit refunded?!?!? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yeah 😂😂😂
That's why they divorced a year later, the fiance knew!😝
Because she's special
The reason these Bridezillas freak out over people not coming to their destination weddings is, they get a "deal" on bulk rates, which makes their wedding cheaper, but it's predicated on a minimum number of bookings. If not enough people come, the Bridezillas are on the hook for not just their own wedding without discount, but for the minimum room bookings. They're angry because they tried to get their "friends" to subsidize their own wedding.
Absolutely. And it's snakey.
Bingo!!
Oh wow, I didn't know that works this way 😱😱
I don't understand why people aren't just upfront. Like if you are engaged and you want a destination wedding, before deciding on a venue, send out a poll or a form that states how much the wedding will be if X amount of people will attend. I would have to know exactly who was coming and how certain they were that they could afford it before even booking a venue! Personally, I want to get it but I don't. Although happy, weddings are so stressful and costly for everyone involved, why would you want to add a vacation (also happy but costly and stressful at times) into the mix, idk.
My son got married recently and the brides mom was well we'll just rent tuxes cuz the grooms is free. Well I checked and sure enough the groom only free if 6 tuxes were rented. Not 2.
Now on the destination rates and stuff. If the bride and groom were up front that if so many people book and go they get free room or rebate etc... im down for that. I'd gladly book to help. But don't friggen get greedy and hide it in hopes you'll get a discount.
To the makeup artist one . As a former hair stylist myself I have had clients cancel because they just didn't like me as a person and that is fine they have every right to cancel. However you are not getting your money back
Surely you can book to have something minor done with the person to see if you get along with them? A trim or a wash and dry whatever? It's got to be cheaper than losing your deposit potentially multiple times?
@@ToeBeanCozyyes at the trial run
I have same thing happen but on the opposite side. My sister was getting married and booked this bridal make-up artist because she had amazing reviews. I was the MOH. We go to meet her at her house (she doesn't have a studio, worked out of a pro-grade box and was like "I am not a make up artist, I AM A BRIDAL SPECIALIST". Also, I have bad skin and I dont like having make-up layered on. She has this lemon-eating face when she was told that I was MOH and says it will be charged extra, even though she had advertised that Bride, MOB and MOH will be included in the package. My sister agrees because she had already paid the deposit, even though I was against paying MORE. Then the day before (pre-wedding functions) she refuses to work on my mom (MOB) asking for extra mobey. My mom said no and refused make-up. For me, she layered so much (even though she had already been told, she was fine during the trial), like 2015 insta-asthetic baking, and even the foundation was 3 shades lighter (I am already fair for Indian skin, 3 shades light makes me look anemic considering she only did my face and not even my neck. It even LOOKED gross and uncomfortable).
For the day of, she had already been informed of dress changes (Marathi weddings have dress changes depending on rituals: the bride needs 5 changes, MOH needs 2-3 but she refused to work on MOH/me because it is too much work and she is a BRIDAL SPECIALIST, not makeup lady for other guests). Ultimately I said fuck it, gave my pre-paid make-up slot to younger cousin.
The only plus side she made my sister/bride look pretty, and since it was the first, and the only, wedding in the family, we didn't say anything. I am not in many pictures (by choice), and I hate the ones I am in, but once that day passed no-one really cares about it (apart from me whining on the internet 3 years later lmao)
As soon as I saw her pull that shark out, I scream/gasped "SHARKLOTTE"... and I see a lot of us had that reaction, I love this community 🤣
My (now ex) and I went to a destination wedding in Hawaii in 2018. There were about 100 people that went and I can guarantee that the common denominator was that everyone genuinely loved the bride and groom. Such sweet and caring people. The first bride sounds like a selfish, greedy person. Maybe more people would have RSVPd if she wasn’t that person?
Maybe you also didn't demand expensive gifts from your guests?😆
@@cb9825 it wasn't op's wedding, op went TO a wedding
@@ClakyNotReversed
Edit** I now realize you’re referring to the commenter on this video as OP. I assumed “OP” was the original poster, as in the post Charlotte read to us.
My bad.
@@aprilmiller7601 Claudia was talking about this commenter I'm pretty sure, not the post in the video
@@aprilmiller7601 i think claudia is referring to meeeeegun as op
Ooof, the flower girl post reminded me HARD of when my older brother got married. I was initially set to be the ring bearer, but my sister-in-law thought I was too "fat and ugly" for the job, so gave it to a friend's son. Don't worry, things have got better. 25 years later she now hates me not because I'm ugly, but because I'm gay. haha
LOVE! F her!
Aw, boo hoo. Her BIL is gay. Someone give the poor drama queen some tissues and the world's smallest violin.
Screw her & her ugly insides she’s justa miserable person go enjoy being your fabulous gay self live happy 💞
Lol Hope there kids don't turn out gay, then what lol lol ❤❤ You rock ❤
sounds like you got lucky to me 😂
"I'm just so pissed about it.. but I'm a wife now"
I have high hope on her marriage being the happily ever after one
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The Bane joke almost killed me. For context: in the Harley Quinn series, Kite Man and Posion Ivy were supposed to get married. Bane got them a pasta maker. The marriege didn't happen and Bane tried to blow up the mall were Harley and her gang live just to get it back. I just love Bane in this show.
I guess the not getting the pasta maker back was the bane of his frustrations.
**best man's wife gets pregnant**
Bride: She did it on purpose!
Correct me if I'm wrong but she didn't do it on her own unless it was an immaculate conception. But yeah, it's only her fault that she was pregnant.
Never mind the fact that the world keeps turning and other people continue to live their own lives while you plan your wedding.
“I want to spite a woman by making a life-altering decision that probably won’t impact the bride’s day at all. Please let me go thru morning sickness, stretch marks, and all the stuff…then have a tiny human being that will rely on me for life and require me providing necessities for the next 18 years plus. That will show up the bride for sure!” 🤦🏻♀️
I never get that BS at all. Why does anyone care if someone in the bridal party is pregnant? There's only 1 reasonable response to finding out someone in your bridal party is pregnant and that's to say, "Congratulations." A small caveat to that. If the bride paid for the dresses herself, they've already been delivered, and it will effect whether the pregnant girl can fit in the dress then it may be reasonable to ask the pregnant girl to pay to have it altered.
Also never mind that for a lot of people, getting pregnant can be very difficult and can take YEARS of trying. They're probably just happy to be pregnant at all regardless of the due date.
Yeah the story of the conception will be magical, I can see in 25 years when the child gets married.
Mother of the Bride/Groom
"25 Years ago, I had to spite a woman I barely knew. So your dad and I were intimate exactly 9 months before the wedding, I just told him, you better put a baby in me now or I can't take the attention away from OP.
Now that your getting married I can finally just live my life the way I want to........Oh and don't you dare give me grand-children or I will have another kid out of spite, just to spite you too."
I introduced and was on the first date with one of my besties in high School. When they married some years later I was due with my first about 1 month before her big day so I understand why she didn't ask me to stand up. Unfortunately she felt the need to tell me she didn't ask because she didn't want any big girls in the wedding and being that close to my due date too I'd be too big. She then proceeded to bring up wedding cake chat because that was my gift regardless of pregnancy or being in the wedding. I had a C-section 16 days before her wedding and still attended and delivered her 3 tier cake as requested. I got my petty happy ending when the bride and 3 of 5 girls were all significantly larger than I was on her big day... A win for the petty crew 😂🤣😂
According to different sites on etiquette, wedding gifts do not need to be returned if the marriage ends in divorce. Wedding gifts are not given with the expectation that they will be returned if the marriage fails. The wedding gifts are not conditional upon the success of the marriage.
The rule is that gifts are to be returned if the wedding is called off. Gifts received for the wedding and all events leading up to the wedding are to be returned. All gifts, including personalized ones, are to be returned to the sender. The only gifts that don't need to be returned are used ones.
Yes, the etiquette has always been that if the wedding is canceled the gifts should be returned, but once they are declared married the gifts become community property of the couple. The exception would be if the groom’s family dug into the family vault and “leant” the bride heirloom jewelry or the couple expensive heirloom tchotchkes. Which is one reason it is best for the couple to go buy their own engagement /wedding jewelry. Lots of money has been made by attorneys over pot-divorce arguments about heirloom engagement rings.
One of my cousins got married twice within 2 years. At the first wedding, his first, we kicked down some ridiculously expensive china place settings and some baccarat tumblers. He is my favorite cousin so we splashed out. When the second wedding came around we're like yeah, no, sorry bro, and bought less expensive items from the registry. Not gonna play me twice. I don't feel bad because that marriage ended swiftly, too.
@@thomasjoseph5876 So tacky of them telling everyone you sent that much.
Is anyone else consistently amazed by how much money is spent on weddings? You could literally put a down payment on a house with the money spent. Most of the weddings I’ve been to were potlucks held in backyards. So fun an intimate
most people are so bad with money and have messed up priorities
it's fine to get an expensive wedding when you're rich, but when you're using all your savings for the wedding instead of using that money to buy a house there must be something wrong with your thinking
Five hundred dollars. That is what we spent on our wedding. We scheduled it during a holiday so family and friends did not have to worry about time away from work. Used our savings for a down payment on our first house, which we later sold for double what we paid and then invested in a better property. Now, 38 years later, we have our dream house, no mortgage and a very happy relationship. STOP trying to impress people. Honestly they don’t care as much as you think they do.
“Graduating” is the term used in wedding groups to signal* you’ve “graduated” from fiancée to wife
ahhh, so that's why she said that!
Thank you for the clarification. I've never heard of that before.
Commenting to boost this comment
I was very confused.
Why don't they just say they married? Like there's already a word for the verb
About the pregnant girl. When my husband and I decided to get married we picked Nov 6th for our date. I then told these very good friends the date. She was pregnant and told me that was her due date and since her husband would be in the wedding could we pick a different date. No big deal, so we decided on the 20th of Nov. Well guess who doesn't have her baby on the 6th but has it on the 20th. Her poor husband was there to help deliver the baby and then drove like a bat out of hell in his tux mind you to get to the wedding on time. I felt so bad for him and although I was happy baby and mama were doing great I missed that she wasn't at the wedding too. Like I said they were very close good friends. After I walked down the isle and we were standing there waiting for the ceremony to start, the priest announced the birth of the new baby. Everyone clapped and cheered! It was truly a happy occasion. I had an extra video of the announcement and wedding made for my friend and we watched it once she was home from the hospital.
Due dates are never exact, it's more of a due estimate. Both me and my brother were almost a month early
Everyone knows that there’s a range of 37 to 42 weeks in which it’s normal to have your baby. It’s kind of weird to plan something in that window.
New info shows that it is an extremely dangerous situation to allow a baby to be born more than 3 days after the due date, every single day increases risk of death of the baby. It was so extreme they couldn’t even study it according to procedure as they had to immediately start inducing labour in overdue people because it became immediately clear that the death of baby rate was so high.
I love the comment though, that’s what real friends and family should be like. Everyone makes an effort, everyone is flexible, everyone is happy for each other. Lovely
I spent $5k on a destination wedding in Cancun. The couple, who were close friends of mine, picked the most expensive resort possible and went all out. I appreciated the 2 year timeline they gave guests to prepare and pay for the trip. However, it was still a hot mess and I'm resentful to this day about the money I spent, only to be embroiled in 10 days of family drama. By the fourth day we were basically hiding out in our room to avoid the drama. If I had it to do again I'd stay at a different resort and just go to their resort for the wedding day.
That's way I don't go to destination weddings, I can't afford it.
I'm definitely all for a small, intimate wedding ceremony followed by a long, romantic vacation. Huge weddings with hundreds of guests just seems way too stressful...
The Charlotte Shark head is fabulous! 😂😂😁🙌🏼
Charles, that was incredibly sweet to do. ❌⭕️
Wasn't it? Another commenter called it a Sharklotte. I think they're on to something!
@@shawnycoffman Adorable name! 😂🤣
Charles should make and then sell them♥️
I freaking loved the Sharklotte xD
We love drama BUT WE LOVE TRUE BESTIES THAT STICK TOGETHER MORE!!!
When my wife and I got married, we invited a lot of people we knew would not be able to go. But we invited them anyway out of respect. We did our wedding on a budget ($2,500 total, including the dress). Sure, we solicited help from family, but it wasn't as a demand (and as my wife insisted that it's traditional in her culture for family to pitch in, they were fine with it). As for our wedding gifts registry? We registered at Walmart to make it affordable, and if people couldn't afford Walmart and had to buy from the dollar store instead? No problem.
Also - the main reason for a registry is honestly so a couple doesn't get five full sets of blue dishes (being facetious here - we did end up getting 2 full sets of cobalt blue glass dishes that we've never used not needed because we've got too many dishes). Wedding gifts, in general, are intended to help a couple get things they'll need for a home. But since the trend is now toward couples living together before marriage and/or marrying older, they usually already have everything they need for the home already and so focus on super expensive stuff that they like but would never buy themselves.
I love cobalt blue dishes. ;) Set them up for a summer garden party.
60 year old with a heart condition at 4:00 A M just needed a smile, Thank You.
I married my late wife 29 December 2000. There was just us, the Pastor, and two witnesses.
The witnesses took us out for a lovely meal after.
The wedding cost less than £50.
We then had a 6-week honeymoon in Olympia, Wa, USA.
The wedding was perfect. No interference, no pandering to people, no drama or stress. It was such a wonderful wedding and honeymoon for both of us.
Sorry to hear your wife is now gone. That is a perfect way to marry for many. We went to the Justice of Peace in a Northern Community. I took one day off work. Husbands sister and brother in law were our witnesses. I was young and wore a long 70's dress to the Municipal Office anyway. I put on my own small reception just for his mom, step Dad and sister, BIL and their daughter- at our apartment. My bank coworkers threw a surprise shower in the bank lunch room. Replete with a lovely cake, gorgeous wine and champagne glass set as a gift.
We then drove 22 hours to husbands home town in Rockies, and other sis in law threw a bridal shower in her home for us.
I would have loved a honeymoon. But did sort of get a nice holiday almost a decade after we married. We took vows quietly in the Church in 1990 after we had two children. Which was not a marriage, but a formal Church vow.
I never wanted a big wedding, ever, never dreamed about dresses or anything.
Some of my family to that point had challenges with weddings, and most ended with fist fights from some jealous boyfriend or something. One was my step father, had a fight with the new step father at my sisters wedding. Yup, not gonna do that.
Plus, I never really even wanted to get married. But did..... 47 years later, and a few ups and downs, we are still hanging in there.
@@coolwater55 Thank you for sharing. :)
@@TheSnowdogsShorts Sorry, I got carried away with my reason for no big wedding.
It cost 10.00 dollars for the marriage license. Husband to be didn't bring his wallet, brother in law paid!
The cost was for the groceries to make a little celebration. 😊
@@coolwater55 No need to apologise, I am always interested in hearing people’s stories.
Entitled Bride: “Put yourselves into debt for MY DAAAAAAAY or I don’t consider you a friend anymore!”
The funny thing is she says it like it’s a punishment
That ginger Megalodon is awesome! Well done, Charles!
Feels like the "destination wedding" entitled bride really only wanted lots of people to come so she could get more gifts. "None of the expensive gifts have been purchased! You can't be a real friend if you don't buy us expensive gifts."
Non-refundable deposits are just that, NON-refundable - meaning you don't get it back. They are there so if a flake cancels like you did, at least there's compensation for wasting the MUA's time.
Thanks
I’m so glad we chose a private courthouse wedding. Almost 9 years later, we still are going strong.
I took the easy way and bought my dress from goodwill. I’m not about to drop thousands on a dress I’m only going to wear for a few hours. Honeymoon was amazing!!!
Why not just have the wedding where all your friends and family are, then go to the "destination" for your honeymoon. Isn't sharing the day with your family more important than having exotic pics to post on FB?
Right? Cheaper and WAY less stressful!
Yes and now adays…… Save that $30-50k for a downpayment on a house. You can still have a great wedding with the people that you really love and loves you back and have that home way quicker.
Also, even if they could afford it, not everyone can take time off work or school to go to a wedding for a few days in another country. It's just a bad idea if you plan for a lot of people to go. Heck, even in your own town sometimes people cannot make it.
Right? And even if you really want the exotic pics, book a local photographer for wherever it is, maybe even instead of a photographer for the actual wedding and just do incorporate a cute couples photo session into your honeymoon plans instead.
EXACTLY !!!!!
The Ginger Megaladoon has unlocked a new level of Charlotte's sass . "There is nothing i love in this world more than being right" "people tell me i give really good advice " . Charlotte being humbly truthful . 😁
I started planning a church wedding, decided it wasn’t worth the stress since it was 2020 and have absolutely no regrets. Got married in my pastors back yard with our closest family in attendance, most on FaceTime and was able to buy a house a few months later from all the money we saved. Best decision ever. ❤
My (American) cousin and her (Australian) husband had a small destination wedding in New Zealand, followed by a party in Australia for his family & their Aussie friends. The next time they were in the US, they had a party in her hometown for her family & Yank friends. That way everyone who wanted to see them got to and had a chance to celebrate, but nobody felt pressured to cross the Pacific if they didn’t absolutely want to.
It’s taken me a few years but I’ve now got one of my daughters to understand that the wedding is about her and her partner, so don’t just throw money around to give everyone else a great day. Spend big on your honeymoon. I’m so relieved that she finally got there! Honeymoon ladies!
I'm happy for your daughter! It's true: you shouldn't appear self-centered, but, also, you're not your extended family's entertainment. If people are too difficult, organise a very simple thing and then .. honeymoon!
One of my friends invited us to his wedding in Japan. 5 of us were able to go, plus his siblings. The plan was to go touring Japan and end our trip at the wedding destination. When everyone arrived to Japan, we got an email apologizing because the wedding was canceled 🙃. The trip was fine, but the suitcases were heavy because of all the wedding stuff we had brought and kept carrying all across Japan (less space for gifts!).
For anyone wondering about the 'graduating' story, people in online communities relating to things like weddings and pregnancy sometimes say they 'graduated' from bride-to-be to wife, or pregnant person to mother, so I think that's what she was talking about :) great video!
2:12 - CHAMPAGNE FOR CHARLES! 😂😂 That's hilarious and adorable.
Hey Charlotte, thank you for you dedication to us every day. I wish you a very merrie and blessed christmas. Love and holiday hugs from the Netherlands
Thank you! You too!
It’s not a rule that you have to return gifts if the marriage lasts less than a year. HOWEVER you can wait up to a year to give a gift to newlyweds. I use this now.
When I went to Puerto Vallarta for a destination wedding and the parents of the bride and groom covered 75% of flights and hotels, it also helped the groom was from that area in Mexico and the groom and had both worked at the resort prior. His dad was a chef there for 30 years and the groom worked valet for 7 years part time. The wedding party and immediate family (I was the bride’s SIL and her bro (my hubby) was a groomsmen as well) it was all inclusive including a tequila bar so we left good tips for the five days was worth it!
I’m watching this video as I get ready and as charlotte asked the question “who would win a megalodon or a Bridezilla?” I hear from the bathroom my husband answered “a bridezilla”. In the most sure tone I have ever heard. Lmao I’m dying 😂
Whatever happened to just shacking up? All you need is love! There are studies showing there is an inverse correlation between the cost of the wedding and the lenght of the marriage. The more spent on the wedding, the shorter the mariage.
I can already see why. People who are super high maintenance or desire lots of attention often don't make for good partners.
the misses and I are {after 12yrs lol} going to City Hall to get the paperwork. Just legal purposes.
@@chrisbuttonshaw2088 That's the reason to get married, it can make some things less complicated. For example, if one of you gets sick or badly injured (God forbid!), if you aren't married you may not have any rights to see your loved one or make decisions for them. It affects many things such as taxes, applying for credit, buying a house, etc.
This is why committed same-sex couples fought for the right to be married, even though some members of my family think gay couples want to be married just to annoy evangelicals like them.
May you and the missus have many happy years together!
🎉
My husband and I got married in my parents kitchen with 2 of my best friends and some close family and then went to a Japanese hibachi, it was awesome ❤️
@@LazyIRanch Yeah, although I really think that "civil unions" should still be kept, because there are a lot of people who are life partners but not romantic partners, and they have a lot of the same needs. For example, my two aunts lived together their entire adult lives, bought their home together, shared a bank account, were in all ways life partners. But one was not able to leave her pension to the other. This was a big problem because one of my aunts gave up a long period of time and much of their savings to take care of the other as she died slowly from alzheimers. She has since developed alzheimers herself, but there is very little left for her.
Also, during the period when the first aunt was dying, dealing with all the legal and financial issues surrounding her care was MUCH more complicated, even holding power of attorney, than it would have been if they had been legally acknowledged as partners.
It was so frustrating to be researching what could help them, and find out that "civil unions" no longer existed in my state because gay marriage had been legalized, and therefore, obviously, there was no need. Short-sighted...
The very end made me have a little more faith that people can talk to each other, face-to-face about their issues and work it out like adults. I also love how they just just baked ASF and talked about it!🤣
I frequently put on these videos while I do things around the house, so I can giggle and be entertained while scrubbing dishes, you know? And as soon as I heard about the Stokes men brawling 40 people at that wedding I had to come back into the TV room, stop dead in my tracks, put my hands on my hips, like the good Canadian I am, and say, "No fucking shit, eh?!?" While cackling laughing 😂😂😂😂 love this for them 👍😂
charlotte, 'graduated' in wedding terms means you're married/reached your wedding date. the graduation is the wedding day. i know it can be confusing to people not familiar with wedding planning terms hahaha. so brides who will update in forums/group would usually introduce themselves as graduates.
Lol thank you for explaining. I just joined a wedding group on Reddit to start planning and I was so confused about the whole ‘graduation’ thing and it was getting on my nerves.
Now I get it, I guess.
Why tho? It’s not the same as a graduation.
@@stephanieclark1487 you dont have to think deep, it's just a commonly used term in the community.
Embarrassing 🙄
@@stephanieclark1487 It straight up sounds like "After months in training as a fiance I am finally ready to fulfill my life's purpose of being a wife, the only and ultimate goal a woman needs" 🤮 hate this term
This Christmas season I've felt less than jolly. My Dad was murdered January 2019. Today we are exchanging gifts amongst the family, which I haven't really been looking forward to. I woke up and watched your video, with your beautiful and funny self in it. I now am smiling and ready to enjoy the day. Thank you for that Christmas gift!
Awe, I pray it goes well for you. And I pray they get justice for your dad. How awful. I'm so sad for your loss. May you see him in everything beautiful, funny, bright, and loving. ❤️
@@erikarussell1142 @ErIka Russell Thank you for your kind words, it warms my heart to know that there are still kind hearted people like you out there. I wanted to let you know that the coward who did it was caught, unfortunately he only got 7 years total. 4 for grevious bodily harm that resulted in death and 3 for assault. I don't know if I would call that justice, I would say it was an unfair compromise. It's not all bad, my mom and I moved close to my brother's family, so I get to be present as my neicey and nephew grow up. 💙 Merry Christmas 🎄 and Happy New Year 🎆
So very, very sorry about the tragedy of your Dad. My heart goes out to you. Losses around Christmas, especially tragic ones sting for a long time.
We had 4 family members die in December over the years. A sister and my Dad included. I enjoy Christmas, but tend to take down my tree and decorations on December 29th, anniversary of his death. I cannot bear to bring in the New Year without the house being cleaned up. Used to do it on the 30th or a bit later. But it was fitting to think of Dad. Scottish tradition has a clean house for Jan 1st.
But more poignantly, it was my turn (with my husband and two daughters) turn to travel to see Dad on the 31st of that year, because my step Mom felt it would be overwhelming for everyone to go at once. We spent time at our grandparents instead.
Never got to say goodbye, and neither did you under different circumstances.
We have lost a family member to a shooting ... nothing to do with him, he was shot with 3 other young men, only one lived. This past June my niece (who lost her Mom 2010) father of her daughter was shot when he tried to help someone in a hostage taking.
I do recommend a good victim services counselling or a group for bereavement if one does not have a support group.
God Bless you
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I am terribly sorry to hear of the loss of your loved ones. I think it's great that you carry on the cleaning tradition. We eat lasagna for Christmas dinner in honor of my dad. Sometimes those small traditions really help me still feel connected to him.
As for getting help, I did. I've gone through a group counseling which really helped, it gave me a lot of tools to help with the anxiety and loss. It was also good to be with people who were in different stages of grief. I am also in therapy. I know that without getting on an antidepressant I wouldn't have gotten back to functioning. I'm doing good now. I will be praying for you and your family to find moments of Peace and Joy. Good Luck in all your endeavors!
Thank you for your kind words. Yes, you seem like someone who would be able to reach out for help, so thankful such resources exist.
We come from large families and good close community, but we moved away from both sides and were a bit more distant than we liked when going through losses. Even though by crow it was close, getting there was across bodies of water.
Lasagne sounds like you might be Italian. My husband is half Italian maternal side, so the big family gatherings were common, but getting smaller in size now. My side is a large family too, but some are at a long distance. Anyway, toasted sandwich with turkey/stuffing/homemade cranberries is my comfort at Christmas and afterward... same as was my Dad's. I make turkey pretty much only for the sandwiches afterward.
In saying that, God Bless you and your family traditions. Our loved ones are closer than one thinks.
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Was in some wedding groups while I was engaged. Mainly to help with ideas for the wedding but the drama was also entertaining.
Graduated: brides would say they "graduated" from the group after they've had their weddings. One of my biggest pet peeves in them TBH. Lol
Ooooh, I was breaking my head over what kind of typo or word confusion could lead to that mix-up! This wedding group jargon makes much more sense
11:27 i laughed so hard. Pro tip: If your gonna talk shit about somebody, make sure they aint in the group!
You know, the thing is people don’t want to spend several days of precious vacation time at a wedding venue
Let’s replace gifts with a promissory note: If you are still married after one year, I owe you a gift.
Decades ago, "Mad Magazine" suggested divorce parties. Attendees got back their wedding presents (in one case, the vase was in many fragments glued together because it had been their favorite item to throw at each other). I forget whose bust was molded in chopped liver, but I'm going to say it was the toxic MIL. Sounds as if it would be fun, no?
Aww my 8 year old got on me when he heard “Hey Everybody!” And asked if he could stay up and watch the funny, pretty lady. ❤❤
I’ve heard of the 1 year divorce/gift return rule. The wedding wire says if the gift is unused in the first year it should be returned.
Oh dang could you imagine.. "your gift sucks so bad we didn't use it at all this year, here, we're giving it back"
@@CieraMychele no I’d say how practical it is to use. We got wedding china/crystal glasses/fancy silverware and haven’t used it yet because we haven’t had the need.
I see what you mean but once a gift leaves your hands you'll never see it again.
Yeah. That is an older rule from the fifties.
@@CieraMychele They’re marriage sucked so bad they didn’t use it in a year either.😂
I tell everyone to elope! My husband and I did and it was the best thing ever! We already have two kids so to be able to make it all about us. No feelings got hurt because i didn't have to "exclude" anyone, because EVERYONE was excluded. We wanted to get married to celebrate OUR LOVE and we did just that together.
And also, I think that one girl was trying to be "cheeky", "I graduated from girlfriend to wife"... idk I could be wrong.
These were all great!!!! I love juicy horrible wedding stories!!!! 😆😆😆
Also, omg the ginger shark, ha !!!!
Destination wedding---
I know a bride and groom had their wedding and reception in Texas and a second reception that she wore her dress again in Vermont. It was wonderful everyone got to come to at least one location.
Charles, it looks exactly like Charlotte. You're a genius. Charlotte, keep on being YOU.
Charlotte, brides say they graduate in wedding groups when they've gotten married. They graduated from the group!
Thank you for explaining that. It was super confusing.
Ohh pregnancy groups use that too. Graduation is when you delivered. Neat how we use words
Destination weddings often save the bride and groom money but guests have to commit thousands of dollars, take a lot of time off work etc. My sister-in-law threw a fit because my mother (battling breast cancer) and father (elderly and completely incapacitated) couldn't FLY TO THAILAND for my brother's second wedding.
Idc about gifts for any special occasion, what matters more is presence and acknowledgement!
OK, hold on a second. Does England have a Florida that we know nothing about? 40-person brawls at weddings sounds like a Florida thing.
Yes England has a Florida-it is called Ireland!
Ireland
@@dieterkoch6563 this explains so much for me. LOL
FYI Runcorn is near Liverpool. Liverpool has a few football teams, Liverpool and Everton being the largest. Typical British football fans are more intense than Jihadists.
I'm just glad it's not is Northerners. People outside of London seem to think we're savages
Merry Christmas, Charlotte! 🎄❤️
Happy Holidays Tater Tot Squad ❤️
Edit: Love the new grabbers 😄
Merry Christmas, happy new year, & happy holidays to you, as well. 🎁🎄🎅🏻🎉🎊
@@Beautiful_Hope Thank you so much! 🎄🎊🎅🎉❤️
Happy holidays! 😊
@@meisjeViv Thank you!! 😊❤️
happy holidays - I wish you all some rest and many happy memories!
Charles, YOU are a legend. You did the hair absolutely perfectly.
Thank you for creating this and sending it to Charlotte.
🙂🐿🌈❤️
5:40 If that bridezilla thinks it's a problem to be okay with the fact that you're not married, it makes me wonder wether she actually wants to marry her partner or if she just wants to be married. If it is that second one, it may not last long. You should never get married for the sake of being married. You should get married because you actively want to be your partners spouse, and you want them to be yours.
That Bane and pasta maker comment is a reference to Harley Quinn, the HBO Max original show
I was looking for this comment
Ginger Megaladon!
Ps: hair on point, both of you 😘
Love it, Charles!!!! That's flipping fantastic!!!! The gifts tradition says you have a year to give a wedding gift. Which would for sure make sure they make it a year and no need to ask for it back. Dont make it a year, Dont get a gift
We ended up getting married at a sci-fi convention. We invited our guests to just wear their cosplays that they were wearing that day. Even white ones.
Well my family wanted to cosplay even though I said they didn't need to. They collectively decided dressing up as "The Red Wedding" would be the perfect group cosplay. I was so stunned. Luckily they have no organizational skills and that did not happen. I should've just gone to a courthouse like I originally wanted
Too bad. It would have been hilarious.
1:47 I had a destination wedding partially because I knew less people would come 😂 But we did not have a registry bc the trip is the gift. So whoever wanted a vacation and our wedding and could afford it came and it was amazing!
We also were willing to pay or help with siblings that couldn’t afford it.
Some were still mad or got controlling about our choices but in the end we did what we wanted to and we were happy with the people that wanted to come!
I'm here for my daily dose of shenanigans! 😅
I love shenanigans, that's why Charlotte is my favorite.
Yep! I'm always ready to hear the scuttlebutt about the latest tomfoolery, hijinks, and monkeyshines! 🐒
We love drama but we love proper communication amongst grown adults even more 🥰🥰
8:00 Damn, Stephen, get your hands up when you're fighting 😂
After drama started while trying to plan our wedding, my husband and decided to I elope. We did however throw ourselves a big reception a few months later which was so fun! 27 years later, I still have no regrets! “Not even one letter”
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Honey! I don't want to spend 3k on my own wedding, let alone someone else's
This is a mood. The only reason I would spend a decent amount on a wedding is because I want a good photographer if I do get married
Can destination weddings just go away? 😂 They are so expensive! I have had to say no to so many weddings that I would have loved to attend because I love the couple so much.
MERRY CHRISTMAS EVE! HAPPY 6th day of HANUKKAH!! Hoping everyone is going to have a blessed weekend!
I love the red headed step child shark! That should be your petty AF videos prop.
A) I, too, wish to have a Charklotte grabber - redhead megalodon for the win!!
B) I’m thankful that the only “disaster” we had at my brother’s wedding was me accidentally dropping the microphone in front of everyone during one of my speaking parts at the ceremony - everyone got a good laugh 😆
I’m sorry I missed liking all the videos of weddings you posted. I’ve been watching this for hours and am so glad I found you again!😀
Speaking of destination weddings... My SO was asked by his brother to come to his wedding. We're all from Canada and we thought that a trip from Calgary to Vancouver would be no biggie. Oh how wrong we were. The brother is getting married in Vietnam in a 1.5 weeks! My SO didn't have his passport so he had to buy tickets (over $4000) and expedite the process. He got that and the last step was to get a visa to enter Vietnam. It was literally down to the wire. No kidding here, he bought the tickets last week and he was supposed to leave today! The visa is still in pending and it's now night time in Vietnam and the flight was supposed to leave Calgary at 6pm today. So he's not going now and has $4000 in plane tickets that aren't getting used. Weeee.
Oh no, what a nightmare and a waste of all that money!!!I'm so sorry yall had to go through this. How awful. I pray you're able to get some of that money back.
Oh no. You guys weren’t told at the invite?? Oh dear. Hope it works out for you
Sounds like poor planning. Don’t ever buy tickets or rush a trip unless you confirmed your visa
A friend of mine told me 6 months prior to prepare, but she also knew how much different is our currency (mine lower, seriously one way ticket to there cost a month salary, but converted to their currency it's only as much as 1 mcd burger) that she doesn't push me to come
All these support my now solid belief that weddings are overrated. There's nothing wrong with not getting married by choice or just going to the justice of the peace and get it over with. Then just save money for the honeymoon - that's the one thing I'd still have if I were to marry.
Who is too busy to respond to texts or emails? Most people who work really. Some more than others. Like nurses. Food service workers anywhere. I think we all get what I'm saying.
Looool love the red head megalodon 🤣🤣🤣
It's gorgeous just like Charlotte ❤️
Howdy gurl! Early squad!
Omg the char shark 🤣♥️ Merry Christmas!
Charklotte
I absolutely LOVE Charles's "Charklotte"! 💞 He needs to turn up the production.... sell them through Charlotte's PETTY store... with optional accessories (like bridal veil, etc). I'd love one of these Charklotte grabber!!! 🐋
I must have gone through, like, 10+ of your wedding drama videos in a row lol great to have on while you work - I'm left gobsmacked at the audacity at times
I'm super busy.. But I'm still here to watch Charlotte 😂
Merry Christmas Charlotte, I hope you and the family all have a brilliant day🎄
I always love when Charlotte posts a new video!
And happy holidays! 🎉
This is why I got married in Tahoe. We gambled and went skiing for two weeks. A month later, we had a nice reception and 32 years later, I am still glad that we didn't have a big, expensive wedding. I was more interested in being married than I cared about having a big party "all about ME." Was never one of those girls who dreamed about wearing a white dress (I wore a light mauve) and walking down the aisle. As a matter of fact, the Touch of Love wedding chapel had such a small chapel, that my dad and I had to walk sideways down the aisle with our arms up in the air.
I almost choked on my pizza, laughing at charklotte! Was not prepared for the wig 😂❤️
Big, warm, healing Texas hugs to my fellow Tater Tots! I wish for everyone a happy, safe, and healthy holiday. And if drama should happen to explode remember to come back here and share it with us. 😆 Love to all!! 🥰
Warm??? Ohhh your hugs are warm...lol heard about the weather.. she types in typical Edm weather. Happy Silly Season! XooX
West Texas here! Happy holidays!
@@lifewuzonceezr 😆
Slightly smaller, but warm nonetheless hugs back from a rainy Holland. Happy holidays!
They wish for a warm anything in Texas today.😊
OMG the shark Charlotte is effing amazing 😀 well done Sir 👍🏼👏🏼🫶🏼merry Christmas to y’all 🎄🥂
As an old (78) lady, I remember that there used to an be etiquette “rule” that said that if the couple breaks up soon after the wedding, the presents should be returned. But a year after, I imagine that many of the gifts would be used.
your editing is absolutely 1,00000000 percent top notch. its at least 8/17ths of the reason i enjoy your videos so much. brava --winky face, chefs hat, monocle, calculator
I was the MOH at my sisters wedding and she was, honestly, the most laid back bride ever. I went with her to pick her dress and helped her choose the bridesmaid dresses and her two daughters dresses and then when Covid put a kink in her wedding plans she made it a family only wedding and had to drop two of her bridesmaids (this was in April 2020 and it was just me as MOH and her husbands brothers wife at the Matron of Honor because she and my sister are close friends). I helped my sister put her dress on and helped with her makeup and she was just a really easy going bride. I guess I was expecting for her to be a bridezilla because my sister is very... um, opinionated lol. But she wasn't.
I think of someone gets divorced within a year then gets married later down the road they are not entitled to anymore gifts. They should bring the gifts from first marriage into the second marriage. If you bought them one gift already for getting married do not expect another if you get married for a second or even third time.
My Hubby & I both had previous marriages as well as living on our own afterwards so we asked for attendance instead of gifts. There were some heartfelt/heritage gifts but the people we love being there made the wedding perfect. I think many people forget forget that weddings are a celebration.
I don't go to weddings after the first, generally. I'll still send gifts tho.
Depends on the person and the situation imo. If the first failed marriage seemed like they gave it an honest try and it still didn't work out, and then they took the appropriate time to find new love and really solidify a good relationship-I would gift them again with no judgement. But if it just seems like someone is just desperate to be married and irresponsible with their feelings-absolutely not. Plus it depends on the gift registry. It's not asking too much to get a $50 toaster oven the first time and then asking for a $20 towel set the second. If they're like these bridezillas that want the $200 toaster and the $300 towel set then...yeahhh, be happy with the first amazon gift card I bought for you.
Damn…. So happy that for my wedding I just notified people two days ahead with the address where we are having a small ceremony without all this grand bullshit. People who wanted to share a moment made it or were watching the ceremony in zoom. Lunch with parents and DONE. Two days ahead because I was proposed two days before we actually got married 😂
So much better then my first wedding with partying for parents and relatives.
OMG! Girl! I literally just laughed loud and hard by myself. My cat and weenie dog think I’m crazy. The freakin shark with Charlotte hair kills me!!!!!’Merry Christmas beautiful girl and many blessings for the new year! You are a GIFT to us all!❤
Girl give a hair care tutorial I need it 💅
It depends on what's going on with your own hair and what it might need depending on the damage. I have 4ft of hair, and very little split ends and I trimmed it a year ago. Lmk what you have going on
@@erikarussell1142 Right! Most of my hair fell out after menopause, so I don't have much left to work with. I'm going to get it cut short and scrunch it to make it look fuller since it's naturally wavy.
Now that it's mostly white, I can use temporary colors or hair chalk for a fun look! Purple is my favorite color, and in October I want to go teal in support of trigeminal neuralgia, an awful, painful nerve disorder I've had for @ 20 years. October 7th is trigeminal neuralgia awareness day, and that's the ribbon color.
@Lazy I Ranch I'm so sad you suffer from such a debilitating disorder. I do know doing layers will help make your hair more full, use volumizing shampoo (they even have one in purple if you have lighter hair, I use it and I'm a golden blonde with red, brown, and black in my hair... and some gray), and only use conditioner about 2" off the scalp. I flip my head upside-down and use conditioner from root to middle of my hair, but my scalp is oily. Mayo helps bring back protein, egg whites help too if you don't like mayo smell, you soak it it for a few hours while wearing a bag on your head. Lol! And beer makes your hair shiny, and collagen mixed with asprin helps bring back elasticity strength and shine. I like to consume my collagen, tho. It helps with wrinkles and I'm getting up there in age. Lol
As a fellow ginger, I have to put my money on the Meg! 😂❤
I watched one share of yours and subscribed, and I think I’ve watched almost all of them at this point in time. Love your show keep it up.