How Can I Love Myself? | Eckhart Tolle Answers
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- Опубликовано: 5 июн 2023
- According to Eckhart, there is self-hatred, self-love, and the transcendence of self. Have you ever considered your relationship with yourself? Do you feel a sense of love, hate, or something different?
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- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this comment to know; Awakening is not changing who you are, but discarding who you are not ✨
Troll!
Love this ❤
Nice comment 👍
U forgot "discovering who u are"
Simply amazing
"go beyond hating yourself and also going beyond loving yourself" I guess this's deeply liberating!
When they said she was going crazy, she was awakening.
When they said that she was isolating, she was healing.
When they said she was acting funny, she was growing.
When they said that she had changed, she was evolving.
When they said she did not care anymore, she finally realized that her peace lives within.
And when she died they said rest in peace agreeing with her finally.
Hey, did you write this? It’s beautiful
Beautiful! Thank you!
Nice very nice
Beautiful❤
I say payers of self love and Forgiveness every morning. I was severely abused and shamed by my mother as a child. Since I started saying that I love myself unconditionally I am a kinder, more peaceful person. It’s not about self image, it’s just about love. I meditate daily as well. So loving yourself and being present are not mutually exclusive.
I am living without the need for any self/identity/image and I feel so light and free. A huge burden has lifted off me.
The trick is in maintaining that feeling. Our egos are always at work trying to stay at the front & center of distraction like total attention hogs.
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Well put
This is the most liberating feeling ever I feel so blessed to have discovery it.
I've always been aware of the dichotomy of the (fear-fed) ego-self vs one's (love-led) Inner/Higher Self. So I've never derived my sense of self from my societal/occupational roles or relationship to others. A woman who returned from an NDE said that while she was "on the other side", she was no one's mother/daughter/wife/sister/boss/whatever. "I was just ME", she reported.
Well, such has been my conscious experience since childhood, hence my perpetual lightness of being, my freedom. I apply no labels to myself; I have never even called myself a "woman", haha, as I'm aware of the litany of assumptions/beliefs that attend the construction of womanhood.
I'm just enjoying this earthly journey in a biologically female vehicle of flesh-and-bone--I take good care of it but never identify with it. My strongest connection/bond has always been to my Inner (true) Self. All roads--paved in whatever manner of experience--lead Home to one's Self. I'm already Home.
I have been trying to get rid of myself for 10+ years, now, I use the mantra I love myself and so my heart awakens but Eckhart is right making that transition feels weird and uncomfortable at first.
99.9% of our happiness and unhappiness is a direct result of the stories we tell ourselves. The story of how wonderful or how terrible we are, is just that, a story. Being happy and enjoying this wonderful experience is so much easier and much much more honest without all the mind created horror stories and self delusional ego created stories we tell ourselves about ourselves and others. Without the story everything is just fine 99.9% of the time🙏🙏🙏🙏
How to remind ourselves this?
@@funkywarrior3906 Hi, I personally find the easiest way is to just say to myself " it's just a story" no more no less. I don't need to analyse, debate or reason with my mind why it's a story any more because I have long since accepted that all thoughts, opinions on, ideas and beliefs are produced by the mind and there for can't possibly be anything but a mind story. What is, is and can be experienced by all without thoughts (Sun and Moon) but absolutely everything and anything that is dependent on attention and belief for its existence can only ever possibly be a story, and that's all thoughts and thinking are, " just a story" in our minds 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Excellent explanation, thank you
@suits334 intelegence has absolutely nothing to do with me happiness 🙏🙏🙏🙏
❤ I have found that stepping into "presence" automatically opens up your capacity to fall in love with yourself. The more you entertain that state the more you are "loving yourself".
Absolutely ❤
I love the message... Especially the beginning when you mentioned that animals don't have a conflict about who they are... They just are... Maybe we can learn from that. ☀️☀️
It is the self we identify with that is only a concept, that is unreal.
It is our false BELIEFS that we must let go.
I’m just not so sure that pets don’t have self-awareness. Like, dogs look ashamed when they do something “bad”, and cats almost look defiant. So it seems they do have self-awareness. They, too, seem to get anxious and depressed. Perhaps I’m missperceiving though.
Amen. That information would come natural if we lived with nature like we were designed to.
Unconsciousness has been the price we paid for evolving. Without it we would be roaming around like the cat and dog. It’s a double edged sword. We probably wouldn’t have survived our childhoods without repression. Healing yes but let’s not throw the baby out with the bathwater.
@@Explorer129 I wonder if domestic pets absorb & then mirror the chronic emotional states of their owners?
Like you said before, "Just be, and enjoy being." -Eckhart Tolle
Or this one too, "All you really need to do is accept this moment fully. You are then at ease in the here and now and at ease with yourself." -Eckhart Tolle
Problem……our species offers the planet nothing. We are not supposed to be here.
@@mr.c2485 We are takers. Not givers.
@@maximelagace
Yup! Something/someone really dropped the ball when it introduced our species to the planet 🌎
As Jesus said, our one and ONLY problem, is the false belief that we are separate from God, and each other.
But I hate to work more than anything! So bad it makes me suicidal. I need to pay rent, have a home, buy food etc and want to travel. But to work makes me not wanting to exist
After a couple weeks studying hard with Louise Hay's book, I finally did the Mirror Work and everything changed. A beautiful,. expansive shift. After a few more years of letting that settle and integrate, I am so in love with myself. It takes time and courage but you can do it and no one deserves love more than you.
Love her work. So helpful.
what book is this?
The concept of “love” is subjective at best. Who knows what that word even means?
So true! We can love ourselves as a beautiful divine beings & not just ego. The dogs & cats are programmed with instincts & not evolved with reason like humans. May all beings be happy & free! :)
@@josephsalvadorr Any of her book since she stresses this so much. Just ask RUclips about her book 'I can do it'. Blessings
How Can I Love Myself? Very simple, keep a blank page of nothing. Think about no one. Erase all the negative. Stay away from bs. And don't think about anyone. Do not bring their memories or any energy by thinking about them. Keep a blank sheet in your brain, to heal your mind from garbage. We are not perfect, somewhere in the periphery of your mind there might be some days a little of a mental construct, but it does not provide the basis for your sense of identity. You can think of your body as fat, thin but that is not who you are, you are the awareness of your presence.
You can love yourself (you actually become love itself) only when you first realize who you truly are, your higher self, and not your ego/mind/persona.
Those are the very things that make “loving “ oneself impossible.
So who is loving who then?
From my experience - We are love itself. We are love, naturally. Once we’re present / accepting / in flow / appreciating love naturally arises. Gratitude naturally arises, because we are that.
When you “love yourself”, who is loving who?
"If you want to learn about not having a self image, watch your dog or your cat. They don't have an opinion about who they are. They are just who they are." Thanks Eckhart.
But people keep letting me know that im ugly, useless, not worthy to even be around, stupid, selfish etc. before people had an opinion about me I liked myself.
@@Emiliah1996 who says they're right?
@@Emiliah1996Those type of people are unconscious reacting through their egos. Their consciousness is at a different stage of evolution. Just increase being in the present and be an observer. I recommend watching Eckhart’s video on dealing with negative people❤️
Yes I was beating myself up and this put it into perspective. My dog has a better life than me! Eckhart is a real blessing and I thank him from the bottom of my heart for his wise words and what he brings to the world. ❤❤❤
Society urges us to be different, so that we’ll fit in to it. We end up feeling less than because we ARE different. And that makes people uncomfortable. Loving ourselves is portrayed as selfish, self-absorbed.
Loving ourselves is accepting ourselves and perhaps making changes that will benefit us.
The greatest expression of love is freedom. Give yourself the freedom and then who's to say it isn't possible to love yourself?
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If you happen to read this keep going... You have the strength to overcome any obstacle. Celebrate your victories, no matter how small, and be kind to yourself. Your journey will lead you to a brighter tomorrow! 🦋🦋🦋
Funny reply.
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I watched this short video multiple times. It’s such a breath of fresh air and a weight off my shoulders knowing that I don’t need to love my self. It’s almost as exhausting trying to love yourself as it is hating yourself. But I don’t have to love myself. That’s an egoistic thought. An intermediate level of consciousness. Going above that level of consciousness is knowing there is no “myself” to love I am as I am. A presence. I am. No need to create this concept of identity. I am being.❤ thank you eckart for giving me this gift it’s more helpful then you could ever know……
So good ❤
Can you please explain like a grade one pupil.
@@tere0942 there is no “myself” that needs to be loved. There is just my self. A being. To love myself is like saying there is two of me. But there is just one. Myself, the consciousness. The awareness. No need to “love yourself “ because you are just a form of consciousness.
@@tere0942 you just are as you are. Nothing more.
@@tere0942 loving yourself is just an ego thing to latch on to.
“you are the presence not the form”; “you are awareness, your form is not the basis of who you are”… wow, that hits me! ❤❤❤
If you liked that, You’ll love Conversations With David Bingham.😊
Accept any suffering, be still within…. If you’re going through hell, keep going. There’s no problem without a gift in its hand… love arises from living this ✨
Love is ALWAYS giving, give yourself a break…. Be here NOW ✨
It is true.🙏✨
There is no need to love yourself or hate yourself,it is wasted energy to stop at this and it leads nowhere! Sensing the flow of energy that WE ARE this is vital!
It is to perceive the energy of which we are made, of which the universe is composed of.
WE are life! ❤️Is it not enough?!
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I understand and we can just be who we are as "am" . But in this life we will simply fade away if we are not dealing with the surface of things.
I agree I think we need both. Sometimes I focus on my self esteem, other times my self worth.
When an opinion of myself pops up, I will remember the cats and the dogs. What a great example.
Ekhart you are the source of wisdom for me, I love the way you present your wisdom and I love your refined humor.
This man talks about the awakened consciousness as if we go through a period of inner turmoil and then we then become awakened and walk in total peace and harmony and everything just flows into our hands etc. It is not as simple as that at all. At all!
He suffered a lot beforehand...
@@veroniqueverstichelen7371 sorry to insult the eckhart fan base but that was Not my point fool
I think the nature of this topic makes it hard to apply context. I find that with many gurus. It can be frustrating.
@@miracles4u lol...blessings...you need them
And yes it's not easy...nothing worthwhile is easy..it does get easier though...
When I go into deep presence I am not a name, a body, or any earthly (programmed) identity. I am energy...frequency. SPIRIT...that is my TRUE identity born from love...all it takes is re-aligning with who you truly are because at the foundation of that is LOVE and you cannot help but to love yourself because you KNOW you are of divine source.
Also when you lose that egoic programmed self identity you learned from society (subconsciously) and become present with your true identity you enter the quantum field where all time and possibility exist, or in other words you blend with Source, or God and then you tap into the ultimate creative force of the universe and create your reality from a place of unity with God rather than from fear born out of programmed separation from God, which is why most fail at law of attraction work no matter how hard they try, you need to make this shift first. Namaste
I had 2 NDE's and saw that we are all pure unconditional Love. We learn that everything is a transaction, that we have to earn love and there are rewards and punishments. We learn to NOT be ourselves. In the NDE's, there was no "God" of any religion handing out rewards, punishments or judgements. I saw that I agreed to "this life" and the agreement was made out of pure Love. I was asked a question. If words were used, it would have been something like "Can you perceive everything, welcome everything in the same way you are being welcomed and held right now"? I saw that the challenge of this life was to remember who we ALL are and then live from there while embodied in this human experience.
@@annemurphy8074 That is beautiful and similar to my own experiences. Thank you for sharing this with us!
Relatively speaking, I have a soul, mind, ego, and body.
Absolutely speaking, let all that shit go.
God is I, I am He.
This extreme too good to be true Realization is very complex for the mind, contradictory, blasphemy, illogical etc.
Take your time and deconstruct the mind, and solve its supposed problems lol.
You have a lot of time, cuz this is the Truth, so relax, use your time.
When and if God Wills to give you His Greatest gift, that you are Him...
You are Him.
@@sreeharim9780 basically once I hit that sweet spot of the present moment Where I’m not a name or a body a “no-body” hi super grateful just for the perfection of the living NOW that for a moment or two, and then in my mind, I make the present now as me living my dreams, so I see it hear it feel it taste it..BE it and feel very grateful and hold that several minutes. I have more information and videos and I’d encourage you to check out Dr. Joe Dispenza, if you are not familiar with him. Would I do is kind of a variation on his work, and what I’ve learned through doing heart brain coherence exercises. cheers and happy manifesting
Danke Eckhart für dein Sein! Sei gesegnet💫♥️🙏
So thankful we get to experience him in our lifetime! AND so thankful he's been recorded so that future people may experience his teachings!
So rare! Rare, because once enlightened that will be your last time being reincarnated to this world! (Why there aren't many masters) So thankful he lived during our lifetime!
Many thanks and many blessings dear Eckhart... ❤
Thanks that idea about loving myself was always confusing to me
For yourself, love everyone. For everyone, be yourself, free of ego.
I am so glad I came across the book and him at the age of 23. I would love to live my live with his teachings by being fully present. If you see this comment some time from mind, please do me a favor and remind me to live in the moment. Thanks
A reminder: live at the moment ❤️
I firmly believe that animals do have a sense of "Me" or an "I am", and can have emotions associated with this.
They do ! That's why their personalities differ and they even get depressed.
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He has such a good point that loving yourself isn’t the point. We have to go beyond beyond the self. Someone should send that video to Louise Hay
I’m always amazed at how Elkhart never seems to get or look any older!?❤
He already looked old from the first moment he appeared on camera and became famous. He gets Holywood standard beauty treatments "creamy milk" from Kim Eng.
She may be dry as a table, but he knows well how to milk it. It's the "skimmed milk" and botox treatments.
"Stillness Speaks" is the best book I never finished ! ❤
Who is the author of the book?
@@ntombifuthicebisa4835 Eckhart Tolle
"You are the presence,you are not the form that's a temporary expression of you but you are the underlying presense"
Eckhart Tolle and Gary Zukav (he is my favorite his voice is necessary) and Dolores Cannon and Louise Hay what 4 great ones. Mentors and Teachers of the Spirit. I wish more people become like them, I guess it takes time for others to realize these are the things we need to do.
Where there is anger, there is always pain underneath
Always
I remember hearing this “love yourself” since the beginning of my path to Self-discovery and I always felt a bit strange about it. It didn’t seem plausible and now, after hearing Elkhart’s explanation, it makes sense to me now. Loving yourself means accepting yourself as you are just as you do in accepting others as they are. God loves us in this same way. It’s nice not feeling self critical or overly satisfied with one’s self. There is a constant contentment in each present moment.
You Love Yourself..By doing what is Best for yourself! 😊❤
Now I get it and before leaving these I have sent the letter for my protection.
Baby’s are in the same state as dogs and cats 😍✨
Loving yourself is imagined. 💞
Thank you for your humor and loving way of teaching us Eckhart 💕💜
That waterfall moment certainly took me beyond myself!
Wow yet another profound video by eckhart! Thank you!!
Dziękuję💖💖💖
A complete and unique wise man ❤
Thank you, Eckhart. Peace and love. 🙏
Lovely video man. Thanks for being there for all the people that watch your videos. 💜💜
THENK YOU MY LIFE THECHER!!!!🙏🙏🙏
I Love You Eckhart. ♥️🙏☮️
Thank you Ekhart 🙏❤️
Eckhart, sempre transcendental ❤
Wonderfully explained!
This is so clear, so wonderful. Exact. Thank you, Eckhart Tolle.
I love you, Mr. Tolle! 🤗
We are not Animals, but humans made in Gods image which is a right view, of Love, self, and God, there is a true, balance of who we are, and who we are not.
I needed this. Thank you ET!
Great reminders here!
love you Eckart❤❤❤
thanks for sharing god bless you and your family 🙏🙏🙏
Eckhart, thanks for the reminder.
Thank you and All the best
Thank you Eckhart Tolle for this message about how to love myself again.
In the quiet spaces of your mind,
Where self-doubt may sometimes find,
A tender echo, soft and clear,
Whispers words you need to hear.
Love yourself, oh gentle soul,
In the mirror, make it whole.
For in your flaws and imperfections,
Lie the beauty of your reflections.
Embrace the scars that mark your skin,
Each a story, where you've been.
They tell of battles fought and won,
A testament to all you've done.
In every laugh, in every tear,
In every triumph, in every fear,
Find the strength to stand tall,
In the embrace of your own call.
Cherish the depths within your heart,
Where dreams ignite and passions start.
For in loving yourself, you'll come to see,
The boundless possibility.
So dance beneath the starlit sky,
With arms outstretched, let your spirit fly.
For you are worthy, you are enough,
A masterpiece of love's sweet stuff.
In the tapestry of life's grand scheme,
You're a thread, a radiant beam.
So hold yourself with gentle care,
And know that love is always there.
Love yourself, oh cherished friend,
For in that love, you'll find no end.
In every breath, in every hue,
Love yourself, for you are you.
Instantly brilliant
Lastly, I'm so grateful what you have help me since I met you.
It's nice to met an amazing teacher or friend in my life.
Such a beautiful soul, ❤
You as much as anyone deserve your love & respect.
I love how he addressed the male insecurity around losinf the sexual prowess and the pointer to look at your dog.
Gotta love Eckhart 😊🤗❤️
This had me in stitches. Great talk!
How much I admire this man's mind!
Eckhart you make me smile when you smirk whilst talking. This is so very pleasant to watch. God bless you. Thank you for your teachings.
Such good value Eckhart xxx
Wonderful Video… thank you Eckhart! One of the most important videos about this topic..
Very insightful thanks. I was thinking recently about how relatively short my dogs lifespan is and he must know he is getting older because he isn’t as sprightly and he struggles a bit more but they accept it completely.
Thank you
Very interesting and the idea of an intermediate state sems to me good. Thank you very much for this talk.
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 thank you so much eckhart
I think there is really good wisdom on self love and dealing with the personal aspect of life in psychology and personal development. There are many enlightened people in the personal development field who have a more sensible message that Eckhart Tolle. We are human and have emotions and processes that are well understood through psychology and personal development. Yes, working with your ego and the self that you are, a challenging but hugely rewarding practice. Learning to relate to others better can be improved through understanding your ego self. Having a broader perspective than just spiritualuality is crucial to being a better person.
Thanks Eckhart
Beautiful soul ❤
Gratitude ❤
Thanks Eckhart! 🙏💛💚
Excellent !
Yes. Thank you.
Good message on silencing the mind
THANK YOU!
Now THAT was deep 0:15
Live like there’s no tomorrow ❤
Wow! Yes!
Healing. ❤
This is my favorite talk from Eckhart. We can learn so much from our dogs and cats, all animals. ☮️❤️🐶🐱🐾🫶💯
Eckhart, thank you so much for this video on how to love yourself. I once heard somewhere that a goldfish has a memory/attention span of 10 seconds. Oh how I wish I was a goldfish 🙏🏽❤️🥰
Thank you 🙏🏽
Most of us are and have a weak sense of self ,i think the things you think or thoughts or a lacking of intelligence compounds it by the lack of verbal self ,and trauma plays a huge part even in the unconscious some trauma is blind to the conscious mind,ie in the informative years.4months to 36months
The answer isn't to love yourself, it's to "be" yourself.