Hey dude, how are you doing this week? It made me really sad to hear how others treated you and that friends ghosted you after your mania. You have a really great attitude about the situation. I also lost friends after my first severe psychosis/mania and it made me feel so angry and betrayed for so long. People I was friends with for 10+ years just dipped. Now I have a better outlook on it and know those people weren't real friends. After my last psychosis I met some amazing people in my outpatient program who have become solid friends. I really hope you've since found some solid people too.
Where you able to explain what had happened afterwards or did they just completely unfriend you? That's messed up that they would distance themselves when that was the time you needed them most but I could undertand somewhat ...I hope you never go through that ever again, sending you all the best wishes in your recovery
For the most part I didn't really get to explain what happened. In total there are only about 6 people I encountered during my manic episode who I have personally reached out to. Those 6 I've reached out to have been understanding and accepting. I don't have the goal anymore of explaining what happened to everyone. As nice as that would be, it's just not really an attainable goal and it would bring large amounts of undue stress. I feel like I'm better off focusing on the path forward. Thank you for commenting and for caring. I appreciate your well wishes greatly and comments like this are very helpful to my personal recovery.
The same exact thing happened to me but my family didn’t stop talking to me until I got sober. Yeah they’ll encourage dangerous behavior but once you center yourself. It’s all down hill. I’m very alone these days. No more bbqs, no more parties. I’m just a sad sack of potatoes that’s on 3 bipolar meds. 🕴🏻
I'm sorry to hear you are not on better terms with your family. I've had animosity with family members in the past and had moments of time where it felt like certain family members just didn't understand me so I can relate to the feeling of having your own blood against you. That is a fantastic thing though that you are now sober! It is not an easy task and it takes a formidable person and serious amounts of diligence and commitment to overcome any addiction. There is a fine line between loneliness and solitude. At times, I appreciate being by myself in the tranquility of my own thought and aspirations but too much time being alone overwhelms me and makes me feel worthless. It's a feeling I personally haven't completely overcome yet. Even though I was fortunate enough to amend my relationships with family members, I still don't see them very often and I also don't have any friends. In college, I interacted with hundreds of people a week at minimum so these past few years have been a whole new experience for me. You may be alone but I hope you know that you have value and are worth it to this world. The probability of existence itself is extremely low and yet is something we have both been able to attain and so far maintain. Try to focus on the small things as much as possible, don't overload yourself, and recognize how unique and special you truly are. I know not everyone would agree but I personally believe the universe puts all of us here for a reason. There is meaning behind the experiences we go through. And even though it is not always possible to control what happens to us, it is always within our power how we choose to react. As someone who was in a dark and deep depression not too long ago for multiple years, I promise you that things will eventually get better. How fast that happens is different for everyone but life is like a coin flip, we are always going to find ourselves on one side or the other for each repetition/simulation. Please take care my friend. I wish you the best on your journey and wish you all the best! You deserve it.
@@tyleradolfo7213 our son is the same. It’s been over a year now since he’s been first diagnosed and discharged from the Psyche ward. He isolated himself and no motivation. He only comes out from his room when using the lavatory or dinner time 😢. We are hopeful that he will come out of this horrible nightmare. 🤞🤞🤞🙏
@@simmic3766 My first year after being diagnosed was also incredibly brutal, but things started to get better gradually with time so don't surrender hope. Isolation was my go to coping mechanism as well and in some respects it worked for me. It helped me process what had happened and slow down my racing thoughts. Sometimes we can benefit from a break from interactions. Try to think of bipolar mania as a brain injury because it truly is. It's just like if a basketball player broke their leg, it takes time to heal and recover, not just physically, but also from the mental trauma, and the fear that it can happen again. Your son is so fortunate to have such incredible parents that care about him. That alone will go a very long way in his recovery. Please stay strong and don't give up hope. Time is the greatest healer. Take care my friend.
I have a friend who has been manic since January..multiple law enforcement encounters, house a wreck, fired..just nuts and uncharacterstic completely. People are withdrawing..I can see it. I don't plan to. How to help ??
It sounds like you are a great friend. As someone with bipolar, it means a lot that you are not abandoning your friend. Helping anyone going through mania is always going to be a daunting task so it takes high character and levels of commitment. I'm not a medical professional but in my experience, lack of sleep is a major ally to mania; it's fuel to the fire so to speak. Whenever your friend does get sleep, make sure you don't disturb them because sleep can be incredibly rare during a manic episode. Try to spend time with your friend as much as you can within reason or without injury to yourself to let them know you care. This also enables you to maintain a watchful eye in case you notice them saying or doing things that might pose a danger to themselves or others that requires hospitalization. In your interactions, you don't want to validate their delusions but at the same time you also don't want to be confrontational. I know that's a tough line to walk but you just have to try your best to be as calm as you can with your friend. There is a very real possibility that your friend may say some things to you that are unbecoming of their character. This is not the real them though. So for your own well being as well as theirs, don't take anything they say personal. I know being around someone 24/7 is unrealistic, but it is possible to check in to see if they're doing ok and since someone going through mania may start to distrust many, if they trust you, it's all the more important because you may very well be the only person even bothering to make an effort to help them. Full blown mania is tough to navigate for friends and family so don't be hard on yourself if your efforts to help don't seem to be working. You are making an effort and that's what counts. It's the best you can do. In my view, a lot more help can be given to someone showing warning signs of mania, and it becomes tougher as a person's mania intensifies. I wish you the best in helping your friend. The world needs more people like you in it. It would be a much better place.
Hey dude, how are you doing this week? It made me really sad to hear how others treated you and that friends ghosted you after your mania. You have a really great attitude about the situation.
I also lost friends after my first severe psychosis/mania and it made me feel so angry and betrayed for so long. People I was friends with for 10+ years just dipped. Now I have a better outlook on it and know those people weren't real friends. After my last psychosis I met some amazing people in my outpatient program who have become solid friends. I really hope you've since found some solid people too.
Where you able to explain what had happened afterwards or did they just completely unfriend you? That's messed up that they would distance themselves when that was the time you needed them most but I could undertand somewhat ...I hope you never go through that ever again, sending you all the best wishes in your recovery
For the most part I didn't really get to explain what happened. In total there are only about 6 people I encountered during my manic episode who I have personally reached out to. Those 6 I've reached out to have been understanding and accepting. I don't have the goal anymore of explaining what happened to everyone. As nice as that would be, it's just not really an attainable goal and it would bring large amounts of undue stress. I feel like I'm better off focusing on the path forward. Thank you for commenting and for caring. I appreciate your well wishes greatly and comments like this are very helpful to my personal recovery.
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The same exact thing happened to me but my family didn’t stop talking to me until I got sober. Yeah they’ll encourage dangerous behavior but once you center yourself. It’s all down hill.
I’m very alone these days. No more bbqs, no more parties. I’m just a sad sack of potatoes that’s on 3 bipolar meds. 🕴🏻
I'm sorry to hear you are not on better terms with your family. I've had animosity with family members in the past and had moments of time where it felt like certain family members just didn't understand me so I can relate to the feeling of having your own blood against you. That is a fantastic thing though that you are now sober! It is not an easy task and it takes a formidable person and serious amounts of diligence and commitment to overcome any addiction.
There is a fine line between loneliness and solitude. At times, I appreciate being by myself in the tranquility of my own thought and aspirations but too much time being alone overwhelms me and makes me feel worthless. It's a feeling I personally haven't completely overcome yet. Even though I was fortunate enough to amend my relationships with family members, I still don't see them very often and I also don't have any friends. In college, I interacted with hundreds of people a week at minimum so these past few years have been a whole new experience for me. You may be alone but I hope you know that you have value and are worth it to this world. The probability of existence itself is extremely low and yet is something we have both been able to attain and so far maintain. Try to focus on the small things as much as possible, don't overload yourself, and recognize how unique and special you truly are. I know not everyone would agree but I personally believe the universe puts all of us here for a reason. There is meaning behind the experiences we go through. And even though it is not always possible to control what happens to us, it is always within our power how we choose to react. As someone who was in a dark and deep depression not too long ago for multiple years, I promise you that things will eventually get better. How fast that happens is different for everyone but life is like a coin flip, we are always going to find ourselves on one side or the other for each repetition/simulation. Please take care my friend. I wish you the best on your journey and wish you all the best! You deserve it.
@@tyleradolfo7213 our son is the same. It’s been over a year now since he’s been first diagnosed and discharged from the Psyche ward. He isolated himself and no motivation. He only comes out from his room when using the lavatory or dinner time 😢. We are hopeful that he will come out of this horrible nightmare. 🤞🤞🤞🙏
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I guessing I addicted also to helping my family all the time along with alcohol that makes for a horrible experience
@@simmic3766 My first year after being diagnosed was also incredibly brutal, but things started to get better gradually with time so don't surrender hope. Isolation was my go to coping mechanism as well and in some respects it worked for me. It helped me process what had happened and slow down my racing thoughts. Sometimes we can benefit from a break from interactions. Try to think of bipolar mania as a brain injury because it truly is. It's just like if a basketball player broke their leg, it takes time to heal and recover, not just physically, but also from the mental trauma, and the fear that it can happen again. Your son is so fortunate to have such incredible parents that care about him. That alone will go a very long way in his recovery. Please stay strong and don't give up hope. Time is the greatest healer. Take care my friend.
I have a friend who has been manic since January..multiple law enforcement encounters, house a wreck, fired..just nuts and uncharacterstic completely. People are withdrawing..I can see it. I don't plan to. How to help ??
It sounds like you are a great friend. As someone with bipolar, it means a lot that you are not abandoning your friend. Helping anyone going through mania is always going to be a daunting task so it takes high character and levels of commitment.
I'm not a medical professional but in my experience, lack of sleep is a major ally to mania; it's fuel to the fire so to speak. Whenever your friend does get sleep, make sure you don't disturb them because sleep can be incredibly rare during a manic episode. Try to spend time with your friend as much as you can within reason or without injury to yourself to let them know you care. This also enables you to maintain a watchful eye in case you notice them saying or doing things that might pose a danger to themselves or others that requires hospitalization. In your interactions, you don't want to validate their delusions but at the same time you also don't want to be confrontational. I know that's a tough line to walk but you just have to try your best to be as calm as you can with your friend. There is a very real possibility that your friend may say some things to you that are unbecoming of their character. This is not the real them though. So for your own well being as well as theirs, don't take anything they say personal. I know being around someone 24/7 is unrealistic, but it is possible to check in to see if they're doing ok and since someone going through mania may start to distrust many, if they trust you, it's all the more important because you may very well be the only person even bothering to make an effort to help them.
Full blown mania is tough to navigate for friends and family so don't be hard on yourself if your efforts to help don't seem to be working. You are making an effort and that's what counts. It's the best you can do. In my view, a lot more help can be given to someone showing warning signs of mania, and it becomes tougher as a person's mania intensifies. I wish you the best in helping your friend. The world needs more people like you in it. It would be a much better place.
@@tyleradolfo7213 thank you..I needed to hear that.
@@ellietoper8584 thank you for being a solid friend, those are hard to come by