Benjamin I’m a product of a polygamous family and the experience is horrible.. alot of competition and hatred yet we carry our bibles everywhere we go. How I wish I could wake up and find myself in a different world… The whole process is traumatizing.
True,am yet to meet a person who grew up in a polygamous family supporting polygamy. You grow up with pain, unhealthy competition, jealousy, rejection....some of us are still healing from growing up in polygamous families. I honestly fear polygamy than being a single mother.
'In a courtroom of hyenas, a goat will never have a right' Wueeeh!!! The wisdom from Benjamin is so deep but true. I wasted a lot of time trying to 'prove' myself to people who would never see my value. I'm glad I walked out. And I hope more women will have the courage to do the same instead of sitting in helplessness and humiliation.
I like your mentality Zulu I argue with men who think with money there's no problem marrying many women .you are the first man have heard speaking sense
Women can be empowered but not to the point of trying to control men's decisions on how many wives they want to marry, this is not a woman's place in a man's life 👍
@@JesseVealIII The Old Testament didn't exist in a vacuum. God created mankind with a free will to choose right and wrong. Just because you have a free will to be gluttonous towards food,drinks or greed towards worldly materials it doesn't make it right.The same principle applies to polygamy or women How about your wife or future wife marries another man and you share happily ever after?#Husband one and husband two fairytale!!!!
😂🤣😂 God has never been against polygamy. It is there in the bible, many biblically great men were polygamous. You can leave if it doesn’t work for you and want your own man which you will basically have to bake 😂🤣. But don’t hint at it as being ungodly or even unafrican
@@JesseVealIII Please read your Bible. As Zulu said, polygamy is recorded in the bible but is not recommended. It is documented as having caused a lot of strife in families, as it still happens today. That's why Apostal Paul condemned polygamy & only recommended monogamy. Thank goodness for that. Open your mind & your eyes 👀 & look around you 🙄
You have a feminist mentality, it sure how you’ll ever attract a high value man. It’s not a competition. Then pregnant women should also be mechanics and go under the cars with their big bellies for servicing.
The best decision ma'ama ever made for herself was walk away.I bless her to this day.Cause weeeehhh the chaos that comes with polygamy is something else.
@@Polygyny to each their own.Your decisions your choices have nothing to do with others experience.Not every aspect of life shall be guided by the Bible.
@alfinsjoshua8098 which means such people shouldn't present themselves as Christians then. If someone is going claim they a Christian then they should accept that different people interested in pursuing different lawful activities and that includes a wife accepting that a husband may pursue something they might not agree with but should accept their freedom in God. Divorcing would be wrong and unjust and sinful and such a women, which should a mindset, shouldn't tell a man that she is a Christ follower if she is not open to the whole counsel of God - I am sure you'd think that is reasonable? I hope so anyway The bottom line is a Christian is not to choose what parts of the Bible he/she wants follow or not that would be disingenuous
This is what am going through, everyone blaming me, and i knew he is long distance working, just to realize had another family . Thank Mr. Zulu for your advice am stronger and resilient. I went in depression God is good.
Where in the bible does it say men and women are equal partners in marriage? What it does say is the man is the head of the woman and that wives are to be subject to their husbands in everything
Oh my goodness! Benjamin Zulu is just heaven sent to always speak out the realities of life. Thank you so much for empowering us women to understand our rights
Kudos Benjamin..there is no woman who wishes to stay after a man gets another woman..they ones who stay it's because they have not invested therefore have nothing to feed the kids or where to start from
Women keep forgetting that the moment you are married no other man will keep you..walk away to what.. sleeping with people's husband's ..and after fouty no man will touch you
You man who told you when you walk away it means no will have you again,if they accept you when you are married so what's stops a woman from being married again
@Benjamin what about those few first wives who Force their husbands to marry second wives because of their failures koz not every man wishes to end up as polygamist??
@@bellamugala1727 yah....It's like this,, a man marries hoping to have a better and prosperous future with his wife,, but the sad part is that the man is a gold getter and the wife doesn't like like real hustle, the wife also doesn't look after his husbands assets but what she likes is a show off life, milking the husband dry and she doesn't motivate her hubby in whatever thing he does but instead she brings him down,,and the annoying list goes on and on there are such sick wife's who force's their hubbies to be polygamous not because they want to but such husbands sees no better future with such a wife.....
I didn't sign up for being the first wife I am safe being an ex wife You marry I leave I can be someone else meat if I am your poison Children suffer ..
If you leave and you marry another man you would have committed adultery - keep your pride inside and stop being a feminist. Christianity and feminism do not go together
Benjamin, am dating this guy that after sometime i feel like he rejoices in my chaos. That is when he gets other women in our relationship and I react to it. He says polygamy for me must be there since am a nice person with greater qualities than other men that's why women love me is this a healthy relationship? Can I ever do life with them?
I love the way women are resisting polygamy yet they say yes to it every day😀..this is a very personal issue..no one can decide for even benjamin zulu, only u...zulu most viewers are women n hes knows he wil have lots of subscribers,zulu pls give us a solution for those single mothers who strive n get abused every day by evil wicked men who claim to be monogamous..dont just demonize polygamy,give us a solution for single mothers n ladies who desire to have kids n be happy in a more stable relationship!.i have deep respect for men who come out n say i have 2 wives,than hiding in cheats,..zulu skewes toward women in most of his content,..polygamy is not a sin..Gideon had many wives,David,Hanah the mother of prophet samuel was in polygamist family,she had peninah as a cowife..yet Elikanah offered annual sacrfices to God..why do pple not read the bible for themselves!
With this argument, then: Cain killed his brother Abel, Lot's daughters did what they did with their father, Judas killed himself Tamar did what she did Absalom too did his bin David and Uriah/Bathsheba Not forgetting Eli's sons All above are in the Bible. ...ask the children from polygamous
The problem is women themselves,why give out sex before marriage .if women value themselves and stay virgin till in marriage there will be no such things.
@Mesh muesh, so virginity is the measure by which a woman's determinant on stability and justification for a good marriage, is virginity the same measure for men (to uphold from sexual intimacy until after marriage)?
Am 19;yrs dating a 48 old guy but he is married the wife left they had three kids am scared plz help coz everytime i want to be just his galfrnd he gets mad he only wants to marry me 😭
You are too young to get involved with a married man. First you need to grow and develop yourself go to school and build yourself you are a child and the guy is abusing you. Second find out why the mother of his kids left, he might be the biggest problem in the marriage and things won't get better even if you marry him.
Benjamin I’m a product of a polygamous family and the experience is horrible.. alot of competition and hatred yet we carry our bibles everywhere we go. How I wish I could wake up and find myself in a different world… The whole process is traumatizing.
Polygamy is recorded in the Bible but it was never recommended... Ongeza volume!!
Say it louder 🗣️ 📣!
Show where polygyny was not recommended or where monogamy-only was recommended over polygyny?
Amen! God does not agree with polegamy. It nothing but problems
@@Polygyny Matthew 19:9, Mark 10
When raised in apolygamous family you can't make mistake of being in one when you grow it sucks , ...embrace monogamy for you to have peace
True,am yet to meet a person who grew up in a polygamous family supporting polygamy. You grow up with pain, unhealthy competition, jealousy, rejection....some of us are still healing from growing up in polygamous families. I honestly fear polygamy than being a single mother.
God bless you..
@@annie_sayss people are cause of that, not polygyny itself. The same problems can exist and do exist in monogamous marriage 👍
Very true Benjamin.. ask us who grew up in polygamous families.. its sickening.
Pls gist me. What are the things that happened in your polygamous family?
'In a courtroom of hyenas, a goat will never have a right' Wueeeh!!! The wisdom from Benjamin is so deep but true. I wasted a lot of time trying to 'prove' myself to people who would never see my value. I'm glad I walked out. And I hope more women will have the courage to do the same instead of sitting in helplessness and humiliation.
The way men think that polygamy is sweet surprises me.
“Love is territorial and exclusive” ❤
This only applies to men, not women - men are not the property of women - female possessiveness over men is unrighteous
I like your mentality Zulu I argue with men who think with money there's no problem marrying many women .you are the first man have heard speaking sense
I salute you beja for saying the bitter truth. Those without dignity n character cn b second wives or stay in a triangle 📐 luck of value
Polygamy is like sitting on a bomb hoping that it will not explored!
Love is territorial and exclusive! Thanks @ Benjamin Zulu. The current generation and society at large is lucky to have you.
Thank you sir .... Cerah should watch this and realize the harm she is doing to herself and children.
Wow! Kumbe it's not only me who thought about her.
No problem for polygamy family
@@hanksmigibigsparks8505 ask the children...
Yet in most cases we stay on for the children, kumbe they are left in trauma
How do I tag those * 🤡HAPPILY MARRIED LADIES* from Lynn’s channel they have to hear 👂 this….
The Wisdom you guys has just shared is one to bring liberation to most women. I wish you more to share.
This man is always oozing with wisdom. Thanks Zulu for encouraging us to settle for nothing but the best. Women let be empowered.
Women can be empowered but not to the point of trying to control men's decisions on how many wives they want to marry, this is not a woman's place in a man's life 👍
I wonder why Zulu has few subscribers 😒this man educates🙏
Simple not many can stand the truth
Always truth hearts
Let's hold our dignity and values so high so that no one can pull us down with their silly demands..
How do I like this conversation twice😩😩
How many men can tolerate another man in a marriage?God created Adam and Eve .Why stay in a marriage that you are being told you are not enough?
Many men in the old testament were also polygamous! God allowed it so who are you to dismiss it?
@@JesseVealIII The Old Testament didn't exist in a vacuum. God created mankind with a free will to choose right and wrong. Just because you have a free will to be gluttonous towards food,drinks or greed towards worldly materials it doesn't make it right.The same principle applies to polygamy or women
How about your wife or future wife marries another man and you share happily ever after?#Husband one and husband two fairytale!!!!
😂🤣😂 God has never been against polygamy. It is there in the bible, many biblically great men were polygamous. You can leave if it doesn’t work for you and want your own man which you will basically have to bake 😂🤣. But don’t hint at it as being ungodly or even unafrican
@@JesseVealIII Please read your Bible. As Zulu said, polygamy is recorded in the bible but is not recommended. It is documented as having caused a lot of strife in families, as it still happens today. That's why Apostal Paul condemned polygamy & only recommended monogamy. Thank goodness for that. Open your mind & your eyes 👀 & look around you 🙄
You have a feminist mentality, it sure how you’ll ever attract a high value man. It’s not a competition.
Then pregnant women should also be mechanics and go under the cars with their big bellies for servicing.
Dignity gives you the bare minimum!! May we teach our children THIS!!
This is why I love psychology # the truth and reality of things # facts not opinions
The best decision ma'ama ever made for herself was walk away.I bless her to this day.Cause weeeehhh the chaos that comes with polygamy is something else.
Where in the bible does it say for a woman to walk from her marriage because a man decides to take a another wife? Why are you praising evil?
@@Polygyny to each their own.Your decisions your choices have nothing to do with others experience.Not every aspect of life shall be guided by the Bible.
@alfinsjoshua8098 which means such people shouldn't present themselves as Christians then. If someone is going claim they a Christian then they should accept that different people interested in pursuing different lawful activities and that includes a wife accepting that a husband may pursue something they might not agree with but should accept their freedom in God.
Divorcing would be wrong and unjust and sinful and such a women, which should a mindset, shouldn't tell a man that she is a Christ follower if she is not open to the whole counsel of God - I am sure you'd think that is reasonable? I hope so anyway
The bottom line is a Christian is not to choose what parts of the Bible he/she wants follow or not that would be disingenuous
@@Polygyny if by any standards you hold me to Christians values against my unacceptance of polygamy then by all means am officially a pagan🙆🙈🙉🙊
This is what am going through, everyone blaming me, and i knew he is long distance working, just to realize had another family . Thank Mr. Zulu for your advice am stronger and resilient. I went in depression God is good.
It pains. Pole
Let them continue blaming you..... Gal... Do you build your life... Focus on you not what they say... You are the wearer of the shoe
Its happening to me now sister...😫😓😓
@@wanjimillicent why are you depressed because your man decided to expand his family, something God gave him the right to do?
Benjamin Zulu, your wisdom is on another level 🎖️🌟! Mwikali is even speechless at your defence of us women 🎉! Thank you ❤️!
Polygamy is gaining acceptance @wanjohi queens and @Abrahams empire should watch this.
Dignity gives you bare minimums!! true true true!
Well said @Benjamin zulu. You have just taught the next generation to avoid the shenanigans
The conversation is very healthy 👍
Wow Zulu, thank you for setting things right. We are equal partners with our own roles in the marriage. 🙏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Where in the bible does it say men and women are equal partners in marriage?
What it does say is the man is the head of the woman and that wives are to be subject to their husbands in everything
Oh my goodness! Benjamin Zulu is just heaven sent to always speak out the realities of life. Thank you so much for empowering us women to understand our rights
Kudos Benjamin..there is no woman who wishes to stay after a man gets another woman..they ones who stay it's because they have not invested therefore have nothing to feed the kids or where to start from
If you love yourself you cn never b a second tyre
Someone tag Abraham's Empire.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hapo wanajuwa kitu inaendelea ama kuna mtu anatumika I don't trust such a madness 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
Walk out like nothing happened never question him it's not that serious,succeed alone and until 2098 don't ask him anything...lol!!!....
They keep talking of Solomon and his 700 and 300...then sijui we're Africans oooh, sijui Christianity was brought by wazungus to oppress Africans
Solomon's life was just chaos.. He even acknowledged it was all vanity
Very very much truth mr
Benjamin... You are the man 👋👋👋
Let no one stand that low. When he brings in a second wife walk away.
Women keep forgetting that the moment you are married no other man will keep you..walk away to what.. sleeping with people's husband's ..and after fouty no man will touch you
You man who told you when you walk away it means no will have you again,if they accept you when you are married so what's stops a woman from being married again
@@mburugithinji7204 women are no longer interested in marrying men who have no brains😃😃😃
@@NamaraMiriam exactly
The biggest nonsense that ever existed is poligamy.
So God blessed nonsense in the Bible then? Be careful because linking what God ordained and partook in himself as nonsense is blasphemy 🙄
Excellent conversation ask the children who are raised in a polygamous family
Am here come smell my back
Thank you!
Weeee!! Zulu my person... 👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿
God bless you mr zulu live long 🤗🙏👏👏👏
If it was a woman teaching this, both men and women would have quickly labeled her as a feminist.
I love you guys go on.
Wow to day is 🔥 maybe crazy people are just happy with polygamy!
Zahir @ 1timothy3:2
Titus1:6
Ephesians5:22-33
I wouldn't even wait for him to marry,the moment I get wind of another woman being entertained,I leave
Thank you Leah.... I'd do that also
I did that straight away and he was shocked by my decision 🤣
Like wise and to this day he has never understood me!!! I didn't even have the patience to ask him any questions 🤣🤣🤣
Leave to go where exactly?
Volume high 💪💪
@Benjamin what about those few first wives who Force their husbands to marry second wives because of their failures koz not every man wishes to end up as polygamist??
Are you sure?
@@hildajeptoo5267 100 percent sure...Some women forces their husbands to marry second wives .... There's wise and foolish wife right??
Do such women exist???? Jesus!!!!
@@bellamugala1727 yah....It's like this,, a man marries hoping to have a better and prosperous future with his wife,, but the sad part is that the man is a gold getter and the wife doesn't like like real hustle, the wife also doesn't look after his husbands assets but what she likes is a show off life, milking the husband dry and she doesn't motivate her hubby in whatever thing he does but instead she brings him down,,and the annoying list goes on and on there are such sick wife's who force's their hubbies to be polygamous not because they want to but such husbands sees no better future with such a wife.....
@@cikuciku2355 and I suppose it is the man saying he was forced?
I didn't sign up for being the first wife I am safe being an ex wife
You marry I leave
I can be someone else meat if I am your poison
Children suffer ..
Same here dear
Who is marrying devorced women...and after 35 no man wants to touch you .. don't
If you leave and you marry another man you would have committed adultery - keep your pride inside and stop being a feminist. Christianity and feminism do not go together
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How I wish they had your mind and discernment.
I think polygamy is just selfish and lustful.
Denying a man his biblical right is selfish and prideful and out of place
A man's world does not revolve around any woman
Zulu 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽thank you
Today’s show was 👍keep up!!
Well said zulu
Badly** said zulu
I came from one only God knows what we went through as kids
Do you go with your children just in case you had like three
Of course, they were clipped off your cord! U ve every right to do so ... plus only you can guarantee them unconditional love and safety!!
And then we have the Abraham's trying to confuse the nation with nonsense.....
Hao they know exactly what's going on with them ama kuna mtu anafaidika hapo
They are all so low on self esteem!
Benjamin, am dating this guy that after sometime i feel like he rejoices in my chaos. That is when he gets other women in our relationship and I react to it. He says polygamy for me must be there since am a nice person with greater qualities than other men that's why women love me is this a healthy relationship? Can I ever do life with them?
Please leave today
@@MaryMackori thank you
You are a gem. Leave
@@jayneakinyi1992 Gems can share one man. No woman is entitled to a man only to herself 👍
Please take care of yourself! The men will just do anything to stop the truth out there
👏👏👏👊👊👊👊that Benji🥰
Because the Bible says that she cannot add another man but he can add another woman.
Woooooow
I love the way women are resisting polygamy yet they say yes to it every day😀..this is a very personal issue..no one can decide for even benjamin zulu, only u...zulu most viewers are women n hes knows he wil have lots of subscribers,zulu pls give us a solution for those single mothers who strive n get abused every day by evil wicked men who claim to be monogamous..dont just demonize polygamy,give us a solution for single mothers n ladies who desire to have kids n be happy in a more stable relationship!.i have deep respect for men who come out n say i have 2 wives,than hiding in cheats,..zulu skewes toward women in most of his content,..polygamy is not a sin..Gideon had many wives,David,Hanah the mother of prophet samuel was in polygamist family,she had peninah as a cowife..yet Elikanah offered annual sacrfices to God..why do pple not read the bible for themselves!
With this argument, then:
Cain killed his brother Abel,
Lot's daughters did what they did with their father,
Judas killed himself
Tamar did what she did
Absalom too did his bin
David and Uriah/Bathsheba
Not forgetting Eli's sons
All above are in the Bible.
...ask the children from polygamous
Am at situation now and wld really love to get someone to talk sense in me please come to my resque Benjamin zulu
Zulu zulu
Polygamy in the bible was passive will of God not perfect will of God.love us show Zulu is very eye opening
The problem is women themselves,why give out sex before marriage .if women value themselves and stay virgin till in marriage there will be no such things.
And men who commit adultery?
Do women break their virginity 🤔🤔
@Mesh muesh, so virginity is the measure by which a woman's determinant on stability and justification for a good marriage, is virginity the same measure for men (to uphold from sexual intimacy until after marriage)?
How shallow minded is this .!
The way some people think is amusing 🤮
@@nakiyingiwhitney3893 honestly. The things some people just spew out of their mouths. Ridiculous
I like your honesty @BenjaminZulu. learning a lot here
Thanks Benjamin for the facts.
Most African communities say God gave the man one wife. When did the others come in?
🤣🤣🤣🤣he is too honesty which is not good to many people 😎
Am 19;yrs dating a 48 old guy but he is married the wife left they had three kids am scared plz help coz everytime i want to be just his galfrnd he gets mad he only wants to marry me 😭
You are too young to get involved with a married man. First you need to grow and develop yourself go to school and build yourself you are a child and the guy is abusing you. Second find out why the mother of his kids left, he might be the biggest problem in the marriage and things won't get better even if you marry him.
@@chepngenoviola5468 "build" self to do what exactly?
Women are only built well during marriage not in school