Polyamory, infidelity, shooting your shot and more featuring Benjamin Zulu
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- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
- Welcome back to #over25mondays ! Today we are discussing controversial relationship questions submitted by our Instagram audience, with the help of Benjamin Zulu!
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When Jules is quiet and humble, you know it's getting serious 😂😂🤩🤣🤣🤣
I COULD NOT SPEAK!
I think it's because she does not agree with most things he is saying ,,,y'all can come for me but I really disagree with alot of things he is saying
@@Faith-er2ri no wonder no one cares what you have to say😂
@@Faith-er2ri 😂😂😂😂😂 It's okay to disagree 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@kathomi_vibes 😂😂😂😂😂
Ivy's facial expressions are sending me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 she's deep deep in the conversation.. love her!!
❤️❤️❤️ For shikie
She is a really good listener
I thought i was alone 🤣🤣🤣. I love Just Ivy aki
😅😅😅
🤣😂🤣🤣
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Benjamin is a blessing to this generation!! I'm 23 and don't really have a male figure who'll speak to me about these vital life lessons but God uses Benjamin each time to motivate and inspire me🙏thanks for having him on the show
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benjamin zulu is not a male figure he is a woman in a man's body
@@theascendancy2024 how🥺
How y'all were silent through this episode is the same reaction we the audience have just listening to facts 😂. Benjamin Zulu 👏👏👏
Facts😂...sijawai nyamaza that long
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Speechless 💯😂 so much insight
And wishing am 23now 😂😂😂
Wow. I'm 34 and I agree with Zulu 100%. At 22 I would have thought he's pushing it but looking back I agree. Hind sight is 20/20. Let those who have ears hear these gems and apply them when they still have the time
WE NEED A PART 2 guys 👏👏👏👏...... I love this women using their platform to refine and equip fellow ladies with the tools to navigate our love life's juu wueeeeh....
I second this. Part 2, 3 and many more 🙏
Yes.....
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A part 2 is really needed
Yes, maybe also dig more on his RUclips channel as well
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I'm in Awe!! Use this comment section as Benjamin Zulu's life quote dump, I'll go first : "Relationships don't survive because the guilty are punished but because the wounded are merciful".
“Whoever shoots their shot first, is the one leading the relationship” 🤯 JEESUUS, the FACTS are FACTING today😩😂
True
Whenever i listen to Zulu. I thank God for saving me nikiwa pre 25. I made alot of damage..not many say this, but growing up in a healthy home makes you trust easily..me sikujua dunia ni cruel..thank God at some point i was completely shaken. That was my wake up call..
I'm way over 25, married, a believer and all I can say is that I approve this message. You need to grow first then you will have something of value to give into a marriage/ relationship. You will also be able to make better choices. You will succeed by setting the right foundation and not trying to repair a faulty base when the marriage is already several years in. The rules are pretty simple, we often add many twists out of selfishness and they end up messing us up. Lovely conversation. Please invite Benjamin again, have more questions/ topics and also have gents on the panel please.
This is so encouraging! As someone over 25, I'm looking forward to dating and marrying right💯
When he said "In school you are judged by your answers and in life by your questions"😂I just put a hand on my head ,waaahhh!!!
I love the way Benjamin zulu gets to the Bible and His respect for God.
Thank you so much for making life so easy for us
Ivy's expressions are killing me, lmao.😭
Get well soon, Shikie. 💖
The head nodding is nodding 😂😂
Wueh!! Ameona mambo
@@elvisjonyo2624 😂😂Aki
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Me too. kept laughing all through! Bless you Benjami, I need to read that book even though im over 25
I rarely listen to "life coaches" or "socialogist" and the whole lot cz, most of them speak like they know your whole life story, they generalize a lot of issues and simply put, life is not that simple. That said, Benjamin is cut from a different cloth, he is very subjective and doesn't teach perfection, rather he looks at life as an average of two things, good and bad, right, wrong, failures and lessons cz life can't be without the two sides, and that's why I listen to Benjamin and thoroughly enjoyed and learnt a lot on this episode. 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Yoooh I was downloading points over and over. Ivy's head stayed up 😂
Benjamin is a force, this generation needs such a big brother to correct the madness we normalise.
Part two three and four please.
The collaboration I never knew we would get but ❤
This is a banger 🔥 🙌 👌 👏 💯
Same here...
Saaame,I’m so glad they did this🔥
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Requirements are not the rules you shout at him, they are the rules you live by... (Goodnight, Merry Christmas, Happy New year...the year can now end.😆😆😆) That my friends, is the part where Zulu should drop the mic (but pick it back real fast because we need such council 👌) Best show yet👍) Shikie❤❤❤
Amen
😂😂😂for sure
By far my favourite episode. Ive never given him a chance because he is a man😂😂 but I've been officially converted.He should come back. So much wisdom
Thank you Over 25 for inviting Benjamin! He always reminds us where to collect our senses 😂😂. We appreciate a healthy call out & the guidance.
I have been listening to and following Benjamin Zulu for a while now and I can tell you he changed my perspective on dating and relationships for the better. I have been so selfish with myself and my time and let me tell you maina the peace that comes with is unmatched!!
Same here ,two years down the line after a narcissistic relationship sent by satan, I see more dignity and value in myself and in the person am becoming. I respect myself now enough to know I deserve better in life and I refuse to compromise.
@@bettymeeme4687 preach💯
Yes, I wish the ladies also shared his social media handles and RUclips channel
Hallelujah sister 👏
@@renembongn.5877 The Benjamin Zulu show on YT Benjamin Zulu on his other socials I think...
This found me right at the 25. I'll be listening to this over the years. Out here is the ghetto!!!! Live like you don't joke!!1
Go to his RUclips page for more wisdom sis.
Benjamin the way you have delivered this segment 😍😍,,, no laughing laughing, or laughing at your inside jokes.....or straying away from the question.....
You really really have delivered quality 👏👏👏
Also the girls, no talking over each other, just listening,
this was such a good episode over 25!
For some reason, I knew this conversation would open old wounds for me, forced acceptance and literal healing, Today I mark that day, why I love these ladies, why Benjamin Zulu cuts deep but you know you'll heal, Thank you for the collaboration and a part two if possible💖.
Hi also try kev hicks, he is also quietly wise
Kind request OVER 25, make all your episodes this fire or more fire moving forward, use this episode as The Standard. The only way is up- keep moving 👏
I had goosebumps the whole episode. I'm one year down in my singlehood era and I'm glad I am learning through lessons. This is an episode I didn't know I needed and I know I'm not the only one. Thank you ❤
Go for it❤️
SAME!!
I'm under 25, and I was getting triggered the whole episode. Mirroring Ivy and Jules' reaction. I had to get a notebook coz wueh...
For sure, you're not alone.... Mind-blown from pretty much the beginning..
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This guy is so real with life’s lessons no wonder everybody relates with what he says. I cannot understand how one person can have this much wisdom; has to be the Lord’s work.
You can also watch Stephan Speaks. Very wise, insightful and spiritual. A combination of his wisdom and Zulu's will shift your whole mentality towards life and dating.
@@mollenkageha5747 I agree Stephan is a gem too.
@@mollenkageha5747 thank you.. I’ll definitely look for him.
I am from Uganda and my oh my, i have paused this show over and over again bcoz the wisdom from this man is overwhelming. Thank you ladies for hosting him
I was also thinking, they should be pausing him a little bit so that we can first breath and digest what he has said😂😂 from Ug too.
Okay after this,I'm going to sit quietly with my thoughts .
This is eye opening and thought provoking. He should definitely come back again and again.
Deep stuff, very important conversation! Suddenly not feeling bad for how long I've been single because I have been very intentional about personal development and realize the importance of mentorship. Wish you girls would take these conversations further and have live fireside chats in high schools and Uni, we've really dropped the ball on that generation.
OMG!!! This piece on “till death do is part” has just set me free from guilt I’ve had for over 10 years following my failed marriage. I had to go. Wow! Powerful work! Thank you Benjamin!!!! ❤
Listen to Benjamin Zulu for a week straight or a month straight and your life will never be the same, there is an awakening he gives!
I enjoyed the collab 👍
I just love how these ladies are attentive, chewing, and swallowing the wisdom. They have been silenced, and so is all of us.. Well done Zulu. You never disappoint in deconstructing us.❤
My life motivators in one sitting 🥰I hit 25 the other day & now I can legally watch you guys☺️ For Benjamin I usually read his posts every day and I'm glad of what I have learnt from him
Get well Shiky ❤❤. Deep conversation, so enlightening Zulu is always a vibe and so is over 25.
Half way through and I can already feel the weight of this conversation. THIS WAS NEEDED!!!!❤❤❤
This has got to be one of the most self awareness eq show ever. Thank you big sisters for this
Wow!
You know sometimes it's so easy to let someone wear you down, but you knew all along they don't qualify. Yet they are so persistent you wonder if it's you that's addicted to searching for the inaccessible in life.
The way Benjamin has humbled our girls😂😂this has been my fave episode so far
I have been in denial since this episode went up. I have been ignoring it coz I thought I was seeing things 😂 I never thought of this collaboration. But here we are. Awesome episode. Ladies and gentleman, I'm in awe.
What he's saying about finding a woman who's fully invested in you as a man is super true, and it shouldn't be a front, cause we'll know, vibes don't lie, it should be something you're genuinely interested in. That shit is super important and rare at the same time. Finding someone who understands you as a man and wants to get to know you and accepts you for who you are, that for me is your soulmate.
But some men still cheat despite this. Why?
@@bee4702 if you see a man cheating, its either he's just a fuck boy or there's something he truly lacks in that relationship i.e the marriage or relationship has become boring and he needs a kick. But I highly doubt if a man can cheat on a woman he truly loves. If he realizes that something's missing, he may try to discuss it with his woman but some women are too proud, so he opts to look for whatever he misses outside, or sometimes he doesnt even go looking for it, he happens to stumble on it when he needed it the most.
@@k3ygvrvalways making excuses women also get unhappy in relationships that lack things and yet we don’t go cheating it’s men who actually have problems communicating this is a well known fact not women.
@@tytypartridge3135 yes communication is sth that most of us probably struggle w sometimes, goes both ways though.
Now this is an episode you listen to with pen and paper. Download it and listen to time and time again. Please bring Benjamin back.
Go to his RUclips page for more wisdom sis.
I can't believe I subscribed to this channel when I was 2 years under 25 and now I am 2 years over 25.This channel has been impactful to me. I have never missed an episode to be honest.
Get well soon Shiku❤❤❤ This episode was everything!! the wisdom was mind blowing. Under 25 please gather around we cannot do damage control in the future with such an episode in existence
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Benjamin yours is the voice of God. That wisdom and clarity of issues and situations is a blessing to those of us who are so casual about relationships. Respect!
"Even saying goodbye to that which you do not need is still painful" word
"Bad arrangement with such a bad person"
"calculate involvement"
"Every market has conmen"
"in life the test comes before the lesson"
"the questions you ask reflect where you are standing"
The white dress 😍😍😍😍😍 Ivy looking like a billion dollars!!!
❤️❤️❤️ Sending love to Shikie. Get well soon
❤️ Much love to Jules
❤️ Lorna
I downloaded this episode so I can come back time and time again to sharpen my understanding!!! This was a stellar conversation, thank you girls❤💕 what a time to be alive and under 25. GEMS JUST GEMS!!!
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I had to re-watch this!!! This is one of the best episodes ever!!!! Much love from Uganda! You're surely the people need to navigate these complicated surroundings!!
Even before I watch, I love this already !!!! The guest with the mostest 🤗🤗🤗
I read the whole book for Greene to understand this wisdom,
LAWS OF HUMAN NATURE 😂😂😂😂 I am now awake
Thank you so much my inspiration, the generational man
Lornzie has been giggling like a baby the whole time she looks so happy.
So true lol. She was giving "I know I made the right choice for myself with Mr G.'
Very true this whole conversation sat well with her ONLY..the things he mentioned I think she has applied in her life..
Hi namesake😀 I'm called Shalom too (but a He🤣)
@@mizzcatt7691 I feel like lornzie is the most level-headed emotionally intelligent of them all. I genuinely enjoy seeing her
@@Habibtay so true I totally agree..like she is not trying too hard..her delivery when it's her turn to speak is so effortless..easy going yet very intelligent
I’m yet to see Benjamin not on point. Love, love , love his golden nuggets ❗️He’s got to be a staple on the show 🥳
Wow!!!!!! I did not know how much I needed this episode!!! Wueh!!! Been struggling with being single for the longest but really looking forward to seeing it as a blessing and an opportunity to become a better, if not the best version of myself. Thank you, Benjamin and Over 25!!!
PS Get well soon Shikie 🤎🤎🤎🤎
Wah! What manner of depth is this??? Best episode so far!!! What????!!! 🤯🤯🤯 I'm speechless!
11 minutes in and this is my fav episode yet! This guy knows what he's talking about. Great conversation
The collab we didn’t know we needed!! Zulu is amazing!!❤
So much wisdom & insight! I have been following over25 from its birth and i must say this is among the most impactful episode I have watched so far.
Thank you ladies. #BringBenjaminBack!
This is like a dream come true, seeing all my favorite people all together in one space. Benjamin, please sit with the ladies more often! This was a great collabo.
Benjamin is a realist and always insightful. The baby mama/daddy topic should be a topic on it's own however because there are different circumstances make one a single parent. I would gladly want to be featured having been a role model single parent for 8-years now.
Victimizing single parents who are actually in tranquil and safety is naively giving signals to those who are "married" but in physical and emotional crisis encouragement for poor mental health; That they would rather stay in marriages for nuclear status quo and be miserable than suffer public opinion on singlehood.
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I don't think he victimized single parents.
What he basically meant is getting pregnant to trap a guy and you wind up being a single parent cause the parameters were not discussed
I think single parents who got children outside of wedlock is a completely different story than a woman who married and then had to deal with a bad man. It is not in any woman’s best interest to have children with a man who can’t fulfill the bare societal minimum to have access to your womb. In my family the equation was simple, if you mess up and have a child out of wedlock- shida yako. If you get married and that man messes you up, then he fooled all of us. We will be on your side.
When you see Jules is quite and listening
Y'all need to listen
Good one had to come here for the second timee
I’ve been following Benjamin’s talks from way back when he was on switch tv with Joyce hosting him and he has always been spitting wisdom. I’m also an ardent fan of over 25 since their RUclips journey. I’ve always thought that the 2 should meet and discuss because over 25 represent current dating/married (secular) world we live in while Benjamin’s is from a spiritual foundation. I really loved the discussion today and would kindly request that you host each other on your respective shows more. We are definitely better and wiser for it. Thank you very much, from the bottom of my heart.
NB: get well soonest, Shikie❤
The same here. I have learnt a lot from Zulu as a young man who was lucky to get free mentor/life coach from him. And also I have been a big fan of Over25, since they give me perspective of women, more so modern ladies.
I started watching you people when I was under 25 and now am over 25. I have learnt alot from this channel. Thank you for bringing Benjamin Zulu😊
Julia- would you like to say a few things before we begin?
Benjamin- says 1 million things, & he hasn’t even started 😂
We love you Ben
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😂😂it's Ben being Ben
I love his gem.
😂😂😂so true
I agree with you Benjamin is always on the go even before invitation cos his introduction itself is a full show already
This man is so wise!! Only about halfway through and all I’m saying is ‘Amen!‘
You guys remember when jules said that her mom ongezeas tv volume when Benjamin is talking so that jules can hear lmao 😂😂😂
Which episode was this please??! That's hilarious!
This was the first thought when i saw him😀
I feel 10 years older😂.
Thank you so much ❤️
Get well soon shikie❤️
There's so much wisdom in this conversation and I think Benjamin was a good choice to articulate it....
Julez I love your hair.
Benjamin zulu is blessed and I have been so blessed by him.
So happy for this collaboration.
I never expected this episode to be so enlightening…bring more of this guy
Thank you for this beautiful ladies of Over 25 👏 Just the collab we needed. Love from UG 🇺🇬
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Sijawahi tense hivyo nikiwatch over25😂. I am glad that in spite of the diverse views and perspectives on issues the conversation remained respectful. Keep up the good work ladies.
I love how Benjamin Zulu paid these beautiful chicks with a reality cheque....especially Just Ivy....her eyes were gazing vacantly into the space of perspective recalibration...and as for Jules...lets not even discuss what we observed with her....blessings. Part 2 should load ASAP
This was EverythANG!!!🙌🏾 Oh how I love Zulu🖤
and Ivy was me the entire period!!😂😂shook and Inspired 👌🏾🫶🏾
I literally had to get my notebook and write down the wisdom points. Thank you for this episode Over 25 and Benjamin.
This is my fav episode🥰🥰 Thankyou benjamin. Intentional singlehood is my way of life now
Benjamin zulu made me come back to my senses! Blessed is this man
21 minutes in and my mind is blown infinite times. Best episode this season yet 🤩
Great conversation indeed. Can't wait to see what you guys have in store for us today. Benjamin Zulu is such a blessing to this generation. Get well soon Shiko💝
Bold and underline the part where you say he is such a blessing to this generation.
Oh yes definitely agreed
Thanks Over 25 for bringing Benjamin over... We definitely need him back ❤️
So far this is one of the best episodes from over 25!! I love it❤️❤️
Inspired, justified, educated and grateful for episode🙌
OMG!! , This is the most intense conversation especially the money management discussion!! @37 I just felt like I was below 25. banange!!!!
Gem dropping the whole time. Thank you Benjamin. Love from SA🇿🇦
Am so happy you brought Mr. Benjamin to the show!!!😃😃Alililili
I love Benjamin Zulu’s advice. This should be in the worlds school curriculum.
Get well soon Shikie ❤
Mr. Zulu changed my life. So grateful to have him as a mentor.
Ivy's face is everything 😂😂😂😂😂😂. I thoroughly enjoyed this!
😂😂 not just that; I kept looking out for her perspective and that silence and nodding when she was challenged was a superb!
You just can't state things before these ladies; you MUST back your views solidly to get their attention!
I have played this episode 6 times, and am not yet done!!!!!!! Mind blowing!!! Its like am on a movie replaying life!!! Best quotes ???? The whole session!!!
This is AMAZING🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽! These are the kinds of conversations worth having because most tend to take things lightly yet they impact their lives greatly. Well done girls!!
"Entanglement/Arrangement of Convenience"..................genius!!!!!!!
For the first time ndio najua Benjamin is a lawyer 😊
So inspiring 😎
❤️For Shi🌹
Wow. I was listening while doing some work, I had to stop, sit and listen. So much wisdom. I couldn't stop nodding and talking to myself. Much love from Uganda.
Barely 15 mins in and there's so much wisdom😍👏👏
In this time and age I have never seen a man who is full of wisdom like Benjamin Zulu when it comes to matters of relationships, he is the Solomon (Wisest man in the bible) of our times.
The collaboration we didn't know we needed.
Great episode 👏
The accuracy here...thank you very much @over 25 for inviting this genleman. Very insightful
The power of true manhood in play. Look at how the ladies are keenly listening and taking in what He is saying. That's why we need men like Benjamin Zulu who set the record straight without flinching. Men of God where at thou..
Gracious Lord, that part of spirit break and heart break it's deep.. Now I get why its hard for someone to move ahead. Ladies, you've done a big deal for us specifically for me.
We need a part 2. This was soo insightful
As a is 25 year old, I needed this 😍😍😍 we need a part 2 of Benjamin please thanks ladies.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ for shikie.