Here's a trick I've learned from The Huberman Podcast and I'm trying to implement it. Let these thoughts come as they may. Instead focus on the behavior. As long as you control your behavior to do what you want to do, the thoughts don't matter. Trying to control the thoughts is hard. But controlling actual movement of your body and where your eyes focus is easy. Just make yourself sit down at the task and focus your eyes on it. Not your mind, just your eyes. Your mind will follow. That voice will be like: "am I a joke to you?" Don't answer. Just control your actual physical actions. I think this is what Jocko Wilink means when he says just do it.
Another trick that is actually what led me to Huberman is to move your eyes repeatedly side to side. He explained how that tricks your brain into believing you are moving and kick-starts your fight or flight response to overcome anxious feelings and fear
@@hugofontes5708 Yeah. I found that one fascinating! What an accidental discovery! Maybe if you're not working coz of anxiety or fear then it can work for you.
That's great. I do something that is the opposite - I start imagining doing the task, until I feel like I'm already doing it. It shifts me out of feeling like my current state and task is homeostasis, gives me a drive to switch to that task. For example, if I say "I have to write today," it may feel like an incredible chore. But if I stop thinking about what I'm doing and my surroundings, and instead start thinking of my story's characters, what they look like, how they interact, who they love, what they fear, suddenly they've come back to life for me and I can't wait to write them more. It's kind of like rapidly tunnelling into the inside of a task mentally to remember the reality of it, rather than looking at it ultra-externally.
Something I have learned as well is that the best way to reduce the anxiety around something I need to get done is to get some of it done. It sounds weird but when I'm thinking "this is so much work how am I ever going to get it done" I tell myself "Do some of it and you will feel less anxious" and once I've done some of it not only is there less to do it FEELS like less cause I've wrapped my head/hands around it.
I like this girl, she's very relatable for me right now. My apartment looks very similar to hers. I started about a year ago and it was slow the first few months and then suddenly my brain switched and I was able to throw everything out. Having a minimal apartment has fixed my over-spending also because now I don't want items in my apartment cluttering it up. I'm saving so much money and feel so good at home now. I didn't realize how much the clutter was stressing me out and wasting time.
This is crazy - I was just thinking about you, and then this video popped up in my feed! I was also just thinking about what happened when I adopted a "winner mindset" - I stopped thinking "how much can I manage to do?", and instead I started thinking "how little can I do to solve this problem, without creating more, and larger problems?". Gamechanger.
This is excellent advice. Thank you! You have no idea how many people you are helping. For every person who leaves a positive comment, there are probably 10 more helped who didn't comment.
Well here we are... One video was in my recommendations now I’ve successfully binge watched every single one of your videos ☺️ a new firm fave! can’t wait to see more ✨
Your videos often have unexpected twists that I really appreciate. I've tried making videos on productivity and whatnot and often overcomplicate it. But "maybe just quit"--oh. OH. That's a part that so many people don't realize is actually an option, and can be a healthy one. Thanks for another great vid 🙌
I love these tips!!! I also like doing rewards. Parenting style. I chuck a tantrum about a thing I don't want to do, and switching to parent mode, I tell myself - out loud - that I can do the fun thing after I've done the un-fun thing. The child me stomps its foot, and adult me doesn't budge. Child me gives in and we do the task. And like a real kid, my kid brain secretly loves the discipline. After the task, dopamine awaits!
Oh shit..crap... Lefie, u get me every time! Your videos are like a mirror....the picture you paint of yourself, the way you move, the way you perform your chores...everything... The correlation is bonkers! (is it for all you guys..???) Nothing but love and respect for you :)
Love how real your videos are - no bla bla bullshit and no fancy glimmer. :-) Absolutely refreshing - thanks for offering that "real life style" and your great advice!
Keep in mind that chronic depression is a thing, and not being able to get up and do things is a symptom. If this is a daily thing, please talk to someone about your concerns. Your brain chemistry might be wonky.
Today everybody have depression. That becomed big excuse for everithing! The most of all for layziness. How people didn't have depression in I & II WW when they was fighting for thair life and their familys, when they was starvig? Centryess before in history when people was working hard on their land from morrning to evening, makeing their own fabics for garments, then they had to make that all garments, cooking, cleaning, and have a bear new baby every year? Today we are living in abudance, we are eating 3 times some of us 5 times per day, life is munch easyer but ever in history before, so we get spoled, unmotivated, no adrenalin, run or figth, survive or die moments in our lifes... So we have depression!
@@Antonina81 I think it you take a look at a lot of art and literature from all sorts of time periods you will see people were dealing with depression… famously like the blue period of Picasso, the works of Edvard Munch, Van Gogh… Chagall’s during WW2… those are just the ones I’m familiar with but art is filled with memory of suffering of the mind… with literature Poe and Kate Chopin come to mind but again these are just off the topic of my head… depression is not new except in the way general society is diagnosing and speaking of it
@@Antonina81 things arent as trying as many decades ago but people still suffer inside to their own individual degree based on their emotional response to traumas they’ve faced in their lives, especially in their childhoods. People act accordingly based off their past because we learn from experience. Sometimes how we react to what we learn isn’t always in the best way, and that’s why ppl continue to suffer
Very very good advice Lexie! I am really enjoying this new content. One thing I have heard is that for those negative thoughts we should watch them, as if they were clouds in the sky. The clouds do not stick to the sky, they do not damage the sky, they just keep floating on past. So we notice them, and we let them pass like clouds, and just focus on self, breath, and staying in the moment.
Excellent video! Thank you. I totally do this at work. When I'm resisting, I open a blank text document and start "talking to myself" and writing out the steps. It works like a charm. I need to do that for my home projects also. Thanks again 🦋
Lefie--I don't know how you learned to hack nearly every aspect of life, but I'm grateful for your videos which always seem to help me solve a problem I'm facing or answer a question I've always wondered. Thanks for sharing your accumulation of life's lessons and shortcuts for everyone else to enjoy. Keep the wonderful content coming, it is greatly appreciated.
I love your thoughts on this, and they're articulated so well. You talk about things I've heard before many times, like "be kind to yourself" but you do so in a way that provides a fresh perspective and feels relatable! I really appreciate it.
Honestly...I procrastinated watching this video for 6 days because I knew it would fulfill its purpose perfectly. It did. Kicked me out of procrastination mode instantly. Love your content Lefie ❤
Thank you Lefie! You and this video make me feel life is so beautiful! I got reminded again that I am good enough and I should be kind to myself. I wish you all the best.
I really appreciate many of your helpful videos! I've been posting on my Twitter page and think the index card idea is much better then doing a Visualization Board! Tks for being inspiring! Hope your summer is going well.
I'm not a self starter. It's difficult for me to get started, as most of my relatives have housekeepers and gardeners once a week. Some have personal secretaries. I'm resentful that I do not have money to do things that others take for granted. I miss being around nice, motivated, normal people! In the past I liked trimming trees and cleaning house, until a couple of customers called me Cinderella when I couldn't afford to go on a trip. Random thoughts
Hello Lefie, Thank you for the video and the best practices 😉! I'm actually not that far from moving out of the appartment I'm currently in and I'm procrastinating a lot 😓. Thank you for the motivation 🤓! This is definitely a great RUclips channel 😊! Have a great week 🤗
Fantastic video Lefie! You always inspire me. I’m a minimalist & I dig the way you do it. I’ve been in therapy for over a year now & CBT is game changing. Thank you for the links. Have a wonderful day!❤️
One thing I can't get myself to do is to wash my face before bed. It takes me 2 minutes but I just don't do it. Thinking "I will feel so good after doing it" is helping.
Thank you l🥰😍 I get easily overwhelmed and starting a task can be so hard but sometimes even after starting it I find it hard to focus or get into the "zone" ☺☺😘 thanks alot ps: your home is amazingg
I have literally planned time before my work to do things I do most when I procrastinate (RUclips, food, research, mental health and organising) RUclips with meals every 3 hours, fruit to pick at, do MH activities (preferably creative to work through stress/emotions instead of numbing) after research so can absorb/recharge. Then deal with physical stresses/remove obstacles/setups. Then I don't fool myself into thinking that I've done work. I've been productive in some sense but missed the most important part. Like going out to a restaurant with all the build up and starters only not to get a main meal but saying you did/ still paying for it.
@@UtahGmaw99 we do? I didn't know it was about the sun, I thought it was just because of lunch and digestion making us sleepy (which is why I occasionally skip lunch or grab a light snack instead)
@@ChrissieL this is all kinda funny to me because I was told at school a decade back as a teen that this "heat causes lethargy" thing was an excuse from rich, colder, countries on why we are still poor. something how the excuse went from "they are lazy" to "they live in a hot country" anyway, gotta go grab my lunch before my class at comfortably hot 27 ºC, let's hope coffee does the trick to keep me awake
@@UtahGmaw99 native people here have been doing that before Europeans first showed up and called them lazy over it; maybe the heat is to blame, maybe it isn't. We don't all have that napping habit, though, so I'm just as unsure
@@hugofontes5708 The "rich" countries will always find an excuse on why the other countries are (kept) poor.. Anyway in my area summer noon temperature varies around 30-35+ so it is impossible to stay productive or even move during that time 😅
So... Make Friends with The Resistance. I'm curious what would happen if you did. But of course you can't make friends with The Resistance just to get favors from them (ie doing what you want) because they would feel used... Hmmm. I may experiment with this. That is a challenge because would know or expect my end goal is to control or undermine it, and that would make me not a good friend. A good friend is compassionate, listens, and is supportive. So basically find a way to establish boundaries, and not sink into power struggles. "Yes, and" the Resistance!
I procrastinate because I'm pretty much addicted to the internet. I manage it best when treating it like an addiction, even going on 'rehab' or ' detox holidays' away from social media.
"This is the worst I'm ever going to be at this. It's all up from here." I really needed that one.
Yes
Same!
Here's a trick I've learned from The Huberman Podcast and I'm trying to implement it. Let these thoughts come as they may. Instead focus on the behavior. As long as you control your behavior to do what you want to do, the thoughts don't matter. Trying to control the thoughts is hard. But controlling actual movement of your body and where your eyes focus is easy. Just make yourself sit down at the task and focus your eyes on it. Not your mind, just your eyes. Your mind will follow. That voice will be like: "am I a joke to you?"
Don't answer. Just control your actual physical actions. I think this is what Jocko Wilink means when he says just do it.
Another trick that is actually what led me to Huberman is to move your eyes repeatedly side to side. He explained how that tricks your brain into believing you are moving and kick-starts your fight or flight response to overcome anxious feelings and fear
@@hugofontes5708 Yeah. I found that one fascinating! What an accidental discovery! Maybe if you're not working coz of anxiety or fear then it can work for you.
The huberman podcast is amazing
That's great.
I do something that is the opposite - I start imagining doing the task, until I feel like I'm already doing it. It shifts me out of feeling like my current state and task is homeostasis, gives me a drive to switch to that task.
For example, if I say "I have to write today," it may feel like an incredible chore. But if I stop thinking about what I'm doing and my surroundings, and instead start thinking of my story's characters, what they look like, how they interact, who they love, what they fear, suddenly they've come back to life for me and I can't wait to write them more.
It's kind of like rapidly tunnelling into the inside of a task mentally to remember the reality of it, rather than looking at it ultra-externally.
Also, just looked up the Huberman pod and subbed. It looks amazing! Cheers!
The Lefie nap-burrito is precious.
oh i laughed so hard to that
Lefie tiny-voice is now my new internal monologue I've decided to adopt.
Something I have learned as well is that the best way to reduce the anxiety around something I need to get done is to get some of it done. It sounds weird but when I'm thinking "this is so much work how am I ever going to get it done" I tell myself "Do some of it and you will feel less anxious" and once I've done some of it not only is there less to do it FEELS like less cause I've wrapped my head/hands around it.
Here I am “taking a break” from the task I’ve been procrastinating for a week. I needed this, thank you ❤️
I like this girl, she's very relatable for me right now. My apartment looks very similar to hers. I started about a year ago and it was slow the first few months and then suddenly my brain switched and I was able to throw everything out. Having a minimal apartment has fixed my over-spending also because now I don't want items in my apartment cluttering it up. I'm saving so much money and feel so good at home now. I didn't realize how much the clutter was stressing me out and wasting time.
I procrastinate to avoid my productive procrastination
It seems Very productive
How do you always send out the right videos at the right time
Yes I agree! It’s bizarre
Cause she’s real and she gets it. It’s so refreshing.
This is crazy - I was just thinking about you, and then this video popped up in my feed! I was also just thinking about what happened when I adopted a "winner mindset" - I stopped thinking "how much can I manage to do?", and instead I started thinking "how little can I do to solve this problem, without creating more, and larger problems?". Gamechanger.
This is excellent advice. Thank you! You have no idea how many people you are helping. For every person who leaves a positive comment, there are probably 10 more helped who didn't comment.
Well here we are... One video was in my recommendations now I’ve successfully binge watched every single one of your videos ☺️ a new firm fave! can’t wait to see more ✨
That bed burrito technique at 2:38 was impressive.
Your videos often have unexpected twists that I really appreciate. I've tried making videos on productivity and whatnot and often overcomplicate it. But "maybe just quit"--oh. OH. That's a part that so many people don't realize is actually an option, and can be a healthy one.
Thanks for another great vid 🙌
I love these tips!!!
I also like doing rewards. Parenting style. I chuck a tantrum about a thing I don't want to do, and switching to parent mode, I tell myself - out loud - that I can do the fun thing after I've done the un-fun thing.
The child me stomps its foot, and adult me doesn't budge.
Child me gives in and we do the task.
And like a real kid, my kid brain secretly loves the discipline.
After the task, dopamine awaits!
Just stumbled across your work yesterday. Productivity + minimalism + meditation? Catnip. I love your vibe.
Oh shit..crap...
Lefie, u get me every time!
Your videos are like a mirror....the picture you paint of yourself, the way you move, the way you perform your chores...everything...
The correlation is bonkers! (is it for all you guys..???)
Nothing but love and respect for you :)
I mean.... just after this video... I was watching another video of your.... and then again... things thoughts intersected... DAMN!
Love how real your videos are - no bla bla bullshit and no fancy glimmer. :-) Absolutely refreshing - thanks for offering that "real life style" and your great advice!
Keep in mind that chronic depression is a thing, and not being able to get up and do things is a symptom. If this is a daily thing, please talk to someone about your concerns. Your brain chemistry might be wonky.
Today everybody have depression.
That becomed big excuse for everithing! The most of all for layziness.
How people didn't have depression in I & II WW when they was fighting for thair life and their familys, when they was starvig? Centryess before in history when people was working hard on their land from morrning to evening, makeing their own fabics for garments, then they had to make that all garments, cooking, cleaning, and have a bear new baby every year?
Today we are living in abudance, we are eating 3 times some of us 5 times per day, life is munch easyer but ever in history before, so we get spoled, unmotivated, no adrenalin, run or figth, survive or die moments in our lifes... So we have depression!
@@Antonina81 I think it you take a look at a lot of art and literature from all sorts of time periods you will see people were dealing with depression… famously like the blue period of Picasso, the works of Edvard Munch, Van Gogh… Chagall’s during WW2… those are just the ones I’m familiar with but art is filled with memory of suffering of the mind… with literature Poe and Kate Chopin come to mind but again these are just off the topic of my head… depression is not new except in the way general society is diagnosing and speaking of it
@@Antonina81 things arent as trying as many decades ago but people still suffer inside to their own individual degree based on their emotional response to traumas they’ve faced in their lives, especially in their childhoods. People act accordingly based off their past because we learn from experience. Sometimes how we react to what we learn isn’t always in the best way, and that’s why ppl continue to suffer
This is the first time I heard about this. But it seems like a really good approach! Thank you for sharing this with us, Lefie.
When I heard the words "licenced professional" I braced myself for a better help ad 🤣
Me too haha!
It would have made the video less real though!
Very very good advice Lexie! I am really enjoying this new content. One thing I have heard is that for those negative thoughts we should watch them, as if they were clouds in the sky. The clouds do not stick to the sky, they do not damage the sky, they just keep floating on past. So we notice them, and we let them pass like clouds, and just focus on self, breath, and staying in the moment.
Excellent video! Thank you. I totally do this at work. When I'm resisting, I open a blank text document and start "talking to myself" and writing out the steps. It works like a charm. I need to do that for my home projects also. Thanks again 🦋
Lefie--I don't know how you learned to hack nearly every aspect of life, but I'm grateful for your videos which always seem to help me solve a problem I'm facing or answer a question I've always wondered. Thanks for sharing your accumulation of life's lessons and shortcuts for everyone else to enjoy. Keep the wonderful content coming, it is greatly appreciated.
I love your thoughts on this, and they're articulated so well. You talk about things I've heard before many times, like "be kind to yourself" but you do so in a way that provides a fresh perspective and feels relatable! I really appreciate it.
Ma'am, your content is great, you talk about all the topics summarized in one video, thank you
I just found you and I'm literally in love! So simple and such a different take from what most people do. I love it
Honestly...I procrastinated watching this video for 6 days because I knew it would fulfill its purpose perfectly. It did. Kicked me out of procrastination mode instantly. Love your content Lefie ❤
Nice timing. It's currently 12:55am and I feel overwhelmed with what I have to do. So my ball of sunshine 🤗
Go get 'em, Michelle!
This is one of the best videos! Thanks and, yes, I wrote down the statements. Stay cool, Lefie. 🌸
This video felt like a hug, thank you
Thank you Lefie! You and this video make me feel life is so beautiful! I got reminded again that I am good enough and I should be kind to myself. I wish you all the best.
I really appreciate many of your helpful videos! I've been posting on my Twitter page and think the index card idea is much better then doing a Visualization Board! Tks for being inspiring! Hope your summer is going well.
I love your videos. They’re informative and soothing.
Solid gold, Lefie. Thank you for putting this out into the world.
I love your voice, your sensible advice and your nap, caterpillar style. Greetings from Spain 💜
Negative self talk is a real thing, I had to learn to give myself more grace and speak more kindly to myself and started to see a shift!
I'm not a self starter. It's difficult for me to get started, as most of my relatives have housekeepers and gardeners once a week. Some have personal secretaries. I'm resentful that I do not have money to do things that others take for granted. I miss being around nice, motivated, normal people! In the past I liked trimming trees and cleaning house, until a couple of customers called me Cinderella when I couldn't afford to go on a trip.
Random thoughts
This is so awesome! Thanks for breaking it down.
Hello Lefie,
Thank you for the video and the best practices 😉! I'm actually not that far from moving out of the appartment I'm currently in and I'm procrastinating a lot 😓. Thank you for the motivation 🤓!
This is definitely a great RUclips channel 😊!
Have a great week 🤗
Fantastic video Lefie! You always inspire me. I’m a minimalist & I dig the way you do it. I’ve been in therapy for over a year now & CBT is game changing. Thank you for the links. Have a wonderful day!❤️
You have such good replies to the objections your mind makes!
Thank you, your tips help me to out from unmotivated.
One thing I can't get myself to do is to wash my face before bed. It takes me 2 minutes but I just don't do it. Thinking "I will feel so good after doing it" is helping.
You are cool. These videos are excellent.
Thank you l🥰😍 I get easily overwhelmed and starting a task can be so hard but sometimes even after starting it I find it hard to focus or get into the "zone" ☺☺😘 thanks alot ps: your home is amazingg
Fabulous video. Thanks, Lefie.
I love how down to earth you are!
I hope you are ok. Missing your awesome content ♥️
Im so happy that I found this. You're awesome 💜
the way these 5 minutes have been more helpful than years of therapy 😳 thinking...
I'm both afraid of failure and success. Could you make a video about that?
Oof, same here I think. It may be fear of change or responsibility? Idk
Opposite actions excellent!!!
I have literally planned time before my work to do things I do most when I procrastinate (RUclips, food, research, mental health and organising) RUclips with meals every 3 hours, fruit to pick at, do MH activities (preferably creative to work through stress/emotions instead of numbing) after research so can absorb/recharge. Then deal with physical stresses/remove obstacles/setups.
Then I don't fool myself into thinking that I've done work. I've been productive in some sense but missed the most important part. Like going out to a restaurant with all the build up and starters only not to get a main meal but saying you did/ still paying for it.
this is the perfect video for me now. thank you
gotta love the double column technique :)
i needed this really really badly
This was so helpful. Thank you xxx
I'm in a situation that no motivation now. I'm gonna try this.
Hey Lefie - I agree, giving myself a pep talk before doing something hard makes the task less excruciating 😂
What about when it's just really warm? 🤔 It seems like motivation wanes
When the temperature outside is so extreme that lethargy fills the veins. 😅
@@UtahGmaw99 we do? I didn't know it was about the sun, I thought it was just because of lunch and digestion making us sleepy (which is why I occasionally skip lunch or grab a light snack instead)
@@hugofontes5708 It's the heat-lunch combo that is deadly!
@@ChrissieL this is all kinda funny to me because I was told at school a decade back as a teen that this "heat causes lethargy" thing was an excuse from rich, colder, countries on why we are still poor. something how the excuse went from "they are lazy" to "they live in a hot country"
anyway, gotta go grab my lunch before my class at comfortably hot 27 ºC, let's hope coffee does the trick to keep me awake
@@UtahGmaw99 native people here have been doing that before Europeans first showed up and called them lazy over it; maybe the heat is to blame, maybe it isn't. We don't all have that napping habit, though, so I'm just as unsure
@@hugofontes5708 The "rich" countries will always find an excuse on why the other countries are (kept) poor..
Anyway in my area summer noon temperature varies around 30-35+ so it is impossible to stay productive or even move during that time 😅
I really needed this thankyou.
Thank you Lefie! That's a good one - now about the cat ! :-)
Hiiiiii, Steve 😸
@@Lefie I'm getting cat food adds on my youtube and this vid! How did that happen LOL
@@SteveAbrahall Bahaha, they must be tracking your comments... gasp!
thank you, I really needed to hear this.
Perfect timing!!!
I really needed this
Lefie, it's 3:30PM and this video made me I step out of my bed.
This is amazing. Thank you.
Thank you, Queen Lefie 👸🏼💖
Thank YOU for watching, Queen Diane 🙂
Thanks
Nice video!! I think I really needed to hear this! ;)
3:16 immediately subscribe~ this RUclipsr is a real human~
Love it so much I watched it 3 times
Hi, I see you use a standing desk. Could you please talk about this in one of your vids? Thank you. Love your videos!
This is great. I needed this.
So... Make Friends with The Resistance.
I'm curious what would happen if you did. But of course you can't make friends with The Resistance just to get favors from them (ie doing what you want) because they would feel used... Hmmm. I may experiment with this. That is a challenge because would know or expect my end goal is to control or undermine it, and that would make me not a good friend. A good friend is compassionate, listens, and is supportive. So basically find a way to establish boundaries, and not sink into power struggles. "Yes, and" the Resistance!
I procrastinate because I'm pretty much addicted to the internet. I manage it best when treating it like an addiction, even going on 'rehab' or ' detox holidays' away from social media.
Great video and its funny how i use many of youe tricks :)
Therapie realy help me with it and to finde the reson why i procranate so much.
A professional??!?? But I'm so good at internet psychotherapy!
xD
Watching this in burrito mode also, what a timing haha, great vid!
thanks i really needed that 😭
Thank you ❤️
once again Lefie giving us all
Much love 🌟🌟
Thanks, Lefie. Time to get stuff done! :D
Damn I needed this
That`s was what i needed t hear rigththth no. Thank you) Greets from Belarus!
Great video👍
Yes!
Thank you❤ i need this
Thank you for this...
0:39 i am at a loss of words 😳
I wish i had such biceps 😣
I literally just talked to my therapist about this today...Sigh, I still have a lot of work to do.
Watching this video is my productive procrastination :)
I tried this all day yesterday. I am amazed at how effective this technique is! Why are you not on TedTalk yet?
half way during the video. Excuse me while i go finish what i need to. Ill be back im sure.
I'm gonna reread uncle Burns' books, thanks for this! 😗
hey I really needed this after inside
"I almost didn't make a video today." Me everyday lol