My father was a violent and derogatory figure towards me (a lot of abuse and insults) and a narcissistic pervert. It took me years to build up from scratch. I always wanted to be a father, but I am always afraid to be a bad father and falling on one of two extremes of the spectrum of education because of my lack of fatherly figure : either becoming a too violent/strict dad or a too lenient one. This interview is very helpful and it is quality content 👍
Holy cow, Larry, excellent job on this. Not your average Chris Voss interview. Chris was mind-blowing as usual, and your thoughful questions helped him shine a different light on these techniques and situations. It was great to hear your observations from using Tactical Empathy for the last few years as well. Cheers
If Chris's knowledge hasn't made you a better dad, husband, or anything else that you do, then it is safe to assume you may not have spent enough time learning and practicing what he teaches. At least, at this point, it is hard to see it any other way. Solid interview - Blessings 🙏
I heard "your Right" several times than I asked you meant, "that's right?".... they retracted and told me that I wasn't right and they went deep and kept explaining to me what was wrong. SO INGENIOUS.
I urge anyone to watch this interview in its entirety, because it’s well worth the time. 4:35 - Interview begins 6:13 - Chris’ childhood 11:39 - Method’s Impact on Personal Relationships 16:00 - Psychology of Getting to ‘No’ 23:20 - The 3 Types of ‘Yes’ ^ Counterfeit, Confirmation & Commitment 25:50 - Tactical Empathy (+2) + 32:12 - Caveat on Tonality + 34:34 - Empathy vs Agreement Clarification 38:53 - Advice on getting to “That’s Right” 44:43 - ‘One-Sentence Email’ Tactic 49:55 - Chris gives links and sources to his material. **Newsletter : Text “black swan method” to 33777
Succeed with people is beautiful. Thank you for your honesty and accountability with your wife. Chris is a most outstanding human being and so are you.
Nice to have this in a vid that I can pass along to the fathers in my family. I also had a lifetime in sales and worked at suicide intervention phone line. As a single mom... I never desired to treat my family as a client. To my dismay coupled w/ a schedule that was way to busy... there was serious breakdown in authentic communication. Thank you for putting this together.
How does this channel only have 605 subscribers?? I expected many more with this production quality and with Chris Voss as a guest. Super intriguing and empowering stuff.
I was just thinking about this... If it was a twerk channel or some gossip BS probably would have more clout. You make a channel about making good fathers everyone leaves the scene lol
I just found this episode based on Chris Voss; I’m a father for a year now and I’m grateful that I did find this. Subscribed and ready to go through the library.
What’s amazing is, throughout the discussion the host doesn’t realize how well Mr. Voss utilizes the very techniques which are the topic of their discussion. Premium relationship based empathy on display here. That’s right!
Awesome interview Larry. Just stumbled across you perusing my RUclips lists... These are some of the skills that need to be integrated in our school systems. Starting in pre-school and elementary, games on handling money, saving, investing, seeing money as a resource and tool.... How to eat to nourish our hearts and minds, perhaps a value tax on junk food companies to offset the health care needed indulging in empty value foods, and of course communication skills like you shared in this video... that lead to a world we all want to belong too, collaborative, fun, loving, peace-filled and happy.
I employ Chris's techniques every chance I get. If I ever was to work for anyone, I would want him as my mentor for sure! The one liner questions are awesome!
@@amieerothrock1839 I wish dad had of left out the "ugly". My dad joked about everything and everyone. I know he wasn't being mean spirited, but... Anyway, I'm still figuring things out. It is part of becoming personally responsible for our actions.
Amazing. I never ever asked my children to tidy up their bedrooms- they were fed up because I never commented on their mess and they heartily did it without me pushing. Love this content Chris Voss I am so intrigued and amazed at how you draw people into your window of experience! Addicted to using your actual words even at my old age!
This is amazing. Someone (hi Larry!) who realizes that Chris Voss' teachings can be applied to improve relationships! And has been practicing it. I need to do the same thing!
Chris Voss . Larry Hagner have really ready your book and now he become so good that he do it on his own. This interview, I will always replay . That guy is bad. I don't know who to like more. much respect for Chris. we need his idea in our day to day activities.
Here is a great tip, combine the book "never split the difference" whit the book "the charisma myth" you'll feel like you gain super powers!!!! You are welcome
Getting to THAT’S RIGHT. Problem why we not getting other party to say that’s right as Chris said is us. We focus to much on what we want other person to understand and say that’s tight to what we want and mean instead of trying to understand other person (tactical empathy) then mirroring his/her thoughts and saying in the way so the person says that’s right. Example: it feels like you saying no to me all the time when I’m asking you to do the home work, because you don’t see the point in it and non of your friends do it as well (pause). Here your kid has the chance to say that’s right and here is our chance to explain why homework is important and what help us to achieve.
Love this interview very much. I am a huge fan of chris and so happy somone took it to the family context as well. Major respect. Everyone says be a better listener and be more empathetic but wasnt until i read Chris's book that i had tools and strategies to do it. Especially in the home environment. Thank you so much for recording this.
Wow Larry it is beyond awesome you are sharing your knowledge with men. It changed my life too and I wish I had more black swans in my everyday life. because people who demonstrate empathy are human.
Love this. I soak up everything I can get listening to Chris. After watching over 12 interviews and presentations by Chris, I'm finally reading the book now. Good on you for getting these interviews!
Good to see you again and on RUclips this time. I've got a teen who's working through his identity stuff and everything's a negotiation! Thanks for bringing Chris on.
That, “You’re Right” Client, would it be crazy to suggest that maybe he needed the right question(s) from you so that he realized himself what you knew he needed to realize and then say, “that’s right,” or say it to you so you could affirm his realization with a “that’s right” moment in return? Oh, and thank you to both you and Chris Voss.
Im a fan, follower and subscriber , love videos and yous in this video, I was just wondering, does he have any doctrines in phycology or phycotry? He's good
"give me your phone and ill do it" thats a Hagnerisim i can see your boys doing with thier friends... especially with something like asking someone the like to the dance or prom lol
Every time I tell a colleague about Chris Voss, and he’s a dad, I send him this. Agent Voss changed my whole approach at work. 😎
My father was a violent and derogatory figure towards me (a lot of abuse and insults) and a narcissistic pervert. It took me years to build up from scratch.
I always wanted to be a father, but I am always afraid to be a bad father and falling on one of two extremes of the spectrum of education because of my lack of fatherly figure : either becoming a too violent/strict dad or a too lenient one. This interview is very helpful and it is quality content 👍
Been following Chris Voss for a while now and as a Dad this interview was the best one I have listened too.
As a young guy, 19 years old, I find this content extremely productive and I just want to say how much I appreciate it. Keep kicking ass guys.
Holy cow, Larry, excellent job on this. Not your average Chris Voss interview. Chris was mind-blowing as usual, and your thoughful questions helped him shine a different light on these techniques and situations. It was great to hear your observations from using Tactical Empathy for the last few years as well. Cheers
thank you my friend! That means a lot!!
If Chris's knowledge hasn't made you a better dad, husband, or anything else that you do, then it is safe to assume you may not have spent enough time learning and practicing what he teaches. At least, at this point, it is hard to see it any other way. Solid interview - Blessings 🙏
I heard "your Right" several times than I asked you meant, "that's right?".... they retracted and told me that I wasn't right and they went deep and kept explaining to me what was wrong. SO INGENIOUS.
yes sir
I urge anyone to watch this interview in its entirety, because it’s well worth the time.
4:35 - Interview begins
6:13 - Chris’ childhood
11:39 - Method’s Impact on Personal Relationships
16:00 - Psychology of Getting to ‘No’
23:20 - The 3 Types of ‘Yes’
^ Counterfeit, Confirmation & Commitment
25:50 - Tactical Empathy (+2)
+ 32:12 - Caveat on Tonality
+ 34:34 - Empathy vs Agreement Clarification
38:53 - Advice on getting to “That’s Right”
44:43 - ‘One-Sentence Email’ Tactic
49:55 - Chris gives links and sources to his material.
**Newsletter : Text “black swan method” to 33777
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Succeed with people is beautiful. Thank you for your honesty and accountability with your wife. Chris is a most outstanding human being and so are you.
Nice to have this in a vid that I can pass along to the fathers in my family.
I also had a lifetime in sales and worked at suicide intervention phone line.
As a single mom... I never desired to treat my family as a client. To my dismay coupled w/ a schedule that was way to busy...
there was serious breakdown in authentic communication.
Thank you for putting this together.
How does this channel only have 605 subscribers?? I expected many more with this production quality and with Chris Voss as a guest. Super intriguing and empowering stuff.
just getting started brother!
I was just thinking about this... If it was a twerk channel or some gossip BS probably would have more clout.
You make a channel about making good fathers everyone leaves the scene lol
4,36k now
I just found this episode based on Chris Voss; I’m a father for a year now and I’m grateful that I did find this. Subscribed and ready to go through the library.
What’s amazing is, throughout the discussion the host doesn’t realize how well Mr. Voss utilizes the very techniques which are the topic of their discussion. Premium relationship based empathy on display here. That’s right!
Awesome interview Larry. Just stumbled across you perusing my RUclips lists... These are some of the skills that need to be integrated in our school systems. Starting in pre-school and elementary, games on handling money, saving, investing, seeing money as a resource and tool.... How to eat to nourish our hearts and minds, perhaps a value tax on junk food companies to offset the health care needed indulging in empty value foods, and of course communication skills like you shared in this video... that lead to a world we all want to belong too, collaborative, fun, loving, peace-filled and happy.
Agreed William
Thanks brother!
That's right! Lol... playing with words here but I do agree. 👍
I employ Chris's techniques every chance I get. If I ever was to work for anyone, I would want him as my mentor for sure! The one liner questions are awesome!
My dad's favorite expression was? "You are big and ugly enough to figure it out yourself."
Some lessons take forever to learn!
My Dad said the same exact thing…✨
@@amieerothrock1839 I wish dad had of left out the "ugly". My dad joked about everything and everyone. I know he wasn't being mean spirited, but...
Anyway, I'm still figuring things out. It is part of becoming personally responsible for our actions.
Great interview. I had never heard of Chris before this. Ordered "Never Split the Difference" today.
Been tuned in to Chris's Voss's techniques for a couple of months now. Yes! It really does help with teenagers!
Amazing. I never ever asked my children to tidy up their bedrooms- they were fed up because I never commented on their mess and they heartily did it without me pushing. Love this content Chris Voss I am so intrigued and amazed at how you draw people into your window of experience! Addicted to using your actual words even at my old age!
This is amazing. Someone (hi Larry!) who realizes that Chris Voss' teachings can be applied to improve relationships! And has been practicing it. I need to do the same thing!
Chris Voss . Larry Hagner have really ready your book and now he become so good that he do it on his own. This interview, I will always replay . That guy is bad. I don't know who to like more. much respect for Chris. we need his idea in our day to day activities.
Chris Voss and the Black Swan Group is Amazing!! Great interview and as a father thank you 👍👍
Awesome. Love Chris Voss..
Here is a great tip, combine the book "never split the difference" whit the book "the charisma myth" you'll feel like you gain super powers!!!! You are welcome
Chris, I just began this video, but thank you in advance for doing this, especially "for Fathers".
I've only been through Chris book 4 times I gotta 10x my reading.
Getting to THAT’S RIGHT. Problem why we not getting other party to say that’s right as Chris said is us. We focus to much on what we want other person to understand and say that’s tight to what we want and mean instead of trying to understand other person (tactical empathy) then mirroring his/her thoughts and saying in the way so the person says that’s right. Example: it feels like you saying no to me all the time when I’m asking you to do the home work, because you don’t see the point in it and non of your friends do it as well (pause). Here your kid has the chance to say that’s right and here is our chance to explain why homework is important and what help us to achieve.
Love this interview very much. I am a huge fan of chris and so happy somone took it to the family context as well. Major respect. Everyone says be a better listener and be more empathetic but wasnt until i read Chris's book that i had tools and strategies to do it. Especially in the home environment. Thank you so much for recording this.
Wow Larry it is beyond awesome you are sharing your knowledge with men. It changed my life too and I wish I had more black swans in my everyday life. because people who demonstrate empathy are human.
38mins 50seconds. Great question Larry Hagner asks.. Chris Voss response is pure Gold.
Love this. I soak up everything I can get listening to Chris. After watching over 12 interviews and presentations by Chris, I'm finally reading the book now. Good on you for getting these interviews!
I used this stuff successfully with some petty tyrants at work. The silence i bot with a how question was amazing.
Just ran across your channel / video and thrilled that I came across your channel!!!! Really cool what your doing. Well done.
Such an amazing channel!!!! Such an amazing interview!!!!!
“Yea man that’s really cool. Thank you for sharing that with me” I feel like that’s a tactic too lol
Good to see you again and on RUclips this time. I've got a teen who's working through his identity stuff and everything's a negotiation! Thanks for bringing Chris on.
As much as Chris was good, Larry was too. thx to both of you.
you rock!
@@TheDadEdge 5
I researched the masterclass role play over and over just pure gold
That, “You’re Right” Client, would it be crazy to suggest that maybe he needed the right question(s) from you so that he realized himself what you knew he needed to realize and then say, “that’s right,” or say it to you so you could affirm his realization with a “that’s right” moment in return?
Oh, and thank you to both you and Chris Voss.
Ps. I just subscribed-well done, great interview.
6:11
Interview FINALLY starts
Your welcome 😃
Thanks man!
Love this, especially when the kids comes in :)
great discussion, thank you for sharing.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Im a fan, follower and subscriber , love videos and yous in this video, I was just wondering, does he have any doctrines in phycology or phycotry? He's good
Great Project
thanks a lot for this interview.
Good stuff
Damn this was an #amazing show.
I lobe Chris Voss first heard him on Tom Ferry, I’m a fan.
Great interview👍
Keep it up
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Second time watching this😅😁
Legend💪😃🙏
LFM Radio DJ Voice”. Be positive!!
Me: "I need to take a crap."
Chris Voss: "When you take a crap, it's a negotiation."
After the Johnny Depp trial, this hits differently
I did enjoy this, but if I’m being honest, I found the flattery a bit awkward and taking away from the quality content. But the other 90% was great.
You mean it's not only my wife that freaks out at the, "Hey, we need to talk about something..."
14:55 Pointing out the tiny elephant in the room! Not letting it wander around creating an awkward moment.
LOL! Gotta love podcasting from home! LOL!
How about asking the question "WHAT'S RIGHT"?
Not sure!
5:00 it starts to start
"give me your phone and ill do it" thats a Hagnerisim i can see your boys doing with thier friends... especially with something like asking someone the like to the dance or prom lol
6 people dislike themselves not this video
Just have empathy for people…
Take that hat of boy.
Chris Voss is incredible!
Hoss is way to self serving.
I thought he kept saying two lines of coke lol
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