Story 1: OP keeps saying he's telling his daughters the truth without going into the messy details but that isn't the truth. Saying "I left to protect you" is meaningless. They might just end up thinking he left to not expose them to his addict behavior. Without telling them the full truth, he's still lying. They deserve to know what their mother and step-father did so they can make their own informed decisions on how they move forward. I watched waiting for him to tell them only to keep being frustrated when he pussyfooted around it. I've never hoped a story was fake this much.
It being the law and there being mics in every room isnt something that would go through a terrified replapsed emotionally abused victim ofcthe horrid system would be thinking
@@Taveren Did you respond to the wrong comment? I didn't say anything about the law or mics. I was just saying the OP should tell his daughters the full truth about what happened because they have a right to know.
Ok so every single room in a police station is bugged. She just admitted that she'll make false claims in an official recording. --- Um.. "I don't like kids, but I'll simp for someone else's" um...
He doesn't have that authority. It's not just a switch you can turn off, nor can he just simply have it deleted. Most are stored on a locked down physical or cloud server. Not only that, but everything on law enforcement computers are logged, any attempted activity is logged so they would know if he somehow was able to get to the recording.
@@nicknitro86I’m sure this is true in some wealthier places, many places even, but there are so many different police departments in all sorts of places and with all sorts of circumstances, and this isn’t going to be true for a significant portion of them.
It actually is. The only places where this may not be feasible are the tiny dying towns that rely primarily on sheriffs and state troopers (IE: extremely rural or towns cut off from traffic) rather than a town's/city's police department.
Story 1: This story brings to light something men deal with that most women can't even fathom. The fear of a false allegation. Just that threat, "I'll destroy your life," was more terrifying than anything. If she'd walked away without it, then fine, but to go so far as to threaten OP? Come on...
Fear of false allegations is something HUMANS experiance... including women. 😅 um...yeah. now what the false allegations are about can be vastly different.
She pursued him for clout. She wanted to be OPs "savior," but then when that high didn't last, she decided to make him out to be a monster so she could play the "abused mother." Everything is an act to Sarah. I'm not surprised she tried to make Mark look like a "supportive step-dad" in her daughters eyes. She's only now feeling regret because her kids are practically done with her and their step-dad.
S1: Why is the OP seemingly covering for the actions of his ex-wife and the cop? That’s not being truthful with his daughters. Also, Hannah was old enough at the time to know that she was intentionally distancing herself from her dad, Nor was she entirely blameless when it came to that final present handover. Given that they were prepared to fake abuse allegations against him, is it so hard to believe that they might have targeted the kids with abuse? It’s disappointing that the OP did not attempt to make contact once the daughters reached adulthood. Better still would’ve been to record the threats made by Sarah at the time but he failed to do that unfortunately. As described, the adults in the story are varying shades of bad and annoying.
I'm sorry you're going through this. No one deserves to face betrayal or false accusations, especially when it impacts your relationship with your children. Stay strong, focus on proving the truth, and seek the support you need during this challenging time.
Why is the guy from first story remorseful about not being in his daughters' life ? If he tried to interfere after the threat, probably those monsters would have conspired something to make sure he was out of the children's lives for good. Don't understand much about jurisdiction but he mentioned about getting threats of imprisonment right? Or did I miss something ?
@@pablosanz2163My heart hurts for OP’s daughters, after going no contact with Sarah and Mark his oldest daughter Hannah will catch her husband Matt cheating on her with another woman, and have to raise her daughter alone, the middle daughter Claire will have a kid on the way, catch her fiancée cheating on her, call off her engagement, prepare herself for a new life as a single mother, then, go on to marry a guy who’s not only controlling, but also violent, and the youngest will find solace with a boyfriend who’s a scammer/womanizer, and become homeless with a baby on the way
Some people giving the second entry a lot of scrutiny, but like..that's sometimes how it is. Sometimes you grow a little bit of an attachment to someone you didn't intend to. Its not like he 'got over' his disliking of children with that one he found alright, he himself said it didn't. And its kinda stupid a lot of people are assuming that still. I don't like kids either, and I myself have a couple that i can tolerate or hang out with just fine, but i hate the screaming, noises, the smell, the invasiveness, so its hard to do it long term. I'm glad he found someone that he feels alright with that it doesnt, but he has every right to not want to be a part of something she just ASSUMED he was 'cured' from so he could take care of the kid. That's the main thing, she asked him and got this drama because she just assumed he'd be there. Not liking kids aside, thats just weird, family or not.
Story 2: Opi is such a simp for his girlfriend there's no other way of thinking like you don't want to be a father but you take on a single mom then be shocked when someone thinks that maybe you won't kids it's going to be the first time I ever said this but that Reddit comment that called OP out was almost accurate only thing we forgot to add is OP is a simp
I actually get him, i hate kids with a burning passion and believe they aren't good for anything, i don't need them to take care of me when I'm older and i don't to be responsible for another life, but if i really loved someone and it was a package deal, I'd deal with it, cause at the end of the day I'm not responsible for that child, the one I'm with is and I'll play no role as a parental figure, I'll just be the guy that pays the bills, I will go to no parent / teacher interviews, will not be having any parental talks, and will be making no rules, i won't be taking that kid anywhere on my own or having no family time
@@krafthelvedemand Not really The comment was establishing that he's willing to put up with someone else kid that he's not related to but when it come to his actual blood he refused to spend time with them
"OP is such a simp for his girlfriend" Brother the grass is calling your name. It'll likely be the only thing you can touch that consent, so take advantage. Maybe, just maybe, he fell in love with this woman, got to know her kid, and found he was fine with this, particular kid. That's like if someone said "I normally despise all forms of pasta, but this one restaurant makes Mac and cheese in a way I love" only for you to freak out and say "SO YOU'RE A HYPOCRITE?!?!"
Yes OP2 is a huge hypocrite I understand why the sister is so mad. She treats his girlfriends child as if their related, but OP doesn’t even want to be in the same room as the sisters child.
Wait until you find out that, in life, there are some situations in which our iron clad convictions have, in fact, got exceptions. Also he never said he didn't wanna be in the same room as the kid. He said he didn't wanna do particularly more than see the kid at family events. The sister choose to be more involved, which is a good thing, but she didn't have to.
I can't stand kids. I was parentified basically at age seven. I'm actually really good with them because terror based survival mechanism but given a choice I'm not going to the zoo with you and your children without going off by myself to idk stare at the lemurs the entire time.
Ah yes, fight back against the pllice who are known for covering for each other and having some of the most ruthless lawyers on payroll. Please, for ths love of god go touch grass you terminally online jackass.
S2 his parents are the reason why he feels that way about children. But it's hypocritical to say that he does not like kids yet he is dating a mother. Also stop calling him stepson cuz he is not married to his mother, they are his girlfriend and her son. His gf son will not have a good relationship with him, and she should not want that
Imagine going in for a confrontation with Sarah and not having the wits to record the conversation?? Always no plan and no idea. He should have been honest with Hannah and told them what he was , but also how he was driven out by her mother and stepfather. Honesty is the key. She is an adult and could handle it. Imagine having an opportunity to connect with your daughter but everything is “me, me, I, my….” The daughters have a strained relationship with their mother and are no contact with the stepfather yet OP wants to connect with his daughters from a distance due to Sarah and her husband??
It was 20 years ago. I doubt they even thought about carrying a recorder or utilizing the record option on a mobile phone if they even had one at the time.
Es desgarrador leer tu historia. Nadie debería ser forzado a abandonar a sus hijos debido a mentiras y manipulación. Espero que encuentres justicia y paz en medio de este caos.
Story 1 is the reality behind most “deadbeat dad” narratives, mothers often force the fathers out of the children’s lives and then claim he abandoned them
While it's the case a lot more than most people realize, i wouldn't say most of the time. So often abandonees go out looking for their absentee parent to find them being the biggest waster ever or happily fatheting some other kids with some vague excuse of not being ready..
With the things I’ve seen and witness in 1st, 2th, and 3th party I can say that mark may have even tried or had his way with the daughters. Sarah is that type of person who lives an ilusión that being with a police man everything will be fine, how wrong can you be some like mark are wolves under a sheep’s clothing. I’ve known 4 cases and each are sadder than the other if anyone would like to know I can tell them
Damn I know how it feels to lose a brother. My oldest brother was killed but man even though it's been 25 years I still remember that day vividly. Man this story get so much worse and I don't get why he didn't just tell the entire truth ffs she's a grown woman Story 2: Dude is kind of terrible but I do understand where he's coming from but why be so damn rude about it? Either way he had boundaries and his sister should've known his stance in the end
Come on! This bull crap..This doesn't happen. She didnt threaten him at a police station with a bunch of witnesses. And what custody violation? And it's not cheating if you're divorced. Stop...Smh
Yet another fake story, replete with "Under the Weight of it All" and "I don't know what the future holds"... Is it really that difficult to remove those phrases from the prompt, lol? Seriously, no human says the words "I don't know what the future holds". We can all reasonably infer that the author is not in fact clairvoyant, lol. That does not need to be said in any story, let alone ALL the stories, lol.
My heart hurts for OP’s daughters, the oldest daughter will end up being cheated on by her husband (just like her mother Sarah cheated on op), and raising her
@@Calories_To_Calibers Naw he's got a point. After 25 years the guy has no backbone. Didn't tell his whole truth at all even after they're already adults when clearly it's what they wanted. Didn't attempt to reconnect with them once they were 18. This guy failed at every step. Put up little to no fight and did little to defend himself in the early part of the story. 25 years later he doesn't seem much better off and they had to be the ones to reach out. He's pretty trash.
Story 3: the YTA comment is about as out of touch as Seymour Skinner. You don't have the details brainlet, you aren't psychic, you barely got the cliff notes but decided to write a creative piece of fiction and then convinced yourself it was fact.
Story 1: title is misleading. Op wife didn't cheat, she left op and took her daughters because op started doing drug and later with the help of her "new cop bf" she kept op away from her kids and divorce him. Op doesn't deserve any sympathy.
She did cheat in that she got with the new BF before divorcing OP. Marrying him later doesn't make it not cheating. Neither did the fact that OP was a drunk mean that it wasn't cheating. It might make it understandable, but it's still cheating.
@@rmhartman Many believe once the "Spirit" of a marriage aka vows have been broken in some form then the marriage is essentially over. People forget that forgoing all others is just ONE vow in a marriage and if one or more of the other vows are broken by one of the parties then the marriage, for all intents and purposes, is over. Thus, they still might be married in the "eyes of the law" but aren't in the Spirit of the marriage. Some states also have separation agreements since the laws require a long period of time before a divorce can happen. Some states consider the marriage over before the actual court-signed judgment if one or both of the parties jump through the required legal hoops of that state. So, if they are separated with no intention of ever reconciling, most might not see "cheating" being a thing any longer, and in reality, it isn't actually "cheating" any longer.
story 1) OP is spineless, after 25 years? why not wait when they're in college or when they're 25? you didnt protect them? you exposed them to the abuse, if your wife is willing to manipulate her kids for her own gain with a man who can easily gat anyone in trouble, what was stopping them from abusing the girl? why didnt you reach out at all like a letter? OP keeps saying he's telling his daughters the truth without going into the messy details means that you arent telling the full truth, so he is still lying. They deserve to know what their mother and step-father did so they can make their own decisions on how they move forward, on their terms, OP has just been beating around the bush, and its not anything good.
Story 1: title is misleading. Op wife didn't cheat, she left op and took her daughters because op started doing drug and later with the help of her new cop bf she kept op away from her kids and divorce him. Op doesn't deserve any sympathy.
I pray to God you never have to deal with addiction. Because you are the exact type of idiot to think you'd be the exception to it because "Well only those stinky bad people can't handle their liquor, unlike me".
Story 1: OP keeps saying he's telling his daughters the truth without going into the messy details but that isn't the truth. Saying "I left to protect you" is meaningless. They might just end up thinking he left to not expose them to his addict behavior. Without telling them the full truth, he's still lying. They deserve to know what their mother and step-father did so they can make their own informed decisions on how they move forward. I watched waiting for him to tell them only to keep being frustrated when he pussyfooted around it. I've never hoped a story was fake this much.
It is fake this story has to be stretched out by the OP most of it could have been avoided but there wouldn't be much of a story if he did that 😂
If this story is true, the OP sounds like he wasn’t firing on all cylinders
It being the law and there being mics in every room isnt something that would go through a terrified replapsed emotionally abused victim ofcthe horrid system would be thinking
@@Taveren Did you respond to the wrong comment? I didn't say anything about the law or mics. I was just saying the OP should tell his daughters the full truth about what happened because they have a right to know.
Ok so every single room in a police station is bugged. She just admitted that she'll make false claims in an official recording.
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Um.. "I don't like kids, but I'll simp for someone else's" um...
Did you forget about her cop boyfriend, who probably just had any recorders shut off or had the recordings deleted immediately?
@@RepellentJeff I really doubt just any cop can go and do any of this.
He doesn't have that authority. It's not just a switch you can turn off, nor can he just simply have it deleted. Most are stored on a locked down physical or cloud server. Not only that, but everything on law enforcement computers are logged, any attempted activity is logged so they would know if he somehow was able to get to the recording.
@@nicknitro86I’m sure this is true in some wealthier places, many places even, but there are so many different police departments in all sorts of places and with all sorts of circumstances, and this isn’t going to be true for a significant portion of them.
It actually is. The only places where this may not be feasible are the tiny dying towns that rely primarily on sheriffs and state troopers (IE: extremely rural or towns cut off from traffic) rather than a town's/city's police department.
Story 1: This story brings to light something men deal with that most women can't even fathom. The fear of a false allegation. Just that threat, "I'll destroy your life," was more terrifying than anything. If she'd walked away without it, then fine, but to go so far as to threaten OP? Come on...
It's not a competition on which gender has it worse. Life sucks for everyone
Fear of false allegations is something HUMANS experiance... including women. 😅 um...yeah. now what the false allegations are about can be vastly different.
@@samoea19 That's why I said "most," and it's more likely that a false allegation against a man is way more devastating than one against a woman.
@@samoea19not even close to the degree in which men deal with it. Especially being that it's legal
@@samoea19 Yeah no it's not even comparable in terms of damage done.
Story 1, so sarah pursued him knowing what and who he was and then became angry about it
That's what I'm saying.
She pursued him for clout. She wanted to be OPs "savior," but then when that high didn't last, she decided to make him out to be a monster so she could play the "abused mother." Everything is an act to Sarah. I'm not surprised she tried to make Mark look like a "supportive step-dad" in her daughters eyes. She's only now feeling regret because her kids are practically done with her and their step-dad.
Sarah sounds like a narcissist
Second story im pretty sure the being forced to take care of his younger siblings growing up is way he is way he is.
S1: Why is the OP seemingly covering for the actions of his ex-wife and the cop? That’s not being truthful with his daughters. Also, Hannah was old enough at the time to know that she was intentionally distancing herself from her dad, Nor was she entirely blameless when it came to that final present handover.
Given that they were prepared to fake abuse allegations against him, is it so hard to believe that they might have targeted the kids with abuse? It’s disappointing that the OP did not attempt to make contact once the daughters reached adulthood. Better still would’ve been to record the threats made by Sarah at the time but he failed to do that unfortunately.
As described, the adults in the story are varying shades of bad and annoying.
OP2 is a jerk and not antisocial, hes using it as a crutch.
God what a weak man, calling him a simp would insult other simps.
S1.....cops be cops
I'm sorry you're going through this. No one deserves to face betrayal or false accusations, especially when it impacts your relationship with your children. Stay strong, focus on proving the truth, and seek the support you need during this challenging time.
Why is the guy from first story remorseful about not being in his daughters' life ? If he tried to interfere after the threat, probably those monsters would have conspired something to make sure he was out of the children's lives for good. Don't understand much about jurisdiction but he mentioned about getting threats of imprisonment right? Or did I miss something ?
He blames himself for not being able to do more ,he thinks that if he has taken better choices , he could have prevented hus situation
@@pablosanz2163My heart hurts for OP’s daughters, after going no contact with Sarah and Mark his oldest daughter Hannah will catch her husband Matt cheating on her with another woman, and have to raise her daughter alone, the middle daughter Claire will have a kid on the way, catch her fiancée cheating on her, call off her engagement, prepare herself for a new life as a single mother, then, go on to marry a guy who’s not only controlling, but also violent, and the youngest will find solace with a boyfriend who’s a scammer/womanizer, and become homeless with a baby on the way
@@danacarter9147you have one wild imagination
@@danacarter9147 wait, is this real ?! Must have been some family curse
Yeah...I don't agree with OP in the last story at ALL, idc 😹 I'm an introvert myself, but he himself is just antisocial and not asocial
@@aquafebiblue93 exactly that kind of isolation is not good for you
Some people giving the second entry a lot of scrutiny, but like..that's sometimes how it is. Sometimes you grow a little bit of an attachment to someone you didn't intend to.
Its not like he 'got over' his disliking of children with that one he found alright, he himself said it didn't. And its kinda stupid a lot of people are assuming that still. I don't like kids either, and I myself have a couple that i can tolerate or hang out with just fine, but i hate the screaming, noises, the smell, the invasiveness, so its hard to do it long term. I'm glad he found someone that he feels alright with that it doesnt, but he has every right to not want to be a part of something she just ASSUMED he was 'cured' from so he could take care of the kid. That's the main thing, she asked him and got this drama because she just assumed he'd be there. Not liking kids aside, thats just weird, family or not.
Story 2:
Opi is such a simp for his girlfriend there's no other way of thinking like you don't want to be a father but you take on a single mom then be shocked when someone thinks that maybe you won't kids it's going to be the first time I ever said this but that Reddit comment that called OP out was almost accurate only thing we forgot to add is OP is a simp
I actually get him, i hate kids with a burning passion and believe they aren't good for anything, i don't need them to take care of me when I'm older and i don't to be responsible for another life,
but if i really loved someone and it was a package deal, I'd deal with it, cause at the end of the day I'm not responsible for that child, the one I'm with is and I'll play no role as a parental figure, I'll just be the guy that pays the bills,
I will go to no parent / teacher interviews, will not be having any parental talks, and will be making no rules, i won't be taking that kid anywhere on my own or having no family time
The comment that "called out OP" was extremely weird, and waaaaay too focused on dna.
His girlfriend probably has a stable of guys, that's why she doesn't want to commit to marriage
@@krafthelvedemand
Not really The comment was establishing that he's willing to put up with someone else kid that he's not related to but when it come to his actual blood he refused to spend time with them
"OP is such a simp for his girlfriend"
Brother the grass is calling your name. It'll likely be the only thing you can touch that consent, so take advantage.
Maybe, just maybe, he fell in love with this woman, got to know her kid, and found he was fine with this, particular kid. That's like if someone said "I normally despise all forms of pasta, but this one restaurant makes Mac and cheese in a way I love" only for you to freak out and say "SO YOU'RE A HYPOCRITE?!?!"
Yes OP2 is a huge hypocrite I understand why the sister is so mad. She treats his girlfriends child as if their related, but OP doesn’t even want to be in the same room as the sisters child.
OP hates kids so much but chose to date a woman with a child?
Wait until you find out that, in life, there are some situations in which our iron clad convictions have, in fact, got exceptions.
Also he never said he didn't wanna be in the same room as the kid. He said he didn't wanna do particularly more than see the kid at family events. The sister choose to be more involved, which is a good thing, but she didn't have to.
I can't stand kids. I was parentified basically at age seven. I'm actually really good with them because terror based survival mechanism but given a choice I'm not going to the zoo with you and your children without going off by myself to idk stare at the lemurs the entire time.
Op 1 25 mins in and grow some damn balls plz. Ur actually pissing me off by being a coward.
Ah yes, fight back against the pllice who are known for covering for each other and having some of the most ruthless lawyers on payroll. Please, for ths love of god go touch grass you terminally online jackass.
You should have said that Sarah told you to go.
This is just pathetic.
S2 his parents are the reason why he feels that way about children. But it's hypocritical to say that he does not like kids yet he is dating a mother. Also stop calling him stepson cuz he is not married to his mother, they are his girlfriend and her son. His gf son will not have a good relationship with him, and she should not want that
Imagine going in for a confrontation with Sarah and not having the wits to record the conversation?? Always no plan and no idea. He should have been honest with Hannah and told them what he was , but also how he was driven out by her mother and stepfather. Honesty is the key. She is an adult and could handle it. Imagine having an opportunity to connect with your daughter but everything is “me, me, I, my….” The daughters have a strained relationship with their mother and are no contact with the stepfather yet OP wants to connect with his daughters from a distance due to Sarah and her husband??
It was 20 years ago. I doubt they even thought about carrying a recorder or utilizing the record option on a mobile phone if they even had one at the time.
Es desgarrador leer tu historia. Nadie debería ser forzado a abandonar a sus hijos debido a mentiras y manipulación. Espero que encuentres justicia y paz en medio de este caos.
Story 1 is the reality behind most “deadbeat dad” narratives, mothers often force the fathers out of the children’s lives and then claim he abandoned them
True, and, karma catches up to the mothers, when children cut off contact with them, and force them out of their grandchildren’s lives.⚠️
While it's the case a lot more than most people realize, i wouldn't say most of the time. So often abandonees go out looking for their absentee parent to find them being the biggest waster ever or happily fatheting some other kids with some vague excuse of not being ready..
Pretty easy to play keepaway when your deadbeat dad plays the "I don't want custody" game. .-.
He relapsed once, and she said I can't do this anymore. What a week willed woman.
With the things I’ve seen and witness in 1st, 2th, and 3th party I can say that mark may have even tried or had his way with the daughters. Sarah is that type of person who lives an ilusión that being with a police man everything will be fine, how wrong can you be some like mark are wolves under a sheep’s clothing. I’ve known 4 cases and each are sadder than the other if anyone would like to know I can tell them
Story 2..What a weirdo creep, if true.I wouldn't want the sociopath around my kid either. These comments probably didn't happen either.
Damn I know how it feels to lose a brother. My oldest brother was killed but man even though it's been 25 years I still remember that day vividly.
Man this story get so much worse and I don't get why he didn't just tell the entire truth ffs she's a grown woman
Story 2: Dude is kind of terrible but I do understand where he's coming from but why be so damn rude about it? Either way he had boundaries and his sister should've known his stance in the end
Come on! This bull crap..This doesn't happen. She didnt threaten him at a police station with a bunch of witnesses. And what custody violation? And it's not cheating if you're divorced. Stop...Smh
I would have sued them
Second story that response was projection...
Yet another fake story, replete with "Under the Weight of it All" and "I don't know what the future holds"...
Is it really that difficult to remove those phrases from the prompt, lol?
Seriously, no human says the words "I don't know what the future holds". We can all reasonably infer that the author is not in fact clairvoyant, lol. That does not need to be said in any story, let alone ALL the stories, lol.
Both these stories are ridiculous
Story 1: Op is an idiot
My heart hurts for OP’s daughters, the oldest daughter will end up being cheated on by her husband (just like her mother Sarah cheated on op), and raising her
Mark didn't "take" anything the "protagonist" is a gutless coward who ran away at every opportunity.
Death or stupid which one?
You must be a cheater to
@@Calories_To_Calibers Naw he's got a point. After 25 years the guy has no backbone. Didn't tell his whole truth at all even after they're already adults when clearly it's what they wanted. Didn't attempt to reconnect with them once they were 18. This guy failed at every step. Put up little to no fight and did little to defend himself in the early part of the story. 25 years later he doesn't seem much better off and they had to be the ones to reach out. He's pretty trash.
@@Chaoshadow-SA2*deaf
@@lonewanderer8743 And has the nerve to say "he thought it was the best way to protect the girls." No he ran to protect himself. He's a coward.
First
Comfortable with someone else's kid but not your own nephew, wow just wow
Nah that’s trifling asf if I was the sister that’s not my family 🤷🏾 cause that makes no sense.
@@Vipershadow1 agreed
Story 3: the YTA comment is about as out of touch as Seymour Skinner. You don't have the details brainlet, you aren't psychic, you barely got the cliff notes but decided to write a creative piece of fiction and then convinced yourself it was fact.
Please no more of these crappy stories do better
Story 1: title is misleading.
Op wife didn't cheat, she left op and took her daughters because op started doing drug and later with the help of her "new cop bf" she kept op away from her kids and divorce him.
Op doesn't deserve any sympathy.
New boyfriend 🤡
Why did she have kids with him then? She knew his past lol
🤡🤡🤡
She did cheat in that she got with the new BF before divorcing OP. Marrying him later doesn't make it not cheating. Neither did the fact that OP was a drunk mean that it wasn't cheating. It might make it understandable, but it's still cheating.
@@rmhartman Many believe once the "Spirit" of a marriage aka vows have been broken in some form then the marriage is essentially over. People forget that forgoing all others is just ONE vow in a marriage and if one or more of the other vows are broken by one of the parties then the marriage, for all intents and purposes, is over.
Thus, they still might be married in the "eyes of the law" but aren't in the Spirit of the marriage. Some states also have separation agreements since the laws require a long period of time before a divorce can happen. Some states consider the marriage over before the actual court-signed judgment if one or both of the parties jump through the required legal hoops of that state.
So, if they are separated with no intention of ever reconciling, most might not see "cheating" being a thing any longer, and in reality, it isn't actually "cheating" any longer.
story 1) OP is spineless, after 25 years? why not wait when they're in college or when they're 25? you didnt protect them? you exposed them to the abuse, if your wife is willing to manipulate her kids for her own gain with a man who can easily gat anyone in trouble, what was stopping them from abusing the girl? why didnt you reach out at all like a letter? OP keeps saying he's telling his daughters the truth without going into the messy details means that you arent telling the full truth, so he is still lying. They deserve to know what their mother and step-father did so they can make their own decisions on how they move forward, on their terms, OP has just been beating around the bush, and its not anything good.
Oh, the sentimental fallacies the 2nd story is going to spin. 🥲
Story 1: title is misleading.
Op wife didn't cheat, she left op and took her daughters because op started doing drug and later with the help of her new cop bf she kept op away from her kids and divorce him.
Op doesn't deserve any sympathy.
You just stole someone else's comment word for word
She did cheat and his ex literally ruined his life and tried to imprison him by lying about abusing them. Women logic
Cheating is cheating, no matter the excuse. There's nothing misleading about this title.
You redditards really need to touch grass.
I pray to God you never have to deal with addiction. Because you are the exact type of idiot to think you'd be the exception to it because "Well only those stinky bad people can't handle their liquor, unlike me".