Love this! 15yrs Royal Marine, Worked 14hrs daily, on my own business, Military Contracting too, lost my wife, my kids, my marriage of 17yrs, diagnosed with TBI, severe clinical depression, Complex PTSD and 2 attempts at suicide, all before lockdown. I needed to hear this. Thank you for being transparent and having the balls to be vulnerable, that takes real strength, sir.
Phenomenal!!! You guys learned something in 6 months that many of us never learn until it's far too late. Keep communicating like that with each other no matter what. You never get a do-over.
Communication! The most important thing between a husband and wife. The lack of this ruined my first marriage...and I wanted it more than anything. When it was over, it was over.
@Mr Popeye hey Mr know it all maybe you should listen instead of having a poor out look. It's bad etiquette to judge another person let alone relationship, especially when you have big holes in your own. Please take care of that drinking problem if not for you, for your kids.
3 C’s of healthy relationships 1- Communication 2- Compromise 3- Commitment You guys look to have something really special, keep doing what you’re doing!
Lack of communication is a symptom, it’s not enough to say ‘we don’t communicate,’ there’s generally a reason or a challenge that needs to be dealt with. I ask myself, “what’s my role in this?”
I love the "keeping it real" vibe. Our problems are miniscule compared to other people and places. For me it's like watching my wife and I talk. I'm to phlegmatic and she's quite open. It's a great mix and you guys are showing it live and proud ❤❤
I really appreciate these couples videos. When I watch your routine videos. I understand what your family is doing when your doing hard hitting videos. It’s got to be stressful for you a couple . You are stressing about producing the successful shows you do. It takes a small tribe to run a business. A small circle of artistic, bright, intelligent, well spoken, critical thinking, common sense folks. There’s travel, being apart as a family. Meetings, and running a home , grocery shopping, paying bills and trying to keep a social lif also. I get the babysitter debacle. I’m thankful my mom and other family helped out with the babysitting when my career got hectic, long hours ect.
Hey, guys, great conversation, polite and calm. I'm married for almost 19 yrs, three kids, youngest 10 So once i heard someone saying Kids used to grow up in the world of adults. I mean look at Jewish kids. They are taken by their fathers to the wall for a prayer. Kids must incorporate themselves into the wolrs of adults. Contemporary culture, unfortunately, caters to kids. As u mentioned in another video, you prepared a nice nursery for your son, and ended up not needed half of those things. There is a proverb in Russian that I attempted to translate: With the firstborn, things are sterilized, boiled, washed, dried, ironed. With the second child, the things are washed. With the third, when the child tried dog food, well, looks like the dog got some problems. So I would repeat after some othet blogger, do what u can do best, and delegate the rest. Mom is the queen of the house. You need to have a few full days with the baby, and then some half days, and sometimes a full weekend off. You can be at the house doimg chores, while the nanny walks in the park with the baby. Or whatever. Set up datenight every three weeks on a Friday night, or whatever weekday works best. It's ao excited to look forward for that specific day. Kids are given to us for a short time. Give them life, food, shelter, educate them, teach them, and then let them fly. They will go away some day and you will stay home with your spouse. Your spouse is #1, not the child. And never do for the kid what he or she can do himself/herself. Blessings!
Seeing a problem, fixing it and discussing it like adults is something we all need more of. It’s easy to sweep things under the rug, but eventually that starts eating away at the rest of your relationship if left unaddressed. As a team it’s not always 50/50, sometimes it will need to be 60/40 when your partner needs help but being open and communicating will always keep you in sync. Y’all are awesome and a huge inspiration. Keep being you 👍🏻
When I got married we said we were going to wait a year to think about kids, but my wife was pregnant after 6 weeks. After 3 years we had three kids. She had postpartum depression after every birth. The amount of noise and chaos in our house is intense. Sometimes you're so overwhelmed that the thought of asking for help doesn't even enter your mind. I appreciate you guys keeping it real.
You absolutely nailed it my friend!!!! I realized this fact about 6 years ago and said “efff it” changed my ways and it’s only been awesome ever since. Stay positive and remember 3 minds are better than 1.
you may see it in comments a thousand times, but I'm not sure you will actually realise how much these candid talks do, it clicks so many switches in my head and makes me think i need to work harder, Thank You both.
Shawn, your podcasts are absolutely amazing. I watch a lot of podcasts and you and Mike Ritland are both at the top. Thank you for all your effort. I worked for a company that was started by a WW II glider pilot. He became an excellent mentor for me for 25 years. A couple things he taught me was “ hire good people around you, then let them do their job”. “ If someone does something different than you do it, it’s not wrong, it’s just different”
Can’t help but smile watching this. Especially going through these lessons myself. We have a 20 month old and man does it get tough. Thanks Shawn for the support knowing we all go through this.
It’s great to see you putting up examples for those who are in a relationship to know. That it takes work to keep a relationship strong and it’s ok to accept/ask for help. If not you end up with resentment towards one another. Well done Katie & Shawn
Once you can recognize that control is an illusion you can begin to trust others & finally get to a point of trusting yourself. Through constantly focusing on staying true to your inner soul, you can become able to quiet down the underlying need to control situations, people, & things by loosening your grip & breathing. Within the Teams, it feels like there are 2 different opposing realities. One reality is knowing how challenging the circumstances & dynamics can be on it's families. The second reality is what society views the job to be of a Navy SEAL. Choosing to make a change requires self-reflection, courage, sacrifice, hardwork, perserverence, & gratitude that leads to resiliency. I wish you well on this lifelong journey!
Reminds me of how my wife always feels guilty going to get her hair or nails done. It doesn’t bother me in the slightest. It’s a very cathartic release for women to be able to have their peace and quiet and do these things. Just like it’s a man’s outlet to go work on my car for a while, or do some woodworking or whatever your hobby is. But man, business and a wife all in one I can see it being rough not being able to mentally out work aside for a while. 💯 keep doing what you’re doing both of you. People are cool shit. ✌🏼
I'm an prior PJ. Back then 38th ARRS. You have been a breath of fresh air. I left my team in 84. Old school air Force was hard stupid. We were transitioning to josoc. Constant negativity. Bringing all these type A's together. Just broke up with my fiance. But it helps to know I wasn't alone. God bless you and your wife. Love your show.
Bubble bath, party time, control freak. Thank you both for opening up about addiction and needing help! You guy's are so beautiful together, I'm glad you found each other 💯 now that you did the treatment I can see that you are more happier , I have so many questions for you now 😊 Cheer's beautiful family 🙏❤️
GREAT JOB guys!!!! I was a single dad for over 16 years and I never asked for help or released control. Lord knows I did need the help and should have asked. Fast forward 20 years.... my health isn't great because I didn't put myself first. It's not selfish to do so because if you don't, you may not be around to take care of those that depend on you. Secondly, it will destroy any relationship you have or try to develope. You two keep working at it, you are headed down the right path CONGRATS!!
The one thing I learned in almost 60 years on this earth is "Be enough of a man to know you don't need to be that much of a man". It's ok to ask for help to be the best you. I have a very strong alpha personality and have made my share of mistakes because of that. I'm in the second phase of life and want to think I have learned from all my mistakes. I probably haven't but it's still a work in progress. I'm so glad you two are sitting down and working out the things that need to be worked out. Great video. I wish nothing but the best for you two.
As if your experiences in the martial world weren’t enough, now you present an entirely different side of a person(s) who won’t accept mediocrity let alone failure in their lives! I’m more impressed than ever. I only learned these things in the last 5 or so years, and it took decades of heart break and disappointment to makes myself ready to get those lessons. Keep up the great work and sharing with us so solidly.
You guys are awesome! As much as we enjoy watching, you guys need to do this every Sunday for yourselves and if we get to watch great, if not oh well. Good luck!
You both are charismatic soulful people and an evolving couple who are authentically appealing. Thank you for creating enjoyable content to watch just being yourselves. May God give you the knowledge to forever grow your passions for life! Best of luck with raising your child/family!
Kudos youse two...what a liberating topic and understanding first of all the need you recognize the need to say help. At 65 years of age myself...I have no choice but to ask for help. Never had the need cause that old stubborn SOB refused to ask no matter how much it pained me to go solo. All these years my lovely wife of 34 years was right all along...now I get it! Thanks you two, you're certainly a fun couple to watch!
I’m sharing these with my sons mother/ex wife. It’s helping us be better co parents and understand our past relationship. Thank you and keep them coming.
"First step at solving a problem is recognizing that there is one." I love these videos. Not a lot of people out there are willing to discuss at length about their own shortcomings or experiences in learning... especially something brand new like being a parent. You both are willing to take a breath, recognize that help is needed and are willing to seek out whatever is necessary to get you back to neutral. Whether it be for your business, or Sonny, or more importantly, your relationship with each other .... you're finding ways to grow, get stronger, and make sure your home remains intact. I have three kids and let me assure you, it only gets better. It's all peaks and valleys ... Sonny will only make you two better. You guys are doing a great job, I have related to every story you have posted so far and I laugh out loud every. damn. time. Anyone who's a parent with 1, 3, or 5 have ALL been there. Trust it. It's not just you. God Bless you all.
Love it I also love the view of the creek I live in Miramar Florida and I built a waterfall and koi pond just for that escape factor in the day keep up the amazing work
Welcome to parenthood. You are both great, incredible people, which makes outstanding parents. Remember there is no "normal" life, there's just life. Respect and honor each others thoughts, ideas, and always be honest and support each other. I have made it 34 years with my better half, using these goals. GOD, family, country! You guys make a great team!🙏💕
I love the maturity you two bring to the table. So raw and real. Please keep these kinds of convos going! PS. you two should end each video with a hug. Lol
Love you guys. Your honesty is very real. It is the hardest thing to give a little control over the kids when they're so small and helpless in this world. Me and my wife never would allow anyone to watch our kids. Very protective of ours. I worked nights she worked days and passed in the wind. Weekends where ours. So business I felt like I had to do everything for it to turn out the way it should. After losing my mother a year ago and dad into Altzheimers I'm learning I have help. So good to see you guys are getting this done early. Sometimes the struggles are where we find the answers and they were always there. Live the great life. Enjoy. And thanks for what you guys are doing. It does make the difference
Great work! What stands out to me is you 2 seem to have a healthy respect for each other, to allow vulnerability to rise up within your relationship. Filming it shows your commitment and accountability for your marriage. You 2 are very mature, keep going. By the way I have enjoyed your past shows due to the military "slant" , this " slant" is so Cool 😎. Keep mixing it up. By the way Candy, my wife, and I live in Chattanooga and come up to y'all's area to a BNB in Liepers Fork. God Speed!
You are both very smart.. I've seen and been part of so many relationships that suffocate due to getting too busy being busy.. There is nothing wrong with being a "Go Getter". At the same time, you have to have balance. Truly, that is one of the hardest decisions in life. Money, work, Wife, Kido's, you name it... Just remember, you can never get time back once it's gone.. Spend time with your Family. In my opinion, that is the most important part of life.. Also, communication is key, honest communication.. You two are a real treat to watch.. Thank you..
My wife and I had these conversations for the last 15 years just like you guys. A open and brutally honest relationship will stand the test of time , but when you find your soul purpose at this time of your life , husband , father , provider you are good , and If all else fails wife the wifey don’t sweet the petty stuff pet the sweaty stuff
Life is a constant struggle. Finding that person to fight along side you is the best part about a relationship. You can just tell by the way you guys look at each other that you have that. If you place family, love, compassion and communication as your top priorities then you can navigate through any obstacles life throws at you.
You guys are an awesome couple. Honestly within the relationship & admitting faults & that you need help, letting go of control was the best thing my wife and I did. Pretty sure it's the secret of a forever marriage.
Excellent content. My wife and I just talked for around 6 hours about I struggle knowing how to actually comfort her, because I never really learned how to comfort others. We, in turn, discovered that she doesn't know how to ask for comfort. These deep dives into our human tendency are the things that us free. They tend to rattle the pride and ego...but boy do they work wonders for relationships.
I love to see you two being so open and honest. People need to see this stuff. It just shows how both of you say things how they are and don't sugar coat it. That's more than healthy.
I really enjoy watching/listening to you two. The authenticity is appealing, but it’s more than that. I appreciate you guys sharing some of your process. You’re clearly both very high functioning, accomplished adults but you’re not claiming expertise in all things. Very relatable, encouraging and enjoyable to sit in on these conversations. Thank you!
I won’t go into some grand stand comment. But I can’t describe how grateful I am for you, and your wife’s transparency. It’s a massive help and a great venue to reorient and understand that I’m on the right path to find a good companion. Thanks, Shawn.
Hey guys. Proof that the dream don't work if the team don't work and it's not a spectators sports. Also good to get this kind of stuff straight early when you start a family. Keep your screen time in check, don't be vindictive and always start that day with Gratitude. You guys are so awesome. Thanks for being so open.
I’m so thankful! It took my husband and I 3 long years before we set “office hours”. Establishing that end of work time has literally saved our marriage. Sending light and love to you both from the United State of Florida!
Lots of wisdom spoken in this piece, as an old veteran, I will just say that control is a symptom of experiences we as vets had, control it takes its toll on those who care for you, it took 40 years for me to look for help, glad you found it quicker. As an older wiser buddy at the VA told me, the Goal is to put it in a box, and just peak inside and make sure it's still in there! great content, look forward to your work.
Shawn , you are a most inspiring brother in arms. I’ve been following you since the beginning and your growth as a human being before our eyes has lifted me above my PTSD, TBI fog of existence. Your self effacing humble transparency is a beautiful trait in any human, much less a true hero with scoreboard off the charts. Keep it up. You have my support till I quit breathing. God bless my brother.
I ❤ these personal moments! We can all relate. Thank you! I was feeling like Id be single forever...till i heard your story! Now i realize that the best times of my life havent even happened yet!
I've been watching all these videos and am enjoying them . Sometimes it's good to be reminded that your not the only one in a relationship that's not perfect but as long as you're both trying it can be great.
Y’all are always honest and open, which is the opposite of most Instagram/RUclips channels which constantly show only the perception of positive. Thank you for that. Keep up the great work.
HolyCow man!! Dude I drank so much when I got back from Iraq for far to long and didn’t realize what my wonderful amazing wife/best friend was going through along with me! We had so many struggles but we worked through them and I’ve been sober since 28June2019!!! Love you guys and all your shows!!!
Slogans on coffee mugs: Great 💡 idea I loved the show. I’m kinda a bit of a Control freak. Not even once in a While. Your right… that would cause resentment. Teach us, we like 👍 it. Luv you both, Sandy
I hope 🤞 you have a summer TEE SHIR This Spring. I’d like to order some of your Things. I’ve been spending $ 100.0O or so on some of my subscribers. I’d really like a baseball type tee, cap, and slogan coffee mug. Lastly…not least 🐻your gummy bears 🙌👌🏼😎
Those types of conversations are highly important to keep the pillars of your relationship strong. And I'm glad that you two are sharing those realities with your followers/Patreons/Communities. It surely can assist others who are looking for answers. Bravo Zulu two both of you!
Keep talking it out! That's the key to solving issues. The 1st time I relinquished control of my first born son I noticed when it came time to pick him up he didn't miss me! He had so much fun playing with babies his age and wasn't ready to leave! He loved being a social butterfly and playing with different people.
Very much enjoy these videos with you and your wife. Brings back many memories and it’s encouraging to see you work out the issues I missed long ago. A nice balance to the VE interviews!
God bless always shawn to your family ' you know your WAIRUA is overwhelming from where I'm from in the world your a man of MANA 'your humility in every interview always shines through. I'm from NZ the words in capitals Is from the maori language who are the n ative the people of new Zealand . I'm from where Willie apiatas is from . God bless
I’ve been married to my wife 25 years this year. We got married when I was in Texas at USAF tech school, Shepard AFB. We have had highs and lows! My wife has been an amazing. I got hurt removed medically, faced the bs with the VA, depression, anger, rehabilitation from my injury. Then kids, debt, just a lot of things that come with all the struggles of being a disabled vet. Communication is key! You have to know your partner is 💯 committed to you. My family sucks, her family is not much better, but together if you communicate nothing is an issue that can’t be resolved. Love your channel, keep working because marriage is work. I will say if you read this, you have to learn to separate work from home, work has hours of operation, home is just that is not about work, it’s about family and yourself. My wife has an office, she works from home, that’s exactly what that space is, work, so make sure you separate that! You can’t bring work home, or can she it’s just not healthy. God bless
I don’t think I’ve ever commented on a RUclips video before but this one hit home. I love the Shawn Ryan Show and these more candid videos that you two put out. I myself am a control freak, it’s a miracle from God that my wife and I have lasted for 22 years because she’s had to put up with all of my narcissism and OCD. It didn’t help being a career Marine. Being a control freak made me good at my job but then it always came home with me. Luckily we made it to retirement. Thank you both and I love the mug idea.
@@ShawnRyanShow I feel like I’m still transitioning, it’s been one year this month. After over 24 years it’s a big adjustment. Fortunately do to COVID my wife and I both telework which has aloud us a lot of quality time to get reacquainted. I spent my last 7 years on AD as a geo-bachelor. It wasn’t as bad as it sounds, I was close enough to come home every couple of weekends as long as I wasn’t TAD or deployed. Thanks for the response, you guys are the best.
Thank you very much, My wife (now ex-wife) of 21 years engaged in multiple affairs with convicted felons. Additionally, she has an enormous gambling addiction with her net losses of over three million dollars. She and others engaged in a number of criminal activities (most notably embezzlement of myself to over a million dollars) to fund her losses. My life has been almost completely destroyed, however I am trying to be positive moving forward every day. I appreciate you, and your, wife’s efforts.
God Bless the both of you !!! You both sacrificed so much in life, you both need a breath of fresh air from time to time.... hang in there your both deserve the best out of life !!!!
This channel is awesome! Some of the best guests and then you let us into your world to make us married with kids people feel normal haha! We all know that it’s hard to let go of control! Me and the wife finally let our daughter have a play date at her friends house! She’s 7 😂 I know to much about the world! But I know it’s good for her socially! I pray for you two to have a long and happy marriage! Thank you Shawn for letting us in and your service to this country! God bless!!
I love how you guys are able to talk like this. Kind of embarrassed to admit that my wife and i only have deep chats like this after both of us are..... over refreshed. Other wise one or both of us end up getting our nose out of joint and shutting the conversation down. It is something to work on. Keeping the peace isnt always a good way to get shit worked through.
Susan & Tony here, We are 37 yrs into it and really every day we need to talk it out. But its been that way since day one. Don't expect anything from your spouse and they win never disappoint. Do more for others. God Bless
Getting REAL.... No couple is perfect, everyone has issues, but you both really love each other...and being open and transparent is amazing to see. Keep it up!
You Built Your House Together....Relationship Bond is the Glue. Don't Ever Give up on eachother. Now more thanever We Need Eachother. Love Your Content. GBLSS
I love you guys, thank you for sharing with us and giving some positivity and good direction in reality. One of the only RUclips channels I feel a "family" aspect to. Hopefully we're all on the same train trying to do well and be strong simultaneously. The openness and vulnerable talks only accent the Alpha in you both
You two are blessed to have figured this out this early in your relationship. God bless ya’s. And remember, parents don’t make children, children make parents.
Being able to talk and listen and most important be reasonable. Understanding someone else's feelings is key. I feel like when someone is reasonable things work out smoothly. Good job you 2
This is the core of Stoicism! The dichotomy of control is all about accepting what is and is not under your direct influence. Focus on what you can change and leave the rest. Such a vital lesson to finding more peace and balance.
Dude please keep pushing these out. In a culture of divorce and shallow relationships, this is so refreshing!!
Love this!
15yrs Royal Marine, Worked 14hrs daily, on my own business, Military Contracting too, lost my wife, my kids, my marriage of 17yrs, diagnosed with TBI, severe clinical depression, Complex PTSD and 2 attempts at suicide, all before lockdown. I needed to hear this. Thank you for being transparent and having the balls to be vulnerable, that takes real strength, sir.
You’ve got this.
God bless you.
how you doing man, saying a prayer for ya
God bless you, I pray for your healing and your life made whole
Sending hope & love ❤ your way 😊
Phenomenal!!! You guys learned something in 6 months that many of us never learn until it's far too late. Keep communicating like that with each other no matter what. You never get a do-over.
Thank you, and we will.
This comment right here is IT . Super important and necessary to a healthy relationship. No room for ego’s in a relationship
Communication! The most important thing between a husband and wife. The lack of this ruined my first marriage...and I wanted it more than anything. When it was over, it was over.
@Mr Popeye hey Mr know it all maybe you should listen instead of having a poor out look. It's bad etiquette to judge another person let alone relationship, especially when you have big holes in your own. Please take care of that drinking problem if not for you, for your kids.
It’s an awesome thing to set down and go HMm!
The enemy wants to destroy marriage and family. Don’t let him. Keep God at the center. I’m praying for you guys.
Everything gets matured. You entering new phases, sorting all out, being a family, and You know what? You are healthy, and Blessed.........💯
Vulnerability and Honesty. Powerhouse couple. I very much enjoy these two's content. Wholesome stuff.
Thank you
A journey for sure, if you are fortunate enough to have two people to work together for for the betterment of each other...
3 C’s of healthy relationships
1- Communication
2- Compromise
3- Commitment
You guys look to have something really special, keep doing what you’re doing!
Thank you Mark.
@@ShawnRyanShow you’re welcome, I think you two showing what a healthy relationship looks like is something this world needs to see more of
And the most important three words of them all: "You're right, babe"
@@bubbaballer88 😂
Lack of communication is a symptom, it’s not enough to say ‘we don’t communicate,’ there’s generally a reason or a challenge that needs to be dealt with. I ask myself, “what’s my role in this?”
Retired Army, been married 24 years. Date night is a must.
Y’all are wonderful…keep on keeping on…it’s so worth it …marriage and family.❤ Keep Jesus in your marriage.
Respect for being real. My life is a series of bad decisions, but by the grace of God I'm still here.
We could all say that brother. Cheers
Thank you for that comment. That helped me.
I love the "keeping it real" vibe. Our problems are miniscule compared to other people and places. For me it's like watching my wife and I talk. I'm to phlegmatic and she's quite open. It's a great mix and you guys are showing it live and proud ❤❤
I really appreciate these couples videos. When I watch your routine videos. I understand what your family is doing when your doing hard hitting videos. It’s got to be stressful for you a couple . You are stressing about producing the successful shows you do. It takes a small tribe to run a business. A small circle of artistic, bright, intelligent, well spoken, critical thinking, common sense folks. There’s travel, being apart as a family. Meetings, and running a home , grocery shopping, paying bills and trying to keep a social lif also. I get the babysitter debacle. I’m thankful my mom and other family helped out with the babysitting when my career got hectic, long hours ect.
Hey, guys, great conversation, polite and calm.
I'm married for almost 19 yrs, three kids, youngest 10
So once i heard someone saying
Kids used to grow up in the world of adults. I mean look at Jewish kids. They are taken by their fathers to the wall for a prayer. Kids must incorporate themselves into the wolrs of adults.
Contemporary culture, unfortunately, caters to kids. As u mentioned in another video, you prepared a nice nursery for your son, and ended up not needed half of those things.
There is a proverb in Russian that I attempted to translate:
With the firstborn, things are sterilized, boiled, washed, dried, ironed.
With the second child, the things are washed.
With the third, when the child tried dog food, well, looks like the dog got some problems.
So I would repeat after some othet blogger, do what u can do best, and delegate the rest.
Mom is the queen of the house. You need to have a few full days with the baby, and then some half days, and sometimes a full weekend off.
You can be at the house doimg chores, while the nanny walks in the park with the baby.
Or whatever.
Set up datenight every three weeks on a Friday night, or whatever weekday works best.
It's ao excited to look forward for that specific day.
Kids are given to us for a short time.
Give them life, food, shelter, educate them, teach them, and then let them fly.
They will go away some day and you will stay home with your spouse.
Your spouse is #1, not the child.
And never do for the kid what he or she can do himself/herself.
Blessings!
Got married June 24, 1978. Met in high school 1975. I don't know how she put up with me. Love is powerful. Enjoy your family brother. Danny Hayes LEO
Seeing a problem, fixing it and discussing it like adults is something we all need more of. It’s easy to sweep things under the rug, but eventually that starts eating away at the rest of your relationship if left unaddressed. As a team it’s not always 50/50, sometimes it will need to be 60/40 when your partner needs help but being open and communicating will always keep you in sync. Y’all are awesome and a huge inspiration. Keep being you 👍🏻
When I got married we said we were going to wait a year to think about kids, but my wife was pregnant after 6 weeks. After 3 years we had three kids. She had postpartum depression after every birth. The amount of noise and chaos in our house is intense. Sometimes you're so overwhelmed that the thought of asking for help doesn't even enter your mind. I appreciate you guys keeping it real.
You absolutely nailed it my friend!!!! I realized this fact about 6 years ago and said “efff it” changed my ways and it’s only been awesome ever since. Stay positive and remember 3 minds are better than 1.
you may see it in comments a thousand times, but I'm not sure you will actually realise how much these candid talks do, it clicks so many switches in my head and makes me think i need to work harder, Thank You both.
Shawn, your podcasts are absolutely amazing. I watch a lot of podcasts and you and Mike Ritland are both at the top. Thank you for all your effort. I worked for a company that was started by a WW II glider pilot. He became an excellent mentor for me for 25 years. A couple things he taught me was “ hire good people around you, then let them do their job”. “ If someone does something different than you do it, it’s not wrong, it’s just different”
I used to think asking for help was weak. But, what your wife said about holding oneself accountable is spot on. Thanks guys, you rock 😊
Awesome! Thank you Justin! Cheers my friend!
@ Shawn, yall have a healthy relationship. I thoroughly enjoyed this one, it's spot on. Thankyou for sharing.
Can’t help but smile watching this. Especially going through these lessons myself. We have a 20 month old and man does it get tough. Thanks Shawn for the support knowing we all go through this.
It’s great to see you putting up examples for those who are in a relationship to know. That it takes work to keep a relationship strong and it’s ok to accept/ask for help. If not you end up with resentment towards one another.
Well done Katie & Shawn
Thank you. I really appreciate that.
Agreed, and excellent user name
Nice to see you speaking openly. Reflecting. The commitment is clear -- you both wear that well. #team
I seriously love you two and your son is freakin adorable. Seriously, bucket list and you are on it!
Once you can recognize that control is an illusion you can begin to trust others & finally get to a point of trusting yourself. Through constantly focusing on staying true to your inner soul, you can become able to quiet down the underlying need to control situations, people, & things by loosening your grip & breathing.
Within the Teams, it feels like there are 2 different opposing realities. One reality is knowing how challenging the circumstances & dynamics can be on it's families. The second reality is what society views the job to be of a Navy SEAL.
Choosing to make a change requires self-reflection, courage, sacrifice, hardwork, perserverence, & gratitude that leads to resiliency. I wish you well on this lifelong journey!
Reminds me of how my wife always feels guilty going to get her hair or nails done. It doesn’t bother me in the slightest. It’s a very cathartic release for women to be able to have their peace and quiet and do these things. Just like it’s a man’s outlet to go work on my car for a while, or do some woodworking or whatever your hobby is. But man, business and a wife all in one I can see it being rough not being able to mentally out work aside for a while. 💯 keep doing what you’re doing both of you. People are cool shit. ✌🏼
I'm an prior PJ. Back then 38th ARRS. You have been a breath of fresh air. I left my team in 84. Old school air Force was hard stupid. We were transitioning to josoc. Constant negativity. Bringing all these type A's together. Just broke up with my fiance. But it helps to know I wasn't alone. God bless you and your wife. Love your show.
Bubble bath, party time, control freak. Thank you both for opening up about addiction and needing help! You guy's are so beautiful together, I'm glad you found each other 💯 now that you did the treatment I can see that you are more happier , I have so many questions for you now 😊 Cheer's beautiful family 🙏❤️
GREAT JOB guys!!!! I was a single dad for over 16 years and I never asked for help or released control. Lord knows I did need the help and should have asked. Fast forward 20 years.... my health isn't great because I didn't put myself first. It's not selfish to do so because if you don't, you may not be around to take care of those that depend on you. Secondly, it will destroy any relationship you have or try to develope. You two keep working at it, you are headed down the right path CONGRATS!!
The one thing I learned in almost 60 years on this earth is "Be enough of a man to know you don't need to be that much of a man". It's ok to ask for help to be the best you. I have a very strong alpha personality and have made my share of mistakes because of that. I'm in the second phase of life and want to think I have learned from all my mistakes. I probably haven't but it's still a work in progress. I'm so glad you two are sitting down and working out the things that need to be worked out. Great video. I wish nothing but the best for you two.
As if your experiences in the martial world weren’t enough, now you present an entirely different side of a person(s) who won’t accept mediocrity let alone failure in their lives! I’m more impressed than ever. I only learned these things in the last 5 or so years, and it took decades of heart break and disappointment to makes myself ready to get those lessons. Keep up the great work and sharing with us so solidly.
You guys are awesome! As much as we enjoy watching, you guys need to do this every Sunday for yourselves and if we get to watch great, if not oh well. Good luck!
You both are charismatic soulful people and an evolving couple who are authentically appealing. Thank you for creating enjoyable content to watch just being yourselves. May God give you the knowledge to forever grow your passions for life! Best of luck with raising your child/family!
Kudos youse two...what a liberating topic and understanding first of all the need you recognize the need to say help. At 65 years of age myself...I have no choice but to ask for help. Never had the need cause that old stubborn SOB refused to ask no matter how much it pained me to go solo. All these years my lovely wife of 34 years was right all along...now I get it! Thanks you two, you're certainly a fun couple to watch!
Congratulations on 34 years to you and your special lady.
You two are a breath of fresh air! The brutal honesty of the both of you is inspiring!
Both of you young ones are strong and are in my heart. Keep it between the ditches. Love your show.
3 little ones under 5 over here, this is info we could have used years ago! keep it up guys
I’m sharing these with my sons mother/ex wife. It’s helping us be better co parents and understand our past relationship. Thank you and keep them coming.
"First step at solving a problem is recognizing that there is one." I love these videos. Not a lot of people out there are willing to discuss at length about their own shortcomings or experiences in learning... especially something brand new like being a parent. You both are willing to take a breath, recognize that help is needed and are willing to seek out whatever is necessary to get you back to neutral. Whether it be for your business, or Sonny, or more importantly, your relationship with each other .... you're finding ways to grow, get stronger, and make sure your home remains intact. I have three kids and let me assure you, it only gets better. It's all peaks and valleys ... Sonny will only make you two better. You guys are doing a great job, I have related to every story you have posted so far and I laugh out loud every. damn. time. Anyone who's a parent with 1, 3, or 5 have ALL been there. Trust it. It's not just you. God Bless you all.
Love it I also love the view of the creek I live in Miramar Florida and I built a waterfall and koi pond just for that escape factor in the day keep up the amazing work
Welcome to parenthood. You are both great, incredible people, which makes outstanding parents. Remember there is no "normal" life, there's just life. Respect and honor each others thoughts, ideas, and always be honest and support each other. I have made it 34 years with my better half, using these goals. GOD, family, country! You guys make a great team!🙏💕
Right on man showing the more human side of thing is always a fresh breath of air! Keep it up!
I appreciate that!
I love the maturity you two bring to the table. So raw and real. Please keep these kinds of convos going!
PS. you two should end each video with a hug. Lol
Yeah
👍 it's s awesome to 2 people happy!!
Just started watching the show recently!!
Good stuff man.
Love you guys. Your honesty is very real. It is the hardest thing to give a little control over the kids when they're so small and helpless in this world. Me and my wife never would allow anyone to watch our kids. Very protective of ours. I worked nights she worked days and passed in the wind. Weekends where ours. So business I felt like I had to do everything for it to turn out the way it should. After losing my mother a year ago and dad into Altzheimers I'm learning I have help. So good to see you guys are getting this done early. Sometimes the struggles are where we find the answers and they were always there. Live the great life. Enjoy. And thanks for what you guys are doing. It does make the difference
Great work! What stands out to me is you 2 seem to have a healthy respect for each other, to allow vulnerability to rise up within your relationship. Filming it shows your commitment and accountability for your marriage. You 2 are very mature, keep going. By the way I have enjoyed your past shows due to the military "slant" , this " slant" is so Cool 😎. Keep mixing it up. By the way Candy, my wife, and I live in Chattanooga and come up to y'all's area to a BNB in Liepers Fork. God Speed!
You are both very smart.. I've seen and been part of so many relationships that suffocate due to getting too busy being busy.. There is nothing wrong with being a "Go Getter". At the same time, you have to have balance. Truly, that is one of the hardest decisions in life. Money, work, Wife, Kido's, you name it... Just remember, you can never get time back once it's gone.. Spend time with your Family. In my opinion, that is the most important part of life.. Also, communication is key, honest communication.. You two are a real treat to watch.. Thank you..
My wife and I had these conversations for the last 15 years just like you guys. A open and brutally honest relationship will stand the test of time , but when you find your soul purpose at this time of your life , husband , father , provider you are good , and If all else fails wife the wifey don’t sweet the petty stuff pet the sweaty stuff
Life is a constant struggle. Finding that person to fight along side you is the best part about a relationship. You can just tell by the way you guys look at each other that you have that. If you place family, love, compassion and communication as your top priorities then you can navigate through any obstacles life throws at you.
Thank you. You two are doing this beautifully. I’ve been married for 16 yrs. this is what it takes! Solid work!
You guys are an awesome couple. Honestly within the relationship & admitting faults & that you need help, letting go of control was the best thing my wife and I did. Pretty sure it's the secret of a forever marriage.
Excellent content. My wife and I just talked for around 6 hours about I struggle knowing how to actually comfort her, because I never really learned how to comfort others. We, in turn, discovered that she doesn't know how to ask for comfort. These deep dives into our human tendency are the things that us free. They tend to rattle the pride and ego...but boy do they work wonders for relationships.
You guys are awesome so freaking awesome!!!
My husband and I adore you two and just started watching. Love to see your growth.
That's how you do it folks! Communication, teamwork, honesty.
Thank you so very much for your service firstly in god
I love to see you two being so open and honest. People need to see this stuff. It just shows how both of you say things how they are and don't sugar coat it. That's more than healthy.
I really enjoy watching/listening to you two. The authenticity is appealing, but it’s more than that. I appreciate you guys sharing some of your process. You’re clearly both very high functioning, accomplished adults but you’re not claiming expertise in all things. Very relatable, encouraging and enjoyable to sit in on these conversations. Thank you!
I won’t go into some grand stand comment. But I can’t describe how grateful I am for you, and your wife’s transparency. It’s a massive help and a great venue to reorient and understand that I’m on the right path to find a good companion. Thanks, Shawn.
You are so welcome
Hey guys. Proof that the dream don't work if the team don't work and it's not a spectators sports. Also good to get this kind of stuff straight early when you start a family. Keep your screen time in check, don't be vindictive and always start that day with Gratitude. You guys are so awesome. Thanks for being so open.
I’m so thankful! It took my husband and I 3 long years before we set “office hours”. Establishing that end of work time has literally saved our marriage. Sending light and love to you both from the United State of Florida!
Lots of wisdom spoken in this piece, as an old veteran, I will just say that control is a symptom of experiences we as vets had, control it takes its toll on those who care for you, it took 40 years for me to look for help, glad you found it quicker. As an older wiser buddy at the VA told me, the Goal is to put it in a box, and just peak inside and make sure it's still in there! great content, look forward to your work.
I love you guys. This is so refreshing in this world of "together forever that ends in two weeks"
Shawn , you are a most inspiring brother in arms. I’ve been following you since the beginning and your growth as a human being before our eyes has lifted me above my PTSD, TBI fog of existence. Your self effacing humble transparency is a beautiful trait in any human, much less a true hero with scoreboard off the charts. Keep it up. You have my support till I quit breathing. God bless my brother.
I ❤ these personal moments! We can all relate. Thank you!
I was feeling like Id be single forever...till i heard your story!
Now i realize that the best times of my life havent even happened yet!
I've been watching all these videos and am enjoying them . Sometimes it's good to be reminded that your not the only one in a relationship that's not perfect but as long as you're both trying it can be great.
Y’all are always honest and open, which is the opposite of most Instagram/RUclips channels which constantly show only the perception of positive. Thank you for that. Keep up the great work.
HolyCow man!! Dude I drank so much when I got back from Iraq for far to long and didn’t realize what my wonderful amazing wife/best friend was going through along with me! We had so many struggles but we worked through them and I’ve been sober since 28June2019!!! Love you guys and all your shows!!!
Slogans on coffee mugs: Great 💡 idea
I loved the show. I’m kinda a bit of a
Control freak. Not even once in a
While. Your right… that would cause
resentment. Teach us, we like 👍 it.
Luv you both,
Sandy
Love that!
I hope 🤞 you have a summer TEE SHIR This Spring. I’d like to order some of your
Things. I’ve been spending $ 100.0O or so on some of my subscribers. I’d really like a baseball type tee, cap, and slogan coffee mug. Lastly…not least 🐻your gummy bears 🙌👌🏼😎
Those types of conversations are highly important to keep the pillars of your relationship strong. And I'm glad that you two are sharing those realities with your followers/Patreons/Communities. It surely can assist others who are looking for answers. Bravo Zulu two both of you!
Love you guys just talking with each other. You have a "way" about the "life thing" I am proud to see you grow.
Keep talking it out! That's the key to solving issues. The 1st time I relinquished control of my first born son I noticed when it came time to pick him up he didn't miss me! He had so much fun playing with babies his age and wasn't ready to leave! He loved being a social butterfly and playing with different people.
Very much enjoy these videos with you and your wife. Brings back many memories and it’s encouraging to see you work out the issues I missed long ago. A nice balance to the VE interviews!
God bless always shawn to your family ' you know your WAIRUA is overwhelming from where I'm from in the world your a man of MANA 'your humility in every interview always shines through. I'm from NZ the words in capitals Is from the maori language who are the n ative the people of new Zealand . I'm from where Willie apiatas is from . God bless
I’ve been married to my wife 25 years this year. We got married when I was in Texas at USAF tech school, Shepard AFB. We have had highs and lows! My wife has been an amazing. I got hurt removed medically, faced the bs with the VA, depression, anger, rehabilitation from my injury. Then kids, debt, just a lot of things that come with all the struggles of being a disabled vet. Communication is key! You have to know your partner is 💯 committed to you. My family sucks, her family is not much better, but together if you communicate nothing is an issue that can’t be resolved. Love your channel, keep working because marriage is work. I will say if you read this, you have to learn to separate work from home, work has hours of operation, home is just that is not about work, it’s about family and yourself. My wife has an office, she works from home, that’s exactly what that space is, work, so make sure you separate that! You can’t bring work home, or can she it’s just not healthy. God bless
I don’t think I’ve ever commented on a RUclips video before but this one hit home. I love the Shawn Ryan Show and these more candid videos that you two put out. I myself am a control freak, it’s a miracle from God that my wife and I have lasted for 22 years because she’s had to put up with all of my narcissism and OCD. It didn’t help being a career Marine. Being a control freak made me good at my job but then it always came home with me. Luckily we made it to retirement. Thank you both and I love the mug idea.
Congratulations on retirement. That must’ve been a tough transition. Cheers 🇺🇸
@@ShawnRyanShow I feel like I’m still transitioning, it’s been one year this month. After over 24 years it’s a big adjustment. Fortunately do to COVID my wife and I both telework which has aloud us a lot of quality time to get reacquainted. I spent my last 7 years on AD as a geo-bachelor. It wasn’t as bad as it sounds, I was close enough to come home every couple of weekends as long as I wasn’t TAD or deployed. Thanks for the response, you guys are the best.
Thank you very much,
My wife (now ex-wife) of 21 years engaged in multiple affairs with convicted felons.
Additionally, she has an enormous gambling addiction with her net losses of over three million dollars.
She and others engaged in a number of criminal activities (most notably embezzlement of myself to over a million dollars) to fund her losses.
My life has been almost completely destroyed, however I am trying to be positive moving forward every day.
I appreciate you, and your, wife’s efforts.
God Bless the both of you !!! You both sacrificed so much in life, you both need a breath of fresh air from time to time.... hang in there your both deserve the best out of life !!!!
Thank you so much!
@@ShawnRyanShow no sir, Thank You and your wife !!!!
I’m so glad you guys did these. As a young couple it’s been really nice hearing something similar to us. Hope you can do more in the future
Nanny is a game changer, expensive as hell, but if you can afford it do it.
well done. Shawn you are an inspiration more than you know. Thank you.
its good to see this being addressed sooner rather than later, warms my heart. Good luck guys.
This channel is awesome! Some of the best guests and then you let us into your world to make us married with kids people feel normal haha! We all know that it’s hard to let go of control! Me and the wife finally let our daughter have a play date at her friends house! She’s 7 😂 I know to much about the world! But I know it’s good for her socially! I pray for you two to have a long and happy marriage! Thank you Shawn for letting us in and your service to this country! God bless!!
Our pleasure!
I love how you guys are able to talk like this. Kind of embarrassed to admit that my wife and i only have deep chats like this after both of us are..... over refreshed. Other wise one or both of us end up getting our nose out of joint and shutting the conversation down. It is something to work on. Keeping the peace isnt always a good way to get shit worked through.
I needed this today! Thank you
Susan & Tony here, We are 37 yrs into it and really every day we need to talk it out. But its been that way since day one. Don't expect anything from your spouse and they win never disappoint. Do more for others. God Bless
Getting REAL.... No couple is perfect, everyone has issues, but you both really love each other...and being open and transparent is amazing to see. Keep it up!
Beautiful! So good! Thank you for allowing us into these places! I cheer your marriage and fam on! 😀
You Built Your House Together....Relationship Bond is the Glue. Don't Ever Give up on eachother. Now more thanever We Need Eachother. Love Your Content. GBLSS
I love you guys, thank you for sharing with us and giving some positivity and good direction in reality. One of the only RUclips channels I feel a "family" aspect to. Hopefully we're all on the same train trying to do well and be strong simultaneously. The openness and vulnerable talks only accent the Alpha in you both
I'm glad you like this type of content Nate. We both feel that there should be more of this. Thank you for sharing.
Communication is huge in a marriage. Keep up the good fight Shawn. I’ll be praying 🙏🏻 for the both of you.
You two are blessed to have figured this out this early in your relationship. God bless ya’s. And remember, parents don’t make children, children make parents.
I really love the 2 of you together on these. I like all your show's but this was a really good idea. You guy are a great couple
Being able to talk and listen and most important be reasonable. Understanding someone else's feelings is key. I feel like when someone is reasonable things work out smoothly. Good job you 2
I’m single and learning a lot from this couple. Much respect!!
These videos are awesome.
You two have blended together in an incredible union ! Great life lessons from you both !
This is the core of Stoicism! The dichotomy of control is all about accepting what is and is not under your direct influence. Focus on what you can change and leave the rest. Such a vital lesson to finding more peace and balance.