What do I really want? | Nicole Greer | TEDxHickory
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- This program aims to release your genius like a light to illuminate the dark places where your brilliance is desperately needed. You will experience a fresh approach to Self-Assessment, take a hard look at your Habits, explore what it means to be in Integrity, articulate Next Right Steps, and take an Energy audit. You lead at work, at home and in the community. You need a structure to support your life as you support your organization’s future. Integrated with stories Nicole provides proven, time-tested, and smart actionable strategies.
If you have a dream to contribute your talents, gifts and life to your family, your organization and the greater community in a powerful way, you will be inspired to do more with the untapped potential that lies dormant within.
As the principal coach and CEO of Vibrant Coaching, Nicole Greer, PPCC helps individuals, corporations, government entities and small business become the people they were created to be through defining and fulfilling a mission, to work better in teams, and exemplify excellent leadership. Using transcendent leadership programs and coach training, Nicole provides her clients foundational tools, uncommon wisdom and an advantage in the marketplace. For the last 20 years, Nicole has worked as a coach, marketing director, master of first impressions, and sales trainer in the many facets of organizational development. Nicole is a wife, mother, speaker, trainer, facilitator, life and leadership coach.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
I want:
To overcome my depression
To enjoy existence
To know how to be with the girl I like
To develop good lifelong habits that help me feel better about myself
Go to Japan
Write a book
Inspire others with the things that have helped me traverse my depression
Get out of bed each morning
Great list. Keep at it, seems worth it. :)
God helps you to get these beautiful things
Wow, there's a lot of depressed people who came to this video. I thought I was the only one. I hope you manage to accomplish it : )
Steven Hall same here Steven the only thing I would add at least for myself is to be a strong man
Seems like you're the only way.
And you're gonna say ''I know''.
And i ask, do you really know YOUR way?
it's so weird because now that i think about it, my dream is so clear to me, i actually know exactly what i want, but i've been telling myself that it's a fantasy and not my goal. it's lack of trust in myself, lack of belief in my own abilities and strength that is holding me back. but this speech really motivated me to be honest with myself and at least try to achieve my fantasy, because what i truly want is the only thing i have a shot at being really successful in, as its the only thing that i will work hard for naturally.
I'm happy for you. 🌷
It's a dream, not a fantasy. Fantasy implies it can never be real but dreams can come true. I hope your dream became a reality. ⭐️
I want:
To be engaged with things I’m genuinely interested in
To experience adventure as much as possible
To live with people I genuinely care for
To not judge people and learn how to understand them
To live free
I want Liberation....final enlightment
I want:
- To be happy and healthy
- Have the time to cook nice healthy meals, do some sport and take care of myself
- A non stressfull job with a stable income
- A sunny cozy home not far away from places i need to go to
- A nice guy to love and marry
- A nice little family later
-To have a good loving relashionship with my husband and my kids
-To be happy you need to know what will make you happy.
- To have time means to manage your time better, look at places time is wasted.
- Know what job would make you happy and change to that.
- The home comes with the good job and the guy you get with that you mention later.
-There are many nice guys out there it just takes you to realise when you've found one.
Most people friend zone the nice guy.
-Family comes after finding the nice guy of course.
-Loving husband and children relationship come of course again, when you find and recognise the nice guy.
Put things in order, what do you want first and work on that.
Small steps, moving forward are better than doing nothing about it at all.
With each step, no matter how small, you get closer to your goal.
Did you achieve some of these goals?
👍🏾❤️
I want Liberation.....final enlightment
I want to earn enough to - give to my parents - what they’ve given me my entire upbringing.
I’m a musician and I studied animation, which I LOVED, but I lost myself to 6 years of doing stressful jobs that have nothing to do with my interests, still I managed to push myself through them, mainly because I so often heard the fraise, “you need a real job that you can fall back on in case things go south”.
Which is true, but now I want to study again which never is too late to do - but I feel like I’ve wasted (though experienced) 6 years of my life to hard work and now have lost that momentum of being passionate and skillful from doing what I loved!
This is probably a classic - but hard nut to crack
I hope you went back to school even if part time
There's still time. You can do it. 💪🏻
I want to love myself
I want to know what I want
Ask yourself. Think and feel about it. Answer it.
Alexis Cancino the three D's your Dreams - Desire - Destiny to figure out your dreams define Dreams, to figure out your destiny define Destiny, to figure out your Desire define Desire
ikr, she really didn't answer that question...
What's the plan?
I don't know.
Then the plan is to figure out a plan.
I want to know wanting what I want, too. I’ve ironically been judging myself so hard as a result! I never talked too much about my wants - felt confused because of that - then I realized that THAT (listening to what other’s ideas of what I want) is the reason I’m confused, I never imagined or realized that I was caring that much about what other people think. It’s hard but I’m really trying to take care of myself and my own will. I’ll be happy when the only person I have to impress is myself. I don’t know if this helped at all, but I hope that you some day soon will lose yourself in your dream “duty”!
I want peace and happiness.
Not an ipod, new car, or big house.
I just want a secure little life with a community of people.
What a testament to Nicole Greer, that even audio problems didn't stop me from listening to her passionate, informed wisdom. This practical guide on the process works far better for me than a lot of the airy adages of typical LOA. Thanks for the insights on how to ground oneself in order to manifest dreams.
Truthfully, I want to be known, and loved. I want to change some lonely teenagers life like some musicians, films, RUclipsrs, etc have done for me.
I have no idea how to do it, but I just want someone to see something I did and have it resonate with them
profound
Yes!! Don't forget about the kids!!
~I want:
~ to see my family all get along
~to live in a warm climate
~to write my book
~to live in France 2 months a year
~to get organized
~to lose my depression
paris rain good luck but be ready to not to get to disapoinyed if all your family wont get along. It might help your dipression
omg and you deserve all of it
you got this (:
I'm channeling my abstract energy through this comment so it gets to you when you read it, no matter where you are. I sincerely wish you good luck with your depression. I have the same struggle
I want to be happy, healthy, and balanced. I want my family to be in harmony, and I want to get rid of my shyness and make things happen for myself and my family!!
My life is perfect, I feel deep gratitude, peace and contentment. 🎉
Oke, well since i see more people doing this, let me give it a shot then.
Hi, My name is V, I'm 20 years of age as im wrting this and I want to:
1. Overcome my fear of loosing control overmyself
2. Build my own brand/community where people can identify themselves with
3. Overcomming the fears I have of going on adventure and just traveling in general (I still have so many places I want to see)
4. Keep my values and keep on doing the things I enjoy most
5. Find the love of my life
6. Truly live a fufilled and happy life, and make it an absolute masterpiece
out of all the speech she impressed me telling her name at the end of the stage
much respect for you madam
- i want to make my parents proud
- i want prestige
- i want to be healthy energetically and happy
- i want to be spiritually statisfied
- i want crazy adventures with my friends, who are like my family
- i want to be great at fighting and martial arts
Did you achieve some of these goals?
I just want to know what I want, so I can then achieve that which I want!
Ultimately tho, I want to reach a place where I want nothing at all.
Because then I'll know that I already achieved and have everything.
Healthy
Happy
Rich
Freedom.
I want:
1. Travel to many countries(USA, UK, Norway, Australia...)
2. Have a good family, try to let others' family become better and better
3.Have my own business
4. To be an elegant woman
I call this Faith. The "willingness" to believe what you cannot currently perceive.
I want to:
Get clean
Find myself
Find god
Thank you, it seems such a simple question to ask one self, but if you really, really, really ask yourself, you get to the core of it. Big, big thank you, you cracked a big nut with this today.
1Wildhorserunning then
I want:
-To learn a 3rd language
- To study film and be a filmmaker
- To live in Europe
- To have a little family
- To have a youtube channel
Well that's it ☺ (That's a lot I know)
Andi Val i want the exact same
Stacey Malaniff no way! That's great
Andi Val ...sweet!!
gail w 😋😋
Andi Val you should like a very interesting person! Good luck!
I want to know what career is for me. I have no idea.
Did you figure it out? What career path did you choose?
Same fucccc :'(
Nursing?
Same here
@Adrian R that's good
Thank you so much Ted-ex for publishing such a wonderful video for us
Thank you Nicole Geer for your brilliant speech
What do I really want?
-To be 8 year old me's biggest hero.
Reis DeSantis that’s amazing
If you were anything like me at 8 years old, this would be an unrealistic goal.
I want Liberation.... final enlightment
Stop reading the comments and listen. Read later😂
Very good guess.
🤣🤣🤣You got me there!
waste of time
You got it well 😀😂. R u into psychology???😛
Lol
WOW!!!! I can't tell you how many videos I've watched on the same theme - countless. This is the one that really made the most sense to me though. In fact, I just made some real progress. Thank you so much, Ms. Greer!
This was so good! Thank you so much, Nicole Greer for your honesty and motivational TED talk. Loved it!
Make me a sandwich now
I want to be happy
To help others with my effort
To be the best version of my life
To stay faithful to God
To stop bad habit and start doing
To be a billionaire
To make my parents proud
To be a motivator and impact to others
To build my 6-7 business figure
i wrote everything down and i will start putting everything in it's place , i already know what i want but i'm growing to know more and this talk helped a lot , thank you Nicole
This Ted Talk came on just by chance on autoplay and I am glad it did. Excellent!
Even with some audio issues, this was an excellent talk
I think sometimes we want so many things in life and we can't group them or shortlist, we end up saying " I don't know what I want."
Instead of choosing by introspection, we think we want everything or "everything that everyone else in the world has."
that's the smallest part of integrity, integrity it when you keep to your principles when its HARD
Jay Time Thanks for the comment Jay...yes, keeping our integrity in check takes "willingness." I just delivered a talk on Willingness at the KEY5 Conference yesterday. I'll post it here in a week or so...it gives you two strategies that become a system, that give you the "Smarts" you need to keep your integrity in check. Hope you have a VIBRANT day!
I want:
To study hard
To sing
To become successful
To buy my family a house
To build a platform
To be on tv
To spread a awareness for mental health and depression
To talk about how serious mental health and depression leads to suicide
Chase ur dreams dreams don't chase u
When I think that I want something and I work for it, change things for it, make sacifrices for it, and that thing finally comes to my life, I just realize that it is not how I imagine, that I don't feel happy in this new place, and that the lastone thing it wasn't so bad... Now I'm just afraid, I don't know what I really want any more, after trying many things without feeling good about it, I feel I just don't know myself.
Maria del Pilar Serrano Pineda Thats a very wise realisation, thank you for sharing 🙏🏻 I’m not a guru, but I’ve heard from many spiritual people (and it feels true for me) that when you go deeper and ask what feelings, emotions or inner experience you think you will get from the thing(s) you want/wanted - that this is actually what you want.
E.g. If someone said they wanted a great car. Go deeper - and what would that give you that you don’t have now? Ans: people would admire me. And what would that give you? I would feel good about myself.
So, you don’t necessarily want the car or admiration, you just want to feel good about yourself. So that becomes the goal, it’s what you truly want. Then you might wake up in the morning and say - my goal is to feel good about myself. What can I eat to achieve this goal? What might I say to myself to achieve this goal of feeling good about myself? Where might I go? What could I do? Whom might I spend time with? What might I say to them (perhaps with the intention of helping them to also feel good about themselves)?
And so, your feeling becomes the goal and in little ways each day you can consider how best to achieve this more purposeful goal 🙏🏻
Hope that helps, warmest, Lisa
I came here to find out what do i really want? and she asked me 'what do you really want?' at the end .. waow
Most Ted talks in a nutshell
Good, write down her questions and go through the process - it is simple and very effective.
11:48 !!!
"You're going to have to put habits around the dream so it becomes desire and ends up becoming destiny."
You wake up one day and notice a hummingbird welcoming you into a brand new world......💎.
I think most people are generally happy without worrying about her question.
You are Who you are but the brighter you are people will deny you. Will use you as a light but only to see what they want to see. Because they don't want to share the bad they do to others.
Tracy Estabrooks, you are projecting onto others with this statement so you get what you say.
Mother relieved "truth" thats all we have at birth. Just a little change in furnace. Your' retrospective was spot on; however small portion, it was the core of the speech
Welcome dreamers and future doers.
I want to stop feeling anxious and live in the moment.
I want to fall in love again.
I want to quit my healthcare job.
I want to work for myself.
I want to travel out of the U.S
I want to see myself happy and thrive and be funny again.
I want be just a little trimmer.
I want to be so happy I don’t even think about tomorrow and enjoy the present!
Yo update!!!
Stopped feeling anxious!
Fell in love with myself again!
I actually quit my nursing job last week and launched my own photography business!!!!
I’m exercising and sleeping more!
I’m doing A LOT better than I was 2 months ago! This was awesome to see! For anyone here, keep going!!!!!!
love this talk. thank you!
I think the trust/belief part mentioned in the middle of the talk is inspiring. I guess i am in the middle of the road pursuing my dream and I have been hesitant recently because of the trust issue.
I am not sure 1.if I will do great and get a good job once I go for this career (statistician)
2. if the market for the statistician will be good for master degree with relevant coding skill only(not up to programmer's level), not Ph.d. bc i am not gonna pursue ph.d, but only masters and I am not gonna go for being that so great at programming in R or python, but stay at ok level. )
Oh wow this is so interesting because i'm currently doing an undergrad in data analytics/data science and very good at Python and R, but even I'M nervous and doubting myself... just goes to show we all relate to this feeling in one way or another! Also statistics is pretty high in demand - it just envelopes more of the core-mathematical concepts compared to the data wrangling+machine learning concepts that make up data science. We learnt a lot of stats in my degree as well! It's been 4 years so I hope you're doing well wherever you are right now!
5:35 strong message thanks Nicole
Thank you,Nicole,you inspired me so much
I want:
-to make my parents proud
-get into medical school
-travel the world and taste best food all over the world
-build my dream house😊😊
jj isha make yourself proud instead
Finding your self is not hard, getting others to believe that you are different because you know yourself is hard.
Tracy Estabrooks, if you say it is hard, it will be hard. Who cares what anyone else thinks, what you think about yourself is the most important thing. Just saying...
People will often react to you based on how you expect them to react. What you communicate to them will be in line with your expectations of them for yourself.
If you are against other people because you think they are against you then it is likely they will act as such.
Very beautiful speech and very inspirational.
1.I want to a world renowned singer and actress who inspires people with my artistry.
2.I want to travel around the world speaking and motivating women to be their best version of themselves
3. When I'm older I want to use may drawing skills to create incredible art with portrays of influential peopl
sometimes, what you really want is not what's meant for you.
I want.....
The truth
To be acknowledged
Build a better place for information
A United way of beliefs and understanding
That the vanity that is sold to us is not living.
To be who I know I am
yur pick looks pretty
Had me in tears as it was hitting so accurate!!
Today I was asked what i want and I didn't know...i didn't know WHAT I wanted I've personally always focused in other people's needs before mine that I no longer realized what I wanted it's like I dugged it deep down
I want:
- First of all, get the job of my dreams : Flight Attendant.
-Travel a lot
-Improve my English
-Help People around the world
- Share my life with someone that loves me, be kind w me, and travels with me.
Así se´ra, así es!
Really good stuff about how to tack down what you REALLY want to do, be
I cried thanks I know what to do now
Hope you did it! ~
Simple solution.. I really like it..
Hope someone will reply. Which is which? To do what you WANT to do, or To do what you NEED to do?
THANKS a lot. You gifted me an essential answer through your vital question.
I LOVE THIS! I'm sending it to 27 friends of mine. Thanks girl we need this!
Can someone help? I'm stuck between two choices. I'm in my senior year of hs and I am scared I know what I want in simple terms. I know I want to be happy, i want to matter, to do something fun with my life, adventure, action and at the same time I want it balanced, I want enough time to do things like relax and meditate and just chill. But I dont know how to get there. I haven't found that perfect job. I'm creative but I dont want to get a creative job because it's too boring. And i thought about being a police officer, but i might not get a lot of free time. So i dont know what i want because i haven't foundit, how do I find it? What can I do? I'm just lost right now.. what's my dream?
Going any better?
Rewatching to Refill my Cup!
This is powerful, watch it!
Definitely worth your 18 minutes.
It's got nothing to do with shame and guilt. I just have no idea what I want and I'm fed up of trying to work it out
I want to know what love is
Oh my god, violet evergarden
Every time she speaks I can't help imagine her as a Maria Bamford character
Hahahahaha
Amazing WOMAN! THANK YOU 💓💞🥰🙏⚖️🌍🌸🌹🌻 The Last Sentence is The Essence: My Name Is....Thank You For Listening/Seeing/Feeling/Working/Befriending/Loving/Assisting/Guiding !..
Thats The Deepest DESIRE of EveryOne/Everything! To Be Acknowledged, Understood & Appreciated ...Seen & Valued Deeply! ⚖️🌍🌸🌹🌻💓💞🥰🙏
Inspiring. Thank you Nicole Greer.
I have a transcription of this video in Potuguese, for the case you want this! Great lecture!
Well, I came here for answers. Still don't know what I want. Great talk, though
I want to do valuable contribution to my field and discover solutions to the existing problems. Moreover, I want peace and love in my life to enjoy every moment with tranquility with quality life.
Hi Nicole! I saw this today after your class today on Integrity in Mooresville. This tedtalk seems to tie in well with what you talked about today on core values. A positive message that I need to hear. thank you.
+Warren Nelson Thanks Warren! Grateful you took the time to watch and post here. So do you know what you really want? Let me know if I can help you. Have a great day!
Some phenomenal advice right there
I wanna be this lady!
I want to find true love
I want to visit Tuscany
I want to be a better photographer
I want to do oil painting all day
I want my children to be happy
I want to spread love and kindness to all
I want I forgive my enemies
😊🌹💜
- Burning tree is my favorite!
True love....?????
Lana Schott You have enemies? What kind of super villain are you?
Did you achieve some of these goals?
Oil painting => hobby but hobby is not employment.
For example, I love electronic dance music, I have serious knowledge about music genres, musicians.. It's not going to help paying bills, sad reality.
One of the best videos I've seen on here, Tedx or not.
Thank you Nicole!
I just want:
1. To be so rich, I can buy anything without looking price tag
2. To have a serene and lovely huge house to live happily with my family
3. To be a specialist in anaesthesia
4. To get married to a nice, kind-hearted rich guy and have 3 kids
5. To travel the world
I need a genie 🧞♀️
You don't need a genie, you need to become an anaesthesiologist, marry another medical doctor, and find a trustworthy financial manager to put your spare cash in investments.
i want to enjoy what i’m doing and not pressure myself to do certain things just because it’s good for me or if i don’t do that it makes me something or better. i just want to enjoy life without pressuring myself.
I found this talk very helpful! (expect the few tone-problems)
I want to WIN the powerball/ mega ball!!!!
bad dream/wish , it`s a game of chance, it`s not a thing where by more effort you get better or get better chances to win it... all the best to you friend
powerful.
I went after what I wanted.
I want:
-to have a nice house my the beach and a family
-to paint
-to be a journalist and a show host
-to be an author
Start today!!!
Thank you
I think it's so use video for me because I didn't know what I REALLY want.. Thanks! You help me to realize my right choice! This ought to be better. I love it :)
Amazing - thank you.
I want my parents to be proud of me. I want to earn alot so that I'm able to repay them whatever they have spent on me over the years. I want a not so stressful stable job with a steady income. I want to get driving licence and buy a car. I want to build a big house and live with my parents there.
pure gold info!!
Why I have to know what I want?
What if what I want is not good to me?
The most people dont want money, happiness or health ... they want glory ....
"It is this beautiful, deep want that you have to trust."
What I really want
I DON'T EFFN KNOW
Great message.
That talk was completely unhelpful if you actually have no idea what you want from life which is where I'm at.
Have you figured out yet?
@@robo-roger7815 nope