"I already know this man is going to be my husband." First of all... ain't nothing in life a sure thing. Take it one step at a time, you can't rush what is meant to be.
Sometimes it’s not about checking their phone it’s about randomly going on ur husbands phone when ur bored and if they’re defensive about that then... that’s a bit weird
I’ve been married over 2 decades, we have 3 children. I’ve NEVER looked through his phone. He’s never looked in mine. We know each other’s passcodes. I don’t understand why people are with someone that they feel they need to check on like that. If you don’t trust that person, you’re with the wrong person.
Tieia Middleton excatly!!! I never looked though my husband's phone and he's never looked though mines. We don't have locks on our phones and my husband has all my passwords to anything that requires a password. It's Been like that from day one
I was like that never ever touched my partner's phone.. untill i knew he did something then asked him to see his phone he wouldn't but god always bring the truth to me. And that's it. I lost trust. If you are too good guys take advantage of that.
I had been with my husband for ten years and never felt the need to look through his phone. One day he dropped his phone unlocked on his way to work. For some reason I just got a hunch to look at it. The first message I saw was from a woman telling him how good he had given it to her the Saturday before. He had been cheating on me throughout my second pregnancy. My son was one month old at the time. I had no reason to suspect him of cheating. Now I look sideways at anyone who is too protective of his phone. I am not saying to check everyone’s phone but be suspicious if access is vehemently denied.
I’ve been married for 18 years in July and never once have I asked or just went though his phone. He leaves his phone out and I leave mine out. It’s a thing called trust and if you don’t have trust then you don’t have a relationship.
The reason why u have trust is because u both earned it. I ll advice anyone to check their partners phone if u have a reason to. It’s called transparency
Lmao love Steve's response. I'm finally in a relationship where we just trusted eachother straight from the beginning. We knew phone codes in the first month and go onto each others phones when choosing music. Neither worried. Trust.
you should never go thorough anyone's personal property.. unless instructed to do so, or if you both are in agreement with it.. i never understood this..
MannnNNN I swear, I love you two ladies. I'm a man, who appreciates space from time to time, and receiving respect to myself as well as my possessions.... so that is music to my ears. I've always been of the mindset, if I trust you, I trust you. I'm not gonna go searcgin to find reasons to Not trust you. So w/ a gf, I expect the same. Thank you, ladies. Lol
i dont think you should go through each others phones regardless of how long you've been together that just makes you seem shallow and untrusting. what do you need to go through your partners phone for? no good reason. unless you have like 5+ others evidences pointing to them cheating or something than sure. and of course if its just laying around and you see a text and read it thats a whatever too who cares, but full access all the time. ok idc how long you married you cant be in each other that much like everyone needs some privacy and space
What is the big deal with access to a darn phone? These folk need to grow up. My wife wants my phone here it is. How about don't do nothing you need to hide in the first place.
Why would she ask to see your phone. It implies that there is a trust issue on her part. I mean, that's "your" phone, not hers. This is another example of the emasculation of the modern man. Her: "can I see your phone" me: "hell no"!
I don't view my husband going through my phone as a bad thing I have all of our information in it. (Receipts,dates,Bill confirmations,saved projects, grocery lists,photos...etc) His has all the fun stuff I don't want cluttering up my phone. We have been married for 10 years this year and this never came up. It is just a tech device in our house.
I can't tell you the number of times in over 20 years my husband and I have had to borrow each other's phone no problem. If your spouse or partner is defensive or protective then, "the selection process isn't complete".. It's not always about not trusting your partner unless they give you reason.
Man that woman sitting right next the woman that asked the question who is wearing the glasses and peach/pink blouse is Breathtaking. Good Lord she has my attention.
my country (one of the south East Asian country), people are transparent from the beginning of the relationship. These tv shows are giving wrong advices to viewers. For example, Steve said, “if his phone rings, ur phone rings. That means he’s doing shady stuff, u do the same thing too. Wtf. Where are the moral?
I accessed my ex phone a little over 3 years, we were already living together, only because I always had that gut feeling all those years. before meeting my current bf, I was single therefore I was doing single things. sometimes I get msgs from guys I haven't talked to since I met my bf.... so yea same thing steve said about the guy also goes for the girl.... let some time go by, definitely after a year, every person you have talked when you were single, should already be informed and shouldn't be still hitting you up. BLOCK that number! as a girl, guys are so persistent that everytime a number pops up, ill inform them and then block them. because half of you men just don't get it! I learned it when I once told a guy im in a relationship, he said he understood..... weeks later, he texted me again!!!! NOPE BLOCK!
My Ex took our pictures with his phone..so I always took his phone to look At the pictures because he let me,but as I was scrolling..I saw a picture of another woman in a bikini and she wasn’t me..then saw WhatsApp messages along with more pictures..so we broke up!
Right on Girl 😃😃 I think if you have nothing to hide it should be open for each partner..transparency helps build trust 😃😃 Hope your doing Way better 💕💕💕
Somehow just knew women would be here backing that. I just don't understand the need to check a partner's phone by women. Then y'all see something y'all don't like or y'all think shouldn't be there and bam, trouble
I'm not going through my partner's phone. I don't need to. If at any time I felt I needed to, then it's obviously time for me to move on, thus, there's still no need. Trust is a beautiful thing.
@@theguide4715 Yes. That is how trust works. We're open and honest, and have no need to prove it by invading each other's privacy. He did offer, when we first got together, his ex had been distrusting, I told him that's her problem, not mine. If you feel that need, you have a problem, what that problem is, I can't say, could be your partner's cheating, or it could be you've been burned before. Either way, it needs resolved. If he were cheating, it'd show in his actions and behaviors. I don't need access to his phone to read him.
I've been happily married for 14 years, and have never since we met each other 16 years ago felt the need to have access to his phone.. My advice - start dating someone you trust.
I had been with my husband for ten years and never felt the need to look through his phone. One day he dropped his phone unlocked on his way to work. For some reason I just got a hunch to look at it. The first message I saw was from a woman telling him how good he had given it to her the Saturday before. He had been cheating on me throughout my second pregnancy. My son was one month old at the time. I had no reason to suspect him of cheating. Now I look sideways at anyone who is too protective of his phone. I am not saying to check everyone’s phone but be suspicious if access is vehemently denied.
"how do i get access to his phone without seeming like I don't trust him" but you DON'T trust him. Getting his phone won't make you trust him. It will just give your unreasonable insecurities a reason to calm down for a night. Next morning will be the same issue! He isn't the problem. She is. If he doesn't feel trusted in the relationship, YOU aren't going to be his wife like you say you will be.
I should be able to use your phone. Meaning if mine is dead let me call or let me google something real quick. When it gets to the point where I can’t even use it then now you’re giving me a reason to want to check. If you’re giving me a reason to check, we shouldn’t be together.
I don't think she's asking about making a call or Googling something - she wants to check out his history and see if he's messing with someone else. And if she doesn't trust him now without seeing the phone, they haven't got a hope in hell of making a marriage work.
Sarah Pelletier Exactly! The simple fact that she feels the need to check the phone is already proof that she doesn't trust him. And we guys aren't that stupid as to not pick up on that lack of trust... If you don't trust the guy then you're reducing the chances of him giving you what you want because it pisses him off, which will make you trust him even less and it's a vicious cycle. If your phone died and you need to make a call or google something it's fine, but asking to see the phone is just a total lack of trust. I don't always agree with Steve, but it's just like he said: don't ask to look at the phone if you haven't earned it. I don't understand... Guys almost never ask women for their phone and trust their partner, even though women cheat just as much or more than guys.
It isn't right to go through someone's phone since it isn't someone else's right to intrude someone else's privacy. If you feel the need to check someone else's phone then you were already self conscious to begin with. After all, everyone has something to hide hence why we have secrets, emails, privacy, wear clothes, and etc. Like Steve said "give him a chance." Give someone a chance until you suspect they may not be faithful or if you see red flags.
AHAHAHAh the accuracy to this man is mind blowing. it's like he knows me so well. Oh, two can definitely play that game. i will not be seconds hunnnaayyy lol The pretty girl has the cutest laugh
like Mr. Harvey says, marriage is perfect time for her to request for that type of level of commitment. And, I absolutely agree. In marriage, there is not much "privacy." I absolutely agree with Steve from start to finish. But, in the beginning of a relationship, the phone thing isn't necessary much because there isn't much commitment. Good job Steve Harvey!!! Right on the dot.
I don’t see a problem with looking through your partners phone. What’s wrong with that? You can trust someone and have the password. If they are unwilling to give up their password then that’s when it becomes an issue. You should be able to grab their phone when they are getting a call and answer for them if they can’t make it to the phone. You can trust someone and have their password. Once you become close with someone, there should be nothing to hide.
That one Girl The other side of the coin is, there is no need for you to be in someone else's phone. IF you trust them, then let that phone call go to voice mail. What exactly would you ever need to look for that can't wait?
I agree with that one Girl... I have no problem my woman answering my call. Private your phone? What private. Private my ass. U mean it's okay for someone to have access to your body but not your phone? Madness of this century
My gf can look through my phone and i can look through hers. We have each others passwords. Sometimes she answers the texts for me, when i’m driving. I see no problem with that.
You may not see a problem, but if your partner does you should respect it. Ive been with my lady over 8 years and I dont allow her to go through my phone. Nothing wrong with boundaries. Ive never cheated on her. She doesnt give me reasons to look through her phone. If she gave me reasons, i would ask her directly. Only 2 choices after that, solve the problem or end the relationship.
Hubby and I have the same passcode on our phones...we use each other’s phone all the time to make calls, do research online, as GPS in the car...I see his messages, he sees mine...he sees strange guys messaging me on FB...I see strange girls messaging him on FB...we shrug it off and move on!
I never checked my fiancé phone or laptop for 12 years when we were a couple .... once I checked I found out ... he was cheating on me 12 years .... ouch....😟
Trust is an important part of being together if you are wanting to check your partners phone out then you have trust issues I've been married 30 plus years I don't look at her phone an she don't look at mine that's trust ! Relationships won't survive without trust !
Im more concerned about my girl looking through my search history. 🤣 I just don't feel like having to explain everything I look up. And some things MUST be explained to avoid misunderstandings.
AK33M that I understand.. I wouldn’t look through ur search history... but sometimes I’m bored and want to go on their Snapchat or something and if ur getting defensive about it that comes off as suspicious
I would have said the day you can access his phone will be the day he can access your phone. I'm sure in her mind she would have said then that's never going to happen.
yer? Sadly its not so easy these days. we used to find a woman and stick with them. It took my father 6 weeks apparently to realise my mum was for him. Guess what my wifes father met her mum at a bus stop and that was it married 2 months later this all in the 50s. Now women are so independent you can not trust any of that. you have to take your time just to check they are not going to destroy the relationship, lie about loving your dog or family or try and change you.
I disagree with Steve on this one. You should be able to go through his phone with his code before you accept his proposal! And vice versa. Why get engaged if you don’t trust him on that level?
I've been dating my man for a year and I will never do that. I tell him when he gets a text or call and when he plays on his phone I'll watch him play his game over his shoulder. He does the same for me and sometimes if I'm busy and can't answer my phone I'll ask him to do it for me. That's it. I won't Snoop or do anything he doesn't want me to do.
Give him a couple of years to "weed everything out"... what does that even mean? Sorry, dont agree Steve. If you're already in a relationship, why does he need a couple of years to "weed everything out"?
He means that maybe In the last year/years you dated someone and it didn't work out. You haven't talked to them since, then all of a sudden they message you out of the blue and they are trying to rekindle something. That could look real bad on the person getting the text. But I believe if you're immediately going worst case mentality, and assuming.they are cheating... you don't trust them and you need to re-evaluate your relationship
When I got married i told my wife VERY clearly " don't ever check my phone cuz i won't ever check urs" needless to say we don't have any drama or fights cuz of the cellphone
If you have to hide your phone, you should stop being a dishonest cheater. If you take your phone into the shower and put it under your pillow at night, you know you are doing wrong.
Sorry but highly disagree. Worst advice ever. Ladies keep your standards and morals no need to wait for a ring to find out he’s loyal! I’ve had guys lie to my face but that phone never lies! Now if u wanna settle for being cheated on bc u think u don’t deserve better then go ahead and give him the benefit of the doubt and don’t search through his phone! Hopefully if u go through his phone his words match what’s in it! Then u have a real keeper!!
the moment both partner know they wanna spend the rest of the life with each other is the moment they can check phone. its about that moment they talk about marriage , kids house , how much they need save money each month how long it take to save to house and more
I knew a girl like this but I knew some things on her partner I just shook my head 😂😂 like girl u better check that phone. But I didn’t say it out loud🤦🏾♀️
Classic case of CHEATING 101:(Phone Edition) 2 reasons. 1. If he is on his phone ALL DAY LONG... holding his phone near and dear to his chest.. if his phone is his life... he is CHEATING! or he could just be like one of your girlfriends because men period don't always be on their phones unless, it's gaming, business a.k.a work, making swift phone calls, researching, etc.. just something minor because he's a MAN simply put... men don't socialize as much as a woman does because they are naturally born listeners... not saying that a man doesn't chitchat every once in awhile... they're just inbred listeners...that's just the way they were created... and on the opposite women are created to talk... hints why we are complements to our future husbands... it's just the way God intended us to be... can't help that... that's why I believe social media and phones were definitely designed for us women... because we love to talk... that's just in our nature... so, you might not have yourself a man.. you might just be dating one of your girlfriends in that case all the more reason to be suspicious and break-up...(no offense) #ijs #imjustthemessenger plus the RIGHT GOOD man for you will be more in tuned and engaged and quite frankly more enthused with his wife and family... 2. Simple. If his phone is blowing up ALL DAY LONG! he's cheating! But, in her case... she should just move on... he ain't it sweetie... if you don't trust him now... you're not gonna trust him after marriage just saying... like I read through someone's comment who mentioned that while dating you shouldn't have ACCESS to absolutely NOTHING... not even each other's body (the body thing is just my belief and faith... if you have a different approach by all means that's your decision to make) nonetheless you should be focusing on enjoying each other's company and the fact that you're not... ESPECIALLY while dating?! he is NOT the one for you... MOVE ON! #ijs #justmytwocents
I was parked next to a guy who was having a conversation with his woman and she had put a tracker on his phone so she could keep tabs on him. He was pissed and in disbelief, wondering why the hell she would do something like that when he's never given her any kind of reason. (His words) and her reasoning I would imagine was quite simple: she's either paranoid about him cheating or she's a cheater herself.
I don't get why some people feel the need to look into their partners cell! I mean we are still individuals that should be allowed some form of privacy......Look, if you feel that you gotta be on top of your partner all the time, that means that you don't Trust'em! So if you don't have Trust there is no need to continue in the relationship. You ain't got Trust, you ain't got Nothing!
My husband died in 2019. We were married for 33 years. I have NEVER gone through my husband's phone. He cheated on me within the first three years of marriage. I still never checked his phone, pockets, car, etc. After doing work on our marriage, I eventually chose to forgive him. My attitude about checking his phone and following him was this: If I felt the need to do it, the trust was gone, and I no longer wanted to be married. I have always felt I don't have to go looking for anything. What's done in the dark WILL come to light. That means what I need to know will come to me, and if or when it does, it's OVER. Some of these silly women and girls are checking his phone, checking him, and following him knowing that once it becomes clear he's cheating, they're going to stay with him. What is the point? Yelling, cursing, putting him out, and destroying his property will NOT make him stay faithful to you. He just gets more strategic.
How Steve walked off when he said "Excuse me I must step away." 😂😂😂😂
"I already know this man is going to be my husband." First of all... ain't nothing in life a sure thing. Take it one step at a time, you can't rush what is meant to be.
Carmara Burns I cringed soooo hard when I heard that
She should focus on her career and having as much fun as possible. She must not trust him? This question is a red flag.
Keep in mind she looked only 22ish
death is a sure thing
Does he know that you're going to be his wife thou??? Don't go through the phone...
She knows he’s gonna be her husband but she doesn’t trust him enough to not check his phone?
metalheadlass RIGHT! People can't think past their nose.
metalheadlass right
Right! Ladies can we stop the bs please?
Ikr. Seems she threw that one in there. If he hasn’t proposed - how does she know?
Sometimes it’s not about checking their phone it’s about randomly going on ur husbands phone when ur bored and if they’re defensive about that then... that’s a bit weird
I’ve been married over 2 decades, we have 3 children. I’ve NEVER looked through his phone. He’s never looked in mine. We know each other’s passcodes. I don’t understand why people are with someone that they feel they need to check on like that. If you don’t trust that person, you’re with the wrong person.
Tieia Middleton -That’s why you’ve been married so long. You’re 100% correct in everything you said.
Tieia Middleton perfect answer ma’am. God bless you
Tieia Middleton excatly!!! I never looked though my husband's phone and he's never looked though mines. We don't have locks on our phones and my husband has all my passwords to anything that requires a password. It's Been like that from day one
I was like that never ever touched my partner's phone.. untill i knew he did something then asked him to see his phone he wouldn't but god always bring the truth to me. And that's it. I lost trust. If you are too good guys take advantage of that.
I had been with my husband for ten years and never felt the need to look through his phone. One day he dropped his phone unlocked on his way to work. For some reason I just got a hunch to look at it. The first message I saw was from a woman telling him how good he had given it to her the Saturday before. He had been cheating on me throughout my second pregnancy. My son was one month old at the time. I had no reason to suspect him of cheating. Now I look sideways at anyone who is too protective of his phone. I am not saying to check everyone’s phone but be suspicious if access is vehemently denied.
I’ve been married for 18 years in July and never once have I asked or just went though his phone. He leaves his phone out and I leave mine out. It’s a thing called trust and if you don’t have trust then you don’t have a relationship.
If u have been married for 18 years, then you most likely didn’t deal with the trust issues that this generation is growing up with.
The reason why u have trust is because u both earned it. I ll advice anyone to check their partners phone if u have a reason to. It’s called transparency
@@jebfinds A phone is personal property. I advice people to not be with someone you don't trust.
Lmao love Steve's response. I'm finally in a relationship where we just trusted eachother straight from the beginning. We knew phone codes in the first month and go onto each others phones when choosing music. Neither worried. Trust.
you should never go thorough anyone's personal property.. unless instructed to do so, or if you both are in agreement with it.. i never understood this..
I would never go through my boyfriend's phone. And I wouldn't want him to go through mine's either. It's just showing respect.
I agree, I had to let my girlfriends know "ladies stop doing that" its just unnecessary
MannnNNN I swear, I love you two ladies. I'm a man, who appreciates space from time to time, and receiving respect to myself as well as my possessions.... so that is music to my ears.
I've always been of the mindset, if I trust you, I trust you. I'm not gonna go searcgin to find reasons to Not trust you. So w/ a gf, I expect the same.
Thank you, ladies. Lol
Dooke DiConti problem lol its the little things!
Exactly
i dont think you should go through each others phones regardless of how long you've been together that just makes you seem shallow and untrusting. what do you need to go through your partners phone for? no good reason. unless you have like 5+ others evidences pointing to them cheating or something than sure. and of course if its just laying around and you see a text and read it thats a whatever too who cares, but full access all the time. ok idc how long you married you cant be in each other that much like everyone needs some privacy and space
SaltySaganJr agreed
FACTS
SaltySaganJr
Yes I 100% agree if partner don't need to know everything
SaltySaganJr clearly u r single or not yet in love
On the contrary, if you trust each other 100% then there's nothing to hide and all his stuff are your stuff and vice versa!
What is the big deal with access to a darn phone? These folk need to grow up. My wife wants my phone here it is. How about don't do nothing you need to hide in the first place.
Yaas...
Please tell them! Their so defensive
Insecurity
Why would she ask to see your phone. It implies that there is a trust issue on her part. I mean, that's "your" phone, not hers. This is another example of the emasculation of the modern man. Her: "can I see your phone" me: "hell no"!
How about mind your own dam business lest it involve you personally.
I don't view my husband going through my phone as a bad thing I have all of our information in it. (Receipts,dates,Bill confirmations,saved projects, grocery lists,photos...etc) His has all the fun stuff I don't want cluttering up my phone. We have been married for 10 years this year and this never came up. It is just a tech device in our house.
Do all that on a computer. Let the phone be his and yours yours. Trust and fidelity doesn't need to check up on the other.
I fully agree no reason to hide phones at all . Unless u have something to hide.
Let me just say this: If my girl gets access to my stuff, I get access to hers. That's the way it works around here.
Well of course!
That man walks withs purpose, has an attitude and hes funny. Lucky the one REAL woman who chose him 💪
I can't tell you the number of times in over 20 years my husband and I have had to borrow each other's phone no problem. If your spouse or partner is defensive or protective then, "the selection process isn't complete".. It's not always about not trusting your partner unless they give you reason.
i like the part where Steve said his phone ring next your phone ring...So true ladies we gotta be smarter cant let no man ruin us
Man that woman sitting right next the woman that asked the question who is wearing the glasses and peach/pink blouse is Breathtaking. Good Lord she has my attention.
You want to see his phone, but I bet he can't see your phone.
You dont need to check it. Just watch what he does with it. It will tell you everything you need to know.
my country (one of the south East Asian country), people are transparent from the beginning of the relationship. These tv shows are giving wrong advices to viewers. For example, Steve said, “if his phone rings, ur phone rings. That means he’s doing shady stuff, u do the same thing too. Wtf. Where are the moral?
Why is access needed?
I accessed my ex phone a little over 3 years, we were already living together, only because I always had that gut feeling all those years. before meeting my current bf, I was single therefore I was doing single things. sometimes I get msgs from guys I haven't talked to since I met my bf.... so yea same thing steve said about the guy also goes for the girl.... let some time go by, definitely after a year, every person you have talked when you were single, should already be informed and shouldn't be still hitting you up. BLOCK that number! as a girl, guys are so persistent that everytime a number pops up, ill inform them and then block them. because half of you men just don't get it! I learned it when I once told a guy im in a relationship, he said he understood..... weeks later, he texted me again!!!! NOPE BLOCK!
And I didn’t even know this was a relationship milestone
simple ..
"hey, let's match our pin numbers so we both have access to each other's phone"
You know, that's a really good question😆
My Ex took our pictures with his phone..so I always took his phone to look At the pictures because he let me,but as I was scrolling..I saw a picture of another woman in a bikini and she wasn’t me..then saw WhatsApp messages along with more pictures..so we broke up!
Right on Girl 😃😃 I think if you have nothing to hide it should be open for each partner..transparency helps build trust 😃😃 Hope your doing Way better 💕💕💕
Good for you for leaving, there's absolutely nothing wrong with checking once in a while.
@@lilianabatista9867 there is,
Are you following him around?
Maybe you should get a privat investigator.
Somehow just knew women would be here backing that. I just don't understand the need to check a partner's phone by women. Then y'all see something y'all don't like or y'all think shouldn't be there and bam, trouble
Lotsa love steve god bless ya
Since I'm single this conversation don't apply to me😄😄😄
Then there's no need to comment
ottis spunkmire it’s a free country chill
@@primitivojdavis
Did you just talk back to me?
ottis spunkmire yes I did
Hey sexy.
I'm not going through my partner's phone. I don't need to. If at any time I felt I needed to, then it's obviously time for me to move on, thus, there's still no need. Trust is a beautiful thing.
@@theguide4715 Yes. That is how trust works. We're open and honest, and have no need to prove it by invading each other's privacy. He did offer, when we first got together, his ex had been distrusting, I told him that's her problem, not mine. If you feel that need, you have a problem, what that problem is, I can't say, could be your partner's cheating, or it could be you've been burned before. Either way, it needs resolved. If he were cheating, it'd show in his actions and behaviors. I don't need access to his phone to read him.
After that long of being together he should have nothing to hide
Having something to hide and wanting to maintain a sense of privacy are not the same thing
You dont trust him that much is clear...smh. Steve is right. You play the game how he plays the game!
Tell her Steve ....his phone ring you phone rang hahahahah
Love it when he gets in Uncle Steve mode!!!! haha
I've been happily married for 14 years, and have never since we met each other 16 years ago felt the need to have access to his phone.. My advice - start dating someone you trust.
I had been with my husband for ten years and never felt the need to look through his phone. One day he dropped his phone unlocked on his way to work. For some reason I just got a hunch to look at it. The first message I saw was from a woman telling him how good he had given it to her the Saturday before. He had been cheating on me throughout my second pregnancy. My son was one month old at the time. I had no reason to suspect him of cheating. Now I look sideways at anyone who is too protective of his phone. I am not saying to check everyone’s phone but be suspicious if access is vehemently denied.
She looks pissed by the answer
"how do i get access to his phone without seeming like I don't trust him"
but you DON'T trust him.
Getting his phone won't make you trust him. It will just give your unreasonable insecurities a reason to calm down for a night. Next morning will be the same issue!
He isn't the problem. She is.
If he doesn't feel trusted in the relationship, YOU aren't going to be his wife like you say you will be.
I should be able to use your phone. Meaning if mine is dead let me call or let me google something real quick. When it gets to the point where I can’t even use it then now you’re giving me a reason to want to check. If you’re giving me a reason to check, we shouldn’t be together.
I don't think she's asking about making a call or Googling something - she wants to check out his history and see if he's messing with someone else. And if she doesn't trust him now without seeing the phone, they haven't got a hope in hell of making a marriage work.
Sarah Pelletier Exactly! The simple fact that she feels the need to check the phone is already proof that she doesn't trust him. And we guys aren't that stupid as to not pick up on that lack of trust... If you don't trust the guy then you're reducing the chances of him giving you what you want because it pisses him off, which will make you trust him even less and it's a vicious cycle.
If your phone died and you need to make a call or google something it's fine, but asking to see the phone is just a total lack of trust.
I don't always agree with Steve, but it's just like he said: don't ask to look at the phone if you haven't earned it.
I don't understand... Guys almost never ask women for their phone and trust their partner, even though women cheat just as much or more than guys.
Marissa Steffani NO
Marissa Steffani stupidest comment of the year
Lmao the ending Steve is a fool! 😂😂😂
Access the phone !!!!
It is privacy. Only the owner or a judge with warrant. That is all !!!!
This is for men and for women.
It isn't right to go through someone's phone since it isn't someone else's right to intrude someone else's privacy. If you feel the need to check someone else's phone then you were already self conscious to begin with. After all, everyone has something to hide hence why we have secrets, emails, privacy, wear clothes, and etc. Like Steve said "give him a chance." Give someone a chance until you suspect they may not be faithful or if you see red flags.
Look at her and her friend faces they didn't like that answer 😂
It's those kinds of games that will keep you single.
Steve is a hero for this
As a happy single man I am more than happy with my phone contents and nobody has to know about them :)
AHAHAHAh the accuracy to this man is mind blowing. it's like he knows me so well. Oh, two can definitely play that game. i will not be seconds hunnnaayyy lol The pretty girl has the cutest laugh
PreciousEve-Hadassah Oyé yeah tit for tat is how to play a relationship
if it isn't going anywhere
Like , if you honestly are so insecure that you are scared to not let your significant other have privacy, you shouldnt be in a relationship.
like Mr. Harvey says, marriage is perfect time for her to request for that type of level of commitment. And, I absolutely agree. In marriage, there is not much "privacy." I absolutely agree with Steve from start to finish. But, in the beginning of a relationship, the phone thing isn't necessary much because there isn't much commitment. Good job Steve Harvey!!! Right on the dot.
Are you married?
I don’t see a problem with looking through your partners phone. What’s wrong with that? You can trust someone and have the password. If they are unwilling to give up their password then that’s when it becomes an issue. You should be able to grab their phone when they are getting a call and answer for them if they can’t make it to the phone. You can trust someone and have their password. Once you become close with someone, there should be nothing to hide.
That one Girl The other side of the coin is, there is no need for you to be in someone else's phone. IF you trust them, then let that phone call go to voice mail. What exactly would you ever need to look for that can't wait?
I agree with that one Girl... I have no problem my woman answering my call. Private your phone? What private. Private my ass. U mean it's okay for someone to have access to your body but not your phone? Madness of this century
My gf can look through my phone and i can look through hers. We have each others passwords. Sometimes she answers the texts for me, when i’m driving. I see no problem with that.
You may not see a problem, but if your partner does you should respect it. Ive been with my lady over 8 years and I dont allow her to go through my phone. Nothing wrong with boundaries. Ive never cheated on her. She doesnt give me reasons to look through her phone. If she gave me reasons, i would ask her directly. Only 2 choices after that, solve the problem or end the relationship.
David Williams why are you not allowing her to go through your phone?
2:16 cutest girl I’ve ever seen
Hubby and I have the same passcode on our phones...we use each other’s phone all the time to make calls, do research online, as GPS in the car...I see his messages, he sees mine...he sees strange guys messaging me on FB...I see strange girls messaging him on FB...we shrug it off and move on!
I never checked my fiancé phone or laptop for 12 years when we were a couple .... once I checked I found out ... he was cheating on me 12 years .... ouch....😟
better to know
yass steve * equal opportunity *😃
Good advice. Stay out of the phone. Worry about your phone and who is calling you.
alansjf33 right!?
Trust is an important part of being together if you are wanting to check your partners phone out then you have trust issues I've been married 30 plus years I don't look at her phone an she don't look at mine that's trust ! Relationships won't survive without trust !
Im more concerned about my girl looking through my search history. 🤣
I just don't feel like having to explain everything I look up. And some things MUST be explained to avoid misunderstandings.
AK33M that I understand.. I wouldn’t look through ur search history... but sometimes I’m bored and want to go on their Snapchat or something and if ur getting defensive about it that comes off as suspicious
@@theguide4715 lol yep. You know it
He gave her honest advice
I would have said the day you can access his phone will be the day he can access your phone. I'm sure in her mind she would have said then that's never going to happen.
You can tell she won't forget about the phone.
I’m not giving a guy a year and half to weed out his past... it shouldn’t take that long
lol ok
yer? Sadly its not so easy these days. we used to find a woman and stick with them. It took my father 6 weeks apparently to realise my mum was for him. Guess what my wifes father met her mum at a bus stop and that was it married 2 months later this all in the 50s. Now women are so independent you can not trust any of that. you have to take your time just to check they are not going to destroy the relationship, lie about loving your dog or family or try and change you.
I love these women whose questions prove they don't know the men they hope to marry!
Because almost all men are sneaky!
Marriage is no protection from cheating.
I disagree with Steve on this one. You should be able to go through his phone with his code before you accept his proposal! And vice versa. Why get engaged if you don’t trust him on that level?
David Jerome that’s just opening doors that you don’t wanna open
If you can't trust them enough to not want to go through their phone then stay your ass single simple
@@tanzouchiha2557 Trust is earned. Otherwise it is misplaced.
your level of trust wont change even if you see their phone
"I already know this man is gonna be my husband" , this chick has a lot to learn about men LOL
Yup Stev is right ! I do not and cannot sleep on the ground and don’t like to get my clothes, hair, face & 👠👠 dirty with paint & mud
steve harvey female facial impressions😂😂
This honestly pretty good advice. Never put your eggs all in one basket until you know for sure!
Their two things off limits with me my phone and my wallet. To everyone. It's no one business in my phone or wallet
I've been dating my man for a year and I will never do that. I tell him when he gets a text or call and when he plays on his phone I'll watch him play his game over his shoulder. He does the same for me and sometimes if I'm busy and can't answer my phone I'll ask him to do it for me. That's it. I won't Snoop or do anything he doesn't want me to do.
All the people who don’t check they partners phone 👍🏼 for you!! & I’ma still check my man’s phone.
Give him a couple of years to "weed everything out"... what does that even mean? Sorry, dont agree Steve. If you're already in a relationship, why does he need a couple of years to "weed everything out"?
he means get rid of people he hasnt spoken to in a while and just randomly pop up. he clearly gave an example
He means that maybe In the last year/years you dated someone and it didn't work out. You haven't talked to them since, then all of a sudden they message you out of the blue and they are trying to rekindle something. That could look real bad on the person getting the text. But I believe if you're immediately going worst case mentality, and assuming.they are cheating... you don't trust them and you need to re-evaluate your relationship
Girl in pink top and spects is rocking it!
If even one partner already has a backup relationship in place then their relationship is already dead.
Her new mission : Take a ring from him.
So she wants to look at what my banking information, personal email or text messages are. Never touch anyone's stuff unless you want the same thing.
Is that all her hair? Beautiful
Steve even if you have a Ring still don't go in each other phone no since in being 2 gether if you have 2 go in each other phone
Amen Steve. LMAO 😂
When I got married i told my wife VERY clearly " don't ever check my phone cuz i won't ever check urs" needless to say we don't have any drama or fights cuz of the cellphone
Like snowballs not melting in hell that is your chance of getting hold of his phone.
You will need an eternity because you are not getting access to my phone. Must be out of your damn mind.
This advice gon backfire big time, trying to make it look like is a competition
if you have to go through your partner's phone... you should be out of the relationship.
If you have to hide your phone, you should stop being a dishonest cheater. If you take your phone into the shower and put it under your pillow at night, you know you are doing wrong.
If ur defensive over ur wife going on ur phone then maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship
@@Lolee56 the other way around, if a woman has to go through his phone than there we go.... no trust, and off you go.
So no one saw how cute the girl is next to her? :'( OKAYYY
Sorry but highly disagree. Worst advice ever. Ladies keep your standards and morals no need to wait for a ring to find out he’s loyal! I’ve had guys lie to my face but that phone never lies! Now if u wanna settle for being cheated on bc u think u don’t deserve better then go ahead and give him the benefit of the doubt and don’t search through his phone! Hopefully if u go through his phone his words match what’s in it! Then u have a real keeper!!
The game is cold but it's fair.
the moment both partner know they wanna spend the rest of the life with each other is the moment they can check phone. its about that moment they talk about marriage , kids house , how much they need save money each month how long it take to save to house and more
Perfect answer Steve. I though oh sholit hows is he going to get threw this one. But perfect. I see Why you have this job. Ask Steve
Men need friends women need friends we all need friends be smart
How Long Do You Wait Before Getting Access to His Phone? - Until he gives you permission to, if at all.
Selection process 😂😂😂😂
Why would you need Access?
I never have gone through my husbands phone married 7 years...
I knew a girl like this but I knew some things on her partner I just shook my head 😂😂 like girl u better check that phone. But I didn’t say it out loud🤦🏾♀️
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Same here
@@Lovelyminidonuts hell nah
Any stds?
But i can always use his phone just like je can always use mine...
If I see that a couple times, I'm walking away....
You must trust who you are with ! If you do not well what can I say but you really don't have a relationship then
ever heard of privacy of correspondence... this girl needs to search that...
Dont go lookin for trouble. You gonna find it.
Classic case of CHEATING 101:(Phone Edition)
2 reasons.
1. If he is on his phone ALL DAY LONG... holding his phone near and dear to his chest.. if his phone is his life... he is CHEATING! or he could just be like one of your girlfriends because men period don't always be on their phones unless, it's gaming, business a.k.a work, making swift phone calls, researching, etc.. just something minor because he's a MAN simply put... men don't socialize as much as a woman does because they are naturally born listeners... not saying that a man doesn't chitchat every once in awhile... they're just inbred listeners...that's just the way they were created... and on the opposite women are created to talk... hints why we are complements to our future husbands... it's just the way God intended us to be... can't help that... that's why I believe social media and phones were definitely designed for us women... because we love to talk... that's just in our nature... so, you might not have yourself a man.. you might just be dating one of your girlfriends in that case all the more reason to be suspicious and break-up...(no offense) #ijs #imjustthemessenger plus the RIGHT GOOD man for you will be more in tuned and engaged and quite frankly more enthused with his wife and family...
2. Simple. If his phone is blowing up ALL DAY LONG! he's cheating!
But, in her case... she should just move on... he ain't it sweetie... if you don't trust him now... you're not gonna trust him after marriage just saying... like I read through someone's comment who mentioned that while dating you shouldn't have ACCESS to absolutely NOTHING... not even each other's body (the body thing is just my belief and faith... if you have a different approach by all means that's your decision to make) nonetheless you should be focusing on enjoying each other's company and the fact that you're not... ESPECIALLY while dating?! he is NOT the one for you... MOVE ON! #ijs #justmytwocents
I was parked next to a guy who was having a conversation with his woman and she had put a tracker on his phone so she could keep tabs on him. He was pissed and in disbelief, wondering why the hell she would do something like that when he's never given her any kind of reason. (His words) and her reasoning I would imagine was quite simple: she's either paranoid about him cheating or she's a cheater herself.
First of all you can't have love if you don't have trust so if she doesn't trust this man apparently he's not the one for her
Good answer 👍👍👍👍
I don't get why some people feel the need to look into their partners cell! I mean we are still individuals that should be allowed some form of privacy......Look, if you feel that you gotta be on top of your partner all the time, that means that you don't Trust'em! So if you don't have Trust there is no need to continue in the relationship. You ain't got Trust, you ain't got Nothing!
My husband died in 2019. We were married for 33 years. I have NEVER gone through my husband's phone. He cheated on me within the first three years of marriage. I still never checked his phone, pockets, car, etc. After doing work on our marriage, I eventually chose to forgive him. My attitude about checking his phone and following him was this: If I felt the need to do it, the trust was gone, and I no longer wanted to be married. I have always felt I don't have to go looking for anything. What's done in the dark WILL come to light. That means what I need to know will come to me, and if or when it does, it's OVER. Some of these silly women and girls are checking his phone, checking him, and following him knowing that once it becomes clear he's cheating, they're going to stay with him. What is the point? Yelling, cursing, putting him out, and destroying his property will NOT make him stay faithful to you. He just gets more strategic.
Are these women for real?? Crazy!
I don't play about nobody goin through my phone but my children...I don't play certain games in a relationship.. # Single