I’m a pastor of a church. I was sick for a month and live alone, only one family offered help. If they couldn’t help the minister there is no hope for others. It’s so very sad as the sermons fall on deaf ears. I will be more alert for people to help because of your timely message. Thank you for your story and your honesty xxx
Tawra, I think the people who say the videos are too long are people who also don't know how to have a conversation. To me, your videos are just that- conversations. As a person who sometimes suffers from social anxiety, and has a low tolerance for people, it's not easy to just "be friendly". BUT I really enjoy listening to you guys and feel as though I'm visiting with you and your family each time I watch. Thanks for the videos!
Wow what a helpful video....I thought my Church was the only one like that...they seem to have "cliques" and I don't feel like I fit in anywhere..it's like I'm back in high school...I also like your suggestion of how to start up conversations..this was very helpful for me as I am also an introvert and I'm looking to meet new people.
Glad to know I'm not alone. We were treated horribly by our church. I teach my children to be kind and treat people as you'd like to be treated. Last winter my son shovelled the neighbour's driveway as her husband was working out of town. When she offered him money he refused - he knew it was something that just needed to be done. He didn't expect to be paid. Some day we might need help too. If we all treat our neighbours like that, the world will be a better place.
Sad to hear your story. My parents divorced when I was 10 and my dad was killed in a car accident a yr later. Never mind the life-long grief, we were left poverty-stricken. If people only knew the feeling of shame and lack of value a person feels (especially kids) when others don't reach out and show compassion and grace for others. Not judgement. Not blame. The BEST thing you can do is show others love...it will change their life. BUT, I wouldn't take those experiences back for ANYTHING, bc it's given me a VERY sensitive heart for others. God had a plan, ladies. He has taken my brokenness and truly covered it with grace. Keep talking about these "hard" christen issues. Honesty is the beginning of healing❤
I'm an introvert also, so thank you for letting me know this treatment has happened to you as well. People's careless actions cut deep and the wounds take a long time to heal. It's very encouraging that after all you guys went through that you remain strong in your faith and still help others in spite of how badly you were treated.
Tawra, we are in those days when "the love of many will wax cold" - the hardest part about being a Christian today is the loneliness one feels even when part of a large family or church.
This one was difficult to watch. Not as hard as yesterday's live, but difficult. You've got me thinking and I know who I'm going to help tomorrow. Not sure about this weekend, but I promise you that I'll connect with a family in need tomorrow. Thanks for lighting the fire under my hind end. Love from MN.
Well, I am glad to be in your life and I would notice for sure if you packed up and moved away! I know I've told Tawra but, I lived within 2 miles from my whole family and my husbands whole family and I have so serious health and pain problems. When we moved up north by Tawra and Mike, I got my very first meal from someone who actually cared. It really opened my eyes to a true friendship and showed me a little more how to be a better person. The meal was of course great, however the love and time she took to make me feel a little better was something I will probably never be able to truly repay. Tawra and Mike are not just "talk" they are true and genuine. Take the time to pay it forward. A little kindness could change someone else's life. Love you Tawra, Mike and Jill
Jamie- LOVE U MORE SOAPS thank you for sharing that sweet little story with us. It has confirmed my feelings about Mike and Tawra, that they are beautiful, loving people and true Christians.
This is the most moving and beautiful show I have ever seen from you all! This is a call for action!!! Thank you Jill, Mike, and Tawra for sharing a piece of yourself with us!
Tawra this just tore my heart out that no one would help you, David and Jill. You can know that if I had known ya'll then that I would of helped ya'll to the end.
I remember when my father died of cancer and after the funeral we went back to my aunt and uncle house for the awake and when It was time to go home I asked if could take a meatball sandwich home cause we didn't have any food in the house. My aunt and uncle said no they were going to use the leftovers for a party they were having later on. That hurt me so much because me and mom were going home to nothing. I was told later on by other people that all that food at my dads awake was supposed to go home with my mom and me . I never forgot that .
Watching and re-watching...already commented but...one thing is for sure my daddy who was a single dad after my mom left him with 5 little girls, one not biolocally his..will forever be my hero. He raised us from 28 years of age on his own for several years until he married my step mother, at which time he took on the responsibility of her daughter also. We never went hungry, we had a nice home...life wasn't perfect but I have NEVER doubted his love..he is 81 now and battling ahlzheimers...my outlook on all this is...be thankful...you Have A great parent who sacrificed so much for you. Tawra my friend you have a beautiful mother, wonderful husband, beautiful children...i have 2 beautiful children...we have to concentrate on the good in life...theres so much of that too. God bless you good hearted friend.😍
I agree. I go to a church that is filled with "career" women who make tons of money to buy fake nails, fake hair, and big cars and homes. It makes me upset that they have no time to serve others. Me, on the other hand, live on 500.00 a week with 5 children and I buy tons of crafts, snacks, and supplies that I do not have the money for. I even mow the lawn of the church and clean portions of the church. We serve the older shut-in men and woman by raking lawns and helping them. We serve at our camp for 5 weeks out of the year for free. We live on bare bones budget ....... I can't get women to even want to teach Sunday School, Woman"s Bible studies, Nursery, or Funeral dinners. People have become "lovers of themselves" instead of lovers of God. No one has time!!! It seems that since I am a stay-at-home mom, I should be the one to "do" everything because I have"time". I love to serve, but I wish someone would see that a gas card would be great once in a while.
I was in the same church from childhood through about 35 years old. I was involved in music ministry as a choir member and cantor in all that time and knew many, many people in the parish. They came to my high school, college, and graduate school graduation partied. They came to my engagement party. When I lost my brother to a drug overdose and broke off my wedding engagement all in the same year, I had a lot of emotional problems. My choir director called me a "distraction" and asked me to leave the choir I had been a part of for over 20 years. No one in the choir supported or reached out to me. I asked the pastor for help and was ignored. It is a major hurt in my life and the reason I am no longer involved in organized religion. I understand Christians are still imperfect humans but the church should reach out and do more. It appears I am not alone in my experience.
I feel so bad for how you were treated. I have belonged to our Catholic church for 20 years. I am a volunteer for their meals on wheels program through the church. It makes my heart feel so good to bring people hot meals. My route is mostly the elderly who don't have much at all to live on. They are so happy to see me. I am glad that I am part of something that means so much to those I am helping. I am so sorry that you guys were treated so badly.
Thank you for sharing this video. I'm going through this with my family.. sad to say, they say one thing but don't follow up on it, and or they have a get together and forget to invite us and then the other family members say hey why weren't you there.? And we say we did not know that the get together even existed and were not included 😫😫 it's so frustrating, we just moved up here to be closer to them and they don't want us they don't want to connect, but they will only connect if it is good for them or they get something out of it. It's not just church it is everywhere sad to say, and it hurts a lot. I have given up on them because I'm to upset to go through the pain again.
Margaret FoodCraftsandFun Same thing with my family. I was never invited. Easily forgotten. I had to cut them all out of my life. I got tired of the constant heart breaks from my "family". They never should've adopted me.
I have never commented but this hit home with me in such a big way. I can relate with you and your mom with all that you said. I really needed to hear this because sometimes I really wonder if it's me that makes people not want to be my friend at church. I don't want to go to home fellowships or women's ministry or any ministry for that matter. Thanks for speaking the truth and for sharing your hearts.
What an excellent video. I have been very fortunate to not have any illnesses but the message of helping others is always good to hear. Love your channel.
I told my youth pastor the same thing Jill said about the youth going out and being helpful instead of having fun all the time and I was told the same thing.
When my parents divorced in the early 80's, the church we had attended my entire childhood, told my mother she could no longer be a church member and they revoked her membership. It crushed my mother and we stopped going to church. What they did not know was that my father was abusive to all of us. My mother finally found the strength to leave my father and she saved us from that mental, physical, and sexual abuse. I appreciate you doing this video and I am searching my heart to see where I have failed in helping and can improve.
I enjoy this series. I truly appreciate you opening up and showing your emotions. So many people are in the same/similar boat, but won't talk about it. I love you guys! You've taught me soo much, and I even find myself making my way back to God slowly. You are all in my prayers every day. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being you and showing people - no matter the situation - you can rise above and succeed. Much love!
Again Jill and Tawra, thank you so much! I too know exactly what you are talking about. I went to a church for 16 years and my 3 children were actively involved in youth group, children's church, etc. I had been in the choir for many years. I was a part of any ministry I could be of help. Then, a year before I left that church I pulled out of all the things I was involved in, and ya know what? I don't think anybody noticed I was gone. I once made the statement to my sister , "I could be bleeding to death in the pew and I'm not sure anybody would notice I was dying". There has been such a disconnect in the church as a whole that it is sad. Simple word but full of so much more than I can convey. My heart is broken for the long ago church bodies that actually cared about people and their problems. Here's an example of just what you are talking about. about 6 years ago my , now 91 year old mom fell and my sister and I were the only ones taking care of her out of 5 children, (story within itself) and the church she has attended for over 50 years has yet to bring the first meal or do anything. The pastor said, "just call if you need anything". Six years later we are still waiting for that "anything". This is one reason why I still have to go through a process to drag myself to a church on Sunday that I feel absolutely no connection to and can't wait to leave. I feel like I need to give my tithe somewhere and believe God has told me its there. So I make myself go as often as I can make myself. Anyway, I'm praying for you and your family. Add me to your list. That'd be good. Thank you for your awesome testimonies! I so appreciate them.
oh I am so sorry this happened to you with the church, but you know my mama told us kids that if you give to the poor something you would not use, eat or wear then you should not give anything.
When my kids were little we had a crisis of unemployment. We had nothing coming in. The church helped us. They gave us boxes and boxes of expired food. Some of the food was 12 years old! At least 90% of it was thrown in the trash. I was disgusted.
I will be 56 in Dec. My grandpa was a preacher I was in church everyday that church was going on . I can remember the Sunday dinners at church where everyone was like family . All about helping people if there was a death in someone's family even if they didn't come to our church there would be a full meal cooked , and taken to the home for the family so they didn't have to worry about cooking .There was always enough food to feed these people for days. People just don't even care anymore :(
I told above about having to stop and buy soup on the way home to my mother's house from my mother's funeral. Things used to be so different. When my father was dying of cancer, my mother and I didn't cook for at least a month, plus all that was done for us during the time of the funeral. Not just by our own church and neighbors, but by my grandmother's church. When my mother and I ran home to eat and change or catch a little nap, someone had always left a good meal. I stayed in town with my mother an extra week just to help write all the thank you notes and return all the accumulated dishes that weren't hers.
PREACH!!!!!!! I too have recently distanced myself from church group meetings. I cannot tolerate crybaby mediocre issues while I'm fighting to get inhalers and meds for my nebulizer. Because I like to breath. God bless u guys, thank u for ur content.
My four year old granddaughter told me she didn't want to die = she just likes to breathe (found out that they had goldfish that died.....) are you able to tell your doctor that you can't afford your inhalers and does he /she have samples of the drugs you use? get on support groups for asthmatics - they may be able to provide ideas on how to get help. Wish I could help you more.
Mike is right, as I became more aware of this young girl's situation, the more upset and sad I realised she was, the more secrets she told me, I was a little overwhelmed. I thought it would become a 24/7 thing helping her, but it really wasn't. She seems so much better now. I grew up in a family that didn't talk to each other, that didn't show affection, talk about feelings and emotions, yes I still to this day struggle to talk about MY problems but I love to try and help others with theirs.
Thanks so much, what you said is so true of society in general... people need to focus on talking and listening to people. I'm so thankful I grew up in a small community where everyone cared... they still do 😊
This is your best message of all of them. If we are too busy to care and reach out, we are going the wrong direction. The Lord sees, He will hold us accountable for our neglect. Well spoken.
Made my shopping list to make a meal for someone else. Something I normally do but haven't for awhile so this even got my butt back in gear, thanks as always xx
A feel for you, we left one church because of just what you are talking about, and in Gods blessing He put us in a church where many(not all) walked the talk, and when I was in the hospital for two months, they stepped up and helped my husband, but it is so true, so many Christians do not want to step out of their comfort zones. My husband and I have always tried to help those when we are aware of a need and as we get older we try to be more aware of those around us and I pray that God gives us the wisdom when we need it... Thank you for saying what needed to be said :)
This is exactly what I have been saying for a very long time. People don't care about anyone else anymore. They seem to be self centered and self serving. They don't stop to think about what someone else might be going through. Thank you Jill for saying other people might be going through this and wonder if it is just them. That is exactly what i have been thinking. I went to a church for 8 years and one morning the ministers wife was greeting at the door. She shook my hand and said "Do I know you"? I never went back. I was dumbfounded.
Don't feel bad. Mike was on staff and worked with the pastor at a church and he didn't even know my name. So sad but we do have to remember they are just people and not everyone is like that.
I have felt just about everything you have put into words. Often times the functions at the church seem so . . . empty, . . . frivolous. I have pulled away, to the shagrin of my husband. I still love my God, but the church has just seemed "empty". I don't know how else to describe it. I pray we can find a good one when we move. I want to recommend this series to my pastor.
I wish you lived in my area! Our church is lovely. It's small and we are always looking for ways to help in the community. I have been to numerous churches like you explained and I know how blessed we were to find this church!!
Thank you Tawra and Jill for putting things into perspective. ❤️ Loving others and living like Christ is not putting yourself first! You all encourage me so much.
Amen Tawra! You are so right! Mike and Jill too. Isn’t it pitiful what is going on in this world and our churches! People have become so self absorbed. I’m in that mass that cannot find a church that I feel connected to. Sad. Love you and all ❤️❤️ (((Hugs)))
This may seem selfish of me but I haven't been to church in 15 years because of church people! My church are the homesteading real people on RUclips who are so encouraging in my life. Thanks for the awesome ! You provide! Bless you guys!
Thank you for this video. I attended a church for 2 years and the pastor never bothered to know my name. I have been in church basically all my life but I have quit going because of the disconnect. Love you guys and thank you for all you do!
It's the Laodecian spirit that was foretold about the last days of the church. We go to and fro on the earth staying busy in the world but not doing the Lord's business. The business of helping people and saving souls. I tend to be introverted in crowds or around strangers until I get to know them. I'm fine one on one. My health is so bad I hardly get out of the house anymore as I stay in chronic pain. I live alone and it would be so nice to have help sometimes doing things I can't do or just even having a friend to talk to. So I get what you are saying. I'm so sorry that the church let you down and that food thing made me angry. People need to wake up and realized we will be judged for what we do, say, and how we act and what we don't do when the opportunity to help avails itself. But also we need for people to speak up when they have a need because not all people can see it and they can't read minds. I pray the Lord brings us a real heart and eye opening revival.
Okay maybe this was not your agenda for this video, but you did an amazing job on this truly. I am at work and watching this and was crying along with you. Thank goodness I work in a slow moving office. It is sad that everyone is self absorbed and we do need to step up as Christians, those of us who are willing and put our hearts out there. Thank you for this.
Thank you. I have felt that way also. I have sat behind someone for over three and still have not talked with her, but it works both ways- I have not attempted to speak to her either.
Tawra, I'm sending this so you know the wonderful ripples that you and your Mom have started. I happened to be rolling out and cooking some homemade chicken dumpling noodles as I watched your video. As you both talked and my house filled with the smell of comfort, I thought of my neighbor who is not well. Directly because of your words I packed up some hot noodles and soup in a disposable container, wrote a note on it and walked across the lawns to do the unthinkable....ring a doorbell without an invitation. Our neighbor was touched and appreciative beyond words and so am I . Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Diane Rokuskie i cried when i read this. The world needs more people like you! You followed thru! Some say theyre gonna do this or that..but no time. ❤Hugs!
This is an eye opener for me. To be a better Christian and to really be there for people. U are a true example of what a true Christian. I do really love listening to u both.
I hear ya Tawra! I was in group therapy,,,and I had to stop. I told the counselors, it is wrong, when people would rather use thier 'illness' for a crutch, a competition on who had the worse week, instead of trying to do the 'homework' etc to help themselves,,, it was time to leave. I would leave feeling worse, than better. So I quit. Hey Tawra,,,, search out Messianic groups!!! Those people DO help each other. I have found out in those groups, besides worshiping Yahweh (G-d),,, no matter how poor or down and out they are,,, they are STILL willing to help. At least most of them I have met! Totally DIFFERENT type of people than found in "Christian" churches. AND they follow the Bible closer too!!! Mike, you talk about the older ways of getting together, etc,,, that is exactly what I have found in Messianic congregations. Most actually meet in smaller groups in each others homes. Sooooo different!!!!
Thank you for sharing. This just breaks my heart what you went through and still deal with today. I feel your pain. I want you to know I just love all your videos! Keep up the awesome work. I am a single mother of 3 and sometimes it’s very difficult when you can’t rely on others and even when it is the church! With no family around it sometimes feel like an island. I like how you keep it real and everything you shared in this video. So true! Materialism can just eat people alive and skew ones reality of what they are truly missing in life.
I know this is an old video but it's certainly not an old message. Your honesty and sincerity moved me to tears. We truly need to take care of others and put other people's needs before our own. To take a step back and put our own needs on hold, so we can assist another with what they are going through, their trials, etc. Too much talking about it, and not just in the Church, and not enough `doing/acting.`
Thank you all so much for speaking the truth. I was employed at another church for almost 4 years. A lot of churches in my opinion are much like what you are describing. I have felt very lonely in my current church for a long time now. If I mentioned this (as I have done before) they would respond by suggesting things like, "Are you involved in a bible study or small group?". It's about RELATIONSHIP people!! Just like Mike touched on, I can watch a video and read the bible at home. I have been through all of it. I have also been an AWANA leader for over 10 years. I now feel that although some of these programs are good for the kids, some workers are over burdened with "church duties" and it sometimes shows. Don't even get me started on all the snacks at church! Good lordy!
This makes me realize how blessed I really am because I have never attended regularly to a church that didn't reach out to me! The church I'm at now did TWO fundraisers when we had a tragic death in the family! And I had a few people come up to me and say when you're ready I want to meet you for lunch! Only one of them forgot about it! I'm the one that doesn't always want interaction. Mostly because I don't have money to go out to eat! And if it wasn't clear that they're going to pay for it then I don't get back to them. I'm kind of in a situation similar to Jill. I'm without enough money to do anything but survive. I'm searching for more and better ways to get more money coming in. I would appreciate prayers for this!
Hi Tawra and mama Jill and also Mike. I am Utsha from India. It is exactly one year now that i have suscribed to your channel and have been watching all of the videos especially "penny pinching mama is my favourite". thank you so much caring to share you life story and hurts of the past, i know it is not easy. I relate to you coz i also suffer from cronic sickness but i have no idea what it is. i am just tired all the time. Watching your videos inspires me and makes me bold. Thank you. Mike is great and grandMama Jill is my favourite. Love you Tawra.
This video brought to mind when my hubby and I were searching for a church and thought we had finally found a good one. We had been regularly attending about 9 months when my dad suddenly passed away. We thought we had made several friends, so I called one to report I wouldn't be at the women's Bible study group that evening because my dad had passed that day. She said she was sorry about my dad. I didn't call anyone else because I thought she would pass the information on at study group. We never heard from anyone connected with the church again, not any of our church "friends", the pastor or his wife, the Bible study group women that I had thought were my friends, nobody. Needless to say, we never went back. After we quit going, we never heard from anyone asking if we were ok or if we had died or moved or what had happened to us; however, we did receive 3 months later our offering envelopes in the mail for the next year! So I totally understand where you're coming from. People are not important anymore, just what you have to give to the church, receiving is a thing of the past. It's so sad and discouraging. Too bad we don't live closer. We could start our own people-caring church. I know how to go to Kroger and buy rotisserie chicken lol. Much love and prayer, Carla xoxo
I tried to teach my 2 yr. old about "the sad people in Houston (putting it in 2 yr. old lingo)". We then (both of us) baked 3 dozen fresh cookies. and delivered them tob the church, to help him actually see that these were real people (not characters on the t.v.) - and he was 2, so the excuse of "I have children, so I can't do anything" is just that - an excuse!
I needed to hear this! We are LDS in a small town in rural Minnesota..so our church has about 50 active members. Sometimes I think it would be easier to go to a bigger church....less callings/responsibilities etc. If we are gone on a Sunday and don't give someone the heads up....we will have multiple texts during church. I had surgery this week and lots of people checking on me. Everyone is loved and special in our little chapel, I guess being part of a small congregation has a lot of perks!
I am watching this for years after the fact. It is absolutely shatters my heart… Some of your stories. I’m so sorry that people behave this way. God bless all of you. Although this shatters my heart and I feel so bad, it also inspires me and opens 💕💕💕💕 my eyes at the same time. Thank you💕💕💕💕
Oh my gosh!!!! I needed so much to hear this today. I can relate from both sides of the coin . . . both as the one in need AND the one who was too wrapped up in my own world to be a light for someone else. I realize this was a difficult and emotional conversation for you all , but many of us needed to hear it. I am sure going to pray about how I can make a change in myself. Thank you!
It's soooooo sad to hear all that you've been through & that there was soooo little caring & practical love from your church family! We were beyond blessed to have our previous church bring us a meal once a week for a year when I first became bedridden with CFS/ME, then the second year they brought a meal every 2 weeks to give my Super Hero Hubby a breather from cooking ....and they were delicious meals, usually with dessert too! It was definitely a wonderfully caring church family to be blessed with. 🥰 Blessings from South Australia💕🐨
We belong to a church where people not all but some knew I wasn't well. It's been 8 months and we heard from them only to let us know they are making a new directory. No phone calls or visits nothing. We are in the process of changing.
I went to a new church when we moved into that area, sat down in a pew, and a couple came up to me and said "you are sitting in our spot" I moved to the back of the church into the hard chair area..I thought that maybe the family would be there later, nobody but those two sat there...no one came and welcomed me...I didn't go back.
We all need to help are neighbors and community and country. One of my children's good friends was kicked out of their home on the night before thanksgiving. My child call me and explained what happened and say Mom can I bring my friend home because they have nowhere to go, their family all live in Arizona.I say bring your friend home and we will see how we can help later. Unfortunately this friend only had the cloths on their back when they were kick out. So we when to the store on thanksgiving and bought toiletries and pajamas and cloths for them to wear. We all had thanksgiving dinner together and had them there for almost a month. It's was very rewarding to help an individual person with their situation and they where so thankful for the help and understanding especially during the holidays when most people are are to busy to help others.
I agree people are so wrapped in them selves too much and sometimes a simple conversation can bring some joy and can mean so much more than some realize. I love the idea you had for your church teenagers.
What do you mean you can't learn social skills off of youtube? LOL Do you know how many conversations I start with "I was watching this couple on you-tube the other day and they were talking about..."
Ladies and Mike. You are not alone in this. I've gone to the same church for 14 years. They are a great mid-size church with community outreach programs and small-groups to help people connect. BUT, for people like me who cannot get to a small group, using those means to connect with others is not an option. I have been home bound since January (for almost 10 months) and not one person, after 14 years, has bothered to call or even message on Facebook to see if everything is okay. They see my hubby and ask about me, but never contact me directly. I have no friends here. None, really. I'm not sure that I blame them as much as I blame our American culture of busy-ness. I can recall these same issues at church when I was a teenager. It was so bad, my parents started a "newcomers" social at our home to help the new folks connect. Nowadays, even the regulars cannot seem to connect. I'm so stinking lonely it's not even funny. I'm not bitter or resentful but I pray all the time that God would just send me a friend. Somebody. I'm stuck at home because of health issues - can't even get in a car to go anywhere without becoming very ill. So, all that to say, you are not alone in your observations and experiences. God bless you guys for sharing! 🙂🌻
I’m with you Tawra. It’s not about keeping the children entertained. Shame on those women for shooting you down. It’s always important to learn new skills.
I’m in agreement with you 100%. Since my stroke and having to learn all over again like a toddler how to do the simple things in life. 99% of the people we know walked away from us like I’m contagious. If it’s not hard enough to have this terrible thing happen and try to deal with it, on top of it the people we know have turned away from us. It makes my husband and I so sad. We were always there to help anyone and everyone we came in contact with. Now that I can’t physically do anything for anyone...let alone for myself I’m not useful to them. I’m pretty much done. 😞
I can relate to this video. My husband had cancer...he passed late last year. The sicker he got in the last couple of months, the visitors got fewer. Some of the Chaplins continued the visits, but not as often. It was sad to see him become depressed, feeling like no one cared. I am now in my own cancer journey. I have had very few people from church visit. I just move forward. Tawra is so right about how people just go on with THEIR own lives. They forget those in need. May God bless you and your family!
I volunteer in various areas but you've inspired me to try harder to help others, thank you! Listening to your story, I haven't heard either of you mention anything about social services? I volunteer with an agency and there are options for families like yours, were there none then? Thank you for sharing, I think it will help others and remind us all to care. I'm reminded of Jesus when he said, I was hungry and you fed me. That's Christianity.
@jillcooper... I had a big life change. To date, years later, no one ever showed up. I have my son and grandson. No one else ever even just stopped by. My heart goes out to you.
Such an important topic. Thank you for having the courage to speak out. My Bible Says "Labour not to be rich:Cease from thy own wisdom. Bestow not the gifts that God has given you,to get worldly riches." Proverbs 23:4 We have things so backwards in this society of plenty. We get so busy making earthly riches that we forget about the eternal ones. I fear what Tara said may be correct that it may be to late. Then I remember to be the good in the world that I want to see. The salt and light. Thank you for such an important message. If I lived next to you ....you both would be getting a hot meal this week💓💓
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I’m a pastor of a church. I was sick for a month and live alone, only one family offered help. If they couldn’t help the minister there is no hope for others. It’s so very sad as the sermons fall on deaf ears. I will be more alert for people to help because of your timely message. Thank you for your story and your honesty xxx
Absolutely incredible,real,and interesting,thanks for your honesty
Tawra, I think the people who say the videos are too long are people who also don't know how to have a conversation. To me, your videos are just that- conversations. As a person who sometimes suffers from social anxiety, and has a low tolerance for people, it's not easy to just "be friendly". BUT I really enjoy listening to you guys and feel as though I'm visiting with you and your family each time I watch. Thanks for the videos!
Wow what a helpful video....I thought my Church was the only one like that...they seem to have "cliques" and I don't feel like I fit in anywhere..it's like I'm back in high school...I also like your suggestion of how to start up conversations..this was very helpful for me as I am also an introvert and I'm looking to meet new people.
Glad to know I'm not alone. We were treated horribly by our church. I teach my children to be kind and treat people as you'd like to be treated. Last winter my son shovelled the neighbour's driveway as her husband was working out of town. When she offered him money he refused - he knew it was something that just needed to be done. He didn't expect to be paid. Some day we might need help too. If we all treat our neighbours like that, the world will be a better place.
Sad to hear your story. My parents divorced when I was 10 and my dad was killed in a car accident a yr later. Never mind the life-long grief, we were left poverty-stricken. If people only knew the feeling of shame and lack of value a person feels (especially kids) when others don't reach out and show compassion and grace for others. Not judgement. Not blame. The BEST thing you can do is show others love...it will change their life. BUT, I wouldn't take those experiences back for ANYTHING, bc it's given me a VERY sensitive heart for others. God had a plan, ladies. He has taken my brokenness and truly covered it with grace. Keep talking about these "hard" christen issues. Honesty is the beginning of healing❤
I'm an introvert also, so thank you for letting me know this treatment has happened to you as well. People's careless actions cut deep and the wounds take a long time to heal. It's very encouraging that after all you guys went through that you remain strong in your faith and still help others in spite of how badly you were treated.
Tawra, we are in those days when "the love of many will wax cold" - the hardest part about being a Christian today is the loneliness one feels even when part of a large family or church.
This one was difficult to watch. Not as hard as yesterday's live, but difficult. You've got me thinking and I know who I'm going to help tomorrow. Not sure about this weekend, but I promise you that I'll connect with a family in need tomorrow. Thanks for lighting the fire under my hind end. Love from MN.
Bless you all for coming on and using your platform to voice this! ❤
My favorite video you have ever posted. Thank you and bless you.
I am so sorry you were treated so badly by the church. Your story makes me realize that I can do more in my community. God bless all of you.
Well, I am glad to be in your life and I would notice for sure if you packed up and moved away! I know I've told Tawra but, I lived within 2 miles from my whole family and my husbands whole family and I have so serious health and pain problems. When we moved up north by Tawra and Mike, I got my very first meal from someone who actually cared. It really opened my eyes to a true friendship and showed me a little more how to be a better person. The meal was of course great, however the love and time she took to make me feel a little better was something I will probably never be able to truly repay. Tawra and Mike are not just "talk" they are true and genuine. Take the time to pay it forward. A little kindness could change someone else's life. Love you Tawra, Mike and Jill
AWWW thanks! I'm glad to have you as a friend. :-)
Jamie- LOVE U MORE SOAPS thank you for sharing that sweet little story with us. It has confirmed my feelings about Mike and Tawra, that they are beautiful, loving people and true Christians.
This is the most moving and beautiful show I have ever seen from you all! This is a call for action!!! Thank you Jill, Mike, and Tawra for sharing a piece of yourself with us!
Tawra this just tore my heart out that no one would help you, David and Jill. You can know that if I had known ya'll then that I would of helped ya'll to the end.
I remember when my father died of cancer and after the funeral we went back to my aunt and uncle house for the awake and when It was time to go home I asked if could take a meatball sandwich home cause we didn't have any food in the house. My aunt and uncle said no they were going to use the leftovers for a party they were having later on. That hurt me so much because me and mom were going home to nothing. I was told later on by other people that all that food at my dads awake was supposed to go home with my mom and me . I never forgot that .
That is so sad.
Lord God, please help me to have eyes to see and ears to hear those that are in need...
Watching and re-watching...already commented but...one thing is for sure my daddy who was a single dad after my mom left him with 5 little girls, one not biolocally his..will forever be my hero. He raised us from 28 years of age on his own for several years until he married my step mother, at which time he took on the responsibility of her daughter also. We never went hungry, we had a nice home...life wasn't perfect but I have NEVER doubted his love..he is 81 now and battling ahlzheimers...my outlook on all this is...be thankful...you Have A great parent who sacrificed so much for you. Tawra my friend you have a beautiful mother, wonderful husband, beautiful children...i have 2 beautiful children...we have to concentrate on the good in life...theres so much of that too. God bless you good hearted friend.😍
I agree. I go to a church that is filled with "career" women who make tons of money to buy fake nails, fake hair, and big cars and homes. It makes me upset that they have no time to serve others. Me, on the other hand, live on 500.00 a week with 5 children and I buy tons of crafts, snacks, and supplies that I do not have the money for. I even mow the lawn of the church and clean portions of the church. We serve the older shut-in men and woman by raking lawns and helping them. We serve at our camp for 5 weeks out of the year for free. We live on bare bones budget
....... I can't get women to even want to teach Sunday School, Woman"s Bible studies, Nursery, or Funeral dinners. People have become "lovers of themselves" instead of lovers of God. No one has time!!! It seems that since I am a stay-at-home mom, I should be the one to "do" everything because I have"time". I love to serve, but I wish someone would see that a gas card would be great once in a while.
I was in the same church from childhood through about 35 years old. I was involved in music ministry as a choir member and cantor in all that time and knew many, many people in the parish. They came to my high school, college, and graduate school graduation partied. They came to my engagement party. When I lost my brother to a drug overdose and broke off my wedding engagement all in the same year, I had a lot of emotional problems. My choir director called me a "distraction" and asked me to leave the choir I had been a part of for over 20 years. No one in the choir supported or reached out to me. I asked the pastor for help and was ignored. It is a major hurt in my life and the reason I am no longer involved in organized religion. I understand Christians are still imperfect humans but the church should reach out and do more. It appears I am not alone in my experience.
Sophie's Mom you are not alone. So sorry u had to go through that.
So sorry noone was there for you.
It just really makes me happy that you guys have thousands of people who do care about you now!
I feel so bad for how you were treated. I have belonged to our Catholic church for 20 years. I am a volunteer for their meals on wheels program through the church. It makes my heart feel so good to bring people hot meals. My route is mostly the elderly who don't have much at all to live on. They are so happy to see me. I am glad that I am part of something that means so much to those I am helping. I am so sorry that you guys were treated so badly.
Thank you for sharing this video. I'm going through this with my family.. sad to say, they say one thing but don't follow up on it, and or they have a get together and forget to invite us and then the other family members say hey why weren't you there.? And we say we did not know that the get together even existed and were not included 😫😫 it's so frustrating, we just moved up here to be closer to them and they don't want us they don't want to connect, but they will only connect if it is good for them or they get something out of it. It's not just church it is everywhere sad to say, and it hurts a lot. I have given up on them because I'm to upset to go through the pain again.
Margaret FoodCraftsandFun Same thing with my family. I was never invited. Easily forgotten. I had to cut them all out of my life. I got tired of the constant heart breaks from my "family". They never should've adopted me.
I have never commented but this hit home with me in such a big way. I can relate with you and your mom with all that you said. I really needed to hear this because sometimes I really wonder if it's me that makes people not want to be my friend at church. I don't want to go to home fellowships or women's ministry or any ministry for that matter. Thanks for speaking the truth and for sharing your hearts.
"Teach them to succeed at the right things" Such a precious family
What an excellent video. I have been very fortunate to not have any illnesses but the message of helping others is always good to hear. Love your channel.
I told my youth pastor the same thing Jill said about the youth going out and being helpful instead of having fun all the time and I was told the same thing.
When my parents divorced in the early 80's, the church we had attended my entire childhood, told my mother she could no longer be a church member and they revoked her membership. It crushed my mother and we stopped going to church. What they did not know was that my father was abusive to all of us. My mother finally found the strength to leave my father and she saved us from that mental, physical, and sexual abuse. I appreciate you doing this video and I am searching my heart to see where I have failed in helping and can improve.
I enjoy this series. I truly appreciate you opening up and showing your emotions. So many people are in the same/similar boat, but won't talk about it. I love you guys! You've taught me soo much, and I even find myself making my way back to God slowly. You are all in my prayers every day. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being you and showing people - no matter the situation - you can rise above and succeed. Much love!
Again Jill and Tawra, thank you so much! I too know exactly what you are talking about. I went to a church for 16 years and my 3 children were actively involved in youth group, children's church, etc. I had been in the choir for many years. I was a part of any ministry I could be of help. Then, a year before I left that church I pulled out of all the things I was involved in, and ya know what? I don't think anybody noticed I was gone. I once made the statement to my sister , "I could be bleeding to death in the pew and I'm not sure anybody would notice I was dying". There has been such a disconnect in the church as a whole that it is sad. Simple word but full of so much more than I can convey. My heart is broken for the long ago church bodies that actually cared about people and their problems. Here's an example of just what you are talking about. about 6 years ago my , now 91 year old mom fell and my sister and I were the only ones taking care of her out of 5 children, (story within itself) and the church she has attended for over 50 years has yet to bring the first meal or do anything. The pastor said, "just call if you need anything". Six years later we are still waiting for that "anything". This is one reason why I still have to go through a process to drag myself to a church on Sunday that I feel absolutely no connection to and can't wait to leave. I feel like I need to give my tithe somewhere and believe God has told me its there. So I make myself go as often as I can make myself. Anyway, I'm praying for you and your family. Add me to your list. That'd be good. Thank you for your awesome testimonies! I so appreciate them.
I like your long video's keep them up! Love you all! Lennie
oh I am so sorry this happened to you with the church, but you know my mama told us kids that if you give to the poor something you would not use, eat or wear then you should not give anything.
When my kids were little we had a crisis of unemployment. We had nothing coming in. The church helped us. They gave us boxes and boxes of expired food. Some of the food was 12 years old! At least 90% of it was thrown in the trash. I was disgusted.
I will be 56 in Dec. My grandpa was a preacher I was in church everyday that church was going on . I can remember the Sunday dinners at church where everyone was like family . All about helping people if there was a death in someone's family even if they didn't come to our church there would be a full meal cooked , and taken to the home for the family so they didn't have to worry about cooking .There was always enough food to feed these people for days. People just don't even care anymore :(
I told above about having to stop and buy soup on the way home to my mother's house from my mother's funeral. Things used to be so different. When my father was dying of cancer, my mother and I didn't cook for at least a month, plus all that was done for us during the time of the funeral. Not just by our own church and neighbors, but by my grandmother's church. When my mother and I ran home to eat and change or catch a little nap, someone had always left a good meal. I stayed in town with my mother an extra week just to help write all the thank you notes and return all the accumulated dishes that weren't hers.
PREACH!!!!!!! I too have recently distanced myself from church group meetings. I cannot tolerate crybaby mediocre issues while I'm fighting to get inhalers and meds for my nebulizer. Because I like to breath. God bless u guys, thank u for ur content.
My four year old granddaughter told me she didn't want to die = she just likes to breathe (found out that they had goldfish that died.....) are you able to tell your doctor that you can't afford your inhalers and does he /she have samples of the drugs you use? get on support groups for asthmatics - they may be able to provide ideas on how to get help. Wish I could help you more.
Mike is right, as I became more aware of this young girl's situation, the more upset and sad I realised she was, the more secrets she told me, I was a little overwhelmed. I thought it would become a 24/7 thing helping her, but it really wasn't. She seems so much better now. I grew up in a family that didn't talk to each other, that didn't show affection, talk about feelings and emotions, yes I still to this day struggle to talk about MY problems but I love to try and help others with theirs.
Thanks so much, what you said is so true of society in general... people need to focus on talking and listening to people. I'm so thankful I grew up in a small community where everyone cared... they still do 😊
This is your best message of all of them. If we are too busy to care and reach out, we are going the wrong direction. The Lord sees, He will hold us accountable for our neglect. Well spoken.
Made my shopping list to make a meal for someone else. Something I normally do but haven't for awhile so this even got my butt back in gear, thanks as always xx
A feel for you, we left one church because of just what you are talking about, and in Gods blessing He put us in a church where many(not all) walked the talk, and when I was in the hospital for two months, they stepped up and helped my husband, but it is so true, so many Christians do not want to step out of their comfort zones. My husband and I have always tried to help those when we are aware of a need and as we get older we try to be more aware of those around us and I pray that God gives us the wisdom when we need it... Thank you for saying what needed to be said :)
This is exactly what I have been saying for a very long time. People don't care about anyone else anymore. They seem to be self centered and self serving. They don't stop to think about what someone else might be going through. Thank you Jill for saying other people might be going through this and wonder if it is just them. That is exactly what i have been thinking. I went to a church for 8 years and one morning the ministers wife was greeting at the door. She shook my hand and said "Do I know you"? I never went back. I was dumbfounded.
Don't feel bad. Mike was on staff and worked with the pastor at a church and he didn't even know my name. So sad but we do have to remember they are just people and not everyone is like that.
Well said !! I asked for help like you , I was rejected too , I live on my own ,so I totally understand
I appreciate your honesty....
I have felt just about everything you have put into words. Often times the functions at the church seem so . . . empty, . . . frivolous. I have pulled away, to the shagrin of my husband. I still love my God, but the church has just seemed "empty". I don't know how else to describe it. I pray we can find a good one when we move.
I want to recommend this series to my pastor.
Aaaammmennn! We are in the same boat! THANK YOU for speaking out! Something has got to change in the church!
I wish you lived in my area! Our church is lovely. It's small and we are always looking for ways to help in the community. I have been to numerous churches like you explained and I know how blessed we were to find this church!!
Thank you Tawra and Jill for putting things into perspective. ❤️ Loving others and living like Christ is not putting yourself first! You all encourage me so much.
Amen Tawra! You are so right! Mike and Jill too. Isn’t it pitiful what is going on in this world and our churches! People have become so self absorbed. I’m in that mass that cannot find a church that I feel connected to. Sad. Love you and all ❤️❤️ (((Hugs)))
This may seem selfish of me but I haven't been to church in 15 years because of church people! My church are the homesteading real people on RUclips who are so encouraging in my life. Thanks for the awesome ! You provide! Bless you guys!
Thank you for this video. I attended a church for 2 years and the pastor never bothered to know my name. I have been in church basically all my life but I have quit going because of the disconnect. Love you guys and thank you for all you do!
It's the Laodecian spirit that was foretold about the last days of the church. We go to and fro on the earth staying busy in the world but not doing the Lord's business. The business of helping people and saving souls. I tend to be introverted in crowds or around strangers until I get to know them. I'm fine one on one. My health is so bad I hardly get out of the house anymore as I stay in chronic pain. I live alone and it would be so nice to have help sometimes doing things I can't do or just even having a friend to talk to. So I get what you are saying. I'm so sorry that the church let you down and that food thing made me angry. People need to wake up and realized we will be judged for what we do, say, and how we act and what we don't do when the opportunity to help avails itself. But also we need for people to speak up when they have a need because not all people can see it and they can't read minds. I pray the Lord brings us a real heart and eye opening revival.
I am so sorry for your pain. I have had such bad experiences in churches from rude and self focused people. It is sad and pathetic.
Okay maybe this was not your agenda for this video, but you did an amazing job on this truly. I am at work and watching this and was crying along with you. Thank goodness I work in a slow moving office. It is sad that everyone is self absorbed and we do need to step up as Christians, those of us who are willing and put our hearts out there. Thank you for this.
WOW! I SO AGREE AND HAVE BEEN SAYING THIS FOR YEARS..Thought I was alone in this, thank you for encouragement and truth.
Thank you. I have felt that way also. I have sat behind someone for over three and still have not talked with her, but it works both ways- I have not attempted to speak to her either.
I am making myself watch this video multiple times. Lord, examine me.
Tawra,
I'm sending this so you know the wonderful ripples that you and your Mom have started. I happened to be rolling out and cooking some homemade chicken dumpling noodles as I watched your video. As you both talked and my house filled with the smell of comfort, I thought of my neighbor who is not well. Directly because of your words I packed up some hot noodles and soup in a disposable container, wrote a note on it and walked across the lawns to do the unthinkable....ring a doorbell without an invitation. Our neighbor was touched and appreciative beyond words and so am I . Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Oh wow!! That is so nice!!! Thank you for taking the time to care!
Diane Rokuskie i cried when i read this. The world needs more people like you! You followed thru! Some say theyre gonna do this or that..but no time. ❤Hugs!
This is an eye opener for me. To be a better Christian and to really be there for people. U are a true example of what a true Christian. I do really love listening to u both.
I hear ya Tawra! I was in group therapy,,,and I had to stop. I told the counselors, it is wrong, when people would rather use thier 'illness' for a crutch, a competition on who had the worse week, instead of trying to do the 'homework' etc to help themselves,,, it was time to leave. I would leave feeling worse, than better. So I quit.
Hey Tawra,,,, search out Messianic groups!!! Those people DO help each other. I have found out in those groups, besides worshiping Yahweh (G-d),,, no matter how poor or down and out they are,,, they are STILL willing to help. At least most of them I have met! Totally DIFFERENT type of people than found in "Christian" churches. AND they follow the Bible closer too!!! Mike, you talk about the older ways of getting together, etc,,, that is exactly what I have found in Messianic congregations. Most actually meet in smaller groups in each others homes. Sooooo different!!!!
Thank you for sharing. This just breaks my heart what you went through and still deal with today. I feel your pain. I want you to know I just love all your videos! Keep up the awesome work. I am a single mother of 3 and sometimes it’s very difficult when you can’t rely on others and even when it is the church! With no family around it sometimes feel like an island. I like how you keep it real and everything you shared in this video. So true! Materialism can just eat people alive and skew ones reality of what they are truly missing in life.
I have just recently found your videos , they are such a blessing hearing your stories God bless each of you
I believe in giving of oneself....I do not belong to a house of worship, but god sees me and what I do in my community. Hugs you guys!!!!
What it does is let me know I am not alone. That is why I have RUclips friends.
Love this video! I hope this will open some peoples eyes. So So true! God Bless you all!!
Nothing but the truth!!!! I am so happy to hear you all speak on this, Its not your home church.
Thank you so much. People get blessed by helping others not giving them the scraps. Hugs to you all.
I know this is an old video but it's certainly not an old message.
Your honesty and sincerity moved me to tears. We truly need to take care of others and put other people's needs before our own. To take a step back and put our own needs on hold, so we can assist another with what they are going through, their trials, etc.
Too much talking about it, and not just in the Church, and not enough `doing/acting.`
Thankyou so so much for this ❤️
Thank you all so much for speaking the truth. I was employed at another church for almost 4 years. A lot of churches in my opinion are much like what you are describing. I have felt very lonely in my current church for a long time now. If I mentioned this (as I have done before) they would respond by suggesting things like, "Are you involved in a bible study or small group?". It's about RELATIONSHIP people!! Just like Mike touched on, I can watch a video and read the bible at home. I have been through all of it. I have also been an AWANA leader for over 10 years. I now feel that although some of these programs are good for the kids, some workers are over burdened with "church duties" and it sometimes shows. Don't even get me started on all the snacks at church! Good lordy!
Good reminder to be kind and listen.
Thank You another great video:)
This makes me realize how blessed I really am because I have never attended regularly to a church that didn't reach out to me! The church I'm at now did TWO fundraisers when we had a tragic death in the family! And I had a few people come up to me and say when you're ready I want to meet you for lunch! Only one of them forgot about it! I'm the one that doesn't always want interaction. Mostly because I don't have money to go out to eat! And if it wasn't clear that they're going to pay for it then I don't get back to them. I'm kind of in a situation similar to Jill. I'm without enough money to do anything but survive. I'm searching for more and better ways to get more money coming in. I would appreciate prayers for this!
Hi Tawra and mama Jill and also Mike. I am Utsha from India. It is exactly one year now that i have suscribed to your channel and have been watching all of the videos especially "penny pinching mama is my favourite". thank you so much caring to share you life story and hurts of the past, i know it is not easy. I relate to you coz i also suffer from cronic sickness but i have no idea what it is. i am just tired all the time. Watching your videos inspires me and makes me bold. Thank you. Mike is great and grandMama Jill is my favourite. Love you Tawra.
Really enjoyed Jill stories! Amazing such honesty
This video brought to mind when my hubby and I were searching for a church and thought we had finally found a good one. We had been regularly attending about 9 months when my dad suddenly passed away. We thought we had made several friends, so I called one to report I wouldn't be at the women's Bible study group that evening because my dad had passed that day. She said she was sorry about my dad. I didn't call anyone else because I thought she would pass the information on at study group. We never heard from anyone connected with the church again, not any of our church "friends", the pastor or his wife, the Bible study group women that I had thought were my friends, nobody. Needless to say, we never went back. After we quit going, we never heard from anyone asking if we were ok or if we had died or moved or what had happened to us; however, we did receive 3 months later our offering envelopes in the mail for the next year! So I totally understand where you're coming from. People are not important anymore, just what you have to give to the church, receiving is a thing of the past. It's so sad and discouraging. Too bad we don't live closer. We could start our own people-caring church. I know how to go to Kroger and buy rotisserie chicken lol. Much love and prayer, Carla xoxo
I tried to teach my 2 yr. old about "the sad people in Houston (putting it in 2 yr. old lingo)". We then (both of us) baked 3 dozen fresh cookies. and delivered them tob the church, to help him actually see that these were real people (not characters on the t.v.) - and he was 2, so the excuse of "I have children, so I can't do anything" is just that - an excuse!
I needed to hear this! We are LDS in a small town in rural Minnesota..so our church has about 50 active members. Sometimes I think it would be easier to go to a bigger church....less callings/responsibilities etc. If we are gone on a Sunday and don't give someone the heads up....we will have multiple texts during church. I had surgery this week and lots of people checking on me. Everyone is loved and special in our little chapel, I guess being part of a small congregation has a lot of perks!
I am watching this for years after the fact. It is absolutely shatters my heart… Some of your stories. I’m so sorry that people behave this way. God bless all of you. Although this shatters my heart and I feel so bad, it also inspires me and opens 💕💕💕💕 my eyes at the same time. Thank you💕💕💕💕
Bless your hearts. That needed to be brought out and said alright. Thank you for your videos and all the work you put into them. :)
Oh my gosh!!!! I needed so much to hear this today. I can relate from both sides of the coin . . . both as the one in need AND the one who was too wrapped up in my own world to be a light for someone else. I realize this was a difficult and emotional conversation for you all , but many of us needed to hear it. I am sure going to pray about how I can make a change in myself. Thank you!
It's soooooo sad to hear all that you've been through & that there was soooo little caring & practical love from your church family! We were beyond blessed to have our previous church bring us a meal once a week for a year when I first became bedridden with CFS/ME, then the second year they brought a meal every 2 weeks to give my Super Hero Hubby a breather from cooking ....and they were delicious meals, usually with dessert too! It was definitely a wonderfully caring church family to be blessed with. 🥰 Blessings from South Australia💕🐨
We belong to a church where people not all but some knew I wasn't well. It's been 8 months and we heard from them only to let us know they are making a new directory. No phone calls or visits nothing.
We are in the process of changing.
I went to a new church when we moved into that area, sat down in a pew, and a couple came up to me and said "you are sitting in our spot" I moved to the back of the church into the hard chair area..I thought that maybe the family would be there later, nobody but those two sat there...no one came and welcomed me...I didn't go back.
We all need to help are neighbors and community and country. One of my children's good friends was kicked out of their home on the night before thanksgiving. My child call me and explained what happened and say Mom can I bring my friend home because they have nowhere to go, their family all live in Arizona.I say bring your friend home and we will see how we can help later. Unfortunately this friend only had the cloths on their back when they were kick out. So we when to the store on thanksgiving and bought toiletries and pajamas and cloths for them to wear. We all had thanksgiving dinner together and had them there for almost a month. It's was very rewarding to help an individual person with their situation and they where so thankful for the help and understanding especially during the holidays when most people are are to busy to help others.
Thank you for this video. I learn't a lot from you guys
So many good points for all to hear. Love your honesty and heart!
Ur story inspires me. "Stop being so busy"
Thank you!
I agree people are so wrapped in them selves too much and sometimes a simple conversation can bring some joy and can mean so much more than some realize. I love the idea you had for your church teenagers.
What do you mean you can't learn social skills off of youtube? LOL Do you know how many conversations I start with "I was watching this couple on you-tube the other day and they were talking about..."
LOL!!!
Ladies and Mike. You are not alone in this. I've gone to the same church for 14 years. They are a great mid-size church with community outreach programs and small-groups to help people connect. BUT, for people like me who cannot get to a small group, using those means to connect with others is not an option. I have been home bound since January (for almost 10 months) and not one person, after 14 years, has bothered to call or even message on Facebook to see if everything is okay. They see my hubby and ask about me, but never contact me directly. I have no friends here. None, really. I'm not sure that I blame them as much as I blame our American culture of busy-ness. I can recall these same issues at church when I was a teenager. It was so bad, my parents started a "newcomers" social at our home to help the new folks connect. Nowadays, even the regulars cannot seem to connect. I'm so stinking lonely it's not even funny. I'm not bitter or resentful but I pray all the time that God would just send me a friend. Somebody. I'm stuck at home because of health issues - can't even get in a car to go anywhere without becoming very ill. So, all that to say, you are not alone in your observations and experiences. God bless you guys for sharing! 🙂🌻
I’m with you Tawra. It’s not about keeping the children entertained. Shame on those women for shooting you down. It’s always important to learn new skills.
Thank you that's why I stop going to church because of the same thing and my family is the same has well
It takes alot of guts to talk about this.Thankyou
I’m in agreement with you 100%. Since my stroke and having to learn all over again like a toddler how to do the simple things in life. 99% of the people we know walked away from us like I’m contagious. If it’s not hard enough to have this terrible thing happen and try to deal with it, on top of it the people we know have turned away from us. It makes my husband and I so sad. We were always there to help anyone and everyone we came in contact with. Now that I can’t physically do anything for anyone...let alone for myself I’m not useful to them. I’m pretty much done. 😞
I can relate to this video. My husband had cancer...he passed late last year. The sicker he got in the last couple of months, the visitors got fewer. Some of the Chaplins continued the visits, but not as often. It was sad to see him become depressed, feeling like no one cared.
I am now in my own cancer journey. I have had very few people from church visit. I just move forward. Tawra is so right about how people just go on with THEIR own lives. They forget those in need. May God bless you and your family!
I am sorry for your loss and the way your husband was treated. Praying for you TheCreativeChica!
I volunteer in various areas but you've inspired me to try harder to help others, thank you! Listening to your story, I haven't heard either of you mention anything about social services? I volunteer with an agency and there are options for families like yours, were there none then? Thank you for sharing, I think it will help others and remind us all to care. I'm reminded of Jesus when he said, I was hungry and you fed me. That's Christianity.
Helping is free and kind ! Best video ever!
Amen! I have been saying this for awhile... thank you for the conviction! :)
@jillcooper... I had a big life change. To date, years later, no one ever showed up. I have my son and grandson. No one else ever even just stopped by. My heart goes out to you.
Such an important topic. Thank you for having the courage to speak out. My Bible Says "Labour not to be rich:Cease from thy own wisdom. Bestow not the gifts that God has given you,to get worldly riches." Proverbs 23:4 We have things so backwards in this society of plenty. We get so busy making earthly riches that we forget about the eternal ones. I fear what Tara said may be correct that it may be to late. Then I remember to be the good in the world that I want to see. The salt and light. Thank you for such an important message. If I lived next to you ....you both would be getting a hot meal this week💓💓