When he said "Journals are also good to go through" my jaw dropped. Journals are extremely private things and should NEVER be looked through. I can tell you right now that if you do this to your kids, they will resent you and as soon as they move out, go as far away from you as possible. Kids are people too, they deserve privacy.
@@calebdonaldson7044have you ever heard of having a conversation? A good parent would talk with their child and let them know they're house is always a safe space for them. Not invade their fucking privacy and make them feel like they live in a jail cell. If the only way you can tell your kid is going through something is by reading through their fucking PRIVATE diary. Than you've already failed as a parent. Please don't ever have children unless your mindset changes.
The thing LOTS of parents fail to understand is that if you DON'T snoop into your kids' things and invade their privacy, they're far more likely to trust you and share the more sensitive topics with you. When you search their stuff, you're essentially telling them you're looking to condemn them and making them not want to tell you stuff.
Yeah its reverse psychology and also literally anyone will hide things much more if they are under suspicion of hiding things. They will be like well I have to hide it better theres no turning back now.
What he's actually trying to say is: "It's important to search your child's room regularly, in order to teach them the valuable skill that is hiding their shit in a different room."
Holy shit you're right. Like damn, I can understand doing this if you actually suspect that your kid might be on drugs/dealing drugs or other serious crimes but he made it seem like he was trying to normalize doing this all the time even when you think your kid hasn't done anything.
No, kids are programmed bio machines that are turning into a perfect being in closed rooms, but it only works if they are controlled and isolated from their personal space
As a former kid with a very strict mom, this hit too close to home. Whenever she would lose things, I was automatically blamed. My room was searched like a prison cell every week, even little things were pointed out and questioned. She lost a lighter one time, and immediately went to my room and started yelling while flipping my entire room upside-down to find something that I didn't have. I had just cleaned my room too, made it spotless and even organized. After a little bit of her tearing up my room, my brother came in holding her lighter. He found it where she was sitting. She sat on it without realizing. Parents, please give your kid privacy. I understand not wanting them to do bad things behind your back, but with enough trust and _gained_ (not forced) respect, they won't ever do that. Helicopter parenting and being overly strict only pushes them away faster. As soon as I turned 18 I got a minivan and drove away. Kids are people just like you, and just like you, they value privacy. If you don't want your kid going through your room, don't go through theirs(unless absolutely necessary). Thats the shit that gets you sent to a nursing home. Children aren't automatically sneaky, you teach them how to be sneaky by doing this.
The part where he says to check the journals too just angers me, I remember when I had stayed with my step-mother for a while and she had gone through my mini journal while I was asleep and I woke up to being told that she had called the cops on me for writing how I did not like the way she was abusing me and how it made me depressed, it was a vent journal and she apparently called the cops and had told them that I was suicidal and needed to be escorted to a hospital, I was traumatized, my trust had been completely ruined I was completely ashamed of expressing my feelings through any means after that and I do not write in any journal anymore as I now tend to unhealthy bottle things up instead and I was humiliated as the cops thought it necessary to have me in handcuffs in escorting me from the house to the hospital even though the only thing I was doing was sobbing in confusion and hurt and it only served to make me more depressed as the first time I was in that hospital for being “suicidal” I felt scared and alone and I did not know what was going to happen to me, I certainly did become suicidal after that, invading your child’s trust of privacy does mentally damage them in ways you might not realize, im still dealing with a lot of mental health issues that stem from that particular incident in my life, please do not be that kind of parent, if you suspect your kid of something have a calm and comfortable conversation with them and not in an accusing way but in a way where you let them know they can trust you and that you only want to help them, that lets your kids know you really care and that you do love them.
I like how they didn’t check under the bed or in the pillowcases which are like the most common areas to hide things but instead ripped apart every random knickknack
I'm a single mother of 3, and two of my kids are currently teenagers. This is the most pathetic parenting tip I've ever seen! I have NEVER even thought about doing something like this, because I want my kids to actually trust me, not to mention LIKE me and respect me as a parent. My firstborn is turning 20, and I'm proud to say I've managed to raise a wonderful human being, and I know that even though he's leaving the nest, he will still come home from time to time, and I will get to follow his journey. Because he grew up knowing that his mom trusted him to be smart, make healthy choices and wise decisions, and if he F'ed up, he could talk to me about it if he needed to, and no matter what he did to F up (which all normal kids do), his room was still his own private space, and I would never ruin his trust in me by doing something as disrespectful and humiliating as this sorry excuse for a parent.....
As my father always said : when my kid gets into a bad situation or made a stupid mistake, I want his first thought to be 'I need to call my dad' Not: "Oh shit my dad is gonna kill me, he can't find out"
That would require actually caring enough to put them into one. Not just leaving them a Denny's while on a road trip with their name and birthday on a piece of paper in their pocket.
Well I mean with all the school shootings teenagers of this generation been doing is good to be precautious at least. Not to the point of invasive privacy but not completely oblivious to the possibility of danger either. Not all kids are angels.
This is why I hurt so much for kids as a whole. It's so terrible how we as a society view such a massive group of people as pets that you can cage and control and not human beings with their own needs for dignity and respect. It's horrifying to see how normal this is treated by so many people. I hope kids never stop rebelling against this kind of behavior.
@@blue-lu3iz How do you know that it's JUST the parent's fault for having an aggressive kid? Besides, I have a right NOTtto cope by not feeling empathy for them.
As a kid I was always told "privacy is a privellage." As a teenager however they didn't follow that thank god. I will never understand the thought behind that. For your child, privacy is privacy. That's that. I've had friends who had their doors taken off as teens and i seriously can't imagine how much resentment I would have towards my parents if they did that to me.
Growing up, my room was never randomly searched for contraband or anything like that, but there was a distinct lack of trust between myself and my parents when it came to money. Every Christmas and birthday, half of the paper money I'd received would be immediately confiscated and "put away for college," and during the rest of the year for the large and most part I wasn't even allowed to spend my own money on things. Naturally, once college started I immediately became an impulse-buyer to make up for lost time, and to this day I'm still trying to tone that drive down. The most ridiculous example was when one classmate in 11th grade was trying to sell me his old PSP and a handful of games for $130, which was a great deal by 2008 standards. I had an ATM card at that time, but because of my upbringing I had the misconception that if I walked up to an ATM and withdrew my own money, my mother would somehow immediately know about it because she had to open the account with me, a minor. Long story short, I had to BEG my parents, at the age of 17, to access $130 of my own money from an ATM to buy this handheld game device from a classmate. And they, who know absolutely nothing about the video game economy, agreed to do it after several days only if I could negotiate the price down to $120. I had to lie to this classmate during that interlude and keep saying I "had my wallet in my other pants" or some BS because I'd have been embarrassed to tell the actual truth. Thankfully in the end, I got the PSP and paid my classmate the full price we agreed on without mommy and daddy knowing, but I felt like a complete fool for having to go through that whole damn process.
"You have every legal right to search your child's room." And your child has every legal right to move out when they're 18, break all contact and forget you ever existed.
this statement is just as true as it is sarcastic. sure, don't be a complete douchey overlord when it comes to your child's privacy, but you have the final say when it comes to raising *your* child. Your the freaking parent for goodness sakes, not the government or the schools. but anyways, i agree with allowing children some liberties, but instead of yelling at them if you suspect something, sit em down and have an honest heart-to-heart conversation with them. they'll respect you way more if you treat them as human beings rather than pets you can control. sorry for the rant and advice, hope this helps in your child raising
@@thomashornstein7085 I think knight was just talking about action and result, Kids are human beings too and naturally want free will, obviously if someone is going to order you around and give you no other choice your going to hate that person, there probably wasnt a slave in the history of the world that wanted to stay with thier master
Man that comment was kinda cringe. If my kid was fucking up and not following my reasonable rules, smoking weed in the house, failing school, etc., I’d probably be glad they’re gone. Doesn’t mean I wouldn’t still love them, but if they kept fucking up over and over again simply to *spite me* for being “uncool” I’d have no problem telling them to get the fuck out lmao. Like your comment sounds so whiny: “oh yea? You won’t let me do what I want?! Then I’m leaving and you won’t get to pay for all my shit anymore and deal with me!” Like okay, good luck son 😉
As a kid i had no privacy and now every adult scares me, seriously every time i hear foot steps near my room i get up quicker than my brain can process. Not to mention that because of the limited amount of trust, i've now managed to create a string of lies to not only my father, but while in DHS i lied to police, and i lied under oath to a judge and court, So if that's they lesson they want passed down to kids, they do a good damn job cuz i know i ain't the only one. Seriously, Don't do this to your kids. in fact in most cases, parents who do this to their kids are also majorly abusive in other forms normally emotionally and mentally, i hope whatever kids that officer has disowns and blocks him, because that is sick.
Violating their privacy because they're "just kids" is going to lead them to become insecure and will give them trust issues. It will also impede their growth. We all need privacy. Making mistakes is a natural part of growing up. I know this would absolutely destroy me if my parents searched and went through all of my private stuff without my permission.
@@DruidEnjoyer that’s what I really don’t get Regularly search your kids room for shit and they’ll hide everything somewhere else Hell, they might just leave a bunch of “containers” around to draw your eye so you don’t get suspicious
It’s not very respectful of privacy, but it could have details like drug use or suicidal thoughts. Plenty of teenagers and young adults die of both every year and it’s only better if more parents can catch on before their kids hurt themselves
@@aaronlandry3934 yeah, it could, but if you're worried about your kid maybe you should, y'know TALK TO THEM! Get them therapy, if you think tossing your kids room every 6 month is how to be a good parent then you might also need therapy.
@@rye872 Yeah, searching their room and finding evidence of something bad in their life is usually what leads to that. Even if the parents suspect it of their kids, their kids will probably deny it unless they’re caught. Only then can you actually have a conversation about it and think about getting them help like you said
My dad wants to constantly search my room and look through my phone. He yells at me when I tell him no, so it feels good knowing that I'm not the bonkers one in this situation
That’s only if they get lucky and the kid decides too stay in touch. As an example a major reason I moved to South Korea is family issues. I’d rather just not see them in my day to day life.
I dunno my dad was like this growing up and I hated it, obviously, and I, quite literally, hated him but now that Im older I kinda appreciate his strictness. Maybe it helps that he mellowed out with his age. At the very least i know for a fact that him being like this stopped me from doing *anything* illegal because I know he would find it somehow and I would disappoint him. It made me focus on school. There was a time that i despised him for it and I rebelled in college but at the end of the day I dont mind that he was like that.
My dad is ex army and we don't talk anymore, he got violent with me and I left. He regularly performed inspections like this, and refered to the house as a military base, just to give you some perspective
Don’t forget to make fun of your child for anything embarrassing in there as well as punish them for any wrong doing like curse words (dang, crap, etc)!!!
if someone has hacked your phone they most likely dont know you or even seen you but if someone finds your journal its more likely they know you and can black mail you and stuff (replying to 2 persons above me)
My parents did shit like this all through growing up. Took away my door and curtains for over two years just so that “I would have nothing to hide” among other crazy shit. It created problems that didn’t get solved in our relationship until I was well into my late twenties and after my twin brother hung himself in our apartment. If you’re a parent, don’t treat your kid like this ever.
@MA Aight fam have fun with that. The point is that doing what the cop is showing is a quick way to never hear from your kid again the moment they can get out from under your thumb.
@MA That's only if there's a legit reason to suspect that the kid is doing some illegal shit or getting themselves in trouble. However, if you're treating your kid like your property and invading their privacy and even going as far as to read their personal diary without any rhyme or reason all that time, even if there's literally no reason to suspect any wrongdoing, then maybe you are a piece of garbage that doesn't deserve kids. That's exactly what Charlie is saying and if you agree with the guy in the video then maybe you're already an abusive parent and if you're not a parent, then thank god.
@MA Really? My Dad was explained what risks there were to drinking and smoking, and I *still* don't do either. My mother tried to stop me masturbating because god, and I have a porn addiction.
I get parents wanting to make sure kids are safe, and kids are stupid sometimes, but doing this every six months for NO REASON is unacceptable. And unless there’s been reason to believe they may be considering self harm, I would NEVER search their diary.
He lists multiple items that could be bought online, why this guy isn’t searching every single thing delivered to his house is a good question especially with the regular prison cell inspection check
"Legally, you can search your child's room. There is no legal problem with that." Legally, you can also tell your child they are disappointing and worthless. There are absolutely 0 legal issues with this as well, and I encourage you to take advantage of that while parenting them.
I've been to jail. This is literally a shakedown. Even then, the corrections officers were doing their jobs and didn't sit us down to talk about drawings or empty bottles. Parents out there, you're not a CO. You're a parent. If you do this kind of thing, prepare for your kids to never talk to you again once they leave the house.
Yup. I was a CO in a jail. Can confirm that this is literally just a shakedown. I didn't even like doing it to grown men, I can't imagine how someone could justify doing that to a kid.
Speaking from experience, having your parents search your room as a teenager actually makes you want to do drugs FAR more. Now I have a propensity for drugs, and a real major anxiety problem about people being in my home/ room etc as an adult.
my parents searching through my phone has given me such severe anxiety even to this day. It’s happened 4-5 years ago at this point and i’m still paranoid. It really does hurt your child, don’t do thus
Your parents are just making sure your not looking at anything bad or doing doing anything bad. It's normal parenting stuff. The only reason you'd even get anxiety is if you were looking/doing something bad and hoping he wouldn't find out.
@@maybefoxtart nah bro, parents gave me an iphone when i started middle school without telling me they could see all my text messages and pictures that i took, then when i finally started making friends and made a joke about balls with 1 of my friends i suddenly got confronted and questioned and had to spend the next 4 years having to avoid text message and humiliatingly explaining to people how they shouldn't msg me because my parents can see it. graduated 3 years ago and it ruined my social life and i still have trust issues and 0 friends or personality
This isn’t just bad parenting advice, that’s exactly how correctional officers search prison cells. That guy was literally telling parents to treat their children like criminals. How has he not been fired yet?
@Chad I Had Your Mom When She Was Tight Thundercock Nah it's just basic psychology, if you treat people like prisoners they will feel like prisoners. It's a great way to lose all trust and make sure they never contact you willingly once they move out.
Hahahahah underrated comment because dads like this aren’t fucking involved, and even if they are they don’t pay attention and don’t remember anything. Fantastico!
when i was 8 my parents were starting to quite honestly beg me to ask them to buy me a diary. they asked so often that i was like okay please get me a diary. i wrote in it ONE time, next day after school it was gone and i was screamed at for a long time because i wrote that my friends and i loved a (male) band. been anxious and extremely depressed since! woohoo good parenting!
If you try and turn your child/parent relationship into a prisoner/warden dynamic, your prisoner won’t return to their prison the moment they’re given the chance
The worst part for me is the fact he’s telling you to check the journal. That’s all your secrets and the most private thing you have, that fully ruins your kids privacy more than ever.
Unfortunately many families don't believe their children should have privacy. Unfortunately for my family, I just treated them worse and worse until they finally gave up. Now I have next to no relationship with my parents and have a hard time emotionally connecting with anyone. I really can't blame them though - most of humanity is dumb as hell and has no idea what they're even doing for themselves to begin with lmao. I turned out okay enough though. Not happy with my life but I'm at least not a criminal, and I keep to myself and don't cause problems for myself or others!!
@@SplendidCoffee0 at this point I've chosen to not have children anyways, so even if I were to be just like them I at least wouldn't end up making someone else grow up like me and many other people did. Although I still try to question my beliefs every day and always try to be adaptive, because we can never be too sure what the future holds for us regardless of what we do or don't want 😝
When I was a lot younger, my mom found one of my sketchbooks while I was on vacation with my grandparents, and it was pretty much like a diary to me since I drew all of my thoughts and feelings into it, as well as drew pictures of shows/video games/etc. that I loved. What she did was look through EVERYTHING in that book, and then posted them ALL to Facebook without my permission. I was so angry with her, and I couldn’t do anything about it because I was states away. To this day I don’t show my art to her, and feel the need to hide anything that might have a close tie to myself. Mind you, I used to show her my drawings all the time when I was little, but ever since that happened I’ve stopped entirely. I know it sounds stupid, but she really broke my trust.
that’s the equivalent of a parent secretly listening in on their child’s therapy sessions, only to use everything they said in private with their therapist against them. fucked up man. hate the fact that i live in orange county with that fuck head.
My parents went so far as to drill my bedroom door to the floor so that I couldn’t close it. As a socially awkward teenage boy who had few friends and was too afraid to even try drugs or anything, this confused the hell out of me and made me resent them for as long as I lived there.
To be fair though, this is definitely something more for a troubled teenager rather than just a normal kid. This is for the concerned parents that will do anything for their kid, but their kid just got caught up with a bad crowd or isn’t very social and might have Depression. If parents find it early enough, they might be able to get their kids the help they need to live a good life instead of the life of an addict or no life.
@@aaronlandry3934 would be better to try and build a good relationship with your child, searching their rooms, even if you are concerned about them, would nly do harm, and if not, would only be a momentary solution
@@Gustoberg Parents aren’t mind readers. They can’t know to talk to their kids about issues affecting them if their kid hides it from them. Privacy really isn’t that important if your child could die if their parent doesn’t find out and take measures needed to get their kid help. Yeah, the teenager will probably be upset in the moment, but hey, wouldn’t you prefer your parents finding out and sending you to therapy after them telling you they love you instead of you keeping it secret and ending up strung out on Heroin in a few years? My cousin was a meth addict and hid it from his parents. He died at 22 from an overdose. Reality is sad sometimes and I really don’t value privacy over seeing something that tragic happen to another family
@@aaronlandry3934 You assume the parents are actually concerned about their kid's wellbeing and not their own sense of power. The latter is sadly far too common. Doing this to save your kid from heroin is one thing, but this video is clearly meant for controlling Karen-ass genetic progenitors who just want to remind their kid that they see them as nothing but property.
i love the idea that this man's son just isn't allowed to have anything in his room that can possibly contain anything like "no you arent allowed a wardrobe because you store a body in it just put your clothes on the floor dammit"
A message to parents: regularly searching your child's room causes them to feel the need to hide from you. If they are displaying negative behaviors this won't solve them, all it does is make them double down and dig in just to rebel against you.
This kind of behavior is why parents have kids that leave and cut all contact with them. I know a guy whose parents did that sort of crap. Any chance they had that he wasn't around they would root around his room for anything they could find. They did all kinds of crap, like this, and he hasn't spoken to them in over 15 years.
@@caroline537 that's cool to know, I'm adopted and can't be anymore grateful since I fell into the right hands (my parents can be fierce sometimes but they still love me). And yes, I do get that. These whole "adoption" things are sometimes frustrating to think about since there's so many to organize. You must love her so much. She's lucky for that. Sorry for my English and have a great day!
Was raised like this, I'm an adult now and if you want all of your kids to leave at 16-18 y/o and never talk to you again raise them like this. (don't matter if one of them was a prized golden child that got everything they wanted they will see your ways for what they are and leave as well)
My grandfather (who fostered me) used to search my room all the time. I always thought it was amusing that he thought I’d be stupid enough to keep shit he shouldn’t find in the room with me. He usually would just find stuff that was never even hidden but he disagreed with but it was all very arbitrary. He got really, very upset when he started finding post it notes saying shit like “nothing here!” “Look harder” “did you think it would be that easy?” He actually confronted me on these antagonizing notes and my response was simply that if he didn’t invade my privacy and show me that he doesn’t trust me; he wouldn’t be getting humiliated in this fashion. Suffice it to say that we don’t talk anymore.
Not gonna lie, the pipe highlighter and mountain dew hidden compartment are great products. Would buy. Thanks officer. Also, parents like this would drive their kids into drugs and alcohol as they'd want to act out. A complete lack of respect and privacy doesn't make you a better parent funny enough.
Yeah, they were. I had stuff like that when u was in school, and I loved it. Wasn't really of any use to me though because no one rifles through my stuff. See what I did there? Gunsley? Rifled? Yeah, you saw it
*Looks through child's wallet* "You'll see this here is money. This can be used in the streets to purchase illegal drugs and other contraband" *sloppily shoves cash into pocket*
Clearly this guy lives in fear because he sees every innocent object as a threat. I bet he's the kind of guy who would plant stuff in other people's belongings just to "prove" his false accusations so that he can feel good about his serious paranoia issues. Imagine him being a father, his home would be a prison.
My parents have the belief that they would only look through my stuff if they had a justifiable reason to do so. My parents know me well enough that I'd never do drugs or hide things from them. I'd tell them straight up instead of hiding shit. They have no reason to suspect me. I wish more parents had this mindset instead of treating their teenager as a rebel or a prisoner
My parents did the same thing. Although they had this thing where they can see what I've searching up online and commenting on youtube. Sure it gets weird but they just want to make sure I'm not doing anything bad.
As someone who is actually a counselor, if I had a nickel for every time a parent asked me “why does my child not like me/want to spend time with me” and then they tell me “oh I have their passwords to their social media, life 360 app, search their room, etc.”, I’d feel pretty financially secure. And it’s always kids who are well behaved too. And this is stuff parents have told me, if not just one parent doing all of this shit. Literally the biggest problem everyone has when it comes to any kind of bad relationship is COMMUNICATION. If you are concerned, TALK to your child without accusing them randomly. It’s not hard, that’s how being a decent person works.
yup helecopter parents love to pretend like the kid's hatred towards them is just coming out of no where then wonder why they want to get as far away as possible from them as soon as possible edit: I had a friend who had parents like this searching his room, checking his texts, alarm on window, literally like a prison. 1 year ago he only smoked weed and 2 days ago he shot up coke for the first time. Dont do this to your children, it will likely make everything much much worse.
@@God-ec8ni is this one of my parents? Because I swear they think they’re a god too. I can’t even question their intentions or vent about something personal about one of my parents without getting made out to a bad guy.
This man knows absolutely NOTHING about addiction, child psychology, or adolescent development. Do NOT do this with your kids ever. This parenting style backfires 100 percent of the time.
So if your child is on drugs how are you supposed to find them then? Cause I guarantee if you ask your kid they will say no and just get angry and defensive about it.
@@lawrencetalbot8346 there are so many behavioral signs that a child is on drugs and if a parent can't notice that in their kid it speaks on the parent
So you can get in trouble in Gunsolley's house for: -having an empty container -having keyboard cleaner -having drawn anything related to drugs or suicide (aka being an edgy teen) - having small plastic bags (they COULD have had drugs in them at some point) Wild. Living here would be miserable lmao
Best way to prevent drug addiction is to *educate your kids* on why it's bad. Not ignore them and then act like it's the kid's fault when they're not taught properly like Charlie says in the beginning
As an ex correctional officer, this is note for note exactly how we used to conduct searches in cells. Fucking tragic and disgusting that this is being done to children, don't treat your kids like prisoners when you should be talking to them like a respectful human being
I agree. my parents searched my stuff, but it was justified because when I was 12 or so, I was stealing their cards and stuff. Least for me it was justified. I can't imagine having this done to me for no reason
bro fr my parents changed my doorknob so i cant lock it and they're always suspicious that im "hiding something" i trusted you id tell you everything, i really would. i love my parents but i dont trust them with personal things about me.
Exactly...and he's showing the kid that's how to "respect someone's belongings." Teaching him all kind of messed up things about what "respect" is and what actions qualify as "respectful." If that kid ends up in a toxic & abusive relationship - either as the victim or the perpetrator - I won't be surprised. If this is how he treats his future partners, with this kind of "respect," then he will be a horrible partner himself...and a shitty father too. Hopefully he can break the cycle, but it will be in despite of the terrible lessons he's being taught right now.
My parents don’t search my room but they do go through my phone, use life360, make me keep my phone out of my room, no social media (which I totally get and don’t think I will get when I leave home anyway), etc. I don’t really know how I feel about it. Honestly it hasn’t affected me too much because I have nothing to hide and I love my parents more than anything. I don’t think it’s really affected our relationship and I guess it’s kept me out of trouble online but I do feel it’s unnecessary sometimes. The only thing I won’t do with my own kids is read their text messages. THAT really does feel like an invasion of privacy and I feel like I have to censor my own thoughts and feelings to make sure I don’t get in trouble with my parents. I’m 15 btw
I like how he says "Remove the child, *or in this case,* the teenager." Meaning that this fucking psychopath wants people to search their 5 year old sons bedroom cause they think he's snorting coke.
I mean what really gets me is why not just do this while your kid is at school? There’s a guaranteed 8 hour window your kid is out of the house and you can look for a stuff while your cleaning their room or bringing in new sheets or towels etc. I don’t see a problem with making sure your kids aren’t hiding drugs or a weapon especially if you suspect something.
@@lawrencetalbot8346 Yeah but it's devoiding your child of their privacy by searching their room. Even if you suspect something. Kids don't just use drugs because they think it's cool (while that can be the case sometimes, it's not often), teenagers often go through way too much during the last year of middle school and all throughout highschool, and they find ways to relieve themselves of that stress. Instead of just searching their room and then accusing them of literally everything they own as being a drug/alcohol hiding scheme, damaging whatever little trust they have of you left, you can just ask them what's going on, and they'll probably open up about it, without any trust being sacrificed.
No it’s not immoral to search a room in *your own house*. Parents are morally obligated to ensuring their kids aren’t doing bad things so it’s the opposite of immoral.
@@downfromthereeefters it goes both ways. If you severely comprise your child's privacy then the mistrust will go both ways. Your child won't trust you. And the people who are best at lying usually have these kinds of parent. There's a limit to restricting your kids and most of other problems can be ironed out by having honest conversations with their children.
What's weird about that Mtn Dew secret container is that the design is one that hasn't been used since like 2008. Just inexplicably having a Mtn Dew bottle from the late 2000s is really weird unless the person is a collector or something.
I know this will get lost in the comments, but will say if I had looked in my 16 year old brothers journal, he’d still be here today. Me and him would watch your videos all the time. I rewatch old videos we laughed at, and it makes me cry. We love you Charlie❤
@@chaoticneutral6288 what? the thing is its causing more damage when they hide things then when all the parents has to do is throw it in the trash or receive mental health. Do you even know how therapy works? Or child protective services. u and Charlie just sound like irresponsible people who want to justify their own illegal actions
indeed, my mom actually used to check my room and found my journal and started to read it out loud, making fun of what I wrote and I literally never again talked to her about private things in my life :c
Ah yes, the most important parenting lesson of them all - making sure you instill trust issues into your child before they’re able to live on their own
I remember when I was younger I was forbidden to swear, and I used writing as an overall outlet of emotion, and therefore a lot of my writing was very over the top with things like violence, but also cuss words and such, and I never showed it to anyone, but my parents at some point looked through my school stuff and my father found the writing and came to me with so much disappointment in his voice and so much judgement that it haunts me until today. It may sound a lot less bad than it is, but it felt terrible enough in the moment to now make me feel incredibly sick when I remember it. I think my parents only stopped going through my stuff because I at some point began snapping at them each time they did, mostly because I gained some kind of mental issue that if things aren't the way I left them I become extremely distressed and agitated. What does still bother me quite a lot is despite me being over 18 my mother hasn't learned how to knock or leave my room alone unless I am there. Teens need a lot of privacy, really. Searches wouldn't really stop whatever the parents suspect or worry about. If the parents find something once, the teens will just become more creative with hiding stuff.
I was an indoor kid and a video game nerd my entire childhood. If my parents had taken away my compressed air cans, it would've been a genuine inconvenience as I was using them for their intended purpose. 😂
i’m so done, i do struggle with a lot of drugs because im a teen and my mom knows but she thinks every time i have pc duster i’m trying to use it to get high 😭😭 like bro leave me the fuck alone i use it to clean my consoles
I was a correctional officer. The way he's training parents to search their kids room is the way we were trained to search cells. Not just actively searching but the way he told his kid to leave to room. Do not treat your kids like they're inmates
I work in a psych facility and we have the exact same methodology to searches. Both in rooms weekly and belongings when they’re admitted. I hate having to flip through diaries and yet he’s saying that it should be the norm for parents. Breaks my heart
Police officer here. If you take this route to parenting, you have essentially turned your kids into suspects and you have failed as a parent. Take an active role in yours kid’s life from day 1, be open and honest with them, and treat them like they’re a human being. Do that and they will be less likely to engage in substance abuse in the first place. They’re your kids, not inmates. Absolutely horrible advice from this sergeant.
Yep - I could do easily hide drugs from my very trusting parents, but I don't want to be anywhere near them, lol. My friend also has super trusting parents who give him privacy, and while he does smoke marijuana, once they found out, they just sat him down and talked and they've been trying to help him quit - and he WANTS to. It's a lot healthier than struggling with stuff and not telling out of fear of punishment
Dude, for real. Doesn't it seem like common sense that treating your children like this is just an all around bad idea? I mean, for God's sake, there's a MONUMENTAL differentiation between being a good, loving, strict, caring parent vs. being a fucking Nazi who forces their children to live under tyrant rule just because your career is with law enforcement. My mom was a cop, and she never changed her parenting style or utilized her job as a means of specific punishment, like homeboy is literally *telling and encouraging* other parents to do. Just, wow. How sad.
For real, it's worrying how many parents might take this seriously, since my parents already do stuff like this, but less often and more fair than this, but at least I'm not treated like a suspect, the "Get them out of the room so they don't distract you from doing a thorough search" felt more like a reason to get the kid out of their room so they can't stop you from invading their extremely personal items, like a diary. The "child out of room" tactic seriously just felt like the child was going to be an obstacle in the journey of ripping open all of their secrets and forcing yourself into their personal areas
He took his job as a sergeant way to seriously to the point that the treat his house hold like a fucking boot camp. His childrens are cadets and his wife is his general.
The journal bit! I felt for sure he was going to say "You have every legal right, but be very careful about violating boundaries when it comes to your child's journal." But no.
My mother went through my stuff like this and it is very heartbreaking knowing all of your things and personal diarys have been looked through I still have not forgiven her for this
“As a parent you have every right to search your child’s room. There is no legal wrong there.” If the only thing stopping you from being unethical or immoral are laws, then there are bigger issues at hand 😒
Looking through someone's diary or journal is the absolute lowest of the low. You're looking inside their head, and most likely one of the only places they feel comfortable.
Yeah I had that happen to me. My mom and aunt did it and I was so mad they wanted to make fun of a story that I wrote for myself, not for someone to read. People need to know boundaries.
The American Way Do nothing to prevent problems before they happen, punish the problems severely when they inevitably start happening, or if they dont happen, or whenever you feel like youre being questioned, or whenever you suspect something Look, all you have to remember is to punish your kids relentlessly for making the mistake of existing, and do absolutely nothing to help. Thats how American parents do things and its working perfectly with absolutely no problems at all ever.
My parents was like this, except *much* more religious. Turning 18 in a few weeks, I’m playing nice right now telling them what they want to hear but the second I’m legally an adult I won’t be talking to them ever again.
Can’t fathom why the kid would feel the need to hide anything, look at how respectfully gunsley treats all of their belongings. _Clearly_ this is an open and accepting household
I'm glad that my mother doesn't go through my stuff. I don't smoke, vape, do drugs, whatever and she knows that. If I'm in a bad mood she doesn't go through my discord frantically, she asks me what's up and if I don't wanna talk about it- she leaves it at that until I want to.
The best way to prevent adult addiction is to prevent child addiction. And the best way to prevent child addiction is to be an actually good parent who doesn't drive their kid to need escape.
i was laughing the whole video because this is literally exactly how my parents would treat me. the funniest part is charlie’s spot on commentary. i moved out at 17 and haven’t talked to my mom in 2.5 years 👍 do this if you never want to see your kids after 18
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Bruh his kid isn’t just a drug dealer, he’s the entire black market
this 40 year old teenager
@@gkpoo1773 yes
@@gkpoo1773 motherfuking .onion in the house
Not for long, he’s about to kill himself remember?
@@scootydad8093 true, he’ll sell everything on the black market first, that’s why it’s all in his room
"We want to respect our child's privacy."
"So your child's journal is a good place to search."
ikr thats what pissed me off the most
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Now seeing this guy do that made my blood boil
“Make sure you read and memorize allllll their secrets!”
6:50 ? He says "property". He might be aware he doesn't respect privacy. lol
When he said "Journals are also good to go through" my jaw dropped. Journals are extremely private things and should NEVER be looked through. I can tell you right now that if you do this to your kids, they will resent you and as soon as they move out, go as far away from you as possible.
Kids are people too, they deserve privacy.
If the journal has a lock on it, then that person unlocked what disrespect is like.
Nah. How would know if they were suicidal? Or to get help? Your definition of a good parent sounds like child neglect.
@@Wusgoinon that’s a very bad take.
@@calebdonaldson7044if ur kid is feeling suicidal that's u being a shitty parent, giving them less privacy just makes it worse
@@calebdonaldson7044have you ever heard of having a conversation? A good parent would talk with their child and let them know they're house is always a safe space for them. Not invade their fucking privacy and make them feel like they live in a jail cell. If the only way you can tell your kid is going through something is by reading through their fucking PRIVATE diary. Than you've already failed as a parent. Please don't ever have children unless your mindset changes.
The thing LOTS of parents fail to understand is that if you DON'T snoop into your kids' things and invade their privacy, they're far more likely to trust you and share the more sensitive topics with you. When you search their stuff, you're essentially telling them you're looking to condemn them and making them not want to tell you stuff.
You are so very right.
Yeah its reverse psychology and also literally anyone will hide things much more if they are under suspicion of hiding things. They will be like well I have to hide it better theres no turning back now.
Exactly. My overprotective parents made me not trust them and I never tell them when I'm struggling
What he's actually trying to say is: "It's important to search your child's room regularly, in order to teach them the valuable skill that is hiding their shit in a different room."
I hid my weed in my parents room
@@ethanl440 power move honestly
@@wowimstillalive5878 tf they gonna do say it’s mine?
@@ethanl440 that is the most powerful idea I’ve ever heard of 💀
@@ethanl440 fucking legendary bro
He doesn't ever once mention talking to your kids like they're also people.
Well put
Holy shit you're right. Like damn, I can understand doing this if you actually suspect that your kid might be on drugs/dealing drugs or other serious crimes but he made it seem like he was trying to normalize doing this all the time even when you think your kid hasn't done anything.
He is a cop so, you know
No, kids are programmed bio machines that are turning into a perfect being in closed rooms, but it only works if they are controlled and isolated from their personal space
Which is fucking nuts
As a former kid with a very strict mom, this hit too close to home. Whenever she would lose things, I was automatically blamed. My room was searched like a prison cell every week, even little things were pointed out and questioned. She lost a lighter one time, and immediately went to my room and started yelling while flipping my entire room upside-down to find something that I didn't have. I had just cleaned my room too, made it spotless and even organized. After a little bit of her tearing up my room, my brother came in holding her lighter. He found it where she was sitting. She sat on it without realizing.
Parents, please give your kid privacy. I understand not wanting them to do bad things behind your back, but with enough trust and _gained_ (not forced) respect, they won't ever do that. Helicopter parenting and being overly strict only pushes them away faster. As soon as I turned 18 I got a minivan and drove away. Kids are people just like you, and just like you, they value privacy. If you don't want your kid going through your room, don't go through theirs(unless absolutely necessary). Thats the shit that gets you sent to a nursing home.
Children aren't automatically sneaky, you teach them how to be sneaky by doing this.
Damn that sucks man... I hope you're doing well!
You say strict, I say narcissist. Sorry this happened to you. Parents are just regular people that had kids, and a lot of regular people are idiots.
100% agreed that kids aren’t usually very sneaky by nature, you condition them into being that way
You’re a girl huh?!
hope your doing well bro
The part where he says to check the journals too just angers me, I remember when I had stayed with my step-mother for a while and she had gone through my mini journal while I was asleep and I woke up to being told that she had called the cops on me for writing how I did not like the way she was abusing me and how it made me depressed, it was a vent journal and she apparently called the cops and had told them that I was suicidal and needed to be escorted to a hospital, I was traumatized, my trust had been completely ruined I was completely ashamed of expressing my feelings through any means after that and I do not write in any journal anymore as I now tend to unhealthy bottle things up instead and I was humiliated as the cops thought it necessary to have me in handcuffs in escorting me from the house to the hospital even though the only thing I was doing was sobbing in confusion and hurt and it only served to make me more depressed as the first time I was in that hospital for being “suicidal” I felt scared and alone and I did not know what was going to happen to me, I certainly did become suicidal after that, invading your child’s trust of privacy does mentally damage them in ways you might not realize, im still dealing with a lot of mental health issues that stem from that particular incident in my life, please do not be that kind of parent, if you suspect your kid of something have a calm and comfortable conversation with them and not in an accusing way but in a way where you let them know they can trust you and that you only want to help them, that lets your kids know you really care and that you do love them.
“Dead body in the closet, gonna wanna set that aside, have a little talk later.”
lmaoo
This comment is golden
Lmao
Thus goteth me deceased asf my lord
😂
Gunsley's kid is straight-up trying to get high in every way imaginable just to escape the pain of having him as a parent
Bro is huffing sharpies at this point
Mans is prolly turning on his car just to huff exhaust
I know people in my small town like that
Me as a teenager
@@huntinghighandlow8703 sniffing glue can be pretty lowkey so that works too
I like how they didn’t check under the bed or in the pillowcases which are like the most common areas to hide things but instead ripped apart every random knickknack
I'm a single mother of 3, and two of my kids are currently teenagers. This is the most pathetic parenting tip I've ever seen! I have NEVER even thought about doing something like this, because I want my kids to actually trust me, not to mention LIKE me and respect me as a parent. My firstborn is turning 20, and I'm proud to say I've managed to raise a wonderful human being, and I know that even though he's leaving the nest, he will still come home from time to time, and I will get to follow his journey. Because he grew up knowing that his mom trusted him to be smart, make healthy choices and wise decisions, and if he F'ed up, he could talk to me about it if he needed to, and no matter what he did to F up (which all normal kids do), his room was still his own private space, and I would never ruin his trust in me by doing something as disrespectful and humiliating as this sorry excuse for a parent.....
you're a good parent. thank you
@@CodenameVODID thank you for saying that :)
As my father always said : when my kid gets into a bad situation or made a stupid mistake, I want his first thought to be 'I need to call my dad'
Not: "Oh shit my dad is gonna kill me, he can't find out"
Thank you for being a good parent. I wish I had parents like you
Damn Nursing home speedrun world record holder looks sick ngl.
LMAO
any%?
@@thataintfalc0 nah this seemed pretty glitchless to me
That would require actually caring enough to put them into one. Not just leaving them a Denny's while on a road trip with their name and birthday on a piece of paper in their pocket.
@@house_cocoon a true any% speedrunner would have used the coma cheat to timeskip
I love how parents immediately assume their kid is doing drugs as soon as they are classified as a teenager lol
I swear if my mom thinks I’m doing drugs I’m jumping out the window again
I barely even leave the house 😂
@@bootynut1002 Again?!
@@bootynut1002 if jumping out the window is a common occurrence for you id assume you were on drugs too
Well I mean with all the school shootings teenagers of this generation been doing is good to be precautious at least. Not to the point of invasive privacy but not completely oblivious to the possibility of danger either. Not all kids are angels.
@@bootynut1002 that sounds like something a teenager on drugs tryingg to convince other people that hes not on drugs would say -_-
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"Now we know our son isn't just a criminal, but an extremely untalented one when it comes to art"
-Art Institutes in 1940's
That escalated quickly
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This is why I hurt so much for kids as a whole. It's so terrible how we as a society view such a massive group of people as pets that you can cage and control and not human beings with their own needs for dignity and respect. It's horrifying to see how normal this is treated by so many people. I hope kids never stop rebelling against this kind of behavior.
If you hurt so much for OTHER PEOPLE'S KIDS, then you're too sensitive of a human being.
@@blue-lu3iz What if the child is endangering other humans?
@@blue-lu3iz if someone's kid is being a legitimate danger to other people. You know what I'm talking about.
@@blue-lu3iz Oh, and stop hating on people who don't have unnecessary coping mechanisms like you do.
@@blue-lu3iz How do you know that it's JUST the parent's fault for having an aggressive kid? Besides, I have a right NOTtto cope by not feeling empathy for them.
Ah, the cop makes a good point, we should just send our kids to jail then they'll be safe from all drugs
even then there's more drugs in jail :D
@@aureosp1600 ohhh, so THAT was the joke. Thanks
@@jonathanoconnor450 its WAY EASIER TO GET HIGH IN JAIL AND FIND DRUGS then on the street.
@@pimpnlovepimpn4461 no wayyy 😱😱😱
I gotcha dawg. What you looking for 😂
No one wonder Gunsolley's son does so many drugs. Imagine having a parent like him.
All the drugs it's probably why he looks 30 years older.
That a fact btw ... Strict parents do creat worst kids i saw in my life !!!
He's probably selling weed to Kevin Spacey next door.
Honestly the fact he seem to be into weed is a fucking miracle. I'd be doing heroin, personally.
I feel like being such a horrible person to your child while also constantly telling them to not do drugs would just make them do it out of spite
The teen drew a goofy edgy drawing of a kid with a gun to their head as a BOOKMARK, this dude REMOVED HIS PAGE FROM THE BOOK BRO
As a kid I was always told "privacy is a privellage." As a teenager however they didn't follow that thank god. I will never understand the thought behind that. For your child, privacy is privacy. That's that. I've had friends who had their doors taken off as teens and i seriously can't imagine how much resentment I would have towards my parents if they did that to me.
It would be absolutely crazy if I had to live without my DOOR to MY room.
Parents like these are always confused as to why their children don’t talk to them anymore when they move out.
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Remember when the comment replys were people actually replying to the comment and not advertising and bots? Me neither
@@soft-boiled8545 comments have been trash either way
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Growing up, my room was never randomly searched for contraband or anything like that, but there was a distinct lack of trust between myself and my parents when it came to money. Every Christmas and birthday, half of the paper money I'd received would be immediately confiscated and "put away for college," and during the rest of the year for the large and most part I wasn't even allowed to spend my own money on things. Naturally, once college started I immediately became an impulse-buyer to make up for lost time, and to this day I'm still trying to tone that drive down.
The most ridiculous example was when one classmate in 11th grade was trying to sell me his old PSP and a handful of games for $130, which was a great deal by 2008 standards. I had an ATM card at that time, but because of my upbringing I had the misconception that if I walked up to an ATM and withdrew my own money, my mother would somehow immediately know about it because she had to open the account with me, a minor. Long story short, I had to BEG my parents, at the age of 17, to access $130 of my own money from an ATM to buy this handheld game device from a classmate. And they, who know absolutely nothing about the video game economy, agreed to do it after several days only if I could negotiate the price down to $120. I had to lie to this classmate during that interlude and keep saying I "had my wallet in my other pants" or some BS because I'd have been embarrassed to tell the actual truth. Thankfully in the end, I got the PSP and paid my classmate the full price we agreed on without mommy and daddy knowing, but I felt like a complete fool for having to go through that whole damn process.
Dang!! Wtf
8:58 as a child, you have every legal right to send your parents to a nursing home when they're older
"You have every legal right to search your child's room."
And your child has every legal right to move out when they're 18, break all contact and forget you ever existed.
this statement is just as true as it is sarcastic. sure, don't be a complete douchey overlord when it comes to your child's privacy, but you have the final say when it comes to raising *your* child. Your the freaking parent for goodness sakes, not the government or the schools. but anyways, i agree with allowing children some liberties, but instead of yelling at them if you suspect something, sit em down and have an honest heart-to-heart conversation with them. they'll respect you way more if you treat them as human beings rather than pets you can control. sorry for the rant and advice, hope this helps in your child raising
@@thomashornstein7085 I think knight was just talking about action and result, Kids are human beings too and naturally want free will, obviously if someone is going to order you around and give you no other choice your going to hate that person, there probably wasnt a slave in the history of the world that wanted to stay with thier master
except for the isrealites but that was after they left
Man that comment was kinda cringe. If my kid was fucking up and not following my reasonable rules, smoking weed in the house, failing school, etc., I’d probably be glad they’re gone. Doesn’t mean I wouldn’t still love them, but if they kept fucking up over and over again simply to *spite me* for being “uncool” I’d have no problem telling them to get the fuck out lmao.
Like your comment sounds so whiny: “oh yea? You won’t let me do what I want?! Then I’m leaving and you won’t get to pay for all my shit anymore and deal with me!”
Like okay, good luck son 😉
@@thomashornstein7085 he wasnt sarcastic
this kind of parenting doesn’t prevent bad behavior, it teaches the kids how to lie and deceive the parent
Seriously, all having controlling parents has done is teach me how to lie and hide my behavior
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Exactly!
A valuable skill!
can confirm i do know how to lie and deceive my parents
As a kid i had no privacy and now every adult scares me, seriously every time i hear foot steps near my room i get up quicker than my brain can process. Not to mention that because of the limited amount of trust, i've now managed to create a string of lies to not only my father, but while in DHS i lied to police, and i lied under oath to a judge and court, So if that's they lesson they want passed down to kids, they do a good damn job cuz i know i ain't the only one. Seriously, Don't do this to your kids. in fact in most cases, parents who do this to their kids are also majorly abusive in other forms normally emotionally and mentally, i hope whatever kids that officer has disowns and blocks him, because that is sick.
Are you a bot or just bad at grammar?
@@isaacandersen1 Maybe both
@@Account_nonexistent possible
i did this too
Violating their privacy because they're "just kids" is going to lead them to become insecure and will give them trust issues. It will also impede their growth. We all need privacy. Making mistakes is a natural part of growing up.
I know this would absolutely destroy me if my parents searched and went through all of my private stuff without my permission.
This doesn't feel like a psa, more so a guide to cleverly hiding drugs
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Ngl I kinda want to try this, I don't have anything to hide but still sounds pretty fun
I doubt any kid that has parents like that would hide the drugs in their room.
I legit want that Mt Dew bottle with the hidden compartment
@@DruidEnjoyer that’s what I really don’t get
Regularly search your kids room for shit and they’ll hide everything somewhere else
Hell, they might just leave a bunch of “containers” around to draw your eye so you don’t get suspicious
"Respect their privacy"
"Check their journals"
Perfectly balanced, as all things should be
It’s not very respectful of privacy, but it could have details like drug use or suicidal thoughts. Plenty of teenagers and young adults die of both every year and it’s only better if more parents can catch on before their kids hurt themselves
@@aaronlandry3934 whoooooooooosh
@@aaronlandry3934 yeah, it could, but if you're worried about your kid maybe you should, y'know TALK TO THEM! Get them therapy, if you think tossing your kids room every 6 month is how to be a good parent then you might also need therapy.
@@rye872 Yeah, searching their room and finding evidence of something bad in their life is usually what leads to that. Even if the parents suspect it of their kids, their kids will probably deny it unless they’re caught. Only then can you actually have a conversation about it and think about getting them help like you said
@@Berserk1Manga Ew! Reddit
My dad wants to constantly search my room and look through my phone. He yells at me when I tell him no, so it feels good knowing that I'm not the bonkers one in this situation
Having your stuff being looked through and having every single thing questioned is the worst feeling you can have as a kid
Just hide anything in his room
"Make sure you respect your child's property"
*literally less than 5 minutes later*
"Make sure you go through their journal too"
Also "What appears to be a highlighter" got me good
BREAKING NEWS: IF IT WORKS LIKE A HIGHLIGHTER, IT IS TECHNICALLY A HIGHLIGHTER
Parents that do this will unironically call their kids "their property".
my mom is like this and unironically refers to me as "the maid" lol
Well my parents property ran away and made a life for herself without them send a way better life they will ever have
@@penguengu9530 holy shit ;m; hope you're taking it well, sending love from africa -w-
Yeah
True, true.
This is the type of parenting that guarantees you a one-way ticket to an old folk's home when you get older.
That’s only if they get lucky and the kid decides too stay in touch. As an example a major reason I moved to South Korea is family issues. I’d rather just not see them in my day to day life.
thats an overstatement. Youd be lucky if your child even looks at your face
"Then we'll put you in the crooked home that we saw on 60 minutes!"
being too overprotective and not caring about your child is a great way to not be loved by your child
I dunno my dad was like this growing up and I hated it, obviously, and I, quite literally, hated him but now that Im older I kinda appreciate his strictness. Maybe it helps that he mellowed out with his age. At the very least i know for a fact that him being like this stopped me from doing *anything* illegal because I know he would find it somehow and I would disappoint him. It made me focus on school. There was a time that i despised him for it and I rebelled in college but at the end of the day I dont mind that he was like that.
My dad is ex army and we don't talk anymore, he got violent with me and I left. He regularly performed inspections like this, and refered to the house as a military base, just to give you some perspective
You had a cartoon character for a father
Gross
That pfp with that flag… 😒
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Me to myself: don't say it don't say it DONT SAY IT
5:50 "Kids use this to get high, and so do I"
*Sniffs*
So wonderful
That “teenager” would be a perfect cast for a new Netflix series
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Yeah that’s Jotaro levels of teenager
true
Lol This das is the dad who always talks about when they where a kid
Very true
"Journals are good to go through."
This guy really knows how to treat a child
Actually communicating with your child? Absurd!
Don’t forget to make fun of your child for anything embarrassing in there as well as punish them for any wrong doing like curse words (dang, crap, etc)!!!
@MA why put all your personnel secrets online where things can be hacked, hence why russia still uses hard copies
@MA a lot of people, sometimes locks are more useful to some people than phones.
if someone has hacked your phone they most likely dont know you or even seen you but if someone finds your journal its more likely they know you and can black mail you and stuff (replying to 2 persons above me)
*"Hey there, fellow kids. I sure do love playing Tetris on my good ole PlayStation."*
My parents did shit like this all through growing up. Took away my door and curtains for over two years just so that “I would have nothing to hide” among other crazy shit. It created problems that didn’t get solved in our relationship until I was well into my late twenties and after my twin brother hung himself in our apartment. If you’re a parent, don’t treat your kid like this ever.
So basically no privacy. That’s a great setting to raise a kid.
Fucking pull off their room door too while you're at it
And removed the walls as well
@@NegusInParis01 and why not install some nice 24/7 ultra 4K HD camera's with audio too
@@NegusInParis01 my parents did that because I dyed my hair lmaooo
make their siblings secret police
The worst part about this is when the kid grows up and has issues, the parents will not admit its their fault.
yup.
@MA Aight fam have fun with that. The point is that doing what the cop is showing is a quick way to never hear from your kid again the moment they can get out from under your thumb.
@MA That's only if there's a legit reason to suspect that the kid is doing some illegal shit or getting themselves in trouble. However, if you're treating your kid like your property and invading their privacy and even going as far as to read their personal diary without any rhyme or reason all that time, even if there's literally no reason to suspect any wrongdoing, then maybe you are a piece of garbage that doesn't deserve kids. That's exactly what Charlie is saying and if you agree with the guy in the video then maybe you're already an abusive parent and if you're not a parent, then thank god.
@MA Seems like you need better company yourself. Get the hell out of those Facebook groups Soccer mom.
@MA Really? My Dad was explained what risks there were to drinking and smoking, and I *still* don't do either. My mother tried to stop me masturbating because god, and I have a porn addiction.
I get parents wanting to make sure kids are safe, and kids are stupid sometimes, but doing this every six months for NO REASON is unacceptable. And unless there’s been reason to believe they may be considering self harm, I would NEVER search their diary.
He lists multiple items that could be bought online, why this guy isn’t searching every single thing delivered to his house is a good question especially with the regular prison cell inspection check
"Legally, you can search your child's room. There is no legal problem with that."
Legally, you can also tell your child they are disappointing and worthless. There are absolutely 0 legal issues with this as well, and I encourage you to take advantage of that while parenting them.
XDDDD
Legally, you can move out and never talk to your parents again, and I encourage you to take advantage of that.
That definitely sounds like the words of cop that gets mad when people tell him he needs a warrant and takes it out on his son
@@deathtaco4095 hey oinker, no warrant?
I plead the 5th!
lol. Exactly
Noted.
I've been to jail. This is literally a shakedown. Even then, the corrections officers were doing their jobs and didn't sit us down to talk about drawings or empty bottles.
Parents out there, you're not a CO. You're a parent. If you do this kind of thing, prepare for your kids to never talk to you again once they leave the house.
Whats a CO?
My father literally IS a CO and he isn't quite this bad lmao
@@kettles827 corrections officer ^-^ people who work in prisons to keep inmates in line and whatnot
@@colorblockpoprocks6973 ahh ok. Thanks ^w^
Yup. I was a CO in a jail. Can confirm that this is literally just a shakedown. I didn't even like doing it to grown men, I can't imagine how someone could justify doing that to a kid.
Speaking from experience, having your parents search your room as a teenager actually makes you want to do drugs FAR more. Now I have a propensity for drugs, and a real major anxiety problem about people being in my home/ room etc as an adult.
my parents searching through my phone has given me such severe anxiety even to this day. It’s happened 4-5 years ago at this point and i’m still paranoid. It really does hurt your child, don’t do thus
i mean thats not even that long...Im trying to numb the hatered and the resulting conflict for more than 12 years
Not if they have good reason to search it, plus depends if you bought the phone or they did
doing stuff like that just makes your child use cloud services and log out of them to hide it.
Your parents are just making sure your not looking at anything bad or doing doing anything bad. It's normal parenting stuff. The only reason you'd even get anxiety is if you were looking/doing something bad and hoping he wouldn't find out.
@@maybefoxtart nah bro, parents gave me an iphone when i started middle school without telling me they could see all my text messages and pictures that i took, then when i finally started making friends and made a joke about balls with 1 of my friends i suddenly got confronted and questioned and had to spend the next 4 years having to avoid text message and humiliatingly explaining to people how they shouldn't msg me because my parents can see it. graduated 3 years ago and it ruined my social life and i still have trust issues and 0 friends or personality
This isn’t just bad parenting advice, that’s exactly how correctional officers search prison cells. That guy was literally telling parents to treat their children like criminals. How has he not been fired yet?
Dudes like him excel in law enforcement wym
Cops treat everyone like criminals. Including their own children. They just assume everyone is as depraved as they are.
prob wasn't his script but idk
@Chad I Had Your Mom When She Was Tight Thundercock Nah it's just basic psychology, if you treat people like prisoners they will feel like prisoners. It's a great way to lose all trust and make sure they never contact you willingly once they move out.
@Chad An Older Meme But It Checks Out Thundercock Are you defending him...? If so wtf dude.
"HEY champ how old are ya?"
"17 but tomorrow's my birthday"
"OH SHIT BETHANY HURRY! RAID HIS ROOM THIS IS OUR LAST CHANCE!"
*Just starts an entire SWAT team raid
Hahahahah underrated comment because dads like this aren’t fucking involved, and even if they are they don’t pay attention and don’t remember anything. Fantastico!
I guess we’re gonna miss the, *Panty* *Raid*
@@coolturtle5116 lmao
The best thing about that is that the father does not even know his sons birthday or age.
when i was 8 my parents were starting to quite honestly beg me to ask them to buy me a diary. they asked so often that i was like okay please get me a diary. i wrote in it ONE time, next day after school it was gone and i was screamed at for a long time because i wrote that my friends and i loved a (male) band. been anxious and extremely depressed since! woohoo good parenting!
I feel like that was just an excuse for them to get mad at you for no reason at all lmao
Nursing home any% speedeun WR
What band was it? Rammstein?
If your parents got this mad it must have been something hardcore, right?
@@devwing0 I believe it was literally just the fact that the band had male members in it
If you try and turn your child/parent relationship into a prisoner/warden dynamic, your prisoner won’t return to their prison the moment they’re given the chance
"And also, It's very important to be respectful of the child's property"
Doesn't fold clothes, leaves mess
Looks through the kid's diary...
He's giving him the deluxe police experience
Proceeds to yell at child for the child not folding their clothes
Lmao wow so invading your child's privacy and looking through everything in their room is being respectful?
@@davebryan1890 Premium All Inclusive DX police experience, by Gunsly
The worst part for me is the fact he’s telling you to check the journal. That’s all your secrets and the most private thing you have, that fully ruins your kids privacy more than ever.
Unfortunately many families don't believe their children should have privacy. Unfortunately for my family, I just treated them worse and worse until they finally gave up. Now I have next to no relationship with my parents and have a hard time emotionally connecting with anyone. I really can't blame them though - most of humanity is dumb as hell and has no idea what they're even doing for themselves to begin with lmao.
I turned out okay enough though. Not happy with my life but I'm at least not a criminal, and I keep to myself and don't cause problems for myself or others!!
@@RigmanZ11 I’m happy that you’re breaking the cycle!
@@SplendidCoffee0 at this point I've chosen to not have children anyways, so even if I were to be just like them I at least wouldn't end up making someone else grow up like me and many other people did. Although I still try to question my beliefs every day and always try to be adaptive, because we can never be too sure what the future holds for us regardless of what we do or don't want 😝
When I was a lot younger, my mom found one of my sketchbooks while I was on vacation with my grandparents, and it was pretty much like a diary to me since I drew all of my thoughts and feelings into it, as well as drew pictures of shows/video games/etc. that I loved. What she did was look through EVERYTHING in that book, and then posted them ALL to Facebook without my permission. I was so angry with her, and I couldn’t do anything about it because I was states away.
To this day I don’t show my art to her, and feel the need to hide anything that might have a close tie to myself. Mind you, I used to show her my drawings all the time when I was little, but ever since that happened I’ve stopped entirely. I know it sounds stupid, but she really broke my trust.
that’s the equivalent of a parent secretly listening in on their child’s therapy sessions, only to use everything they said in private with their therapist against them. fucked up man. hate the fact that i live in orange county with that fuck head.
My parents went so far as to drill my bedroom door to the floor so that I couldn’t close it. As a socially awkward teenage boy who had few friends and was too afraid to even try drugs or anything, this confused the hell out of me and made me resent them for as long as I lived there.
“Go go gadget crack pipe.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
"You see, this looks like a normal pillow but it's actually your child's moonshine distillery"
💀💀💀
"You can actually buy one of these online. Links in the pinned comment."
“It’s not illegal to search your child’s room. So go ahead and take advantage of that.”
To be fair though, this is definitely something more for a troubled teenager rather than just a normal kid. This is for the concerned parents that will do anything for their kid, but their kid just got caught up with a bad crowd or isn’t very social and might have Depression. If parents find it early enough, they might be able to get their kids the help they need to live a good life instead of the life of an addict or no life.
cop moment
@@aaronlandry3934 would be better to try and build a good relationship with your child, searching their rooms, even if you are concerned about them, would nly do harm, and if not, would only be a momentary solution
@@Gustoberg Parents aren’t mind readers. They can’t know to talk to their kids about issues affecting them if their kid hides it from them. Privacy really isn’t that important if your child could die if their parent doesn’t find out and take measures needed to get their kid help.
Yeah, the teenager will probably be upset in the moment, but hey, wouldn’t you prefer your parents finding out and sending you to therapy after them telling you they love you instead of you keeping it secret and ending up strung out on Heroin in a few years? My cousin was a meth addict and hid it from his parents. He died at 22 from an overdose. Reality is sad sometimes and I really don’t value privacy over seeing something that tragic happen to another family
@@aaronlandry3934 You assume the parents are actually concerned about their kid's wellbeing and not their own sense of power. The latter is sadly far too common. Doing this to save your kid from heroin is one thing, but this video is clearly meant for controlling Karen-ass genetic progenitors who just want to remind their kid that they see them as nothing but property.
i love the idea that this man's son just isn't allowed to have anything in his room that can possibly contain anything like "no you arent allowed a wardrobe because you store a body in it just put your clothes on the floor dammit"
Watching this video, makes me feel insanely grateful for the parents I have.
"This may be a sign of suicidal ideation."
Well, with you as a father....
If it was me in that position.
Those intentions won't be intentions any longer..
@@sdk2571 they would be actions
can’t be sad if you’re dead
A message to parents: regularly searching your child's room causes them to feel the need to hide from you. If they are displaying negative behaviors this won't solve them, all it does is make them double down and dig in just to rebel against you.
Yup, i was raised in a household like that and actually pushed me to rebel when i hadnt dont anything like that before.
Is there any parents that watch cr1tikal? That'd be cool
not to mention, it destroys any trust in the relationship. if my parents don't trust or respect me, why should I do so for them?
This kind of behavior is why parents have kids that leave and cut all contact with them. I know a guy whose parents did that sort of crap. Any chance they had that he wasn't around they would root around his room for anything they could find. They did all kinds of crap, like this, and he hasn't spoken to them in over 15 years.
@@caroline537 that's cool to know, I'm adopted and can't be anymore grateful since I fell into the right hands (my parents can be fierce sometimes but they still love me). And yes, I do get that. These whole "adoption" things are sometimes frustrating to think about since there's so many to organize. You must love her so much. She's lucky for that. Sorry for my English and have a great day!
Was raised like this, I'm an adult now and if you want all of your kids to leave at 16-18 y/o and never talk to you again raise them like this. (don't matter if one of them was a prized golden child that got everything they wanted they will see your ways for what they are and leave as well)
My grandfather (who fostered me) used to search my room all the time.
I always thought it was amusing that he thought I’d be stupid enough to keep shit he shouldn’t find in the room with me.
He usually would just find stuff that was never even hidden but he disagreed with but it was all very arbitrary.
He got really, very upset when he started finding post it notes saying shit like “nothing here!” “Look harder” “did you think it would be that easy?”
He actually confronted me on these antagonizing notes and my response was simply that if he didn’t invade my privacy and show me that he doesn’t trust me; he wouldn’t be getting humiliated in this fashion.
Suffice it to say that we don’t talk anymore.
Not gonna lie, the pipe highlighter and mountain dew hidden compartment are great products. Would buy. Thanks officer. Also, parents like this would drive their kids into drugs and alcohol as they'd want to act out. A complete lack of respect and privacy doesn't make you a better parent funny enough.
Yeah, they were. I had stuff like that when u was in school, and I loved it. Wasn't really of any use to me though because no one rifles through my stuff.
See what I did there? Gunsley? Rifled? Yeah, you saw it
I would see shit like that at smoke shops and my dumbass thought they were like actual Brisk tea and Coke cans lol
Those higlighter bowls are cool, but not very fun to smoke through imo
for me the best thing was the scale, cops will never look for a cd scale, way too much work to open everything
theres no way that highlighter pipe is worth it... you smoke out of it once and it will stink up your whole room if you keep it there
*Looks through child's wallet* "You'll see this here is money. This can be used in the streets to purchase illegal drugs and other contraband" *sloppily shoves cash into pocket*
Shit that's right, obtaining money IS the first step to drug addiction. D:
100% of drug addicts started with having cash. 😆
that's what id do 100%
@Baked Beans *100% of murderers and drug dealer/addict have became a fetus before, Coincidence?*
@@celestiall7566 *I think not*
100% of murderers and drug dealers/addicts have breathed before, coincidence?
Clearly this guy lives in fear because he sees every innocent object as a threat. I bet he's the kind of guy who would plant stuff in other people's belongings just to "prove" his false accusations so that he can feel good about his serious paranoia issues.
Imagine him being a father, his home would be a prison.
My parents have the belief that they would only look through my stuff if they had a justifiable reason to do so. My parents know me well enough that I'd never do drugs or hide things from them. I'd tell them straight up instead of hiding shit. They have no reason to suspect me. I wish more parents had this mindset instead of treating their teenager as a rebel or a prisoner
My parents did the same thing. Although they had this thing where they can see what I've searching up online and commenting on youtube. Sure it gets weird but they just want to make sure I'm not doing anything bad.
As someone who is actually a counselor, if I had a nickel for every time a parent asked me “why does my child not like me/want to spend time with me” and then they tell me “oh I have their passwords to their social media, life 360 app, search their room, etc.”, I’d feel pretty financially secure. And it’s always kids who are well behaved too. And this is stuff parents have told me, if not just one parent doing all of this shit. Literally the biggest problem everyone has when it comes to any kind of bad relationship is COMMUNICATION. If you are concerned, TALK to your child without accusing them randomly. It’s not hard, that’s how being a decent person works.
Parents: Communication? But why would I wanna talk to something I don't view as human?
yup helecopter parents love to pretend like the kid's hatred towards them is just coming out of no where then wonder why they want to get as far away as possible from them as soon as possible
edit: I had a friend who had parents like this searching his room, checking his texts, alarm on window, literally like a prison. 1 year ago he only smoked weed and 2 days ago he shot up coke for the first time. Dont do this to your children, it will likely make everything much much worse.
maybe youre just bad at counseling. not gonna be surprised if there are alot of kids on your counseling that would try to unalive themself
@@God-ec8ni bro what
@@God-ec8ni is this one of my parents? Because I swear they think they’re a god too. I can’t even question their intentions or vent about something personal about one of my parents without getting made out to a bad guy.
This man knows absolutely NOTHING about addiction, child psychology, or adolescent development. Do NOT do this with your kids ever. This parenting style backfires 100 percent of the time.
Are you speaking from experience
@@delcot5862 I can attest from experience
@@delcot5862 it's kind of obvious too LMFAOO literally look up peoples testimonies they're everywhere on the internet
So if your child is on drugs how are you supposed to find them then? Cause I guarantee if you ask your kid they will say no and just get angry and defensive about it.
@@lawrencetalbot8346 there are so many behavioral signs that a child is on drugs and if a parent can't notice that in their kid it speaks on the parent
So you can get in trouble in Gunsolley's house for:
-having an empty container
-having keyboard cleaner
-having drawn anything related to drugs or suicide (aka being an edgy teen)
- having small plastic bags (they COULD have had drugs in them at some point)
Wild. Living here would be miserable lmao
oh and remember, you can't have balloons and whipped cream in the house because that 100% means your kid is doing whippets and their brain will explod
Best way to prevent drug addiction is to *educate your kids* on why it's bad. Not ignore them and then act like it's the kid's fault when they're not taught properly like Charlie says in the beginning
As an ex correctional officer, this is note for note exactly how we used to conduct searches in cells. Fucking tragic and disgusting that this is being done to children, don't treat your kids like prisoners when you should be talking to them like a respectful human being
I agree. my parents searched my stuff, but it was justified because when I was 12 or so, I was stealing their cards and stuff. Least for me it was justified. I can't imagine having this done to me for no reason
bro fr my parents changed my doorknob so i cant lock it and they're always suspicious that im "hiding something" i trusted you id tell you everything, i really would. i love my parents but i dont trust them with personal things about me.
You're like the third Ex-Correctional officer I've seen in this comment section
@@heyoyo10gaming4 good cops seem to swarm the stupid ones
@@heyoyo10gaming4 I feel like we should be seeing more there are a lot of prisons in America
On a smaller note, I like how he's saying to respect his kids belongings while just throwing his shorts in the drawer and unrolling all of his socks
EXACTLY, literally disrespecting his things and making him fold all of it again while saying that
Exactly...and he's showing the kid that's how to "respect someone's belongings." Teaching him all kind of messed up things about what "respect" is and what actions qualify as "respectful."
If that kid ends up in a toxic & abusive relationship - either as the victim or the perpetrator - I won't be surprised. If this is how he treats his future partners, with this kind of "respect," then he will be a horrible partner himself...and a shitty father too.
Hopefully he can break the cycle, but it will be in despite of the terrible lessons he's being taught right now.
and looking through their fucking DIARY
He's probably the same parent to yell at them for having unfolded clothes
@@stinkmonger I went digital years ago because of that exact thing
"You have every legal right to search your child's room."
Dude, just because you _can_ do it doesn't mean you _should_ do it.
i think that's what he was trying to imply lol
My parents don’t search my room but they do go through my phone, use life360, make me keep my phone out of my room, no social media (which I totally get and don’t think I will get when I leave home anyway), etc. I don’t really know how I feel about it. Honestly it hasn’t affected me too much because I have nothing to hide and I love my parents more than anything. I don’t think it’s really affected our relationship and I guess it’s kept me out of trouble online but I do feel it’s unnecessary sometimes. The only thing I won’t do with my own kids is read their text messages. THAT really does feel like an invasion of privacy and I feel like I have to censor my own thoughts and feelings to make sure I don’t get in trouble with my parents. I’m 15 btw
Dude I think we might be the same people lol.
I like how he says "Remove the child, *or in this case,* the teenager." Meaning that this fucking psychopath wants people to search their 5 year old sons bedroom cause they think he's snorting coke.
you're saying you weren't snorting coke when you were 5?
@@a-surfin-bird8182 🤨📸
@@a-surfin-bird8182 gunpowder
I mean what really gets me is why not just do this while your kid is at school? There’s a guaranteed 8 hour window your kid is out of the house and you can look for a stuff while your cleaning their room or bringing in new sheets or towels etc. I don’t see a problem with making sure your kids aren’t hiding drugs or a weapon especially if you suspect something.
@@lawrencetalbot8346 Yeah but it's devoiding your child of their privacy by searching their room. Even if you suspect something. Kids don't just use drugs because they think it's cool (while that can be the case sometimes, it's not often), teenagers often go through way too much during the last year of middle school and all throughout highschool, and they find ways to relieve themselves of that stress. Instead of just searching their room and then accusing them of literally everything they own as being a drug/alcohol hiding scheme, damaging whatever little trust they have of you left, you can just ask them what's going on, and they'll probably open up about it, without any trust being sacrificed.
"If you have to be reassured that whatever you are doing isn't *technically* illegal, then it's probably very immoral..." Charlie with wisdom
This reminded me of "technically it's not incest" meme lol.
Well… I’m sure Jesus has much wisdom to tell
No it’s not immoral to search a room in *your own house*. Parents are morally obligated to ensuring their kids aren’t doing bad things so it’s the opposite of immoral.
@@downfromthereeefters It’s one of those things of just because you *can* doesn’t mean you *should*
@@downfromthereeefters it goes both ways. If you severely comprise your child's privacy then the mistrust will go both ways. Your child won't trust you. And the people who are best at lying usually have these kinds of parent. There's a limit to restricting your kids and most of other problems can be ironed out by having honest conversations with their children.
What's weird about that Mtn Dew secret container is that the design is one that hasn't been used since like 2008.
Just inexplicably having a Mtn Dew bottle from the late 2000s is really weird unless the person is a collector or something.
I know this will get lost in the comments, but will say if I had looked in my 16 year old brothers journal, he’d still be here today. Me and him would watch your videos all the time. I rewatch old videos we laughed at, and it makes me cry. We love you Charlie❤
@@chaoticneutral6288 bro, chill tf out. Dude lost his brother
@@chaoticneutral6288 what? the thing is its causing more damage when they hide things then when all the parents has to do is throw it in the trash or receive mental health. Do you even know how therapy works? Or child protective services. u and Charlie just sound like irresponsible people who want to justify their own illegal actions
Treating your kid like a prisoner will make them want to kill themselves. This parenting method solves nothing.
I know this comment isn't recent, but I'm very sorry for your loss
I hope you and your family have been okay
Sorry for your loss.
Never been into writing journals but reading your kid's journal is on a whole another level than searching room itself
indeed, my mom actually used to check my room and found my journal and started to read it out loud, making fun of what I wrote and I literally never again talked to her about private things in my life :c
@@GwennSpider holy shit what an horrible thing to experience, that is just so mean.
@@GwennSpider that's just fucked up
@@GwennSpider oh my god this is horrible :((
Never wrote journals for the very same reason, i'm also bad at writting so nobody will understand it anyway, even me.
Ah yes, the most important parenting lesson of them all - making sure you instill trust issues into your child before they’re able to live on their own
Perfect parenting if u ask me
@@avadaisy1926 yeah, if you want to make a serial killer. They are forced to learn to get away of any evidence by their own parents.
Run
@@avadaisy1926 /s
@@avadaisy1926 don’t be surprised when your kids grow up to hate you then
whats so bad about searching their room?
I remember when I was younger I was forbidden to swear, and I used writing as an overall outlet of emotion, and therefore a lot of my writing was very over the top with things like violence, but also cuss words and such, and I never showed it to anyone, but my parents at some point looked through my school stuff and my father found the writing and came to me with so much disappointment in his voice and so much judgement that it haunts me until today. It may sound a lot less bad than it is, but it felt terrible enough in the moment to now make me feel incredibly sick when I remember it.
I think my parents only stopped going through my stuff because I at some point began snapping at them each time they did, mostly because I gained some kind of mental issue that if things aren't the way I left them I become extremely distressed and agitated. What does still bother me quite a lot is despite me being over 18 my mother hasn't learned how to knock or leave my room alone unless I am there.
Teens need a lot of privacy, really. Searches wouldn't really stop whatever the parents suspect or worry about. If the parents find something once, the teens will just become more creative with hiding stuff.
I was an indoor kid and a video game nerd my entire childhood. If my parents had taken away my compressed air cans, it would've been a genuine inconvenience as I was using them for their intended purpose. 😂
gaming
i’m so done, i do struggle with a lot of drugs because im a teen and my mom knows but she thinks every time i have pc duster i’m trying to use it to get high 😭😭 like bro leave me the fuck alone i use it to clean my consoles
I was a correctional officer. The way he's training parents to search their kids room is the way we were trained to search cells. Not just actively searching but the way he told his kid to leave to room. Do not treat your kids like they're inmates
I was thinking this while watching - He's conducting a prisoner search.
Have you ever worked with bill cosby
I work in a psych facility and we have the exact same methodology to searches. Both in rooms weekly and belongings when they’re admitted.
I hate having to flip through diaries and yet he’s saying that it should be the norm for parents. Breaks my heart
Yep. Treat your kids like they’re inmates and they will try to escape. Make them feel at home & comfortable and they will want to stay
why did you stop being a correctional officer?
Police officer here. If you take this route to parenting, you have essentially turned your kids into suspects and you have failed as a parent. Take an active role in yours kid’s life from day 1, be open and honest with them, and treat them like they’re a human being. Do that and they will be less likely to engage in substance abuse in the first place. They’re your kids, not inmates. Absolutely horrible advice from this sergeant.
Yep - I could do easily hide drugs from my very trusting parents, but I don't want to be anywhere near them, lol. My friend also has super trusting parents who give him privacy, and while he does smoke marijuana, once they found out, they just sat him down and talked and they've been trying to help him quit - and he WANTS to. It's a lot healthier than struggling with stuff and not telling out of fear of punishment
Dude, for real. Doesn't it seem like common sense that treating your children like this is just an all around bad idea? I mean, for God's sake, there's a MONUMENTAL differentiation between being a good, loving, strict, caring parent vs. being a fucking Nazi who forces their children to live under tyrant rule just because your career is with law enforcement. My mom was a cop, and she never changed her parenting style or utilized her job as a means of specific punishment, like homeboy is literally *telling and encouraging* other parents to do. Just, wow. How sad.
For real, it's worrying how many parents might take this seriously, since my parents already do stuff like this, but less often and more fair than this, but at least I'm not treated like a suspect, the "Get them out of the room so they don't distract you from doing a thorough search" felt more like a reason to get the kid out of their room so they can't stop you from invading their extremely personal items, like a diary. The "child out of room" tactic seriously just felt like the child was going to be an obstacle in the journey of ripping open all of their secrets and forcing yourself into their personal areas
He took his job as a sergeant way to seriously to the point that the treat his house hold like a fucking boot camp. His childrens are cadets and his wife is his general.
FTP
The journal bit! I felt for sure he was going to say "You have every legal right, but be very careful about violating boundaries when it comes to your child's journal." But no.
My mother went through my stuff like this and it is very heartbreaking knowing all of your things and personal diarys have been looked through I still have not forgiven her for this
“As a parent you have every right to search your child’s room. There is no legal wrong there.” If the only thing stopping you from being unethical or immoral are laws, then there are bigger issues at hand 😒
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Big oof
If your moral compass is solely reliant on how your actions will effect you instead of others that's a problem
its not unethical to know what your kids are doing it's called caring
@Jack Wrath nobody even knows who tf that is weirdo gtfo
Looking through someone's diary or journal is the absolute lowest of the low. You're looking inside their head, and most likely one of the only places they feel comfortable.
This, this is the one opinion in this comment section I can agree with
bUT iTS LeGaL
Yeah I had that happen to me. My mom and aunt did it and I was so mad they wanted to make fun of a story that I wrote for myself, not for someone to read. People need to know boundaries.
God I hate that
Happened once and it gave me an anxiety attack
Don't do that....
@@wowimstillalive5878
Holy fuck thats awful, but yeah ideally do it on your phone
Cannot believe it's possible to put things in a container, absolutely mind-boggling concept.
The American Way
Do nothing to prevent problems before they happen, punish the problems severely when they inevitably start happening, or if they dont happen, or whenever you feel like youre being questioned, or whenever you suspect something
Look, all you have to remember is to punish your kids relentlessly for making the mistake of existing, and do absolutely nothing to help. Thats how American parents do things and its working perfectly with absolutely no problems at all ever.
I guess that's one way to make sure your kid never trusts you lol
Indeed. By doing that you make the kid never trust anyone INCLUDING family. And that's how you make a criminal.
Which in turn just makes the kid hide shit so the parent can't actually parent
That's the one thing he is talking about this entire video, STFU
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Kids need privacy. Not whatever the heck this is.
Parents: But how will I know who my child is if I don't read their diary? 🤡
Oh yeah a furry, now that's the kinda person that cares about a child's safety
@@randomweinerhole1649 Shouldn’t everyone care about child safety?
@@randomweinerhole1649 ur the kind of person that just looks at a picture and is offended instead of reading the actual context.
@@Blackrose-qn9hj Okay buddi
My parents was like this, except *much* more religious. Turning 18 in a few weeks, I’m playing nice right now telling them what they want to hear but the second I’m legally an adult I won’t be talking to them ever again.
so how is it going
Can’t fathom why the kid would feel the need to hide anything, look at how respectfully gunsley treats all of their belongings. _Clearly_ this is an open and accepting household
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@@jonahsaur xD
throws all of his boxer to the floor and dont bother to putting them back, "also its very important to be respectful to the child belongings". no shit
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This line of thinking has taught an entire generation of addicts how to best hide it from their friends and family.
literally. i remember taping the coke baggies behind posters on my walls bc i was afraid of my mom doing this shit lmfaoo
@@nataliemarlowe2516 degen
@@phantom-xb6wv pretty much yeah
@@nataliemarlowe2516 I hope you stopped doing drugs all together man.
@@squirrel_disaster i have lol. been clean for 6 months now
I'm glad that my mother doesn't go through my stuff. I don't smoke, vape, do drugs, whatever and she knows that. If I'm in a bad mood she doesn't go through my discord frantically, she asks me what's up and if I don't wanna talk about it- she leaves it at that until I want to.
The best way to prevent adult addiction is to prevent child addiction. And the best way to prevent child addiction is to be an actually good parent who doesn't drive their kid to need escape.
I feel an unbelievable amount of sadness for this dude's kids.
I have an unbelievable amount of hope this dude has no kids.
@@angelcarrillo980 yeah
Looking from the hairline the dude either recently got a divorced or has no kids, either way he' still won't make a good parent
i was laughing the whole video because this is literally exactly how my parents would treat me. the funniest part is charlie’s spot on commentary. i moved out at 17 and haven’t talked to my mom in 2.5 years 👍 do this if you never want to see your kids after 18
@@who_k_nows and end up in a 💩 retirement home 🤣