Be masculine right from the start and find a feminine woman. It's not hard to do just be unemotional and indifferent to start out. A lot of women in my family are masculine and their men don't even know it because they are submissive. Another problem is when women act masculine they usually make the wrong decision and their decisions they make benefit them whereas the man thinks about what's best for them as a couple and the family.
I find the opposite to be more often true. In my experience, women often keep other's needs in mind, whereas men tend to be more selfish. Men have to deal with a lot more testosterone, which tends to make people competitive, so it is more difficult for men to be other-focused. That's why it is so incredible to find a man who uses his strength to make decisions for the benefit of his family and his community. My Dad was that kind of man. He sacrificially gave himself for the needs of the family. There aren't many men like that.
It’s amazing how much life turns around when you put in the time to understand things. Took me a while but once I did, changes everything. You live unlike the other 90%+ of guys.
The crazy thing is I've seen women actually admit this. They can't be feminine around a guy who isn't masculine and they don't trust. So if she's not in that mode it comes down to how you act. And they want that guy, they crave that guy. They just want to sit back and let a guy run the show.
One thing I have found that helps to get yourself into a more masculine mindset is lifting weights. Physical toughness lends itself to mental toughness. More muscle mass also increases testosterone so maybe that's part of it.
Chris i really like your videos, the info you give is platinum and the length of the videos are not to long that you forget what has been said in the beginning
*A masculine man isn’t afraid to be vulnerable or show empathy, but he also knows when to take charge and protect what’s important. It's the balance between assertiveness and sensitivity that makes him truly attractive and respected.*
I listen to you Chris for few years now, fallow your advices and I'm now with my great girlfriend and everything is going just like it supposed to. Thank you for continuously making those videos ps. I bought your book too.
"Des Mannes ist hier wenig; deshalb vermännlichen die Weiber!" (Nietzsche) [Of a man there is just little around here; that's why women become ever more masculine.]
I like how honest and straightforward you always are. I've seen this a lot in others relationships, it's pretty sad to witness. I blame it on the woman for settling and not waiting for a man
@@akeemayeni156 absolutely. I don't deny reality. Been happily married over 20 yrs. We've always been friends and that is the foundation of our relationship. It improved substantially when I stopped trying to be the leader and focused on equality, a power-share. But I was still resisting her guidance. Still 2nd guessing her ideas & plans for us. Finally I just supported her and became her biggest fan & champion. One person should have a little more power than the other in a marriage. That's her and we're both happier. And yes, I have plenty of sex
@@akeemayeni156 women outnumber men in the US. They have all of the social and legal support as well as the government at every level. They are flying past men getting college educations and almost there earning money, too. And they don't need men. A man is a luxury item. Behave like it.
Wrong,there is no law that is going to go in line with what every man individualy believes in/does,so to ever be married is a mistake under any law,bcs y give away your sovereinty to another entity.Which is something that no masculine guy would do.Notice how y believe that outside force(law)p should change things.Instead of dealing with the best only,which is chick that will go your way without ever questioning y.And some dudes still believe that lack of women like this is a problem,when their life has meaning only bcs dudes exist.
@@nemanjanikolic636 not exactly. The marriage contract is more about what you CAN't do (like cheating, etc..) than what you can do. Possibilities are limitless, as long as you don't go where is forbidden.
Not in my case. The real power comes with children, so I have no children. If she wants to divorce me, I am on on the next airplane to her home country Thailand and pick up a new sweethart. I speak the language so that's easy.
There needs to be polarity. But at the end of the day as a man, long term, you want your woman to respect you. You can’t get that if you’re always deferring leadership.
I don't agree, masculinity is about maturity, strength (perhaps more mental than physical actually) with a sense of honour and responsibility, there are some of these traits mentioned but he's got it a lot wrong, it's not enitrely dominance and assertiveness. My convinction is that women (as long as they don't have a personality disorder or some other issues) really want a man that can be a good leader for her and the family, not just provide and protect, but also manage and lead the family unit down a path of stability, just like a good president or prime minister would do for his country.
You're correct about the personality disorder. My first thought as he was describing these "masculine women" was he's describing Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
I read your book I like it a lot! Ok, so she pulls away and you let her do her thing. You don't contact her until she contacts you. That's easy. But then she reappears, and asks "where have you been? Why didn't you contact me"? Do you tell her the truth, that you weren't into her female test, or what?
Can anyone help? Me and my ex broke up 4 months ago. We were in a relationship for 3 years. She’s definitely an avoidant, she said she lost feelings for me, she needs space/work on herself etc etc. And then she lashed out at me and saw me as a threat after we broke up and that’s when I went radiosilent for two months. She texted saying she was sorry and tried calling me many times for two months. I texted her back after 2 months saying “thanks for letting me know” and then she texted me like nothing happened, telling me how she was doing. It was a month ago. Haven’t heard from her since. She liked my instagram post but that’s it. Now her birthday is coming up. Should I wish her a happy birthday, not to look bitter or angry. Or I should remain silent? I know for sure she will wish me a happy birthday next month. (She wanted to be my friend but I didn’t say anything and went no contact) 🤝 Thank you in advance
Do not be her friend completely ignore her date some new girls ! When she says that she has lost feelings that's the respect level for you has gone down ! Your birthday is coming date some new girls and do not focus her she will try to bait you by dating new mens but you should focus on yourself eventually she will come crawling back to you
If YOU want to be with her, then go ahead and re-establish connections. But don't stay in the relationship if she jerks you around. You are either both committed to each other, or you should walk away. ,
Do you know anything about subconscious dynamics, developmental trauma and how the psyche actually works? Just be different, duh?! If you don't root out the reason of why someone is and behaves the way they are you just make it worse especially in a partnership, where both need to do it together! Thats so dangerous...
When I see that my wife is getting too masculine and I become more assertive in response, she goes, "If I'd wanted to marry a Muslim, I would've married a Muslim." 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
He's saying the man has to establish dominance over the woman otherwise she'll be the leader / in charge. Gotta break her of that habit. My wife is smart. She takes care of me. I take care of her. We resolve issues by talking them out, focus on the issue and the future. She's a great team leader. I support her. I'm her biggest fan. She appreciates my support. Stop fighting your woman for control. She's probably right. Follow her ideas. Support her. You might be pleasantly surprised.
@@josephpepper3087 Do you have kids? A man must lead. I made the mistake not to when getting married. I got married for the wrong reason and didnt develop my masculine character enough to understand what i was getting in to. Shit if i could do it again it wouldn't be with my wife. I would look for a more feminine less independent woman one without deep trauma. She could work at 7 eleven for all I care.
I think it's a mistake to engage in a power struggle. If she wants to lead, is smart, and wants what's best for you both as a team, support her. Support her & if she is a good leader she'll appreciate you. You guys who aren't "Chads" expecting to be the leader / own / possess / control / dominate a "high value" woman are going to continue to be undesirable and without a good woman in your lives until you change. They don't need or want you until you do. Also, penetration doesn't equal dominance or masculinity. Although it's kink to think so.
@@josephpepper3087 You're right that power struggles are bad. It's more a take it or leave it situation because your power is the ability to walk away.. If you're willing to submit to a woman who is a good leader, then there is no problem...unless she eventually loses attraction for you because she doesn't respect you. Or nags, resents and finds fault because you are not masculine. Lots of guys live that life; their choice.
Like Myron Gaines says "when a woman leads a relationship it will only lead to the end of the relationship." Sooner or later that relationship will end because she will see you as soft. She will either dump you or cheat on you.
@destroyerofsimps6574 Ridiculous! As if that never happens when the man is strong & woman equal or submissive! Those issues can be related or totally separate. The better leader should lead, whoever it is. I think having a 50/50 powershare is the most difficult arrangement of all.
Be masculine right from the start and find a feminine woman. It's not hard to do just be unemotional and indifferent to start out. A lot of women in my family are masculine and their men don't even know it because they are submissive. Another problem is when women act masculine they usually make the wrong decision and their decisions they make benefit them whereas the man thinks about what's best for them as a couple and the family.
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How to find feminine women??
😂 true @@Jungle_boy123
All women now are masculine butch types.....its disgusting
I find the opposite to be more often true. In my experience, women often keep other's needs in mind, whereas men tend to be more selfish. Men have to deal with a lot more testosterone, which tends to make people competitive, so it is more difficult for men to be other-focused. That's why it is so incredible to find a man who uses his strength to make decisions for the benefit of his family and his community. My Dad was that kind of man. He sacrificially gave himself for the needs of the family. There aren't many men like that.
Masculinity according to women is always something that benefits them
Exactly!
It does but not in the way that they may think!
You gotta be glad guys like Chris
exist I bought his books. And fully believe and support what he teaches.
Books? There’s more than one?
@cliff amen - I listen to the audiobook regularly. Atomic attraction & 88 laws of masculinity are 2 audiobooks that should be listened to repeatedly.
It’s amazing how much life turns around when you put in the time to understand things. Took me a while but once I did, changes everything. You live unlike the other 90%+ of guys.
I learned to genuinely walk away without wanting her back
Ditto 👊🏻
The crazy thing is I've seen women actually admit this. They can't be feminine around a guy who isn't masculine and they don't trust. So if she's not in that mode it comes down to how you act. And they want that guy, they crave that guy. They just want to sit back and let a guy run the show.
They want a masculine man and to control him.
Nobody knows what exactly is masculine, but you can help yourself if you read an e-book "Chase No More: The Path To Success, Wealth And Love".
One thing I have found that helps to get yourself into a more masculine mindset is lifting weights. Physical toughness lends itself to mental toughness. More muscle mass also increases testosterone so maybe that's part of it.
Chris i really like your videos, the info you give is platinum and the length of the videos are not to long that you forget what has been said in the beginning
*A masculine man isn’t afraid to be vulnerable or show empathy, but he also knows when to take charge and protect what’s important. It's the balance between assertiveness and sensitivity that makes him truly attractive and respected.*
Empathy is not vulnerability. Its not ok for men to be vulnerable in front of his woman. Ask me how i know
@@doncorleone3901 how you know ?
@@Home-o2v4hHe knows cause the girl pulled away lol
I listen to you Chris for few years now, fallow your advices and I'm now with my great girlfriend and everything is going just like it supposed to. Thank you for continuously making those videos ps. I bought your book too.
"Des Mannes ist hier wenig; deshalb vermännlichen die Weiber!" (Nietzsche)
[Of a man there is just little around here; that's why women become ever more masculine.]
I like how honest and straightforward you always are. I've seen this a lot in others relationships, it's pretty sad to witness. I blame it on the woman for settling and not waiting for a man
Excellent explanation about reality.
Breaking character 😂😂😂
maybe I'm wrong but I notice the younger the girl is the more feminine she is that's why I date younger women lol
😂😂
U mean milfs are musculine
2:27 she sees it in the movies and assumes women have to lead
The man's wife has taken on the masculine side because he isn't. There's been a switch.
Some women are just masculine. It's gross. Especially if they were raised without a father. Yuck.
In many cases. But also women simply have more power than men today. Men must accept this reality.
@josephpepper3087 you've accepted that?
@@akeemayeni156 absolutely. I don't deny reality. Been happily married over 20 yrs. We've always been friends and that is the foundation of our relationship. It improved substantially when I stopped trying to be the leader and focused on equality, a power-share. But I was still resisting her guidance. Still 2nd guessing her ideas & plans for us. Finally I just supported her and became her biggest fan & champion. One person should have a little more power than the other in a marriage. That's her and we're both happier.
And yes, I have plenty of sex
@@akeemayeni156 women outnumber men in the US. They have all of the social and legal support as well as the government at every level.
They are flying past men getting college educations and almost there earning money, too.
And they don't need men. A man is a luxury item. Behave like it.
Once a man gets married his relinquishes all his power. There is no hope. The law protects her. This only works in the dating stage!
Wrong,there is no law that is going to go in line with what every man individualy believes in/does,so to ever be married is a mistake under any law,bcs y give away your sovereinty to another entity.Which is something that no masculine guy would do.Notice how y believe that outside force(law)p should change things.Instead of dealing with the best only,which is chick that will go your way without ever questioning y.And some dudes still believe that lack of women like this is a problem,when their life has meaning only bcs dudes exist.
@@nemanjanikolic636 not exactly. The marriage contract is more about what you CAN't do (like cheating, etc..) than what you can do. Possibilities are limitless, as long as you don't go where is forbidden.
Not in my case. The real power comes with children, so I have no children. If she wants to divorce me, I am on on the next airplane to her home country Thailand and pick up a new sweethart. I speak the language so that's easy.
Wrong. And your mindset about how you fear the law demonstrates your lack of understanding.
Once you lose that masculine frame, there is no going back!!!
More videos about being masculine
Some men do actually like their partner to be a little masculine tho yk a little assertive..too much submissive is also bad
There needs to be polarity. But at the end of the day as a man, long term, you want your woman to respect you. You can’t get that if you’re always deferring leadership.
@ElevateMyRelationships indeed
They aren't men
I don't agree, masculinity is about maturity, strength (perhaps more mental than physical actually) with a sense of honour and responsibility, there are some of these traits mentioned but he's got it a lot wrong, it's not enitrely dominance and assertiveness. My convinction is that women (as long as they don't have a personality disorder or some other issues) really want a man that can be a good leader for her and the family, not just provide and protect, but also manage and lead the family unit down a path of stability, just like a good president or prime minister would do for his country.
Stop being a wanna-be. Get your own channel. Chris said as much but better than you. Peace
You’re obviously a weak beta and this message and channel is not for you! Go away!!
Lmao
You're correct about the personality disorder. My first thought as he was describing these "masculine women" was he's describing Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
2:43 what was that! lol
I read your book I like it a lot!
Ok, so she pulls away and you let her do her thing. You don't contact her until she contacts you. That's easy. But then she reappears, and asks "where have you been? Why didn't you contact me"? Do you tell her the truth, that you weren't into her female test, or what?
Women want masculine men but than run from him
Helpful information,thank you.❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉😊😊😊👍👍👍👏👏👏💯😎🙂
Can anyone help? Me and my ex broke up 4 months ago. We were in a relationship for 3 years. She’s definitely an avoidant, she said she lost feelings for me, she needs space/work on herself etc etc. And then she lashed out at me and saw me as a threat after we broke up and that’s when I went radiosilent for two months. She texted saying she was sorry and tried calling me many times for two months. I texted her back after 2 months saying “thanks for letting me know” and then she texted me like nothing happened, telling me how she was doing. It was a month ago. Haven’t heard from her since. She liked my instagram post but that’s it. Now her birthday is coming up. Should I wish her a happy birthday, not to look bitter or angry. Or I should remain silent? I know for sure she will wish me a happy birthday next month. (She wanted to be my friend but I didn’t say anything and went no contact) 🤝 Thank you in advance
It’s ok to be her friend. Make sure you are masculine with her.
Do not be her friend completely ignore her date some new girls ! When she says that she has lost feelings that's the respect level for you has gone down ! Your birthday is coming date some new girls and do not focus her she will try to bait you by dating new mens but you should focus on yourself eventually she will come crawling back to you
@@RudraPrasad-p5z You are right! Thank you 🙏 I needed it
If YOU want to be with her, then go ahead and re-establish connections. But don't stay in the relationship if she jerks you around. You are either both committed to each other, or you should walk away. ,
2:41 i literally laughed at this part of the video
My girls says i am the most masculine she ever met. One day she said:
Damn you are unbreakable!
she likes it
Do you know anything about subconscious dynamics, developmental trauma and how the psyche actually works? Just be different, duh?!
If you don't root out the reason of why someone is and behaves the way they are you just make it worse especially in a partnership, where both need to do it together! Thats so dangerous...
Time to walk away !
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When I see that my wife is getting too masculine and I become more assertive in response, she goes, "If I'd wanted to marry a Muslim, I would've married a Muslim."
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Just reply ' If I'd wanted to marry an amazon, I'd have gone to Brazil. At least I'd have gotten a better a&&'
Buy her a Burka for Christmas.
He's saying the man has to establish dominance over the woman otherwise she'll be the leader / in charge. Gotta break her of that habit.
My wife is smart. She takes care of me. I take care of her. We resolve issues by talking them out, focus on the issue and the future. She's a great team leader. I support her. I'm her biggest fan. She appreciates my support.
Stop fighting your woman for control. She's probably right. Follow her ideas. Support her. You might be pleasantly surprised.
@@josephpepper3087 Do you have kids? A man must lead. I made the mistake not to when getting married. I got married for the wrong reason and didnt develop my masculine character enough to understand what i was getting in to. Shit if i could do it again it wouldn't be with my wife. I would look for a more feminine less independent woman one without deep trauma. She could work at 7 eleven for all I care.
I think it's a mistake to engage in a power struggle. If she wants to lead, is smart, and wants what's best for you both as a team, support her. Support her & if she is a good leader she'll appreciate you.
You guys who aren't "Chads" expecting to be the leader / own / possess / control / dominate a "high value" woman are going to continue to be undesirable and without a good woman in your lives until you change. They don't need or want you until you do.
Also, penetration doesn't equal dominance or masculinity. Although it's kink to think so.
@@josephpepper3087 You're right that power struggles are bad. It's more a take it or leave it situation because your power is the ability to walk away.. If you're willing to submit to a woman who is a good leader, then there is no problem...unless she eventually loses attraction for you because she doesn't respect you. Or nags, resents and finds fault because you are not masculine. Lots of guys live that life; their choice.
@wolfman231 Masculinity and submission together is what plenty of women actually enjoy.
Like Myron Gaines says "when a woman leads a relationship it will only lead to the end of the relationship." Sooner or later that relationship will end because she will see you as soft. She will either dump you or cheat on you.
@destroyerofsimps6574 Ridiculous! As if that never happens when the man is strong & woman equal or submissive!
Those issues can be related or totally separate.
The better leader should lead, whoever it is. I think having a 50/50 powershare is the most difficult arrangement of all.