Secrets From Psychology That Make People Respect You

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  • Опубликовано: 30 окт 2024

Комментарии • 8 тыс.

  • @SeanLunny
    @SeanLunny 5 лет назад +48267

    Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be fine anyway is always a great mindset to have

    • @mohammedbedewy9102
      @mohammedbedewy9102 5 лет назад +408

      Exactly!!
      You made my day sir !!

    • @YodaSama0
      @YodaSama0 5 лет назад +112

      Sean Lunny that’s could be true but could also be really bad

    • @lorenzejay3296
      @lorenzejay3296 5 лет назад +149

      I tell myself this everyday and I genuinely believe everything will workout

    • @clubstep8244
      @clubstep8244 5 лет назад +276

      To help yourself feel fine even in heated situations: "zoom out" a bit and imagine all the life that happens around you and realize how little you mean in all that, there is nothing that's going to hurt you

    • @alcatraz2627
      @alcatraz2627 5 лет назад +195

      Alan watts explained that quite well, " you must understand we come out of this World, not into it. Therefore we are part of the natural World like the animals, the trees and the waves of the ocean and the clouds. Now have have you ever seen a cloud that was too big or too small? Have you ever seen a cloud move in the wrong direction? The same goes for humans, in zen practice you are thought to regard yourself as a cloud moveing along in the skies..."

  • @altonology1134
    @altonology1134 3 года назад +14859

    Practice keeping your word everyday you’ll really gain confidence. Every time you say you’re gonna do something and don’t do it, your self-esteem diminishes no matter how meaningless the task may seem. Take your word very serious.

    • @GaZonk100
      @GaZonk100 3 года назад +116

      love it

    • @yoshibald8958
      @yoshibald8958 3 года назад +48

      thx

    • @climbbmilc93
      @climbbmilc93 3 года назад +184

      I go by this! Especially just for doing life admin:
      - Telling yourself you’ll make your bed in the morning before showering. And doing it!
      - telling yourself you’ll have breakfast before 10:00. And doing it!

    • @altonology1134
      @altonology1134 3 года назад +168

      @@climbbmilc93 Exactly! Little routine tasks like that are extremely important for keeping your confidence in check. There was one point in my life where I followed through with literally everything that I said I would do religiously and after a while, it felt like I owned the world. “Idk” and “maybe” were no longer in my vocabulary. You start to subconsciously trust in yourself more and more by KNOWING you’ll accomplish whatever you say you’re going to do (AKA confidence).

    • @anwarshariq3411
      @anwarshariq3411 3 года назад +8

      Preach 100

  • @josephrutchik5777
    @josephrutchik5777 3 года назад +3584

    "You'll stop worrying that someone will reject you because you'll never reject yourself." That is brilliant! Well done!!!

    • @Christian-tf6ol
      @Christian-tf6ol 2 года назад +28

      Indeed I agree💯. They said that "Don't be the first person to say no to yourself"

    • @g.a.d6988
      @g.a.d6988 2 года назад +13

      "Who do you believe in? I believe in me.. I love me"- SGP

    • @kevinflanagan4711
      @kevinflanagan4711 2 года назад +2

      Love this

    • @Sergiuss555
      @Sergiuss555 Год назад

      your IQ must be negative

    • @Faye-el1bz
      @Faye-el1bz 9 месяцев назад

      Who cares about rejection
      Its way more important to become youre best authentic self

  • @danfordchodokufa838
    @danfordchodokufa838 Год назад +451

    "Believing that no matter what happens you’re going to be ok" is an incredibly liberating
    idea. I love this

    • @gabriellepundsack3308
      @gabriellepundsack3308 9 месяцев назад +4

      I always tell myself, "No one is going to kill you if (I fail/can't pay a bill/etc.).

    • @keremdemircan4203
      @keremdemircan4203 7 месяцев назад +1

      it is basically stoicism bro

  • @maxxmaximum3467
    @maxxmaximum3467 4 года назад +9546

    * Be relaxed
    - Spread out (standing, sitting being spread)
    - Move freely around
    - People have to work for attention
    - Selective eye contact ( give attention when making a point ; if the other person is doing it, then stare)
    * Be Non-reactive
    - Stay silent under pressure ( give pauses to think)
    - Don’t fidget under pressure
    * Dont try to convince people
    - Frame yourself as a equal partner ( in a negotiation; You are screening them as much as they are screening you)
    - Be willing to walk away ( not emotionally; if its clear that it signifies your confidence; Looks we’re not a match, wish you all the best)
    * Believe that you’ll be okay
    - Even if you do something that will prove a loss, be confident and know that you wont ever lose your own trust.

  • @addisonjones3795
    @addisonjones3795 3 года назад +5492

    I have always struggled with social anxiety and self esteem. I used these on my family at a party with my aunts and cousins. For the first time I felt confident. I was talking and making everyone laugh with my stories and comments. As soon as I got home I started crying with relief. I hope that I can keep applying this tricks in the future. Thank you will never be enough, But thank you.

  • @pinkyster9384
    @pinkyster9384 4 года назад +16554

    How to nail your interview:
    1. Avoid eye contact at all costs
    2. Rest your feet on the interviewers desk to assert dominance
    3. Wait for 20 seconds staring at them before answering to a question
    4. Walk out of the room calmly after refusing to take the job

    • @maxx4944
      @maxx4944 4 года назад +1628

      dont forgot to cry

    • @fsb4561
      @fsb4561 4 года назад +672

      I laughed so hard 😂😂😂 im dying here man

    • @DocPegLegRed
      @DocPegLegRed 4 года назад +60

      Hahahaha

    • @MrRiveting
      @MrRiveting 4 года назад +847

      5. Light up a cigarette indoors and smoke.

    • @redmondandkrista9475
      @redmondandkrista9475 4 года назад +33

      @@MrRiveting hahahahahaha

  • @harshsunitapancholi15
    @harshsunitapancholi15 2 года назад +209

    1. Sit relaxed and a little lean back that makes people come out to you.
    2. Be non-reactive, and react less at times when handling pressure.
    3. Speak slowly and use pauses correctly.
    4. You will be okay no matter what.

    • @TyroneMonte-v8k
      @TyroneMonte-v8k 7 месяцев назад +5

      She broke up with me. I told her I was grateful for the good times we shared. No begging, no pleading, go and be well. Moved on. Did us both a BIG favor. 😂

  • @ldb6382
    @ldb6382 4 года назад +5789

    Confidence is literally a mindset that you can force.

    • @Poop-sr9sn
      @Poop-sr9sn 4 года назад +47

      Explain

    • @jonnycpardoe
      @jonnycpardoe 4 года назад +98

      Agree on it being mindset 100%

    • @arkarmiller70
      @arkarmiller70 4 года назад +442

      Dude you are so right. I was a shy guy but today my crush offered me a snack and I used to decline the offer and today I said to her" Yeah sure why not" in front of everyone.

    • @jogolord8122
      @jogolord8122 4 года назад +16

      1 million subscribers with no videos That’s a good start. Keep the mindset you’ll do good.

    • @ellorco991
      @ellorco991 4 года назад +90

      You can cultivate a mindset though, being good at things or doing things until
      You’re good at them is a way to cultivate confidence, the fact is you have to have experiences, good and bad and learn from them, true confidence IMO is having certainty in everything you do

  • @randomappalachian4635
    @randomappalachian4635 4 года назад +5679

    Expectations: Don Draper
    Reality: Michael Scott

  • @db-7531
    @db-7531 4 года назад +9749

    True confidence can only be achieved via lightning McQueen crocs

    • @richardjohnson7379
      @richardjohnson7379 4 года назад +225

      Notice: no other clothing can be worn or it won’t work

    • @dorian_tihi5869
      @dorian_tihi5869 4 года назад +14

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    • @mrmark8603
      @mrmark8603 4 года назад +30

      A, er...friend was looking for some. Where would I, er he, get those?

    • @jay0071
      @jay0071 4 года назад +3

      Crispyyy

    • @isaacwebb20
      @isaacwebb20 4 года назад +5

      Epic gamer moment

  • @AA-qb7ni
    @AA-qb7ni 2 года назад +60

    I get anxiety going to college every single day. I'm not happy with how i feel on the inside and out. But this helped and I'm working on myself now. My goal is to leave the house feeling confident and good about myself.

    • @sil_spatafora3886
      @sil_spatafora3886 2 года назад +1

      how’s it going?

    • @oscoe
      @oscoe Год назад +2

      Hang in there…..be kind to yourself for each small thing you achieve where you overcome anxiety. Hope things are getting better.

    • @bobbye4731
      @bobbye4731 8 месяцев назад +1

      Start working out. It’ll do wonders

    • @EliteSoldier1220
      @EliteSoldier1220 4 месяца назад

      One thing that really helped me was making eye contact with every person I encountered on my way to the classroom!

  • @prodmarquese
    @prodmarquese 4 года назад +3213

    getting detached from reality made me the most confident person ive ever known lol, the key is not caring guys, your fears controlling you, if you overcome them then your anxiety is gone.. everyone is too invested in their own life, they dont care if your hair's not that good

    • @Anthony-dw3jb
      @Anthony-dw3jb 4 года назад +279

      I can vouch for this. In my younger days I used to not give 2 shits what somebody would think about me if I said this or did that, I just didn't care and every conversation/interaction I had with anyone just felt good and satisfying. These days I'm clouded by social anxiety and it's hard to enjoy being out and around people because I constantly think about how the other person is going to view me but coming across this video is reconnecting me with my past philosophy of not giving 2 shits and I have to say it feels good and thats how I know not caring really works lol. Care about what matters to you, not to them, that is the key.

    • @prodmarquese
      @prodmarquese 4 года назад +57

      @@Anthony-dw3jb Exactly, once you have control over your fears, you'll have no limits

    • @dante93nero
      @dante93nero 4 года назад +27

      @@prodmarquese Yes and no. Because even if you have no fears there is a difference in appearing confident and being arrogant. Whilist I do understand your point what someone like Don does is project confidence while not needing to be confident himself if that makes sense. There are subtle moviments you can do that swing a conversation in your favor and for someone with Don's knowledge he knows what clients want and needs.

    • @sarthaknagar6349
      @sarthaknagar6349 4 года назад +22

      How do you detach from reality? Imagine you are to give a presentation in front of 100 people and you are nervous and anxious as hell, your heart is beating fast, at that situation how would you do that?

    • @dante93nero
      @dante93nero 4 года назад +59

      @@sarthaknagar6349 the second you greet the audience. Right than and there you focus on what your are presenting and not on the audience itself

  • @ZacharyLaid
    @ZacharyLaid 5 лет назад +3426

    Confidence is built by doing something over and over until you prove to yourself that you’re actually good at it.

    • @MrMacBig273
      @MrMacBig273 5 лет назад +23

      it's the skill you trained is - lying to yourself - does it would make you confident at anything ? cause you're sure you can do it ?

    • @ASLUHLUHC3
      @ASLUHLUHC3 5 лет назад +29

      Do you know the definition of confidence?

    • @MrMacBig273
      @MrMacBig273 5 лет назад +7

      @@ASLUHLUHC3 Do you know how the human mind works ?

    • @amaracea
      @amaracea 5 лет назад +36

      Zachary is 100% right. Don’t be putting words in his comment that aren’t there.

    • @ASLUHLUHC3
      @ASLUHLUHC3 5 лет назад +66

      ​@@MrMacBig273 You also don't know what confidence means. You get s feeling of confidence/self-assurance by appreciating your own abilities or qualities, and not necessarily being a master of any particular skill.
      For instance, one could be confident at public speaking, but not necessarily be good at it.

  • @arioux
    @arioux 4 года назад +1501

    “Would you like your receipt?”
    *20 second pause
    “no.-I-I mean yes”

  • @briandtnguyen
    @briandtnguyen Год назад +319

    As a practicing attorney, I often remind myself to pause while speaking with a judge or a jury.
    It creates suspense. But more importantly, it actually allows me to hear my own thoughts and feel my feelings.
    Pausing also gives the other person time to process everything I just said.
    I would add that confidence is a two-way street.
    I find that if I practice active listening when I speak with people and really make space for them, they open up and we then mutually instill confidence in one another.
    Confidence doesn’t always have to be a competition.

    • @mosesrichard394
      @mosesrichard394 10 месяцев назад +3

      i m in Law school.. i will start practicing your way

    • @AmyKwon-q2y
      @AmyKwon-q2y 8 месяцев назад

      Amazing advice

    • @roman8197
      @roman8197 5 месяцев назад

      you're an attorney shut up

    • @Kerrviii
      @Kerrviii 2 месяца назад

      I’m an accountant and I do this when I need to process information. It’s not an act. I need to pause to think about how to consult and problem solve.
      Confidence comes from faith that things will work out fine. Every problem can be solved.
      I love the idea of slowing down to think.

  • @CelineCatalina98
    @CelineCatalina98 4 года назад +8848

    "do you want fries with that?"
    *20 second pause*
    "yes"

  • @mglynn4450
    @mglynn4450 5 лет назад +719

    I once saw Cesar Milan live and he said "Calm is power" and that was the strongest piece of advice I've ever heard.

    • @amaracea
      @amaracea 5 лет назад +5

      A friend told me that once when we were kids.
      We aren’t friends anymore because first I forgot about that, and then he forgot about that, and now we’re probably never going to talk to each other again. I forgive him now, it’s been a while, but knowing him I doubt he’s forgiven me. I don’t know if he’s capable of forgiveness. Or any real feelings, for that matter.

    • @Julian-bq9qv
      @Julian-bq9qv 5 лет назад +3

      @@amaracea so very sad. Words spoken in haste or in anger can never be taken back. If both parties are willing and committed, then a friendship can recover and endure; but anything less is like trying to build half a bridge.

    • @jamietodd2560
      @jamietodd2560 5 лет назад +20

      Calm means the other person cannot affect you. They might try because if they can make you react then it shows that _they_ have the power to make you react. But if you remain cool and collected no matter what happens, then you retain all of that power, and actually steal some of theirs, because now you've both seen their failure.

    • @Julian-bq9qv
      @Julian-bq9qv 5 лет назад +2

      @@jamietodd2560 well said!!!

    • @ryanw8510
      @ryanw8510 5 лет назад +2

      Be like Don Draper if you want to pick up beautiful women...be like Cesar Milan if you want to pick up dogs!

  • @michalpiskorski9731
    @michalpiskorski9731 4 года назад +206

    Two rules which I have applied a long time ago and have improved my life completely.
    - Pause and think about what you're about to say, and then say it, always.
    - Sometimes it is better to not say anything.

    • @aljack1979
      @aljack1979 4 года назад +12

      What I learnt from my military career, 'only fools rush in'

    • @Wayne--O
      @Wayne--O 3 года назад +1

      .

    • @mikeymorrison272
      @mikeymorrison272 3 года назад +1

      Definitely agree

    • @praesidium4278
      @praesidium4278 2 года назад +1

      I need to do this but to,do such great things,I need to destroy my schizophrenic version of myself and then I can be free and in touch with reality

  • @Sumtik_77
    @Sumtik_77 Месяц назад +1038

    it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden psychology ebook called the manipulation enigma

    • @minela227
      @minela227 Месяц назад +2

      Just the best thing to say for this book is POWERFUL!

  • @GamerDwarfTR
    @GamerDwarfTR 4 года назад +1107

    Watched this with my dog
    Now he’s giving speeches about confidence.

    • @SebAnders
      @SebAnders 3 года назад +48

      You could say he's now...
      Top Dog.

    • @brodemfamalam7178
      @brodemfamalam7178 3 года назад +21

      Guess you could call him a dawg now

    • @3zooz17
      @3zooz17 3 года назад +12

      @@brodemfamalam7178 guess you can call him snoop dog😂😂😂😂

    • @anasubia4346
      @anasubia4346 3 года назад

      😬

    • @BlackDiamond2718
      @BlackDiamond2718 3 года назад +1

      Second in command to snowball

  • @poozizzle
    @poozizzle 5 лет назад +410

    Audrey Hepburn was asked how she seemed so poised all the time, she said she slows down. I started talking that to heart in stressful situations, and it's worked. I feel myself getting panicky in a social situation and then just walk slower, talk slower, allows your thoughts to slow down and become less reactive.

    • @ErikaK
      @ErikaK 5 лет назад +9

      Yes ! Love that! It gives you the time to think and analyse the situation. Also taking deep breaths can help to manage our emotions ♡

    • @gabyperez1123
      @gabyperez1123 5 лет назад +1

      Wow, I should try that.

    • @ErikaK
      @ErikaK 5 лет назад +4

      @@gabyperez1123 :) yes, before reacting to a certain situation, before responding, taking a deep breath can help you channel your emotions and think the things through. Taking deep breaths can help you release anxiety, stress and even anger.

    • @tripslikstar
      @tripslikstar 5 лет назад +4

      I worked in security. I always told my guards that when it gets crazy, slow down. Simply your list, take a deep breathe and control what you can. Seem to work as me and my team were very successful.

    • @ErikaK
      @ErikaK 5 лет назад +1

      @@tripslikstarthat's great! it really really helps
      Have a wonderful week !

  • @Andy-lj9pr
    @Andy-lj9pr 3 года назад +363

    1)Relaxed Body language
    2)Selective eye contact
    3)Non-Reactiveness/Silence/Patient response
    4)Framing the situation
    5)No matter what... you will be okay.

  • @Kerrviii
    @Kerrviii 6 дней назад +1

    The biggest confidence and flex is your character , self control and how you carry yourself just adds to it.

    • @Pipsboy_
      @Pipsboy_ 19 часов назад

      Exactly my dear

  • @philiphaycock3845
    @philiphaycock3845 5 лет назад +5357

    All I got from this is that the narrator has a crush on this actor.

    • @RageAZA
      @RageAZA 5 лет назад +123

      hey we all have our man crushes. a one sided bromance..

    • @_BhagavadGita
      @_BhagavadGita 5 лет назад +250

      Or perhaps you're just projecting your feelings onto the narrator?

    • @32alltheway
      @32alltheway 5 лет назад +63

      Pretty much. nothing like basing your own confidence on a drunken, philandering, identity stealing, morally bankrupt pretty boy. moral of the story, be pretty!

    • @zoulzopan
      @zoulzopan 5 лет назад +18

      You don't?

    • @hannahmadden3573
      @hannahmadden3573 4 года назад +12

      What a Hamm.

  • @Je.rone_
    @Je.rone_ 5 лет назад +1304

    4:30 *Slowing things down and thinking before reacting Is something I find extremely effective*

    • @amaracea
      @amaracea 5 лет назад +60

      Yeah. It’s really difficult when you’re trained growing up and your whole life that you’re dirt and everyone else is better than you - meaning, hey, respond promptly to people and don’t waste their time. It’s more valuable than yours. When you realize you’re making them wait, you feel like your face is on fire and your hands get all greasy and your chest starts trying to kill you and you can tell they’re hearing how unbelievably loud and shallow your breathing suddenly is and that sweat on your forehead is “this close” to getting in your eye and you forget what you were trying to figure out to say

    • @Angeck
      @Angeck 5 лет назад +27

      @@amaracea Do this 3 times. First 2 times it feels terrible and difficult, and at the 3rd time it starts getting more comfortable.
      Also some people would be surprised at how first and second impressions don't matter and people forget how you've been in the past. The point being, go and make some mistakes, It's good for you.

    • @capo328
      @capo328 5 лет назад +2

      @@amaracea I know that feeling

    • @rickjohnson1719
      @rickjohnson1719 5 лет назад +2

      I find it annoying because i dont think when i speak so i flow. I think by talking so its aweful waiting for other people to answer.

    • @Je.rone_
      @Je.rone_ 5 лет назад +4

      @@rickjohnson1719 Depending on the complexity of the situation/conversation I think one can choose to just flow, a stream of consciousness so to speak, in lieu of well-thoughtout speech.

  • @OMGSHEENA
    @OMGSHEENA 3 года назад +702

    Realizing that no matter what happens, I'll be okay, is exactly how I survived my childhood. I used to stress so much then after so many dramatic plot twists, I realized if I survived all that, I will survive whatever else comes my way and that's when I stopped stressing as much. I hadn't really connected it with confidence before but I can see the connection now. Interesting. 🤔

    • @bbx7739
      @bbx7739 3 года назад +6

      Same here. I am the only one who is not afraid to speak up, regardless of their position. After you collect your guts to stand up to your parents, you have no fear standing up to anyone :)

    • @pastelteaaniiii
      @pastelteaaniiii 2 года назад +1

      Truth.

    • @bernhardsonn7758
      @bernhardsonn7758 2 года назад +1

      Uf

    • @fredricmontana5420
      @fredricmontana5420 2 года назад +1

      In the end, most people wont survive. 🙂

    • @lyrebird9749
      @lyrebird9749 Год назад

      So sorry to hear what happened to you. But have faith in yourself, you are strong and capable. You have survived. You will survive. Peace.

  • @clairebaujard4519
    @clairebaujard4519 2 года назад +12

    That last point about true, unshakeable confidence in yourself is absolutely golden. That's what it all boils down to. Brilliantly put, thank you!

  • @lord_voldemort44
    @lord_voldemort44 4 года назад +163

    Stop worrying about always needing to say the right thing because you think the other person or the group might reject you, because you know that you will never reject yourself --- this really hit man, ty for this video

  • @DrJonTam
    @DrJonTam 4 года назад +1029

    0:16 Two types of confidence: External and
    Internal
    0:43 1: Relaxed body language
    3:03 2: Be non-reactive
    5:24 3: Don’t try to convince people
    7:04 4: Believe that you will always be ok

  • @mihaiioantabacaru7758
    @mihaiioantabacaru7758 4 года назад +326

    "My name is Don" what a great pickup line, I'll definitely use it!

    • @dogguyful
      @dogguyful 3 года назад +15

      My name is Bond, James Bond

    • @petezah4597
      @petezah4597 3 года назад +23

      @@dogguyful my name is Don, Don Don

    • @dogguyful
      @dogguyful 3 года назад +1

      @@petezah4597 Hahaha 😂

    • @tinockovietea2470
      @tinockovietea2470 3 года назад +1

      Don Dada on the down low

    • @MundoGamesDo
      @MundoGamesDo 3 года назад

      @@petezah4597 Tava aqui no baile escutando aquele som

  • @zig8925
    @zig8925 2 года назад +7

    It's about balancing when to be open and when not to be. You don't want to be telling the wrong people your weak points, but you also don't want to be a bottle that looks perfect but shatters after some time, because of the pressure it's holding.
    Recently I've not been balancing it properly. I've been too focused on saying the perfect thing. I've not been patient, I've been wanting instant confidence. This is cause I want to feel the same confidence I did in the past.

  • @MotiveVideoBook
    @MotiveVideoBook 5 лет назад +256

    "you will be okay no matter what" yes this is powerful

  • @EllaRingrose
    @EllaRingrose 4 года назад +31

    With Confidence it is also to remind yourself that everyone is going through things, everyone is up in their own heads worrying about themselves. Once you realise this it is so easy to walk around with ease and assured in who you are. Everyone is human. With any scenario that scares you, ask yourself the simple question ‘What is the worst outcome that can happen from this situation’, usually it isn’t half as bad as we make it out to be! Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Challenge yourself everyday and you will step into a Confident Person. All the love and incredible video, Thank you x

    • @fibonaccisrazor
      @fibonaccisrazor 4 года назад

      That was everything in a nutshell - spot on, I think.

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      @dorian_tihi5869 4 года назад

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  • @mistermister2291
    @mistermister2291 5 лет назад +66

    Confidence isn't about getting other peoplr to agree with you or accept you, it's about living your life without worry. I think that a lot of the reasons people watch this channel come from wanting social acceptance. Ironically, that means that for many of us (myself included), the biggest obstical to overcome in being charismatic, is what drove us to try to be in the first place.

    • @billthebax5578
      @billthebax5578 5 лет назад +8

      Vael Ryker well put. When my son was about 4th grade I was listening to him and his buddy's sitting around talking. (My son was born with bi-lateral club feet) one of the boys told him, so and so is faster than you. His answer, big deal everyone is faster than me. Too cool, that ended right there. That kid tried to step on him, but found nothing to step on.

  • @Dr.HouseMD
    @Dr.HouseMD Год назад +108

    You gotta watch the show. Don is terrified or nervous in 1/4 of these situations. Not to mention his character is literally about an insecure person who imitates a persona to fit in.

    • @TyroneMonte-v8k
      @TyroneMonte-v8k 7 месяцев назад +1

      Don is akin to a Deep Cover Espionage Agent with a totally crafted false persona.

    • @thefutureisnow7300
      @thefutureisnow7300 7 месяцев назад +3

      Don is good at disguising his fears

    • @Arthanlis-Orthodox
      @Arthanlis-Orthodox 5 месяцев назад

      Hey, I would like to watch, what is the name of the show please ?

    • @Dr.HouseMD
      @Dr.HouseMD 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@Arthanlis-Orthodox Mad Men

    • @Arthanlis-Orthodox
      @Arthanlis-Orthodox 5 месяцев назад

      @@Dr.HouseMD Thank you sir

  • @SCRKT007
    @SCRKT007 4 года назад +135

    So basically accepting oneself is the very key factor on being confident, kinda mind blowing that it also goes around by the famous saying "once you start believing in yourself, anything is possible".

    • @jns08d
      @jns08d 3 года назад +5

      This is SO TRUE, 5 years ago I was a super insecure college student, got some therapy and now I'm more in love with myself than ever.

  • @TakeBackYourMind997
    @TakeBackYourMind997 3 года назад +117

    If you spend time getting to know yourself, and learn to love and accept that person then you strengthen the most important relationship of your life, the one you have with yourself. If that relationship is solid then you always have an inner safe haven no matter what is going on around you. That self love and understanding allows you to stay true to yourself in every situation, that is the deepest form of confidence.

    • @percyvalle921
      @percyvalle921 3 года назад +1

      True

    • @JoseSantos-el8nj
      @JoseSantos-el8nj 2 года назад +2

      Yes but also improving that old self version of you is necessary sometimes, not only accepting it, doing something about if you feel unhappy about certain aspects of yourself

    • @marcschox4769
      @marcschox4769 2 года назад

      @@JoseSantos-el8nj exactly bro i gotta hit the gym im not gonna accept myself being skinny

    • @JoseSantos-el8nj
      @JoseSantos-el8nj 2 года назад +1

      @@marcschox4769 That's what I've been doing bro, keep it up you're gonna make it

  • @fbmw98
    @fbmw98 5 лет назад +712

    This channel went from how to act charismatically to how to fix your life principles and improve your life drastically in less then 3 years

    • @thedogofchucknorris
      @thedogofchucknorris 5 лет назад +12

      Ferrel Brendan than*

    • @AutumnOnFire
      @AutumnOnFire 5 лет назад +4

      Is that not one in the same?

    • @fbmw98
      @fbmw98 5 лет назад +6

      @@thedogofchucknorris corrected, thanks mate

    • @fbmw98
      @fbmw98 5 лет назад +6

      @@AutumnOnFire Having a principle will result in consistency and makes people automatically charismatic.

    • @paatrick90
      @paatrick90 5 лет назад +20

      @@fbmw98 The biggest thing that happened this week was when someone said "thanks" to a grammar correction in a RUclips, instead of getting triggered. The tiniest thing ever, but I felt inspired by this. Good mindset.

  • @slothman6696
    @slothman6696 12 дней назад +1

    I recently finished a brutal apprenticeship program where I learned everything I needed to learn about my chosen profession in 6 months...to the day of hire. I already had been around and done many things that had built my confidence over the years, and had many failings.... but this time I did not fail, as a matter of fact I triumphed in a way that I had not before, and it was because of my past experiences. I've won awards, I've been in newspapers, I've made films. I've been a machinist, a truck driver, a cook and a kitchen manager. My new profession I would not have been able to obtain without the confidence of my past failings. Do not be afraid to fail. Do not be afraid to be yourself. All you need to show everyone is that you can do it. Show them. Stand tall. Believe in yourself because if you don't then no one else will. Most importantly, Be genuine...that's what people respect the most. Do not hide your intentions, say what you want and how you're going to make it happen, and then do it.
    .

    • @Pipsboy_
      @Pipsboy_ 19 часов назад

      Great view ❤

  • @osse1n
    @osse1n 5 лет назад +443

    Internal confidence can also be called *SELF-ESTEEM*
    - Ultimately, it boils down to mastering your own psychology and understanding that you have unlimited powers

    • @Bennevisie
      @Bennevisie 5 лет назад +4

      Don Draper had self esteem? You sure?

    • @Infinite_exhilaration
      @Infinite_exhilaration 5 лет назад +11

      VariableVision Absolutely! confidence isn’t something someone always radiates, it fluctuates, not everyone always feel amazing every second of every day, Don Draper definitely has had confidence at some point in his life, and may be feeling that exact way right now, it’s something you cultivate that takes time, so your answer is a bit obvious, sometimes you feel confident, sometimes not, everyone has had confidence at one point in their life

    • @lukaseckart8583
      @lukaseckart8583 5 лет назад +23

      If ones self-esteem is based on the believe that one has unlimited powers, one will at some point fail and then be forced to question it. This is far from mastering ones psychology I guess...
      Knowing ones limits, being confident about the potentual one has and honest about all of it seems like self-esteem that is way more natural. Just my thougt on it tho..

    • @Bennevisie
      @Bennevisie 5 лет назад +10

      @@Infinite_exhilaration Don Draper definitely had confidence. But I would argue his self destructive behaviour (alcoholism, serial cheating on his wife, constant lying) is rather a sign of lack of self esteem. One should not confuse self esteem with confidence. One runs much deeper and the other is more superficial and ego-centric.

    • @Infinite_exhilaration
      @Infinite_exhilaration 5 лет назад

      VariableVision I’m a contradiction because I agree and disagree with you. You should never mix self esteem with confidence, however... people’s behavior, it changes over time, take Robert Downey Jr by example, his life was going essentially nowhere, and he made a decision to completely change the course of his life, and arguably kick started the MCU. Now... I’m not talking that big of a change, but he could of been known for binge drinking 4 months ago, and has that stigma, but 3 weeks ago, without us knowing, he made the decision to stop drinking, or drink less and less, so... it’s very difficult in my opinion to judge someone on their past behavior when change is just one decision away, and your argument may be people don’t change, and it’s a possibility like most people they are basing that statement from their own personal experience. Today he could of made a decision to change everything around. The truth is we don’t know. It’s the same as having a best friend always hung out in Highschool, you graduated, moved to a different state, visited him 3 years later, you can be a completely different person, so much so he doesn’t even recognize you

  • @alexd0103
    @alexd0103 5 лет назад +4856

    How to be confident
    Step 1: steal someone else’s personality and life

    • @reyjoson7895
      @reyjoson7895 5 лет назад +107

      Alex
      Step1: migrate
      Step 2: steal someone else’s personality and life

    • @matttheamerican3766
      @matttheamerican3766 5 лет назад +71

      Not funny. Dudes actually do this crap

    • @CaliburovX4
      @CaliburovX4 5 лет назад +42

      Rey Joson
      Step three: Profit.

    • @bobbye7353
      @bobbye7353 5 лет назад +49

      He isn't talking about his personality at all. This is all about behavior. How mature successful men behave.

    • @tcnotrvlr
      @tcnotrvlr 5 лет назад +9

      stealing someone else's personality and life? Wack!
      You'll end up like Edward Norton's character at the end of The Italian Job movie from 2003-
      A no originality, unconfident, LOSER that can't decide who they Actually are.

  • @jannazepp8939
    @jannazepp8939 4 года назад +27

    I totally and finally fell in love with the Don Draper character when he embraced the other guy in genuine empathy and in a gesture of comfort. That was his defining moment as a human. Also, Jon Hamm. Wow. What an amazing actor.

    • @raydencreed1524
      @raydencreed1524 4 года назад +2

      @Janna Zepp When the dude was describing his dream, I felt like I wanted to give him a hug. And then Don goes and actually does it, holy crap.

    • @jannazepp5161
      @jannazepp5161 4 года назад +2

      Greg Walker yes. It is totally conditional. We don’t like whiny wimps who tell us who they think we are. We like men who don’t blame us for everything that is wrong. We like men who like women. We hate men who hate women. So yeah. You are right. It IS conditional. Those are the conditions. I have my own money. My husband has his own money. Get a job, a clue, snd stop being a weakling.

  • @AbeNXC
    @AbeNXC 2 года назад +4

    I’ve lived my life so far by the adage “this too shall pass”… idk why it stuck with me so hard the first time I heard it but it’s literally how I operate my life on the daily now. This saying has gotten me through countless excruciating physical AND emotional pain over the years and I really believe it’s changed me for the better

    • @lewiskori9426
      @lewiskori9426 6 месяцев назад

      I agree with you. The day I learned about the hedonic treadmill was the day my life changed for the better. Deep down I always know that everything is temporary.

  • @bimwapshimmiesham8068
    @bimwapshimmiesham8068 5 лет назад +7

    This is what I’ve been saying for years. Once you fall into that mindset of everything is NOT going to be ok, you literally become this. Thank you... finally someone understands what I’ve been saying.

  • @SkippyBrown
    @SkippyBrown 3 года назад +303

    I feel like a big part of Don's character is that even HE has his own issues with self-confidence, but he never let's people see that. When he does, that's when we start to see the layers peel back and Don's true self starts to show.
    It's really all about how you project yourself to the world and those around you.

    • @berkguler5339
      @berkguler5339 3 года назад +1

      blessed words

    • @dominickdean2873
      @dominickdean2873 2 года назад +2

      Not necessarily the point. The point is to have true enough confidence in yourself to be able to be vulnerable in front of others, and not in a poor me way.

    • @1023kdawg
      @1023kdawg 2 года назад +12

      And then you realize that real confidence and real freedom is not having to "project" yourself to anyone .

    • @kayleighc1681
      @kayleighc1681 Год назад +4

      An even bigger part of Don's character is that he's a manipulative gaslighting narcissist, definitely not someone to look up to at all

    • @thefutureisnow7300
      @thefutureisnow7300 7 месяцев назад

      @@kayleighc1681but he’s fully aware of it and uses it to his advantage

  • @VinnySmiles01
    @VinnySmiles01 4 года назад +2080

    Let’s be real here, most of Don’s confidence comes from the fact that he drinks so much. Drunk people are just more confident no matter what.

    • @seconds-js7pf
      @seconds-js7pf 4 года назад +226

      Because they arent constantly worrying about consequences and living in the moment

    • @robertbelyea5767
      @robertbelyea5767 4 года назад +18

      Yep. No matter what there's always a drink to cure what ails ya.

    • @Yjkishke
      @Yjkishke 4 года назад +9

      If only it were that easy

    • @bighands69
      @bighands69 4 года назад +66

      Don is not confident because he drinks. That is just pure nonsense. He is confident because he does not actually care about most of the things that shape other people.
      He does not care about money in the way other people does, he does not care what others think and above all he is willing to just try.
      Everybody knows a Don Draper. That does not mean he is a good person morality is something different.

    • @lf2208
      @lf2208 4 года назад +121

      Don Draper's confidence comes from the fact that he is a character in a TV show, and he is only written into scenes where he is, and can be, confident.

  • @iloveas999too4
    @iloveas999too4 2 года назад +8

    1.Have a relax body language and more freely in every environment. Have selective eye contact and make eye contact when your doing a main point. Do not over react and stay non reactive. Remain in silence to think or when confused. SLOW DOWN
    2.Make yourself seem as equals with others. Do not get angry and stay calm
    3.believe that you will be okay in every situation no matter what

  • @EL1T3xFaTe
    @EL1T3xFaTe 5 лет назад +433

    DO a tommy shelby from Peaky blinders confidence/dominating a situation breakdown! most intimidating without trying character in any show (sorry tywin)

  • @camj256
    @camj256 5 лет назад +4720

    If only real people were scripted to react perfectly to everything I say.

    • @VoidVerses
      @VoidVerses 5 лет назад +83

      Stfu punk

    • @CoolDrifty
      @CoolDrifty 5 лет назад +404

      @@VoidVerses nah he's right. you can do everything right in a conversation and the other person will still be awkward and antisocial.

    • @VoidVerses
      @VoidVerses 5 лет назад +47

      @@CoolDrifty you didn't get the joke... oh well 🤣

    • @CoolDrifty
      @CoolDrifty 5 лет назад +154

      Jesus Eduardo well I’ve heard better jokes

    • @VoidVerses
      @VoidVerses 5 лет назад +55

      @@CoolDrifty no, you heard easier jokes..

  • @davidharler9149
    @davidharler9149 3 года назад +16

    also gotta say, the 4th tip really hits home. Specifically, love the line "...and you may begin to even look forward to the situations that stressed you out"

  • @IsraelGarciaRivera
    @IsraelGarciaRivera 2 года назад +3

    You made me remember one of my favorite episodes of Mad Men... That hug Don gives to the other man, it is just emotional 100%. Deep.

  • @cameronbajt4
    @cameronbajt4 5 лет назад +49

    "Keeping emotional expression in check actually inspires resolves in others" - this is actual gold.

  • @Valpskott
    @Valpskott 5 лет назад +75

    I have a hard time pausing when speaking, because in 99% of times, someone will just take the floor with something completely different even if most people are listening. There is always someone in a crowd that just want to turn the attention to themselves.

    • @klang7591
      @klang7591 5 лет назад +1

      Valpskott :D

    • @FridayXO
      @FridayXO 5 лет назад +4

      shush that person stealing the spotlight then

    • @Dark_Voice
      @Dark_Voice 4 года назад +2

      @@FridayXO Well, I wouldnt let you. Unless you physically attack me which wouldnt end well for your public image.

    • @bighands69
      @bighands69 4 года назад +2

      +Valpskott
      That means you are not in control of your situation.

    • @abrahammontiel6419
      @abrahammontiel6419 4 года назад +1

      Dark Voice wtf u talking bout?

  • @rk5kuenzler351
    @rk5kuenzler351 5 лет назад +125

    How accurate this is is actually kind of crazy. I've followed most of these in the past and have deviated recently while going through some things and allowing myself to be off balance. I used to spend so much time on my own thinking and pondering what the ideal way to be happy and so on and so forth is. At the end of my day I'd reassess: What happened today, what was the goal here, why did it go the way it did, why did someone react the way they did, what could I have done different.... ANYWAY. Being honest and therefore speaking from a place where you feel grounded and stable and therefore confident while being open to being wrong and realizing you will be ok no matter what. the world is up to your interpretation. is all there is to it.

    • @TrupimOkiemTV
      @TrupimOkiemTV 5 лет назад +2

      wow that was good

    • @Metallicuz
      @Metallicuz 5 лет назад +2

      Thank you for taking the time to write this.

  • @HawksNestYT
    @HawksNestYT 2 года назад +8

    Have you ever done a video on charisma and confidence demonstrated by non attractive people? That would be intriguing. As for example on this video, around 1:30, he’s leaned back and looks comfortable, but a larger person would be getting a double chin and can come across “different” because of that. That’s obviously a small thing, but it got me thinking of how every video I’ve seen relates to those that already have a natural physical attractiveness that makes “mental” attractiveness maybe not “easier” but at least amplified

    • @erikig
      @erikig Год назад +1

      Good point, maybe watching videos of guys that weren’t traditionally attractive like Churchill, Idi Amin etc (and the actors that have played them in movies). Notice what they are doing when they seem their most confident and charismatic. 😊

  • @ns3938
    @ns3938 4 года назад +57

    Being brought up in a loving and supportive environment and being physically attractive are the most important contributors to confidence.

    • @njhd9923
      @njhd9923 4 года назад +8

      What if I told u that even with those 2 things u could still not be confident 🤔

    • @dhiadridi4062
      @dhiadridi4062 4 года назад +2

      Definitely wrong answer

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      @dorian_tihi5869 4 года назад

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  • @high_fly_bird
    @high_fly_bird 4 года назад +23

    The great idea of this video is that we will be OK, no matter what other people will think of us, if we embrace ourselves. It is such an insight. Thank you for this fascinating video!

  • @iampaulwadsworth
    @iampaulwadsworth 5 лет назад +1106

    Building self-confidence will change your life.
    Have an amazing day.

    • @stevenorfolk7008
      @stevenorfolk7008 5 лет назад +7

      100% truth

    • @wgaule
      @wgaule 5 лет назад +6

      You can't change your life, it only happens once.

    • @TheAbrahamHD
      @TheAbrahamHD 5 лет назад +3

      No, YOU have an amazing day.

    • @wgaule
      @wgaule 5 лет назад

      @@TheAbrahamHD Shut up dummy!

    • @Elias___
      @Elias___ 5 лет назад +1

      No

  • @jefffrodermann5348
    @jefffrodermann5348 3 месяца назад

    " You are okay, and you will be okay.". That's an outstanding line, and I appreciate the focus of this video. Intrinsic confidence is powerful, but perhaps it is more difficult to master. Thank you for this content and for all of your videos.

    • @Farawayfromyou9
      @Farawayfromyou9 2 месяца назад

      What exactly is the purpose of them and this channel? I'm confused. Does it mean to make characters like Tommy Shelby and... as role models or just learn from them and add to our best version?!

  • @zticket3021
    @zticket3021 3 года назад +43

    Such a great series too. It's all about finding a path to happiness and how we're all sold a false idea of what that is. The show asks if we can change enough to be a better person, love ourselves, and find authentic joy. Don is living the idea of the American Dream, which makes him extremely confident, but inside he's a mess. He goes on on journey from realizing how shallow his "perfect life" is to accepting his truly self. And every episode it like a short story, hitting upon a different theme that explores this idea.
    Highly recommended if you haven't seen it.

    • @PhialSubstance
      @PhialSubstance 2 года назад +2

      After watching this video I’m actually considering watching Madmen even though it’s not my kind of thing at all.

  • @tanishmishra9152
    @tanishmishra9152 4 года назад +710

    The only reason he drapes his hand over the adjacent chair so often is because his name is Don Draper and I cannot be convinced otherwise

    • @stevekemp7091
      @stevekemp7091 4 года назад +7

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 best comment ever on any video in the world

    • @TheDoomer666
      @TheDoomer666 4 года назад +6

      ah man, English joke, I don't get it

    • @stevekemp7091
      @stevekemp7091 4 года назад +6

      @@TheDoomer666 you speak very good England sir

    • @darksunrise37
      @darksunrise37 4 года назад +3

      nooo dons drapes his hand because hes confident broo he feels comfortable with himself and his environment brooo you gotta hear me out bro it’s nota cuz his last names draper brooooooo

    • @mochalatte8878
      @mochalatte8878 3 года назад +5

      @@darksunrise37 it’s a joke-

  • @afonsolucas2219
    @afonsolucas2219 5 лет назад +168

    How to be like Don Draper:
    Step 1: When in doubt, remain absolutely silent
    Step 2: When asked about your past give vague and open ended answers
    Step 3: Have a great name
    Step 4: Look fantastic in a suit, look fantastic in casual wear, look fantastic in anything. Sound good. Smell good. Kiss good. Strutt around with supreme confidence. Take 6 hour lunches. Disappear for weeks at a time! Lie to everyone about everything and most importantly... Drink and smoke constantly. Basically...
    Be Don Draper

    • @bohdanrohachenko7650
      @bohdanrohachenko7650 5 лет назад +9

      And die from a liver failure due to constantly smoking and drinking.

    • @afonsolucas2219
      @afonsolucas2219 5 лет назад +3

      Guys, this is a sketch from SNL with Jon Hamm. It's perfect go watch it.

    • @evindrews
      @evindrews 5 лет назад +1

      step 5: crumble as a human being

    • @binal-flecki2387
      @binal-flecki2387 5 лет назад +2

      *Boss asks me something*
      *Stays absolutely silent*

    • @afonsolucas2219
      @afonsolucas2219 5 лет назад +2

      @@binal-flecki2387 Boss: ... You're promoted.

  • @nerdalert6578
    @nerdalert6578 2 года назад +20

    We need this curriculum in today's schools & make it mandatory for all students unfortunately this is something schools never teach us & as a 25 Yr old I can vouch for all adults when I say your degrees, grades & education doesn't matter if you're not able to express yourself. Until you're confident in you own skin you can never be successful.Period..!

  • @tmanfit
    @tmanfit 5 лет назад +31

    This video was so powerful, I'm going to save it and come back to it anytime I feel unconfident. There shouldn't be a reason not to feel confident.

  • @TexasJack78
    @TexasJack78 3 года назад +70

    Confidence is a feeling, it's an emotion, it's thought. It's always internal.
    "External confidence" as you put it, that is by definition a facade.

    • @vincentmutel7313
      @vincentmutel7313 2 года назад +4

      Or maybe a projection of internal confidence ?

    • @RL-fr4hf
      @RL-fr4hf 2 года назад +2

      fake it till you make it applies. If you act confident then eventually you will become confident, as long as it's for the right reasons.

  • @freddelarsson4434
    @freddelarsson4434 5 лет назад +159

    Taking pauses in between answering questions and making statements, then making eye contact is a hell of a powerful thing I learned. A must read is The Alabaster Girl.

    • @dahman9089
      @dahman9089 5 лет назад +1

      I did that 4 or 6 times and yeh
      It's something powerful even it gives you NRJ and thoughts to add later in your conversations

    • @hamschh
      @hamschh 5 лет назад

      Jon Hamm lit someone on fire in college at a frat house

  • @qualityquotes229
    @qualityquotes229 2 года назад +35

    “It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.”
    ― Lou Holtz

  • @BuioPestato
    @BuioPestato 5 лет назад +970

    Don is drunk most of the time, that's what it is

    • @kentuckyfriedchildren5385
      @kentuckyfriedchildren5385 4 года назад +11

      It's not a package, you can get his positive aspects without his problems

    • @dylangarcia5803
      @dylangarcia5803 4 года назад +15

      no he just gets a sip but never drunk

    • @olog222
      @olog222 4 года назад +1

      lmfao yep

    • @flobbertop4278
      @flobbertop4278 4 года назад

      I’m aiming for that...

    • @ShushaSofia
      @ShushaSofia 4 года назад +1

      My temporary solution until I get it right

  • @GawdTy
    @GawdTy 4 года назад +515

    He looks like if micheal from the office was cool LOL

  • @endlessdrive8421
    @endlessdrive8421 4 года назад +7

    This is the only self-improvement channel which I genuinely feel like I'm being provided real value...not just some fake advice to start buying into a cult following like so many other self-help channels. Been following this channel since way before 1 mil subs and I'm really happy to see how much this channel has grown.

    • @felixkemp3719
      @felixkemp3719 2 года назад

      Watch some of Alex Becker's videos trust

  • @misty_mouse987
    @misty_mouse987 3 года назад +2

    you will never reject yourself... love this

  • @senaami23
    @senaami23 5 лет назад +11

    "You'll stop worrying that other people will reject you because you know you'll never reject yourself."
    I was taken aback by how hard that line hit me.

  • @broste2121
    @broste2121 3 года назад +63

    "I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be until I became that person"
    Cary Grant

  • @DanTrustsTheFathersPlan
    @DanTrustsTheFathersPlan 5 лет назад +31

    Top Notch commentary on Don's traits, his not give a *F* what others think factor is a huge confidence trait

  • @TGGent92
    @TGGent92 4 месяца назад

    Reprograming your mind, body and soul is the toughest thing I've ever done. I continue to struggle with reacting to situations. It's bad when people get the best of you. All the time people are at you, making it much more difficult to obtain what you want. It can be corrected, it can be done. I work everyday to get closer to be the man I want to be.

  • @imranmeco3393
    @imranmeco3393 5 лет назад +6

    You know, I've always had this mindset almost without realising it, but I never connected that to my internal confidence. Recently I got into a rather large personal crysis and I've abandoned that belief. This video really helped me remember it and put that gear back into place so that I may function again.
    Thank you. Love your work. Keep going.

  • @Randommmmm204
    @Randommmmm204 3 года назад +17

    I was struggling with social anxiety for a while. I went to therapy, got it fixed, and now I've been doing these things without even knowing the "theory" behind it. It just came naturally. Old friends of mine say I'm a completely different person. And I can see it. It's really strange.

    • @nykhilsandhu
      @nykhilsandhu 3 года назад +1

      what did u do to get over your anxiety, may i ask?

    • @Randommmmm204
      @Randommmmm204 3 года назад +1

      @@nykhilsandhu Medication, therapy and someone who was very close to me. That last one was the most important part.

    • @nykhilsandhu
      @nykhilsandhu 3 года назад

      @@Randommmmm204 thanks mate, got any tips that I can implement now?

    • @Randommmmm204
      @Randommmmm204 3 года назад

      @@nykhilsandhu Honestly, fake it till you make it. Act confident even though you aren't and eventually the confidence will come to you. Also, I think a good exercise for conversation is talking to strangers online. Just talk with them. Your anxiety will basically disappear because of the anonymity. That depends on the seed of your anxiety too though. Listen, I'm not an expert. I highly suggest going to a therapist. But you have to talk freely. Don't hold anything back. And the therapist isn't there to fix your problems, he/she's there to walk you through all of this. Make you realize what's wrong with you, where it started and give you tips on how to change yourself to be better.

    • @nykhilsandhu
      @nykhilsandhu 3 года назад

      @@Randommmmm204 thank you so much mate, really appreciate your help :)

  • @kr3642
    @kr3642 3 года назад +33

    I love seeing platonic, meaningful, affection and support between men on screen and in person. It makes me emotional lol

  • @willy4129
    @willy4129 2 года назад +2

    Today, in hopes of attracting attention from my crush, I made several jokes in class and everyone laughed including the teacher! Thanks for giving me confidence. I'm still getting there...

  • @freelcf
    @freelcf 5 лет назад +62

    Be true and authentic, and we'll always be ok.

    • @jonnycpardoe
      @jonnycpardoe 4 года назад +1

      Thank you. A great and sensible comment.

    • @anavalenz9716
      @anavalenz9716 4 года назад

      I agree with that. I always feel confident being myself and since I am an honest person people generally like me, if not at the beginning, because I am not good-looking, they will end up liking my personality.

  • @joedaemohoe1387
    @joedaemohoe1387 5 лет назад +234

    I know he' a fictional character, but hes a big role model to me
    Edit: Let me Clarify, a role model for confidence, and anything relating to that, because as a kid (i obviously didnt have it as hard as the character) i was homeless most of the time, bullied, shy, people pleaser, rarely stood up for myself, etc. And i admire how don handles people who dont agree with him and does what he want, even if its confrontational (I dont admire all the cheating, lying, and manipulating he does)
    I hope this clears things up
    Btw, Thank You guys for all the likes an comments

    • @davidb9779
      @davidb9779 5 лет назад +17

      Stealing then identity of a real soldier when Don was too much of a coward and clutz.
      Taking credit for someone else's work
      Compulsovely lying

    • @davidb9779
      @davidb9779 5 лет назад +1

      ???

    • @poespoemspwnposers8007
      @poespoemspwnposers8007 5 лет назад +26

      you need a new role model

    • @davidb9779
      @davidb9779 5 лет назад +7

      @_CalmPsycho _ You did not get the point. He has NPD the confidence is superficial to mask his emptiness and in the process hurts his family. A man who hurts his family is no man as the purpose of a man is the health of his family.

    • @JasonJia11
      @JasonJia11 5 лет назад +8

      He's a role model for uber amounts of confidence and seducing/marketing skills. But other than that he's the farthest thing from a role model.

  • @LunchtimeHoopers
    @LunchtimeHoopers 5 лет назад +8

    I can show vulnerability and strength... i will be fine in any and all situations...
    Im a confident man, i watched this video and simply smiled internally...

    • @bighands69
      @bighands69 4 года назад

      Vulnerability is not a good thing to have on display.

  • @joekool5005
    @joekool5005 10 месяцев назад +1

    Madmen is a great series worth watching on so many levels.

  • @samyakjain3989
    @samyakjain3989 4 года назад +7

    after watching this video i have learned the art of confidence, now wherever i go everyone treats me like a boss. the ower of charisma best

  • @edo2804
    @edo2804 5 лет назад +303

    Please analyze Thomas Shelby from Peaky Blinders. Easily the most charismatic character out there. Thumbs up of you agree!

  • @PieSniper
    @PieSniper 5 лет назад +21

    I seriously hope no one watched this whole video without watching all of Mad Men first, because that clip from the final season is one of the most impactful I've ever seen. I cry just re-watching the clip because when seen in the original context it's unbelievably powerful.

    • @bluepearl_22
      @bluepearl_22 5 лет назад +1

      Harvey Specter would've been a much better example for this video.

    • @pdrgallo
      @pdrgallo 5 лет назад +9

      I didn't even seen Mad Men and I almost cried at the guy's dream and Don's hug, wtf. Massive spoiler i guess

    • @raraavis7782
      @raraavis7782 5 лет назад +1

      PieSniper
      Thanks for the warning...I actually haven’t yet. Wasn’t yet out, back when I watched the series. And now, I‘ll probably have to rewatch everything m because it has been so long 😄

    • @Melvin7727
      @Melvin7727 5 лет назад +2

      Totally agree dude. It hits me hard the same way. And I don't really appreciate just blowing it in a video with no warning. This is a masterpiece and it deserves a little respect.

  • @empirestobuild
    @empirestobuild Год назад +32

    Good points raised but remember that this is a trained, professional actor, not naturally as shown in the movies. To be this type of confident takes a great deal more than just trying, doing or acting, but becoming that character in every way. Keep that in mind when trying, faking, doing or acting a part in front of others when such a character isn't your own natural self in everyday normal life.

    • @genxx2724
      @genxx2724 Год назад

      Jon Hamm is a great actor. I saw him cooking on a talk show. He doesn’t walk, move, or gesture like Don Draper at all! He’s a totally different type.

    • @awakentruth1116
      @awakentruth1116 Год назад +2

      I have theory about actors... not all, but some. They get so good at becoming (acting) another person they may be tempted to identify as that character in real life. And they get so good at the character that they lose themselves... sometimes intentionally. This could cause much anxiety and suffering. I'm sure we'll never really know but it might explain why in spite of fame and fortune some are secretly very unhappy people

    • @empirestobuild
      @empirestobuild Год назад

      @@awakentruth1116 ...that's a very good point.

  • @NFL1976
    @NFL1976 3 года назад +58

    I worked hard on myself after watching Don. I am now up to five packs a day, and my prospects look at me like I am from another time or something.

  • @mpg9074
    @mpg9074 4 года назад +33

    1. Be relaxed and move freely
    Being in a relaxed posture or in a confident stance will make you comfortable with your surroundings, making you not stressed in situations. Moving freely and making yourself "at home" will display a sense of ownership and make you seem like "the boss" wherever you are.
    2. Be non-reactive and give yourself time to pause
    Being nonreactive will make you seem impenetrable and untouched by anything that comes your way. When you pause you give yourself more time to come up with a better response to any given situation. This includes not fidgeting and controlling you emotional behavior
    3. Be willing to walk away
    If you feel that something is not working out the way you want it to, be willing to walk away from that situation. It is better to walk away then waste your time
    4. Tell yourself that everything will be okay
    A form of internal confidence, having the ability to tell yourself that everything will be okay even in the worst situations will build your mental toughness and the mindset will help you overcome the bad situations you face.
    *I apologize for the bad wording

  • @AscendedMasculine
    @AscendedMasculine 5 лет назад +6

    *EVERYONE* was waiting for this one!
    1. His relaxed body language
    2. Don is non-reactive.
    3. He doesn’t try to convince other people.
    4. The belief that he will be okay, no matter what.

  • @GustavoSilva-ny8jc
    @GustavoSilva-ny8jc 2 года назад +1

    The ending is AMAZING, throughout the whole video i was like "yeah, okay but that's just a persona, just an act - and when i was younger and starting self development i thought that THIS was what meant to be confident but it's far from true self belief and conviction, the place where true confidence comes from. So, cool tips but it's not what i need righ-" then lesson 4 started.
    And you nailed it. It's so fundamental to stress this, to know where confidence, self-belief, comes from. Great, great video.

  • @kalaisai680
    @kalaisai680 5 лет назад +225

    My confident boost suddenly.. I finally got the guts to look at my crush eye when speaking with her...

    • @joemfahey
      @joemfahey 5 лет назад +71

      Its about god damn time.

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 5 лет назад +106

      If you find yourself putting her on a pedestal remember she's human with flaws and shits just like the rest of us.

    • @IAMMUSIC2420
      @IAMMUSIC2420 5 лет назад +1

      Krystina fax

    • @CarlosFlores-xb3gx
      @CarlosFlores-xb3gx 5 лет назад +4

      Congrats :) What happened next? 🤔

    • @singlepringle1596
      @singlepringle1596 5 лет назад +1

      Proud of you!!

  • @subtletherapy
    @subtletherapy 4 года назад +98

    No one actually acts like that in real life, and if they did, they’d be laughed at. People’s problem is that they don’t realize that life is nothing like “movies”
    Everyone’s so fake, everyone’s playing a character, imitating and repeating something they saw somewhere. Be confident in your authenticity, stop trying so hard, everyone can see through it, and the fact you don’t realize that is why you fail to garner respect from the people that matter.

    • @ananthucs8210
      @ananthucs8210 4 года назад +9

      we can all learn a thing or two ...evrybdy knows its impossible and will be weird in real life , but some aspects can be learned or tweaked to suit each ones style

    • @denverdean2663
      @denverdean2663 4 года назад +6

      That's the word right there, AUTHENTICITY.

    • @chuck1804
      @chuck1804 4 года назад +15

      The truth is somewhere inbetween. The reason it works in movies is because the tone is fixed, and all the characters are interacting within a fixed dynamic. BUT you can set (or reset) the tone of a conversation, or the mood in a room, if you know how to read it and respond *within* it's contextual limits. If you're "authentically" jumpy and nervous, you'll create a jumpy and nervous dynamic. Get 2 or 3 people to follow suit, and you've created a jumpy and nervous culture. The same is true in reverse.
      In other words, write your own movie.

    • @ArtifaxEdits
      @ArtifaxEdits 4 года назад +4

      u not a great one u wouldn't get it lol it's not about being a character, it's being who you are to the fullest extent. Great characters are made from and image of great people, not vice versa. you got it twisted lol

    • @sophiahsu2790
      @sophiahsu2790 3 года назад

      fake it til you make it 😵😏

  • @jondury9450
    @jondury9450 4 года назад +606

    How To Be Confident In Any Situation.
    1: Look like Don Draper
    2: Look like Don Draper
    3: Look like Don Draper

    • @hwdareu5848
      @hwdareu5848 3 года назад +20

      Don't forget to have money, I mean alot of money 😁

    • @karolbednarczyk3107
      @karolbednarczyk3107 3 года назад +17

      You create your own reality by choosing what you believe in. 99% of your reactions are coming from subconscious, reactions become habits, and habits become your reality.

    • @Dwight_
      @Dwight_ 3 года назад +8

      Sorry but comments like yours are always the most pethatic. Is that only thing you got from this video?

    • @mnbvmnbv7934
      @mnbvmnbv7934 3 года назад +3

      @@Dwight_ joke bro

    • @Dwight_
      @Dwight_ 3 года назад +6

      @@mnbvmnbv7934
      i think some of the guys who write stuff like that mean it.

  • @foxhound4911
    @foxhound4911 2 года назад

    I've closed deals for $30,000 in the first semester selling software. I am a newb in sales talk but as I soon I take risk of trying and improving in communication I've learned and be confident to the product that I'm selling, all the embarrassment and mistakes is worth it I've learned new things in life.

  • @chelugo9928
    @chelugo9928 4 года назад +1471

    2:24
    Don: My name is Don
    Girl: inserts tongue in mouth

    • @Philip-b9r
      @Philip-b9r 4 года назад +67

      thats how you do it

    • @kenburns4547
      @kenburns4547 4 года назад +55

      That's what fiction is FOR, so people can see what they CAN'T HAVE IN REAL LIFE.

    • @Cyber_Kriss
      @Cyber_Kriss 4 года назад +18

      @@kenburns4547 Fiction ? Happened to me twice !

    • @Bostonite1985
      @Bostonite1985 4 года назад +15

      No she didn't. She exhaled her cigarette smoke into his mouth. Watch that scene where he says "My name is Don." She does not exhale the smoke, but goes straight for his mouth. She is a femme fatale. It is written all over her face. Don is a sucker.

    • @Philip-b9r
      @Philip-b9r 4 года назад +65

      @@Bostonite1985 she's sharing lung cancer

  • @Revex08
    @Revex08 5 лет назад +53

    Perfect video man. I am always amazed by the understanding you have of how people work and how to improve their lives. Your contribution is invaluable.

  • @intrakitproductions
    @intrakitproductions 2 года назад +2

    True confidence it's just being yourself in any situation and speaking your mind when needed

  • @elpanchitoruso
    @elpanchitoruso 4 года назад +18

    "Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence."