@@adamgillespie3393 When I said that, I meant that it was just pairs of black and white couples. It was also Asian, Latino etc. On a large scale interracial couples at usually shown as black and white.
@@adamgillespie3393 And most were at least 1/3 white. You know because there were more than 3 people and there are only 3 races so of course people are gonna be mixed
@@ЗорницаЯнкова America alone has 5 official recognised categories of race, so you're probably wrong on that one. There are far more than just 3 in the whole world- it's a wonderfully diverse place.
I'm so glad my parents have realized that they can either be open-minded or be less involved in my life, because of it, they've made so much progress on getting rid of their prejudices.
As a semi white (Jewish and Portuguese) guy, I'm the first to admit that bad things happen when women aren't mentally strong. Having a lot of mentally strong people around you keeps people's egos in check which is incredibly important if you want a functioning society.
@@RandomGuy-hx6pj Not all Ashkenazim are white, and none of them fit in the category pre-WWII. Many Portuguese people have minor Moorish & Sephardic ancestry, too. I'm primarily Afro-descendant, but even my Portuguese ancestors were listed as "coloured" when they immigrated to Bermuda in the 1800s.
Hopefully the person you would marry in this scenario would be worth it. I think the reason you marry someone, or therefor not marry someone, should depend on the partner not their family.
@@bojanlorber611 Blending families are very important. I want my inlaws to like me and their grandchildren. I believe people should marry who they love regardless of race. Unfortunately, there have been many cases where the white and the black side of the family doesn't get long. It's one thing for you to ignore this, but children shouldn't be brought into it.
I’m a black woman and that terrifies me. My family is really excepting my older sisters have brought home boyfriends of different races and they’ve never cared about that just how they were treated. Family matters so much to me so if my partners family doesn’t like my skin they wouldn’t like my family’s either and that really hurts me
@@paradisearcher9334 yeeees I mean sometimes you can really tell a certain thing but some ppl are here analyzing a person from a 4 minute video that represents just a fragment of a person’s behavior IN A MOMENT
To the gentleman with the black fiancé... don't be embarrassed to ask about black history. As an African American growing up in a predominately white area and attending almost all white schools I had never heard of Juneteenth either. Just growing up in that type of environment I was never really exposed to my own culture and history. When I left home at 17 and began to explore the world and started meeting people other than the standard black/white I learned so much from other ethnicities which made me want to learn more about my own history.
This right here, I learned more about American history by moving to Asia than if I stayed in the US. New cultures and people can make us interested in who we are where we come from.
Love this! Thanks for sharing. Or upbringings sound similar. I too was raised around a lot of white folk. When I was a teenager, I got so tired of being called an Oreo that I decided to go deep. I always knew a lot about my Russian background because that's who raised me. Learning about my Nigerian background has been a journey. But well worth it and I celebrate both cultures.
I have a pin on my back pack from black history month (I'm white btw a very white greman woman lmao) it says "you are on native land" (I live in the US btw) and kid in my class called me rassist for the pin because he didn't understand what it meant
I feel Rachel so much. I’m BLACK black with a big ass Afro and the first time i met my (white) inlaws they made me so uncomfortable. My fiancé and i don’t talk to them anymore. It sucks too cause we have a kid now and he won’t ever be close to his white side of the family bc they choose to be ignorant. Dating outside our race for my (black) family is nothing new so they didn’t even think twice about me bringing a white guy home. They all love him.
I feel so sorry for you, you literally deserve better but you can’t help who you fall in love with, now your child has no choice but to deal with absolute ignorance and stupidity at a young age. Don’t say it ain’t that bad cause girl I’ve been in white spaces in tight places…it’s bad especially the faking understanding and eye rolls.
Fae, . as an adult biracial male that's probably older than you. I was disowned by my white side of the family.. yes it sucks and cuts really really deep for a while . But nothing beats the peace you'll have by not dealing with completely random microaggressions. Because those pile up when you are coerced into cohabitation. You'll learn to accept that loss as a parent like i did as the child. The 2 of you will be fine and what matters here is that God gave the 2 of you a healthy baby .
Mike (white male) and Rachel (black female) are so brutally honest to these questions and they seem totally comfortable together. Edit : Dayumn. I just noticed I’m already on 2.1k likes. Welp, seems like many people had similar thoughts about the lovely couple
And those are the type of interracial relationships that mixed kids grow most comfortably in. They recognize their mixed identity as opposed to 1 side or the other. Just something I’ve noticed!
I would have loved to be in this. I’m Irish/Canadian and my bf is Iraqi/Syrian, I first met his family 6 years ago when I was pregnant with our first born. It was definitely a shock to them. My family was incredibly rude and ignorant towards his culture and his family was very unwelcoming of a blonde, white baby into the family. It took years, but his family (besides his dad) has come around. My family, not so much. Recently had to cut them all off because of their reaction to my third pregnancy. It’s definitely been a huge struggle, both of us have felt super judged, but at the end of the day we love each other so much and I would die to protect his name.
It’s so hard being black and entering non-Black spaces. I hope more people learn to address their own bigotry and biases instead of projecting them onto others.
rachel and mike’s conversation was so tense but honestly it was good that they talked about it. it’s the deeper side of interracial relationships that others may not want to address.
@@demichealmartin1726 yea when you base your whole existence on race, of course you gonna be obsessed with race & think it's involved in everything, regardless if it actually is or not
My boyfriend is white and I'm black. His family accepted straight away, however his mother did make a comment saying "oh she's black" and his sister said "Why does that even matter?". His mother was surprised but accepted me straight away. And now we talk about our culture differences and stuff
4:54 - i feel this so much. i know enough of my mother tongue to speak it with my parents but am so embarrassed to speak it outside of the house. i've been made fun of for my accent & lack of vocab by native speakers :( it's really discouraging.
In case you love the language, that's all that matters. There's always someone who makes jokes about our in-progress but never let them steal our chance to learn n grow *hug*
I can totally relate! One time at a restaurant I tried to order a big container of rice for a large group of ppl and I used the word for "pot" like "can I have a pot of rice?" and the waitress laughed at me and corrected me 😭 I was so embarrassed I never wanted to order food in my language again
Whenever I said anything in my father’s language, I was met with ridicule. So I got too embarrassed to say much and didn’t learn much. Now they say I didn’t want to learn.
I appreciate the honesty; especially the young Vietnamese woman saying she doesn't speak Vietnamese because she isn't sure of her language skills. Sometimes the awkward behavior is due to something so simple.
My parents got weird when I started dating this white girl. They weren’t against it but they were thoroughly confused. “Oh… She has a very… fair complexion” was the first thing they said when they saw her. They ended up getting along really well but that first meeting was weird. But the fact that some people “don’t want their children dating outside the race” is actually insane to me.
@@lizali5588 Yes they did, cringed at the time but she wasn’t too bothered by it and they ended up being really comfortable around each other after speaking to each other. As Liusila said above, it was a culture shock.
Don't be sad for me. I'm over here living my best life with someone who I not only love, but like very much. + My family is very supportive of us and that's enough♥️
My brown friends once said: just don’t start dating a black guy, that will be very embarrassing It shocked me a bit. These guys getting judged and being called “filthy” on a daily base, yet they do the same to black people
I say the same thing. The hypocrisy of some people. I was talking to a brown girl in school a few years back and I was telling her how I wanted to go to Japan and she told me I’d get kicked out for being black. :/
I’m so happy to have a family that is so open, and loving, and excepting of everyone because I couldn’t imagine the embarrassment and emotional baggage that would come with being raised by a family that doesn’t.
I love how they acknowledge, are aware and vocalise the issues they have with their partners parents but it does not break the relationship, maybe even makes it stronger
3:25 This is nice to see. Some people would priotize their love above admitting that their parents are prejudiced. They'd go, "Don't talk about my mother that way!" even though they're responding to a prompt. And the fact they can just laugh it off and not be uncomfortable is goals.
I used to be open to dating outside of my race. I did it several times in the past. Never again, for all the things mentioned between these couples. With a black woman it's like, "I'm black. You're black. We both get it". Then we can move on to regular relationship problems.
This is hard man. I don't know how i would even function in a relationship let alone a marriage knowing my in-laws felt i didn't belong with their son.
Two female lovers calling each other "Bro" is a serious sign of a healthy relationship (I'm not being sarcastic for real).......Hell, I'm a heterosexual guy and sometimes when I'm having so much fun with my girlfriend I will accidentally say things like "Come on bro"...which felt weird at first, but then you realize it's just that you're just having so much fun laughing at stupid things with your loved one that it's like being young and stupid for the sake of being stupid with your buddies lol.
I don't understand why she would even want to marry into a family like that, I know we can't help who we love but we most definitely can help subjecting ourselves to unwarranted "in your face" prejudice! That's sick!
@@resurgingflame that thinking only last temporarily, especially once children come into the picture or spending holidays apart, it'll eventually become an issue, so true only your partner & how they treat you matters but that eventually draws a wedge & creates a strain on your relationship having to choose between the love of your family & the love of your life. But to each its own, it's obviously working for them but me personally I couldn't/wouldn't Subject myself to that because family means everything to me.
@@Monet0526 why so confused on who to choose when u'd just cut ties or go away from them? Esp when u know that they're horrible. They're an adult, they've their own family & that become their main priority now. They don't need to sacrifice their love for the sake of keeping connection with ur terrible family, esp one that's so understanding & a big match for them. That'd be a huge loss lol. It just... I know family is important. But the moment u know that they're acting like this, that this is their true color, I'd cut ties with them instead of my partner. So not the other way around. Bcus my life & my future is with my love now, not with them anymore. Now I'm not sure if this is the path that the couple took. They never confirmed about it in the video. But I'm sure from how comfortable the wife is + how confident her husband in agreeing that his family is horrible, that they at least stay so far away from them. & the husband, while still in contact, rarely visit them anymore. This is still ideal for their life given the situation so I don't see any problem with it🤷🏾♂️
Rachel is wild as hell. Why she would want to marry into a family like that is beyond me. It doesn’t even sound like her husband stands up for her either cause she said the sister is the most outspoken with her comments meaning it’s not just a one time thing. Why would you wanna put someone you love through that?
My parents have told me that they'd prefer me to bring home a black girl, but they're laid back to the point that I don't think they'd care much if it were a different race. Little do they know, I don't even like girls, so there's that conversation...
We are so happy that we did not have to experience any negative feedback or response to our relationship - not from the German side of the family, and not from the Jamaican side. One love ❤️
I'm peruvian, my partner is chinese, we met here in Italy, where I moved in as a kid and he arrives here all grown up because of his passion for classical music, being an immigrant here, my parents were sure I could date a non peruvian guy, they were surprised they were all Asian guys but not shocked. I was lucky with my partner family, only child, nice parents, very humble, loving, caring, amazing people, I was pretty open minded since always and so into chinese language and culture so to me, it was fascinating to learn and confront our custom and culture, to find the similarities and the opposite aspects about both, I'm open minded with anyone actually, he was the one that have to push further his personality and to be ready to make a deal, for example, a simple thing, he didn't feel good when I offered him a meal or when I bought gifts for him as "he was the man" and he felt lost as he was use to the opposite back in china, with his exes.. or the fact that I took a cold bath after giving birth as, it's a period when u have rules to follow to heal ur body and regain ur strength, we just made deals and we confront each other, now he is pretty proud talking about our old dates when I was the one who paid the bills 😅 and he loves to talk about how strong I was after our two kids and stuff like that. We ha e two kids, half peruvian, half chinese, born in Italy and they are getting all I can offer them about both 3 cultures and more, our family, mine most of all, has a beautiful genes heritage, peruvian, Spanis, Italian, African, Mexican (about this one I was shocked), so kids are use to have this beautiful view of different shapes, shades and also my friends are from everywhere so they are getting use to feel at ease among them, we are different yet we are friends and family and that's beautiful. Ps. I met mixed couples where relatives were against their relationship yet they were in a relationship with their boyfriend or girlfriend and not with the relatives, the point is, if he or she wants to be with u, u would know how much love there is even against the world, literally, we live once, we can choose to face anyone, even our family, to protect true love.
I've been censored by white people for asking questions about other cultures, but never from the people who I was trying to learn about. People from different cultures have appreciated that I took the time to learn something from them.
Some white people have a different definition of racism than POCs, I've noticed. I have NO clue how it got there, smh. We don't normally define racism as simply discussing race or talking about someone's race. We normally base it on having a racial hierarchy where we are on the bottom.
This video! Being a young black female and attending schools in a predominantly white neighborhood, naturally my first crush was white. And so began the phrase my father use to always say, “You better never bring a white man home”. I, of course, didn’t fully understand why at the time and therefore never took it seriously. As time went on, he kept saying it here and there especially when I went through my white boyband phase. Understandably, based on what everyone was seeing they assumed I only liked white men (friends and family) but I genuinely don’t have a type and don’t care about the color, ethnicity, etc. of someone. So that day I finally sat my father down and asked him, “would you really get mad if I started dating a white guy” and then to hear him say, “I don’t care who you date, just as long as he treats you right and you love him” made my heart smile. My father is definitely one of those old stubborn souls who can’t be wooed by the new avenues paved by this generation, but we have our talks and debates and not to say I’m ever going to change his views (not happening lol) but to come to a mutual understanding of both sides work for me.
Mid-watching this video I JUST realized I’m in an interracial relationship 💀 we grew up together and come from the same city background aside from some of our culture and languages but it just never crossed my mind that’s how we’re perceived
Preach is in an interracial marriage so I know if they react to this, Aba is going to be all over him on some “what do you think about that” or “what’re your thoughts based on your situation” etc. 😂😂
Yea my dad has a hard time accepting my boyfriend because he isn’t white and we have been through a lot because of it but race shouldn’t even play a factor in who you like or dislike. My dad after 5 years is now starting to learn that I’m going to be with my boyfriend if he likes it or not.
The ones that know their in-laws didn’t approve of their colour?! You’re still willing to marry INTO that same family?! Never me. Even when it comes to kids…they’re clearly going to treat the mixed kids differently…why set yourself up for the headache?
@@julianacheriza9673yep, and I’m like I remember alll those Tik Toks in 2020 of all the mixed kids speaking about this exact thing and how it fucked them up😅
I'm Korean and I knew what Juneteenth was because I read a children's book about it when I was 8 but I thought it was a holiday that died out in the 1900s. 😂
@Trevor S. are you stupid? it has existed for years. but now black people are actually learning about their history and white people want to be "woke" and blew it up.
MAJOR Kudos to those who are still with their significant others when their family is complete dicks about the relationship! I am white and married white, but that IS NOT because of race preference, it just happened that way. I find beauty in all colors/races... I am just so sad that still, to this day, this BS goes on! I am a Christian and love all and wish the world could just chill and accept everyone because WE ARE ALL HUMANS! The color of our skin should have ZERO barrings on opinions about someone PERIOD!
I like how whoever was filming or editing didn’t even try to create a suitable lighting or balance the values and just went fuck it, everything’s going to fucking glow up like Jesus in this bitch today.
My boyfriend and I don’t look that different because we both have a dark tone look ( dark hair brown eyes etc ) we still are totally from a different background him being Latino / Native American / black and me being European mixed with Indonesian and Arabic. Before we where together I dated all different people with different background or skin colors.. it’s on they inside that make you match someone not the outside.. that’s what I learned.
True. But initialy it is easier to date another person of colour instead of a white person. The two girls talk about it in the beginning and they say "you don't have to explain your blackness" or something along those lines.
Honestly I didn’t understand the point of the question about their ethnicites. They’re interracial so they should have been saying their race. If it was about ethnicities, they could have had couples of the race but different ethnicities 🧐
It's just different. I don't know my ethnicity 100% due to slavery; they didn't keep records of where we came from so I have to go by my race. In the States, I'm black because that's how people are identified. But when I travel outside of the States, I'm American. I hate being called American though because I identify more as being black based on society and culture.
I'm an Indian, once I dated a guy from Ghana and oh boy was it tough! Even though I'm brown, his family kept telling me how light my skin color was (I'm from Northern India- Uttarakhand to be specific) They used to ask me if I knew anything about 4abc curls and I used to go blank coz I have straight hair and obviously Idk anything about it (like how does that even matter??) They would talk in their native language and tease me about random things (which my ex told me much later about) I would dread meeting them coz of these taunts (they strictly wanted a black girl for him) I am a straightforward person, and my tolerance towards $hit is pretty low so at times I used to snap back saying "Are you more interested in my color or in my qualities?" Or "Yeah I'm not black but in my country atleast we know how to hold relationships and respect others" (His Mom was a divorcee, and so were a few of his siblings) He was my first bf and trust me we loved eo enough to want to marry eo, but these things kept me on standby. My family on the other hand was super chilled, they loved him (he's indeed a great guy and used to support me at times, but sadly that was all too low, he used to fear his mom a lot and never uttered a word against her) I broke up with him exactly 2 months after meeting his family (We had been together for 2 years prior to that) And now about 7 years later, I came to know recently that he started dating a white girl (my prayers and blessings are with her, coz that girl doesn't know what she's getting into) If they can't tolerate me because apparently my skin is light brown, how will they tolerate an out and out blonde with green eyes? His family was super shitty and there are so many things I can talk about but this comment's already pretty long
How could anyone dislike Rachel? I'm so angry about that. I mean I love that he is with her regardless of his family's beliefs but she's so clearly a good person, I just don't understand how they could not accept her. :(
I appreciated that when showing interracial couples, it wasn’t just black and white.
All the couples had someone who was at least half black though which is interesting
@@adamgillespie3393 When I said that, I meant that it was just pairs of black and white couples. It was also Asian, Latino etc. On a large scale interracial couples at usually shown as black and white.
@@adamgillespie3393 And most were at least 1/3 white. You know because there were more than 3 people and there are only 3 races so of course people are gonna be mixed
I like how there wasn’t always a white person too
@@ЗорницаЯнкова America alone has 5 official recognised categories of race, so you're probably wrong on that one. There are far more than just 3 in the whole world- it's a wonderfully diverse place.
I'm so glad my parents have realized that they can either be open-minded or be less involved in my life, because of it, they've made so much progress on getting rid of their prejudices.
Bravo
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That’s it! Live your life, your way. Those who celebrate you and your choices get to be a part of it 😊👍
I hope people understand.. that our parents grew up in a time where their family wanted them to date the same race! A lot of cultures are like that…
@@hunterpope3369 but if they understand the struggle of having non accepting family members why would they continue the same cycle with their kids.
Producer: "How do you get along with the family?"
Rachel: "I don't" Brutal, yet honest
ayyy, a dominican! hope your day is going well. :))
I hope she marries into a family that actually doesn't hate her...
Sista his fam has issues. They are what’s wrong with the world
Dominican!!
ah a fellow dominican
“And I’m not afraid of that stereotype” period Queen
As a semi white (Jewish and Portuguese) guy, I'm the first to admit that bad things happen when women aren't mentally strong. Having a lot of mentally strong people around you keeps people's egos in check which is incredibly important if you want a functioning society.
@@luke_cohen1 Semi white? (Ashkenazi) Jewish and Portugese people are both white, no?
@@RandomGuy-hx6pj Nowdays, but not several decades ago. Race is a made up concept, not rooted in science so groups go in and out of it at times haha
I mean, I'd love to see a white person go through centuries of oppression and see how they deal with it. Ofc they'd be angry too.
@@RandomGuy-hx6pj Not all Ashkenazim are white, and none of them fit in the category pre-WWII. Many Portuguese people have minor Moorish & Sephardic ancestry, too. I'm primarily Afro-descendant, but even my Portuguese ancestors were listed as "coloured" when they immigrated to Bermuda in the 1800s.
I don’t think I could deal with all the racism & micro aggressions from my in-laws… like no
Baby, imagine that’s unnecessary stress she’s experiencing. Like I cannot 🙄😒
@@roussebidon I’ll flip the table at thanksgiving 😭 y’all not gone bully me for being black
Imagine facing all that shit at work and in your day to day and then coming home and moms is subjecting you to it too? Bruh Issa no from me
For real. Id lose my shit
to me this is an obvious deal breaker lolol
I can't imagine marrying into a family that doesn't like my race.
Hopefully the person you would marry in this scenario would be worth it. I think the reason you marry someone, or therefor not marry someone, should depend on the partner not their family.
@@bojanlorber611 okay clearly but come on dude, youre the minority and your white in-laws dont look at your union as valid ? That hurts them BOTH
@@bojanlorber611 Blending families are very important. I want my inlaws to like me and their grandchildren. I believe people should marry who they love regardless of race. Unfortunately, there have been many cases where the white and the black side of the family doesn't get long. It's one thing for you to ignore this, but children shouldn't be brought into it.
@@bojanlorber611 nope
I’m a black woman and that terrifies me. My family is really excepting my older sisters have brought home boyfriends of different races and they’ve never cared about that just how they were treated.
Family matters so much to me so if my partners family doesn’t like my skin they wouldn’t like my family’s either and that really hurts me
I am so early the self-named psychologists aren’t even here yet to analyze the ppls behavior
I swear those people be annoying af
@@paradisearcher9334 yeeees I mean sometimes you can really tell a certain thing but some ppl are here analyzing a person from a 4 minute video that represents just a fragment of a person’s behavior IN A MOMENT
HAHAHA
Huh? Come again?
Your PFP really sells the sadness in this comment
To the gentleman with the black fiancé... don't be embarrassed to ask about black history. As an African American growing up in a predominately white area and attending almost all white schools I had never heard of Juneteenth either. Just growing up in that type of environment I was never really exposed to my own culture and history. When I left home at 17 and began to explore the world and started meeting people other than the standard black/white I learned so much from other ethnicities which made me want to learn more about my own history.
This right here, I learned more about American history by moving to Asia than if I stayed in the US. New cultures and people can make us interested in who we are where we come from.
@@jamessandoval5843 exactly
Love this! Thanks for sharing. Or upbringings sound similar. I too was raised around a lot of white folk. When I was a teenager, I got so tired of being called an Oreo that I decided to go deep. I always knew a lot about my Russian background because that's who raised me. Learning about my Nigerian background has been a journey. But well worth it and I celebrate both cultures.
I have a pin on my back pack from black history month (I'm white btw a very white greman woman lmao) it says "you are on native land" (I live in the US btw) and kid in my class called me rassist for the pin because he didn't understand what it meant
kid was black btw
"how do you get along with his family"
"i don't"
SIGHHHHHH
She should have known after a few first dates and end it right there.
Rachel a better woman than me because I would’ve been throwing hands at EVERY family function lmao
what would that have solved?
@@maryroseeeee everything now be quiet
@@worldofdaisy._ literally nothing 🤣🤣
Girl from her demeanor she has thrown hands. I don't like my in laws either and it's not even about race they're just jackasses! 😂😂😂😂😂
@@worldofdaisy._ periodt! 🤣
The black girl with the white guy has the most beautiful skin I've ever seen 🌟
Thanks doll!
Literally!!!!!
And the most beautiful hair!
She black or mixed? I’m confused
Makeup is magical
I feel Rachel so much. I’m BLACK black with a big ass Afro and the first time i met my (white) inlaws they made me so uncomfortable. My fiancé and i don’t talk to them anymore. It sucks too cause we have a kid now and he won’t ever be close to his white side of the family bc they choose to be ignorant. Dating outside our race for my (black) family is nothing new so they didn’t even think twice about me bringing a white guy home. They all love him.
I wish you, your husband, and smol a very happy life.
I feel so sorry for you, you literally deserve better but you can’t help who you fall in love with, now your child has no choice but to deal with absolute ignorance and stupidity at a young age. Don’t say it ain’t that bad cause girl I’ve been in white spaces in tight places…it’s bad especially the faking understanding and eye rolls.
Ewwww
Fae, . as an adult biracial male that's probably older than you. I was disowned by my white side of the family.. yes it sucks and cuts really really deep for a while . But nothing beats the peace you'll have by not dealing with completely random microaggressions. Because those pile up when you are coerced into cohabitation. You'll learn to accept that loss as a parent like i did as the child.
The 2 of you will be fine and what matters here is that God gave the 2 of you a healthy baby .
@@danieljenkins7951 ok Daniel Jenkins. go get a life bozo
Mike (white male) and Rachel (black female) are so brutally honest to these questions and they seem totally comfortable together.
Edit : Dayumn. I just noticed I’m already on 2.1k likes. Welp, seems like many people had similar thoughts about the lovely couple
Thank you ♥️
And those are the type of interracial relationships that mixed kids grow most comfortably in. They recognize their mixed identity as opposed to 1 side or the other. Just something I’ve noticed!
thats why theyre getting married lol
And Rachel is cute!!!
@@0ut1and3r people also get married without understanding each other🙃
The women couple have some great skin😭
It's amazing what cutting men out of your romantic life can do 😍
@@snail1346 Huh?
@@riom.6091 I was just joking lmao
@@snail1346 jokes are meant to be funny
@@unknownelite2844 someone's butthurt lol
The fact that his family is vocal about not liking the fact he's with a black woman. Like damn... :(
As a black woman, ain't no way in HELL I was marrying into that family but best wishes and blessings to my good sis.
And the funny thing it goes both ways I experienced racism from my ex bf's family as a white person he was black
I protect my peace , I really really could never
@@lucia1982 LOL racism
@@Bribreezzzyy its racism it can happen to different ethnic groups than just black people it is basically judging someone based on their skin color so
@@lucia1982 Its not racism, its prejudice if its done to white people. Go read a book.
"How do you get along with his family"
"I dont."
LMAOOOOOOO
I would have loved to be in this. I’m Irish/Canadian and my bf is Iraqi/Syrian, I first met his family 6 years ago when I was pregnant with our first born. It was definitely a shock to them. My family was incredibly rude and ignorant towards his culture and his family was very unwelcoming of a blonde, white baby into the family. It took years, but his family (besides his dad) has come around. My family, not so much. Recently had to cut them all off because of their reaction to my third pregnancy. It’s definitely been a huge struggle, both of us have felt super judged, but at the end of the day we love each other so much and I would die to protect his name.
@cut Please include her in the next one!
Of course you’re Canadian
@@therookie8872 why do you say that
@@jennybrooks9845 Canada has a bad record with those kinds of things
@@therookie8872 "those kind of things"?
It’s so hard being black and entering non-Black spaces. I hope more people learn to address their own bigotry and biases instead of projecting them onto others.
100 percent agree
I’d say the biggest problem is cultures and religious beliefs. If you don’t integrate, you alienate.
@Furiosa yea same here
It’s difficult on all races.
I really can’t imagine. My skin is very white, and I get extremely uncomfortable in those settings myself.
These are lovely couples! Their families may suck but they're clearly not diminished or intimidated by that. Living their best lives in love!
Mike better ride hard for Rachel to his family. She deserves to be defended!
im pretty sure he is otherwise she wouldnt be with him? make it make sense
No she doesn't. She's the wrong color.
rachel and mike’s conversation was so tense but honestly it was good that they talked about it. it’s the deeper side of interracial relationships that others may not want to address.
It's tense for a reason but I think they're quite comfortable talking about it.
She looked ready to explode the whole time. If she was behind closed doors, she'd drive me insane because she is.
I would not allow my “family” to talk less or down to my partner because of their race. I’d end it the moment it starts to come out
i would literally jump out of the house if i recieve a racial statement from anyone especially related to my s/o
It still blows my mind why people care so much about race. Who are you as a person matters a fuck ton more.
Exactly. Race isn't an issue anymore.
@@darthbenevolent1733 Race is still an issue, but it *shouldn't* be.
Because it matters! Damn why y’all wanna exclude race so bad like we don’t live in America.. EVERYTHING IS ABOUT RACE HERE.. like stop being ignorant
Unfortunately people base their whole existence around their race....
@@demichealmartin1726 yea when you base your whole existence on race, of course you gonna be obsessed with race & think it's involved in everything, regardless if it actually is or not
My boyfriend is white and I'm black. His family accepted straight away, however his mother did make a comment saying "oh she's black" and his sister said "Why does that even matter?". His mother was surprised but accepted me straight away. And now we talk about our culture differences and stuff
@W 6 comments on this video get a life
4:54 - i feel this so much. i know enough of my mother tongue to speak it with my parents but am so embarrassed to speak it outside of the house. i've been made fun of for my accent & lack of vocab by native speakers :( it's really discouraging.
In case you love the language, that's all that matters. There's always someone who makes jokes about our in-progress but never let them steal our chance to learn n grow *hug*
@@sssonx thank you 🫂
I can totally relate! One time at a restaurant I tried to order a big container of rice for a large group of ppl and I used the word for "pot" like "can I have a pot of rice?" and the waitress laughed at me and corrected me 😭 I was so embarrassed I never wanted to order food in my language again
Whenever I said anything in my father’s language, I was met with ridicule. So I got too embarrassed to say much and didn’t learn much. Now they say I didn’t want to learn.
What language? Out of curiosity
I lmao when she said “black people love Gospel music.” 🤣
am not into gospel music
@@marquesdunn4934 nobody ask
I appreciate the honesty; especially the young Vietnamese woman saying she doesn't speak Vietnamese because she isn't sure of her language skills. Sometimes the awkward behavior is due to something so simple.
My parents got weird when I started dating this white girl. They weren’t against it but they were thoroughly confused. “Oh… She has a very… fair complexion” was the first thing they said when they saw her. They ended up getting along really well but that first meeting was weird.
But the fact that some people “don’t want their children dating outside the race” is actually insane to me.
It’s the culture shock but if people are willing they will open their minds and learn about the other culture instead of just going against the union.
@@edithputhy4948 Yikes.
They didn’t say that to her did they?
@@lizali5588 Yes they did, cringed at the time but she wasn’t too bothered by it and they ended up being really comfortable around each other after speaking to each other. As Liusila said above, it was a culture shock.
They think like this because they want to keep the race pure
“How do you get along with his family?”
“I don’t.”
WE JUST NOT GONNA MOVE PAST THAT!!!
Rachael-
As a fellow human being i am so sad and sorry that you have been treated this way by his family. It hurts my heart :(
Don't be sad for me. I'm over here living my best life with someone who I not only love, but like very much. + My family is very supportive of us and that's enough♥️
@@ShimmerBeautytheBiz
You two are a fantastic couple!
All of these people are the dammmn future. I loooove the diversity!
Omg The asian women is GORGEOUS
Congrats to everyone in this video for being cute and also honest and vulnerable. Badass.
My brown friends once said: just don’t start dating a black guy, that will be very embarrassing
It shocked me a bit. These guys getting judged and being called “filthy” on a daily base, yet they do the same to black people
What does brown mean?
@@tilllindemann2974 what does white mean? What does black mean? 🙄
I say the same thing. The hypocrisy of some people. I was talking to a brown girl in school a few years back and I was telling her how I wanted to go to Japan and she told me I’d get kicked out for being black. :/
@@tilllindemann2974 Hispanic or Native American, I’d say POC that aren’t black
@@tilllindemann2974 South Asian?
Imagine being black, gay and female. They brave fr
“How do you get along with his family?” “I don’t 😚” LOVE IT
How do you get along with his family?!?!
*I DONT!*
♥️♥️♥️
She said: I'm a proud angry black woman. Love that
Right, she was definitely my favorite out of this video
I’m so happy to have a family that is so open, and loving, and excepting of everyone because I couldn’t imagine the embarrassment and emotional baggage that would come with being raised by a family that doesn’t.
I love how they acknowledge, are aware and vocalise the issues they have with their partners parents but it does not break the relationship, maybe even makes it stronger
3:25 This is nice to see. Some people would priotize their love above admitting that their parents are prejudiced. They'd go, "Don't talk about my mother that way!" even though they're responding to a prompt. And the fact they can just laugh it off and not be uncomfortable is goals.
Thought the same, omg
I used to be open to dating outside of my race. I did it several times in the past. Never again, for all the things mentioned between these couples. With a black woman it's like, "I'm black. You're black. We both get it". Then we can move on to regular relationship problems.
I love this comment.
This is hard man. I don't know how i would even function in a relationship let alone a marriage knowing my in-laws felt i didn't belong with their son.
I commend her for marrying into a family with racism because I couldn’t. It’s a strong deal breaker for me.
Two female lovers calling each other "Bro" is a serious sign of a healthy relationship (I'm not being sarcastic for real).......Hell, I'm a heterosexual guy and sometimes when I'm having so much fun with my girlfriend I will accidentally say things like "Come on bro"...which felt weird at first, but then you realize it's just that you're just having so much fun laughing at stupid things with your loved one that it's like being young and stupid for the sake of being stupid with your buddies lol.
Man, I love all these couples. They're all so good together.
- how do you get along with his family?
- I don't
😭wild
When he called her outspoken and brash I lost it 💀
His parents are mad that he brought home the LIGHTEST black woman possible 🤔🙄
Yeah I'm a white dude and I thought she was a tanned white girl in the beginning. I don't see why they would worry so much
@@meganod279 I honestly thought she was latina lol
Look at Meghan Markle. That woman looks brown skinned to me anyway.
With straightened hair too, like how could they even telll???
If they had kids, 9 times out of 10 they will come out white passing
I don't understand why she would even want to marry into a family like that, I know we can't help who we love but we most definitely can help subjecting ourselves to unwarranted "in your face" prejudice! That's sick!
Well bcus he's different from the rest of his family. At the end, what matters the most is ur spouse, not their family.
@@resurgingflame that thinking only last temporarily, especially once children come into the picture or spending holidays apart, it'll eventually become an issue, so true only your partner & how they treat you matters but that eventually draws a wedge & creates a strain on your relationship having to choose between the love of your family & the love of your life. But to each its own, it's obviously working for them but me personally I couldn't/wouldn't Subject myself to that because family means everything to me.
@@Monet0526 why so confused on who to choose when u'd just cut ties or go away from them? Esp when u know that they're horrible. They're an adult, they've their own family & that become their main priority now. They don't need to sacrifice their love for the sake of keeping connection with ur terrible family, esp one that's so understanding & a big match for them. That'd be a huge loss lol.
It just... I know family is important. But the moment u know that they're acting like this, that this is their true color, I'd cut ties with them instead of my partner. So not the other way around. Bcus my life & my future is with my love now, not with them anymore.
Now I'm not sure if this is the path that the couple took. They never confirmed about it in the video. But I'm sure from how comfortable the wife is + how confident her husband in agreeing that his family is horrible, that they at least stay so far away from them. & the husband, while still in contact, rarely visit them anymore. This is still ideal for their life given the situation so I don't see any problem with it🤷🏾♂️
@@resurgingflame it’s really easy to say you’d be fine never seeing your family again when it’s never been something you’ve had to think about.
“how do you get along with his family?”
“i don’t.”
that was FAST 💀 but so sad.
2:10 smile through the pain
Rachel is wild as hell. Why she would want to marry into a family like that is beyond me. It doesn’t even sound like her husband stands up for her either cause she said the sister is the most outspoken with her comments meaning it’s not just a one time thing. Why would you wanna put someone you love through that?
Exactly what I thought! He doesn't even have her back when he's around his family
I love the relationship Nicole has with her man! So cute! They're just so funny and chill! I like seeing that I'm couples! More of them please!
My parents have told me that they'd prefer me to bring home a black girl, but they're laid back to the point that I don't think they'd care much if it were a different race. Little do they know, I don't even like girls, so there's that conversation...
UK: best of luck
Good luck, I hope it goes or went well and that the people around you accept you for who you are :)
@@jamielynn9853 Thanks. The cat isn't out of the bag yet, but thanks for the encouragement when it eventually happens
We are so happy that we did not have to experience any negative feedback or response to our relationship - not from the German side of the family, and not from the Jamaican side. One love ❤️
“I don’t want to have to explain my blackness” THIS! I also seemingly don’t have this problem when I date non Americans. Ughhhhh frustrating
Cut, turn down the ISO and adjust the contrast. Shit is overexposed af.
Wish that viet girl was more proud to speak her language outside
I'm peruvian, my partner is chinese, we met here in Italy, where I moved in as a kid and he arrives here all grown up because of his passion for classical music, being an immigrant here, my parents were sure I could date a non peruvian guy, they were surprised they were all Asian guys but not shocked. I was lucky with my partner family, only child, nice parents, very humble, loving, caring, amazing people, I was pretty open minded since always and so into chinese language and culture so to me, it was fascinating to learn and confront our custom and culture, to find the similarities and the opposite aspects about both, I'm open minded with anyone actually, he was the one that have to push further his personality and to be ready to make a deal, for example, a simple thing, he didn't feel good when I offered him a meal or when I bought gifts for him as "he was the man" and he felt lost as he was use to the opposite back in china, with his exes.. or the fact that I took a cold bath after giving birth as, it's a period when u have rules to follow to heal ur body and regain ur strength, we just made deals and we confront each other, now he is pretty proud talking about our old dates when I was the one who paid the bills 😅 and he loves to talk about how strong I was after our two kids and stuff like that. We ha e two kids, half peruvian, half chinese, born in Italy and they are getting all I can offer them about both 3 cultures and more, our family, mine most of all, has a beautiful genes heritage, peruvian, Spanis, Italian, African, Mexican (about this one I was shocked), so kids are use to have this beautiful view of different shapes, shades and also my friends are from everywhere so they are getting use to feel at ease among them, we are different yet we are friends and family and that's beautiful.
Ps. I met mixed couples where relatives were against their relationship yet they were in a relationship with their boyfriend or girlfriend and not with the relatives, the point is, if he or she wants to be with u, u would know how much love there is even against the world, literally, we live once, we can choose to face anyone, even our family, to protect true love.
I've been censored by white people for asking questions about other cultures, but never from the people who I was trying to learn about. People from different cultures have appreciated that I took the time to learn something from them.
Some white people have a different definition of racism than POCs, I've noticed. I have NO clue how it got there, smh. We don't normally define racism as simply discussing race or talking about someone's race. We normally base it on having a racial hierarchy where we are on the bottom.
Very warming to see so much love between two different people, not even considering the ethnic circumstances they are in.
This video! Being a young black female and attending schools in a predominantly white neighborhood, naturally my first crush was white. And so began the phrase my father use to always say, “You better never bring a white man home”. I, of course, didn’t fully understand why at the time and therefore never took it seriously. As time went on, he kept saying it here and there especially when I went through my white boyband phase. Understandably, based on what everyone was seeing they assumed I only liked white men (friends and family) but I genuinely don’t have a type and don’t care about the color, ethnicity, etc. of someone. So that day I finally sat my father down and asked him, “would you really get mad if I started dating a white guy” and then to hear him say, “I don’t care who you date, just as long as he treats you right and you love him” made my heart smile. My father is definitely one of those old stubborn souls who can’t be wooed by the new avenues paved by this generation, but we have our talks and debates and not to say I’m ever going to change his views (not happening lol) but to come to a mutual understanding of both sides work for me.
Im also in a interracial relationship since my partner's ethinicity is INVISIBLE :')
Wait, what? So is mine! They told me I was the only one for them, but they must have lied 🥲🥲🥲🥲
Lmfao you got me 😂😂😂2
So damn we all been cheated on huh
Does that mean you don't know the ethnicity?
at least invisible ppl are really tolerant
i love that they call each other out on their racism.
Mid-watching this video I JUST realized I’m in an interracial relationship 💀 we grew up together and come from the same city background aside from some of our culture and languages but it just never crossed my mind that’s how we’re perceived
I was fortunate to get great southern white in-laws who genuinely love and care for me. They treat me just like they treat my husband.
That is a blessing!! Happy for you lot!
I can already feel the presence of aba and preach
Preach is in an interracial marriage so I know if they react to this, Aba is going to be all over him on some “what do you think about that” or “what’re your thoughts based on your situation” etc. 😂😂
I can feel their presence lmaoooo
Yapp... Can't wait 😂
those right wing pandering racoons
@@edithputhy4948 😂😂😂 ur odd
Great watch. Love it when the pairings are always open honest n chill.
Yea my dad has a hard time accepting my boyfriend because he isn’t white and we have been through a lot because of it but race shouldn’t even play a factor in who you like or dislike. My dad after 5 years is now starting to learn that I’m going to be with my boyfriend if he likes it or not.
Are u married now?
the black/native & honduran couple have my heart they are tooooo funny
The ones that know their in-laws didn’t approve of their colour?! You’re still willing to marry INTO that same family?! Never me. Even when it comes to kids…they’re clearly going to treat the mixed kids differently…why set yourself up for the headache?
Exactly!! Love isn’t enough for me sorry🤷🏾♀️
@@julianacheriza9673yep, and I’m like I remember alll those Tik Toks in 2020 of all the mixed kids speaking about this exact thing and how it fucked them up😅
I wish this was longer!
if my parents asked me why am I dating someone that's a different race, my heart would break man
Man, when she said straight up " I don't" my heart just sank hard. I can't believe we're still doing this shit.
"I'm not afraid of that stereotype" I love that
I'm black and didn't know what Juneteenth was until this year...
@Trevor S. It did actually. It's been celebrated since 1865 by Black American communities, but only became a federally recognised holiday this year.
Its mainly celebrated in the South or Black spaces in Texas. Being up North I heard a little about but not much
I'm Korean and I knew what Juneteenth was because I read a children's book about it when I was 8 but I thought it was a holiday that died out in the 1900s. 😂
@Trevor S. are you stupid? it has existed for years. but now black people are actually learning about their history and white people want to be "woke" and blew it up.
@@brett8460 honestly that’s so funny and kinda cute
I feel it with that epilepsy medication. I’ve been taking the medication for about a year and I rarely orgasm now 🤦🏾♂️
Cut does a good job of showing things honestly
I would love to see a reality show with all these couples!
I LOVE the transparency and respect.
3:08 she was so straight forward damn, cut off those toxic ppl.
I've never seen another Latasian couple before (Latino X Asian) ❤❤❤
I'm a Latino man, and my girlfriend/future wife is Japanese 🇲🇽🇯🇵❤
“You’re not white??” Took me out😂
MAJOR Kudos to those who are still with their significant others when their family is complete dicks about the relationship! I am white and married white, but that IS NOT because of race preference, it just happened that way. I find beauty in all colors/races... I am just so sad that still, to this day, this BS goes on! I am a Christian and love all and wish the world could just chill and accept everyone because WE ARE ALL HUMANS! The color of our skin should have ZERO barrings on opinions about someone PERIOD!
I come back to this vid just to die laughing at "I be bustin the most nuts"
I like how whoever was filming or editing didn’t even try to create a suitable lighting or balance the values and just went fuck it, everything’s going to fucking glow up like Jesus in this bitch today.
“I be bustin the most nuts” had me lol
Let’s appreciate the fact they went through all the questions like like mature beings and didn’t drink any shots 😌✋
My boyfriend and I don’t look that different because we both have a dark tone look ( dark hair brown eyes etc ) we still are totally from a different background him being Latino / Native American / black and me being European mixed with Indonesian and Arabic. Before we where together I dated all different people with different background or skin colors.. it’s on they inside that make you match someone not the outside.. that’s what I learned.
True. But initialy it is easier to date another person of colour instead of a white person. The two girls talk about it in the beginning and they say "you don't have to explain your blackness" or something along those lines.
Damn they answered all the questions! This was a good one
I am mix race and proud
Preach. Same.
GANG GANG
Rachel is like the most Caucasian black girl he could’ve possibly brought home
wtf…
We call it Oreo
Huh?
we're not supposed to say that bc black ppl aren't a monolith. we all know exactly what you mean though.
@@sunnc I meant exactly what I said
americans got the concepts of race, nationality and ethnicity so mixed up it's almost funny
Don’t generalize 😭
Honestly I didn’t understand the point of the question about their ethnicites. They’re interracial so they should have been saying their race. If it was about ethnicities, they could have had couples of the race but different ethnicities 🧐
Im european but i know that peruvians for ex dont like if ppl say America meaning Usa. They are much different
@@tilllindemann2974 yeah i don't like it either! but there's lack of a word for their nationality in english, i ironically use united stater
It's just different. I don't know my ethnicity 100% due to slavery; they didn't keep records of where we came from so I have to go by my race. In the States, I'm black because that's how people are identified. But when I travel outside of the States, I'm American. I hate being called American though because I identify more as being black based on society and culture.
I would love to see more interabled couples, or even a video on them!
I'm an Indian, once I dated a guy from Ghana and oh boy was it tough! Even though I'm brown, his family kept telling me how light my skin color was (I'm from Northern India- Uttarakhand to be specific)
They used to ask me if I knew anything about 4abc curls and I used to go blank coz I have straight hair and obviously Idk anything about it (like how does that even matter??)
They would talk in their native language and tease me about random things (which my ex told me much later about)
I would dread meeting them coz of these taunts (they strictly wanted a black girl for him)
I am a straightforward person, and my tolerance towards $hit is pretty low so at times I used to snap back saying "Are you more interested in my color or in my qualities?" Or "Yeah I'm not black but in my country atleast we know how to hold relationships and respect others" (His Mom was a divorcee, and so were a few of his siblings)
He was my first bf and trust me we loved eo enough to want to marry eo, but these things kept me on standby.
My family on the other hand was super chilled, they loved him (he's indeed a great guy and used to support me at times, but sadly that was all too low, he used to fear his mom a lot and never uttered a word against her)
I broke up with him exactly 2 months after meeting his family (We had been together for 2 years prior to that)
And now about 7 years later, I came to know recently that he started dating a white girl (my prayers and blessings are with her, coz that girl doesn't know what she's getting into)
If they can't tolerate me because apparently my skin is light brown, how will they tolerate an out and out blonde with green eyes?
His family was super shitty and there are so many things I can talk about but this comment's already pretty long
How could anyone dislike Rachel? I'm so angry about that. I mean I love that he is with her regardless of his family's beliefs but she's so clearly a good person, I just don't understand how they could not accept her. :(
So sad that this is even a thing. Love is love 💕 and it is beautiful! Love and happy for all of these couples!