My Journey of Healing and Growth After Divorce
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- Опубликовано: 17 сен 2024
- Join me on my personal journey through one of life's toughest challenges: divorce.
In "Moving Forward: My Journey of Healing and Growth After Divorce," I open up about the emotional rollercoaster of ending a marriage and the lessons I've learned along the way.
From dealing with initial heartbreak to finding strength in solitude and eventually rediscovering joy, I share my insights and strategies that helped me heal and grow.
Whether you're going through a similar situation or just interested in personal stories of resilience, this video aims to offer hope, encouragement, and a sense of community.
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After watching this video, I realized that, as we grow older and wiser, In my case, we still don't know exactly what we want in life ...BUT WE DO KNOW EXCATLY WHAT WE DON'T WANT. From that perspective, we're not 100% sure what makes us happy but we do know what makes us unhappy. Therefore, a breakup or a divorce is like a new reset with a brand new set of rules of trials and errors but this time, at least we know what we should stay away from. My two cents !!!
Thanks for watching c.t.
Divorce was like cutting off my own limb and then trying to sew it back on again myself. Requires a lot of learning and growth about your ownself. This video is brave, honest, and incredibly kind of you to share and help others through what you have been through. ❤❤❤
Thanks for watching Tiffany
Calvin speaks the TRUTH! One main thing I like about him is that he doesn’t sugarcoat anything. Understanding and accepting reality you can make better decisions moving forward. I would love to have a few drinks with him and just talk raw without having to try to impress anyone or hold back. 😁
Hopefully our paths will cross one day and we can grab those cocktails! First round is on me
Captain! I’m back, after a long period of learning to be honest with myself. What a dynamic video to come back to. Today is #679th day-thanks to you! Life is a struggle no matter what position we hold, yet finding a way to divorce ourselves from anything or anyone that isn’t serving our highest value is key. Love and light to you, my friend! ❤
Thank you very much for this message
Thanks for sharing, Calvin….i totally agree…If you are not truly happy and at peace of mind at your current situation, it’s ok to let go and reset….if things don’t work, it’s ok to move on…take care of yourselves first 🙌
Thanks for watching
You change every 7 years, that is a great point. I have realized that it is so true . Being married , with kids and changing every 7 years is a lot harder than people think. It's not like you both change at the same time either. Being single would be a lot easier.
Thank you for sharing and so glad to see you evolve like this , I am so proud of you. Much love and respect bro ❤️️👍.
Thanks big bro!
@@fkndeliciousness ❤
Thank you for sharing this personal journey, Calvin. Wishing you and your ex partner healing as you move forward. We'll be watching from CA and hope to see your channel grow.
Thanks for your generous support Melissa
Thank you for this video. I'm 35 and trying to get out on this low. Everything you said is 💯 me right now. Engaged and living together and no more attraction. My friends had to point out I'm being used for a place to stay etc. I am tired of being weighted down. Last 6 months there has been no attraction. I am selling everything and moving from Alaska to Arizona.
I wish you the best on your journey to az Kyle
Well said. I'll share a bit. I was divorced 10y ago (after 9y of marriage.) Took me longer to get thru the stages of grief (5 or 7 stages, they say min 2y). The first 2y was hell. It wasn't until the 4th y that I accepted it (acceptance is the final stage); but in the process, I learned and improved myself quite a bit as a human being. Stay strong, bro.
Thank you for sharing
Bro on to it. A topic most people don’t discuss or give much thought to or acknowledge. It’s a Process bro and we all get through it in our own way. Personally it took me ages . And I lost sight of what was important. Now I love the freedom and the chance to show that the person I wanna be is a good person and what I have done and who I am is positive and what I stand for is who I am.
This is why I think your a legend bro. And being from our industry it can be hard 🙂. But it’s how we come back that shows who we are.
Your Bro from Perth 🤙🏽.
Keep up the positivity bro. Also Songkran was epic.
Send all the peeps back in Perth my life!!! ❤️ Perth
Thank you so much for this video. As someone dealing with an abusive relationship, being cheated on, money stolen from, and more it is hard to find the positive parts. I have struggled with it. I wanted to work with them but they didnt want to work with me. We have a kid and that made it so much harder to go through. This made me feel so much better and i cant thank you enough
Thank you for sharing this with us bretta
I am a Divorced Woman, and I truly need where you are so coming from. With that said, I have learned in this life, that it truly matters if the two human beings that come together, and become each others best friends before you are ever thinking about marrying a person is key! You must have some very serious commonalities, in regards to personalities, dislikes as well as likes. Some of the best relationships that I have been so blessed to see, and watch over the decades, are from those who truly are each others best friends...and it is so beautiful! So until that occurs in my life, I will never marry again. Because that friendship/ loveship those two share is a completely beautiful bond.
Thank you for sharing this with us
Wow, Calvin. I've watched you for years, on TV and youtube videos. I never would have known you were unhappy in your relationship. It must have been awfully hard to be the business you while going through all that. I'm happy for you for finding the you that you needed to be. Thank you for helping so many of us cook great food and now for helping so many know that it's ok to move on and become happy.
Thank you so much for the kind words Mabel
Aren't you turning 46 this July?
It sounds like you've had something of a rollercoaster (I'm sure this goes for most of us) but that it has brought you to a good place. Your road ahead is full of promise and I know you'll fully appreciate all the special moments along the way. Thank you for the videos, especially for allowing yourself to be vulnerable - it is one of the best ways to keep ego in check, in my experience.
I turn 46 in 3 months
I love this video. Calvin all the best ..
Thank you for watching
Thanks for sharing. Yes, no clue you had a lady, but it's krazy how you posted this topic. I'm glad you 2 are healthily divorced. I'm going through it right now, with her blocking me and not talking. Just getting mentally drained and heart broken.. thank for this Calvin.
I always got your back nghĩa 💯
@fkndeliciousness thank you Calvin, fully understand this whole talk.
I love these videos, Calvin. Thank you for everything and keep up the wonderful work.!
My pleasure!
I thank you for your honesty, as well as sharing the whole thought process that you as a Man went through. Too often, most situations similar town ours, all we get is a women's prospective. This has been so very refreshing, and now I appreciate you even more!👍😇🙏🙏💕
Thank yo for watching Mack
I really like your statement of allowing yourself to be forgiven. Yes, love yourself first then you can spread love to your loved ones. Life is an adventure . I want to shout out loud you r amazing.
Thanks for watching duy
hang on Calvin - it will get better, speaking from experience here. I am glad we went through the divorce instead of staying in together in a loveless marriage and torture each other.
Thank you eric
My brother I got you
I got divorced after 20 years
We all totally handle it differently
I chose to focus on my self and my two children
I got though it and have been
With my new partner
For 8 years now
I’m glad I didn’t look back and moved forward
I myself stayed longer than I should have because of my children
I wait until they were older
Than I decided that I deserve to be happy as we only get one life
CARPE DIEM
Good luck my brother
Thank you for watching
Thanks Calvin. More people need to talk about real life. ❤❤
This is my chance to do so
I'm happy you're doing well. God bless. 🙏 ❤
Thank you 🙏
Divorce can be a great liberator, and the time in the aftermath a great teacher. Let's rid it of the stigma.
Yessir John!!!
Behind every successful man there is woman however not the one who rolling their eyes .great video and thanks a bunch for sharing.
Thanks for watching Anthony
Behind every successful man, there is a woman looking to cash in. 😆
Thank you so much for sharing a truly intimate part of your journey. There are so many who can relate to this life-altering trauma and there are so many who are gently healing through finding support through a 'tribe' who fully understands the grief, heartache and struggle, this experience can unleash. Unconditional love and compassion is the strongest and wisest path to walk, albeit it difficult at times...when the tears, disbelief, hurt and anger betray us, but unconditional love - the kind of love we expect of others must first be demonstrated by ourselves. If that love isn't mirrored, then the Universe has greater plans for us
Thank you for watching lyanda
@@fkndeliciousness Life, it takes both bravery and courage...and kind Souls willing to embrace both. Thank you once again
@@IyandaElDesigns it’s my absolute pleasure
I never knew u got divorced. Sorry, brother. I'll be praying. You'll bounce back because ur a strong and beautiful person.
Thanks kg
@@fkndeliciousness Anytime lean c it's from the heart.
Can you tell us the lean B story again?
@fkndeliciousness Sorry brother. It's not a good start , but through people like you. I'm getting back my hope and happiness. God bless you. Lean C.
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For a very long time (over 30 years) I have struggled with perfectionism. It has caused all sorts of issues, as it tends to, and I've found it particularly hard to endure during a home renovation that has taken almost a year. We just finished. All along the way, I really battled to get things perfect, but there were mistakes made and things were basically good, but not spot on. I really struggled with this. I've basically been project managing the build so it would be the best it could be (I share a home with my parents, so it was for them as much as for me, so extra pressure to do right by them) and when things haven't been perfect it has really brought me down. So I started thinking - Why does the universe keep bringing me this lesson, even though I'm doing my best to let go of my perfectionism and accepting that nothing can be perfect?? Why keep repeating the lesson? And just recently I realised - I wasn't learning the *actual* lesson. The real lesson was that my constant striving for perfection all around me is simply me projecting my sense of insecurity and low self-esteem. Because I don't feel 'good enough' I keep trying to make everything else around me 'perfect'. So yeah, now I'm working on that. It's a long journey, but hopefully a good one. x
Thanks for sharing this with us
Thanks for opening up and sharing so much of yourself. I think we all have desires that are in the background, but don’t always act on it. I happen to be one of those lucky people that really have found the perfect girl. Therefore, the grass is not greener on the other side and the suggestion to get a divorce is not logical or practical. However, your suggestion is 100% applicable with many relationships in existence. I know a few miserable friends that cringe to go home cringe to be around their partner. I’ve always said that if you have to work at it too hard, you’re with the wrong person.
Thanks for watching
And thanks for sharing this with us
Wishing you the best always 🧡
Thank you! You too!
Love the substitles!! great coffee chat!
Thanks so much for watching
Take care of yourself first and foremost because you cannot help others if you need help yourself. I do know much about divorce but hope you well on your journey and that you find your purpose.
Thanks for watching Brian
smile and be happy, just do not sign that contract ! retired mailman learned it from my friend divorced 3 times. ❤
Thanks for sharing this with us
Calvin, seven years is along time but not so much in Years, if understood my anology.
Yes!
The person I loved that didn't want to be with me anymore. I want her to be able to take care of herself. I want her to be happy. When it looks that way. Then I can leave. Whether it's an unnecessary way or if I go somewhere else. That's my end game. I honestly don't know how to fix me love myself, all that what ppl talk. Stuff you just mention. I don't know how to do that. I don't know why I do what I do. Or maybe yes the fear the ego. At the same time. I'm tired. Sorry I just wanted to ramble that.
Thank you for sharing this with us tribal
I came from Sunny’s channel, best food review show. I just subscribed to your channel 😊
Welcome
I could see that I made a lot of sacrifices, but at the end of the day did not make me happy. It didn't bring me fulfillment. Man, it hit home for me. I want to walk away from my marriage but I don't have the strength or the right words to tell her. And I don't know how to live without my Son. Thank you for the video.
Thank you for watching brotha!! I’ll keep making these types of videos in the future
@@fkndeliciousness thanks bro
Hi Calvin, please continue to expand your channel. We have no right to judges or explanations to others about our life or our pass live. I believe that we all should believe in ourselves and give it all to make us happy. Of course, to get that happiness, we will experience the tragedies and misfortune or misspportunity. Your channel is giving your an opportunity to expand abd explore and experiences to others. Don't forget that you do have GOD and us that will watch you grow and thrive in all...I am a fab of food channels and I follow everyone that is being an eye to me to see the world. I have even tey to make food through RUclips. Sometimes, it's a hit and failed. But I still like to keep trying new adventures.
Thank you for your generous support
Im sorry to hear about your divorce. I wish the best for you and your ex. I’m 53. I’ve been with my husband since I was 14 and he was 17. 3 amazing kids. 4 fantastic grand kids. We’ve been married for 26 years as of May 16 this year. Made me sad to hear you say you think everyone should get divorced because we all change. Things got ugly over the years. But let me tell ya something…there’s something to be said for fixing things when they start to break instead of throwing them out and getting something new. My husband and I are absolutely best friends. He was diagnosed with cancer a couple of years ago and it was the worst thing and in a weird way one of the best things that ever happened to us in nearly 40 years. We are blessed to have found each other so young. But we fought to have what we have now and it was so worth it. People DO change but that doesn’t mean you have to grow apart. That new car smell wears off. Those that are still standing after that happens are special. I understand that not all relationships are meant to last but sometimes we just need to hold on a little tighter, try a little harder, be a little more understanding and selfless. Some folks act like marriage is terrible and you’re so brave to get a divorce and start over. Sometimes the bravery is in standing and fighting. Once in awhile it helps to stop and remember why you fell in love in the first place. I’m just thankful my husband and I still give each other butterflies after all these years. We grew up together. And I look forward to growing old together. Good luck to you all who are starting over. I wish for you the love and peace I know. It is real and attainable.
Thank you Stephanie for your loving honesty
Beautifully said !
Kelvin, 7 years is a long time but not as many years wasted, if you understand my thoughts. Stay strong.
It's Calvin Bui, aka capt Charisma 👍
I understand your thoughts
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Thank you for sharing sending you much love ❤❤❤
It’s my absolute pleasure
I absolutely love your transparency, and you’re willingness to share your perspective with the world
Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing, I finally subscribed to your channel!
I appreciate your generous support
Heal,growth,move ahead & you deserve better.
Take your time ,one thing at the time.
I got divorced from my ex husband in 2019.
I'm happy with my decision.
Im still going to follw, respect you and adore you. Thank you for sharing all you do.
I appreciate that
Thank you for sharing Calvin. You are constantly bettering yourself, even if you have to let go of things and fall down sometimes. It's all part of personal growth! Proud of you!
Thank you for letting me be me
I’m sure Calvin will agree we all should be bettering ourselves. Life is about continuous learning or teaching. It may not be school related, but there is always knowledge and experiences to absorb.
@beidlern I most definitely do agree 👍
I will always rewatch, everything.
Hey Calvin, do you think it’s possible to do a reset while having a family?
I don’t have a family so it’s not my place to say. I choose not to have a family for the main reason Weston.
I would love to have a 5 min talk with you if you ever can. You speak the truth from the heart and would loveto chat if not just keep up the content it is inspiring for everyone!!!
Hopefully our paths will cross one day
Im so late for this.😢 you were Thinking. So well said. Heart talks. Men should ALWAYS " Think About You" because Men do not get that. But if it is what you need to do...DO IT. VALUE ACCEPTED!! 😮
9:38 Calvin, seven years is along time but not so much in Years, if understood my anology.
I understand your analogy
“One door must close for another one to open.”
I totally agree
Absolutely love this man
Biblical marriage is the only way to go it’s not about love or feelings that is reality.. old school is the only way
Ok
Can you make a video on how life is being married to a vietnamese? I'm assuming she was vietnamese.
Everyone is telling me it's good I break-up with my vietnamese girlfriend because our relationship was complicated because western European mentality often collided with her vietnamese mentality and expectations from men.
Thanks
One more thing I must say. Yes you know what a certain kind of marriage is like. But similar to me, you do not know, and neither do I what a marriage can be like, when you meet your true friend life person first, and then be Blessed to marry such. Like I have previously said...I would never, ever get married again...unless it will be with my best friend in life, which will make him my endless favorite person, and know that I am the same to him. P seed by Goe...my Mother endless Love!🙏🙏😇😇🙏💕💕💕
I wish you the best along your journey of life
Interesting vid. Meow I tell you this. I've never changed throughout my life, and I'm 47. Im still the same since i was young. Also i probably wont ever get to experience divorce cuz of how i am PERFECT! A loveable 380Ib pannda looking asian man that loves motorsickle.
Ok
youre divorcing sonny side? why?
Ugh that’s a weird comment
The problem for viet kieu marrying a vietnamese wife are if you bring her to the US. She might have a change of heart. If you stay in vietnam, she will resent you because she want to go to the US. this happened to my best friend.
Thanks for sharing this story with us
love u brother
Thank you 🙏
You said everyone should get divorce so are going to tell your daughter/son to do that too or you going to teach them to honor their vows, change to be a better person, work hard for the family. Nothing in life is easy and teach them NOT to give up that easily.
I definitely am not having offspring
@@fkndeliciousness never say never, you are 46 and I have seen 60 year old man still have kid in VN. Good luck with everything you do Kevin
Yes absolutely agreed 👍 tell me more dude!!
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👍👍👍👍Calvin good to see you bro👍👍👍👍do you like Bon Jovi (livin on the prayer) the song 👍👍👍👍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love that song
Sounds like the fundamental question is : what is marriage? Why get marry ? As individuals, we will change. Does that mean we divorce? Like putting on and taking off a coat. Until we find alternatives to marriage, divorce will exist (usually in high numbers).
Yes it does
Sorry about the analogy of putting on and taking off a coat. Don't want to offend anyone by implying the casual nature of some marriage. I just observed that some people put more thoughts into marriage than others. But that's why there's divorce... .we all make mistakes and are fallible!
@@ThuyTran-ci2et yes we are
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Thanks on breaking shit down ! very good bro now go eat something fukin great !
Thanks for watching Jason
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Thanks jackie
I haven't tried the pepperoni advice to my stir fried yet.
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This is a weird thing to post. I miss when people didn't feel the need to vent online.
Don’t watch my fkn videos then
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Thanks for watching anne
@fkndeliciousness you said a lot of resonating things for me. Thanks for opening up
It’s my absolute pleasure