How to do an Honest and Effective Mid Year Review ft Harmonie
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- Опубликовано: 5 авг 2024
- This week's episode was so fun and intense (and to be honest, long) that we decided to split it into two.
FK and Jollz are joined by Harmony Adenipekun, a lawyer, luxury event planner and all-around bag of fun! In part one, they discussed crazy wedding expectations and weekend shenanigans before giving their two cents on a wide range of dilemmas like being "less intelligent" than your partner, in what time frame you divulge sensitive information about yourself to a potential love interest, and what to do when snooping in your partner's phone has carried you to where you don't know. Trust us, these are the fun and games you need to step down before it gets serious in part two!
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Jola and FK don't know what they have just done for people with this exercise. It's basically free therapy and it is going to help so many of us be kinder to ourselves. We're so lucky to have you guys ❤
Both parts of the episode were so great and Harmony was a fantastic guest. Loved the vulnerability and honesty throughout.
Harmony was such a beautiful guest to haveee
Fk’s commentary on her spirituality level is so sincere and I understand her 1000%.
I am fk, fk is me. So deep
I appreciate the honesty too
Like Jola, I had my first panic attack this year and I'm 27. I stood over my mom's casket and it was like all the fireworks of emotions I held in until that day were shooting out. I was gasping for breath and felt I was about to faint at the same time! It's also my first heartbreak, losing my mom at 44 yrs old.
Spiritually: 4/10- I've been saved since I was 11 yrs old, a very firm holy Ghost filled Christian who doesn't compromise; never had a boyfriend, still a virgin, I follow the rules and that's all I know. I was a choir member, an Usher, Sunday School teacher, an Intercessor and part-time preacher, but I've just been unhappy with God for a few years now.
Mentally: 4/10- it's been a struggle for a while, growing up, expectations, desires, lacking etc, and burying my mom 3 weeks ago is the icing on the cake.
Physically: 3/10- my spiritual and mental decline has made me not care and I've found myself not liking how I look now. I look at my younger pics and see the flat stomach, slim waist, broad hips, and I'm like, if only I didn't live in my head so much and become so down, then I would've kept taking care of myself properly. I hardly leave my room because of it!
Financially/Work: 1/10- I got fired from my last job for no reason when I was in the second year of pursuing my bachelor's degree, that was 2019. Since then I've sent countless applications, while still studying in university and I graduated a week after my mom's stage 4 breast cancer diagnosis in November 2023. I still send applications but it's like every door is closed and God has put me in a wilderness and left me to figure it out. So there's no work and no money but I don't lack basic needs cuz I have a wonderful grandmother ❤ She takes care of me but I hate that I can't take care of myself at this age 😔 filled with education, without a payroll 😔 and getting starting capital for my business idea is unfruitful so far! In other words, life has been life-ing!!
Family/Friends: 3/10- I love my family but I love being alone more, I'm an extreme introvert. It's just me, my 12 yrs old brother and his dad/mom's husband that lives in the family house, and I'm always in my room; it's a huge house so if they don't come downstairs and ask of me, they won't see me! Friends, I don't keep them; I'm not trusting, I don't initiate conversations and I don't mind when my phone doesn't ring or get texts 😊
Romantically: 0/10- I like my own company, I'm too selfish with my space, and I actually don't desire companionship. It's just me and the Holy Spirit, that's all I want 😊
Apologies for the epistle!
LOVE THE EPISODE 🖤💛💚
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@@Michalie_Cooke I almost shed a tear. Sending love ❣️❣️❣️❣️. Omo, life can be shit sometimes. I believe it’s gonna get better.
I pray that the Holy Spirit will shine light on your path, and everything will become better, IJN.
You are sooooo brave, so brave to articulate your thoughts, emotions 😊
It gets better, even if it feels like a raining day, everyday🫂
Hugs❤
We need to have Harmonie back! Loved this episode
Love what Fk and Harmonie said about their physical self. Like it's in our control. Idk why we act like it's rocket science.
I have listened to the entire 3hr plus podcast version twice..
Came here to watch their physical gesticulations..
This episode is 👌❤..
Please bring Harmonie again😂😂
@9:39 is the reason why i left the church. Jola just articulated my experience. When you are a very self-aware person, it's so hard to conform to organised religious structures. My spiritual life thrived better when i left.
I think having Apostle Emmanuel Iren would be great for this kind of conversation
Facts
Why?
@@bisolaadekunle5327 From what I've seen online, he's not afraid to answer such soul-searching questions and the kind of questions that really shake the foundations of Nigeria's kind of church going and religious practice. I don't attend his church btw but I like his real-ness.
Ngl this was such a heavy episode for me because it hit home & I genuinely felt seen.
Sooooo true !!!!!
I love how FK said Shut Up to Jola when she was tryna avoid the the questions on her love life 😂😂
I would love to see Pastor Iren on the podcast. Amazing episode, as usual!
That what ?
Fk thank you for being open no honest with us about where you are with God. I cried and crode hot tears I felt seen in your honesty
Please we want Pst Ayeye on the pod
Fk’s commentary on rating friendship through an internal audit / review hit me square in the face
This is a very insightful episode, and it's like Harmonihie came to do God's work.
I’m so glad you guys uploaded it on here to give visual representation
This is a great episode because both fun and serious aspects covered. We need Pastor Ayeye on this pod soon. Love the ISWIS podcast simply the best.
FK's outfit is killing it!!!
This is such a real and heavy episode but I appreciate the genuineness of fk , jola and harmony . I think mid year reviews are essentiall
SUUUUUCH a good episode! Loved this so much. And Harmonie's energy is everything 💜
I just came here to shout “J mamzy “ 🤣🤣🤣 Harmony is a riot
This was such a beautiful episode, the honesty, the vibe and the aura 🥹
I love Harmony!
You should bring Pst. Emmanuel Iren on some time
Lmaoo we want Pst Ayeye
@@naomiakinsanya990Actually
@@naomiakinsanya990 both of them at different times in my opinion. I honestly want to hear pastor Kola
I actually agree.
ruclips.net/user/shortsFg3Ne90lK6s?si=ss2Ic6U2XK66R91e
I actually agree.
Let's have pastor Iren onboard
I really love this episode,love how u guys are so sincere to yourself
This was a very good episode. I love how honestly the reviews were addressed. Harmony was the best guest so far this season, his vibes were on point!!!
I do much loved this episode.So deep and profound.
Harmony was a wonderful guest
This is quite honestly one episode that I would have preferred to watch the entire thing. ❤❤❤
Really loved this episode.
"Workically" 😂. I love this podcast.
This was such a good episode as usuallllllll🤭
FK would fit in perfectly in a Yoruba movie since music is not forthcoming as the path with her gesticulations. Jola please consider being a talk show host, the way you made everyone confess their deepest and truest selves and your guest was the absolute best, a non-judgemental great conversationalist. 😊❤
The part where Jola was asked to go deeper on her romantic sturv is sending me 😂😂😂😂😂😂 FK is not nice mehnnn😂😂😂😂😂😂
I came here to say grief is a bastard. What harmony said was so relatable
High key need the template for the mid year review!
Jollz, the primary school teacher! 😂
I hope the pastor that comes on the podcast is pastor sam
I love the fits
Everything nah double double 🎉🎉🎉
42:17 when Harmonie reduced his financial score. LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL! You guys are funny abeg.
Haven't watched this, my heart really goes out to my girls FK and Jola. I really wish they'd listen to Pst. Nkechi Ene or Pst. Mildred Kingsley-Okonkwo.
When they do, they'll see why I'm saying this.
Notification gang! Hello boys and girls!
Hello All😄
I can relate to Jola's take so much
A jolly mamaaaaa
Harmony is actually a very calm guy
I am actually crying, CRYING and SCREAMING at the guests reaction when Jola gave her romantic life an 8.😂 54:03
😂😂😂
Seeee sooo hilarious 😂😂😂😂
1hr+ video 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Harmony is my mood for Jola’s love life🤣
It's the way we can't see the scores on the board. e be like say next time black chalkboard way ooo 🤣
Where is the part 2 now?
FK: About the scripture thing. Did you know that some scriptures in the Old Testament were referenced in the New Testament?
Jesus, Paul, etc quoted some scripture from the old testament in the New Testament. E.g you can find Luke 4:18 in Isaiah 61:1 so many others.
Secondly I feel so sad that you’ve had some unpleasant experiences that’s made you guys not to be in a good place spiritually, but c’mon there’s more to Jesus than bad experiences. I think you should be open to the love of the Father, fellowship with the HolySpirit, through the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ.
If you don’t believe anything else please believe this: that God loves you Jola me FK more than you both know. ❤❤❤
I think like they said there’s just something in the Bible that they fundamentally don’t agree with which makes the whole faith aspect dicey
12:49 on what fk is saying. It's the way you'll look around when something is misquoted or misinterpreted and you'll see everyone nodding head in church. It's so shocking like eyin o kin ka bible yin ni
My relationship with God is so weird. You hear all the time what sin does to your relationship with God and you internalize it. Its like i am trying to be in my best behavior so God doesn't ignore my prayers or refuse to bless me. Then there are things the church judges you for. Once youre celibate and you don't engage in premarital sex, youre saved. But if you party, drink, dance to secular music. You can’t really be vocal about your love for God. So you're constantly oscillating between extremes, either you've not succumed to modest to grave debauchery or you can't remember the last time you prayed before getting to bed. And you cant ask God for anything cos you feel like you sinned against him and youre angering him. And on and on it goes.
And you're pissed at Him when things don't go right, then you feel guilty because you should be grateful your life isn’t that bad. And you think of the times when it will be hard to sleep or breathe. Because you know it will come soon and this is the calm before the storm and life will happen again and anxiety will pound in your chest and burn tears behind your eyelids.
Just like that the 5 and 4 you scored your mental and spiritual state, dwindles down to 1 and 2.
Mid year review went well....
Went through the comments and yours really stood out to me. First of all, I'm happy that you are at least aware of the place you are and have something of a longing for where you want to be. It might interest you to know that the Holy Spirit is tugging at your heart. Now about the sex, partying, and drinking; I'd encourage you to not focus on that for now and focus on asking God to help you love Him properly. Think of it like a romantic relationship, if you love your partner unconditionally, you'll naturally want to do what they like, just to make them happy. The other things you mentioned are external fruits of an internal heart posture. If we're so focused on crossing a checklist of religious activities, we will tire ourselves out (looks like you're at that point already). However, don't be afraid to be vulnerable with God and say "God, I really don't like how my relationship with you is right now. I have a lot of unanswered questions. I don't know what to do, I don't know how to love you the way I ought to. But I'm willing to learn, please teach me". A prayer said in humility like that tugs at the Father's heart. And He will help you, He's earnestly longing to hear your voice asking for His help. I hope this helps :), with love from a fellow imperfect Christian.
@@tosinjones5183 you see this is a very good (Christian) reply, and I think that's the issue. I know these things. And it proofs that there's really no middle ground or else you're fine being lukewarm. It's one thing to want to be a better human being, to be kinder and forgiving and helping. It's another thing to feel like even if you do all these things but you drink and party, then you're not a Christian. As long as it's a fact then you will never be at peace. So personally you're being better, but in the eyes of the church you're still lost.
As someone who is struggling and has struggled with faith, I feel this. These days, I just cling to the knowledge that Jesus died for my past and future sins as I try to figure out this "walk with God" thing. Also, I think God is very aware of our ability to fall fail and even not naturally want to live per Bible standard. Not to sound Christianese but "a righteous man falls seven times" was there for a reason. All in all, my prayer for myself and everyone struggling to be a real christian is that we throw away the expectations of the church and somehow find rest in God cos lowkey, it is those expectations that draw us back.
@@Afyemy darling the “eyes of the church” doesn’t matter in this oh. Even the church that we all try to please is very imperfect and you’d be shocked what people do behind closed doors. It’s actually somewhat funny. Somehow people forget to give people grace, the grace that they ask God for on a daily. Do all you can to make sure that you’re pleasing God. When you fall, as we all do, get back up. Jesus has gone ahead of us to atone for all our past and present wrongs, hold on to that fact. There’s now no condemnation for those who are in Christ 🤗
I feel like Jola is dating Dekunle because of the way she's doing
Fk is me on the spirituality thing. I am low-key angry with God and its killing me.
It was sooooo me.
I think Pastor Emmanuel Iren should be considered.
He gets it from the new young adults' perspective.
Harmonie is dramatic 😂😂😂
I don't know what you guys did but it feels like old times again, thank God because your pod was going downhill. Keep it up, I totally enjoyed this episode.
they spoke about your type in this episode
@@ore.kaykay1698 pls if they or you can't take criticism then you are not ready for greatness. The fact that I keep coming back to their podcast obviously means I believe they are doing a good job, stop trying to make a mountain out of a mole hill.
If you guys ever need a pastor to provide a Christian perspective in a manner that is non-judgmental and shows a little more grace, Emmanuel Iren is your guy.
-Aww I got here first🥹
High key need the template for the mid year review!
Please we want Pst Ayeye on the pod