What Really Goes On Inside the MIND OF AN ADDICT?
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- Recovering Addict Chris Thomas shares the secret thoughts and rationalizations from when he was in active addiction. This insider perspective sheds light on the denial and defense mechanisms that keep addiction going.
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Shot out to all the family members of an addict who are here to educate and empower themselves.. i remember a specific shift in how my parents were treating me.. asked them why? They said they had Both read a book about supporting but not enabling an addict.. I was so touched that they were trying to understand my struggle and I could tell they had changed their opinions and. Actions, but they didn't even tell me, so it wasn't so they could out smart me.. . it was inspiring to watch my almost senior parents be so open to changing their thinking and behavior about addiction.. if they can still reinvent themselves at their age it discounted my 'im too old to change, I've always been an addict excuse
Love this! I can feel the love in your family 💗💗💗
Thank you for shareing....I am a mom with a very loved Son with schizophrenia and FASD and born with effects and withdrawls from birth moms anti phsycotic meds ...he is one of the most beautiful minds and spirits I have ever met ...until he's drunk and on meth🙄...he really wants to change
❤
I always say "it starts as a choice, but as the brain chemistry changes it becomes an addiction "
Thank you sincerely for helping me understand better . I’m feeling at peace with my next decisions with my relationship. Blessings in abundance ❤
I could only watch 20 minutes so far. I'll catch the rest later.
I grew up with Chris and this man is a good man with an incredible heart! I'm so proud of him!!!!!
I'll be catching the rest of this video later this evening for sure!!! Love you brother
Thank you Larry!!! I know you remember that old me...so good to see you brother
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My sister refused to talk about it which made it even harder to help her we lost her two months ago and the guilt is terrible this guy is very brave.
Thank you so very much
Credit to your guest for being so honest and it’s such an eye opening for us who doesn’t understand alcoholism. I love my boyfriend so much and I have given up bringing it up to him. I want to have a beautiful future with him but I cannot live with the ugly truth of alcoholism. Too much pain and I have given up.
Same with me, I am exhausted by the good guy/death threats guy rollercoaster.
Thank you for the Hope Chris and Amber. I've buried my husband at 40 due to his abuse. Now praying both my adult children can obtain sobriety 😢 Your videos are helping my life..thank you !!
I’m so sorry for your loss. 😭❤️
Chris’s statement, “Even if I’m broke and have nothing I have freedom.” Spot-on, Chris. This is true for all people!
Chris, and Amber Thank you! My 31 yr old son has lost everything except for his breath. LOST: Daughter, mobility in wheelchair, home, truck, incarcerated at present. March 2024 is his hearing. PLEASE RECOMMEND A HOLISTIC REHABILITATION CENTER. I’m mom ( never give up) intercessory prayers are going to Jesus several times a day on his behalf. Jesus gives his promises in his word.
Super helpful listening to this today! I am applying the knowledge to stop smoking, cigarettes and weed! I beat 12 years of meth addiction, 22 years clean, Chris' words spoke volumes to kick these last vices in my life. Thank you both!
I so needed this . I have a 29 year old son has done jail long time and sober I can talk back and forth and he is an adult. But I have to give it to God. In jail for 8 months and 1 month back on meth. I begged again rehab. No.. I'm trying to see the real him and I am having a hard time. Give it all to God.
Thank you! I walked away from my boyfriend of 7 yrs. He has been spiraling down for 2 years and drank all his life. He's tuning 60yrs in December.. I hope he finds that reason. My love for him did not make a difference and as he was my first love! It's killing me to see him in pain. We never had much conversation about it even when I broke up. Thank you Chris for making me feel like I did the right thing cause I did jump in and go to his family, for an intervention. They said no. So I need to remove myself as his addiction to alcohol, porn and now gay porn and gay hook up apps have shown me he has some demons he's numbing out.
Your very welcome and thank you for watching ❤
Thank you for reminding us that people can do this and that you see it every day. Some days are so discouraging and you think the person will never make it through.
Thankyou Chris! 15 months sober here, and loving it!!
Yes yes yes!!! Congrats!!! It’s the best feeling wailing up sober!! You know, I can go to work tired and deal with that but being tired and hung over or still high from the night before…it’s in acceptable..♥️
❤love this i’m in Nar Anon for my son and in AA myself cuz i’m sick of being sick.
This is so true!! I just realized that someone closed to me keeps using bec he doesnt know what his purpose yet. I can feel the pain and the loneliness. I understand more now what he's going through.
Hey Kat, thanks for joining the discussion. You're loved one is lucky to have you
Oh thank you so much for the response! This means alot to me. I actually dont know how to inquire. I want to know if you have programs for people outside United States?
My alcoholic loved one embraces his addiction. He says he’ll probably die as a result of it, but with his glass held high and a smile on his face, he’ll say, “It’s been a good ride!” He says he has to drink in order to curb his anxiety to play his favorite sport (he’s aggressively competitive) and frequently gets very intoxicated on the course and starts arguments with other players. He’s a loud, aggressive drinker and starts arguments with everyone about everything when he’s drinking. I’m tired of the non-stop insults and shaming he hurls at me. He’s addressed his anxiety with his doctor recently, but drinks despite the medication (Buspar) which he’s indicated does seem to be helping his anxiety somewhat. He’s lost almost every relationship he values, including all of his adult children. He’s so full of self-pity and has never tried sobriety. He’s managed to keep a great job for more than 30 years, but it only requires him to be present present/sober one out of every three days. He’s gone to work hungover countless times. I’ve lost myself in his addiction, and now he’s on the verge of losing me.
im dealing with that now its been 9 years two young boys we just got a home and im not sure how to stop him from arguing over any small thing i need someone to talk to
This is the best ...
There is nothing more noble that helping others by sharing your knowledge...
Thank you.x
So nice of you
AMEN🙏🏻
Friday’s after high school is the Friday
Connection. I remember the hyped feeling of seeing my friends and hanging with boys. Chris’ was hanging with friends and drinking. I can see a possible connection. My son was the same way. I began to dread weekends when most of his antics occurred.
Hi Teekay K, thanks for watching and sharing a little about your own experiences!
True - I’m 68 and have never used (family members have and do actively use). I am recovering from a lot of trauma r/t addictions and I live alone. But on Friday I experience that “feeling” wanting to be out and DO something fun. Have few friends or opportunities to socialize these days along with autoimmune issues so it’s not very practical. And I feel SAD about that every single Friday. Believe it is linked to the hope and enjoyment I experienced in High School when I could escape from my nightmare home and had somewhere to go to ENJOY being with other people. Now they were often smoking marijuana etc. but I was there back then for the socializing. So can see there is definitely a link to former times.
Chris and Amber, this was amazing! Congratulations on your recovery, Chris! I loved hearing your story and the lessons you learned. You are very articulate and have good things to share. I am sure you've helped a lot of people with this interview and in your everyday life. You also provide hope to people who desperately need it. Amber, you have the best channel on RUclips. I wish it existed when our family was on this journey. I am so glad it exists now for those who need it. Well done to both of you!
Glad you enjoyed it, Rose!
So glad to hear recovery stories and insight into the mind of an addict. Grew up in a family of addicts and non-addicts and as the adult child who watched it, I will say the ptsd that results lasts, for decades.
These talks and stories are so valuable for all involved. Thank you Amber and Chris!!!
I'm about the same age as Chris and remember what it was like as a teenager.
I appreciate Chris sharing. Thank you, Chris for your vulnerability.
I was about to stop this playback because his story seemed hopeless and my son is on.the last 2 denial steps now.. After 2 and 1/2 years sober. Then Chris stated," I knew God didn't want this plan for my life." Plus the I can't do it by myself it took GOD and giving it all to Him. As a Christian I needed to here that too...thank you and God bless you..
I'm glad you decided to watch a little longer. Sometimes just after the darkest days, comes the light 😁
@@PutTheShovelDownI really hope so 😢
As I kept listening, It came to the part when you said the one using can turn the one who isnt using into a crazy person!!! That was me and its still there in me just not as strong as it used to be.
It’s so true, Susan!
Thank you so much for doing this video. It helps me a lot to understand my husband's thinking patterns. He grew up in a family that seems similar to the family you are describing, lot of people coming and going, family drinking together, maybe more on the peripheral, jut people having fun on the weekend, there's no problem as long as we make it to work on Monday. He started drinking well before legal age, alcohol is around, its just normal. His siblings were significantly older, so he was hanging out with them and their spouses, because its good to spend time with family. He grows up, marries me, a woman from a very different (but still dysfunctional family). He goes to college, gets a degree and a six figure job. Everything is wonderful, except that it isn't. The week still revolves around Friday and Saturday nights, when we have some drinks together and then he keeps drinking until he passes out. We get older and start a family, now I'm clamoring for safety and stability and he is wondering why I'm never satisfied. He makes good money, he drinks expensive scotch, smokes good cigars, our life looks nothing like the way he grew up. Except that under the thin surface, everything feels like chaos. I really, really appreciate the candid conversation about recovery being a process, and to appreciate the steps that are successful. If I had been better at that, my husband and I might still be together. But it at least helps me understand as I negotiate co-parenting. Thank you for being willing to share your story, it is helping others.
Chris, I'm so happy for you and proud of you. It is an amazing feat to change to a sober life. I've seen it in my family-Dad, uncles, Grandfathers and personal relationships. My Dad got sober and has been for 27 years. That was huge, even though, we were adults and out of the house at that point. What a great example of change and growth you've shown your son. You were so open and revealing. It is much appreciated. We all have anxiety and stress in this life. We all get in our own heads sometimes. Each day keep making the right choice. Meditate/pray. Reach out to your sober support group/friends. Keep doing the work Chris! Sober life=freedom
I just figured out why I remained numb. It is life changing. Abuse is serious!!!😭🥺
AMEN🙏🏻
I hate i missed this one especially. I’d like to thank him for coming on and speaking on his experience. I wonder if there was maybe anything anyone could have said to him to have gotten him to the point of desperation sooner than he did on his own.
I believe no one could of Lori... I was hard headed... had to learn my own path.... unfortunately it took me down that path....But as God would have it there’s a reason for everything and I do believe my experiences was to give me a knowledge to help others
@@christhomas9989 thank you for responding and you are so right. There was a higher plan for you and some things you just have to grow through in order to make that plan come to life. I wish you all the best on your continued road!!
This channel has been such a blessing to me! Always learning new things as learning to gracefully walk this out with my loved one that struggles with addiction. Thank you Chris for opening up your heart and being so honest. You def give me hope!
Awwww thank you jessica!!! Your a lighthouse!!🤍🤍
I do like this channel. As i was watching this video i realized that, although im not an addict, I used to smoke. I quit 23 years ago but i know if i ever picked up a cigarrette I'd have the habit all over again. (Because id quit once before and i just know) And i remember that although i smoked for around 20 years my first cigarrette of the day always made me dizzy and i constantly coughed. It wasnt like i engoyed it. Addiction os so much harder and im not trying to trivialize it but the concept is the same
Great video, very helpful to hear it from this perspective. I like his response to Vicki 's question at the 36:37 minute mark. That's where my husband is at suddenly after 7 years clean. This is so hard to witness and go through as a family.
Also thanks for doing this Chris... Its good to hear that their is hope for my son.
Sending positive thoughts your way Marian!
Absolutely it’s my pleasure if I can get my story out there to inspire just one person I feel that I’ve done my duty hopefully I can reach a lot more like I say in my group we’re an army In this war of addiction and if we can keep recruiting just one person at a time I feel that we can possibly overcome this enemy
I needed to hear this. I just found this channel and I have struggled for 20 years and been in and out of AA NA and institutions and I still haven’t heard or understood things as simply and honestly as u both put it. You’re both very insightful and truly GET IT without just regurgitating big book quotes or stuff they read in their school text books
@@phyllisportieles4427 thanks Phyllis! I’m so glad you found this helpful! ❤️❤️❤️
@@christhomas9989 just saw your video! I needed to hear this because I’m dealing with an addict and I literally cry everyday and feel helpless because for 3 years I have been dealing with this and he “ swears he will stop”.
Chris and Amber- thank you so much for what you do. My 19 year old only son, who is my heart , has been in addiction for a year. I got him to agree to inpatient last February but he was back to drugs within months. While he was physically clean ( but not mentally) he told me he would rather just die than not do meth.it wasn’t long after that that he was just out of control and putting himself in dangerous & potentially deadly situations . I long to have the conversations you suggest with him, but he is now purposely out of touch and unreachable. The last thing I heard was that he told his friends he wants to go to “ insert name of worst part of city for drugs and shooting deaths” and just do drugs till he dies. He was taken to that very place in the last few days , according to a friend and is living on the street. My physical and mental health are failing now as I try to brace myself that I may be burying my child any time. I have watched so many of your videos, Amber, and I was hopeful I might be able to use some of the strategies to try to get him to choose life. But my heart aches because he is just missing in action. He has no I.d.and he could die and I’d never even know it. Now Im just trying to save my own life from the stress of it all……. I guess I just wanted to thank you, Chris, for helping others see the light. You keep choosing life every day. And Amber, thank you for helping so many people. Was hoping one of those people would be my son, but… he is just gone.:( I’m so broken.
I am so very sorry to learn of this Tracy… contact me anytime…I have resources available that may help…♥️
Hope the ending of your son’s story was not tragic, but one of my adult sons is on the same path. Addiction is heartbreaking and Meth is a terrible substance. 💔
This conversation was so helpful 🥺 I appreciate y’all so much. Sending love from Akron, Ohio 🤍
Follow up question - and, forgive me, Amber; I’m slowly making my way through your videos, and I believe you’ve already answered this question, but I cannot recall 😓 - do you have any book recommendations that could help me understand/help my addicted loved ones? (Was “Beyond Addiction” one of them?) Thank you again for everything you do.
This has been so helpful.
And Thanks to Chris too, really great hearing you speak.
The levels of denial were so spot on.
So glad!
Great video! Thank you Chris for sharing your story. I live near Canton and there are a lot of people struggling with addiction. This channel has been very helpful. I feel like I am getting better at understanding what my loved one is going through and how to navigate it in a more healthy way
I was close to my big sis and tried to understand her but you feel like your doing all the work we lost her recently they can only help themselves.
Thank you for the great education. Very helpful.
You're very welcome!
Life could be better!!!
Love this....
Thoughts ,then action...
Very good interview.
It's helpful to listen to abusers/addictes who could get free 😍😍😍
This video is so insightful ❤️ Thank you for sharing Chris! Thank you Amber for this Channel. Keep up the good work🙏🏼🌷
Wow when he said if he keeps beating themselves up and have sober times then I know he can stay sober. Hes newly sober
I agree with the trigger! My son is 27yrs old
Too many have died and we want to do all we can so they don't die. I feel her pain
This was a great video, it helped me to understand the steps an addict is going through. I grew up in a family of alcohols and addicts and I thank God that I didn't pick up on either one, but I married an alcoholic who has a daughter that is an addiction and our daughter is an alcoholic. I'm struggling so bad with this recently as she does the whole stop drinking start drinking again I'm on this whole emotional Rollercoaster ride. She just recently left my house with her 4 yr old son and I'm at a loss. This has helped me to understand her phases and I feel there could be some hope for her, but it's tough dealing with this. I commend you Chris for your strength to know you wanted to quit and following through. I appreciate all the videos you have done Amber. They do help. God bless you both. It helps to know your not fighting this fight alone.
Thank you Julie…it’s my honor to share my story and hopefully help others….
Great interview! Great role model Chris! Thank you for being so candid Chris! Excellent information for all dealing with addiction. God Bless you!!
Thank you so very much Lynne
Thanks for watching Lynne!
Narcissism is a behavioral issue constantly behaving in the spirit of their addictions in denying things that happened around them and my mother often forgets what all signatures she did for DCFS, and now my mother is telling me that my daughter had one of her own friends put her up to doing things like that when they can not use other ppls signature at my mother's address. Only my mother would challenge what she forgot she did easily enough.
Thank you guy's...
Your try are a service to others,motivation of love and change.
It takes guts to stand up and share what your not proud off...
Its not over yet!😃💞
Our pleasure!
Thank you for these recovery videos Amber
You're so welcome!
To me- Rock bottom is, "I've lost everything." Typically unpaid bills, elec shut off, no gas, broken vehicle, walking to and from, water shut off, no where to go.
Friends and family no longer want to help. You literally have nothing left because you only fed the addiction, and at the end if the day, you only have the addiction left.
Thats rock bottom. And it FORCES you to change, OR give up, live on the street and chase the high until you die. Theres no 3rd way.
Found this video yesterday. Amber and Chris worked really well together, in getting across some real points in recognising the different stages of Alcoholism and Recovery
Chris has a very real Everyman, candid manner and fighting spirit.
Says it as it is. Thank You Chris. You've had a real, difficult journey. And have worked really hard to recover.
Sad time for me. Lost my exboyfriend 6 week ago. He was in very deep denial l and seemed not to care about anything. Beyond reach.Tragic death, from Alcoholic related health problems.
Passively Suicidal is a really good summation Amber of this heartbreaking position.
To be honest, l am still trying to grapple on many levels, on how and why people become Alcoholics in the first place. It is just an easy fix at first which then can gradually possess you.
I had little experience of being involved with an Alcoholic, when my ex biyfriend came back into my life after 20 years.
He used to be a nice, pleasant middle class man from a good family. You would have put money on him, not to become an Alcoholic when he was younger.
I had a very old fashioned image and an extremely limited view of how Alcoholics behaved.
So my time seeing him was a massive learning curve, which l am still trying to process and come to terms with his terrible behaviour,and patent self destructiveness
As to whether Alcoholism, is a a disease, choice or an allergy is an academic question really.
Addiction is a massive, tragic problem which people need to know more about to really understand it.
However bad things get. We have to keep supportin in Addicts whatever state despite what happened to me they can get better..
Sending you my thoughts and prayers, Mary .💝
So very sad to read your story..
Sending love and prayers to you…stay strong and never give up…❤
@@christhomas9989 Are you available to reach somewhere? I wondered if you'd be open to giving some advice? I have a significant issue that I can't find an answer to. I'm based in New York.
Welcome, Chris
Thank you ❤
Thank you for the videos. I will use these to help one of my very best friends.
Amber you techniques helped me navigate getting my loved one into admitting we need help .....
That's so great, Michele! So proud of you 🤩🤩🤩🤩
Thank you for sharing such an intimate experience. If they have to want to stop, how can I help with that? The powerlessness from the outside is also devastating.
Thank you both for taking the time to share.
Thanks for watching!
My son told me while he was in to not put any money on his books because then they would extort it from him. He said he was better off if they thought he didn't have anything. And he was in AZ.
Wow! Thats a tough call for him to make.
Thank you so much for the work you do🙏🏾❤️This helps so much. I needed all this understanding to help my loved one. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I heard…”Give your self up to a higher power!”…I heard that!🙏🏾
Yes absolutely!!! Faith has made me see things clearly and now I have clarity
My ex went to the extend of accusing me of being addicted to sugar (in food) so I'm in the same situation he is.
Thanks Chris 😊 proud of you!
Thank you so much Rosemary
Friday is my husband trigger. He stays sober through the week. Friday after work his at the liquor buying for the weekend. It’s hard because he also thinks I’m only drinking on the weekend and at home. What’s the problem.
Chris GREAT JOB... Stay close to Jesus an he will carry you through.
I currently have a restraining order on my husband and he is out of the house. I just found this channel which is a blessing about 2 months ago I found out that my husband had been lying to me for 14 years he I guess you could say is a very good at the game because it was only when he had gotten in trouble with the law and was on probation and he could not use that the mean side of him came out that's how everything got revealed now I don't know what to do because I do love him but I don't want to tolerate drugs in the house or drugs. Because I have a little granddaughter and I don't like his anger Tantrums because he can't use or whatever I don't know what to do
Hi Christina, thank you for your comment…yes stay positive and work through…I keep my faith and things get easier…
Thank You ever so much 🥰 🙏 for this blunt honest interview my God what an eye opener I am grateful there is real light under the tunnel for my fiancé.
Best of luck to you and your fiancé..never give up..❤️🔥
I am struggling with my son with drugs don’t know how to start helping him have tried but it’s getting worth.he in denial
Hi Maria, I'm sorry you're going through that. Sometimes you need a break. Here's a video that might be helpful: ruclips.net/video/EE5D8U34cl4/видео.html
Thank you Chris for sharing.
Absolutely and thank you for watching…
I hope I made a difference..
Really really good interview !
Thank you for your videos. They are very interesting and helpful. You talk about things/treatment/helps I never knew existed.
I'm so glad!
Thank You!
Welcome!
My son is walking down the bizy street I live on right beside a bizy intersection horns honking ..as he yells for me MOOOMMMMMM MOOMMMM😳😥🙄😔HE WAS JUST in hospital and rehab for 8 months ..1 week out started drinking and using ...and 2 months later all other family washed their hands ..and dropped him off in my town ..its been 8 days ...8 days of sinking back into hell ...he s sinking into his hell ...and thus after alllll of my work hard work on healing after several years of his and my expressions mental illness and addictions ..booze smokes weed snd Meth....and last year this time was skin over bones at 100lbs ...and it took a brutal beating from police after I called a wellness check ..this brutal incident happened on my front yard sidewalk ..blood and blood curtailing screams for them to stop ....😥😔ahhhhhhhhhhh ...I am slipping back ..held up in my own home ...
I m desperate for help for him ....have done everysingle thing I can within the confines of this broken system less system...
So my son has schizophrenia ocd born with FASD born addicted to birth moms high levels of opioid antipsychotics..I ve had since I held him 10 hours old....Could you please do one on MENTAL ILLNESS and addiction and homelessness...please
Amber I love your talks has been eye opening
Thanks Jennifer!
Keep up the great work guys!
Love it...🌼🌺🌻
How does someone deal with the mood changes. My husband is struggling and thinks im just trying to control him but its not aboit that. Its about his verbal, emotional, physical and financial abuse
Thank you both so much! This helps me so much!
So glad!
Thanks!
Wow! Thanks C!!😁😁😁
I'm seriously not sure how I supported my addiction through crime.. if I tried to steal thousands of dollars of merchandise today I'm pretty sure I would die of stress before the day ended.. and I actually used to love that rush of pulling off a good heist, knowing you could just relax for the day..(actually it wouldn't matter how much I got.. it wouldn't last till morning). almost as good as shooting up.. it was this whole ritual of stealing, selling, buying that I loved! I can't believe I lived that stress and chaos every day.. by choice!! Crazy!! Now I have anxiety attacks if someone rings my door bell lol
Wow I relate to your message…
I felt the same and I feel the same today…seeing the police even though I know I haven’t done anything still stresses me
@@christhomas9989 yep, I had to go to the police station to pay a simple fine last week. when I went I felt like I was going to have a heart attack when I heard cell doors being closed.. when I see prison transport vans I also freak out, simple traffic stops make me want to cry 😂 lol.. luckily I live in a pretty small city, so a lot of times I run into cops they stop and ask why I haven't been arrested lately, and congratulate me for getting clean, tell me I look amazing.. I've gotten a few hugs from cops and it's actually been really great!! 😁
It’s all in mentality
It sure is!
What a great video, subbed! Chris, have you thought of writing a book?
Hi Roxanne… I would absolutely love too…would need help, it’s something I have no idea how to even begin..I believe my story could help so many others…❤️🔥
I have to say no you can't be in a loving relationship with an addict. I've been in a one for 18 months with a meth addict. It's been an absolute nightmare. He is a late stage addict, and he's absolutely psychotic, violence, lying - just all of it. He has promised rehab over and over but he really has no intention of doing it. I have ended it, and so has he. He doesn't want to change.
I’m sorry your going through this, like you said people won’t change unless they want..
I wish you luck…❤
Good sharing dynamic.
Thank you!
The power of desperation
Exactly!
Love your take on , ways we can learn how we as the person that cares can by our behaviour can influence there choices.🌻🌺🌷
Absolutely!!
Out of addiction a narcissist is really formed because the brain habitually does things even after the physical addiction has ended habits of trying to do things even illegally to gain trouble even with them trying to get ppl looked at in other ppl doing and saying they used other ppls help to get some legal documents mailed to their home saying they never authorized them to get mail sent to the home especially with any state id.
I got bored with drinking after 32 yrs, so I quit.
You're really lucky!!
32 years 😮... better than never
Narcissism is actually a behavioral. Issue in many areas to where they try to avoid getting caught up in trying to avoid their involvement. I looked up toxic grandparent and it talks about a narcissistic attitude like it not about them at all that got that all kicked off. My mother and sister have forged my name on documents of state id and a custody letter that I never agreed to doing with my older kids. Narcissism stem from bad addctions. My mother had alcohol, and my sister used drugs and showed out quite a bit being the middle child and now they behave like monsters in progress with denial in totallyh lying about things on others.
Thank you, both! So, I have a question for Chris. When you got out (after the 100 days), did you go back to your same home, but distanced friends that used, etc... But, same home, same town?
Unfortunately over the last 12 years being in and out of jail I had no other choice but to go back to the same home...
But this last time when I got out of rehab I was fortunate enough to meet the lady that I’m with now who lives in Chicago and I moved out that way when I come back to Canton I just don’t associate with anyone from my past basically I cut everyone off except my family
@@christhomas9989 Thank you, Chris. That's helpful. I also want to say, Well Done, man! You are an inspiration.
@@cjgia4898 awwwww thank you so much... your an inspiration
Thanks for this.
Glad you liked it Darcy!
WISH I COULD GET THROUGH THE WITHDRAW IM SO OVER LIFE
Wow! 🥰 Wonderful
Thank you so much!!!
Wow sounds like what I’m going through
Hey all, In Amsterdam, like the rest of Holland (and like Switzerland, Belgium, Italy and Spain to a lesser extent), marijuana is decriminalised but nothing else is. Portugal is the place you're thinking of, where they decriminalised absolutely everything and the number of drug related offences and deaths has gone down at a drastic rate (and all the money redirected at prevention). Even the biggest prohibitionnists had to admit that this system works.
Claire (from Europe)
Great video!!! Thank you 😊
You are so welcome, KDM. Thank you for watching 😁
Thank you KDM
Can you please share what rehab facility Chris went to? Thank you so much.
I went to Wilson Hall in Massillon Ohio
I just love 💘😘 your show it's really helped me stay sober and I THANK YOU SO MUCH YOU HAVE CHANGED MY LIFE LADY🌺🌺🌺🌺🥰🥰💓💞 Heroine is a hard bitch to say goodbye to. Lol 😂😂 Thank you. 😘😘😘
How can I follow Chris on social media and does he give any advice about his experiences in addiction
Most or a high % of teens drink to fit in or get drunk or lit at a party. But all don't become an alcoholic. But some do. If in your family you have that in your genes
At about 14 minutes into this video, Chris said that his son looked up to him. I find it quite HARD for ANY child to look up to an alcoholic... But that's just me. 🤷🏻♀️ Absolutely NO DISRESPECT, Chris. I'm just saying that it is hard to look up to someone who is always drunk. I'm struggling with this issue with my husband. I've been with him for 21 years and the drinking has only gotten worse... Or maybe I've just grown impatient and literally HATE HIM when he drinks... But I love the sober him if that makes any sense?
I understand and you are right..but he was young at time.. as he grew older he seen the real dad he had and started to distance himself…and that’s the event that made me change my life..hope this answers your comment..❤️
Your on a rollercoaster of highs and lows that can cause severe emotional and mental damage to you. Please take care of yourself first.
The phone calls and face time calls now cast a lot...
I remember while i was pregnant my SO would ask me if im gonna give him money and i told him no he told me im worth nothing as a woman. He was using in jail. And another scenario he told me im just like his whore mother. So disrespectful. Smh. Drugs is easier to get in jail than in the streets.
I think this is really good. ..but I can't help but be suspicious of the recovering addict, not because I'm not happy for him but he is still very anxious....Dont get mad at me ...ok? It probably comes from my years of believing the addict only to find out they were still using, drinking and all that comes with addiction. Maybe hes anxious naturally!!! Addiction really screws up the mind of the non addict too! I'm living proof of that.
I think a little healthy skepticism is healthy after you've dealt with addiction!
I’ve been off drugs for over a year..but the ptsd I suffer from is still very much alive inside my mind...
Trust and believe I don’t use and will never again...so that’s why I’m anxious...it’s a state of mind I must train my subconscious mind to change...thank you for the feedback...I hope this answers your questions...
sounds like he is talking the program...he is hyped up..possibly tranferring stuff.
@@forest1butterfly transferring stuff?? Don’t understand...will you clarify plz...
I agree. Because the lies, the cheating, the violence is real. The constant accusations of you cheating, etc. my husband has been out of jail and rehabs. He overdosed on heroin at the rehab on Easter. I had to leave, can’t take it anymore.
My mom says I can't help it that you can't accept the fact that I like The taste of beer. I once said,,,Well, I like cake, but you don't see me walking around with a slice in my hand all day long. That's my mom's denial.
My problem is that the crack and meth dealers give me free drugs. Kinda like when us super smart humans throw a little worm on the hook of a fishing pole. Fish thinks he's getting free food till he becomes lunch. I hope I'm making sense.
Just remember that nothing is ever free. You will end up paying a very high price in the end.
Fish don't know better...people have intelligence, fish dont. Drugs and alcohol are poison regardless if they are given to you or you pay for it. It's your choice
Why does my husband who is in active alcohol addiction (I did move him out as he was having affairs) choose to no longer communicate with me or his kids at all? He has changed drastically in 6 months.
I would say he has at this point chose his addiction over his family…
I have been in this stage and it only leads to isolation…that would be my best guess..❤️
Because it takes courage to be around truth