How to Address The Root Cause Of Any Addiction
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- Опубликовано: 1 авг 2024
- Tough love and "hitting bottom" will not cure addiction. If you want to beat addiction, you must attack the root cause. If you don't address the underlying issue, you are going to fail time and time again.
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Chapters/Timestamps:
00:00 How to Address The Root Cause Of Any Addiction
00:25 What Causes People to Turn to Addiction?
01:02 What Triggers The Neurochemical Dopamine?
03:29 How to Move Out of Addiction
04:11 The Neurochemical Serotonin
05:57 Seeking connection to get more serotonin
06:35 Techniques that are Ineffective
08:56 The Takeaway
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Moral of the story, nothing works. The addict has to want it for themselves. I've tried ALL approaches mentioned and if you're snuggly to the porcupine, it emboldens them bc there are NO consequences. Alternatively, nagging or yelling (obviously) doesn't work either. An addict uses ANYTHING as an excuse or reason to use. Heck! Some don't even need that! lol, Great video though for those who have an addict who wants to be sober. Thank you. I genuinely like your channel. Long time viewer here.
I suffer from chronic pain. It was tempting to use alcohol to relieve pain and sleep. Part of my recovery is physical therapy. Yes, I still have pain but it's less intense and goes away faster than it used to. Thinking about dopamine vs serotonin is a great way to think of how I can keep getting better. Thank you.
Out of any video you have ever made, this one makes the most sense. Something clicked in my brain 😀
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This is incredibly useful to those of you listening out there. I have someone that has been doing meth for years and only recently I have been able to snuggle with their porcupine quills. I am not reactive, but stoic. I express love. I condone good behavior. Before this I did all the things you are not supposed to do as mentioned in this video and everything only got worse and worse. I am building trust and a relationship now. I am trying to build self-esteem in my loved one. Things are improving! Said person is making an honest effort. I can tell they are using less. There was even a week long stretch without meth.
I am back busted😢 So true. I was very down. Drinking alcohol just made it 50 times worst. 4 days of nightmares and daymares. All in my mind. So, scary 😢Nothing was happening. Thanks you are right. After not having it for 5 months. I was healthy. So therefore i couldn't handle that posion in my system, again. Made me so sick.i am back😊thank you so much😊
Welcome back! 🤩
@@PutTheShovelDown Thank you very much. Day 2 and positive again. . . .feeling really wonderful 😊 Thsnk you very much for all your support. You can understand why people can take their lives. It could have been me. Evil liquid. I am back. Excellent video.
Yup. Making good decisions is harder than a grabbing quick relief. Love this. You speak the truth...
I love the imagery of getting quilled by our addicted loved one. A little humor goes a long way.
Thanks Lydia!
Did you hear this explosion? It was my mind getting blown from this video! I’ve always wondered how it is that the source of joy gets narrowed to the substance… Now I finally get it! I will listen to this multiply times. This is gold in understanding why I felt how I felt. Thank you Amber!
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I love this and agree with it 120 percent! I tried the anger and the ultimatums. Everybody walks away sad. What happens when you give an ultimatum and they choose the drugs? They feel like they don't have another shot and you're angry. It's a vicious cycle. This is healthier.
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This has been very eye opening. Thank you
You might think about using substance use disorder (SUD) in place of Addiction. The word Addiction is not medical and carries a ton of stigma, especially if you're intending for these video's to be educational to those who have not directly dealt with a SUD's diagnosis. I am not trying to be rude or tell you what to do on your own channel, I just worry that using Addiction/ Addict and other stigmatizing terminology in educational setting might cause more harm than you may have intended. Thank you for you work.
I can definitely see where you're coming from. I've given this issue a lot of thought and I can see both sides of the issue. Watch this video to hear, why I continue to use the word addict. ruclips.net/video/JFNB4CYYIHo/видео.html
Great show! I have been struggling the last few weeks. I haven't relapsed yet but I have had a few instances where I have had cravings for something. I feel like I'm losing purpose in life or having nothing to live for which is a sucky feeling! I'm trying to regroup and try to find some meaning in life. Thanks, I am gonna look at this more!
Hope u find that purpose bro! I’m feeling the same way for the most part. Feeling like I have no purpose, and no interest in anything or even anything that use to bring me joy. I really need to work on getting out of this very weird place
@@Smacks1 thanks bro, I know it's difficult to feel accomplished or have meaning at times. I stress over things that cannot be changed and I'm feeling overwhelmed with doubt lately. Thanks, I hope things get better for you!
You are an expert!!! Thank you for all you do, and all your knowledge. We could never thank you enough!
Awwww thanks, MyBodyIsMyTemple!
Don't encourage this charlatan
As a subscriber, someone in recovery for 6+ years, a SMART Recovery Facilitator and Trainer, and someone who was diagnosed with ADHD 4 months ago I have a few comments.
1. Those of us with that dopamine deficiency from ADHD tend to chase dopamine just to feel "normal". Which probably has a lot to do with why 50+% of us suffer from a use disorder. I still chase dopamine but in good ways. So would it be more accurate to say we don't want to chase the negative dopamine thoughts and activities?
2. I LOVE your analogy Cheetos vs Salad. I think I might use that in my meetings. Brilliant.
3. Also the CRAFT stuff. We really need to get that message out there as much as possible. I'm so happy that you fight that battle so often. You give us a great place to point to that helps explain that.
Thanks RAWKstar! Not sure if you saw this video already but I think you might really like it. It actaully ties together many of the ideas that you just described. It's called Addiction is really a hidden superpower! ruclips.net/user/livewSP6p_3Ag8k?feature=share
You took the slogan "Hugs not drugs!" and expounded upon it!
😂😅 I guess you’re right! 😜
I have never heard this before.
"quill you"...favorite phrase
This is so relevant to me im a marathon dopamine runner i litterally chase after escapes all the time whether with drugs or behaviors.
I have not been able to find the root to my addictions and cant figure out whats going on with me to work on its frustrating any advice on what to do to search out my roots causes
Dear Amber. I am following your advice to no longer enable my morphine addicted son. Should I pretend nothing happened or explain to him the reason I no longer provide the service he had become accustomed to? Thanks in advance and many greetings from Denmark 😃
I have a question, but I work during your videos the next couple weeks. So hopefully if I post it I can get your insight... I've been working your tools and I've come to a brick wall with my husband. He refuses to discuss some of his past but those around his have figured out that's what is his biggest trigger and you have said they drink to forget it and then it just makes it worse and that also naming it takes away that fear. Is there a tool you use to help them state what they are trying to hide deep down in their thoughts?
Just say NO! Happy Thanksgiving Amber.😄☃️🎄💘😊🌻🌼
Have you ever done a video where an addict becomes sober but substitutes the addiction for workaholism? My husband has become sober for 3months. This is the 3rd longest time but he's subbed it for work. He's addicted to work. He works 6days a week and sometimes he'll even work on his day off. He talks about works. Plans work. Talks to people from work. I can't even have a convo without him texting or taking a phone call.
I love that he's sober but gosh it's hard to appreciate when he is still unavailable physically and emotionally because now it's work. It's great. I talk to him asking for us to spend some time together. Honestly I'd be okay with watching a single episode of something on Netflix. But he doesn't want to instead he'll say, we can only spend time in sunday's and like I said, but he'll even plan his sundays solo taking extra work. But during the work week, He needs time to himself. Now that he's sober, I'd like to focus on healing the marriage but maybe its too soon for him. Or I dunno. It just sucks to be isolated all the time. All I got are my pets, art, guitar, and my family I call periodically when I feel alone.
But yeah, I'd like to know what your thoughts are on subbing addiction for work.
Hi Talia, Take a look at this video I did a while back. It's on Addictive Personality. It relates to what you're talking about here: 👉🏻 ruclips.net/video/J_Mrzhwpknc/видео.html
@@PutTheShovelDown thank you 👏👏
mam nice videos and keep it up
i want to understand everything , everything about addiction
can u tell me the course or website or books that u got the information please mam
That's a big question. I've spent years learning about addiction, but there are some books that have been influential for me! Here's a link to my Amazon picks: www.amazon.com/shop/addictionrecoveryresources-hopeforfamilies
@@PutTheShovelDown thanks a lot mam
@@PutTheShovelDown and mam like we crave for sugar for pleasurable things how can we love the hard work? like bodybuilding, learning, love going to school lol pls tell
For people who have an addicted one. Try to get some laughter and lightness in your life. Watch old funny films, jokes, songs no matter how silly and stupid, rude and unpolitically and childish they are. Preferably with friends.
We Brits are famous for our sense of humour. We have to be, to cope with our weather.
So folks try and have a good old belly laugh. Costs nothing and does you the world of good.
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This is really great info but all the video snippets are sooooo distracting. Maybe it’s just me. Wish there was a version of this video without the constant random video bits
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Thanks Bry!
The dopamine vs Serotonin debate is ridiculous. Can i get fucked up on Ecstasy now?
But I'm the one with addiction. How can I increase serotonin for myself?
Do things that make you feel proud of yourself.
How can I ask a question in a message?
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@@PutTheShovelDown Thank you. Your videos were like oxygen for me. All of your points about gaslighting, I mean all of them, are dead on. I experienced them personally. Thakn God you were there, your guidance and support meant a lot.
@@PutTheShovelDown I will do that today! Thank you. Your videos were incredibly helpful.
@@PutTheShovelDown Thanks for a great online session last Thursday. Are you planning any more on gaslighting? For me that was the most difficult part and your videos were dead on.
Wait why is being a teenager, experiencing loss?
It’s not a loss, but it is a difficult and emotional phase of life.
The tidbits in here, but you should rename The video or remake the video to match the name. When I clicked on this video, I thought it would help me but they didn’t turned out that I was trying to help someone else which we all know is impossible, so yeah, won’t be watching anymore videos but that’s OK cause I’ve already found my way out and it was nothing to do with serotonin or dopamine, at least, never was I looking at them I’m sure it was magnifying one of the other, and stomping on the other one. But I never knew it lol
To God be the glory
I like Cheetos!
I don’t understand how to stop I’ve everything in life two kids a loving wife a good business but I still use Subutex I can’t stop it the issue is I’m in Algeria and there’s no such program I want to close myself up in the room for one months but I need to work I can’t travel for business because I need to take subutex with me and it’s considered heavy drug in our country like cocaine I don’t know what to do very frustrating