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@@godisgood5038 I am not a doctor but if you have been diagnosed with PCOS, you will tend to gain weight in your arms and abdomen. Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome.
"I love my nose. It reminds me of my dad. It's big and it's weird." I bursted out crying when she said that. That's exactly what saved me from hating myself after being bullied for my big and weird nose. It's my dad's nose! I love my dad! One day, when he'll be gone, I'll see him every time I look in a mirror. What a blessing. Thank you so much! It was SO cathartic to hear someone else say those words.
That's the exact reason I dislike my nose, the nose of a man who left us... I have to see his nose everyday and carry his last name as if he deserved to be remembered.
@@RainyDayWolf I can completely understand that. It's the exact opposite of the reason I kept my last name and am now ok with my nose. I am sorry about all of that.
I met Stacy about 10 years ago when I worked in television. We became instant friends, and we spent many nights talking on the phone for hours about anything and everything. She is, without a doubt, the single most interesting woman I've ever met. She's exceptionally bright, and creative, and passionate, and driven. She is also haunted by a great many things, as she alluded to here. Clearly, she still has so much to offer women, of all ages.
I had the pleasure of ringing her up at a NYC Whole Foods store back when I worked there and she was so cool and nice! I didn't make any mention that I knew who she was but we just had a really organic conversation about food and I think she made a brief mention about her food sensitivities. What an amazing woman-so glad she got to be a part of your life as well.
Hi Amanda, fancy meeting you here! I met Stacey once when WNTW was filming at the Lane Bryant on W 34th St, and I told her I'd love to be made over on her show, and she replied, "For what? You're perfect. " I just love her.
As someone who grew up watching a very curated, consumable version of Stacy, it feels almost cathartic to see her be vulnerable and unscripted. I feel like this Stacy would talk to the women she styled on the show with a much more open mind about personal expression and acceptance. I grew, she grew, we all grew. Thanks Stacy
As I’m watching my mother go through menopause, it’s made me think about how we’re taught about puberty in school, but we aren’t taught about the aging process.
I literally rewatched that part like 5 times. It reminded me of how most of my life I have treated myself with such disrespect. I never gave myself credit for my accomplishments, always felt like I fell short, never contemplated my own context and what I had been through. As an adult, I am still learning to be kinder to myself.
She was scared to do the interview because she feared she didn't have any "pearls of wisdom like the other women" but then proceeded to drop atom bombs of wisdom. She's so relatable and so quotable. I felt everything she said 💕 I'm so glad you did the interview you are truly an icon and an inspiration ✌💕
@@StyleLikeU1 what amazes me is how much she accomplished while working through that self doubt and fear. And even these last years she’s grown so much more. She’s a very personable woman and would make an excellent speaker. I found quite a bit that I could relate to.
"Nobody told me" what menopause would be like. I was lucky. I was taking bellydance lessons at 48. My instructor, who was sexy and juicy and vibrant, stopped mid shimmy and said "oh.....I'm having a hot flash". She glowed crimson from her belly up....and most importantly, she described a flooding feeling of dread. She explained how she had learned to understand it was a biological phenomenon and not related to any specific event or worry. The first time it happened to me I understood it immediately. I was able to ride it out. Stacey just made me cry about not wanting to have been a mother. I was the same. These are such powerful pieces.
Yes, I never knew about that! I only knew about hot flashes and that you wouldn’t have Menstruation anymore. Maybe one year ago, I saw a RUclips video , the lady talked about brain fog, eyes getting bad , walking into walls and door frames ( wich a do a lot ) , dizziness. And I also thought about dementia or Alzheimer’s , when the brain fog set in and sometimes is so strong that I don’t even remember what I had for lunch 🤦🏽♀️ .
Also, this is the monologue that plays in every woman’s brain from their 40’s to their 70’s. Only we’re not allowed to talk about it - to openly share our journey. It can be torture.
Sorry i am a little bit activated by your commend, but why are you not allowed to talk about it? Maybe you could and it would not only be freeing but also a bonding and Learning moment for woman your age, younger woman and educational for man and boys too. Im in my mid 20es and fairly enjoy women sharing their experience with menopause, i heard Good and Bad stuff like for all ages and the more experiences and stories the better. Please if you can try to stop your torture and break the silence for your own good life is too Short. All the best to you.
@@sophesearching hopefully if we at 50 start to talk by time you get there you will feel free. I choose to feel free but it's not the norm and very taboo
When she mentioned not wanting children because she felt like she wasn’t safe herself to bring another person into this world… I entirely resonated and feel grateful I am not the only person to have felt this way. ❤️ appreciate all her words of wisdom she was brave enough to share.
My daughter is 11. When I talk about grandchildren she says she doesn't want them. I realized, I need to not project my own expectations. It's her body to choose, not mine.
There are things you can do that people with children can not. You are not defined by what your genitals can do. Sorry to be so frank. You are so much more than a "breeder."
I agree! I was a young teen watching her being flirty and sassy with Clinton. How she is vulnerable but strong and confident still. I love her for this. I’ve always felt good about myself but her take on aging gives me confidence to do it the right way and not buy into Hollywood and fakeness
I agree. Whenever someone is shocked to find out I'm 55 and they'll make a comment like, "you don't look it", I always want to ask them what they think a 55 year old should look like. In my mind, I look my age because I don't have some twisted idea of what that age should look like.
@@sandrasaunders8777 the obsession with trying to look young, never ceases to amaze me. Ever since I was a young child I would admire the way older women looked.
The more lawyers of clothing she strips away, the more empowered her posture and demeanour become. This was so beautiful to watch. I’ve always enjoyed her. She’s incredible. Thank you for this.
When she mentioned feeling like a kid lost in a supermarket after her father passed I bursted into tears. That sense of isolation and vulnerability after your parent dies is so intense. My mom passed when I was 20 and I felt like my entire world ended and the feelings of grief still reverberate now at 25. I appreciate those words of wisdom and grace that Stacy shared.
My condolences for losing your mom. I was blessed to have my mother until I was 54. Now I am 72. Even at that age the child in me resented losing my mother. We were very, very close. When she died I went into a severe depression for at least a year-maybe more, I really don’t remember that time. I managed to get through the days. I was fortunate to have two children and a husband who needed me and a family who cared about me. Two years later I went back to teaching after being home for 22 years. It helped bring me to a better place and I began to heal. I would say it took a good 10 years before I could visit the cemetery and not cry. It never gets better BUT it does become different. Eventually you begin to have more happy memories than sad ones. I still miss her every day and talk to her all the time. I tell my grandchildren stories about her. I am not minimizing your feelings but you will get through this in your own time and your mom would want you to. Grief is the price we pay for loving someone but yours is magnified by losing your mother at a young age. She is still with you inside and always will be. Make her proud by living a good life, being happy, and passing on the love she gave you.
I lost my whole family including my grandmother. When I hear someone say exactly how it feels … I just cry because you know that gut wrenching feeling … I’d love to speak to any of my family especially my mother …. Love to all here ❤️
@@anla3957 I’m so sorry for your loss. Please know that while you are in terrible pain now, that intense feeling of loss will pass and turn into something else. It is different for everyone. You are so young and did not have enough time with her. It takes time and something else to focus on- school, a job, your family. Someday you will remember all the happy moments without falling apart- it’s one day at a time. Put out a favorite picture of her and talk to her every day. At first the photo will make you cry but eventually it will make you smile. Tell her how things are going. Cry, be angry. You still have several stages of grief to go through. You will honor her by being happy. She would want that for you. Peace.
I watched What Not to Wear faithfully for years. Even then I was a "mature" woman, but I always wanted to feel about myself the way people did when they were at the end of the "WNTW" journey. Listening to Stacy talk about thanking her body was a revelation to me. For years I have hated my body and felt betrayed by nature that I was not one of those beautiful, petite, just the right shape women. I am off on a journey now to spend some time daily thanking my body for getting me through trauma, grief, bullying, shame, and guilt. My body has endured so much both done from outside sources and from my own self-deprecation. It has stayed with me all these years and for that I am grateful. I plan to spend the next 30 years recognizing how loving and faithful my body has been to me and showing gratitude in how I treat her.
She is so real!! People seriously do not realize how many female celebs have had MAJOR work done and will never reveal it, we need more women like Stacey.
YES. Not that I'm blaming the many who have had work done. They are trying to survive in a cut throat industry that I cannot fathom from the outside. But yes yes yes to more women like Stacy.
Losing a parent is SO traumatic no matter what our age or our relationship with them! It’s like we are having to grow up and figure things out on our own all over again!
Lost my dad 5 years ago right before I turned 36 years and this is 1000% true. I lost my best friend, the ground fell away and I just went into survival mode. I'm ok and after I sort some life stuff out I'll be fantastic - I have amazing friends and family and my mom but damn, your world is just a new place and you have to figure out how to navigate it. What I wouldn't give just to hug him and ask him what he's been up to 😁🖤.
@@SKOLAH I am so sorry that happened to you. My best friend died a few years ago, a couple of years after my father, and her sons were 5 and 13 at the time. I know it's harder as a child and am lucky to gave had my dad around until I was almost 36. Brandy H.2426 wasn't saying it wasn't more difficult as a child, just that it was hard at any age. And she's right. It would have been a lot worse as a child, I watched my "nephews" go through it (although the one who was barely 5 at the time didn't quite understand and was sort of blissfully unaware a lot of the time), but as an adult it still destroyed me to lose my dad. My whole world blew up and my mom was destroyed. Bottom line is that no matter what the age - and I agree it's way harder on kids - it's soul-destroying to lose people you love. That's why my friends and family make sure we let each other know how supported, appreciated and loved we all are 😊🖤.
I'm so greatful for this. I'm only 40 and the female representation in my age groups includes Kim Kardashian, Beyonce, Paris Hilton and a plethora of enhanced beauties who in no way reflects what I see when I look in the mirror. Nobody is aging, nor do they discuss it in depth with honesty. It's As if aging a condition for common folk only and the privileged can totally avoid it with a little SPF, water and sleep.
I just turned 39 this year and I felt this..I feel like I have to look great in everything. Perfect skin... if not abs flat stomach. I struggle with not looking like I did even 2 years ago. We all needed this.
"It's As if aging a condition for common folk only and the privileged can totally avoid it with a little SPF, water and sleep." Oh, wow, this one of the best and truest and funniest sentences I've read in a long time.
Stacy this is the best Style Like U I've ever seen. You have so much substance and depth. You are so beautiful. I feel changed after seeing this, no joke.
We should look good at any age. When people say, “you look great for your age” for me is a backhanded compliment. Why is our age associated with beauty, you’re only attractive if your under 40? I refuse to use this way of thinking. Stacy you are gorgeous, strong and inspiring! I’m 52 next month btw ❤️
I'm 56 and always told I don't look my age. I always thought of myself as a late bloomer since youth. Perhaps im still a late bloomer, lol. I breezed through menopause or at least I thought I did. Lol Perhaps I was in denial of symptoms on the worse somewhat bad days.
I'm 43 and I think to myself, I look good for my age..I don't find anything wrong with that statement. I'd take it as a compliment, like the exercise, diet and other healthy lifestyle choices are worth the work
@@mysharona6754 So, you would tell a 20 year old...you look good for your age? Or just, you look good. Why at a certain age it is now "good for...". I'm 38...and I just look good. And I will continue looking good at any age.
I can relate. I Hear you look good for 56 all the time. All I strive to do is live my best life, focus on wellness so that I can age gracefully. I love fashion and don’t play by the rule you should only wear this or that, so maybe this throws people off. 💁🏾
@@bronzy6541 i had a boss in jer 70's. She dressed better than I did in my 20's. And young men in their 20's found her attractive. She kept her hair long and blonde. And exercised. Her skin wasn't very smooth..she smoked. But still. I still dress trendy fashion. Maybe a little more classic...i don't want to be mistaken for a teen, lol. But 50s is a beautiful age. Wear it proudly.
We need more of this...women taking about menopause! I don't understand why it's so taboo?! I can relate sooo much with Stacy, i too was blindsided and didn't connect the dots...i didn't get the menopause memo?! I'm happy to say that even though i learned the hard way, i did the work, research and made self care a priority. Clean eating, celery juicing, detoxing my liver and plenty of vitamins, herbs and supplements have given me my sanity and life back! Sorry to say that none of my drs had anything to do with it. Our body's have the capability to re-set, it takes work but you can do it!!🦋
Me too - when she said that she's never thanked her body for taking her through this life, it made me cry because I realized I haven't either - nor even thought to. What a refreshing, wonderful and enlightening interview. I will carry these lessons with me as I age.
Do you know that God is what truly gets one thru life thosw with Him ? Research heaven testimonies of thosw who died an saw Jesus ans knew he was the only way there . And hell testimonies . Alot of deception out there . Life is about loving God and people. Bless u
I met Stacy as a 10 year old little girl on my couch, with her in my TV alongside Clinton Kelly. I watched your show to explore my own little world whilst escaping my overbearing/boundaryless/terrifying mother. When I tell you that this is has been the single most healing StyleLikeU episode I have ever watched, I mean it. Stacy, as a bisexual woman with a fierce love for her father and deep pain with her mother, I share my love with you. I am so touched by your vulnerability and am so shocked at how much we share. Thank you for choosing to do this show, at this time, on your own time.
I’ve loved her since I was 10, and watching her become this different person from what not to wear days is just the icing on the cake. So beautiful!!!!
Some of the comments middle aged women make on Facebook and other platforms about being terrorized by their aging. I wish there was more honesty about and more love and acceptance of the process.
"The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she knows." Audrey Hepburn
The beauty I have found and women I have talked to who have reached menopause is that you do stop caring what society believes or what others think. There is more of a feeling of embodiment, exceptance, and a comfort in one’s self. I’m so appreciative in feeling this within myself.
I’m giving a freaking standing ovation over here - in the midst of a hot flash! Thank you all so much for this - and especially Stacy London for saying what I feel to my core!!! 💜🎉💜🎉💜🎉💜
When she said losing her father meant she was next, and what was she doing with her life until then, I felt that so hard. My Mom's passing did that for me.
mine too. my mom..she died in February. My age has really begun to hit me now. As we look at family members they usually " go" chronologically...grandma, mom,...now there's me. Its a tough pill to swallow but also a good realization to make you, as Stacy says get started on living your life to its fullest . Mortality realized.
Same. I’m 50 and really don’t want to leave the house. I get so hot that my face turns bright red and the water just runs off me. It makes you feel so gross and it wakes me up all night long. I already had insomnia and now it’s so bad that I just feel totally exhausted. This isn’t an easy time for me and I’m glad it’s not just me feeling like I’m a wuss for feeling like this.
“I don’t want to sit around and wait to die. I want to figure out everything I can do to live”. Pearls of wisdom!!! Thanks, Stacy London! Thanks ladies of Bonafide for your brilliant cause. Let your light shine!!! Thank you!!!
I think she’s opening the door for other high profile women to come forward instead of hiding their experience with aging. Maybe women like Julia Roberts or Angelina Jolie will use their platform to help break down stigmas and barriers that still exist for half our population. Thank you Stacy and team!!
My experience of menopause was marked by a few uncomfortable physical symptoms, and a growing sense of freedom. By the time the physical part had passed, I felt I had returned to myself. I became who I had been at age 9 once again. It was awesome.
I lost my dad 6 years ago, and haven't felt unconditional love and security since. My mom is in my life but because she didn't raise me, there is a bit of a disconnect, and funny enough, I am 51 and childless, because I lacked the yearning as well. Still figuring life out, but this video has helped me feel ok about it all. Thanks 💕.
I’m struggling with this as well because, i lost my dad almost two years ago and even though he wasn’t in my life much im just realizing what a disservice he did to me and how much that has effected me in my adult years. Im 39 now and i think “i should really let this go but how do i?? How do i change the effects I have on not having a father present in my life and how do i keep that from effecting me in my adult years?!”’ Do we ever quit struggling with that??
My dad died 9 years ago and though my mom and I are extremely close and have always been - there’s a part of me that feels so unloved, unprotected and lonely. Almost everyday I say to him, “Why are you gone? Your grandchildren need you. I need you.” It just never gets better. 😞💗🙏🏾
I love Stacy. She's real, raw and authentic. I am over 50 and can relate to everything she said. She definitely has wisdom, as do most of us women over 50.
When someone says "you still look good," it's saying that you looked good way back when and you look good now. I've admired Stacy London for insisting on never hiding her teensy gray streak and for her brains. During her "What Not to Wear" days, much of what she did was instill self-confidence in the women who were being made over. That *alone* made a huge difference.
I love her, her strength, her candor, and her current, bangin' style. For me, perimenopause went on for sixteen years and it was hell. I was severely depressed and anxious for over a decade, even with medication and therapy. Perimenopause messes with your state of mind in ways that are crippling, and this is not sufficiently recognized by the medical community ("It's all in your head.") I like to call that stretch of a woman's life the Devil's Waiting Room, because after menopause, I have a fabulous IDGAF view on life in general, and at 71, I'm having a hell of a good time, even while I'm waiting on a hip replacement. I can't wait to shake my hips and my ass with abandon again!
I LOVE YOU ! The fact you are 71 and said bangin' , which is my thing I still say, but never hear anyone else still say it...and the fact you still want to shake your ass is just everything to me 🙌😆🤘 I'm 42 but feel like a teenager and I think 71 year old me will still be saying bangin and wanting to shake my ass too...also, my favorite cat who was just the sweetest thing ever was named Shelly lol
From a millennial who grew up watching What Not to Wear with my mom, I LOVE THIS. We're all coming full circle from trying to fit in to finding our visual joy! Thanks StyleLikeU team + Stacy 💖
The statement towards the end about "Her" (your body) is truly and absolutely one of the most beautiful and meaningful statements I have ever heard. Thanks Stacy London! You are appreciated for being you!
I watched What Not To Wear all the time in high school. I'm now 35, and sadly I spend a lot of my time, everyday, constantly feeling low key terrified of aging. It is in the back of my mind every moment of every day. Seeing who Stacy is now, her brutal honesty, her candor, and her fearlessness about being herself really hits me in the feels and reminds me I have nothing to be afraid of. I know that I become a better version of myself with every year that passes, so I shouldn't be afraid that I won't look the same forever. There is so much more to life and so much to live. Loved this interview!
I responded to a comment the other day where someone had said in a Sade music clip from 2020 “ she doesn’t look a day over 21” I said “ she is gorgeous and does look over 21- what is with this this prerequisite of “ looking beautiful Becsuse she looks young”. Women should be celebrated for enjoying their aging and being beautiful not despite age but intrinsic to it. Once I hit 40- I noticed very clearly the “ social invisibility and parameters put in place to contain/define/turn down the volume on women over 40. But I will not be turned down. Aging is a bloody privilege not given to many. Aging with gumption and with defiance of beauty and cultural standards is even rarer. More power to women who have lives of experience- they are gifts of knowledge.
I feel you Misbah! 40 was the greatest year so far. I loved the freedom of not trying to look 22! It was absolutely liberating. After wasting so much time and money on fillers, botox, lasers, hair dye, etc, in my 30's, I was finally free. Since then, I have zero shame over aging. I also don't care if I become invisible. I actually enjoy it. I'll be 50 in 2 years and I am looking forward to that milestone. I hope I make it! I lost my sister when she was 38, so I feel very lucky to age.
@@suchabadkitty1293 so be a part of the change😘! I’m 61 and I’m not gonna be invisible. Insert yourself and celebrate the journey that has accrued WISDOM🤍
Omg, I love her!! I’m 50 and officially post-menopausal. I’m the first among my mom/friend group since they’re in their early forties. Nobody-including my mom talked to me about it either so it was a scary, depressing journey once I started peri-menopause 5 years ago. It was just this past year that I started to embrace where I am instead of where I used to be. I mean both physically and emotionally. Thank you Stacy! You are seen, your voice is heard, and you are loved! ❤️
This video made me so emotional, it's exactly the message that the world needs to hear. We are so programmed to believe that our worth is tied to what we look like. And we're also programmed to believe that aging=ugly, bad, worthless. There's something incredibly attractive and sexy about an older woman that has character to her face, takes pride in herself, and has beautiful life experience. It's a beauty that can't be found in a 25 year old. I wish the world could recognize that there is beauty in age. Stacy always has and always will be such a beauty! I love her personality, her sexy voice, her iconic streak in her hair, and what a big heart she has!
Thank you!! I’m 50 and feel like I’ve disappeared. I dress for me, love myself and suddenly I feel like I’m glanced over by men and have to fight to be heard at work... Thank you for your beautiful wise words! We need more information on menopause and ruining stigmas on aging.
I think she was born to be a teacher and public speaker. This is such a great reminder that people can grow a ton, grief is no joke, perimenopause is no joke, life can be intense, mental health and emotions can be wonderful to speak honestly about, etc. I know this isn't the point of the video at all but just saying I think she's gorgeous too. I agree the nose looks just right.
The absolute best 17 mins and 15 seconds I have had in years. Smart, powerful and honest - loved this interview. The concept of letting go of your former self to be the best you today was a kick in the ass for me. Glad I ran across this and so very glad Stacy did it...While it all made perfect sense I don’t know that I would have received the same way had it not come from her perspective. To everyone involved - great job!
I grew up watching what not to wear and I ADORED Stacy, she was my role model, it's crazy how all of these years later, after all the changes I've experienced I can say I still look up tu her. I'm sorry she had to go through all the pain, but I'm glad that it lead her to place of happiness and acceptance of herself, you rock stacy!
Listening to Stacy talk about her body at the end brought me to tears. Body image as I've gotten older (I'll be 46 in a few weeks) is something I struggle with. Hearing Stacy's words just really touched me and made me think of all that my body has done and gone through (good and bad) and how I haven't thanked her for it and somehow I'm letting her down by looking at her in shame instead of gratitude. So, thank you Stacy for your beautiful insight and for your vulnerability. In this moment I am grateful for you. ❤️
Talk to your body, darling, and tell her you are sorry and that from now on you'll be best friends, that you love her. I promise you: it will be amazing for the rest of your time inside her ✌🏼💜
Stacy, you are truly the embodiment of courage and an inspiration for all women to embrace compassion for themselves. Your insights are poignant, thought provoking, and deeply touching. Please know that by speaking your truth with such honesty you have led the way for many women to follow. May you always be blessed on your journey.
This is so powerful. As a 42yo woman, I look up the celebrity ladder to see what 10 years from now looks like, and I have no idea what 52yo looks like on a woman, because they've all had so much plastic surgery and procedures done. I have nothing against a little bit here and there, but damn, no one even looks like themselves anymore. Looking at Stacy and seeing what a minimally altered 52yo looks like is so comforting. It's not scary! She looks normal and healthy and happy and sexy - and not 25yo (thank goodness). Thank you thank you thank you!
What a lovely interview. The evolution of Stacy London. I loved "what not to wear" I adored " love, lust, or run even more. Kudos to Stacy for helping women find themselves and their worth and their health. Well done
As someone who is a few years older than she is and absolutely loves me some me, I can't say enough about women like Stacy London who go through menopause and start tapping into their new true selves. We won't be shamed into hating ourselves by society. We won't. I love that she thinks she has no pearls of wisdom to drop while dropping the wisdom throughout the interview by simply being herself. This interview has made me incredibly happy.
This is the first of this series I've ever seen. It was courageous of Stacy to do this and I am so appreciative of it. She looks so beautiful now without all the layers and the makeup.
Years ago my OBGYN referred to menopause as “ovarian failure”. That bothered me then and still bothers me! Is it really failure when something that is is supposed to happen to us in the life cycle actually does happen?!! Do I need to say that doctor was male? My body has done for me exactly what it was created to do, including menopause!! Thank you Stacy for championing this subject and being an inspiration for women - in all you have done. Keep up the good work.
"being attached to who you were...instead of who you are, is stopping you from being the best version of yourself". Its so true. I had issues when I changed my career and thought my job was part of who I was.
OMGoddess!! Stacy, I loved hearing you talk about menopause. We don't have enough information out there, like we don't matter. I had to learn what questions to ask my doctor, and I had to explore relief options on my own. Thank you, I have followed you since WNTW, and you have always Rocked!
Stacey just described my current journey to a T, anxiety and depression for no apparent reason, are tough companions. But, I know that I’m emerging into a truer, wiser version of Self, unattached to the external achievements or how I look. Thank you for doing this, I know it meat so much to so many women🙏🏼
Stacy London has been a huge influence on the way I viewed my own sense of “style” very early on and watching this made me realize just how much we’ve both grown and changed. Stacy, thank you for your vulnerability and I’m so happy that I feel like I got to go on this life journey with you
i saw Stacy London a couple of years ago in Detroit. She had this bright smile and was so happy to be there. Seeing her on this channel shows a vulnerable side of her, which makes me admire her more. And Stacy sorry for your loss. I know what it feels like loosing a father.
Yes, yes, yes this was wonderful! Thank you. SL even more beautiful now. Love Style Like U♥️ I'm 53 in menopause & 1 1/2 yrs post cancer. Your channel has been a God send through my mid life transformation. Wishing everyone here whole wellness.
This WOMAN is SLAMMING and how ALL Mages/Beautiful Crones/Elders should be…. Strong. Authentic. Discerning. HERSELF and totally owning it‼️ Her positive energy and honesty IS the path we all need to be on. Menopause is a phase of life, of reverence and respect. We, as women step into another important and much needed role. We need to embody more of this SIGNIFICANT energy NOW….more than EVER‼️‼️‼️👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽💯💯 Thank you Queens for the blessing of your vision and bringing this series to us. Bright blessings 🌈🌈💜💜😇😇🙏🏾🙏🏾
I LOVE this video! Stacy London is amazing and she absolutely did share pearls of wisdom!!! She shares here how she has changed her idea of what style means, she has IMPROVED with age, I think in every way. Thank you for doing this video and giving encouragement to all of us out here !!! On a side note, I also have a strong nose that I haven't loved most of my life, but now love because it reminds me of my father, whom I lost last year. Thank you Stacy for this life confirming message! You are truly beautiful!!!
I'm 65, and people think I'm my grandkid's mom (they're 25 and 23). When I hear "you look great for 65" I think "this is what 65 looks like." There is this notion that age = decrepit.
@@michellewilcox7175 Definitely! I am 76 and people have been telling me that I look 10 years younger since I turned 60. My mother looked older in her 40's and I knew that I never wanted that. Everything you said about hair, skin, style, health, fitness, etc. plays a big part. It is definitely a different world now!
I think the obsession with being remembered or leaving behind a legacy is tied up with a fear of mortality. Because if your legacy outlasts you, you can tell yourself that you didn't truly die. I think it's totally natural, but it is also something you have to confront before it consumes you. On another note, Stacy is amazing.
Wow, the most incredible interview I’ve ever heard. Every single word hit home and brought a tear to my eye. Literally life changing. Thank you for being you Stacy! ❤️
Yea I just turned 50 menopause is challenging. And losing parents is a mind fuck....sugar and bad eating will make menopause 10 times worse ....damn this made me cry in so many ways ..... Great video
It's very interesting and refreshing hearing how Stacy has evolved. I believe the need or desire to be remembered or make your mark on the world primarily comes from a damaged ego. It is a gift to reach a point in your life when you truly no longer care what others think. It frees you. Then in retrospect you realize how much energy and thought have been wasted on trying to please others which in the end is pointless. Go Stacy!
Phenomenal interview with Stacy London ... Loved her in "What Not to Wear" but now I love her even more - her realness, honesty and endless style ~ 🍂🍃🍁
Brilliant interview!!! She's so articulate and, yes, FULL of pearls of wisdom.. Thank-you, Stacy London for making yourself vulnerable and letting us inside your head and heart. ❤️
Thank you so much for these interviews focusing on older women. Im 24 and feel so constricted by the perception that society imposes on "losing your youth." These women are beyond beautiful and we need more of their voices.
Wow, she is so great. I grew up watching her with my mom. It’s great to see her speaking about this. I’m only in late 20s, but I don’t want to fear getting older. Stacy is a reminder that we just keep getting better, and having our bodies and our minds changes as we experience life is normal
She’s so beautiful and she doesn’t know it. This show is truly inspiring. I personally could never go public like this. So, I give all these wonderful women sharing themselves this very vulnerable way for the rest of us a lot of credit and deep gratitude. Also my gratitude and admiration to the ladies behind this channel. 🕊♥️🌞
It's so amazing hearing Stacy saying she doesn't think she's dropping a lot of wisdom, when all I could think of while watching was how wise and intelligent and vulnerable she was being. The comments about her nose being her dad's nose, and how to thank her body for carrying her through her life were so touching. I loved Stacy on What Not To Wear, and I love her more now. What a fabulous, genuine and smart woman.
As she removes her clothing she reveals another layer of her feelings. I just love this women. By the way I want the earrings and the jacket please!!!!
Please know your courage and message shined so brightly. They've already had a heavily profound impact on my psyche as I plod through this unavoidable chapter in my life, this perimenopause-menopause thing. Thank you for this gift of peace, Stacy........THANK YOU, you beautiful champion.
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Thank s thank yous
My issue are my arms. I have large arms like my beloved mother. I love my mother!!!! RIH mom!!
@@godisgood5038 I am not a doctor but if you have been diagnosed with PCOS, you will tend to gain weight in your arms and abdomen. Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome.
@@BeTheUnicornTarot Huh🤣🤣🤣. Thanks so much for your concern. But it's just from good eatin'🤣. God bless you ABUNDANTLY! Have a great day!
She’s beautiful and has a smoking body!
"I love my nose. It reminds me of my dad. It's big and it's weird."
I bursted out crying when she said that. That's exactly what saved me from hating myself after being bullied for my big and weird nose. It's my dad's nose! I love my dad! One day, when he'll be gone, I'll see him every time I look in a mirror. What a blessing. Thank you so much! It was SO cathartic to hear someone else say those words.
You were sad about having a big "weird" nose and here I am, loving big weird noses on men and women.
Same here. My Dad has passed now and the nose that I have was his and his sisters…his Dads. It is my family history.
That’s my feeling too!!
That's the exact reason I dislike my nose, the nose of a man who left us... I have to see his nose everyday and carry his last name as if he deserved to be remembered.
@@RainyDayWolf I can completely understand that. It's the exact opposite of the reason I kept my last name and am now ok with my nose. I am sorry about all of that.
I met Stacy about 10 years ago when I worked in television. We became instant friends, and we spent many nights talking on the phone for hours about anything and everything. She is, without a doubt, the single most interesting woman I've ever met. She's exceptionally bright, and creative, and passionate, and driven. She is also haunted by a great many things, as she alluded to here. Clearly, she still has so much to offer women, of all ages.
I had the pleasure of ringing her up at a NYC Whole Foods store back when I worked there and she was so cool and nice! I didn't make any mention that I knew who she was but we just had a really organic conversation about food and I think she made a brief mention about her food sensitivities. What an amazing woman-so glad she got to be a part of your life as well.
Hi Amanda, fancy meeting you here!
I met Stacey once when WNTW was filming at the Lane Bryant on W 34th St, and I told her I'd love to be made over on her show, and she replied, "For what? You're perfect. "
I just love her.
Beautifully said!
I love her so much more. So authentic and wonderful.
still love her
As someone who grew up watching a very curated, consumable version of Stacy, it feels almost cathartic to see her be vulnerable and unscripted. I feel like this Stacy would talk to the women she styled on the show with a much more open mind about personal expression and acceptance. I grew, she grew, we all grew. Thanks Stacy
Yes.
Absolutely.
Who is she?
Agreed. 👍
I love this and agree
As I’m watching my mother go through menopause, it’s made me think about how we’re taught about puberty in school, but we aren’t taught about the aging process.
Don't you love utterly authentic people? This show always inspires me.
Yes!!!
Yes! However, this woman is still hiding from herself. Her words don’t align with her body language..if she could hide behind the stool..she would!
@@mobutter2879 This was probably a huge step for her! I congratulate her!
Right?! I especially loved the metaphor of wearing layers and stripping yourself of them!
We're so happy our interviews inspire you ❤❤ Thank you for your support and for valuing authenticity 🥰
I cried when she said I spent so many years being unkind to “her”.
Yes. Me too. Me too.
so did I. I truly lost it at that point....
Me too.🤚
I literally rewatched that part like 5 times. It reminded me of how most of my life I have treated myself with such disrespect. I never gave myself credit for my accomplishments, always felt like I fell short, never contemplated my own context and what I had been through. As an adult, I am still learning to be kinder to myself.
She was scared to do the interview because she feared she didn't have any "pearls of wisdom like the other women" but then proceeded to drop atom bombs of wisdom. She's so relatable and so quotable. I felt everything she said 💕 I'm so glad you did the interview you are truly an icon and an inspiration ✌💕
Totally agree. Her pearls of wisdom made up a very long strand!
It’s called ‘worldly wisdom’ and God counts it as foolishness.
Yes and hearing it from someone I've always admired made it all the more powerful. Wow. She just changed my life!
Self doubt holds us back from so much! Thankfully she left those thoughts in the dust and dropped us her pearly wisdoms!!
@@StyleLikeU1 what amazes me is how much she accomplished while working through that self doubt and fear. And even these last years she’s grown so much more. She’s a very personable woman and would make an excellent speaker. I found quite a bit that I could relate to.
"Nobody told me" what menopause would be like. I was lucky. I was taking bellydance lessons at 48. My instructor, who was sexy and juicy and vibrant, stopped mid shimmy and said "oh.....I'm having a hot flash". She glowed crimson from her belly up....and most importantly, she described a flooding feeling of dread. She explained how she had learned to understand it was a biological phenomenon and not related to any specific event or worry. The first time it happened to me I understood it immediately. I was able to ride it out.
Stacey just made me cry about not wanting to have been a mother. I was the same. These are such powerful pieces.
I want your bell dance teacher, lol. I'm the matriarch and I have no idea what's coming.
“Brain fog so bad I thought I was getting Alzheimer’s….” I nearly cried! Thank you for the validation!!! This for me is the scariest part.
Yes, I never knew about that! I only knew about hot flashes and that you wouldn’t have Menstruation anymore. Maybe one year ago, I saw a RUclips video , the lady talked about brain fog, eyes getting bad , walking into walls and door frames ( wich a do a lot ) , dizziness. And I also thought about dementia or Alzheimer’s , when the brain fog set in and sometimes is so strong that I don’t even remember what I had for lunch 🤦🏽♀️ .
Also, this is the monologue that plays in every woman’s brain from their 40’s to their 70’s. Only we’re not allowed to talk about it - to openly share our journey. It can be torture.
You are a Goddess ⭐
Sorry i am a little bit activated by your commend, but why are you not allowed to talk about it? Maybe you could and it would not only be freeing but also a bonding and Learning moment for woman your age, younger woman and educational for man and boys too. Im in my mid 20es and fairly enjoy women sharing their experience with menopause, i heard Good and Bad stuff like for all ages and the more experiences and stories the better. Please if you can try to stop your torture and break the silence for your own good life is too Short. All the best to you.
@@sophesearching it's hard for women to talk about it because for generations it's been stigmatized as something shameful
@@sophesearching hopefully if we at 50 start to talk by time you get there you will feel free. I choose to feel free but it's not the norm and very taboo
When she mentioned not wanting children because she felt like she wasn’t safe herself to bring another person into this world… I entirely resonated and feel grateful I am not the only person to have felt this way. ❤️ appreciate all her words of wisdom she was brave enough to share.
My daughter is 11. When I talk about grandchildren she says she doesn't want them. I realized, I need to not project my own expectations. It's her body to choose, not mine.
There are things you can do that people with children can not. You are not defined by what your genitals can do. Sorry to be so frank. You are so much more than a "breeder."
Same here.
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I feel the same ❤❤
The more she took off the more beautiful she looked…both physically and emotionally. Inspiring
That's what I thaught
Me too
True
It’s so different seeing someone you looked upon as a celebrity to now see them as a vulnerable, and normal person like myself. .
Vintage Gal....time to stop looking up to people bc they are in the spot light? We are all one 💜✌🏼
I agree! I was a young teen watching her being flirty and sassy with Clinton. How she is vulnerable but strong and confident still. I love her for this. I’ve always felt good about myself but her take on aging gives me confidence to do it the right way and not buy into Hollywood and fakeness
@@aep7113 that's huge! Love it. We sisters inspire eachother 🙏✌🏼💚
Celebrity is such a dehumanizing idealization! Vulnerability and authenticity are SO powerful and connect us all 💖💖
"I'm not dropping any pearls of wisdom" 😭. M'am. Here you are completely revolutionising the way I look at life and you have no idea
It’s the honesty and humility for me!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
"I look my age". I LOVE that Stacy said this! There's nothing wrong with looking your age ❣
Yessss ✌🏼💜
I agree. Whenever someone is shocked to find out I'm 55 and they'll make a comment like, "you don't look it", I always want to ask them what they think a 55 year old should look like. In my mind, I look my age because I don't have some twisted idea of what that age should look like.
@@sandrasaunders8777 the obsession with trying to look young, never ceases to amaze me. Ever since I was a young child I would admire the way older women looked.
Agree... I am in remission from Stage 4 Ovarian Cancer and so grateful to be on this earth. I earned my scars and wrinkles, smile lines everywhere 😃
@@evaadams8298 ❤
The more lawyers of clothing she strips away, the more empowered her posture and demeanour become. This was so beautiful to watch. I’ve always enjoyed her. She’s incredible. Thank you for this.
When she mentioned feeling like a kid lost in a supermarket after her father passed I bursted into tears. That sense of isolation and vulnerability after your parent dies is so intense. My mom passed when I was 20 and I felt like my entire world ended and the feelings of grief still reverberate now at 25. I appreciate those words of wisdom and grace that Stacy shared.
My condolences for losing your mom. I was blessed to have my mother until I was 54. Now I am 72. Even at that age the child in me resented losing my mother. We were very, very close. When she died I went into a severe depression for at least a year-maybe more, I really don’t remember that time. I managed to get through the days. I was fortunate to have two children and a husband who needed me and a family who cared about me. Two years later I went back to teaching after being home for 22 years. It helped bring me to a better place and I began to heal. I would say it took a good 10 years before I could visit the cemetery and not cry. It never gets better BUT it does become different. Eventually you begin to have more happy memories than sad ones. I still miss her every day and talk to her all the time. I tell my grandchildren stories about her. I am not minimizing your feelings but you will get through this in your own time and your mom would want you to. Grief is the price we pay for loving someone but yours is magnified by losing your mother at a young age. She is still with you inside and always will be. Make her proud by living a good life, being happy, and passing on the love she gave you.
I'm 54 and just lost my dad and for so long I felt this way too.
I lost my whole family including my grandmother. When I hear someone say exactly how it feels … I just cry because you know that gut wrenching feeling … I’d love to speak to any of my family especially my mother …. Love to all here ❤️
My mom passed when I was 25 and now im 28, it still feels so empty..things just jolt your memory and its all downhill from there.
@@anla3957 I’m so sorry for your loss. Please know that while you are in terrible pain now, that intense feeling of loss will pass and turn into something else. It is different for everyone. You are so young and did not have enough time with her. It takes time and something else to focus on- school, a job, your family. Someday you will remember all the happy moments without falling apart- it’s one day at a time. Put out a favorite picture of her and talk to her every day. At first the photo will make you cry but eventually it will make you smile. Tell her how things are going. Cry, be angry. You still have several stages of grief to go through. You will honor her by being happy. She would want that for you. Peace.
I watched What Not to Wear faithfully for years. Even then I was a "mature" woman, but I always wanted to feel about myself the way people did when they were at the end of the "WNTW" journey. Listening to Stacy talk about thanking her body was a revelation to me. For years I have hated my body and felt betrayed by nature that I was not one of those beautiful, petite, just the right shape women. I am off on a journey now to spend some time daily thanking my body for getting me through trauma, grief, bullying, shame, and guilt. My body has endured so much both done from outside sources and from my own self-deprecation. It has stayed with me all these years and for that I am grateful. I plan to spend the next 30 years recognizing how loving and faithful my body has been to me and showing gratitude in how I treat her.
@ladykat77 I only saw this video today, and I'm reading the comments now. I hope you pursued this manifesto to yourself, Even if imperfectly. 🥰
She is so real!! People seriously do not realize how many female celebs have had MAJOR work done and will never reveal it, we need more women like Stacey.
Male celebs too. Big time. Tom Cruise, Rob Lowe, Brad Pitt….
YES. Not that I'm blaming the many who have had work done. They are trying to survive in a cut throat industry that I cannot fathom from the outside. But yes yes yes to more women like Stacy.
Losing a parent is SO traumatic no matter what our age or our relationship with them! It’s like we are having to grow up and figure things out on our own all over again!
Lost my dad 5 years ago right before I turned 36 years and this is 1000% true. I lost my best friend, the ground fell away and I just went into survival mode. I'm ok and after I sort some life stuff out I'll be fantastic - I have amazing friends and family and my mom but damn, your world is just a new place and you have to figure out how to navigate it. What I wouldn't give just to hug him and ask him what he's been up to 😁🖤.
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You can be an adult and also feel your orphanhood
I was 12 when I first list a parent. It is harder as a child than as an adult.
@@SKOLAH I am so sorry that happened to you. My best friend died a few years ago, a couple of years after my father, and her sons were 5 and 13 at the time. I know it's harder as a child and am lucky to gave had my dad around until I was almost 36. Brandy H.2426 wasn't saying it wasn't more difficult as a child, just that it was hard at any age. And she's right. It would have been a lot worse as a child, I watched my "nephews" go through it (although the one who was barely 5 at the time didn't quite understand and was sort of blissfully unaware a lot of the time), but as an adult it still destroyed me to lose my dad. My whole world blew up and my mom was destroyed. Bottom line is that no matter what the age - and I agree it's way harder on kids - it's soul-destroying to lose people you love. That's why my friends and family make sure we let each other know how supported, appreciated and loved we all are 😊🖤.
I'm so greatful for this. I'm only 40 and the female representation in my age groups includes Kim Kardashian, Beyonce, Paris Hilton and a plethora of enhanced beauties who in no way reflects what I see when I look in the mirror. Nobody is aging, nor do they discuss it in depth with honesty. It's As if aging a condition for common folk only and the privileged can totally avoid it with a little SPF, water and sleep.
I just turned 39 this year and I felt this..I feel like I have to look great in everything. Perfect skin... if not abs flat stomach. I struggle with not looking like I did even 2 years ago. We all needed this.
Not every women that is 40 looks older though
@@sarakoob6667 I don’t think that’s really the point Sara but you’re not wrong.
I'm 40 too and you've perfectly articulated what it feels like getting older in this age of "agelessness".
"It's As if aging a condition for common folk only and the privileged can totally avoid it with a little SPF, water and sleep." Oh, wow, this one of the best and truest and funniest sentences I've read in a long time.
Stacy this is the best Style Like U I've ever seen. You have so much substance and depth. You are so beautiful. I feel changed after seeing this, no joke.
Yes to all you say here.
Stacy, I’m your newest fan! I love your truth and vulnerability; you articulated what I feel! Thank you!
I agree. She is incredible. This is my favorite episode as well. I feel like I'm less afraid of aging after hearing her. Thank you ❤️
I agree!
We should look good at any age. When people say, “you look great for your age” for me is a backhanded compliment. Why is our age associated with beauty, you’re only attractive if your under 40? I refuse to use this way of thinking. Stacy you are gorgeous, strong and inspiring! I’m 52 next month btw ❤️
I'm 56 and always told I don't look my age. I always thought of myself as a late bloomer since youth. Perhaps im still a late bloomer, lol. I breezed through menopause or at least I thought I did. Lol Perhaps I was in denial of symptoms on the worse somewhat bad days.
I'm 43 and I think to myself, I look good for my age..I don't find anything wrong with that statement. I'd take it as a compliment, like the exercise, diet and other healthy lifestyle choices are worth the work
@@mysharona6754 So, you would tell a 20 year old...you look good for your age? Or just, you look good. Why at a certain age it is now "good for...".
I'm 38...and I just look good. And I will continue looking good at any age.
I can relate. I Hear you look good for 56 all the time. All I strive to do is live my best life, focus on wellness so that I can age gracefully. I love fashion and don’t play by the rule you should only wear this or that, so maybe this throws people off. 💁🏾
@@bronzy6541 i had a boss in jer 70's. She dressed better than I did in my 20's. And young men in their 20's found her attractive. She kept her hair long and blonde. And exercised. Her skin wasn't very smooth..she smoked. But still.
I still dress trendy fashion. Maybe a little more classic...i don't want to be mistaken for a teen, lol.
But 50s is a beautiful age. Wear it proudly.
We need more of this...women taking about menopause! I don't understand why it's so taboo?! I can relate sooo much with Stacy, i too was blindsided and didn't connect the dots...i didn't get the menopause memo?! I'm happy to say that even though i learned the hard way, i did the work, research and made self care a priority. Clean eating, celery juicing, detoxing my liver and plenty of vitamins, herbs and supplements have given me my sanity and life back! Sorry to say that none of my drs had anything to do with it. Our body's have the capability to re-set, it takes work but you can do it!!🦋
“Your attachment to who you were instead of who you ARE is what is stopping you from being the best version of yourself”
Fuck. That hits home
So true.
Yes! I'm going through perimenopause and it's a journey that really is so challenging!
@@stephanie_smith I Second that, stuck feeling like I'm still 20, but dealing with aging hormones 😫
That holds true for anyone at an adult stage of life.
Omg I know. So hard. So hard.
She thinks she didn’t have anything profound to say. Yet in her simple way, she said so much. Loved this.
I love Stacey and how she’s evolved. So much of what she says resonates. That last part about her body getting her soul through life got me emotional.
Me too. I broke down into tears.
Same. ♥️
Me too - when she said that she's never thanked her body for taking her through this life, it made me cry because I realized I haven't either - nor even thought to. What a refreshing, wonderful and enlightening interview. I will carry these lessons with me as I age.
Do you know that God is what truly gets one thru life thosw with Him ? Research heaven testimonies of thosw who died an saw Jesus ans knew he was the only way there . And hell testimonies . Alot of deception out there . Life is about loving God and people. Bless u
Love her!
I met Stacy as a 10 year old little girl on my couch, with her in my TV alongside Clinton Kelly. I watched your show to explore my own little world whilst escaping my overbearing/boundaryless/terrifying mother. When I tell you that this is has been the single most healing StyleLikeU episode I have ever watched, I mean it. Stacy, as a bisexual woman with a fierce love for her father and deep pain with her mother, I share my love with you. I am so touched by your vulnerability and am so shocked at how much we share. Thank you for choosing to do this show, at this time, on your own time.
I’ve loved her since I was 10, and watching her become this different person from what not to wear days is just the icing on the cake. So beautiful!!!!
Same!! I remember being 7 or 8 years old and loving what not to wear!! Such a fun show, so happy she's grown as a person❤
Some of the comments middle aged women make on Facebook and other platforms about being terrorized by their aging. I wish there was more honesty about and more love and acceptance of the process.
I feel you, all the doctors say is oh it’s menopause, like it’s no big deal !! It is a huge deal💗 Your a beautiful human 🥰
"The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she knows." Audrey Hepburn
I love that!! 💘
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The same one who wore black face while supporting nazism. Audrey was a scum bag.
The beauty I have found and women I have talked to who have reached menopause is that you do stop caring what society believes or what others think. There is more of a feeling of embodiment, exceptance, and a comfort in one’s self. I’m so appreciative in feeling this within myself.
Interviews like this really make me feel not afraid of aging. Stylelikeu doing gods work!
Amen!!
I’m giving a freaking standing ovation over here - in the midst of a hot flash!
Thank you all so much for this - and especially Stacy London for saying what I feel to my core!!! 💜🎉💜🎉💜🎉💜
When she said losing her father meant she was next, and what was she doing with her life until then, I felt that so hard. My Mom's passing did that for me.
mine too. my mom..she died in February. My age has really begun to hit me now. As we look at family members they usually " go" chronologically...grandma, mom,...now there's me. Its a tough pill to swallow but also a good realization to make you, as Stacy says get started on living your life to its fullest . Mortality realized.
Stacy, when you are 82 yrs. old and you look back, you will see that 52 is youthful. Lady you are a stunner, always have been and always will!
I’m 52 and I can totally relate to this . The anxiety. The depression . The agoraphobia. Love this content . I’m not crazy lol
Same. I’m 50 and really don’t want to leave the house. I get so hot that my face turns bright red and the water just runs off me. It makes you feel so gross and it wakes me up all night long. I already had insomnia and now it’s so bad that I just feel totally exhausted. This isn’t an easy time for me and I’m glad it’s not just me feeling like I’m a wuss for feeling like this.
You’re not alone!
Im 50, and literally laying in bed, eating cereal, watching the internet. I feel so understood!
Of course you are NOT crazy,many of us humans have been there...
“I don’t want to sit around and wait to die. I want to figure out everything I can do to live”. Pearls of wisdom!!! Thanks, Stacy London! Thanks ladies of Bonafide for your brilliant cause. Let your light shine!!! Thank you!!!
SL: I don’t have any pearls of wisdom to give.
Me: Just sitting here making myself a wisdom pearl necklace with all the pearls she gave.
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I love you ever so beautiful analogy!!! Your wisdom necklace! Your necklace of pearls...!
@MrsPKitty13 your comment is adorable ❤️ Ima watch it and make one for myself too!
I think she’s opening the door for other high profile women to come forward instead of hiding their experience with aging. Maybe women like Julia Roberts or Angelina Jolie will use their platform to help break down stigmas and barriers that still exist for half our population. Thank you Stacy and team!!
My experience of menopause was marked by a few uncomfortable physical symptoms, and a growing sense of freedom. By the time the physical part had passed, I felt I had returned to myself. I became who I had been at age 9 once again. It was awesome.
Lucky you. Mine has been a NIGHTMARE.
@@suchabadkitty1293 Mine as well..and it has been going on for YEARS.
Wow!
That's great news!
Same!!!
I lost my dad 6 years ago, and haven't felt unconditional love and security since. My mom is in my life but because she didn't raise me, there is a bit of a disconnect, and funny enough, I am 51 and childless, because I lacked the yearning as well. Still figuring life out, but this video has helped me feel ok about it all. Thanks 💕.
I’m struggling with this as well because, i lost my dad almost two years ago and even though he wasn’t in my life much im just realizing what a disservice he did to me and how much that has effected me in my adult years. Im 39 now and i think “i should really let this go but how do i?? How do i change the effects I have on not having a father present in my life and how do i keep that from effecting me in my adult years?!”’ Do we ever quit struggling with that??
I've never felt loved at all. My Dad died when I was a child. Sending 💗 to you. Death sucks.
My dad died 9 years ago and though my mom and I are extremely close and have always been - there’s a part of me that feels so unloved, unprotected and lonely. Almost everyday I say to him, “Why are you gone? Your grandchildren need you. I need you.” It just never gets better. 😞💗🙏🏾
I love Stacy. She's real, raw and authentic. I am over 50 and can relate to everything she said. She definitely has wisdom, as do most of us women over 50.
Completely agree!
When someone says "you still look good," it's saying that you looked good way back when and you look good now.
I've admired Stacy London for insisting on never hiding her teensy gray streak and for her brains. During her "What Not to Wear" days, much of what she did was instill self-confidence in the women who were being made over. That *alone* made a huge difference.
I love her, her strength, her candor, and her current, bangin' style. For me, perimenopause went on for sixteen years and it was hell. I was severely depressed and anxious for over a decade, even with medication and therapy. Perimenopause messes with your state of mind in ways that are crippling, and this is not sufficiently recognized by the medical community ("It's all in your head.") I like to call that stretch of a woman's life the Devil's Waiting Room, because after menopause, I have a fabulous IDGAF view on life in general, and at 71, I'm having a hell of a good time, even while I'm waiting on a hip replacement. I can't wait to shake my hips and my ass with abandon again!
Great comment. I know so many people who suffer
I LOVE YOU ! The fact you are 71 and said bangin' , which is my thing I still say, but never hear anyone else still say it...and the fact you still want to shake your ass is just everything to me 🙌😆🤘 I'm 42 but feel like a teenager and I think 71 year old me will still be saying bangin and wanting to shake my ass too...also, my favorite cat who was just the sweetest thing ever was named Shelly lol
When did your peri menopause start?
BRAVO 🙌🏾
It's so stigmatized and ignored. Glad you're on the other side of it🖤
Okay, why did this make me cry? I loved this so much. And I can’t point to just one thing. It was everything.
From a millennial who grew up watching What Not to Wear with my mom, I LOVE THIS. We're all coming full circle from trying to fit in to finding our visual joy! Thanks StyleLikeU team + Stacy 💖
Same! I loved that show and her 🖤
I watched it with my mom too. It’s so great to hear Stacey say these things!
The statement towards the end about "Her" (your body) is truly and absolutely one of the most beautiful and meaningful statements I have ever heard. Thanks Stacy London! You are appreciated for being you!
I watched her as a kid and honestly I thought she was STUNNING and she is even more so today. Lovely women.
I watched What Not To Wear all the time in high school. I'm now 35, and sadly I spend a lot of my time, everyday, constantly feeling low key terrified of aging. It is in the back of my mind every moment of every day. Seeing who Stacy is now, her brutal honesty, her candor, and her fearlessness about being herself really hits me in the feels and reminds me I have nothing to be afraid of. I know that I become a better version of myself with every year that passes, so I shouldn't be afraid that I won't look the same forever. There is so much more to life and so much to live. Loved this interview!
I responded to a comment the other day where someone had said in a Sade music clip from 2020 “ she doesn’t look a day over 21” I said “ she is gorgeous and does look over 21- what is with this this prerequisite of “ looking beautiful Becsuse she looks young”. Women should be celebrated for enjoying their aging and being beautiful not despite age but intrinsic to it. Once I hit 40- I noticed very clearly the “ social invisibility and parameters put in place to contain/define/turn down the volume on women over 40. But I will not be turned down. Aging is a bloody privilege not given to many. Aging with gumption and with defiance of beauty and cultural standards is even rarer. More power to women who have lives of experience- they are gifts of knowledge.
Yeah that all sounds great. Too bad youth is celebrated and aging isn't AT ALL. I'm 52 and I'm now a non-entity in the world.
@@suchabadkitty1293 damn
I feel you Misbah! 40 was the greatest year so far. I loved the freedom of not trying to look 22! It was absolutely liberating. After wasting so much time and money on fillers, botox, lasers, hair dye, etc, in my 30's, I was finally free. Since then, I have zero shame over aging. I also don't care if I become invisible. I actually enjoy it. I'll be 50 in 2 years and I am looking forward to that milestone. I hope I make it! I lost my sister when she was 38, so I feel very lucky to age.
@@suchabadkitty1293 so be a part of the change😘! I’m 61 and I’m not gonna be invisible. Insert yourself and celebrate the journey that has accrued WISDOM🤍
@@brinselyseven5530 beautiful beautiful empowered woman! That’s what I see! 🌈♥️🌈
Omg, I love her!! I’m 50 and officially post-menopausal. I’m the first among my mom/friend group since they’re in their early forties. Nobody-including my mom talked to me about it either so it was a scary, depressing journey once I started peri-menopause 5 years ago. It was just this past year that I started to embrace where I am instead of where I used to be. I mean both physically and emotionally. Thank you Stacy! You are seen, your voice is heard, and you are loved! ❤️
This video made me so emotional, it's exactly the message that the world needs to hear. We are so programmed to believe that our worth is tied to what we look like. And we're also programmed to believe that aging=ugly, bad, worthless. There's something incredibly attractive and sexy about an older woman that has character to her face, takes pride in herself, and has beautiful life experience. It's a beauty that can't be found in a 25 year old. I wish the world could recognize that there is beauty in age. Stacy always has and always will be such a beauty! I love her personality, her sexy voice, her iconic streak in her hair, and what a big heart she has!
Yessss! Inspiring and wise!
Thank you!! I’m 50 and feel like I’ve disappeared. I dress for me, love myself and suddenly I feel like I’m glanced over by men and have to fight to be heard at work... Thank you for your beautiful wise words! We need more information on menopause and ruining stigmas on aging.
I think she was born to be a teacher and public speaker. This is such a great reminder that people can grow a ton, grief is no joke, perimenopause is no joke, life can be intense, mental health and emotions can be wonderful to speak honestly about, etc. I know this isn't the point of the video at all but just saying I think she's gorgeous too. I agree the nose looks just right.
The absolute best 17 mins and 15 seconds I have had in years. Smart, powerful and honest - loved this interview. The concept of letting go of your former self to be the best you today was a kick in the ass for me. Glad I ran across this and so very glad Stacy did it...While it all made perfect sense I don’t know that I would have received the same way had it not come from her perspective. To everyone involved - great job!
As a woman going through the process of menopause, I so much appreciate this episode. 🙏🏻
I grew up watching what not to wear and I ADORED Stacy, she was my role model, it's crazy how all of these years later, after all the changes I've experienced I can say I still look up tu her. I'm sorry she had to go through all the pain, but I'm glad that it lead her to place of happiness and acceptance of herself, you rock stacy!
Listening to Stacy talk about her body at the end brought me to tears. Body image as I've gotten older (I'll be 46 in a few weeks) is something I struggle with. Hearing Stacy's words just really touched me and made me think of all that my body has done and gone through (good and bad) and how I haven't thanked her for it and somehow I'm letting her down by looking at her in shame instead of gratitude. So, thank you Stacy for your beautiful insight and for your vulnerability. In this moment I am grateful for you. ❤️
Talk to your body, darling, and tell her you are sorry and that from now on you'll be best friends, that you love her. I promise you: it will be amazing for the rest of your time inside her ✌🏼💜
@@hellokitty-nl Thank you for that. I appreciate your kind words. And I absolutely will do that. ❤️ Stay well😊
Stacy, you are truly the embodiment of courage and an inspiration for all women to embrace compassion for themselves. Your insights are poignant, thought provoking, and deeply touching. Please know that by speaking your truth with such honesty you have led the way for many women to follow. May you always be blessed on your journey.
This is so powerful. As a 42yo woman, I look up the celebrity ladder to see what 10 years from now looks like, and I have no idea what 52yo looks like on a woman, because they've all had so much plastic surgery and procedures done. I have nothing against a little bit here and there, but damn, no one even looks like themselves anymore. Looking at Stacy and seeing what a minimally altered 52yo looks like is so comforting. It's not scary! She looks normal and healthy and happy and sexy - and not 25yo (thank goodness). Thank you thank you thank you!
Stacy’s evolution is truly inspiring - once a fan, always a fan ❤
I related so hard to knowing and accepting you wouldn't be a good parent. I get so much less pressure about it as a guy. She's a very aspirational 52.
What a lovely interview.
The evolution of Stacy London.
I loved "what not to wear"
I adored " love, lust, or run even more. Kudos to Stacy for helping women find themselves and their worth and their health.
Well done
As someone who is a few years older than she is and absolutely loves me some me, I can't say enough about women like Stacy London who go through menopause and start tapping into their new true selves. We won't be shamed into hating ourselves by society. We won't. I love that she thinks she has no pearls of wisdom to drop while dropping the wisdom throughout the interview by simply being herself. This interview has made me incredibly happy.
This is the first of this series I've ever seen. It was courageous of Stacy to do this and I am so appreciative of it. She looks so beautiful now without all the layers and the makeup.
Letting go of who you were in order to become the best version of yourself. This is everything. I love Stacy even more now. 💗
This was amazing thank you for your authenticity and talking about menopause and feeling safe
Years ago my OBGYN referred to menopause as “ovarian failure”. That bothered me then and still bothers me! Is it really failure when something that is is supposed to happen to us in the life cycle actually does happen?!! Do I need to say that doctor was male? My body has done for me exactly what it was created to do, including menopause!! Thank you Stacy for championing this subject and being an inspiration for women - in all you have done. Keep up the good work.
"being attached to who you were...instead of who you are, is stopping you from being the best version of yourself". Its so true. I had issues when I changed my career and thought my job was part of who I was.
OMGoddess!! Stacy, I loved hearing you talk about menopause. We don't have enough information out there, like we don't matter. I had to learn what questions to ask my doctor, and I had to explore relief options on my own. Thank you, I have followed you since WNTW, and you have always Rocked!
Stacey just described my current journey to a T, anxiety and depression for no apparent reason, are tough companions. But, I know that I’m emerging into a truer, wiser version of Self, unattached to the external achievements or how I look. Thank you for doing this, I know it meat so much to so many women🙏🏼
Stacy London has been a huge influence on the way I viewed my own sense of “style” very early on and watching this made me realize just how much we’ve both grown and changed.
Stacy, thank you for your vulnerability and I’m so happy that I feel like I got to go on this life journey with you
i saw Stacy London a couple of years ago in Detroit. She had this bright smile and was so happy to be there. Seeing her on this channel shows a vulnerable side of her, which makes me admire her more. And Stacy sorry for your loss. I know what it feels like loosing a father.
Wonderful and beautiful words to express and hear. I am 49 years and i needed to hear it! Thank you 🙏❤🇸🇪
Stacy at 12yo my hair started greying in the front just like yours and bc of you I learned to embrace and love it❤
Fabulous girlie as always ❤❤❤
Yes, yes, yes this was wonderful! Thank you. SL even more beautiful now. Love Style Like U♥️ I'm 53 in menopause & 1 1/2 yrs post cancer. Your channel has been a God send through my mid life transformation. Wishing everyone here whole wellness.
This WOMAN is SLAMMING and how ALL Mages/Beautiful Crones/Elders should be…. Strong. Authentic. Discerning. HERSELF and totally owning it‼️ Her positive energy and honesty IS the path we all need to be on. Menopause is a phase of life, of reverence and respect. We, as women step into another important and much needed role. We need to embody more of this SIGNIFICANT energy NOW….more than EVER‼️‼️‼️👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽💯💯
Thank you Queens for the blessing of your vision and bringing this series to us.
Bright blessings 🌈🌈💜💜😇😇🙏🏾🙏🏾
I LOVE this video! Stacy London is amazing and she absolutely did share pearls of wisdom!!!
She shares here how she has changed her idea of what style means, she has IMPROVED with age, I think in every way. Thank you for doing this video and giving encouragement to all of us out here !!!
On a side note, I also have a strong nose that I haven't loved most of my life, but now love because it reminds me of my father, whom I lost last year. Thank you Stacy for this life confirming message! You are truly beautiful!!!
Stacey sending you sooo much love blessings and healing . Thanks soooo much for sharing your story!
I'm 65, and people think I'm my grandkid's mom (they're 25 and 23). When I hear "you look great for 65" I think "this is what 65 looks like." There is this notion that age = decrepit.
@@michellewilcox7175 Definitely! I am 76 and people have been telling me that I look 10 years younger since I turned 60. My mother looked older in her 40's and I knew that I never wanted that. Everything you said about hair, skin, style, health, fitness, etc. plays a big part. It is definitely a different world now!
Thanks to Stacy London for this video content. ❤️
Loved this so much! Being 51, also childless by choice and struggling to feel good enough, so much of this hit home. Rock on Stacy!
As a kid I was obsessed with What Not to Wear, seeing this brings back so many memories.
I think the obsession with being remembered or leaving behind a legacy is tied up with a fear of mortality. Because if your legacy outlasts you, you can tell yourself that you didn't truly die. I think it's totally natural, but it is also something you have to confront before it consumes you. On another note, Stacy is amazing.
Wow, the most incredible interview I’ve ever heard. Every single word hit home and brought a tear to my eye. Literally life changing. Thank you for being you Stacy! ❤️
The bit when Stacy talks about her relationship with her mother hit me hard and I'm in tears.I felt that.
Yea I just turned 50 menopause is challenging. And losing parents is a mind fuck....sugar and bad eating will make menopause 10 times worse ....damn this made me cry in so many ways ..... Great video
It's very interesting and refreshing hearing how Stacy has evolved. I believe the need or desire to be remembered or make your mark on the world primarily comes from a damaged ego. It is a gift to reach a point in your life when you truly no longer care what others think. It frees you. Then in retrospect you realize how much energy and thought have been wasted on trying to please others which in the end is pointless. Go Stacy!
I really love this. Changing faces, changing bodies, changing thoughts….change is ok. What a beautiful interview.
Phenomenal interview with Stacy London ... Loved her in "What Not to Wear" but now I love her even more - her realness, honesty and endless style ~ 🍂🍃🍁
Brilliant interview!!! She's so articulate and, yes, FULL of pearls of wisdom.. Thank-you, Stacy London for making yourself vulnerable and letting us inside your head and heart. ❤️
Thank you so much for these interviews focusing on older women. Im 24 and feel so constricted by the perception that society imposes on "losing your youth." These women are beyond beautiful and we need more of their voices.
Wow, she is so great. I grew up watching her with my mom. It’s great to see her speaking about this. I’m only in late 20s, but I don’t want to fear getting older. Stacy is a reminder that we just keep getting better, and having our bodies and our minds changes as we experience life is normal
She’s so beautiful and she doesn’t know it. This show is truly inspiring. I personally could never go public like this. So, I give all these wonderful women sharing themselves this very vulnerable way for the rest of us a lot of credit and deep gratitude. Also my gratitude and admiration to the ladies behind this channel. 🕊♥️🌞
It's so amazing hearing Stacy saying she doesn't think she's dropping a lot of wisdom, when all I could think of while watching was how wise and intelligent and vulnerable she was being. The comments about her nose being her dad's nose, and how to thank her body for carrying her through her life were so touching.
I loved Stacy on What Not To Wear, and I love her more now. What a fabulous, genuine and smart woman.
As she removes her clothing she reveals another layer of her feelings. I just love this women. By the way I want the earrings and the jacket please!!!!
Please know your courage and message shined so brightly. They've already had a heavily profound impact on my psyche as I plod through this unavoidable chapter in my life, this perimenopause-menopause thing. Thank you for this gift of peace, Stacy........THANK YOU, you beautiful champion.
She looks more beautiful now then she did at 32. This was incredible.