Why ENTPs Love INFJs
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
- INFJ Personality Type : Ni Fe Ti Se Ne Fi Te Si
ENTP Personality Type : Ne Ti Fe Si Ni Te Fi Se
Cognitive Functions
Perceiving Functions - Se Si Ne Ni
The four perceiving functions influence how we understand our reality right now. Your past experiences are Si, your current reality is Se, your plan for the future is Ni, and Ne is all the crazy connections and randomness along the way.
Judging Functions - Fe Fi Te Ti
The four judging functions influence our decisions we make everyday. We listen to the Fe feedback of our community, listen to our own Fi beliefs, trust how we understand a certain thing using our Ti framework, and lastly taking Te objective action.
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As an INFJ I honestly don’t understand the ‘trying to change people’ idea. I love to let people be free and try to understand why they do what they do, I couldn’t imagine trying to control someone to fit a certain mould.
It is not about changing others , it is about making them notice their weaknesses to improve them.
Being the best possible person they can be, rather than changing their "personality" traits, instead; speeding up the process of eliminating problems we may see in them that they may not see.
Same. I love letting others be who they naturally are! I hate it when other’s tell me to change myself or the way I behave, so I don’t do it to others… what’s the point? It’s such a waste because all you end up doing is ACTING like someone else and wasting your very own unique individuality! You also lose your honesty, your integrity and your authenticity in the process!
*mold. And you’re obviously assuming what we’re trying to change is fine, rather than a red flag that’s kicked their ass half of their life
Same
My son is ENTP and I am INFJ. We have such a good time together laughing and talking. He absolutely delights me with his gentle pranks and joking manner. So happy to have him in my life.
Awe that's special ♥️
That’s cute
Aww too cute for me
My mom is an ENTP and I am an INFJ 😊
Me too! I'm an INFJ mom to an ENTP son. Love that kid❤️
INFJs deserve to be loved. They understand every people in the world and they're both honest and kind. They want to make the world a better place for everybody, and respect the nature of every being, loving every elements on the universe and letting them be, but also inspiring them to be their better version. I'm an ENFP and for some reason I am always attracted to INFJs, like in a party I feel a strong desire to know someone, we start talking and in a few minutes they tell me they're INFJs, and I'm very surprised when this happens.
This is so kind to say. I feel seen 🥹🥹🥹
I love ENFP 🤗
@@BookWorm2369 It's just the truth ☺️😝❤️
Wait…you find INFJs at parties? I’m an INFJ and have gone to party once and kind of hated it. So much noice, so many people. It all feels so overwhelming and stressful. Although, I guess if I’d have good friends with me I’d consider it more.
@@noalukal8847 I agree. Mostly i only go because my friends invite me, and I don't want to hurt their feelings.
Shout out to my favorite infjs = Johan, ittachi and Jordan Peterson
I’m an INFJ and my boyfriend is an ENTP, and we literally never run out of things to talk about. We got together a few months ago and he’s the first significant other I’ve ever had in my life. I didn’t expect us to be this compatible, and we’ve ended up having a really healthy relationship!
Me too. But he's long gone. It's a big loss, but I'll get over it
@@linhvu1474what happened
Doesn't he come off as being insensitive to you at time? @aadams2366 ?
Hypergamy
Me too!! Together for a year now 😂😂 he's annoying sometimes but I love it
"We're out of touch with reality" Well what is reality? -ENTP
muahahhaha!
How can we explain this? Send help 🤭
I've been down that rabbit hole and let's just say we have theories but we don't actually know.
Meaning our reality comes down to speculation of what we can see in front of our faces and what's in our minds.
Arguably of course.
Isn't time and reality a social construct?? Each of our perceptions are all subjective to the point that it differs from one another so much! Does reality exist then? -INFJ
Well shit this is interesting, now I have to discuss this with my INFJ boyfriend. -e enn tee pee
I'm an INFJ. I love the mental dexterity and clarity of ENTPs. They are calm and intellectual.
Same - infj
Calm??? They are so active 😭
ENTPs got #1 in all 3 columns of chaos… 😂 they are not calm. Although they also have the highest stress tolerance (least likely to be stressed)
@@skaiste10020lmfao 😂 our brain chills out emotional Creatures.
@@alisaa211my INFJ called me chaotic lmao
What I noticed about INFJs (probably their Ni) is how they can laser focus and gently get to the core of the rambling of an Ne-user. Not only can they follow what you're saying, but it's like they can see what you actually mean, or what's the issue behind the tangent. A rare but welcome skill to have. :)
Very true, we do have the ability to know what is going on underneath.... What MBTI are you?
As an INFJ, my grievance with ENTP is that their mode of expression can be cold even if they're not meaning to come off that way - and on an INFJ's more sensitive days, this is something we want to see them at least try to do to "show us they care". It's annoying for both parties, I get it.
Love & more empathy can be learned, so don't give up on us lol
iteressting, and infp (online tho) has just told me that im very warm,for an entp tho we ahvve figured out that a lot of the entps she knows are ether something else or not helthy, like one even tried to manipulate, gaslight her
Take it literally, not personally
This is also my grievance with ENTP. I feel like what they think is "being nice" actually comes off as being cold and rude and mean. And I end up getting my own feelings hurt being around them.
@@sophiavirdi6909we try not to be Cold we just don't feel the same way.
As an INFJ, I can listen to ENTPs talk all day. The directness & sheer volume of information that an ENTP puts out is a wonderful thing for an INFJ. It allows our subconscious to operate more efficiently because it has a large amount of high quality information to process. So our ability to be engaging and also assist with problems really operates at a high level with ENTPs. The Fe struggle is probably highly dependent on the maturity level of the INFJ. At some point we do begin to accept people for who they are and don't try to change them. We also have a great connection (different though) with ENFPs and I think we INFJs are sometimes trying to merge ENTPs & ENFPs into one person. Honestly I think that's where a lot of Fe pressure comes from. Lastly, INFJs really see a "possibility" not "possibilities". Our intuition is more focused on understanding that this one particular thing is going to happen. We don't have an "aha" moment until it is narrowed down to that. It's just a straight line. Thank you for the video.
you are so right
In my extroverted mode, I see myself as either an ENTP (an edgelord) or ENFP (silly, childlike fun).... of course they're only temporary apparitions before I default into my Ni-dom.
~INFJ-A
THIS! You described it perfectly, I just love watching them operate. It’s amazing tbh.
INFJ: "When I'm with you I drop all of these dark humor jokes because I know that you like those"
Me: 😳
Noted. I outta practise initiating my dark humor then!
That's so true. But does the INFJ also enjoy that kind of humor?
@@irocivan we love them but usually can't just drop them to anyone 😔
Exactly
@@irocivan I think INFJ's and INTJ's use dark humor to an almost insane level lol. We just hide it a lot of the time, to avoid unnecessary awkwardness 😅.
My grandpa is an INFJ and I'm ENTP and he is my favourite person ever LIKE EVER EVER EVER. No matter who comes into my life ain't nobody taking his place he is my best friend and my everything.
I am just realizing that my best friend who passed away 11 years ago was an ENTP. Our compatibility was the dearest, funnest and most close and cherished relationship I ever had as an INFJ, she was my ride or die. R.I.P Darice Stanback.
sheesh...i hope you heal❤️
@@aladdout9454 Thank you 💗💗
I know its been some time, but I hope you're doing well love 💕
I am ENTP and I have INFJ male bestfriend who had been through a lot in his life. Both of us are fucked up people trying to heal each other and encourage one another to live our lives and be happier. He is the only one who understands me and my dark humor. He once described me that I am 'spicy with hot memes, but deep inside you, there is empathy'. He is one of the best things that ever happened in my life.
The mystery-intensity dynamic of INFJ and ENTP is what makes both parties compliment each other very well. It’s like a dance of life where it takes 2 to tango and both understand and connect with each other. -INFJ who loves the intensity of ENTP
As an ENTP I do have a LOT of intensity 😂
So true. I don't find them intense at all!
Me being an INFJ, ENTPs help me understand the difference between honesty and someone being rude. We INFJs can get sensitive to criticism.ENTPs are very honest, and I’ve noticed that a lot of people misunderstand that as being rude (like ISFJs). But I know that they’re not trying to be mean, they’re just telling the truth without sugar coating it. Because of this, the ENTP I know helps me have tougher skin and sharper extroverted thinking. They balance us really well.
You’re so right, it’s like I know their criticism is genuine and honest!
going to therapy to be less mentally ill: ummm... nah..
going to therapy to talk with an infj:
😏😏😏 count me in
No. An Entp goes to a therapy to give the starving soul of the Infj a meaning to life.
I recently stumbled upon the MBTI and discovered I’m an INFJ. I now see the world, relationships and myself from a whole new perspective.
I’m learning daily and am enjoying life like never before.
This is true for m as well. I’m 59, and for the first time the world is starting to make sense.
INFJ: *Tries to change ENTP*
ENTP: “Stop trying to change people!”
INFJ: “Okay, I’ll change how I interact with you for the betterment of our relationship.”
ENTP: “Was that sarcasm?”
INFJ: “I guess you’ll never know.” 😈
real
What do they try to change?
As an INFJ, I just laughed out loud when you said, "stop trying to shove Fe down our throats!"
I laughed because I guess all INFJs must be different. I have an ENTP best friend. He does tend to be blunt. Though, he has grown a lot in his Fe... not my doing. This is his own choice. But honestly, I never really minded that he was blunt since I am also fairly blunt. The only time I really call him out on his bluntness is when it becomes counter-productive in his relationships. Or when his expectations he places on others is unrealistic. There have been times when he's asked for my advice on how to handle sticky situations with friends. But overall, he's having a lot of personal growth in this season of life though.
That being said, I don't attempt to speak on behalf of other INFJs when I say this because I know all INFJs are different: I know I'm capable of easily manipulating people. But, I specifically make a point not to - especially with those whom I know could be easily manipulated. Granted, I'm ashamed to say this was not always the case as I used to do just that many year ago when I was very immature and obnoxious. I don't know what sort of INFJs you know. But not all of us use our Fe to try to manipulate people.
As an infj I have no grievances with any of the types. Sounds like most issues are due to lack of maturity.
I laughed too, my INFJ significant other told me to be nicer a few times, but not too often and I think it's ok. He's right most of the time, actually always, but bshhhhh don't tell him (ENxP)
I met an ENTP a few weeks ago, and as you said, it was a thunderbolt moment. Meantime, I am learning to appreciate this new friendship. At first, it hit me and threw me off balance. Now, I can see that I should be grateful to have this person in my life, whether as a colleague, a client or a friend. Win-win situation.
As an INFJ, before even starting the video. I saw the title and thought, "yes, ENTP, please tell me what you see in me, an INFJ, because I'm still trying to figure it out!"
I love ENTPs.
Back in high school i used to have a male ENTP close friend.
He was a real trouble maker but at the same time the closest and most special connection i have ever had with someone.
We were ride or die best friends for each other, i was his listening ear (enjoyed every moment of him expessing his thougths and ideas) and partner in crime, and he was my guardian angel.
No matter what we were up to, i always knew i was going to come back home without a scratch.
He gave me a sense of security like no other.
Our friendship developed very quickly and naturally and the intensity was always there.
Just pure 10/10 chemistry that i probably will not have with any other type.
It goes without saying that we had major crush and attraction between us.
I started thinking about him lately even though it has been about 15 years.
He will always be one of my most loved ones.
As an INFJ I I’m literally grinning ear to ear hearing you talk especially at the end. I’m amazed just watching you guys go, and how ur mind works it’s so hard to describe but it’s the best thing ever.
Yes, seems like soulmates. I am an INFJ and my husband is an ENTP. Sometimes his arguments and insensitive attitude is exhausting. Apart from that, the video is spot on.
As an INFJ, I'm grateful to have an ENTP which I consider my best friend for 2 years now. I love the ability for the ENTP to question the point of view that I have, and to actually discuss arguments that we might have in debates without me thinking that this is a direct threat to my whole personality. :)
Omg I understand this so much (INFJ)
I am an INFJ and my husband is ENTP. Sometimes his arguments and insensitive attitude is exhausting. Apart from that, the video is spot on.
I met a person whom I'd type an INFJ online. I love her energy and she brings me immediate comfortable feeling. I like being with her. :)
I have a classmate who has exactly your same energy, she once told me: What a pity that we are not in the same work group' and I asked her the reason, and she told me it was because she liked me, and that surprised me, that is, no one is that sincere without knowing the person first
It’s a love hate thing. Infj are masters at emotional intelligence they can get inside your head even if you don’t want them too.
And the more you resist the harder they try by manipulating everyone around you.
The conversation are great and similar ideals. I think Infj are just too chameleon they can convince you that they are on your path when in reality they are on their own. They are mirrors to most and the ones they aren’t they despise. Infj are actually pretty intense people and can be dangerous if unhealthy
INFJs are absorbers, not mirrorers, and we don’t manipulate, nor are we chameleons. You must have never met an INFJ before, which is understandable, because we are the rarest type.
@@winxclubstellamusa your are so wrong. So wrong. I have done the test many times.
When they are angry run.
They absorb energy and mirror your behaviour as defence.
You sound like infp or isfp.
Infj are master emotional manipulators when need to be.
They aren’t soft.
Infp isfj come across as the passive type. Infj are not passive when pushed in a corner you have no idea
We may come of a manipulators.... it is the Fe.... we are constantly trying to make the world harmonious... which is exhausting... we see what is underneath the surface and always trying to bring it to the surface... it isn't manipulation, it is just the way we are wired.... with some types it clashes, just the way it is
I just found my friend ENTP and we literally talk about everything. I am so thankful because most times it's hard to find someone to be able to bounce INFJness off of.
Most ENTPs I have met, had made me think that I could never live with a person like that. Very interesting people and (very) excellent to have on the team. Good friends!
But when I need to decompress, I am not sure being around an ENTP is what would be most comfortable for my I and F.
No, we can give you space, but they're just has to be clear communication. We enjoy our space.
ENTP here, can confirm I love therapy and iirc my therapist said she’s an INFJ LMAOO 🤣
Heyyy entp here tooo
Where are these ENTPs at ? I'm INFJ and I crave close connection. I freak most people out.
Work on that last bit, try and understand who you are at your core. Hone your real personal identity and instinctively get in touch with how people respond around you. If you freak people out it is because you have a feeling, desire or emotion (or a unconscious, and very strong NEED) that people pick up on, that they don't want. A deeply lonely ENTP (tho this is broader than just this type) will overwhelm people and scare them away. Craving connection, chasing desire and trying to rush quality contact with others? That will freak people out because of how much space we tend to claim being ourselves. ENTP's are like wild horses trying to find friends in a fenced off, but big open field. We don't like the fence, but we also don't realize at times how much we kick, bite and noise we make bothering the others just trying to live their life and be at peace.
As an INFJ man.. this video kinda frightened me lol and turned me on..
Like a blast of energy that I recognize but not really been directed at me before. So it's both intense and intriguing.
Lmfao like a blast of energy is the story of my Existence
Hey Melissa, for once I would have to disagree with you on the subject of telling my ENTP friends when they have not been nice.
I mean you guys expect us to be logical too and can be quite pushy about it when we are not. But I think that's a good thing!
Because seeing one's mistakes is a great opportunity to learn. And yes I consider myself logical too, so analytical that some people think I'm a Ti-dom, but it doesn't prevent me at all from blunders from time to time.
I think it's great to have someone able to tell us our blunders in areas where we take pride at being good (as the tertiary often is), especially when we share such a common language as Ti/Fe N-doms!
I think telling my ENTP friends "you know, that kinda sounded harsh" when I think they didn't realize is as important as you guys telling us "well that doesn't quite make sense" 😄
Lovely video btw! 😊
entps have Se demon, so can be unaware of the experience they are giving others and may not realize theyre saying hurtful things until its too late. i would definitely set a clear boundary and instead of saying "y'know, that was kinda harsh..".cuz likely they will scoff it off. if you word it with more assurance like, "that was fucked up, can you not talk to me like that(or say it like that)", theyre more likely to respect. this is why i think intjs have more of a handle on entps and infjs can become enablers without really knowing it.
@@missmitzijane Oh yeah I definitely see what you mean! Agreed, when it comes to my own I try to not let people walk over me, but I usually don't stay with people that have little concern for others feelings.
So I was more talking about when my friends are a bit rude to others without realizing it, and I tell them in private after the fact so they are not caught on the spot (as no one likes that).
As an ENxP I fully agree, my INFJ does it too and I'm grateful for it.
Infj here, I love entps, a couple of my best friends are entps. Spontaneity, perspectives, great conversations, lots of fun.
I am an ENTP, and my favorite writers are INFJs. Love of my life is INFJ as well - a writer,
musician, philosopher and scientist in one. Unfortunately lives on the other continent. We had a soulmate connection within 15mins of our first encounter.
I’m an INFJ and I always found myself feeling understood and comfortable and on the same frequency when talking to my mom. I’ve always thought she was an INFJ as well. Boy was I surprised when I found out that she is an ENTP. So I’m on a path to learn everything that there is to about an ENTP and INFJ.
I love and appreciate this vid! I think ENTPs make great points and are very insightful and funny. My only complaint with them, is that their comments can come off as confrontational and overly critical to an INFJ. So for me its mostly the TI but FE can also be attributed to it as well, I guess. My best friend is an ENTP and we can talk for 3 hours straight on the phone and I feel comfortable disagreeing and agreeing on a magnitude of things with her.☺
I just recently took the Myers/Briggs test and found out I'm an INFJ. I did not know we are a very rare personality type. Always have had problems with relationships, which is why I'm still single after all these years. Great to hear I'm compatible with ENTPs. Problem is, part of the INFJ type is being an introvert, so i rarely meet new people.
Hi! ENxP here, I met my INFJ significant other at my game design company, I also would have met him in art/programming school probably. I'm very glad I had the chance to meet him, because he is often at home too. After one year of knowing him I just straight up told him, that I want him in my life, doesn't matter how. It worked.
INFJ here and I totally understand you! But my ENTP found me on the train, so don't lose your hope, just be open to talk with random guys and give them a shot.
You guys are gonna find each other, is the magnet attraction, trust me.
Easy Fix Get in touch with Your Dark Side . Look. Up Dark Triad and Learn to Use the 2 together to and your entire life will change
ENT p, here, trust me, we will find you. literally found your kind a Few weeks ago and we hit off right away. It was like love at first sight.
I am an INFJ with an ENTP boyfriend.Its been two years and soon going to be married. As much as we love and understand each other, as said FE, TI problem arises. I try bringing awareness but he always says try not to change him on this, when all im trying to do is help explain. He brings logic to the situation when it is fragile enough to be dealt with feelings. There are many ups and downs guys, but I am happy to know that we dont go to sleep until the issue is resolved and keep loving each other.
I think you worded this statement wrong: "Stop trying to change people." cuz some people in the comment misunderstood it lmao It's more like we(INFJ) call out people on their wrong/inappropriate behavior when there's a issue/situation and we try to tell them a alternate method on dealing with it cuz to us it's a form of helping people grow but some people just doesn't wanna listen to the suggestions and I totally understand if they don't wanna listen but they're still wrong on their methods and they will suffer the consequences of that. I'm a true INFJ the way you can see my dominant functions just on this comment alone lmao
SO TRUE
I'm ENTP and I disagree. You guys are too logical. Sometimes it's better to not play it safe and improvise, so you can do spontaneous fun. Adventures. My infj she's so worried about having everything planned even dates. Choas can be healthy.
Okay, i am gonna be honest. I thought i am into guys, but i would love to meet a woman like you! 💜
I am INFJ and i love how authentic you are here. I love how direct you are too.
Sometimes i ask people things i already know from my intuition and they still struggle to say it loud or even lie. A lie bothers me though, i will dig until the strange uncomfortable feeling is gone 😇
You seem to have no problem talking about things, i like it.
My boyfriend is an Entp and I am a Infj
I don’t have a problem with my boyfriend coming across as not coming off as nice. I know he is very charismatic and he can talk and get along with everyone. A characteristic that I don’t like is his need to have lots of alone time. I respect it but it’s really hard for me and continuously wish he would be more inattentive to my needs. I’m sure it’s that second function you were talking about. I appreciate the in-site from your video and he has even told me I come across as being in control of our relationship. I don’t want to be that way I just want to help him make the right choices.
Thank you so much for your content!
After doing research I came to the understanding that ENTPs are compatible with INFJs. I continued brainstorming, searching for known ENTPs, and really couldn't picture the connection. Then I came across this video and now I have to admit I can see why. Hahaha! How adorable and fun it was listening to you explain yourself. I must've genuinely laughed five or more times hahah!. Very interesting indeed.
Yeah on the surface ENTPs can seem draining but they are really intellectually stimulating. I haven't dated any (I seem to like INFPs) but they are great for a rant.
I finally came across an ENTP in the wild and she has similar energy to you and the collaboration has been a blast. We have the same goals and just instantly bonded by throwing off the work veneer but be our messy selves while solving work problems. I love how ENTPs don't take sides but are true neutrality in observation and being amused by human behavior.
I love this. My best friend is an INFJ, and like my other one - an ENFP - she's one of literally a handful of people I feel actually seen and understood by
I am an ENTP-A, and my wife is an INFJ-T. I also have known 9 other INFJs, and I am close friends with 3 of them. Safe to say, I enjoy the company of INFJs, and I appreciate that they don't try to shut me down when I am rambling on about something that I became suddenly interested in at 3am the night before instead of sleeping.
My ex-ENTP-friend pushed my boundaries past the point of repair. Other than their need for Chaos, ENTPs are amazing.
I totally agree. ENTPs don't always understand the effect their chaos has on us. My ENTP friend doesn't understand that it can take me days or weeks of isolation to recover from what he brushes off immediately. Having said that I love everything else about him. My boundaries are a little more elastic for ENTPs than other types because of everything we share. But they are not unbreakable for self preservation reasons.
We love Chaos it's so much fun.
Tips to not over do things? Dont want my INFJ to hide away in Isolation. @@lunapuella2611
Just dropping an out-of-left-field insight and seeing someone actually appreciate and understand it is magic
Sou infj, amo entps, sinto que as pessoas entps nos tiram da zona de conforto e ao mesmo tempo nos deixam confortáveis, mas o excesso de energia deles nos cansa também, é uma balança estranha. Lindo vídeo!
exatamente
Your biggest fan here as always, Mike here, INFJ :) You described the INFJ/ENTP relationship absolutely perfectly. You don't have to explain anything, we just get each other. My best friends have always been ENTP's. Thank you for this...hug for you.
I felt so betrayed with yesterday's video.. :P :D
- INFJ
I'm not sure I know any ENTPs, but while watching your videos, for some time now, I would definitely love to meet some of you. :)
Really enjoying content of your channel and it's quite interesting listening to you.
Looking forvard to next video. :)
When you meet one, you will know 😀
@@elypelowski5670 get *used to it..
Since you're trying to get under their skin, you might as well do it right~
(*˘︶˘*).｡*♡
@@elypelowski5670 have a wonderful day ahead xD Sir/Ma'am (灬º‿º灬)♡
Lol... My girlfriend is a therapist. Not sure she is an INFJ, but ive never really felt like I actually loved someone until I met her. She's the best!!!
I had an ENTP friend back in elementary school. He was really chill and easy to talk to. He introduced me to Mythbusters. I moved a lot since then though. Not sure if I've had many other ENTP friends.
It's funny because our brains are so similar, but ENTPs extrovert my quirky humor. I come off as polite and kind in most social interactions, but deep down I'm weird. I wasn't the one to act out in class, but the "class clowns" made school tolerable. lol
So I guess ENTPs are some of the most natural friends for me as an INFJ. NT types in general are some of my favorite types.
I'll never forget that ENTP and that mind-blowing chemistry we had.
Unfortunately, I was too immature back then to process all of this, things like: "How could someone genuinely be interested in me? Does he really not care that all of the others avoid me because they find me either boring or strange or both? He is several months younger than me, why doesn't that bother him? (We were both teens back then, and 18-year-old girls generally want older boyfriends.) So many people find him obnoxious, so what will they think about me being with him?"
Yeah, I guess it's one of those INFJ things, thinking too much, acting too little or in a destructive way, because if there's one thing we don't understand, it's ourselves, and being that young doesn't help.
When I had finally made up my mind and decided that I really wanted to be with him, he just rejected and insulted me. End of story.
I am an entp and I really really do want an infj!
I’m an ENTP and you speak with the same cadence as I do. Lit.
I'm an ENTP and I am a fucking INFJ MAGNET. Like 3 of my last 4 girlfriends. 5 of my closest friends. Just keep finding these freaks, lurking lmao. A glorious union.
My grievance as an INFJ is the scattering of ideas without bringing them back into focus. It's very useful to project out the ideas, but for me there should be a period of reintegration into a cohesive whole. The Ti/Ni in me just screams - bring it back, bring it back - what do these intuitions mean? How do we amend our model of the world to incorporate these into a cohesive whole. My struggle is often how to say 'hold up', lets process this, without giving the impression that I'm lost in the convo. I'm not lost in the convo, you have just exceeded my capacity to integrate it all on the fly. If we accept this observation we have to go back and revisited these other things we took as fact - if we accept that thing we need rethink this other thing. I guess my need for it all to hang together is strong! Also - I've taken the 'don't try to change us into more caring people' thing on board - guilty as charged. But do try not to hurt other people's feelings in the moment - gaaah, did it again :p
HAHAHA! I LOVED your rant!! As and old INFJ, I've learned to not try and tell people what to do. I figure they will figure it out on their own...LOL.
Hi Mel! INFJ here. I see you… and love, love, love you more!!!! Do you ever breathe in between your sentences? Hahaha 🤣 I love that you can chat so much… I could listen to you 24/7!!! I think you’re amazing!!!! You brightened my night so much! I would never dream of secretly manipulating you or try to change you…. I think you’re lovely just as you are… and…. I already know that you’re a wonderful person, you don’t need any prompting!!! Hahaha 🤣 meeting you and viewing your videos has been so enlightening and refreshing! Thank you beautiful soul! 🥰😘👻😈😂
Interestingly, my issues with ENTPs aren't their not "being nice" to others. I love that they're honest and blunt with their truth.
I come from a country where such a trait is essential for healthy relationships. I've had to hone mine overtime. So I admire the ENTPs natural capacity for it.
My challenge with ENTPs is their cunningness.
The ENTP starts a project, gets everyone riled up, and then loses interest. But because they're the intiators and leads, they have to see it through. Cue in the cunningness.
Rather than simply assign someone to see it through, they play jedi word play and con you into doing it.
Other than that, I love ENTPs. I'm looking forward to spending my life with one of them- INFJ
Lmfao I related. We do easily get bored
Yes, indeed. That very rare feeling of understanding that you are being understood on a very deep level where you don't even go that often yourself.
Btw… I have a feeling my therapist is an ENTP because of our conversation and connection. It feels like I’m more of a help to her than the other way around to be honest…. And i love that! Conversation flows so naturally with her…. Hahaha 🤣
Yayyy i loved your video, thank you!! And right back at you ENTP's💖😍
I think our dynamic can be nothing short of deeply soul satisfying and magical.
But there's a but. Personally, i don't care that much about Fe expression of my ENTP. I can be pretty INTJ like and aloof/cold myself.
The little grievance i think i do have?
That there's never enough. Haha. That's it. I get SO hungry for your feedback, your knowledge, your thoughts, everything... It's oh so delicious to me!
But when you aren't in the headspace to engage, or if i fear asking too much.. That's when i feel a little dissatisfied.
Not because you aren't good. But because you ARE. And I just want more :3
No negative comments or judgments. Video made me want to cry. Subscribed.
I wonder if we INFJs have the ability to change our personality type? I don’t want to be an INFJ anymore; I won’t want to care about others so much. I no longer want to go out of my way for others anymore… it has caused me way too much pain and discomfort in my life. I want O.U.T!!! Nope, I’m not “into” dealing with people much nowadays; people are way too needy and narcissistic. I just want to be left alone… or maybe with someone that “gets” me. But definitely no one else.
ENT p's are really good for you. Because we tie you how it is. And the truth of the fact, and that is definitely taking care of yourself and you guys listen to us
I heard that MBTI kinda effected by genes we have since birth. So it 's hard to get it changed. But we can always working on our lesser functions to make us do better in life.
Like become more sensory (Se) by enjoying outdoor activity. We can be more 'extrovert' by encouraging ourself meeting new people. By then, we will less in 'self pity' and more experience in handling other people (in the way infj always wants to say 'yes' and make others happy. We will learn not to do that too many times).
I'm an ENTP and my absolute best friend is an INFJ and this is spot on!! She's the only person who has been able to keep up and help me with advice and we both have desires to help people in the world. ❤
My Infj self took this too seriously and I just thought for like 10 minutes on how i can improve. Then I remembered i learnt all that from having an Intp best friend for years.
Also where are you Entps? its like you've all taken a space ship to mars or smth to prank NASA when they finally figure out how to get to mars
So.,.. years ago, when I was still in high school, I took the test and got ENTP.
Years later, after... a lot of change and development, I took the test again and got INFJ.
So... yeah. That happens.
Me, an INFJ, speaking to all the other INFJs reading the comments. I used to try to "fix" people, because I "knew better" what they needed. No, I didn't. I jeopardized all those relationships. Trust me, you will find much more satisfaction learning who people really are - their true selves, rather than force your standards upon them. Learn what makes them tick, find what's important to them, what they actually struggle with, their strengths, their weaknesses, accept that they operate within cognitive functions which ARE DIFFERENT from yours (but they're so valid), and help them on THEIR terms, in ways that makes sense to THEM. Yes, your theories and visions are incredible, and you crave to share these insights which only you have, and give people the "Magic Key to solve all their problems", but please, don't force your standards upon others (yes, it does come off that way when you don't consider all of the variables of a person or when your knowledge about people isn't sophisticated/developed enough). Get to really know them, and nurture them for who they are. Or simply, if you can't follow along with what I mean with all this, just don't try to change another person. You should first make sure the PERSON you want to help actually NEEDS what you're trying to give them, rather than it being something YOU WANT to do.
I know you hate being criticized, but you will be more glad if you don't force something down on another, and instead try to look for some hard proof that the person actually needs this something, before giving it.
Also if you don't want others to kick your butt (criticise), then kick your own butt first. Get to work, improve your understanding of the world. You're gonna do great. Just work hard to learn more. Feed facts into that intuition. Observe people, learn facts, read psychology stuff. You can do it! You can become someone who can be truly helpful to others.
Be Yourself ENTP´s! One Love! Bless, Heal and Prosper!
To change People..... Naaaaah, however Improve People! 👌 Yes! ✌
I'm an INFJ, and I was actually unaware that I was pushing my fe apon the world lol. Once I did realize that a few years back, I try to remind myself to let people be who they are and also, many people do care....just in their own way.
Thanks! Also, I appreciated your simple, elegant set.
I'm an INFJ and I don't wanna change you or anyone 🙂 No one can change other individuals. And trying to do that, or forcing, manipulating is an unhealthy behavior. It's not an INFJ thing, really 😉 If I don't like some behavior I can tell this or if it's the best for me, I'll walk away. People make their own choices. We should all respect each other. Great video ☺️
1. Whatever happens never let anyone guilt you into anything. You don't owe anyone anything. And no one has the right to demand anything of you. You especially do not owe anyone anything that they do not even give to others themselves. If you change your mind about anything, no matter what, is your choice that everyone has to respect. You are not a tool or someone to be played with.
2. Defend and stand up for yourself. When people say “it's only a joke, make sure you're seriously firm in stating your discomfort. Forgive, but make it clear you won't let anyone abuse your forgiveness. Real friends don't care about trivial ideas of “brownie points”. Either they're honest for each other's sakes, or dishonest for their own sake. There are no other alternatives. If you really are a good person, who cares about people, and with good intentions, it doesn't matter how anyone else might feel. Real friends will understand.
3. And never let anyone isolate you. Especially from the people who you've grown up to realize their best and worst, most notably your own family members. Always look for at least three groups to hang around with if you need an alternative to family, but never allow anyone to control your social circles. Otherwise people try to use your own isolation against you. And maybe even pretend to be the only ones there for you (just not when you actually need it most). It is a dangerous narcissistic tactic.
4. So be aware of anyone that you know talks behind other people's backs and starts rumors, and somehow expect you to keep quiet. They are not ignorant of what they do. They are manipulators, plain and simple. And they won't treat you any differently than you know they treat everyone else.
5. And especially never try to understand anyone who would threaten you when you've done nothing wrong. It doesn't matter how they feel or what they think at any given moment, they are not your friends and probably never where. People are only afraid when they know justice isn't equally balanced. It's one thing to forgive, but never let anyone Force themselves and their agendas on you. So push them immediately. Your human being that deserves control over your own livelihood just as much as any good moral person.
6. And if you suspect people are making any specific false judgments about you, and you never get the chance to even feel comfortable talking about it, nor do they tell you what's up. Run. Chances are, they're likely being used and manipulated by someone you shouldn’t(’ve) trust. Even if they don't realize it themselves. They’re called “Flying Monkeys”.
7. And above all, do your research. And if you know you already question yourself, trust that you haven't missed the facts. You'll save yourself a lot of unnecessary regrets. Don't get into polygamies. And if you ask me about Cognitive Mechanics Analytical Psychology, I'll gladly send you all my research. And even simplify it using MBTI. Not even maturity changes the facts.
This is ABSOLUTELY AMAZING!!!
My wife is an ENTP-T & I'm a INFJ-T male (Sigma) & this video just broke down our dynamics like it was personally made for us!
I really got a laugh when you started talking about us(INFJ) ALWAYS saying to be more nice, polite, etc because I do it ALL THE TIME!! 😆
My son is an ENTP and I'm INFJ. He's my stubborn comedian. He's gotta be the funniest person I've ever met(or made!..lol)...His humor has gotten a little crass though as he's gotten older but perfect timing. He was a little over 3 years old the first time he told me he was brilliant, ha! But he meant it. I think he enjoys when I challenge him because he goes out of his way to prove me wrong, and most times succeeds. Great video!
As an ENTP, I feel represented by this video, thank you fellow ENTP
I'm an INFJ and my grievence is too much NE, like literally half way in your video I felt like I was already 12 min in but my mental fuses burned out near the end of your video were you stuffed it to the INFJs. It seemed like you brought all your NE unfortunate experiences with INFJs and scolded all of us INFJ as a result. All in all though I felt the intuitive chemistry as an INFJ towards your interpretation of our dynamic since you are an ENTP. The clash of the Ti and Fe is going to be a constant theme in INFJ and ENTP but I think its the major contributer to there union being so great as well as important for mantaining balance as they grow togather.
I love my therapist and I'm sure shes an INFJ, i look forward to our sessions and miss her if its been a while.
LOL as a mature Male INFJ 50 tested twice I do not tell people to be nicer and learned boundaries also greed and ego is big no no with us and we can get carried away with it learning to be healthy mentally is important to everyone 3 others of the 16 personality's have bi polar characteristics questioning their sanity now not saying there might be a problem but most likely learning about one's self can remove possibility's so you can be healthier and unfortunately some free will's chose a dark path love your content keep up the good work
brilliant... and love the feedback as an INFJ :) I tend to get overwhelmed with ENTPs... I think there are different types of INFJs... for some the Ti is more predominant than others... I am extremely Fe oriented... and it can sort of freak me out if I am with an ENTP who is talking and they never stop to feel.... I am comfortable in that feeling space and it is where I feel safest... so for me ENFPs are a. much better fit... I can just be myself and it super relaxed and easeful.... for other INFJs who have a stronger Ni and Ti, less Fe... I can see how the relationship would work
I totally agree as infj I have a friend Entp and our first meeting was quite funny because it was an arranged meeting, my Istj friend said that she knew a girl who attended the classes I was interested in and she said that she could invite her to the meeting to tell me how it is on these classes. a moment later we met and I was positively surprised that she was talking to both of us and paying attention to me as well. Moments later, we met for the first time alone. I started to think about topics along the way and I was afraid of awkward silence. I'm glad she talked a lot, so there was no silence. currently we get along very well and we can talk for hours we agree with each other and we like to discover new things together
Wow thank you for this love bomb. I can see what you were doing there. Good tactics though! 👍
4:26 INFJ married to an ENTP, this is all true… the part about the infj knowing following the entp’s train of thought though… there’s a limit!! After 20 plus years I think I’m starting to see it. He will literally just start talking about something he’s thinking about with no other context at all and use very ambiguous language and assume I will understand (because up until now I have) but I think he’s assuming too much now and just broadcasting random thoughts, not realizing how that’s different from the tangential conversations we normally have. Pretty soon I expect he will just start looking at me, waiting for me to respond to the unspoken random thoughts inside his head. 😂
As an infj, u're right. Bc infj ppl're intensed mind/spirit. İf u use your brain with meaningful things, infj will listen u almost all days.
I'm an INFJ and my best friend since preschool, is an ENTP. He's always been an extremely loyal and honest friend, who isn't afraid of giving me the hard truth. Which I appreciate because I like to grow as a person, so all constructive criticism is welcome. Tbh we didn't get along at first, mostly because he would bully me which was his way of showing his affection lol. But after coming to an understanding we're practically siblings. We always refer to each other as brother and sister. We can always go to each other for support and guidance and we're always getting into odd couple shenanigans 😂. Nobody really understands how we're friends since to outsiders we seem like complete opposites. However, we compliment each other very well, I feel like the person I am with him, is the real me and he feels the same way 😁.
Being ENTP, I feel none can understand INFJ that ENTP does in real life dealing. I also have an intuition if ENTP and INFJ may agree to walk together a period of time, they may endure many good things in to the society. Many odds elements will erase systematically from the society.
I found a mature INFJ but she evaluated me which actually I am not. Her often judgemental traits had shrunken the conversation. But I am hopeful some day she will get the positive turn. For now I might death for her. She had cut off communication. As I know rest of my life I never get someone like her. So either way, she will be always in my heart and mind. I am not hope less at all.
@Seeker of Light - As an INFJ, I think you are right. I think I haven't felt better understood by anyone as I did by an ENTP. It felt like coming home and actually being seen, without judgment. Almost telepathic.
However, I tend to disagree with you when you say INFJs aren't able to understand/correctly evaluate the ENTP too. They might just not reveal their inner worlds.
What you describe, sounds like the so called INFJ doorslam. Many say the door slam is used when an INFJ wants to protect itself from a toxic relationship, but personally I've used this technique while being under extreme amounts of stress too. Reason for that is, being an extremely emotional and sensitive type, huge amounts of stress tend to get me out of balance and out of touch with my healthy intuition, or actually it goes into overdrive. Consequently, it's not something to rely on during those times. Being overloaded, INFJs might function under "grip stress", which often results in a "the world is out to get us" mindset and instead of exploring the relationship/situation, slamming the door seems the best way to protect ourself.
Moreover, being a (J) judging type, makes it even worse. Having made our decision, we stick to it and disregard any new information. Even though I know the arguments I bring to the table are completely out of context or I disregard other facts, in those cases the end justifies the means.
The reason why I respond to this is that I've experienced the same situation a few months ago as an INFJ and even though
I am still wondering what could have been between him and I, I do still cherish the moment and think about it a lot - I did see the positive turn. So, I am sure she does that too. 😊
Having hope isn’t gonna get you a girl
You're not the Optimistic side of us. Get your shit together. ENTP-A here Start using You're intuition to create possibilities not problems
You know what, I think you're right, we INFJs we do take our auxiliary Fe to a bit of a higher standard. Also, our manipulation tactic as you put is at least for the right reasons but I understand where you are coming from. I hold my Ti very close to me, and it works well with my Ni, however since your Ti is a bit higher you must use it a good deal more than I do. I must admit, I was laughing the who time, and you're right, we can keep up, the power of Introverted Intuition.
Well articulated, I love ENTPs.
I can definitely get along with you guys and you don't have to translate who you are, the annoying thing is I'm very strange and no one exactly gets me fully, until I have conversations with xNTPs.
My grievance is not Fe with you guys, alot of what you said has been told to me too XD.
I think I'd say that we like to be seen by you too, you guys are curious but your need to argue/debate everything even when it's not worth it is what annoys me and other INFJs I 'd say.
Hey I am an entp!
Truth. I met an ENTP guy about 6 months ago.. we could talk about anything for hours, but he was kinda a broken ENTP relationship wise, so that didn’t work. BUT. I will say .. what I miss most is the conversations and understanding we had between one another. It was very cool
As an entp my best friend is infj and i love her very much
Love seeing you make another VDO about INFJ. Yes, you guys should be nicer and we should be more logical, but we'll just leave it at that, hahaha. I have an ENTP friend telling I "get" him and that's more than enough for me. I feel he gets me too on a level I never dared to expect from someone else. Almost like mind-reading, but not quite. We'll always be partners in crime. :)
My little brother is an ENTP and I am infj. When we were kids, we fought a lot. Just like cat and dot, although I am older by 4 years.
Now, as an adult, we can talk four hours (like 3 to 5 hours non stop), doing projects together, missing each other once in a while (we managed to see each other once in 2-3 months). He works as graphic designer, while I am a music teacher. He is agnostic, I am a serious Christian. But we can talk almost about everything, argue about everything ... and still loving each other. (I just met him few hours ago, having lunch and coffee).
Hi
an INFJ here, we don’t like to be told how to be ourselves, as we trust our Ni. So we don’t treat people the way we don’t want to be treated. We can be stubborn and butt head when needed but we will never ever tell people how to behave. We value honestly and authenticity.
An immature INFJ tho can be manipulative, as they operate from the shadow functions. I’d appreciate it so much if you could mention this in your video. And if you put 2 INFJ’s in one room they are not the same person. So please consider that your friend might not represent the whole tribe.
And yes we love ENTPs and we both debate, talk each other ears out. We have the same mindset towards humanity and the world. We are in our bubbles, outside of the box. Both intuitive creature. ENTP thinks first, does it make sense? Yes, then feel it.
INFJ internally knows , feel , think. Doesn’t mean we’d walk around telling people to do things according to our “ways”
Thanks a lot for the advice! 🙏 - INFJ
I just found your channel and just wanted to say I love the content you make. As an INFJ who is currently trying to understand an ENTP your videos for sure have given insight. More than likely they are doing the same. I do know that every time we speak, it’s natural and flows, and before I know it, it’s been hours. I personally don’t try to change anyone so that’s not a characteristic of myself personally but I do still find it interesting that some do.
Anyways. Thank you for the insight.
I am an INFJ and you got my “grievance” spot on LMFAO
Here to help me feel better about myself. Was not disappointed ❤