When he says why don’t we quit our jobs, I don’t think he means ‘why don’t we stop working’, I think he means ‘why don’t we quit jobs we hate to move on to better ones’..
@@joboFGC there are rarely other jobs readily available these days. If i quit my job today i'd have a hard time even finding a cashier position let alone something that would actually pay the bills
Unless you live with your parents which most people do. If you have the option to quit your job, then don't force it. Just apply for another job while you're working and try another one.
A huge part of it is financial instability. A lot of us live from paycheck to paycheck. Losing or quitting a job could mean not being able to pay bills for weeks if you didn't have something lined up in advance. These fears can keep people trapped in a miserable job for years, especially if you have dependents.
I couldn't care less about being appreciated for my work or my job being boring. i hate my job because it's stressful and i keep getting more responsibilities. The field that it's in has nothing to do with my personal interests, but I'm good at it and I make decent money so I stay.
Yeah agreed, I definitely don't work as an attempt to be appreciated, I'm not motivated by that. I work because I have to, and even though I don't like my job, I simply can't think of a job I would like; I just spend my free time outside of work doing what I want, with time in work doing what other people want from me. I'm sure if I job hopped enough I'd find something better eventually, but I'd rather avoid that stress.
Fr. Wanting to be paid is a good enough reason. I've tried a whole lot of different jobs and I'm happy to have one that pays properly and that I don't completely hate. I couldn't care less whether I'm appreciated or not. I'm not neurotic like that lol
Interesting that you left out issues with advocating for yourself in your explanation. If your getting piled on maybe reflecting on how you can establish boundaries might help. Or maybe you work with terrible managers that’s also possible of course.
I feel most people don't even like to work, it doesn't matter what it is, but when there is a good balance between the job itself (not being that demanding), have an overall good payment, good work environment and have time for personal activities, it can be tolerated.
There are plenty of people who "like to work" in some format, the majority of hobbies are Not Easy to get into and are the accumulation of desires, expressions, and skills (including gaming) and people will volunteer in droves for the feeling of community or Doing Good, but work under capitalism where it's all the Grind and trying to get the highest wage revenue and doing bullshit jobs (technical term) alienates us from that labor
I hate my job because I feel like a piece in somebody else‘s game. They tell me what tasks to do with the excuse that they pay me, which feels like I am selling my soul and the biggest part of my daily energy for something that I dont care about. And dont start with building a career, most people dont have careers, they have jobs and thats it. The whole system should be reevaluated ..
This too why are we so behind in America with this. Our health shouldn’t be at the mercy of an employer. It’s even worse when they switch insurance companies and your doctors become out of network…
This is SO TRUE. Don’t get attached to your job if it’s not right for you. I used to grovel and lie for a good job cause I “needed” the income. One day, I changed all of that and decided to really focus on what was the RIGHT fit for me. It led to massive success, more honesty, more money, and now I have my own business. The moment you act like you “need” a job, that’s the moment you actually become replaceable in my experience..
@@spanzotab Clarification: I meant act like you don’t need a specific job, not like you don’t need a job at all. Now, I got ‘lucky’ because I adopted this mindset when I get laid off, and decided to bet on my music. I wasn’t trying to come off as preachy as I did. I just wish I would’ve come to this conclusion 10 years earlier than I did. I wish I would’ve dedicated the effort to finding the *right* work for me.
@@charliekowittmusic I see, thanks for clarifying. I'm an amateur musician and the thought of the "work" aspect of being a professional one seems daunting. How did you get over that?
@@spanzotab Ohh Yeah I definitely empathize. Music’s my whole life and I’ve put thousands of hours into it, but still felt like I wasn’t good enough. The biggest piece is being willing to try new things. After I got laid off, I noticed on Indeed, etc. that there was a huge need for music teachers. That’s become 75% of my income, so if teaching doesn’t seem appealing, this part won’t apply to you. That said, if you are *willing* to teach, you will be in insanely high demand. You don’t need to be an amazing player, or read music super well. Companies you contract with will handle all the payments, etc. you just schedule students, and show up at their house to teach. I also teach piano classes after school, also thru a company. Outside of teaching, I’ve got: -Gigs filling in for local bands/studios -A Church where I play music (I’m not religious, but it’s a great gig) -Another church who hired me as tech director just because I can run a digital sound board. Being a full-time musician is all about being able to piece different jobs together. But the pay per hour is GREAT ($65 for a one hour piano class. $30/half hour lessons, etc.) So that’s the path I’m currently on. Depending on the instrument you play, and your skill set, there are tons of other paths you could take yourself. A great way to get started is to find some part time work in the side, that is really rewarding and pays well. Once you’ve broken into music work of any kind, connections and new gigs come really really fast. This could be playing at a church on Sundays, teaching in the evenings, looking for local gigs on craigslist, working at a local studio, etc. Word of mouth has been crucial to everything I’m building. I hope this was somewhat helpful. I truly believe that if I can do it, with my social anxiety, and zero connections only a year and a half ago, literally anybody can.
@@charliekowittmusic Wow thank you, I'm screenshotting this. I think I'm probably in a similar boat that you were in when you decided to start, so this looks super helpful. I honestly would probably like teaching, but I'm self taught (guitar and drums) and don't know much theory and proper technique. I think I'm gonna give it a try this summer though, you make it sound pretty doable.
Many organization don't even take enough of an in interest in you to give you the hated performance review. They have you fill out a self evaluation or ask your coworkers to fill out a survey about your performance.
I’ve been at the same job for 12 years. 11 years in the same position. I make enough money to take care of me and my family. But I hate it. There’s no upper movement. But I’m terrified to lose it because I’m our only income. So I suffer it. Life has to be more than this. I’m just waiting to die at this point.
In my case I just work because I have to work, even though I don't like working. What I'm starting to discover however, is that I just want life satisfaction, and my hobbies are more meaningful because I enjoy them more. I need to find more meaning in work, otherwise my hobbies and desires take full control. I'm looking into dharma and karma and I'm already starting to see a path forward.
People are right to be afraid of quitting their job. Sometimes it can be YEARS or FOREVER before you get a similar job. Meanwhile your former boss will try to destroy you in some cases. You can be blacklisted in the industry only because you left.
It's interesting how this method of ego detachment is mirroring the advice of other more explicitly pro-worker sources that essentially say "don't work extra hard for the Chance at promotion don't burn yourself out for the accolades and silly little awards they'll give you, work exactly enough to clock in and clock out and make your paycheck without screwing yourself over long term" which is what Dr K's full video gets to: once you aren't attached to the job or your ego about the job you can make clearer decisions about Why you're there and whether you want to stay and how much effort you want to put in All of this to say it's neat how different schools of thought come to the same conclusion
The reason I hate working: I hate waking up so early in the morning. Literally my alarm gives me PTSD. If I could do the same job but wake up naturally and go to work when I’m ready, my perception of the world would be so great lol I actually do enjoy what I do for a living. I just hate having to be beholden to the companies schedule.
When there are no good alternatives yet... I am just starting out on a marketing course and hope to get a more regular job in the future. For now, I will manage.
"When there are no good alternatives"... Americans can more easily imagine the end of the world than the end of capitalism lol. The alternative is socialism, among 5 major other options brother.
@@sp123 @sp123 @sp123 I think that understanding the ways we're limited by a financial system can be helpful for adapting to it in a healthy way. Acknowledging that people work at least somewhat for money doesn't invalidate any of what he's saying it just adds additional context. I can understand how this was just not the message he was trying to impart with this video though, which is reasonable, especially considering it's a short, and the stuff he mentioned may be more interesting because it's less obvious than saying people work for money. Or at least it resonates more with his audience. I haven't seen the longer clip this appears to be cut from, but I would hope he at least mentions the monetary incentive in that version, it feels weird to me to talk about why people stick with shitty jobs and not mention money at all, since it's pretty clearly a huge factor.
Sadly my case is quite different. I don’t hate the job. My work is recognised and appreciated by my colleagues. But the way my manager is managing the work is horrendous. Negative output. Work shaming. Restricted interaction between colleagues. My colleagues and other managers are great. The company itself has great reputation. Just this particular manager who is making the work so difficult for everyone. That how can I even be proud of my extra work, when there is literally no output.
I got a part time job being a preloader at a large package shipping company. Drivers make 170k a year after 5 years. They usually promote preloaders to drivers internally. If I stay I'll be making 170k a year with incredible benefits. But man, I hate my job. And I'm pressured to keep it because I don't know what id do without it.
Nah, I only ever got jobs that no one else wanted. Why? Because I was undiagnosed autistic that masked so well that therapists didn't even pick up on it despite years and years of sessions. I've yet to find a job that doesn't total my health and leave me a burnt out corpse. Then there's the "politics" in the office, they'll prevent you moving to another area when you're good at the job because it's less work for them. The amount of colleagues I've seen who are so bad and constantly under review or having constructive feedback on the same thing constantly get jobs over me was so frustrating. But now I know I'm AuDHD I can't find a job that I can do and still function outside of it.
And yes, zero appreciation, they expect YOU to be thankful to them for having a job and get snarky when asking for adequate compensation. Pizza lunches are a joke.
Small towns / cities, poor economy, and no family or significant others to rely on. There are ways, that you are relatively powerless to change the situation. I was in a place where my asshole Walmart job at 15/he was the highest paying job for entry level in my whole city of 5sq miles. No car, and no family to help me. Thankfully I finally got out by getting help from my brother, came and picked me up even though he's risking his lease for me.
I apply to about 300 jobs a year, I get under 2 interviews per year. I have 4-5 resumes and test them systematically but I get so little feedback I can't do analysis on which ones work better. It's not exactly a choice to stay when you have no other options
I don't think Dr K is the genre of self help spirituality that says there is no such thing as society, he's coming at it from the same angle that socialists do which is "the worker still has to live day to day" he just isn't pushing towards a greater societal material change, which is what we're for
like my current job. for 4 months i was being trained for a promotion because there was a spot that would open and management agreed that i was a good fit for it. the week before the spot opens one of our overnight managers decided they actually wanted the position. they pulled the rug right out from under me and gave it to them. to top it off, the main reason i wanted the position is because im sick of our kitchen manage being a toxic raging asshole to anyone she doesn't like. so now i do the bare minimum that i can get away with without getting fired. honestly its much less stressful now.
It's kind of hard to find a job that you'll genuinely enjoy 24/7 of the time you're doing. Similar to a partner in a relationship, you're not going to want to be with that person every single second of the day and 24/7, because you need your own time to grow and discover yourself as well. There's bound to be some sort of low tides that comes with every job, because there's always goods and bad to these situations. Some people don't say anything because they're just there to work and get out so they can get paid and pay their bills. They don't want to start an unnecessary fight and go through all those other crap.
I don't like my job because it does not fit my criteria of a dream career. Whereas, my current job only helps me pay my bills. My idea of a dream career would allow me to travel the world, make at least three figures, pay bills with no issues, be excited everday to go to my dream job, and have enough money to spend on myself.
I have a friend who won’t look for another job even though he hates his job, simply because his self esteem is so low he thinks he won’t be able to get another. I don’t think that’s attachment or ego
What I understood from this short is that it is good to remember that it may be possible to find better job than your current one and you can keep an eye on other jobs to have that option of quitting and choosing better alternative. It means don't be hopeless by thinking you will never have better opportunities
Very good points and clearly expressed. I realize a lot of my working life has been spent balancing a sort of apathetic response to my work and becoming too emotionally invested. I have to remind myself that I control my area and not everything going on around me. I've been much happier though developing portable work skills and having the knowledge that I can bounce out of an unpleasant situation if it bothers me too much.
It’s hard for me to relate to this, I hate my job in part because I was an a student in school, so many people had high expectations of me I did too. And here I am being overworked and not being paid enough to do a joyless job.
You love to feel rewarded for having something until it starts driving you mad. Now you want to get out of it, but the risk is far much greater if I leave now.
@@Danny328DT yeah because we investe soo much in to it, and if the other person doesn't investe as much as you did than you feel like stuck with her. But don't forget you always have option so say; No I won't do this anymore.
Well, that and fear/anxiety. You briefly mentioned people being afraid of the consequences - that for me would be absolutely the main thing. Financial stress is horrible.
I don't care about recognition. My previous job was killing me because it lacked: meaning. I am an INFJ (MBTI) and I learned that if I don't do something that is meaningful I will never be fulfilled in a job no matter if I receive recognition or not. User to work in retail before moving into mental health.
You can always increase your skill set and get a better job. I worked full time while I studied IT on my own time and pretty much can write my own ticket now..We have more resources than ever before with the internet. It won’t be easy and it will be grueling but anything worthwhile is very difficult. Too many people want to complain but they aren’t willing to bust their butts to develop/increase their skills. You can suffer for a couple of years and end it being much better off in the long run or you can sit and complain.
No it's not attachment and ego, it's the wrong or shitty people who don't appreciate you and it's harsh reality of capitalistic society where you not finding another job may cost you life
well, or wanting that stable save income to start healing all the other traumas that piled up over the years. Its okay if the job isn't fun, sometimes its more important what you can do outside of work.
I quitted my job because I felt incompetent, incapable and mistreated (costumer service + social anxiety) but before I did it I was so afraid that I wouldn't find another job or stopped trying to find it, and it came true ahaha I'm still jobless after 6 months and more depressed than ever, but it's on my ik
I'm afraid of not being accepted into another job. My luck has been lackluster. A few interviews, but then nothing or "we chose someone else." Not in a position to move either (no driver's license and I'm working on saving up). It's been worse with work becoming more toxic due to co-workers treating an employee like crap, the manager isn't helping, HR is out of the office until the 18th, and the monthly luncheons have a lot of complaining by the manager and lead with only some praise
Could it be that we are alienated from our own labor by the extractive forces of capitalism? Could it be the undertow of knowing that profit and interest can not kept exponentially growing on a FINITE PLANET and that treating extraction from that planet as an externality is not sustainable?
Effort. That's the reason why I am so scared of finding a job. It's because I fear that I'll be treated badly for "not caring" or "being lazy" when I'm putting so much effort in trying to come there and do my best. It's really demoralizing.
Also: what the job pays, being able to survive so that you can afford to love the job. Financial independence is something every single person should be aiming for as well-that to me is more important that the recognition the politics, and the corporate bs
I don’t care about recognition at my job because I see it as a temporary place in my life. Somewhere that I will only be at temporarily and as soon as I can get out I’ll be out of there. I hate my job because it is insanely repetitive, the same thing every single day with no end. Also, standing all day hurts my legs and back. It also drains me mentally, although I have no choice but to use my willpower to continue working outside of work so that I can get out of there. Also, if the company wanted to, and laws allowed for it, a robot could easily replace me. That’s how meaningless this job is.
Uhhh, we often hate the job because we get treated like crap, and don't leave because we don't wanna be homeless. I agree with most of your content, but this one just doesn't hit home for me.
What really messed-up is that the ego will sometimes disguise attachments as values. "It's not like I'm attached to making my a$$hole boss change, I'm a paragon so it's your duty to make them change cause I value goodness."
Appreciation is a big one for me, but also my efforts feel lack luster meaning my skills aren’t being used for the greater good and at this point I’m trying to figure out how to do my own thing. But the main driver for me is coworkers. I cannot stand people and their energy when stressed nevermind when it becomes hateful or political. It’s like I have to hide who I am to survive and HR gives no shits about stuff like this either… literally a few months back one of my coworkers was defending kayne and saying Jews control all the money… I don’t hate what I do as I’m in a creative art position, I just hate the company I work for and the morons I’m forced to be around. I am able to work hybrid but the days I go in fill me with such dread. I’ve been working on updating my portfolio to get the hell out because they can be quite toxic to work around. It crushes my soul.
There’s a bit of an unsubstantiated leap in there. It’s not so much attachment to appreciation &c (the top level of Maslow’s pyramid), it’s the lower levels, attachment to being able to feed, house and clothe yourself and your family.
Dr. K, I am a lonely person, bcz of my poor decision making and confusing, which often leads to arguments, while other classmates in college make quick decision efficiently. So, how can I tackle this. For e.g. if someone cheat from me in exam, I am confused, I am not able to take quick decision of how to answer them, still after copying the much marks (more than passing) of answe sheet they abuse me, if I don't allow, I got more trolled than others. while others still help them of rarely 5-6 marks which also wrong answers, they become friends. Also if I just ask them back something, they start abusing say I didn't allow them to see my ans sheet( even I have shown him), but not in case with other person. It's still one example which I faced today, I face many of them daily. Like I am feeling excluded But they talk so sweet to me during exams I feel paralyzed to not help them.
Also other reason which is my reason all the other shit but main one is underpaid and overworked tired of working for low pay just to have a hard time paying these damn bills and you keep asking for a raise and it’s like they keep ignoring you
Im going through this ATM. I haven't been to work in over a week. I think it's mainly the boring part, idk what to do... I will probably be terminated soon.
I thought picking a job as a dishwasher was easy until I went into the worst shifts of my life I mean sure it was like 3 to 4 days a week the most hours go to at least 4 and the max is 6 hours sense I was only part time but Jesus the conditions of my work stations were so awful due to lack of maintenance and how it was built that sometimes I just wanted to walk out because I knew I was gonna take longer because that shit was awful. Now only that but the job had more responsibilities then needed I was in charge bringing up dishes on two to three floors every shift but what’s worse is they were heavy and we never had an elevator. And for some fucking reason they had me and other dish washers bring down supplies and set up buffets or even bring out the bags of dirty table covers or towels in the end of our shift. And what’s worse is the after the party we were in charge of dismantling all the buffets stations and once everyone left which took them 45 to 30 minutes drunk people are usually stubborn. God we had to wait almost an hour to hour and 30 minutes until we got to our port. Never work on a boat or cruise again
it is simple: because you have to. you are forced to work if you not want to be homeless
Amen to that
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When he says why don’t we quit our jobs, I don’t think he means ‘why don’t we stop working’, I think he means ‘why don’t we quit jobs we hate to move on to better ones’..
@@joboFGC there are rarely other jobs readily available these days. If i quit my job today i'd have a hard time even finding a cashier position let alone something that would actually pay the bills
Unless you live with your parents which most people do. If you have the option to quit your job, then don't force it. Just apply for another job while you're working and try another one.
Dr. K is going to OWN the YT shorts algorithm and I love to see it
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A huge part of it is financial instability. A lot of us live from paycheck to paycheck. Losing or quitting a job could mean not being able to pay bills for weeks if you didn't have something lined up in advance. These fears can keep people trapped in a miserable job for years, especially if you have dependents.
I couldn't care less about being appreciated for my work or my job being boring. i hate my job because it's stressful and i keep getting more responsibilities. The field that it's in has nothing to do with my personal interests, but I'm good at it and I make decent money so I stay.
Yeah agreed, I definitely don't work as an attempt to be appreciated, I'm not motivated by that. I work because I have to, and even though I don't like my job, I simply can't think of a job I would like; I just spend my free time outside of work doing what I want, with time in work doing what other people want from me.
I'm sure if I job hopped enough I'd find something better eventually, but I'd rather avoid that stress.
Fr. Wanting to be paid is a good enough reason. I've tried a whole lot of different jobs and I'm happy to have one that pays properly and that I don't completely hate. I couldn't care less whether I'm appreciated or not. I'm not neurotic like that lol
That’s what I feel, I can completely relate to this. 👆🏾🥲
Interesting that you left out issues with advocating for yourself in your explanation. If your getting piled on maybe reflecting on how you can establish boundaries might help. Or maybe you work with terrible managers that’s also possible of course.
Trust me, from experience, a boring job is just as bad as one that gives you stress.
I feel most people don't even like to work, it doesn't matter what it is, but when there is a good balance between the job itself (not being that demanding), have an overall good payment, good work environment and have time for personal activities, it can be tolerated.
There are plenty of people who "like to work" in some format, the majority of hobbies are Not Easy to get into and are the accumulation of desires, expressions, and skills (including gaming) and people will volunteer in droves for the feeling of community or Doing Good, but work under capitalism where it's all the Grind and trying to get the highest wage revenue and doing bullshit jobs (technical term) alienates us from that labor
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God tier strawman
@@ianjames8140 I inferred heavily yeah, but I didn't have much to go on
Most people lost to work, just not in that specific way
Very true. I don't know anyone who genuinely enjoys their job or even most of it
I hate my job because I feel like a piece in somebody else‘s game. They tell me what tasks to do with the excuse that they pay me, which feels like I am selling my soul and the biggest part of my daily energy for something that I dont care about. And dont start with building a career, most people dont have careers, they have jobs and thats it. The whole system should be reevaluated ..
Careers scare me. Like no, I do not want my whole life to revolve around the thing I do to survive.
The attachment that kept me stuck for years? HEALTH INSURANCE!
This too why are we so behind in America with this. Our health shouldn’t be at the mercy of an employer. It’s even worse when they switch insurance companies and your doctors become out of network…
Good story but i just fucking hate having to work in order to not starve.
This is SO TRUE. Don’t get attached to your job if it’s not right for you. I used to grovel and lie for a good job cause I “needed” the income.
One day, I changed all of that and decided to really focus on what was the RIGHT fit for me. It led to massive success, more honesty, more money, and now I have my own business.
The moment you act like you “need” a job, that’s the moment you actually become replaceable in my experience..
I wish I didn't need a job, unfortuantely I have rent and groceries to pay for.
@@spanzotab Clarification: I meant act like you don’t need a specific job, not like you don’t need a job at all.
Now, I got ‘lucky’ because I adopted this mindset when I get laid off, and decided to bet on my music.
I wasn’t trying to come off as preachy as I did. I just wish I would’ve come to this conclusion 10 years earlier than I did.
I wish I would’ve dedicated the effort to finding the *right* work for me.
@@charliekowittmusic I see, thanks for clarifying. I'm an amateur musician and the thought of the "work" aspect of being a professional one seems daunting. How did you get over that?
@@spanzotab Ohh Yeah I definitely empathize. Music’s my whole life and I’ve put thousands of hours into it, but still felt like I wasn’t good enough. The biggest piece is being willing to try new things.
After I got laid off, I noticed on Indeed, etc. that there was a huge need for music teachers. That’s become 75% of my income, so if teaching doesn’t seem appealing, this part won’t apply to you.
That said, if you are *willing* to teach, you will be in insanely high demand. You don’t need to be an amazing player, or read music super well. Companies you contract with will handle all the payments, etc. you just schedule students, and show up at their house to teach. I also teach piano classes after school, also thru a company.
Outside of teaching, I’ve got:
-Gigs filling in for local bands/studios
-A Church where I play music (I’m not religious, but it’s a great gig)
-Another church who hired me as tech director just because I can run a digital sound board.
Being a full-time musician is all about being able to piece different jobs together.
But the pay per hour is GREAT ($65 for a one hour piano class. $30/half hour lessons, etc.)
So that’s the path I’m currently on.
Depending on the instrument you play, and your skill set, there are tons of other paths you could take yourself.
A great way to get started is to find some part time work in the side, that is really rewarding and pays well. Once you’ve broken into music work of any kind, connections and new gigs come really really fast.
This could be playing at a church on Sundays, teaching in the evenings, looking for local gigs on craigslist, working at a local studio, etc. Word of mouth has been crucial to everything I’m building.
I hope this was somewhat helpful.
I truly believe that if I can do it, with my social anxiety, and zero connections only a year and a half ago, literally anybody can.
@@charliekowittmusic Wow thank you, I'm screenshotting this. I think I'm probably in a similar boat that you were in when you decided to start, so this looks super helpful. I honestly would probably like teaching, but I'm self taught (guitar and drums) and don't know much theory and proper technique. I think I'm gonna give it a try this summer though, you make it sound pretty doable.
Many organization don't even take enough of an in interest in you to give you the hated performance review. They have you fill out a self evaluation or ask your coworkers to fill out a survey about your performance.
I’ve been at the same job for 12 years. 11 years in the same position. I make enough money to take care of me and my family. But I hate it. There’s no upper movement. But I’m terrified to lose it because I’m our only income. So I suffer it. Life has to be more than this. I’m just waiting to die at this point.
In my case I just work because I have to work, even though I don't like working.
What I'm starting to discover however, is that I just want life satisfaction, and my hobbies are more meaningful because I enjoy them more.
I need to find more meaning in work, otherwise my hobbies and desires take full control. I'm looking into dharma and karma and I'm already starting to see a path forward.
I thought I finished high school, but guess what, I am back again😢 dramas, endless gossips, backstabbing, fake friends, pretend to help people etc
I kept a job I hated for years, eventually I loved the job. Change of management made all the difference.
People are right to be afraid of quitting their job. Sometimes it can be YEARS or FOREVER before you get a similar job. Meanwhile your former boss will try to destroy you in some cases. You can be blacklisted in the industry only because you left.
Amen....we want to be appreciated
_Wanting_ to afford rent 😆 Still a good insight
It's interesting how this method of ego detachment is mirroring the advice of other more explicitly pro-worker sources that essentially say "don't work extra hard for the Chance at promotion don't burn yourself out for the accolades and silly little awards they'll give you, work exactly enough to clock in and clock out and make your paycheck without screwing yourself over long term" which is what Dr K's full video gets to: once you aren't attached to the job or your ego about the job you can make clearer decisions about Why you're there and whether you want to stay and how much effort you want to put in
All of this to say it's neat how different schools of thought come to the same conclusion
The reason I hate working:
I hate waking up so early in the morning.
Literally my alarm gives me PTSD.
If I could do the same job but wake up naturally and go to work when I’m ready, my perception of the world would be so great lol
I actually do enjoy what I do for a living. I just hate having to be beholden to the companies schedule.
Not working is unfulfilling, but when wages are stagnant and workers aren't respected anything starts to look better than where you are
When there are no good alternatives yet... I am just starting out on a marketing course and hope to get a more regular job in the future. For now, I will manage.
"When there are no good alternatives"... Americans can more easily imagine the end of the world than the end of capitalism lol. The alternative is socialism, among 5 major other options brother.
Keep going brother. You've got this.
Wanting not to be broke and lose your house
No mention of money? People are also attached to jobs because they need money to live right?
Therapists exists to help people adjust to the current system. He can't do that if he attacks the financial system.
@@sp123 @sp123 @sp123 I think that understanding the ways we're limited by a financial system can be helpful for adapting to it in a healthy way. Acknowledging that people work at least somewhat for money doesn't invalidate any of what he's saying it just adds additional context.
I can understand how this was just not the message he was trying to impart with this video though, which is reasonable, especially considering it's a short, and the stuff he mentioned may be more interesting because it's less obvious than saying people work for money. Or at least it resonates more with his audience.
I haven't seen the longer clip this appears to be cut from, but I would hope he at least mentions the monetary incentive in that version, it feels weird to me to talk about why people stick with shitty jobs and not mention money at all, since it's pretty clearly a huge factor.
Sadly my case is quite different. I don’t hate the job. My work is recognised and appreciated by my colleagues. But the way my manager is managing the work is horrendous. Negative output. Work shaming. Restricted interaction between colleagues. My colleagues and other managers are great. The company itself has great reputation. Just this particular manager who is making the work so difficult for everyone. That how can I even be proud of my extra work, when there is literally no output.
I just need to stop being attached to buying groceries and health insurance!
I got a part time job being a preloader at a large package shipping company. Drivers make 170k a year after 5 years. They usually promote preloaders to drivers internally. If I stay I'll be making 170k a year with incredible benefits. But man, I hate my job. And I'm pressured to keep it because I don't know what id do without it.
Nah, I only ever got jobs that no one else wanted. Why? Because I was undiagnosed autistic that masked so well that therapists didn't even pick up on it despite years and years of sessions.
I've yet to find a job that doesn't total my health and leave me a burnt out corpse. Then there's the "politics" in the office, they'll prevent you moving to another area when you're good at the job because it's less work for them.
The amount of colleagues I've seen who are so bad and constantly under review or having constructive feedback on the same thing constantly get jobs over me was so frustrating.
But now I know I'm AuDHD I can't find a job that I can do and still function outside of it.
And yes, zero appreciation, they expect YOU to be thankful to them for having a job and get snarky when asking for adequate compensation. Pizza lunches are a joke.
I don't mind working, it's the low pay and overtaxation to pay for those who won't/don't/can't work.
Best take here.
Small towns / cities, poor economy, and no family or significant others to rely on.
There are ways, that you are relatively powerless to change the situation.
I was in a place where my asshole Walmart job at 15/he was the highest paying job for entry level in my whole city of 5sq miles.
No car, and no family to help me. Thankfully I finally got out by getting help from my brother, came and picked me up even though he's risking his lease for me.
starting over anew career is way too difficult and a lot of times expensive
I apply to about 300 jobs a year, I get under 2 interviews per year. I have 4-5 resumes and test them systematically but I get so little feedback I can't do analysis on which ones work better. It's not exactly a choice to stay when you have no other options
I've always been passionate about not starving to death. But yeah i do have attachments myself
All these “attachments” is for people who got descent parents or family to fall back on.
you know the economic system might have something to do with it. a wild idea
Probably, but that's a bit too vague of an answer to actually be useful for people to act on to improve their situation.
I don't think Dr K is the genre of self help spirituality that says there is no such thing as society, he's coming at it from the same angle that socialists do which is "the worker still has to live day to day" he just isn't pushing towards a greater societal material change, which is what we're for
Fair enough, but for the 2nd part, there are situations when if you didn't score a new job quickly enough, you're getting deported.
like my current job. for 4 months i was being trained for a promotion because there was a spot that would open and management agreed that i was a good fit for it. the week before the spot opens one of our overnight managers decided they actually wanted the position. they pulled the rug right out from under me and gave it to them. to top it off, the main reason i wanted the position is because im sick of our kitchen manage being a toxic raging asshole to anyone she doesn't like. so now i do the bare minimum that i can get away with without getting fired. honestly its much less stressful now.
...wanting to pay rent.
Still applies
It's kind of hard to find a job that you'll genuinely enjoy 24/7 of the time you're doing. Similar to a partner in a relationship, you're not going to want to be with that person every single second of the day and 24/7, because you need your own time to grow and discover yourself as well.
There's bound to be some sort of low tides that comes with every job, because there's always goods and bad to these situations. Some people don't say anything because they're just there to work and get out so they can get paid and pay their bills. They don't want to start an unnecessary fight and go through all those other crap.
Money is what keeps us at our jobs…
I don't like my job because it does not fit my criteria of a dream career. Whereas, my current job only helps me pay my bills. My idea of a dream career would allow me to travel the world, make at least three figures, pay bills with no issues, be excited everday to go to my dream job, and have enough money to spend on myself.
I have a friend who won’t look for another job even though he hates his job, simply because his self esteem is so low he thinks he won’t be able to get another. I don’t think that’s attachment or ego
Appreciate a lot of your advice, but this one is mostly for upper class ppl and not understanding others' reality.
What I understood from this short is that it is good to remember that it may be possible to find better job than your current one and you can keep an eye on other jobs to have that option of quitting and choosing better alternative. It means don't be hopeless by thinking you will never have better opportunities
Very good points and clearly expressed. I realize a lot of my working life has been spent balancing a sort of apathetic response to my work and becoming too emotionally invested. I have to remind myself that I control my area and not everything going on around me.
I've been much happier though developing portable work skills and having the knowledge that I can bounce out of an unpleasant situation if it bothers me too much.
They pretend to pay us, so we pretend to work
It’s hard for me to relate to this, I hate my job in part because I was an a student in school, so many people had high expectations of me I did too. And here I am being overworked and not being paid enough to do a joyless job.
UNIONS! it helps boost almost all of these categories AND PAY
This is like toxic relationship
You love to feel rewarded for having something until it starts driving you mad. Now you want to get out of it, but the risk is far much greater if I leave now.
@@Danny328DT yeah because we investe soo much in to it, and if the other person doesn't investe as much as you did than you feel like stuck with her. But don't forget you always have option so say; No I won't do this anymore.
It's feeling disconnected and alone in an economic model where the working class is collectively owned by the ruling class
Well, that and fear/anxiety. You briefly mentioned people being afraid of the consequences - that for me would be absolutely the main thing. Financial stress is horrible.
It isn't the job, and it isn't the worker. It's the match thereof
I'm not afraid to quit my job I just need it to pay bills til I can work on RUclips and do DJ full time but it makes sense what Dr. K said
Who cares about recognition? I hate my job because I feel like a robot and its taking my life away
the whole stream was gold
I kinda realize that all i need is just enough money to put food on the table. I cant quit my job coz my family depends on me financially
I don't care about recognition and I don't work any harder than what is necessary to keep my job.
I still hate my job.
I just hate the people at my job and the work itself and low salary
I don't care about recognition. My previous job was killing me because it lacked: meaning.
I am an INFJ (MBTI) and I learned that if I don't do something that is meaningful I will never be fulfilled in a job no matter if I receive recognition or not.
User to work in retail before moving into mental health.
I love the algo and the Spyware listening to me. This is pushed to me today. So good
this resonates, thanks Dr. K
I don't want to be recognized at my job, bro 😅. That's the problem for me
Found the spy!
@@jonsmith590 ??
@@dread1262 Being recognized at your job as a spy. That would be a problem for you.
gotta work. have mouths to feed and student loans to pay off.
You can always increase your skill set and get a better job. I worked full time while I studied IT on my own time and pretty much can write my own ticket now..We have more resources than ever before with the internet. It won’t be easy and it will be grueling but anything worthwhile is very difficult. Too many people want to complain but they aren’t willing to bust their butts to develop/increase their skills. You can suffer for a couple of years and end it being much better off in the long run or you can sit and complain.
Facts and Truth!
No it's not attachment and ego, it's the wrong or shitty people who don't appreciate you and it's harsh reality of capitalistic society where you not finding another job may cost you life
Please link the video
well, or wanting that stable save income to start healing all the other traumas that piled up over the years. Its okay if the job isn't fun, sometimes its more important what you can do outside of work.
"Attachments and Ego are the things holding us back"
spoken like a true sigma male
I quitted my job because I felt incompetent, incapable and mistreated (costumer service + social anxiety) but before I did it I was so afraid that I wouldn't find another job or stopped trying to find it, and it came true ahaha I'm still jobless after 6 months and more depressed than ever, but it's on my ik
I'm afraid of not being accepted into another job. My luck has been lackluster. A few interviews, but then nothing or "we chose someone else." Not in a position to move either (no driver's license and I'm working on saving up). It's been worse with work becoming more toxic due to co-workers treating an employee like crap, the manager isn't helping, HR is out of the office until the 18th, and the monthly luncheons have a lot of complaining by the manager and lead with only some praise
This needs to be screamed from the rooftops for everyone to hear. This... shit... matters.
Could it be that we are alienated from our own labor by the extractive forces of capitalism? Could it be the undertow of knowing that profit and interest can not kept exponentially growing on a FINITE PLANET and that treating extraction from that planet as an externality is not sustainable?
Effort. That's the reason why I am so scared of finding a job. It's because I fear that I'll be treated badly for "not caring" or "being lazy" when I'm putting so much effort in trying to come there and do my best. It's really demoralizing.
Love the content . Keep it up ! 😊
Also: what the job pays, being able to survive so that you can afford to love the job. Financial independence is something every single person should be aiming for as well-that to me is more important that the recognition the politics, and the corporate bs
It's the pay. The pay. I don't care about anything else.
I don’t care about recognition at my job because I see it as a temporary place in my life. Somewhere that I will only be at temporarily and as soon as I can get out I’ll be out of there. I hate my job because it is insanely repetitive, the same thing every single day with no end. Also, standing all day hurts my legs and back. It also drains me mentally, although I have no choice but to use my willpower to continue working outside of work so that I can get out of there.
Also, if the company wanted to, and laws allowed for it, a robot could easily replace me. That’s how meaningless this job is.
Uhhh, we often hate the job because we get treated like crap, and don't leave because we don't wanna be homeless. I agree with most of your content, but this one just doesn't hit home for me.
Avoiding the economic impact I get but apply for other jobs. What is the gap between hating your job and not applying for new ones?
What really messed-up is that the ego will sometimes disguise attachments as values. "It's not like I'm attached to making my a$$hole boss change, I'm a paragon so it's your duty to make them change cause I value goodness."
Especially Retail jobs like Brandsmart.
I agree with this. I would rather be honest with myself and my writing career and the future careers I want to try.
Appreciation is a big one for me, but also my efforts feel lack luster meaning my skills aren’t being used for the greater good and at this point I’m trying to figure out how to do my own thing.
But the main driver for me is coworkers. I cannot stand people and their energy when stressed nevermind when it becomes hateful or political. It’s like I have to hide who I am to survive and HR gives no shits about stuff like this either… literally a few months back one of my coworkers was defending kayne and saying Jews control all the money… I don’t hate what I do as I’m in a creative art position, I just hate the company I work for and the morons I’m forced to be around. I am able to work hybrid but the days I go in fill me with such dread. I’ve been working on updating my portfolio to get the hell out because they can be quite toxic to work around. It crushes my soul.
Every job I go to my annoyance level is HIGH. 😂 this can’t be life.
There’s a bit of an unsubstantiated leap in there. It’s not so much attachment to appreciation &c (the top level of Maslow’s pyramid), it’s the lower levels, attachment to being able to feed, house and clothe yourself and your family.
Well it's really mostly wanting to pay my rent...
The real question is, what can we do about our ego and attachment when the logic is telling us to leave our job?
Yea I'm not scared to leave my job I just can't find another one at the moment. 😅
And the need for money. Money really is everything in this day and age, if you dont have much of it
I hate my job because I'm not respected. Ive been applying elsewhere but havent gotten any interviews yet. I don't know what to do.
No it's pay. That's mostly the deciding factor and time.
because I need to pay my rent more than I need to care about my job.
Fuck.. i just started my career and dont know how im going to do this for 45 years. Just doing the same thing every day is so soul sucking
Dr. K, I am a lonely person, bcz of my poor decision making and confusing, which often leads to arguments, while other classmates in college make quick decision efficiently.
So, how can I tackle this.
For e.g. if someone cheat from me in exam, I am confused, I am not able to take quick decision of how to answer them, still after copying the much marks (more than passing) of answe sheet they abuse me, if I don't allow, I got more trolled than others. while others still help them of rarely 5-6 marks which also wrong answers, they become friends.
Also if I just ask them back something, they start abusing say I didn't allow them to see my ans sheet( even I have shown him), but not in case with other person.
It's still one example which I faced today, I face many of them daily.
Like I am feeling excluded
But they talk so sweet to me during exams I feel paralyzed to not help them.
What if you're in a situation like me where i don't have another viable option for a job because i'm out in the middle of nowhere?
it's money dude , money
Also other reason which is my reason all the other shit but main one is underpaid and overworked tired of working for low pay just to have a hard time paying these damn bills and you keep asking for a raise and it’s like they keep ignoring you
Im going through this ATM. I haven't been to work in over a week. I think it's mainly the boring part, idk what to do... I will probably be terminated soon.
My job is physically demanding and it's starting to wear me down after 10 years. I'd love to quit. Just don't know what I'd do if I did.
I thought picking a job as a dishwasher was easy until I went into the worst shifts of my life I mean sure it was like 3 to 4 days a week the most hours go to at least 4 and the max is 6 hours sense I was only part time but Jesus the conditions of my work stations were so awful due to lack of maintenance and how it was built that sometimes I just wanted to walk out because I knew I was gonna take longer because that shit was awful. Now only that but the job had more responsibilities then needed I was in charge bringing up dishes on two to three floors every shift but what’s worse is they were heavy and we never had an elevator.
And for some fucking reason they had me and other dish washers bring down supplies and set up buffets or even bring out the bags of dirty table covers or towels in the end of our shift. And what’s worse is the after the party we were in charge of dismantling all the buffets stations and once everyone left which took them 45 to 30 minutes drunk people are usually stubborn. God we had to wait almost an hour to hour and 30 minutes until we got to our port. Never work on a boat or cruise again
I just hate my job because the pay sucks. Otherwise it's fine.