Stuck in Small Talk? Try These Communication Techniques to Win them Over | Matt Abrahams

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  • Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025

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  • @raragirly
    @raragirly Год назад +8

    Great insight. Great conversation. Thank you for this. Some real nuggets there.❤

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  11 месяцев назад +1

      Agree! I love the frameworks, so helpful

  • @hjtam88
    @hjtam88 6 месяцев назад +14

    Charisma -
    1) Mindset (Anxiety)
    i) Symptoms - Deep Breathing - exhale twice as long as inhale / hold something cold /
    ii)Sources - Worrying about the future consequences - Get present oriented (exercise, listen to song etc)

    2) Messaging
    i) Focus, don't discover what you want to say as you are saying it, have a structure
    ii) Structure - What? So What? Now What?
    iii) What do my audience want to hear? (Audience Centric - what is important to them?)
    iV) What if you could.... So that....For example.... and that is not all....
    eg, What is the value of your podcast?

    WHAT if you could "learn important valuable immediately useful communication skills"
    So that "you can improve how you come across in any situation, be it a pitch, a presentation or a conversation"
    For example "you will learn skills about how to manage anxiety as well as how to be engaging"
    and that is not all "you will hear leading experts and Stanford professors to learn the latest and greatest communication tools"
    3) Practice, Practice and Practice
    W - Why are we here?
    H - How you are connected?
    A - Anecdote - Story
    T- Thank you

  • @DJSC5618
    @DJSC5618 6 месяцев назад +14

    Amazing 4 sentence starters :
    26:25
    ✅️What if you could..
    ✅️So that..
    ✅️For example..
    ✅️And that's not all..
    🎉❤

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  5 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks for tagging. Love that framework too.

    • @DJSC5618
      @DJSC5618 4 месяца назад

      @@ChaseJarvis thank you 😀⭐️ I subscribed to your channel 🥳

  • @DJSC5618
    @DJSC5618 6 месяцев назад +10

    Thank you for giving the W.H.A.T acronym as structure in giving a Toast like in a wedding 🥰
    Why are we here.
    How are we connected.
    Anecdote that is relevant.
    Thanks message and invite all to cheers 🥳

  • @geidicalcagno
    @geidicalcagno 8 месяцев назад +16

    I'm Thirsty of a good and healthy conversation. Thanks God l found you. English is not my first language, but l love to speak in English.
    My dream is to live in a neighborhood where people speak English only...l love the snow in Christmas. I was born in D.R. l would love to return to school, but sometimes lm afraid of loans long term.
    Thanks you for giving me the ideas to settle a good conversation...GOING ON A SMALL TALK. Thanks be to God that l work in a place where they speak in sometimes.
    I'm thinking to move up north Florida maybe there l find more English speakers.
    I love your accent 😍 Blessings 🙌

  • @lucyingles6644
    @lucyingles6644 6 месяцев назад +6

    Glad I came across this podcast. Found a diamond 💎 Every speaker , confident or not do feel fear , anxious and nervous. Thankyou Chase.

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  5 месяцев назад +2

      Appreciate it Lucy. Glad you found this too!

  • @BLOOMwithANSA
    @BLOOMwithANSA 6 месяцев назад +5

    The most important steps when it comes to focused public speaking is:
    - Being Audience Centric: Say what your audience wants to hear not what you have to say.
    - Structure to achieve focus: Be concise, get your audience excited about what you do and then go deeper into it.
    - Structure Prompts: What if you could ........., So that........., for example.........,and that's not all.........

  • @canadianhappyinitalytruest6556
    @canadianhappyinitalytruest6556 8 месяцев назад +64

    This interview is single-handedly helping my children’s report cards! (Here in Italy they do a LOT of “talk to me about …” for exams, starting in grade 2!!

  • @iamarchon3542
    @iamarchon3542 27 дней назад

    Excellent work

  • @AbiolaEpebinu
    @AbiolaEpebinu 8 месяцев назад +8

    Learning about communication is a step by step process

  • @Nurudeensalihu-wv4wh
    @Nurudeensalihu-wv4wh 6 месяцев назад +2

    Nice watching and listening to you Matt Abrahams

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  6 месяцев назад

      Thanks for watching! Really loved this one as well.

  • @mintodih3905
    @mintodih3905 4 месяца назад

    Your podcast is opened my mind to practice short stories. Thank a lot.

  • @putrinoorafedahbintimega-du9jw
    @putrinoorafedahbintimega-du9jw 7 месяцев назад +1

    Really enjoyed this podcast 👍 Thanks Chase and Matt

  • @Gracely28
    @Gracely28 8 месяцев назад +17

    Insightful. I think the video contains more than Small talk like how to make a Toast, how to demonstrate emotional intelligence, and communication structures, to mention but a few. Thank you.

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  8 месяцев назад +1

      True true!

    • @mohamedtarchouli4556
      @mohamedtarchouli4556 6 месяцев назад

      😊0😊😊😊0😊😊😊😊😊00😊😊😊000⁰0000😊٠٠٠٠٠٠ج٠٠😊٠٠٠00ث

  • @LeiLow07
    @LeiLow07 3 месяца назад

    His Tedx really made an impact when I first heard it and I watched it again and again. I enjoyed it and love this conversation sharing more of his expertise to all. Thank you, Matt and Chase! Superb!

  • @miriamsuarez9543
    @miriamsuarez9543 8 месяцев назад +2

    I love it
    Great interview
    I even got tips for a Waiting speech👌

  • @michellehenry9228
    @michellehenry9228 4 месяца назад

    Thank you this was such a brilliant podcast, I really struggle with public speaking and having to speak up on the spot, I am going to try some of these strategies

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  4 месяца назад +1

      Yes! It will feel awkward at first, but practice makes perfect 👍🏼

  • @DJSC5618
    @DJSC5618 6 месяцев назад

    52:45 thank you for being the big proponent of Toastmasters - Table Topics 🥰 Spontaneous Speaking

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  6 месяцев назад

      Agreed. 💯 Such a powerful resource!

  • @lepalamangie6821
    @lepalamangie6821 7 месяцев назад

    I love this conversation so much!!!❤

  • @DewiiAljoe
    @DewiiAljoe 5 месяцев назад

    Great information Thanks for Sharing

  • @arjungiri231
    @arjungiri231 9 месяцев назад +2

    Superb how come so less viewers of this so insightful conversation. Love from Nepal

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  8 месяцев назад

      A hidden gem for sure. Glad you were able to find it.

  • @kumag2008
    @kumag2008 7 месяцев назад

    love this 🤩Thanks both for sharing this video..

  • @santodejesus3012
    @santodejesus3012 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks for your advice Sir

  • @sharmsd9151
    @sharmsd9151 7 месяцев назад

    Gobsmacked! Love the talk.
    Intend to get the book and learn more. Perhaps do an online course if one is offered?..thank you so much

  • @saankamala547
    @saankamala547 9 месяцев назад

    Really revealing!!! I feel comfi more aftr a unplanned speach than a planned one.. If i try to remmbr smthing during speach i feel diffident..
    Thanks a lot fr those structures.. I connect ideas through eg of progressive evolving of ideas.. But this is better ways giving foothold into the topic.. 👍🏼👍🏼

  • @gokulakrishnanks
    @gokulakrishnanks 8 месяцев назад +4

    It was a great podcast with Matt, it is such high-quality frameworks, and ideas that helped and will help me soon for my career growth. Thanks, Chase Jarvis for this gem.

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  8 месяцев назад +1

      Glad you enjoyed it!

    • @dorisobiyo7030
      @dorisobiyo7030 8 месяцев назад

      Very insightful. Thank you sir.

  • @juancarlosgonzalezsanchez7586
    @juancarlosgonzalezsanchez7586 4 месяца назад

    I love it. Thank you

  • @jacksonamaral329
    @jacksonamaral329 7 месяцев назад

    Great. Watching from Brazil.

  • @ryanli721
    @ryanli721 7 месяцев назад

    Huge and sincere thnx to u, i've always been a nervous speaker, when i was asked to do a report to my boss in front of a bunch of people, it has always been difficult for me, sometimes i was so nervous that i cant even speak a word or apeak with tremble, it make me really feel awkward😢😢, hope ur tips could help me out. Thnx against

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  6 месяцев назад

      you're not alone! keep practicing ❤️

  • @HR2-2024
    @HR2-2024 5 месяцев назад

    Amazing interview

  • @santodejesus3012
    @santodejesus3012 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks for your advice great

  • @iandavis6952
    @iandavis6952 7 месяцев назад

    I'm teaching a young class for the first time tomorrow in Czech about my country of Scotland. I really want to overcome everything and be natural

  • @jeremyadinugraha9448
    @jeremyadinugraha9448 5 месяцев назад

    Really help me alot
    Thankyou..

  • @julesmercellus8605
    @julesmercellus8605 8 месяцев назад +1

    Good job Ed!!!

    • @judith7661
      @judith7661 8 месяцев назад

      I'D LIKE TO WATCH THIS VIDEO BUT I HAVE NO IDEA THE LENGTH OF IT AND I'M SHORT OF TIME

  • @ralphpeters4888
    @ralphpeters4888 8 месяцев назад

    Perfected the ten minute question 😮

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  8 месяцев назад

      😂 heard.

    • @alidavidmajiedt3844
      @alidavidmajiedt3844 7 месяцев назад

      Thanks for the tips ,I can grow here ,with boardpacks the lot...🤝

  • @NiloPalermo-q2d
    @NiloPalermo-q2d 8 месяцев назад

    I like the way you talk and think

  • @tamarunitamaruni4724
    @tamarunitamaruni4724 8 месяцев назад +4

    DEAR CHASE!!! YOU ASK THE BESTEST AND MOST HELPFUL QUESTIONS!!! ▪︎▪︎◇ HOW do you DO that!!!!?!?!? Wow..! Your QUESTIONS are incrEDibly acerbic!!! And helpful!!+

  • @centralam9784
    @centralam9784 9 месяцев назад

    THANKS CHASE, subscibed, appreciate the guest as well, THANKS MATT

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  8 месяцев назад

      Appreciate it! 🙌🏼🙌🏼

  • @beatricetaylor8778
    @beatricetaylor8778 7 месяцев назад +2

    I speak in the state legislature at our capitol on issues like executions, sex trafficking and domestic violence. Law professors critique my final words, then I am questioned by the legislature. I really need to use your tools. Thank you.

  • @diegoHernanGuevara
    @diegoHernanGuevara 8 месяцев назад

    Thank you from Colombia. Good video

  • @anniewang197
    @anniewang197 8 месяцев назад +1

    Excellent video! I used to be confident with my public speaking abilities, following what , now what , so what structure. But recently I am losing confidence in my ability to speak in front of people, then I become self conscious and withdraw. How do you overcome this setback?

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  8 месяцев назад +1

      Matt talks a bit about this in the show. Start around 7:43. He gets into some ways to manage symptoms of speaking anxiety starting around 13:41. Also, if you're really interested in overcoming it, you might want to check out his book on the topic "Speaking Up without Freaking Out" Hope that helps!

  • @SajidaParveen-qh7bo
    @SajidaParveen-qh7bo 5 месяцев назад

    Amazing

  • @pepito7995
    @pepito7995 4 месяца назад +3

    If your language is originally in English so it's easy for you to talk in English than those who are just learning your language. If it's hard for you to talk it is because your confidence is not that strong.

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  4 месяца назад +1

      True true. It's a skill, like any other. Practice required. 😅

  • @sumahomes-i4i
    @sumahomes-i4i Месяц назад

    Do you recommend, learning public speaking for 5 minutes and then increase? what is your thought. I know the stuff,but mind becomes blank in public. where do we get the stage for practice

  • @ipamulihanofficial3062
    @ipamulihanofficial3062 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this podcast, it's really useful for me.

  • @BeALeader-PersonalBranding
    @BeALeader-PersonalBranding 7 месяцев назад +3

    Great convo. In my ‘Leadership and Personal Branding’ podcast, I help people prepare by asking them two self-discovery questions, and interview them in a spontaneous, conversational dialogue to inspire them to lead the way with their unique personal brand story.

  • @DewiiAljoe
    @DewiiAljoe 5 месяцев назад +3

    Doing a Replay

  • @DJSC5618
    @DJSC5618 8 месяцев назад +1

    Watchin learnin May 23, 2024 ❤🎉

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  8 месяцев назад

      🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

  • @START_TALKING
    @START_TALKING 4 месяца назад

    Great ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @نغمعبدالكريم-خ8ض
    @نغمعبدالكريم-خ8ض 8 месяцев назад

    Carisma is also related to attitude in my openion

  • @dr.franciscanishatotalheal
    @dr.franciscanishatotalheal 7 месяцев назад +2

    Write the main points of our communication to focus and thus speak to the point.

  • @mohammadatikhassan6651
    @mohammadatikhassan6651 7 месяцев назад

    nice video

  • @KUNOBEJUSTINE-uo3my
    @KUNOBEJUSTINE-uo3my 7 месяцев назад

    How you get a topic organised ,ready for a speech.

  • @khanhle7356
    @khanhle7356 5 месяцев назад

  • @RubyFajardo-me1ez
    @RubyFajardo-me1ez 7 месяцев назад

    Hi!im mumbling cause of Parkinson disease can u tell me how to fix my speaking fluenty

  • @Byyaroff
    @Byyaroff 8 месяцев назад

    Where is the podcast? Is it his RUclips channel?

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  8 месяцев назад

      This is the full episode. If you want the audio version, you can find it here: chasejarvis.lnk.to/MattAbrahams

    • @Byyaroff
      @Byyaroff 8 месяцев назад

      @@ChaseJarvis thank you!

  • @Anita-zi2su
    @Anita-zi2su 5 месяцев назад

    I just learnt that pèople whò talk to much and not listen are nervous
    What to do?

  • @2024Dersler
    @2024Dersler 7 месяцев назад

    i am confused what was 4 prompst to get important and valuable

  • @udomthammawong5305
    @udomthammawong5305 8 месяцев назад

    I try to underland what all of you consation

  • @JoHaile-n7y
    @JoHaile-n7y 8 месяцев назад +2

    Well done! If there was subtitles for every Words you speaking, it could have improved accent & spelling capacities..

    • @heatherpioch257
      @heatherpioch257 5 месяцев назад +1

      You can turn on subtitles (closed captioning)! Click on the CC in the upper right hand corner of your screen.

  • @joyelliott3192
    @joyelliott3192 8 месяцев назад

    Good interview but I turned playback speed to 1.5

    • @ChaseJarvis
      @ChaseJarvis  8 месяцев назад +2

      All good my friend. Do what you gotta do. 👍🏼👍🏼

  • @annawilson3824
    @annawilson3824 7 месяцев назад

    36:08

  • @starrsteele1340
    @starrsteele1340 8 месяцев назад +3

    Don't use pornography, not all of us are into it❤

  • @fatmadia260
    @fatmadia260 3 месяца назад +1

    I don’t like the way Chase is talking and asking questions. He is not clear and very confusing . His questions are too long .
    Sorry

  • @subrahmanianpallath9176
    @subrahmanianpallath9176 4 месяца назад

    Spontaneously, please do not repeat a word several times

  • @aswinikarri8796
    @aswinikarri8796 6 месяцев назад

    What , so what, now what concept is it's true...

  • @MODULARFREQtv
    @MODULARFREQtv 8 месяцев назад

    🤍

  • @CankhanhLieu-k3m
    @CankhanhLieu-k3m 5 месяцев назад

    8u

  • @aspirefox98
    @aspirefox98 4 месяца назад

    23:31 @Rashidun