“Blood is thicker than the water of the womb”, it was referring to the blood shed on the battlefield from souldiers and how they were brothers. People have completely manipulated that quote out of context, it literally means the opposite to what they think.
I did not invite my mother to my wedding because she ruined every other memorable day of my life (birthdays, graduations, etc). She could not stand seeing me happy and not feel like she was the reason for my happiness. I haven't talked to her for over a decade and my life has been so much simpler and less toxic. Best decision in my life to cut her out.
I have a mother who was immature and rejecting as well as emotionally and physically abusive. I haven't spoken to her in almost 3 months and honestly I don't miss her. Sometimes I feel so jealous of people who are close to their mother. I never felt that. It's difficult to feel like you are worthy of love when your own mother didn't love you.
Same here not seen my mum in about 2 years. I feel so much better now. And when I feel guilty I usually have nightmares about the shit she put me through. When I wake up the guilt is completely gone lmao 😂 so hang in there it’s worth it ❤️
I have the same feeling. I used to get jealous of other girls who were close to their moms. But then I also realized there is a super power in not needing your mom and a strong personality trait that comes along w not being able to lean on your mom. Also I know these girls who love and lean on their moms so much their worlds collapse when their moms are no longer w them on earth and I know that’s something I probably won’t go through. So at least there’s a plus side to not being close with your mom. It’s dark but true
Jayden saying that it hurt him to watch his mother favor him over his beloved little brother broke my heart, but Brittney chewing him out and prettifying him for what? needing to be cared for? that made m blood boil. It is the job of parents to do hard things to meat their children's needs, NOT the job of children to do hard things for their parents fun and happiness.
@@Goingby20s the boys are 15 and 16 yr old. Kids dont have a great care about money. Wat do u think of them? Some mafia? Glad they were raised by kevin
I agree with you 💯 I lost any drop of sympathy I had for Britney when she announced that recent pregnancy and went on a manic rant about "finally" being able to be a mom...I felt terrible for her sons who have suffered by enduring her embarrassing bs.
@Tiff Prendergast It is her fault if the reason for her manic rant (or her other problematic behaviour) is because she is not taking her medication. Mental illness may explain her behaviour but it doesn't excuse it.
Also I 100% agree with you, Britney feud with her teenager sons is absolutely insane. The fact that her priority is her new husband is crazy, considering that he also didn’t do anything to help her when she was under the conservatorship and he’s the one that’s banking the most, she keeps blaming everyone but him and that instagram post that she made to Jayden is so mean, Jenettes mom vibes tbh.
When your kids say they hope you get better because they need you, and your response is YOU need unconditional love?…… Wow you can’t make this up. I’m honestly surprised Britney could be so cold towards her own kids after this whole narrative of “I just want to see my babies” for the past decade
And her crying “I just wanna see my boys!!!!” When she was in the conservatorship is now almost a joke because she’s free and doesn’t even see them lmao
She’s still their authority figure. They can ask for some things but I don’t think they can tell her what to post. Their dad is shit too. Typical family.
@Juan Rosario BS .....In 2008 Britney was a BiPolar, Junkie. PopStar who endangered her kids lives while high on meth..... That's right .......and the only thing that traumatized her is coming down off that freaking high while being in rehab during the Conservatorship .........The realization of some of her actions is too hard for her to come to grips with because guess, what it is too traumatizing for her. ....so she stay in an altered state of mind....and blame everybody else for her poor shitty ass choices she chose for her own life...... I didn't like Conservatorship at all but I do see in the Beginning where it did save her life......Britney probably would not have survived a 2nd overdose .....
@@britneys4608 no we don’t need to lover her children and she doesn’t owe them anything, if they’re so blind to see what was going on and what is going on they should go fu** themselves and so should you.
@Juan Rosario Are you forgetting she drive with her infant son in her lap and was caught driving with one of them in the car seat facing frontwards with no support and slouching over. Or her hitting up the clubs with Paris and Lindsay with her coochie out like she didn’t have children? This was all before the conservatorship. Point being a judge looked at her and deemed her to be an unfit mother and a danger to her children when the courts usually side with the mother in a majority of custody cases. I’m not saying her conservatorship was handled correctly at all, and I’m not denying that she was exploited, but what I am saying is that she exhibited unwell behavior and made very questionable decisions long before the conservatorship which is what led to the concept of her being under one in the first place. 2007 alone prices she was not capable of taking proper care of herself let alone 2 young children. It’s a miracle those boys are even alive.
To call out your own kids publicly on your platform of millions is insane. I can’t believe people are rallying behind her. Not everything needs to be on the internet.
Went no contact with my mother and as a consequence, most of my family, at the age of 26. Wasn't an easy decision, but it was an inevitable one. There was nothing else left to do to stop spiraling into the deepest depression and despair. And only after that I count my life has truly started. I was a victim before, because I knew the situation was extremely unfair, but I still was in this game. Once I made that decision that made me a monster I society's eyes and eyes of many people I know, no matter how much it hurt, I never felt victimized again. I made a decision for myself, I knew the consequences, and I chose them freely. The toughest, the most heartbreaking decision, but at the same time the best and the most empowering one. Now I do feel bad sometimes when I realise I lack something significant and important. But at the same time, I have a freedom that few people have, for that very reason.
it is really hard to not get reactive when your parent is again throwing a temper tantrum, ruining everyone’s mood because they can’t regulate their emotions like every other adult is supposed to do. not engaging, not taking it personally and letting it affect you must be one of the most difficult things to do. also engaging in the codependent thought spiral „why are they like that? why can’t they be normal?“ because they will never change and it’s just a waste of time. it is so hard to divorce yourself from that „compulsion“.
This is exactly like my daughter’s dad. And I’m so worried she will feel this way when she grows up. Trying to figure out why he is the way he is instead of just living her life (like I’ve done the past half decade. I’ve wasted so much time on him.) Accepting that he’s just immature, emotionally distant or emotionally explosive (there’s no in between), and VERY abusive and is only going to get worse as time goes on because he refuses help has honestly been very freeing. All I can do for now is keep her distant from his behavior until she’s old enough to decide for herself, but be honest with her about why. Brittany’s sons are old enough to decide for themselves now, to see through a clearer lens. They are smart and making the best decision for themselves. And maybe she is speaking some truth about their father, but the kids are going to want to stay with someone who seems more mentally sane. Bottom line.
I have the same feelings with my own mother. It's hard. I'm trying to be better at walking away and not give in because she wants a reaction. But it is super difficult when she's throwing verbal blows as me. I think knowing I cave reason with her and she wants me to fight with her so she can be a victim. That helps me
My cousin wanted a baby so bad and once she had him not 2 years later she had a mental breakdown and I’ve been raising him since 2. He’s almost 8. Trust ppl who says they want kids don’t always end up being a good parent. A lot of ppl are fine abandoning their kids. It’s really sick and sad…
Shallon! As a daughter of two narcissistic parents, from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU for this video. I would say this is the first video of yours that really moved me and resonated with me. It’s been six months since I’m going to therapy until I finally undertood that I cannot change them, but I can change how I feel and react towards their actions and be stronger everyday. Greetings from Colombia❤
I agree with this woman. A mother who loves her children are patient and waiting for the adolescent stage to end. It sounds like the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. If Britney really wants to learn to grow from her parents's mistakes then she needs to take responsibility from her own actions. If she wanted her kids to be more respectful she should have never been with kevin. That man was bad news too. Also, parents push their kids away first not the other way around. If she has a real bond with them they would never complain about her. They were taught at a early age that money is important so that is exactly what they are leaning on.
I have a toxic ex drug addict mother. Even without the drugs she’s a narcissist but all family sees is she’s a ‘hero’ for not relapsing and is ‘suffering’ with awful ungrateful adult children. They don’t see how selfish, rude, grandiose and arrogant she is or the crap she put us through as kids.
Stay no contact. Or at least keep your guard all the way up if you can't avoid her. They don't change. They are users and they will justify their awful behavior any way they can and play the victim. I hate the guilt tripping family does. Pour into people that pour into you.
I feel for Britney, but also her sons. It's one thing to discipline your kids in private in whatever parenting style you have--it's another story if you're posting about your own troubled sons on social media for your legions of fans to see. I get it, she needs to vent, and feels sad about her relationship with the kids--but it also encourages a bad rep on her kids who are still teens. She kind of concluded her sons hate her when they probably needed some time to feel comfortable around her again. Calling out her sons on social media probably isn't a good way to deal with things. I hope Brit gets the help and guidance she needs. My mom talked badly about me to her friends when I was a kid and it encouraged me to just become more rebellious. Shaming people to teach them a lesson doesnt really work.
Finally someone else said it! The conservatorship (as it was with her father in charge) was pretty bad, but Britney is clearly not well and needs help that she currently isn’t getting. Plus for the people around her, like her husband for example, it is in their best interest not to see her get well. She speaks about “unconditional love” but she fails to realize that the people who truly love her, want to see her well. The people who don’t, want to keep her as is.
they all abandoned her in a mental hospital lived off her money and only “cared” when she had full control of her finances . it’s deeper than what people think
If posting your nipples-covered nudes means she needs help, then why don't any of you say that so many other women in her line of work 'need help'? She has done nothing to warrant people thinking she needs help atm. Shallon, let's be honest, took medication to become thinner, and she keeps getting thinner, and thinner, to the point that she looks anorexic, is anyone gonna say that she needs help? Because Shallon atm is showing more signs of 'needing help' than Britney Spears atm. Anorexia is a problem, abuse of weight-loss pills is a problem. Posting your implied nudes on instagram does not signify any kind of mental illness at all.
That letter about the mom sounds like my journal. It’s heartbreaking, but it’s worse to stick around and suffer the abuse. That’s what I’ve learned. You’re better off without that, because it brings you pain and confusion about what’s right and wrong about everything you do, at least for me I still over analyze everything and I have to stop myself. You will be better off without that voice of negativity.
Shallon, I honestly could not wait for you to make a video about this. I feel so alone in the way I view things and knowing there are still people with rational viewpoints out there is comforting. When Kfed released the videos of her attacking her boys, I foolishly thought it would open the minds of the Free Britney fanatics to her behavior. All they did was rip Kevin apart and her attack her minor sons. In the videos, she makes a comment saying, "you're older now and it's weird". This is a comment that a woman makes when She has not been a frequent presence in her childs lives and every time she reappears, they are older and it is jarring for her. The other video snarling through her teeth about it being her house was giving Mommie Dearest, yet the fanatics said oh she's being a REAL mom with discipline. Discipline why? Because these boys have NEVER been in the media for anything negative. They don't seem to be rebellious or spoiled. When I saw the 60 Minutes interview it broke my heart. When I saw I think Jayden sitting at the piano, playing and talking about wanting his mom to get better and be around, it killed me. There was so much pain in that beautiful boy's eyes, who btw has his mother's whole face. Not only that, but here he is obviously with the musical talent and interest his mother has, with no mother around. When she is around, well, we've got an insight to how she acts. Everyone wants to use the card that they want money. Why are they living modest lives then. Her anger and her die-hard Free Britney stans anger is so displaced and I can only hope once the smoke dies down from the conservatorship being over, she realizes this and gets in those boy's lives. She made comments about how her son always plays the piano like she was making fun of him. Why don't you play the piano with him or at least include yourself and cultivate the musical interest he inherited from you like a mother would and should? I thought once the conservatorship ended, she would clean herself up, since she said her looks were because they would not allow her to do beauty treatments. She still has the same bad extensions, smudged makeup and tiny outfits that barely fit. It is rational for her boys to be hurt and embarrassed seeing her parade around like that and also marry this much younger man that obviously is riding off her fame. If anything, Sam should have left with the end of her conservatorship! At her age now I wonder if it's too late. She will probably never change. It's sad to see because I was a massive Britney fan growing up. I understand it's hard to admit, as a woman, that motherhood was harder than you thought it would be and maybe you struggled to take to it. The mental health issues she has makes that hard. Overall, a sad situation and I just wish her boys could see a video like this and know there are people out there that are still rational and use common sense and are on their sides.
I don't know why people are attacking those boys. I feel really sorry for them, they didn't ask to be born into this family... People expect the 15 and 16 yo boys to be more understanding and mature than their 40yo parents
My mother has been the victim our whole life. I’m getting married at the court house on 2 months and I asked my mom if she would like to be present at one of the most important moments of my life and she said no.
Why? Did she feel she had to protect herself from other family members who she feels are a threat? Maybe you two can carve out some special time away that is just your own-
Your mom is immature. I bet if you didn’t ask her to be there she would’ve victimized herself for not being invited 🙄 i feel for you. Hang in there. It may not feel like it right now, but your day will probably be better without her selfishness
I was abandoned/rejected by my Dad. He actually has a mental illness. He cheated on my mum and moved to Thailand when I was 16. Didn’t see or hear from him for 13 years. It was hard to wrap my head around it. None of my family discussed anything. I have reparented myself and I have done alot lot of work on myself which has helped a lot. I believe he did me a favour not being in my life now and I see it as a blessing not a loss. It’s made me resilient and strong. It did suck but he has to carry that... I don’t. Ive had myself and loved myself. I am disgusted in Britney Spears… Why have kids if you treat them like this.
It's soooo refreshing someone on internet to have a reasonable take on this situation... Britney Spears is not in her right mind (in my opinion since 2005 ish) and whoever is cheering her up for her actions doesn't do her well...
She is not but why... who pushed her, raised her, abused her? Who benefited off her? Then she ran to the arm of KFed, bore 2 sons, and ended up insane. Shesnot perfect, shes sick, if it were not fir the money they all would be trailer thrash. But constantly shaming her brings nothing. She needs medication and therapy and good friends. I doubt asghari or new kid would do more good than harm. I see her ending up in similar way michael, whitney, elvis ended...
@@miriamchalmovianska863 it’s not Kevin’s fault. And Kevin grew up and became a very decent parent. Those boys are thriving and seem so incredibly happy and that’s because of Kevin. He is a very good father. Very good. You’re victimizing her like she wants so she doesn’t have to be accountable.
I was just reading her instagram posts the other day and was so surprised to see the support and praise she got for it, even from some public figures. I've also listened to the full recording of her court deposition and it broke my heart. It seems as though something that started off in good will (her family desperately trying to stop her downwards spiral) seamlessly turned into power play and just using her as a cashcow. She is totaly entitled to feel wronged and angry. But then hearing how she talked to her sons made me just sigh with disappointment - she is merely perpetuating the story, imposing on them the same unfair treatment that she experienced herself. In no world it is ok for a child's emotional and mental health to be publicly put in his place and have his father publicly humilitated by his own mom, who has now turned her instagram account into her personal issue of playboy magazine (really, is this what she was missing out on all along?) I totally resonated with the kid's reaction. The fact that she is so far removed from the tenderness and the warmth such a relationship can have (possibly because she herself didn't experience it growing up) is just saddening. It's how generational trauma is perpetuated.
@Juan Rosario I haven't read anything defamatory that her sons declared. And her ex's toxic behavior, who was not even the subject of my comment, does not excuse her own.
@Juan Rosario she can express herself freely, of course, but as the saying goes, your freedom ends where mine begins. She can very well share her story without patronizing her kids and shaming their father over IG rants that could just as well be PRIVATE messages, if her true goal is just to set things straight with them. And getting praise for those rants is not doing her any good. There's also a couple of recordings where she's demonstrating a parenting style similar to the one she condemned her father for, which shows just how blindsided she is as to why her kids have grown appart from her. She certainly needs support, but that does not mean mindlessly clapping at any crap she puts out there. Being a victim doesn't entitle you to perpetuate crappy behavior. Unfortunately, her needs seem to have been ignored and she has been abused for so long that she is probably not in a good place to take any more advice or accept any form of help without feeling slighted and suspicious. Hopefullly, when and IF her wound heals, she'll see things more clearly.
Did you miss how it was Kevin Federline and his goldigger wife who brought the kids publically? She was not speaking publically about them, K. Federline did and she had to address them. Go ahead, google is your friend. I swear people who are against Britney are zero informed or just too lazy to google.
@@alla7572 You mean, she had to because Kevin Federline trash her and used her kids in 60 minutes Australia? And you think SHE is the one who exposed her with the vile shit K. Federline made her kids said. He only is comong out because she won't have his child support ticket.
@Juan Rosario we can talk about Britney without mentioning Kevin. The only time people bring his irrelevant ass up is to defend Britney and justify her being a horrible mother.
The mental health stigma card is amazing when everyone is raking their brains, obsessing over themselves until they can self diagnose at least 3 mental illnesses. For those that lack creativity, we got you: anxiety.
I noticed it's usually parents with money who behave this way. I 100% have gotten stuff like "you have this because of me!" referring to expensive stuff I've had. It drives me nuts! Do I have to be remonded a doctor has more than I do? But it's the constant reminder
I think most kids get either love or material things from parents, lucky ones get both:)) My mom was very distant while l was growing up and she tried to substitute the lack of attention and love with material gifts. I have learned to accept it and expect it because that was all l could get from her. It is definitely a parent’s responsibility to show love and try to understand their kids.
@Marija that isn't so amazing what you dealt with :( but it seems like parents with money brush everything aside with their $ and it's very odd/annoying. Unless the money makes up for it, I guess but absent parents aren't the most amazing
I really like your take on this, Shallon. I see so many of her protesting advocates give her crazy ass videos the side eye, essentially calling her mentally unwell without actually admitting it. I have to agree with your assessment on everything really. I definitely don't think her parents are good people but like you said it's not mutually exclusive that this makes her all good either. I feel a lot sorrier for her sister now too because I'd really not heard much of hrr story other than her getting pregnant so young
Very insightful commentary about everything you touched on, as always. I have always struggled to understand my mother, and it's like a light bulb turned on when you said children are hardwired to love their parents, but not the other way around. Things make so much more sense. That is such helpful insight. Thank you.
This really is sad, she just seems to be making up for lost time. Is it fair to expect there to be no fallout? I think she wasn't well going into the conservatorship, and that only aggravated her issues. Instead of getting real help, she was exploited for years. I think it's gonna take a couple of years for get a grip on her mental health.
I dont think she is gonna get better because britney ha said there is nothing wrong with her, how isnshe gonna work in her mental health if she thinks there isn't a problem?? And what is her husband doing?
This is tragic for her sons. I was a parentified child. I remember when my mom finally got more stable and just being overjoyed to spend time dancing to music in the kitchen. It wasn't about money it was about having the ability to share joyful moments all together. Brittany NEEDS help for the rest of her life. She got messed up at an early developmental age and it's not something she's actively trying to fix. She feels entitled to a gorgeous life. Jesus got crucified!! She has a warped since of magical thinking to her benefit, in her mind. It's sad that her kids have to go through it and to intentionally make another one.... It's beyond irresponsible.
Really enjoyed this video. I feel your passion. Thank you for advocating for all the children out there who have crap parents. This was informative, balanced and spot on.
I met this awesome guy about a month or two ago. He’s 4 years older then me. I’m 18, he’s 22. We both go to the same University. I met him at a country dancing event. He was such a sweet guy, a little rough around the edges. But he really helped me get out of that mindset that I had to be the absolute “good girl” and appease everyone. We went out a bunch and he would even talk and hang with my sister. He was like her older brother, he cared so much about her. I loved that. We would FaceTime every night. It was perfect. But then my mom started talking bad about him to my sister and I. She didn’t even know him. The only thing she has ever said to him in the past was “hi”. But now she came up with this whole terrible opinion of him. I kept telling her that she should meet him before making assumptions and that she should trust me more with my decisions. But she refused to talk with him and even told me that I wasn’t allowed to talk to him that week. I’m 18 years old! Then one night when she started to talk bad about him again and of course once again I told her that she should meet him. She said that she would call and talk to him, but she will rip him apart in the phone call. All I wanted is for my mom to talk to him and be ok with me talking to him and he was in the military, so he was used to being yelled at, so I figured that it would be ok. Well she did rip him apart on the phone. She said every terrible thing possible about him. Told him that he needed therapy for being interested in me and a lot of worse other things. While I had to sit there and just take in the phone call. She wouldn’t even let him speak. She told him in the end that if he would ever talk to me again, she would get the police involved! But literally what can you do! I’m 18 and he’s 22! We are both young adults! I was told that I was never to speak to him again. I was upset that’s for sure.But when I was upset, she told me The phone call thing was my fault because she told me what was going to happen and I agreed to it. So I shouldn’t be mad at her. A week later, my mom being recently divorced met a guy and really wanted me to meet him. Constantly talked about how important it was for me to meet him. After she wouldn’t even give my guy a chance and she expected me to be totally okay and fine with meeting her guy. Absolutely not. But that night my friend really wanted to go to the restaurant which I was supposed to meet my mom’s guy at. And I ended up going and being the bigger person. Ever since then though, I realized that I need to stick up for me. Nobody else cares or will. My mom didn’t respect me or my decisions. So after that whole thing with meeting my mom’s boyfriend. I’ve been talking to that guy I’m not allowed to talk to behind her back. I’m never going to appease everyone and I’ve accepted that. I’m not going to be the perfect cookie cutter person that everyone expects me to be. And as a young adult, I have learned that.
It's good you learned that now! I just learned it in my 30s. Your mother sounds terrible, like a child in the body of an adult. I'm sorry for what you went through. I hope your relationship is going well! I wish xou all the best!
A lot of projection going on here… Britney’s situation - and by proxy, her relationship with her boys - is incredibly unique. No offense, but your situations with abusive and narcissistic parents are nothing like this. Her boys were weaponized to keep her compliant the entire conservatorship. She gave up everything to maintain a relationship with them. On the flip side, her boys spent their entire lives watching Britney be degraded and robbed of the agency and authority she deserved as their mother. They are now mirroring that behavior and reiterating the narrative of her abusers. They refuse to see her unless she spends time with her abusers. We all know Kevin and her conservators are to blame for this dynamic, but it’s still the hand that Britney has been dealt and I’m not going to label her as toxic or narcissistic for struggling to navigate this impossible situation. Where’s the think-piece on the toxic dad who set up his minor children to be globally bullied by sitting them down with tabloid journalist to air out their dirty laundry for $$$? The boys are being used as pawns by her abusers to integrate themselves back in her life and they have no idea. There is no winning for anyone in this situation.
Yesssss! It’s expecting a lot that a woman who has spent the majority of her adult life having her babies ripped away from her, being held captive, drugged and treated like a slave to make money for her tormentors, to be thinking about others at all. Why? All because she was hunted and humiliated by the press and paps from a young age and probably had untreated PPD. I give her a lot of grace right now.
Everything you wrote! Very well said. Britney's kids are being used against her in hopes that she'll fall back in line. Thankfully it doesn't seem to be working .
omg another crazy stan who's deluded themselves into thinking they know a celebrity's life. It's so weird to be so obsessed w someone who doesn't care or know that you exist. Its just an opinion, and if u weren't psychotic you could have some objectivity about it.
It’s crazy that they make people jump through so many hoops to adopt but just anyone can have a kid… call me crazy but there should be an application process.
...Nah. it's one thing to have and take care of your own children. It's another to adopt another person's child (that you make your own, but still). It's similar to teachers - teachers need credentials/background checks to be able to take care of children that are not their own. Besides, would you really want someone else in charge of such a big decision in your life as having a child? That idea comes with all sorts of problems.
Kevin has grown up ALOT and was the parent that protected and loved them when she did not and kept them safe and mentally well adjusted when her actions caused a great deal of harm. Everything she accuses her parents of is what she is currently doing as a parent.
Im sure there are untold stories we don’t know about since we don’t know them and what goes inside their homes, my point was that Shallon is hilarious lol
@@leandradozier968 one of Britney’s kids has offered to air out her personal business with the conservatorship if he got a certain amount of likes and followers on instagram. The other one is just as bad. When Britney suggested that she would stop making music, his response was “do you know how much bank she makes off that stuff”. It’s clear that her kids weren’t raised correctly by Kevin because of their blatant disregard that they have for her. Did you see how they were talking back to her in those videos that Kevin leaked? Also the fact that they did the interview for money is telling. I don’t know why you guys are so anti Britney. She’s clearly the victim here and you guys are so crazy for not taking her side. Like I honestly don’t get how you’re so blind to all of this.
Shallon, you blew through so many myths about parent/child relationships here, that I never thought about before. Thank you for your intelligence and passion. 🌹
So true about the having kids !! 90% of ppl that I have interacted with that have kids say “don’t have kids” or “omg take take your time “ or something along those lines ! It just dawned on me …
I truly am starting to think that parenthood is only for the strongest and most compassionate people. It’s kind of like being a heart surgeon. Most people think it would be great to be a heart surgeon! But do they have what it takes to do that?… We’re not taught that we even have that much of an option with parenthood. It’s just like you reach a certain age and you do it and question it later. But look where that’s gotten us. It’s totally weird to me that most parents have this “yikes” type vibe when you ask them if they enjoy having kids. And, contrary to popular belief, the kids don’t find that funny and it’s painful and confusing
i’m good with my two cats. i have guilt that i’m not a good enough mom for them. let alone actual human beings. kids need so so much. i am not going to risk having them. i sense many do because of societal pressures.
Everyone suffers because of her father and the fact that she never had a decent role model.. She was was simply the cash cow for everyone once she could perform.
The entire thing is a s*** show “circus” pun intended. It’s just a media circus. No matter what happens. I really really feel terrible for them. This has all got to be messing with their heads
I loved your entire look today Shallon! 😍 Your styled hair for the elegant feminine vibe, your makeup, the hoops and the necklace ✨💕 Absolute chefs kiss!!
Wow "Toxic ppl turn our best quality into the worst" That hit home to me 😟 "He expects more from you than he expects from himself ".....wow mind blowing
Honestly I just finally moved out of my moms and now I have cut her off. This has been the most peaceful month of my life… I really can’t keep her in my life anymore even though I’ve been brainwashed to put up with the emotional abuse I can’t do it anymore she drags me down
Those words to her son are so spiteful and cruel- she's basically dangling the prospect of cutting him off when he comes of age. She's weaponized money just like it was weaponized against her. She's spent so long flashing he vulva online I swear I've seen it more than my own and she's fine with that, but her sons showing genuine concern gets her back up?? Her reaction is one of a spiteful brat not getting her own way in a toy store and throwing a tantrum and calling the adult out for not catering to her. Like you've always said shallon fame is a kind of trauma that freezes you at the age it happens, she's a bratty 17 year old now with adult mental health problems who is oblivious to everything she's bringing into other people's lives.
Shallon the fact that you would even fear the possibility of not loving your kids shows what a good mom you would be. You already feel guilty for not loving them enough and they’re not even here! You would never be one of those moms that hates their kids. There’s just no way
I’ll admit, I make a lot of excuse for Britney. I’ve followed her story all my life so it’s difficult for me to hold her accountable. But I do appreciate you for calling her out. I have a lot of mommy issues (daddy issues too but we’re talking about my mommy ones for now lol) and it was always difficult for me to open up to others about it cause it seemed like everyone else’s mother was just…healthy? You know? Everyone had some kind of input when it came to dads, but not moms. So I’ve felt always felt so isolated and sad cause I didn’t understand what I was doing wrong and why my mom was (and still is) my biggest hater. Now that I’m older I’ve come to understand that she has her own trauma and reasons behind her behavior, but it doesn’t eliminate the fact that she’s constantly hurting me. In a weird twisted way, seeing all these comments of other people go through similar experiences with their moms, gives me some relief. Im not as alone as I thought. How bittersweet 🥲
I get what you are saying. But you have to balance that out w/ the pain and abandonment from her dad. Who also committed suicide. It’s easy to think one aspect of someones life makes their life easy / dreamlike. But usually its more complex.
Finally someone with some common sense about this whole Britney mess. Absolutely agree with you Shallon! She is not accountable to anyone, it seems, and absolutely everyone is victimising her, as per her own view 🤔. She has started to come across so unlikeable and immature
Her flagrant disregard for her sons feelings is shocking 😕 I don't understand how people can be viewing her boys as the villains, and how she allows it to happen in turn... I agree with you completely Shallon. I see friends of mine on Instagram who like her posts and I think 'HOW can you LIKE this? How???'
Thank you Shallon for keeping it 100% real. You're the only RUclipsr I've seen or heard anyone talk about Brittneys lack of responsibility and using meth. Hallelujah Shallon! Someone finally said it.
Omg that part about the Mom threatening about leaving 😭 It was triggering my mom did that to me and my younger sister when we miss behaved or she was having a bad day. That she was going to go back to her country and leave us. When I got older and she said that again I just responded ok let me help you pack !
She's allowed to be mad at her mother but her kids are not? She is allowed to compare herself to Jamie Lynn but one her sons can't compare himself to the other? Smh...
it’s bigger than that. britney spears wasn’t just enslaved by her family there was a giant machine behind it (managers, lawyers, music industry, hollywood). this is what they do. even the DNC has ties to this conservatorship
The best advice I heard was from Jordan Peterson, similar to your medication making you a good person. He said that good men aren’t good if they are weak and can’t fight. Good mean are good who can fight and are dangerous and choose not to be. So relating that to yours…. If you have anxiety, working on yourself and finding your coping skills to choose not to listen to your anxieties makes you a happier person. A happy person isn’t someone who just doesn’t have any problems but someone who works through their problems and ways to cope with them to be happy.
Loved what you said about Venezuela. I'm Brazilian and it pisses me off to no end to see Americans claiming that the U.S "is the worst place to live" and they wish they could move. Lol let's trade places anytime.
I mean, by that logic, no one should ever complain about anything. Go to Saudi Arabia, and I’m sure a lot of women there would love to trade places with you
@@Creepystalker102 exactly the reason I don't say Brazil is the worst country in the world lol and I've heard americans say this exact thing about the U.S. It's a fucking slap to the face to people like me that live in 3rd world countries and will literally never have half of the opportunities you take for granted every single day. Grow up.
You have to know that Britney’s family never put her on medication or rehab because they cared it was because they wanted her money. How you want that woman to feel like she needs to come back to therapy when in the last 15 years it was used as a tool of extreme control and TORTURE from her family to her? You guys need to put yourself on her shoes. Britney was a slave for her family and money machine since 2008 and had no opportunity to grow as a person though those years.. she couldn’t chose her own therapist or lawyer or use her own money to do anything how you expect this women to be OK??? She is traumatized and she’s admitted to MULTIPLE times and all she wants it’s her kids to acknowledge that as well
Britney was in therapy and heavy medication from 2008-2021 and that made her no good, nothing but broken and traumatized.. so yes I’ll say it again, LEAVE BRITNEY ALONE.
"Unconditional love" - people need to understand that there is a difference between loving someone unconditionally and keeping them in your life unconditionally. If you truly love another person unconditionally that's fine, but that doesn't mean you let them stay in your life no matter what. And on top of that, most of us don't really love others unconditionally, a lot of the time people mistake toxic codependence as unconditional love. They are not the same.
I cried when you read the "dear abby" style letter. Sounds like my family.. since I can remember and my sister and I are in our 30's. Any young lady dealing with this, I feel you. You will grow to be your own woman with your own life. Keep your chin up.
Boundaries are so important! I had a very difficult situation w an entire group of relatives who wanted to take advantage of me… it was the hardest situation of my adult life to say no! And no! Until they realized I would not cave to the pressure and emotional black mailing. Unfortunately I had two choices: to let them do what they wanted or defend myself. Ive “lost” that side of the family but I havent lost me.
Shallon, I would really love to hear your two cents about the relationship dynamics between Victoria Beckham, her son Brooklyn and Nicola Peltz. I think there's a lot to unpack...
Excellent video. Hopefully Britney sees it. She can have a wonderful relationship with her sons but she has to understand they're teenagers and aren't going to be able to heal her pain. She has to do that herself and let them grow up. They still have years to go before they understand her and what she went thru.
Sharon I just agree so much with you in the most things. You have come so far! So proud of you having balls big enough to don't give a fuck what the messed up public thinks about you. You go girl!!!
Shallon " you have an Elton John song out " 😅" you wanna see what my nipples look like right now"😂 .....(Im literally dying) I love the way you are so honest and your not scared to call a spade a spade 👏👏👏👏
Hey Shallon! I had to cut my mum and my sister out of my life for similar reasons...so toxic and they are so alike. Mentally unstable, alcoholics and horrendous to be around. Mentally and spiritually draining. I miss the "good versions" of them, but the older they get, the worse they get somehow. Don't need that drama. I empathise with Brit's kids!
I cut my siblings out. They still don't understand my Autism Spectrum Disorder and I have PTSD from things my siblings did (one physically and mentally abused me, another was psychotic and only calls my dad for MONEY). I only have biological brother and my father and my three closest friends who are more family than my own half siblings. Plus I was ridiculed and shamed and abused by teachers in school verbally and (in fifth grade) physically. I even physically assaulted my 8th Grade teacher who was a sexist and fat shaming (called one of my very best friends who was like a sister figure to me a fat rhymes with runt but starts with a C) and called me a derogatory word towards disabled. I left him a beaten and bruised mess. What saved me was my Resource Room teacher and my classmates/friends going to bat for me. My mother had her issues BUT LOVED ME UNCONDITIONALLY. In her case, she cracked under the pressures of raising four from her first marriage (her first husband died in 1972 from a fall), two stepkids from second husband (my father) and my biological brother and I from the marriage of my mom and dad which sadly ended in divorce in 1987. I went with my dad only because I wanted to break the cycle of getting into smoking, drinking and drugs and LUCKILY I DID. My half brother manipulated my mother and bullied her and even tried to kill her more than once or twice.
I always defended Britney and meanwhile I have huge empathy for her I have to agree with this. Kids are the biggest victims here. They lost a mother, got stuck with Kevin as a father. They are kids. I hope they heal and dont pass this trauma on to their future families
oh my God did Jayden James really say that? I was right! All the years I've watched Britney and her sons grow up I always felt like she never showed attention to the older one. It was always the younger son she shows attention to and I thought maybe its because he is younger or has some sickness we don't know about. Wow so that really was the case. I wonder why? I used to think it was because the older one looked just like his dad and was a constant reminder of his father or because she trauma bonded with the younger one when she locked herself up in a room with him back before they locked her up.
I also think parents should unconditionally love their minor children. Kids should feel 100% love and support from their parents no matter what growing up (even if that comes in the form of constructive discipline/criticism to form them into better functioning/happier adults). That is a parent’s job. Which to me just highlights more why Britney’s public reaction makes me sad. They may be teens, but they are still in the formative growing years which IMO should warrant unconditional love from their parents and not public clap backs.
YEP the have already suffered so much from her being in this situation and now she is expecting them to parent and comfort her the way she should be parenting and comforting them
Looking back at this, I feel that you only knew her through social media. What about her Las Vegas Residency? Her X-factor gig, her 3 other albums after 2015? Her Domination tour? The one she didn't want to but has to because of her conservatorship? She was a cash cow to her family. Her kids had more time with K-Fed and team conservatorship than with her, she only get vacation with them. But in perspective, I think her desire for kids are still in the mindset of back in 2008. It's the idea of wanting kids like they're cute and fun, and a sign of maturing into womanhood, but doesn't comprehend that it's not easy. She doesn't really have the capacity of learning diaper changing, baby proofing her house, being patient with babies forming words or understanding danger, all that needs a lot of patient, it's not like teaching kids in daycare. It's a 24/7 job. She finds kids to be cute and fun, like a disney channel kid, but like being patient with crying and word forming, things like getting them to sleep, getting them to eat, what kinds of food to eat at different age, that's something she won't like. She won't be able to call out when toddlers are immature because she will only see them as having fun. That youthful rock star phase she had in exchange for going to school and actually working in a stable job really didn't do her any favors because she has no accountability towards responsibilities. And in motherhood, despite how rich you are, if kids are so important and you want to raise them yourself, you can't throw these responsibility to a nanny, because that, in early childhood psychology, is what bonds parent-child dynamic. You can't just get a photoshoot, an article, to justify to yourself how "happy" or how "close", or how "your mom is your best friend" type of thing. It's like you're rich and yet you want genuine, but what you're doing is an act of immaturity. You can't buy your way out to get genuine.
I saw her kids talking and they look soo mature. And to be honest I don't think they were rude to their mother in any way. If we look at some things she post in ista against celebreties, i think she were so much rude. Like that passive agressive post against Selena Gomes was rude. Britney is playing the victim and taking badly about everyone, is kinda sick.
This reminds me of the Michael Jackson situation, if both he and Britney were normal people no one would be defending them but because they made some hit songs they’re basically martyrs to millions of people. 😪
Youre right, she’s probably not well. but she’s also traumatized and still processing what she went through. she’s not going to be a super productive person and start working or have high energy. she’s also probably really depressed.
Actually shallon stigmatization of mental health disorders does exist BUT in culturally different communities, like Hispanic community because our culture revolves around the notion that there are bigger problems in life that what’s inside our heads, so we internalize a lot of our mental issues (tough it out) and never talk about it. I was raised here in the US so I feel more confident in talking about my mental issues with my family and I had to educate my parents and aunts that mental issues are valid problems. But if I were in Mexico in the small rural town I was born in, it would be a different story, I would get accused of being possessed by demons or that I have a weak will power. Stigmatization of mental health issues also exists in religious communities that take the religious approach in treating metals health. It’s only here in the US, that mental health is commonly talked about and even glamorized
Mental illness does not justify shitty behavior. I’ve been on meds for ten years and I take full responsibility for everything shitty that I’ve done to people, never excusing it with my mental illness. This ableism just adds to the stigma of us being unstable and crazy.
Did your family get a conservatorship and strip you of your civil rights? Were you forced to do things against your will? Were you told what to eat every day? Were you implanted with a device to stop you from procreating against your will. Were you made to work 7 days a week for years against you will? Were you made to shower supervised and never being allowed to have a bathroom door ? Were you threatened that if you didn’t do what your family said that you would be put in 5150 psych hold ? Well this was Britney’s life for 13 years and all there are many more things I haven’t listed. I’m happy you are doing good with your mental illness , but not everyone’s mental illness is the same and neither are everyone’s personal struggles.
She has not been able to be adult for 13 years as she has been controlled even by being told what she is allowed to eat. Wasn’t allowed access to money except a small allowance, wasn’t able to pay her own bills , wasn’t able to decide what color to paint her kitchen cabinets. It’s hard to grow as human being and be adult where all your abilities to grow into an adult have been taken away. I’m so happy that you are doing great with your mental illness and you accept responsibility for all your flaws. But , you can not compare your situation to Britney’s . She needs time to figure out what being an adult is as basic decisions were stripped from her and she was treated like a child for 13 years. Maybe try a little empathy. She needs treatment, and attacking her certainly won’t help.
@@smallfry8280 I’m not attacking her, I’m just saying that she is an adult who, btw, is not in a conservatorship anymore and can pay for the best therapists the world has to offer. The fact that she hasn’t seen her kids in 6 months but has had time to get married is worrisome and not indicative of her wanting to “grow up”.
Her not seeing the children is not her choice , if you watch the interview , her son says that he and his brother did not go to their mothers wedding because she didn’t invite her whole family. And only invited the boys. Britney has distanced herself from her father, mother, sister , and brother, due to them doing what they did to her during the conservatorship. It’s understandable that she didn’t want her abusers at the wedding. She did invite her sons. She wants to see her children , they do not want to see her as was stated in the interview with Jayden . He said he wants her to get better first and to forgive her family . The family that abused her , her father , mother , sister , brother ect. Her kid told her her to chill . He stuck up for her father that even abused his older brother. The kids are obviously suffering from parental alienation. And as you should know , since you say that you suffer from mental illness, you don’t just go to therapy a few times and get all better. Yes she has money to see the best therapists . But it will take a longer than 6 months to be cured from what she has been through for the last 13 years.
Narcissistic mothers are... THE WORST. I was raised by a narcissistic father. But that is different. If you look it up, men with narcissistic disorders soften up with age. I practically had no relationship with my father despite the fact that we lived in the same house. But we were able to build a relationship as adults. I think narcissistic fathers don't want the burden of having to raise children. But narcissistic mothers... Holy shit! Women with narcissistic disorders get progressively worse with age. First and foremost, their beauty fades away which leaves them depressed. And yes, narcissists get depressed when they lose supply or when their inflated egos get bruised. Secondly, their children grow up and instead of worshiping on their altars they try to distance themselves from their mothers because they are an F-ing nightmare. Narcissistic mothers are manipulative, abusive, demeaning. They truly crush the souls of their children and their spouse. I am watching this unravel live in my life. Not in my family, but someone close and it is ....gut wrenching to watch.
Read Daughter of Narcissus by Lady Collin Campbell if you are interested in the subject. But trigger warning, it will truly hit home if you were raised by a narcissistic mother
Your commentary on this is terrifyingly good. Can you do a video on comebacks and how to reason with people that seemingly can't be reasoned with? Sometimes one can also get kind of stunned by bad reasoning and not know the words to say
I have recently come to the realization how horrifying the things my mother said / did to me as a child were. When your mother tells you to look down (at your stomach) and says “tell me what you see” and doesn’t accept any answer until i say “fat”… at 10 years old. And then constant being put on diets , etc. when i was NOT even close overweight on the scale or in body comp. That stuff sticks with you.. and has much bigger consequences than she ever knew. I am about to be 25 years old and I have always thought these were semi-normal things and that mothers are all like this. I keep hoping one day she will apologize for years and years of being obsessed with my looks and weight and thrusting self hatred and eating disorders on me. Your thoughts in this video just keep making me realize how bad it was..
I'm so sorry that your Mum projected her own shame and self-hatred onto you. It makes my blood boil that so many innocent and beautiful girls have gone through the same emotional/mental abuse because their Mum decided not to work on these issues before having kids. I hope you know now that there's absolutely nothing wrong with you and you're worthy of self-love and happiness. 💗
@@nikola2812 Thank you for your kind words. I have made it my mission to resolve these issues before I even think of having a child. I can't fathom making another being, much less my own child, live through these kind of emotions and thoughts.
OMG that is a great comparison, frozen in time, pushed into performing by a controlling father that was just trying to use her for his own gain, excellent comparison.
@@Margatatials Excuse. Britney was self destructing before C-ship. You forget her OD'ing on Molly/Ecstasy with Jason Alexander in 2004 which led her to the 55 Hour quickie marriage which fried her brains. Her pursuing K-Fed despite him being with another woman. Faking a injury to get out of a tour. Blew fans off to be with K-Fed. Then beat K-Fed with a frying pan and physically abused him and the sons (fed them food that made them sick and even ordered them to eat the vomit). He got custody IMMEDIATELY. She tried to kill her sons in standoff with the cops which led her to the nuthouse. Add cocaine, ecstasy and METH to mental illness, she is self destructive. Her father tried to save her from herself. Sam even left her in 2023.
I love what you said about toxic people that take your best trait and turn it into a target I have a stepdad that does that he’s narcissistic and somewhat toxic but he takes my best traits and he twist them into character defects and it drives me insane
As someone who has experienced every type of abuse from family except sexual, thanks for saying f*ck blood. It truly means a lot. ⚡️
“Blood is thicker than the water of the womb”, it was referring to the blood shed on the battlefield from souldiers and how they were brothers. People have completely manipulated that quote out of context, it literally means the opposite to what they think.
I did not invite my mother to my wedding because she ruined every other memorable day of my life (birthdays, graduations, etc). She could not stand seeing me happy and not feel like she was the reason for my happiness. I haven't talked to her for over a decade and my life has been so much simpler and less toxic. Best decision in my life to cut her out.
Good job 👏
I have a mother who was immature and rejecting as well as emotionally and physically abusive. I haven't spoken to her in almost 3 months and honestly I don't miss her. Sometimes I feel so jealous of people who are close to their mother. I never felt that. It's difficult to feel like you are worthy of love when your own mother didn't love you.
Same here not seen my mum in about 2 years. I feel so much better now. And when I feel guilty I usually have nightmares about the shit she put me through. When I wake up the guilt is completely gone lmao 😂 so hang in there it’s worth it ❤️
Completely get you. Not spoken to mine in 4 months. Best ive felt in years. Go us!
I have the same feeling. I used to get jealous of other girls who were close to their moms. But then I also realized there is a super power in not needing your mom and a strong personality trait that comes along w not being able to lean on your mom. Also I know these girls who love and lean on their moms so much their worlds collapse when their moms are no longer w them on earth and I know that’s something I probably won’t go through. So at least there’s a plus side to not being close with your mom. It’s dark but true
It’s like if my mom dies, I would be relieved. Fuck…
You’re are not alone, I feel the same.
Jayden saying that it hurt him to watch his mother favor him over his beloved little brother broke my heart, but Brittney chewing him out and prettifying him for what? needing to be cared for? that made m blood boil.
It is the job of parents to do hard things to meat their children's needs, NOT the job of children to do hard things for their parents fun and happiness.
@@Goingby20s the boys are 15 and 16 yr old. Kids dont have a great care about money. Wat do u think of them? Some mafia? Glad they were raised by kevin
I agree with you 💯 I lost any drop of sympathy I had for Britney when she announced that recent pregnancy and went on a manic rant about "finally" being able to be a mom...I felt terrible for her sons who have suffered by enduring her embarrassing bs.
@Tiff Prendergast It is her fault if the reason for her manic rant (or her other problematic behaviour) is because she is not taking her medication. Mental illness may explain her behaviour but it doesn't excuse it.
Also I 100% agree with you, Britney feud with her teenager sons is absolutely insane. The fact that her priority is her new husband is crazy, considering that he also didn’t do anything to help her when she was under the conservatorship and he’s the one that’s banking the most, she keeps blaming everyone but him and that instagram post that she made to Jayden is so mean, Jenettes mom vibes tbh.
When your kids say they hope you get better because they need you, and your response is YOU need unconditional love?…… Wow you can’t make this up. I’m honestly surprised Britney could be so cold towards her own kids after this whole narrative of “I just want to see my babies” for the past decade
And her crying “I just wanna see my boys!!!!” When she was in the conservatorship is now almost a joke because she’s free and doesn’t even see them lmao
She’s still their authority figure. They can ask for some things but I don’t think they can tell her what to post. Their dad is shit too. Typical family.
@Juan Rosario BS .....In 2008 Britney was a BiPolar, Junkie. PopStar who endangered her kids lives while high on meth..... That's right .......and the only thing that traumatized her is coming down off that freaking high while being in rehab during the Conservatorship .........The realization of some of her actions is too hard for her to come to grips with because guess, what it is too traumatizing for her. ....so she stay in an altered state of mind....and blame everybody else for her poor shitty ass choices she chose for her own life...... I didn't like Conservatorship at all but I do see in the Beginning where it did save her life......Britney probably would not have survived a 2nd overdose .....
@@britneys4608 no we don’t need to lover her children and she doesn’t owe them anything, if they’re so blind to see what was going on and what is going on they should go fu** themselves and so should you.
@Juan Rosario Are you forgetting she drive with her infant son in her lap and was caught driving with one of them in the car seat facing frontwards with no support and slouching over. Or her hitting up the clubs with Paris and Lindsay with her coochie out like she didn’t have children? This was all before the conservatorship. Point being a judge looked at her and deemed her to be an unfit mother and a danger to her children when the courts usually side with the mother in a majority of custody cases. I’m not saying her conservatorship was handled correctly at all, and I’m not denying that she was exploited, but what I am saying is that she exhibited unwell behavior and made very questionable decisions long before the conservatorship which is what led to the concept of her being under one in the first place. 2007 alone prices she was not capable of taking proper care of herself let alone 2 young children. It’s a miracle those boys are even alive.
To call out your own kids publicly on your platform of millions is insane. I can’t believe people are rallying behind her. Not everything needs to be on the internet.
@@GM-dp3ef I’m well aware. But responding privately is always an option. They stooped low and Brittany stooped even lower putting her kids on blast.
It’s a cry for help. She probably felt threatened to get through to her parents- the origins of her misery.
Went no contact with my mother and as a consequence, most of my family, at the age of 26. Wasn't an easy decision, but it was an inevitable one. There was nothing else left to do to stop spiraling into the deepest depression and despair. And only after that I count my life has truly started. I was a victim before, because I knew the situation was extremely unfair, but I still was in this game. Once I made that decision that made me a monster I society's eyes and eyes of many people I know, no matter how much it hurt, I never felt victimized again. I made a decision for myself, I knew the consequences, and I chose them freely. The toughest, the most heartbreaking decision, but at the same time the best and the most empowering one. Now I do feel bad sometimes when I realise I lack something significant and important. But at the same time, I have a freedom that few people have, for that very reason.
it is really hard to not get reactive when your parent is again throwing a temper tantrum, ruining everyone’s mood because they can’t regulate their emotions like every other adult is supposed to do. not engaging, not taking it personally and letting it affect you must be one of the most difficult things to do. also engaging in the codependent thought spiral „why are they like that? why can’t they be normal?“ because they will never change and it’s just a waste of time. it is so hard to divorce yourself from that „compulsion“.
This is exactly like my daughter’s dad. And I’m so worried she will feel this way when she grows up. Trying to figure out why he is the way he is instead of just living her life (like I’ve done the past half decade. I’ve wasted so much time on him.) Accepting that he’s just immature, emotionally distant or emotionally explosive (there’s no in between), and VERY abusive and is only going to get worse as time goes on because he refuses help has honestly been very freeing. All I can do for now is keep her distant from his behavior until she’s old enough to decide for herself, but be honest with her about why. Brittany’s sons are old enough to decide for themselves now, to see through a clearer lens. They are smart and making the best decision for themselves. And maybe she is speaking some truth about their father, but the kids are going to want to stay with someone who seems more mentally sane. Bottom line.
Thank you verbalizing my internal struggle with my own mother
I have the same feelings with my own mother. It's hard. I'm trying to be better at walking away and not give in because she wants a reaction. But it is super difficult when she's throwing verbal blows as me. I think knowing I cave reason with her and she wants me to fight with her so she can be a victim. That helps me
I read a comment on RUclips somewhere. A child will love a parent unconditionally when young, and will love the parent as he was loved when older.
Oh wow
My cousin wanted a baby so bad and once she had him not 2 years later she had a mental breakdown and I’ve been raising him since 2. He’s almost 8. Trust ppl who says they want kids don’t always end up being a good parent. A lot of ppl are fine abandoning their kids. It’s really sick and sad…
Shallon! As a daughter of two narcissistic parents, from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU for this video. I would say this is the first video of yours that really moved me and resonated with me. It’s been six months since I’m going to therapy until I finally undertood that I cannot change them, but I can change how I feel and react towards their actions and be stronger everyday. Greetings from Colombia❤
I agree with this woman.
A mother who loves her children are patient and waiting for the adolescent stage to end.
It sounds like the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
If Britney really wants to learn to grow from her parents's mistakes then she needs to take responsibility from her own actions.
If she wanted her kids to be more respectful she should have never been with kevin.
That man was bad news too.
Also, parents push their kids away first not the other way around.
If she has a real bond with them they would never complain about her.
They were taught at a early age that money is important so that is exactly what they are leaning on.
I have a toxic ex drug addict mother. Even without the drugs she’s a narcissist but all family sees is she’s a ‘hero’ for not relapsing and is ‘suffering’ with awful ungrateful adult children. They don’t see how selfish, rude, grandiose and arrogant she is or the crap she put us through as kids.
Stay no contact. Or at least keep your guard all the way up if you can't avoid her. They don't change. They are users and they will justify their awful behavior any way they can and play the victim. I hate the guilt tripping family does. Pour into people that pour into you.
I feel for Britney, but also her sons. It's one thing to discipline your kids in private in whatever parenting style you have--it's another story if you're posting about your own troubled sons on social media for your legions of fans to see. I get it, she needs to vent, and feels sad about her relationship with the kids--but it also encourages a bad rep on her kids who are still teens. She kind of concluded her sons hate her when they probably needed some time to feel comfortable around her again. Calling out her sons on social media probably isn't a good way to deal with things. I hope Brit gets the help and guidance she needs. My mom talked badly about me to her friends when I was a kid and it encouraged me to just become more rebellious. Shaming people to teach them a lesson doesnt really work.
Thank God someone is speaking from the perspective of those poor kids. The amount of Britney enabling on social media is ridiculous!
Finally someone else said it! The conservatorship (as it was with her father in charge) was pretty bad, but Britney is clearly not well and needs help that she currently isn’t getting.
Plus for the people around her, like her husband for example, it is in their best interest not to see her get well. She speaks about “unconditional love” but she fails to realize that the people who truly love her, want to see her well. The people who don’t, want to keep her as is.
they all abandoned her in a mental hospital lived off her money and only “cared” when she had full control of her finances . it’s deeper than what people think
If posting your nipples-covered nudes means she needs help, then why don't any of you say that so many other women in her line of work 'need help'? She has done nothing to warrant people thinking she needs help atm. Shallon, let's be honest, took medication to become thinner, and she keeps getting thinner, and thinner, to the point that she looks anorexic, is anyone gonna say that she needs help? Because Shallon atm is showing more signs of 'needing help' than Britney Spears atm. Anorexia is a problem, abuse of weight-loss pills is a problem. Posting your implied nudes on instagram does not signify any kind of mental illness at all.
well said
That letter about the mom sounds like my journal. It’s heartbreaking, but it’s worse to stick around and suffer the abuse. That’s what I’ve learned. You’re better off without that, because it brings you pain and confusion about what’s right and wrong about everything you do, at least for me I still over analyze everything and I have to stop myself. You will be better off without that voice of negativity.
Shallon, I honestly could not wait for you to make a video about this. I feel so alone in the way I view things and knowing there are still people with rational viewpoints out there is comforting. When Kfed released the videos of her attacking her boys, I foolishly thought it would open the minds of the Free Britney fanatics to her behavior. All they did was rip Kevin apart and her attack her minor sons. In the videos, she makes a comment saying, "you're older now and it's weird". This is a comment that a woman makes when She has not been a frequent presence in her childs lives and every time she reappears, they are older and it is jarring for her. The other video snarling through her teeth about it being her house was giving Mommie Dearest, yet the fanatics said oh she's being a REAL mom with discipline. Discipline why? Because these boys have NEVER been in the media for anything negative. They don't seem to be rebellious or spoiled. When I saw the 60 Minutes interview it broke my heart. When I saw I think Jayden sitting at the piano, playing and talking about wanting his mom to get better and be around, it killed me. There was so much pain in that beautiful boy's eyes, who btw has his mother's whole face. Not only that, but here he is obviously with the musical talent and interest his mother has, with no mother around. When she is around, well, we've got an insight to how she acts. Everyone wants to use the card that they want money. Why are they living modest lives then. Her anger and her die-hard Free Britney stans anger is so displaced and I can only hope once the smoke dies down from the conservatorship being over, she realizes this and gets in those boy's lives. She made comments about how her son always plays the piano like she was making fun of him. Why don't you play the piano with him or at least include yourself and cultivate the musical interest he inherited from you like a mother would and should? I thought once the conservatorship ended, she would clean herself up, since she said her looks were because they would not allow her to do beauty treatments. She still has the same bad extensions, smudged makeup and tiny outfits that barely fit. It is rational for her boys to be hurt and embarrassed seeing her parade around like that and also marry this much younger man that obviously is riding off her fame. If anything, Sam should have left with the end of her conservatorship! At her age now I wonder if it's too late. She will probably never change. It's sad to see because I was a massive Britney fan growing up. I understand it's hard to admit, as a woman, that motherhood was harder than you thought it would be and maybe you struggled to take to it. The mental health issues she has makes that hard. Overall, a sad situation and I just wish her boys could see a video like this and know there are people out there that are still rational and use common sense and are on their sides.
I don't know why people are attacking those boys. I feel really sorry for them, they didn't ask to be born into this family... People expect the 15 and 16 yo boys to be more understanding and mature than their 40yo parents
My mother has been the victim our whole life. I’m getting married at the court house on 2 months and I asked my mom if she would like to be present at one of the most important moments of my life and she said no.
Oh my gosh I’m so sorry 🥺congratulations though 🎈 so proud of you
Why? Did she feel she had to protect herself from other family members who she feels are a threat? Maybe you two can carve out some special time away that is just your own-
Was your mom drugged against her will and a cash cow?
Your mom is immature. I bet if you didn’t ask her to be there she would’ve victimized herself for not being invited 🙄 i feel for you. Hang in there. It may not feel like it right now, but your day will probably be better without her selfishness
@@katherinechase3674 she lives a few hours away and it’s too much of an effort.
I was abandoned/rejected by my Dad. He actually has a mental illness. He cheated on my mum and moved to Thailand when I was 16. Didn’t see or hear from him for 13 years. It was hard to wrap my head around it. None of my family discussed anything. I have reparented myself and I have done alot lot of work on myself which has helped a lot. I believe he did me a favour not being in my life now and I see it as a blessing not a loss. It’s made me resilient and strong. It did suck but he has to carry that... I don’t. Ive had myself and loved myself. I am disgusted in Britney Spears… Why have kids if you treat them like this.
Wow Raquel I resonate and I am so proud of you 💜
It's soooo refreshing someone on internet to have a reasonable take on this situation... Britney Spears is not in her right mind (in my opinion since 2005 ish) and whoever is cheering her up for her actions doesn't do her well...
She definitely has some kind of mental issue.
She is not but why... who pushed her, raised her, abused her? Who benefited off her? Then she ran to the arm of KFed, bore 2 sons, and ended up insane. Shesnot perfect, shes sick, if it were not fir the money they all would be trailer thrash. But constantly shaming her brings nothing. She needs medication and therapy and good friends. I doubt asghari or new kid would do more good than harm. I see her ending up in similar way michael, whitney, elvis ended...
@Juan Rosario yes but she said she never needed help, she was fine, she is not taking any responsability in all of this,
They enable her
@@miriamchalmovianska863 it’s not Kevin’s fault. And Kevin grew up and became a very decent parent. Those boys are thriving and seem so incredibly happy and that’s because of Kevin. He is a very good father. Very good. You’re victimizing her like she wants so she doesn’t have to be accountable.
I was just reading her instagram posts the other day and was so surprised to see the support and praise she got for it, even from some public figures. I've also listened to the full recording of her court deposition and it broke my heart. It seems as though something that started off in good will (her family desperately trying to stop her downwards spiral) seamlessly turned into power play and just using her as a cashcow. She is totaly entitled to feel wronged and angry. But then hearing how she talked to her sons made me just sigh with disappointment - she is merely perpetuating the story, imposing on them the same unfair treatment that she experienced herself. In no world it is ok for a child's emotional and mental health to be publicly put in his place and have his father publicly humilitated by his own mom, who has now turned her instagram account into her personal issue of playboy magazine (really, is this what she was missing out on all along?) I totally resonated with the kid's reaction. The fact that she is so far removed from the tenderness and the warmth such a relationship can have (possibly because she herself didn't experience it growing up) is just saddening. It's how generational trauma is perpetuated.
@Juan Rosario I haven't read anything defamatory that her sons declared. And her ex's toxic behavior, who was not even the subject of my comment, does not excuse her own.
@Juan Rosario she can express herself freely, of course, but as the saying goes, your freedom ends where mine begins. She can very well share her story without patronizing her kids and shaming their father over IG rants that could just as well be PRIVATE messages, if her true goal is just to set things straight with them. And getting praise for those rants is not doing her any good.
There's also a couple of recordings where she's demonstrating a parenting style similar to the one she condemned her father for, which shows just how blindsided she is as to why her kids have grown appart from her.
She certainly needs support, but that does not mean mindlessly clapping at any crap she puts out there. Being a victim doesn't entitle you to perpetuate crappy behavior. Unfortunately, her needs seem to have been ignored and she has been abused for so long that she is probably not in a good place to take any more advice or accept any form of help without feeling slighted and suspicious. Hopefullly, when and IF her wound heals, she'll see things more clearly.
Did you miss how it was Kevin Federline and his goldigger wife who brought the kids publically? She was not speaking publically about them, K. Federline did and she had to address them. Go ahead, google is your friend. I swear people who are against Britney are zero informed or just too lazy to google.
@@alla7572 You mean, she had to because Kevin Federline trash her and used her kids in 60 minutes Australia? And you think SHE is the one who exposed her with the vile shit K. Federline made her kids said. He only is comong out because she won't have his child support ticket.
@Juan Rosario we can talk about Britney without mentioning Kevin. The only time people bring his irrelevant ass up is to defend Britney and justify her being a horrible mother.
The mental health stigma card is amazing when everyone is raking their brains, obsessing over themselves until they can self diagnose at least 3 mental illnesses. For those that lack creativity, we got you: anxiety.
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Amen marie
So true. They pathologize every human behavior and emotion so they can justify their behavior.
I noticed it's usually parents with money who behave this way. I 100% have gotten stuff like "you have this because of me!" referring to expensive stuff I've had. It drives me nuts! Do I have to be remonded a doctor has more than I do? But it's the constant reminder
I think most kids get either love or material things from parents, lucky ones get both:)) My mom was very distant while l was growing up and she tried to substitute the lack of attention and love with material gifts. I have learned to accept it and expect it because that was all l could get from her. It is definitely a parent’s responsibility to show love and try to understand their kids.
@Marija that isn't so amazing what you dealt with :( but it seems like parents with money brush everything aside with their $ and it's very odd/annoying. Unless the money makes up for it, I guess but absent parents aren't the most amazing
I really like your take on this, Shallon. I see so many of her protesting advocates give her crazy ass videos the side eye, essentially calling her mentally unwell without actually admitting it. I have to agree with your assessment on everything really. I definitely don't think her parents are good people but like you said it's not mutually exclusive that this makes her all good either. I feel a lot sorrier for her sister now too because I'd really not heard much of hrr story other than her getting pregnant so young
Very insightful commentary about everything you touched on, as always. I have always struggled to understand my mother, and it's like a light bulb turned on when you said children are hardwired to love their parents, but not the other way around. Things make so much more sense. That is such helpful insight. Thank you.
This really is sad, she just seems to be making up for lost time. Is it fair to expect there to be no fallout? I think she wasn't well going into the conservatorship, and that only aggravated her issues. Instead of getting real help, she was exploited for years. I think it's gonna take a couple of years for get a grip on her mental health.
I dont think she is gonna get better because britney ha said there is nothing wrong with her, how isnshe gonna work in her mental health if she thinks there isn't a problem?? And what is her husband doing?
Spot on!
This is tragic for her sons. I was a parentified child. I remember when my mom finally got more stable and just being overjoyed to spend time dancing to music in the kitchen. It wasn't about money it was about having the ability to share joyful moments all together. Brittany NEEDS help for the rest of her life. She got messed up at an early developmental age and it's not something she's actively trying to fix. She feels entitled to a gorgeous life. Jesus got crucified!! She has a warped since of magical thinking to her benefit, in her mind. It's sad that her kids have to go through it and to intentionally make another one.... It's beyond irresponsible.
Really enjoyed this video. I feel your passion. Thank you for advocating for all the children out there who have crap parents. This was informative, balanced and spot on.
I met this awesome guy about a month or two ago. He’s 4 years older then me. I’m 18, he’s 22. We both go to the same University. I met him at a country dancing event. He was such a sweet guy, a little rough around the edges. But he really helped me get out of that mindset that I had to be the absolute “good girl” and appease everyone. We went out a bunch and he would even talk and hang with my sister. He was like her older brother, he cared so much about her. I loved that. We would FaceTime every night. It was perfect. But then my mom started talking bad about him to my sister and I. She didn’t even know him. The only thing she has ever said to him in the past was “hi”. But now she came up with this whole terrible opinion of him. I kept telling her that she should meet him before making assumptions and that she should trust me more with my decisions. But she refused to talk with him and even told me that I wasn’t allowed to talk to him that week. I’m 18 years old! Then one night when she started to talk bad about him again and of course once again I told her that she should meet him. She said that she would call and talk to him, but she will rip him apart in the phone call. All I wanted is for my mom to talk to him and be ok with me talking to him and he was in the military, so he was used to being yelled at, so I figured that it would be ok.
Well she did rip him apart on the phone. She said every terrible thing possible about him. Told him that he needed therapy for being interested in me and a lot of worse other things. While I had to sit there and just take in the phone call. She wouldn’t even let him speak. She told him in the end that if he would ever talk to me again, she would get the police involved! But literally what can you do! I’m 18 and he’s 22! We are both young adults! I was told that I was never to speak to him again. I was upset that’s for sure.But when I was upset, she told me The phone call thing was my fault because she told me what was going to happen and I agreed to it. So I shouldn’t be mad at her.
A week later, my mom being recently divorced met a guy and really wanted me to meet him. Constantly talked about how important it was for me to meet him. After she wouldn’t even give my guy a chance and she expected me to be totally okay and fine with meeting her guy. Absolutely not. But that night my friend really wanted to go to the restaurant which I was supposed to meet my mom’s guy at. And I ended up going and being the bigger person.
Ever since then though, I realized that I need to stick up for me. Nobody else cares or will. My mom didn’t respect me or my decisions. So after that whole thing with meeting my mom’s boyfriend. I’ve been talking to that guy I’m not allowed to talk to behind her back. I’m never going to appease everyone and I’ve accepted that. I’m not going to be the perfect cookie cutter person that everyone expects me to be. And as a young adult, I have learned that.
It's good you learned that now! I just learned it in my 30s. Your mother sounds terrible, like a child in the body of an adult. I'm sorry for what you went through. I hope your relationship is going well! I wish xou all the best!
A lot of projection going on here… Britney’s situation - and by proxy, her relationship with her boys - is incredibly unique. No offense, but your situations with abusive and narcissistic parents are nothing like this.
Her boys were weaponized to keep her compliant the entire conservatorship. She gave up everything to maintain a relationship with them. On the flip side, her boys spent their entire lives watching Britney be degraded and robbed of the agency and authority she deserved as their mother. They are now mirroring that behavior and reiterating the narrative of her abusers. They refuse to see her unless she spends time with her abusers.
We all know Kevin and her conservators are to blame for this dynamic, but it’s still the hand that Britney has been dealt and I’m not going to label her as toxic or narcissistic for struggling to navigate this impossible situation.
Where’s the think-piece on the toxic dad who set up his minor children to be globally bullied by sitting them down with tabloid journalist to air out their dirty laundry for $$$? The boys are being used as pawns by her abusers to integrate themselves back in her life and they have no idea. There is no winning for anyone in this situation.
This. It’s good to see someone gets it because this video and the comments are completely off the rails.
Exactly.
Yesssss! It’s expecting a lot that a woman who has spent the majority of her adult life having her babies ripped away from her, being held captive, drugged and treated like a slave to make money for her tormentors, to be thinking about others at all. Why? All because she was hunted and humiliated by the press and paps from a young age and probably had untreated PPD. I give her a lot of grace right now.
Everything you wrote! Very well said. Britney's kids are being used against her in hopes that she'll fall back in line. Thankfully it doesn't seem to be working .
omg another crazy stan who's deluded themselves into thinking they know a celebrity's life. It's so weird to be so obsessed w someone who doesn't care or know that you exist. Its just an opinion, and if u weren't psychotic you could have some objectivity about it.
Britney needs serious therapy from people who actually want to help her .
She won’t get help because she thinks she has done nothing wrong
It’s crazy that they make people jump through so many hoops to adopt but just anyone can have a kid… call me crazy but there should be an application process.
Thank you! 👏👏👏👏👏
AGREE!
...Nah. it's one thing to have and take care of your own children. It's another to adopt another person's child (that you make your own, but still). It's similar to teachers - teachers need credentials/background checks to be able to take care of children that are not their own.
Besides, would you really want someone else in charge of such a big decision in your life as having a child? That idea comes with all sorts of problems.
“If you’re Kevin’s kids you’re automatically a victim” 💀 you always manage to make me crack up when I least expect it 🤣
And Kevin is probably the best thing going for them. He's probably been a pretty good father to them during this whole crazy thing
Kevin has grown up ALOT and was the parent that protected and loved them when she did not and kept them safe and mentally well adjusted when her actions caused a great deal of harm. Everything she accuses her parents of is what she is currently doing as a parent.
Im sure there are untold stories we don’t know about since we don’t know them and what goes inside their homes, my point was that Shallon is hilarious lol
@@leandradozier968 one of Britney’s kids has offered to air out her personal business with the conservatorship if he got a certain amount of likes and followers on instagram. The other one is just as bad. When Britney suggested that she would stop making music, his response was “do you know how much bank she makes off that stuff”. It’s clear that her kids weren’t raised correctly by Kevin because of their blatant disregard that they have for her. Did you see how they were talking back to her in those videos that Kevin leaked? Also the fact that they did the interview for money is telling. I don’t know why you guys are so anti Britney. She’s clearly the victim here and you guys are so crazy for not taking her side. Like I honestly don’t get how you’re so blind to all of this.
@@Doyouandshutup and?
Shallon, you blew through so many myths about parent/child relationships here, that I never thought about before. Thank you for your intelligence and passion. 🌹
So true about the having kids !! 90% of ppl that I have interacted with that have kids say “don’t have kids” or “omg take take your time “ or something along those lines ! It just dawned on me …
I truly am starting to think that parenthood is only for the strongest and most compassionate people. It’s kind of like being a heart surgeon. Most people think it would be great to be a heart surgeon! But do they have what it takes to do that?… We’re not taught that we even have that much of an option with parenthood. It’s just like you reach a certain age and you do it and question it later. But look where that’s gotten us. It’s totally weird to me that most parents have this “yikes” type vibe when you ask them if they enjoy having kids. And, contrary to popular belief, the kids don’t find that funny and it’s painful and confusing
i’m good with my two cats. i have guilt that i’m not a good enough mom for them. let alone actual human beings. kids need so so much. i am not going to risk having them. i sense many do because of societal pressures.
I don’t want kids cause I don’t like them and also I wouldn’t want to spend the money or put in time so I’ll stick to bunnies in tom he future
Or they also say “your life changes” in a really sad depressing tone hahah I’m like thanks for the encouragement hahah 🌚
@@Toryb168 sounds like a death sentence
I feel SO bad for her kids.
Yeah but at the same time k fed didn't have to bring the kids in this interview or leak the videos so he is just to blame
Yes so bad those rich privilege kids who don’t know what true struggle is
Everyone suffers because of her father and the fact that she never had a decent role model.. She was was simply the cash cow for everyone once she could perform.
The entire thing is a s*** show “circus” pun intended. It’s just a media circus. No matter what happens. I really really feel terrible for them. This has all got to be messing with their heads
They deserve a better mom
It’s good they are with their dad
I loved your entire look today Shallon! 😍 Your styled hair for the elegant feminine vibe, your makeup, the hoops and the necklace ✨💕 Absolute chefs kiss!!
God her hair is GOOOOLLLDDDEEENNNN!!!
Wow "Toxic ppl turn our best quality into the worst" That hit home to me 😟
"He expects more from you than he expects from himself ".....wow mind blowing
Honestly I just finally moved out of my moms and now I have cut her off. This has been the most peaceful month of my life… I really can’t keep her in my life anymore even though I’ve been brainwashed to put up with the emotional abuse I can’t do it anymore she drags me down
Those words to her son are so spiteful and cruel- she's basically dangling the prospect of cutting him off when he comes of age. She's weaponized money just like it was weaponized against her.
She's spent so long flashing he vulva online I swear I've seen it more than my own and she's fine with that, but her sons showing genuine concern gets her back up?? Her reaction is one of a spiteful brat not getting her own way in a toy store and throwing a tantrum and calling the adult out for not catering to her.
Like you've always said shallon fame is a kind of trauma that freezes you at the age it happens, she's a bratty 17 year old now with adult mental health problems who is oblivious to everything she's bringing into other people's lives.
Shallon the fact that you would even fear the possibility of not loving your kids shows what a good mom you would be. You already feel guilty for not loving them enough and they’re not even here! You would never be one of those moms that hates their kids. There’s just no way
I’ll admit, I make a lot of excuse for Britney. I’ve followed her story all my life so it’s difficult for me to hold her accountable. But I do appreciate you for calling her out. I have a lot of mommy issues (daddy issues too but we’re talking about my mommy ones for now lol) and it was always difficult for me to open up to others about it cause it seemed like everyone else’s mother was just…healthy? You know? Everyone had some kind of input when it came to dads, but not moms. So I’ve felt always felt so isolated and sad cause I didn’t understand what I was doing wrong and why my mom was (and still is) my biggest hater. Now that I’m older I’ve come to understand that she has her own trauma and reasons behind her behavior, but it doesn’t eliminate the fact that she’s constantly hurting me. In a weird twisted way, seeing all these comments of other people go through similar experiences with their moms, gives me some relief. Im not as alone as I thought. How bittersweet 🥲
The confidence and sense of safety you get from a healthy mom like yours is like a dream
I get what you are saying. But you have to balance that out w/ the pain and abandonment from her dad. Who also committed suicide. It’s easy to think one aspect of someones life makes their life easy / dreamlike. But usually its more complex.
"It's not always clinical depression, you might simply be a dick, I think it's underdiagnosed" 🤣🤣🤣
Finally someone with some common sense about this whole Britney mess. Absolutely agree with you Shallon! She is not accountable to anyone, it seems, and absolutely everyone is victimising her, as per her own view 🤔. She has started to come across so unlikeable and immature
Completely agree. Unlikeable and immature to the 10th degree.
Her flagrant disregard for her sons feelings is shocking 😕 I don't understand how people can be viewing her boys as the villains, and how she allows it to happen in turn... I agree with you completely Shallon. I see friends of mine on Instagram who like her posts and I think 'HOW can you LIKE this? How???'
She needs help. Poor boys.
It was weird to see everyone coming down so hard on Jamie Lynn. Seriously, what do people expect her to do?!
People were so vicious to Jaime Lynn! Attacking her appearance and everything. So childish.
Thank you Shallon for keeping it 100% real. You're the only RUclipsr I've seen or heard anyone talk about Brittneys lack of responsibility and using meth. Hallelujah Shallon! Someone finally said it.
Omg that part about the Mom threatening about leaving 😭 It was triggering my mom did that to me and my younger sister when we miss behaved or she was having a bad day. That she was going to go back to her country and leave us. When I got older and she said that again I just responded ok let me help you pack !
She's allowed to be mad at her mother but her kids are not? She is allowed to compare herself to Jamie Lynn but one her sons can't compare himself to the other?
Smh...
YES 👏🏼 I’m sick of the identify politics! If it’s something out of your control, don’t use that to justify shitty behavior!
it’s bigger than that. britney spears wasn’t just enslaved by her family there was a giant machine behind it (managers, lawyers, music industry, hollywood). this is what they do. even the DNC has ties to this conservatorship
My teen sons said the most hurtful things to me at that age. But I need to be mature about it because they were not.
The best advice I heard was from Jordan Peterson, similar to your medication making you a good person. He said that good men aren’t good if they are weak and can’t fight. Good mean are good who can fight and are dangerous and choose not to be. So relating that to yours…. If you have anxiety, working on yourself and finding your coping skills to choose not to listen to your anxieties makes you a happier person. A happy person isn’t someone who just doesn’t have any problems but someone who works through their problems and ways to cope with them to be happy.
Loved what you said about Venezuela. I'm Brazilian and it pisses me off to no end to see Americans claiming that the U.S "is the worst place to live" and they wish they could move. Lol let's trade places anytime.
I mean, by that logic, no one should ever complain about anything. Go to Saudi Arabia, and I’m sure a lot of women there would love to trade places with you
@@Creepystalker102 exactly the reason I don't say Brazil is the worst country in the world lol and I've heard americans say this exact thing about the U.S. It's a fucking slap to the face to people like me that live in 3rd world countries and will literally never have half of the opportunities you take for granted every single day. Grow up.
We are very blessed to love in a Free country we are blessed to have what we have
So happy to be here the moment my queen posts. I love how you aren’t afraid to say the unpopular opinion
You have to know that Britney’s family never put her on medication or rehab because they cared it was because they wanted her money. How you want that woman to feel like she needs to come back to therapy when in the last 15 years it was used as a tool of extreme control and TORTURE from her family to her? You guys need to put yourself on her shoes. Britney was a slave for her family and money machine since 2008 and had no opportunity to grow as a person though those years.. she couldn’t chose her own therapist or lawyer or use her own money to do anything how you expect this women to be OK??? She is traumatized and she’s admitted to MULTIPLE times and all she wants it’s her kids to acknowledge that as well
Britney was in therapy and heavy medication from 2008-2021 and that made her no good, nothing but broken and traumatized.. so yes I’ll say it again, LEAVE BRITNEY ALONE.
That is not the reason. Because they would’ve taken all. You’re delusional.
"Unconditional love" - people need to understand that there is a difference between loving someone unconditionally and keeping them in your life unconditionally. If you truly love another person unconditionally that's fine, but that doesn't mean you let them stay in your life no matter what. And on top of that, most of us don't really love others unconditionally, a lot of the time people mistake toxic codependence as unconditional love. They are not the same.
I cried when you read the "dear abby" style letter. Sounds like my family.. since I can remember and my sister and I are in our 30's. Any young lady dealing with this, I feel you. You will grow to be your own woman with your own life. Keep your chin up.
Thank you so much your comment means a lot 💞
@@aslihassan9305 it's not for you lol
I thought I was crazy b/c everyone is defending her. The second you come on social media to bash your underage children you lose
Boundaries are so important! I had a very difficult situation w an entire group of relatives who wanted to take advantage of me… it was the hardest situation of my adult life to say no! And no! Until they realized I would not cave to the pressure and emotional black mailing. Unfortunately I had two choices: to let them do what they wanted or defend myself. Ive “lost” that side of the family but I havent lost me.
Shallon, I would really love to hear your two cents about the relationship dynamics between Victoria Beckham, her son Brooklyn and Nicola Peltz. I think there's a lot to unpack...
Excellent video. Hopefully Britney sees it. She can have a wonderful relationship with her sons but she has to understand they're teenagers and aren't going to be able to heal her pain. She has to do that herself and let them grow up. They still have years to go before they understand her and what she went thru.
Sharon I just agree so much with you in the most things. You have come so far! So proud of you having balls big enough to don't give a fuck what the messed up public thinks about you. You go girl!!!
Shallon " you have an Elton John song out " 😅" you wanna see what my nipples look like right now"😂 .....(Im literally dying)
I love the way you are so honest and your not scared to call a spade a spade 👏👏👏👏
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Hey Shallon! I had to cut my mum and my sister out of my life for similar reasons...so toxic and they are so alike. Mentally unstable, alcoholics and horrendous to be around. Mentally and spiritually draining. I miss the "good versions" of them, but the older they get, the worse they get somehow. Don't need that drama. I empathise with Brit's kids!
I cut my siblings out. They still don't understand my Autism Spectrum Disorder and I have PTSD from things my siblings did (one physically and mentally abused me, another was psychotic and only calls my dad for MONEY). I only have biological brother and my father and my three closest friends who are more family than my own half siblings. Plus I was ridiculed and shamed and abused by teachers in school verbally and (in fifth grade) physically. I even physically assaulted my 8th Grade teacher who was a sexist and fat shaming (called one of my very best friends who was like a sister figure to me a fat rhymes with runt but starts with a C) and called me a derogatory word towards disabled. I left him a beaten and bruised mess. What saved me was my Resource Room teacher and my classmates/friends going to bat for me. My mother had her issues BUT LOVED ME UNCONDITIONALLY. In her case, she cracked under the pressures of raising four from her first marriage (her first husband died in 1972 from a fall), two stepkids from second husband (my father) and my biological brother and I from the marriage of my mom and dad which sadly ended in divorce in 1987. I went with my dad only because I wanted to break the cycle of getting into smoking, drinking and drugs and LUCKILY I DID. My half brother manipulated my mother and bullied her and even tried to kill her more than once or twice.
I always defended Britney and meanwhile I have huge empathy for her I have to agree with this. Kids are the biggest victims here. They lost a mother, got stuck with Kevin as a father. They are kids. I hope they heal and dont pass this trauma on to their future families
It speaks volumes when KFed is the voice of reason.
Love is unconditional, the behavior is not.
Could not agree more. It’s extremely hard for a woman to lose custody of her children, especially a famous white woman at that. She’s not well
oh my God did Jayden James really say that? I was right! All the years I've watched Britney and her sons grow up I always felt like she never showed attention to the older one. It was always the younger son she shows attention to and I thought maybe its because he is younger or has some sickness we don't know about. Wow so that really was the case. I wonder why? I used to think it was because the older one looked just like his dad and was a constant reminder of his father or because she trauma bonded with the younger one when she locked herself up in a room with him back before they locked her up.
Tried to kill Jayden in the standoff with the cops.
I also think parents should unconditionally love their minor children. Kids should feel 100% love and support from their parents no matter what growing up (even if that comes in the form of constructive discipline/criticism to form them into better functioning/happier adults). That is a parent’s job. Which to me just highlights more why Britney’s public reaction makes me sad. They may be teens, but they are still in the formative growing years which IMO should warrant unconditional love from their parents and not public clap backs.
YEP the have already suffered so much from her being in this situation and now she is expecting them to parent and comfort her the way she should be parenting and comforting them
Love that you’re supporting a fellow Venezuelan! 💜 thank you!
She is not well at all. The relationship between her and her sons is worse than toxic!
It’s because she is their age mentally and emotionally so she can’t level up as a parent as she still needs to reparent herself.
Looking back at this, I feel that you only knew her through social media. What about her Las Vegas Residency? Her X-factor gig, her 3 other albums after 2015? Her Domination tour? The one she didn't want to but has to because of her conservatorship? She was a cash cow to her family. Her kids had more time with K-Fed and team conservatorship than with her, she only get vacation with them. But in perspective, I think her desire for kids are still in the mindset of back in 2008. It's the idea of wanting kids like they're cute and fun, and a sign of maturing into womanhood, but doesn't comprehend that it's not easy. She doesn't really have the capacity of learning diaper changing, baby proofing her house, being patient with babies forming words or understanding danger, all that needs a lot of patient, it's not like teaching kids in daycare. It's a 24/7 job. She finds kids to be cute and fun, like a disney channel kid, but like being patient with crying and word forming, things like getting them to sleep, getting them to eat, what kinds of food to eat at different age, that's something she won't like. She won't be able to call out when toddlers are immature because she will only see them as having fun. That youthful rock star phase she had in exchange for going to school and actually working in a stable job really didn't do her any favors because she has no accountability towards responsibilities. And in motherhood, despite how rich you are, if kids are so important and you want to raise them yourself, you can't throw these responsibility to a nanny, because that, in early childhood psychology, is what bonds parent-child dynamic. You can't just get a photoshoot, an article, to justify to yourself how "happy" or how "close", or how "your mom is your best friend" type of thing. It's like you're rich and yet you want genuine, but what you're doing is an act of immaturity. You can't buy your way out to get genuine.
I saw her kids talking and they look soo mature.
And to be honest I don't think they were rude to their mother in any way.
If we look at some things she post in ista against celebreties, i think she were so much rude. Like that passive agressive post against Selena Gomes was rude.
Britney is playing the victim and taking badly about everyone, is kinda sick.
This reminds me of the Michael Jackson situation, if both he and Britney were normal people no one would be defending them but because they made some hit songs they’re basically martyrs to millions of people. 😪
Youre right, she’s probably not well. but she’s also traumatized and still processing what she went through. she’s not going to be a super productive person and start working or have high energy. she’s also probably really depressed.
Sometimes am not after peace or victory, am after justice. Cause no peace will be there if it’s not fair
Actually shallon stigmatization of mental health disorders does exist BUT in culturally different communities, like Hispanic community because our culture revolves around the notion that there are bigger problems in life that what’s inside our heads, so we internalize a lot of our mental issues (tough it out) and never talk about it. I was raised here in the US so I feel more confident in talking about my mental issues with my family and I had to educate my parents and aunts that mental issues are valid problems. But if I were in Mexico in the small rural town I was born in, it would be a different story, I would get accused of being possessed by demons or that I have a weak will power. Stigmatization of mental health issues also exists in religious communities that take the religious approach in treating metals health. It’s only here in the US, that mental health is commonly talked about and even glamorized
This is so true.
Shallon, you are one of the few people that still has a sensible head on their shoulders.
Your hair is looking AMAZING!! (all capital letters don’t do justice to its fabulousity).
She’s definitely not okay.
no she’s not. she’s been under human trafficking in the california court probate system. follow the money there’s a lot of court documents out there
My mother is bipolar and I just want to thank you so much for speaking up for the children of the mentally ill
So was mine & I am grateful to have had her. I don’t need anyone to speak up for me.
@@taviaturner3070 I am so glad that your experience is vastly different to my own.
so over people infantilising britney spears because of what she went through. she’s not behaving normally and she comes off as toxic in her rants.
Can we just take a Minute to appreciate the gorgeousness that is Shallons hair❤️
Mental illness does not justify shitty behavior. I’ve been on meds for ten years and I take full responsibility for everything shitty that I’ve done to people, never excusing it with my mental illness. This ableism just adds to the stigma of us being unstable and crazy.
Did your family get a conservatorship and strip you of your civil rights? Were you forced to do things against your will? Were you told what to eat every day? Were you implanted with a device to stop you from procreating against your will. Were you made to work 7 days a week for years against you will? Were you made to shower supervised and never being allowed to have a bathroom door ? Were you threatened that if you didn’t do what your family said that you would be put in 5150 psych hold ?
Well this was Britney’s life for 13 years and all there are many more things I haven’t listed. I’m happy you are doing good with your mental illness , but not everyone’s mental illness is the same and neither are everyone’s personal struggles.
@@smallfry8280 she’s an ADULT. It may not be her fault, but it IS her responsibility to solve everything that’s been done to her.
She has not been able to be adult for 13 years as she has been controlled even by being told what she is allowed to eat. Wasn’t allowed access to money except a small allowance, wasn’t able to pay her own bills , wasn’t able to decide what color to paint her kitchen cabinets. It’s hard to grow as human being and be adult where all your abilities to grow into an adult have been taken away.
I’m so happy that you are doing great with your mental illness and you accept responsibility for all your flaws. But , you can not compare your situation to Britney’s .
She needs time to figure out what being an adult is as basic decisions were stripped from her and she was treated like a child for 13 years.
Maybe try a little empathy. She needs treatment, and attacking her certainly won’t help.
@@smallfry8280 I’m not attacking her, I’m just saying that she is an adult who, btw, is not in a conservatorship anymore and can pay for the best therapists the world has to offer. The fact that she hasn’t seen her kids in 6 months but has had time to get married is worrisome and not indicative of her wanting to “grow up”.
Her not seeing the children is not her choice , if you watch the interview , her son says that he and his brother did not go to their mothers wedding because she didn’t invite her whole family. And only invited the boys.
Britney has distanced herself from her father, mother, sister , and brother, due to them doing what they did to her during the conservatorship. It’s understandable that she didn’t want her abusers at the wedding. She did invite her sons.
She wants to see her children , they do not want to see her as was stated in the interview with Jayden . He said he wants her to get better first and to forgive her family . The family that abused her , her father , mother , sister , brother ect.
Her kid told her her to chill . He stuck up for her father that even abused his older brother.
The kids are obviously suffering from parental alienation.
And as you should know , since you say that you suffer from mental illness, you don’t just go to therapy a few times and get all better. Yes she has money to see the best therapists . But it will take a longer than 6 months to be cured from what she has been through for the last 13 years.
Narcissistic mothers are... THE WORST. I was raised by a narcissistic father. But that is different. If you look it up, men with narcissistic disorders soften up with age. I practically had no relationship with my father despite the fact that we lived in the same house. But we were able to build a relationship as adults. I think narcissistic fathers don't want the burden of having to raise children.
But narcissistic mothers... Holy shit! Women with narcissistic disorders get progressively worse with age. First and foremost, their beauty fades away which leaves them depressed. And yes, narcissists get depressed when they lose supply or when their inflated egos get bruised. Secondly, their children grow up and instead of worshiping on their altars they try to distance themselves from their mothers because they are an F-ing nightmare.
Narcissistic mothers are manipulative, abusive, demeaning. They truly crush the souls of their children and their spouse. I am watching this unravel live in my life. Not in my family, but someone close and it is ....gut wrenching to watch.
Read Daughter of Narcissus by Lady Collin Campbell if you are interested in the subject. But trigger warning, it will truly hit home if you were raised by a narcissistic mother
Your commentary on this is terrifyingly good. Can you do a video on comebacks and how to reason with people that seemingly can't be reasoned with? Sometimes one can also get kind of stunned by bad reasoning and not know the words to say
“A whiteman who thinks he’s black” 😂 Kevin Federline lmaoooo 😂
Shallon thank you for always speaking your mind! It’s refreshing
this has to be hands down your best hair color/style, you look radiant 🙌🏼
I have recently come to the realization how horrifying the things my mother said / did to me as a child were. When your mother tells you to look down (at your stomach) and says “tell me what you see” and doesn’t accept any answer until i say “fat”… at 10 years old. And then constant being put on diets , etc. when i was NOT even close overweight on the scale or in body comp. That stuff sticks with you.. and has much bigger consequences than she ever knew. I am about to be 25 years old and I have always thought these were semi-normal things and that mothers are all like this. I keep hoping one day she will apologize for years and years of being obsessed with my looks and weight and thrusting self hatred and eating disorders on me. Your thoughts in this video just keep making me realize how bad it was..
I'm so sorry that your Mum projected her own shame and self-hatred onto you. It makes my blood boil that so many innocent and beautiful girls have gone through the same emotional/mental abuse because their Mum decided not to work on these issues before having kids. I hope you know now that there's absolutely nothing wrong with you and you're worthy of self-love and happiness. 💗
@@nikola2812 Thank you for your kind words. I have made it my mission to resolve these issues before I even think of having a child. I can't fathom making another being, much less my own child, live through these kind of emotions and thoughts.
Do not disagree with her not working. She’s been working non stop till 2019
THANK YOU FOR STATING *EVERYTHING* I THINK AND FEEL ABOUT THIS SUBJECT.
Brittney is just like Baby Jane. This shit is heartbreaking 💔
OMG that is a great comparison, frozen in time, pushed into performing by a controlling father that was just trying to use her for his own gain, excellent comparison.
@@Margatatials Excuse. Britney was self destructing before C-ship. You forget her OD'ing on Molly/Ecstasy with Jason Alexander in 2004 which led her to the 55 Hour quickie marriage which fried her brains. Her pursuing K-Fed despite him being with another woman. Faking a injury to get out of a tour. Blew fans off to be with K-Fed. Then beat K-Fed with a frying pan and physically abused him and the sons (fed them food that made them sick and even ordered them to eat the vomit). He got custody IMMEDIATELY. She tried to kill her sons in standoff with the cops which led her to the nuthouse. Add cocaine, ecstasy and METH to mental illness, she is self destructive. Her father tried to save her from herself. Sam even left her in 2023.
I love what you said about toxic people that take your best trait and turn it into a target I have a stepdad that does that he’s narcissistic and somewhat toxic but he takes my best traits and he twist them into character defects and it drives me insane