ABC isn't gonna drop any of them. For some reason, even with the same dam script for 20 years women keep getting their cheap box wine, putting their sweatpants on, & watching these every Monday.
thats EXACTLY true.... he looks at love thru the lens of his Mom and dads failure... I dont think he will ever commit to Marriage... Rachel should move on as soon as she can with a new man
Totally agree. Then he puts it on his mom, like he hadn't already decided and known that he wasn't going to end up with anybody. If you have so many commitment issues as he does . why go on a process like this. He seemed a good guy until he wasn't. Total BS on his part.
During the final rose ceremony he said he saw what a rushed proposal did to his family. If he was looking for marriage he wouldn’t have been on this show.
Being on this show must be so embarrassing. These girls can get any guy they want in the real world but they end up competing only to be someone's 2nd, 3rd, or 4th choice.
@@nocturnalrise To these people, it's practically everything, oh high horse one. The alternative is invisibility, which for them is equivalent to failure.
@Norman Viking Yep, losers are a dime a dozen anyway. Wait, actually, they're free. Hm... now that I think about it, they're not even free: they come THROWING their money at you. 😂😂
Matt wasn't ready, he and his mother need therapy. Just because her relationship didn't work out, she can't plant that seed in Matt. All those girls dodged a missile.
🙌 I wish he would let that go just because you didn't grow up with it doesn't mean you can't have it. He can't keep using that as an excuse for his relationships not working
@@treyking1432 100% agree and I also find it weird that people pull things from years ago like people aren’t capable of growing and maturing. I posted a lot of dumb stuff in my late teens early 20s and I think most people can/should agree that you change a lot in five years when you’re in your late teens and early 20s
@@claudettemcleod6316 I think he grew up with his mom and compartmentalized racism but to align himself with Rachael would be a bridge too far. I don't think people understand how much emotional baggage it takes to teach someone to respect your humanity. At the end of the day he was not willing to do that and I can respect that.
I realized he wasn’t ready for marriage when he let Abigail go a sweet mature young woman.. and he told her “I got comfortable in our relationship that I explored others” I knew he wasn’t ready. When he said that. Lol
It’s clear Matt was looking for any excuse to dump Rachel, never proposed to her, didn’t stand by her to help through a difficult time. Guy was not ready to be the bachelor.
@@treyking1432 you can clearly see he wasn't. Bro caved in to the mob. Had he been ready, he would've stayed with Rachel through thick and thin. Which he didn't.
The lack of emotion with this man is concerning. It’s almost like he never actually had any kind of feelings for anyone but just went along with it for the show. He has deep rooted issues, and this shows why he’s still single
You could see his eyes light up every time he was with Rachael on the show. I really think he loved her, but as he said himself, he realized he just didnt really know her. Which is understandable as you don't have enough time on the show to get to know someone 100%. But I too would loose feelings for someone who did that or hurt me in a similar way.
I don’t get why everyone is putting this in him, I mean it kinda is on him, but what did he expect. This would of happened with or without a show. She will never understand, u can see in her face she doesn’t get his pain, she only get said when she talks about them being a thing, they are young, this was puppy love, in the moment love
Absolutely.. I don't beLIEve a word of what's he's NOW saying.. This has to be political. Nothing else makes sense! He defended Rachael (and admitted he didn't even bother to ask her about the photo thinking it was a rumor LOL)....THEN after Chris Harrison explosion, all things changed and suddenly it became known to him "in real time." That's a lie. He knew about it beforehand. Prove me wrong. ;o) Word is also out from the inside that the producers got into his head which confirms his actions and common sense reasoning. ;) WHERE is Rachel Lindsay on calling him out?!!! =P
Honestly I sorta agree. The conversation is important. What Rachel did wasn’t right. But the dude had no chemistry with anyone, and Tyler Cameron to me used to be the most gorgeous man in the world and now he sells shirts with his picture on it. It’s weird
@@joshschang4993 Fr like this happens all the time irl too, people are acting so surprised for some reason, like they think Matt cares about what they say about him
He did open up to this, have you not seen the Racial Controversy surrounding who he chose??? Cancel Culture ruined this relationship. They were getting Death threats and Harrasing messages day in a day out by radical fans mad that he chose a Whte Woman.
@@mikeporter4160 I understand how you could of viewed it that way. But that's what happens when a dude let's Social Media dictate his life choices smh.
That's unjust. His father didn't run away from the commitment. He ran away *after* that. Matt didn't commit (even in the face of all the pressure to do it). Do you really not see the difference? He didn't ruin anyone's life. He was actually totally successful in his commitment to not repeat what happened with his father,
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 yeah cause he didn't have the balls to actually commit, he makes a good F boy and it sure looks looks like he loves playing around.
I honestly think he was "interested" in and "attracted" to Rachel and Serena P. Those are the only 2 he told he loved. But I don't think he was ready for commitment. As soon as the controversy happened, he used that as an excuse to drop Rachel.
He picked her after going through about 30 women. He dumped her because he couldn't handle the social media heat. This is the equivalent of a teenager dumping a young woman because his high school buddies think she's not hot enough. Great way to show you know to treat and protect a woman, buddy. He's a baby man.
Yes, not a gentlemanly move at all. It just seems as if he threw her to the wolves. Anyone noticed that Rachel has barely had a chance to say a word in her defense since this all started? She was just left to bare it all without much chance to speak. Everyone has been able to say whatever they wished about her, without her having much chance to speak for herself. How is this right or fair?
Yes, Matt's a coward and an appeaser. He didn't care much about Rachel. He decided to appease the "cancel" crowd and the current social forces and tearfully play the "I'm so hurt and a victim" role. LOL He doesn't give much of a damn about her party photo. He just cowered and decided to dump her, so he can still be loved by the (actual) racists currently in power.
The production for this season was already beginning while Tayshia's season was wrapping so that couldn't be possible. But Mike Johnson was right there.
Matt is not making much sense here, he is so shut down emotionally. Finally realized he was shut down the entire season too. Numbing out is a trauma response and he likely has gone this far in life not realizing he needs to work on these issues. (Trauma from childhood) I hope he gets professional help. 🙏🏼 He needs to work on himself, big time.
Agree! Even his unkempt beard, and just how he struggled to communicate what he's feeling. Even the host was encouraging him to actually talk to Rachel, but he sat there like a robot pouting the whole time. It was really uncomfortable to watch. It's amazing remembering my impression of Matt on the first episode and what he looks like now. It's like 2 completely different people. I think he does need therapy.
@@80sports20 I think he was very clear. Racism is a dealbreaker for him. He doesn't want to spend the entirety of the relationship in teaching mode when it comes to race. The problem is that I agree with you about not being ready but the Rachael situation muddied the waters. He does need counseling but heck... we all do.
He has a hard time making a commitment, his issues control the entire show, it was very unfair to these ladies especially after spending the night with them in the suites, these ladies were very hurt😔
Matt needs to heal from his past because he’s projecting his hurt unto the women and it’s preventing him from moving on. That conversation with his dad sealed the deal in detecting the broken child in Matt. He can find the most amazing women, but until he’s healed it will never work in his favour
Personally, I don't give a damn about Matt, but I do think he needs to deal with his inner child so he doesn't continue to ruin the lives of the women he's around.
@@charleschichester8054 growing up without a father can lead to feelings of abandonment, betrayal, and confusion. This can translate into the child’s adulthood in the form of being closed off, hesitant to be be vulnerable, not letting anybody in etc. This prevents Matt from advancing his romantic relations because relationships require intimacy in the form of vulnerability to create an emotional connections. Obviously he hasn’t healed bc this is all we’ve been seeing through the season, no vulnerability.
His mum must have preached all the time about men letting women down. These unrealistic expectations he puts on himself about marriage all triggered by fear of what his dad was and the constant disappointment his mum probably spouted about men. This dude is crumbling under unrealistic expectations. He looks like a triggered scared boy. well done mum 👍
Yes she was wrong n she took full ownership, but he could have confronted her but still teach and educate her on how to be better person n stuff not canceling her completely like dang. Love conquers everything. He don’t love her period.
True but it shouldn’t always be the job of POC to educate. She definitely does need to go on this journey of unlearning and relearning by herself. Matt still loves her and he said it himself that his feelings didn’t fade over night
If Matt really loved Rachael he would want to be part of her learning and he would be more forgiving, yes she was wrong. She owned it and is working on getting educated and being a better person. Matt wasn’t ready for a true commitment.
Trueee. He comes across as being very manipulative and emotionless. How can you go from loving someone and seeing them as your wife to wanting nothing to do with them? What she did was wrong but if he loved her or had feelings even he’d stay with her and they’d get through it together
@@agape101969 none of them are real!! They all empty and dead on the inside! That’s not love! My Lord please seek out real people!! This show is like shinning corps
He has move chemistry with Tyler than any girls from this season. He never really had any real feelings for any of the girls. Its not a bad thing its just the truth.
She is so genuinely sorry and he is so cold and unforgiving. I'm glad God doesn't give up on us that quickly for our ignorant mistakes when we confess our sins. This man knows nothing about love or committment.
He has the right to take racism seriously and not want to be with someone who could never understand where he comes from. Sorry you have a thick skull and can’t understand that
@@saywhatyouwantidontcare I don't think this is about "leftism" and have no idea if Matt is "leftist". I think it has more to do with a lack of perspective and a lack of true love.
@@colerichardson5535 She made a mistake. If he loved her he would forgive the mistakes of the past and be with her. But he really did not so he dipped when the going got tough
Matt's a coward and an appeaser. He didn't care about Rachel. He decided to appease the "cancel" crowd and the current social forces and tearfully play the "I'm so hurt and a victim" role. LOL He doesn't give a damn about her party photo. He just cowered and decided to dump her, so he can still be loved by the (actual) racists currently in power.
@@duchessngy8454 not sure why she did that on Instagram, but Tayshia clarified that they’re good and he ring is finally being sized and Zac posted how proud he is of Tayshia for hosting so it seems everything is good again. Though I did hear he was upset that she took the position Bc he can’t see her Bc of the whole quarantine thing but that’s just a rumor
Honestly. This part seemed clout chasing to me cuz he knew all along that she didn’t understand his blackness and even he didn’t seem to wanna acknowledge it but now he wanna come with “you didn’t understand my blackness” Boy bye
@@CharisMaggieTV yep, he saw this as an opportunity to use this as a scapegoat, so he doesn’t have to man up and admit he actually wasn’t committed or ready.
That was his plan. Bachelor nation is just turning into a meat market. With lots of variety for the players. I couldn't watch his episode it was actually gross
@@deegir3354 he's all like you need to put the work in... No just accept her sincere apology and move on. Grudges and the victim card won't get you anywhere.
He never truly loved her. Love is forgiving and working together....not worrying about "being with her and then getting cancelled" He is too worried about his career....he wont get any sponsors if he stays with her.
The best thing for Rachel is to focus on healing her heart and letting all this mess behind. Matt could not stand with her, proclaiming that she has to do the work on her own. I hope she can find a man that is willing to stand with her be a leader and a true partner, in good and bad. Matt chose the easy way out by breaking up with her than to be there and fight with her. At the end He was what I expected he would be.
What makes me cry is when she said she doesn't think there is anyone out there for her. I pray she doesn't close the door to love because she deserves love and love in abundance
Couldn’t have said it better myself! When you find a potential wife, you stick with her through the fire. What he did makes him a poor excuse of a man.
Rachel made a big mistake and was racially ignorant, that is all true. I see her trying to learn and grow though. If he really did love her he would have stuck out by her side encouraging her and calling her out when it's needed. Saying that he doesn't want to be responsible for her emotions is taking the easy way out. Listen buddy, women carry you dudes' emotional baggage all the time. He is a lot like his dad. A difficult moment and he's out. Next.
Matt is a wounded guy who has not gotten over the hurt of his parents split. If it wasn’t Rachael it was going to be someone else he would break up with. He is not ready to be anyone’s husband. His reasons for the break up tonight does not match the feeling Of someone who knows how to love . Rachael has started to redeem herself but Matt I think never gave her a chance and I am disappointed in his explanations. Until he deals with his issue brought on by his parents split this will be his patter. Bail and the first signs of distress
The funny thing is, even if this whole “scandal” with Rachel didn’t happen, he still would’ve looked for an excuse to end it. He cannot commit to any woman right now. He’s not ready! He says he wants someone to stand by his side through everything, yet he can’t stand with her through this. For someone that says that he loves her and he knows her heart.. I can’t help but laugh because if you did you would know deep down in her heart that is not who she is. But he gave up anyway.
She'll look back some day and realize she dodged a bullet. He was so quick to call it quits. He could've gone to see her in person and spent time with her talking this out. He made it all about him and was so patronizing, as tho' he doesn't have any work to do on himself to grow up and learn how to work things out.
@@anandaadidevi2339 absolutely. He waited to talk about it on nation television instead of to her privately. She definitely will find someone who deserves her.
THANK YOU... WELL SAID!!! He knows the true inner Rachel, and none of those terrible rumors about her were true. It's like "Matt,.. hello...go back & re-watch your season as it aired!!! Rachel did not talk mean about anyone in the house &/or in those side interviews even!! She was the nicest woman in that house/hotel!!"""" I feel so very sad for her...breaks my heart!! 💔
I actually really love how this story ended and how they handled the conversation. He didn't want her to be canceled and wanted to be with her, but she needed to unlearn and relearn some things. They held a dialectical conversation with compassion. He held her accountable, she took accountability and did the work to better herself. Now both of them are together again. That's growth and that's progress
"She needs to unlearn and relearn some things" couldn't sound more condescending than that. Let's be clear: he is upset because of a dress she was wearing years before meeting him and not because of something she did or say to him. Something he could have easily checked for himself before the media came with the smearing campaign - but he didn't. And instead of taking responsibility for his (lack of) actions or to look past that insignificant sh*tstorm he decides to go full ahead blaming her. That tells you more than enough about what kind of a person he is.
I think his mother has really done a number on him. He thinks he is damaged goods. He has never been married or in a serious relationship so where did he get that idea from...his mother. She put on him all the hurt and disappointment she felt from his father and he's been carrying it around all his life. It's a heavy load to carry and not his burden to bear.
Well you certainly took the words from my mind. As I mentioned in another reply, he needs to remove himself from her grip. I feel for him and wish him well.
👏👏👏👏👏 Yeah. I also didn't agree entirely with his mother when she said that feelings fade. Maybe it did in her relationship with his father, but it's not always like that. Sometimes it ripens like a fine wine.
This sounds like a line of husband material " I don't want to be emotionally responsible for those tears" like the moment he didn't propose after saying repeatedly I believe my wife is in this room I knew he couldn't be serious.
Yep! Matt's a coward and an appeaser. He didn't care about Rachel. He decided to appease the "cancel" crowd and the current social forces and tearfully play the "I'm so hurt and a victim" role. LOL He doesn't give a damn about her party photo. He just cowered and decided to dump her, so he can still be loved by the (actual) racists currently in power.
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 pretty much sums it up. He's a coward. Never ready for marriage where you stay with your partner through thick and thin. It should be you and them against the world.
The show needs to stop getting influencers for the show. People are there for followers and exposure. As for Matt, I don’t know who convinced him to do the show. This guy is not ready for marriage.
Matt was never ready for marriage and he didn’t love anyone. If he loved her, he would be standing by her and helping to educate her. Not dumping her because of her past.
You can only understand if you were in his shoes it is simply what you can’t experience btw if someone cannot forget what she didn’t it is better to end soon than later
He’s not obligated to educate her on anything especially at her big age. She should’ve known right from wrong racism isn’t just something you can forgive and move on from. He had every right to not choose her.
@@lammmf that's because it used to be a light-hearted superficial show where almost nobody ended up staying together because you can't marry somebody in the span of a couple months...now it's manufactured drama.
Seems like Matt is looking for any reason not to commit. Ironic because he talks about fear of commitment in his dad and wanting not to be like that, but ends up being one of the most commitment phobic people I've ever seen
Rachel is too good for him, however she shouldn't "need" a man/love to complete her. She was stomped on and took it like a door mat...signs of insecurity and co dependent....both are broken...get whole 1st, then date someone!
Yes, Matt's a coward and an appeaser. He didn't care about Rachel. He decided to appease the "cancel" crowd and the current social forces and tearfully play the "I'm so hurt and a victim" role. LOL He doesn't give a damn about her party photo. He just cowered and decided to dump her, so he can still be loved by the (actual) racists currently in power.
I just think it's sad that everyone wants an explanation and apologies but whenever she tries to give these things then it's like her explanation and apology is never good enough or what they want to hear. I'm not the biggest fan of this episode for several reasons but for them to not be accepting of her apology or explanation effecting her health like it seems it's doing is just uncalled for. I pray she doesn't turn suicidal over all this 🙏
@@emgmin They put her through unnecessary drama. Terrible the way they treated her. They should apologize to her. Can't understand why they are listening to insignificant people.
@@josiemaldonado9831 I stopped watching as soon as I saw the RL interview. Mostly because Chris made sense and RL came in with a bunch of baggage and projected it onto the situation. It's just so bad. I think I'm done watching this show forever.
"That's something you got to do on your own". That statement is very telling about how supportive he would be in a relationship. He doesn't deal with tough situations well.
So happy that the girls who dumped Matt did so. They knew who he was. Matt was not ready for commitment. Oh by the way where is that first girl that dumped Matt on the show? That girl who chose to go back to taking care of her dad
Not ready for commitment ?? You mean this adult man couldn’t think for himself?? And needed a show to tell him that! And you the viewer is so knowing that you have to point this out?? Wow shocked 😮!! This incredible!! I never seen such brilliance in human history!! We could spend hours wasted learning actual things instead superficial people. But no!! This show is the pinnacle of humanity!! This show!! Is the truth!!
Agree. Both of them probably had a "feeling" about Matt. Sarah left him but apparently may have had a boyfriend. She also didn't even come back to the reunion Women Tell All episode, so she was likely just not interested in him. Serena P just didn't feel a spark with him and knew he wasn't for her. Ironically, she was the only other person besides Rachel, that he told he was falling in love with.
Dissapointed in Matt’s response... He was never ready for commitment.... He never truly Loved her if not he would still be with her going through her process not cancel her. He found his opportunity for an easy out. He’s still confused!
i honestly don’t think rachaels past is a good enough excuse for matt to not want her anymore. bc like the host said, the woman he “fell in love with” is with him. not the girl from years back. him saying she needs to work on herself, which she obviously has been. but also she chose to be on the show knowing he was gonna be bachelor. i think he just wants an excuse to not get married bc he obviously isn’t ready for commitment. so he used her past as a reason to let go. guys make excuses a lot. also he has 0 emotion towards any of these girls. the last 5 were all wife material
I think Rachel could use a little forgiveness and grace. People make mistakes but what's important is that they own it and change. I think she is. Loving someone is sticking with them through the hard stuff not just the good stuff.
You sound like Chris Harrison and that’s the reason he’s not hosting anymore. She doesn’t deserve “grace”. She should know better and your ability to sympathize with her actions speaks volumes to your character. That was more than a mistake. She went to a party that was banned. Right there she should have known what she was doing was wrong.
I agree! Matt did not want to face the backlash if he chose to stay in the relationship with Rachel! You can see was struggling,because he still loves her,but he love himself too!!
The problem is the Bachelor show picked Matt because of his externals (he's fit, attractive, young, has social media presence). But did any of the producers get below the surface to see if he was really ready? I mean, we were all (myself included) excited to see Matt, a new face. And we assumed that he was at the commitment level. All they (producers) had to do was have a few deep conversations with him about himself, relationships, and his parents to realize he ain't about married life right now, if ever. Stop dangling pretty, shiny things in front of us and bring us real people who are READY! (and they may not have a 6-pack, but so be it).
He’s not willing to work through problems her lack of education. I’m sure he’s not perfect and can use her wisdom in other areas. Disappointing I thought they could of been a power couple. He needs to go to counseling. He will make horrible husband presently. He has a lot of issues. She dodged a lot of pain. Hope she finds an understanding man.
@@RH-kp6ce Matt's a coward and an appeaser. He didn't care about Rachel. He decided to appease the "cancel" crowd and the current social forces and tearfully play the "I'm so hurt and a victim" role. LOL He doesn't give a damn about her party photo. He just cowered and decided to dump her, so he can still be loved by the (actual) racists currently in power.
So much for him being a praying man....no forgiveness....he who has never sinned let them cast the first stone. He would never be a good husband, wedding vows are for better or worse. Vows are not multiple choice Matt. Glad Rachel realizes her actions and is taking steps to educate herself on racism.
It’s very true. I mentioned it several times how cold he was to so many other girls...in fact even how graceless he was with Michelle in the final rose segment...and just as bad on this piece yesterday.
Waste of time to feel heartbroken when 2.5 short years ago the woman you loved wasn’t instantly horrified by the attempted genocide of your race? My friend, flip the script, and put yourself in his shoes. Seriously, this wasn’t fun for him. It’s okay to rethink this line of thinking.
Bc he just wants Instagram sponsorships and be famous..half of the people(or more)on this show gets sponsorships or podcasts so they get more money and clout. They can get chances to date famous models( Tyler c with gigi
Yeah he was talking about the fact that no other bachelors have to talk about this. Also that he as a person of color comes into this world having to have these conversations that they wish they didn’t have to talk about but do because it’s a part of their lives
Correction. Wants to commit but doesn't know how. Let this be an example to all couple who enter relationship and then leave without emotionally preparing the children or taking their kids feelings and emotional wellbeing into account.
Sad situation for them both. Seems pretty clear that he wasn't ready for a real commitment though. Relationships are tough and sometimes the past resurfaces. She isn't a different person than the one he said he fell in love with though and it's disappointing that he isn't by her side helping her grow through it - being an example of grace, forgiveness, and unity.
He had a problem committing to her before the racism problem. No ring. As hurtful as racism is he now has a great excuse for breaking it off completely. Where there is real love there is forgiveness and working through the problems together. He even said he wasn't going to be responsible for her tears. Words of a true commitment phobic. True love does not keep a record of wrongs.
@@libbyr2040 but it wasn't intentional. She was ignorant and just needed to be educated. That much is clear. He just wants clout. He could have supported her but nope. Graceless.
@@alicerodriguez9802. I think it was very mean and cold when he said he wasn’t going to be responsible for her tears. I think the 2 beautiful women are e better off without him.
He couldnt even give her a hug....at that point he showed hes using her and throwing her under the bus to make up for and covering up all of his issues. Put all 30 of those woman through this just for him not to be ready
I feel like she apologized already over and over again and she is taking accountability. This happened 3 years ago. I don't think it was her intention to hurt anyone. I think people should really give her a break. Poor girl!!! Also forgiveness is a key ingredient in a relationship. Otherwise, the relationship won't last. NOBODY IS PERFECT!!!! Everyone makes mistakes.
@@milwaukeemotor5995 he is a coward. Instead of weathering the storm with her if he truly loved her, he balks out due to pressure or what. Looks like he wasn't really into anyone.
@@juliannatrure no ones being hard on her. This happened in 2018, yet in 2021 she still needed to be educated on why her actions were wrong. The fact that you and others are sympathizing with her more than the ones she offended is crazy to me
Thank you and this is what is irking me abt her. The fact he had to even years later tell her what is wrong with tht is the problem. There is no way he shld be staying with someone like tht. And the onus is not on him to teach her abt inappropriate behaviour
I think we can all finally agree that the bachelor is no longer about love. Its about clout and IG followers.
Jumped the shark a long time ago.
I agree. But then i watch Seans season of the bachelor and him finding love with Catherine. It does happen. But rarely unfortunately
But honestly it was never about love. Such a dumb show.
@B Bean Lol..voice text.
Agreed!
another season wasted. Maybe we should just drop "the bachelor" and only do "the bachelorette". The women do better anyway.
ABC isn't gonna drop any of them. For some reason, even with the same dam script for 20 years women keep getting their cheap box wine, putting their sweatpants on, & watching these every Monday.
No, he’s hurt learn the difference
Period
Yesss
I agree!!!!!
They should just call this show, "Dude who dates a bunch of chicks at the same time and then bones three of his favorites"
LOL ... yeah, pretty much!
Lol, yes that’s the perfect description, lol 😂😂
Lmaooo he had to do his thing you know ??lmaooooo
I’m weak😂 but that’s a facts
😂🤣
I think Matt was looking for reasons not to commit to any of the woman.
thats EXACTLY true.... he looks at love thru the lens of his Mom and dads failure... I dont think he will ever commit to Marriage... Rachel should move on as soon as she can with a new man
Totally agree. Then he puts it on his mom, like he hadn't already decided and known that he wasn't going to end up with anybody. If you have so many commitment issues as he does . why go on a process like this. He seemed a good guy until he wasn't. Total BS on his part.
Passive racism is a good reason not to marry someone.
@@diggs1989 exactly! I wouldn’t want to be with someone that was ignorant
I would racism is a good reason
Matt was never ready for marriage and he knew that all along
Just an excuse not to commit.
During the final rose ceremony he said he saw what a rushed proposal did to his family. If he was looking for marriage he wouldn’t have been on this show.
Ye he just wanted the clout
Probably happy it went the way it went so he had a easy way out!!! He ain't fooling me with his cute a**!!!🥰
HE SO LOST DOESNT KNOW WHAT TO DO ...
Being on this show must be so embarrassing. These girls can get any guy they want in the real world but they end up competing only to be someone's 2nd, 3rd, or 4th choice.
lol
Naive person, what they're actually "competing" for is fame and more followers on social media.
@@TheMegaelectronic past their prime? Haha you sound very sour.
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 like that matters to anyone lmaoo social media is a waste of time
@@nocturnalrise To these people, it's practically everything, oh high horse one. The alternative is invisibility, which for them is equivalent to failure.
@Norman Viking Yep, losers are a dime a dozen anyway. Wait, actually, they're free.
Hm... now that I think about it, they're not even free: they come THROWING their money at you. 😂😂
Lol. She doesn't care. He doesn't care. Season was a snooze.
Someone is jealous of Rachel because she is so pretty
Gandalf oh yeah...
“Rachel” is not the only pretty person in the world.
*Pretty is in the eye of the beholder*
so was da previous seasons
@@GandalftheWise no way you’re talking ab the original comment. They mentioned both ppl
I don't even see love at any point in the season
so if you can "see" love, what exactly are you looking for LOL
@@mnaoitb1 Lust for money and fame is not LOVE
@@kaargilhills2140 if you are only JUST realizing that the whole franchise is fabricated then you clearly are a slow learner....
duh the show has never shown any real love. It's reality tv
Same!
Matt wasn't ready, he and his mother need therapy.
Just because her relationship didn't work out, she can't plant that seed in Matt.
All those girls dodged a missile.
🙌 I wish he would let that go just because you didn't grow up with it doesn't mean you can't have it. He can't keep using that as an excuse for his relationships not working
Cancel Culture ruined this relationship not his mother
@@treyking1432 100% agree and I also find it weird that people pull things from years ago like people aren’t capable of growing and maturing. I posted a lot of dumb stuff in my late teens early 20s and I think most people can/should agree that you change a lot in five years when you’re in your late teens and early 20s
@@johannathompson2056 what did she post? I don’t watch this show but im curious
@@phoenix-king779 she went to a plantation party basically celebrating slavery/ racism at 21 years old, which should not be excused at all...
Matt needs therapy. Not a reality show.
I think he experienced a lots of racism in the past and he’s still angry from it.
Agree. He doesn't know how to communicate with women.
@@claudettemcleod6316 I think he grew up with his mom and compartmentalized racism but to align himself with Rachael would be a bridge too far. I don't think people understand how much emotional baggage it takes to teach someone to respect your humanity. At the end of the day he was not willing to do that and I can respect that.
@@Salutations26 and that's exactly why he needs therapy (?
@@lizzy4827 agree but they all need therapy. Heck we all do. If producers prodded you 24/7 your ish would come out too.
Matt didn't have feelings for anyone.. seemed easy for him to walk away from every girl.
Yes
Agreed. I at least thought he’d struggle with letting Michelle go
He didn’t even show any emotion when some of the girls leave!
Agree
He is a robot
I realized he wasn’t ready for marriage when he let Abigail go a sweet mature young woman.. and he told her “I got comfortable in our relationship that I explored others” I knew he wasn’t ready. When he said that. Lol
He said that ? Wow ....
@Ken Chambers yeppp sure did
Katherine N he’s seems to be a cold narcissistic guy emotionally unavailable
Ikr when i heard that statement i also started questioning what this guy is really up to
@@kenchambers7137 hé did say that
Matt needs a therapist not a wife .
Both actually.
@@gabrielfierro8729 No therapy, then you don’t deserve a wife. Same vice versa.
Why bc you expect ppl to ACCEPT RACISM? Wow
Not to mention a spine, and a pair of balls.
Yeah he needs a therapists for sure!!!!
This Guy was never ready to get married to begin with...
Omg, Wow.
No he only worries about his blackness which in that case he should’ve fell for Michelle
Exactly. I saw it right away and decided to stop watching it. I'm now here on RUclips to see how it ended. Yep....he never wanted marriage.
Him for sure and a lot of the young females that joined
Fame and fortune.
It’s clear Matt was looking for any excuse to dump Rachel, never proposed to her, didn’t stand by her to help through a difficult time. Guy was not ready to be the bachelor.
I agree he never loved anyone but himself. I wont be watching wi
I wont watch wi
Wit
Without chris no show.
EXACTLY! If he TRULY loved her and forgave her, then his actions would show it as well.
I thought Peters season was bad.....
Bad doesn't even begin to describe this season🤦
This season is pointless
Yea I don’t know who is casting these girls but this should be a lesson to do a background check
Yea, Patty was like a negative Nancy 😔
And by the way let’s not forget Clare’s season
Matt was never ready for a commitment and marriage.
totally agreed :)
Yes he was, I'm pretty sure the racism controversy threw him off lol
Yeah and neither are you
@@treyking1432 you can clearly see he wasn't. Bro caved in to the mob. Had he been ready, he would've stayed with Rachel through thick and thin. Which he didn't.
@@treyking1432 i mean he's still friends with Hannah and she had her own recent N bomb slip and he clearly was ok with that
The lack of emotion with this man is concerning. It’s almost like he never actually had any kind of feelings for anyone but just went along with it for the show. He has deep rooted issues, and this shows why he’s still single
I think he had a lobotomy
He does seem to have narcissistic qualities, which probably stemmed from his traumatic childhood growing up.
You could see his eyes light up every time he was with Rachael on the show. I really think he loved her, but as he said himself, he realized he just didnt really know her. Which is understandable as you don't have enough time on the show to get to know someone 100%. But I too would loose feelings for someone who did that or hurt me in a similar way.
I don’t get why everyone is putting this in him, I mean it kinda is on him, but what did he expect. This would of happened with or without a show. She will never understand, u can see in her face she doesn’t get his pain, she only get said when she talks about them being a thing, they are young, this was puppy love, in the moment love
Absolutely.. I don't beLIEve a word of what's he's NOW saying.. This has to be political. Nothing else makes sense! He defended Rachael (and admitted he didn't even bother to ask her about the photo thinking it was a rumor LOL)....THEN after Chris Harrison explosion, all things changed and suddenly it became known to him "in real time." That's a lie. He knew about it beforehand. Prove me wrong. ;o) Word is also out from the inside that the producers got into his head which confirms his actions and common sense reasoning. ;) WHERE is Rachel Lindsay on calling him out?!!! =P
This guy has no personality
His cowardice was a gift to her. She can do SO much better than someone who drops her to appease to the angry mob of color obsessed lunatics.
Matt came on the Bachelor for clout, not a wife. He and Tyler are clout fame loving chasers
Honestly I sorta agree. The conversation is important. What Rachel did wasn’t right. But the dude had no chemistry with anyone, and Tyler Cameron to me used to be the most gorgeous man in the world and now he sells shirts with his picture on it. It’s weird
A Triangle yep i agree
You act like he cares about what any of y’all say, I would go in the bachelor and dump every chick for clout too😂😂, gimme my money
Most of the seasons end in this so nothing new really...
@@joshschang4993 Fr like this happens all the time irl too, people are acting so surprised for some reason, like they think Matt cares about what they say about him
He never truly opened up to this.
Yes, it was always going to end on this couch regardless of who he chose.
He did open up to this, have you not seen the Racial Controversy surrounding who he chose??? Cancel Culture ruined this relationship. They were getting Death threats and Harrasing messages day in a day out by radical fans mad that he chose a Whte Woman.
@@treyking1432 It was very distressing to see two men picking on a woman.
@@mikeporter4160 I understand how you could of viewed it that way. But that's what happens when a dude let's Social Media dictate his life choices smh.
@@treyking1432 wait yall talking about the chick who took a picture on an antebellum plantation?
Lmaooo
Matt is not ready for anything to begin with.. dont know why he was the bachelor...
I totally agree!!!
Yep
100% agree
He needs to stay single with his confused self!!
Mike Johnson should have been the bachelor instead.
Matt seemed so monotone with every lady this whole season. No affection to any one of them. Definitely he’s no Colton jumping over fences.
Lol ... so true !!!
Eye open kiss?
Yes I think he wasn’t truly being himself and just doing what he thought the audience would like
No personality at all.
Agreed.
Matt, "I don't want to make the same mistakes my Dad made," then goes about making the SAME mistakes his Dad made. Lol.
That's unjust.
His father didn't run away from the commitment. He ran away *after* that.
Matt didn't commit (even in the face of all the pressure to do it).
Do you really not see the difference?
He didn't ruin anyone's life. He was actually totally successful in his commitment to not repeat what happened with his father,
Exactly!
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 yeah cause he didn't have the balls to actually commit, he makes a good F boy and it sure looks looks like he loves playing around.
Worst bachelor season EVER
Well there was Jaun Pablo
@@sadiegregory7659 That was at least entertaining even though he was a pig.
AM WITH YOU THERE ...HE THINKS HES ALL THAT....
I don't knowwww Peter's was pretty garbage too lol
I loved the filming location. Nice change from Southern California
Honesty what is the point of the bachelor/bachelorette. Literally no one stays together
Trista and Ryan. Arie and Lauren. A few still are together and have children.
Sean and Catherine! The BEST couple ever! And the last time we saw true, romantic love from the Bachelor franchise!
True but I have nothing better to do on Mondays so 🤣
It is like the Jerry Springer show ........some parts are real, the rest is acting, ratings, and a chance to get 15 minutes of fame
Sean Lowe is still the only bachelor with his pick from the show. Very low success rate.
I don’t think he ever really cared about any of the women; the way he talks to all of them is so robotic
Matt didn’t seem to be so interested in anyone this season 😬
You actually cared?? Wow !!amazing!! So these are the people who waste time watching this crap??
I honestly think he was "interested" in and "attracted" to Rachel and Serena P. Those are the only 2 he told he loved. But I don't think he was ready for commitment. As soon as the controversy happened, he used that as an excuse to drop Rachel.
@@journeytrials Rachel and Michelle is way too damn beautiful for to waste their time and life for to deal with Matt James they deserve better 💯
@@80sports20 can you stop saying love! These people don’t even know what a relationship is past an organism. Cheap!!
@@journeytrials i reach organism on a daily basis
He picked her after going through about 30 women. He dumped her because he couldn't handle the social media heat. This is the equivalent of a teenager dumping a young woman because his high school buddies think she's not hot enough. Great way to show you know to treat and protect a woman, buddy. He's a baby man.
I couldn't agree more👏👏👏👏
Yes, not a gentlemanly move at all. It just seems as if he threw her to the wolves. Anyone noticed that Rachel has barely had a chance to say a word in her defense since this all started? She was just left to bare it all without much chance to speak. Everyone has been able to say whatever they wished about her, without her having much chance to speak for herself. How is this right or fair?
Yes, Matt's a coward and an appeaser. He didn't care much about Rachel.
He decided to appease the "cancel" crowd and the current social forces and tearfully play the "I'm so hurt and a victim" role. LOL He doesn't give much of a damn about her party photo. He just cowered and decided to dump her, so he can still be loved by the (actual) racists currently in power.
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 Yeah.... it's pathetic!!!
Thank you!
I think we can all finally agree that the bachelor is no longer about love. Its about clout and IG followers. right
Watch love island UK the 2 newest season s
has been for a while now
Comment already made. Exact.. Same.. Comment.
What's a clout
110%
They could’ve picked one of the guys from Tayshia’s season. The boy wasn’t ready from on set... I must admit though , I’m not surprised
But imagine if they had Riley or even mike Johnson...
just cuz of the fact that he was never in the show really shows..
They should picked Ivan.
The production for this season was already beginning while Tayshia's season was wrapping so that couldn't be possible. But Mike Johnson was right there.
@@paulojrneto mike turned them down
He's not a "boy" he's a man, If he didn't want them don't be butt hurt about it
Matt is not making much sense here, he is so shut down emotionally. Finally realized he was shut down the entire season too. Numbing out is a trauma response and he likely has gone this far in life not realizing he needs to work on these issues. (Trauma from childhood) I hope he gets professional help. 🙏🏼 He needs to work on himself, big time.
Both of them have work to do.
Agree! Even his unkempt beard, and just how he struggled to communicate what he's feeling. Even the host was encouraging him to actually talk to Rachel, but he sat there like a robot pouting the whole time. It was really uncomfortable to watch. It's amazing remembering my impression of Matt on the first episode and what he looks like now. It's like 2 completely different people. I think he does need therapy.
@@80sports20 I think he was very clear. Racism is a dealbreaker for him. He doesn't want to spend the entirety of the relationship in teaching mode when it comes to race. The problem is that I agree with you about not being ready but the Rachael situation muddied the waters. He does need counseling but heck... we all do.
He has a hard time making a commitment, his issues control the entire show, it was very unfair to these ladies especially after spending the night with them in the suites, these ladies were very hurt😔
@@donnalynn3933 this literally happens every season. Stop trying to make Matt the worst when we have Juan Pablo.
Matt was never there to find love, he ran at the first sign of trouble, he just wanted to be on TV.
Rachael dodged a bullet. He only loves himself.
He never truly opened up to this. And his mom out the fear of god into him about commitments. I see a damaged child when I look at matt
He's being a wuss, he clearly doesn't know what love is.
so easily steered emotionally by his mother. wow. that speaks volumes
His mom ruined it. Michelle was a much better choice for him!!!
I see a useless piece of 💩
I see a guy looking for clout
They promised each other so many things at the final rose. And look at them now 🤦♀️
But it's clear that he is who recanted.
He didnt have feelings for anyone. He just wanted to sleep with them. And that's sad
@@ManiSha-ph6lz I agree completely 100%. He’s a player. He wants to keep dating.
@@tigrezangel and rightly so
He needs to work on his issues or he will never commit to anyone
Matt needs to heal from his past because he’s projecting his hurt unto the women and it’s preventing him from moving on. That conversation with his dad sealed the deal in detecting the broken child in Matt. He can find the most amazing women, but until he’s healed it will never work in his favour
Personally, I don't give a damn about Matt, but I do think he needs to deal with his inner child so he doesn't continue to ruin the lives of the women he's around.
That's the same with me too.
What past. His Father's. Boys want to be men. Not this one.
@@charleschichester8054 growing up without a father can lead to feelings of abandonment, betrayal, and confusion. This can translate into the child’s adulthood in the form of being closed off, hesitant to be be vulnerable, not letting anybody in etc. This prevents Matt from advancing his romantic relations because relationships require intimacy in the form of vulnerability to create an emotional connections. Obviously he hasn’t healed bc this is all we’ve been seeing through the season, no vulnerability.
His mum must have preached all the time about men letting women down. These unrealistic expectations he puts on himself about marriage all triggered by fear of what his dad was and the constant disappointment his mum probably spouted about men. This dude is crumbling under unrealistic expectations. He looks like a triggered scared boy. well done mum 👍
Yes she was wrong n she took full ownership, but he could have confronted her but still teach and educate her on how to be better person n stuff not canceling her completely like dang. Love conquers everything. He don’t love her period.
He doesn't.
@@khumomogami3020 I need to fix my spelling but thnkx🤣
I guess he didn't love her then
Period ughh
True but it shouldn’t always be the job of POC to educate. She definitely does need to go on this journey of unlearning and relearning by herself. Matt still loves her and he said it himself that his feelings didn’t fade over night
Why are people acting like 2-3 years are a generation? It’s not like these photos were taken when she was 12...
Same thing I’m thinking because I was shocked when they said 2018
That literally how I felt
what's the big deal? she dressed in traditional customs. I am sure you do the same, and if you are German no one tells you not to wear pre WW2 cloths.
@@berly9397 they might if it included a swastika. Just saying
@@berly9397 Exactly, Oktober fest anyone!
Sad to think she’s honestly never “felt a love like this” ..... like how? This dude is a robot
🤣
.he laughs like one too
She was clearly infatuated
Ridiculous. 😂😂😂😂
@R B Sweeting superficial people like superficial people
If Matt really loved Rachael he would want to be part of her learning and he would be more forgiving, yes she was wrong. She owned it and is working on getting educated and being a better person. Matt wasn’t ready for a true commitment.
Thank you for telling the truth. Everybody is trying to analyze this and that but it is a simple as what you are saying
Exactly
Trueee. He comes across as being very manipulative and emotionless. How can you go from loving someone and seeing them as your wife to wanting nothing to do with them? What she did was wrong but if he loved her or had feelings even he’d stay with her and they’d get through it together
@@hajrahx7389 he just pulled an act all along.
So true!
EXCUSES!!! He had no intention to get married.
IMO Matt wanted to become as famous as his boyfriend Tyler, so they can both go out dating famous models and such..
Smh
Matt loved his beard more than any girl on this show! 😂😂
Isn't a good look
Thinks he's incognito
if you can call it that...
We had dates edited out, unnecessary drama, racism, and no proposal... only silver lining is our two glorious bachelorettes ✨
Who?
@@lemonadeskater Michelle and Katie
@ M
Michelle was a good match for him!! In my opinion!
@@agape101969 none of them are real!! They all empty and dead on the inside! That’s not love! My Lord please seek out real people!! This show is like shinning corps
Racism where?
Omg😂😂bro doesn't even understand his blackness himself while he's coming at this chick.
Ikr
He needs to "put in the work" for himself...
He was projecting when he made that unkind remark and threw his exfiance under the bus. He's kinda mean.
Yasssss
He has move chemistry with Tyler than any girls from this season. He never really had any real feelings for any of the girls. Its not a bad thing its just the truth.
I said the same thing on another video! Lol
@Fern Green that actually is a possibility
She is so genuinely sorry and he is so cold and unforgiving. I'm glad God doesn't give up on us that quickly for our ignorant mistakes when we confess our sins. This man knows nothing about love or committment.
Genuinely sorry for angering a bunch of strangers. She didn't do anything wrong. She owes no one an apology.
I agree with this comment. Marriage is not for the weak.
He has the right to take racism seriously and not want to be with someone who could never understand where he comes from. Sorry you have a thick skull and can’t understand that
🥴
This is the fakest thing I’ve ever seen. They’re both completely full of crap.
@@saywhatyouwantidontcare I don't think this is about "leftism" and have no idea if Matt is "leftist". I think it has more to do with a lack of perspective and a lack of true love.
@@k.c.6446 you said that before and you are wrong. There are tears there, or are they not enough for you?
@@saywhatyouwantidontcare lol ok you partisan hack. This has nothing to do with politics
@@saywhatyouwantidontcare you are soooo ignorant
@@Takobella Thank goodness you actually get it!
Totally ditched her. That's not love. He didn't want to be associated with her and the bad press. Hurt his image too much to stick around. Weak.
💯 👏
💯💯💯💯
On point!💯
Seriously? If I were in his shoes, I would feel the same way. That changes how you see a person. Someone capable of that is capable of a lot more.
@@colerichardson5535 She made a mistake. If he loved her he would forgive the mistakes of the past and be with her. But he really did not so he dipped when the going got tough
This is the fakest thing I've seen all day. No normal person would take that photo seriously
Matt's a coward and an appeaser. He didn't care about Rachel. He decided to appease the "cancel" crowd and the current social forces and tearfully play the "I'm so hurt and a victim" role. LOL
He doesn't give a damn about her party photo. He just cowered and decided to dump her, so he can still be loved by the (actual) racists currently in power.
It’s okay everyone this is garbage BUT we had Tayshia’s ending. Let’s just carry it with us lol
Hahaha 🤣
@@duchessngy8454 not true. Plus, she already addressed this in her ig stories. People love to build them up to afterwards tear them down.
@@duchessngy8454 Tayshia went on live yesterday & said the rumors aren’t true. Her and Zac are fine
RIGHT! zach and tayshia were a fairytale. It's only right they would follow THAT up with this lol
@@duchessngy8454 not sure why she did that on Instagram, but Tayshia clarified that they’re good and he ring is finally being sized and Zac posted how proud he is of Tayshia for hosting so it seems everything is good again. Though I did hear he was upset that she took the position Bc he can’t see her Bc of the whole quarantine thing but that’s just a rumor
This was a waste of a season, he needs to grow up.
Honestly. This part seemed clout chasing to me cuz he knew all along that she didn’t understand his blackness and even he didn’t seem to wanna acknowledge it but now he wanna come with “you didn’t understand my blackness”
Boy bye
@@CharisMaggieTV yep, he saw this as an opportunity to use this as a scapegoat, so he doesn’t have to man up and admit he actually wasn’t committed or ready.
@@CharisMaggieTV Girl bye, Blk Women like you just mad he chose a Whte Woman, the cats outta the bag.
@@infotech6075 Well he didn’t choose her did he? Lol
I agree with you
Who’s here in 2022? They seem to be very much in love!
Matt stay single.
he’s just like his dad
That was his plan. Bachelor nation is just turning into a meat market. With lots of variety for the players. I couldn't watch his episode it was actually gross
This show isn't even enjoyable anymore. Not like it began. Where's the love and fun??
Yeah it’s over politicised now ugh
This is what happens when your mom turns to you and say, “Love is not enough.”
His Mom is a negative force against love. She didnt get love so her son cant have it.
Love IS not enough.
@@barna_de maybe it’s not, but maybe she shouldn’t have said that at the time she did🤷🏽♀️
who says that???? As a mother she should of said love can overcome anything as long as you two do it together.
@@luckyrentals cruella!
That beard thou.... horrible
He's LeBron James now...All into his blackness...
I love it🤣
@@HadEnough745 excuse me ? Wanna elaborate ?
@xae , he looks likes he went to the dentist and got two teeth extracted , and he’s swollen on both sides.
I don’t find Rachel or Matt genuine. The ending didn’t feel honest. I feel like Rachel knows how the bachelor works
What do you mean? Like she anticipated Matt was only on the show to propagate his social media career?
I didn't believe any of it either.
@@rogue_ingenuity hahaha this!
I think they are still secretly seeing each other. Just waiting for things to cool down. Watch!!
You think this show so real?? You think these superficial people are real?? Wow ok!! Nice!!
If he didn't want to be like his dad he should have chosen Michelle.
Not enough likes on this!!!
Why? Because she's the Blk Woman??? Lol
@@kingstrong5351 Pretty Much
@@ihpokemonopenings This just proves that alot of Blk Women are just mad at him for choosing a Whte Woman lol
@@kingstrong5351 lol
He gives her homework to do, and still won't want her after that.
@@deegir3354 he's all like you need to put the work in... No just accept her sincere apology and move on. Grudges and the victim card won't get you anywhere.
ii know right ....imgine someone wanting someone to be better and do better....how selfish of him
That is so arrogant in my opinion on him. People make mistakes and he is making it seem like he is perfect.
i know im so confused coz what work is that? antiracism101 lol
He never truly loved her. Love is forgiving and working together....not worrying about "being with her and then getting cancelled" He is too worried about his career....he wont get any sponsors if he stays with her.
The best thing for Rachel is to focus on healing her heart and letting all this mess behind. Matt could not stand with her, proclaiming that she has to do the work on her own. I hope she can find a man that is willing to stand with her be a leader and a true partner, in good and bad. Matt chose the easy way out by breaking up with her than to be there and fight with her. At the end He was what I expected he would be.
AMEN to this comment, this just shows matts true feelings about her and his views on marriage as well
What makes me cry is when she said she doesn't think there is anyone out there for her. I pray she doesn't close the door to love because she deserves love and love in abundance
Couldn’t have said it better myself! When you find a potential wife, you stick with her through the fire. What he did makes him a poor excuse of a man.
Exactly
So true, I find him emotionally immature, he also needs to work on himself because no woman will be emotionally satisfied being with him.
The backlash Rachael received is not remotely proportional to what she actually did.
Yes!!!!
Yeah, but it's useful to instill guilt and shame in your victim for the purpose of a later shakedown ("equity"). lol
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 Lol. Damn...if that ain't true!
Rachel made a big mistake and was racially ignorant, that is all true. I see her trying to learn and grow though. If he really did love her he would have stuck out by her side encouraging her and calling her out when it's needed. Saying that he doesn't want to be responsible for her emotions is taking the easy way out. Listen buddy, women carry you dudes' emotional baggage all the time. He is a lot like his dad. A difficult moment and he's out. Next.
Preach!👏🏼
Matt is a wounded guy who has not gotten over the hurt of his parents split. If it wasn’t Rachael it was going to be someone else he would break up with. He is not ready to be anyone’s husband. His reasons for the break up tonight does not match the feeling Of someone who knows how to love . Rachael has started to redeem herself but Matt I think never gave her a chance and I am disappointed in his explanations. Until he deals with his issue brought on by his parents split this will be his patter. Bail and the first signs of distress
Fax
Love isn't always enough
@@niara961 yea that tru but in this situation it shouldve been. Matt just want to save his skin and didnt want to get cancelled to he didnt love her
The funny thing is, even if this whole “scandal” with Rachel didn’t happen, he still would’ve looked for an excuse to end it. He cannot commit to any woman right now. He’s not ready! He says he wants someone to stand by his side through everything, yet he can’t stand with her through this. For someone that says that he loves her and he knows her heart.. I can’t help but laugh because if you did you would know deep down in her heart that is not who she is. But he gave up anyway.
Yep! He could easily do the work with her but is choosing not to cuz he is non committal and there for clout.
She'll look back some day and realize she dodged a bullet. He was so quick to call it quits. He could've gone to see her in person and spent time with her talking this out. He made it all about him and was so patronizing, as tho' he doesn't have any work to do on himself to grow up and learn how to work things out.
@@anandaadidevi2339 absolutely. He waited to talk about it on nation television instead of to her privately. She definitely will find someone who deserves her.
THANK YOU... WELL SAID!!! He knows the true inner Rachel, and none of those terrible rumors about her were true. It's like "Matt,.. hello...go back & re-watch your season as it aired!!! Rachel did not talk mean about anyone in the house &/or in those side interviews even!! She was the nicest woman in that house/hotel!!"""" I feel so very sad for her...breaks my heart!! 💔
@@skylerchase7759 she was my absolute favorite from the very very beginning. But looking back she did dodge a bullet.
I actually really love how this story ended and how they handled the conversation. He didn't want her to be canceled and wanted to be with her, but she needed to unlearn and relearn some things. They held a dialectical conversation with compassion. He held her accountable, she took accountability and did the work to better herself. Now both of them are together again. That's growth and that's progress
"She needs to unlearn and relearn some things" couldn't sound more condescending than that. Let's be clear: he is upset because of a dress she was wearing years before meeting him and not because of something she did or say to him. Something he could have easily checked for himself before the media came with the smearing campaign - but he didn't. And instead of taking responsibility for his (lack of) actions or to look past that insignificant sh*tstorm he decides to go full ahead blaming her. That tells you more than enough about what kind of a person he is.
The women are better off without him. Seems like the kinda guy who should never get married to anyone. Such a snob.
the presenter is the best guy to host this conversation. maybe this girl and matt will get together eventually...
I think his mother has really done a number on him. He thinks he is damaged goods. He has never been married or in a serious relationship so where did he get that idea from...his mother. She put on him all the hurt and disappointment she felt from his father and he's been carrying it around all his life. It's a heavy load to carry and not his burden to bear.
Well you certainly took the words from my mind. As I mentioned in another reply, he needs to remove himself from her grip.
I feel for him and wish him well.
Exactly.
Agreed. She seemed very bitter to me and projected that on him.
😭😭
👏👏👏👏👏 Yeah. I also didn't agree entirely with his mother when she said that feelings fade. Maybe it did in her relationship with his father, but it's not always like that. Sometimes it ripens like a fine wine.
This sounds like a line of husband material " I don't want to be emotionally responsible for those tears" like the moment he didn't propose after saying repeatedly I believe my wife is in this room I knew he couldn't be serious.
Exactly
I think Matt didn’t take her back because he knew the backlash he’d get
Exactly, he knew he was gonna get Backlash either way so he just took the backlash of least resistance.
Yep!
Matt's a coward and an appeaser. He didn't care about Rachel. He decided to appease the "cancel" crowd and the current social forces and tearfully play the "I'm so hurt and a victim" role. LOL He doesn't give a damn about her party photo. He just cowered and decided to dump her, so he can still be loved by the (actual) racists currently in power.
To be honest, Rachel didn’t come off as authentic to me this entire season. 🤷🏼♂️
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 pretty much sums it up. He's a coward. Never ready for marriage where you stay with your partner through thick and thin. It should be you and them against the world.
Yep and good for him
The show needs to stop getting influencers for the show. People are there for followers and exposure.
As for Matt, I don’t know who convinced him to do the show. This guy is not ready for marriage.
Why does he seem like the type to tell a girl "You are so perfect the way you are" and then tell her a little later to get some botox 🤣
Matt was never ready for marriage and he didn’t love anyone. If he loved her, he would be standing by her and helping to educate her. Not dumping her because of her past.
You can only understand if you were in his shoes it is simply what you can’t experience btw if someone cannot forget what she didn’t it is better to end soon than later
I absolutely agree!!! She is already apologetic!!!
I agree, one hundred percent!
He’s not obligated to educate her on anything especially at her big age. She should’ve known right from wrong racism isn’t just something you can forgive and move on from. He had every right to not choose her.
@@ngyingloong how?
I like this host, he's asking the great, hard questions Chris never asked...
Totally agree! Chris always only ask superficial questions
@@lammmf that's because it used to be a light-hearted superficial show where almost nobody ended up staying together because you can't marry somebody in the span of a couple months...now it's manufactured drama.
yes! love him already
THIS HOST TOO BIG AND BULKY....I THOUGHT HE WAS DOCTOR LOVE OR DOCTOR PHIL ...HAH HAH
@@pepper1188 some of them stay together and had kids but show is corny. and it would be hard to fall in love. that fast.
Seems like Matt is looking for any reason not to commit. Ironic because he talks about fear of commitment in his dad and wanting not to be like that, but ends up being one of the most commitment phobic people I've ever seen
I think Rachel does care for him he never did he didn't really care for anyone no emotion at all ....I don't know 😒
He’s a narcissist!
The way he shuts down is how he deals with problems. He would of been a horrible catch. A lot of emotional pain.
Rachel is too good for him, however she shouldn't "need" a man/love to complete her. She was stomped on and took it like a door mat...signs of insecurity and co dependent....both are broken...get whole 1st, then date someone!
Yes, Matt's a coward and an appeaser. He didn't care about Rachel. He decided to appease the "cancel" crowd and the current social forces and tearfully play the "I'm so hurt and a victim" role. LOL He doesn't give a damn about her party photo. He just cowered and decided to dump her, so he can still be loved by the (actual) racists currently in power.
She’s lost a ton of weight, probably from the stress
Yeah, and her eyes are dilated even under all of those lights.. she’s clearly sedated. I understand the heat but I do hope she comes out of this okay😕
I just think it's sad that everyone wants an explanation and apologies but whenever she tries to give these things then it's like her explanation and apology is never good enough or what they want to hear. I'm not the biggest fan of this episode for several reasons but for them to not be accepting of her apology or explanation effecting her health like it seems it's doing is just uncalled for. I pray she doesn't turn suicidal over all this 🙏
@@beckydecker5024 Thank you. Genuine forgiveness isn't good enough now. And that is so sad. 💔
@@emgmin They put her through unnecessary drama. Terrible the way they treated her. They should apologize to her. Can't understand why they are listening to insignificant people.
@@josiemaldonado9831 I stopped watching as soon as I saw the RL interview. Mostly because Chris made sense and RL came in with a bunch of baggage and projected it onto the situation. It's just so bad. I think I'm done watching this show forever.
"That's something you got to do on your own". That statement is very telling about how supportive he would be in a relationship. He doesn't deal with tough situations well.
Sooooooo true!!!!
Damn! "you've got to do that on your own." I'm Darth Vader and I treat women better than that!
Never saw Matt force choking Rachael but alright
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Hey Darth Vader may choke women (by accident) but Matt stabs them in the back on national tv
@@sherlock7898 🤣🤣🤣
Seriously...he is not having her back at all. That's not love...he was cold as a snake with her!! Ouch!!
He should have stay with her be there for her. Honestly she deserves someone better
Wow, girl dodged a bullet! He needs some serious help...
Right.... I’m so glad he didn’t pick Michelle... for her sake 💕
I don't understand why he needs the help when she clearly was in the wrong. Passive Racism is not okay.
As if racism isn’t a huge bullet to dodge on his behalf
@@Libbyyyyyyyyyyyy599 Exactly. This comment section is jumping on him when she is the one in the wrong.
Help with what exactly??? First you make a statement, then you fail to explain!!!
So happy that the girls who dumped Matt did so. They knew who he was. Matt was not ready for commitment. Oh by the way where is that first girl that dumped Matt on the show? That girl who chose to go back to taking care of her dad
Not ready for commitment ?? You mean this adult man couldn’t think for himself?? And needed a show to tell him that! And you the viewer is so knowing that you have to point this out?? Wow shocked 😮!! This incredible!! I never seen such brilliance in human history!! We could spend hours wasted learning actual things instead superficial people. But no!! This show is the pinnacle of humanity!! This show!! Is the truth!!
She had a bf that's why she left.
Agree. Both of them probably had a "feeling" about Matt. Sarah left him but apparently may have had a boyfriend. She also didn't even come back to the reunion Women Tell All episode, so she was likely just not interested in him. Serena P just didn't feel a spark with him and knew he wasn't for her. Ironically, she was the only other person besides Rachel, that he told he was falling in love with.
Dissapointed in Matt’s response... He was never ready for commitment.... He never truly Loved her if not he would still be with her going through her process not cancel her. He found his opportunity for an easy out. He’s still confused!
Me too. Agree with your statement. He needS counseling as he continues to use his parents relationship as a crutch.
Why is he obligated to forgive her racism and be with her ? ..
@@jordansimone8209 exactly! These women in this thread are literally sympathizing with this woman😂
@@jordansimone8209 exactly
i honestly don’t think rachaels past is a good enough excuse for matt to not want her anymore. bc like the host said, the woman he “fell in love with” is with him. not the girl from years back. him saying she needs to work on herself, which she obviously has been. but also she chose to be on the show knowing he was gonna be bachelor. i think he just wants an excuse to not get married bc he obviously isn’t ready for commitment. so he used her past as a reason to let go. guys make excuses a lot. also he has 0 emotion towards any of these girls. the last 5 were all wife material
I think Rachel could use a little forgiveness and grace. People make mistakes but what's important is that they own it and change. I think she is. Loving someone is sticking with them through the hard stuff not just the good stuff.
You sound like Chris Harrison and that’s the reason he’s not hosting anymore. She doesn’t deserve “grace”. She should know better and your ability to sympathize with her actions speaks volumes to your character. That was more than a mistake. She went to a party that was banned. Right there she should have known what she was doing was wrong.
I agree! Matt did not want to face the backlash if he chose to stay in the relationship with Rachel! You can see was struggling,because he still loves her,but he love himself too!!
It’s people like you who are so ignorant and not know about the full issues that is going on in terms of racism.
It still doesn’t mean he’s completely fine. He’s hurt and needs time, and everyone is completely forgetting that
@@Chloe-zq2yz i agree everyone in the comments are acting like he’s a terrible person for leaving her lmao
The problem is the Bachelor show picked Matt because of his externals (he's fit, attractive, young, has social media presence). But did any of the producers get below the surface to see if he was really ready? I mean, we were all (myself included) excited to see Matt, a new face. And we assumed that he was at the commitment level. All they (producers) had to do was have a few deep conversations with him about himself, relationships, and his parents to realize he ain't about married life right now, if ever. Stop dangling pretty, shiny things in front of us and bring us real people who are READY! (and they may not have a 6-pack, but so be it).
so be it
😂😂😂😂. that funny. no six pack the horror. I don't watch the show. I did this season cause of the beautiful diverse cast of women.
I hope Matt finds the therapy he needs. His father left scars that have nothing to do with Rachel or any of this drama.
His mom too.... like get over it already. She just dragging her boys thru her own mess too.... they all need therapy
She should thank God that she's out of the relationship with him!
He’s not willing to work through problems her lack of education. I’m sure he’s not perfect and can use her wisdom in other areas. Disappointing I thought they could of been a power couple. He needs to go to counseling. He will make horrible husband presently. He has a lot of issues. She dodged a lot of pain. Hope she finds an understanding man.
YES YES YES ....HELLALUJAHHHH
Count your blessings Rachel.
Exactly! She dodged a bullet!
@@RH-kp6ce Matt's a coward and an appeaser. He didn't care about Rachel. He decided to appease the "cancel" crowd and the current social forces and tearfully play the "I'm so hurt and a victim" role. LOL He doesn't give a damn about her party photo. He just cowered and decided to dump her, so he can still be loved by the (actual) racists currently in power.
So much for him being a praying man....no forgiveness....he who has never sinned let them cast the first stone. He would never be a good husband, wedding vows are for better or worse. Vows are not multiple choice Matt. Glad Rachel realizes her actions and is taking steps to educate herself on racism.
Men are never forgiven in dating shows like this. I see this as equality.🤷🏽♂️
Lmao they were both clearly acting here. 😂
He kissed and kissed and touched and touched. But the emotional Part of Him failed for some reason. That is scary, heart and spirit breaking.
Exactly hé need help
Why become the dang bachelor if you weren’t ready in the first place?? Waste of time🙄
Do you want to have children with man/woman that was even possibly raised to think slavery and racism are just normal in their environment.
It’s very true. I mentioned it several times how cold he was to so many other girls...in fact even how graceless he was with Michelle in the final rose segment...and just as bad on this piece yesterday.
Waste of time to feel heartbroken when 2.5 short years ago the woman you loved wasn’t instantly horrified by the attempted genocide of your race? My friend, flip the script, and put yourself in his shoes. Seriously, this wasn’t fun for him. It’s okay to rethink this line of thinking.
Bc he just wants Instagram sponsorships and be famous..half of the people(or more)on this show gets sponsorships or podcasts so they get more money and clout. They can get chances to date famous models( Tyler c with gigi
@thagrandpubah they will keep ignoring you lol. You’re 100% right thouh
"I didn't sign up to have this conversation" ...uh, yeah, you actually did when you applied for the show.
I think he meant a racial conversation
Yeah he was talking about the fact that no other bachelors have to talk about this. Also that he as a person of color comes into this world having to have these conversations that they wish they didn’t have to talk about but do because it’s a part of their lives
DOESN'T WANT COMMITMENT. SO SAD FOR ALL THESE GIRLS.
Sad? They should be thanking God. This guy isnt a man, hes a boy.
Correction. Wants to commit but doesn't know how. Let this be an example to all couple who enter relationship and then leave without emotionally preparing the children or taking their kids feelings and emotional wellbeing into account.
@@judyvalentne1565 you're absolutely right. He needs to control his emotions. He does seem like an emotional dweeb.
And Real women as well
Actually seems like he did want commitment with Rachael but got sidelined by her racism.
Sad situation for them both. Seems pretty clear that he wasn't ready for a real commitment though. Relationships are tough and sometimes the past resurfaces. She isn't a different person than the one he said he fell in love with though and it's disappointing that he isn't by her side helping her grow through it - being an example of grace, forgiveness, and unity.
I don’t blame him for having a hard time getting past the racism. That would create true distrust
He had a problem committing to her before the racism problem. No ring. As hurtful as racism is he now has a great excuse for breaking it off completely. Where there is real love there is forgiveness and working through the problems together. He even said he wasn't going to be responsible for her tears. Words of a true commitment phobic. True love does not keep a record of wrongs.
@@libbyr2040 but it wasn't intentional. She was ignorant and just needed to be educated. That much is clear. He just wants clout. He could have supported her but nope. Graceless.
@@daniellap8939 why isn’t an adult educated
@@alicerodriguez9802. I think it was very mean and cold when he said he wasn’t going to be responsible for her tears. I think the 2 beautiful women are e better off without him.
He couldnt even give her a hug....at that point he showed hes using her and throwing her under the bus to make up for and covering up all of his issues. Put all 30 of those woman through this just for him not to be ready
I feel like she apologized already over and over again and she is taking accountability. This happened 3 years ago. I don't think it was her intention to hurt anyone. I think people should really give her a break. Poor girl!!! Also forgiveness is a key ingredient in a relationship. Otherwise, the relationship won't last. NOBODY IS PERFECT!!!! Everyone makes mistakes.
I couldnt agree more.... people are being really hard on her.
We definitely witnessed some of his flaws.
@@milwaukeemotor5995 he is a coward. Instead of weathering the storm with her if he truly loved her, he balks out due to pressure or what. Looks like he wasn't really into anyone.
@@juliannatrure no ones being hard on her. This happened in 2018, yet in 2021 she still needed to be educated on why her actions were wrong. The fact that you and others are sympathizing with her more than the ones she offended is crazy to me
Knew he would be awful as the bachelor. Such a disappointing season.
It’s clear Rachel didn’t initially think there was anything wrong with those pictures....
Thank you and this is what is irking me abt her. The fact he had to even years later tell her what is wrong with tht is the problem. There is no way he shld be staying with someone like tht. And the onus is not on him to teach her abt inappropriate behaviour
Glad you’re psychic and totally know what she thinks..
@@zarablue2020 um Matt said it himself... he had to explain it to her THIS YEAR.
This scandal gave him the out he needed
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True
What scandal? Her being in a photo with a dress on from 1800's? LMAO!!! No. Matt is a beta male and this whole debuckle proves that.
100% agree
@@RavensFlock9592 the pic was from 2018 on a plantation love. Racism in America runs rampant