Thanks, Megan. I had a very complicated mom and caregiver relationship with my mentally ill son. When Sean died of cancer that had spread to his brain, we weren't able to communicate. He was hardly speaking and was always angry with me, even though we'd always had a close relationship. The pain of his last words to me will last forever and I am so tired of people expecting me to not be grieving. I have no expectations of myself but have developed methods of distraction and rituals to help me survive each day. I have been in pain, or one thought away from pain, 24/7 since he died almost 2 years ago.
I’m now 14 1/2 months beyond losing my wife of 41 years. This is such a great video (they all are) but it makes me realize that in my huge support community, I don’t think one single person gave me advice as to how or when my grief would “end” other than being present, being available, and referring me to Facebook grief support groups. As part of those Facebook groups (and one monthly group Zoom from my wife's union palliative benefit), I realize how many folks get really BAD and HURTFUL input. And I realize how fortunate I am. Thanks again for the incredible videos!
Megan, this is exactly what I needed to hear today. It rang "TRUTH" to my core. Thank you so much for your encouragement that I'm exactly where I need to be in my grief journey. It still sucks, but I know I'm not going down the wrong path with it. Peace & Love to you and many thanks!
My younger brother tried to rush me and it didn't work. We're on better terms now because I choose to love him at a distance for my sense of peace. I also went against my awareness that I was not ready to do anything related to caregiving by taking a job at an assisted living facility because I had to pay the bills. I lost my job just short of 90 days due to budget cuts. Last one hired, etc. I was relieved because I knew I wasn't ready and had forced it anyway. I sighed a lot with the sudden loss of my father. With my mother's loss, I realized I took shorter breaths. Probably because I witnessed her last breaths and unintentionally did so in response. I had to find deep breathing techniques to change that.
Thanks, Megan. I had a very complicated mom and caregiver relationship with my mentally ill son. When Sean died of cancer that had spread to his brain, we weren't able to communicate. He was hardly speaking and was always angry with me, even though we'd always had a close relationship. The pain of his last words to me will last forever and I am so tired of people expecting me to not be grieving. I have no expectations of myself but have developed methods of distraction and rituals to help me survive each day. I have been in pain, or one thought away from pain, 24/7 since he died almost 2 years ago.
That sounds incredibly difficult. I'm glad you're here.
I’m now 14 1/2 months beyond losing my wife of 41 years. This is such a great video (they all are) but it makes me realize that in my huge support community, I don’t think one single person gave me advice as to how or when my grief would “end” other than being present, being available, and referring me to Facebook grief support groups. As part of those Facebook groups (and one monthly group Zoom from my wife's union palliative benefit), I realize how many folks get really BAD and HURTFUL input. And I realize how fortunate I am. Thanks again for the incredible videos!
I could care less what people think about my life especially when grieving.
Megan, this is exactly what I needed to hear today. It rang "TRUTH" to my core. Thank you so much for your encouragement that I'm exactly where I need to be in my grief journey. It still sucks, but I know I'm not going down the wrong path with it. Peace & Love to you and many thanks!
You're very welcome, so glad you find it helpful.
So liberating !
My younger brother tried to rush me and it didn't work. We're on better terms now because I choose to love him at a distance for my sense of peace. I also went against my awareness that I was not ready to do anything related to caregiving by taking a job at an assisted living facility because I had to pay the bills. I lost my job just short of 90 days due to budget cuts. Last one hired, etc. I was relieved because I knew I wasn't ready and had forced it anyway.
I sighed a lot with the sudden loss of my father. With my mother's loss, I realized I took shorter breaths. Probably because I witnessed her last breaths and unintentionally did so in response. I had to find deep breathing techniques to change that.
Very reassuring, thank you 🙏
Thank you again Megan!
Thank you for this video 💚
thank you Megan.
Feels so debilitating. I've been grieving my mom for almost a year. I just don't know how to move on the pain is so severe.
Can't compare grief