i mean, at least it was the mom being weirdly obsessed with her teen daughter’s virginity this time? bc i feel like overprotective dads are the norm in media. not that one is less creepy than the other, of course
I cannot believe the video where a mom stalks her daughter to find out if she's dating ended with the mom getting a puppy and still being overprotective. She literally learned nothing except that her daughter wasn't dating the guy she thought she was.
reminds me of the time I went to my school's wellbeing advisor for help against my verbally and emotionally abusive dad, but all they said was to defend and show more understanding to my dad "because he loves me"
My mom did this to me once. I was in bed and she yanked my covers off. I was of course just sleeping, and she found nothing. Never apologized. I still have anxiety attacks when I hear creaking at night
the mom: you can’t date because you’re a girl. also son here’s money to follow your sister around and see if she’s dating. the dad: oh boy, this book sure is spoopy
She’s definitely not young enough to not be allowed to date. Parents saying you can’t until you’re 18 is some bull, I said what I said. Also “she better not” have a crush?? I had crushes in grade school, this mother needs serious therapy.
mu parents were like this growing up .. specially my mom like i couldn't mention i had crushes cause i was a child so what could I possibly know about love? but i didn't care i had bfs since i was 6 just kept them low-key.
Yeah, I disagree with their rule on dating, but in another context, without everything else the mom says and does, that's something I could maybe at least somewhat respect as being a parental choice that is theirs to make. But "she better not have a crush," aside from being unrealistic, feels like going beyond trying to control behavior into trying to control emotion and thought, which is just....no. (I really hope this does not come across as me saying anything else that mother did was okay, because I don't. This just seems like a whole extra level of bad.)
I wouldn't have minded the 18 rule if it wasn't due to sexism as if nothing can ever go wrong with boys dating unless a parent is basically admitting "Whatever my son does is actually the girl's fault". It's all so absurd and just kills my empathy even without the dog plot point.
To be clear, this isn't bad parenting, it's abusive parenting. Dhar Mann being Dhar Mann, it is handled with none of the care required for a sensitive topic. Yikes
@@baristheperson4255 ah so like treating ur daughter as if she's your property and not like an actual person who exists and should have the ability to do stuff without you stalking and controlling them is actually pretty fucked up. like you for saying this :D
Exactly. Where's the lesson in this? If your parents are controlling just tell them you're doing something they disapprove of when they're in a good mood and it'll be fine? If you're a controlling parent just stop? It's literally saying nothing
the mom never abuses her daughter. she's overprotective and hypocritical but not abusive. you really should be more careful about using a term like that.
So basically the moral of the video is reward your helicopter parent when they resort to bribery and stalking your personal life? The ending feels like a complete copout to what came before, even down to the brother who seemed to be on the mom's side. This is even worse than the video Dhar Mann made where he justified parental neglect by saying "because he's a good parent to other children that makes it okay to emotionally walk out on you and throw you away, leaving you with financial struggles".. I don't get why mothers are always portrayed so negatively or in the wrong a lot of the times.
I think the worst parents in a Dhar Man video is the one where the kids are difficult for the babysitter, so she conspires with the parents to scare the sh*t out of the kids, the parents do a fake murder of the babysitter, fake blood and all, the parents are dressed as clowns which they know the kids are scared of and then stalk/hunt/torment their kids around the house, making them afraud for their life that they are going to get murdered like the babysitter was, way to give those kids PTSD!
@@SoniaAlese they save her from her boyfriend (since if he couldn’t connect the dots of her saying she’s with some annoying children then all of a sudden calling him fat that’s on him. And if he instantly breaks up after getting called fat once and resorts to going n-no you’re the fat one…) and show off their impressive planning skills and then get PTSD
The ending feels like a parental version of "boys will be boys". "moms will be moms disrespecting their child's privacy and independence." Also crazy how Dhar Mann still did "unreasonable mom and chill dad" even when this trope is more often associated with overprotective dads. The misogyny is wild.
Yes. Because moms can't be overprotective and evil. Everyone who makes a film with a woman as the antagonist is misogynist. My mom is very overprotective. She doesn't let me go to the gym.
my parents were like that mom growing up. my dad got mad and aggressive w me once because i was talking to this girl with a pixie cut, but he thought she was a boy from afar. in high school, i could NEVER smile while looking down at my phone bc he'd start interrogating me about who im talking to. anyways, im 21 now and have never had a bf and never really plan on having one either, im p sure it's because of my dad too. i noticed when i was in hs that i physically shrink away from any men i'm talking to (who im not related to) if i ever see my dad come near us. watching this was oddly triggering and it filled me w rage lmao.
OH MY GODDD bruh tell me why my dad also thought that ??!!! I was talking to my friend that is a bit on the tomboy side while waiting for him and he started asking if she was a boy and why was I smiling so much with her ?! LIKE WHAT I can’t even enjoy myself?!! Goddd like i get being protective BUT I WAS LITERALLY IN HIGHSCHOOL I can definitely make my own decisions and omg I feel you I haven’t dated anyone at all and I honestly blame him for it bcs I’m so used to rejecting everyone bcs I didn’t want to deal w his over protectiveness 😭😭
i also physically shrink around men and have never had a bf bc of bad experiences w my parents regarding boys when i was in hs and stuff. these days i lean more towards women romantically but it makes me wonder if i was always gay or if that just seems like a more comfortable option for me after all this time 😕
I always wished I had a dad, but since having a good one seems to be rarer than stumbling upon a pile of diamonds, maybe it's luckier not to have one, but my mom's boyfriends gave me equal trauma, so it's either equally as bad or twice as bad depending on how you look at it.
As someone who’s dog passed away pretty recently, someone gifting me a new dog is the last thing I would ever want. 🚫STOP TRYING TO REPLACE PETS RIGHT AFTER THEY PASS FOR THE LOVE OF GOD 🚫
yes! i'm sorry for your recent loss and i agree so much. it's so weird, i was given a plant to "help replace my dead hamster", and it was so awkward and only stressed me out more. i know intentions are good, but.. still not a good idea.
literally, thank you!! also I'm sorry for your loss, my dog passed away about 4 months ago and I'm still not used to coming home to an empty house, so I get it 💕
i’m sorry for your loss. my two dogs are both almost 10 and the thought of just putting something/someone else in their place immediately after they die seems so wrong to me. like it feels like i’d be devaluing the relationship/connection we had with each other; that they’re easily replaceable
As the son of a very controlling and abusive mother, this video leaves a bad taste in my mouth. It reminds me of how we were always trying to bribe her to appease her anger whenever we did something that we needed to do but that she would disapprove of.
My aunt has actually had like 5 dogs named morgan throughout her life, all golden retrievers. And when their cat charlie went missing a few years ago, she bought a cat that looked just like him and named him charlie. It has always seemed so weird and morbid to me
It’s kind of cute too, I’ve thought about it once my dog passes. Though you should add the third or something man. I do get having the same name but having it be the same breed is also weird, it’s not that bad but it’s still a bit sad. TLDR: Pick one or the other and if it’s the same breed and name add a title of some sort, it’s a different dog and you should respect that.
@@str4yk1dsw0rldd0minati0n but also sad to think that the pets never get their own identity, theyre all just copies of the same one. i wouldnt want to be reminded of my former pets all the time and i also wouldnt want any other pet to 'replace' the other but i guess some people cope differently
Maybe I just have a good relationship w my brother but we would cover for eachother if needed and he would take the money and lie about the relationship for me
kind of obsessed with how apparently dhar manns new hot fable is "toxic overprotective relative acts horribly towards a young girl, who thinks it's cute and uses it to plan them a surprise party, and then the toxic overprotective relative is lightly chastised for their insane behavior while also being rewarded because people think its a quirky character trait". like this mother was a straight up 1950s misogynist who thinks that letting a teen girl date is the most shocking thing a parent can do and everyone acted like it was nothing. and even though hes obviously trying to be like "it's bad to stalk your family" he clearly doesnt ACTUALLY believe that, because every time the "villain" doesnt learn their listen and still acts super possessive with 0 punishment
Okay, I know we can all agree that this video was hugely problematic for MANY reasons, but can I just say how much it pissed me off that they replaced the mom's dog without her knowledge a WEEK after the original dog got put down? And the mom was so upset about it too! Pets aren't replaceable toys, they're beloved family members and it's completely natural to go through the grieving process when you lose one. For some people that takes years and for others it's a much shorter time frame before they're ready to get another pet (especially if it helps them with their grief), but I think literally everyone can agree that a week is WAY too short a time frame.
I totally agree, after my family had to put our dog down in February my grandma immediately asked when we're getting another one and she hasn't stopped asking since, it's so uncomfortable every time and most of the time when she asks now I just hang up on her because I've asked her many times not to bring him up and she just..... won't listen :/
It all depends on when the family feels like they're ready for another pet, but they just... completely ignored that that includes the mom, too. I got a cat like 2 weeks after we lost our last one, which would be too soon for some people, but it felt like something was missing without having a pet in the house
This video was genuinely disturbing and made me want to cry. I have had so many friends with abusive parents and treating abuse like a funny quirky trait is so upsetting. Parents like this exist and I’ve had to see people I’ve care about go through stuff like this and it hurts not only them but everyone who loves them. This is a horrible video and anyone involved in making this should feel Incredibly guilty and ashamed.
I mean - the dad could have just taken the mom out for dinner to give them time to set up the surprise. But there are so many more problems than that. I don't even know where to begin.
Question. How did you get diagnosed? I'm 100 percent sure I have it but I tried talking to my therapist and she blamed it on my anxiety (which it's definitely not)
@@emo-gu9zn its really hard, its not a very recognized disorder so most professionals either don't know about it or don't think its real. My best advice is to go to someone who specializes in ocd because misophonia is a form of ocd and someone who specializes in ocd is more likely to diagnose/understand misophonia.
videos only at 22:30 but are they seriously going to play off her obsessive, controlling behaviour as a joke? and the daughter describing her dress as "semi-revealing"... Revealing of WHAT? It's just a sun dress. And they turn the fact that the sun was dating at 15 but the daughter has to be older to have permission into a joke (she's clearly a young adult, wtf) - it's really not funny, none of the gross double standards and sexism in this video are funny. The dog is the least of the issues for me, it's a family and they live in the same home, the mother likely talked about how she planned to get another dog or said they couldn't have 2 dogs at the same time - there's a lot of reasons why they may have been aware she wanted a dog.
i would be so called out for wearing a dress even remotely similar [story time] i had a pale green maxi dress with buttons going down the front and it was the cutest dress i’ve ever worn, i felt so beautiful but i have big boobs which made the fabric between the buttons kinda stick out a little bit, (could’ve been fixed by a simple safety pin) but my mother didn’t let me wear it because of “a wardrobe malfunction” which as i said coulda been taken care of easily but she insisted that i not wear it i was upset as i’ve never seen myself in such a way before, a way i loved, and she kinda shot it down i mostly wear those cheap kinda shift dresses because i’ve never been comfortable with my belly shape visible for all to see, and this dress made me look amazing like i’d never seen before i do apologize for the kind of emotion dump here but i have to say this somewhere to get it out of my head and into words
Oof this one got me. When my first family dog passed we waited almost an entire year to get a new one, (ended up getting two from the litter). 8 years later my boy passed from a brain aneurysm, no warning at all. Besides being a companion he was my ESA and I was obviously devastated after losing him. Getting another dog wasn’t discussed until weeks later. And it was a few months until I got a puppy and even then I still feel bad because I was emotionally despondent with her for the first few months of having her. She is my service animal now and I’m very blessed to have her but if my family would have just brought me another dog and named it for me and everything I would have a breakdown right then and there lol. Please never surprise someone with an animal after they lost one. They MUST make that decision for themselves and be emotionally ready for it. Apologies for the rant I’m just appalled lol
I feel this. My dog was 17 when he passed, and I still wasn’t completely ready when we got our puppy. I was the one who finalized the decision too… it’s tough. Feels like you’re trying to replace them. The guilt is real. I’m with you- one should never ever gift a pet without prior serious discussion.
As someone currently trying to get through father's day with an abusive dad, this video felt p cathartic and simultaneously incredibly frustrating. Love Dhar Mann bingo and laughing at how cliche and poorly everything's written, but it really is the fact that he just has no tact whatsoever handling these topics that makes laughing at the videos so satisfying
I'm halfway through the VOD and coming from an overprotective family myself, this is straight up a little triggering, but Jarvis has such a comforting personality I'm still able to enjoy watching this
I'm beyond happy that Jarvis stands for not getting pets as gifts. Pets aren't just a thing to be thrown around for surprises.. He's a great dog owner clearly and takes it seriously. Thanks for being a good pet influence Jarvis!
i think gifting a pet is fine if someone specifically asked for a dog and ask you to buy one for them. but don’t give a surprise pet without confirming that someone wants it like i got my dog for Christmas but i didn’t lose a pet and i specifically asked for my dog
Exactly. Pets are not just gifts, they’re living things that should be prepped for before going to get one. To just toss one in like it’s nothing with no warning just seems so wild to me. If a person has been wanting to get a pet forever, and clearly capable of taking care of one, I’d say then it’s okay to get a pet as a gift. I don’t understand how some people can just get whatever animal, put it in a box, and go “Hey! This living organism is YOUR problem now, who cares if you’re not ready to take care of one?! It’s cute! You MUST be happy!” Like bro- wtf.
giving pets as gifts is fine imo as long as the person getting the pet already knows and is prepared. like my brothers cat (it was really the family cat, but he loved my brother so much we considered it his) died last year, and my mom asked him if he'd want another cat for his birthday. he said yes and we love our new cat so much
Yea, my dog was technically a birthday gift. I didn’t get him on my birthday but it was around the time of my birthday and he was like my big gift that my parents spent most of the birthday budget on. But I’ve wanted a dog for as long as I remember, I’ve been begging for a pet dog since I was like 3. And like I wasn’t just like surprise gifted him, my family visited the breeder and we met the dogs first and I picked out a dog that I got along well with. So I knew about the whole thing from the very beginning.
"No dating until you're 18" is actually really dangerous because your child will have no experience with relationships until they are an adult when the rest of the dating pool has had past relationships. This could lead to your child not recognizing red flags or being easily taken advantage of. If your child does date behind your back and something happens to them they wont come to you for help and they'll dig themselves into a bigger hole trying to hide it from you.
I mean, I don’t think it’s strictly dangerous to not date until you’re after 18. It’s p common for that to happen even without any dating restrictions. Though I do definitely agree with you that it’s dangerous to make it so that your child, at an age where dating is still quite common, feels the need to hide who they’re dating from you, and wouldn’t feel comfortable going to you if they needed help.
This is a really weird and bad take. Not because I support the idea of forbidding your kids from dating but your rationale is bizarre. For starters its honestly kind of victim blamey to imply that toxic/abusive relationships happen cause the other person didnt have enough past relationship experience to see "red flags" or whatever. People have bad relationships regardless of there level of past experience. Also lots and lots of people whos parents didnt restrict them still dont date until 18 or even much later, its really rude to talk about that whole group as if they are too dumb and naive to date "safely."
This is stupid you don't need to date as a teenager to know what a healthy relationship looks like and it's not dangerous at all to not date, dating is overrated and spending your teenage years worrying about relationships isn't good
Stop making excuses it's not good if teenagers have boyfriends or girlfriends they should have boyfriends or girlfriends when they're 21 because if they have it during middle or high school it's hard because you have to go to college and you have study's and waste your time with someone you probably break up with
Can we absolutely backhand the entire family except the teenage girl cause damn she deserves so much better, I won't be surprised if she winds up going NC when she moves out
I love that Jarvis and twitch chat watch Dhar mann enough to genuinely say “something feels weird” and be right about it 😂 The daughter is so calm, I would’ve flipped if my parents were following me as a teenager
I got a rabbit as a Christmas gift when I was a teenager and that poor thing had an awful life. I had no idea how to take care of it and didn't do my research because I was a stupid teenager. Plus you shouldn't get a new dog while you're still mourning your recent loss.
The sister shouldn’t need to have permission from the brother to date? Like, yeah the mom obviously has control even if she should be so over protective, but the brother is just flat out stalking her. The lesson should be the sister cuts that guy out of her life.
why did they go on a stakeout to tell the daughter she can’t date instead of just waiting? it’s like she has a fantasy she’s trying to live out of being a super badass
Previous vet tech here. It’s pretty common to get another dog after losing one (or even before the elder/sick one passes) because the emptiness of the house really hurts. If she missed caring for a dog and having that love, I get the “surprise” because it’s not too “surprising” if she told them that she would want another dog. Granted, in my personal opinion, a week is pretty soon. However it’s similar to people getting a dog before losing the other one, so I get it. However this mom is abusive af so like… minus understanding points.
I remember learning in 5th grade from my friends that they were not allowed to date until they were 18 years old. I came home one day and asked my mom when I was allowed to date. My mother just said what ever age you want to date sweety. Then I said. "Well then I choose to date at 13!" My mother just shrugged. "13 it is then". I was a little surprised at the time since all my friends where not allowed to date. I didn't realize until after high school how nice of parents I had with how easy going they were. Sure they didn't want me or my brother becoming teen parents like they were but would help us out if we did (we never did. Never thought I would ever see my mother be relieved to hear I was asexual. Was a little weird).
Yeah I kinda feel like the mom got no repercussions for being psychotic, and honestly, as a child of a helicopter mom, I am triggered. Also, hey. Getting a new pet doesn't fix that you lost your old pet. Get rid of this archaic and heartless crap.
If the guy is allowed to date at 15 but girls aren’t, that leaves us with one of two options: 1. The guy is dating someone wayyyy older than him, or 2. He is dating a dude O.o
That mom's "crossing the line" is, like, so mild compared to what my mom did to me well into my 30's, even after I was married and had kids. She would drive by my house to see whose cars were in the driveway several times a day.
I live in a parallel universe where every time I’m tryna get a spoon to have some ice cream I can’t find one and yet I have tens of forks just sitting there. Mocking me.
@@joearnold6881 It's just a joke about the "spoons" metaphor for functioning with chronic illness. Not the literal context of what he's saying (though funnily enough, I do have the exact opposite problem right now), just one of the places my mind went when he said "how do I have so many spoons?"
Many years ago, after my parents' dog had passed, my partner and I presented a promise to pay for a new pup when they were ready. Ultimately they decided they were cool without pets for the first time in decades and opted instead for a fancy, expensive plant they'd been eyeing. In honour of our original offer, they named her 'Fifi' and she has flourished ever since. 🌿🍍
23:28 This! I remember the family dog we’d owned since I was a baby had to be put down at 15 years old, and then a few months later my mom and little sister picked me up on my first day of sophomore year with a new dog I had no idea about. Nine years later, even though I love them all I haven’t had a say in getting any of the family pets that we’ve had since. The cycle goes “family pet dies, everyone else in the family agrees on getting a new pet and doesn’t even talk to me about it, gets a new pet without considering if I was emotionally ready to have another pet that soon after one died, hopes I won’t be mad at them, another pet dies” and then the cycle starts all over again. TL,DR; DO NOT surprise people with animals as gifts no matter how long you’ve known and/or loved them
Wow, I'm so sorry that's been your experience. Like at least give you a heads up if they know you're likely to get upset... that way you have a little bit of time to prepare, instead of getting blindsided every time. Yikes...
jarvis thank you for recognizing misophonia it’s a big deal in my whole family since my mom has it really bad and i appreciate you understanding it and trying to help with it
stop that’s the first time I’ve ever seen someone be considerate of people with misophonia, I swear it made me emotional because it’s something small but it matters and it shows care, thank you Jarvis 😭
An additional bad thing about the whole surprising someone with a dog is that there is no way he was adopted, either. No responsible dog rescue is going to hand over a dog to someone getting the dog for their mom...
my family’s rule for pets as “gifts” is giving the person a hand-drawn “voucher” for a new pup, if they decide they want one. it’s basically the rest of the family saying “we’re down, now we wanted to surprise you without making your decisions for you”
jarvis i don’t know if you’ll see this but i just want you to know that your channel is my favorite place to come when i need to decompress. i just processed some heavy shit on an emergency therapy phone call and now i’m just watching your videos to put my brain on autopilot for a bit and laugh and play some damn dhar mann bingo. thank you for being you dude.
I feel like a lot of people who thinks pets can be replaced are people without pets. Personnaly I got new cats when our fmaily cat passed away but not because I was trying to replace her. It's because I loved her so much, I couldn't imagine my life without a cat. I need pets in my life because home doesn't feel like home without one. But I was ready to have another pet. The cats I have rn are NOT replacement, they are different little beings and I need to take care of them accordingly. The difference between you and me ? I wanted to. I got new cats because I wanted to. If someone had gotten me cats without my permission I would've flipped out. Everyone grieves differently and that needs to be respected.
im so glad Jarvis acknowledged misophonia, although i dont watch these live and could just skip ahead, I'm happy he's being considerate of everybody there.
Talking of the bystander effect - one time I was at a busy bus stop and a woman was very clearly being assaulted (not hit, but being grabbed/struggling whilst trying to get away from a man and shouting at him) across the street. People watched for MINUTES doing nothing until I was like fuck it - I'm a 4' 11" teenager (at the time) but this is horrifying and I can't watch anymore, so just got the emergency number dialed up in case and started walking towards them. Only then did several grown ass men follow me to actually help. I think that was the day I stopped believing in empathy 🙃 It still fills me with rage. There were like 20 people awkwardly watching this poor lady in danger.
i just wanna beg mr. mann to have _some_ nuance to his videos 😭 honestly idk his role in these vids tho, does he write, script, direct and cast? like how involved is he? either way would just like to have some nuance and maybe possibly just a bit of emotional realism 😭
This literally happened to me when I started dating my boyfriend. We were at a friends birthday party and my dad and his girlfriend made my friends mom take photos of me and my boyfriend to make sure we weren't getting up to no good or something. Creepy as hell.
(This is my story, just saying it cause it’s similar to yours, not trying to take anything away from your story. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Sending love🫶) Anytime my partner is over my mom has to send someone to “watch us to make sure we aren’t doing anything” it’s so creepy because we are CHILDREN not even 13 yet. So fucking creepy… and I’m pretty sure I’m asexual too so I get defensive about it and it makes her MORE suspicious. She asked me once “are you and __ having sex?” Like what. I was like “WERE CHILDREN.” She still was like “kids do it too” it’s just gross to me.
I don’t think surprise pets are a good thing. Pets are a lot of responsibility, and people shouldn’t give them as gifts, without the other person being ok with it. I currently have a disabled, elderly cat who has nasal carcinoma. I have invested so much love, time, and money into him. I’ve spent money that I don’t have for operations and to be seen by specialists. Granted, he’s a special case, but pets can have issues, sometimes that develop later, and need to be given a lot of care and time. Only the person getting the pet knows if they can take on that responsibility. I know that after my cat passes it’s going to take me a while before I can even think about getting another pet. Not only because it will be so painful, but I’ll need time to recover financially. Also, certain animals don’t work in certain households. Some animals are good around other animals and some prefer to be the only other pet in the household. Some pets in shelters may have underlying issues, especially if they came from bad situations, and they may need extra care. I think it’s important for the person getting the pet to choose the pet when and if they want one.
If done in a healthy way with communication and clarification a dating rule can work (simply saying "no" and "you're just too young" isn't enough). Letting the son date way younger than the daughter and spying on her when she spends time with anyone is definitely not the healthy way. Imagine being so controlling your kids rely on it to plan a surprise. Also I have a HUGE problem with the whole "wearing something revealing" when she literally allowed her to have the dress. It's fine to have rules about modesty but you can't buy her clothes and then tell her she can only wear them in specific events. Dhar Mann didn't have to make it so problematic, they literally could have had her be super dressed up and have them comment that she's put in way more effort than she usually does so is she trying to impress someone. Also everyone has said this already but man please do not get someone a surprise pet under any circumstances, especially if it's to replace a deceased pet. Maybe just...make a scrapbook of the dog and take her to a movie lol
I think a real great idea would be to do a Dhar Mann marathon with a black out round. Watch as many Dhar Mann videos until someone gets blackout! Think that would be a really fun idea!
This video is really bad, but I from what I saw the Brent Rivera one looked WAAAY worse because the people in that video were actually adults (he said the sister was 20). I have no clue why Brent would agree to film that lol
My emotionally inept (+ a lot of other bad descriptors) stepfather decided we should get a new dog a day after putting our previous dog, Bear, down. He also insisted on naming the new one Bear Jr 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀 My mom and I were against it but he was one of those "What I say goes" men 🙃
i was like “what’s so wrong with having a crush??” and then proceeded to thing that mac and the girl were siblings and the mom was really reading into things
Something that changed my life: walmart and the dollar tree sells two packs of forks for like a buck each. I used to get so mad at myself for never having clean forks but always having plenty of spoons and butter knives, but now I just have a million forks.
I'm a dog trainer and omg that poor dog was so stressed! And I agree with lets not give dogs (or any pet for that manner) as gifts. In 99% of gift pefs the person getting them did zero research, leading to a pet that's fun for a few days, and then gets dumped in a shelter. Who gave Dhar Mann a dog??
this dhar man video was genuinely the most fever dream-like one in this entire series. i still have so many questions literally what was happening here
Can I just say thank you for having that noise cancelling stuff with the food? I've had to dip out of so many streams and VODs specifically because streamers have decided to pull out some food and turn the stream into food ASMR
They lost their dog LAST WEEK! It took me like a year to "move on" and even think about other pets. My dad is still not over it and it's been a year. Also, his name was Teddy Bear, so this hit extra close to home
the dad just sitting there reading goosebumps while his wife is being sexist towards their daughter and bribing their son to spy on her is sending me
that dad is 100% high & just trying to have a fun spooky goosebumps time
@@brigade7678 can u blame him tho
@@buggbonez hell no, he's all I wanna be
Got his priorities on right 👌
Just a typical Tuesday for the dad lol
this is the best reply chain ever
The way Dhar Mann manages to slip in every gender norm possible within a small runtime is impressive. In a sense.
Impressive in the way of "I didn't think this rural road could have a 5 car pile-up"
@@miniraptor3211 GREAT metaphor
i mean, at least it was the mom being weirdly obsessed with her teen daughter’s virginity this time? bc i feel like overprotective dads are the norm in media. not that one is less creepy than the other, of course
@@natalyn139 facts
@@natalyn139 oml that's scary that either of those would be considered normal
Y'know, after watching nearly 30 of these, I'm starting to think Dhar Mann might have something against mothers.
Dhar Mann has Mommy Issues confirmed? 😨😨😨
Dhar Mann has mommy issues?
Divorced my father energy?
Especially with this one since the stereotype is usually the shotgun wielding dad who’s like “don’t touch my daughter”
@@carly35269 maybe all the Dhar Mann lessons are lessons he wishes his own mother would have told him 😢😂
I cannot believe the video where a mom stalks her daughter to find out if she's dating ended with the mom getting a puppy and still being overprotective. She literally learned nothing except that her daughter wasn't dating the guy she thought she was.
reminds me of the time I went to my school's wellbeing advisor for help against my verbally and emotionally abusive dad, but all they said was to defend and show more understanding to my dad "because he loves me"
@@yuenmienyu so sorry man. Counselors absolutely suck.
Are we not gonna talk about what would've happened if the mom was right? She just pulled the sheets back with no hesitation.
Fr like she couldn’t have knocked on the door first 😭
@@sherifflasso She has no respect for her daughter let alone women so of course she couldn't do that.
ikr! was waiting for jarvis to call it out!
My mom did this to me once. I was in bed and she yanked my covers off. I was of course just sleeping, and she found nothing. Never apologized. I still have anxiety attacks when I hear creaking at night
@@rowanquynn9964 o. my
u need to fire her or smth *let her know what she’s done oml*
the mom: you can’t date because you’re a girl. also son here’s money to follow your sister around and see if she’s dating. the dad: oh boy, this book sure is spoopy
the dad 😂
“That Slappy the Dummy sure is something isn’t he?”
This whole script is ridiculous lol. To give the mom credit, the daughter ran out and refused to tell her parents where she was going and with who.
She’s definitely not young enough to not be allowed to date. Parents saying you can’t until you’re 18 is some bull, I said what I said.
Also “she better not” have a crush?? I had crushes in grade school, this mother needs serious therapy.
Really gross. She's clearly sexualizing her child, too, like they think the only thing people who date do is have sex.
mu parents were like this growing up .. specially my mom like i couldn't mention i had crushes cause i was a child so what could I possibly know about love? but i didn't care i had bfs since i was 6 just kept them low-key.
Yeah, I disagree with their rule on dating, but in another context, without everything else the mom says and does, that's something I could maybe at least somewhat respect as being a parental choice that is theirs to make. But "she better not have a crush," aside from being unrealistic, feels like going beyond trying to control behavior into trying to control emotion and thought, which is just....no.
(I really hope this does not come across as me saying anything else that mother did was okay, because I don't. This just seems like a whole extra level of bad.)
I wouldn't have minded the 18 rule if it wasn't due to sexism as if nothing can ever go wrong with boys dating unless a parent is basically admitting "Whatever my son does is actually the girl's fault". It's all so absurd and just kills my empathy even without the dog plot point.
@@puffinatheart5565 ding ding ding!!! thats what my dad says, its so gross
To be clear, this isn't bad parenting, it's abusive parenting. Dhar Mann being Dhar Mann, it is handled with none of the care required for a sensitive topic. Yikes
this, 100%
How tf is this abusive. “Liberals” are so annoying.
@@baristheperson4255 ah so like treating ur daughter as if she's your property and not like an actual person who exists and should have the ability to do stuff without you stalking and controlling them is actually pretty fucked up.
like you for saying this :D
Exactly. Where's the lesson in this? If your parents are controlling just tell them you're doing something they disapprove of when they're in a good mood and it'll be fine? If you're a controlling parent just stop? It's literally saying nothing
the mom never abuses her daughter. she's overprotective and hypocritical but not abusive. you really should be more careful about using a term like that.
So basically the moral of the video is reward your helicopter parent when they resort to bribery and stalking your personal life? The ending feels like a complete copout to what came before, even down to the brother who seemed to be on the mom's side. This is even worse than the video Dhar Mann made where he justified parental neglect by saying "because he's a good parent to other children that makes it okay to emotionally walk out on you and throw you away, leaving you with financial struggles".. I don't get why mothers are always portrayed so negatively or in the wrong a lot of the times.
I think the worst parents in a Dhar Man video is the one where the kids are difficult for the babysitter, so she conspires with the parents to scare the sh*t out of the kids, the parents do a fake murder of the babysitter, fake blood and all, the parents are dressed as clowns which they know the kids are scared of and then stalk/hunt/torment their kids around the house, making them afraud for their life that they are going to get murdered like the babysitter was, way to give those kids PTSD!
Misogyny, that’s why
@@SoniaAlese they save her from her boyfriend (since if he couldn’t connect the dots of her saying she’s with some annoying children then all of a sudden calling him fat that’s on him. And if he instantly breaks up after getting called fat once and resorts to going n-no you’re the fat one…) and show off their impressive planning skills and then get PTSD
The ending feels like a parental version of "boys will be boys". "moms will be moms disrespecting their child's privacy and independence."
Also crazy how Dhar Mann still did "unreasonable mom and chill dad" even when this trope is more often associated with overprotective dads. The misogyny is wild.
Yes. Because moms can't be overprotective and evil. Everyone who makes a film with a woman as the antagonist is misogynist.
My mom is very overprotective. She doesn't let me go to the gym.
Jarvis' fans really are the kind of people to go to sleep and when they wake up call it a time skip
but when the day changes its time skip
my parents were like that mom growing up. my dad got mad and aggressive w me once because i was talking to this girl with a pixie cut, but he thought she was a boy from afar. in high school, i could NEVER smile while looking down at my phone bc he'd start interrogating me about who im talking to. anyways, im 21 now and have never had a bf and never really plan on having one either, im p sure it's because of my dad too. i noticed when i was in hs that i physically shrink away from any men i'm talking to (who im not related to) if i ever see my dad come near us. watching this was oddly triggering and it filled me w rage lmao.
OH MY GODDD bruh tell me why my dad also thought that ??!!! I was talking to my friend that is a bit on the tomboy side while waiting for him and he started asking if she was a boy and why was I smiling so much with her ?! LIKE WHAT I can’t even enjoy myself?!! Goddd like i get being protective BUT I WAS LITERALLY IN HIGHSCHOOL I can definitely make my own decisions and omg I feel you I haven’t dated anyone at all and I honestly blame him for it bcs I’m so used to rejecting everyone bcs I didn’t want to deal w his over protectiveness 😭😭
i also physically shrink around men and have never had a bf bc of bad experiences w my parents regarding boys when i was in hs and stuff. these days i lean more towards women romantically but it makes me wonder if i was always gay or if that just seems like a more comfortable option for me after all this time 😕
I always wished I had a dad, but since having a good one seems to be rarer than stumbling upon a pile of diamonds, maybe it's luckier not to have one, but my mom's boyfriends gave me equal trauma, so it's either equally as bad or twice as bad depending on how you look at it.
As someone who’s dog passed away pretty recently, someone gifting me a new dog is the last thing I would ever want. 🚫STOP TRYING TO REPLACE PETS RIGHT AFTER THEY PASS FOR THE LOVE OF GOD 🚫
yes! i'm sorry for your recent loss and i agree so much. it's so weird, i was given a plant to "help replace my dead hamster", and it was so awkward and only stressed me out more. i know intentions are good, but.. still not a good idea.
literally, thank you!! also I'm sorry for your loss, my dog passed away about 4 months ago and I'm still not used to coming home to an empty house, so I get it 💕
i’m sorry for your loss. my two dogs are both almost 10 and the thought of just putting something/someone else in their place immediately after they die seems so wrong to me. like it feels like i’d be devaluing the relationship/connection we had with each other; that they’re easily replaceable
im so sorry for your loss :( its so morbid to me when people do this idk
Yeah I feel like the person who lost the pet should decide on when THEY want to get another one or not.
As the son of a very controlling and abusive mother, this video leaves a bad taste in my mouth. It reminds me of how we were always trying to bribe her to appease her anger whenever we did something that we needed to do but that she would disapprove of.
so sorry you had to go through something like this man
My aunt has actually had like 5 dogs named morgan throughout her life, all golden retrievers. And when their cat charlie went missing a few years ago, she bought a cat that looked just like him and named him charlie. It has always seemed so weird and morbid to me
same my grandparents dog named lady died and they got a new dog named lady and it's just???
@@anastasiab1066 first tell your grandparents to pick a better name bro
It’s kind of cute too, I’ve thought about it once my dog passes. Though you should add the third or something man. I do get having the same name but having it be the same breed is also weird, it’s not that bad but it’s still a bit sad.
TLDR: Pick one or the other and if it’s the same breed and name add a title of some sort, it’s a different dog and you should respect that.
I think that's kinda sweet, it probably helps her think she's growing with her dog and cat forever
@@str4yk1dsw0rldd0minati0n but also sad to think that the pets never get their own identity, theyre all just copies of the same one. i wouldnt want to be reminded of my former pets all the time and i also wouldnt want any other pet to 'replace' the other but i guess some people cope differently
Absolutely wild that the mom is like I’ll PAY you to spy on your SISTER and GOOD FRIEND and the son is like yeah sure ill do that
well he knew what they were doing anyways he basically just got payed to go to the movies
Maybe I just have a good relationship w my brother but we would cover for eachother if needed and he would take the money and lie about the relationship for me
if i were him i would go too. to prevent the mom from going herself and watch a free movie lol
kind of obsessed with how apparently dhar manns new hot fable is "toxic overprotective relative acts horribly towards a young girl, who thinks it's cute and uses it to plan them a surprise party, and then the toxic overprotective relative is lightly chastised for their insane behavior while also being rewarded because people think its a quirky character trait". like this mother was a straight up 1950s misogynist who thinks that letting a teen girl date is the most shocking thing a parent can do and everyone acted like it was nothing. and even though hes obviously trying to be like "it's bad to stalk your family" he clearly doesnt ACTUALLY believe that, because every time the "villain" doesnt learn their listen and still acts super possessive with 0 punishment
Okay, I know we can all agree that this video was hugely problematic for MANY reasons, but can I just say how much it pissed me off that they replaced the mom's dog without her knowledge a WEEK after the original dog got put down? And the mom was so upset about it too! Pets aren't replaceable toys, they're beloved family members and it's completely natural to go through the grieving process when you lose one. For some people that takes years and for others it's a much shorter time frame before they're ready to get another pet (especially if it helps them with their grief), but I think literally everyone can agree that a week is WAY too short a time frame.
My pets (who this account is named after) passed away last year and I still haven’t gotten over it.
I totally agree, after my family had to put our dog down in February my grandma immediately asked when we're getting another one and she hasn't stopped asking since, it's so uncomfortable every time and most of the time when she asks now I just hang up on her because I've asked her many times not to bring him up and she just..... won't listen :/
@easypoet My grandmother used to have a friend that would replace her dogs like that - always the same breed AND the same name. So disturbing.
GOD yeah...it was I think two years before we got another dog after our first one died. A week is just...good lord.
It all depends on when the family feels like they're ready for another pet, but they just... completely ignored that that includes the mom, too. I got a cat like 2 weeks after we lost our last one, which would be too soon for some people, but it felt like something was missing without having a pet in the house
This video was genuinely disturbing and made me want to cry. I have had so many friends with abusive parents and treating abuse like a funny quirky trait is so upsetting. Parents like this exist and I’ve had to see people I’ve care about go through stuff like this and it hurts not only them but everyone who loves them. This is a horrible video and anyone involved in making this should feel Incredibly guilty and ashamed.
I mean - the dad could have just taken the mom out for dinner to give them time to set up the surprise. But there are so many more problems than that. I don't even know where to begin.
As someone with misophonia thank you it is really awesome when someone cares enough to try and be accommodating
Same, I had to leave watching a Livestream once because of the chewing so I appreciate him caring
Yeah that was super nice
Question. How did you get diagnosed? I'm 100 percent sure I have it but I tried talking to my therapist and she blamed it on my anxiety (which it's definitely not)
@@emo-gu9zn its really hard, its not a very recognized disorder so most professionals either don't know about it or don't think its real. My best advice is to go to someone who specializes in ocd because misophonia is a form of ocd and someone who specializes in ocd is more likely to diagnose/understand misophonia.
@@reshufflescum4204 Alright thank you 💛
that was the weirdest vibes in a Dhar vid i've ever seen.
videos only at 22:30 but are they seriously going to play off her obsessive, controlling behaviour as a joke? and the daughter describing her dress as "semi-revealing"... Revealing of WHAT? It's just a sun dress. And they turn the fact that the sun was dating at 15 but the daughter has to be older to have permission into a joke (she's clearly a young adult, wtf) - it's really not funny, none of the gross double standards and sexism in this video are funny. The dog is the least of the issues for me, it's a family and they live in the same home, the mother likely talked about how she planned to get another dog or said they couldn't have 2 dogs at the same time - there's a lot of reasons why they may have been aware she wanted a dog.
i thought they said the son was 18?
@@joemamacaprisun They said he was 18, but they'd started dating when he was 15 at 14:40
oh okay that makes sense i must have missed it then thanks!
i would be so called out for wearing a dress even remotely similar [story time]
i had a pale green maxi dress with buttons going down the front and it was the cutest dress i’ve ever worn, i felt so beautiful but i have big boobs which made the fabric between the buttons kinda stick out a little bit, (could’ve been fixed by a simple safety pin) but my mother didn’t let me wear it because of “a wardrobe malfunction” which as i said coulda been taken care of easily
but she insisted that i not wear it
i was upset as i’ve never seen myself in such a way before, a way i loved, and she kinda shot it down
i mostly wear those cheap kinda shift dresses because i’ve never been comfortable with my belly shape visible for all to see, and this dress made me look amazing like i’d never seen before
i do apologize for the kind of emotion dump here but i have to say this somewhere to get it out of my head and into words
One thing that isn’t mentioned. Is how they’ve used dogs in Dhar Man videos, like they better be taking good care of dogs!
Oh fuck you’re right
@@mlpdisneylover yeah
Oof this one got me. When my first family dog passed we waited almost an entire year to get a new one, (ended up getting two from the litter). 8 years later my boy passed from a brain aneurysm, no warning at all. Besides being a companion he was my ESA and I was obviously devastated after losing him. Getting another dog wasn’t discussed until weeks later. And it was a few months until I got a puppy and even then I still feel bad because I was emotionally despondent with her for the first few months of having her. She is my service animal now and I’m very blessed to have her but if my family would have just brought me another dog and named it for me and everything I would have a breakdown right then and there lol. Please never surprise someone with an animal after they lost one. They MUST make that decision for themselves and be emotionally ready for it. Apologies for the rant I’m just appalled lol
I think Dhar Mann could learn from every point you made here. All really great points.
I feel this. My dog was 17 when he passed, and I still wasn’t completely ready when we got our puppy. I was the one who finalized the decision too… it’s tough. Feels like you’re trying to replace them. The guilt is real. I’m with you- one should never ever gift a pet without prior serious discussion.
As someone currently trying to get through father's day with an abusive dad, this video felt p cathartic and simultaneously incredibly frustrating. Love Dhar Mann bingo and laughing at how cliche and poorly everything's written, but it really is the fact that he just has no tact whatsoever handling these topics that makes laughing at the videos so satisfying
Hope Father’s Day ends quickly for you. Take care dude, abusive parents are the worst.
so sorry man. hope youre doing ok
I'm halfway through the VOD and coming from an overprotective family myself, this is straight up a little triggering, but Jarvis has such a comforting personality I'm still able to enjoy watching this
I was so scared when he said, “Well, we knew how much you loved Teddy, sooo…” I thought they got Teddy stuffed 🫣
I'm beyond happy that Jarvis stands for not getting pets as gifts. Pets aren't just a thing to be thrown around for surprises.. He's a great dog owner clearly and takes it seriously. Thanks for being a good pet influence Jarvis!
I’m the opposite with SO MANY forks and no spoons so I’m choosing to believe my spoons have magically been switching places with Jarvis’s forks
same here! so many forks, what am I supposed to eat my cereal with!
i think gifting a pet is fine if someone specifically asked for a dog and ask you to buy one for them. but don’t give a surprise pet without confirming that someone wants it
like i got my dog for Christmas but i didn’t lose a pet and i specifically asked for my dog
Exactly. Pets are not just gifts, they’re living things that should be prepped for before going to get one.
To just toss one in like it’s nothing with no warning just seems so wild to me. If a person has been wanting to get a pet forever, and clearly capable of taking care of one, I’d say then it’s okay to get a pet as a gift.
I don’t understand how some people can just get whatever animal, put it in a box, and go “Hey! This living organism is YOUR problem now, who cares if you’re not ready to take care of one?! It’s cute! You MUST be happy!” Like bro- wtf.
giving pets as gifts is fine imo as long as the person getting the pet already knows and is prepared. like my brothers cat (it was really the family cat, but he loved my brother so much we considered it his) died last year, and my mom asked him if he'd want another cat for his birthday. he said yes and we love our new cat so much
Yea, my dog was technically a birthday gift. I didn’t get him on my birthday but it was around the time of my birthday and he was like my big gift that my parents spent most of the birthday budget on. But I’ve wanted a dog for as long as I remember, I’ve been begging for a pet dog since I was like 3. And like I wasn’t just like surprise gifted him, my family visited the breeder and we met the dogs first and I picked out a dog that I got along well with. So I knew about the whole thing from the very beginning.
I think it’s kinda funny that the daughter successfully hid that she was dating another guy. Strict parents sure do raise sneaky kids
dhar mann couldn’t decide on a moral for this one so he just threw in like 5 of them and called it a day
"No dating until you're 18" is actually really dangerous because your child will have no experience with relationships until they are an adult when the rest of the dating pool has had past relationships. This could lead to your child not recognizing red flags or being easily taken advantage of. If your child does date behind your back and something happens to them they wont come to you for help and they'll dig themselves into a bigger hole trying to hide it from you.
I mean, I don’t think it’s strictly dangerous to not date until you’re after 18. It’s p common for that to happen even without any dating restrictions. Though I do definitely agree with you that it’s dangerous to make it so that your child, at an age where dating is still quite common, feels the need to hide who they’re dating from you, and wouldn’t feel comfortable going to you if they needed help.
This is a really weird and bad take. Not because I support the idea of forbidding your kids from dating but your rationale is bizarre. For starters its honestly kind of victim blamey to imply that toxic/abusive relationships happen cause the other person didnt have enough past relationship experience to see "red flags" or whatever. People have bad relationships regardless of there level of past experience. Also lots and lots of people whos parents didnt restrict them still dont date until 18 or even much later, its really rude to talk about that whole group as if they are too dumb and naive to date "safely."
This is stupid you don't need to date as a teenager to know what a healthy relationship looks like and it's not dangerous at all to not date, dating is overrated and spending your teenage years worrying about relationships isn't good
Not it's not it's better not to have a bforgf before their 20
Stop making excuses it's not good if teenagers have boyfriends or girlfriends they should have boyfriends or girlfriends when they're 21 because if they have it during middle or high school it's hard because you have to go to college and you have study's and waste your time with someone you probably break up with
Can we absolutely backhand the entire family except the teenage girl cause damn she deserves so much better, I won't be surprised if she winds up going NC when she moves out
I love that Jarvis and twitch chat watch Dhar mann enough to genuinely say “something feels weird” and be right about it 😂
The daughter is so calm, I would’ve flipped if my parents were following me as a teenager
Dad reading goosebumps took me completely out of guard
The way you can tell that he doesn’t fake his personality and you can actually see his personality is so great, this is why I love him
SAME
Yeah Dhar Mann is pretty great.
this level of analysis is exactly what i need for all media. as a media student, thank you jarvis
I got a rabbit as a Christmas gift when I was a teenager and that poor thing had an awful life. I had no idea how to take care of it and didn't do my research because I was a stupid teenager. Plus you shouldn't get a new dog while you're still mourning your recent loss.
The sister shouldn’t need to have permission from the brother to date? Like, yeah the mom obviously has control even if she should be so over protective, but the brother is just flat out stalking her. The lesson should be the sister cuts that guy out of her life.
why did they go on a stakeout to tell the daughter she can’t date instead of just waiting? it’s like she has a fantasy she’s trying to live out of being a super badass
Previous vet tech here. It’s pretty common to get another dog after losing one (or even before the elder/sick one passes) because the emptiness of the house really hurts. If she missed caring for a dog and having that love, I get the “surprise” because it’s not too “surprising” if she told them that she would want another dog. Granted, in my personal opinion, a week is pretty soon. However it’s similar to people getting a dog before losing the other one, so I get it.
However this mom is abusive af so like… minus understanding points.
I remember learning in 5th grade from my friends that they were not allowed to date until they were 18 years old. I came home one day and asked my mom when I was allowed to date. My mother just said what ever age you want to date sweety. Then I said. "Well then I choose to date at 13!" My mother just shrugged. "13 it is then". I was a little surprised at the time since all my friends where not allowed to date. I didn't realize until after high school how nice of parents I had with how easy going they were. Sure they didn't want me or my brother becoming teen parents like they were but would help us out if we did (we never did. Never thought I would ever see my mother be relieved to hear I was asexual. Was a little weird).
Yeah I kinda feel like the mom got no repercussions for being psychotic, and honestly, as a child of a helicopter mom, I am triggered.
Also, hey. Getting a new pet doesn't fix that you lost your old pet. Get rid of this archaic and heartless crap.
💯 absolutely
Why did you feel the need to say psychotic...? I mean, she was a bitch, you don't gotta bring mentally ill people into it.
after ONE WEEK
Psychotic =/= crazy. Psychosis is an ilness, not a character flaw.
If the guy is allowed to date at 15 but girls aren’t, that leaves us with one of two options: 1. The guy is dating someone wayyyy older than him, or 2. He is dating a dude O.o
Idk... At 13:39 the mom says he's 18...?
@@kovudiangelo7734 Around 14:40 the daughter says he's been dating since he was 15.
So for the mother’s birthday the son stole $20 from his mom? Sweet ending
That mom's "crossing the line" is, like, so mild compared to what my mom did to me well into my 30's, even after I was married and had kids. She would drive by my house to see whose cars were in the driveway several times a day.
jesus fucking christ i hope she’s either stopped or is no longer in your life, i’m sorry
Wait ur mom actually does that? That's scary...
@@0_kurdingiii used to. I cut contact and she moved back to the town where my brother lives so she could stalk him instead.
I live in a parallel universe where every time I’m tryna get a spoon to have some ice cream I can’t find one and yet I have tens of forks just sitting there. Mocking me.
Wow, another dhar mann bingo? I love these streams
We love you
This was such a cute comment
this reply section passed the wholesome check
Jarvis: "How do I have so many spoons? Where did all of these spoons come from?"
Me, being a spoonie: I DON'T KNOW GIVE ME SOME
felt 😂😭
What does chronic illness have to do with anything?
@@joearnold6881 It's just a joke about the "spoons" metaphor for functioning with chronic illness. Not the literal context of what he's saying (though funnily enough, I do have the exact opposite problem right now), just one of the places my mind went when he said "how do I have so many spoons?"
@@DisabledDragon yeah Jarvis is crazy.
It’s clearly the spoons that vanish from the silverware drawer.
What if girls just like getting cozy with their male friends without any romantic feelings?
Yes!! I needed something to watch!
Woahhhhh- I wasn’t expecting topic like a recently deceased dog…
Many years ago, after my parents' dog had passed, my partner and I presented a promise to pay for a new pup when they were ready. Ultimately they decided they were cool without pets for the first time in decades and opted instead for a fancy, expensive plant they'd been eyeing.
In honour of our original offer, they named her 'Fifi' and she has flourished ever since. 🌿🍍
23:28 This! I remember the family dog we’d owned since I was a baby had to be put down at 15 years old, and then a few months later my mom and little sister picked me up on my first day of sophomore year with a new dog I had no idea about. Nine years later, even though I love them all I haven’t had a say in getting any of the family pets that we’ve had since. The cycle goes “family pet dies, everyone else in the family agrees on getting a new pet and doesn’t even talk to me about it, gets a new pet without considering if I was emotionally ready to have another pet that soon after one died, hopes I won’t be mad at them, another pet dies” and then the cycle starts all over again.
TL,DR; DO NOT surprise people with animals as gifts no matter how long you’ve known and/or loved them
Wow, I'm so sorry that's been your experience. Like at least give you a heads up if they know you're likely to get upset... that way you have a little bit of time to prepare, instead of getting blindsided every time. Yikes...
Oh Jarvis, so sweet, young and innocent. "Cornhole" is an old euphemism for the butt hole. "To cornhole" is to, you know, use the butt.
"Why do I have like two forks!" I don't know why this is SO TRUE!
19:40
Look at the chat.
"I know you miss grandma, we just pulled her plug last week."
jarvis thank you for recognizing misophonia it’s a big deal in my whole family since my mom has it really bad and i appreciate you understanding it and trying to help with it
The dog: "Why am I here?"
stop that’s the first time I’ve ever seen someone be considerate of people with misophonia, I swear it made me emotional because it’s something small but it matters and it shows care, thank you Jarvis 😭
When you're able to use your mom's stalker-ish, sexist behavior to help surprise her for her birthday 🥰
An additional bad thing about the whole surprising someone with a dog is that there is no way he was adopted, either. No responsible dog rescue is going to hand over a dog to someone getting the dog for their mom...
my family’s rule for pets as “gifts” is giving the person a hand-drawn “voucher” for a new pup, if they decide they want one. it’s basically the rest of the family saying “we’re down, now we wanted to surprise you without making your decisions for you”
It feels off cause it seems like they're actually being portrayed as normal people and not sitcom characters like in every video 💀
Jarvis busting out the Alanis Morissette 10,000 spoons when all you need is a ... fork 🤣
jarvis i don’t know if you’ll see this but i just want you to know that your channel is my favorite place to come when i need to decompress. i just processed some heavy shit on an emergency therapy phone call and now i’m just watching your videos to put my brain on autopilot for a bit and laugh and play some damn dhar mann bingo. thank you for being you dude.
bro we lost our family dog recently and if someone tried to surprise us with another one id be pissed. u cant just replace a dog
I feel like a lot of people who thinks pets can be replaced are people without pets.
Personnaly I got new cats when our fmaily cat passed away but not because I was trying to replace her. It's because I loved her so much, I couldn't imagine my life without a cat. I need pets in my life because home doesn't feel like home without one. But I was ready to have another pet. The cats I have rn are NOT replacement, they are different little beings and I need to take care of them accordingly.
The difference between you and me ? I wanted to. I got new cats because I wanted to. If someone had gotten me cats without my permission I would've flipped out. Everyone grieves differently and that needs to be respected.
im so glad Jarvis acknowledged misophonia, although i dont watch these live and could just skip ahead, I'm happy he's being considerate of everybody there.
the only good thing about this video is that the dad is reading goosebumps
dad is a badass for reading goosebumps
Talking of the bystander effect - one time I was at a busy bus stop and a woman was very clearly being assaulted (not hit, but being grabbed/struggling whilst trying to get away from a man and shouting at him) across the street. People watched for MINUTES doing nothing until I was like fuck it - I'm a 4' 11" teenager (at the time) but this is horrifying and I can't watch anymore, so just got the emergency number dialed up in case and started walking towards them. Only then did several grown ass men follow me to actually help. I think that was the day I stopped believing in empathy 🙃 It still fills me with rage. There were like 20 people awkwardly watching this poor lady in danger.
i just wanna beg mr. mann to have _some_ nuance to his videos 😭 honestly idk his role in these vids tho, does he write, script, direct and cast? like how involved is he?
either way would just like to have some nuance and maybe possibly just a bit of emotional realism 😭
This literally happened to me when I started dating my boyfriend. We were at a friends birthday party and my dad and his girlfriend made my friends mom take photos of me and my boyfriend to make sure we weren't getting up to no good or something. Creepy as hell.
(This is my story, just saying it cause it’s similar to yours, not trying to take anything away from your story. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Sending love🫶)
Anytime my partner is over my mom has to send someone to “watch us to make sure we aren’t doing anything” it’s so creepy because we are CHILDREN not even 13 yet. So fucking creepy… and I’m pretty sure I’m asexual too so I get defensive about it and it makes her MORE suspicious. She asked me once “are you and __ having sex?” Like what. I was like “WERE CHILDREN.” She still was like “kids do it too” it’s just gross to me.
I don’t think surprise pets are a good thing. Pets are a lot of responsibility, and people shouldn’t give them as gifts, without the other person being ok with it. I currently have a disabled, elderly cat who has nasal carcinoma. I have invested so much love, time, and money into him. I’ve spent money that I don’t have for operations and to be seen by specialists. Granted, he’s a special case, but pets can have issues, sometimes that develop later, and need to be given a lot of care and time. Only the person getting the pet knows if they can take on that responsibility. I know that after my cat passes it’s going to take me a while before I can even think about getting another pet. Not only because it will be so painful, but I’ll need time to recover financially. Also, certain animals don’t work in certain households. Some animals are good around other animals and some prefer to be the only other pet in the household. Some pets in shelters may have underlying issues, especially if they came from bad situations, and they may need extra care. I think it’s important for the person getting the pet to choose the pet when and if they want one.
"You- You're...blond"😭
If done in a healthy way with communication and clarification a dating rule can work (simply saying "no" and "you're just too young" isn't enough). Letting the son date way younger than the daughter and spying on her when she spends time with anyone is definitely not the healthy way. Imagine being so controlling your kids rely on it to plan a surprise.
Also I have a HUGE problem with the whole "wearing something revealing" when she literally allowed her to have the dress. It's fine to have rules about modesty but you can't buy her clothes and then tell her she can only wear them in specific events. Dhar Mann didn't have to make it so problematic, they literally could have had her be super dressed up and have them comment that she's put in way more effort than she usually does so is she trying to impress someone.
Also everyone has said this already but man please do not get someone a surprise pet under any circumstances, especially if it's to replace a deceased pet. Maybe just...make a scrapbook of the dog and take her to a movie lol
Lol this video...my dad used to have the boys he coached keep an eye on me in middle school to make sure I was "in line" smh
No because a death of an animal hurts more than a death of a person in these dhar Mann videos
It can be like that in real life
I think a real great idea would be to do a Dhar Mann marathon with a black out round. Watch as many Dhar Mann videos until someone gets blackout! Think that would be a really fun idea!
I grew up watching my dad participating in corn hole tournaments- landing on the board gives you points - how can she be bad..
the dad reading a goosebumps book is the funniest detail lmaoo
I hate that they gave the mom another puppy/dog but damn is it cute
This video is really bad, but I from what I saw the Brent Rivera one looked WAAAY worse because the people in that video were actually adults (he said the sister was 20). I have no clue why Brent would agree to film that lol
My emotionally inept (+ a lot of other bad descriptors) stepfather decided we should get a new dog a day after putting our previous dog, Bear, down. He also insisted on naming the new one Bear Jr 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀 My mom and I were against it but he was one of those "What I say goes" men 🙃
i was like “what’s so wrong with having a crush??” and then proceeded to thing that mac and the girl were siblings and the mom was really reading into things
the dog behind inside the box was somehow the most disturbing part to me
Wait so how much younger is the sister and are the brothers friends his age making them also 18? Cause that's something worth discussing
I’m assuming she’s supposed to be like 16 so it’s only a 2 year difference. That’s like a normal age difference at that age.
Something that changed my life: walmart and the dollar tree sells two packs of forks for like a buck each.
I used to get so mad at myself for never having clean forks but always having plenty of spoons and butter knives, but now I just have a million forks.
I'm a dog trainer and omg that poor dog was so stressed! And I agree with lets not give dogs (or any pet for that manner) as gifts. In 99% of gift pefs the person getting them did zero research, leading to a pet that's fun for a few days, and then gets dumped in a shelter. Who gave Dhar Mann a dog??
i love dhar mann bingo so much
this dhar man video was genuinely the most fever dream-like one in this entire series. i still have so many questions literally what was happening here
Can I just say thank you for having that noise cancelling stuff with the food? I've had to dip out of so many streams and VODs specifically because streamers have decided to pull out some food and turn the stream into food ASMR
They lost their dog LAST WEEK! It took me like a year to "move on" and even think about other pets. My dad is still not over it and it's been a year. Also, his name was Teddy Bear, so this hit extra close to home
Thank you Jarvis! I always miss the streams so I am grateful for these videos. 😢 ❤
"It's like 10,000 spoons, when all you need is a knife"
My mom would not have let me walk out from that convo about going out lol
Would she of physically restrained you to stop you?
@@rachelcookie321 I don't know, probably not. She would have def followed after me and kept talking and not just let the convo end
I could cry at the fact that you even acknowledged misophonia.
you dont know that already about jarvy boy?
Getting someone an animal as a suprise gift is one of the worst things you can do. Especially if it's to "replace" a dead animal. That's so fucked up.
Dad is absolutely invested in that goosebumps book
she's doing a lot of not instantly regretting it