My battle with depression-Michael Oyier
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- Опубликовано: 16 дек 2017
- As a newscaster, Michael Oyier had a very visible public life. He was at the helm of his career as a newscaster and he was really good at it. In private however, there were things going on that led him to a question who he had become, and the private struggles that he was dealing with. The struggle of who he had planned to be as a father and what the reality was, unresolved grief......
This saw him get into a downward spiral that depression is. Darkness and despair gnawed at him.
Thank God for the people who refused to give up him. Friends and family who held onto him and prayed with and for him. People who love him and encouraged him to recovery. It is possible to rise again from depression. Yes we can.
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If you are here watching this after the sad demise news, lets condole together. Life is really short. Live dont exist
Yes for me am listening this for very 1st time.Got news of his demise today,I never knew Michael Oyier was going depression before.
Rest in peace hero.
Am here to hear that voice once more ...shine on Mike❤
Had watched this some years ago but came back after news of Michael's demise. May he Rest in Peace
@@joannemaureen4175Me too!
Your wife eulogized you in a very beautiful way she really loved you. Rest in peace.
Yeah true, she did indeed.
Yes she did
Indeed she did.
True just watched her. Rest in peace
Rip 😢
This has left me in tears because I identify with Michael's pains (RIP my favorite news anchor - sorry we did not celebrate you enough when you were alive. For seven years I wondered in the wilderness with no place to call home. I struggle to make peace with realities that I never new would ever befall me. A graduate with no job and could not land any, let alone an interview, a single mum hitting pillars to posts (note the plural). Time passed and the situation got worse and I ended back in the village in my late mother's house (stayed there for close to two years - locked up in that house crying and helping in village chores like threshing maize during harvest etc) - little did I know that I dipped into depression.
The pain was worsened by endless abuses from the father of my two daughters - unfortunately I took them all in and this sunk me further into a state of hopelessness as he endlessly penned humiliating texts - going to an extent of saying I did a cheap course (Sociology and Philosophy) at the university and will only end up as a third or fourth wife to an old mzee in the village. The most painful was him telling me I'm filthy like abortion clots - this crushed me into powder, not pieces.
To cut the very very very long painful story short - God changed my life and today I'm an inspiration to many.
I'm penning and leaving this here to encourage the world because it's extremely sad that we lost Michael a few years late. Please do not lose hope, God is with us always even in the darkest places.
1. Today I single handedly take care of my two daughters and I've made them very comfortable within my own capacity. (do not let any circumstance define you)
2. With my Sociology that was undermined I have since attained a master's degree and I travel the world an ESG/Sustainability Consultant not only changing institutions but touching the lives of many (do not let how anybody treats or what they say about you affect you - it's simply a reflection of their character)
3. I have supported building churches for different ministries to thank God for having saved me from total destruction since even if I sort therapy there'd be no money to pay the huge bills, I've written more than 20 prayer books based on different challenges I faced in different stages of this painful journey, and I know soon they will be a blessing to many across the nations - (don't let any circumstance or anybody put a limitation to how far you can go in life)
4. Life is short - make the most of every second, today all that counts to me is making each day count for the sake of giving my children the best, serving humanity and living a last legacy for generations to come - get the courage to forget the past no matter how good or how painful - it is gone and will never return - enjoy every second and choose you and your happiness at all times. -
Philippians 3: 13 Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead,
Be strong and courageous to give yourself a new beginning in life - remember you have no power to change the past but you have the power to change how you act today to create a beautiful ending of your life story. Focus on doing good, using your words impeccably, not talking things personal, not making assumptions and always doing your best because that way you will maintain and attract positive energy. an
Finally remember to guard your heart, mental health issues are real - avoid stress, spread love and love will spread to you. Love you all😘😘🤭
This was so encouraging. Thank you Mercy
Thank you for taking the time to share your story, Mercy. It will encourage and inspire many.
Thank you very encouraging
Very inspiring and uplifting
@@EngageTalk thank you very much - together we make the world a beautiful place by lifting each other when we fall.
The Mzungu guy with tears in his eyes when Michael was narrating, how his vision of a father versus the reality of parenting took a toll on him is very deep. Feels like a part of life that so many individuals would actually resonate with.
Am here after listening to His Wifes tribute...May you rest in peace Michael
Same
Me too. Her tribute and this video just popped up.
Same
Same to me here
That woman has invested herself she's ooozzing wisdom.......if i was a man i would marry her ASAp
I met Michael when I was in 4th year of high school. He influenced my decision to choose psychology as a subject. I later met him this December 2023 and told him about it. He was happy. Thank you for your contribution to my life ❤❤ God bless you
Hamko serious
This guy was a deep thinker. You can feel it in his speech. Rest well with the angels bro.
I didn't mourn my mother the way I should, I fell into depression and my children were the reason I had to pull out from, and once I joined BSF that spirit fell off of me I'm thankful to God for pursuing me to acknowledge that He is the only one who could give me life, now I thrive Amen
Depression is a sickness nothing to do with a spirit .
Cynthia don't mind those who do not understand how God works. Jesus is able to make every yoke light for us. And He puts away every burden and baggage that tries to put us down.
I knew Michael from Mamlaka Hill Chapel, albeit not that close at the initial time. I later got to know him closely when I paid a visit to his brother Paul and his wife Lucy at their home. Both of them were our tutors for the Pre-marital counselling classes at our church. The reason why I went to their home was to break news of a broken relationship that had led us to the premarital counselling classes. At that time, depression had creeped in on me after that breakup. I felt lost and hopeless, and I had shut the world, and everything and everyone. On the day I was at Paul's home, Michael had paid a visit to Paul that day. Sheer coincidence. I had finished catching up with Paul. Paul allowed Michael to speak to me. I told me about my depression. He told me that he went through the same. He took me how he managed to get over it. Later that day, I felt relieved. I felt that Michael breathed in me hope when I got to learn of his journey with depression.
I saw a second world being renewed in me. After battling it for almost a year, I overcame it around late 2018. His death shook me to the core. Thank you for breathing hope in me, Michael. May you rest in Eternal Peace.
Rest in Power Michael. You inspired me to watch the news bulletin.
it's Soo sad
Wow. May he rest in peace.
I hope you're in a better place now, and may Michael's soul rest in peace.
I hope you thanked him when he was alive....
Am here watching this enjoying the voice after listening to his wives Dinah tribute 😢Rest in peace Oyier...
Wife
Same here
Me too
Some of the most brilliant minds in the world battle depression on a daily basis. RIP Oyier🎉❤
Oh no!
This TV ANCHOR passed on??
True that
Yes@@pstdorcasndambukiofficial8956
Indeed it's true. I was amazed at how gentle he was. Rest in eternal peace Mike!
Yup, the mind is a two edged sword, self awareness is key
It was Carl Rodgers who said that we are all in the process of "becoming" and it was Martin luther King who said " Only when it is dark enough, can you see the stars". May the lord shine is face upon you michael.
Well said...RIP Michael
Rest in Peace
Depression sinks you in when you least expect; it's a deep, dark pit of hopelessness. I'm glad we made it, let's help others.
I so feel you Michael. Every word. Thank you very much for sharing
The pain and endless tears began with my mum's cancer diagnosis in 2006
In 2009 mum rested, the tears dried up completely and the numbness set in
The downward spiral continued - jobless, failed businesses, directionless, hopelessness, despair
Completely broke and broken I had no strength left to engage with life or with people
Only the bare minimum or absolutely inevitable got attended to by "my ghost"
I shut myself in and shut the world out
In hindsight I now realize that even when I left, God in His eternal love chased after me
Unconditional love from my spouse, children, dad, siblings and a few friends
A wifi connection, the internet and hundreds of online sermons later
The center that was threatening to fall apart did not
Towards the end of last year I sensed the season shifting
This year I cannot believe how alive and full of life I feel
I am so thankful to God for hope revived
For second chances
For new beginnings
GLORY BE TO HIS NAME FOREVER
I share the same frustrations in life. My mum passed 3 months ago and I have been going through hell. It is only that I'm a christian, nothing would have been too difficult to contemplate.
@@stanleynyoro3181 so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. I lost my grandma 3 years ago and have not been able to move forward leave alone accepting it;but nothing compared to the loss of a mother. Sending you hugs and prayers.
Wise and so true! I could feel the beat in that tone of truth. Thanks for sharing.
@@stanleynyoro3181 ...loosing a parent is the worst thing can happen. ..I lost my lovely mother over a year ago and since then ma life has never been the same again. ..my world torn a part, she was a great friend and the only genuine love I knew, my confidante and the closest friend I've ever have .Bur I thank God he has been there for me despite all the challenges and my young family . .so when you talk of the loss Stanley I understand it so well. ..it's only God abd counselling will help you but u will still have those moments.. .may the good Lord help us.
Wow. To God be all the glory
It's hard to believe that someone could be struggling & still manage to look all so together. From now on; I will take time to check on my loved ones & to listen or just be there & available. REST well MICHAEL....
Please do....depression can present in many forms.Some people will mask it while in public but when alone the world crumbles.
What sad news is this. Michael is a real journalist, an icon who made me glued. Rest peacefully
Pool miss
Michael, your eloquence is exemplary and your testimony is compelling. I pray that you continue to strengthen us as we journey through life.
His wife gave a wonderful tribute. what a great man?may he rest in eternal peace
He was a great man. We once worshipped with him at lavington united church. May God bless you in heavenly glory
Mr. Oyier you made me realize that sometimes friends are better than relatives and also you cant tell what the donkey feels while puling a cat unless you take the turn...Kudos!!!!
vincent rajema I have seen this first hand. Friends can be better than relatives
bro, a cat is so light,,,I'm pretty sure the donkey would feel nothing,,, haha
Relatives claim you or seek you out when there's something for them to gain. Always be there for someone, you never know when it will be you.
@@jessiemangala6019 meant CART
All the time
Thank you for sharing. Thank you! You have no idea how this has given me hope.
Sending you hugs!
One of my favorite presenters... I always wondered where he went...
The wounded helpers make the most effective counselors...
Keep going 🏃♂️
All the best Michael🙏where did he go?
All the best en be strong
Thanks Michael for sharing your story. Life is not always fair and is not always a straight line. It is often messy and many of us are a work in progress. It takes great courage to openly admit that you have struggles and that you are working through them. God has an amazing purpose for all our lives, our challenges notwithstanding. It is interesting in the Book of Revelations when Jesus is addressing the seven churches, he keeps reiterating...."to those who overcome" because we will have trials, tribulations, struggles BUT through the power of the Holy Spirit we will Overcome. God provides for us "Beauty for Ashes" despite what we have gone through. Wishing you God's blessings and strength as you continue this journey of life, Michael.
You inspired me to stick to a path i didn't know would be my security. I looked foward to meeting you at every students event just for a photo. Those career fairs kept me from tarmacking and opened my eyes to the endless job opportunities for campus students. Thanks
I'm here crying, the silent battles are the hardest 😭 Love and light. ❤
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Hugs🫂 and much ❤️ ...indeed they are the most painful 💔 😭
Sad, he's no more. My deepest condolences to the family & friends.
Chronic stress / depression is real, I went through it for 10 months before I was hit by a hamorrhagic stroke that nearly took my life in 2021. Am glad & grateful to God that am alive by His Grace, having been in ICU & bed ridden for months.
Pole sana
God of another chance is always n will be with you, trust Him
Great testimony! Thank you for sharing.
Had to come back here. I remember that year 2006 fondly, when Michael was a force on TV. We have lost a legend.
Oh la laaa!! I am seeing this 1 year later. Thank you for sharing. I once sat next to you and one of your daughters in the Mamlaka Hill Chapel crèche and as we introduced ourselves you mentioned you had two daughters from different mums. I didn’t put much thought into it and didn’t even suspect you were going through so much. I celebrate your testimony Michael. Thank you for choosing to open up.
Michael all is well with God.. Soft spoken gentleman I used to watch 📺 when your reading the news.. God bless you mike.
It's sad that I'm watching this after hearing of your death...rest in peace❤❤❤
You're a great inspiration Michael. It is men who rise, fall and rise again. That is life. You're up and ready to face it head on, that's so courageous of you. You have no idea how many souls you've touched just by these ten minutes you've spared. May God strengthen you for you you to know that you sure will and can overcome this and even more.
It is not everyday that people (especially men) come out and talk about their sadness and hopelessness; about depression. Thank you for sharing your story and above all for making that decision to get up because of your girls, sometimes that is all the hope someone needs to come out of the darkness
Been there. Done that. Bought the tshirt. Lived to tell.
Still there...
Still telling...
God bless & keep yu Michael. Yu are only human. Love thine self. Be true to yu.
Depression is nothing to be ashamed about. And it's alot more prevalent than we know. Thankyou for sharing
I met you in person last year but one when you directed our Shofar concert. I obviously didn't know about the struggle for which i can totally relate. Thank God for His goodness and that He is there even when nobaddy else is. Keep your head up.
I have watched Michael Oyier for the first time. I worked with him and trust me, Oyier was a humble guy. He said hey to everyone with a big smile on his face. I did not know he was going through depression. I know the path he has taken will take him further. All the best
Just seen this. Thank you Michael for sharing. This is amazing. This is healing
Thank you for sharing. Looking forward to our next picture, this time with a much deeper understanding than a simple click.
This story just gave me hope.. "I have to get up." there's always a reason to continue
there is...always..
Michael "Oh Yeah", the good old days of good reporting. Thank you for the talk.
So many people are in depression, I wish they would listen to this.
Michael Oyier...Your story hit me straight at the centre. Thanks man.
I can relate to this.
Thanks for coming out and sharing your battles and struggles in depression life ❤
This is an amazing talk by Mr. Oyier! Thank you for sharing this.
Depression is the malaria of today..most people are sick. Especially because of relationships. May God help us. Thanks for sharing . it gives me hope
Why are we so ignorant of what other people go through? Why do we walk away from what they go through instead of walking with them?
Thank you Michael for sharing this. You have given hope to someone out there.
It's nature unfortunately.
You can not blame people for walking away, even they too might be going through things and need people to be there for them too
Thank you for sharing. Never easy to vulnerable and open. God bless you
I had the opportunity to spend time with Michael Oyier during what was, from this Engage Talk, the period of his depression. One senses the heavy responsibility placed upon public figures to project the expected image regardless of how they may be. I pray that we will be more sensitive and lenient to famous people...
People of God,
Mental Health issues are real. Let us reach out to others and give them a hug, smile, kind word etc because we dont know what they are going through. Your hug, smile and kind word may be the last ray of hope that pulled that person out of a deep pit.
May this exceptional gentleman rest in eternal peace and may God continue to keep his family safe and sound, Amen.
Sorry for what you went through. I always wondered where you disappeared to. I loooooved your TV reporting. Glad you came out of the dark hole and now helping others too.
Thank you for sharing this Michael.
Thanks for coming out, more people than you will ever know relate to this deeply, and get so much hope.
Thanks for sharing Michael. Glory to God for seeing you through He is our great physician.
Just learned today he passed on. Don't watch news nowerdays. May the Holy Spirit continue to strengthen, comfort and grant peace to the entire family in Jesus name Amen.
Oh no!!! I have just watched this. I do remember that strong confident voice that kept me glued to the screen May God hold your hand Michael. You have spoken to me for sure..
wow so powerful you can not imagine how you have helped people with your beautiful story of hope
Thanks Michael, am inspired.
Life indeed is unpredictable. I watched this last year when I was going through depression. It was an encouragement.
I had to come back and listen again. Rest well my brother.
I can relate to every word you said. Thanks for sharing
Thank you for sharing your story Michael.
Thank you very much indeed for sharing. Through it, we've seen reflections of the people we periodically become and now have the resolve and determination to at all costs, keep afloat and know life can be enjoyable. All the best.
I met mike and the sister Olger Oyier many years ago in south C. Their background is so humbling. May his soul rest in eternity 🙏.
This is amazing Michael. Sorry, i only listened to this today when you had passed away last month. I'm undergoing the same. I used to work at insurance company 8 months ago. I was fired from work due to an agent malicious intent. I've lost income 1.2M for that period only interms of salary. My friends ran away when wells ran dry. All of them. Tried reaching out to them but they keep telling me how busy they're with their families yet when i had, the used to knock on my door. Party in my house till late night. I also lost a my last hope; my girlfriend. I was left with God with whom i have made several prayers unanswered. I cry a lot. Sometimes suicide thoughts come in but everytime i think of it, i remember my elderly mom at home and keep on rising up looking for job. Its life. Its life. Rest in peace legend.
You will overcome
It's going to be okay. Keep your head high and your prayers on❤
Find peace within....focus on doing something to change the situation and not the past or the people. This experience is for your good, your growth and your turn around. You're going to come out a far much better person. Fortune is in your future not your past. Don't give up.
You will overcome. Workplace friendships are not friendships properly called. Forget about them and trudge on...
You will heal in Jesus name.kindly visit less privileged families, orphanage and hospitals and you will realise how God has answered some of your questions without you knowing.God loves you for sure and He does and still will do more for you...keep trusting in Him alone
Was going through the same until recently. Amazing presentation.
God Bless You Mr Michael Oyier
You are an inspiration
Inspirational. Thanks Michael for sharing.
Biggest lesson here is that everyone MUST have a support system. Even the people we think are the strongest and always put together have their breaking point. Have a strong support system.
Your confusing..
For me I can't trust anyone with my issues, I'll keep them with myself and my mind and body will find a way of adjusting
Truth be told I have learnt that its okay not to be ok.
Thank you Mike. Thank God for your life.
thanks so much for the share. well relates with my case. thank God he has given me a smile again.
Thank you for sharing your story Micheal.God bless your journey
Thank you for sharing :-) You have no idea how this has spoken to me...Baraka
Thank you for the courage to share this, may God help us all
Your Eloquence, speaking your truth man Michael I will definitely miss you. Rest in the eternal arms of GOD
This is so inspiring.am so happy to see you up and alive micheal.God bless you
Been wondering what happened to this great newscaster.I watched you on KTN back in the day when TV was TV. Rest in Peace Michael.
Thnx for sharing Michael u are an overcomer keep soaring high n never look back .
"The picture i had given myself about being a father and what i will do with my kids was key and it was very important.yet the circumstances of my childrens birth did not allow for the picture that i had.so with that i found myself sinking because i couldn't fix it i could not even hide it"i was very deepressed you always feel alone in a deep dark lonely pit
as a man, realizing that you're helpless despite your honest attempts can sink you deeply. Because, quite often, the situation tends to tell us we've failed and failure, especially in some aspects of our lives e.g providing for our families, can be fatal. Sometimes, it can be final.
We need closure and moreso close friends to hold us through ...acceptance in different phases brings healing
Stop saying ACCEPTANCE you do not know it. Pls
Thanks for sharing this Michael.
Thanks Michael for Sharing your story, it takes a strong man to deal with private struggles and use your experience to encourage others, depression is a silent killer of many men, God bless you
Powerful message! The eloquence and oratory skills were inborn. Outstanding sharing!! Rest well Michael, you left, but your oozed wisdom stays with us.
Thanks for Sharing michael, I know you from Lavington United church where you inspired all,from the main church to the youth and its i believe God is still using you to reach his people. Be blessed and God speed.
Very very nyc voice Micheal, eloquent and inspiring. Dance with the angels. Your work on earth is done, and have fought a good fight. Your story of hope will assist many during their dark moments
RIEP😢
😭😭😭😭😭 Rest in peace the most Articulate person i have ever seen. Thankyou for your presence shine on your way. Very sad. Lala salama
Thank you! !!! Very honest
At some point in life we will go through depression. Through your pain you get your purpose. Michael turned his pain into his passion. He became a Psychologist. Personal experience and educational background set him apart. Even pursuing a PHD. We met a few times after Ngumbaru classes. We were to exchange notes on how we can partner on undertake a few initiatives on Men and Mental health. It will not materialize. Gone too soon .Rest Easy my former Collegemate.
Depression is like a funeral I've been there and I'm still recovering from it... When people tell you to guard your heart and quote bible verses and their motivation or wise words last for a short time since they are like a corsage of roses on a casket they last for a short time because depression gets you numb and dead on the inside.
Thanks for this. Helps to know one isn't alone
What an inspiration, it takes unsurmountable courage and forsight to bring private struggles in a public domain. Michael Oyier legacy is etched in stone.
God bless you, Michael! ♥️🤗 That’s so empowering and powerful!
Thank you Mike for sharing, l used to see you in church so sad we didn't notice the state you were in. But you are a real HERO.
Mike thanks for sharing this I can identify with that. God bless you.
So inspiring,,God presence,a willing heart soul n mind...yes u can..thenx bro
God bless you I like you use to listen to preacher in radio
Asante for sharing this man.....means a lot.....God bless.
Thanks for sharing. Time and hope.
Very insightful.....
Rip Michael beautiful voice
Wow, so real. Thank God he saw you through and trusting he will keep you.
Rip my brother.a truly nice soul. Perfect imperfections😢
Hi Michael.
Thanks for sharing: it is a critical part of acceptance and new beginnings. Am glad our paths crossed in this life.
And yes, in your own words, you must rise again and go on. You see, you are a 'father, an elder brother' to many young girls and boys- because to them you are an inspiration.
I know one, who now is 19 yrs old. Still looks up to you. Get up, go on; for that single life you carry touches many.
He is speaking on behalf of many of us
Rest in eternal peace Michael
This is very encouraging. Personally I am a practising psychologists dealing with such issues. It's a bold step for him. Very encouraging
public figures also go through alot....Micheal you are a Hero
❤