The line "i cannot blame this on my father" always resonates with me as a recovering addict with an addict father, it wasnt his fault i used though it was mine and he did the best he could for me too. I love this song such a powerful song for recovering addicts.
It was the opposite with me. My dad became a Christian when I was around 13 and was preaching by the time I was 14. I just fell off of the deep end when a friend shot himself when we were 16 and in the navy I first tried shooting cocaine. I went progressively in a downward spiral until around 25 I overdosed on pure meth and barely survived. My dad had no way to relate to my struggle and no clue what to do. I just kept going further down until I ended up in prison for meth at 46. A prison rehab counselor took interest in me and my journey back began. I am a major alcoholic and drug addict. I am sober today. That is all that matters. ❤
@@DouglasSnodgrass kinda feel ya. Still young haha. but i've had a good life and a hard one. lucky no one wants to give up on me. Despite my willingness to give up on everything i hold dear the people i inspired keep me going. Still not completely sober because i still need to find why i want to live. But im moving in right direction scared when i have real responsibilities though.
It's been awhile since he wasn't a heroin addict..."cannot blame this on my father..." "I can still remember just the way you taste" "Since I could see myself straight" "All the shit seems to disappear when I'm with you" Heroin addicts are in misery until they get their dose. "Since I held my head up high"...heroin addicts NOD, they aren't holding their heads up much. And...nodding will also cause someone to unknowingly drop their lit cigarette and burn the place down, like at the end of the video! 7:30
Epiphany was like my childhood, for how messed up I was from everything I was going through as a child dealing with adhd at such a young age and poverty and with 1 parent basically. It was my favorite song as a kid at 12 or 13. I still get emotional from that song to this day. Amazing song!
My wife just passed away on the 10th. I found her on the floor, unresponsive. I tried mouth to mouth and cpr. She was fighting leukemia and a lung infection. If I had found her sooner I could have saved her. Our sons were in bed oblivious to what was happening in the living room. I feel like I didn't do enough. She had just turned 47.
From NMRK: @cullyd8721 It sounds like you did everything you could. She wouldn't want you to blame yourself. Allow yourself and your sons to grieve. look after yourself my friend
From NMRK: @cullyd8721 It sounds like you did everything you could. She wouldn't want you to blame yourself. Allow yourself and your sons to grieve. look after yourself my friend
From gravitykills24: @cullyd8721 Thank you for reaching out to HeartSupport - I am so sorry for this loss of your wife at such a young age, and the way that it happened is so sad to hear. I am positive you did all you could and I know there is guilt involved, but hopefully you can let that go as you grieve her loss - I know that is easier said than done. I know the challenge of being a single father is now a huge challenge as well - but you will do an amazing job and make your wife proud everyday. I firmly believe that she is in a better place and although her body failed her soul lives on. I hope you are surrounded with a good support network and potentially even a grief group or a widower group to talk through and process your feelings and emotions moving forward. I am 48 myself and cannot even imagine losing my wife, or raising our 3 kids by myself - so my heart breaks for you and I pray you find the strength and courage to keep showing up every day and doing the best you can. Be well, and reach out to us anytime.
From gravitykills24: @cullyd8721 Thank you for reaching out to HeartSupport - I am so sorry for this loss of your wife at such a young age, and the way that it happened is so sad to hear. I am positive you did all you could and I know there is guilt involved, but hopefully you can let that go as you grieve her loss - I know that is easier said than done. I know the challenge of being a single father is now a huge challenge as well - but you will do an amazing job and make your wife proud everyday. I firmly believe that she is in a better place and although her body failed her soul lives on. I hope you are surrounded with a good support network and potentially even a grief group or a widower group to talk through and process your feelings and emotions moving forward. I am 48 myself and cannot even imagine losing my wife, or raising our 3 kids by myself - so my heart breaks for you and I pray you find the strength and courage to keep showing up every day and doing the best you can. Be well, and reach out to us anytime.
My favorite song is his pretty recent live version of “Lost and Lonely” a song he wrote for his wife while in rehab for the last time. The ownership & realism , vulnerability he takes about is SO real & heart felt & the live version with just him, an acoustic guitar and a slide guitar is SO beautiful! If you haven’t seen it on RUclips it’s so worth a watch. 🙂
Early Staind was so good. Their first album is a banger and when they entered this ballad style, they put out PHENOMINAL music! Epiphany is one of my favorite songs from Staind and it deserves a listen. Kind of the same wheelhouse as this one, but so broken down and just awesome! Great reaction.
Aaron with this stripped down to him and an acoustic is incredible. You can FEEL it. He’s “that voice” for me when he’s in that place. “something to remind you” live at the Mohegan Sun is literally written into my will to play at my funeral. Him reflecting on life after being told about a fan committing suicide…..he FEELS it and he will make you feel it. ❤
I was a heroine addict for 17 yrs and I think he is talking more about the relationship with the drug than a relationship with a person. It's all in how u percieve it ig. Thru my addiction I messed up EVERY relationship n everything good I ever had. "I can remember just the way u taste" he is talking about using. "Its been awhile since I could look at myself straight" he got clean but he is remembering his relationship with the drug cuz as much as it destroyed me it was my best friend at the same time. I've been clean for 7 yrs now n this song still gives me chill bumps. Here it is 2024 n I can't listen to this song without it bringing tears to my eyes. I got shot in 2016 n was paralyzed n I relapsed n got myself together a year later but this song represents a time in my life that I learned so much about myself. Without my struggles I wouldn't have found my strengths
The way the candles light your face, the way you taste, as an ex heroin addict it's pretty obvious. Being able to put out art like this and have non drug users attribute it to love as well Is something special.
It’s always been my understanding that this is about the relationship with heroin and the destructive cycle of relief and subsequent shame that dominates it.
@@scottthompson4193 Regardless of the popularity they DID see, they were still underrated. They were popular but not nearly as popular as they should have been.
Her being a therapist doesn't make her qualified to have an educated opinion on these songs but dummies like you will come on here and feed her fragile ego and tell her how important her opinion is. Her opinion means about as much as mine or yours. Yall are annoying af
I'd add that the live version is what needs to be reacted to. There is a level of emotion that he connects to with the lyrics that doesn't exist in the studio version
@jmike8934 the live version is good and he does show emotion value perfectly and should be reacted to. That being said the studio version is a definite listen to request on your own time as it in my own opinion is the best version
Divorced three times, my depression issues, ptsd, and so on all basically drove everyone away. I’ve learned over the years that I need to work on things and therefore have sought help and tried. Still alone and go through a lot of days that I replay life and how I’ve dicked it all up. Still here though, still hopeful that I can find a way to get happiness and love back. Songs like this help
From djstarion: @Deadmaninc81 Hey friend! I totally get where you're coming from. I'm glad you've learned that you need to work on things and sought help! I do have a question, if that's okay. What kind of help have you reached out to? If you've reached out to a therapist or someone and it didn't work out, I'd highly suggest finding someone who specifically deals with PTSD. It's kinda like going to a doctor. There's general practice doctors and specialized ones. It's kinda the same way with mental health professionals. Finding the right one can be tricky, but when you do, it can be a huge help! Also, have you checked on any support groups in your area? They are an excellent option as well, because the best way to get your true feelings out and be supported and listened to is when you're talking to people who have gone through the same trials and situations you have. They've walked in your shoes, and fought your battles. It could definitely be worth looking into. Regardless, you've got this!
From toastaintbad: @Deadmaninc81 Hi @HeartSupport_Fans, It's awesome that you are trying to improve your mental health. I struggled with trauma once in awhile. Trauma is difficult to manage but I sometimes try to not get into my head. You can never changed in the past but all you can is reflect and fix those mistakes. Sometimes music helps me with mental health issues.
From lizuh: @Deadmaninc81 The most powerful thing to hold onto when struggling with anything like PTSD, depression etc is hope. Hope can push you into action and take your life back into your hands. You know that you want love and happiness, and you haven't given up on it. Regardless of your past choices, broken relationships etc, you are NEVER too far gone to turn around and walk in a direction towards healing.
From Shan: @Deadmaninc81 Hi friend, I'm sorry to hear about the ways your struggle with depression, ptsd, and mental health have impacted your life and your past relationships. However, I am so proud of you for taking steps to work on things and to seek help. That alone takes such strength and shows such growth. This is all a journey and a process. There will be good days and bad days where you think all about the past and that "only ifs" start to kick in. But I encourage you to stay strong. We can't change our past, only the present and our future. And you have already started the hard work towards that change. I'm glad to hear that you are still hopeful. I hope with you! And I believe in you, that you can and will find happiness and a healthy flourishing love. You deserve them both! :white_heart:
From Micro: @Deadmaninc81 Proud of you, friend. For seeking help and being open about what you've been struggling with. Depression, PTSD and the strain it can have on our relationships are huge burdens to carry. It's been strong of you to not let yourself carry those burdens alone anymore. I know there's a part of our mind when we're deep in the trenches that tries to convince us that nothing's worth it anymore. But through it all, through all days you've cried, felt numb or could only survive, *you* have always been worth it, my friend. There is a way through this, even if during some seasons time seems to be our only asset. I wholeheartedly believe in you. :heart:
Your analisis of this song was so spot on from the perspective of someone in pain, watching it I felt I was being treated by you in an that office, feels good to hear those words of acknoledgement, of recognizing that the pain inside is valid and it shouldn't stay there.
Staind sustained me in early recovery. Emotionally "gut shot" bleeding outta holes I didn't know I had when I got sober. So grateful to Aaron. Had a Catholic Priest tell me music can be Prayer. I belived him. He was sober in recovery 25 yrs at the time.
You are such an amazing woman. What a great perspective. Im so glad you share your light as you do in all your videos. I pray that you help many suffering people. Keep shining your light!
I've felt every bit of the pain of not only this song, but every song on the entire album this song is on. I was in a pretty deep pit for a long time in the early 2000s - this lingering depression. Yet I kept wandering, looking for something, even if there was nothing to find. In early 2006, interestingly enough in the context of this channel; ya know what song you recently reacted to that pulled me out of that pit? It was "Stinkfist" by Tool. THAT song, lit a FIRE inside of me. Tool has often lended me strength through music.
This man knows how to capture emotion in his music… Always hits hard. Tough childhood abandoned by mom … If you wanna explore his darker songs EXCESS BAGGAGE FOUR WALLS Are great songs to dive into
I’ve watched ten or twelve of your videos in the last couple days. I like your perspective and insights. And on a basic human level… your reactions, your mannerisms, and your smile… make me smile. Thank you for that. 😊
At 7:35: What you said hit me hard, like bringing light to the Challenger Deep. There is hope, there is light. Thanks to you, more than you’ll ever know.
Saturday will be 13 years since I kicked opioids. Unfortunately, my active addiction left a huge damage path, including my first significant relationship. And it's been a while since I could say I love myself...maybe I never had that ability. But this song has been making me cry since high school.
From Lisalovesfeathers: @meghanmonroe Firstly can I say how bloody amazing it is that you have managed to firstly kick opioids and remain off of them for 13 years!!! What an amazing feat but not one that is plain sailing I am sure. I can imagine it was incredibly difficult, sometimes seemed impossible and there were many occasions you wanted to throw in the towel? But it appears that strength, courage and determination won through, sadly any fight like that will leave scars and my first instinct is to tell you to wear them with pride however its bloody hard to say goodbye to your first love. That one always feels super special and sometimes they genuinely are and sometimes they really are not, you just haven’t known anyone better to weigh them up against. To find that person, that person who will be the one, you do indeed need to feel deserved of that. I already think you are but now you need to know it, What you have accomplished should make you the hero of your own story, love yourself for that, recognise that this amazing person who has fought this addiction, this wonderful beautiful soul who wants and deserves love, affection and joy is deserving of it. Start by looking in the mirror and just saying “I am a good person, I love, I am loved, I love myself” eventually you will begin to believe it and once you do you will see things begin to open up and get lighter for you. People will see the lightness in you and be drawn to that. Its true and quite fascinating. I would love to know if you try and how you get on. Best of luck. Lisa x
From Shan: @meghanmonroe Hi friend, Thank you for sharing. First, with it being Saturday, I'd like to wish you a happy 13 years!! Being clean and overcoming an opioid addiction for 13 years, and counting, is such an AMAZING accomplishment. I am so happy for you and proud of you - and I hope that you are too. I am sorry to hear about the things that you lost on your journey so far, and I imagine it can be hard to move on from when we think about the hurt or damage that have occurred. We can't change the past, we can only do things in the present, and already you have made decisions to better yourself and your future, and that is commendable. This is just an outsiders opinion, but I think, at the least, there was a time where you did have self-love because it takes soo much to be able to make a decision to get clean and to stick to that process. Maybe with the feelings of guilt that you feel, you lost sight of that self-love along the way. I hope that you will one day be able to forgive yourself for what happened whilst actively engaging in opioid addiction, and that you can forgive yourself for the things that you lost. You have taken steps to repair what damage could be repaired and you have been doing better for yourself. You are human, and you are doing your best. :white_heart:
From Celine_N: @meghanmonroe Hello, Thank you for sharing this with us, and I am sorry you are having a difficult time. I wanted to go out and say that I am so proud of you doing something with the opoid addiction. Your feelings are valid but I believe that you have loved yourself before; if you could say that you loved yourself before then you have the ability to love yourself again. Life is complex and full of changes; we live and we learn. We can't change the past but your experiences makes you flourish. Sometimes difficult paths leads to beautiful destinations. I love this quote "Life is like a roller coaster. It has its ups and downs..but its your choice to scream or enjoy the ride". I hoped this helped. Feel free to reach out to us anytime, we are always here to support you.
13 yrs is a HUGE accomplishment, congrats!! Unfortunately I'm in the middle of a 6 month long relapse and trying to get into detox as we speak!!! I just want to break this 20 yr cycle I've been going through!! Much love to you and 13 yrs, keep at it....
I relate so much to this song, I've been in therapy off and on since I was 4yo. Major depressive, BPTSD, I also have a tendency to self destruct myself and crave normalcy. This song resonates deeply with me.
It’s been awhile since I was addicted!!!! 189 days since I surrendered to the disease of addiction. The pain of getting clean was horrible but definitely has paid off. The freedom is incredible
Another good video...dang it's been so long since I have listened to this song. Crazy to think how long it's been out now already. Still can't wait for you to do some more Ren, especially his song with Chincilla, "Chalk Outlines". The verses/message in there I think will blow you away, and can't wait to see how you interpret it.
Staind was my go to band to listen to back in high school (late 90's, early 2000's) - Got me through some of the harder times in my youth. I once heard their music genre described as Self-Rock Therapy and always felt like it was fitting. Their music definitely hits you in that part of your soul that helps you get over your troubles.
I've loved this song since it came out when I was a teenager, and while it's meaning has changed a lot in that time, it still always resonates... but looking back knowing what I know now, I can see just how much I actually struggled with my mental health even back then. But thank you for your final words about this song, and it's actual hopeful message... because I have been really struggling with anxiety and depression for a while now (started experiencing a depressive episode late 2019, and oof the next few years didn't go so well lol), but what you said about it's been a long time but not forever, that I know what feeling good is, actually really helped me and my mindset, that I can get back to that place. So thank you, I really love and appreciate your reactions and analyses.
my dad would listen to staind all the time especially this song while i was growing up which lead me to liking the song , i eventually realized we both liked it so much because of the stuff that happened in our childhoods.
Also just found your channel and i must say i am enjoying it i am 5 years sober and i love giving people the tools for them to break addiction i really enjoy it
I just wanted to share that I came upon your video by accident since I was vibing to some music from earlier in my life. I'm a therapist as well, but it is often hard to be objective when evaluating yourself in my experience. Your comments on, "a while," really made an impact on me. The idea that happiness in the past is an indication that that can happen again was what I needed to hear and helped me to put things in a better perspective. Thanks for what you do!
thank you. i have depressions and when i'm way down i always wish i could be like i was before - silly, confident, spontaneous, adventurous,... - but i always feel like that's not possible. so hearing you say "it's been a while means it can be again" made me sob heavily and gave me hope that it is possible for me to be all of this again. surely not to the extent like before but at least a bit and at least not like now. it gave me hope that i can be able to chase some of my dreams again instead of grieving them. really thank you from the bottom of my heart for opening my eyes to things still beeing possible. (english is not my first language, so sorry for wording things strangely)
Despite their band name, Hatebreed is a band you should check out. They spew positivity in pretty much every song. "Defeatist", "I Will Be Heard", "To The Threshold", "This Is Now" & SO MANY others. Check them out! Enjoyed your reaction. I used to listen to "It's Been Awhile" SO MUCH back in the day. Keep up the GREAT work! 🤘🤘🤘
Hatebreed should definitely be checked out. They are amazing, full of positivity. If i remember, supremacy albumb was written when the singer was dealing with the loss of his father.
One song that never fails to make me feel - and it is awesome and powerful and just a great both sad / uplifting story IMHO. I have been listening to it since they recorded it, and have never tired of its music and lyrics.
This definitely brings back memories. I absolutely love Staind. Haven't listened to them in years. Break the cycle and Dysfunction were incredible albums. Need to react to more Staind for sure
Aaaah... That's a great great song... The feeling that Aaron puts into singing is unique, seeing him sing a live version is great!! I think he and Sully Erna are the kind who sound incredibly good live.
And it's all God given talent. He does the worst things for his vocals. Drinks, smokes, doesn't warm up, doesn't cool down. And 20+ years later he srill sounds just as good. He even got back with staind and has done some screaming in the new stuff, back to an older my fav version of staind
this song hits so damn hard for me because it sums up 2003, when i threw away my wife and my life for nothing but a temporary release. this was the song i was blasting at home when the cops came and picked me up.
Music like this is what has got me through my darkest days. Being a man I never talk about my feelings. I simply stuff it down and keep fighting. These guys made me feel not so alone.
❤❤❤ I can relate to the addiction. My wife passed away in 2014 it'll be 10 years in September. But ur video's definitely help... Thank you for your videos.😢😢😢😢
Me and my 18 y. o. (Tomorrow 😊) Was jamming this song yesterday. This was one of my best friends songs. Made me 😢 when I heard my son listening to it in his ear buds. It was a great vibe and one of the 2 ways we relate!! I also am trying to navigate back to a space of peace, ok'ness, heart intact, ECT after a breakup of 10 years. Really doing a number in me!! Thank you and much love ❤ #Reflections😢
The hostess looking incredible in the video .This is so good and it Rock one of the times best rock songs at the . I know from your point of view there a hinted and darkest subject behind it and l understand your point of view and others going through the same thing or times .
This song will always remind me of the love of my life, twice over now. We were engaged over 20 years ago and things didnt work out. She came back into my life during the pandemic, and fundamentally changed me. Reminded me of who I was, who Ive always been. Sadly it didnt work out. I am thankful thou to her because I know Jesus again and who I have always been, even thou I buried it deep to hide the pain.
I saw them open for korn on the issues tour back in 2000. That was when they were actually good. Now Aaron is a miserable person who puts his political views on full display instead of shutting up and playing his music
This is a brilliant analysis. She doesn't seem to really be paying attention when she's grooving out to the tune, but she really is. Her process i guess and I love it!
I listened to this song, full opiate withdrawal after the last time I used 8 years ago. It was soooooo intense. I still think about this song flowing through my bones.
Just saw Staind last Saturday night with my wife who's divorcing me because I can seem to fix my anger issues that keep coming up over and over. We embraced each other while this song played as I was crying my eyes out. It's been awhile. ❤
Aaron Lewis was inspired and felt the pain of Layne Staley of Alice in Chains. He even dedicated a song to Layne. Alice in Chains unplugged is a must reaction if you want to see what i think is the saddest musical performance ever recorded.
This is my all time favorite band. The music had helped me through a lot over the years. "For You" would be perfect to get your perspective on. Also my favorite song "something to remind you." "Outside" and "mudshovel" are Staind classics. There are two songs of the new album... "Better Days" and the title track "Confessions of the Fallen"❤️no videos for those two but the lyrics are powerful.
Currently going through the same emotions from a 4 year narcissistic relationship. Childhood trauma effects me at every corner and life seems bland and empty most the time so I use these songs to help me and try not to continue with self destructive behavior
From PenArt: @kanosplays5933 You are so strong, my friend! It can get scary and lonely in those types of relationships. You’re constantly giving and giving and giving, and all they do is take and it never feels like it’s enough. Not enough love. Not enough attention. Not enough work. Years of that kind of treatment can damage your mind and soul, and even resurface memories from your past trauma. No one should ever have to go through that, especially a loving and caring person like you. I know you are because no matter what that person puts you through, you’re still there for them. Narcissists can be hard to work with, especially when they believe they are always in the right and never wrong. It’s hard to remind them that you are a human being that deserves to be respected and cared for, that your thoughts and feelings have validity, even if it doesn’t match their own. I’m glad you find comfort in music and lyrics, it’s a wonderful coping mechanism. It lets us feel emotions we have to hide away sometimes and helps us know that there are others who have and do feel like this: feel like they don’t have the strength or care to lift their heads up, feel like they want to be their own person again. And I see you my friend! You’re working hard and making it through one day after another, and I’m so proud of you! Even if you feel like it’s not much, even taking the time to type this out and let someone know how you’re feeling is worth so much! I’m rooting for you, my friend! You are worth more than what anyone thinks or says about you! You are wonderfully and fearfully made, and I know that your heart will get you through! Stay strong, my friend. You are loved. ~ Pen
Just recently discovered the channel - thank you for your work and dedication to improving mental health. Love to hear you react to “To The Flowers” by While She Sleeps
I absolutely know I sabotaged a good relationship a few years ago. This song came out when I was in High School and I was a big fan of the band at the time, but hearing it now it definitely hits a different note for me.
Aaron Lewis's writing in staind is notably introspective, I think that's why so many people feel it. It's something that's not quite a mirror, but rather things you have, or would, or could speak if you were being honest.
I went thru the same thing couldn't seem to get thru it and it was 2.5 years since we weren't together anymore I got lost in my addiction matter of fact it got way worse I didn't care anymore but I went to rehab and actually did the rehab but something I learned that helped me more than anything and it was almost instant and that was ACCEPTANCE +FORGIVENESS = LETTING GO!!!!!!!
I love that you love the song. This song has so much value, speaks volumes of men and their struggles. Life is not easy for us. It is tough without you women, and it tough with you women. Drugs and alcohol can only take you so far. A woman's touch, just hits differently.
Good reaction, this song is super feels, just got out of prison where i became addicted on intravenous opiods and intranasal pharmaceuticals, i used to cope to as i was dumped by my fiance of 3 years and was left lost and alone in prison where i saw people die. Its hard to live going forward with so much self loathing and guilt and shame.
From toastaintbad: @drewtheleaf7712 Hi @HeartSupport_Fans, You are super strong able to go through something difficult drug addiction, dumped by your finance, and prison. I can't even imagine seeing people die in prison that must have been super traumatizing for you. No pressure of any means! Are you seeing a mental therapist specializing with PTSD & drug addiction? I feel like talking with a mental health professional might help you understand your emotions and improving yourself little by little each day. It takes many years for people to get heal from trauma. Don't be so hard on yourself for the actions that you did in the past. At least, you are able to make out of prison alive. Let me know if you need anything else from me. I'm here to support you!
From Micro: @drewtheleaf7712 Thank you so much for sharing these parts of your story, friend. From one stranger on the internet: I'm proud of you for being here today, for not giving up on yourself, and for breaking the shame by opening up about your experiences. You matter so much. www.loom.com/share/8ac1527391a64c6e8782dc66002dfa0c?sid=c9aeb6fe-e49a-4e7e-83fa-6f9fb93a8a84
I cannot tell you how helpful you are to me. I've been listening to these songs for 30 years and did not have that perspective on them. They have always meant something to me. I've had some recent things in my life that are similar to The situations going on in this song. You really have my mind thinking another directions when it comes to my favorite music. I lost my son to suicide in 2019 and my wife left me a couple of years later. Since then I have been very alone. Heartbroken that I wasn't able to keep my family together.
From Micro: @user-zt4sm3go2i Oh friend. Thank you so much for being here and sharing all of this. I can’t even begin to imagine the depth of your pain right now. Losing your son to suicide is something no parent should ever have to endure. It’s like losing such a significant part of yourself, of your world. The heartbreak it leaves you with just doesn't go away. It’s always there somehow. Then to have your wife leave you a couple of years later, on top of everything - you have been experiencing such an unbearable amount of loss and sorrow. I wish to just send you lots of hugs right now, even if I know this won't make the pain go away. My heart goes out to you right now. The loneliness, I imagine, has become almost a companion during those years, making everything feel heavier and more difficult. It’s like carrying this immense weight on your own, trying to navigate a world that doesn’t make sense anymore ever since your own world has been broken to pieces. It’s this deep, gut-wrenching pain that hits you in waves, sometimes when you least expect it. Some days might feel almost manageable, and then out of nowhere, it’s like the grief, the regrets and the loneliness come crashing down all over again. It's understandable, and profoundly human, to feel lost in all of it. It also makes sense to feel like guilt has been taking over at times. Feeling like you couldn’t keep your family together and questioning what you could have done differently. Even if you might know rationally that what happened was beyond your control, there's a part of your heart that might long for a better explanation, and the possibility to make sense out of something that doesn't seem to have any. I hope my friend that, at the moment, you can take it one day at a time, or even one moment at a time when it feels all too overwhelming. You matter so very much. You’re seen, you’re heard, you are valued, even in the darkest of times. :heart:
I saw Staind at Reading Festival in the UK back in 2004 i think.... there was an issue with the amps or something and the band couldnt play, but rather than just walking off or being a diva about it, Aaron sat by himself and did an acoustic set... it was incredible! Later in the day he came out with Korn... great memories ... Staind Epiphany and Mudshovel are favourites from that era so many great bands back then
I have never heard it as "All this sh*t seemED to disappear when I'm with you.". I've always read it as "seems". So for me, this points back to a FORMER relationship. My former marriage was to a sociopathic narcissist, but I never drank while I was with her. Trying to co-parent, and then holding onto all the trauma pre- and post-divorce, plus a shoulder injury led me to alcohol. I am slowly, and imperfectly working my way back to sobriety. It is NOT easy, but I figure if I can quit smoking after 22 years (almost 8 years smoke-free now), then I can beat anything. MUCH love to this channel, and all the Heart Supporters out there. Keep doing that shit. It MATTERS.
This song is EXTREMELY relatable. Every. Damn. Word. I just recently reconnected with someone from my past that I loved immensely and still do. We finally had a sit down early last night and we talked, and talked and talked....hashing it all out in a constructive manner. We discovered that we had both been keeping tabs on each other from afar, had both kept wondering "What if..." but had not grown enough to reach out until a few days ago. We had a heart to heart for hours and hours that lasted into this morning, I told her how I was not in the right frame of mind for a relationship yet wanted it and her so badly that I took the chance. We talked about all of the toxic behaviors that we each were doing, about how neither of us had the communication skills at the time, about all the details and each of our perceptions of the events of what all was going on, about how we just couldn't seem to keep from hurting each other despite the very deep love that we had and still have for each other. I know that I took on most of it because of the circumstances of our break up and my own mental health issues that had an impact on everything. This song felt like a letter that I could never send to her. When I explained all of that and then we listened to it together all of that anguish came rushing back and we both just cried and held each other because of all of those emotions. I still cry thinking about all the pain and torment that I put her through even though we have forgiven each other and are moving forward with positivity, care, compassion, understanding, better communication skills. and most importantly the deep love that we still have for each other. Seriously....EVERY DAMN WORD is exactly the feelings I had been having for the last three years and a week to the day since we split.
Second!! Can you please react to the band Hatebreed. "Destroy Everything", "defeatist", "I will be heard", "seven enemies" all excellent songs in my opinion.
I found what was...and it never left me! I'll always keep the advice that was given to me by a wise old man in my life..."Every choice you make will affect not just your life, but he lives of those around you! So, take your time, think first, and make a wise choice focused on others and that will ultimately take care of your needs too."
The line "i cannot blame this on my father" always resonates with me as a recovering addict with an addict father, it wasnt his fault i used though it was mine and he did the best he could for me too. I love this song such a powerful song for recovering addicts.
It was the opposite with me. My dad became a Christian when I was around 13 and was preaching by the time I was 14. I just fell off of the deep end when a friend shot himself when we were 16 and in the navy I first tried shooting cocaine. I went progressively in a downward spiral until around 25 I overdosed on pure meth and barely survived. My dad had no way to relate to my struggle and no clue what to do. I just kept going further down until I ended up in prison for meth at 46. A prison rehab counselor took interest in me and my journey back began. I am a major alcoholic and drug addict. I am sober today. That is all that matters. ❤
I'm in and out, the cycle never ends
Same homie. Same homie.
@Mord314 me too man coke and alcohol always draw me back unfortunately
@@DouglasSnodgrass kinda feel ya. Still young haha. but i've had a good life and a hard one. lucky no one wants to give up on me. Despite my willingness to give up on everything i hold dear the people i inspired keep me going. Still not completely sober because i still need to find why i want to live. But im moving in right direction scared when i have real responsibilities though.
There's so many great songs to look at from Staind. Epiphany is probably a good one after this, but it just keeps going.
I can't get enough of Staind
The new album HITS
It's been awhile since he wasn't a heroin addict..."cannot blame this on my father..."
"I can still remember just the way you taste"
"Since I could see myself straight"
"All the shit seems to disappear when I'm with you" Heroin addicts are in misery until they get their dose.
"Since I held my head up high"...heroin addicts NOD, they aren't holding their heads up much. And...nodding will also cause someone to unknowingly drop their lit cigarette and burn the place down, like at the end of the video!
7:30
I concur.
Epiphany is the greatest.
It means a lot more.. to a lot more people... than they intended it to.
Epiphany was like my childhood, for how messed up I was from everything I was going through as a child dealing with adhd at such a young age and poverty and with 1 parent basically. It was my favorite song as a kid at 12 or 13. I still get emotional from that song to this day. Amazing song!
My wife just passed away on the 10th. I found her on the floor, unresponsive. I tried mouth to mouth and cpr. She was fighting leukemia and a lung infection. If I had found her sooner I could have saved her. Our sons were in bed oblivious to what was happening in the living room. I feel like I didn't do enough. She had just turned 47.
Sorry for your loss😢
From NMRK: @cullyd8721 It sounds like you did everything you could. She wouldn't want you to blame yourself.
Allow yourself and your sons to grieve.
look after yourself my friend
From NMRK: @cullyd8721 It sounds like you did everything you could. She wouldn't want you to blame yourself.
Allow yourself and your sons to grieve.
look after yourself my friend
From gravitykills24: @cullyd8721 Thank you for reaching out to HeartSupport - I am so sorry for this loss of your wife at such a young age, and the way that it happened is so sad to hear. I am positive you did all you could and I know there is guilt involved, but hopefully you can let that go as you grieve her loss - I know that is easier said than done. I know the challenge of being a single father is now a huge challenge as well - but you will do an amazing job and make your wife proud everyday. I firmly believe that she is in a better place and although her body failed her soul lives on. I hope you are surrounded with a good support network and potentially even a grief group or a widower group to talk through and process your feelings and emotions moving forward. I am 48 myself and cannot even imagine losing my wife, or raising our 3 kids by myself - so my heart breaks for you and I pray you find the strength and courage to keep showing up every day and doing the best you can. Be well, and reach out to us anytime.
From gravitykills24: @cullyd8721 Thank you for reaching out to HeartSupport - I am so sorry for this loss of your wife at such a young age, and the way that it happened is so sad to hear. I am positive you did all you could and I know there is guilt involved, but hopefully you can let that go as you grieve her loss - I know that is easier said than done. I know the challenge of being a single father is now a huge challenge as well - but you will do an amazing job and make your wife proud everyday. I firmly believe that she is in a better place and although her body failed her soul lives on. I hope you are surrounded with a good support network and potentially even a grief group or a widower group to talk through and process your feelings and emotions moving forward. I am 48 myself and cannot even imagine losing my wife, or raising our 3 kids by myself - so my heart breaks for you and I pray you find the strength and courage to keep showing up every day and doing the best you can. Be well, and reach out to us anytime.
Saw Staind in 1999 Aaron was a heroin addict This song is actually about his recovery and a fourth step Anyone in recovery should truly understand
think i saw staind with the sick an twiztid tour
My favorite song is his pretty recent live version of “Lost and Lonely” a song he wrote for his wife while in rehab for the last time. The ownership & realism , vulnerability he takes about is SO real & heart felt & the live version with just him, an acoustic guitar and a slide guitar is SO beautiful! If you haven’t seen it on RUclips it’s so worth a watch. 🙂
An insane percentage of songs are about heroin/ addiction.
its great when I come to a react of this song and first comment I see is what the song is actually about.
Not only someone in recovery but and addiction
Early Staind was so good. Their first album is a banger and when they entered this ballad style, they put out PHENOMINAL music! Epiphany is one of my favorite songs from Staind and it deserves a listen. Kind of the same wheelhouse as this one, but so broken down and just awesome! Great reaction.
Dysfunction was so powerful and raw, I love it!
Mudshovel goes pretty hard.
@@Syzygy77 YES!!! One of my favorites!
@@mikeacuna6077 HELL YEAH! Definitely a banger all the way through!
Still putting out bangers, that collab with Dorothy was awesome!
This song kills me all the time. Story of my life, still living it.
Same here brother. I lost the greatest woman because of my mistakes.
I feel you brother
youre not alone
Haha...exactly.
I had a good six years where I didn't, not consecutively as we broke up for a bit but they where there.
Aaron with this stripped down to him and an acoustic is incredible. You can FEEL it. He’s “that voice” for me when he’s in that place. “something to remind you” live at the Mohegan Sun is literally written into my will to play at my funeral. Him reflecting on life after being told about a fan committing suicide…..he FEELS it and he will make you feel it. ❤
Same, it will be played at my funeral.
Waste is one of my favorite songs.
I was a heroine addict for 17 yrs and I think he is talking more about the relationship with the drug than a relationship with a person. It's all in how u percieve it ig. Thru my addiction I messed up EVERY relationship n everything good I ever had. "I can remember just the way u taste" he is talking about using. "Its been awhile since I could look at myself straight" he got clean but he is remembering his relationship with the drug cuz as much as it destroyed me it was my best friend at the same time. I've been clean for 7 yrs now n this song still gives me chill bumps. Here it is 2024 n I can't listen to this song without it bringing tears to my eyes. I got shot in 2016 n was paralyzed n I relapsed n got myself together a year later but this song represents a time in my life that I learned so much about myself. Without my struggles I wouldn't have found my strengths
The way the candles light your face, the way you taste, as an ex heroin addict it's pretty obvious. Being able to put out art like this and have non drug users attribute it to love as well Is something special.
It’s always been my understanding that this is about the relationship with heroin and the destructive cycle of relief and subsequent shame that dominates it.
I love how you just get right into...no long, 5 minute intro with a bunch of ads or anything. Just jump right in...much appreciated🤘💯
Excess baggage was the hidden track from their album, "dysfunction." I listened to it several times. Still my favorite by them.
I really enjoyed 12 shades of grey myself however Staind is one of the few bands I feel that gets better with every album.
Stained is one of the most underrated bands of the last 30 years
Underrated? They have sold millions of albums, had many top 10 hits. ???? Chevelle is a true underrated band of the last 30 years..
@@scottthompson4193 Regardless of the popularity they DID see, they were still underrated. They were popular but not nearly as popular as they should have been.
Where did they go
as a therapist, "Something to remind you" is one song of theirs you really must react to.
Her being a therapist doesn't make her qualified to have an educated opinion on these songs but dummies like you will come on here and feed her fragile ego and tell her how important her opinion is. Her opinion means about as much as mine or yours. Yall are annoying af
absolutely
I'd add that the live version is what needs to be reacted to. There is a level of emotion that he connects to with the lyrics that doesn't exist in the studio version
@jmike8934 the live version is good and he does show emotion value perfectly and should be reacted to. That being said the studio version is a definite listen to request on your own time as it in my own opinion is the best version
i fully agree, so deeply
also it's my dads favourite song from staind
Divorced three times, my depression issues, ptsd, and so on all basically drove everyone away. I’ve learned over the years that I need to work on things and therefore have sought help and tried. Still alone and go through a lot of days that I replay life and how I’ve dicked it all up. Still here though, still hopeful that I can find a way to get happiness and love back. Songs like this help
From djstarion: @Deadmaninc81 Hey friend!
I totally get where you're coming from. I'm glad you've learned that you need to work on things and sought help! I do have a question, if that's okay. What kind of help have you reached out to? If you've reached out to a therapist or someone and it didn't work out, I'd highly suggest finding someone who specifically deals with PTSD. It's kinda like going to a doctor. There's general practice doctors and specialized ones. It's kinda the same way with mental health professionals. Finding the right one can be tricky, but when you do, it can be a huge help!
Also, have you checked on any support groups in your area? They are an excellent option as well, because the best way to get your true feelings out and be supported and listened to is when you're talking to people who have gone through the same trials and situations you have. They've walked in your shoes, and fought your battles. It could definitely be worth looking into.
Regardless, you've got this!
From toastaintbad: @Deadmaninc81 Hi @HeartSupport_Fans,
It's awesome that you are trying to improve your mental health. I struggled with trauma once in awhile. Trauma is difficult to manage but I sometimes try to not get into my head. You can never changed in the past but all you can is reflect and fix those mistakes. Sometimes music helps me with mental health issues.
From lizuh: @Deadmaninc81 The most powerful thing to hold onto when struggling with anything like PTSD, depression etc is hope. Hope can push you into action and take your life back into your hands. You know that you want love and happiness, and you haven't given up on it. Regardless of your past choices, broken relationships etc, you are NEVER too far gone to turn around and walk in a direction towards healing.
From Shan: @Deadmaninc81 Hi friend,
I'm sorry to hear about the ways your struggle with depression, ptsd, and mental health have impacted your life and your past relationships. However, I am so proud of you for taking steps to work on things and to seek help. That alone takes such strength and shows such growth. This is all a journey and a process. There will be good days and bad days where you think all about the past and that "only ifs" start to kick in. But I encourage you to stay strong. We can't change our past, only the present and our future. And you have already started the hard work towards that change.
I'm glad to hear that you are still hopeful. I hope with you! And I believe in you, that you can and will find happiness and a healthy flourishing love. You deserve them both! :white_heart:
From Micro: @Deadmaninc81 Proud of you, friend. For seeking help and being open about what you've been struggling with. Depression, PTSD and the strain it can have on our relationships are huge burdens to carry. It's been strong of you to not let yourself carry those burdens alone anymore. I know there's a part of our mind when we're deep in the trenches that tries to convince us that nothing's worth it anymore. But through it all, through all days you've cried, felt numb or could only survive, *you* have always been worth it, my friend. There is a way through this, even if during some seasons time seems to be our only asset. I wholeheartedly believe in you. :heart:
Your analisis of this song was so spot on from the perspective of someone in pain, watching it I felt I was being treated by you in an that office, feels good to hear those words of acknoledgement, of recognizing that the pain inside is valid and it shouldn't stay there.
Analisis is a terrorist organization in my opinion.
It’s been awhile since I listened to this song
Staind sustained me in early recovery. Emotionally "gut shot" bleeding outta holes I didn't know I had when I got sober. So grateful to Aaron. Had a Catholic Priest tell me music can be Prayer. I belived him. He was sober in recovery 25 yrs at the time.
You are such an amazing woman. What a great perspective. Im so glad you share your light as you do in all your videos. I pray that you help many suffering people. Keep shining your light!
I've felt every bit of the pain of not only this song, but every song on the entire album this song is on. I was in a pretty deep pit for a long time in the early 2000s - this lingering depression. Yet I kept wandering, looking for something, even if there was nothing to find. In early 2006, interestingly enough in the context of this channel; ya know what song you recently reacted to that pulled me out of that pit? It was "Stinkfist" by Tool. THAT song, lit a FIRE inside of me. Tool has often lended me strength through music.
This man knows how to capture emotion in his music…
Always hits hard.
Tough childhood abandoned by mom …
If you wanna explore his darker songs
EXCESS BAGGAGE
FOUR WALLS
Are great songs to dive into
“Four Walls” was a staple in my life when I was younger. That song was so powerful.
You can always tell when the artist feels the music.
I’ve watched ten or twelve of your videos in the last couple days. I like your perspective and insights. And on a basic human level… your reactions, your mannerisms, and your smile… make me smile. Thank you for that. 😊
At 7:35: What you said hit me hard, like bringing light to the Challenger Deep. There is hope, there is light. Thanks to you, more than you’ll ever know.
Saturday will be 13 years since I kicked opioids. Unfortunately, my active addiction left a huge damage path, including my first significant relationship. And it's been a while since I could say I love myself...maybe I never had that ability. But this song has been making me cry since high school.
From Lisalovesfeathers: @meghanmonroe Firstly can I say how bloody amazing it is that you have managed to firstly kick opioids and remain off of them for 13 years!!! What an amazing feat but not one that is plain sailing I am sure. I can imagine it was incredibly difficult, sometimes seemed impossible and there were many occasions you wanted to throw in the towel? But it appears that strength, courage and determination won through, sadly any fight like that will leave scars and my first instinct is to tell you to wear them with pride however its bloody hard to say goodbye to your first love.
That one always feels super special and sometimes they genuinely are and sometimes they really are not, you just haven’t known anyone better to weigh them up against.
To find that person, that person who will be the one, you do indeed need to feel deserved of that. I already think you are but now you need to know it, What you have accomplished should make you the hero of your own story, love yourself for that, recognise that this amazing person who has fought this addiction, this wonderful beautiful soul who wants and deserves love, affection and joy is deserving of it. Start by looking in the mirror and just saying “I am a good person, I love, I am loved, I love myself” eventually you will begin to believe it and once you do you will see things begin to open up and get lighter for you. People will see the lightness in you and be drawn to that. Its true and quite fascinating. I would love to know if you try and how you get on. Best of luck. Lisa x
From Shan: @meghanmonroe Hi friend,
Thank you for sharing. First, with it being Saturday, I'd like to wish you a happy 13 years!! Being clean and overcoming an opioid addiction for 13 years, and counting, is such an AMAZING accomplishment. I am so happy for you and proud of you - and I hope that you are too.
I am sorry to hear about the things that you lost on your journey so far, and I imagine it can be hard to move on from when we think about the hurt or damage that have occurred. We can't change the past, we can only do things in the present, and already you have made decisions to better yourself and your future, and that is commendable.
This is just an outsiders opinion, but I think, at the least, there was a time where you did have self-love because it takes soo much to be able to make a decision to get clean and to stick to that process. Maybe with the feelings of guilt that you feel, you lost sight of that self-love along the way.
I hope that you will one day be able to forgive yourself for what happened whilst actively engaging in opioid addiction, and that you can forgive yourself for the things that you lost. You have taken steps to repair what damage could be repaired and you have been doing better for yourself. You are human, and you are doing your best. :white_heart:
From Celine_N: @meghanmonroe Hello,
Thank you for sharing this with us, and I am sorry you are having a difficult time.
I wanted to go out and say that I am so proud of you doing something with the opoid addiction. Your feelings are valid but I believe that you have loved yourself before; if you could say that you loved yourself before then you have the ability to love yourself again. Life is complex and full of changes; we live and we learn. We can't change the past but your experiences makes you flourish. Sometimes difficult paths leads to beautiful destinations. I love this quote "Life is like a roller coaster. It has its ups and downs..but its your choice to scream or enjoy the ride". I hoped this helped. Feel free to reach out to us anytime, we are always here to support you.
13 yrs is a HUGE accomplishment, congrats!! Unfortunately I'm in the middle of a 6 month long relapse and trying to get into detox as we speak!!! I just want to break this 20 yr cycle I've been going through!! Much love to you and 13 yrs, keep at it....
@@westbank5436 I'm sending you good thoughts. I know you can do this.
I relate so much to this song, I've been in therapy off and on since I was 4yo.
Major depressive, BPTSD, I also have a tendency to self destruct myself and crave normalcy.
This song resonates deeply with me.
You're such a beautiful person. I love your reaction. Thank you so much for your work ❤
Staind is so nostalgic for me, definitely check out the song fade that one hits on a personal level.
This song and your explanation hit it right spot on with the way I feel most of the time
It’s been awhile since I was addicted!!!! 189 days since I surrendered to the disease of addiction. The pain of getting clean was horrible but definitely has paid off. The freedom is incredible
Another good video...dang it's been so long since I have listened to this song. Crazy to think how long it's been out now already. Still can't wait for you to do some more Ren, especially his song with Chincilla, "Chalk Outlines". The verses/message in there I think will blow you away, and can't wait to see how you interpret it.
Staind was my go to band to listen to back in high school (late 90's, early 2000's) - Got me through some of the harder times in my youth. I once heard their music genre described as Self-Rock Therapy and always felt like it was fitting. Their music definitely hits you in that part of your soul that helps you get over your troubles.
Staind did more for me than any therapist could ever explain
Totally can relate
Omg I love, love, love this!! Keep stabbing with the dagger of the truth that it's possible. Everything is. Just keep trying forever or never.
I've loved this song since it came out when I was a teenager, and while it's meaning has changed a lot in that time, it still always resonates... but looking back knowing what I know now, I can see just how much I actually struggled with my mental health even back then.
But thank you for your final words about this song, and it's actual hopeful message... because I have been really struggling with anxiety and depression for a while now (started experiencing a depressive episode late 2019, and oof the next few years didn't go so well lol), but what you said about it's been a long time but not forever, that I know what feeling good is, actually really helped me and my mindset, that I can get back to that place. So thank you, I really love and appreciate your reactions and analyses.
my dad would listen to staind all the time especially this song while i was growing up which lead me to liking the song , i eventually realized we both liked it so much because of the stuff that happened in our childhoods.
Also just found your channel and i must say i am enjoying it i am 5 years sober and i love giving people the tools for them to break addiction i really enjoy it
This song always hits me a certain way for so many reasons. I'm glad this showed up in my feed today.
I just wanted to share that I came upon your video by accident since I was vibing to some music from earlier in my life. I'm a therapist as well, but it is often hard to be objective when evaluating yourself in my experience. Your comments on, "a while," really made an impact on me. The idea that happiness in the past is an indication that that can happen again was what I needed to hear and helped me to put things in a better perspective. Thanks for what you do!
This band and song means a lot to me. Thank you for doing it justice
thank you. i have depressions and when i'm way down i always wish i could be like i was before - silly, confident, spontaneous, adventurous,... - but i always feel like that's not possible. so hearing you say "it's been a while means it can be again" made me sob heavily and gave me hope that it is possible for me to be all of this again. surely not to the extent like before but at least a bit and at least not like now. it gave me hope that i can be able to chase some of my dreams again instead of grieving them. really thank you from the bottom of my heart for opening my eyes to things still beeing possible. (english is not my first language, so sorry for wording things strangely)
Despite their band name, Hatebreed is a band you should check out. They spew positivity in pretty much every song. "Defeatist", "I Will Be Heard", "To The Threshold", "This Is Now" & SO MANY others. Check them out! Enjoyed your reaction. I used to listen to "It's Been Awhile" SO MUCH back in the day. Keep up the GREAT work! 🤘🤘🤘
Hatebreed has always been garbage
Hatebreed should definitely be checked out. They are amazing, full of positivity. If i remember, supremacy albumb was written when the singer was dealing with the loss of his father.
One song that never fails to make me feel - and it is awesome and powerful and just a great both sad / uplifting story IMHO. I have been listening to it since they recorded it, and have never tired of its music and lyrics.
"Why must I feel this way? Just make this go away. Just one more peaceful day..." LOVE this part of the song. Reminds me of the end of Space Dye Vest
I love the passion in the explanation
This definitely brings back memories. I absolutely love Staind. Haven't listened to them in years. Break the cycle and Dysfunction were incredible albums. Need to react to more Staind for sure
Love your videos!
Love this band. so many good lyrics and music from these guys. definitely worth the rabbit hole
Lost and Lonely acoustic version is phenomenal by him, its about him going to rehab.
Aaaah... That's a great great song... The feeling that Aaron puts into singing is unique, seeing him sing a live version is great!! I think he and Sully Erna are the kind who sound incredibly good live.
He does country now, plus lots of patriotic music. He sings with so much heart period.
Staind got back together. He does country but still doing rock
And it's all God given talent. He does the worst things for his vocals. Drinks, smokes, doesn't warm up, doesn't cool down. And 20+ years later he srill sounds just as good. He even got back with staind and has done some screaming in the new stuff, back to an older my fav version of staind
this song hits so damn hard for me because it sums up 2003, when i threw away my wife and my life for nothing but a temporary release. this was the song i was blasting at home when the cops came and picked me up.
Music like this is what has got me through my darkest days. Being a man I never talk about my feelings. I simply stuff it down and keep fighting. These guys made me feel not so alone.
I love Staind. This is one of my favorite songs off that album. A few others are Please, Schizophrenic Conversations, The Way I Am, Pardon Me....
Glad I experienced this Band years ago ❤❤
Man, I need a fucking hug.
Sending you a hug!❤️ I’m sorry your hurting.
Virtual hug incoming. I need one, too.
Hugs ❤
Here's a hug 🫂!!
Virtual hugs from me man
Thank you for your message of hope😊
Watched Aaron back in the day in Enfield CT.
❤❤❤ I can relate to the addiction. My wife passed away in 2014 it'll be 10 years in September. But ur video's definitely help... Thank you for your videos.😢😢😢😢
My God, that speech at the end… chills! Loved it!!
I do more than feel it - I’ve lived it and live it- this song burns in my heart 💜
Me and my 18 y. o. (Tomorrow 😊) Was jamming this song yesterday. This was one of my best friends songs. Made me 😢 when I heard my son listening to it in his ear buds. It was a great vibe and one of the 2 ways we relate!! I also am trying to navigate back to a space of peace, ok'ness, heart intact, ECT after a breakup of 10 years. Really doing a number in me!! Thank you and much love ❤ #Reflections😢
The hostess looking incredible in the video .This is so good and it Rock one of the times best rock songs at the . I know from your point of view there a hinted and darkest subject behind it and l understand your point of view and others going through the same thing or times .
Alice in Chains Nutshell Unplugged
This song will always remind me of the love of my life, twice over now. We were engaged over 20 years ago and things didnt work out. She came back into my life during the pandemic, and fundamentally changed me. Reminded me of who I was, who Ive always been. Sadly it didnt work out. I am thankful thou to her because I know Jesus again and who I have always been, even thou I buried it deep to hide the pain.
Staind is awesome 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Seen them 2x recently and will see them again in September!! Can’t wait!!
I saw them open for korn on the issues tour back in 2000. That was when they were actually good. Now Aaron is a miserable person who puts his political views on full display instead of shutting up and playing his music
This is a brilliant analysis. She doesn't seem to really be paying attention when she's grooving out to the tune, but she really is. Her process i guess and I love it!
This song always hits me. I feel this song in my own life.
Still one of my favorite songs of all time. Masterpiece.
The best reaction video I've ever seen. Because you really listen. That's how I know that; your body and your movements really match the rhythm.
So many bangers with Staind. You should do Epiphany next!
Following for a while, and now subscribed!
So many great songs to choose from Staind
Yes can Def relate the overdose of my ex and a very toxic dependent relationship but now myself 7 years sober but still missing that one
I love this song, it understands what most people feel.
Love you to do so far away... It's so my life anthem and I look at it differently every time I hear it depending on where my head is at at the time.
I listened to this song, full opiate withdrawal after the last time I used 8 years ago. It was soooooo intense. I still think about this song flowing through my bones.
Just saw Staind last Saturday night with my wife who's divorcing me because I can seem to fix my anger issues that keep coming up over and over. We embraced each other while this song played as I was crying my eyes out. It's been awhile. ❤
Aaron Lewis was inspired and felt the pain of Layne Staley of Alice in Chains. He even dedicated a song to Layne. Alice in Chains unplugged is a must reaction if you want to see what i think is the saddest musical performance ever recorded.
This is my all time favorite band. The music had helped me through a lot over the years. "For You" would be perfect to get your perspective on. Also my favorite song "something to remind you."
"Outside" and "mudshovel" are Staind classics.
There are two songs of the new album... "Better Days" and the title track "Confessions of the Fallen"❤️no videos for those two but the lyrics are powerful.
I remember when I first heard them in 96 a few months before I went to BCT and I have been a fan ever since awesome music.
I remember the first time I heard this I driving on 676 in Camden NJ going to cop dope. It was a heavy feeling.
Currently going through the same emotions from a 4 year narcissistic relationship. Childhood trauma effects me at every corner and life seems bland and empty most the time so I use these songs to help me and try not to continue with self destructive behavior
From PenArt: @kanosplays5933 You are so strong, my friend!
It can get scary and lonely in those types of relationships. You’re constantly giving and giving and giving, and all they do is take and it never feels like it’s enough. Not enough love. Not enough attention. Not enough work. Years of that kind of treatment can damage your mind and soul, and even resurface memories from your past trauma. No one should ever have to go through that, especially a loving and caring person like you.
I know you are because no matter what that person puts you through, you’re still there for them.
Narcissists can be hard to work with, especially when they believe they are always in the right and never wrong. It’s hard to remind them that you are a human being that deserves to be respected and cared for, that your thoughts and feelings have validity, even if it doesn’t match their own.
I’m glad you find comfort in music and lyrics, it’s a wonderful coping mechanism. It lets us feel emotions we have to hide away sometimes and helps us know that there are others who have and do feel like this: feel like they don’t have the strength or care to lift their heads up, feel like they want to be their own person again. And I see you my friend! You’re working hard and making it through one day after another, and I’m so proud of you! Even if you feel like it’s not much, even taking the time to type this out and let someone know how you’re feeling is worth so much! I’m rooting for you, my friend! You are worth more than what anyone thinks or says about you! You are wonderfully and fearfully made, and I know that your heart will get you through!
Stay strong, my friend. You are loved.
~ Pen
You words are what I needed. TY.
Just recently discovered the channel - thank you for your work and dedication to improving mental health. Love to hear you react to “To The Flowers” by While She Sleeps
I absolutely know I sabotaged a good relationship a few years ago. This song came out when I was in High School and I was a big fan of the band at the time, but hearing it now it definitely hits a different note for me.
Aaron Lewis's writing in staind is notably introspective, I think that's why so many people feel it. It's something that's not quite a mirror, but rather things you have, or would, or could speak if you were being honest.
99' Family Values Tour!!!!! Will never forget seeing this live!
I went thru the same thing couldn't seem to get thru it and it was 2.5 years since we weren't together anymore I got lost in my addiction matter of fact it got way worse I didn't care anymore but I went to rehab and actually did the rehab but something I learned that helped me more than anything and it was almost instant and that was
ACCEPTANCE +FORGIVENESS =
LETTING GO!!!!!!!
I love that you love the song. This song has so much value, speaks volumes of men and their struggles.
Life is not easy for us. It is tough without you women, and it tough with you women. Drugs and alcohol can only take you so far. A woman's touch, just hits differently.
staind had some of the most emotional music i’ve heard. their album that had mudshovel on it is really good.
I remember this song so much!
Been living this song for over a year now
Good reaction, this song is super feels, just got out of prison where i became addicted on intravenous opiods and intranasal pharmaceuticals, i used to cope to as i was dumped by my fiance of 3 years and was left lost and alone in prison where i saw people die. Its hard to live going forward with so much self loathing and guilt and shame.
From toastaintbad: @drewtheleaf7712 Hi @HeartSupport_Fans,
You are super strong able to go through something difficult drug addiction, dumped by your finance, and prison. I can't even imagine seeing people die in prison that must have been super traumatizing for you. No pressure of any means! Are you seeing a mental therapist specializing with PTSD & drug addiction? I feel like talking with a mental health professional might help you understand your emotions and improving yourself little by little each day. It takes many years for people to get heal from trauma.
Don't be so hard on yourself for the actions that you did in the past. At least, you are able to make out of prison alive. Let me know if you need anything else from me. I'm here to support you!
From Micro: @drewtheleaf7712 Thank you so much for sharing these parts of your story, friend. From one stranger on the internet: I'm proud of you for being here today, for not giving up on yourself, and for breaking the shame by opening up about your experiences. You matter so much. www.loom.com/share/8ac1527391a64c6e8782dc66002dfa0c?sid=c9aeb6fe-e49a-4e7e-83fa-6f9fb93a8a84
I cannot tell you how helpful you are to me. I've been listening to these songs for 30 years and did not have that perspective on them. They have always meant something to me. I've had some recent things in my life that are similar to The situations going on in this song. You really have my mind thinking another directions when it comes to my favorite music. I lost my son to suicide in 2019 and my wife left me a couple of years later. Since then I have been very alone. Heartbroken that I wasn't able to keep my family together.
From Micro: @user-zt4sm3go2i Oh friend. Thank you so much for being here and sharing all of this. I can’t even begin to imagine the depth of your pain right now. Losing your son to suicide is something no parent should ever have to endure. It’s like losing such a significant part of yourself, of your world. The heartbreak it leaves you with just doesn't go away. It’s always there somehow. Then to have your wife leave you a couple of years later, on top of everything - you have been experiencing such an unbearable amount of loss and sorrow. I wish to just send you lots of hugs right now, even if I know this won't make the pain go away. My heart goes out to you right now.
The loneliness, I imagine, has become almost a companion during those years, making everything feel heavier and more difficult. It’s like carrying this immense weight on your own, trying to navigate a world that doesn’t make sense anymore ever since your own world has been broken to pieces. It’s this deep, gut-wrenching pain that hits you in waves, sometimes when you least expect it. Some days might feel almost manageable, and then out of nowhere, it’s like the grief, the regrets and the loneliness come crashing down all over again. It's understandable, and profoundly human, to feel lost in all of it.
It also makes sense to feel like guilt has been taking over at times. Feeling like you couldn’t keep your family together and questioning what you could have done differently. Even if you might know rationally that what happened was beyond your control, there's a part of your heart that might long for a better explanation, and the possibility to make sense out of something that doesn't seem to have any.
I hope my friend that, at the moment, you can take it one day at a time, or even one moment at a time when it feels all too overwhelming. You matter so very much. You’re seen, you’re heard, you are valued, even in the darkest of times. :heart:
I saw Staind at Reading Festival in the UK back in 2004 i think.... there was an issue with the amps or something and the band couldnt play, but rather than just walking off or being a diva about it, Aaron sat by himself and did an acoustic set... it was incredible! Later in the day he came out with Korn... great memories ... Staind Epiphany and Mudshovel are favourites from that era so many great bands back then
I have never heard it as "All this sh*t seemED to disappear when I'm with you.". I've always read it as "seems". So for me, this points back to a FORMER relationship. My former marriage was to a sociopathic narcissist, but I never drank while I was with her. Trying to co-parent, and then holding onto all the trauma pre- and post-divorce, plus a shoulder injury led me to alcohol.
I am slowly, and imperfectly working my way back to sobriety. It is NOT easy, but I figure if I can quit smoking after 22 years (almost 8 years smoke-free now), then I can beat anything. MUCH love to this channel, and all the Heart Supporters out there. Keep doing that shit. It MATTERS.
This song is EXTREMELY relatable. Every. Damn. Word.
I just recently reconnected with someone from my past that I loved immensely and still do. We finally had a sit down early last night and we talked, and talked and talked....hashing it all out in a constructive manner. We discovered that we had both been keeping tabs on each other from afar, had both kept wondering "What if..." but had not grown enough to reach out until a few days ago. We had a heart to heart for hours and hours that lasted into this morning, I told her how I was not in the right frame of mind for a relationship yet wanted it and her so badly that I took the chance. We talked about all of the toxic behaviors that we each were doing, about how neither of us had the communication skills at the time, about all the details and each of our perceptions of the events of what all was going on, about how we just couldn't seem to keep from hurting each other despite the very deep love that we had and still have for each other. I know that I took on most of it because of the circumstances of our break up and my own mental health issues that had an impact on everything. This song felt like a letter that I could never send to her. When I explained all of that and then we listened to it together all of that anguish came rushing back and we both just cried and held each other because of all of those emotions. I still cry thinking about all the pain and torment that I put her through even though we have forgiven each other and are moving forward with positivity, care, compassion, understanding, better communication skills. and most importantly the deep love that we still have for each other. Seriously....EVERY DAMN WORD is exactly the feelings I had been having for the last three years and a week to the day since we split.
Fantastic song
This song helped me through a very tough time.
Second!! Can you please react to the band Hatebreed. "Destroy Everything", "defeatist", "I will be heard", "seven enemies" all excellent songs in my opinion.
Everyone Bleeds Now 🤘🏽😎
Hatebreed sucks dude
@@Unethical_Ethical_HackTips everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but yours is wrong...
The fact that he can be the front man of staind and sound just as great as a country singer is awesome
one of my favorite songs ❤
I found what was...and it never left me! I'll always keep the advice that was given to me by a wise old man in my life..."Every choice you make will affect not just your life, but he lives of those around you! So, take your time, think first, and make a wise choice focused on others and that will ultimately take care of your needs too."