Really happy to see some people in the comments finally being able to put a name to why they’ve struggled with numbers/math. I remember the relief I felt when I finally found out that picking your skin excessively isn’t just some weird quirk but actually something that has a name; dermatillomania (a form of OCD in most cases).
Today I learned that my weird struggle with numbers in my head has a name. It's difficult to explain, but even trying to use a calculator, it feels like my brain progressively slows down the more I try to solve a math problem, and there's a definite point where I switch from confusion to rage. It physically hurts my entire body to try to keep track of numbers in my head. I've been this way as long as I can remember, back to around age 5 or 6. I'm now 41, and the only thing that's changed is I've learned to not scream and cuss at the top of my lungs.
Same. It’s called dyscalcia. And for me it’s more weird because I love science but I guess I have some trauma with math because I am scared to learn anything. Like I think I’m scared of being wrong or something. Like if you compare math with something I like, like zoology, then I tend to not be as scared of it.
@@kricku You asked my question in fewer words than I probably would have used. I know exactly what you mean. I was utterly out of my depth in math classes all my life, but when I was in grad school, I had to take a very heavy-duty two-quarter stats sequence during Summer session, which meant I took those two killer courses in ultra-condensed five-week chunks, instead of the typical ten weeks each. By the second week, I was freaking out, until I had a revelation. _A mathematical equation is simply a description of an object or condition._ I'm a word person (obviously), and this had never, ever dawned on me before. Why don't math teachers explain it in such simple terms? It made everything make sense, which is probably why I'm 68 now, an Early Adopter, and totally at ease with computers. But what made the difference? Having a calculator to do the numbers thang left my mind free to consider the meanings behind upper-case and lower-case sigmas, deltas, and such. After the Great Revelation, the pieces fell into place like the tidiest game of Tetris you ever saw. Honest to Pete, it was like a big door to a corner of my brain was thrown open, and then the whole wall crumbled. All this is to say, danged good question. There is a huge difference between math and arithmetic. I'm lousy at arithmetic, but surprisingly good at math.
It's so awesome how I keep discovering new stuff about myself that confirms the fact that I was just born with stuff that will make life harder for me than...well, people without these problems lmfao
Yeah, I have dyscalculia (I was diagnosed very recently but I’ve been terrible at math my entire life) and as soon as I heard the title I knew op probably had it too. That’s actually the reason I never want to work as a cashier, because I know for a fact that this would be my exact experience.
I will disagree with the OP from the first story about one thing, her mom DID do the right thing. this was not just the kids being assholes like normal. the TEACHER was involved and abused their position of power over the students that is NOT OK. and should have been stopped!
I'd argue that the mom didn't do the right thing, confronting an abuser without an escape plan or follow-up with the victim is just making the bully mad and leaving them alone to take out their frustrations on someone who can't or won't fight back. The mom might feel good about herself for "doing the right thing" but it didn't actually improve the situation for anyone involved.
@@corbiepayneTo be fair, from the sound of it, OP didn't give her mother any reason to follow up- she literally joined the bullies. If she had let things continue, and told her mom, we don't know what she would have done. Either way, it's rich of her to criticize her mom's place in this after what she did.
@@hmnhntr So are we pretending that OP wasn't also a victim in all of this? 1. She was a child. You aren't born with emotional maturity. 2. Fear is a _very_ strong emotion, there's a reason why heroes are idolised a lot. Bravery is cool mostly because of its contrast with fear. Blaming her for being scared is bullshit, the teacher and the 2 bullies are absolutely in the wrong here and are the ones that should be focused on. Also, what is the principal doing about this?? Nothing??
The stealing one always scares me. I stole a gummy worm from our local grocery store as a kid, but never anything after that. I was using self checkout at target like always and didn’t see the $3 small thing of heavy whipping cream in the bottom corner of my cart. I got out to my car and noticed it wasn’t bagged. It’s been a year and I’ve been wondering if target has me on their list with just that one item.😂 I stood in the parking lot trying to figure out if I go back in and say I forgot and they side eye me , or if I just go home….. I went home 😭
I think you’re fine but I would obsess over the exact same thing. Is there another target in your area or is that your only one? I believe they only call the cops after you’ve crossed a legal threshold of how much in total you’ve stolen
@@eggnogalcoholic I mean there are like two others near by, but this one is like 3 miles away and my go to. After all the body cam videos I watch, it appears I have to hit a threshold so I know I will forever be good since I TRIPLE check my cart Everytime now, but I still feel like the worse person ever 🤣
I mean I'd totally stress out too, but realistically you have about 360 more things of whipping cream until that amounts to real charges so you should be fine, honestly And if there's someone you really don't need to have much qualms about stealing from it's a giant ass moral-free conglomerate like target
One time my hands were full because I'm stubborn about pushing a cart when I don't really need one. I put lipstick and eyeliner in my jacket pocket because I kept dropping them. Forgot about them until I got to my car and I felt horrible. 😭 I was on the phone with someone during the whole shopping trip, so I told him and asked if I should go back in and confess and pay. He said, "What? Are you stupid?! GO HOME! Go, go!!"
I remember when I was a kid I would have nightmares about the cops coming after for like a year. It’s because one time at a frozen yogurt place where they measured your order by weight. At this place I had gotten a topping on my frozen yogurt. (The cost of the frozen yogurt was the total weight after toppings had been added). The thing is I had never had this topping before. So I tried a little tiny piece of it before weighing and I was worried I would be arrested for stealing (Looking back I doubt the piece was big enough to even effect the scale)
it took over 20 years for me to find out I have dyscalculia & that's why I struggled so horribly with math in school but got straight As in everything else. I figured out how to count change back from pennies up ($20.32 bill, $21 payment = 3 pennies 1 nickel 1 dime 2 quarters) but they still throw me off giving me extra money trying to get back a $5 or something so I just put all the change back and restart the counting process, or whip out a calculator if I'm really confused lol.
Yeah as soon as I learned about what dyscalculia was I went to my parents and asked to get tested by my school. I was about 16. Turns out it's rarely tested for and comorbid with a lot of other developmental disabilities, like ADHD and Autism. It wasn't until I was 26 and still struggling till I was diagnosed with both. I would say dyscalculia affected me more first than the AuDHD though. I can mask my social and attention deficits enough to appear normal for a period of time, but I absolutely physically cannot do mental math, read or comprehend time reliably, write numbers the right way every time, etc.
2:42 That is absolutely worse than being the bully in the first place. How old was OP? They seriously gave their one friend lifelong trauma to keep a secret from mean girls she doesn’t even speak to anymore?
@@flarewolf120X I heard that part after I posted. For some reason going back and editing feels disingenuous - some people have called it out, thinking I edited after their comments, when really it was just a typo or (like above) the video added context. Maybe I’m overthinking it.
@@j.p.6932 No problem! It happens to all of us. It’s not that you aren’t paying attention, You just commented before you had the knowledge and you admitted to it. You are better then most of the commenters I’ve seen across multiple channels
I was taking my Module 2 for my unrestricted bike license, and I'm just terrible with any signage that points to a location. Anyway, after taking many wrong turns, my examiner radioed me to pull over, pulled up beside me, and blurted out, "Are you dyslexic? You seem to be having trouble with signs." I just nodded and put my head down (I'm not dyslexic). He then perked right up and said, "You should have told me from the start." He asked, "Do you know your left from your right?" I nodded again, and from that point, this man became the clearest and most concise sat nav. He restarted the test from that point and gave detailed instructions at every junction and roundabout. He even gave notes about road positioning and how I could improve. Honestly, a top bloke. I passed with one minor for speed when he could have failed me from the start.
I mean if you’re fine at riding it’s cool. When I took my riding test where I live our instructor was a stand in and was clueless as to how the test goes. Everybody passed even the people who were a danger on the road. Saw one guy dragging his feet on the concrete while trying to ride slow. Hope they’re all still alive.
In 6th grade, i would constantly steal from my school cafeteria. Mine has a freezer with ice cream snacks you can buy with your own money, i would just pocket one, get my meal, and then enjoy my free ice cream and forget about my school slop. Over the month, i started to get a thrill from it. I was stealing up to 3 ice cream snacks a day, plus maybe a drink if i was feeling thirsty. The lunch ladies began catching on and i stopped, intending to continue after the suspicion had died down. But, then, i never did. I was scared to get caught, and i never did get into that klepto zone. I still sometimes dig into my siblings’ stuff and steal from their candy stash if it was Halloween. Stealing gives me a thrill, but i’d never do it from actual stores or anything.. i still feel bad 3 years later.
6:08 As someone who was severely dyslexic as a child (not just in reading, but math, spelling, and writing as well) yes, I can relate to this. I have all versions of it, Dyslexia, dyscalculia, dysgraphia, etc. I was one of the first kids to get the new dyslexia therapy/diagnosis (the one where they use screens, this was back in like 2010 or something) and i didn’t learn to properly read and spell until i had the motivation to (which was through gaming and reading stuff online) now, i can read and spell just fine. Also, fun fact: people who have dyslexia are said to have really good problem solving skills. Because their brain works differently, and because of their disabilities, they have to find different solutions to learn. Dyslexia is weird, man
Lol that second story is so relatable! I worked as a cashier for years and this happened to me all the time. I just assumed whatever number they gave me was correct and usually it was. Once I became a manager and had to count money more I got a bit better. Surprisingly, what helped me the most was actually gacha games and having to calculate stats. I still have to calculate change every once in a while at my new workplace, but I have no problems whipping out a calculator this time!
4:50 OP is talking about dyscalculia, not dyslexia (one’s numbers, the others’s letters). However, even if OP isn’t suffering from dyscalculia, It’s not necessarily an indicator of stupidity, but social anxiety. I took calculus in HS and graduated with honors, but if I’m put on the spot and have to do math in my head in front of strangers (especially a customer when working retail in college) all the sudden it takes me forever. On the other hand, some people just aren’t good at match. ETA I freeze up in front of strangers, but if they say the number, I can confirm it in my head really quickly.
Ain’t no way that turbo guy just called an 11 year old a weak coward and said the mother who caused the reaction by making the situation worse did the right thing💀
Dyscalculia, ya'll have dyscalculia. It blows, I know... That first story sounds like what happened to me in fifth grade, but that was 1993...in 95' I began homeschooling myself and graduated several years early. I hope the bullied "bucktooth" girl's life improved too.
I have dyscalcia. I hate having to count back change. I usually have yo do it twice to make sure ai didn't mess up. I used to have to say, "My brain doesn't work that way. Please let me count to make sure you are getting the right amount back. I would hate to give you less than you are owed."
First story? I agree with turbo. I was bullied and my friends never gave a shit. When the girl that bullied me bullied other people, I’d confront her even if it meant I’d be the target again. Kids should know at school age that bullying isn’t okay and neither is standing by. The parents of these kids really failed.
This. Plus the fact that she thinks what her mother did was wrong...she clearly still thinks the path of least resistance was the best path. She's just sad that path became one that required betraying her friend.
The teacher is the main issue here. After all, the teacher is a grown ass adult bullying 11-12 year olds. Plus, considering how she said she had no friends, she probably lacked a shit ton of confidence, and it resulted in her not standing up for herself or her friend.
@hmnhntr you must've never gone through something like that huh? I've been through similar and made the mistake of speaking up about it and was treated like shit until I got to middle school across town. Teachers didn't do shit because I called them out for being part of it.
That last story just sounds like a socially awkward crush, the only odd part is that they gave their number to the coworker after visiting several times presumably without speaking to the person and then telling them off by text. Certainly doesn't sound stalkerly, only visited their workplace a bit often without crossing the boundary of strangers. Then when they tried to cross that boundary indirectly it was seen as weird (which it was, but people can be shy and end up looking weird) and reacted poorly when told thus (assuming the conversation was as simple as this post made it seem.)
The thief story: The person says they could afford the stuff they steal, so they're basically just a bad person. You might think it's fine because it's a store/possibly owned by a big corporation, but they make up for the losses by raising prices for everyone, by locking items up and making them less convenient to buy, by putting cameras everywhere, etc. All of those measures cost more money, and those costs aren't going to be eaten by the head honchos. Instead, companies will raise prices, potentially cut corners with safety, lay people off and fire them if it was their department, etc. So when you steal from stores, you're really just making life worse for everyone who shops there. Not to mention more expensive. And you're not even hurting the big corporation, which is some people's argument for why it's OK or even why they do it. And if it's a small store... well, that's even worse. Because they can't easily raise their prices more, and they can't afford to lock their items all up or put in extra cameras. Instead, they eat those losses and eventually, if it keeps happening, they go out of business. Even if you can't stand the owner of that business, it's just not cool to do that to someone. Ultimately, there's no such thing as "just stealing from a store." Stores are run by people, staffed by people, and shopped in by people. At best, you're stealing from your community and the workers who staff the store.
I have dyscalculia. Wasn't diagnosed as a kid (neither was my autism), and finding this out as an adult was weird. Since, y'know, adults around me just thought I wasn't trying in math because I didn't like it or something. I can do some sorts of math, like counting by 2s or 10s. But there are a lot of things where my brain kinda just malfunctions. I was once asked in an assessment for something recently to count down from 100 by 7s. I said 93, but after that I had to use my fingers. (and I still somehow managed to get confused)
21:01 - The post by the outside naked guy was fantastic, however the 1st reply, "I once showered in a hurricane. It was fabulous." I was not prepared for that one and it just sent me off, and so now I have to go! LMFAO 🤣💀
Never lie on a job application, really don't. If you get found it is grounds for instant dismissal. Even worse if after 15 years you manage to annoy someone and then they find out you lied.....
Compulsive lying can come from childhood trauma That's where mine came from I have adhd to, but I'm pretty sure it doesn't come with that Who knows though, I'm not a brain doctor
It's definitely from trauma 9 times out of 10. It comes from being punished for telling the truth. If the punishment for telling the truth is extreme, and the punishment for lying as also extreme, then eventually a kid will start lying to avoid the extreme punishment. Because, if you get away with the lie, you might not have to deal with a punishment at all. At least that was my logic as a kid.
the kleptomania one - as long as its a big store, such as your Walmart, Target, etc (sorry i dont know many american stores lmao), they are 100% insured for everything in there and you stealing does not effect their profits at all
5:43 I think this just solved my problem and why anything math related etc is really hard for me especially simple things like counting by 2's or counting change I'm actually terrified of getting a job where id have to count money cause I don't want people to think I'm stupid I should definitely bring this up with my doctor
Wait, fire alarm kid's improvised reasoning/excuse in the principal's office (at merely 5 years old) was actually so smart? Kids are clever as heck lol
Hot take: allow people who may not be fully qualified as if it's a very specific thing it's not like everybody is gonna know how to do it. You learn through experience, but sometimes people just don't get the chance to learn, and that job may be their only chance...
I disagree about the naked thing. I don’t like being naked since I don’t like feeling exposed (it might have something to do with me being trans and not having done any HRT but idk)
we come naked into the world and we go naked in the end. so, what would you lose on the way in between. Nothing would you lose. i go three times a week to a finish sauna. beeing naked is mandatory i have seen so many not so beautiful bodies, including mine, that idgaf. BUT we have mixed groups for trans and not trans AND only trans groups since 2022. they even have a self help group specifically about THIS problem. maybe something similar is near you and can help you to get more body positivity? take care and dont be ashamed about your body, because thats sad and unnecessary
Same. I’m also trans and dislike seeing myself naked (not because I hate my body but because it makes me uncomfortable) so I can’t relate at all to that story.
SAME WITH THE MATH THING TOO OH MY GOSH ughhh, i suuuper struggle with number based info and math oh my gosh, i didnt even know that was a thing... Dyscalculia....wow, well I learned something new and WHY IVE STRUGGLED SO MUCH :0....dang!! This just blew my mind!!!
16:42 THIS IS AN ADHD THING??? that actually makes so much sense, I’ll lie to my friends all the time about things that literally don’t matter. instead of telling them I couldn’t go to the party cus I was at the mall with my partner and another friend bc I made those plans weeks in advance, I told them that I had to watch my friends sisters at the mall???? like why did I do that? and if i get a good grade on a test I’ll say “i barely passed it” when I very clearly did good??? I’ll also say that i did things at slightly different times than I actually did and i have no idea why. my most common one is a less small lie, more like lying about how i got cuts and scars, i know my friends won’t judge me or so anything to hurt me, but i just blatantly lie to them all the time despite them being open and honest with me
I know everyone is different but, I was born in '81 and we had to learn the value of change and how to break down bills in math class. My jobs later in life where I had to run the cash register, it was also reinforced how to make change and using the lowest amount of coins and bills back. Like I said, I know that not everybody is the same and some people just have an easier time with addition and subtraction.
I have dyscalculia and dyslexia! I cannot do mental math to save my life, and my brain likes to switch numbers around, especially in phone numbers (like in the last for, say it's 1234, my brain will often switch the last two, so it'd be 1243). I'm not bad at math, but I have to write it out and take my time with it. My teachers in high school loved that I showed my work and every step so they could point out exactly where I messed up.
Well at least Robin learned that his “dumbness” is actually ’Discalculia’ and he can now seek the proper help for it if he wants…! 😅 *Also: “a job that needs 150 years experience and a PhD in “butt mechanics” 😆🤣😂
As for the first one I can sort of relate. I have severe social anxiety and I moved around A LOT. As a result my best friend was usually whatever girl was the outcast at that school. I recall once another couple of girls pulling me into a closet and being like, "you don't REALLY like , do you?" and convincing me to say something mean about her. I only said whatever I said in the closet though and never to her. Don't remember what it was, I was only about 7 or 8 at the time. Doesn't stop me from feeling guilty about it to this day. Fast forward a few years into 5th grade and my best friend at a new school. Of course all the other girls disliked her (she was Pakistani in a VERY rich white school. I wasn't rich either and she and i lived in the same apartment complex.) Well we were friends through to the middle of 6th grade when we moved again and I've sadly lost touch. But during that time was a lot of girl drama. I recall once she and i were at odds for some reason and the popular girls were trying to get me to hang out with them. They wanted me to tell secrets about her so I told them what boy she liked but they already knew that. I don't know what other information they got out of me but there had to be something as she and i fought for a week. Eventually, however, we made up and decided to get the rich girls back. We drew naughty pictures and wrote notes saying they were from some of the boys saying that now that we knew how to do it (we'd just had sex ed.) that we should get together and do it. Then we slipped them in their bags. Well, that backfired, obviously, as they showed them to the teacher and our parents were called. We each blamed the other which kinda worked as our parents went easy on us and we were still friends. I wish I could find her but i'm pretty sure she's changed her last name since then. Ah well.
I think the drowning one is fake. I just don't find it believable. I could be wrong, but the perspective is weird for a 10 year old, and the ingrained reflex that prevents mammals from drowning doesn't seem like something that easily bypassed.
5:35 dyscalculia is a thing and OP might have it. You a clot of dyslexic people know the theory sometimes even better that average to compensate. It’s not about being stupid it’s about the brain defaulting to a way of processing patterns that isn’t compatible with they systems your community defaults to which is why for example some Spanish speakers don’t know they’re dyslexic until they try to learn English because it’s just a language more compatible with the dyslexic though patterns
I purposefully almost drowned myself aswell. Not to get saved by some hot lifeguard. Rather because I'm stupid and wanted to get back at my brother. He claims it was about a Barbie but I vividly remember it was about him. We were invited to go to the pool by a friend of my mom. She had three kids at the time. I brought my arm floaties with me as I wasn't able to swim yet. I think my brother was able to somewhat swim but was either really slow at it or couldn't swim that long. So he kept pressing me as he does about giving him my arm floaties. I said no plenty of times. He kept pestering me about it so much I wanted him to shut up so I gave him those. When I realized what I had done and that I was stuck in the kiddie side of the pool as I couldn't swim I got angry. I was most likely angry at him for not bringing some to use. I don't think they were even his size and weight as I was and am much smaller than him. So I impulsively moved the plastic thingy that sectioned the pool and swam in the side I wasn't able to swim in and legit started to drown. Like going up and down drown. I was saved by a lifeguard and as always my brother kept blaming me for being stupid rather than admit he was wrong to push me. He knew I would cave because he was bothering me so so much. Little did I know I am autistic and have adhd.
Dyslexia, dyscalcuila, and dyspraxia. Words, math co ordination. All individual but if you have one there is a higher likely hood of having another. Dyslexics having bad hand wrighting? Mild form of dyspraxia or a side affect of growing up trying to hide the dyslexia under messy hand wrighting(me). There also some fun memory side affects if you have it bad enough.
I have dyslexia and dyscalculia, and... yeah. They definitely bleed into each other. My bad hands writing is entirely me though, I accidentally started incorporating cursive into my normal writing and it just... made it loopy hell. I'm not dysgraphic. And my bad balance is hypermobility. Which... ironically, makes me more likely to have the "dys's".
@@transsnack I grew up wrighting cursive but at some point in primary I realised my spelling got graded better if the teachers couldn’t read it. I can wright ‘clean and tidy’ but it’s something I need to actually put effort into. I still keep swapping b d p around and stupidly enough that’s my biggest issue these days XD
There is a bit of an overlap between dyslexia and dysgraphia. I'm really good at spelling and most grammar and punctuation rules verbally and digitally(?), but when it comes to drawing or writing by hand I absolutely begin to struggle and make the most dumb mistakes. Not only that, but it takes me significantly longer to write anything and I have given myself false burns from how hard I grip pens during prolonged sessions of writing. For clarity, I have dysgraphia, but not dyslexia. I enjoy writing and reading and feel like I would be significantly more annoyed if I had the latter; not saying people with dyslexia can't enjoy those things, but if I were to suddenly develop dyslexia, I would definitely struggle way more than I could handle.
12:37 the funny thing is that u can lie.. and do well.. you only need to get in the imaginary door they put in front of you... it's a shame ppl have to lie, cuz regular ppl aren't enough for jobs anymore xd
story 1: she says pretty blatantly in her first reply that she wouldn't stand up for her own kid the way her mother stood up for her and "Anna". She's still a coward. Edit after reading another reply: at 11, I understand being embarrassed about your mommy coming to school to deal with your bullies, and she probably should have (and may have, the story doesn't say) told her mom that her teacher was the ringleader so that it could have been dealt with effectively. I don't know that even at 11, I would have made the same mean girl choices, hindsight is 20/20 and all, but by the time I was in my 20s I certainly would have (and have) stood up for the children in my life.
The mom didn't do anything wrong, but the principal definitely did. Like... Jesus. A parent just reported extreme bullying, and your first response is to put the victim on the spot with the bullies then *leave the victim alone with them.* Wtf?
100% she's still a coward who will let other people suffer for her convenience I'm a massive coward, and I was still able to stick by my friends when people bullied them
Holy shit... I think I have dyscalcula. That would explain so damn much. Math was my most hated subject in school. I couldn't grasp it. My father used to get so frustrated with me when he'd have to repeat steps. 😅 I miss him. I'm 42 now and i feel like I've wasted so much of my life thinking i was really stupid for not grasping math well. Well, i guess better late than never. At least i have a reason for it all. I love the story where the guy had his bi awakening at 10 because he was smitten for the lifeguard. 🤣 Definitely not smart to literally drown yourself to get his attention, but he was 10 and didn't know any better, lol. At least he lived to tell the tale. I hope he dated guys since then. Exploring one's sexuality is important for growth and acceptance. :) The story about the girl who became a mean girl kinda resonates with me. In middle school, I was bullied really badly. A couple of my "friends" tried to hook me up with a guy i barely knew. The poor guy was awkward, quiet, goth/metal fan, and never did anything wrong. I don't know if he had a crush on me at some point. I say that because i can't think of any other reason why my two "friends" chose him to pick on in that regard. One day, probably during lunch, they were doing theor usual shitty shenanigans of trying to get us to kiss and hold hands. I was so damn fed up by it that i exploded. The problem is that i aimed it at the poor guy, not the pricks who put us through that shit. I had next to no friends because of the bullying (and other personal things), so i didn't want to lose them, no matter how shitty they were. It's been around 30 years since then, and i still feel guilty about exploding at the guy. I understand that i was a child going through a lot, but man... I'd give anything to apologize to him. I don't even remember his name. -_- i hope he's doing okay these days.
Based on the nude people around 21:00, back when I was say 11 years old I had gone out into my backyard to do something, I dont even remember this was years ago. Anyway I had some fort structure that I could climb into that could see over the fence when you were in it so when I went up here I looked over to my neighbors yard to see the two people who lived there just rawdogging it. That is the first time I ever saw anyone naked, and thats how I learned what sex was.
I have a confession. I'm watching this at 1AM when i should go to sleep. I have fallen into the trap of one more video... *THRICE.* Atleast I am enjoying quality (Emkay) content
Also on the second one I don't think it's necessarily bad- like. If you're struggling tgat much it's clearly some sort of disability and saying the one people are more likely to be familiar with is ok. I have auditory processing disorder (among other things) but most strangers I meet don't know what that is, so it's easier to tell them I'm hard of hearing, and I'll get the same accommodations in conversation that I need, without a whole conversation about autism and sensory needs
4:30 - Dyslexic am I actually. And I'm not great with math. So if you're out there struggling with numbers you got my blessings to claim the dyslexia title. (Just remember you have to say it backwards when you tell folks. Like the way I did with the first sentence I wrote here.) Luck Good! 🙌 🙃🙂
3:59 She was a weak coward. I remember standing up for people at the age of 11. I remember my classmates standing up against teachers at the age of 11. She's still a coward. Her mother did the right thing. You don't, you can't fight bullying by being nice and blending in or fitting in. You fight it by fighting it. All you've done in re-enforced that that if they're mean enough and destroy enough lives, they'll get their way. In short, "The Only Thing Necessary for the Triumph of Evil is that Good Men Do Nothing". You did nothing. You let them win. And I'm sure those mean girls went on to jobs where they're bullying other people out of overtime pay, out of vacations, ruining professional lives, because someone didn't, metaphorically, punch them in face often enough for them to hesitate. And I'm sure that teacher went on to do the same thing to more kids and perpetuating this cycle. You were weak, learn from your mother. It's not fair that you had to fight but that's life. That's how some of us, sometimes all of us, have to live to survive.
my math teacher was a 20 stone bully who threw board eraser's at me I was 11 yrs old boy I fought back HARD broke my hand in the prosses he left me and the girl's alone after
6:40 Well, I disagree with Robin here somewhat. I was much better at doing math in my head before I could rely on a calculator and didn’t need to do it. It’s kind of like how I used to know my friends’ numbers
Really happy to see some people in the comments finally being able to put a name to why they’ve struggled with numbers/math. I remember the relief I felt when I finally found out that picking your skin excessively isn’t just some weird quirk but actually something that has a name; dermatillomania (a form of OCD in most cases).
Oh shit, I have that, too... 😩
R/AITA: am I the asshole
R/Confessions: I am the asshole
maybe instead of saying "you were a weak coward" they shouldda phrased it more like "you were scared"
да. чувак, который писал комментарий, в принципе не умеет правильно мысли формулировать
I felt it was rather harsh to say about their 11 year old self in an extreme environment as well.
Today I learned that my weird struggle with numbers in my head has a name. It's difficult to explain, but even trying to use a calculator, it feels like my brain progressively slows down the more I try to solve a math problem, and there's a definite point where I switch from confusion to rage. It physically hurts my entire body to try to keep track of numbers in my head. I've been this way as long as I can remember, back to around age 5 or 6. I'm now 41, and the only thing that's changed is I've learned to not scream and cuss at the top of my lungs.
same bro, same
Same. It’s called dyscalcia. And for me it’s more weird because I love science but I guess I have some trauma with math because I am scared to learn anything. Like I think I’m scared of being wrong or something. Like if you compare math with something I like, like zoology, then I tend to not be as scared of it.
@@rhkips Does this affect math that isn't crunching numbers?
@@kricku You asked my question in fewer words than I probably would have used. I know exactly what you mean. I was utterly out of my depth in math classes all my life, but when I was in grad school, I had to take a very heavy-duty two-quarter stats sequence during Summer session, which meant I took those two killer courses in ultra-condensed five-week chunks, instead of the typical ten weeks each. By the second week, I was freaking out, until I had a revelation. _A mathematical equation is simply a description of an object or condition._ I'm a word person (obviously), and this had never, ever dawned on me before. Why don't math teachers explain it in such simple terms? It made everything make sense, which is probably why I'm 68 now, an Early Adopter, and totally at ease with computers. But what made the difference? Having a calculator to do the numbers thang left my mind free to consider the meanings behind upper-case and lower-case sigmas, deltas, and such. After the Great Revelation, the pieces fell into place like the tidiest game of Tetris you ever saw. Honest to Pete, it was like a big door to a corner of my brain was thrown open, and then the whole wall crumbled.
All this is to say, danged good question. There is a huge difference between math and arithmetic. I'm lousy at arithmetic, but surprisingly good at math.
It’s dyscalculia, not dyslexia.
Story 2 - Dyscalculia isn't faking a disability. That would be like saying someone who can't hear properly is.
I am both XD
It's so awesome how I keep discovering new stuff about myself that confirms the fact that I was just born with stuff that will make life harder for me than...well, people without these problems lmfao
Yeah, I have dyscalculia (I was diagnosed very recently but I’ve been terrible at math my entire life) and as soon as I heard the title I knew op probably had it too. That’s actually the reason I never want to work as a cashier, because I know for a fact that this would be my exact experience.
I have Dyscalculia and ADHD it sucks big time when I'm doing math.
Why tf do u meow@@eureka5635
They said they aren't lmao tf you mean
I will disagree with the OP from the first story about one thing, her mom DID do the right thing. this was not just the kids being assholes like normal. the TEACHER was involved and abused their position of power over the students that is NOT OK. and should have been stopped!
Yeah the principal of the school should’ve talked to the bullying kids parents, not just the kids.
When the teacher is the ring leader, you should first complain ABOUT the teacher, not the children. She did not do the best thing.
I'd argue that the mom didn't do the right thing, confronting an abuser without an escape plan or follow-up with the victim is just making the bully mad and leaving them alone to take out their frustrations on someone who can't or won't fight back. The mom might feel good about herself for "doing the right thing" but it didn't actually improve the situation for anyone involved.
@@corbiepayneTo be fair, from the sound of it, OP didn't give her mother any reason to follow up- she literally joined the bullies. If she had let things continue, and told her mom, we don't know what she would have done.
Either way, it's rich of her to criticize her mom's place in this after what she did.
@@hmnhntr So are we pretending that OP wasn't also a victim in all of this?
1. She was a child. You aren't born with emotional maturity.
2. Fear is a _very_ strong emotion, there's a reason why heroes are idolised a lot. Bravery is cool mostly because of its contrast with fear. Blaming her for being scared is bullshit, the teacher and the 2 bullies are absolutely in the wrong here and are the ones that should be focused on. Also, what is the principal doing about this?? Nothing??
The stealing one always scares me. I stole a gummy worm from our local grocery store as a kid, but never anything after that. I was using self checkout at target like always and didn’t see the $3 small thing of heavy whipping cream in the bottom corner of my cart. I got out to my car and noticed it wasn’t bagged. It’s been a year and I’ve been wondering if target has me on their list with just that one item.😂 I stood in the parking lot trying to figure out if I go back in and say I forgot and they side eye me , or if I just go home….. I went home 😭
I think you’re fine but I would obsess over the exact same thing. Is there another target in your area or is that your only one? I believe they only call the cops after you’ve crossed a legal threshold of how much in total you’ve stolen
@@eggnogalcoholic I mean there are like two others near by, but this one is like 3 miles away and my go to. After all the body cam videos I watch, it appears I have to hit a threshold so I know I will forever be good since I TRIPLE check my cart Everytime now, but I still feel like the worse person ever 🤣
I mean I'd totally stress out too, but realistically you have about 360 more things of whipping cream until that amounts to real charges so you should be fine, honestly
And if there's someone you really don't need to have much qualms about stealing from it's a giant ass moral-free conglomerate like target
One time my hands were full because I'm stubborn about pushing a cart when I don't really need one. I put lipstick and eyeliner in my jacket pocket because I kept dropping them. Forgot about them until I got to my car and I felt horrible. 😭 I was on the phone with someone during the whole shopping trip, so I told him and asked if I should go back in and confess and pay. He said, "What? Are you stupid?! GO HOME! Go, go!!"
I remember when I was a kid I would have nightmares about the cops coming after for like a year. It’s because one time at a frozen yogurt place where they measured your order by weight. At this place I had gotten a topping on my frozen yogurt. (The cost of the frozen yogurt was the total weight after toppings had been added). The thing is I had never had this topping before. So I tried a little tiny piece of it before weighing and I was worried I would be arrested for stealing (Looking back I doubt the piece was big enough to even effect the scale)
it took over 20 years for me to find out I have dyscalculia & that's why I struggled so horribly with math in school but got straight As in everything else. I figured out how to count change back from pennies up ($20.32 bill, $21 payment = 3 pennies 1 nickel 1 dime 2 quarters) but they still throw me off giving me extra money trying to get back a $5 or something so I just put all the change back and restart the counting process, or whip out a calculator if I'm really confused lol.
Yeah as soon as I learned about what dyscalculia was I went to my parents and asked to get tested by my school. I was about 16. Turns out it's rarely tested for and comorbid with a lot of other developmental disabilities, like ADHD and Autism. It wasn't until I was 26 and still struggling till I was diagnosed with both.
I would say dyscalculia affected me more first than the AuDHD though. I can mask my social and attention deficits enough to appear normal for a period of time, but I absolutely physically cannot do mental math, read or comprehend time reliably, write numbers the right way every time, etc.
I have NLD (non-verbal learning disability) and I CANNOT do math for shit. Anything other than the basics generally requires a calculator.
20:21 “Oh you SL_T”
God damn it Robin, That broke me! 😂
can I have my beans back
NO
NO
You can’t
Beans
nuh uh
2:42 That is absolutely worse than being the bully in the first place.
How old was OP? They seriously gave their one friend lifelong trauma to keep a secret from mean girls she doesn’t even speak to anymore?
She said she was 11 years old when this happened.
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I heard that part after I posted. For some reason going back and editing feels disingenuous - some people have called it out, thinking I edited after their comments, when really it was just a typo or (like above) the video added context. Maybe I’m overthinking it.
@@j.p.6932 Most likely overthinking, Plus I feel like that is what a comment section should be about, Talking about the video and helping others
@@flarewolf120X
That is a very good point; thank you.
I suppose it does make it seem like I don’t pay attention.
@@j.p.6932 No problem! It happens to all of us. It’s not that you aren’t paying attention, You just commented before you had the knowledge and you admitted to it. You are better then most of the commenters I’ve seen across multiple channels
I was taking my Module 2 for my unrestricted bike license, and I'm just terrible with any signage that points to a location. Anyway, after taking many wrong turns, my examiner radioed me to pull over, pulled up beside me, and blurted out, "Are you dyslexic? You seem to be having trouble with signs." I just nodded and put my head down (I'm not dyslexic). He then perked right up and said, "You should have told me from the start." He asked, "Do you know your left from your right?" I nodded again, and from that point, this man became the clearest and most concise sat nav. He restarted the test from that point and gave detailed instructions at every junction and roundabout. He even gave notes about road positioning and how I could improve. Honestly, a top bloke. I passed with one minor for speed when he could have failed me from the start.
I mean if you’re fine at riding it’s cool. When I took my riding test where I live our instructor was a stand in and was clueless as to how the test goes.
Everybody passed even the people who were a danger on the road. Saw one guy dragging his feet on the concrete while trying to ride slow. Hope they’re all still alive.
story 2- I have dyscalculia! It's real & can be extremely stressful, it's just as valid as dyslexia or any other learning disability.
Turbo from that first story, wtf are you expecting out of an 11 yr old?
And that's why we have bullying 🎉
I feel like 11 years old is enough to understand how cruel bullying is.
Fr
Better. They expected better.
@@arlokloiber2715 They certainly didn't sound like it.
important question: when you hear the phrase 'spill the beans' do you imagine dried or cooked beans? what type of beans?
i imagine steamy cooked pinto beans and chicken
and i would be devastated if i spilt said beans
Dry
i always think of like tinned baked beans
Baked beans
In 6th grade, i would constantly steal from my school cafeteria. Mine has a freezer with ice cream snacks you can buy with your own money, i would just pocket one, get my meal, and then enjoy my free ice cream and forget about my school slop. Over the month, i started to get a thrill from it. I was stealing up to 3 ice cream snacks a day, plus maybe a drink if i was feeling thirsty. The lunch ladies began catching on and i stopped, intending to continue after the suspicion had died down. But, then, i never did. I was scared to get caught, and i never did get into that klepto zone. I still sometimes dig into my siblings’ stuff and steal from their candy stash if it was Halloween. Stealing gives me a thrill, but i’d never do it from actual stores or anything.. i still feel bad 3 years later.
6:08 As someone who was severely dyslexic as a child (not just in reading, but math, spelling, and writing as well) yes, I can relate to this.
I have all versions of it, Dyslexia, dyscalculia, dysgraphia, etc. I was one of the first kids to get the new dyslexia therapy/diagnosis (the one where they use screens, this was back in like 2010 or something) and i didn’t learn to properly read and spell until i had the motivation to (which was through gaming and reading stuff online) now, i can read and spell just fine. Also, fun fact: people who have dyslexia are said to have really good problem solving skills. Because their brain works differently, and because of their disabilities, they have to find different solutions to learn. Dyslexia is weird, man
Lol that second story is so relatable! I worked as a cashier for years and this happened to me all the time. I just assumed whatever number they gave me was correct and usually it was. Once I became a manager and had to count money more I got a bit better. Surprisingly, what helped me the most was actually gacha games and having to calculate stats. I still have to calculate change every once in a while at my new workplace, but I have no problems whipping out a calculator this time!
4:50 OP is talking about dyscalculia, not dyslexia (one’s numbers, the others’s letters). However, even if OP isn’t suffering from dyscalculia, It’s not necessarily an indicator of stupidity, but social anxiety. I took calculus in HS and graduated with honors, but if I’m put on the spot and have to do math in my head in front of strangers (especially a customer when working retail in college) all the sudden it takes me forever.
On the other hand, some people just aren’t good at match.
ETA
I freeze up in front of strangers, but if they say the number, I can confirm it in my head really quickly.
Are you kidding me, I learn about dyscalculia from an Emkay video, after OVER 40 YEARS on this planet...
Ain’t no way that turbo guy just called an 11 year old a weak coward and said the mother who caused the reaction by making the situation worse did the right thing💀
The mother was reporting the TEACHER for bullying a MINOR! The mom did the right thing.
@@cutienerdgirl they didn’t tell her to report the teacher because thet knew it would make it worse
No she didn’t
Dyscalculia, ya'll have dyscalculia. It blows, I know...
That first story sounds like what happened to me in fifth grade, but that was 1993...in 95' I began homeschooling myself and graduated several years early. I hope the bullied "bucktooth" girl's life improved too.
Thank you!
I have dyscalcia. I hate having to count back change. I usually have yo do it twice to make sure ai didn't mess up. I used to have to say, "My brain doesn't work that way. Please let me count to make sure you are getting the right amount back. I would hate to give you less than you are owed."
First story? I agree with turbo. I was bullied and my friends never gave a shit. When the girl that bullied me bullied other people, I’d confront her even if it meant I’d be the target again. Kids should know at school age that bullying isn’t okay and neither is standing by. The parents of these kids really failed.
This. Plus the fact that she thinks what her mother did was wrong...she clearly still thinks the path of least resistance was the best path. She's just sad that path became one that required betraying her friend.
The teacher is the main issue here. After all, the teacher is a grown ass adult bullying 11-12 year olds. Plus, considering how she said she had no friends, she probably lacked a shit ton of confidence, and it resulted in her not standing up for herself or her friend.
@hmnhntr you must've never gone through something like that huh? I've been through similar and made the mistake of speaking up about it and was treated like shit until I got to middle school across town. Teachers didn't do shit because I called them out for being part of it.
@Supermario64fangd better to be treated like shit than to treat others like shit.
"I slipped on mah beans"
*ere lemme help you up there rita"
That last story just sounds like a socially awkward crush, the only odd part is that they gave their number to the coworker after visiting several times presumably without speaking to the person and then telling them off by text. Certainly doesn't sound stalkerly, only visited their workplace a bit often without crossing the boundary of strangers. Then when they tried to cross that boundary indirectly it was seen as weird (which it was, but people can be shy and end up looking weird) and reacted poorly when told thus (assuming the conversation was as simple as this post made it seem.)
The thief story: The person says they could afford the stuff they steal, so they're basically just a bad person.
You might think it's fine because it's a store/possibly owned by a big corporation, but they make up for the losses by raising prices for everyone, by locking items up and making them less convenient to buy, by putting cameras everywhere, etc. All of those measures cost more money, and those costs aren't going to be eaten by the head honchos. Instead, companies will raise prices, potentially cut corners with safety, lay people off and fire them if it was their department, etc. So when you steal from stores, you're really just making life worse for everyone who shops there. Not to mention more expensive. And you're not even hurting the big corporation, which is some people's argument for why it's OK or even why they do it.
And if it's a small store... well, that's even worse. Because they can't easily raise their prices more, and they can't afford to lock their items all up or put in extra cameras. Instead, they eat those losses and eventually, if it keeps happening, they go out of business. Even if you can't stand the owner of that business, it's just not cool to do that to someone.
Ultimately, there's no such thing as "just stealing from a store." Stores are run by people, staffed by people, and shopped in by people. At best, you're stealing from your community and the workers who staff the store.
I have dyscalculia. Wasn't diagnosed as a kid (neither was my autism), and finding this out as an adult was weird. Since, y'know, adults around me just thought I wasn't trying in math because I didn't like it or something. I can do some sorts of math, like counting by 2s or 10s. But there are a lot of things where my brain kinda just malfunctions. I was once asked in an assessment for something recently to count down from 100 by 7s. I said 93, but after that I had to use my fingers. (and I still somehow managed to get confused)
21:01 - The post by the outside naked guy was fantastic, however the 1st reply,
"I once showered in a hurricane. It was fabulous."
I was not prepared for that one and it just sent me off, and so now I have to go! LMFAO 🤣💀
Never lie on a job application, really don't. If you get found it is grounds for instant dismissal. Even worse if after 15 years you manage to annoy someone and then they find out you lied.....
Reddit is a cesspool of spilled beans
give my beans back
I absolutely want more of this subreddit!
Compulsive lying can come from childhood trauma
That's where mine came from
I have adhd to, but I'm pretty sure it doesn't come with that
Who knows though, I'm not a brain doctor
It's definitely from trauma 9 times out of 10.
It comes from being punished for telling the truth. If the punishment for telling the truth is extreme, and the punishment for lying as also extreme, then eventually a kid will start lying to avoid the extreme punishment. Because, if you get away with the lie, you might not have to deal with a punishment at all. At least that was my logic as a kid.
Me playing D&D *literally saying the equation (roll + modifier) out loud and trying to figure it out or hoping someone else does*
My eyes! They hurt from trying to read any of this video! *insert SpongeBob eye-burning GIF here*
the kleptomania one - as long as its a big store, such as your Walmart, Target, etc (sorry i dont know many american stores lmao), they are 100% insured for everything in there and you stealing does not effect their profits at all
5:43 I think this just solved my problem and why anything math related etc is really hard for me especially simple things like counting by 2's or counting change I'm actually terrified of getting a job where id have to count money cause I don't want people to think I'm stupid I should definitely bring this up with my doctor
Wait, fire alarm kid's improvised reasoning/excuse in the principal's office (at merely 5 years old) was actually so smart? Kids are clever as heck lol
My stress levels just dropped hearing your voice ❤
Hot take: allow people who may not be fully qualified as if it's a very specific thing it's not like everybody is gonna know how to do it. You learn through experience, but sometimes people just don't get the chance to learn, and that job may be their only chance...
I disagree about the naked thing. I don’t like being naked since I don’t like feeling exposed (it might have something to do with me being trans and not having done any HRT but idk)
we come naked into the world and we go naked in the end. so, what would you lose on the way in between. Nothing would you lose.
i go three times a week to a finish sauna. beeing naked is mandatory i have seen so many not so beautiful bodies, including mine, that idgaf.
BUT we have mixed groups for trans and not trans AND only trans groups since 2022. they even have a self help group specifically about THIS problem.
maybe something similar is near you and can help you to get more body positivity?
take care and dont be ashamed about your body, because thats sad and unnecessary
I wish you the best with your transition.
@@catluvr2 it’s probably gonna be a few years before I start but thank you regardless.
Same for me. Likely because of my low self esteem :^
Same. I’m also trans and dislike seeing myself naked (not because I hate my body but because it makes me uncomfortable) so I can’t relate at all to that story.
5:44 That's what I was thinking too. ironically enough, it's basically the Math version of Dyslexia, or at least that's it's closest comparison.
17:20 literally that one guy from that one movie (the sandlot i think??)
SAME WITH THE MATH THING TOO OH MY GOSH ughhh, i suuuper struggle with number based info and math oh my gosh, i didnt even know that was a thing... Dyscalculia....wow, well I learned something new and WHY IVE STRUGGLED SO MUCH :0....dang!! This just blew my mind!!!
My son's dsp (paid caretaker for a disabled person) stole $4500 from him
I made him pay us back then fired him and blocked him
16:42 THIS IS AN ADHD THING??? that actually makes so much sense, I’ll lie to my friends all the time about things that literally don’t matter. instead of telling them I couldn’t go to the party cus I was at the mall with my partner and another friend bc I made those plans weeks in advance, I told them that I had to watch my friends sisters at the mall???? like why did I do that? and if i get a good grade on a test I’ll say “i barely passed it” when I very clearly did good??? I’ll also say that i did things at slightly different times than I actually did and i have no idea why. my most common one is a less small lie, more like lying about how i got cuts and scars, i know my friends won’t judge me or so anything to hurt me, but i just blatantly lie to them all the time despite them being open and honest with me
I know everyone is different but, I was born in '81 and we had to learn the value of change and how to break down bills in math class. My jobs later in life where I had to run the cash register, it was also reinforced how to make change and using the lowest amount of coins and bills back. Like I said, I know that not everybody is the same and some people just have an easier time with addition and subtraction.
I'm at a breaking point where i take the bots out of context and suddenly it sounds funny
I have dyscalculia and dyslexia! I cannot do mental math to save my life, and my brain likes to switch numbers around, especially in phone numbers (like in the last for, say it's 1234, my brain will often switch the last two, so it'd be 1243). I'm not bad at math, but I have to write it out and take my time with it. My teachers in high school loved that I showed my work and every step so they could point out exactly where I messed up.
Well at least Robin learned that his “dumbness” is actually ’Discalculia’ and he can now seek the proper help for it if he wants…! 😅
*Also:
“a job that needs 150 years experience and a PhD in “butt mechanics” 😆🤣😂
Calling an 11 year old a "weak coward" is certainly one way to look at that
As for the first one I can sort of relate. I have severe social anxiety and I moved around A LOT. As a result my best friend was usually whatever girl was the outcast at that school. I recall once another couple of girls pulling me into a closet and being like, "you don't REALLY like , do you?" and convincing me to say something mean about her. I only said whatever I said in the closet though and never to her. Don't remember what it was, I was only about 7 or 8 at the time. Doesn't stop me from feeling guilty about it to this day. Fast forward a few years into 5th grade and my best friend at a new school. Of course all the other girls disliked her (she was Pakistani in a VERY rich white school. I wasn't rich either and she and i lived in the same apartment complex.) Well we were friends through to the middle of 6th grade when we moved again and I've sadly lost touch. But during that time was a lot of girl drama. I recall once she and i were at odds for some reason and the popular girls were trying to get me to hang out with them. They wanted me to tell secrets about her so I told them what boy she liked but they already knew that. I don't know what other information they got out of me but there had to be something as she and i fought for a week.
Eventually, however, we made up and decided to get the rich girls back. We drew naughty pictures and wrote notes saying they were from some of the boys saying that now that we knew how to do it (we'd just had sex ed.) that we should get together and do it. Then we slipped them in their bags. Well, that backfired, obviously, as they showed them to the teacher and our parents were called. We each blamed the other which kinda worked as our parents went easy on us and we were still friends.
I wish I could find her but i'm pretty sure she's changed her last name since then. Ah well.
oooh more of this sub please! this was fun!
ah yes, EmKay, beans, lovely beans
Thanks for the anime rec editor (who is NOT NAMED IN THE DESCRIPTION)
Luckily the girls that bullied me in elementary & middle school got karma, when i heard that i got so happy & said "karma is a bitch."
as someone with dyscalculia, yes. you've probably got dyscalculia 😅
I love how half of these were children or people with mental problems and the other half were just the average person on a Tuesday
I think the drowning one is fake. I just don't find it believable. I could be wrong, but the perspective is weird for a 10 year old, and the ingrained reflex that prevents mammals from drowning doesn't seem like something that easily bypassed.
Ah, WHICH politician is the "I lied to get my job" by? It could be anyone as it it THE most important job requirement.
This subreddit is making me realize how many redditors have actual jobs.
5:35 dyscalculia is a thing and OP might have it. You a clot of dyslexic people know the theory sometimes even better that average to compensate. It’s not about being stupid it’s about the brain defaulting to a way of processing patterns that isn’t compatible with they systems your community defaults to which is why for example some Spanish speakers don’t know they’re dyslexic until they try to learn English because it’s just a language more compatible with the dyslexic though patterns
I purposefully almost drowned myself aswell. Not to get saved by some hot lifeguard. Rather because I'm stupid and wanted to get back at my brother. He claims it was about a Barbie but I vividly remember it was about him. We were invited to go to the pool by a friend of my mom. She had three kids at the time. I brought my arm floaties with me as I wasn't able to swim yet. I think my brother was able to somewhat swim but was either really slow at it or couldn't swim that long. So he kept pressing me as he does about giving him my arm floaties. I said no plenty of times. He kept pestering me about it so much I wanted him to shut up so I gave him those. When I realized what I had done and that I was stuck in the kiddie side of the pool as I couldn't swim I got angry. I was most likely angry at him for not bringing some to use. I don't think they were even his size and weight as I was and am much smaller than him. So I impulsively moved the plastic thingy that sectioned the pool and swam in the side I wasn't able to swim in and legit started to drown. Like going up and down drown. I was saved by a lifeguard and as always my brother kept blaming me for being stupid rather than admit he was wrong to push me. He knew I would cave because he was bothering me so so much. Little did I know I am autistic and have adhd.
8:05 I am 52yrs old and still want to push the buttons that say don't do it it does not end when your grown up damit
Dyslexia, dyscalcuila, and dyspraxia. Words, math co ordination. All individual but if you have one there is a higher likely hood of having another. Dyslexics having bad hand wrighting? Mild form of dyspraxia or a side affect of growing up trying to hide the dyslexia under messy hand wrighting(me). There also some fun memory side affects if you have it bad enough.
as long as it isnt dracunculiasis, all good.
if it IS dracunculiasis, GO AWAY.
I have dyslexia and dyscalculia, and... yeah. They definitely bleed into each other.
My bad hands writing is entirely me though, I accidentally started incorporating cursive into my normal writing and it just... made it loopy hell. I'm not dysgraphic. And my bad balance is hypermobility. Which... ironically, makes me more likely to have the "dys's".
@@transsnack I grew up wrighting cursive but at some point in primary I realised my spelling got graded better if the teachers couldn’t read it. I can wright ‘clean and tidy’ but it’s something I need to actually put effort into. I still keep swapping b d p around and stupidly enough that’s my biggest issue these days XD
There is a bit of an overlap between dyslexia and dysgraphia. I'm really good at spelling and most grammar and punctuation rules verbally and digitally(?), but when it comes to drawing or writing by hand I absolutely begin to struggle and make the most dumb mistakes. Not only that, but it takes me significantly longer to write anything and I have given myself false burns from how hard I grip pens during prolonged sessions of writing. For clarity, I have dysgraphia, but not dyslexia. I enjoy writing and reading and feel like I would be significantly more annoyed if I had the latter; not saying people with dyslexia can't enjoy those things, but if I were to suddenly develop dyslexia, I would definitely struggle way more than I could handle.
With the numbers being difficult thing
That's called dyscalculia
I commented before the video showed someone else commenting it lol
my beans :(
@@YoylecakeJ YOYLECAKEJ?!
12:37
the funny thing is that u can lie.. and do well.. you only need to get in the imaginary door they put in front of you...
it's a shame ppl have to lie, cuz regular ppl aren't enough for jobs anymore xd
I first learned of dyscalculia from the show George Lopez I was 9 when I first started watching that show...😂😅
Holy crap this is the earliest I’ve ever been
Story 2: I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE
Robin can you tell me which University has the degree of butt mechanics? lol
YES MORE CONFESSIONS
story 1: she says pretty blatantly in her first reply that she wouldn't stand up for her own kid the way her mother stood up for her and "Anna". She's still a coward.
Edit after reading another reply: at 11, I understand being embarrassed about your mommy coming to school to deal with your bullies, and she probably should have (and may have, the story doesn't say) told her mom that her teacher was the ringleader so that it could have been dealt with effectively. I don't know that even at 11, I would have made the same mean girl choices, hindsight is 20/20 and all, but by the time I was in my 20s I certainly would have (and have) stood up for the children in my life.
The mom didn't do anything wrong, but the principal definitely did. Like... Jesus. A parent just reported extreme bullying, and your first response is to put the victim on the spot with the bullies then *leave the victim alone with them.* Wtf?
100% she's still a coward who will let other people suffer for her convenience
I'm a massive coward, and I was still able to stick by my friends when people bullied them
Holy shit... I think I have dyscalcula. That would explain so damn much. Math was my most hated subject in school. I couldn't grasp it. My father used to get so frustrated with me when he'd have to repeat steps. 😅 I miss him. I'm 42 now and i feel like I've wasted so much of my life thinking i was really stupid for not grasping math well. Well, i guess better late than never. At least i have a reason for it all.
I love the story where the guy had his bi awakening at 10 because he was smitten for the lifeguard. 🤣 Definitely not smart to literally drown yourself to get his attention, but he was 10 and didn't know any better, lol. At least he lived to tell the tale. I hope he dated guys since then. Exploring one's sexuality is important for growth and acceptance. :)
The story about the girl who became a mean girl kinda resonates with me. In middle school, I was bullied really badly. A couple of my "friends" tried to hook me up with a guy i barely knew. The poor guy was awkward, quiet, goth/metal fan, and never did anything wrong. I don't know if he had a crush on me at some point. I say that because i can't think of any other reason why my two "friends" chose him to pick on in that regard. One day, probably during lunch, they were doing theor usual shitty shenanigans of trying to get us to kiss and hold hands. I was so damn fed up by it that i exploded. The problem is that i aimed it at the poor guy, not the pricks who put us through that shit. I had next to no friends because of the bullying (and other personal things), so i didn't want to lose them, no matter how shitty they were.
It's been around 30 years since then, and i still feel guilty about exploding at the guy. I understand that i was a child going through a lot, but man... I'd give anything to apologize to him. I don't even remember his name. -_- i hope he's doing okay these days.
4:40 LMAO, SAME.
0:04 dont forget fullscreen.
give me my beans back 😭
Beans
Sorry ate it all *burp
Based on the nude people around 21:00, back when I was say 11 years old I had gone out into my backyard to do something, I dont even remember this was years ago. Anyway I had some fort structure that I could climb into that could see over the fence when you were in it so when I went up here I looked over to my neighbors yard to see the two people who lived there just rawdogging it. That is the first time I ever saw anyone naked, and thats how I learned what sex was.
I have a confession.
I'm watching this at 1AM when i should go to sleep.
I have fallen into the trap of one more video... *THRICE.* Atleast I am enjoying quality (Emkay) content
Go to bed now
The Trap? Thrice? (brainrot)
I’m sorry but the first story is literally just Mean Girls😭😭
Also on the second one I don't think it's necessarily bad- like. If you're struggling tgat much it's clearly some sort of disability and saying the one people are more likely to be familiar with is ok.
I have auditory processing disorder (among other things) but most strangers I meet don't know what that is, so it's easier to tell them I'm hard of hearing, and I'll get the same accommodations in conversation that I need, without a whole conversation about autism and sensory needs
i love emkay
Had comps today (dancer) and should head to bed because I got more comps tomorrow but instead I’m watching this
Oh time to spill the beans... Hi Robin!!! :D
Ah, confessions. They keep me going!
4:30 - Dyslexic am I actually.
And I'm not great with math. So if you're out there struggling with numbers you got my blessings to claim the dyslexia title. (Just remember you have to say it backwards when you tell folks. Like the way I did with the first sentence I wrote here.)
Luck Good!
🙌 🙃🙂
yeah, second one sounds like dyscalculia or being autistic. i would know, i have both and sounds a LOT like me!
3:59 She was a weak coward. I remember standing up for people at the age of 11. I remember my classmates standing up against teachers at the age of 11. She's still a coward. Her mother did the right thing. You don't, you can't fight bullying by being nice and blending in or fitting in. You fight it by fighting it. All you've done in re-enforced that that if they're mean enough and destroy enough lives, they'll get their way.
In short, "The Only Thing Necessary for the Triumph of Evil is that Good Men Do Nothing". You did nothing. You let them win. And I'm sure those mean girls went on to jobs where they're bullying other people out of overtime pay, out of vacations, ruining professional lives, because someone didn't, metaphorically, punch them in face often enough for them to hesitate. And I'm sure that teacher went on to do the same thing to more kids and perpetuating this cycle.
You were weak, learn from your mother. It's not fair that you had to fight but that's life. That's how some of us, sometimes all of us, have to live to survive.
yes! My notification!s worked!
5 second rule
The kids who say "we wont ever need this" in math class are the same ones who end up unable to count change
my math teacher was a 20 stone bully who threw board eraser's at me I was 11 yrs old boy I fought back HARD broke my hand in the prosses he left me and the girl's alone after
6:40 Well, I disagree with Robin here somewhat. I was much better at doing math in my head before I could rely on a calculator and didn’t need to do it. It’s kind of like how I used to know my friends’ numbers
the first one is just so sad :(
I went beach = I have purse
9:48 why not them 😭
This was that
What a mess you've made. Clean up those beans this instant!