BPD, Stress, and Your Weakened Immune System

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  • Опубликовано: 1 дек 2024

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  • @hannahgleason9885
    @hannahgleason9885 4 года назад +136

    I can't believe this man just puts all of these priceless tools online for us for free. What a gift.

  • @IdaBrun
    @IdaBrun 4 года назад +145

    This man needs at least 1 million more subscribers

    • @binkybunsssss
      @binkybunsssss 4 года назад +6

      True! His contents are the most informative and he speaks very clearly and succinctly!

    • @artsmith4285
      @artsmith4285 3 года назад +3

      No DOUBT .!.
      So many of US don't know we CAN feel better .. and ..
      So many of US don't know of a doctor who knows BPD .. and ..
      So many of US don't have the dollars to feel better ..
      Has He , in Heaven , sent US an Angel .?.
      MGB and keep us all

    • @thereishope1111
      @thereishope1111 3 года назад

      Art, you literally couldn’t have said it any better. Thank you!

    • @joanolisa1
      @joanolisa1 2 года назад +1

      His compassion is what I adore. ❤️

  • @BunnyUK
    @BunnyUK 4 года назад +98

    My advice for everyone: the more self-worth you have - the more positive self-regard you have, totally independent of whatever *anyone* thinks or says of you - the more stress tolerance you will feel. That's my experience, lesson, journey.

    • @zzulm
      @zzulm 4 года назад +2

      Thanks for sharing, I'm listening to self worth subconscious affirmations.

    • @colnohman5255
      @colnohman5255 4 года назад +1

      But how do you get more self worth..We cant just change the way we look. Im sure that people who are very popular and valuable to others have sky rocket self esteem, Im sure of that..

    • @ryana411
      @ryana411 3 года назад +2

      @@colnohman5255 @Col Nohman i have started self validation... not sure how recommend that is but I have recognized some of my triggers and buttons ( I crave a feeling of value) so I have just started telling myself I did good when I complete my task and move onto the next and if I cant complete a task I say S*** Happens I can come back to this later and move on to either a new task or rest some... it has made a big difference in my self worth image.... like 1 thing I can say all the time is im a D*** good cook... even though I mess up sometimes I just say live and learn and move on to a new task... I hope you find the answer that makes the most sense for you to utilize for your specific needs

    • @belle3055
      @belle3055 3 года назад +4

      @@colnohman5255 you need to find self worth / self esteem inside yourself. Not from others.

  • @myyinyang
    @myyinyang 4 года назад +35

    I’m 49. I had a mental breakdown 5 years ago that led to psychotic break, followed later that day with a suicide attempt (eh, a typical Monday : ). 10 day stay on mental health unit. Resulting in end of my 15 year marriage, and relationships w my three beautiful kids, my home; my walls collapsed. I have BP type II, and was diagnosed with BPD about 18 months ago. If one wants to go deeper than even the skills Dr. Fox identifies here, get into DBT! Get into DBT! Whether it’s a formal program, or you get your own workbook, it will give/teach/remind you of many skills to take control of, change, manage and “live a life worth living.” And when practices/uses the skills, they are empowered and enlightened. It is life-changing. Follow the spiritual path it might put you on too...

    • @Chelsealynnism
      @Chelsealynnism 4 года назад +3

      I'm so sorry. Really. That is so hard to go thru thank you for advocating for DBT. 🌻🌻🌻

    • @TheWOGTANG
      @TheWOGTANG 4 года назад +2

      Wish you well mate, It sounds like you've found some of the help you needed!

    • @colnohman5255
      @colnohman5255 4 года назад

      Sounds like a Regular mid-Life Crisis. ..I wonder if Sarcasm is a typical symptom of bpd..

    • @myyinyang
      @myyinyang 4 года назад

      @@colnohman5255 The best reply to a fool is silence.

    • @colnohman5255
      @colnohman5255 4 года назад

      @@myyinyang Dam. Then u failed..Almost had it.

  • @laurenmarie9332
    @laurenmarie9332 4 года назад +66

    I dissociate bad and when I get stressed, i get overly stressed to the point where I cant eat or sleep. Oh and then there is the negative thoughts and paranoia 🥺🙄

  • @FLHerbologistLaura
    @FLHerbologistLaura 4 года назад +33

    Perfect timing. I have BPD, I'm about to get hit by a hurricane, I own an outdoor plant nursery and I'm out of my meds. The stress energy is helping me prepare, get all the plants inside, but I'm having mini melt downs every minute. "Radical acceptance, don't explode Laura "😬 I love your workbook and videos, thank you for the tips on stress- I wrote them down to help through this.

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  4 года назад +2

      be safe!

    • @BunnyUK
      @BunnyUK 4 года назад +9

      I don't have BPD or a PD but in times of extreme relentless stress, I asked myself, "Can I cope for 60 seconds?". My answer was, yes. Then I coped for another 60 seconds, etc.

    • @KatJ3st
      @KatJ3st 4 года назад +1

      YOU SO ROCK!!!

    • @Alex-kk8is
      @Alex-kk8is 3 года назад +2

      What are the meds for BPD? I thought it was only helped with therapy! Omg I want meds

    • @FLHerbologistLaura
      @FLHerbologistLaura 3 года назад +3

      @@Alex-kk8is lololol but we have BPD! Don’t you know how much crazier that makes everything 🤣🤣🤣. Jk. Lol kinda 🙄. I’m on an antidepressant, add stimulant (my depression makes me sleep for days but I’m also being tested for narcolepsy, I’m not functioning) but it helps, I take a low dose anti seizure med, but most people prob take a mood stabilizer (used to be called antipsychotic- like serequil ) I can’t take those, they make me sleep even more. I also have c-ptsd and maybe concussion shit. Dr fox says anger is bpd, but I’ve been a scary rager since I was 12. I also take a low dose of subutex- apparently a low dose helps depression, and a long time ago I was an opiate user caught up in the pill mill crap in Florida (where I live). I’m on a lot of meds right now 🤪🤪🤣🤣😂😂 don’t go by my list!! Omg! Ketamine infusions save my life when I’m in a crisis I can’t get out of. I’ve been going to that clinic for a few years. Shit is hard right now, and I can’t even work. I’m the only parent of a 10year old and my parents help a lot. I’m putting all my energy into feeding him, loving him, etc. but I can’t do anything else. Meds help but what I was saying in the very beginning.... when I go into psychosis, I’m known to throw them all away because I totally self Sabotage like that. I get sick af lol 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ ughhhh Im waiting for dr fox workbook from amazon, and I just got approved for a psilocybin trial in Miami. Yes, I love tripping, but that’s not it. The next morning I wake up BEFORE my alarm with a smile on my face. The sun is brighter, my life isn’t hopeless. Problem is psychedelic therapy only lasts a few months for me (different for everyone) but I’ve gotten 9 months out before! You just have to keep searching until you find a good doctor like dr fox. Someone that will talk to you for an hour snd prescribe meds, that specializes in BPD. Don’t waste your time with anyone else.
      On a good year I’m flourishing with healthy food, lots of sunshine, no psych meds, just plant medicine.... this year is ... 💩☠️
      You said “omg I want meds” 🤣🤣🤣

  • @Lila7495375
    @Lila7495375 4 года назад +7

    I can't remember which video, but doc said sleep is very important especially for people with BPD. And I've noticed big difference in productivity, energy levels and mood when getting up earlier in the morning.
    I was in a bad place lots of depression and stress and it's definitely improving. Also, by cutting out eating so much sugar. I use unhealthy foods to numb me out and deal with stress, but unhealthy eating does worsen depression and stress so I end up in this cycle. I've been trying to break out now.
    I also had this big realization that endlessly complaining isn't a good thing hahaha. I have this good friend who has struggles too and while it is very cathartic and nice to just complain together and let it all out and give each other this unconditional acceptance, I've noticed it's enforced a pattern of negative thinking. So, I've been trying to focus on positive things that happen and it has been working in improving my mood too.
    Another thing is making your wellbeing a priority. My brother is almost a polar opposite of me. Very much focused on himself whereas i spent a lot of time thinking of other people's wellbeing and not so much my own. He's teaching me to be less of a people pleaser. Whenever I say no to things or stick to what I want instead of doing what somebody else might want, it gives a good feeling. It increases my confidence I would say.
    I base my entire self worth on being a good person and that means being good to others. And my brother rightfully said that makes your self value a fragile thing. I guess now I am trying to figure out what to base my self worth on instead.. It's scary trying to change your way of relating to others and yourself, but I figure change always comes with levels of discomfort

  • @jaxxpower
    @jaxxpower 4 года назад +19

    I have an extremely high stress tolerance for things such as work, etc. where most people I know get overwhelmed. However, other situations where most people are fine such as maybe not hearing back from someone after a certain amount of time (usually not very long), etc. drive my stress barometer off the charts. It’s so frustrating.

  • @jennamorden2366
    @jennamorden2366 4 года назад +3

    I was 10 seconds away from losing my temper from business stress, and did an guided anger meditation, it helped a bit but still didnt de-escalate me, then I started watching this video and it seems to have calmed me down, thankyou I share all your videos because they always help me

  • @klynn2219
    @klynn2219 4 года назад +15

    I live in Hawaii and def get stressed often; however, I’d rather experience stress on an island than in my homeland. 💙

  • @annanguyen159
    @annanguyen159 4 года назад +2

    I am reacting to this video because it is more likely that you will see the comments. I have seen two videos on BPD and I really want to thank you for your effort. I read a lot online and in books about BPD but this channel gives much better information, much more detailed and in an interesting way. You tell everything clear and direct, without all the bullshit because you summarise it all. You truly make my life easier. Thank you.

  • @chaselandriault6697
    @chaselandriault6697 Год назад

    No matter how many times i feel alone and no one understands how i feel you nail it on the head and i just how them your video! Thank you for everything you do seriously, you make dealing with everything and learning so much easier

  • @LoriDaFuque
    @LoriDaFuque 4 года назад +14

    I've been working on recovery for almost 10 years and some days I feel like I've really made an unbelievable amount of progress, but when I get stressed out, I feel like I'm in free-fall. I think I'm reaching out for help but I'm actually only flailing.
    I will sometimes manage to grab a branch to stop my fall, but it's a mesquite branch, thorns and barbs and bees. It breaks off. It's falling with me. I swing it to try to get it to snag something to slow my descent. It hits people standing cliffside. They get super angry that I'm swinging a thorny branch at them, hitting them with it, so I hit myself with it, instead. Still falling. I think to myself: "Ok, I'm supposed to stop this myself." Yet there's nothing to grab on to but myself, so me and me just fall until we either magically stop somehow or hit the bottom. Hard.
    I can't find a way to stop hating myself. I can find reasons to not hate myself but the reasons that I DO are so much more impactful. I don't like feeling this way.

  • @jamiesexton2522
    @jamiesexton2522 4 года назад +3

    This is so timely as I recently started a DBT program and we're currently covering distress tolerance. I am really impressed with DBT so far, especially since Dr. Fox's videos helped "prep" me for some of the major concepts I'm learning. Hang in there everyone!

    • @Zisjejk
      @Zisjejk Год назад

      Thank u
      I’m having my 1 st session tomorrow

  • @tinapoliti3946
    @tinapoliti3946 4 года назад +2

    I cannot even put in words how much I appreciate what you do! You have changed my life in more ways than I can even say. Thank you thank you thank you for your time and your words and your education.

  • @LaGrossePaulik
    @LaGrossePaulik 4 года назад +2

    Just a tip for those who struggle to breath with their belly: lay down or put your back (from head to lower back) on a wall, legs a little bit away from wall. Then place a hand on your chest (top of the rib cage) and the other on your belly. Try first to relax your belly, make it super big! And then try to inhale by inflating your belly, and exhale by deflating it. The hand on your chest shouldn't move so much, and the one on your belly should come and go with the diaphragm. It's easier with the back against a surface. Give it a try, I wasn't able to belly breath before, with this tip it helped 👋
    We're so used to contract our bellies, I don't know if it's to make it thinner, but it really helps to relax to breath with the belly!

  • @raider3c3k
    @raider3c3k 4 года назад +1

    I feel like I can handle a lot of stress.. but my stress is around relationships which affects every part of me, especially because I rely on others to feel okay. I’m completely aware of this... I can’t control it. It’s affecting me physically. Thank you for this Dr. Fox.

    • @raider3c3k
      @raider3c3k 4 года назад

      Thank you Priscilla.💕😘 I really try.

  • @michellelalonde5725
    @michellelalonde5725 4 года назад

    It took me eight years to figure out my ex boyfriend has BPD. I was so confused and frustrated. Every three days he would drum up some crazy drama, declare he hated me, then take 3 days to come down off the ledge when he claimed he loved me more than anyone in his entire life. He couldn’t handle ANY stress. I never could get across the idea of assertive over aggression.
    I found these videos and the scales fell from my eyes. I’m sad for the loss, but so relieved it has a name.

  • @binkybunsssss
    @binkybunsssss 4 года назад +1

    Thank you, Dr Fox! I always rewatch your videos and this one is one of the best since I think majority of ppl are struggling with stress or handling stress. Thanks for making us understand stress why it happens and let us think/contemplate to understand ourselves more. Continue sharing! You are a gift!

  • @frontporchfamilyservices8811
    @frontporchfamilyservices8811 4 года назад +4

    Love the videos! I'd love to hear more about how the body/brain reacts during stress, during BPD rage episodes, during fear responses. Physiological responses and brain/body reactions.

  • @LaGrossePaulik
    @LaGrossePaulik 4 года назад +4

    Anxiety is a big liar, that's so true, a real talented liar. I like the idea to build skills; I tend to skip this step and try out any skill straight during emotional storms, and it usually isn't very beneficial... but the comparison with ice skating is on point! I should practise more regularly. You are so sassy and facetious in this video, it's nice, that made me smile! I wish everyone a nice weekend :)

  • @danielleposton8582
    @danielleposton8582 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for videos and your kindness, patience and understanding.

  • @gtkozik
    @gtkozik 4 года назад

    Dr Fox, I purchased Your Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook. I am all about recovery and looking forward to sharpening my skills and using the tools to better deal with overhelming emotions. Thank You for the Step-By-Step guidance. Looking forward to the hidden treasures contained inside.

  • @laurieallen1267
    @laurieallen1267 4 года назад +1

    I listened to this four times! It just helped so much! I love you Dr Fox!

  • @poorva3541
    @poorva3541 4 года назад

    Dr. Fox I donot know what I would do without your videos.....you've helped me know and remember that all my unsolvable bpd created problems have solutions🌼❤

  • @favouritemusic8959
    @favouritemusic8959 4 года назад

    Thank you Dr Fox. You are a truly kind, good and healing Doctor and a credit to yourself and your parents. Mary xx

  • @gwenwatson8339
    @gwenwatson8339 3 года назад

    I love Dr. Daniels. He always hits home. I really want to see him in Woodlands. I’m not that far away.

  • @kairiverse2657
    @kairiverse2657 4 года назад

    I've just found your videos, thank you for doing this, they're amazing.
    Whenever I find videos trying to teach us how to deal with stress I find them to be unhelpful usually, too obvious or just things I've already been doing but have not helped.
    Your videos are different, I feel like you actually give a detailed enough explanation for me to learn the theory and to apply these skills in practice- without being unengaging or overwhelming. I really really appreciate your time and videos. Thank you. So much.

  • @AURIELLA333
    @AURIELLA333 4 года назад +4

    Thank you for this! Ive been struggling with stress a lot. Im trying my best to not cope, but to deal with it. Wow is that a hard thing to do.

  • @chetnajha682
    @chetnajha682 2 года назад

    What can i say... So many effective methods to control stress. Only one step needed just follow them👍

  • @heatherjohnson333
    @heatherjohnson333 2 года назад

    This was extremely helpful. Thank you! You are a lifesaver.

  • @queenrogers3681
    @queenrogers3681 4 года назад +6

    Lol, in my psych class we are talking about stress this week & I just got hit with some pretty stressful news🤣 perfect timing

  • @juliettailor1616
    @juliettailor1616 4 года назад +1

    They say that we perceive that the society in which we live is more stressful than earlier societies but that that is not actually true because of wars, famines, lack of contraception etc. I think the difference is the needless stress, because although we live in an affluent society in the west we are sleep deprived often because of noise, pollution and poor diet also affects our mental health. Even using a car is stressful compared to living in a city where one doesn't need one. And walking, bicycling is very de-stressing. Increasing noise pollution really adds to stress. I really appreciate Dr Fox's work and the ACCEPTS concept is great but often unnecessary societal stressors are responsible for our stress and the problem with accepting our stressors means we don't have to act against them...

  • @dash525
    @dash525 2 года назад

    Thank you so very much! I find this incredibly insightful and gives me some hope to reducing my own stress!

  • @lianyo7517
    @lianyo7517 3 года назад

    Thank you so much! ❤️
    i really needed to hear this! 🙂

  • @sweetluvgurl
    @sweetluvgurl 4 года назад

    Thanks for the links to the worksheets. I’m going to print them and work on them.

  • @kindnessreminder
    @kindnessreminder 4 года назад +8

    I have a hard time dealing with stress at work. It can feel overwhelming sometimes because I have to be there for 8 hours a day trying to manage.

    • @colnohman5255
      @colnohman5255 4 года назад +1

      I have the same feeling...and I sumtimes have to stay for 9-10. My question is how could anyone get ahead if this is already just enough to take...

    • @clareneale99
      @clareneale99 4 года назад

      I broke out in crazy excema on my feet and couldn’t work from stress at work -horrendous-I dont like when psychological stress manifests physically

    • @belle3055
      @belle3055 3 года назад

  • @janinekarels350
    @janinekarels350 3 года назад

    This man is amazing - like he just knows me - wish he was my doctor x

  • @HiThereImFootloose
    @HiThereImFootloose 2 года назад

    I appreciate you so much, my dude.

  • @VortexKiller2
    @VortexKiller2 29 дней назад

    Sometimes my stress is passive, like always there underlying everything, sometimes my stress is active and affects me in many ways, tenseness gets me anxious and makes me think I'm starting to go into a panic attack.
    I like having something to grip and squeeze, I.e stress toy, or sometimes I wring my hands a lot.
    I feel like my BPD is getting worse, but how worse I have no idea, I never know had bad it is or how bad it will get, but it's always a bad sign when I'm getting panicky.

  • @EvaLDrake
    @EvaLDrake 4 года назад

    I just need to "get a grip " in the world I live in. And forget what surrounds me. And keep to myself, cause I'm all I have. There is no life, in today's world.... Best to make one for yourself. And the one's you love.

  • @KimPosteryournewpenpal
    @KimPosteryournewpenpal 4 года назад

    Grumbling to myself over computer problems while watching this video 😶 really gonna need those worksheets!

  • @Chelsealynnism
    @Chelsealynnism 4 года назад +12

    hi dr fox. im having an increasingly hard time.(I have been diagnosed with BPD, GAD, MDD with psychotic features, PTSD) my husband and I are separated(because immigration, not cuz we want to be) he is in India and our 2 kids and I are in America. I have kept our kids safe and im very strict about social distancing and I only go to the grocery store when I have to. my husband leaves home to visit ppl and goes to church and goes to birthday parties. I have cried and begged and explained and im just so sorry...I cant get him to listen and its a HUGE trigger. he and our girls are all I have. hes the more Adult adult in our relationship. I can be very immature and I know this and im trying very hard to keep myself together and I even asked him to not tell me if he goes out because it bothers me so so so badly. what can I do that I haven't done? what am I doing wrong? I know I cannot control him and I know hes not trying to hurt me. hes a good man I have explained how the virus spreads but he doesnt seem to understand. how can I keep myself in order while he is so chaotic? I am the only parent right now for our girls and my responsibilities are huge. please help me. I also have no work. this situation is bad bad and im doing my very best and im trying to keep everything as calm and normal as I can

  • @samanthachisholm7096
    @samanthachisholm7096 4 года назад +4

    Can I ask a question about lying and the BPD sufferer? In an effort as a learned behavior from childhood, I use lying almost as second nature to diffuse stress, skirt responsibility and present a false self because I don't think I am worth it to folks around me. Is this common in BPD sufferers? How does this happen and how do you combat it?

    • @colnohman5255
      @colnohman5255 4 года назад +2

      I had encountered this problem a lot with bpd others..all I can say is it was always the Source of the problems. And I would always try to get through to them that Lying makes destroys relationships and if they just admit, and Stop lying it would fix Everything. LYING MAKES EVERYTHING WORSE!

  • @tionnecheraeslade
    @tionnecheraeslade 4 года назад

    You've been saving my life thank you so much!

  • @kandycrush6433
    @kandycrush6433 4 года назад +1

    Love u doctor fox another great video 😻🤩😍😻 xxxxx thanks for your work UV changed my life xxxxxx

  • @laurenmarie9332
    @laurenmarie9332 4 года назад +37

    I wish you could be my therapist 😭

    • @laurenmarie9332
      @laurenmarie9332 4 года назад +8

      @@priscilla8888 i love how empathic his is for us who suffer with bpd. 💗 he just knows how it is

    • @wendyleeconnelly2939
      @wendyleeconnelly2939 4 года назад +5

      @@laurenmarie9332 I think it ends up being hard for the people in a BPD sufferer's life to be as empathic towards it as this... as they experience the BPD sufferers anger as abusive and hurtful. There's a lot of learning and tolerance that it takes to understand a BPD's anger, and many are unwilling or unable to develop the ability tyo take it without personalizing it... many feel they should not have to do that kind of work or tolerate the snappy answers or the yelling or whatever they experience from the BPD sufferer in their life... and since many people don't know about or understand mental health, they don't even take it that far... they just don't like the anger expression and will not tolerate it. Luckily there is information and help out there to help the BPD sufferer learn to moderate their expressions of anger.

    • @laurenmarie9332
      @laurenmarie9332 4 года назад +2

      @@wendyleeconnelly2939 yes. Very well said

    • @laurenmarie9332
      @laurenmarie9332 4 года назад +4

      @@wendyleeconnelly2939 im starting dbt soon 🙏

    • @laurenmarie9332
      @laurenmarie9332 4 года назад +3

      @@wendyleeconnelly2939 ive had enough of living with this crap.

  • @c.o.s.ismyname7701
    @c.o.s.ismyname7701 3 года назад

    Needed this. Very helpful.

  • @Namari12
    @Namari12 4 года назад

    Thank you for the worksheet!

  • @shannonhamlin4938
    @shannonhamlin4938 2 года назад

    I have BPD, PTSD, and I find my tolerance for major stesser’s is far beyond what most people consider “normal”. I can deal with death, stressful family members, health issues, and most things outside of my control. It’s the small, little stresser’s that I find myself obsessing over. Like if I said the right things to a hurting person, does a speeding ticket make me a bad person, did I put the thing back where it’s meant to go… small stuff.

  • @spettromusic
    @spettromusic 3 года назад

    Thank you so much for this.

  • @RobinKyle
    @RobinKyle 21 день назад

    Thanks!

  • @cuttolive2013
    @cuttolive2013 4 года назад

    Once again right on time.. really needed this. Thank you Dr. Fox 🔥

  • @danielhernandez-fo3mj
    @danielhernandez-fo3mj 2 года назад

    let me start by saying i love your humor if no one else has stated that already just know it doesn't go un noticed lol sec.... i don't live on Maui lol but i do live on the big island in hilo and yes lol there's stress even in paradise lol this video helped me see I have learned alot of these skills without knowing and is probably why ive come so far in my mental health .... i call them self boundrys ...... i make sure i try to power walk daily ...... i make my bed every moring ( didn't used to ) do my dishes daily ( didn't used to ) do anything to keep me feeling productive and not focusing on my inner voice ... like you said even with MDD and other things out side BPD just doing it will most likely keep you positive for some time ... expecully when i get mad and separate before i snap i power walk to help me not feel so weird with my heart racing as it starts to feel normal once i stop lol so really alot of these are super needed skills i still working on radical acceptance but i still use it alot i just slip sometime to my fellow peeps with mental health don't let the inner voice trick you into believing its pointless to do these they never worked and wont work as i used to say these all the time till i actually stop letting that be the reason i didn't do it ....over time its become like why did i ever not want to do these things ..... keep working and never give in to the hopelessness

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  2 года назад

      I’m glad you found the video helpful.

  • @EvaLDrake
    @EvaLDrake 4 года назад

    Cause we both know, Dr. FOX. in order too, truly help a Borderline. , is too be one yourself. So, in great respect and admiration, of a technique, that works for you.. Thanks for sharing your knowledge, to the internet world. You do... help people. Best you can. Thankyou.

  • @smashy_smasherton
    @smashy_smasherton 3 года назад

    I try so hard to redirect my emotions around my chronic pain and polyneuropathy and waiting forever to see a specialist about it but it’s always there. Everything I try to do it’s reminding me that I can’t and it hurts. I don’t even have a diagnosis and it’s literally making me crazy, not knowing.
    My self soothing only goes so far and I keep getting redirected to these negative body sensations. Arg.

  • @Нейротерриториянейро

    Very useful video. Thanks.

  • @BeingLifted
    @BeingLifted 4 года назад

    Right on time. Thank you, sir!

  • @hassn7750
    @hassn7750 Год назад

    thank you...

  • @joannelewis8038
    @joannelewis8038 3 года назад

    Thanks Dr Foxx

  • @EvaLDrake
    @EvaLDrake 4 года назад

    And their are those moments, when you need to go to extreme, to escape yourself.. escape life. Have it be "put on hold". For a moment, so you, I can handle the day. Just be safe. Safe in your environment.. and dont drive. If you need to "really " escape . And that is ok, too. It's alright, to let go. Briefly. Till you/I can regain enough strength within yourself, to handle the next challenge. In life..., in yourself .

  • @yourenough3
    @yourenough3 4 года назад

    I love the way he said chill 🤩

  • @martinenyx-filmstuff305
    @martinenyx-filmstuff305 2 года назад

    This could be just me (and it probably is…) but when I’m faced with a particularly difficult and/or stressful challenge, “accepting” the situation kind of feels like giving up and “losing” against something… for instance, in my head I could be thinking that I’m “losing against an unfair situation”, and that makes me EXTREMELY mad. It makes me feel like a victim who can’t do anything about what’s happening to her. I hate it and that’s why I become so stubborn and infuriated when I don’t find any viable solution to the problem at hand. Accepting it feels like failing.

  • @EricMeatlikeaking
    @EricMeatlikeaking 4 года назад +5

    I need to print out this work sheet for easy access. Thank you.

    • @wendyleeconnelly2939
      @wendyleeconnelly2939 4 года назад

      if you follow the link you will get to a page with other links, the link for this one is on top, and it leads to a pdf, which you can print from your own computer.

  • @rose-mh1ry
    @rose-mh1ry 3 года назад

    Thank you doc. 💜💜💜💜

  • @EvaLDrake
    @EvaLDrake 4 года назад +2

    There is one thing, that will, "take me down". If my cat, dies before me. , but I can't kill myself, because I have to take care of him. I am so afraid of what I'll turn into..., when he passes. Tank. , but I can't die before him.., that would devastate, him. We live, for each other. Having a beer.., but not cutting myself. 🐾

    • @relaxation-Corner
      @relaxation-Corner 4 года назад

      Get a second cat then

    • @EvaLDrake
      @EvaLDrake 4 года назад +2

      @@relaxation-Corner Eva L. Drake
      Tank's , RUclips channel. That's him in profile pic. Then you would see, that .. your comment would not be feasible. Once you've had the best...,why try anything, anyone else

  • @karendenwette3738
    @karendenwette3738 4 месяца назад

    Can you please do a video which addresses severe dissociation (along with identity confusion), cPTSD, depression and anxiety along with BPD. I work hard every day (and for many many years) on the Bpd traits that have been problematic and I think I am doing quite well using mindfulness and grounding skills. I have a lot of autoimmune health problems and mobility issues also. I'd like some more insight into my combination of mental health issues. Please can you do a relevant video?

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  4 месяца назад

      Thank you for sharing your story and struggles. I'll definitely consider creating a video on that topic.

  • @DD-jm5ug
    @DD-jm5ug 3 года назад

    Love this man 💜👍

  • @Marta-dn7qs
    @Marta-dn7qs 4 года назад

    Thank you

  • @sunilswarnkar
    @sunilswarnkar 3 года назад

    really helpful

  • @eurikia1961
    @eurikia1961 4 года назад

    Thank you!!!

  • @thereishope1111
    @thereishope1111 3 года назад

    How the hell am I just finding this godsend of a person now??

  • @lisamarie3465
    @lisamarie3465 4 года назад

    Stress makes me panic...bad. I'm just so used to having drastic punishment that I anticipate it pretty much every time... regardless of who my stress is associated with.

  • @jinh6478
    @jinh6478 4 года назад

    Hi Dr Fox please can you explain what causes BPD? Is it trauma? How are CPTSD and BPD linked?

  • @M2Mil7er
    @M2Mil7er 4 года назад

    Cheers Doc!

  • @Sophie-uc8vp
    @Sophie-uc8vp 2 года назад

    My stress tolerance is dreadful. I very easily become agitated and overwhelmed. When this happens I get very irritable and feel horrible for being irritatable with my elderly (quite deaf) mother and I sometimes end up exploding very briefly at my tween daughter. I always apologise and we work together at not snapping at each other. I hate losing my temper when I'm overwhelmed, it's so unlike me the rest of the time. Usually I'm very gentle and patient. 😪

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  2 года назад

      Thank you for the comment. Be well and take care.

  • @reemaabdallahh
    @reemaabdallahh 4 года назад +1

    I wish i can get a mini dr fox and take him with me everywhere 😂😂♥️😂

  • @KatJ3st
    @KatJ3st 4 года назад

    I need to get this workbook before I get my hip replacement (hopefully sometime before Xmas now post Covid postponed surgeries). I will be climbing the walls from stress, pain, depression AND boredom if I don't have something like this program to work on.

  • @javidelmanli
    @javidelmanli 2 года назад

    Doctor gives a concise description of stress related situations.I appreciate the insights. But when it comes to the prescriptions (methods, or tricks) to get away, i'm a bit skeptic of those.
    How could a mind already burdened with long time stress could possibly engage with this list of preventive actions?
    A part of the brain has created an image of a person who is weak,who can't cope with stress which is opposed by another part of the brain which judges,despises this fact.At least i so observe it and i assume that most people can relate to this.
    In this case i see that any mental action against this fact, in other words talking myself anyway out if it only further consolidates the issue and i always find myself at the place where i had started.

  • @resident_slxxper
    @resident_slxxper 3 года назад

    My stress tolerance after watching this video 📈📈📈

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  2 года назад

      Sorry the video stressed you out. Hopefully you can find some adaptive strategies that can help you.

  • @EvaLDrake
    @EvaLDrake 4 года назад +1

    This is how I, deal w/ true addiction. BLADES/ sharp knives. Pills. I just dont have it around me. I do other things. But I dont need to have pills/ blades around me. Dont need the pressure of that option. Always feel like I'm barely holding on to life. I realize no Dr. Can help me. Someone like me. I will always be my own, worst enemy. And no one can help,me.. but myself. Can honestly say.. I live life, just day to day. Cause its always different. So, I mainly confine, myself. To not feel the world 's mood. C-Virus, confinement, does not phase me. Use to being, locked up. Too, much chaos, in society, for me to want to be around. Great days here, hanging out w/Tank. Wonderful cat, he's only reason, I'm not in prison, now. He truly keeps me saint. It's ok, to live for your pet. 😺

  • @boris1387
    @boris1387 Год назад

    My kids, ex parter, my friends etc say I'm unbelievably relaxed and chill 99.99% of the time... So if I actually become stressed people know that something must be serious lol
    I see stress as a motivation tool.. Not much else... Though its not stress that motivates me

  • @KpopManiac4Life
    @KpopManiac4Life 4 года назад +1

    Hi doc. Can u do a video on what's the proper amount of social energy one should exert because I find i get drained easily if its not w ppl I rly vibe w.... Bt r just like okay with....??

  • @briansaiditsoitmustbetrue4206
    @briansaiditsoitmustbetrue4206 4 года назад +3

    It's when I have to interact with toxic people... My stress and anxiety levels go up...
    I go above and beyond to try to avoid interacting with toxic people... But sadly they are EVERYWHERE in 2020..
    Narcissists are everywhere (Or people who score highly with Narcissistic traits are everywhere should I say)
    Walking around with their poxy mobile phone glued to their face taking "Selfies" and posting them on social media getting "Likes" to boost their ego and prop up their "False self"
    There is no easy way to say this so I am going to have to be blunt ..I can't stand interacting with people...They suck!
    OK and one more "Red flag" to watch for in a person ... It is someone who is talking bad about EVERYONE they know behind their back..What this translates to is this ..When you are not there, They WILL be talking bad about you also.. PEOPLE SUCK.

    • @briansaiditsoitmustbetrue4206
      @briansaiditsoitmustbetrue4206 4 года назад +1

      @Babs Franklin 100% AGREE... I do NOT care what "Other" people think... They SUCK so why should I care what they think..
      I got rid of all the toxic people in my life that are bringing NO VALUE to "My table" ... Life is so much better without toxic people in your life... Kind regards Brian

    • @briansaiditsoitmustbetrue4206
      @briansaiditsoitmustbetrue4206 4 года назад

      @Rita Cruz Same here Rita ... Your family are some of the biggest bullies out there ... I am sorry that people..SUCK
      Kind regards and take care

    • @colnohman5255
      @colnohman5255 4 года назад +1

      Thought I was the Only one who felt this way...

  • @Greatsaint2000
    @Greatsaint2000 4 года назад

    Dr. Fox about the A.C.C.E.P.T.S. concerning Emotion, can i listen to Metal music? I know that it's not very positive, but i use it for catharsis, it's kinda uplifting for me and it relaxes me.

  • @InshasChoice
    @InshasChoice 4 года назад

    You've got a really nice voice 👌

  • @azlingiovannacarrerabustil4244
    @azlingiovannacarrerabustil4244 4 года назад +1

    Can you talk about stress related to lack of stimulation cause im at home all day and my BPD is really getting the best of me?

  • @desertfox1374
    @desertfox1374 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for all your videos! Is there any research done for the relationship between HSP/ little tolerance for sensory information and BPD? I would love a video on that. I feel like I get overwhelmed and anxious more easily then other people by crowds, loud noises, bright lights etc. and wondered if there is any overlap between HSP traits and BPD traits.

    • @DrDanielFox
      @DrDanielFox  2 года назад

      I’m not really sure I would have to look at the research. Great question thank you

  • @INAVACL
    @INAVACL 4 года назад

    I believe I have BPD and the therapists I've seen agree, though no official diagnostic. And I'm struggling with sleeping well. I wake up 3 times a night for the past year. I tried sleeping pills for a bit but they stopped working so I stopped taking them. I've sort of accepted it. Some times I take Melipass to relax a bit. What else can I do to sleep better?

  • @ralarfaj6591
    @ralarfaj6591 4 года назад

    Hi Dr Fox
    Do you do online therapy?

  • @ganndalf202
    @ganndalf202 7 месяцев назад

    So that's what I have to do when I can't find any self-soothing things? I have to learn the skills when I'm not stressed so I can used them when I'm stressed later on? I see.

  • @justforfun-jp2vc
    @justforfun-jp2vc 3 года назад

    I work the frontlines. If I end up in the ICU on a ventilator from a Karen being rude at work my narc parents won’t pick up. My stress tolerance is very real, I am immune to all nonsense now. I risk getting covid everyday with no support.

  • @jills0703
    @jills0703 4 года назад

    Where do I find the worksheet? I too wish Dr Fox was my therapist. If insurance ever paid for it would you ever consider doing telehealth appointments?

  • @kerryheathcote5154
    @kerryheathcote5154 2 года назад

    I have been looming for a video from u that I can put to my situation at the moment soy son died and was traumatic how I found him he was 14 month old its his birthday in 2 days he died in 2009 but I can't radically accept as I don't have answers also I'm bpd I have np idea how to calm my in this situation

  • @Leeeuuuhhh
    @Leeeuuuhhh 3 года назад

    Are you able to do evaluations on zoom with people in other states?

  • @EvaLDrake
    @EvaLDrake 4 года назад +3

    The last thing, any true Borderline. , needs to feel, !, is additional stress. It may trigger, vices.. to use?. Just to deal with life. Any added conflict, or stress. If doing a vice? Helps you? Just dont take it to the extreme. You can teach yourself that. I understand about, " taking the edge off". So I dont stop anything. Just curb my amount. Cause I still want to enjoy tomorrow. What it may bring. Hopefully fucken, drama free.

  • @melissa7633
    @melissa7633 4 года назад

    Where can I get the worksheet?

  • @ProDMiner
    @ProDMiner 4 года назад

    Hello Dr. Fox is there a way I could get in touch with you I have some topics I would love to discuss with you . That I think need to be shared to everyone.

  • @lida8433
    @lida8433 Год назад

    I have no stress tolerance. I snap very quck. Have BPD and PTSD

  • @redheadedweirdo3281
    @redheadedweirdo3281 4 года назад +1

    Question is: how do you get yourself out of bed to do these things?