Answering your Sobriety Questions - PART 3 of 4 - (Episode 120)

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  • Опубликовано: 14 дек 2024

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  • @Danny-Ditch
    @Danny-Ditch 3 года назад +17

    I've been drinking heavy for 25 years. Morning til night and I was highly functioning. I made every excuse in the books in order to keep drinking. To this day, no one knows the extent of my drinking. No one. That said, when I had kids a couple years ago it became clear to me that I had to make a choice between my kids and booze. I chose my kids. That is the only thing that has changed me. That said, i've fallen off the wagon several times but I keep getting back up and doing my best for my kids. It is unbelievable the control alcohol has over me, but now I recognize it and can make better decisions and not give in. Most times.

    • @swordofyeshua
      @swordofyeshua 3 года назад +6

      I can relate. I have two beautiful children and am trying my best to change. It’s like soon as that alcohol hits me it’s game over I drink like a pig sweat like a pig smell like a pig eat like a pig and act like a pig. I’ll bing hard. The only solution for me is to not drink at all.

    • @swordofyeshua
      @swordofyeshua 3 года назад +4

      Keep up the good work

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  3 года назад +6

      THIS.IS.EVERYTHING!!!

    • @swordofyeshua
      @swordofyeshua 3 года назад +4

      @@GettingSoberAgain guaranteed

    • @Danny-Ditch
      @Danny-Ditch 3 года назад +5

      @@swordofyeshua I used to think I was stronger than the booze, now I know i'm not. I totally agree with you. Be strong brother, you're not alone. Our kids deserve the best from us. Its one thing to F up our own lives, but i'm not gonna do that to them and on top of it all die an early death!

  • @jackedkerouac4414
    @jackedkerouac4414 3 года назад +15

    Let's face it. It's self medication. It numbs you. In this world full of pain, sorrow, and injustices, alcohol is the most accessible drug. To liberate yourself from this addiction is an act of bravery, and I'm here to support you all in this Massive undertaking

  • @donnagangstarsoul5523
    @donnagangstarsoul5523 3 года назад +19

    Im soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry with myself,,, I lasted till 4.30pm on a day(yesterday). I've been drinking everyday for nearly a year now, I use to be a weekend social laughy happy drinker. I am in a 2yr old relationship with a hardworking alcoholic.. hes been this way since his teenage life{I'm realizing this is unhealthy for me...challenging). I am a self employed Nail Technician, healthcare worker. I am only starting to see my worth n really wanna make changes, Jae, your channel helps me want to continue on my still 0 days but counting down journey to sober

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  3 года назад +4

      How many days sober did you have?

    • @donnagangstarsoul5523
      @donnagangstarsoul5523 3 года назад +4

      @@GettingSoberAgain none yet... I tried yesterday and had a beer at 4,30, thats when I mssg you. Today I started at 3.30. This is so not like my souls journey.. I need to be serving n working again, alcohol has decreased my enthusiasm . Remember I am in NZ and it is 11.12pm Wednesday night. I appreciate your support ...smiles

    • @T.K.111
      @T.K.111 3 года назад +5

      DonnaAries Breath..you will get so much from Getting Sober...Again. Please listen to as many as you can. 🙏

    • @MJA5
      @MJA5 3 года назад +4

      Hi! I think you will put it down when you come to the conclusion that it's just not worth the price paid. I know that sounds simplistic, but everything has a price. It's one of the laws of the Universe. Even waking up in the morning brings you that many more minutes closer to final check out, but waking up not ravaged makes it so much better, for me anyway. I was paying for the fun I was having getting drunk with the other moments of my life. That's the equation that worked out for me.

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  3 года назад +2

      @@MJA5 living your best life, fun and all doesn't need to include alcohol! We are all loving the progress we are making getting to know and love who we really are!!!

  • @genuineliferecoverywithjod5031
    @genuineliferecoverywithjod5031 3 года назад +9

    Yes the romanticizing and the pity party can be missed at times LOL. Every day I wake up and say: “I’m not a victim.” I remember when I got sober 16 years ago. I met my amazing husband and I was sobbing to my sponsor about: “I think he’s the one.” And she said: “Suffer through the Joy.” Now, whenever we need a good laugh we say: “suffer through the joy.”

  • @T.K.111
    @T.K.111 3 года назад +8

    APPLAUSE 👏 We can talk the talk, but we gotta walk the walk...and we're walkin'...

  • @celiciathomas5013
    @celiciathomas5013 3 года назад +6

    I'm on that dreaded day 3. And the holiday weekend coming up. I'd love to sit on the deck after work on Friday and have a couple glasses of wine. That has never been the case for us. One day at a time.

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  3 года назад +1

      One WEEKEND at a time 💪🏽💪🏽 put the practice in! There will be a labor day, Halloween, thanksgiving, and so on every year. There are no shortages of holidays or reasons to do the SAME OLD S#!+😉

    • @CD-zy5te
      @CD-zy5te 3 года назад +1

      How is it going Cecilia? Please dont stop trying. Perspective makes a huge difference for me. What I mean is being thankful for sobriety and not upset that I cant drink. That's what helps me anyway. Glad your here, have you come to the live streams on friday and Sundays?

    • @SamEspen
      @SamEspen 3 года назад

      Hey Cecelia! How's it going? Has it gotten any easier? Would love to hear from you!

  • @SamEspen
    @SamEspen 2 года назад +2

    Hello everyone! I've been 13 months sober and I am feeling fantastic! I'm really proud of myself. I never thought I'd be here. A year ago I thought it would be SO cool if i made it to a year. And now I'm there. 🤗

  • @Kaiseraihn
    @Kaiseraihn 9 месяцев назад +2

    Day 4 going on 5, everyone! It’s insane how hydrated I feel. And my eyes already look so much clearer and they don’t feel so dried out. We’ve got this everyone! I love you ❤

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  9 месяцев назад +1

      Who knew it felt good not to be poisoned huh? 🤒

  • @MJA5
    @MJA5 3 года назад +7

    It's the rarest thing, there are definitely two sides of the fence with this behavior. Life isn't great on the one side of the fence, there is kind of trash laying around, and it's a little bit gloomy, it's fun for a bit but it's not real fun and there is also the sickness that follows. On that side of the fence you might even do the craziest things. But you can't see what is on the other side of the fence from where you are. You just can't see over the fence. When I finally dug underneath to get on the other side (I didn't climb it or I would have broke my skull), I found it was a lot more peaceful. You can't see the other side of the fence from where you are. It takes some effort to dig underneath, and you'll get dirty, but you'll also get to see what's over there.

    • @jenniferburton7044
      @jenniferburton7044 3 года назад +2

      Well said

    • @MJA5
      @MJA5 3 года назад +1

      @@gwillis01 yes ma'am, the notion sort of just came to me and you said it better than I did. When it comes right down to it you can't goad anyone into it, suggest it, do interventions (I guess unless they are about to die), they sort of have to figure it out for themselves. It (being just your own brain without any chemicals added) actually lets you be who you really are. They didn't name them spirits for no reason 😄

    • @MJA5
      @MJA5 3 года назад +1

      @@gwillis01 exactly! It was that way for me. When you lose the love for anything and everything, there is nothing left. That was no way to live, but you have to realize that first before anything else can change. 😊

  • @freedbyhisgrace9075
    @freedbyhisgrace9075 3 года назад +5

    Have I ever been arrested while intoxicated? Yes. Once when I was 19, in Annapolis, driving home from a toga party at 2:30 AM. The red light was just taking too damned long to change, nothing was coming, so I went thru it. Ten seconds later I was getting pulled over. I got thrown in the drunk tank for the night, and my car was impounded. The 70's were a crazy time.

  • @CD-zy5te
    @CD-zy5te 2 года назад +3

    Dear comment lurkers, You are not alone and this is a great community here at getting sober. We care about you , please dont stop trying! I found jae's channel on night 30 and today i have now reached 1 year of sobriety. Come say hi at our livestream sometime!!!!

  • @swordofyeshua
    @swordofyeshua 3 года назад +6

    What up Jae, kat mom and SamE!!!! Hi everyone 😘😎

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  3 года назад +2

      Glad you were able to check out the episode! We had a live chat from 12-1245 :)

    • @swordofyeshua
      @swordofyeshua 3 года назад +3

      @@GettingSoberAgain I was in physical therapy otherwise I’d have been there

    • @swordofyeshua
      @swordofyeshua 3 года назад +3

      @@GettingSoberAgain love you brother

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  3 года назад +3

      @@swordofyeshua love you back!!!❤️💛💙🧡🥰

  • @T.K.111
    @T.K.111 3 года назад +7

    I didn't expect the feeling of alcohol. I agree that it let down my wall to be vulnerable and not be so serious. I laughed myself off the bar stool a couple of times, and my sense of humor 🙃 was contagious, and people wanted to be with me.

  • @T.K.111
    @T.K.111 3 года назад +7

    Do I feel lonelier?...I don't feel the sadness of feeling "lonely", but I feel alone.....I feel alone in this chat right now😊

    • @youareon2something
      @youareon2something 3 года назад +1

      💕🕊

    • @anthonyshaw8698
      @anthonyshaw8698 3 года назад

      Same here.
      I guess I feel more lonely now, because most of the people I use to hang out with are drinkers. A few were normal drinkers, but the majority drank as much, or more than I did. So, I don't hang out with them much anymore. In fact, not at all. I stopped going to sports bars to hang out. Not fun sitting there drinking sodas watching sports. Don't want to be around that anymore. I'm pretty much a home body right now. I'm semi-retired. I go to the gym and workout. I practice on my guitar now that I'm sober. I need to meet an entirely new group of sober folks. I went to rehab 8 months ago. I drank for 50 plus years. Thankfully, I'm fortunate to still have my health. I took alot of supplements throughout the years, and worked out alot too. Currently have a little over 8 months sober.
      But yes, at times I feel lonely. But, it's not the kind of loneliness you feel, when you're drinking. That's for sure..

    • @Kevin-p4l
      @Kevin-p4l 3 месяца назад

      You are not alone here.

  • @blissstitchsewing
    @blissstitchsewing 3 года назад +7

    It’s amazing how much you have accomplished in 10 months! 👏👏👏

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  3 года назад +2

      Awwwww THANK YOU!!!! It's hard for people to look in the mirror everyday and see a change. This was my way of being able to look back at it and appreciate how far I've come and WHAT I've done with this gift!!

  • @Beh0ldas0n
    @Beh0ldas0n 3 года назад +4

    Hi all just checking in
    Im currently 1 month clean n sober. Man keeping track of my sobriety really puts into perspective how fast time fly's.
    Ps the description of types of people we know at bar is pretty spot on. Lol
    Thank you for this God bless from Cali ❤🤙

    • @SamEspen
      @SamEspen 3 года назад +1

      Hey Ruben! Hows your journey going? :)

    • @Beh0ldas0n
      @Beh0ldas0n 3 года назад +1

      @@SamEspen Hey SamE and Jae thank you for checking in I really appreciate that 😍
      Im doing pretty good thank God I'm still sober and this year has been one of my best. Im enjoying work and the people there also have my side business going smooth. Relationships with my family are getting better day by day. Im super grateful and truly appreciate all you guys do. I always watch, like n share all your vids. Keep up the great work and keep fighting the good fight of faith. God bless and keep you all always. 🤙🏼 ❤ ✌🏼
      Ps congrats on the new website can't wait to check it out. 🎉🎉🎉

    • @SamEspen
      @SamEspen 3 года назад

      @@Beh0ldas0n aww that's so great to hear! So glad you're doing well 😁😁🤗🤗🤗

  • @miyannaable
    @miyannaable 3 года назад +3

    Episode120!! What a wonderful thing!!

  • @cameronpickard7456
    @cameronpickard7456 3 года назад +3

    jae your honesty is great and helps greatly

  • @hawk66100
    @hawk66100 3 года назад +4

    I feel I must be honest. I fell off the wagon a few weeks back. Now Hurricane Ida has bent my State over and I’ve been drinking heavily the last few days. 2 month+ sober down the drain but I can always start again right ??

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  3 года назад +1

      *invites you back to sobriety...again*

    • @CD-zy5te
      @CD-zy5te 3 года назад +1

      How is it going Hawk66100? Hope you keep trying. Drinking will not fix anything but instead will pile on more problems in our lives. Have you come to our live streams on friday and sunday? Hope to see there sometime

    • @hawk66100
      @hawk66100 3 года назад +1

      @@CD-zy5te I’m doing better thank you for asking. I’m on day 4 sober.

    • @SamEspen
      @SamEspen 3 года назад

      Hey Hawk! How's your journey going? Gotten any easier? Would love to hear from you!

    • @Dirty_Hamble
      @Dirty_Hamble 2 месяца назад

      A relapse doesn't mean what went before is wasted. It's not Snakes & Ladders.

  • @powerviolents
    @powerviolents 9 месяцев назад

    hey jae, i’m starting my sobriety journey (…again) today and just wanna say that ur channel inspires me a lot and has been a staple during my longest sober streaks. i’ve also been kicking around the idea of starting a youtube channel to document my journey and provide to people what you’ve provided here! once i crush a milestone (or 2) i’ll revisit that idea but for now im just happy that ur channel has given me the inspiration to make another attempt at breaking this circuitous habit. here’s to going sober… again 🎉🎉

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  9 месяцев назад

      That's what it's all about. One voice can speak for everyone, not can it speak for eternity. We all do our part to evolve and to help others to do the same 💪

  • @chickencoop2489
    @chickencoop2489 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for the videos..

  • @alicebu8698
    @alicebu8698 3 года назад +1

    This channel is awesome

  • @sherylkyle7846
    @sherylkyle7846 Год назад

    Thank you for being you Jae! You make this AF journey SO MUCH EASIER! A true blessing 🙌

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  Год назад

      U nice 🥰
      don't forget the stay up to date on our latest playlist of videos!
      ruclips.net/video/TeZ6Tmzxzg4/видео.htmlsi=qjnuRYfU1nUTfH43

  • @Spideyxman
    @Spideyxman 2 года назад +1

    Hey Jae (I hope I spelled that right) I dig your channel. I went 7 months sober last year with your help so Thank You and Congrats on your sober journey Brotha. I'm watching this video right now and thought to ask you the question, ''Do you think a life altering traumatic event would or could jeopardize your sobriety?'' Personally I feel something like that would probably end my streak for the obvious reasons. Sorry if you've already been asked this question. Anyhow, hope to hear from you and keep fighting the good fight! 🙏 and ❤.

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  2 года назад +1

      That's a great question! I will write it down and perhaps we will see it answered on the big RUclips screen someday :)
      Congrats on your 7 months, you must be feeling pretty good about yourself.
      Don't let anyone, anything, or any event take this away from you. Why give it the power? Sobriety is yours! Don't give it back!

  • @aaronjacobs2082
    @aaronjacobs2082 11 месяцев назад

    Jae sir🙏🏻I just wanna say thank you so much for this channel. I found you 9 days ago which is the same time sober now. Was in AA years ago but just wasn’t for me. I can relate to so much of your stories and observations. Gratitude.

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  11 месяцев назад +1

      Welcome Aaron! We are happy to have you here with us!
      make sure you leave comments on each video. it doesn't have to be for me, but maybe checking up on others in the comments :)

  • @Summer1357_love
    @Summer1357_love Год назад

    Absolutely right on the money. All your videos are a hundred percent accurate. You are definitely meant to do this. Thank you very much for all you do. Stay humble and real🙏
    Well said 👏

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  Год назад +1

      I can't imagine being any other way😎
      thanks for the love!!

    • @Summer1357_love
      @Summer1357_love Год назад

      @GettingSoberAgain yes!!! Also, I just wanted to tell you that there are a lot of people online on RUclips with their videos. And they have about 340000 views. And everything, and don't get me wrong. Good for them! But they don't do anything for me. I support everybody.
      And don't get me wrong. I support everybody, but with you, I feel like you. to me are the only person that knows how to explain things so unique. And I really mean that. It's like humor realistic. Honest wise, spiritual bold it's like you're a whole combination plate. For real love you, man💝

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  Год назад +1

      @@Summer1357_love it's taken me a long time and a lot of lessons to get to where I am and I'm happy to know that the message is hitting the right frequency!
      Feel free to send a message anytime, I'm always lurking in the comments 🤓

    • @Summer1357_love
      @Summer1357_love Год назад

      @GettingSoberAgain lol will do. Have a good night.🙏

    • @Summer1357_love
      @Summer1357_love Год назад

      ruclips.net/video/Viiw6tGimHo/видео.html

  • @enikobrowm6127
    @enikobrowm6127 8 месяцев назад

    I enjoyed your video. Alot to think about.

  • @a.m.6719
    @a.m.6719 10 месяцев назад

    You are so inspiring. ❤ thank you J

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  10 месяцев назад

      🥰 Check out the new stuff...
      Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes!
      ruclips.net/p/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt

    • @a.m.6719
      @a.m.6719 10 месяцев назад

      @GettingSoberAgain I've taken your advice and have been watching ALL of your videos. I tapered down and today starts a new life for me. I've made my friends and family aware of my plan and asked for their support. I feel brighter, happier already, my relationships are improving and being vulnerable about this journey has made me closer to them. I will keep watching you as I tick the days off my sobriety log. Again, thank you. Wish me the best haha. Plus whenever you have one of those small laughs it always makes me laugh. You have a great sense of humor.

  • @davidpacnik5984
    @davidpacnik5984 2 месяца назад

    Was in rehab, sober for 4 months. lost 12 kilos. Had a medical examination for liver tests, my doctor could not believe that I had been drinking alcohol for 30 years. But every day I think and miss... Now I'm on the second liter.. Summary of everything. Every day I have these horrible thoughts…. Will they ever disappear? If not, I don't see the point..

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  2 месяца назад

      What positive thoughts and activities are you actively replacing the negative ones with?

  • @annabea7692
    @annabea7692 Год назад

    Learn how to make a really good soup and a great loaf of bread, then surprise someone you love with dinner. Something about it hits all the right notes!

  • @youareon2something
    @youareon2something 3 года назад +3

    🌸

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  3 года назад +1

      🥰🥰🥰

    • @youareon2something
      @youareon2something 3 года назад +2

      @@GettingSoberAgain 🤪I keep trying! I’m down to once a week. It would be a lot more of it wasn’t for you and the community you are building. You truly help me see myself sober and loving it! Stay strong my friend🥰

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  3 года назад +1

      @@youareon2something That's why we do what we do!! Everyone needs a helping hand from time to time :) thank you for being here!!!

    • @youareon2something
      @youareon2something 3 года назад

      @@GettingSoberAgain 🤗

    • @youareon2something
      @youareon2something 3 года назад +1

      @@gwillis01 it helps to take a fresh look!

  • @suziq5958
    @suziq5958 3 года назад +4

    Ok sooooo DAY 1…AGAIN 🙄

  • @Summer1357_love
    @Summer1357_love Год назад

    Amen 😄👏🏼

  • @T.K.111
    @T.K.111 3 года назад +5

    😁😁😁

  • @Summer1357_love
    @Summer1357_love Год назад

    Haha perfect. 😂

  • @HoustonShutterCenter
    @HoustonShutterCenter Год назад

    What type of music do you play, I play tech house

    • @GettingSoberAgain
      @GettingSoberAgain  Год назад

      uhhhhhhh......I don't anymore. But when I did it was really heavy trappy experimental heady bass music. You can listen to a few of my mixes on mixcloud if you feel like www.mixcloud.com/jaeandres/

  • @joyconnell1318
    @joyconnell1318 6 месяцев назад

    I’m laughing at the honesty … “Why not? Let’s just drink the whole bottle…” How long? This month I’ve had more sober days than not …. That a win. The big change is the physic altercation, thanks mostly to these videos. Wanting to be my best self, convinced that alcohol is poisonous. That’s where I am; no anxiety, no Big Expectations; just higher Standards of Life! Thank you for sharing … 🫶