Lesbian Moms: What Do Your Kids Call You?
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- In the ongoing parenting series, Brandy and Susan address the question they always get "What do your kids call you".
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when you have lesbian mom's would you be in a endless cycle of "go ask your mother"?
hahaha silly but funny joke
I saw that joke on insta lol
Art Time Lapse that's hilarious 😂
denk memE source go ask your mother
AHHHAHAHAHAHA
It took me awhile growing up to realize that "Mom" and "Dad" were gendered. I just thought parent one = mom, parent 2 = dad. And that's why you only heard about single moms - because if there is only one parent, then they're the mom, regardless of their gender.
That's a really interesting fact, actually, and it's great cause it reminds us nothing is gendered from the start :)
makes sense why a kid would think that way seeing as though most single parents were the mother. not all. but most.
you must've been a super receptive child.
emma n um, what does this even mean? Mom is for a female parent, Dad is for a male parent. Not tricky darling. Don't let the 21st century fool you.
I find that incredibly adorable haha, shout out to all the single fathers who became "mom".
OneDHeaven Dude, don't get your knickers in a twist. I was five.
if i had 2 mommies, I would call the one who gives me food "mom" & the one who gives me money "mother"!
best ans...
Hồ Gia Cẩm Linh hahaha
lmao whAT
😂😂😂😂 what!?😂😂😂😂
ly ly lol what a difference
At 1:13 when she said "mamma b" I yelled "MAMMA T!!" at my phone. What is the L word doing to me.
Loved that show!
RIGHT
The Next Family Haha 😂 you 2 are so cool! greetings from germany! btw are you Shenny or Sharmen shipper? 😃
ROOT OH MY GOD SAME HERE THATS WHAT I THOUGHT
ROOT I thought of The L Word too
fun fact: the word "emo" (pronounced as MO) really means mother in Finnish.
Amz Dud i was seriously just gonna write this right now. terveisiä helsingistä!
That's amazing. We never knew that!!
Amz Dud it isn't pronounced "MO" haha and you don't use that word when you are talking about a human mother, more like when you are meaning some kind of animal's mom 😂😂
Jeah, human mother would be "äiti" in Finnish, but emo/emä is still the really old word for mother, which is nowadays used for animal moms only.
Heli Lehto MO is the closest you can get when explaining the pronunciation to English speakers. Obviously they will say it with a U (emou) but if you spell it emo they'll say iimou. Can't really think of anything other than MO to describe how it's pronounced.
When referring to Mandi we say mommy and when we refer to me we say mama. We of course get them confused all the time. I imagine when Lenn is old enough she will be the final decision-maker on what our future kids will call us. :)
I'm with you, I wonder if our names will change here and there, lately Bella has been calling me Mommy which is new to us all together.
I call my parents mommy and mama too :D
Living Rosa i
Living Rosa I'm adopted and I have daddy and papa. Im so thankful to have 2 great parents.
Ppl ask me about a female figure in my life and I was lucky enough to have my parents friends and family family who I could go to with questions and have girl time.
Just curious if you ever get asked that question about your son and male figure.
Thats what I call my moms!
Our daughter calls me mummy and my partner 'my shell' (my partners name is Shelley) we tried to come up with different things but our daughter stuck to 'my shell' she 100% sees us both as her parents, she thinks some people have a mum and a dad but she has a mummy and a shel :)
I also love it when they come up with their own thing that is unique to them, that is the way it should be. So sweet!
Louise Fowler how cute!
that's freaking adorable
Hahaha aww
Louise Fowler Aww
I had a student one year that had two dads. And it really did make all the difference for me to know who was poppy and who was daddy. I loved being able to tell her "poppy is here to pick you up. " or "did daddy paint your nails?" It was so great knowing!
Our kids know us as Mamma and Ma.
Macie Fergal I don't know why, but this comment was so beautiful to me.
Macie Fergal ♥
I read this as "Mamma" and "Mia" and instantly just went Mamma mia! lmao
Ollie-C LMAO 😂😂😂
Ollie-C me too lol
My girlfriend and I frequently talk about having children, she presents more masculine and always says she wants me to be mommy and her to be maddy, she lovesss that. I can't wait to hear our child call her that.
jacklyn kelleher I thought it was clever when my boyfriend's sister called their mom that.
THT IS SO FUCKING CUTE *MADDY*
A mommy and maddy! awwww! my heart just melted
Anyone else want to be adopted by these two?
Awe thanks for watching!
🙋🏻
Taylor Evans yes please
Taylor Evans me just want to have a lesbian parents lol but I luv my straight parents too
I have two moms, the biggest struggle is this...
"MOM?!"
"yes?"
"No not you the other one.."
If we decided to have children, I would probably be Maman and my partner Mummy. It helps to be a bilingual couple :))
omg are you persian 0:
Delphine Wood maman is french:)
In german we have mama and mami.
Delphine Wood maman yeah man
My gf and I were just having this conversation the other day! I was always in "straight" relationships until I met my gf 3 years ago and fell in love. This was always one of my concerns because I grew up with the idea that i'd be "mom" and my future spouse would be "dad". As sad as it is, this was one thing that bothered me in the early stages of our relationship since I was so unfamiliar with a same-sex relationship. I'm so happy you two posted this because it really puts my mind at ease about my future with her. I gotta stop worrying bout what our kids will call us and just let it happen organically like you said! Thanks so much!
Mama
Mami
Mommy
Mammy
Mum
Mom
Mamá
Mère
Maman
All names are beautiful 💗
Agreed!
Kyla Schmitt u can say Amy in arabic
Kyla Schmitt i thought about that one family guy scene when i read your comment lol
Kyla Schmitt
Papi
I find this extremely cute
i have a 2 year old in my class and he has daddy and big daddy! he just came up with it after learning small vocal (big/little, dad,daddy). daddy is an average guy and big daddy is tall and built big! so so cute
That's adorable!
i always figured that if i raise kids with another woman, that the kid would call us both "mom" but each in our respective language (like if my SO ends up being malay then our kid would call her "ibu" or if she's german she'd be called "mama/mutter" idk)
I like that!
i called my mom "mama" for years but got embarrased when i got older and started saying mom, im gonna start calling her mama again
Amir Deng.....Really?,i am 18 and i called my mom "mama" since i was little and no one ever made fun of it ,never been embarrassed by it,in my country we usually call mom "Ammi" but i call my grandma" ammi".
Amir Deng in Lithuania mum is mama:) nothing to be ashamed of!
I'm 19 and still call my mom "mommy" and "mama" :) my 25 year old brother also frequently refers to her as "momma" through text too :)
i'm 17 but Im gay but this is so cute and i think i want my kids to call me mummy most likely or whatever they want.
Anju T Love wow mummy!!
For some reason ive always liked thinking that my future kids would call me dad, despite being a fairly feminine woman (possibly because I don't want to carry them and my partner does).
I always said Mama and Papa cause those are the German names for mom and dad 😂
i call my grandparents mama and papa
no those are the names for mother and father
toulouseee Ich auch, oder halt Mami und Papi xD
For me it's the same but I'm Dutch. But we also say mama and papa.
toulouseee
No.
Mother = Mutter
Father = Vater
As a woman that's attracted to women, I've always had this question. I think it's awesome how you just let your kids choose nicknames for you two! I want to have a family someday, and thinking about the confusion between names always seemed rather daunting. Thank you for shedding light on this!
Thanks for saying hello!
You guys are literally my relationship goals :-)
+Jo Jones Awe, we love to hear that, so sweet!
Just stumbled upon this channel and I cannot say how much I already love it. This is always a topic with us when we so often talk about the journey to babies in the next couple of years and it's so nice to hear how 2 mom families work out these things. It makes us feel so normal to have topics like this just kind of talked through in a real way with a real family.
We are so glad you enjoyed and thanks for watching! xoxo
I am a Trans-female and my son calls my partner Mama and calls me Yaya (when ever he would ask me to come and help him or call out to me I would say Ya.....hence Yaya)
LOL, I love that, it's great when they come up with your name for you. Much more fun that way. 💕
We have a family with two dads and an almost four year old son. We have known him since infancy and it took us a long time to figure out who was Poppy and who was Daddy, as he used them interchangeably initially. Now there's no doubt in our minds who is who. With one of families with two moms, I remember during their orientation I stressed that they inform us of what we should listen for their two year old son to refer to them as. One mom is Mama and the other is Ima ("eemah" or mom in Hebrew), and I cannot tell you how essential it is to know these things. You may feel awkward asking for clarification, I know I have, but it is so important!
Yes, agreed!
I was dying at "the lesbian dad" XD
"mom where's the lesbian dad" XD
I don't have kids (bc I'm 18 so I have to wait more than 12 years) but I think I would be named Mom and my partner (when I have one) Mommy. So hugs from Barcelona! I loved your videos!
Hugs Barcelona! Thanks for the love.
Taylon Geisel what strategy? I'm from Barcelona, it's true.
I'm going to use Mutti, since it's Austrian for mom and that's what I call my mother. So that makes it a lot easier lol
LexiStar27 This is sooo funny. In language "mutti" basically means vagina!
We planned on Mammy, Mummy and we have a dog called Maddie. Foolproof for the wee one, right?! Plan on whatever you want, but the kids will find something else to call you. We have Mama (bio) and Mimi (non-bio). And indeed *all* in our lives call me Mimi now and I own that name. Only *I* will ever be Mimi to my wee boys. Now that is a special name.
+Fiona Hale (nee Littleton) We agree!
Thank you for all these videos you do me and my wife are planing on having a kid this year and this was the first thing I thought about I love all your videos you all have such beautiful souls !!
Thanks for sharing your story! My wife and I referred to ourselves as mom and momma to our daughter. Kinda of interchangeable as far as our name. But when she was 3, she caught on to our given names and started calling us momma Katie and momma Megan all on her own and still does now at 4. Kids are awesome!
Much love! ♥️
Mama is the german word for mom.
not only in german
Sam Ponhold I'm American and we call our mother Mama and Ma
i am emo too
Omg I love you
I taught and went on to babysit for the daughter of two lesbians and she calls them "mama" and "mimi". I don't know if she made it up or what the story is behind it but I think it's so cute
This is so great! My wife and I don't have children yet but if it happens one day, it comforting to know that the child will develop a for us organically
The family I babysit for use "Mom and Mady". Mady is technically their bio mom, but Mady carried their first-born. I love it and I think the clear distinction in the names has been super easy for the kids when communicating. Another family I sit for used "Mom and Momma".
It's actually been super cool that I've gotten to sit for these families because it helps me answer a lot of the questions I get even as a lesbian in her early 20s!
That's awesome, we love that families come up with their own individual names, that's the way it should be!
Most of my kids call me mom but my youngest calls me mama. I actually call my own mother either by her first name or to really get her attention I call her woman. It's very respectful so no shaming please!
I immediately thought about Bette and Tina from The L word when they said Mama B and Mama F, who else did?
I've just discovered your channel and I'm thrilled! We are French but we raise our daughter bilingual. So she calls both of us "maman" which is like "mom" and when she talks specifically to me or about me, she'll say "mama" (or "not you, the other mom" ahah ) and when she talks about her "other" mom specifically she says "mommy". We would never have made that up ourselves, and I think it's pretty great that she got to find what was comfortable for her. :)
My son calls me papa. I met him when he was 2 and I called him papa bear so he started calling me "papa"
I would totally be the dad. My nephews already call me dad any way. And i'm totally fem! (Yes they have their own father)
Barbara Bermudes hahaha, cute!
Awwww...
I called my dads "papa" and "papi" now I just refer to them as dad and dod lol I love my dad's just because your parents are gay doesn't mean I am too LOL😂😂
Love it!
I'm a south Indian (tamil) lesbian so when I have kids I'd just be called "Amma" and my wife could be "mom" or whatever else she prefers
So glad I found this video! I've thought about what my future children will call me and my future partner FOREVER and can never really think of what that would be. Of course, it'll be much easier to figure out with whomever it is I choose to have children with, but it's definitely something I've thought of for a very long time and haven't really heard anyone else talk much about it before!
It's crazy that we have to think about these things but it ends up being much more organic than you would expect.
So, Ave & I really enjoyed this video!!! We've begun to get this question a lot and Baby Ace is only 16 weeks old, lol. Thank you for sharing your take on it. ~Ray
I instantly thought about you guys after watching this video
SHE CALLS HER MOM MO 😭😭 this is so so sweet.
We are Mom and Mommy, great video :)
We are mama and mummy. But now we've split and our daughter is with us 50/50 (she's almost 8) she generally just calls us both mum. Loved the Namaste at the end. Haha
I grew up with lesbian moms. When I first started getting to know my moms partner, she would say a lot of phrases in Spanish (even though she wasn't Hispanic) and one day I asked her how you say mom in Spanish and she said Madre and ever since I've called her Madre.
Hannah Warden That's smart
I'm a guy, and my kids call me Dadda and my husband Dad. I think it's really interesting to see what other kids of gay couples call their parents, and I think everyone can expect their names to change as the kids grow (for straight couples mummy and daddy turn into mum and dad).
L word momma b n momma t
NaturallyNette what about momma G.
Well the "Mama B", "Mama T" was on The L Word. Bette and Tina called each other that after they had their child. I love the L Word I've watched the series several times over! 💜 I always thought for two dad's that "daddy" and "papa" would be cute. I'm 30 and I STILL call my mother "momma" and my father "daddy".
We never really enforced names, somehow she eventually just named us herself. I'm mommy and my wife is mom. Whenever anyone messes it up she's definitely quick to correct them and say, "No silly, THAT'S mommy!" and points to me. I remember though getting annoyed at people making such a huge deal about what she was going to call us. It would truly get on my nerves how many times people would ask that question and when I would answer, "I don't know yet, whatever she chooses to call us" they would proceed to try to "help us" find cute names like "mom 1 and mom 2" *insert eye roll here*. Thank you for your video!
We totally get that feeling! People are trying to be helpful but they don't realize that we get it all the time :) Now it's so much easier though, the kids just tell them how it is :)
I asked my 4 year old step son if he wanted to call my Mum Nana or Nana Sue or Suzanne and he said no i'll call her Banana (which is nice because bananas are his favourite) we just got her a Nan birthday card and stuck extra letters on the front to spell Banana. My Mum was over the moon :)
That is the best!
The Next Family thank you. I know it wasn't quite on subject but you made me think of it when you talked about letting the children choose what feels natural to them.
We are momma and mommy
Yeah I always thought that's what I would do, like it would make more sense
I just found you through the Weekly Upworhy. HAPPY MOTHERS' DAY!
If I have kids with my future wife I'd like the kids to call me "Mami", "Ma" or "Mama", and my wife can decide what she wants to be called.
It shouldn't be weird nowadays - or at all - to see same sex parents. Some kids/teenagers are actually hiding this part/"fact" about their family from others because of fear, shame or other possible issues that has been caused my social media or other influences. I hope that one day it won't be looked at as "shameful", weird or "damaging" to be a same sex couple who wants kids.
We are getting there S L O W L Y but surely!
You guys are so cool I've been wondering kinda about the topic of lgbt parenting but it seems really rude to ask this channel really helps thank you so much ❤️❤️
"Today, we're giving it to you completely straight!"
"Well, not completely straight...."
Me: I've only seen these women for 10 seconds and I already love them.
I still call my mother "momma" sometimes
This is so well filmed I am in love. Everything is so satisfying and like perfect omg
When I was pregnant we decided that my partner would be mama and I would be mum, when our daughter started talking she called us 'mama' and 'mum mum' which I absolutely love :)
My wife and I are on our 4th try of IUI. I'm so happy I found your page!
Good luck! We are sending fertile thoughts your way! Please keep us posted. ❤❤
I work at a summer camp and every one in a while I get a camper with parents of the same gender. It's really helpful when they introduce themselves as what their child calls them. That way in the unlikely event that a parent needs to be called, we know who we're talking to instead of just "mom" or "dad"
That's awesome!
Y'all are totally right about the kids will kind of just say what they want/can! My aunt isn't a lesbian but her husband died before the birth of her grandchildren so she is the nana and poppa so we decided she should be called nannapop but my baby cousins couldn't really say that so now she's just pop-pop lol
My son named my mom "Mimi" and my grandmother "Emmy" and when I was a baby I used to call my aunt Lisa "Ada." 26 years later I still call her Ada. Sometimes kids do pick the names. But "mommy" and "daddy" is pretty common for straight couples.
it was never difficult for me because I always knew I wanted to be called Ima, which is Hebrew for "mother". So, my partner gets every form of the American-English 'mom' the kids can say, lol
I don’t ask this question but I always want to know because I have no idea what my kids will call my wife and I when I’m older 😂. Also that M-O story is so cute!!!
It ends up being less of a big deal than you think. Happy New Year!
The Next Family Thanks for the response! I like how you say it comes about naturally. Happy new year to you too!
“Momomo” when she said I’m now Mo I thought she was gonna say Momo instead XD
My parents aren't gay or anything, but I call my parents by their first names. Simple as that. They talk about each other in their names too. My mom will say: -is Bob home, not: -is dad home.
Our kids are in their early 20's now, so we've meandered through a slew of "names". Regardless of what we intended, our first born called one of us Mommy, and the other a mangled version of her name (Sisa). In college the mangled childhood name sounded odd to him, so he started calling us both by our first names, which sounded odd to all of us, and now he has reverted (mostly) back to Mom & Sisa. Our daughter has always called us both Mommy or Mom, only correcting with a mangled version of our names (Rufie and Sisa) when the wrong "Mom" answers, a story she tells constantly when people ask HER what she calls us.
Kudos for the direct clarity with teachers. Sadly when our kids were little that kind of openness, especially where we lived, was really hard and sometimes felt risky.
i love those 2!! they are such a sweet and funny couple! gosh cant wait until one day it'll be me giving advice like this to my fellow baby gays :P
xo thank you!
They seem so happy together...jealous
This is relatable. I have a biological daughter from a previous relationship and she started calling my fiancé mama on her own. We did have to come to a point where she had to decide on her own who was who because she would interchange them and get upset if the wrong person answered. We also have to explain it to people sometimes and she will correct others. She is 4.
When I was still developing, my grandparents decided that they didn't want to be called "grandma and grandpa" for whatever reason and they decided on something like Gram and Gramps. However, when I was first learning to talk I called them Gamma and Gepp because I couldn't pronounce things right, and then Gamma and Gepp just kind of stuck. I think they were quite pleased with how things turned out. Haha
once I have a husband and children, I want my children to call my husband the regular old "papa/poppy" and then call me "ma-pa/mappy" I've always had that motherly instinct :)
Love it.
My name is Brandy and my Wife's name is Eden. She is our daughter's biological mom. Our oldest daughter actually started calling me Mama B without any direction. So I am Mama or Mama B and my wife is Mommy. Although the kids use them fairly interchangeably.
Mama B
I absolutely love ur videos
they give people freedom to know that it's OK to be them and that they're not alone
I am a lesbian and when I realised I was like oh no I really want kids
you really helped me realise that it is possible
It IS possible! I felt the same way. And it's a total dream to have it all! xo
Thanks for this video. My wife and I are just now starting to discuss what we want our currently-in-utero kid to call us, and we had no idea if it was something we could even decide, or if it would come from the kid. Sounds like it's a bit of both!
As a teacher, I can't imagine why people interacting with your kids wouldn't want to know this information. Like, how am I supposed to communicate with a child if I don't know the language they use to discuss the most important people/social support in their life?
This is great, one of those things i never thought about asking, but was interested in knowing! You guys are fantastically cute couple!
xo thank you!
My gay adoptive grandmothers' best friend is trans and her son calls her Maddie, Mommy and daddy, because she was transitioning when he was born and he got to watch the transition. Its pretty amazing because he came up with it all by himself
Tnx for the video. Our daughter is due July 2017! :)
Well Congrats I guess!
With our two littles we tried Mom and Mama as well. But for some reason our youngest called my wife 'Erma' (not even close to her real name). We just went with it and she became Erma to our youngest. Well, this past Christmas out of nowhere she started calling my wife Mom... and even though we have no preference as to what our kids call us, I think both my wife and I were sort of saddened for the 'Erma' phase to pass. We love your channel!
I know nobody will read this, but this is my experience with lesbian moms.
For me, one mom was always mom. The other I called mom-mom as a kid. Stupid I know, but that's how I differed. As I grew older, I just started calling them both mom. Just whoever was around I called mom, and if we got confused, I would just say "no, the other one!". It's different for everyone. To my friends, I refer to my moms as mom (insert first name), just so they can differentiate. It's awesome, I wouldn't trade anything for the love I have from my moms!
Our kids were our foster kids and when we adopted them we asked them what they wanted to call us. They chose to use our first names. This confused some people, but we felt like you did. Whatever it is it needs to happen organically.
This is really interesting. My mom only ever let me refer to her as mom. So I never got to say mommy/mama. Definitely something to think about if I ever decide to have kids. Thank you.
I have to thank you because i've been so scared lately about my future, about my life and what is waiting for me, I've been asking myself if it is fair for two women or two man to have children, to have a family, I thought that maybe I should have limited my homosexuality, but now I realised that I don't have to, I can and deserve to be happy, to reach my goals and if one of them is to have a family, then this is what I'll do, thank you!❤
A very good group of friends of mine raised a child together and they were called Mama, MoMo, and Mommy. I often wonder what my wife and I will be called when we start our family. We love your videos!
please keep doing these videos! they are so much help! thank you thank you!
Mom and mommy were what my cousins use for their mothers :)
So sweet! I'm still pretty young (20 years old) so it will be a while before my girlfriend and I have kids but we've definitely talked about this. My girlfriend is British so she would want to be "mummy" or "mum" or "mumma". We also want to raise our kids speaking both English & French and I'm American, so I think I would either go by "mom" or "maman" - "maman" would be easier to hear the difference, I think (as opposed to mom vs. mum).
My friend call one mom "mom" and also "bub". The other she calls "moom"
This makes me so excited for my future. You are both wonderful. Such an amazing dynamic with each other!
Call one of my moms "mom", and the other Nai. When she came out as trans ,my brother being the smart cookie he is, started looking at mom in different languages. We decided on Nai, cause it was easy to remember along with her name being Diana.
I'm 23 and growing up I called my mom just 'mom'. But for the past few years I call my mom mommy, mama, mother, and mom. Strangely I use them all for different things when I'm talking to her or about her haha.
We are two moms with a beautiful 4 year old. She calls us Mommie and Moms. She is our granddaughter and started living with us at 5 months at first we were Innie and Outie, those are names we made up. At age 1 and a half she started calling me mommie and that was when our names changed to what she called us. We always wanted to be the grand parents but she needed that comfort of calling me mommie and I never once disagreed with it. We are her moms and nothing will change that in her eyes.
Amagine walking up to this child and saying "do you call your parent the lesbian dad"