I see so many (ignorant, but well-meaning) comments here telling you just to be happy or relaxed, but they are not correct. Worrying is normal, and hormones are quite the ride. Instead of always being (or forcing) happy or relaxed emotions, I think being gentle with yourself when having anxieties and big emotions is the best thing. Your experience is valid; don't feel guilt for ever checking in with your delivery team. Sending so much love, Rebecca. 🍓✨️🌷❤️🫶🏼
This is the best comment I've ever read. Hormones are a RIDE, and worrying is absolutely normal - well said! Giving ourselves grace and being guilt-free for the emotions we have is everything. 💜
Of course she should always take her feelings and perceptions seriously and check with medical experts, who might be able to help/ shed light... so much can go wrong. Most people are so ignorant and naive. I am not a big fan of saying "hormones are this or that". Whatever the hormones do. The thoughts are always rational.
I love your comment. This is so true. All feelings are valid, even more when we are worried or anxious. Just talk to people, share experiences, and check everything. It’s better to check a few times. My mom had problems and they didn’t believe her, until she was bleeding, while she was heavily pregnant with my brother. They never made that mistake again, when she had me. 💖She changed the hospital. I hope everyone feels safe and valid with all their feelings. 💖
you did so great because the thing is not “i should not worry, everything is fine” but more like “i’m worrying, what can i do to feel less worried and to really feel fine?” and so be proud of yourself, you are gonna be such a good mor because you are such a good human too 💚
When you care about someone soooo much, it only makes sense that you would feel worried here and there! It’s great that you have such a supportive team around you to encourage you to take care of your mental health 💚 you’re doing amazing!
Girl, you go get checked up as many times as you feel, anything that gives you peace of mind. You should not feel bad for needing to feel at ease. This is absolutely normal love. You are not overreacting ❤. Third trimester is no joke, you are doing great Mama ❤
I was very young when I got pregnant. One thing I wish someone had told me back then was that the hormone ride during pregnancy (and right after) is wild - and that eventually you WILL feel like yourself (in your head) again. Strong emotional responses to all the things is very normal, and you are doing a fantastic job!! 💜 Don't feel guilty for reaching out for second opinions for anything. You got this. 🥰🥰
I’m a midwife. I think you should go to the clinic, simply to maintain peace of mind. It’s very important that you are as relaxed and happy as possible while you are growing a new human inside your body - you do what you need to do to stay serene and contented. What you describe seems very normal, but you need reassurance so let them check you tummy and the baby’s heart rate etc - you could even do a kick chart to take with you - you lie down and relax, put your hand on your belly, and every time baby moves in any way, you tick your piece of paper - you are basically counting how many times in one hour that baby moves - it gives the docs or midwives a good idea of baby’s activity level. You look beautiful and I’m sure everything is ok, but you will only relax when YOU know for sure that baby boy is growing and developing well. You are out of breath because your enlarged uterus restricts how much your lungs can expand (your diaphragm separates your chest from your abdomen and when you breathe it actually moves downward to expand your lungs - however your diaphragm will be struggling a tiny bit to move downward because of baby boy. Love you Sissel - be well 🙏❤️🌺
@@sisselabthat is really sensible advice. I remember feeling exactly the same way, I went to the clinic and they did all the checks - blood pressure, urine, weight, listened and a quick ultra sound, it was so reassuring to know everything was ok. They would rather you go in than sit and worry, they want a relaxed mum to be.
I think most first time mums feel this way; it's natural and going to clinic will ease your mind @sisselab Allowing you to have a more relaxed and healthy pregnancy. There is no normal; all this is new for you and terrifying for everyone the first time ❤
Very good advice. Also drinking/eating something sweet will make babies move more, in case someone's worried about less movement, they could also try to drink something sweet and then lay down to register movement for the kick chart.
Crochet! I cannot stress this enough: crochet is an awesome way to lower anxiety levels (just by doing something with our hands, our brains calm down a bit), it gives you a sense of fulfilment every time you finish a piece and it's an awesome hobby cause you get new clothes hahaha. It's also been said that it helps fight dementia and Alzheimer when we get older so yeah, all in all, crochet is a rockstar of a hobby ❤ btw you look SO stunning!
@@sisselab i second this, both are great and when you get better at it and pick up more knowledge you can also do other activities while still knitting or crocheting so it isnt like "all consuming" like reading for example can be + you get to create cute stuff!
The habit of listening when you feel like something is off with you or your little guy is absolutely a great practice. Trust yourself and it's better to be wrong with peace of mind that everything's okay, than to be right and wishing you had done something.
I’m 28 weeks pregnant and suffer with OCD . I’m constantly worried whether they are okay. This video really hits home, thanks for being so vulnerable and validating ❤
First time mum here, my daughter is now 13 months old. I have been dealing with postpartum anxiety and depression and I have found knitting has been a really big help. When I feel anxious knitting helps to calm and ground me. Also, it has given me something to focus in and distract me when I get worried. when I finish knitting something I feel a sense of accomplishment which I think during the transition to motherhood is always welcome as I have done something which wasn’t surrounding looking after my baby. Worrying is completely normal and ok! You are not alone and I know what you are going through. Take each day, hour, minute one step at a time! ❤
Being worried, I think is a very normal and common for mums. I guess it's a very natural instinct and whilst it may be only the beginning, I hope you are able to live with the feeling well and that it's not too overwhelming. I hope you enjoy the last parts of your pregnancy and you can continue to be happy (with or without feeling anxious...) with Jake, baby boy who is going to be the most lucky boy in the world to have parents like you both, and a great family to grow up in, so caring and conscious about life. Take care, you baby boy and Jake. Lots of love to you.
@@sisselab As for recommendation on how to kill boredom and anxious thoughts, how about you try to do things for yourself, whether it's about mental health, or physical health (maybe go to a spa, or get a massage?), maybe self-care is a good idea I reckon, so that you can centre things on yourself instead of you both? And yes, follow you instinct, go get a check-up, whatever people say about mums, it's okay to wonder, to be worried, do whatever you feel is right, that's the most important because that's what will make you feel better. I'll recommend highly that you call your mum too. My sister who was pregnant a few years ago felt so reassured by the numerous discussions with our mother, it's comforting for someone so close to you to hear your worries, and obviously they have been through the same experience of pregnancy. I bet it's going to help a lot too.
Your anxiety is normal and your feelings valid. Being a mom is so much more profound then what we are told, and until one experiences it for themselves, no one can ever really explain it properly. The scariest place in the world is in our own heads. Your doing a wonderful job mommy!
I became a mom when I was 25. Mothering is literally tough, but really happy ever. So what you should do now before giving a birth is just caring yourself. We can never expect how our life changes before giving a birth. Only our babies tell us what it is. How beautiful it is.
The best advice i got with my first child is 'follow your gut'. You are at the beginning stages of caring for your child and you're listening to your intuition. That doesn't stop from here on. You will know your child better than anyone else. You're the expert... even over the doctors, teachers, etc. You are your child's voice until he can do it himself. You're doing a great job, Mama!
I'd hold on reading A Little Life til after the little guy is out in the world. And maybe even later than that. That book will hurt your heart, especially while having your own kid.
I agree. A little life has a lot of graphic violence against children (to the point where I struggled to understand why it was written so detailed and graphic).
I can completely relate to the anxiety and stress you might be feeling.. I’m in the same place right now, and it’s definitely a rollercoaster of emotions 😢 Please remember that everything is going to be alright. You’re doing an amazing job, and soon, all of this will be behind you as you embark on a beautiful new chapter. Stay positive, and take care of yourself and your little one. You’ve got this boo 🩵
Some of the best advice we received when we were expecting our first was to listen to your instincts. This babe is literally part of you. After baby is born you will be surprised at how connected and sensitive to any changes you will continue to be. It’s a mom superpower!🥰
Being a first time mom can be very scary. You did the right thing by calling the Dr. give yourself grace and trust your feelings. Prayers for your peace
Hormones are a RIDE and worrying is absolutely normal. I went for a checkup at the hospital when I was pregnant once because I noticed a change in his movement as well and the doctors, nurses and midwifes made me feel so welcomed and helped with my anxiety SO much. All of them told me: "We rather have you come in too much than too little. If you're worried, that's what we're here for" ❤ and that took away so much of my anxiety. If you're very worried, please go see a doctor! NO ONE has the right to invalidate what you're feeling.
"Terrible at not having anything to do," your most Virgo statement ever. It has been so fun coming along on this milestone journey with you. Thank you for sharing it. It has allowed me (and probably some fellow viewers) to remember and reflect on our own motherhood journey and milestones. As life gets busy, it is a blessing to be reminded that the moment of quiet time to sit and listen is healthy.
Something you need to know from a mother herself: always get the check up, you better overreact then not react at all and it's to late. I waited for the 3 days of heaving a feaver, because that was what I was told and I didn't want to overreact. It was really really close of being a very dangerous situation for my toddler. It all worked out, but since then I'm rather the overreacting mom then the childless mom....
I'm in my third trimester myself and I'm so thankful for this vlog. I've been struggling with anxiety about the changes in my baby girl's movement, about how crappy I feel most of the time: out of breath, with no energy left for anything more than barely surviving. I feel instantly full anytime I take a bite of food and then I suffer from heartburn for hours. Let's keep the faith. It won't be long til november!
The third trimester can be so hard. It was especially difficult with my first because I felt like everything was just coming so fast! I knew I was ready, but it can still be a scary thing to know you're about to go through a huge life shift! Looking back, I got really anxious and probably needed more support because my mind went to worst case often. And I think i just had a general feeling of uneasiness. Im sooo happy you were able to go in and get support from you're team ❤ Honor your fears and feelings, walk through them, lean on your team and it's ok to be both head over heels in love with the idea of the parenting journey AND also admitting it might scare the crap out of you (not necessarily saying this is your case, but it was for me and could be for someone reading this). I think I struggled with that a lot at the time, holding two opposing feelings and realizing they can both be true and both need space to process. We're pregnant with our last, our 3rd, right now! And yes its magical in so many ways! And its also a little scary sometimes, or overwhelming! That mother worry isnt constant, but yes, it pops up in certain moments. Im usually a silent follower, but your community on here loves you and wishes the absolute best for you 🩷 YOU CAN DO IT!!
You did the right thing going to the dr. Being diligent with baby boy's health and your own is important. Even if was just to bring you peace of mind. So glad to hear baby boy is doing great! It's a blessing that your obgyn is such a good dr.! When you were singing over your baby there was a rainbow right by your face. It must have been a reflection of sunlight through your window but the timing was perfect. Your baby is so blessed to have parents that love him and are full of joy of his arrival! It was great to see Cari in your vid talking about books too! Third trimesters can be tasking on our bodies but when you are holding that precious baby in your arms you will know they are worth it. You're doing great, Sissel! 💗
Aww. You absolutely did the right thing by going and getting checked. As a mum myself, I did the very same. Pregnancy is mentally/physically challenging, so take time for yourself like you are. ❤❤
Anxiety is real. This is your first pregnancy, it is natural to feel anxious sometimes. You have to do what you feel is right for your baby in your womb. Sending love and hugs xx
Worry, as a parent, is REAL! Its so unlike other worry. My son is 20. The worry doesn't lessen, it just changes. I don't want to sound discouraging, but rather for you to know you are not alone!! It might feel overwhelming, but your mama super power is only beginning to develop. You'll be stronger than you ever knew you could be and feel love beyond anything you knew existed. You got this! Find the joys and accept the lows. You two are going to be amazing parents! 😊❤️
I am not married or pregnant, but I love watching your videos and journey. I feel your videos are preparing me mentally for that stage one day. I also recommended your channel to a friend who loves kids but is scared of pregnancy and the side effects, especially from what people share online. I understand that every body is different, but it’s nice to see people like you who enjoy every step. Stay safe, you and your baby!
Peace of mind is totally important - worry is stress and stress CAN impact baby’s health and bring on early labour so go in, get that check, get that peace of mind, and go back to happy pregnancy vibes It’s so nice that you have access to care that you *can* do that as well. I’m in Canada and live in a city with a massive doctor shortage so you can’t really go in for a check and you definitely don’t get ultrasounds at the check up - you get your initial scan to detect the pregnancy and the anatomy scan at 20 weeks. Otherwise, you only get scans if there is something risky they need to keep an eye on. Super jealous :) The most shocking thing to me in your videos is that you’re not completely turned off the taste and smell of coffee! For me and my friends the smell of coffee was 🤢 lol Take care - almost there!
Everything will be okay !! It is so normal for mums to worry, especially when you feel an anxiety peak, but keep reminding yourself that you are doing everything you can for you baby boy ! I'm sending you so much love from Marseille, France, and I hope things will get better regarding your mental health !🫶🌸
sending you lots of love, sissel! you're glowing and i'm praying that you have a smooth and safe delivery! every day you're getting closer to meeting your little one and i can't even begin to imagine all the emotions you're feeling because of that! thank you for sharing this special journey with all of us! 💛
I’m not having anymore babies so I love watching those who I follow go through the motions with pregnancy and seeing their babies at the end. Anxiety is a massive part of pregnancy that never ends post birth, you’re valid to feel anxious. I was in the hospital multiple times for both my pregnancies because of movements and pains. Mums know best so if you think something is up, definitely get it checked out because at the end of the day it will give you peace of mind which is the most important :)
When my cousin was pregnant I lived with her and she legit had a machine that could check the baby’s heartbeat. (Her sister is a nurse and would help out too) I remember she had to check often in the last trimester because her anxiety was just way worse. You’re being a great mom taking care of yourself and checking on baby!! ❤ proud of you Sissel. I am praying God’s blessing be on your family🙏🏼
I have been watching your videos ever since you moved to Korea. You're doing great! it's okay and normal to feel worried. I went through the same thing with my daughter during my pregnancy. Their movements will change sometimes and that's okay, and totally normal. All babies are different some will be super active during the day and more calm at night or vice versa. but if you feel more worried it's okay to go to your doctor to get a checkup and make sure that everything is okay with baby boy. I wish you a safe rest of your pregnancy and a safe delivery! I hope you have an amazing day! You got this mama! I wish you all the best!
My heart goes out to you going through this much emotional, as well as physical, journey. It is normal to be worried and afraid, this is something you wanted for so long and you are experiencing it for the first time. I am really glad you have such an amazing support system and resources, don't hesitate to reach out to them. Wishing you the best always, Sissel. ♥
You are not alone, Sissel. Sometimes everything becomes so overwhelming that you just can’t stop thinking about it and feeling like you are overreacting but nobody else than yourself can understand that feeling. A hug from another mom to be. 😔🫂
He told me later that we was super worried as well cause he trusts my emotions so much, but he didn’t wanna tell me in the moment to calm me down. He’s the best 💚
@@sisselab yes you definitely found your soulmate ❤️ When I’m stressed my partner Steve can calm me down just by hearing his voice, I think your husband is the same x
Hi, Sissel!! I am still at 07:00 but I would highly reccommend you to try start knitting!! I love it since I started with this hobby and you could make your baby knitwear, for yourself and for friends, Jake, for your loved onesss!!!
It warmth my heart so much to see you having fun and truthfully smiling during your little trip with Jake after the mental breakdown !! You deserve it and I'm sure everything will be fine 🥰 Thanks to you for bringing us with you during your pregnancy journey 🌸
I am a ball of anxiety, but what I have learn in my experience, and therapy, is that your feelings are always valid. You dont have to feel bad for feeling anxious, specially with something so special as pregnancy. You feel what you need to feel, you experience it and you learn from it, you feel it and you let it pass. Take your time, its your experience, do what feels correct for you.
I know this is the most beautiful yet difficult phase hang in there Sissel I truly appreciate how strong you've been throughout this whole journey everything's gonna be good watching u and Cari together again just made me feel so happy you two together always give such happy vibes..the two most beautiful humans in one frame🥺🫶...sending u lots of love and virtual hugs🫂🩷✨
I'm so happy you went and had a check up to make sure your little boy was doing OK. It is better to check, than to worry. I had two preemies and sometimes nothing can be done, yet I had my girls in the late 70's and they didn't have the knowledge they do now. As a mom you should always listen to the voice in your head about your children. No one knows this little boy more than you. You look beautiful.
I am also pregnant and only one week ahead from you, and the third trimester has been difficult since the beginning… Watching your video validated my feelings… Thankfully I also have a very supportive and loving husband that has been pampering and helping me feel better during the difficult moments.
Oh sissel, I never been pregnant but I’m sure that feel worried, stress and anxious is pretty normal so don’t feel guilty or bad and go get checked up as many times as you feel you need it, especially for your mental health. I’m so happy you have a good midwife that is comprehensive and Jake that is always with you when you need it. A hobby: crochet-knitting is so easy when when you get used to it, coloring books like bobbie goods, paint with oil pastels wherever you want or like. The time flies with any of those 😂 Hope you have a wonderful week, sissel ✨🤍
I'm so happy you listened to yourself you are already taking care of yourself and baby. If you have doubts it's always best to do what helps you feel better. You are already a great mother Sissel. 💗💖
It’s normal to feel out of breathe & will feel tired a lot, anxious about soon to give birth, to give you peace of mind is good to talk to your Doctor. Emotions will play a lot in your last trimester, as long as the doctor knows your baby is ok then it’s just fine. I had (3) children one miscarriage & my worse pregnancy is my 3rd, she was my biggest baby & on my 8th month I could barely move, can’t standup & sit down to long & won’t go out bc I felt very uncomfortable only to doctors appointment .. once the baby is out, all the troubles you felt just goes out the door when you see your newborn …
I just felt so nostalgic for the pregnancy time. I even smiled remembering myself having similar emotions and changes) Beautiful part of our life with all it's challenges and sweet memories.
I picked up crocheting and I love it. I'm just a beginner but I'm always so excited to start, work on and finish projects. The bonus of the hobby, if it's something you'd like, is you can create things for yourselves, for baby and it can be combined with other hobbies. I find it a wonderful occupation for the mind and hands.
Hearing you sing to your child was truly such a calming and beautiful thing. It even helped ease some of the stress I'm experiencing currently, so I'm grateful for your sharing of such an intimate moment 💛
Dear Sissel, I’ve been watching your channel for over 5 years now. And even through we might not know each other, it still feels so special to have seen you grow and change so much while I’ve been growing up as well. Your channel has always been such a comfort space for me and I’m sure for a lot of other people as well💕I can’t wait to see you go through new chapters in life and I wish you all the best and love my dear!💚✨
some activity ideas are going for walks, reading, drawing, painting, art sculptures, talking with friends/family, watching videos, playing games. i dont know if any of these are in your interest but i hope i helped. i wish you and the baby good luck and health!
for the boredom, you could try to make something for him! try a new diy craft like painting, crochet, embroidery, something like that. make him a blanket or something personal 🙂
10:20 i really feel like i wanna just hug you and let you cry all the emotions out. Since its going into the last phase, the worries are starting and the hormones are going up. Do not feel bad for crying or feeling worried as its part of the way. Let the emotions out whatever they are and do not hold them back or feel bad about it.😊 If you have a worry that can be resolved rather with an appointment or anything then its maybe your intuition, so just do it. Its not about overreacting or anything, its a valid thought and something that only you can feel. You are doing great and your son can be glad his mum is carrying so much ❤
thank you for being so open about your thoughts and worries, i know many relate to you and feel comforted by knowing they're not alone. you're doing amazing sissel, sending you much love 💛
Sissel I want to thank you because you changed my thinking about motherhood and pregnancy and I became more accepting of myself and my uterus. I used to hate my uterus and I hated being a woman for many reasons including harassment. I developed psychological complexes and went to seek psychological treatment. It's hard! I take three types of pills a day. I know it helped me but it has negative effects. But thanks to you I got a lot better and I started to gradually stop taking the medication. I hope you are healthy for you and your baby and that you are the mother you always dream of being. 🙏🤍🍃
That’s beautiful love, thank you for opening up and I’m so so so proud of you! If I can even help you see a tiny bit of the magical of being a woman then I’m forever so happy. Keep going, you got this! 💚💚💚
Don't be so hard on yourself. The anxieties that come alongside your beautiful journey shouldn't overwhelm you and degrade the nostalgia.Be calm, relax and make time for yourself. Have fun and enjoy this phase in life, love more and more😊❤❤❤. Wishing your nothing but ❤❤
Since you asked for an activity to help appreciate your time, I really recommend getting in to drinking matcha at home! I recently started and was taken aback at how fascinating it was to research what sorts of tools are required and which to choose to purchase (there are many shops selling matcha bowls that are several hundreds of years old for example!), which designs of those tools and why, then now making and drinking it at home and working on my technique. For example, by practicing each day I've learned about how the temperature of the water influences how much bitterness there is, and how whisking techniques (types of movement in the hand/wrist) are important for the types of bubbles or froth created too. I never knew that there was so much to it. It's also a relaxed and cosy activity for home so could be perfect 🤲
Dear Sis I was on your position before two months, third trimester is hard and feels forever but I was always telling my self that this journey has came to an ending where I will meet my baby. You can do this ❤
You're going through a drastic change within your third trimester and its normal to feel so anxious and stressed because it isn't what your're usually used to,just try to give yourself grace and your journey grace🥺💚
You’re stronger than you know and braver than you think. Your video hits a bit deeper with me because I struggle mentally with my first baby.. never doubt yourself, trust your motherly instincts. You got this sissel! si se puede!
What a sweetheart you are,i am happy for u and that u decided to sure such vulnerable moment with us. Take care of yourself however you see fit,go get checked 30 times if it means it will put you at ease. Most of the time women are just told that they should be strong but theres nothing wrong with being worried and doing something about it
Always trust your instincts. I know it’s hard trying to decide if something seems serious, but it’s all serious if it’s causing you stress. Go to the doctor and have them look. It’s always better to soothe your mind. You’re doing great Sissel ❤
Regarding being busy & filling your time with non work related things: are there any friends with kids that you could meet to hang out and help out with them? Maybe outside at a park or something like that? Also perhaps a new hobby like hand sewing simple outfits for baby boy? Or one that I really loved during pregnancy and postpartum: testing out new recipes and finding some new “staple” dishes that I could cook every week for our household (and freeze for when I wasn’t physically able postpartum). Also I pré-booked myself many appointments postpartum (such as body massage, acupuncture, getting nails cleaned & groomed (especially if they do massage because your arms and feet will get so sore from carrying baby all the time), and a facial too). I hope these help fill your time in a fun way!
I know exactly how it feels like at the end..I also freaked out and felt scared when the baby started moving less at the end. Mother's intuition is always right so if you feel something is not right always see your doctor. Otherwise, try to relax, and keep an eye on changes ❤ overall, as long as you're not bleeding or feeling unusually sick everything should be all right
absolutely melt into the delicious free time! the only thing worse than having too much time to dawdle in the third trimester, is not having enough time to prepare before baby comes 😅 the s t r e s s ! you're doing the best for baby, chilling out 😊 ps, it is not a big deal AT ALL to go in and have a checkup whenever you need! and it's completely normal to be struggling with these huge new emotions - you've never been so intimately responsible for another human being's life before. you are doing incredible, be gentle with yourself 💚
Knitting literally helped me so much, also because I was pregnant during COVID I was going crazy and put all that energy into many many blankets, jumpers and little hats for my twins 🫶🏻🫶🏻
Hi Sissel! I'm so happy for you that you are having this time for self care while awaiting the arriival of your baby boy! I honestly didn't think of it as a possibility with my first child so I worked the entire 9 months. Then I took off one week early to 'give myself some time to relax' and my son decided he was ready to meet his mama one week early! I wish someone had encouraged me to take that time for self care- especially seasoned mom's who truly knew how busy new mom's are. With that said- I hear and understand that you are feeling a bit restless and bored being at home which is understandable. One suggestion I have that I did and highly recommend is to write letters to your son! I basically just journaled in a thick looseleaf page book and talked about my days and thoughts and dreams for my child. I wrote anything that I wanted to in the moment, some things were serious and some were very lighthearted (like the list of future names my husband and I had come up with but never made the cut!" My now adult children have loved seeing these letters and journals that were written to them by their then 'young' mom who was preparing for their arrival. Because children only know you once they arrive as 'mom', the letters served as an introduction in their teens and young adulthood to who their 'mom' actually was as a person before they arrived. They really enjoyed learning about 'that mom' he he It makes for some very special bonding with your kids when they grow up. I'm praying for you and your son! xoxo
Everything will be alright because you really do the best you can and because you care so much. You have immense love for your growing baby and for your little family overall. ♥️
Yeah I’m 30 weeks and I notice changes daily so it does make me anxious, sometimes it’s less strong and sometimes it’s a lot more. Im on my second baby and it’s sooooo much different this time the amount of anxiety because I was so busy with the 1 year old I didn’t even think hardly about the pregnancy this time. I was where you were a year ago with like bad anxiety about the first baby. You just want everything to go so well. And it will!!
Sissel, I worried from the moment I found out I was pregnant, and still worry now after my daughter was born and she’s 4 months 😂This is a NORMAL feeling.. it never goes away because we have a motherly instinct to worry about everything. The amount of extra scans I booked to check up on her when she was absolutely fine but it gave me peace of mind. Their moments do change a lot when there is less space, but you will start to feel his whole body move and flip inside you once he gets bigger x
As a new mum of a 8 week old, I’d say that you are NEVER overreacting and you absolutely did the right thing ❤ I don’t know how it is in other countries, but in the UK the midwives would always say that even if you’re a tiny bit worried, to go into triage and just get checked over (though I’m aware that isn’t always an option for people in other countries who don’t have free healthcare). You’re already trusting your mummy instincts and looking after yourself and your baby
From one mother (of a 10 week old) to another, there is no shame in going into the clinic to check up on your baby. Towards the end I went in to check on my baby every other week, each time I apologised and they told me to, always always go in if you feel there are any changes as they would prefer you go in and there’s nothing than you ignore it and there is something 💕 you are following your mother gut Also, one thing I wish I knew more about going into motherhood and the newborn stage is postpartum anxiety. We always hear about postpartum depression but not anxiety. It really impacted me the first 6-7 weeks until I learnt about it and recognised it in myself
Awww Sisel, never ever doubt yourself. If you need to do something to keep your peace of mind please do it. You don't need to gaslight yourself into thinking that you're overreacting. No one knows your body like you and no one will know what's best for your baby than you.
All your emotions are totally normal! You’re doing great and even if you knew he was okay in there, you need to take care of yourself mentally. I also called a midwife once or twice (we had a 24/7 hotline we could call in DK) during my pregnancy because I was unsure on the activity. They were always so sweet and understanding and could give some advise on how to make the baby more active (it always worked). And what a big boy already 😍 good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!
You are very brave and you are doing the best of everything. 🧸This is a very sweet responsibility and you are doing very well with a very sweet style🦢🤍 Please do not upset yourself, we are with you ☕️🪷
I also think its normal to be more emotional in this part of the pregnancy and after cause hormones change the most, so do anything that reassures you and after the pregnancy always surround yourslef with support dont be scared to ask for help rely on others and dont be ashamed if you dont feel always as haooy or ok and joyful after the baby, its completely normal, its biology. Dont forget to take care of yourself and that u deserve love and care too after having a baby sure he is a newborn but u created for 9 months an entire human and birthed it you need support after ❤
Finding long videogames to play when I have a lot of spare time is something I love doing. A game I used to hear about a lot in like 2020, Genshin Impact is a fantasy game it's free and it's a four year old live-service game so there is a lot of story content out. I recently logged into my old account and really felt overwhelmed with the amount of gameplay I missed in the past 3 years. It does have micro-transactions but they're optional and the things you can buy are either character cosmetic outfits which you occasionally get free from events or currency to get new characters which you also get by just exploring the world and doing quests. The main reason I decided to pick it back up is because of the immersion I feel when I play it. It feels like I'm actually there and enjoying the environment in person. The ambience is done so well and the soundtrack is probably some of the best I've heard to be honest. It's also playable on playstation. More games that I absolutely love are monster hunter: world and palworld. They're both exploration games and they're both open world like genshin so you can explore anything you want. Games where I can just immerse myself into the story or environment and enjoy pretty graphics and music, ambience and overall gameplay is what I love the most when I have a ton of spare time. I'm not sure if this helped. I also love watching shows. I used to love watching anime when I was in elementary school so i decided to look at some new shows and see whats up and honestly, girl when i tell you Frieren:Beyond a Journey's end is good... its so good and so simple and the vibes are immaculate. the show itself has so much soul. I literally cried in every episode
I played Genshin impact for years but haven’t logged on in half a years time now! I know a new region just opened up so I might log on today actually 🙈💚
IKEA generally has long curtains. If you need curtains for a wider window, just buy a few sets and have a seamstress sew them together. If they are not long enough choose another fabric and add to either the bottom or top for contrast .
I think you are someone who is good at listening to how you feel. It's important during pregnancy and you do the right things to listen to your little boy. Don't worry and take care of yourself like you already do. Lots of love.🤍🤍
It's so normal to be anxious at this point in your pregnancy. I would just recommend not consuming any social media that is about traumatic births because it will make it worse and you don't need that extra stress. Listen to your intuition though if you ever do feel like something isn't right. As far as always worrying about your baby, yes it never goes away LOL. It can be very overwhelming the first year, but you get used to it.
Hey, usually not a vocal subscriber but I wanted to react 🥰 Your emotional side is as important as your logical side cause what you feel is also a valid reality 💪 You're worried, that's okay ! You're feeling anxious, 100% okay ! So many changes, and the hormonal roller coaster is definitely a thing, but again a justified one ! I mean your body's creating a whole new life ! 🥰 So feel free to be scared, feel free to feel anxious, feel free to be out of breath or tired and be annoyed about it cause your feelings matters ! And most of all, do all that you need to feel safe and less anxious. As the saying goes "better be safe than sorry" so if you guts tells you to do something, do it ! 👌 Secondly, some ideas of activities : - everything culture related : museums, art gallery, theatre, ballet, movies, painting, drawing, listening to music, documantaries, pottery... usually, it's heat friendly and very calming. - soft sports (not without good supervision though) : walking in the forest, swimming, yoga, tai chi, meditation, etc. - learning new skills : finances, cooking, electricity, language, etc. it can be about basically anything that you're interested in and doesn't need a lot of moving for those days when you're not feeling too good. - Dates : with friends, with Jake or with yourself, you can find many ideas of simple dates that are changing and different in a funny way ! Anyway, you're doing so good ! Sending you all the love and support from France ! ❤ Melissa
I see so many (ignorant, but well-meaning) comments here telling you just to be happy or relaxed, but they are not correct. Worrying is normal, and hormones are quite the ride. Instead of always being (or forcing) happy or relaxed emotions, I think being gentle with yourself when having anxieties and big emotions is the best thing. Your experience is valid; don't feel guilt for ever checking in with your delivery team. Sending so much love, Rebecca. 🍓✨️🌷❤️🫶🏼
This makes me feel so good to read, thank you for saying that love 💚
This is the best comment I've ever read. Hormones are a RIDE, and worrying is absolutely normal - well said! Giving ourselves grace and being guilt-free for the emotions we have is everything. 💜
Of course she should always take her feelings and perceptions seriously and check with medical experts, who might be able to help/ shed light... so much can go wrong. Most people are so ignorant and naive.
I am not a big fan of saying "hormones are this or that". Whatever the hormones do. The thoughts are always rational.
@@valarya yeah
I love your comment. This is so true. All feelings are valid, even more when we are worried or anxious.
Just talk to people, share experiences, and check everything.
It’s better to check a few times.
My mom had problems and they didn’t believe her, until she was bleeding, while she was heavily pregnant with my brother.
They never made that mistake again, when she had me. 💖She changed the hospital.
I hope everyone feels safe and valid with all their feelings. 💖
you did so great because the thing is not “i should not worry, everything is fine” but more like “i’m worrying, what can i do to feel less worried and to really feel fine?” and so be proud of yourself, you are gonna be such a good mor because you are such a good human too 💚
This is sooo right! 💚
When you care about someone soooo much, it only makes sense that you would feel worried here and there! It’s great that you have such a supportive team around you to encourage you to take care of your mental health 💚 you’re doing amazing!
That’s so true, thank you 💚
Girl, you go get checked up as many times as you feel, anything that gives you peace of mind. You should not feel bad for needing to feel at ease. This is absolutely normal love. You are not overreacting ❤. Third trimester is no joke, you are doing great Mama ❤
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I was very young when I got pregnant. One thing I wish someone had told me back then was that the hormone ride during pregnancy (and right after) is wild - and that eventually you WILL feel like yourself (in your head) again. Strong emotional responses to all the things is very normal, and you are doing a fantastic job!! 💜 Don't feel guilty for reaching out for second opinions for anything. You got this. 🥰🥰
Thank you love 💚
I’m a midwife. I think you should go to the clinic, simply to maintain peace of mind. It’s very important that you are as relaxed and happy as possible while you are growing a new human inside your body - you do what you need to do to stay serene and contented. What you describe seems very normal, but you need reassurance so let them check you tummy and the baby’s heart rate etc - you could even do a kick chart to take with you - you lie down and relax, put your hand on your belly, and every time baby moves in any way, you tick your piece of paper - you are basically counting how many times in one hour that baby moves - it gives the docs or midwives a good idea of baby’s activity level. You look beautiful and I’m sure everything is ok, but you will only relax when YOU know for sure that baby boy is growing and developing well. You are out of breath because your enlarged uterus restricts how much your lungs can expand (your diaphragm separates your chest from your abdomen and when you breathe it actually moves downward to expand your lungs - however your diaphragm will be struggling a tiny bit to move downward because of baby boy. Love you Sissel - be well 🙏❤️🌺
Thank you so much 💚
@@sisselabthat is really sensible advice. I remember feeling exactly the same way, I went to the clinic and they did all the checks - blood pressure, urine, weight, listened and a quick ultra sound, it was so reassuring to know everything was ok. They would rather you go in than sit and worry, they want a relaxed mum to be.
I think most first time mums feel this way; it's natural and going to clinic will ease your mind @sisselab Allowing you to have a more relaxed and healthy pregnancy. There is no normal; all this is new for you and terrifying for everyone the first time ❤
Very good advice. Also drinking/eating something sweet will make babies move more, in case someone's worried about less movement, they could also try to drink something sweet and then lay down to register movement for the kick chart.
Crochet! I cannot stress this enough: crochet is an awesome way to lower anxiety levels (just by doing something with our hands, our brains calm down a bit), it gives you a sense of fulfilment every time you finish a piece and it's an awesome hobby cause you get new clothes hahaha. It's also been said that it helps fight dementia and Alzheimer when we get older so yeah, all in all, crochet is a rockstar of a hobby ❤ btw you look SO stunning!
I see so many people these days either taking up crocheting or knitting and maybe this is my sign as well! 💚
I've crocheted a hammock for my cockatiel today 😂 when you start crocheting or knitting, you never know where you'll end up 😅❤@@sisselab
Cook meals that you can freeze for eating after the baby is born.
@@sisselab i second this, both are great and when you get better at it and pick up more knowledge you can also do other activities while still knitting or crocheting so it isnt like "all consuming" like reading for example can be + you get to create cute stuff!
I agree! Omg, knitting and crocheting is like my meditation! Maybe try watching a beginner RUclips video. You can make baby boy a simple hat.
The habit of listening when you feel like something is off with you or your little guy is absolutely a great practice.
Trust yourself and it's better to be wrong with peace of mind that everything's okay, than to be right and wishing you had done something.
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I’m 28 weeks pregnant and suffer with OCD . I’m constantly worried whether they are okay. This video really hits home, thanks for being so vulnerable and validating ❤
That sounds really tough love, I hope you know that you’re doing amazing. Sending you the warmest of thoughts 💚
First time mum here, my daughter is now 13 months old. I have been dealing with postpartum anxiety and depression and I have found knitting has been a really big help. When I feel anxious knitting helps to calm and ground me. Also, it has given me something to focus in and distract me when I get worried. when I finish knitting something I feel a sense of accomplishment which I think during the transition to motherhood is always welcome as I have done something which wasn’t surrounding looking after my baby. Worrying is completely normal and ok! You are not alone and I know what you are going through. Take each day, hour, minute one step at a time! ❤
Being worried, I think is a very normal and common for mums. I guess it's a very natural instinct and whilst it may be only the beginning, I hope you are able to live with the feeling well and that it's not too overwhelming. I hope you enjoy the last parts of your pregnancy and you can continue to be happy (with or without feeling anxious...) with Jake, baby boy who is going to be the most lucky boy in the world to have parents like you both, and a great family to grow up in, so caring and conscious about life. Take care, you baby boy and Jake. Lots of love to you.
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@@sisselab As for recommendation on how to kill boredom and anxious thoughts, how about you try to do things for yourself, whether it's about mental health, or physical health (maybe go to a spa, or get a massage?), maybe self-care is a good idea I reckon, so that you can centre things on yourself instead of you both? And yes, follow you instinct, go get a check-up, whatever people say about mums, it's okay to wonder, to be worried, do whatever you feel is right, that's the most important because that's what will make you feel better.
I'll recommend highly that you call your mum too. My sister who was pregnant a few years ago felt so reassured by the numerous discussions with our mother, it's comforting for someone so close to you to hear your worries, and obviously they have been through the same experience of pregnancy. I bet it's going to help a lot too.
Sissel… just how much I love my Sundays with your videos 🥹
Your anxiety is normal and your feelings valid. Being a mom is so much more profound then what we are told, and until one experiences it for themselves, no one can ever really explain it properly. The scariest place in the world is in our own heads. Your doing a wonderful job mommy!
I became a mom when I was 25. Mothering is literally tough, but really happy ever. So what you should do now before giving a birth is just caring yourself. We can never expect how our life changes before giving a birth. Only our babies tell us what it is. How beautiful it is.
The best advice i got with my first child is 'follow your gut'. You are at the beginning stages of caring for your child and you're listening to your intuition.
That doesn't stop from here on. You will know your child better than anyone else. You're the expert... even over the doctors, teachers, etc. You are your child's voice until he can do it himself.
You're doing a great job, Mama!
I'd hold on reading A Little Life til after the little guy is out in the world. And maybe even later than that. That book will hurt your heart, especially while having your own kid.
Right? And post partum hormones also might not be a good fit. Let’s see, I might end up reading it and then we’ll see 🤣💚
I agree. A little life has a lot of graphic violence against children (to the point where I struggled to understand why it was written so detailed and graphic).
I can completely relate to the anxiety and stress you might be feeling.. I’m in the same place right now, and it’s definitely a rollercoaster of emotions 😢
Please remember that everything is going to be alright. You’re doing an amazing job, and soon, all of this will be behind you as you embark on a beautiful new chapter. Stay positive, and take care of yourself and your little one. You’ve got this boo 🩵
Thank you love 💚
Some of the best advice we received when we were expecting our first was to listen to your instincts. This babe is literally part of you. After baby is born you will be surprised at how connected and sensitive to any changes you will continue to be. It’s a mom superpower!🥰
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Being a first time mom can be very scary. You did the right thing by calling the Dr. give yourself grace and trust your feelings. Prayers for your peace
You are really glowing Sissel! Beautiful and gorgeous mama❤️💞💗🥰. Praying for your smooth delivery and that both you and baby boy are healthy🙏💙
Thank you love 💚
You know your body, you love your little boy, and you need to follow up when you feel something is off. Great job taking that initiative!
Hormones are a RIDE and worrying is absolutely normal. I went for a checkup at the hospital when I was pregnant once because I noticed a change in his movement as well and the doctors, nurses and midwifes made me feel so welcomed and helped with my anxiety SO much. All of them told me: "We rather have you come in too much than too little. If you're worried, that's what we're here for" ❤ and that took away so much of my anxiety. If you're very worried, please go see a doctor! NO ONE has the right to invalidate what you're feeling.
"Terrible at not having anything to do," your most Virgo statement ever.
It has been so fun coming along on this milestone journey with you. Thank you for sharing it. It has allowed me (and probably some fellow viewers) to remember and reflect on our own motherhood journey and milestones. As life gets busy, it is a blessing to be reminded that the moment of quiet time to sit and listen is healthy.
Very very Virgo hahah. Happy Virgo season! 💚
Something you need to know from a mother herself: always get the check up, you better overreact then not react at all and it's to late. I waited for the 3 days of heaving a feaver, because that was what I was told and I didn't want to overreact. It was really really close of being a very dangerous situation for my toddler. It all worked out, but since then I'm rather the overreacting mom then the childless mom....
Yep… I wouldn’t forgive myself if something actually were wrong and I suppressed my intuition not to go. You’re so right 💚
I'm in my third trimester myself and I'm so thankful for this vlog. I've been struggling with anxiety about the changes in my baby girl's movement, about how crappy I feel most of the time: out of breath, with no energy left for anything more than barely surviving. I feel instantly full anytime I take a bite of food and then I suffer from heartburn for hours. Let's keep the faith. It won't be long til november!
Omg the heartburn is really getting to me as well… you got this mama!! 💚
The third trimester can be so hard. It was especially difficult with my first because I felt like everything was just coming so fast! I knew I was ready, but it can still be a scary thing to know you're about to go through a huge life shift! Looking back, I got really anxious and probably needed more support because my mind went to worst case often. And I think i just had a general feeling of uneasiness. Im sooo happy you were able to go in and get support from you're team ❤ Honor your fears and feelings, walk through them, lean on your team and it's ok to be both head over heels in love with the idea of the parenting journey AND also admitting it might scare the crap out of you (not necessarily saying this is your case, but it was for me and could be for someone reading this). I think I struggled with that a lot at the time, holding two opposing feelings and realizing they can both be true and both need space to process.
We're pregnant with our last, our 3rd, right now! And yes its magical in so many ways! And its also a little scary sometimes, or overwhelming! That mother worry isnt constant, but yes, it pops up in certain moments. Im usually a silent follower, but your community on here loves you and wishes the absolute best for you 🩷 YOU CAN DO IT!!
You did the right thing going to the dr. Being diligent with baby boy's health and your own is important. Even if was just to bring you peace of mind. So glad to hear baby boy is doing great! It's a blessing that your obgyn is such a good dr.! When you were singing over your baby there was a rainbow right by your face. It must have been a reflection of sunlight through your window but the timing was perfect. Your baby is so blessed to have parents that love him and are full of joy of his arrival! It was great to see Cari in your vid talking about books too! Third trimesters can be tasking on our bodies but when you are holding that precious baby in your arms you will know they are worth it. You're doing great, Sissel! 💗
Thank you for your beautiful words 💚
Aww. You absolutely did the right thing by going and getting checked. As a mum myself, I did the very same. Pregnancy is mentally/physically challenging, so take time for yourself like you are. ❤❤
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Anxiety is real. This is your first pregnancy, it is natural to feel anxious sometimes. You have to do what you feel is right for your baby in your womb. Sending love and hugs xx
Worry, as a parent, is REAL! Its so unlike other worry. My son is 20. The worry doesn't lessen, it just changes. I don't want to sound discouraging, but rather for you to know you are not alone!! It might feel overwhelming, but your mama super power is only beginning to develop. You'll be stronger than you ever knew you could be and feel love beyond anything you knew existed. You got this! Find the joys and accept the lows. You two are going to be amazing parents! 😊❤️
엄마가 된다는건 정말 큰 용기가 필요한것같아요. 걱정되는건 당연해요!
많이 아프지말구 행복한일만 가득하시길 바라요❤️
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I am not married or pregnant, but I love watching your videos and journey. I feel your videos are preparing me mentally for that stage one day. I also recommended your channel to a friend who loves kids but is scared of pregnancy and the side effects, especially from what people share online. I understand that every body is different, but it’s nice to see people like you who enjoy every step. Stay safe, you and your baby!
Peace of mind is totally important - worry is stress and stress CAN impact baby’s health and bring on early labour so go in, get that check, get that peace of mind, and go back to happy pregnancy vibes
It’s so nice that you have access to care that you *can* do that as well. I’m in Canada and live in a city with a massive doctor shortage so you can’t really go in for a check and you definitely don’t get ultrasounds at the check up - you get your initial scan to detect the pregnancy and the anatomy scan at 20 weeks. Otherwise, you only get scans if there is something risky they need to keep an eye on. Super jealous :)
The most shocking thing to me in your videos is that you’re not completely turned off the taste and smell of coffee! For me and my friends the smell of coffee was 🤢 lol
Take care - almost there!
Everything will be okay !! It is so normal for mums to worry, especially when you feel an anxiety peak, but keep reminding yourself that you are doing everything you can for you baby boy ! I'm sending you so much love from Marseille, France, and I hope things will get better regarding your mental health !🫶🌸
Thank you 💚
sending you lots of love, sissel! you're glowing and i'm praying that you have a smooth and safe delivery! every day you're getting closer to meeting your little one and i can't even begin to imagine all the emotions you're feeling because of that! thank you for sharing this special journey with all of us! 💛
Thank you so much 🥹💚
I’m not having anymore babies so I love watching those who I follow go through the motions with pregnancy and seeing their babies at the end. Anxiety is a massive part of pregnancy that never ends post birth, you’re valid to feel anxious. I was in the hospital multiple times for both my pregnancies because of movements and pains. Mums know best so if you think something is up, definitely get it checked out because at the end of the day it will give you peace of mind which is the most important :)
When my cousin was pregnant I lived with her and she legit had a machine that could check the baby’s heartbeat. (Her sister is a nurse and would help out too) I remember she had to check often in the last trimester because her anxiety was just way worse. You’re being a great mom taking care of yourself and checking on baby!! ❤ proud of you Sissel. I am praying God’s blessing be on your family🙏🏼
I have been watching your videos ever since you moved to Korea. You're doing great! it's okay and normal to feel worried. I went through the same thing with my daughter during my pregnancy. Their movements will change sometimes and that's okay, and totally normal. All babies are different some will be super active during the day and more calm at night or vice versa. but if you feel more worried it's okay to go to your doctor to get a checkup and make sure that everything is okay with baby boy. I wish you a safe rest of your pregnancy and a safe delivery! I hope you have an amazing day! You got this mama! I wish you all the best!
My heart goes out to you going through this much emotional, as well as physical, journey. It is normal to be worried and afraid, this is something you wanted for so long and you are experiencing it for the first time. I am really glad you have such an amazing support system and resources, don't hesitate to reach out to them. Wishing you the best always, Sissel. ♥
You are not alone, Sissel. Sometimes everything becomes so overwhelming that you just can’t stop thinking about it and feeling like you are overreacting but nobody else than yourself can understand that feeling. A hug from another mom to be. 😔🫂
the way you capture your life is so beautiful 🤍
If she cries I cry with her T.T so much love for you and your family. You are doing such a good job with everything dear. 🩷🌞
You did the right thing going for a check up and it was so nice that Jake took the time to accompany you. No doubt you both are great caring parents ❤
He told me later that we was super worried as well cause he trusts my emotions so much, but he didn’t wanna tell me in the moment to calm me down. He’s the best 💚
@@sisselab yes you definitely found your soulmate ❤️ When I’m stressed my partner Steve can calm me down just by hearing his voice, I think your husband is the same x
Hi, Sissel!! I am still at 07:00 but I would highly reccommend you to try start knitting!! I love it since I started with this hobby and you could make your baby knitwear, for yourself and for friends, Jake, for your loved onesss!!!
That’s so cute, and it sounds really fun 🥹💚
It warmth my heart so much to see you having fun and truthfully smiling during your little trip with Jake after the mental breakdown !! You deserve it and I'm sure everything will be fine 🥰
Thanks to you for bringing us with you during your pregnancy journey 🌸
I am a ball of anxiety, but what I have learn in my experience, and therapy, is that your feelings are always valid. You dont have to feel bad for feeling anxious, specially with something so special as pregnancy. You feel what you need to feel, you experience it and you learn from it, you feel it and you let it pass. Take your time, its your experience, do what feels correct for you.
I know this is the most beautiful yet difficult phase hang in there Sissel I truly appreciate how strong you've been throughout this whole journey everything's gonna be good watching u and Cari together again just made me feel so happy you two together always give such happy vibes..the two most beautiful humans in one frame🥺🫶...sending u lots of love and virtual hugs🫂🩷✨
That’s so sweet, thank you 💚
I'm so happy you went and had a check up to make sure your little boy was doing OK. It is better to check, than to worry. I had two preemies and sometimes nothing can be done, yet I had my girls in the late 70's and they didn't have the knowledge they do now. As a mom you should always listen to the voice in your head about your children. No one knows this little boy more than you. You look beautiful.
I am also pregnant and only one week ahead from you, and the third trimester has been difficult since the beginning… Watching your video validated my feelings… Thankfully I also have a very supportive and loving husband that has been pampering and helping me feel better during the difficult moments.
Oh sissel, I never been pregnant but I’m sure that feel worried, stress and anxious is pretty normal so don’t feel guilty or bad and go get checked up as many times as you feel you need it, especially for your mental health. I’m so happy you have a good midwife that is comprehensive and Jake that is always with you when you need it.
A hobby: crochet-knitting is so easy when when you get used to it, coloring books like bobbie goods, paint with oil pastels wherever you want or like. The time flies with any of those 😂
Hope you have a wonderful week, sissel ✨🤍
Your peace of mind is most important and it’s good to listen to your instincts. You are doing a great job!!
Everything is gonna be okay! Worries are normal for moms! You got this and baby boy will be great and lovely!
I'm so happy you listened to yourself you are already taking care of yourself and baby. If you have doubts it's always best to do what helps you feel better. You are already a great mother Sissel. 💗💖
It’s normal to feel out of breathe & will feel tired a lot, anxious about soon to give birth, to give you peace of mind is good to talk to your Doctor. Emotions will play a lot in your last trimester, as long as the doctor knows your baby is ok then it’s just fine. I had (3) children one miscarriage & my worse pregnancy is my 3rd, she was my biggest baby & on my 8th month I could barely move, can’t standup & sit down to long & won’t go out bc I felt very uncomfortable only to doctors appointment .. once the baby is out, all the troubles you felt just goes out the door when you see your newborn …
I just felt so nostalgic for the pregnancy time. I even smiled remembering myself having similar emotions and changes) Beautiful part of our life with all it's challenges and sweet memories.
I picked up crocheting and I love it. I'm just a beginner but I'm always so excited to start, work on and finish projects.
The bonus of the hobby, if it's something you'd like, is you can create things for yourselves, for baby and it can be combined with other hobbies.
I find it a wonderful occupation for the mind and hands.
So glad you went! Glad to hear your son is doing well , not too much longer for you both to get to meet him!
Hearing you sing to your child was truly such a calming and beautiful thing. It even helped ease some of the stress I'm experiencing currently, so I'm grateful for your sharing of such an intimate moment 💛
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Dear Sissel, I’ve been watching your channel for over 5 years now. And even through we might not know each other, it still feels so special to have seen you grow and change so much while I’ve been growing up as well. Your channel has always been such a comfort space for me and I’m sure for a lot of other people as well💕I can’t wait to see you go through new chapters in life and I wish you all the best and love my dear!💚✨
Aww thank you so much and thank you for being here for all this time 💚
I love that you’re friends with Cari. She seems like such a sweetheart!
some activity ideas are going for walks, reading, drawing, painting, art sculptures, talking with friends/family, watching videos, playing games. i dont know if any of these are in your interest but i hope i helped. i wish you and the baby good luck and health!
for the boredom, you could try to make something for him! try a new diy craft like painting, crochet, embroidery, something like that. make him a blanket or something personal 🙂
So glad this video popped up. Watching this with my sweet baby fast asleep in my arms!!!
10:20 i really feel like i wanna just hug you and let you cry all the emotions out. Since its going into the last phase, the worries are starting and the hormones are going up. Do not feel bad for crying or feeling worried as its part of the way. Let the emotions out whatever they are and do not hold them back or feel bad about it.😊 If you have a worry that can be resolved rather with an appointment or anything then its maybe your intuition, so just do it. Its not about overreacting or anything, its a valid thought and something that only you can feel.
You are doing great and your son can be glad his mum is carrying so much ❤
thank you for being so open about your thoughts and worries, i know many relate to you and feel comforted by knowing they're not alone. you're doing amazing sissel, sending you much love 💛
Thank you 💚🥹
Sissel I want to thank you because you changed my thinking about motherhood and pregnancy and I became more accepting of myself and my uterus. I used to hate my uterus and I hated being a woman for many reasons including harassment. I developed psychological complexes and went to seek psychological treatment. It's hard! I take three types of pills a day. I know it helped me but it has negative effects. But thanks to you I got a lot better and I started to gradually stop taking the medication. I hope you are healthy for you and your baby and that you are the mother you always dream of being. 🙏🤍🍃
That’s beautiful love, thank you for opening up and I’m so so so proud of you! If I can even help you see a tiny bit of the magical of being a woman then I’m forever so happy. Keep going, you got this! 💚💚💚
Don't be so hard on yourself. The anxieties that come alongside your beautiful journey shouldn't overwhelm you and degrade the nostalgia.Be calm, relax and make time for yourself. Have fun and enjoy this phase in life, love more and more😊❤❤❤. Wishing your nothing but ❤❤
Since you asked for an activity to help appreciate your time, I really recommend getting in to drinking matcha at home! I recently started and was taken aback at how fascinating it was to research what sorts of tools are required and which to choose to purchase (there are many shops selling matcha bowls that are several hundreds of years old for example!), which designs of those tools and why, then now making and drinking it at home and working on my technique. For example, by practicing each day I've learned about how the temperature of the water influences how much bitterness there is, and how whisking techniques (types of movement in the hand/wrist) are important for the types of bubbles or froth created too. I never knew that there was so much to it. It's also a relaxed and cosy activity for home so could be perfect 🤲
I understand and it’s ok to not be ok🤍 sending you so much love and peace 🙏🏼
Dear Sis
I was on your position before two months, third trimester is hard and feels forever but I was always telling my self that this journey has came to an ending where I will meet my baby. You can do this ❤
You are such a sweet and kind person. We all become better people watching your videos. Thank you for sharing your pregnancy journey. 🇨🇦
You're going through a drastic change within your third trimester and its normal to feel so anxious and stressed because it isn't what your're usually used to,just try to give yourself grace and your journey grace🥺💚
You’re right, thank you 💚
I was worried about the movements as well. Some weeks baby was super active and other weeks she barely moved. He is ok! Worrying is valid.
You’re stronger than you know and braver than you think. Your video hits a bit deeper with me because I struggle mentally with my first baby.. never doubt yourself, trust your motherly instincts. You got this sissel! si se puede!
Thank you so much 💚 sending love to you and your baby!
What a sweetheart you are,i am happy for u and that u decided to sure such vulnerable moment with us. Take care of yourself however you see fit,go get checked 30 times if it means it will put you at ease. Most of the time women are just told that they should be strong but theres nothing wrong with being worried and doing something about it
Always trust your instincts. I know it’s hard trying to decide if something seems serious, but it’s all serious if it’s causing you stress. Go to the doctor and have them look. It’s always better to soothe your mind.
You’re doing great Sissel ❤
Hi Sissel its absolutely true that worry never leaves you when you about to become a mum. God Bless 🙏
Regarding being busy & filling your time with non work related things: are there any friends with kids that you could meet to hang out and help out with them? Maybe outside at a park or something like that? Also perhaps a new hobby like hand sewing simple outfits for baby boy? Or one that I really loved during pregnancy and postpartum: testing out new recipes and finding some new “staple” dishes that I could cook every week for our household (and freeze for when I wasn’t physically able postpartum). Also I pré-booked myself many appointments postpartum (such as body massage, acupuncture, getting nails cleaned & groomed (especially if they do massage because your arms and feet will get so sore from carrying baby all the time), and a facial too). I hope these help fill your time in a fun way!
I know exactly how it feels like at the end..I also freaked out and felt scared when the baby started moving less at the end. Mother's intuition is always right so if you feel something is not right always see your doctor. Otherwise, try to relax, and keep an eye on changes ❤ overall, as long as you're not bleeding or feeling unusually sick everything should be all right
absolutely melt into the delicious free time! the only thing worse than having too much time to dawdle in the third trimester, is not having enough time to prepare before baby comes 😅 the s t r e s s ! you're doing the best for baby, chilling out 😊 ps, it is not a big deal AT ALL to go in and have a checkup whenever you need! and it's completely normal to be struggling with these huge new emotions - you've never been so intimately responsible for another human being's life before. you are doing incredible, be gentle with yourself 💚
With becoming a mother I realised that following my instincts is the right thing to do ❤️
Knitting literally helped me so much, also because I was pregnant during COVID I was going crazy and put all that energy into many many blankets, jumpers and little hats for my twins 🫶🏻🫶🏻
Hi Sissel! I'm so happy for you that you are having this time for self care while awaiting the arriival of your baby boy! I honestly didn't think of it as a possibility with my first child so I worked the entire 9 months. Then I took off one week early to 'give myself some time to relax' and my son decided he was ready to meet his mama one week early! I wish someone had encouraged me to take that time for self care- especially seasoned mom's who truly knew how busy new mom's are. With that said- I hear and understand that you are feeling a bit restless and bored being at home which is understandable. One suggestion I have that I did and highly recommend is to write letters to your son! I basically just journaled in a thick looseleaf page book and talked about my days and thoughts and dreams for my child. I wrote anything that I wanted to in the moment, some things were serious and some were very lighthearted (like the list of future names my husband and I had come up with but never made the cut!" My now adult children have loved seeing these letters and journals that were written to them by their then 'young' mom who was preparing for their arrival. Because children only know you once they arrive as 'mom', the letters served as an introduction in their teens and young adulthood to who their 'mom' actually was as a person before they arrived. They really enjoyed learning about 'that mom' he he It makes for some very special bonding with your kids when they grow up. I'm praying for you and your son! xoxo
Everything will be alright because you really do the best you can and because you care so much. You have immense love for your growing baby and for your little family overall. ♥️
I really do, I’ve never felt love this strong before. Thank you 💚
You singing to your baby boy made me tear up ❤ you already are such a wonderful mama!
Yeah I’m 30 weeks and I notice changes daily so it does make me anxious, sometimes it’s less strong and sometimes it’s a lot more.
Im on my second baby and it’s sooooo much different this time the amount of anxiety because I was so busy with the 1 year old I didn’t even think hardly about the pregnancy this time. I was where you were a year ago with like bad anxiety about the first baby. You just want everything to go so well. And it will!!
Sissel, I worried from the moment I found out I was pregnant, and still worry now after my daughter was born and she’s 4 months 😂This is a NORMAL feeling.. it never goes away because we have a motherly instinct to worry about everything. The amount of extra scans I booked to check up on her when she was absolutely fine but it gave me peace of mind. Their moments do change a lot when there is less space, but you will start to feel his whole body move and flip inside you once he gets bigger x
As a new mum of a 8 week old, I’d say that you are NEVER overreacting and you absolutely did the right thing ❤ I don’t know how it is in other countries, but in the UK the midwives would always say that even if you’re a tiny bit worried, to go into triage and just get checked over (though I’m aware that isn’t always an option for people in other countries who don’t have free healthcare). You’re already trusting your mummy instincts and looking after yourself and your baby
Congrats on your little cutie 🥹💚
From one mother (of a 10 week old) to another, there is no shame in going into the clinic to check up on your baby. Towards the end I went in to check on my baby every other week, each time I apologised and they told me to, always always go in if you feel there are any changes as they would prefer you go in and there’s nothing than you ignore it and there is something 💕 you are following your mother gut
Also, one thing I wish I knew more about going into motherhood and the newborn stage is postpartum anxiety. We always hear about postpartum depression but not anxiety. It really impacted me the first 6-7 weeks until I learnt about it and recognised it in myself
아기도 뱃속에서 점점 자라면서 엄마도 덩달아 신체적으로 감정적으로 힘들어질 수 있어요...잘 헤쳐나가고 있고 명상과 독서도 도움이 될 수 있어요..분명한 건 지금까지 잘 해내고 있다는 거예요...!!! 자신을 믿고 마음을 편안하게 갖길 바래요 ^^
Awww Sisel, never ever doubt yourself. If you need to do something to keep your peace of mind please do it. You don't need to gaslight yourself into thinking that you're overreacting. No one knows your body like you and no one will know what's best for your baby than you.
All your emotions are totally normal! You’re doing great and even if you knew he was okay in there, you need to take care of yourself mentally.
I also called a midwife once or twice (we had a 24/7 hotline we could call in DK) during my pregnancy because I was unsure on the activity. They were always so sweet and understanding and could give some advise on how to make the baby more active (it always worked).
And what a big boy already 😍 good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!
You are very brave and you are doing the best of everything. 🧸This is a very sweet responsibility and you are doing very well with a very sweet style🦢🤍 Please do not upset yourself, we are with you ☕️🪷
You're doing amazing girl 🥹💗 Even through the hard times/changes you find a way to stay positive and keep going
Thank you 💚
I also think its normal to be more emotional in this part of the pregnancy and after cause hormones change the most, so do anything that reassures you and after the pregnancy always surround yourslef with support dont be scared to ask for help rely on others and dont be ashamed if you dont feel always as haooy or ok and joyful after the baby, its completely normal, its biology. Dont forget to take care of yourself and that u deserve love and care too after having a baby sure he is a newborn but u created for 9 months an entire human and birthed it you need support after ❤
Finding long videogames to play when I have a lot of spare time is something I love doing. A game I used to hear about a lot in like 2020, Genshin Impact is a fantasy game it's free and it's a four year old live-service game so there is a lot of story content out. I recently logged into my old account and really felt overwhelmed with the amount of gameplay I missed in the past 3 years. It does have micro-transactions but they're optional and the things you can buy are either character cosmetic outfits which you occasionally get free from events or currency to get new characters which you also get by just exploring the world and doing quests. The main reason I decided to pick it back up is because of the immersion I feel when I play it. It feels like I'm actually there and enjoying the environment in person. The ambience is done so well and the soundtrack is probably some of the best I've heard to be honest. It's also playable on playstation. More games that I absolutely love are monster hunter: world and palworld. They're both exploration games and they're both open world like genshin so you can explore anything you want. Games where I can just immerse myself into the story or environment and enjoy pretty graphics and music, ambience and overall gameplay is what I love the most when I have a ton of spare time. I'm not sure if this helped. I also love watching shows. I used to love watching anime when I was in elementary school so i decided to look at some new shows and see whats up and honestly, girl when i tell you Frieren:Beyond a Journey's end is good... its so good and so simple and the vibes are immaculate. the show itself has so much soul. I literally cried in every episode
I played Genshin impact for years but haven’t logged on in half a years time now! I know a new region just opened up so I might log on today actually 🙈💚
IKEA generally has long curtains. If you need curtains for a wider window, just buy a few sets and have a seamstress sew them together. If they are not long enough choose another fabric and add to either the bottom or top for contrast .
I think you are someone who is good at listening to how you feel. It's important during pregnancy and you do the right things to listen to your little boy. Don't worry and take care of yourself like you already do. Lots of love.🤍🤍
i'm glad everything's okay with you both. wishing you the best for that last stretch of your pregnancy (you're absolutely glowing btw!!)
Thank you so much 🙈💚
It's so normal to be anxious at this point in your pregnancy. I would just recommend not consuming any social media that is about traumatic births because it will make it worse and you don't need that extra stress. Listen to your intuition though if you ever do feel like something isn't right. As far as always worrying about your baby, yes it never goes away LOL. It can be very overwhelming the first year, but you get used to it.
Hey, usually not a vocal subscriber but I wanted to react 🥰
Your emotional side is as important as your logical side cause what you feel is also a valid reality 💪
You're worried, that's okay ! You're feeling anxious, 100% okay !
So many changes, and the hormonal roller coaster is definitely a thing, but again a justified one ! I mean your body's creating a whole new life ! 🥰
So feel free to be scared, feel free to feel anxious, feel free to be out of breath or tired and be annoyed about it cause your feelings matters ! And most of all, do all that you need to feel safe and less anxious. As the saying goes "better be safe than sorry" so if you guts tells you to do something, do it ! 👌
Secondly, some ideas of activities :
- everything culture related : museums, art gallery, theatre, ballet, movies, painting, drawing, listening to music, documantaries, pottery... usually, it's heat friendly and very calming.
- soft sports (not without good supervision though) : walking in the forest, swimming, yoga, tai chi, meditation, etc.
- learning new skills : finances, cooking, electricity, language, etc. it can be about basically anything that you're interested in and doesn't need a lot of moving for those days when you're not feeling too good.
- Dates : with friends, with Jake or with yourself, you can find many ideas of simple dates that are changing and different in a funny way !
Anyway, you're doing so good !
Sending you all the love and support from France ! ❤
Melissa